Aware & Aggravated - 4. You Look Better Than You Think

Episode Date: November 28, 2021

Sharing the awareness I've gained about the ways social media creates "norms" for what your body or life should look like and how to bring yourself back into reality. Also threw in some tips to stop the unfair comparisons of yourself to others. Enjoy! Watch the Podcast on YouTube!https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtgs8c2Z_97gA_1TkJos18w/videosBook a 1-on-1 call with me 👇🏻https://leoskepicoaching.com/client-applicationSupport the podcast with a donation : https://www.zeffy.com/en-US/donation-form/46556b98-73da-47be-a3bd-a5646af9f8c5Instagram: @theleoskepiPodcast Instagram: @awareandaggravated TikTok accounts: @LeoSkepi@NotLeoForLegalReasons My app Positive Focus:Apple: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/positive-focus/id1559260311Google: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.positivefocusapp 

Hi friends, so in this week's episode I want to talk about something I used to struggle with really bad And it was hating myself and my body and criticizing the fuck out of it and not seeming to be able to stop So I've gained some awareness around Why I did that and how to stop doing that and that's what I want to share in this episode and I do want to clarify Because I'm going to talk a lot of shit on social media. I do want to clarify that by me talking my shit, I'm not like degrading everyone, or like trying to talk down on people.

Everything that I say, there's a point behind it, there's a bigger reason behind what I'm saying. So keep that in mind, my intention is not to degrade anyone or just genuinely just talk shit on people. It's to bring light to certain things. And if it sounds a little mean, then so be it, okay? So when it comes to social media,

there's a lot of things that you are not aware of. There's a lot of things that do not meet the eye or a shit that you don't see, like it's behind the curtain. I touched on a lot of this in my first episode of his podcast But this episode is just strictly on body image and I'm gonna just poke fun for the first part Some of the shit that I notice and that I have to remind myself of when I see really hot people on Instagram Like the little secrets that they're hiding and the little tricks that they do to look as hot as they do I'm gonna poke fun at that real quick, and then I'm gonna get under some bigger realizations

towards the end. So my first one like social media is constantly throwing hot people in your face. I swear to God, you open your fucking Instagram even if you don't intentionally follow people that are extremely hot, and I call them the people that like look hot for a living because it's like their job to look hot so that's what I call them on Instagram like if it's their job to look hot it's that type of influencer even if you don't follow that type of influencer you click your explore page on Instagram boom there they all are there there there is the 10 out of 10s would not have thought behind their eyes but they all look fucking hot like there they all are you can can't escape them, especially on TikTok.

Like everybody on TikTok is a fucking 10 out of 10. There's a couple like nine side of 10s, but eight out of 10 is usually as low as it goes. Nobody's fucking ugly on TikTok or Instagram anymore. And if you are seeing ugly people, send them to me, please, because I need to feel better about myself. Okay, so get him back on track with these hot ass people that you see on Instagram. Let's just use little mis IG for the first example. You see pictures of hot ass people. The way that they are posing is not the way that they stand in real life.

So when you see these fine motherfuckers on Instagram and their pictures, look at the way that they're standing. Are they standing normal? Like when you get in the mirror and when you look at yourself in the mirror, are you comparing yourself standing straight normal to them doing some weird ass pose? So the fitness influencers are never standing straight normally. They're flexing something. They're poking their ass out. They're poking their fucking chest out. They're flexing their traps. They got their fucking lats spread to look wider than they are. They're poking their ass out, they're poking their fucking chest out, they're flexing their traps They got their fucking lats spread to look wider than they are. They're not just standing there normally

No one actually looks like that when they're just standing there So that's one thing that you need to like remind yourself of when you see really really hot people on Instagram Check the way that they're standing. Do they actually look like that? Do they actually stand like that? Fuck no. Like Kylie Jenner. She's a perfect example of someone doing some weird ass poses. And I'm kinda gonna go in on the whole BBL body for a minute. And I'm sorry to anybody like her. I like Kylie.

