The Adam and Dr. Drew Show - The Comparison of TV Dads vs Dads In Reality (The Adam and Dr. Drew Show Classics)

Episode Date: May 25, 2024

The fellas talk about how different TV dads are vs their dads in reality. Also, they have a discussion with Mr. Rogers and they start verbally beating up on him.

Welcome back to the Adam and Dr. Drew Show Classics. I'm your host Big Brother Jake and we got a great one for you once again. I mean every episode is great or else you wouldn't be listening. Anyways, episode 509's first up titled I Got My Nanny that aired on February 2nd of 2017. Adam fits about how his dad is not like TV dads he grew up with and how it made him bitter and how he compared TV nannies to his own. Check it out. Thanks for tuning in. Thanks for telling a friend. Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. What's going on, Drusker?

Let's see. I had the best night's sleep of my life last night. Really? Really. I've been, you know, having this sort of bowel obstruction I get since my surgery. It's that prostate surgery, I get these little, this weird thing. I thought it was diverticulitis, but I actually think it might be intermittent bowel

obstruction. And it just hits and it just wears me out for a few days. And I can't sleep, I have pain at night. It's just a weird, fitful kind of couple days. And then let's go. And then I sleep, last night pain at night, it's just a weird, fitful kind of couple days, and then let's go. And then I sleep, last night was the night I slept like a maniac. Like, you know those nights when you wake up and you think, oh, it's just awesome, it's like glorious, sleep is so good.

I don't remember experiencing that as a kid. That came later in life. Well, it's funny, I was just having a nice conversation with my nanny Olga about this. Your nanny? My nanny. She's now my nanny. Interesting. It's a change. We were staying in my kitchen. Lynette's out eating somewhere. The kids are playing video games.

She's there for you. She's there grinding up my sludge for the next day and working over the coffee pot. And she's my nanny. And what'd she say? Well, I was talking to her. I was she said your dress. She was mr. Adam. Yeah, mr. Sonny's father Yeah, that was a miss Livingston from the courtship of Eddie's father. She's a nice little Japanese lady. I don't know where Livingston came in. I mean I could understand it if it

was a Toshimoto or something. Somebody's got to explain that she was married to Mr. Livingston or something. Mrs. Livingston Was Japanese. Was Japanese, very Japanese. She was the... I think if you looked on Google, why was Mrs. Livingston called Mrs. Livingston, there would be an explanation. go ahead she was uh bit uh Bill Bixby's nanny slash you know sort of Butler because he's a little boy...

Alright. We're pathetic. We're pathetic. We're commercial. All those shows made me violently angry at my dad. I don't know, look at him. They're playing with a kite on the beach. My dad would never do that.

Everyone thinks all these things are great depictions. They really just sent me into a depression spiral because I would sit around... I like to watch Samford and Son, because there's a poor old black guy sitting on the beat up sofa and his rack of a house, and I'd go, that looks like us. I can't relate to that. When the Brady's, somehow, it always hit home with me when the Brady's would have a meeting.

I don't know why, but. Well, we finally found the couch they had the meetings on. Yeah. Yeah trundle Yeah, Mike would or something like yeah trundle bed. Mike Brady would call no. No, let's see gray Great Peter. Yeah, Mike Mike Brady would call a Brady meeting We're having a Brady meeting. He would say Philly cheesesteak trying to come in. He just bust in. Oh he uses his nose as a weapon.

He's like a tank. He's like the battling ram they use at the LAPD head, batting ram. Oh my god, Darrell Gates incarnate. Now the thing about Phil is Phil uses his paws like he stands outside. You put him outside and he picks his paw up and he bang bang bangs he doesn't do a kind of nudge or a nuzzle or thing or bark or howl or any just lifts as big as a big paw he has muscles in his forearms and shoulder stuff and he just bangs his paw against like a sliding door that

vibrates and you have no choice. You have to get up and you have to go let him in or he'll come around and bang. What do you want, Philly? And if you come around and you go to the next room, he'll walk outside the porch, come around, look through you, look through the glass at you and then bang on his thing. Okay. Now, hold on a second. The Brady, I don't know why the Brady meetings made me as depressed as I was, but for some reason, them going camping and, you know,

