WHOA That's Good Podcast - Our Best Advice: Shutting Down Gossip & the Loneliness of Being a New Mom | Sadie & Christian

Episode Date: January 31, 2024

Sadie and Christian are answering your DMs about the TRUE definition of what is lazy, the loneliness of being a new mom, combatting anxiety with truth, and why walking away from gossip is always the best decision. Sadie shares how anxious she's been feeling with a full calendar and busy schedule, but she has a new strategy she's using to start her day with God's truth. Christian has practical tips for walking away from gossip without bringing shame to any participants. And why it's important to KNOW the promises of God before saying you're disappointed in Him.  http://www.a2platinum.com/whoa — Get 25% off your first purchase when you order online! https://drinkag1.com/whoa — Get a FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D3+K2 AND 5 free AG1 Travel Packs with your first purchase! http://www.dreamlandbabyco.com — Get 20% off sitewide and free shipping when you enter my code WHOA at checkout! - Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm doing the intro. I'm doing the intro. I was gonna try. What's up fam? Welcome back to the Well That's Good podcast. Happy Wednesday everybody. Today is one of everyone's favorite days. We're gonna answer DMs. I thought you were gonna say it was because I was on. Oh, well, yeah, and because Christian's on, which. Thank you, I appreciate it. No one is more confident about Christian's appearances on this podcast than Christian himself. Hey, I see the ratings.

Okay. And you can see the analytic sheet, you get a little giddy. So when I'm with him, I'm just kidding. He is humble, he's a humble giant, and he's just walking in that confidence, you know? But anyways, we do love doing this and it's so fun to answer y'all's questions. It is one of the most listened to bycast series that we have and that is because there are questions that y'all ask and they're really good questions.

And we really do try to be intentional about these questions that y'all ask. It means a lot that you would even reach out and trust us with the questions that are a little bit bigger that you're leaning in for advice. And so I'm going to tell you the questions that we have chosen for today. Some of the DMs we're going to answer. And just so you all can know kind of the direction we're going because it's kind of all over the place. But I thought these were really good. Also, this is just a friendly reminder. We really love getting all'all's DMs, y'all asking questions,

telling us who you wanna have on the podcast, what you would like to see us talk about, questions that you have in your spiritual life, personal life, whatever it is. We love that and we really do see it, we listen to it and we take note of it whenever we're planning the podcast. So thank y'all for that.

So a couple questions we're gonna be going over today is number one, what is the difference between a spiritual high and spiritual encounter is one more important than the other? Another question is how do you avoid gossip and kindly remove yourself from these kind of conversations? How do you learn to be more disciplined and how do you keep laziness out of your life?

How do you find peace in a world full of demands, deadlines, and expectations, while also feeling stress and anxiety? I reach grips and talk about it, but I still find myself struggling. How have you seen God remain true to his promises time and time again? And how do you combat the loneliness

that comes with being a new mom? So we're gonna dive into each of these questions, and yeah, again, a lot of different directions, but I feel like these are just incredible questions that we've maybe struggled with some of these, maybe found some truth in some of these, learned a lot from different mentors and friends, and we're going to give you all the advice that we have to give. So Christian, let's tackle the first one first.

What is the difference between a spiritual high and a spiritual encounter is one more important than the other. And I will say this question was actually on Spotify. Someone, because you can comment questions on Spotify when you're listening to the podcast. And I wonder if this person is asking that question because sometimes I'll say that. I'll say, oh, it wasn't just a spiritual high, it was a spiritual encounter. And I'll go first from what I mean by that, and then I would love to hear what you have to say,

because I feel like you've really lived that in high school. But I would say spiritual highs are those classic things that you talk about after like youth conferences or events where you go to a camp or you go to a conference and it's like, ooh, I'm on fire for God, but you know it's just a high, you know it's going to dwindle, you know it's not, ooh, I'm on fire for God, but you know, it's just a high. You know, it's going to dwindle. You know, it's not really going to last.

But you were really excited about it at the time. It's kind of like a fire that flames really bright, but it's really easy to put out. And I would say a spiritual encounter is different than that. It's not about the hype. It's not really a high. It's a true encounter with God that really changes everything. It's you no longer can be the same.

It makes me think of when Moses was in the wilderness on the mountain and a fire was burning, but a bush was on fire, but it wasn't burning and the Lord encountered Moses. He called him by name. And after that encounter with the Lord, Moses was never the same. That wasn't just a spiritual high that encouraged Moses.

