An Army of Normal Folks - Joe and Kelli Carson: We Had No Idea How Small Our World Was (Pt 1)
Episode Date: November 5, 2024The Carsons had “The American Christian Dream” of a nice house and golfing at the country club. But then their son spent a weekend as a homeless person and everything changed. They have since sold... their dental practice, founded the Memphis Dream Center, and have lived life with people who didn’t look just like them. Support the show: https://www.normalfolks.us/premiumSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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When somebody's doing well, they get a promotion, they get a new home, we say, wow, you're so
blessed.
And in American Christianity, we consider being well-off or comfortable or wealthy as
being blessed.
I don't think that's the way God
defined it, but it's the way we define it. And so when I say the American
Christian dream, we all want a nice house in the suburbs and kids in a safe
neighborhood. And we had that.
And enough income to take care of your bills and take two vacations a year.
Yeah, that's exactly right. Play golf, you know, every weekend.
And yeah, it was great.
Was that your life?
It was.
Absolutely.
Everybody that we spent time with in church
at the country club in the neighborhood looked like us,
had a life that was similar to ours.
And we had no idea how small our world was.
Welcome to an army of normal folks.
I'm Bill Courtney.
I'm a normal guy.
I'm a husband.
I'm a father.
I'm an entrepreneur.
And I've been a football coach in inner city Memphis.
And that last part unintentionally led to an Oscar
for the film about our team.
It's called Undefeated.
I believe our country's problems will never be
solved by a bunch of fancy people in nice suits using big words that nobody ever uses or even
understands on CNN and Fox, but rather by an army of normal folks, us, just you and me deciding, hey,
I can help. That's what Joe and Kelly Carson have done.
As you just heard, the dentist and his broad,
they had a great life until one of their kids,
of all people, experienced something that woke them up
from the slumber of their comfort.
I cannot wait for you to meet the Carson's
and hear what they've done since,
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Hey everyone, it's Katie Couric. Well, the election is in the home stretch and I'm exhausted.
But turns out the end is near, right in time for a new season of my podcast, Next Question.
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Astead Herndon.
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On Thanksgiving Day, 1999, podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts.
On Thanksgiving Day 1999, a five-year-old boy floated alone in the ocean.
He had lost his mother trying to reach Florida from Cuba.
He looked like a little angel.
I mean, he looked so fresh.
And his name, Elian Gonzalez, will make headlines everywhere.
Elian Gonzalez.
Elian Gonzalez.
Elian Gonzalez. Elian Gonzalez. Elian Gonzalez. Elian. Elian. Elian.
Elian.
Elian.
Elian Gonzalez.
At the heart of the story is a young boy and the question of who he belongs with.
His father in Cuba.
Mr. Gonzalez wanted to go home and he wanted to take his son with him.
Or his relatives in Miami.
Imagine that your mother died trying to get you to freedom. At the heart of it all is
still this painful family separation. Something that as a Cuban I know all too well. Listen to
Chess Piece, the Elian Gonzalez story as part of the MyCultura podcast network available on the
iHeart radio app, Apple podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
The impact of a meal goes well beyond feeding our bodies,
because feeling full can sound like this.
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And like this.
Mom!
I got first place at the science fair with my volcano project!
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Muhammad Ali, George Foreman, James Brown, BB King, Miriam Makeba.
I shook up the world.
James Brown said, said love.
And the kid said, I shook up the world! Jane Brown said, said love!
And the kid said, I'm black and I'm proud!
Black boxing stars and black music royalty,
together in the heart of Zaire, Africa.
Three days of music and then the boxing event.
What was going on in the world at the time
made this fight as important as anything else
that's going on on the planet. My grandfather laid on the ropes
and let George Foreman basically just punch himself out.
Welcome to Rumble,
the story of a world in transformation.
The 60s and prior to that,
you couldn't call a person black.
And how we arrived at this peak moment.
I don't have to be what you want me to be.
We all came from the continent of Africa.
Listen to Rumble, Ali, Foreman, and the Soul of 74 on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts,
or wherever you get your podcasts.
I'm Malcolm Gladwell. 25 years ago, I wrote my first book called The Tipping Point, all about the moments when
an idea or trend crosses a certain threshold and spreads like wildfire.
I've had a lot of time to think about that book, and the way I thought about Tipping
Points changed.
So now I'm releasing the sequel, Revenge of the Tipping Point, where I return to the
subjects of social epidemics and the dark side of contagious
phenomena. You can hear a sneak peek of the audiobook on my podcast, Revisionist History.
Plus, we'll dive into a duo of narrative episodes about my favorite trial in American history and
a reevaluation of the broken windows theory I explored in my first book. Find Revenge of
the Tipping Point wherever
you get your audiobooks and listen to Revisionist History on the iHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts,
or wherever you listen to podcasts. Kelly and Joe Carson, what's up? How are you? We're great. Thank you for having us. Thank
you for being here. Cool story, but let's kind of go back to set the table. But where
are you guys from originally? Well, I grew up in Arkansas. Where? Small town, McCrory,
Arkansas. Oh boy, that is a small town. I've never heard of it. That's small. Where? Small town, McCrory, Arkansas. Oh boy, that is a small town.
I've never heard of it. That's small. Where? North? South? It is near Searcy.
Yeah. I know where Searcy is. I do know where Searcy is. Searcy used to have a really good barbecue
place called Bull Dark Barbecue. Do you remember that? It's still there. It's actually in
Bald Knob. Bald Knob, that's right. Which, yeah. Absolutely. If you relate things to food,
I'll pretty much know an area near it.
And Joe, you're from?
I'm from LA, lower Alabama.
Yeah, Mobile?