I think she's cool. But I just gotta like peel back her curtain real quick and give you guys some shit to remind yourself of. The way this bitch poses, like get real. Okay. She looks of. The way this bitch poses, let get real. Okay, she looks good for the way that she poses. Have you ever seen her standing straight up? Have you ever seen her standing normally

or caught off guard by like paparazzi? That's two different bitches. That is two whole, entirely different fucking people. But you don't see the one that stands normal. You only see the one where the body looks perfect. And the whole BBL body style and body type, if you don't know what a BBL is, it's a Brazilian butt lift.

So if you look at any other Kardashians or genders, but not Kendall, her look skinny ass. They all have the procedure, like a BBL is where they suck the fat out of the parts of your body, you don't want it in. And then they inject it into your ass and your hips to give you the hourglass shape. That's like the ideal body type for girls online and I say ideal because those are the bitches with the most followers so don't try and fight me on it.

But all of these girls look super, super hot online, their bodies look good. But if you ever see them caught off guard they look fucked up. They look like misshapen and I don't mean that in a bad way because the angles that they have right like Kylie Jenner the way she fucking looks and the angles where she picks them like damn like she knows how to look good and like she knows what she knows her fucking angles that's it but when you see her standing off guard or you see her standing straight on her hips yo like I'm not one the body shame it's all shit but they don't look as good in real life as they seem online and that comes back to like the posing thing so not even highly

general I'm talking about everybody now anybody on social media will look good in a certain pose. But what do they look like standing up normally? What do they look like naturally? Because that's what you're comparing yourself to when you're standing in your mirror looking at your fucking naked body, looking at things you want to change. You're comparing yourself to a bitch that looks good sitting down or with half her body twisted in a certain way. You're not comparing yourself to that same person when they're standing there just caught off guard or standing like a normal human being. So that's an unfair comparison.

Stop doing that to yourself. Now the second thing you gotta keep in mind is lighting. Lighting can change fucking everything. Face structure. The amount of muscle it looks like you have the definition in your body Like lighting can literally make or fucking break you and no one can change my mind on it That's why I always say take pictures of me in the dark. I look better in the fucking dark If you put the flash on I can tone down. You can't tone up a picture. You can tone it down

So if you put it on the flash and it's too bright bitch We can tone it down look fine if you put it on the flash and it's too bright, bitch, we can tone it down, look fine. If you can see too much, we can blur it out and we can make it darker. Boom, perfect. Done. Go on my Instagram. Most of my shits in the dark. Sorry about it. Like I'm fucking honest, lighting can make or break you. But if you look at fitness influencers and specific guys, but like girls deal with it too, like the male influencers, when they're trying to show off their abs or their muscles, they usually catch a downward lighting because it casts shadows. So like your pecs underneath will have more of a shadow.

Your abs will have more shadows, your shoulders, everything has more shadows. So you look way more defined like literally lighting. I swear to God, I love the trend on TikTok where it's like, this is me in perfect lighting with a pump versus me in real life. Because having a pump also can change the entire fucking way that you look, because everybody knows how you look normal. And then when you go to the gym and you get a pump, that's two different people.

As sort of you know, it's the best feeling. You will feel so good about yourself when you have a pump. And that's the state people are in when they're taking these pictures of themselves. They got the perfect lighting and they got the pump. Half the time they got fucking oil on theirself to make theirself look sweaty and shiny and look better for their picture. I'm not shitting you. I've literally seen motherfuckers in my gym where they can't a pam spray in their

self and take pictures. I'm not shitting you. Like you that's the thing is you also don't think that normal Joe Schmell asks people are doing this, they are. A lot more people put a lot more effort into their pictures than you think. So even though they don't seem like a big influencer, they're still doing what they can to look their best in their photos. Another thing, professional-ass cameras, they all have them, I swear, because who the mother fuck is taking this good of pictures on their iPhone camera

Okay, I have an iPhone 12 pro my pictures don't look as good as these people online So I fucking I'm going. I want to limb and saying that they all have professional cameras because my cameras don't be take pictures like that It's not like I have a fucking iPhone 8 and I'm over here like why don't my pictures look like there's not bitch I got the newest and best phone. I know how the camera is my camera don't be looking like that Even if it's someone insanely hot and like I'm taking a picture of bitch They don't be looking like that. So y'all's pictures are not off an iPhone and you bitches can fight me on it I swear to god these people that you're following they're not taking pictures on a normal-ass camera Sometimes they might okay. We'll give them a bit of further out once in a while

