anything goes with emma chamberlain - put your phone down
Episode Date: August 6, 2020Emma’s been off her phone for a while and feeling GREAT. Why it’s really helped with her anxiety and how it may help us all, too. Plus, insights into a new project (or two!) she’s working on, th...oughts on TikTok potentially shutting down, how to deal with cheaters in relationships, and the three celebrities she’d want to be stranded on an island with. And is the blonde hair here to stay?? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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Hi guys, welcome back to anything goes.
How are you all?
I'm actually in a really good headspace right now.
Oh my god, what?
Like, what the fuck is going on?
Emma's not recording the day after a full panic attack.
Like, this is insane.
My anxiety has been great.
I've been doing really good.
And I actually think I know why. And so I'm gonna get into that in today's episode.
Just kind of this journey I've had over the past week
that's ended up leading me to less anxiety.
So I'll get into that later, but first I wanna talk
about a dream I had last night
because I think it's fucking funny.
So basically last, I've been having vivid dreams.
Okay, I don't know what it means.
And there's like specific people in it every time.
They're not reoccurring dreams, but it's like, it's weird.
I'm not wanting to remember my dreams,
but recently I've been having them all the time.
And there's actually a study that came out
that said that nobody cares about your dreams,
like biologically, like our brains cannot get excited about a dream because it didn't
really happen.
So like, your brain literally cannot care about dreams.
So I'm not going to like tell you about my dreams because literally science told me
that no one cares about them.
I mean, it's kind of true.
I feel like if somebody tells me their dream,
like what do I do with that at all?
It didn't actually happen, and I didn't experience it.
So how am I supposed to care about it?
Anyway, it's really true, but I did have a dream last night
that I got cheated on, and I did have a dream last night that I got cheated on.
And I've never had a dream like that.
And I woke up this morning and I was fucking livid.
I was livid about it.
And I literally texted this person and I was like, you cheated on me in my dream.
And I'm actually mad at you a little bit. Because the thing that's crazy about it is that I had to like see the whole me in my dream. And I'm actually mad at you a little bit.
Because the thing that's crazy about it
is that I had to see the whole thing in my dream.
But yet, it did not actually happen,
but it still traumatized me.
So anyway, I genuinely was angry at this person
for probably like five minutes.
Like, once I woke up, I was literally mad.
Like, as if they had done it.
And it took me a second to realize,
oh, wait, they didn't actually do that.
So anyway, I don't know why that is,
but like, I'm still like,
it's weird how it dreams.
If something fucked up happens,
yes, it was a dream and all,
but you feel that emotion still.
It almost shows you what it would feel
like if that actually happened.
In my dream, I was like fucking screaming and so mad.
And it was like, I actually lived that.
I didn't, but I did.
So it's weird.
It's weird when that happens.
But anyway, I've had so many dreams like that.
People getting hurt or me getting hurt or something. And then
like the next morning, I'm fucking, oh, wrecked because I just lived that, but no one else
did. And you're just like, in your own thing, speaking of dreaming, I've been seeing all
these TikToks about all this stuff about dreaming with other people. And now you can like
enter the astral plane and like join other dreams with other people. I don't know what the
fuck that means. But basically, some people say that you can meet dreams with other people. I don't know what the fuck that means, but basically some people say that you can meet up
with other people in your dreams.
Anyway, I hope I didn't accidentally meet up
with the person who cheated on me in my dream.
On the astral plane, I really am praying
that that didn't happen.
But anyway, I think that you have to set that up
or something to make that happen.
So I'm feeling pretty hopeful that this was just my own imagination.
Still angry about it though.
Okay, so moving on to other things.
So basically I have barely been on my phone for the past week.
And it's just because I was really busy
and I think I hadn't been busy in a really long time
because quarantine were locked in.
I mean, 90% of the time I'm at home.
I mean, so I have a lot of time to go on my phone
and there's only so many things you can do in a day.
I try to work out, try to cook here and there,
you know, whatever, but then like, at a certain point, I'm, I'm laying in bed on TikTok on my heating pad.
Like, that's my resting position at all times.
So, been on my phone a lot, but things are kind of starting to pick back up.
And so I've actually been busy.