No, actually the other side of the state,
down and around Dothan.
Got it.
So close to Panama City, grew up in the country,
cotton and peanuts all around me.
Wow, how'd y'all meet?
We met in college, actually.
What college?
Harding University in Sersing.
Well, can I tell the story?
I wish you would.
Oh no.
Here we go.
So, our freshman year of college,
we were a small school in Arkansas, and-
The Lions, Harding-
Bison. Bison.
Bison.
Harding-Bison. Bison, I missed it.
Sorry.
Defending national champions, by the way.
In football.
Yeah.
At that division.
Yeah.
Good for them.
But anyway, so he was coming, going home to Atlanta
at the time for the summer, the end of our freshman year.
We'd never met.
His car broke down.
My mom actually helped him and came home that day and said,
hey, there's a boy named Joe Carson. Have you met him? And I'm like, no, mom, I don't know who that is.
You know, and she said, oh, she said, you need to meet him. He's tan and he has muscles.
And we did not meet for almost another year. The end of our sophomore year, mutual friends were dating.
We met, I mentioned something to my mom,
and she was like, that's that boy.
And the rest is history.
So your mom set you off a broken down car.
Yes, exactly right.
That's perfect.
All right, so you guys meet in college,
get married, start a family, and you're a dentist, right?
Yeah, so graduated from the University of Tennessee
right here, dental college in 1988.
So it's been a few years.
And you started a practice.
Started a practice, worked in a group practice
for a couple of years, and then went out on my own,
and very successful.
We were doing great, had four boys and you know,
life was good. What are the ages of your kids? Now? Yeah. 38, 36, 35 and 30. Is he 31 now? 31, okay. So they were 8, 6, 5, and 1.
Yes.
Yes, that's a house full.
Yes.
So you're building your family
and are you working outside the home?
Not outside the home.
I was a stay at home mom and then a homeschooler boys.
Got it.
As well.
All right, so your kids are lopped into there together.
You had four kids in seven years.
Lisa and I had four kids in seven years. Lisa and I had four
kids in four years. Right. I thought I'd go ahead and drop that in on you. They are 28,
27, 26 and 25. Yeah. But that's a whole nother story. So you guys, yeah.
Did you notice like we did after three, it didn't matter?
No, but we got on city water and it cleared up. We couldn't figure
it out for a minute. So you guys, you know, a lot of times in our stories, we go back deep into the
history of people's childhoods, but to you guys, it's not germane to the story. What's germane to
the story is you guys made in college,
love affair, had your four kids, worked hard. Clearly, if your car is breaking down, coming back from Harding, you don't come from a whole lot of wealth. And you built your family. And
you went to school, worked hard, started a dentist practice, I guess is what you call it. In debt up to my ears.
In debt up to your ears.
But as a dentist, even though in debt up to your ears,
is that debt by school debt and also starting the office kind of debt?
Yeah, yeah.
So like any business, you've got leverage,
but you have a successful practice and you have a successful family. Yeah, and you have a successful family
Yeah, and you guys are kind of living. Yeah, we the American dream. Well, what we call the American Christian dream
You know it just on that. Well, I think I think we
When somebody's doing well, they get a promotion they get a new home. We say wow, you're so blessed and
in American Christianity,
we consider being well-off or comfortable or wealthy as being blessed. I don't think that's the way God defined it, but it's the way we define it. And so when I say the American Christian
dream, we all want a nice house in the suburbs and
kids in a safe neighborhood.
And we had that.
And enough income to take care of your bills and take two vacations a year.
Yeah, that's exactly right.
Play golf every weekend and yeah, it was great.
Was that your life?
It was.
Absolutely.
Everybody that we spent time with in church at the country club in the neighborhood looked
like us, had a life that was similar to ours, and we had no idea how small our world was.
We'll get to that in a minute.
But I remember reading that I think your practice was in the top 2% in volume and profits?
Yeah, yeah. We were doing... Again, I want to say very blessed because that's the word that comes
out. But yeah, we were doing well, very successful, and had a very simple practice. Just one dentist,
one hygienist, one assistant, and one front desk person. We did it slow on purpose
and we just took care of people and they took care of us. I always believe that if you take care of
people, they'll take care of you. And again, I guess we did things okay. Clearly you're a very
faithful guy, but I have to ask you a side question. Sure. Don't you think all dentists have a little sadism in them?
Oh no, no.
I mean, I know you guys love to drill on people's teeth
and scrape their gums and make them squirm.
What's wrong with you people?
Well, if you really wanna know.
Come on, Kelly, help me out, Kelly.
I just came from the dentist.
That's what's so funny.
I had a dental appointment this morning.
So my heroes growing up were Dick Buccus and Jack Tatum.
Does that tell you?
Yeah.
Does that might tell you a little bit?
Yeah, those guys were, yeah, that's funny.
OK, so everything's going great.
You have your life.
And your kids are in college.
And in 2008, your your oldest son whose name is
Clay. Clay. What are your kids names? Clay is 38 now.
Clay, Logan, Austin and Braden. Braden? What do y'all have against girls?
Well we have four granddaughters. Oh there you go. So it came back around.
All right, so you got Clay Logan, Austin Braden, and your oldest is in college. He was a Baylor.
And tell me the story, Kelly. It comes best from a mom. Yes. So the summer after his freshman year, he was
working at a Christian sports camp, Canna Cuck up in Missouri. And he read a book and it was so-
My daughter was a counselor at Canna Cuck one year.
So it was so interesting because we had given him this book. He said,
Hey, I need a couple of good books to read over the summer. And in the book, literally, there was this snippet, maybe one page about a program called
Missionaire.
And it was kind of like it was mentioned in passing.
