anything goes with emma chamberlain - put your phone down

Episode Date: August 6, 2020

Emma’s been off her phone for a while and feeling GREAT. Why it’s really helped with her anxiety and how it may help us all, too. Plus, insights into a new project (or two!) she’s working on, th...oughts on TikTok potentially shutting down, how to deal with cheaters in relationships, and the three celebrities she’d want to be stranded on an island with. And is the blonde hair here to stay?? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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Starting point is 00:00:00 Hi guys, welcome back to anything goes. How are you all? I'm actually in a really good headspace right now. Oh my god, what? Like, what the fuck is going on? Emma's not recording the day after a full panic attack. Like, this is insane. My anxiety has been great.
Starting point is 00:00:22 I've been doing really good. And I actually think I know why. And so I'm gonna get into that in today's episode. Just kind of this journey I've had over the past week that's ended up leading me to less anxiety. So I'll get into that later, but first I wanna talk about a dream I had last night because I think it's fucking funny. So basically last, I've been having vivid dreams.
Starting point is 00:00:48 Okay, I don't know what it means. And there's like specific people in it every time. They're not reoccurring dreams, but it's like, it's weird. I'm not wanting to remember my dreams, but recently I've been having them all the time. And there's actually a study that came out that said that nobody cares about your dreams, like biologically, like our brains cannot get excited about a dream because it didn't
Starting point is 00:01:12 really happen. So like, your brain literally cannot care about dreams. So I'm not going to like tell you about my dreams because literally science told me that no one cares about them. I mean, it's kind of true. I feel like if somebody tells me their dream, like what do I do with that at all? It didn't actually happen, and I didn't experience it.
Starting point is 00:01:37 So how am I supposed to care about it? Anyway, it's really true, but I did have a dream last night that I got cheated on, and I did have a dream last night that I got cheated on. And I've never had a dream like that. And I woke up this morning and I was fucking livid. I was livid about it. And I literally texted this person and I was like, you cheated on me in my dream. And I'm actually mad at you a little bit. Because the thing that's crazy about it is that I had to like see the whole me in my dream. And I'm actually mad at you a little bit.
Starting point is 00:02:05 Because the thing that's crazy about it is that I had to see the whole thing in my dream. But yet, it did not actually happen, but it still traumatized me. So anyway, I genuinely was angry at this person for probably like five minutes. Like, once I woke up, I was literally mad. Like, as if they had done it.
Starting point is 00:02:25 And it took me a second to realize, oh, wait, they didn't actually do that. So anyway, I don't know why that is, but like, I'm still like, it's weird how it dreams. If something fucked up happens, yes, it was a dream and all, but you feel that emotion still.
Starting point is 00:02:42 It almost shows you what it would feel like if that actually happened. In my dream, I was like fucking screaming and so mad. And it was like, I actually lived that. I didn't, but I did. So it's weird. It's weird when that happens. But anyway, I've had so many dreams like that.
Starting point is 00:03:00 People getting hurt or me getting hurt or something. And then like the next morning, I'm fucking, oh, wrecked because I just lived that, but no one else did. And you're just like, in your own thing, speaking of dreaming, I've been seeing all these TikToks about all this stuff about dreaming with other people. And now you can like enter the astral plane and like join other dreams with other people. I don't know what the fuck that means. But basically, some people say that you can meet dreams with other people. I don't know what the fuck that means, but basically some people say that you can meet up with other people in your dreams. Anyway, I hope I didn't accidentally meet up
Starting point is 00:03:31 with the person who cheated on me in my dream. On the astral plane, I really am praying that that didn't happen. But anyway, I think that you have to set that up or something to make that happen. So I'm feeling pretty hopeful that this was just my own imagination. Still angry about it though. Okay, so moving on to other things.
Starting point is 00:03:56 So basically I have barely been on my phone for the past week. And it's just because I was really busy and I think I hadn't been busy in a really long time because quarantine were locked in. I mean, 90% of the time I'm at home. I mean, so I have a lot of time to go on my phone and there's only so many things you can do in a day. I try to work out, try to cook here and there,
Starting point is 00:04:23 you know, whatever, but then like, at a certain point, I'm, I'm laying in bed on TikTok on my heating pad. Like, that's my resting position at all times. So, been on my phone a lot, but things are kind of starting to pick back up. And so I've actually been busy. Um, for example, it was my friend's birthday, Olivia, my friend Olivia's birthday, she turned 21. And so we did little activities for her birthday and stuff like that, which was really great. Super distracting. Wasn't on my phone the whole time. And then after that, I did a shoot for three days. Each day was like 10 to 12 hours
Starting point is 00:05:07 for this little project thing that I'm doing. I can't, I don't know if I'm allowed to talk about it. You guys will see it eventually. It's not, I hate when people are like, oh, I did this project, but I mean, I did. So whatever, but I was on this set, it's not a movie. Okay, that's a spoiler alert. I did not do a movie. Okay, that's a spoiler alert. I did not do a movie.