Um, for example, it was my friend's birthday, Olivia, my friend Olivia's
birthday, she turned 21. And so we did little activities for her birthday and
stuff like that, which was really great. Super distracting. Wasn't on my phone the
whole time. And then after that, I did a shoot for three days. Each day was like 10 to 12 hours
for this little project thing that I'm doing.
I can't, I don't know if I'm allowed to talk about it.
You guys will see it eventually.
It's not, I hate when people are like,
oh, I did this project, but I mean, I did.
So whatever, but I was on this set, it's not a movie.
Okay, that's a spoiler alert.
I did not do a movie. Okay, that's a spoiler alert. I did not do a movie.
I will never do a movie, ever.
So anyway, I was on this set for literally 10 to 12 hours a day,
so I was not on my phone.
Like I literally couldn't be on my phone.
Like I had no breaks.
Like I mean, I'd have little breaks,
but I mean, I was like focusing on eating,
drinking my coffee, and like talking to my parents
or my friends, like I was going on social media.
So I barely went on social media at all
for about five days.
And when I tell you guys that I've never felt better,
it is not an understatement. Like I truly have never felt better, it is not an understatement.
Like I truly have never felt better.
I didn't realize it until today,
when I was like done shooting and like today,
I'm like, I have kind of a free day
so I can do whatever I want.
Like my anxiety is just down.
Like I have no anxiety right now.
I mean, obviously anxiety is always kind of in the back of my throat in a way
That's just like how life is but it's barely there. I'm barely anxious. I
feel so calm
Like you know when you're anxious and your chest feels all tight and like your body feels all tight and whatever
That is gone for me and I almost live in that state constantly.
I'm almost always anxious.
So to feel none of it is insane.
And honestly, I think it's because I haven't been going
on my fucking phone.
I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm texting people, calling people,
I'm watching cooking videos and stuff like that.
But I'm not going on Twitter and I'm not going on Instagram.
And it's been really,
really amazing. I mean, seriously, and I think that this was a huge learning lesson, not to mention even before this kind of week of no phone, I was also like, I started going to the beach a lot more
and like, you know, swimming in the ocean a lot more. And honestly,
like what it's done for me has, I mean, it's been so amazing. I really, really encourage
you guys to do something. I don't go on your phone for a little bit. I normally, I know
people say that all the time and I get it, but I just feel so passionate about it right now
because I just got off of a week of barely going on it.
And now I don't even wanna go on it anymore.
I mean, I definitely have a severe addiction to my phone.
Don't get me wrong, like I do.
But I feel like I kinda broke it this week.
And I also realized that everything that goes on the internet,
yes, don't give me wrong, like it is a part of my life
and everybody's life and it definitely is in a sense real life.
But it also is not as, it's not as big of a deal
as it seems when you're on it all the time.
I just got this feeling in my head that like the internet was like the end all be all.
Like this is like everything that happens on the internet is a big deal.
Everything that somebody says about me is a big deal.
It's so easy to fall into that when you're on it all the time and you don't have a life
outside of it. But like the life that we all could have and
can have and do have outside of our phones is actually so much better and it really helps. And then
when you have to go back on your phone, you're in such a stronger mindset to deal with it, deal with
all of the punches that are thrown out
you. And so I don't know. I mean, I know that this is white noise. People fucking
say this all the time. Like, my parents are always like, am I swear to God, your
anxiety would be so much better. You just got off your phone. and I Would listen to them, but I was also like I'd do what I like, you know what I mean?
so then I
Just like wouldn't I mean I would listen, but I like I
Wouldn't put it into action like I would always be like I would almost kind of not humor them because that's kind of like not what I'm
That's not what I'm saying, but I would I
Wouldn't do it. I'd be like yeah, you're right, but then I wouldn't do it.
Well now I'm like, fuck that.
I'm not going to go on my phone as much anymore, like permanently.
It's almost like changing an element of your lifestyle.
If you're like, okay, I'm going to start exercising a little bit more and that's a goal
for you, right?
Cause that's something that you know
will make you feel really good
and it will keep you healthy and happy, et cetera.
And then it becomes a goal for you.
My new goal like that is getting the fuck off my phone
and not going on it as much.
I don't wanna read through things anymore.
I don't wanna read through Twitter.
I don't wanna go on TikTok and read through comments like I don't wanna to read through things anymore. I don't want to read through Twitter. I don't want to go on TikTok and read through comments.