We both read the book and it didn't come out to us.
What was the title of the book?
It was the 40-day…
Starving Jesus.
…Starving Jesus.
It was the 40-day fast journey of the three guys, three pastors who started the XXX Church,
an online basically pornography addiction site, you know, just to help guys.
So they would hit XXX and XXX Church would come up.
It was a brilliant plan to be able to start anyway.
So you tell them to read this book this summer.
Clay was reading this book and in this book, they're doing a journey, a 40 day journey
around the United States and they stop in at this program called Mission Year.
And Mission Year now has actually merged with another organization called the Simple Way.
But anyway, at the time Mission Year was a nonprofit organization and they
they placed 20, I mean, I'm sorry, they placed 18 to 28 year olds in the poorest
area of a major city.
And those kids commit to live in poverty for a year.
And the premise of it is to really learn from their neighbors.
And so Clay, that jumped out to him and so he came home that summer going back to Baylor sophomore year and just he mentioned
it. I said I really want to look into this. I think I'd like to take a year and do this and we're like
well we don't know anything about what is this and and but he went on back to school and literally
through the fall never mentioned it again. And so we kind of forgot about it and then probably like
good yeah yeah my thought was as soon as you graduate college you can take so
that fast forward to February of his sophomore year and I get a call one day
and he said hey mom I wanted to give you
and dad a heads up. I just applied to that program called Mission Year and I was like, wait, what?
And so I said, tell me more about it. And he goes, I just applied, I may not get in, don't freak out
mom, as a 20 year old would say. And so of started research, looking online, trying to read more about
it. And so, he said, Mom, and I said, have you prayed about that? You know, we did all
the mom thing. Have you prayed about it? What do you think? You know, we'd like to talk
more. And he said, Mom, I've prayed the whole first semester. And he said, it just won't
go away. I think this is what God wants me to do. And at that point, I was like, what
do you say to your parents? Like, I mean, if you've done that and feel like this,
we're going to support you. First of all, if you have a 20-year-old college that's praying
about something and says that's what God wants them to do, it's hard to argue with.
Exactly. 20-year-olds in college don't typically have those kind of conversations.
And so, in April, he found out that he was accepted in the program and he was going to
be placed on the South Side of Chicago.
And it's funny because anyone who is from Chicago will tell you the South Side is the
worst side.
And he was placed in Inglewood.
It is an area of Chicago where three major gangs intersect.
All right, come out.
What does placed mean?
Means that was his placement. That's the area he was going to this organization of a house there that he's just gonna live in
So he had to raise his own support to pay for a flat
So there were six kids on his team three guys and three girls and they lived in a three-bedroom flat
Two of them left at Christmas and didn't come back didn't make make it through the year. And he lived on $17 a week. So basically, Missionaire would research the neighborhood,
and they want you to live as your neighbors live so that you can really learn
what it's like. You face the same challenges. So he went. He could not have a computer. He could
not have a car. They had no, because most of their neighbors didn't.
They got a city bus pass and subway pass.
And then he raised support to help pay for the flat they lived in, which was pretty run
down.
And then he got a $17 a week stipend.
And so they would pull their money together to purchase their groceries and hygiene products,
anything. And so they would pull their money together to purchase their groceries and hygiene products,
anything.
You know, there was no run into Starbucks in the mornings, no, you know, anything like
that.
And how long do they live this way?
For a year.
Holy smokes.
So he lived for a year.
And as he tells his now wife, you would not have liked me before mission year, because
it really…and so when he did that, they gave them a list of books they were to purchase before they
came and they would read through that together as a team through the year. Then they had a city
leader that they would meet with every week. They had to serve 35 hours a week in their neighborhood,
had to find a place to serve. Clay spent his mornings at something called Teamwork Englewood, and it was a gang and violence prevention agency.
His supervisor there had spent eight years in prison as a gang member drug, you know,
drug-related charges.
Met Jesus in prison, came out, started this, helped start this organization.
And so Clay worked there in the mornings and the afternoons.
He worked in an after-school program called By the Hand for Inner City Children.
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City Ministry, be more worried if it happened today, maybe, than I was then.
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I had knowledge of the potential, but because I had never experienced it, I didn't recognize
how real that potential really was. Yeah, and so I think for me, I'll be honest, at the time I just
thought, God is taking him there. God's gonna take care of him.
I just, he was so confident
that this was what he was supposed to do,
that I think that helped us as parents.
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Hey everyone, it's Katie Couric. Well, the election is in the home stretch and I'm exhausted. But turns out the end is near, right in time for a new season of my podcast, Next Question.
This podcast is for people like me who need a little perspective and insight.
I'm bringing in some FOKs,
friends of Katie's to help me out like Ezra Klein,
Van Jones, Jen Psaki,
Estet Herndon, but we're also going to have some fun, even though these days fun and politics seems like
an oxymoron.
But we'll do that thanks to some of my friends like Samantha Bee, Roy Wood Jr., and Charlamagne
the God.
We're going to take some viewer questions as well.
I mean, isn't that what democracy is all about?
Power to the podcast for the people.
So whether you're obsessed with the news or just trying to figure out what's going on,
this season of Next Question is for you.
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app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
On Thanksgiving Day, 1999, a five-year-old boy floated alone in the ocean.
He had lost his mother trying to reach Florida from Cuba.
He looked like a little angel.
I mean, he looked so fresh.
And his name, Elian Gonzalez, will make headlines everywhere.
Elian Gonzalez.
Elian Gonzalez.
Elian Gonzalez.
Elian Gonzalez. Elian, Elian, Elian Gonzalez. Elian, Elian, Elian Gonzalez. Elian, Elian, Elian Gonzalez. At the heart of the story is a young boy and the question of who he belongs with.