Starting point is 00:05:26 I will never do a movie, ever. So anyway, I was on this set for literally 10 to 12 hours a day, so I was not on my phone. Like I literally couldn't be on my phone. Like I had no breaks. Like I mean, I'd have little breaks, but I mean, I was like focusing on eating, drinking my coffee, and like talking to my parents
Starting point is 00:05:49 or my friends, like I was going on social media. So I barely went on social media at all for about five days. And when I tell you guys that I've never felt better, it is not an understatement. Like I truly have never felt better, it is not an understatement. Like I truly have never felt better. I didn't realize it until today, when I was like done shooting and like today,
Starting point is 00:06:16 I'm like, I have kind of a free day so I can do whatever I want. Like my anxiety is just down. Like I have no anxiety right now. I mean, obviously anxiety is always kind of in the back of my throat in a way That's just like how life is but it's barely there. I'm barely anxious. I feel so calm Like you know when you're anxious and your chest feels all tight and like your body feels all tight and whatever
Starting point is 00:06:40 That is gone for me and I almost live in that state constantly. I'm almost always anxious. So to feel none of it is insane. And honestly, I think it's because I haven't been going on my fucking phone. I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm texting people, calling people, I'm watching cooking videos and stuff like that. But I'm not going on Twitter and I'm not going on Instagram.
Starting point is 00:07:03 And it's been really, really amazing. I mean, seriously, and I think that this was a huge learning lesson, not to mention even before this kind of week of no phone, I was also like, I started going to the beach a lot more and like, you know, swimming in the ocean a lot more. And honestly, like what it's done for me has, I mean, it's been so amazing. I really, really encourage you guys to do something. I don't go on your phone for a little bit. I normally, I know people say that all the time and I get it, but I just feel so passionate about it right now because I just got off of a week of barely going on it. And now I don't even wanna go on it anymore.
Starting point is 00:07:55 I mean, I definitely have a severe addiction to my phone. Don't get me wrong, like I do. But I feel like I kinda broke it this week. And I also realized that everything that goes on the internet, yes, don't give me wrong, like it is a part of my life and everybody's life and it definitely is in a sense real life. But it also is not as, it's not as big of a deal as it seems when you're on it all the time.
Starting point is 00:08:24 I just got this feeling in my head that like the internet was like the end all be all. Like this is like everything that happens on the internet is a big deal. Everything that somebody says about me is a big deal. It's so easy to fall into that when you're on it all the time and you don't have a life outside of it. But like the life that we all could have and can have and do have outside of our phones is actually so much better and it really helps. And then when you have to go back on your phone, you're in such a stronger mindset to deal with it, deal with all of the punches that are thrown out
Starting point is 00:09:05 you. And so I don't know. I mean, I know that this is white noise. People fucking say this all the time. Like, my parents are always like, am I swear to God, your anxiety would be so much better. You just got off your phone. and I Would listen to them, but I was also like I'd do what I like, you know what I mean? so then I Just like wouldn't I mean I would listen, but I like I Wouldn't put it into action like I would always be like I would almost kind of not humor them because that's kind of like not what I'm That's not what I'm saying, but I would I Wouldn't do it. I'd be like yeah, you're right, but then I wouldn't do it.
Starting point is 00:09:47 Well now I'm like, fuck that. I'm not going to go on my phone as much anymore, like permanently. It's almost like changing an element of your lifestyle. If you're like, okay, I'm going to start exercising a little bit more and that's a goal for you, right? Cause that's something that you know will make you feel really good and it will keep you healthy and happy, et cetera.
Starting point is 00:10:12 And then it becomes a goal for you. My new goal like that is getting the fuck off my phone and not going on it as much. I don't wanna read through things anymore. I don't wanna read through Twitter. I don't wanna go on TikTok and read through comments like I don't wanna to read through things anymore. I don't want to read through Twitter. I don't want to go on TikTok and read through comments. Like, I don't want to see that right now, because that shit makes me really anxious.
Starting point is 00:10:31 And so I'm ready to just kind of like enjoy social media, the good parts of it, which is posting, seeing a few nice comments here and there, seeing a few nice tweets, and stuff like that, and then going off of it. And I know that that may seem like not smart for me because it's like, oh, am I you social media? It's like what you do or whatever.
Starting point is 00:10:52 I don't care. Like this shit is not good for my brain. And when I'm not on it, I'm a lot better of a person and my whole entire life is gonna improve from that so That's that also working is gonna be easier for me like you know if I'm going on my phone all the time I just get so drained mentally that when it's time to like turn on a camera I'm just like bummed because I'd been on my phone too much and I'm thinking about shit too much And I start to forget about what's really important, which is like loving people and being passionate
Starting point is 00:11:26 about what I do in life. You know what I mean? And that's it. So, ah yeah, done with that topic, but just had to share. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. Squarespace is more than a website builder. It's in all in one place to make an online space that's entirely your own. Their all-in-one platform allows you to customize everything from the
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Starting point is 00:13:14 sometimes you drink your coffee and things happen. You know what I mean? You guys get it. I also realized something, so I was shooting this project for the past three days. So it was three days of shooting every day for like 10 to 12 hours. And I have quickly realized that I never would ever, even if it was my passion being an actor. Okay. I even if I was like the best, even if for some reason I'm not spoiler alert, but being
Starting point is 00:13:53 on a set is not something that I think is for me. I am not good at working for a long time. Like I need a lot of breaks when I'm in front of a camera. You know what I mean? I can't be in front of a camera for a really long time. Like I need a lot of breaks when I'm in front of a camera. You know what I mean? I can't be in front of a camera for a really long time. And that's something that I did this past few days. And like I just get burnt out for some reason. Which is why I think YouTube is so perfect for me
Starting point is 00:14:18 because I just can't, like it's up to me, you know, I'm my own director and my own producer and I'm my own videographer. So like it's all up to me and you know, I'm my own director, my own producer, and I'm my own videographer. So it's all up to me, and I get to choose, like, you know what? I'm kind of tired right now. I'm gonna film in an hour. Like, there's so much flexibility in that.
