anything goes with emma chamberlain - los angeles

Episode Date: March 12, 2020

The city of angels. Either you love it or you hate it. Sometimes, both. Emma opens up about the pros and cons of the city - from living there, to the people you meet, to all of the things going on. Is everyone really obsessed with their appearance? Does LA really live up to the hype? Plus, why it's important to bring a quality people into your inner circle, to not worry about judgement, and to have confidence and be unapologetically yourself. Also, why you may want to consider wearing sweatpants to really nice restaurants from now on! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Hi guys, it's Emma. Welcome back to anything goes. I hope you're all having an amazing day. I would like to give you I'd like to kind of set the scene today So I am wearing dirty sweatpants and a dirty sweatshirt that I wore yesterday and I look like I hit by a bus pretty much Don't really know why I'm just kind like, I'm not under the weather, like I'm not sick, but I just shall run down. And so I'm just trying to make life as easy as possible. So I'm just kinda,

just kinda wearing whatever I'm feeling, just kinda letting my skin breathe, like not wearing any makeup, hair's in a little bun. Like we're just, ah, ah, you know, it happens. All right, but we're just going to look past that. It's all about what's on the inside, right? I have a great heart. I have a mind that's ready to share my thoughts about things today. So,

let's not focus on what's on the outside. We're going to focus on what's on the inside. And today we're going to be talking about living in Los Angeles. I have a lot of opinions on this, a lot of stories, and I'd love to share. I know that there's something really interesting about LA, like when you don't live in LA, I think people just kinda wanna know about it, cause it's so interesting.

Like you just want, cause it's like everyone lives here. So many people live here, especially in the public eye as well. So like, you know, most of the people you follow on social media live in LA. And that's how it was for me when I was living at home. And I always saw people living in LA and I was like, I wonder what that's like.

So I'm here to give you the inside scoop. Tell you the truth and kind of get down to it. So I moved to LA at 17. tell you the truth and kind of get down to it. So I moved to LA at 17. By myself, I lived alone. I lived in Hollywood, right on Hollywood Boulevard, worst decision of my fucking life, so gross. I lived in an apartment that was like, it was cool. It was like this loft apartment. It could also be used as a workspace. That's kind of what it was built for to be like a workspace

office home But I used it as a home because I thought it was cool But it was like really dark like no sunlight really got in there because it was on the first floor and It was all cement and I got really depressed in there. So Definitely wouldn't recommend moving here and getting an apartment that's dark. I think having light is really important. I learned at the hard way. I only lived there for like eight months.

But then the depression got so bad I had to leave. So, but it actually really helped when I moved. There was more sunlight. My mental health improved a lot. So, I would say that your environment that you live in really helps. I swear to God that apartment. It was so dark in there that you could not tell what time of the day it was.

So like, you'd look at your phone and it'd be one and then you'd look again and it'd be eight and you're like, what? And you wouldn't even notice that it got dark. It was very, very depressing. So when I first moved L.A., I lived in a shitty apartment, but it was fine. We worked with it. I wanted to start more about, I mean living conditions are one thing, but I kind of wanted to talk about, you know, the social element when he first moved LA. So I moved here and I had

a few people that I kind of knew. You know what I mean? I wasn't like super close with anybody, but I had like a few groups of people that I kind of knew and they kind of took me under their wing, which was super sweet because they didn't have to do that and That was cool, but even though I had these kind of friend groups that I was in It was still really lonely because I didn't really have like a best friend So it was like I was kind of the outsider of all these groups So it was like I was kind of the outsider of all these groups. They were all very inclusive. They were very cool to me, whatever.

But I didn't really like, it wasn't like I was texting these people about my feelings. You know what I mean? It's like we would all hang out and do shit. But then at the end of the day, I was going home by myself and I was alone again. And I think it was really hard for me to break the surface in LA with these people. I think a lot of people in LA,

they can be super dope, super sweet, whatever or not, which is also very common. But in my situation, it was like, I had a lot of cool people around me, but I never got to break the surface with any of them. So none of the friendships were really very deep, if that makes sense, and I really crave that and need that. I'm somebody that, like, I need human connection

with new people, old people, like constantly, because it keeps me mentally stimulated and it just makes me feel good and I love being social. Like, I love talking to people. And so if I don't have that deep connection with anybody, I get really depressed. So I think that was a huge reason why I was depressed when I first moved to LA was because I didn't feel

like I had to go to person. I didn't feel like I had a best friend. Eventually, I met my two best friends, Olivia and Amanda. And we just, all the three of us just hit it off. We met randomly. Like, it was like, I met Olivia in a vent, and then we became friends, and then she was best friends with Amanda.