His father in Cuba.
Mr. Gonzalez wanted to go home and he wanted to take his son with him.
Or his relatives in Miami.
Imagine that your mother died trying to get you to freedom.
At the heart of it all is still this painful family separation.
Something that as a Cuban, I know all too well.
Listen to Chess Piece, the Elian Gonzalez story,
as part of the MyCultura podcast network,
available on the iHeart radio app, Apple Podcasts,
or wherever you get your podcasts.
The impact of a meal goes well beyond feeding our bodies,
because feeling full can sound like this.
How did the interview go?
I did it! I got the job! I can't believe it!
And like this.
Mom! I got first place at the science fair with my volcano project!
That's amazing, sweetie. Congratulations!
Because when people are fed, futures are nourished,
and everyone deserves to live a full life.
Join the movement to end hunger at feedingamerica.org slash act now.
Brought to you by Feeding America and the Ad Council.
Muhammad Ali, George Foreman, James Brown, BB King, Miriam Makeba.
I shook up the world.
James Brown said, said love.
And the kid said, I'm black and I'm proud.
Black boxing stars and black music royalty, together in the heart of Zaire, Africa.
Three days of music and then the boxing event.
What was going on in the world at the time made this fight as important as anything else is going on on the planet.
My grandfather laid on the ropes and let George Foreman basically just punch himself out.
Welcome to Rumble, the story of a world in transformation.
The 60s and prior to that,
you couldn't call a person black.
And how we arrived at this peak moment.
I don't have to be what you want me to be.
We all came from the continent of Africa.
Listen to Rumble, Ali, Foreman, and
the Soul of 74 on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
I'm Malcolm Gladwell. 25 years ago, I wrote my first book called The Tipping Point,
all about the moments when an idea or trend crosses a certain threshold and spreads like wildfire. I've had a lot of time to think about
that book and the way I thought about Tipping Point's changed. So now I'm releasing the sequel,
Revenge of the Tipping Point, where I return to the subjects of social epidemics
and the dark side of contagious phenomena. You can hear a sneak peek of the audiobook on my podcast, Revisionist History.
Plus, we'll dive into a duo of narrative episodes about my favorite trial in American history
and a re-evaluation of the broken windows theory I explored in my first book.
Find Revenge of the Tipping Point wherever you get your audio books and listen to revisionist history on the iHeartRadio app,
Apple podcasts or wherever you listen to podcasts.
It's such a weird tale of two worlds being the son of a successful dentist who has had, you know, all that that entails going to
Baylor, which is a beautiful school and is not a cheap
tuition and all of that to be plopped down in South Chicago
with $17 a week to live on and infusing himself into that
was $17 a week to live on and infusing himself
into that environment.
This would take an hour to, maybe I need to have him on to tell me what he learned, but the bottom line is,
during this year, I read that he also was required
to go be a homeless guy or something. Yes.
So explain that.
If that wasn't enough, let's also go make it even harder on you.
Sure.
Actually, it was early in the year and it was intentional early in the year.
I think it was a...
In October.
Yeah, and it was a real wake up call to all of us.
So he called, it was on a Monday. I did not, we weren't aware he had done that. So they could call to all of us. But so he called it was on a Monday.
I did not. We weren't aware he had done that.
So they could call home once a week.
Mondays were their Sabbath.
And so we could talk to him then.
And we really didn't talk to him other than that.
And so he called on Monday and said, Mom, we got to tell you about my weekend.
And I said, OK.
And he said on Friday, because they didn't know it was going to have on Friday,
said we got picked up at our flat Friday afternoon. We were all told to be there and our city director picked us up and they took them
to a clothing closet and told them to pick out things for the weekend. Said you can keep one
item of your own and Clay chose to keep his shoes. I think his tennis shoes. And they said you're
going to- He's still a shoe. He's a sneaker head.
He's a sneaker head, yeah.
But anyway, so they, and they dropped them off in downtown Chicago at an old abandoned
gym with a peanut butter sandwich and said, we want you to live as homeless for a weekend.
It was called a prop week…
A week or a weekend?
Weekend. It was called prop. It's Popper's rite of passage. And basically they were saying,
this is your rite of paupers right of passage. And basically they were saying, this is your right of passage.
Okay. So they took them to a basically a free cloth pantry and said, get out of the stuff that you're comfortable in that fits.
Yes.
You can keep your shoes.
Yeah.
But you pick something out to wear and the next two days you're living on the streets and we're starting off the peanut butter sandwich and you don't even get your 17 bucks.
Yes. And you need to figure out. And he calls you after he did this. Yeah, call me
after. I'm glad it was after. So go ahead. And he just started talking about the weekend and how
people, he said most people, mom, wouldn't even look us in the eye because I mean, they looked
home and they weren't, they were told, don't lie somebody asked you but you're don't offer which you know, we want you to really experience it.
So he met several other homeless and he said one of the things that he learned was they said we stand around and watch because there are a lot of sidewalk cafes in downtown Chicago.
They have seating outdoors and he said, so one of the things we were told, just watch.
And when somebody gets up, you've got to get to the table before the, um, bus
boy gets there and get the food.
And it was interesting.
He said, cause I never thought that any food I leaves could be food for someone
else, you know, we just don't think that way, but he said one thing over the
weekend, really,
one conversation was the lasting conversation for him. He was sitting on the subway steps
asking people for money. He said it was about two o'clock on Saturday afternoon. He had
not eaten. He was getting hungry and he was just asking people for some money to get something
to eat. This lady stopped and he said basically she looked at him and just said, you're pathetic. Why don't you go out and get a job like the rest of us?