But if you notice someone has like really really good pictures non-stop that ain't their fucking phone Okay, so you're comparing your pictures to something you're taking on your phone because you think it's easy You think you just pull your phone out and take a picture That's not what they're doing. They make it seem like that. So when you pull your phone out and you take a picture and it looks like dog shit, you compare it to people that you think do the same thing. When in reality, they got a professional-ass camera, they got good ass lighting, they got people teaching them how to pose. And they're probably taking other steps to look a certain way. Whether it's an outfit that emphasizes certain things or like I said with the Pam, like spraying theirself with a cooking spray

That's what Pam is. I should have clarified. Spraying theirself with spray to look a certain fucking way. And then they're gonna filter it and edit it. And there are filters to make shit look natural. There are adjustments you can make to a photo, to make it look natural, but it will be edited out the fucking ass. It just doesn't look like it. And that's the whole point. It's like girls and they're fucking no makeup makeup look. Like they put on makeup to look like they don't have makeup on. So the way you're comparing yourself to all these people, it's not fair. But these are the things that you need to remind yourself of when you see these really hot people online. There's a lot more that goes to it. There's a lot more behind the scenes than you realize. People are not just throwing up their

phone and taking a fucking picture of themselves like they make it seem. Another thing is a lot more people are on steroids than you think. A lot more people have cosmetic work done or fillers or live injections or Botox or whatever you want to talk about. That shit is so much more common than you think. That's why that industry makes so much money. Because so many people are having that shit done. And people that you wouldn't even expect, because there are people that get cosmetic procedures or injectables to look natural.

And there are people that take steroids to look better, air quote, natural. Like they're trying to still look natural, but they're taking enhancing drugs to achieve that look, or they're doing cosmetic procedures to achieve the cute natural look. I get Botox in my upper lip,

so my top lip does not move symmetrically. Like one side pulls more than the other, and I get Botox to help make it move symmetrically. It still pulls a little bit more, but not as bad as without it. But also getting Botox, it's called a lip flip. Getting Botox above your lip, make sure top lip look bigger. That is the tiniest procedure you can have done. It's a little needle, they stick you four times and you're done.

It takes fucking 20 seconds. It hurts like a bitch. But it takes 20 seconds and it lasts a few months. It's the tiniest thing, but it makes a huge difference and you would never know. Like it's made to look natural, it's made to look normal. But I have something in my back pocket that's giving me an upper hand to look better than I normally would. Just no one has a

fucking clue. I know people in my life that have taken steroids or are currently on steroids or some kind of performance enhancing drug that look like they are not on steroids. They look good, sure. But the typical, what you, come on, so they say, the motherfucker that you think is on steroids. The typical idea for what someone on steroids looks like, just a name that everybody knows, Arnold Schwarzenegger.

Like he is the ideal for like, a motherfucker that looks like that, you know, is on steroids. But that's just what the publicized and like mainstream idea of what someone on steroids looks like is that. There are so many normal Joe Schmo motherfuckers on steroids that look average as fuck. Like there's been so many people that have told me they're on steroids and I'm like, huh?

Like I don't mean to be rude, but like, okay,. I'm like shocked in the back of my head like you bitch Like you be honest. I would not claim that if I looked normal I would not claim that I was on steroids you look dumb or you look like you do in the wrong shit Like I will get on steroids later in my life I haven't taken steroids before I've not taken any performance enhancing drug I've done fucking creatine. That's a goddamn supplement. You could buy this store. That's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about like actual steroids. I'll do them eventually. I'm educated on like your hormones and your chemicals in your body

I don't want to fuck mine up while they're still leveling out. I'm 23. So I got some time I think when I'm about 26 to 28, I'll start fucking around with steroids. If I'm not happy with the way that I look and I want to look a certain way, then I'll start doing it. But I'm gonna wait. But I'm open and honest about that shit. If I was on the shit, I'd say I was on something and I would tell you what I was on and my dose. I love that now in the fitness community. Everyone's open about it and talking about this to reduce. Like you didn't just lie about it for five fucking years to get famous.