Marcia, Marcia, Marcia, or Alice making dinner and calling everyone to the table or something, well that all seemed very fantastical to me. Like too much. I couldn't imagine it. I kind of got that, all right, families can go camping or something like that. But the Brady meeting, for some reason, it is probably about four episodes where Mike would call a Brady meeting. And first off, it'd be him standing there. There's a whole bunch of things that were fantastic about it. First, the whole family would just show up in the one room Yeah, Carol would like put down her knitting like she'd be knitting something She put that aside Mike would still be dressed from work, but he had his jacket off

Right, they still had to tie on of course, you know sleeves cuffed up, you know And you know then Alice would come in and go like a coffee. Mr. Brayden and she'd like pour the coffee. Thank you, Alice Thank you. Thanks. She'd kind of back out of, and then they'd do this thing that these problems were like Marcia you're getting a B plus in history, and that's not acceptable and I was like my sister ran away I don't we don't know where she is We're living in a radon spewing shit box and Know what's going on here?

Somebody got a B and algebra We need to talk about everybody about this and then they'd sit around and like Bobby. I'm very disappointed in you Your bike was left out in the driveway Now I'm gonna have to ground you and I was was like, whoa, they left his bike. They have a driveway. This is awesome. And it all sounded insane to me because I could never picture having a conversation with my dad that resembled anything that involved this Brady meeting. And then of course, everyone just agreeing to get along and, you know, whatever that was going on and that was it I don't know why word miss Livingston. Where did she get the name?

Mrs. Livingston do we know it appears that it was to suggest that she had been a war bride But that's what I was thinking like she married some guy. Yeah, she was born and raised in Japan Yeah, yeah. Yes, mr. Eddie's father God, I wouldn't go over well today. I don't think warbribe think about that Hey man simpler times Yeah, and Now they couldn't have people get divorced back then people had to die. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, so Brady's wife He was he must have been a widower hold on

what do you want Phil little sitting and looking he must have been yep yeah you couldn't his wife Helen died of course everyone had to die back then so the Brady's were a Carol Brady, you're 29. Yeah, you have three kids, right. Husband died, okay. And then you, Mr. Brady, you got three kids, you're 33. What happened to your wife? As she died, she was 31 and a half, so it wasn't unexpected.

What a chance everyone dies. And also, family affair, both parents died. Oh yeah. That's right. Buffy and Jodie's parents died. You want to talk about trauma. I'm having this very strange experience with all the theme songs start playing in my head. And you want to talk about insane drama

You are twins You're five years old Buffy and Jodie, they're like five four or five. They're twins Both their parents dying like a car crash. Yeah, and they get dropped off at the most surely alcoholic uncle Bill this guy. What was the actor's name again? Brian Keith.

Brian Keith. He was also in the Parrot Trap. The original Parrot Trap. You know what happened to Brian Keith? Died of alcoholism? Killed himself. Oh, well. He's one of these guys who killed himself at like 73.

You don't hear, I mean, you want to talk about it? I just hear alcohol and age and stuff. You know what his, Mr. French, isn't? Sebastian Cabot. That's right. You get dropped off at two of the most surly, uptight dudes. And it's not really clear what their situation was. You know what I mean?

Little gay. They both had a little bit of something, something. They clearly weren't together. The thing that was interesting is Mr. French, who was not French, Sebastian Cabot, he was British. Sort of British. He was... This is the shittiest stuff.

Well, he was the guy's butler. But the thing that's weird is the guy lived alone.. Well, he was the guy's butler. Yes. But the thing that's weird is the guy lived alone. Why did he need a butler? He lived alone in Manhattan. In a tiny apartment. That tiny. It was a confirmed bachelor.

Yeah. And he lived in this apartment in Manhattan and he had like a doorman and stuff like that. Something had to say super wealthy even though it's a small space. He was like a successful architect or something. And I don't know why he needed a full-time living dude. But like he'd come in like, French, give me some coffee. Had a long night. I said, oh, baby, right here, mister.