It wasn't just a moment that it was like, that was awesome or it was high. It changed everything about Moses' life and he was about to step into something with God or I guess step into doing life totally with God. And so I think when you have a spiritual high, it can be fleeting, but when you have a spiritual encounter, it changes everything about who you are

and you walk away from that with God. And you don't look back on that. So if you're gonna say, is one more important than the other, I think the answer is obvious. If you look at it like that, that an encounter is so important. And a high is it's good to fan the flame of your spiritual life, but if it didn't really change you and it's not sustainable, it doesn't or it doesn't sustain

you, then maybe you just had a high and you didn't really have an encounter. Yeah, that's good. I would kind of break it down. You know, I think a spiritual high is more of a feeling and a spiritual encounter is more like a marking, but both require something after it. A spiritual high, like you said, it's fanning the flame and a spiritual encounter, you're still doing things after you have that encounter. And I think that, like you said, with youth camps and with conferences and with events and different things, I think, I think you can, I think you do get spiritual highs and I think, you know, they dwindle in a way that I think you can always look back and tell the difference between at least in my life, a spiritual high versus a spiritual

encounter. And every time a spiritual high, it didn't last long. It's, you know, we always talk about Mark four, Ben Stuart preach on that passion, like the soils. And there, I can look back in my life to where I can say, oh, that was a spiritual high. And I can look back and I can see where this was a spiritual encounter. And I can see because there was a difference after it.

There was fruit that was bore. There was conviction that happened. And yeah, there was a, it was a difference after it. There was fruit that was born, there was conviction that happened, and yeah, there was a true marking versus just a feeling that I had had. So whoever asked that question, or if you've heard that language throughout church or whatever, I would just argue that a spiritual high is, it's a feeling and it could be,

it can be a great thing. It could be good,. It can be great. Spiritual highs are not a bad thing, but they're bad when there's nothing sustainable underneath them. I would say for me, at camps and conferences, I've also had encounters at those things, so those things are not bad. They're great. The high that you get from it is great.

Passion each year, I've had encounters at passion, but I also have spiritual highs from passion conference, where I leave a conference with 60,000 people worshiping God, and I'm encouraged and I'm strengthened, and that's a high. Like there's a, like, you know, that's a highlight of the year. That's not what the whole year's gonna look like. And so I think like it's a good thing, but if I'm dependent on those high moments

to sustain my Christianity, then I have not had an encounter with God that's really changed me. Yeah, that's good. Well, I think in the moment, you can't really distinguish between what it is, but I think when you look back at your life, the fruit, you can tell. So if you're at a camp or a conference or whatever and you leave, it could be special hire, it could truly be an encounter and I think it's hard to distinguish the two in the moment. I think it's six months later or months later or a year later, you can look back and say, okay, no, that wasn't just a high, that was a true encounter because it radically changed everything by the

way that I was living. So it's one more important than the other. I would say a speech on the counter. Just because typically when you encounter something, there's a, it's a different shift than versus just a high that you get from an event like that. Yep. It's maybe would be like in a good analogy way to put it. It's like, there's a difference in going to a Taylor Swift conference or a concert. So say I in going to a Taylor Swift concert.

So say I'm going to a Taylor Swift concert and I experience a concert that is a high. I'm like, whoo, I was at a Taylor Swift concert, it was awesome, it was so fun. And then over time, like, you know, I get further away from the concert and I love listening to the music and it's good, but like the highs dwindled, you know, I'm on to my life. Versus I went to a Taylor Swift concert, I met Taylor Swift. We became friends, we encountered each other, we got each other's number. And now from this point on, T-Swift is my friend. I can call her out, we can talk, we can have. So that's kind of a good way to look at a difference in like a high from an experience and a relationship form from an encounter. And so I just thought about that. That's maybe

like a way that you can look at your life. Yeah, good little nugget. Yeah, good little nugget. Okay. How do you avoid gossip and kindly remove yourself from those conversations? I love this question mainly because when you're looking to avoid it, because I think when you have to realize that gossip is a sin and it is a problem. And I think because gossip is something that is so common and so casually done, sometimes we don't think about the weightiness of it and the effects that it really has but gossip can be detrimental you know and so one I love that you even are seeking to change. Two, I love that you said kindly remove yourself from it because I do think that there is a way to remove yourself kindly and it doesn't have to be like this big, it doesn't need to shame anyone else,

you know, in the room when you remove yourself from a conversation like that. I think that you're really good at this. I have seen you walk away from conversations of gossip or shut them down and I think that that takes a lot of confidence to do. And then also, I think, but I think one way of like just avoiding it is just being sensitive to it and like allowing your sensitivity and your conviction of it, like give you the confidence to actually speak up.

