Aware & Aggravated - 74. (WWLD) Saving Money, Stop Missing Your Ex, & Signs You're Gaslighting Yourself

Episode Date: April 30, 2023

In this episode Leo shares tips for saving money, how to stop thinking of your ex, dealing with religious partners, and signs you're gaslighting yourself. 😁 WWLD Submissions: https://forms.gle/sNtQjjwvXUisfdgh9✅ FOLLOW ME HERE:https://www.instagram.com/theleoskepi https://www.tiktok.com/@leoskepi 👕 MERCH https://shopleoskepi.com/collections/all-products📱 MY APP POSITIVE FOCUS Apple: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/positive-focus/id1559260311Google: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.positivefocusapp 🔒 MY PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT COMMUNITY https://www.facebook.com/groups/851294735925522/ 💎 1-ON-1 COACHING AND MENTORSHIP*Taking on new clients again soon.📝 ACCOUNTABILITY TEMPLATES/WORKSHEETS https://leoskepitemplates.com

I'm in such a good mood today, wow. And I choose today to record a podcast and hurt everybody's feelings. Hi friends, this week we're doing an episode of What Would Leo Do. So for anyone that's new, that's when you guys write in and ask me pretty much my advice on whatever your situation is and you ask what would I do. Because I'm not gonna lie to you, I'm gonna tell you the truth. If you need to manipulate somebody outside your house. But I'm excited to let's jump into this.

So someone said I have a hard time saving money. What advice can you give me on it? Also I love you and hope you're prospering in every way. Thank you so much. I am. That's funny to say. Usually I'm going through some shit. I'm really okay right now. I'm doing great. So when it comes to saving money, you got two options. You can spin less or you can make more. Which one you want to do? They're both hard. They're both going to suck. But one thing I learned about my mindset when I was saving is when you put all your effort and energy into figuring out how to save the money that you do

have, you're not exploring the possibilities of how to make more of it. That's a whole different mindset to be in. One is like hoarding resources and one is creating and finding more of them. So it's a matter of picking which one you want to do. So with saving money, stop spending it bitch. The thing that I had to do when I was trying to save money was get very clear on where my money was going. So I made a full budget of all of my expenses and everything that I have going out every month and everything that I have coming in. But one thing I did that also helped with budgeting, you know how you have like your set income,

I also planned like kind of like the manifestation thing with making a budget when you see everything you have coming in, you plan for that. Plan for what you're gonna do when you have extra money come in also because you're not gonna get shit you aren't prepared for. You see it puts you in a whole new mindset of already come in also because you're not going to get shit you aren't prepared for. You see, it puts you in a whole new mindset of already having the money because you're already thinking about what you're going to do with it and make sure you're more of a match to it. So that's a little manifestation trick is everything that you know you have coming in and all of your expenses you know you currently have, get everything squared away because you can't

ignore the physical. Get very clear on it and make sure you're safe financially with that. And then if you have an unexpected $500, an unexpected $1000, an unexpected $10,000 come in. Plan what you're gonna do with it. Have a game plan where you're gonna put it, where it's gonna go, how it's gonna help, okay? But don't get into that delusional thinking of like,

oh, $10,000 is just gonna manifest. Bitch, don't play like that. Play with what you know, play with the known, and then plan for the extra that could like flutter in. But don't bank on it. That's how people get fucked up when they try and manifest. I did for a long time. I was like, oh, this million bucks

is just gonna hit me upside the head. I have no way of making it come in yet, but I'm manifesting it. Don't do that, bitch. So I tried it. But also with saving, you've got to get your mindset right? Because when you're out in public and you're shopping or you're choosing not to buy something,

you have to look at what you're getting by choosing not to spend the money. So it's like, if you want a new phone and all of a sudden you get to the store and you're like, okay, I want that. But you also are saving for a house or saving for something else that's more important. You're now in an exchange of like, do I want to have this money go toward this phone or do I want to have this money support me buying a house?