Starting point is 00:14:35 And when you're an actor, there's none of it. So I learned that shit real quick. I mean, don't get me wrong. I loved filming this project, and I'm really excited about it, but I also now know that I will never be an actor. So if any of you guys were, you know, wondering, oh, I wonder if Emma's ever gonna try to be an actor.
Starting point is 00:14:56 I know I've said multiple times before that I would never do that, but now you know for sure it is not going to happen and I never would. So yeah, another thing I want to talk about is TikTok shutting down. So apparently TikTok shutting down. Here's my thoughts. Listen, I feel this, I'm very mixed. I've mixed emotions on this topic. I've mixed emotions on this topic. Here's a thing. Like, I like to talk a lot, I go on it a lot, and I don't feel like it's the most negative platform. Like, I think it's usually kind of fun.
Starting point is 00:15:40 I don't, it does, like, okay, so, like Twitter and Instagram can be pretty toxic, I would say. They can get toxic pretty quick, but TikTok, not as much for me because I'm just scrolling through my for you page and like watching videos that are random and weird and like, I love watching all the cooking,
Starting point is 00:16:01 TikToks and all of that. So, I feel like I use TikTok as more of an entertainment platform so I don't like meaning for me. Like I use that platform as a viewer more than I, I don't really use it as a poster as much. I mean, don't give me wrong. I post tiktoks here and there, but like it's not something that I am super concerned with
Starting point is 00:16:25 all the time. Like it's not like, oh, I need to post a TikTok soon something that I am super concerned with. All the time, it's not like, oh, I need to pose a TikTok soon because I haven't been on there in a while. It's not like that, I just follow my gut with that. I'm like, I don't care. There's no pressure. And I use it as entertainment for myself because I like watching them.
Starting point is 00:16:40 I'm sad to see all the cooking TikTokers go, but I also think that they will be on YouTube and I can just watch them there. You know what I mean? Most of the stuff that I enjoy watching on there could easily be on YouTube. So I think that my entertainment will continue from those people that I love so much.
Starting point is 00:16:58 When it comes to like all the funny shit, I'm going to be sad because it is funny. Like I definitely get some good laughs out of it. I mean, I will belly laugh at a fucking TikTok, and that brings me joy for sure. So that's kind of sad, but I mean, I also think that it's not good for my attention span because everything about it moves so fast
Starting point is 00:17:21 that I feel like my attention spans awful, no? So there's that. So I mean, I'm not super hard-broken about it going, but also like, if it stays, I'm gonna be kinda happy. You know what I mean? But if it went, I would also be okay. Like I'm not super sad about it. But I just think it's crazy how like
Starting point is 00:17:46 there's so many parallels with the Vine era and the TikTok era. I mean, it was like with Vine, it was the exact same thing. It was like a bunch of people blew up on Vine. Then like, you know, there was a bunch of groups that were made, there was houses that were made, X, Y, and Z, and then, you know, it shut down. And then everybody went to YouTube.
Starting point is 00:18:10 And then that was fun. There was beef. There was everything. It was a time to be alive. And then that all kind of chilled out a little bit. And then TikTok came along. And it's just like the new generation of that. And it's just crazy to see history repeat itself. So I wouldn't be surprised if there was a new TikTok that's even better in, say, five years. I mean, I wouldn't be
Starting point is 00:18:34 surprised if something new happened. Or if somebody made like some company made like a new TikTok, I don't know. I mean, we'll see, I guess it's kind of scary. Like, I guess they're sealing our information or something, but literally the only thing that you can still from me is fucking photos in my camera roll of me crying all the time. Although I haven't cried in a while, except for happy tears. Randomly, I never used to cry when I was happy,
Starting point is 00:19:04 but the other day I was like talking to my parents about something. And I was like so happy about it. I started crying and I was like, Emma, what the fuck are you doing? Like, hello? You don't show emotion or weakness. What are you doing right now? I only show emotion or weakness when I'm sad, but like me showing emotion or weakness about something that I'm happy about couldn't be me. I don't know what I'm going through, but I literally like never ever cry about something I'm happy about. Like that just, I honestly hate showing weakness and I feel like being happy about something is being weak, which is not true at all. So please don't think of that's advice,
Starting point is 00:19:45 like that is not true. But my brain is weirdly wired like that. I feel like being excited or happy about something makes me weak. So that's just something I need to work on with the therapist I don't have, because that's not good. Like when I'm happy about something or excited about something,
Starting point is 00:20:04 I should be able to fucking cry about it and scream about it as much as I want and I should be happy that I'm feeling that way, but yet I literally will cry of happiness about something and be like, you're a little bitch to myself in the mirror. I will go to the mirror and bang on and pound on it and be like, you are a little pussy. bang on and pound on and be like you are a little pussy grow up but Maybe that means that things aren't so bad after all I feel like This year started out for me really shitty but And there was a lot of shitty moments throughout it too, but I also think that
Starting point is 00:20:43 This was probably one of the most transformative years of my life. And I think a lot of you can probably say the same. It was one of the weirdest years ever. And you know, things will go back to normal eventually and we will all be okay. But I don't know, it's interesting how like crazy this year has been and I like me like crying about being happy is like a very new thing, you know? That's weird, but I'm very happy about it. I am very happy about it.