So that was a weird concede. Well, you have a nanny. I got kids. You got a nanny. And a wife. She's got to take care of everybody. And you got your nanny. Yeah, I got my nanny Yeah, I need mr. French

Welcome back to the Adam and dr. Drew show classics up next is episode 749 titled I never lie that episode aired on January 19th, 2018. Adam and Dr. Drew talk about people that boast how great they are, always fall short, and man do they. Listen up. So, you and I were talking the other day about how people make declarations about their identity that are often a couple minutes away from who they actually are. What did you say?

Yeah, it's something that drew and I've been talking about on the air and off the air and I've been very interested in People that for instance, I've had a lot of people just announced that they are honest like one thing You like how dare you call me a liar like I never lie like I will not lie and then they they lie all the time well that's the first you know does some lying strangely but I don't know that they know that they're lying and then I've also realized that people look everybody let's be fair here

everybody has a version of themselves that's in their head that feels a certain way that may not Comport I think that's the way that word compor. out. Yeah comport with exactly what other people are saying I'm like here's a hold on you declare who you are. Do you ever do that? I don't think I've ever done that. I'm the guy who's always I'm the guy who's never I don't think I I Gotta tell you there are two people that have been in this company Over the over the years the only two people that have ever announced that they were the best they both got canned and they never got

replaced with anybody I don't even think they got replaced there so that good they couldn't be replaced I've literally had people like sit down and go you know nobody can do what I do and I'm thinking myself, I have no idea what you do. And I assume either nobody will do it, or I'll get Kalen to do it. Like, that's, now, so obviously, whatever they think is going, whatever's going on in their head

is not what's going on in my head. And guess who's right more than they are. Now, part of being the boss it's your job to be right you'll tell you what you can't do have people go I'm the best you know no one can do what I do you think oh please I'll get a $11 an hour kid to do what you do have that person leave and have the whole tent come down. As a boss... That's that you cannot even get I mean right now that's your ultimate failure. I have... Or not be prepared to do it yourself. Which is part of being the boss too. But let's let's let's stick to the

subject of your reality what's in your head versus what's in your head, versus what's in the other person's head. So self-concept versus, well it's me versus I, as William James used to say, it's my sense of me versus I. I have probably 25 people that work for me. And I could go tell all of you, we could make three hats. We could make the man this guy can't go anywhere hat. We could make the this guy could go this guy could not show up tomorrow and I wouldn't care. And then we got the I wouldn't like

this personally, but I think we could figure it out. We could get somebody else and I put on all of them. And so with Jimmy Kimmel. Oh, and he has 150 people and they'd never be wrong About any of them. There's a so whoever it is You got to know the boss the boss knows the boss needs to know now. Hold on. Hold the phone. Okay, slow your roll Would you want somebody to ask you which hat they wear? No, no, I would want you to show me which hat you wear. No, what I'm saying is we did a show called Love Line on MTV. I had been in show business for not even ten minutes when we started that show. I went and did the show for I think two seasons maybe we did

180 episodes or 60 episodes or whatever the hell we did in all the whole run No in the first first two seasons. Yes, and then when we were done with the first two seasons, I said I need a raise Yeah, I need you to double my money from nothing to like almost nothing, but I need a raise now. I had to know What was in their head. I knew what was in my head. What was in my head is no one else can do this job. But what's in their head? You, but to be fair for you on that's your self-assessment in terms of that kind of self-assessment is unusually accurate. Like I don't have the confidence even to think that kind of self-assessment is unusually accurate. Like I don't have the confidence even to think that kind of thing. You know what I mean? You don't say

I'm confident, I'm not confident, you just say this is the fact. For me, my psychology gets the way of it. Well that's something to work on because for me, what I have, I have the luxury of nothing in my head it's an empty vessel I have no preconceived thoughts about me all it's not even me we're talking I noticed I noticed how your head works my way I have no thoughts about it there's I will stand by objectively and we will figure out who can do this job better than I and maybe Jerry Seinfeld can do this job better than I. Can you guys afford him? I don't think so. Not for 900 bucks an episode or whatever they're paying us, right? So I've worked in

a couple of assessments and I'm coming back with I need you to double my pay. It's still, it's a certain clarity you're able to achieve that it's hard. It sounds easy to you. I can't do it. Well, it can be done, but you have to constantly be assessing and what you can't do is go, I'm this person. Well, it's the Dunning-Kruger effect.