And he said at that point I realized even about myself that I had just made, we make so many
assumptions and often assume we know someone's story before we listen to their story. And so
he said she ended up ironically giving him a dollar bill, threw
it at him and said, I don't know why I'm doing this. You'll probably just go spend it on
drugs or alcohol. And he said, you know, I just thought, wow, have I not done the same
thing? But when he, and when he said that he was telling me this and honestly, my first
reaction at my immediately, I thought, how dare she treat my son that way!
And then immediately...
Oh yeah, she's a mama bear, trust me.
I am a mama bear.
And then immediately the Holy Spirit said, have you not done the same thing with someone
else's son or daughter in the streets of Memphis?
And I just started thinking about the times I was in downtown Memphis and there would
be someone on the street, and I would...
I remember specifically one time there was a man trying to sell
flowers, he was obviously homeless.
And I remember grabbing my boys, they were little and I was saying to them,
just keep walking, just keep walking.
Like just walking past him, wouldn't even look at him.
And yet Clay had experienced that.
And he said, I think for me, it was the, it was the dehumanization, the lack, there's no dignity, no, just the
feeling of being completely invisible, that people don't even see you.
And I literally got off the phone and I looked at Joe and I was sobbing and I said, our son
met me this weekend in the streets of Chicago because I've done that. I'm that person. I'm that lady.
And so that for me was probably the big thing. It just hit me hard. And I thought, and we just
began to pray and I just, we both started talking and we said, life has to change. I mean, we can't,
I don't want to be that person anymore. And so all the books that he bought over the summer to read,
we went and bought a second copy. And we started going through. And their books,
some were...most were Christian authors. Some were social science. Some were social science,
just understanding people and where they are and where they come from and how their circumstances
might be different if their background had been different or their opportunities
had been different.
So we learned a lot.
I'm about to be devil's advocate, okay?
Okay.
It's required in this conversation.
I live in Memphis.
I'm a Memphis guy.
My business is on the river,
north of St. Jude, about two and a half miles.
So that's North Memphis.
New Chicago, Smokey City, Green Law.
Yep, that'll be area well.
Okay, now you do.
I do now. Yes, you do now.
I did in the end. I know.
I live in Central Gardens.
Lovely neighborhood, lovely home,
surrounded by a whole lot.
But Lisa and I are not the let's run off
to the suburb kind of people.
Put stakes where you are.
So, having said that, this is not from the perspective
of an urbanite, okay?
Routinely, night nightly cars in our neighborhood are often broken into almost always if
they're caught, they're homeless, they're put in jail
for a day or given immediate bond, they're back on the
streets doing the same thing again. That's not good for our
same thing again. That's not good for our that's that's that's that's bad for your society. Some of the people that I run into at the gas stations are
habitual. I run to the same people over and over again and many of them are
aggressive and oftentimes you can tell they are either high or drunk,
and some of them are scary.
And I don't want my wife in that position,
nor do I want my children in that position
to deal with that.
I don't think it does your city well,
or your tourism well,
when if you're going down any major thoroughfare in downtown
or any of the arteries leading to downtown, you see people sleeping on bus benches and
park benches are laid in the grass on the side of the road.
It makes people feel uneasy and unsafe. It is unclean. And it is a part of our society that exists
that in large part is wrought with problems. And I think everything I said is fair and
honest.
I agree. I agree. And again, you're talking to an entrepreneur, pull yourself up by your own bootstrap guy.
So yes, I hear everything that you're saying.
Now to the other side, they're human beings. They're somebody's son or daughter. Mental or mental sickness runs rampant in this community.
And so I think most people in the middle of the world,
certainly there's crazy people on both sides of the issue,
but most people recognize the two things I just said,
both sides.
So did your son give you any glimpse into how to balance those two worlds
from his experience? Are you going to answer? Go ahead.
I'll defer.
First of all, I want to back up and just say, before we stepped into this world just for
us and then I'm going to answer your question, I assumed that everyone who was homeless was
there because they had drug problems,
mental health issues, alcohol problems, those type of things. What we have found,
and certainly there's that, but many become drug addicts or alcoholics after they land on the
streets. And it's not because they were that that they landed on the streets. Something has happened to land them there and you know when we lose hope we give up and
when we give up we give in to the circumstances around us and we have found
that to be true for many unhoused. And I would say the majority of unhoused. I would say a lot.
Yeah. Now back to our son Clay. He He did not, I mean, I don't know because
it was just a weekend. Now, as far as living in poverty, one thing he told us after that
weekend, Mom and Dad, when you start this, like when we got ready to start doing this
ministry, he said, please don't give out peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. He said, I can't
tell you how many homeless said, that's all we get. And he said, and from our perspective, we want to say, well, you should be grateful.
But from their perspective, you know, we have preferences as well. As you said, we're humans,
we all have, we all have likes and dislikes. And just because I don't have a home doesn't mean that
I don't have preferences. And so I've learned, I learned those types of things. I also learned that most of us are one caring person away from success, whatever that may be.
And many times we all need somebody to look us in the eye and say, I believe in you.
And that's not happening with a lot of people.
And many times, especially in the world of the unhoused, they come from
generational poverty, they come from broken homes.
Foster care.
Yeah.
Yes, very much.
Especially the young, especially young.
We met so many, we've met so many 19, 20 year olds.
I mean, there's a young man here that calls me mama
every time he sees me because he's living on the streets
and aged out of foster care.
And so I think, yes, what you're saying is true.
I think for me, I don't wanna get political or anything,
but I think there's systemic issues surrounding that whole issue of homelessness, even within our city. I will tell you, it grieves me to
drive by empty buildings and I'm like, well, you could build something here and bring people in and
house them. There's a shelter here, Calvary Rescue Mission, that is doing
an incredible job of mentoring and discipling men. And we're seeing such a huge success
right there of men who are finding homes, finding jobs, getting back on their feet.