Starting point is 00:21:17 I also am on my period right now. I, okay, I was having this problem where I was getting my period twice a month and it's finally settled down. I think it's because I'm off-acutane now. And so now I have regular periods, but it's back. So you guys probably haven't heard me talk about my period in a while. It's because it's back to normal, but it's here now. So got the cramps going on and I'm going to the beach
Starting point is 00:21:40 today and I'm like bleeding and I'm like, how the fuck do I handle this? Do I like, what do I, okay, POV for a second, a little POV here. POV, I'm at the beach, I'm wearing a bathing suit, I'm running into the ocean, and my tampon string falls out. Honestly, POV, what do I do? I'm kind of anxious about it, but I need to get in the ocean because it makes me feel good, even though it's freezing here,
Starting point is 00:22:09 which I didn't realize. Like last year I went to the beach a bunch of times and it wasn't that cold, but for some reason I'm literally in a lot of pain when I go in now. I don't know why that is. I don't know if the ocean's colder or randomly this year or something. Does that happen, guys? I'm not that smart. I mean, I am okay smart, but not really a very smart,
Starting point is 00:22:32 all the wallways. So yeah. Anyway, I think I'm done talking about the things that I had planned in my head. I kind of feel like I'm easing into this podcast in a sense where I, you know, don't get me wrong, if like a topic comes up that's pressing for me, I will address it, but I think that, sorry, I'm putting my blanket on, but I think that, you know, I've talked about so many things and kind of given my two cents on so many things. Those episodes are going to be great to look back on and, you know, I've talked about so many things and kind of given my two cents on so many things. Those episodes are gonna be great to look back on and, you know, when my views on those things change or I gain more insight on more things,
Starting point is 00:23:12 I will bring those up, but I think for now, it's just kind of fun to sit and chill with y'all and whatever and talk about shit that's not as emotional, I guess, but I'm ready to answer some questions. So let's see what you guys are asking. This episode is brought to you by LiquidIV. LiquidIV believes everybody needs hydration every day. It's not just for athletes or that one time you try to hot yoga class, staying hydrated
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Starting point is 00:26:20 Buy a stick of liquid IV at a store near you or head to liquidiv.com and use the code anything for 20% off your order That's liquid IV dot com with the code anything tap the banner or visit this episode's page to learn more Somebody said favorite song at the moment don't think just go. You know, I'm I'm put you all on I Mean my summer I'm listening to my summer 2020 playlist on Spotify. My username is Emma Chambie. I think it's like one of the only Snapchat in Spotify are the only ones left that still have Emma Chambie, which is the username that I thought was genius and hilarious when I was in fifth grade.
Starting point is 00:26:59 Turns out bad news. Emma Chambie is not funny, hilarious, or quirky at all. And I know that the internet loves to call me quirky. It's very fun for them, but newsflash, I am not quirky. So grow up. Anyway, I'm gonna give you guys a few songs. The Dulls are Talking by the Strokes is really good. I'm obsessed with that song right now.
Starting point is 00:27:22 Middle of somewhere by the neighborhood is really good. Lava by Still Woosey is not a new song but I kind of just rediscovered it and I really love it. And politics and violence by Dominic Feich, I really like all those right now. There's a lot more on my summer 2020 playlist. If you want to check it out that are really good. Somebody said with all this COVID going on, I'm having constant thoughts of regret because I think I could have done so many things last year, but because of being sad, now I feel like I've wasted a lot of time and that's stressing me out. Does that ever happen to you? So I think I'm gonna sum this question up and kind of
Starting point is 00:27:58 rewrite it too. Do you ever feel like you wasted time being sad? Okay, like probably yes, like I definitely think I've wasted time. Well, no, I do not know. I have not wasted time being sad because every time I've ever been sad in my life, I've learned millions and trillions of things. And you might not even realize that you were learning things whilst you were sad,
Starting point is 00:28:23 but I can guarantee that the person you are now wouldn't be the same without that. Okay. You being sad and you having those struggles made you who you are. And I don't think you'd be able to appreciate life in the same way without that experience. I don't think that anything is a waste of time. Nothing in life is a waste of time, okay? As long as you turn it around and you learn something from it, it's not a waste of time. If you just don't learn anything and you fucking
Starting point is 00:28:57 are close-minded and whatever and you like continue doing the things that you're doing that are making you unhappy, or you continue, you know, you get what I'm saying. Like, I mean, obviously being sad and stuff, that's not up to you. I mean, you can't choose, like, if you're, you know, struggling with your mental health.