Remember, I've talked about this a million times Dunning-kruger is also the imposter effect the flip side of dunning-kruger is I feel like an imposter I don't really know anything sort of low self-confidence as opposed to dunning-kruger Which is the guy that gets up at American Idol says I'm a great singer and sounds like shit That's also dunning-kruger, and I think this this assessment, these declarations about identity, I'm the honest guy, is still that Dunning-Kruger phenomenon. Because they don't see the me. They feel the I, but they don't see the me.

Does that make sense? Yeah. So what you need to do is always kind of be in a sort of buoyant position, always kind of assess yourself. It's hard. Stop saying that. Stop saying it's hard every time I ask anyone to do anything. First thing I would like you to do.

Stop saying that. It's hard. I'd like you to assess yourself and then every time you say it's hard. I know because you're letting people off the hook. It's a job, but it's an important job. It's a very important job It's your your number one job is to know where you are With other people and then when you know where you are, you'll know what to ask or what not to ask I've had people come in and ask me things or I just went that's insane why would you think I would ever do that and no and see you and I don't know what they

thought was gonna happen because they weren't calibrated correctly you know what I mean I I did I wrote for the Oscars last year and I wrote for free and this year Jimmy asked me to come back and this year I'm gonna get paid. And it's based on performance from last year. I didn't come in this year, I didn't come in year one in demand to get paid. I said let me do this for free

and then let me impress you with what I can contribute to this big machine here. And next year I'll then let you decide right whether you think I should get paid or not you know a lot of that along the way that's all I've done and that's all anyone needs to do I didn't say pay me the first time I didn't say don't pay me the second time I didn't say pay me more the second time. I just said you just you know you figure it out. The same is true of even podcasting. You started podcasting

see if you could find an audience and then you went to see if you could sell it. You didn't find sponsors first. It doesn't make sense to me. I am well calibrated in terms of I'm no good if it's an anniversary or a birthday party. No good for that. But I am well calibrated when I go, I think what I'm offering is fair. I don't think I'm being greedy. I don't think I'm being dismissive or whatever. I think my notion of how this apple should be whacked up and who should get the most pieces and how we're going to do this, because I'm very well calibrated, I think everything is very reasonable and very

fair. And furthermore, state your case. Let me hear all that you have to say and we'll see because of my buoyancy, I may move your direction or another direction depending on what, how calibrated you are. But then once we arrive on it, that'll be it. We'll be right back with more of the Adam and Dr. Drew show classics. Last up today we go to episode 1028 titled, Let's Beat Up on Mr. Rogers. Man, what did he do? The fellows go in on Mr. Rogers and how he wasn't as great as people made him out to be.

It's a beautiful day to crack on a legend. Check it out. I, as a kid, wanted nothing to do. I wanted to watch Sesame Street and the Electric Company about as much as I wanted to trade baseball cards or look at comic books. It had nothing for me. Yeah, there was nothing in any of that stuff for me either, which I actually always felt guilty about because I felt like I would have been more creative or something if I were

somehow invested in that stuff, but I was not. But when Sesame Street hit, I was 10, 11, and it was way sort of more youthful kind of programming programming and I would argue it was like for two and three-year-olds Really like barely speaking. I always feel sort of half Whatever about like mr. Rogers. I feel the same documentary about him. Yeah, I did I feel the same way about Mr. Rogers is I feel about Heuel Hauser. On one hand, super nice guy who's just wasting everyone's time and money.

Well-meaning. Well-meaning, super authentic, sincere guy. Authentic but with a little bit of a gloss. I don't know what that is. Didn't really want to have to compete in the real world. Also not the guy you're going to go have a beer with? No way. No way.