Like, I don't want to see that right now,
because that shit makes me really anxious.
And so I'm ready to just kind of like enjoy social media,
the good parts of it, which is posting,
seeing a few nice comments here and there,
seeing a few nice tweets, and stuff like that,
and then going off of it.
And I know that that may seem like not smart for me
because it's like, oh, am I you social media?
It's like what you do or whatever.
I don't care.
Like this shit is not good for my brain.
And when I'm not on it, I'm a lot better of a person
and my whole entire life is gonna improve from that so
That's that also working is gonna be easier for me like you know if I'm going on my phone all the time
I just get so drained mentally that when it's time to like turn on a camera
I'm just like bummed because I'd been on my phone too much and I'm thinking about shit too much
And I start to forget about what's really important, which is like loving people and being passionate
about what I do in life.
You know what I mean?
And that's it.
So, ah yeah, done with that topic, but just had to share.
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Sometimes you have to,
sometimes you drink your coffee and things happen.
You know what I mean?
You guys get it.
I also realized something, so I was shooting this project for the past three days.
So it was three days of shooting every day for like 10 to 12 hours.
And I have quickly realized that I never would ever, even if it was my passion being an actor.
Okay.
I even if I was like the best, even if for some reason I'm not spoiler alert, but being
on a set is not something that I think is for me.
I am not good at working for a long time.
Like I need a lot of breaks when I'm in front of a camera. You know what I mean? I can't be in front of a camera for a really long time. Like I need a lot of breaks when I'm in front of a camera.
You know what I mean?
I can't be in front of a camera for a really long time.
And that's something that I did this past few days.
And like I just get burnt out for some reason.
Which is why I think YouTube is so perfect for me
because I just can't, like it's up to me, you know,
I'm my own director and my own producer
and I'm my own videographer. So like it's all up to me and you know, I'm my own director, my own producer, and I'm my own videographer.
So it's all up to me, and I get to choose,
like, you know what?
I'm kind of tired right now.
I'm gonna film in an hour.
Like, there's so much flexibility in that.
And when you're an actor, there's none of it.
So I learned that shit real quick.
I mean, don't get me wrong.
I loved filming this project,
and I'm really excited about it, but I also now know that I
will never be an actor.
So if any of you guys were, you know, wondering, oh, I wonder if Emma's ever gonna try to be an
actor.
I know I've said multiple times before that I would never do that, but now you know for
sure it is not going to happen and I never would.
So yeah, another thing I want to talk about is TikTok shutting down. So apparently TikTok shutting down. Here's my thoughts.
Listen, I feel this, I'm very mixed. I've mixed emotions on this topic.
I've mixed emotions on this topic.
Here's a thing. Like, I like to talk a lot, I go on it a lot,
and I don't feel like it's the most negative platform.
Like, I think it's usually kind of fun.
I don't, it does, like, okay, so,
like Twitter and Instagram can be pretty toxic,
I would say.
They can get toxic pretty quick,
but TikTok, not as much for me
because I'm just scrolling through my for you page
and like watching videos that are random and weird
and like, I love watching all the cooking,
TikToks and all of that.
So, I feel like I use TikTok as more of an entertainment platform
so I don't like meaning for me.
Like I use that platform as a viewer more than I,
I don't really use it as a poster as much.
I mean, don't give me wrong.
I post tiktoks here and there,
but like it's not something that I am super concerned with
all the time. Like it's not like, oh, I need to post a TikTok soon something that I am super concerned with.
All the time, it's not like, oh, I need to pose a TikTok soon
because I haven't been on there in a while.
It's not like that, I just follow my gut with that.
I'm like, I don't care.
There's no pressure.
And I use it as entertainment for myself
because I like watching them.
I'm sad to see all the cooking TikTokers go,
but I also think that they will be on YouTube
and I can just watch them there.
You know what I mean?
Most of the stuff that I enjoy watching on there
could easily be on YouTube.
So I think that my entertainment will continue
from those people that I love so much.
When it comes to like all the funny shit,
I'm going to be sad because it is funny.
Like I definitely get some good laughs out of it.
I mean, I will belly laugh at a fucking TikTok,
and that brings me joy for sure.
So that's kind of sad, but I mean,
I also think that it's not good for my attention span
because everything about it moves so fast
that I feel like my attention spans awful, no?