If you walk in the store and you see the phone, you're going to feel like the sense of lack if you don't leave with it. You're going to be like, oh, I don't get the phone. So you don't look at it like you're saving money. You look at it like you no longer get this thing that you now want. So my biggest tip is stay focused if you're saving on what you're getting by choosing not to spend your money on a new phone. Like, yeah, you don't get the new phone, but what do you want more? A house or a phone, a car or a phone, whatever you're saving for, or this phone. Which one do you want more?

But that'll help you kind of deal with the feeling of lack and the annoyance of trying to save money because you're gonna become aware of like all the areas it's going and you're gonna be pissed off. But if you get very clear on what you're saving for, you're gonna look at everything else as a trade-off you're willing to make. So buying the new phone, going out to dinner, you're not looking at it else as a trade-off you're willing to make so buying the new phone going out to dinner

You're not looking at it like you're losing these things when you choose not to do those You're looking at it like you gain a house you gain the car you get closer to the thing that you're saving for That's what is ultimately helped to me. So that's what Leo does All right, the next person said how do I stop thinking about my ex? We've both moved on but I always think of him unintentionally. When it comes to thinking about an ex, that shit is so annoying. Like when you've broken up with someone or you've cut off an old friend, when you just think back and you like miss someone, that's the most annoying shit. But I'm gonna give you a personal experience from what I had to do

when I thought that I missed my ex and my ex was an absolute piece of fucking shit and I did not need to miss him for any reason. But I kept having these thoughts and these feelings like I do miss him, I constantly think of him and I would just try to ignore the thoughts and ignore the feelings and push them away.

You need to do the exact opposite. You need to look at directly why you keep thinking about them, why you keep feeling like you missed them. You need to fully face, like turn around and look at the thoughts that you're having and look at the feelings that you feel to figure out what the fuck they're there for and to see if they're even valid.

Because if you've convinced yourself, someone is better than they are. Of course you're gonna miss them. Of course you're gonna constantly think of them. But what I had to do with my ex, I was so sick to even entertain the thought that I missed him. That's how fucking like, mad I was. I was like, I'm not even considering that I missed him.

I know I might think it, but nah, I would just ride it off. What you need to do is face it. Okay, Leo, put your ego down. If you did miss him, what is the thing that you think you missed so fucking bad? And I literally made a list of everything that I missed about my ex and everything that made me keep thinking about him. Why was I thinking about him? Why did I feel like I missed him? And I wrote it out. And when it's in your head, it feels very big. This person seems like they're great. When you can get the feelings out of you and the

thoughts out of you and you can look at them, you're gonna realize that person ain't shit. And I looked at my list and saw that everything about my ex that I thought that I missed was nothing special to him. It was things that I missed about having a partner which is totally normal. So after looking at the truth of what I was feeling and why I kept thinking about him, I felt so much more relief when I did think about him because I was able to reassure myself, it's not him that you miss, it's a person, it's a partner,

it's someone to do shit with, it's this type of treatment, it's money, because my situation was like with money, like the financial freedom and like the no stress around finances. That was something that I really missed. And whenever I was in a situation where I was stressed about money, it made me think about missing him

because that would have absolved it. Your brain is gonna do that. Your brain is gonna look for the last time you didn't feel something and make you think that you missed that, because it sees it as a way to solve the way that you feel right now. So you're going to keep thinking about whoever it is that you miss. You have experience with it.

It's going to take time for you to stop thinking about people. But if when you think of them, hurts you or annoys you, you need to cover that and write all that shit out and figure out what it is you actually miss and why you keep thinking about them. Because like I said, next time you think about them, it doesn't come in a way that hurts you. It's not annoying. It's not fear driven.