From acting class, they did acting class together, and then we all three became best friends, because one time randomly Olivia was like, come to Colorado with me and visit my friend Amanda, and I was like, okay, kind of down. And then after that point, we were just best friends, friends and we just all connected like we'd known each other forever So I'm so fucking grateful for them because I would be so lonely without them and I think a

huge thing in LA is that It's really easy to have a lot of friends on the surface, but it's really hard to find a Good solid group of people that have your back and that you can connect with and truly trust. And I think finding that makes LA so much more enjoyable. I think I hated LA so much before I found good friends. And then once I found them, it was like 20 times better. And it still has its hard ships, but that really helps. Which kind of leads me to my next point, which is kind of this superficial energy in LA.

And it's kind of terrifying. It causes me a lot of anxiety. But in LA, there's a lot of social events. You know what I mean? You meet a lot of people. You see a lot of people like rent because LA is like because so many people live here and so many people visit here, like you end up meeting everyone. Like I've met everyone, I swear to God. I swear to God, I feel like I know the whole fucking world of all of all of sudden, because you just walk around and you're like, oh my God, I follow that girl on Instagram

or I used to follow that girl on Instagram or, oh my God, I've like heard her music or like, so because it's such an area where everybody comes together, so you end up meeting so many people. And it can be a little bit frightening because a lot of people don't care about you at all. They just care about how you can benefit them, what information they can get from you about somebody else, what

shit they can figure out about you to hold against you. Like it's crazy. Like everybody's, it's this weird, like, it's terrifying. And a lot of people kind of have that dark energy to them. And it scares the shit out of me. On the other hand, a lot of people are kind of in the same boat as me and my friends where we just all want to have a good time, treat each other with respect, respect each other's privacy, enjoy each other's company as

humans, have like just ignore the social media and you know not post with each other, just be friends in real life, a lot of us want that. And I think that's really, I mean that's great that that exists, but there's also the other end of the spectrum. So it's just, you have to be really careful when you're here because you have to make sure that you're not, you know, getting wrapped up in the wrong crowd. But I think you kind of get used to that

and you can figure out like, okay, I know when somebody's trying to use me and I know when somebody's, I know that behavior. I'm really good at recognizing it now. And I'll still be friends with somebody. I'll be friends with anybody, I don't judge, but I'll just be careful. So you just have to be really careful about who you get close

with, which I think is sad because for me, I love to just be friends with everybody and open up to everybody and let them open up to me. But in LA, that's not always the most responsible thing to do. And you have to kind of take it slower than I think you do anywhere else. So it's a double-edged sword. I've met some amazing people here and so I don't want to say that like everybody in LA sucks because there is you know there is a little bit of that

nastiness but it's not everything that's not all that there is. So I'm glad that there's at least kind of a balance. I think a lot of people in LA don't hang out without social media involved, but I'm a huge believer in having friends that maybe even do social media and do the whole thing, but no one knows we're friends. And weirdly, that's something that is reassuring, I think, for all parties,

because you know that nobody's using each other, right? It's like, we're all just here. We enjoy each other's company, and we're not judging each other based off of our social media. And we're just here to have fun and enjoy each other's company. And I think that's really important.

Another thing that I think is interesting about living in LA is like kind of touching on the part about how you just meet everybody. It's kind of weird because I've like, being a huge fan. I think like it's so crazy when you meet people that you're a fan of, you know? And it's so weird when you meet people that you're a fan of. And it's so weird when they end up just being a normal fucking person.

Cause in LA, I think you get to sensitize to the whole idea of somebody being an idol of yours. Cause I know I've met a few musicians that I just was obsessed with. And I still am, because their dope is fuck. But I think when you meet these people, it weirdly takes the dream away, in a way, like, because you see that they're real human beings and they're just like everybody else. There's no reason, like, you know, but we put these people sometimes on a pedestal, but in reality, they are completely normal human beings. And I'm not saying that's a negative thing to find out, but it is kind of weird,

because I think once you start meeting all these people, it starts to kind of make the dream go away. And I'll explain that, because when you're younger, you're like, oh my god, I would love to be like this person or I'd love to be like that person because they're so famous and you know, they're probably so rich or whatever and like they're so talented and all this and you like kind of envy their life, right? Because you want to be them in a weird way. But I think that once you start meeting them, you realize that they got their own shit, dude. And it is not fun.