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let's try not to do it. You're under the bus. I said someone, but I knew you were going to laugh when I said it. You accidentally said, he didn't mean to, but he accidentally said like this, like a person with stupid. He's like, well, you're just stupid if you think that. And then I, like, a person with stupid, he's like, well, you're just stupid if you think that. And then I was like, I just, I know, it was a generic, and then I was just like, hey, like, let's not say that they're stupid because we don't understand where they're coming from. And then Christian was like, oh yeah, I didn't actually mean to like call the person stupid. I meant to say like, that's a, that's not, like they're thinking about it in a wrong

way. It was a dumb way to think about a scenario. And I think that's like a good example of just being sensitive to people that aren't in the room and being sensitive that we're not gossiping. And because we're talking to our friends, I didn't want them to think because I knew Christian's heart that he was calling this person stupid. When I knew he really just meant that what that person did was a stupid way of going about it. So you might be listening to this and you're like, that's so small. I call people stupid all this higher or whatever it is

and that's not necessarily bad or a sin or whatever. You might be like thinking this is way too strict. But I think just like your sensitivity towards the way you speak about people that, you know, your tongue holds a lot of power. It holds the power of life and death and the way we speak about people that, you know, your tongue holds a lot of power. It holds the power of life and death. And the way we speak about people, it matters. And because I know Christian's heart and I knew the person he was talking about, and we actually do love that person, I didn't want him to accidentally paint that person in a light that we didn't even think about. And so anyways, as I just say, like, a lot of it is sensitivity and a lot of it is just like

Calling yourself out calling each other out. I have to call myself out Sometimes I'll say stuff and I'll be like that was actually just like a dumb thing to say That's not even true or whatever I said something to my sister the other day about a situation They was just assuming and then I said actually like I'm totally assuming and that's not even true So just throw that out And so I think being able to correct yourself and having the humility to say when you're wrong,

to admit when you were gossiping, to admit whenever you said something that actually wasn't right, because we do that all the time. We actually say something in and then we're like, that wasn't even true. But a lot of times we don't take that next step to be like, hey, actually I take that back,

forget that, that was dumb or whatever. Yeah. Whenever I think of just removing yourself, I think about that meme where the dude's holding up like the P sign and he slowly just like fizzles out of the frame. But yeah, I think I love what you said about, you know, the sensitivities because I think for a lot of people, well, yes, gossip is a sin. But I do think that you have to, for you, distinguish the difference between gossip and slander.

I think those are two different ways you go about it. I think if it's just gossip, I think you can kindly remove yourself multiple different ways. And this might even be good advice, but I mean, faking a phone call and leaving the conversation or just slowly start taking steps back and then go to another. There's peace side and physical.

There's things like that. How do you avoid slander and kindly move your stuff? I think that's maybe when you could speak up. What is the difference between gossip and slander and kindly move your stuff. I think, you know, that's maybe when you could speak up. What is the difference between gossip and slander? Well, gossip could just be like, you know, talking about a person, but not in like a, not in like a, like a harmful way of like, you know, I think, I mean, I don't really know. I think we should look at the definition.

Okay, let's look at the definition. Let's pull it out. Let's pull it out because we want to give people the best piece of advice. And I will say too, like removing yourself is your phone dead. No, it was just the brightness is way down. Removing yourself from a situation, I think on one hand, yes, you can just walk away, you can fake a phone call.

But if it's your friends in the room and it's genuine people who love you and you have a relationship with, I would actually encourage you not to just remove yourself, but actually into it and say like, hey, actually I don't think we should be talking about this because either one it's not true or because I don't think it's really fair to speak about them in that way behind their back or hey, I just feel convicted about this because I don't think that this is a great conversation and uplifting anyone. And I know I've contributed to it as well. And so I'm the first one to say I'm sorry for starting the conversation or being, you know, stoking it or whatever it is.

And so I think like, yes, you can remove yourself, but there is also something too, if you have a relationship with the people, hold the whole room accountable and you don't have to be weird about it. You don't have to be shameful. You can just be like, y'all, I'm just going to be honest. We are totally talking smack.

Yeah. That's true. Okay. So the definition of gossip, noun, casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details that are not confirmed, not it. Details that are not, not confirmed as being true. Slander, making false or damaging statements about someone. So I mean, both bad, I was just meaning like,

if someone is saying something that you know is not true and they're trying to get somebody to turn their back on somebody or like actually to paint somebody. So just to create drama. Just to create drama, then I think, you know, you can stand up and say, hey, like, That's not true. That's essentially not true.

So like, let's get the truth right first, you know? I mean, I mean, all that to say, how do you avoid gossip and kind of remove yourself? I think, yes, standing up to it. And I think, you know, disengaging yourself from the conversation, but also having the sensitivity to address it and just to say, hey, not in the standpoint of like, hey, do you know that gossiping is a sin

and we shouldn't do it? No, that's what I'm saying, don't be weird, don't be rude. Just say, hey, we shouldn't talk about cating like that. Or like, let's not. We don't know her heart. We don't know her heart behind that, let's not assume things.