Yeah, getting back on their feet. So I think I get what you're saying. I totally get it. But I also think that sometimes we can, on this side of that, those of us who do have
homes, do have jobs, are doing well, can let fear keep us from stepping into the world
of someone else.
And I think we want, I just, I think we miss out when we do that
because our world has gotten so much bigger. And I mean, we're not perfect. And I don't,
I mean, there are times I'm walking around sometimes and I'm like, ooh, you know, I probably
shouldn't be here by myself or I shouldn't be. But I think when you know you belong and you act like you belong, there's a respect there
and I think the lines, the walls come down.
And for the most part, what we found is when someone knows, hey, I really want to come
alongside you.
I'm not here to give you a handout and then leave.
I'm going to keep coming back and I'm going to keep being here for you.
We'll be right back.
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We've had several homeless men, especially, sleep in our home.
Some people tell us we're crazy for doing that.
Yeah, as a matter of fact, there's a story.
One of our other sons came home from college.
He was in high school at the time when all of this started, but he had gone off to college
and he came home from college one, I guess it was Christmas break maybe, and he came home from college when I guess it was Christmas break maybe and
he came in late like almost midnight by the time he got home.
There's a dude.
And there's a dude in his bed.
Like he walked in his bedroom, flipped on the light and a guy, Larry, Larry's about
six eight probably and he sat up straight in the bed when the light turned on and scared my son.
Larry has his own apartment now.
He's no longer homeless.
Yeah, and I will say, you mentioned, well, maybe Kelly mentioned it, but something about
coming alongside people, again, there's an assumption.
When men and women lose their humanity and their dignity, they give up trying.
And it is a mindset.
And so is that a mental disability?
I don't think so.
Now there are probably a percentage,
I would say it's probably below 30%
that have a literal mental disability.
Most people don't, they're really sharp.
And I've asked many people on the street,
what's your greatest fear? And the answer I get back most of the time is getting
comfortable being homeless. Because somebody feeds you. If you can scrape up
three or six bucks, you can get in a bed and you have nobody telling you what to
do. And no responsibility. And so you get used to that lifestyle,
and once you get used to that lifestyle,
you just give into it.
It's hard.
It's like an addiction.
I mean, it's hard to, it's like anything else.
Once you become comfortable with something,
it's hard to break free.
But we spent seven, we spent the first seven years.
Well, hold on.
Yeah, yeah. We gotta the first seven years. Well, hold on. Yeah, yeah.
We got to...
Okay, sorry.
We're ahead of ourselves, but great conversation, interesting perspectives, but let's go back.
So you get another copy of the books and you're reading the books and you're thinking something's
got to change, your words, I think. So what does that change look like?
Well, we didn't know. We immediately dove into a...our church happened to be going through a
21-day fast, and so we decided that during this fast that we would literally fast. And so we did a real fast and we prayed
and we talked even amongst one another,
let's don't share what we're hearing until it's over
because I don't wanna hear from you,
I wanna hear from God, I don't want you to hear from me,
I want you to hear from God.
We didn't wanna influence one another.
At the end of that 21 days, I had heard clearly one word that just rang over
and over and over in my spirit, and it was the word unencumbered.
Now that's not a word I use regularly.
It's not in my regular vocabulary.
I don't use it anytime.
As a matter of fact, I don't know that I've ever used that word in a conversation other
than when I described what I heard. Kelly had just a
sense that she was standing on the edge of a cliff. It was time to jump. No safety net.
And so we put those two things together and we were like, okay, what's our safety net?
And if God were to say, go to Ethiopia tomorrow, what would be keeping me from answering that call?
And so we looked at our lifestyle and we thought, you know, the anchor, you know, a dental practice
requires years to build.
It's not something you walk away from and just start.
It's not like you're buying a Kentucky Fried Chicken.
I can sell this one and buy one in Nashville.
Not that it's that easy.
So sorry, Sean Toohey.
But it's just one of those things that requires a lot of time and a lot of relationships.
It requires years to build.
It's not one of those things you walk away from either.
But it was the one thing that I couldn't walk away from. My whole life was tied to it. My
finances were tied to it. My kid's college education was tied to it. My own social level
was tied to it. My ego was tied to it. And so, expectations of a lifestyle was tied to it. And so expectations of a lifestyle was tied to it.
And so we didn't know what.
We just knew that, you know, hey, this might be the thing, this might be the safety net
for you and it might be the thing that's holding me back.
So I was like Abraham, right?
Just let's go.
I wish I could say that. I was more like Gideon. I was
kind of hiding and I was throwing out fleece tests. Okay, God, I'm not sure this is really what you
want, so show me. I'm going to give you this test. We just sat down, wrote down a number,
and said, okay, if I'm going to get the kids through college,
that was my one financial goal when I started dental school. I just want to be able to pay for my kids to go to college without borrowing money. If I could get the kids through college,
this is the number that I would have to sell the practice for. And I was like,
there's no way it'll be worth this. So I had three different companies come and do an evaluation on
what I could sell my dental practice
for. All of them were within a $10,000 range. All of them were at least $10,000 more than
the number I wrote down. Fleece test number one. Fleece test number two was how quickly
can I sell it?
It takes a while to sell a business.
Yes.
Yeah. So they told me normally it takes about two years to sell a business your size.
Don't get in a hurry.
You need to keep making this much, producing this much income so that it is worth, because
the value of the practice is worth how much you're producing.