You were the 18 year old that could live 600 fucking pounds David laid. And you made everybody think that your physique and your strength level was attainable at your age for so long. You're a fucking liar. And you portrayed this false image to people and gave them false hope like I'm the same age as him and I grew up watching him and I was always like kind of jealous that I didn't look like that the mother fuckers been on drugs this whole fucking life like No shit I didn't look like that. I was comparing myself to an ideal that wasn't real

So of course I was dissatisfied with the way that I look. And that kind of ties into everything I just told you guys about people looking a certain way on social media. You're comparing yourself to something that is not real. You're convincing yourself that these people look like this in an effortless way. They don't. They're putting so much more effort in than you realize.

So don't criticize yourself and like beat yourself up because you don't look near as good as they do. No shit, you know. One thing you need to realize about most of these people that are really hot on social media is it's their job to look hot. That is their job. That is their nine to five.

I mean, it never really ends if that's your job. But these people that look freakishly fucking perfect They don't have a normal job bitch. They're not going to a real 9 to 5 They're not dealing with the stress that having a normal job. Their job is to look hot They spend all their time of the day and their energy and their appearance in the way that they look So of course, I look better than you. You have shit to do. You live in real life You have actual worries and concerns and bigger shit to deal with, not to worry about only the way that you look. Oh my God,

one more thing I wanted to talk about was skin and people's skin texture and stretch marks and acne and all of that. Everyone on social media has perfect fucking skin and it pisses me off. I have stretch marks like a mother fucker like in my arms and like the typical ones on like your shoulders and your chest like when you start working out I have them on my forearms. I have them on my hips and like my Stomach area because I was like fat as a kid like I wasn't ever like huge, but I was like a chubby little shit as a kid and I've grown really fast like I'm 6'7 you don't just fucking get this tall without any signs of like

where on your body like I had to stretch very fast and like I have stretch marks on me they're not that noticeable but they're there and sometimes I'll get like an ingrown hair or I'll get like acne or on my face or my neck like when you shave You get a fucking razor bump or an ingrown hair like shit happens like I'm a normal human being I'll get like a pimple or whatever on my back or my shoulder or whatever every once in a while Even I used to get them all the time, but it's like I've grown and I'm out of that stage of like puberty where my shit's a little bit more balanced so I don't break out as often but people online don't break out. People online do not have fucking acne and they do not have fucking stretch marks.

I swear to God it's the most frustrating shit. Everybody's scanned it like milk. Everybody's fucking perfect and it pisses me off. And something I realized about this last night I went and saw the movie The House of Gucci with Lady Gaga in it. I know y'all heard about it. That fucking movie was so good and that fucking piece of shit, Marie T.L. Gucci got what the fuck he deserved, okay? It got revealed in the trailer so I'm not like spoiling anything. But Lady Gaga's character hired a hitman to kill her husband, which is Gucci. Like fuck him.

What he did to her? That's what he- he fucking had it coming. Alright, but anyway, that's not the point. It's a good movie, you should watch it. But my point with that is there's a scene in it when Lady Gaga is in a hotel room where there has been, and I'm like getting into a little fight or whatever, but she took her shirt off and she was like changing clothes

and it showed in that scene the lighting like reflected off of her arms and her back. And she had like, you know those tiny little bumps on your skin. I have them. A lot of people have them and it's a normal thing. It's the tiny little bumps. When you get chicken, not chicken pox, what the fuck is it called?

Like chill bumps. When you get a chill and you get to what the fuck is it called? Goose bumps, goose bumps. The Goose and Geesebumps. So those like on your arm, but like they're not that bad or that severe, but there's like little dots all over your arms. And the lighting like in that scene showed it on her shoulders and her arms. And I was like, oh my fucking god, like she's a normal human being. I got so excited that I

related to Lady Gaga like someone that is not shown and like celebrities are not shown and the light to have flaws so like to see that she doesn't have like perfect skin like every fucking body else that made me so happy like I felt like I related to her and connected to her in that moment I was like holy shit yeah I'd be getting too deep into everything. Leave me alone. But that made me realize so much about myself because when I was like very insecure, when I would see people online, I would immediately look for their flaws and even

people in real life. Like whenever I felt intimidated by someone or I felt like someone was better than me, I would immediately just start looking for their flaws to make myself feel better. So like if someone had a stretch mark or if they had like the bumps on their arm like Lady Gaga or if they had like weird shaped thumbnails, like fingernails, that's one thing