It doesn't invoke anxiety in you when you think about this person or guilt. You get to observe that you're thinking about them or you're missing them and you get to reassure yourself and kind of like disengage that emotional charge that comes with it. Like you're not actually missing the person. You're missing having a person, not the specific person. So that's truly what helped me. So that's why I just wanted to ramble about it. Okay, so the next person's sin in one that's kind of long,

but I'm gonna try and summarize it so I can get to the point. This person is basically in a position to continue living with their family who they do not like, their dirty, they fight a lot, they're not fucking clean, and it stresses her out to like live with them and be around them. She doesn't like any of them, but she's worried about losing money or wasting money by moving and getting her own place. And I have personal experience with this, so I'm gonna give you the advice of what Leo did. Why the fuck do I call this? What would Leo do if I've done it already? So this is what would Leo did. Okay, that's the new name. So the first thing to get is your home and your peace and like your personal life and the place where you lay your fucking head needs to be

one where you can relax and be okay. It needs to be a tranquil space and you need to have a place where you can have some peace and get the fuck away from the world and get the fuck away from everybody. And if you're going to be living with people, they need to contribute to that. And you need to be able to still live in harmony or live in peace. You need some kind of peace at home. And if you don't have that, any amount of money is worth it. It's not a waste of money at all. Because when I was living at home with my dad, it was stressful.

I didn't like it. And by having my home life, way on my emotions and the way that I felt all the time, it prevented me from working on the things that I wanted to work on and the things that I wanted to do, who I wanted to be, how I wanted to live my life. All of my emotional energy was so fucking packed up in that home and all my energy was wasted. My head was chaos and I couldn't perform because I couldn't gain clarity anywhere. Like I'd have to go fucking sit in my car and a parking lot to get some alone time or I'd have to go to a coffee shop

and there's people all around. If you don't have that place to be fucking still and be quiet and re-center yourself, you're fucked. So do not look at you moving out as a waste of money in any way. Because once you experience life without a toxic home environment, you're going to be able to perform and make so much more fucking money than you can imagine. You're over here scared living at home and I get it. Like you're scared to move out because you know life as it is. It's a little bit safe. It's secure.

It's known. You understand this. But what I want you to get and what I wish I could have told myself was your piece is not worth the money. Your energy is not worth the money. You'd be spending on rent to get your own place. Go get your own fucking place. Pay that money because as soon as you pay that fucking rent and you experience

that piece and you see how much more free you feel How much lighter you feel how much more energy you have to put into everything that you want to do how much more excited You are by life and how much better you become at everything you're working on your 1000% gonna be like fuck you out was worth it all your energy and time is not dealing with these fucking people Making your home life hell get the fuck. Do not be scared about losing the money. You're gonna have so much more free time and so much more freed up energy to put into making more. And those ideas are gonna visit you as soon as you get your ass to fuck out of there. So that's my two cents on being scared and looking at moving out as a waste of money. Waste

the fucking money. Because as soon as you hop your ass out, it's all gonna make sense. You're gonna be like, thank you, Leo. Thank you. Because that's exactly what happened to me when I moved out. Everything flipped for me. And I've made more money in a month than I used to make in a year, some months.

So everything is gonna get better once you have peace at home. And that's why I'm so weird about my apartment and where I live. Now that I've gotten my own fucking space, I don't let nobody fuck with it. I don't let people come over that I don't want to come over. I don't care if it's mean, I don't care if it's rude.

This is my fucking peace. This is my space. I energy cleanse it, I smoke cleanse it, I do all kind of shit to make sure my space is catered to me to be calm, to recenter myself, and to perform how I need to perform for everything that I'm working on. I don't let nobody fuck with that.

Every time someone leaves my place, I smoke cleanse the bitch. I get all their fucking energy out, open the doors, open the windows, and I reset my shit. So I'm someone that's speaking to you from the other side of where you want to go. Trust me, that is the way to go. Alright, next person said, my whole life I've had a passion for being a content creator. When I started making my content, I've lost a lot of people. Close family have cut me out of their lives. I want to pursue my passions, but still feel stuck in how to continue when it feels like there's no one around me to support me. Okay, first thing I would look at is why do I want to become a content creator? What about that? Do I feel like I want? Do you just want the fucking money? Do you

want the brand deals? It's not as much money as you think unless you do it right. Do you want the brand deals? Do you want the trips? Do you want the fame? Do you want the followers? Like what is it you're truly after? Or are you wanting to become a content creator because you have something to share? There's plenty of fucking people on the internet with nothing to fucking share and just take up your goddamn attention. There's plenty of hot people on the internet. There's plenty of people in the fucking gym posting their workout routines. Even less you have something to share, say the fuck off social media. I don't want to

be rude, but it's oversaturated with everybody who wants to become somebody when they're actually a fucking nobody. If you have nothing to share, shut the fuck up. Stay out of everybody's face. You know what I mean? Because now it's so hard to weed through people who are actually worth the fuck online. Because everybody just wants to be a content creator. And the whole reason I'm saying have something to share is because When you know you have something to share you're not gonna give a fuck who supports you or not You don't need nobody to support you people thought I was fucking crazy when I started people judge me people made fun of me