Starting point is 00:29:17 I mean, that's like not something you can change. You can take the right steps to help, but I mean, there's more to that, you know, it's more complicated, but so that's definitely not a waste of time, because you're gonna learn something from that, no matter what, but I'm more saying like, if you feel like you wasted your time doing anything in general, like let's say you were in a relationship that was not good,
Starting point is 00:29:40 or let's say you went to college, and then you ended up not using your college diploma for your job and you now feel like that was a waste of time. None of that was a waste of time. Because you learn things from that and you experience things from that and that's a beautiful thing. There's nothing to regret about that. So all we have is right now and all we can do is make the most of right now. You can't dwell on what you should have done could have done. What's that going to do for you? That's just going to make you miserable. If you think, you know what, it would have been so fun if I wouldn't have been
Starting point is 00:30:23 struggling, you know, last year, I would have done so fun if I wouldn't have been struggling, you know, last year. I would have done so many more things if I would have known. Well, guess what you know now. And you can make today an amazing day. And when this whole COVID thing is over, you're going to live life to the fullest because let me tell you, I think we're all going to me tell you I think we're all gonna appreciate it I think we're all gonna appreciate it in a new way once we can finally do all of that again, so Don't regret it. Please
Starting point is 00:30:54 Somebody said my ex wanted to meet me a couple times, but I said no The last time he asked me he was being so nice and I agreed But now I feel like I miss him. What do I do? He cheated on me multiple times, by the way. Okay, listen, we don't fuck with the cheater. We don't do that because the thing is there's seven billion people on this planet, and I can guarantee that there's somebody out there that won't cheat on you. Guaranteed, 100%. There's somebody out there in this world that wouldn't cheat on you. So why the fuck are we gonna waste time with one person that fucked you over?
Starting point is 00:31:33 Cheaters don't, I don't believe that they changed to be honest. Once a cheater always a cheater, I do kind of believe that. I mean, I don't know. I just like, I think that people who cheat are maybe wired in a different way. And I mean, don't get me wrong. I think that people can learn and grow. They can change. I don't think that, like let's say you're dating somebody
Starting point is 00:31:55 who's cheated on someone else before. I think that there's a decent chance that that person might not cheat on you. They might have learned from that experience and been like, fuck, I'm never doing that again, or they were just in the wrong relationship. But if someone cheats on you, that kind of makes me feel like
Starting point is 00:32:12 the connection between you two wasn't right because that person wasn't scared enough to lose you when you guys were together. They didn't value you enough. Like when you're dating the right person, the thought of cheating on them and then them finding out and leaving you should be terrifying. If you're with the right person, which would make you not want to cheat on them. Also, when you have the right connection with somebody, you don't have eyes for anyone else, especially
Starting point is 00:32:41 when you're young. I think when you get older and you've been with somebody for a long time, you know, things can change and things can be different. But when you're young. I think when you get older and you've been with somebody for a long time, you know, things can change and things can be different, but when you're young in shit, there's no reason to waste your time with the cheater. When they cheated on you, I'm saying. Obviously, if you find somebody new, it's really cool, and you guys have a great connection and they've cheated on somebody before. I mean, I don't really believe in judging somebody for their past necessarily. I feel like you kind kinda have to judge them for who they are to you, you know what I mean? So that's a different thing,
Starting point is 00:33:10 but because this man has cheated on you before, I say we say fuck him and we do not, not actually or literally I mean metaphorically, we are not messing with this guy. There are seven billion people, find a new one, moving on, thoughts on guacamole. I used to be really scared of guacamole, still kind of am for some reason,
Starting point is 00:33:28 but ever since I started eating avocado toast, I kind of realized, okay, well guacamole is literally the same. And the seasoning in it is really good. So definitely into guacamole, but I'm not a huge fan of tomato or onion. And those are two ingredients that are commonly used in guacamole. So I mean, I'm on the fence. I mean, I don't love every guacamole, but they're definitely some
Starting point is 00:33:51 good ones. Next, somebody said, what did you have for breakfast? I had Chamberlain coffee, Chamberlain coffee. And I had eggs in avocado. And that was kind of a little starter meal, but I'm probably going to, it's still the morning right now, but I think I'm going to have some plums, so that's my breakfast. Somebody said, how do you know that you've met a good lifelong friend? I don't think you ever really know because I think that you can think that a lot of times in your life. Like, oh yeah, this person's going to gonna be my life forever, but people change and we grow and we evolve and you outgrow friends and friends outgrow you
Starting point is 00:34:29 and things happen. And I think that the thing with friendships is you have to be in the moment with it. I mean, obviously it's nice to think about your future with this friendship, you know, or that friendship. It's fun to think about, oh, I can't wait to have this person at my wedding. I can't wait to, you know, or that friendship. It's fun to think about, oh, I can't wait to have this person at my wedding, I can't wait to, you know, raise my kids
Starting point is 00:34:50 and have this person like down the road and we can like whatever, it's fun to think about those things for sure, but I think that you just have to live in the moment with the person. So if somebody's a good person in your life now, I think we focus on that. We focus on, you know, how they're treating you now if they're being a good friend now.
Starting point is 00:35:11 And then, you know, we can always hope that it'll last. But it doesn't really matter because as long as it's working right now and they're a good friend, then fuck it. And that goes for relationships too. I mean, I know that it's really scary sometimes even when you care about somebody so much and you love your friends or the person
Starting point is 00:35:34 you're in a relationship with so much and you're like, oh my God, I can't imagine my life without them. And that can create a lot of anxiety. But the thing that you just have to be like, listen, they're working in my life right now. We have an amazing relationship right now. I'm not gonna sabotage this by thinking about the future.