So I think that's the way. But and I love whenever Julie Chin Moonves was on this podcast and she was like, I didn't even know gossip was a sin till I was in my forties and my whole life was revolved around gossip. And so if you're sitting here and you're like, I didn't even know it was a sin. I talk smack about people all the time. I always say things about people that probably aren't true or assume things. And that's just like a natural part of your conversation or that's the way that your friends talk. I would say

one, like, hey, you don't know what you don't know, but two, now that you do know, you're responsible for what you know and you have to take accountability to yourself. And it's just, you know, start making small changes. Stop telling what people are. Start removing yourself. Start standing up in rooms that people are being spoke about behind their back and people are assuming things. And we are so drawn to drama just as humans. We want to talk about it just because it's fun to talk about it, just because, but I think gossip is such a cheap way to speak.

There's so many more fruitful conversations. You're talking about things you don't even know, you're assuming things, it's a what if. Like you can talk about so many other things that have impact or that are fun or that are funny that don't bring someone else down. So anyways, it's got to be- And if gossip is your main form of humor, get a new form of humor.

Or entertainment, get a new form of entertainment because it's just not even cool. And so yes, gossip is a sin, slander is a sin, remove yourself, but don't just remove yourself, speak up into it and start to change, but don't be weird about it, be kind about it, all that's said. Okay.

How do you learn to be more disciplined and how to keep laziness out of your life? So I'm gonna ask Christian this question because I cannot, I'm not as good about this. I love a good nap, that doesn't mean I'm lazy. Some of the smartest people in the world take naps, right? But there are times where I'm like, okay, I need to get up on butt and I need to, you know,

actually go work out or do something. And I mean, I say that and I am extremely busy. So I'm not ignoring the fact that I am busy and I'm not lazy. But there have been times in my life where I think it's hard to be disciplined, especially when it comes to like physical things because I'm like, oh, I'm so busy, I'd rather just lay here for an hour and do nothing and just like whatever. But I feel like you're really good at continuing to be disciplined even when you're tired.

So how do you get to that level? That is good. Well, I think, you know, when it comes to discipline and laziness, I think that, you know, I think throughout this podcast, we already talked about how everyone has different, you know, different frames of certain things, right? So like what I would view as disciplined to me

would not be necessarily maybe disciplined to you. And like what I would say is lazy, maybe would not be necessarily maybe disciplined to you and like what I would say is Lazy, maybe you would not describe it as lazy, right? Like sometimes I think taking nap can be lazy, but you're like, no, I think it's lazy like I think it's Rejuvenating it's rejuvenating or whatever or like, you know to me discipline might be waking up Whatever time and then getting a workout in but discipline is somebody else might be know to be disciplined You got to wake up at 5am and have a quiet, like so there's, yeah, so I think you got to like figure out what you describe as being

disciplined and what you describe as being lazy. What you commit to. Like what you commit to. So I'm saying if you're disciplined to do X, Y, and Z and then you don't do it, then you kind of can say, okay, well I was being lazy here and here, but if you don't have, you know, kind of can say, okay, well, I was being lazy here and here. But if you don't have, you know, it's almost like what Craig Grishel said about, you know, almost like setting a thing. What's the thing that you've been talking about?

Predeciding? Yeah, like pre-deciding. Like, so if you pre-decide to be disciplined in this area, then you're not. And you're not, then you can say, Then you're lazy. Then you're lazy. Yeah.

Right, but if you don't pre-decide to be disciplined in these areas, then it's kind of hard to say, well, for instance, we have not been waking up early just because we have not been sleeping just because of having two kids. It's been difficult to get sleep. So I could say, if I want to wake up at 6 AM this whole week because I want to read the Bible or worship or go work out or whatever, and if I set that discipline but I don't do it, then I can say, okay, well, then for me, I would say I was being lazy in this area. But if I didn't set that principle, then I couldn't say, well, I was being lazy because

I didn't have, I didn't almost like pre-decide it. So I think for you, you have to just decide what you want to be disciplined in. It can be starting a Bible reading plan. It can be listening to worship music. It can be, you know, not doing whatever. So it's almost like I'm kind of rambling. No, what you said you can even stop there because what you said was really good and actually really good piece of advice to you, Saron, right? But for you, I do encourage you like set things that you're going to commit to because some of you might hear that and go like, all right, sweetie, I'm not being lazy because I'm not being disciplined in any area of my life and I don't even want to make commitments because then I might fail. It's like, no, like make commitments, do hard things,

set your mind to something great, be better next year than you are this year, be better tomorrow than you are today. Set goals for sure and yeah, you might mess up some days, yeah, you might oversleep, but that's okay, don't shame yourself, get back up the next day, but like do something and be disciplined in some area. And for me right now, it does look like trying to get up before the kids get up to read and to have a quiet time and I'm not perfect at it.