So there's that.
So I mean, I'm not super hard-broken about it going,
but also like, if it stays, I'm gonna be kinda happy.
You know what I mean?
But if it went, I would also be okay.
Like I'm not super sad about it.
But I just think it's crazy how like
there's so many parallels with the Vine era
and the TikTok era.
I mean, it was like with Vine, it was the exact same thing.
It was like a bunch of people blew up on Vine.
Then like, you know, there was a bunch of groups
that were made, there was houses that were made,
X, Y, and Z, and then, you know, it shut down.
And then everybody went to YouTube.
And then that was fun.
There was beef.
There was everything.
It was a time to be alive.
And then that all kind of chilled out a little bit.
And then TikTok came along.
And it's just like the new generation of that. And it's just crazy to see history repeat itself. So I wouldn't be surprised if
there was a new TikTok that's even better in, say, five years. I mean, I wouldn't be
surprised if something new happened. Or if somebody made like some company made like a
new TikTok, I don't know. I mean, we'll see, I guess it's kind of scary.
Like, I guess they're sealing our information or something,
but literally the only thing that you can still
from me is fucking photos in my camera roll
of me crying all the time.
Although I haven't cried in a while, except for happy tears.
Randomly, I never used to cry when I was happy,
but the other day I was like talking
to my parents about something. And I was like so happy about it. I started crying and I was
like, Emma, what the fuck are you doing? Like, hello? You don't show emotion or weakness.
What are you doing right now? I only show emotion or weakness when I'm sad, but like me
showing emotion or weakness about something that I'm happy about couldn't be me.
I don't know what I'm going through, but I literally like never ever cry about something I'm happy about.
Like that just, I honestly hate showing weakness and I feel like being happy about something is being weak, which is not true at all.
So please don't think of that's advice,
like that is not true.
But my brain is weirdly wired like that.
I feel like being excited or happy about something
makes me weak.
So that's just something I need to work on
with the therapist I don't have,
because that's not good.
Like when I'm happy about something or excited about something,
I should be able to fucking cry about it and scream about it as much as I want and I should be happy that I'm feeling that way,
but yet I literally will cry of happiness about something and be like, you're a little bitch to myself
in the mirror. I will go to the mirror and bang on and pound on it and be like, you are a little pussy.
bang on and pound on and be like you are a little pussy grow up but
Maybe that means that things aren't so bad after all I feel like
This year started out for me really shitty
but And there was a lot of shitty moments throughout it too, but I
also think that
This was probably one of the most transformative years of my life.
And I think a lot of you can probably say the same.
It was one of the weirdest years ever.
And you know, things will go back to normal eventually and we will all be okay.
But I don't know, it's interesting how like crazy this year has been and I like me like crying about being happy
is like a very new thing, you know?
That's weird, but I'm very happy about it.
I am very happy about it.
I also am on my period right now.
I, okay, I was having this problem
where I was getting my period twice a month
and it's finally settled down.
I think it's because I'm off-acutane now.
And so now I have regular periods, but it's back.
So you guys probably haven't heard me talk about my period in a while. It's because it's
back to normal, but it's here now. So got the cramps going on and I'm going to the beach
today and I'm like bleeding and I'm like, how the fuck do I handle this? Do I like, what do I, okay, POV for a second,
a little POV here.
POV, I'm at the beach, I'm wearing a bathing suit,
I'm running into the ocean, and my tampon string falls out.
Honestly, POV, what do I do?
I'm kind of anxious about it, but I need to get in the ocean
because it makes me feel good,
even though it's freezing here,
which I didn't realize.
Like last year I went to the beach a bunch of times
and it wasn't that cold,
but for some reason I'm literally in a lot of pain
when I go in now.
I don't know why that is.
I don't know if the ocean's colder or randomly this year or something.
Does that happen, guys? I'm not that smart. I mean, I am okay smart, but not really a very smart,
all the wallways. So yeah. Anyway, I think I'm done talking about the things that I had planned in my
head. I kind of feel like I'm easing into this podcast in a sense where I, you know, don't get me
wrong, if like a topic comes up that's pressing for me, I will address it, but I think that,
sorry, I'm putting my blanket on, but I think that, you know, I've talked about so many
things and kind of given my two cents on so many things. Those episodes are going to be great to look back on and, you know, I've talked about so many things and kind of given my two cents on so many things.