Starting point is 00:35:52 Nothing about the future is promised. We don't know what the fuck's gonna happen tomorrow, ever we just have to live in the now and appreciate the people that we have in our lives right now that make us happy. And that's the fucking tea. Somebody said I've been struggling with anxiety for the past two months and for me, it's really hard to open up to other people about it. Do you have any advice on how I can open
Starting point is 00:36:13 myself up and not feel bad or guilty after I do it? Listen, never feel guilty about venting. Never feel guilty about venting. Okay, nothing to feel guilty about. Imagine this, your friend comes up to you and tells you that they're struggling with anxiety and that they feel really shitty and they start kind of confiding in you about it. How are you gonna feel? Are you gonna be frustrated or annoyed?
Starting point is 00:36:39 No, the fuck? And if they, if like you did, then that's something you need to reflect on, because that's not good. And I can tell that you wouldn't feel that way. Just based on the way that you wrote your message. I mean, like, you have to understand, people are not that selfish.
Starting point is 00:36:57 I mean, there are a lot of selfish people, but even the most selfish people would probably hear you out and try to help. Don't feel bad, don't feel guilty. We're all in this planet together. We're all working together, okay? And we also only live this life once. We're all just trying to make this shit as good as it can be.
Starting point is 00:37:16 I think that we're all on each other's team. So try to remember that. And just kind of push your discomfort aside and be honest. Find somebody that you feel comfortable with, find somebody who you feel is nurturing, and just let it go and let it out. Somebody said, if you could be in any place right now,
Starting point is 00:37:36 where could it be? I would be in Paris for sure. Europe, Paris, Italy, something, I just wanna go to Europe really bad, although I don't wanna sit on the fucking plane. So yeah, I'd go to Paris, Italy, something I just like want to go to Europe really bad, although I don't want to sit on the fucking plane, so Yeah, I'd go to Paris, but like teleport vibes. I don't really want to be on the plane for that long Oh, this is a really interesting question that I just got from two guys Somebody said let's say I'm walking behind a girl late at night on a quiet street or something.
Starting point is 00:38:06 What can you say to show her that you're not a threat? I feel bad because I don't want her to be scared or think I'm trying to kidnap her. And then another guy said, L.O. this point, I either crossed the road or walked past them so I'm in front. I think that's really great. I, and really, really sweet that you think like that, you know, because I do think that, you know, I mean, as a, as a human being in general, I mean, walking at night and shit like that is scary,
Starting point is 00:38:35 you never know, but I think especially as a girl, you know, it can be frightening and especially right now where we're starting to learn about all of the things that go on in this world that are so fucking terrifying. You know, with people getting kidnapped and stuff like that. And I think that it's a really important time to As a woman, you know, be fucking on your A game. And I think that a lot of girls do get worried about somebody falling them, even if it's totally innocent. And so I think I don't think you even need to say anything. I think the whole crossing the street thing is great, just crossing the street and trying to get ahead of them.
Starting point is 00:39:14 I think that that would definitely ease their mind. I know that for me, when I felt like I was being followed, when they've gotten in front of me, I was like, oh, we're good, we're totally good. And I was like I was being followed, when they've gotten in front of me, I was like, oh, we're good, we're totally good. And I was like, totally fine, because it just showed that they're not watching, like they're going on their own way. They're not, they don't care about where I'm going.
Starting point is 00:39:35 You know, I remember one night, I was in New York, and I was on the phone, and I was walking around, and I was walking around my hotel in circles during winter, actually. And I was talking to my parents and some guy followed me in the circle because I was walking in a circle. I wasn't, I had no end destination. Okay, and this guy followed me in a circle the whole time until I went back into my hotel. I mean, and it was fine because he didn't do anything,
Starting point is 00:40:06 but it was fucking frightening, like, for sure. And I don't know, maybe he was just going for a walk, too. Maybe we were on the same page. Doubt it, but I mean, that's a crazy coincidence. I walked around the building probably 15 times. But if he would have, like, sped up in front of me, I would have not given a fuck. I would have been like, oh, we're good.
Starting point is 00:40:28 But I also think that that is, you know, that's an important thing to talk about in general. I think that, you know, keeping an eye out and being wary, you can never be too careful, you know what I mean, ladies. I mean, and guys too, I mean, who knows? Anything like this can pertain to anybody Just watching your back at all times, you know, and there's something to be said for that so just like
Starting point is 00:40:53 Staying aware of your surroundings and being smart you can always go into a store. You can always go into a restaurant You could knock on someone's door even if you really feel like you're in danger. I mean, there's so many, so many options. Not always, but if something like that's happening to you, you know, just be wary. You know, be wary out there. Be careful, everybody. And, and dudes, it's really respectful of you guys to think like that and do that. So I really appreciate you thinking about that. Somebody just asked me what my favorite hairstyle I've had. Y'all, I'm loving the blonde. like that and do that. So I really appreciate you thinking about that.