And some mornings I am lazy, but when I do, I'm like, man, I am so glad I did this and stuck to what I set out to do because it's so fruitful. Like this morning, I was able to have such a good quiet time and like I needed that. It was so great to start my day off. And so yeah, set goals, try to do better, try to be disciplined. And then, yeah, you can gauge your laziness by how committed you are to what you set. Great question. Friends, let's be real. Taking care of your health is not always easy, but it should be at least simple. And that's why for the last several years, as you know, we have been drinking AG1.

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So I think, you know, not to beat a dead horse because we need to get on to the next question, but I think to each teach your own like you said Create look at your life and create certain disciplines that you want to try to work towards and if you feel like you're getting Out of a rhythm of that then I think that's how you could you know Assess that you are being lazy in this area. That's actually why I said to start I was like, you know what I haven't been you know, I get it working out and all these things But I'm like, but I'm not lazy and so I was kind of establishing at the start I was like, you know what? I haven't been as good at working out and all these things, but I'm not lazy. And so I was kind of establishing at the beginning.

I might not be disciplined in that area, but that doesn't mean I'm lazy, but that's not something I really set out to do right now. So that was a good way to put it. Okay, next question. Woo, this one is for real getting me right now, but it says, how do you find peace in a world full of demands, deadlines, and expectations,

while also feeling stress and anxiety? I read scripture and talk about it but I still find myself struggling. Friend, that is tough. I mean, this is something that I think will forever be a wrestle and I think it's something that, not that you can't overcome it for sure, you can overcome it, but I think it's a day-by-day overcoming. It's day-by-day receiving his mercy, day-by-day receiving his truth. I'll tell you what, for me lately what's been good for me. So I have been feeling really anxious lately because I have so much on the calendar, so

much on my plate and I look at it and I'm like, so deadlines, expectations, things that I need to do. And it makes me super stressed and super anxious and I don't want to live that way because the last thing I need to do is show up to each day anxious and the last thing I need to do is show up to the day stressed out because, hey, I got a lot to do and I want to do it well. I want to be the best mom I can be. I want to be the best wife I can be.

I want to be the best leader I can be. And the best of me is not anxious me. So I've got to figure out this anxiety thing. And so one thing that's been helping me is I tell Christian all the time, I'm like, man, I could have been a great lawyer because I will build cases in my mind all the time. And what I do is I almost like build these cases for anxiety. And I'm like, okay, I have this, I have this, I have this, this happened, that happened. This happened four months ago. And I'm like, and I'm like bringing back all the past and all the present, and then present it to Christian.

Here is why I'm so overwhelmed. Here is why I'm so stressed. This, this, this, this is all my reasons to almost affirm why I would be so anxious. And I was actually talking to my counselor the other day, and I didn't tell her that analogy. I didn't tell her that I view myself as such a good lawyer and that I make my case studies for anxiety. Unintentionally, it's just how my brain works.

I didn't tell her any of that. I was just talking to her through just all these stresses and all these anxieties and my calendar and whatnot. And at the end of it, it was so cool because she starts speaking truth over me and she starts bringing up things that I even said in the conversation that were truth filled. And she said, say, we are just building your case right now.

We're building your case for truth. And I just love that because I was like, wow, I build cases in my mind all day for anxiety, but what if instead of building my case for anxiety, I built my case for truth? I mean, that's so powerful because that would dominate my anxiety because my case for truth. I mean, that's so powerful because that would dominate my anxiety because my case for truth ends in a period. My case for anxiety ends in a what if dot, dot, dot. But how cool would it be if instead of like ending it in this dot, dot, dot anxious what if state

and all the things that happen, I end it with like, here's who I am. Here's who I am in Christ, here's what God has done, here's what the word says about me. That is just like statement that is truth that is done. And so I just realized that is such a better way to live. And so this morning actually, real time woke up

and I wrote down my case for truth. I literally read Psalm 91, I read Ephesians 6, I wrote the verse down about how God did not give me a spirit of fear, but when a power of love and a sound mind, I said these are all things that God says are true. That, you know, I will find refuge in him, safety in him, that he has me. I don't have to fear that I have a sound mind. This is the armor of God that I've been given and I wrote it personally, I'm putting this on.

This is the weapon I had to fight with, the word of God and prayer at all times. Like this is true about me. And then I wrote down other truths about me that I am in Christ and that people have spoken over me and all these different things. And I just literally looked at it and I wrote at the top, this is true and read it and started my day

based in truth. And Christian knows me, he's known where I've been in life and I'm so much more free today, so much more joyful today, excited about life. And so that doesn't take away all the things on my calendar. That doesn't take away all the things that stress me out, but it does take away my stress because it's overrided with what's true, it's overrided with who God is. And it's one thing to just, you know, read truth and kind of just read over it.