that I like made myself feel better about with one guy. He was like super fucking hot, but he had like club fingers and I was like, ha, when I was really insecure, I used to do that and I never knew why ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha I didn't know how to stop it. But, I realized last night when I watched that movie, like, I don't look for people's flaws anymore to feel better about myself. Like, oh, look at them. They're like fucked up. I look for people's flaws now to relate to them. Like, when I saw Lady Gaga had the bumps on her arms, I got so excited and like happy that She's human just like me like it's normal like it's not having bumps on your arms

Is normal some people just fucking have them like that's just how it is Oh my god like it made me so fucking excited That the bitch is like a human and like I've looked at people now when I see that they have like an air quote the bitch is like a human. And like I look at people now when I see that they have like an air quote flaw or if they have a sign that they're a real human being that social media does not show, I get happy because I relate because I have it too. It's not like, oh, I need to find what's wrong with you. So I don't think you're that much above me.

It's like, no, now I can relate to you. So I guess the whole mindset shift of like looking looking at people as how are we the same, makes me feel a lot better than just trying to rip people down in my brain or make myself seem less ugly. I don't know how to explain that, but hope that made sense. But just start looking for the way that you're like the same as other people and you'll start feeling

a lot more connected to them. And you'll start feeling a lot less alone. Oh, but back to like social media. A lot of people deal with that shit. A lot more people have it than you think, but they blur it out. Or they'll smooth their skin and pictures. Now, you do have the people that will post about their stretch marks or their acne or acne scars. And I love that shit. Like, I love when people are vulnerable and real and honest because just how seen Lady Gaga made me feel like less

alone, those posts make people feel less alone. Another thing that I've realized about myself in specific is I'm not photogenic. Like it's very, like I'll get a good picture of myself every once in a while, and then I'll hang on to that fucker. Like it's the golden ticket to the goddamn Willy Wonka Palace.

Like I'll just hold on to it for a while. I'll just use that picture. Like that's my go-to picture. That's why I don't post a lot of selfies because bitch, there are diamonds does then. I don't take good pictures very often. But I realized I look like shit in my phone camera. And like on camera, like I just don't feel like I look good because I see myself in my mirror and I'm like damn I'm fucking cute and then I try to take a picture of myself in that mirror and I'm like god damn I'm actually ugly that right there you need to stop thinking that shit cuz I know y'all do the same thing the way

you look on camera is not the way you look in real life I promise you and because I saw this one tick-tock and it made me like really believe this when this girl said you know when you take a picture of the sunset and it never shows up as good on your phone, like it looks way better in real life than on your phone, your phone can't capture the actual beauty of the sunset. You're the same way. And since seeing that bitches TikTok, it's really like changed me

because I'd be feeling like I am ugly as shit in my phone camera, like when I take a selfie, ugh, I'm like, got woof, like holy shit. But then I look at myself in the mirror in real life and I can like see myself more 3D and like I can see myself the way that I move. You know, I know I'm looking at a mirror and it's 2D shut the fuck up,

but I look 3D in it, okay? Don't attack me for that. I know it sounds stupid. And also another thing, when you're looking at yourself in a certain mirror, remember when I said lighting is important, you need to looking at yourself in a certain mirror, remember when I said lighting is important, you need to look at yourself in other mirrors too. Whenever you get the chance, go to a different mirror. Look at yourself in different lightings in different places, in different atmospheres, and

different mirrors. You will appreciate yourself so much more because you will see that you look a lot different than you think. Like when you get used to looking at yourself in just one mirror and one lighting, like in your bedroom or your bathroom, you don't see certain shit. Like not every mirror will show you the same thing. It sounds fucking wacky, but start looking at yourself in other mirrors and you'll start seeing shit you didn't notice before. You're just used to looking at yourself in one place. That's kind of a compliment, smooth.