Starting point is 00:41:25 Somebody just asked me what my favorite hairstyle I've had. Y'all, I'm loving the blonde. I never want to be brunette again. I'm sorry guys. I'm sorry I ever doubted you. Everybody always told me like, I mean, you need to be blonde. You need to be blonde. You need to be blonde. We want blonde Emma back. And I was like, no. And then now I'm blonde again. And I'm like, wait, I get it. I get it. I love being blonde. And I also love my hair length right now because it's not too long not too short period Okay, so somebody said I'm in high school and all of my friends are super boy crazy, but I'm not I
Starting point is 00:41:54 Just feel like I don't want to waste my time Worrying about some shallow guys who aren't people I see myself with in the long run anyway But they think I'm weird for not wanting a boyfriend thoughts y'all Wow, okay, you are really, really 10 steps ahead because in high school, I knew deep down that like the guys that I was dealing with were like, you know, not for me long term, like I'm definitely somebody who I think I'm more into. A lot of the guys in high school that I was interested in, they're all like sporty dudes. And I'm not saying that that I don't wanna put anybody
Starting point is 00:42:33 in a box or anything, I don't wanna stereotype, but I kinda knew deep down that that wasn't really my type. You know what I mean? But I was kinda like, that was kinda what was available. So it was like, you kinda work I mean? But I was kind of like, that was kind of what was available. So it was like, you kind of work with what you have when you're at school. And those people are sometimes not for you, you know what I mean? I never out of my friend in high school.
Starting point is 00:42:55 I didn't really, I tried to like, I mean, I like would have little talking phases with guys, but I never like dated guys in high school. I was more of a friend zone girl, to be honest, which is fine in retrospect. No regrets, who knows what type of fucking mental damage I would have experienced from dating somebody in high school. I don't know, don't wanna know, but anyway. I think that stay true to yourself.
Starting point is 00:43:23 And honestly, it kind of sounds like you need new friends because it kind of sounds like your friends are not on the same page as you and you're really, really 10 steps ahead. I mean, I wasn't even there yet. I was still trying to like make the guys work and I was still kind of boy crazy even though I didn't really like these guys that much
Starting point is 00:43:42 because I knew that they weren't up my alley really. But, I mean, no shit to them like that's they Whatever but they you know, I was trying to make something work I was trying to make a puzzle piece fit that didn't fit and I think you're one step ahead Just knowing that it's a waste of time because it totally is So I think you just tell them y'all I don't want to waste my time. This is not my type these guys are not my type I don't care. I'm gonna find a a guy that's more of my Allie in college or when I, you know, work here or whatever.
Starting point is 00:44:11 So y'all can mind your business. Thanks. Oh my god, I can't believe somebody said, are you going to make music one day? No, god, no. I leave the music to the musicians that I fuck with and then I listen to their music, sing it in the car and then call it a day. The thing is, I don't know how to, like I wouldn't even know how to write music, the fuck.
Starting point is 00:44:34 I mean, I had a freestyle rapping phase with my friends that was so embarrassing. We were literally, we would freestyle on the car for hours and it was so funny but it was also like really cringey in retrospect, at least on end. I mean my friends were you know spitting and I appreciate it but I mean for me I just was probably so cringey. And that was fun and all. And I mean don't get me wrong the adrenaline rush when I would come up with something good was really fucking awesome but I'm gonna keep it to free styling with my friends once every blue moon and listening to music and singing it in my car by myself. Sorry.
Starting point is 00:45:17 Somebody said what's your favorite vegetable? Y'all, let's talk about it. Definitely, I have a lot. Surprisingly, I like cauliflower when it's cooked right. So like, if it's kind of like, I like when you put batter of some sort on cauliflower and then you turn into like a chicken wing. That's really good.
Starting point is 00:45:48 I also like broccoli a lot if it's cooked right. I also like kale a lot again if it's like the right kind of kale and it's like all the stems are cut out. I like kale sometimes. I like butter lettuce. Yeah. I like corn but I don't know that that's a grain sin, everyone. Sorry, I like butter lettuce. Yeah. I like corn, but I don't know if that's a grain sin, everyone. Sorry, I'm fucking dumb. Hopefully that helped. I don't know. Somebody said,
Starting point is 00:46:12 have you ever physically fought someone? No, interesting question. I am not a fighter. I am a lover. I really am. Although I did, I did try to start a pillow fight yesterday with my friends. That was probably the closest I've ever got to a fight, to be honest. But I actually hate, I don't like that shit. I don't even like pillow fights. I was lightly hitting everyone because I like don't, okay, so I've had friends before
Starting point is 00:46:38 that were really violent. You know what I mean? Do you guys ever have friends where they just will pat you on the back, but they'll fucking fully five star you on the back? Or they'll be like, pillow fighting and then they'll hit you in the head really hard until you're almost, can cussed?
Starting point is 00:46:52 Like, I am not like that. I like to be gentle. I don't see the need for that. I also don't like when people jump scare me, like jump out and scare me. Like, fuck that. No, no, no, no, no. None of that for Emma at all. jump scare me, like jump out and scare me, like fuck that. No, no, no, no, no.
Starting point is 00:47:08 None of that for Emma at all. I don't really think that any of that shit's fun, but some people do, so I mean, more power to you and enjoy yourself, but not for me. Somebody said, wait, wow, y'all fucking predicted something. Another collab, sorry, collab. Someone said another collab with wildflower cases in the future, maybe. I'm not gonna answer this, but I'm just gonna say that I wouldn't read it if it wasn't an important question. Do what you want with
Starting point is 00:47:33 that. Somebody said, do you think you were born in the right era if not what era? You know what? Yes, I do think I was born in the right era. For sure, because, okay, listen, a lot of people are always like, oh, I was born in the wrong era. You know what because, okay, listen, a lot of people are always like, oh, I was born in the wrong era. You know what, we don't know shit about what it would've been like to live in that era. I'm sorry, we romanticize different eras. Don't get me wrong, I'm obsessed with 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s,
Starting point is 00:47:57 90s, early 2000s fashion. I love the fashion, I love hearing stories from people who live through those times. I love the movies, the aesthetic of all of it. Don't get me wrong, very awesome. Appreciate it so much, but I like that I get to appreciate it as somebody who didn't live it. I don't think I'm living in the wrong generation.