And now that I've kind of learned all this, like I wouldn't want to be anybody else, I wouldn't want to live any other life. And like, I don't envy anybody. Everybody's on their own journey. And it's like, it ruins the dream of like that fantasy of what that life would be like because you start to see into it a little bit.

But at the same time, it makes you appreciate your own life. And I think that that's really cool and it's really actually made me appreciate my own life and not compare myself to anybody else's career and people who are just absolutely killing it. Like, it makes me just so excited for them, but also understand that they have their own struggles. And I, I don't know if that makes sense, but and I don't know if that makes sense, but that's something that I think LA has done is it kinda descends, it makes you less phased by that whole thing, because you just realize that they're normal as people and they're cool

and it's whatever, or even sometimes they're mean, but that's worse, but that has never actually really happened to me. I've had pretty good luck. Like anytime I've met somebody who I've been a huge fan of, they've always been really cool, so I've had pretty good luck. Like anytime I've met somebody who I've been like a huge fan of, they've always been really cool. So that's a pretty good look. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. Squarespace is more than a website builder. It's an all in one place to make an online space that's entirely your own. Their all in one platform

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L.A. is a high school. And I was like, I, that's such a like common thing that people say, right? Like L.A. is just like high school. And I always was like, no, it's not. Like, shut up. Well, it is. So I'd love to kind of dig into that a little bit.

It's literally the same thing. There's clicks, there's popular kids, there's parties that some kids don't get into, aka me. Like, you know, people, you have to be the cool kid, right? And I feel like, I mean, somebody might tell me I'm like wrong, but I feel like I'm kind of a nerd in LA. Like, in LA high school, I'm kind of a nerd a little bit, maybe.

I feel like the, which is fine with me, because, you know, nerds are actually dope as fuck, but it's like the whole stereotype. There's like the popular kids, and then there's like, you know, the rumors, and there's like, who's dating who, and then there's like the, you know, all the drama of high school, but in LA, and I think it's because a lot of the kids in LA didn't finish high school or didn't go to college and so they're kind of still in that mindset. So it's crazy and like everybody knows each other

and it is kind of shitty because I didn't fact leave high school for a reason. And that's because I don't thrive in that environment. I thrive in a very lighthearted environment. OK, ideally for me, I just like, I'll hang out with anybody. I'll be friends with anybody. I just like to have a good time, have a good conversation,

participate in activities that are uplifting and not damaging, you know, it's kind of my vibe. So like it is kind of like LA being a high school and me enjoying that type of more chill relaxed kind of life can be hard because it kind of can make me isolate myself because, but I'm trying to be better. I'm trying to be social and just have an open mind. But again, I am also like, I just tend to enjoy like more real experiences. And I think, but I also think it's good to experiment and kind of like have fun and meet new people and do shit.

So I don't know, maybe participating in the LA high school, I do it at a minimum, but it's like, it's what it is. It's the culture here, so you just kind of have to participate and make the best out of it. And it can be fun. Last negative element of LA, and then we're gonna get the good shit, because I really, really made LA sound like shit right now.

So sorry, Los Angeles. If you're listening, but anybody who lives in LA would say the same thing, we're all on the same page, most of us. So I don't think it's a shock. The last thing that I think has been really tough for me in LA is everybody's obsession with their appearance. I've noticed that in its fucking, it's affected me. So I can't say that I'm the outlier here

that's like, it has not made me wanna get lip injections cause it fucking has. Like, I'm not gonna lie to you, okay? It's kind of like a different, it's a different standard. There's a different standard of beauty here. I think a lot of people in LA are very beautiful. It's like something you'll notice. It's like, and a lot of people,

you know, there's a lot of models, there's a lot of just beautiful people in general, which is great. Some of them have enhanced their bodies in some way, which is totally fine. I'm not judging at all. But there's like that, there's, that's very common here. So whereas where I grew up, that was just like not a thing. Like everybody was just kind of who they were in a sense and it was like there was no. Also I feel like people didn't really care about appearances much.