Not in front of my face, but people may fund me and talk shit behind my back and I don't give a fuck I never needed someone to support me. I never needed anyone to see my fucking vision But me because I know what the fuck I have to share and that's where I want you to make sure your goal is not just to become a Content creator but to share something because that's what's gonna keep you pushing and allow you to tap into that Confidence that I have of I don't gonna fuck what nobody says I have this thing to share and it's important if you want to cut me off for it is shit bitch die. I don't care Maybe not die. Maybe that's a little mean no bitch die. Everyone that may follow me croak But let me really back in if this is your passion you're talking about

But let me really back in. If this is your passion you're talking about, claim that shit as your passion. Get very clear on what it is you have to share, and what it is you want to get across to people. What is your mission? What is your passion? Get so grounded in that that it's unshakable. And you're committed to that. Get committed to your passion and your mission and what you want to share so hard because that means social media is just a way to share it. It's not dependent on social media. Your mission is why you're on social media. You're not on social media and then thinking of a passion to try and do it, get grounded in that mission first, get grounded in that passion you speak of, and then understand that getting that out as much as you can sharing that message helping people see whatever comes with your passion

It's gonna be the goal social media is a way to gain awareness of it and to share it There's plenty of other things you can do so even if social media doesn't work out if you're attached to that passion It's never gonna die Social media is a way to get it out there and execute on it and capitalize on it, sure. But you shouldn't just be on social media just because you wanna be on social media. There's plenty of those motherfuckers, and I'm sick of seeing them.

But like I said, that's how you're gonna tap into your components and that's how you're gonna feel like you don't need no support, because you don't. You're not committed to being liked by people. You're not committed to being supported. You're committed to your fucking mission, and that's that. Okay, this one we're gonna talk about.

Someone said, what would you do if a fan saw you in public and decided to take a picture with you and then suddenly asked you out? That would make me very fucking uncomfortable. And a couple of people have done that, and I don't like it. I genuinely don't fucking like it I need to do a full podcast episode where I rant about how to fucking meet me in public

Don't fucking take pictures of me if I'm not looking at you If you have not come up to me and said hi to me Don't fucking take pictures of me from across the room. People send me pictures of me walking in the parking lot all the fucking time That's weird. That's fucking creepy and it's gonna paranoia me the fuck out. Like it's gonna put me on fight or flight mode. I'm very protective of myself. And if I feel like someone is watching me, I don't like that shit.

If you come up to me and say hi, I'm the nicest motherfucker you'll ever meet. We'll take a picture, we'll ki-ki, we'll laugh, we'll hug, love you to death. Like we're besties. But for people to just like stalk me or take pictures of me from afar, I don't like that shit at all.

But there's been a couple of people who have tried to shoot their shot. And how do I politely say, play in your league? Oh my god. I don't want to hurt everybody's feelings. But like if you have any hesitation about asking me out or flirting with me, if I meet someone and I'm interested in them or I have any interest in someone that's coming up and saying hi to me, you're gonna fucking know. Okay, I'm very flirty when something catches my attention, I'm very forward, I'm very

open about the way that I feel, if I have interest in you, I will tell you. So just know that. Let me make the first fucking move. Okay, if I hug you, that's not making a move. If I I fuck you, that's making a move. Okay, so I'm very friendly. I'm very nice with everybody. Don't take it as flirting.