It's another thing to meditate on it and claim it and speak it over you and identify with it and read it out loud and write it down and really walk in it. And today I needed to do that. And so maybe for you, you have a lot of deadlines, you have a lot of things in your calendar, you have a lot of reasons to be afraid, you have a good case for anxiety, but write yourself a better case for truth. And I promise you, it will be better because God wrote it and you get to identify that. And that's what I'm doing today. It's helped me a lot.

That's so good. Great answer. Thanks, Boob. Well, I have a few things to add. You know, so just the first few things of the question, how do you find peace? You know, the super generic answer, you know, peace is only found in God, right? If you look at Galatians five, peace is for the spirit, love, joy, peace. So there's a thing that you can exemplify by being, you know, in Christ and his peace, which really just means, you know, circumstantially, you know, you have,

there's something greater in you than whatever is in the world. And I think, you know, if you go to to the back half while also feeling stress and anxiety, there are also practical things that I feel like all these questions I just keep thinking like it really is to each your own. Like if you want to find peace and you're feeling stress and anxiety, there are things that you may not do, right? So like you've deleted social media.

Like there's, so, sorry, the train's kind of throwing me off. Well, I love each other. I've deleted social media. I have talked to a counselor. I have talked to two mentors. I have talked to you. I have like, I do not get passive with anxiety. I do not get passive with struggling with that.

I'm like, uh-uh, nope, I have a sound mind. I am not gonna sit here and try to go about my life while I'm being super anxious and overwhelmed by stress. Because like I said, I gotta show up. Like I gotta host this podcast. I gotta be a good wife. I gotta be a good mom. And so like, I'm not just gonna sit here

and let my mind be riddled with anxiety. I gotta speak truth over myself. I gotta get out whatever is making me anxious. I gotta talk to someone because I'm just not gonna do it. And so, I think you gotta get serious about it too. Don't just be like, oh, I have so much anxiety. Like, work through it. Yeah.

So how do you find peace? Scripture, prayer, worship, back half, while also feeling stress, anxiety, cutting out the things that you know, you know, feed that. Like last year, I had to just delete all the news from my phone. I kept getting just these reports and these different things and it was making me super anxious. So I was like, there's a way on the iPhone

that you can just cancel the news app to where you don't get any updates or when you swipe left, there's no, you know, new articles or whatever. So I had to cut that out. It might be a TV show for you, it may be social media. So how do you find peace, scripture, prayer, God, all obviously, all the things that comes with that.

And then while also feeling stress, anxiety, you have to just look at your life and for you, it may be that TV show, it may not be that TV show, it may be the news, it might not be the news, it might be social media, it might not be social media, right? So you have news, it might not be the news. It might be social media, it might not be social media. Right, so you have to just assess for you what you feel like those trigger points are

and cut that out. And I would just say, you will find peace a lot easier if you assess what is making you feel anxious, what is making you feel stressed and cut that out. And I think that you will find peace a lot quicker, obviously in the same spot that you'll find it. Even if you don't, it's gonna be found in God. But I just encourage you to look at your life

and delete when needs to be deleted and just to cut off when needs to be cut off. And not all stress and anxiety is a bad thing too. You have to realize that like some anxiety is good. You should feel a little anxiety so that you protect yourself. I mean, Dr. Amon's been on this podcast a couple of times and he says people die because they don't have anxiety because they don't think this is a bad idea.

I should not do this. And so some anxiety is good, some stress is natural. I mean, if you have a ton on your plate, you're going to feel a little stress. But what that stress and anxiety can do is it can either like overcome you and that's bad and wrong and you can't operate like that, or it can cause you to be dependent on the Lord and lean into him and use wisdom and use the sermon and allow his spirit to speak through you and in you. It can cause you to lean in or just be overcome. So lean into it. You can have peace and still have the awareness that something is scary or the awareness that something is scary or the awareness that something is stressful, but still be in complete peace.

So your question was structured really well and that was a great question. Thanks for asking it. Y'all, we are very aware of the struggle of getting little ones to go to bed. It is very, very hard, but let me tell you what was a game changer for us. Dreamland Baby. Y'all have heard me talk about it because it was such a game changer for us. I talked about the time that Christian and I were watching Shark Tank and we were like,