But some of them, God damn, do it when you feel yourself, because if you try and look in a different mirror when you like don't feel your best or you actually look ugly, oof, it hurts your feelings. Also, look at yourself from the side in the mirrors, like move around, like turn around and look at yourself in different angles, because when I look at myself head on, I'm like, you're a fucking whale. And then I look at myself from the side, or I turn a little bit, and I'm like, oh, okay, that's doable. You know, so move around a little. Like actually, if you're gonna look at yourself

in the mirror, check yourself to fuck out. Do a little spin for yourself. So one of the big realizations that I'm so excited to talk about is the one about social media creating a certain norm and an idea of what is air quote normal. Big fat fucking air quote around what's normal. So when you look at your phone, okay, and you get on social media, whether it's Instagram, TikTok, whatever fucking tickles your fancy. Even if you don't directly follow the fitness influencers where it's

their job to look at the ones that I talked about before, they will come up on your explore page, they will come up on your explore page. They will come up on your fucking 4u page. They'll find a way in front of your face. I swear to God. The hot people, their pages just get pushed by the algorithm and so everybody's goddamn face. What this does is when you're shown incredibly hot people over and over and over again,

you start to think that's more common than it is. So if you're constantly seeing bitches with BBLs for girls or if like guys, like if you're constantly seeing people with perfect bodies and abs and looking hot, you're gonna see it a whole bunch, but subconsciously, you're gonna think it's a lot more common than it is. Cause you're seeing this shit daily,

multiple times a day, multiple different people. So when you start seeing this as common and it happens way too long, you're going to start subconsciously seeing this as like normal. This is the normal way to look. This is the normal way to be. And this becomes a major fucking problem when you don't match that and you don't fit what is air quote now seen as normal by the subconscious in your mind. So now when you look at yourself in the mirror, you're not going to see the good things about you. You're not going to see the things that you have to appreciate. You're immediately going to start seeing the

ways that you're not what you see on social media. It's going to be subconscious. You're not going to know why you don't like your body. You're just not going to fucking like it. And you're always going to see what's wrong instead of what's right and what you like. That takes effort to look at the positive and to look at what you like takes effort. Your subconscious is just going to do it for you and it's always what you're lacking.

Because your brain automatically compares. So if you've got this idea or this image of what is normal and you get in front of a mirror, you're already subconsciously comparing. And when you're comparing and contrasting and you're seeing, no, I'm not built like Kylie Jenner. Or I'm not built like Arnold Schwarzenegger. If that's who you people you like to follow, like the fitness influencers.

I just use him because he's a very known name. You're only gonna see what you need to fix. So I realized this when I was out of hotel pool a couple weeks ago. So I had been dieting so fucking hard for this trip. I like isolated myself, I quit going out, I quit hanging out with people, I quit hanging out with friends, like I literally just like hermated myself, like a hermit crap, and fucking worked on the way

that I looked because I was so excited to go to this pool. And I was like, oh my god, I wanna finally be confident for once and the way that I look going and taking my shirt off somewhere Because I never have for the first time in 23 years. I finally felt confident without my shirt on out of place and This was before I went to EDC because I took my shirt off there and I felt really good too But anyway, I was dying really hard because I was so excited to go and spend the weekend by this fucking hotel pool And when I got there like I didn't think I was gonna look that good like compared to everybody else

I'm like I'm gonna look good, but I'm not gonna be the best looking one at the pool Like I'm sure everyone's gonna be fucking hot, but I don't want to be like cripplingly insecure when I'm there So I'm putting all this work into my body, you know, I want to look like as good as I can even though though I'm not going to look the best. So when I get to this fucking pool, I realized what the fuck? Like, I'm the best looking one here. And in my mind, I was like, I don't even look that good. So how the fuck am I the best looking one here? Like, this is sad. And the reason I didn't think I looked that good is because I was comparing myself to what I was seeing on social media. And the guys that I see there and the fitness influencers that I was following at the time, I was comparing myself to that. So comparing to them, not in looked that good, but comparing myself to the real life and real people and real bodies that

were at that pool, I looked fucking good. Half the people there were fucking hippos, all right? If you're fat and sensitive, I used to be fat too, I'm allowed to say it, shut up. But I was so shocked, like, I was the best looking one at the pool, me? Like, I was so shell shocked by that. And that is what made me realize, yo, what I'm comparing myself to is not fucking real.

Cause where are all these fucking fruit cakes that I see online? None of y'all was at the muff and pool. None of y'all was at the casino I was at. Like all the ones down the street, like where the fuck were you guys? Where were all these hot ass people that I was seeing online?