If you have to question if I'm flirting with you, I'm not. I'll be very fucking forward. But a couple of people have like, try to like make moves on me and flirt with me and it makes me very uncomfortable because you come up to me as like someone who supports me and you want to take a picture with me and then you're trying to like go at me at a different angle. Like I don't want to be shutting that down and have you walk away from the experience thinking that

I was an asshole. I love that you came and said hi to me. I did not like that you push yourself on me because people are fucking pushy. These gays piss me off. They don't know how to fucking respect a boundary or be polite. But let me not get so fucking heated about this. Let me just shut the fuck up and get to the point. If you come up to me and you recognize me and you like me, thank you. I love it.

Always come say hi if you see me. But if you're considering making a move on me if I like you I will ask for your Instagram. I will make it very clear that I want to stay in contact with you I will make it very clear that I have interest in you, okay? So just know that if anybody's listening to this just know you don't have to make a move on me If I like you, I'll make one first. That's how I am. Okay, next one we're talking about religion. I gotta touch this one with like a 10 foot pole, because y'all be sensitive as the motherfucker.

Okay, so this girl said, Hi Leo, my boyfriend is extremely religious, and I am not at all. I'm very willing to learn more about his relationship with God and create one for myself, but he says if I don't it will ruin our relationship and I don't like that. Thoughts. I have a whole bunch of them. So the first thing Leo would do is assess the person you're dating's relationship with God. So if I'm talking to a guy

or I'm dating a guy and he's so obsessed with God and is so like I'm gonna try to understand that what the fuck is that dynamic going on? And why is it so important to you that I have the same relationship with God that you do? There's something very deep in there and the first thing Leo would do is Assess that I would try to understand absolutely everything I could about his relationship with God. How does he view God? Does he look at God as someone to throw things

into his hands and avoid responsibility and avoid power in his life? Does he put things on God and expect to be taken care of? How does he live his life? Does he live an empowered life where he realizes he's in control or does he throw his power to God and say, you handle it, you fix it. Is he the type person that prays and thinks that solves things or does he understand you can ask for guidance and pray, show gratitude, but you also have to correct things in the

physical reality when you fuck things up. You don't just pray and it goes away. How is his relationship with God? You need to see all the dynamics going on there. You need to see what he expects of the relationship with God and he also needs to realize what does he think about people who don't have a relationship with God? Does he look at them like, that makes me sad, that I have a good relationship with source and you don't. I want to help you achieve that. Or does he look at people without a relationship to God like, eh, they're disgusting, they're beneath me, they're evil. Which perspective does he hold? One of them will make him extremely fucking dangerous. Because if you're walking around just judging people who are not like connected to God in the same way that you are and don't have the same relationship, you're a dumb fuck.

Because you don't realize that other people have different experiences that maybe haven't led them to God or led them to a different God or led them away from God. If you're able to just like throw life into your own little perspective and judge everybody else who doesn't think the way that you think in your little bubble, you're a dangerous motherfucker. You need someone that can hold space for everyone's experiences, everyone's opinions, and not shame you. So the first thing is get very clear on what your person, your dating, is relationship with God is like, you need to dissect the fuck out of that. Because you might be dealing with someone who's fucking insane. is like you need to dissect the fuck out of that. Because you might be dealing with someone who's fucking insane.

But also someone like me could have a very closer relationship with a god and not have it be unhealthy. Would I date someone who is an atheist? I don't know, probably not. I have such a relationship with the universe and my spirit guides and entities and the universe at large that I'm aware of so much more going on. I've experienced it and I've tapped into a lot of shit. And for other people to not get to experience that, I'm a type that I want you to get to experience it.

I don't want to force you. I'm not going to tell you this is why this is happening. This is how it is. I'm not going to tell you this is my God. This is how things go. I don't believe in the typical God. But I want to give people the experiences that I've had that make you question things and come to your own opinion about the universe or spirituality or fucking entities and spirit guides like I want you to have your own experiences and draw your own conclusions from it but for someone to just walk around life being like no well there's no point to life when we die we're dead. That's someone who's been let down a lot and that's someone who doesn't trust anything and hasn't unlocked that part of their brain to expand way