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You can go first. So, I was going to say one thing, I think this is the most important thing, is to know what God's promises are. That's the most important thing. There is a difference in what God's promises are and what our expectations of God's promises are. I think sometimes we say things like, you know, the promises are God and we then, you know, fill in the gap for what we assume those promises will be, but they're not based in truth. So maybe we think he promises provision because you've heard someone in a church say that,

but God's provision in the way that you might have heard it in a church context is not the kind of provision that when God says, I'm Jehovah Jireh, I am the provider, what that actually looks like in your life. Maybe someone's told you that his promises mean nothing bad's gonna happen. Well, that's not true, because there's a promise in scripture really from Jesus

that in this world, you will face trials. You will face trouble. That's like a promise. But then there's another promise attached to that, but take heart, I've overcome the world. And so make sure that when you're meditating on the promises of God, and you're trusting in the faithfulness of God and who he's promised to be, that you actually understand who he is and what he's promised. What he has

promised and who he is is so much better than anything that you might have mustered up and thought he promised. You know, you might be looking at it from a standpoint of like things all working out, but that's not necessarily true. Things might not work out. Life is crazy. You will have trouble, but in the end, do things work out? Yes, God will work all things together for good. That might not be like your version of good, but it will look like good when it comes to kingdom mindset. You know, so I do think that sometimes we get in trouble and we think God's not being faithful when it's not that God's not being faithful, God's being God, he's being who he is, he's just

not being what you expected him to be. And so you have to make sure that your trust in God is trust in God for who he is. So when you read scripture like Psalm 91 is a great example, I mean these are promises, these are beautiful, these are so good, I cling to them. But I also know that doesn't mean I'm not going to face trouble. That doesn't mean that hard things are not going to happen. And just because hard things happen doesn't mean God's not being God. He can be fully God and fully good even when things are hard and He has promised us that. And so I have seen God time and time again be true to his promises. But sometimes that has been a wrestle, you know, to see. That has been hard things to walk through, but I've seen his faithfulness in

the midst of all the hard. And so, you know, don't be all, God, you're not doing this, this, and this for me when God never said he would, you know. God said he'd be there with you in it. God said, you know, even though I walk through the shadow of the valley of death, I will fear no evil. For your rod and your staff, they comfort me. There's a promise that his rod and his staff will comfort you, but there's also a little place in there that says, even though I walk through the valley

of the shadow of death. So I just love that, because it's like, that doesn't mean you're not gonna walk through valleys of the shadow of death. That doesn't mean you're not going to walk through valleys of the shadow of death. That doesn't mean you're not going to walk through hard times. The promise is not that you won't endure hard things. The promise is that he will be with you in them and comfort you and walk with you. And so you don't have to be afraid, not because you won't walk through the shadow.

You don't have to be afraid because he is with you. So just make sure your promises and your expectations are really on what he's promised. That's so good. Either you read what I wrote or you're a mind reader because you stole a lot of the things that I was gonna say. Well I preached a message on this. You did, which is really sweet because we are one flesh.

What you've listening to this just means if you marry then you become one person. Well thank you for explaining that. That was not a question. Thank you for not asking that question. I know you stole, not stole. You said a lot of the things that I was going to say. But we've also been talking about this this week,

and it says, no weapon formed against you shall prosper. And I've been thinking about that because it's almost like you will face many trials, right? It does not say you may face trials, and it says no weapon formed against you. So it doesn't say not a weapon will be formed against you. Like there may be a weapon formed against you, but it says they won't prosper. Right? So it's the prosper part, not the weapon part. And a lot of us want the weapon part to not be true. But I think you nailed it because we do,

almost like what we said earlier, write out what you feel can be trigger points for you for stress things out. Like go through scripture and write out what God's promises are, and either do that, and then maybe have a little dash on the page and then write what you feel like your expectations of God were, and see what contradicts

and maybe what aligns. But knowing God's promises is what can help you from being disappointed, right? So how have you seen God true to his promises or made true to his promises? It's by knowing What his promises are because I could say God hasn't been true if I don't know them But they're they're my expectations and he hasn't been meeting them But I think just looking through those things in scripture, you know like you talked about even though I walk through the valley You will face many trials.

No, no weapon formed against you shall prosper. It's knowing what the promises are and how they differ from what your expectation is. Because we all have expectations of what we feel like God is, what he should do, what he shouldn't do. And it's oftentimes when he doesn't meet that, that's when we can get disappointed, get discouraged. And it's really something that we've constructed in our mind and not actually what the Bible says is true. Yeah, Hebrews 11 is like the hall of faith. And it's all these people who did super incredible things

in the Bible. But there's a verse in there that used to bother me. And it said, and all of these people didn't receive all that God had promised. And you're like, hold on, what? I mean, these people, these are the heroes of faith and they didn't receive all that God had promised and you're like, hold on, what? I mean, these people, these are the heroes of faith and they didn't receive all that God had promised. But then it says, for there is something better in mind and it goes on to talk

about heaven. And I love that because it's like all, like all of the promises are not here. There's the promise of eternal life and the hope of heaven and working all things together for good. It might not be on this side of earth. Like it might be in heaven that all of those things are finally complete and finally good when we're in His presence again. And so just knowing that just because you didn't see it now or when you thought you

would, that doesn't mean that it's not to come. And I actually had a counselor do this with me one time where we were talking about fear and everything I was afraid of. And I mean, I just got in the nitty-gritty of it and she said okay Sadie what if it happened? What if the worst of the worst happened? What if the worst thing that you're afraid of happened then what would be true? And I just love it because she was like walking out, walking all the way out and I got to the worst of the worst you know okay like I die from this and this happens to my family all the things and I got to the worst of the worst, you know? Okay, like I die from this and this happens to my family, all the things. And she said, if the worst of the worst happens, God is