No where the fuck I'm be found. No where to be found. And I have traveled a lot of places. And I've seen a lot of like, air quote, Instagram hot people in real life. A couple of them look hot, but a lot of them just look really uncomfortable. But they don't really fucking look like that. Like they look good, like I said, in their one pose under their certain lighting and their certain outfit they had for Instagram.

That's when they look good. They don't look good in real life moving around and breathing. They don't look good as a human. They look good as a fucking little picture online. But yeah, go into that pool shock the fuck out of me. And it made me realize like how mean I've been being to myself and this idea of what I'm supposed to look like that's been served to me by social media. And I went through and I unfollowed all the people that were like super fucking hot. None of them have personality anyways. All they are is they're fucking what I eat in a day

and they're macro split and their workouts and their exercises that everybody fucking does. How many exercises can you do that I haven't seen before, bitch? Everyone knows how to fucking work out, okay? So these people, like that's another thing I realized. And is these really, really hot people online all their personality is just being hot all these little fitness boys

If you take any of these fucking faggots out of the gym they're losers Like in the gym they know what they're doing they know what they're talking about they have their little friends in there But you take a fucking fruitcake that spends all of his time working out and eating chicken and rice. You take him out one night. Stiff is a board, uncomfortable, can't make a conversation. Doesn't know what the fuck to do with himself or his hands. Seems like a like a newborn fucking baby giraffe doesn't know how to walk. Like walks like they have a stick in their ass because they're trying to like flex their muscles. Like he keeps flexing your muscles Jordan. look like a fucking in the thro And the wise words of fucking margo robbie like these motherfuckers you're comparing yourself to people that you see them in their prime in their element

Like these little fitness people you see them at the gym of course they look good of course that is their specialty It's like a doctor if you talk to a doctor in the hospital, they are on their shit They're intimidating. They're scary because that's their field. That's where they know everything about you talk to a doctor in a real life Half of them have no fucking social skills because they spent so long of their life with their face in a fucking book Yeah, they know what they're talking about in the hospital, but that's it They don't have much, what's it called, range with their personality. They know what they know and that's it. Same with these little fitness boys.

They know how to be cool in the gym. They know how to lift. They know how to look hot, but they don't know how to socialize. They don't know how to have a conversation. That's not about fucking lifting or eating chicken. There are exceptions to the rule, but I've had to learn about myself. The least important or interesting thing about me is the fact that I work out. The most interesting thing about these people that are fucking hot is that they

work out or that they're hot. So that's another thing you need to remind yourself of is these people you're comparing yourself to. It's very shallow and no depth and no range. So if you are funny and you're like mildly cute, boom, you already win. Because these motherfuckers are stiff as a board. Light is a rather stiff as a board. Light is a rather stiff as I'm just not levitating in this fucking room right now. I need to stop with the witchy shit.

But yeah, take any person that you're intimidated by or you think is like super cool and take them out of what they know and see if they can still survive. Because if you have a resilient personality and you have like a personality with range, you can survive in any social setting. I'm one of those people, thank God. I've had to put a lot of fucking effort into myself to learn about a lot of different things so that I can hang in different social situations.

Like doctors, talk to them anything about other than their field and they're a fucking little toddler. They're an idiot. They don't get it. Like, talk to a fitness boy about anything other than fitness. Try it. Try to have a conversation. See how one, they have nothing to say or two, how they try to find a way to resort it

back to fitness. Another great example of this, I know the audio switches in, it sounds different, it's because I'm recording this later, I need to throw these little two cents in. An example of this is people on TikTok, like the little thirst trappers, the ones that just look cute or like do certain little weird shit and they look really hot while they're doing it. They look super fucking hot in their TikToks, they know what they're doing, they know their angle, they know their transition, they can construct that to make their self look hot as fuck and to portray a certain image. But if you take them out of TikTok, they ain't shit.