No, no. I know we have to just go, hey, this guy's a hero, man. He loved to talk to kids. But he didn't possess a lot of... I don't know. If somebody says... I know. If somebody met him, I'm sure that somebody went, that guy's got it. No, but when people describe, his greatest talent was for listening. Oh like how about Ben Verene? his grace talent is tapping his ass off like

Playing the trumpet while he's tap dancing. How about a little more of that a little less listening Yeah, yeah, I know who's listening right Me. And my Nana. She's been dead for nine years. Like, I get it. And other people are like, five year olds aren't really ever listen to it. It's like, yeah, actually not saying much. Right. But he listened. Right. And I also feel with Mr. Rogers, speed up on Mr. Rogers. That's a winning proposition. Well, everything was so insanely cathartic for him. Like he had this childhood where he was like a fat kid and people didn't listen to him. And now he's just gonna build this entire life around like listening to kids.

It's fine. Here's what I'm saying. Whenever I look at performers, I kind of look at certain guys or girls and I go, I could never do that. And then you look at other people like Yoko Ono and Mr.. Rogers and go I don't want to do that Like I feel like I could put the sweater on and fake it if I in a pinch, but I don't really I don't want to that

Look, I was bothered in that document by the way that that he was they were sort of offended by Eddie Murphy's comedic version. They should have embraced it all the way. I think they said he liked it. I still got the feeling he was like, oh no, they got me all wrong. No, this is great. Highest honor. Well, look, any I tip my cap to anyone who can figure out a way to get paid to do something that they want to do for a living that didn't formally exist. Yeah. Like, sure, Hewell Hauser made a living wasting everyone's time. But he still made a living wasting everyone's

time. But you learned about tortilla factories. Not really. You didn't learn anything when you watched. There's not much to know about tortillas. We got to drop a couple of Heuelshauser sort of amazing. I love that. If you can find that, Gary. You can't write you'll house right away

I mean when he went to the Baghdad Cafe that was some of the greatest Comedy I'd ever that I there's two times Like they go we're comedian who makes you laugh Does David tell make you laugh to Jimmy Kimmel make you laugh and I go now He'll house there. He'll house or makes me laugh and and the great Deacon Jones. Oh, yeah Oh, yeah, the two hardest times I've ever laughed watching TV is when Hewell How's there's got the phone got on the phone from the bag that cafe and the timing you got to go to that one park

Yeah, okay that cafe and the timing you got to go to that one park every 10 seconds. Burt Lancaster, what's the story behind Burt Lancaster? Did he eat here? Oh you just like Burt Lancaster. Oh well you hung the picture up. Okay it was like the greatest zero burger. That was like bigger than Al Capone's vault in terms of like nothing murders leave it on the show Didn't cut it here. Well, it's the greatest moment ever I have it here to just when he takes the phone get into Lancaster fairly right that that part and when when Deacon Jones goes Fine when you go upside a man or woman's head they tend to blink their eyes

It's the greatest it's the funniest moment on TV It's better than any Seinfeld episode or woman. He's talking about NFL players exclusively There are no women in the NFL. There'd be zero reason to include women One more time. It makes me laugh every time. Atkins' flood of breaking arms was the reality of the Deacon Jones head slap. The head slap was to do two purposes. One was to give myself an initial head start on the fast rush. In other words, an extra step. Because any time you go upside a man's head,

old woman, then they have a tendency to blink the eyes, that's all I need. That's the greatest moment in TV. He's specifically asking about rushing the quarterback, not getting out of the entry hall. He's talking about rushing the quarterback. There's a context here. He sets the table by saying rushing the quarterback. He's not saying as human beings we're all wired very delicately.

No, he's saying here's how I rush the quarterback. He's imagining hitting people inside the head. I love that he included women. And I love that the NFL network never caught it. I swear to God, I yelled about, I laughed about it on the air doing the morning show like in 2008 or whatever, and it magically left the NFL Network. Like somebody finally, what,

hey, do we have edit pays here? Like, yeah. Aren't we just putting this up against game footage? Yeah, well, why don't we just cut out a little early on Deacon talking about women. All right, that's all for this week. Thanks for listening to the Adam and Dr. Drew Show Classics. I've been your host, Big Brother Jake. Certainly on Deacon talking about women.