Those episodes are gonna be great to look back on
and, you know, when my views on those things change
or I gain more insight on more things,
I will bring those up, but I think for now,
it's just kind of fun to sit and chill with y'all
and whatever and talk about shit that's not as emotional,
I guess, but I'm ready to answer some questions.
So let's see what you guys are asking.
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Somebody said favorite song at the moment don't think just go. You know, I'm I'm put you all on I
Mean my summer I'm listening to my summer 2020 playlist on Spotify. My username is Emma Chambie.
I think it's like one of the only Snapchat in Spotify are the only ones left that still
have Emma Chambie, which is the username that I thought was genius and hilarious when
I was in fifth grade.
Turns out bad news.
Emma Chambie is not funny, hilarious, or quirky at all.
And I know that the internet loves to call me quirky.
It's very fun for them, but newsflash, I am not quirky.
So grow up.
Anyway, I'm gonna give you guys a few songs.
The Dulls are Talking by the Strokes is really good.
I'm obsessed with that song right now.
Middle of somewhere by the neighborhood is really good. Lava by Still Woosey is not a new
song but I kind of just rediscovered it and I really love it. And politics and
violence by Dominic Feich, I really like all those right now. There's a lot more
on my summer 2020 playlist. If you want to check it out that are really good.
Somebody said with all this COVID going on, I'm having constant thoughts of regret
because I think I could have done so many things last year, but because of being sad,
now I feel like I've wasted a lot of time and that's stressing me out.
Does that ever happen to you? So I think I'm gonna sum this question up and kind of
rewrite it too. Do you ever feel like you wasted time being sad?
Okay, like probably yes, like I definitely think I've wasted time.
Well, no, I do not know.
I have not wasted time being sad
because every time I've ever been sad in my life,
I've learned millions and trillions of things.
And you might not even realize
that you were learning things whilst you were sad,
but I can guarantee that the person you are now wouldn't be the same without that.
Okay.
You being sad and you having those struggles made you who you are.
And I don't think you'd be able to appreciate life in the same way without that experience.
I don't think that anything is a waste of time. Nothing in life is a waste of time, okay?
As long as you turn it around and you learn something
from it, it's not a waste of time.
If you just don't learn anything and you fucking
are close-minded and whatever and you like
continue doing the things that you're doing
that are making you unhappy,
or you continue, you know, you get what I'm saying.
Like, I mean, obviously being sad and stuff,
that's not up to you.
I mean, you can't choose, like,
if you're, you know, struggling with your mental health.
I mean, that's like not something you can change.
You can take the right steps to help,
but I mean, there's more to that, you know, it's more complicated,
but so that's definitely not a waste of time,
because you're gonna learn something from that,
no matter what, but I'm more saying like,
if you feel like you wasted your time doing anything in general,
like let's say you were in a relationship that was not good,
or let's say you went to college,
and then you ended up not using your college diploma for your job
and you now feel like that was a waste of time. None of that was a waste of time.
Because you learn things from that and you experience things from that and that's a beautiful thing.
There's nothing to regret about that. So all we have is right now and all we can do is make the
most of right now. You can't dwell on what you should have done could have done.
What's that going to do for you? That's just going to make you miserable. If you
think, you know what, it would have been so fun if I wouldn't have been
struggling, you know, last year, I would have done so fun if I wouldn't have been struggling, you know, last year.
I would have done so many more things if I would have known.
Well, guess what you know now.
And you can make today an amazing day.
And when this whole COVID thing is over, you're going to live life to the fullest because
let me tell you, I think we're all going to me tell you I think we're all gonna appreciate it
I think we're all gonna appreciate it in a new way once we can finally do all of that again, so
Don't regret it. Please
Somebody said my ex wanted to meet me a couple times, but I said no
The last time he asked me he was being so nice and I agreed
But now I feel like I miss him. What do I do? He cheated on me multiple times, by the way. Okay, listen, we don't fuck with the cheater.
We don't do that because the thing is there's seven billion people on this planet, and I
can guarantee that there's somebody out there that won't cheat on you.
Guaranteed, 100%.
There's somebody out there in this world that wouldn't cheat on you.
So why the fuck are we gonna waste time with one person that fucked you over?