God. If the worst of the worst happens, God is with you. If the worst of the worst happens and you die, you're in heaven with Jesus and God has your family and he loves your family and can take care of them better than you can. And I was like, facts, you know, like that's promises, that is promises. Even if the worst happens, then God is still God. Even if the worst happens, then I'm with Jesus and God has my family. Like, and so it's so cool whenever you actually understand the promises of God and you look at the fears in your life because you're like, okay, truly, the promises are always going to outrun the fears. The truth is always gonna outlast the fear. And you know, the truth is in life, like, every single person is gonna die.

Like, that's fact. That's true, you know? And God is still faithful to his promises, even in all of that, because there is a hope of eternal life. And so, it's just a good way of thinking about it, you know? I feel like that's kind of an extreme thing to say, but it's also like good to realize that even if like all the worst things happen in the world, you still have Jesus. And that is the beauty of the good news of the gospel, that there's eternal life. And if you don't have the good news of the

gospel, now's a really good time to ask yourself, what do I believe? Like, what do I believe my life is for? What do I believe all this is about? And if you don't have salvation in Christ, and I just lead you in this right now on the podcast, that this is what we believe that God is a good, good Father that He created all things, and He sent His Son Jesus to come and die on the cross to forgive us of our sins as the ultimate sacrifice. And we believe that he didn't just die and stay in the grave, but three days later, he rose from the grave, went back to heaven,

and invites us all to spread that good news, to find ourselves in that good news, to be washed in the blood of Christ, free from our sins, forgiven, and be a new creation in him. And we believe that, John 3.16 says, for God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life. So we believe that through our faith in Jesus Christ's Son we get to have eternal life with the

Father. That's where we're going, is heaven. That's our home. And we also believe that the Holy Spirit, Spirit of God dwells within us and so we're not walking out these days alone, that we have the Spirit that's empowered us. It's walking with us day by day. And so that's where we put our faith, and that's why we can be confident to give these answers that we're giving y'all today. So I just wanted to lay that out really clearly, because some of you might be listening to this, you're like, this is really good advice, but if you don't have Jesus, then this advice probably doesn't make a lot of sense. And so dive into the Gospels, Matthew,

Mark, Luke, and John, read the stories of God and of Jesus. And that'll be really helpful. Last question is a quick wrap up. How do you combat the loneliness that comes with being a new mom? And I just wanted to speak to this real quick because I saw you ask this question and first of all, thank you for asking the question. I feel like a lot of moms feel that. I would say that, you know, people always say your life changes so much when you have kids. And yes, of course it does, but it changes in the best way. Like it changes in the best way when you have kids. And I will also say that it doesn't have to change in all the bad ways. Like I think that people are so afraid of their life changing in the way of, oh, I don't have to change in all the bad ways. Like I think that people are so afraid

of their life changing in the way of, oh, I don't get to hang out with friends anymore. I don't get to travel. I don't get to do this. But who said you don't get to do that? You said you don't get to do that. Our kids love traveling. Our kids love when our friends come over.

Honey, like, loves all of our friends and we have our friends over all the time or we go to their house and we bring them with us and It's just so fun and so sweet. It's actually been like it's made our life so much more fruitful so much more fun So I would just say don't isolate yourself, you know, don't let yourself become so lonely Continue to have the friends that you have show up with your friends ask them if you can just bring the kids You know invite them over with the kids in the chaos in the mess Our house is not really ever clean when friends come over.

It just is what it is. And it's a little crazy, you know, walk away for, you know, 30 minutes to put Haven to bed and then Honey will be at way too late and it's just part of it and we just have fun with it. And so, you know, your life only has to change to the degree that you want it to and allow it to. And of course it's going to change in all the other ways, I believe for the better,

but in the ways that you're worried as far as friendships that you're gonna lose are traveling, that's totally up to you. You get to dictate that weather in your house, if you will, you get to decide what you want it to be like. And we've decided to just invite people in even into the mess so that we're not lonely and that's been super, super helpful.

So I hope that helps you. Now this was a great podcast. Thank you all for even asking us thought-provoking questions, challenging us in our faith and our things. We loved it. So please keep asking questions, whether that be on YouTube, on Spotify, wherever you're listening.

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