And that's a whole topic and in love itself is social media making nobodies, feel like they are somebody. But just because someone can make a little video of their self and do it really well, it doesn't mean that they have any other valuable skill sets or that they are a certain type of person in real life. That may just be all that they're good at, you know? But my point is you're comparing yourself to someone that is really good at what they're doing. If you make a TikTok and you're not skilled at it,

of course it's gonna look like ass. It's not gonna look as cool as theirs. You're gonna think they're a lot cooler than they actually are. They're not. They just have certain skills that you don't. If you put them in a place where you have a lot of skills, they would struggle.

You would feel like you have the upper hand. So, you gotta remind yourself of that. Is you have skills too. You have skills too. You have value too. Just not in the same areas as them maybe. But even the areas that they have to value when they look cool, grow in social media, who even gives a fuck, you know? Okay, I'm going to polish this off with a realization that I have like half realized and it was a couple days ago.

Um, the realization is what for? That's it. Like that's the fucking realization. People spend so much time and energy going to the gym or working on their body to look hot. Okay, cool. Like I understand the motive behind trying to look hot is trying to find a partner and like trying to be attractive to others. Okay, great, I get that. But

like for what? Like why are you going to the gym every day to pick shit up and put it down? Have you seen any fitness person? Like I hate to they call it a sport because bitch, all you're doing is working on the way that you look. Like you're not able to do anything, you're able to pick shit up and put it down. You're not learning a skill, you're not training for a sport, you're not training to do an activity, you're not training to be able to like, do gymnastics or some shit. You're going to the gym to be able to move heavy things and to look cute. Or like, look big and muscular. What more, you know what I mean? Like what more is there?

Like I'm over training just for looks. I'm like I'm recently start picking up like calisthenics and like being able to do certain shit with my body and I really wanna get into like gymnastics and be able to do some freaky ass shit cause I'm pretty flexible but I wanna like get there. Like I wanna be able to do them in little handstands you can do from like sitting down to doing a handstand.

That shit's cool to me. I wanna start training to be able to like accomplish more than just looking good. I wanna be able to do shit. Like I wanna have more to show for my effort and my like training than just looking cute. Cause like what the fuck for? Like that's boring.

I'd rather be able to do cool shit like flips. That was just a random realization I had. I have like what the fuck for? Like that's boring. I'd rather be able to do cool shit like flips. That was just a random realization I had of like what for? Like I need more from working out now. I just look at it as so superficial and like a waste of fucking time. Like it's kind of selfish too. Let's not get on to that topic but let's honestly let's just do it. Like it's selfish. You spend this much time and energy just to look good for what? You know, you could be doing something way more productive for like a better outcome. I just look at it like there's so much efforts

for so little outcome because I guess, oh, that's what it is. My values now about looking good are a lot different. Like I don't think looking good is the point of life anymore and trying to be cute and attractive. That's not what does it for me anymore. That's not my goal. That's not what I think is like the most important. So now I look at all the time and effort the energy put into just solely looking better

as a waste. And don't try to come for me and say, I do it to be healthy. Shut the fuck up, shut up. You don't fucking go to the gym to be healthy. Cause you eat like shit. All right, if you think you're getting all the nutrients you need from some chicken and some rice, you're not.

Okay, bitch, so don't try and come at me about trying to be healthy. Shootin' fucking needles in your body with substances that you don't know what they actually are. Cause you bought them from some guy in the fucking gym, you don't go fuck my health, shut up. That ain't why you working out. You working out to look cute.

And it's okay, cuz me too. I'm just saying, these are the new ideas and perspectives I'm taking on about this topic. And I'm just looking at the shit like, for what and what can I do more? Cuz this is not fulfilling for me anymore. You know, I to start doing some cool shit. If you see me doing a headstand and like climbing buildings and shit like spider-man, my job is this. That's my new goal for my body now. Be able to do flips and like handstands and shit. Maybe I should get into training to like fight. Like fair fight because I can street fight.

That's why I don't like fair fighting because it's too many fucking rules, bitch That's why I don't like MMA or like boxing or anything like kickboxing and shit Like it's fun and all to train but like Girl, I don't know how to fucking fight with all these goddamn rules I'm not thinking of that like when I'm in the zone to fuck somebody shit up I ain't fuck I'm not gonna be like having my adrenaline going and trying to go through the rulebook and my fucking head Of how I can and can't hit you, bitch I'm just gonna hit you. You trying to hit me? Now I'm just rambling at this point.

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