I was okay with that, but this was the fall of 2008. The banks have just now stopped lending
money to anybody because the whole system was crashing. They said it would probably
be at least three years because again, when you're buying a dental practice, you're buying goodwill
more than equipment. You're buying most of the cost of the practice is goodwill.
And that's not, the bank can't take that money back.
So they're not gonna loan anybody that money.
And I was like, okay, three years, we're good.
My oldest will be out of college,
my second one will be out of college,
my third one will be a senior.
By that time, my fourth one will have started college.
We'll save some money, we'll get out of debt,
we'll figure it out, we'll save some money, we'll get out of debt, we'll figure it out.
We'll make plans.
And three weeks later, I got a call.
Hey, we've got somebody that wants to buy your practice.
Three weeks.
Three weeks.
Three weeks.
I was almost hyperventilating.
I think all of a sudden I was just like, what have we done?
What are we going to do?
Hyperventilating out of excitement or fear?
Of fear.
Total fear.
I guess so.
I just like, what have we done?
We thought we had two or three years, you know.
Because we, you know, I figured in two or three years, I will have figured out what
I'm going to do next.
We had no plans, zero, no clue what we were going to do next.
So it was, it was crazy.
And ironically, we were in Chicago at a parent's weekend with our son.
And when we got the phone call.
Yeah, and she literally, I think she did start hyperventilating.
She sat down on the couch, I mean on the bed, the hotel room, just like,
what are we going to do?
Well, it has to be because it's more than selling a business. It's selling a lifestyle.
It's selling a lifestyle. That's exactly right. So we've got friends in town. You may know
them. I won't call them by name because I don't know that I got permission to do so,
but they had sold everything and taken their family and done mercy ships for a year. And they were friends of ours. We had done
Bible study at their house for years. And so I thought, hey, you know, maybe that's
what we could do. So I looked into Mercy Ships. The community in Inglewood on the south side
of Chicago had a hospital, an indigent care hospital, but they didn't have a dental clinic.
So we thought about that. And so I talked, actually we went up there and looked at it, talked to
the head of the hospital there and about what would it take to put a dental clinic here in
Englewood. So we were exploring like, okay, God, what do you got? I just,
I want to do what you want to do, but sometimes, you know, he doesn't necessarily, he just points an arrow. He doesn't necessarily give you a destination.
And so, um, so we were, we were kind of scrambling and I guess about,
well, eight weeks or so after
closed on the practice and was no longer working there, I'm driving her nuts.
closed on the practice and was no longer working there. I'm driving her nuts at the house.
I mean, I am literally- That is a real lifestyle change. She did. She was like, you got to find a job. You got to figure something out.
And this was back when we'd gone from floppy disk to hard drives. And I literally went and bought a
CD-ROM on how to write a resume. I had never written a resume.
It's the end of some business.
Literally. I had 25 years of running my own business. I didn't know how to write.
I didn't... And I had no idea who I was going to send it to. It was crazy. It was a pretty crazy
season. And what did you do?
Well, we were actually at... Wait, wait, let me preface this.
The only thing I told God I would not do is work for a church.
Really?
Absolutely not.
I'd been an elder and a deacon.
I was like, I know what goes on once you get on the other side of the ministry.
I don't want to have to deal with all that.
Got it. So, we had some friends from our church, we were attending a large local church in Memphis
at the time.
And we had some friends over, just bring your kids, let them jump in the pool, we'll grill
out, just visit.
And realize, or you don't realize this, but let me back up. We had only been
at this church about less than a year, so we were still getting to know people. We were,
you know, kind of dipping our toes in to serve some on the weekends, whatever. And so, but
this family came over and as we're sitting around the dinner table, he was like, so what's
new with you guys? Because we didn't have relationships in the church
where we were going and telling people.
Now, we had prayer partners, family, other people
that had been praying with us.
That told us that we were nuts.
Yeah, we did have one tell us we're crazy.
Well, they're right.
They're right.
So, and it was.
It was kind of like you say, we've done this.
We've told her, what are you going
to do?
Well, we don't know, we're waiting on God.
And I mean, people kind of look at you like you're crazy.
So we had this couple over, he was like, hey, what's new with you guys?
And I looked at Joe and thought, are you going to tell him?
Because we haven't really told him, we haven't said a lot.
Well, Joe told him, well, we actually sold the dental practice about six weeks or so ago and we don't know what we're
going to do. That was that. We went on, had a great evening. A couple of days later, we were
actually at our church and we're walking through the auditorium and the lead pastor comes walking
through and he said, hey guys, Dan kind of told me a little bit about what's going on with you.
I'd love to hear more. Are you guys free this week?
I'd love to. So we ended up going in, talking with them.
And by the end of that conversation, they're like,
we'd like to invite you to join our staff and lead our outreach into the community.
We really feel like we're supposed to be doing this.
We haven't had anyone to do this.
And so we get, um, and I was kind of like, can we pray about it?
Cause I knew what he had said about Georgia, but we get in the car, long story
short, we decided to do that.
Um, started out with literally went and traded one of our vehicles, bought a truck because
for some reason we thought to do community outreach we needed a pickup truck.
And we did.
And we used it.
And we started with literally going to Panera one day a week, taking everything they had
left over from the day because they bake their bread fresh every day and give it away at
the end of the day.
Shout out Panera.
And buying some bottles of water and start going down to Morris Park in downtown Memphis,
where you knew a lot of the in-house would gather. And let me back up, sorry, we did do that. But
before that, we went down to one of our large missions, one of our shelters. One day during
lunch, they let us come in and I
just started walking around to the tables meeting the men there and saying
hey if we wanted to do something for you what is something you need because we
didn't want to reinvent the wheel we wouldn't didn't want to do what
everybody else is doing there there's no reason to do that and they said we have
to be out of the shelter I think at at that time, it was like at 5
a.m. and we never get breakfast. Like people, we always have lunch, we always have dinner,
we never have breakfast. So we decided we'll do breakfast then. We'll go down once a week.