Where I grew up I feel like it was just kind of so much more chill and not focused on that. Whereas here, there's a lot of attention on that. How you look, how much you weigh, that's not ignored here, whereas it is other places a lot more. I mean, it exists everywhere, but I think in LA, it's like times 50, and it's affected me a lot, because I'm somebody who has always kind of just been

comfortable with who I am and I'm aware that I'm not some sort of fucking, I'm not necessarily like a model of some sort. Okay, nobody, no modeling agency would say has to me, but that's okay. But it does suck though, because that should be like something, I should be okay with that, right? And I am now. But like when I first moved here, I was like, my self-esteem was so low, I was like, no guys ever gonna talk to me. Like, I'm so ugly. Like, I don't belong here. And like, how can I make myself more attractive to fit in almost? And that totally took a toll on me. It's made me struggle with different types of mental shit. But I've managed to come out of it,

and I think I'm in a really good place right now. I think the thing you have to remember is, like, at the end of the day, personality and who you are wins every fucking time. And when you carry yourself with confidence and with like warm opening arms, people are drawn to you regardless. It doesn't matter if you're like like the hottest girl in the room or the hottest guy in the room, you know, if you're not a good person, that doesn't matter. So

it's like I think even in LA, although there's a lot of beautiful people and it can really make, it's hard not to compare yourself. At the end of the day, if you're at a party or if you're at an event and you have a good energy to you and you're a good person, people are gonna be drawn to you regardless. And that's what I've learned just by becoming comfortable with myself and who I am and just being like, I am who I am, I'm not gonna change anything about how I look because I don't want to.

That's personal decision. I'm just going to stay who I am, and if people like me, they like me, and if they don't, they don't. And if people think I'm fucking ugly, okay. Congrats, like whatever, because that's okay. Like it doesn't, I don't need to be some sort of perfect ethereal being. I think that being me is dope, and that's fine.

So I keep it at that, but God, it took me so long to get there though. It really did. It was kind of like, I don't know. I think social media doesn't help the way there, because it's like, you're living in LA where everybody's so beautiful and shit. But then also on social media,

you look at your Instagram comments and everyone's like, this bitch has acne, she's ugly. You know, why is she, like, she's never gonna, nobody's ever gonna date her. Like, what are people are saying that shit? So then you're reading it while you're also thinking it and then it's like, just double whammy and then you know, you're completely spiraling

but you just work through it and then it's just double whammy, and next thing you know, you're completely spiraling, but you just work through it, and then it's over. I do wish that LA didn't, like, the environment was less focused on that. I think everybody would have a lot more fun, including me, but it's all right. You know what? Because I think it actually made me a lot stronger, and weirdly, I came out the other end of it like even more confident and like I Actually appreciated myself and who I was in my individuality that's even word I

appreciated how I was unique because That's not something that most people appreciate here always. And it made me appreciate that I'm kind of my own person and that I just intrude myself and I think that's really cool. So it was tough, but then I came out the other side and it was great. So now that we talked about the negative shit, we're going to talk about the good shit about LA.

Number one, great food. Number two, really great for meeting people. You meet so many cool people here again. I mean, I know I said you meet some sauce people, but you also meet some really dope people. A lot of people here are motivated. They have passions really inspiring to be around. You know, a lot of people like have their own grind

that they're doing and it's really cool to be around and I think it's really inspiring. As long as they're not a dick about it, like some people are, they're like, I'm working on this and you're not doing shit like they'll say stuff like that, but that's as long as you're not dealing with that, you're good. Close to the beach, traffic isn't that bad, it's like fine, you just manage it. So like people can shout out about that. There's, it's never boring. I feel like it is boring,

but it's like never boring. Like if you really wanted to, there's always something going on that's fun. Go to a diner, like every fucking store that you'd ever wanted to shop at is in LA, you know, big airport, fly-out wherever you want. LA is good. I mean, it's not terrible, but you definitely have some crazy experiences here too. Like, I think the shit that happens to you when you're in LA is like, I remember when I used to visit LA when I was younger, like once or twice. Every time I'd visit, it would always be such a crazy experience. Like, I'd be like, with my friends at 5 a.m.

and we'd be like, at a diner. And like, then we'd fucking like, climb a mountain. Like, I would like, crazy shit just happens here because I don't know what it is, but the energy here, like you just, it's like fun. Like it inspires you to like, just adventure in a weird way, because you're just like, we're in a way, let's live it up.

You know what I mean? And then it inspires you to do cool shit that makes school memories. I don't know if that makes sense, but I've definitely made a lot of really amazing memories here. I made some good friends, and I'm probably not going to move anytime soon because I'm moving soon to another place in LA.