Starting point is 00:48:19 I'm placed on this earth right now, to live right now, and I wouldn't want it any other way. I think people romanticize these times, right? Like, you know, I talked to my dad about like the 80s, for example, and yeah, it sounds like it was pretty fun, but like, you know, based on his story, it's like there was also shit that was not fun at all, and there were things that people don't maybe talk about that were
Starting point is 00:48:45 shitty about it. And also, I wouldn't be living the life I live remotely at all if I didn't live right now. It's the first time in history that this is a possibility for a life, you know, on the internet. Like, and I really do love it. And I wouldn't want it any other way. So no, I appreciate other eras, but I do not think I was born in the wrong era. And I think that a lot of people say that. And I even used to think that, but I don't think that we know enough as kids to say that. You know what I mean? Anyway, it's not that deep, but I mean, maybe some of us were born in the wrong era,
Starting point is 00:49:21 but I personally wouldn't want to be born in 1810 when I had to Brush my teeth with a rock like I just that doesn't sound fun to me. So anyway Somebody said which celebrities would you choose if you had to survive on an island? Name three explain why number one hairy styles for no other reason besides the fact that I feel like He has a really good luck and is like really like he would almost be on the island for a good luck charm. I feel like he does everything perfectly so I feel like if I was like Harry start a fire, he would like snap his fingers in the fire would start. If I was like Harry, I really want to roast some hot dogs vegan hot dogs
Starting point is 00:49:59 over the fire right now. I wish we had those two bad we only have like nuts and seeds. He would snap his fingers and he would have hot dogs in his hand. See what I'm saying here? Harry Styles would be the fucking, the magic token to making this fun. If I was like Harry Styles, uh, like I really need some sunscreen.
Starting point is 00:50:14 I'm getting really sunburned. He'd snap his fingers. Sunscreen. Boom. So I just would use him for that. Next one would be. But next one would be... I feel like I'd need somebody funny on the island that would like make me laugh so that I could kind of like to kind of lift the spirits.
Starting point is 00:50:34 Like I'm trying to think about somebody who would lift the spirits. Okay, so... The next celebrity I think I would have on the island would be Joe, I don't know his name, Joe Kinney or something. The guy who's the voice of SpongeBob, he's a comedian probably because he does SpongeBob but also I would just kind of want him to hide behind a tree or hide in a tree or something and just talk to me and SpongeBob boys. While I couldn't see him, and if that makes sense, so that I could imagine that I was
Starting point is 00:51:10 like in bikini pond. The way he just said that was crazy. Leave that in. So that I could imagine that I was in bikini bottom. It would like make it more fun, right? Like it would, okay, we're stranded on a desert island. This is deserted island, desert island. I'm literally losing it.
Starting point is 00:51:29 I need to fucking turn this straight off. I'm like slurring my words. Did I get drunk from my coffee? I don't understand. I didn't, like, I don't. Shameling coffee goes crazy, making me, making me not be able to fucking say words correctly. Anyway, I would want the voice of SpongeBob, dude,
Starting point is 00:51:48 Joe Kinney, I think that's his name, to be sitting up in a tree somewhere and just constantly having dialogue with himself in SpongeBob voice, just as kind of entertainment. Also to kind of set the tone in the mood of the island, Bikini Bottom vibes, it would be fun to have them there. I Also feel like I get the vibe that he can cook. I don't know why but I feel like he can I also feel like If you spend that many years doing a SpongeBob boys, there's no way that you're not kind of going insane
Starting point is 00:52:18 So he probably has some violence. He wants to get out Which I think could be helpful when I need him to chop down a tree. Like he could probably chop down a tree in like two hits with an axe because he's been doing SpongeBob voice for so long that he's probably exploding with anger. Like there's probably a lot of pent up anger. I don't know. I'd love to have a conversation with him about it, but we can discuss that when we're on the island.
Starting point is 00:52:42 Yeah, I feel like he's necessary. Last but not least, I would probably have Margot Robbie just because I want to be her best friend for some reason. And she's just so beautiful, so I just love her. So I'd probably have her on there. And then just for like, girl time, so that I can be like, I can tell her a bunch of stories, she can tell me stories, and we can just bond.
Starting point is 00:53:06 So like, while Joe Kinney is cutting down the tree, while making SpongeBob voices, and then we got Harry Styles floating or something in the air, like, levitating or something. Me and Margot are just like, getting our tan on on the beach, chilling and talking about boys. Sounds like a dream Anyway, I'm done with this episode. Um, I hope you guys had fun hanging out with me today. I had fun
Starting point is 00:53:34 I love you all so much and I really appreciate you guys Thank you for coming back every week if you do that I don't know this could be your first episode Thank you guys for listening in general. Um, if you got to this point. Don't know why you would I don't even remember the last hundred things I said I blocked out so oh my god I have to for it don't listen oh no I hope you didn't hear that all right guys I love you all bye guys well Bye guys! Muah!

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