And so we started, we would sit in our kitchen on Wednesday evenings after we pick up Ben's Panera
and the two of us and our then high school son and our now daughter-in-law
who was dating our son that was in mission year at the time, we would bag it all up,
get up the next morning, drive to Morris Park, the four of us. Started inviting people to come with
us that anyway. That was really how we began. And it wasn't. It cost us nothing but our time. Then we started cooking a
hot breakfast. We'd get up at 4 a.m. and had some ladies that wanted to cook and turned into that.
We began building relationships. One thing we would do and we would tell volunteers or anyone
that came with us, we are not serving a meal, we are sharing a meal.
And so we would sit and eat with...
Volunteers, they could plate three plates of food,
but then they had to make one for themselves
and go sit with the three guys that they had just served.
Or women or whoever it was.
And so we just began doing that
and began really building relationships.
And I think for us, one of the winds was a few months in,
three months in maybe. It was pouring down rain one Thursday morning. I mean,
it was pouring down rain. And so we're like, we really thought, should we go? Should we not? Is
anybody even going to be there? And we thought, you know, we're going to go. We said we were going
to be there, so we're going to go. And we went, and there were a few men huddled under the awning of a little store down there.
And one of them came running out to the truck and he said, they said you wouldn't show up.
And I told them you'd be here.
I told them you'd be here.
And for us, for one thing, that was a lesson for us that when we say we're going to do something,
we need to do it, you know.
And for us, that was a big deal because so many times in the world of poverty,
we can tend to make promises and not keep them.
And that further traumatizes the ones
where we think we want to help,
and yet we just add to the disappointment
and the frustration or the discouragement.
We see it in the nonprofit world.
Somebody will help for two years in one area and then they'll stop.
And again, you're creating, you're helping reinforce the mindset of people don't really
care about us.
They're just, we'll just take whatever you've got to give and we'll run with it because
you really don't care about us.
Well, and I remember someone saying to us early on, one of the men who were in the streets,
and he said, you know, he said, thank you for coming every week because he said, everybody
wants to come at Thanksgiving and Christmas, but they forget there are 363 other days of
the year. I'm not going to evoke the turkey person story now
because our listeners have probably all heard it.
Do you know the turkey person story?
Oh, no, but I mean, I've heard a lot.
Listen, we've got outreach friends all over the country
and they run into the same problem.
One person will go and get eight turkeys and then sell them to his neighbors or whatever the cash may be.
The story was on a billboard last Thanksgiving in Times Square.
No, I don't know that story.
After this, look it up.
Okay.
For those of you listening.
Do a 60 second version of it.
I want to hear it now. I want to hear it.
I just don't want to waste time with listeners that have heard it 20 times.
All right. Those of you who've heard it, just bear with us for one minute and 30 seconds.
We need to hear it.
My first year at Manassas, we were three and three. I inherited a team that won four games
in 10 years. There were four in 95. So my first year three and three.
I think three and three is pretty average. But when you've won four games in 10 years,
the kids were kind of into three and three. Yeah.
Raise money for new equipment. And we're winning ball games and, you know, doing a lot of work
with the kids. And so they were buying in. So every kid, well yes sir, no sir, all into the football.
It was clear when we first got to Manassas
there were other things we had to coach and teach.
Character, perseverance, the dignity of hard work,
the value of being on time, basic fundamentals and tenets.
So we started coaching those too.
Now the whole team was buying into
football, but one half the team was buying into that important stuff. The other half the team,
although yes or no sir on the football field, the minute football was over,
they were back in the streets engaging the same behavior that got them metaphorically to $4.95
in life. So it frustrated me. So I went to my guy, every coach has a guy,
said, Hey man, what do I got to do to get that half the team to buy into the
important stuff like you're at the team? I appreciate everybody's yes or no
certain buying the football, but this is more than just football. This is about
life and some things that will serve you long after the days of playing football
are over. And I want the whole team to buy in important stuff and everybody's buying in football but only half of you buying
important stuff what do I got to do to get those guys to buy in and he looked
at me and this is a guy we had a lot of real conversations but on this when he
looked at me and you have kids so you know the dismissive tone I just keep
doing what you're doing coach and I'm'm like, no man, real talk.
He said, coach, I don't want to hurt your feelings.
I said, you're not gonna hurt my feelings.
Why can't I get hat half team to buy in like you're half team?
He said, coach, they're trying to figure out
if you're a turkey person or not.
And I said, what are you talking about?
He said, coach, every Thanksgiving and Christmas,
people roll into my neighborhood
and they give us ham and gifts and turkeys
and we take them because we ain't got none but then they leave and we never see them again
makes you wonder if they're doing that because they really care about us or
they're doing that to make themselves feel good absolutely and then he looked
me dead nice and he said really coach what the hell are you doing down here
man wow so when you talk about the things that you're talking about,
understand, identify.
Yeah, absolutely.
Understand that on this show for the last 18 months,
we have gone as far as putting a billboard in Times Square
that says, don't be a turkey person.
I love it.
I have been on...
I was on the Kelly Clarkson show
telling the story last Thanksgiving.
Wow.
So I get it.
I completely get what you're saying.
Because actually I think it can be more detrimental
to show up and leave
than to not ever show up in the first place.
And again, if you haven't experienced it at the depth of a relationship,
you haven't experienced it enough to know the difference.
And that concludes part one of my conversation with Kelly and Joe Carson.
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