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with the Twitter questions because I have so many. Somebody asked me, what are the best vegan food places? My favorite vegan restaurant of all time is Crossroads on Melrose. It's a little bit fancy and expensive, so I usually order it to my house. Just keep it simple, but it's so good. Before I tell you about the rest of my favorite vegan restaurants, I have this funny story about actually the one time I did eat inside of Crossroads. My friends and I were starving and we all were wearing sweatpants, but we wanted crossroads, okay, because it's the best. It's our favorite.

We love it. And so we went in. We made a reservation and we went in and we're all wearing sweats. Mind you, this is a nice restaurant, like probably five star, if that's like how the rating is for food. I don't know. Really nice restaurant, okay. We all roll up in sweats. I swear to God. We walk

in everybody's turning their heads at us like what the hell these disgusting pieces of shit. They were judging us so hard. So a la of them. But anyway, they sat us like immediately in the back of the restaurant in a corner. okay? Cause they didn't want anybody to see us cause it makes them look bad, I guess. And they literally served our food so quickly. They were like, we literally sat down there like, what do you guys want? And we're like, whoa, okay, we want the spicy meatball pizza, bitch. And then they like, okay, got it. They like run, they like were running to bring our food to us.

They did not want us in there. They brought us to check immediately best service I've ever had. I hate waiting around in a restaurant. New hack, dress like shit and fancy restaurants. They'll get you in and out of there. They do not want you in there. And it was amazing.

They were so rude, too. They were so rude. I mean, I love the restaurant. I'm gonna eat there again. Maybe it's disrespectful of us to be dressing comfortably in their restaurant because it's nice. Maybe we were the ignorant ones I don't know, but I also think that as long as you pay for your meal and you're respectful Maybe maybe be kind of nice at a restaurant. I mean, like, or if we weren't following dress code, maybe be like, hey guys, this is not dress code. Like leave, like at least do that.

Don't let us in and then be rude. I don't know. And whatever, it doesn't matter. I'm still gonna eat there every week. Because it's fucking great. So like, and that says a lot, because I have a fucking ego. So if somebody disrespects me,

and then I come back to your restaurant because the food's that good, you got your shit going on, period. So, thank you Crossroads. Try their spicy meatball pizza. There's a place called Fresh, on Sunset Boulevard. Please go to Crossroads Modrez, great vegan Mexican food.

Takaia, actually, I don't know, Takaia, it's kind of been messing with my heart recently. It's also vegan Mexican food, but I'm not really that into it. Next question. Do you ever consider moving back to San Francisco? No, I love going back there and visiting my family, but I will never move there.

I don't know, it's just, I really like visiting it. I think I appreciate it a lot more and I think living there was really depressing for me. And I think I almost have too many bad memories There like just a lot of depressive episodes Happened in those it just it has this dark energy and I kind of like to leave it there every time I go back I enjoy it, but I do get really sad And so I can't really imagine living there. It has this like weird feeling in my stomach when I'm there

And I like it. And I love seeing my family, but I feel like LA gives me this feeling of a fresh start that San Francisco just feels like my dark past. That makes sense. I just kind of want to leave that there. So sorry to make that dark, but anyway. Next question about LA is it good for work?

Yes, that's why I live here. I don't think I would live here if, I mean, I, again, I don't like to like consider what I do work, I just think it's kind of like, because that's not why I started it. Like I started it because I love it. But let's just say that it helps me, you know, I have an amazing team and they're all based in LA. And it's nice to be able to work with them and they're close by. And I mean, my team is like,

I wouldn't want to be far away from them because I like to be in their presence. And also, it's nice because you can meet all of the other people that live in LA and everybody kind of relates. So it's kind of cool. What were your expectations before you moved here and how did they change expectations? I don't really think I had any. I really didn't. I had no idea what to expect to be honest. And it's kind of, I think it's a lot more boring than I maybe expected. Like it it's a lot more boring than I maybe expected. Like it can get a lot more boring than I expected. I thought it was going to

be like the craziest shit ever. Like no, not a dull moment, but it's actually really easy to get lonely in LA because everybody's kind of doing their own thing and it's easy to get forgotten in a sense. And so I expected that. I also didn't expect to get as sad as I did when I first moved here, but again, it's like the LA sadness seeps in and happens to everybody. If so many celebrities that live there constantly talk about how toxic of a place it is along with the people, why do they decide not to move at the end of the day? I think it's because it's just so convenient. Like for actors, especially, or musicians,