further past this life. And I don't judge them for it because they've had their own experiences that lead them to that. So look at his relationship to God. That's what Leo would do. Look at it. Try to figure out if there's any red flags you need to run away from. I listed a few, but someone that is too gung ho about God and you have to look at him the same way that I do. And you have to have a relationship with him as strong as I do or you're bad. That's a dangerous motherfucker. I don't like people like that. That's fucking mad weird. Because he's also someone that's gonna turn the knife on himself and look at it like he's betraying his God for caring about someone who doesn't have the same relationship so that's a whole lot of

things to unpack assess the fuck relationship to god and there's gonna be so many red flags or green flags that you see but him being buried if you don't love god like I do were done then we're done that's what Leo would do kick rocks I'm a very stubborn prick nobody's gonna tell me what to do if you Then we're done. That's what Leo would do. Kick rocks. I'm a very stubborn prick. Nobody's gonna tell me what to do. If you tell me to love God, no. I'm gonna succumb to that on my own.

I'm gonna fucking choose what I want to choose. I'm not gonna be forced into anything to be with you. And ultimatum is the worst thing you can give someone like me. What would Leo do with an ultimatum? Choose the opposite of what the person wants. And I've done that since I'm like 10 years old. Anytime someone has said, Leo, choose this or me. I choose the opposite of that person because I'm like, fuck you for trying to take my power from me. I will take the consequences that come along with choosing against you and I don't care if it hurts me

I'm giving you the biggest fuck you and claiming my power You're not gonna force me into an ultimatum and force me to choose you. I will choose the opposite just to spite you But that's just me. You don't have to be like that. It's caused me a lot of headache, but I've thrown up a lot of middle fingers with that Oh, bitch. I forgot that I screenshot at this one. Oh, no. Oh, no. Babe, I'm so sorry. I'm about to hurt the fuck out of your feelings. Oh, my God, but I can't lie. But I'm going to set you free with what I'm about to say. This girl wrote in, so basically my boyfriend treats me like shit. I pretty much buy him everything he wants and do everything he wants and he doesn't return that energy

I know he loves me, but the effort that he puts in doesn't really show it that much There is so much more in this paragraph, but I'm gonna stop it there because that's all I need to fucking here You say I know he loves me. You say he treats me like shit and basically puts no effort into you or energy into you to show it. I'm not gonna allow you to live in that delusion. You're gaslighting the fuck out of yourself to continue dealing with his bullshit. If someone is treating you like hell and you tell them, oh it's okay I know that they love me.

Where the fuck is the love? To love someone is not just something you feel for them. To love something is an action. To love. I look at it like it's a fucking verb. Okay. You love me. You care about me. You're going to do things that are caring. You're going to take me into consideration. You're not going to do things that hurt me. When you love someone, your actions and your energy and the way you care for them, show it. So he's showing you jack shit and you're over here lying to yourself and saying, he loves me. How the fuck are you gonna know?

Can you open his chest and look and see what he feels? No. All you can trust is the way he treats you. And if he's treating you bad and he's not doing one loving action toward you. Quick gaslight in yourself babe. I know that's hard to hear But don't settle for no shit like that like playing devil's advocate You're basically shutting yourself up and saying suffer because he loves me even though he doesn't show it I just know he feels it Do you see? Do you see how dangerous that is?

Babe, you gotta get the fuck out. You genuinely gotta get the fuck out. Leo would have been left. Leo gets disrespected once and is out. I might hit you on the way out, but I'm out. You'd know second chances, no fuck shit. Nothing. And you all want to know how I have such a strong self-concept and confidence, and I'm as like sure of myself as I am, because I don't tolerate people coming around me, who will hurt me or disrespect me. You will not even make me question how I think of myself and what I'm capable of, and how lovable I actually am. You mistreat it, you're out, you're cut, no fucking if ends or buts.