or even now YouTubers and kids who do social media, and that's their source of income, I think it's just so convenient to live here because this is where everything is. And so you end up being in LA so much anyway for this lifestyle that I think it's hard not to live here, to be honest, and it is kind of shitty. I think it's easy to complain about,

but then at the same time, all of us that complain about it wouldn't want to be anywhere else. I always say I want to move, but deep down, I would not want to move. Deep down, I really wouldn't. And deep down, I have this weird love for it. But LA's never really felt like home for me. I've never really felt like I live here. I've always felt like I'm kind of like visiting

I think a lot of people feel like that it's hard to make LA feel like homey Because it's really It is as I said earlier. It's kind of superficial and it's all it's one big party and it's one big high school and it does not feel like home And so I'm trying to like figure out how I can do that for myself, whether that's moving into a different space. I think living in an apartment kind of makes you feel like you're just living in a box and like it's like disposable. It's like not no personality in the place you're living. And I like my apartment now, but I'm getting the fuck out of there. I think also the area of LA living is not homey at all. There's like some areas that are a lot more homey, but I live kind of in the middle of everything.

So, which I love, but it's hard to feel like you're at home when you live 10 minutes away from the rustle and bustle of it all, moving on. To people in LA actually go to the beach. Honestly, not that many people do, but I like to because I love the beach, but took me a while to kind of figure out what beach is. I like this summer, I went a lot.

Can't wait for next summer. Can a fucking swim, Malibu, and whoa, it's gonna be great, I can't wait. The water's kinda cold, but I love it. It makes me feel nostalgic from the Bay Area because Northern California has the coolest oceans like ever, and I used to swim in it with no wet suit. Cause I'm a bad ass like that, period.

Is the traffic bad? Yeah, but get over it. Like, okay, don't not move somewhere because of the fucking traffic. Like, I get it, like it's annoying, and you get used to it. I mean, for me, I, where I grew up because I was near San Francisco. So like, I dealt with traffic in that way. So I'm kinda used to it. I mean, for me, where I grew up, because I was near San Francisco,

so I dealt with traffic in that way. So I'm kind of used to traffic as it is, because there was the whole rush hour at five, it was a mess, right? There are some states where that just doesn't happen. Now, I can see how that could be kind of shocking and upsetting, but at the same time, if you wanna live in LA,

you just have to time it out, okay? I drive around at 10 a.m drive around at like 10 a.m. and then like 1 a.m. That's it. Because any other time is shitty. And if I have a meeting, I'll like leave early and maybe get coffee somewhere, so I'm in the area, like you just plan around it.

And it really, you get used to it. And if you want to move somewhere, make your decision based off of something that's not traffic. Cause like, imagine moving to New York and having to take a subway. That's equally as bad in my opinion. Although I do love New York and I would love to live there one day, maybe, probably not.

Do you think living in LA changes people? Yes, because I think that there's a few ways that we can go about it. Because you know what, let's actually kind of dig into her because a lot of people said that L.A. changed me. Totally it did. Thousand percent bitch. It did change me.

I think that I've aged 10 years in two years because I've just had like so many different weird experiences and so much has happened to me. But I'm not going to lie to you. I'm so much happier now and I know so much more about life because I moved here and it forced me into being an adult. I had to take care of myself. I lived by myself. I had to fend for myself. I had to deal with, you know, I had to lay down at night every night by myself and deal with my own demons. And that

taught me so much. And so I am not the same person I was when I moved here. I am so much more independent, a lot happier. I have a lot more experience in life under my belt that has helped me grow even more. Like it's like, I've grown so much, and I feel like I'm a better person now. I feel like I'm a less judgemental person. I feel like I am so much more open-minded

about meeting new people and like experiencing different things. I feel like I used to be so judgemental and stuck in my ways. Like I was like, no, I'm this way. Like I don't want to change. I just was like very stuck. I thought that I had this like,

I had a one track mind about how I wanted my life to go and I wasn't open-minded at all. I just was like, I had a one track mind about how I wanted my life to go and I wasn't open-minded at all. I just was like, I'm never going to, like, oh, I can't hang out with people in LA because it's bad for me or like whatever. But then I realized like, no, fucking experience it, like experience life. And I think I was scared to experience life before I moved LA. And then I think it kind of helped me, brought me out of my shell, and it's made me more confident. I can talk to people, I can talk to anyone now.

I used to be so nervous to talk to people and be putting a room with people I didn't know. And now I feel like because I've been putting that situation so many times, my social skills have improved. I can like, I don't get as anxious. You know what I mean? It's helped me with a lot of my anxiety when it comes to, I mean, actually, it's been

my anxiety worse in a lot of ways too, but when it comes to meeting new people, I can just, it's a great skill to have. I think I just had a lot of practice from living here. It did change me, but I also have seen it change people in a negative way. It is really too bad. And I always truly pray for their sake that they have a wake up call one day and they realize that their shit does stink. Wait, there's shit, don't say there's shit,

it does stink, whatever. I hope that one day they wake up and they realize that they're not in ethereal being. They're just like everybody else. They don't have any fucking power because of the fact that they have the amount of followers that they have. Like I really pray for the people that have been affected

negatively that they can come out of it and be a better person on the other side of it. I genuinely do because I don't think that people mean to turn evil in a sense or kind of become shady. I really don't think people mean to do that. I think it happens and I think they don't even realize it. And I give them the benefit of the doubt because I would want that if I made a mistake like that

and I let it get to my head, I would want that if I made a mistake like that and I let it get to my head, I would want a chance to come back in a sense. Because I think it is possible. So I am praying for those people and I wish I could help them, but they probably wouldn't listen to me. Hi, Emma. My name is Madison and the question I have about Los Angeles is do you feel like it's very like people judge you there a lot

like based on just like appearance or do you feel like like because it's Los Angeles that you could wear whatever you want without being judged. That's an amazing question I love it because you actually make such a being judged. That's an amazing question. I love it because you actually make such a good point. There's definitely, I kind of touched on this earlier, but there's definitely judgment about how you look. And I think for me because I'm somebody who, I'm very natural, I tend to play very natural,

I don't wear a lot of makeup. I'm also not like, I'm not like necessarily exactly the LA standard of beauty. Okay, I'm not necessarily exactly the LA standard of beauty. Okay, I'm not like the stereotype. And I do kind of, I think like actually appearance wise, I do get judged occasionally, especially when I'm not wearing makeup

and I'm kind of like wearing a shitty outfit. Like I do definitely get judged. I think when I put effort into how I look and like I dress up, nobody's judging me. I think it's mainly like when I'm stripped down a little bit, that's when the judgment comes in, it's like people will kind of be like, ugh. And you're just kind of like, I just don't care anymore. That's the thing.

Because I know that like, that's not what matters in that anybody who's judging me, imagine that. Anybody who's judging me for being comfortable without marrying makeup and wearing fucking comfortable clothes in public, anyone who's judging me is a piece of shit. You have no idea what I went through that day. I could be fucking exhausted and I just wanna wear my sweatpants.

And you're judging me wearing your fucking like, whatever, lame, that's so lame. I never judge people based on what they're wearing. I mean, sometimes people's fashion choices make me judge it a little bit, but I will never outwardly judge. I'm kidding, I actually don't even judge people if people have weird outfits, not that I think about it. I just don't give a fuck.

It just doesn't affect me. What somebody else is wearing, what somebody else is doing, it just doesn't affect me. It's none of my fucking business. End of story. Like, if somebody wants to wear sweatpants, if somebody fucking wants to walk around naked, I don't care.

As long as they're not getting in my way, naked, then it's fine. I'm so open-minded, I just don't care. But I do think it's cool in LA. People do appreciate uniqueness as well, especially when it comes to fashion. I think people like to like, I don't ever feel weird showing up to something wearing a like unique or different outfit because I know that everybody's kind of on that wave too. Like everybody likes to spice it up.

A lot of people are really into fashion. So it's cool because you can, you're never, it's not like when you show up to school and you're wearing a cool outfit and you're worried you're gonna get judged. In LA, I feel like usually people aren't judging. Usually people are kind of like trying to figure out what's next. Like we're all just looking at each other for the next trend. So yes and no, moving on.