Y'all wanna know what it costs to be competent that Tolerate and no bullshit, but with tolerating no bullshit the people that are in my life 10 out of 10 I've had to cut one recently, but There's all the people in my life are literally such good fucking people care about me till the fucking end of the earth like they're loyalty shit they don't fuck around they don't disrespect me I don't disrespect them holding everyone to high standards and holding myself to high standards the people you meet when you match up there you can't describe it but like the most solid fucking people are in my life because I don't fuck around with no bullshit and they don't either

That's how you access each other if you keep dealing with people who fuck on you and treat you like hell No one worth the fuck is gonna want to get near you because if they see you tolerating bullshit from other people That's drama that's bullshit gonna come into their life. So with me with someone like this Would I allow them to be friends with me? No. I don't like people that are like that. I don't like people who are pushovers. I don't like people who allow bullshit into their life because if I'm friends with you, the bullshit coming in your life that you won't clean the fuck up is gonna seep into mine. You're not safe to care about. Put your fucking boundaries up.

Stop dealing with people's bullshit. I don't care who it is. I feel like that this one on a tangent, but I need to come back to this girl. I feel like I said what I needed to say. I'm so sorry I had to say it but if he's not showing you in any way that he loves you he's just saying it consider it a fucking lie because the position you're in right now is your gaslight in yourself and I understand why and I'm sorry and I know how hurt you are to be doing that and I know how desperate you are to have this person in your life and how much you care about them or else you wouldn't be doing this to yourself to keep them but

it is in your best interest to wake up so that's why I said what I said love you I promise all right the last one I'm gonna hit on is someone said how do I find the motivation to work out You asked the right motherfucker I'll be having a hunt for the shit too I Generally like what a flashlight every day wake up where's the motivation? Anybody having to spare spare change? That's me like a homeless motherfucker on a side of the road spare motivation That's me, like a homeless motherfucker on a side of the road. Spare motivation, does anybody have it?

No, but seriously, the thing I'm gonna tell you about motivation is if you're gonna spend your time and focus on how to find motivation, you're fucked, because you cannot find it. You cannot invoke that feeling state. There is no control over it There is no surefire way to find motivation. You can look at things you can read things You can experience things that give you a boost of motivation, but there is not one thing I can tell you to do to go do this go Make this phone call and you'll have motivation There's no guarantee if you're going to get motivation or not. So

if you're over here trying to find a feeling state that you have absolutely no certain control over, you're putting your effort in the wrong place. Do not focus on how to find motivation. Focus and look for ways of how to do things without motivation. Look for ways to continue moving forward, even when you don't be motivated. That is more productive. Literally look at it. Finding a feeling state that you can't guarantee versus finding a way through shit without that feeling. Which one's gonna make you do things? Which one's gonna make you accomplish things? This one. And that's one thing people really need to get is like shift

your focus. Stop trying to find motivation. Start trying to find a way to continue without it. You're going to open up to a whole new set of perspectives. You're going to realize so much new shit and all the true motivation is over here. When you continue forward, even when you don't have motivation, that becomes motivating. When you go to the gym today or you go work on something today, that you're not motivated to do tomorrow when you don't have motivation And you look back you're like I did it yesterday without feeling motivated I now have the confidence I can continue without it that is gonna motivate you that you do have the willpower And that you do have the strength to do it regardless of how you feel that's more motivating than watching some fucking douchebag on tic-toc

Flex or watching some fucking YouTube videobag on tiktok flex or watching some fucking YouTube video where these guys are screaming at you. How ironic, I'm the asshole screaming at you. But you go and I'm saying I'm like the motivation of bullshit, like put on those little clips, sure, those works sometimes. But look for a way to do things without motivation. Shift your focus to that. Don't waste your time on how to find motivation. All the motivations over here, I promise. As soon as you flip that, you're good. Because that's what flipped for me. And that's why I've been able to do so much that I do now. I used to hunt for motivation. Nothing changed until I flipped it. Now I'm unstoppable.

Now I've been doing everything. Now I get to a point of exhaustion. I'm like, all right. I know I'll get everything done, but like, girl, take a nap, lay down. Like I have to like tell myself to stop because I will just continue even if I'm not motivated. Like I've kind of like cracked the code. But that's how you crack it is looking for ways to do things even if you're unmotivated. And it's going to be different for everyone. So that's why I'm saying Explore it for you. That is all I've got for this episode of What Would Leo Do. I'm sweating. I feel like I yelled a lot in this. Leave me a little comment down below

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