Hey, Emma, I was just wondering what are some new hobbies that you took on when you moved to LA? Okay, see, I wish that I had more answers to this than I do because I think I don't actually have very many hobbies, to be honest. I mean, I do, but mainly my hobbies consist of... I kind of regained my passion for exercise as I've lived here because I grew up kind of doing sports and then once I moved here, like everybody works out here and I ended up like really loving it, like I love doing workout classes. I do Soul Cycle and Berries. Berries I've been doing recently. It's like running and then workout, running, workout. I like workout meaning like weights and shit. I actually really like that. Soul Cycle is my go-to just because

I like how it's cardio but like low impact on my joints. So I also have kind of gotten into, I know I had like a raw climbing phase, that was really fun, just to probably get back into that. I really enjoyed it. Although I think it gave my friend Ringworm and me Ringworm for that matter. So maybe not the cleanest.

I love going to the beach, but that's not really a hobby. I think like weirdly YouTube and social media and all that, it's kind of a hobby for me too in a way. It's a hobby and it's not. Because it's something I enjoy doing. Actually, shopping, like thrifting and shit, if you consider that a hobby, I love shopping. I love styling, I even like styling my friends when they let me.

And like just anything with clothes is like an definite hobby that I've become obsessed with. Anything, whether it's helping my friends, styling them or helping them pick out outfits and shit when they're going to an event or something or doing that for myself, social media, you get it. But I probably need more hobbies. Let me know what I could do to make myself more interesting.

Me. Next question. Hi Emma, I hope Fashion Week was fun. And when you get to LA, I was just wondering of all of these horse attractions or sights is your favorite? And as you're like, go to when you show your friends around. Love it. Well thank you. Paris was actually kind of exhausting,

but it was very fun. But I'm wrecked. That's a story for another day. But I always get so stressed out when my friends come to LA. Like so stressed. Because I'm like, I don't really know what people think is cool.

Because I normally just go out to eat and go to the beach, but then when it's winter, like I eat and go to the beach, but then when it's winter, like I love taking people to the beach, but when it's winter, it's harder. So I tend to take people to Melrose because there's a lot of cool shops on Melrose and people love clothes, everybody loves clothes.

Whether you love clothes or not, you love clothes when you're on Melrose because it's really fun, there's so many unique stuff and so much cool stuff. And like, also there's like a bunch of murals and it's kind of cute. Also, there's the fucking infamous pink wall, which I think is so fucking funny, because for some reason,

the tourists love the Paul Smith pink wall. They love taking pictures in front of it. I love taking new people there, and being like, look at everybody taking selfies in front of this. How amazing is this? When did this happen? Who determined that this was the thing?

It's like kind of funny to me, but I also like kind of get it because one time I took a photo in front of it as a joke at first, but then I was like, why is the lighting so good? Like I think there's something about the reflection, like the lighting on the pink wall is like fire.

So, take people around Melrose, Laguna and Malibu are great to take people just because it's beautiful and whatever. I mean, even during the winter you could do it, you just can't swim unless you surf, then wear a wetsuit and enjoy it. Okay, there are some good hikes here, but personally I do not like hiking. So I'm going to let you guys enjoy that. You can hike the Hollywood sign.

A lot of people really enjoy that. You can take cool photos at the top. I just think hiking and like, dude, just let me like run on a treadmill and then go to bed. Like, also should I not be going to, I just thought about, I was thinking about, because I said treadmill. And I'm going to soul cycle after this,

but now I'm kind of scared, because I don't wanna get coronavirus. And I feel like a workout class, kind of like it. It's kind of a great place for that to, like do I need to be worried about that? I'm a still go-to whatever fuck it

Okay guys um I'm kind of I think I need to wrap this up. I need to go take an app or something to be honest with y'all I'm going through this phase in my life right now. It's called, my friends and I call it an Amazon, where I'm just pushing myself to the limit, but it's like kind of fun. Like I'm meeting a bunch of new friends. I've just been like being very adventurous, right? And like staying up late with my friends getting food,

driving around, talking about my feelings, laughing, crying, like I've been doing a lot more because I used to just lay in my bed every night and watch TikTok, but now I'm actually like, on this Amazon as we call it, where I'm actually like going outside of my house and like living like a human being. So normally people, normal people would call that a living,

I call it an Amazon. Don't ask me how that name came up, but it's kind of exhausting me, to be honest, because I've just been like, being a teen, so weird, I kind of hate it. Anyway, I hope you guys enjoy your day. Come visit LA and let me know if you agree with me in my opinions, try out my restaurants that I recommend.

And don't go to Crossroads and Sweats though, unless you want that fast service, maybe consider it. Bye y'all. Don't go to Crossroads and Sweats though, unless you want that fast service, maybe consider it. Bye y'all!