Cheaters don't, I don't believe that they changed to be honest.
Once a cheater always a cheater, I do kind of believe that.
I mean, I don't know.
I just like, I think that people who cheat are maybe wired in a different way.
And I mean, don't get me wrong.
I think that people can learn and grow.
They can change.
I don't think that, like let's say you're dating somebody
who's cheated on someone else before.
I think that there's a decent chance
that that person might not cheat on you.
They might have learned from that experience
and been like, fuck, I'm never doing that again,
or they were just in the wrong relationship.
But if someone cheats on you,
that kind of makes me feel like
the connection between you two wasn't right
because that person wasn't scared enough to lose you
when you guys were together.
They didn't value you enough.
Like when you're dating the right person, the
thought of cheating on them and then them finding out and leaving you should be terrifying.
If you're with the right person, which would make you not want to cheat on them. Also,
when you have the right connection with somebody, you don't have eyes for anyone else, especially
when you're young. I think when you get older and you've been with somebody for a long
time, you know, things can change and things can be different. But when you're young. I think when you get older and you've been with somebody for a long time, you know, things can change and things can be different, but when you're young in shit, there's no
reason to waste your time with the cheater. When they cheated on you, I'm saying. Obviously, if you
find somebody new, it's really cool, and you guys have a great connection and they've cheated on
somebody before. I mean, I don't really believe in judging somebody for their past necessarily. I
feel like you kind kinda have to judge them
for who they are to you, you know what I mean?
So that's a different thing,
but because this man has cheated on you before,
I say we say fuck him and we do not,
not actually or literally I mean metaphorically,
we are not messing with this guy.
There are seven billion people, find a new one,
moving on, thoughts on guacamole.
I used to be really scared of guacamole,
still kind of am for some reason,
but ever since I started eating avocado toast,
I kind of realized, okay, well guacamole is literally the same.
And the seasoning in it is really good.
So definitely into guacamole,
but I'm not a huge fan of tomato or onion.
And those are two ingredients
that are commonly used in guacamole. So I mean,
I'm on the fence. I mean, I don't love every guacamole, but they're definitely some
good ones. Next, somebody said, what did you have for breakfast? I had Chamberlain coffee,
Chamberlain coffee. And I had eggs in avocado. And that was kind of a little starter meal, but I'm probably going to, it's still
the morning right now, but I think I'm going to have some plums, so that's my breakfast.
Somebody said, how do you know that you've met a good lifelong friend?
I don't think you ever really know because I think that you can think that a lot of times
in your life.
Like, oh yeah, this person's going to gonna be my life forever, but people change and we grow and we evolve
and you outgrow friends and friends outgrow you
and things happen.
And I think that the thing with friendships
is you have to be in the moment with it.
I mean, obviously it's nice to think about
your future with this friendship, you know,
or that friendship.
It's fun to think about, oh, I can't wait to have this person at my wedding. I can't wait to, you know, or that friendship. It's fun to think about, oh, I can't wait to have this person
at my wedding, I can't wait to, you know, raise my kids
and have this person like down the road
and we can like whatever, it's fun to think about those things
for sure, but I think that you just have to live
in the moment with the person.
So if somebody's a good person in your life now,
I think we focus on that.
We focus on, you know, how they're treating you now
if they're being a good friend now.
And then, you know, we can always hope that it'll last.
But it doesn't really matter
because as long as it's working right now
and they're a good friend, then fuck it.
And that goes for relationships too.
I mean, I know that it's really scary sometimes even
when you care about somebody so much
and you love your friends or the person
you're in a relationship with so much
and you're like, oh my God, I can't imagine my life
without them.
And that can create a lot of anxiety.
But the thing that you just have to be like, listen,
they're working in my life right now.
We have an amazing relationship right now.
I'm not gonna sabotage this by thinking about the future.
Nothing about the future is promised.
We don't know what the fuck's gonna happen tomorrow,
ever we just have to live in the now
and appreciate the people that we have
in our lives right now that make us happy.
And that's the fucking tea.
Somebody said I've been struggling with anxiety for the past two months and for me,
it's really hard to open up to other people about it. Do you have any advice on how I can open
myself up and not feel bad or guilty after I do it? Listen, never feel guilty about venting.
Never feel guilty about venting. Okay, nothing to feel guilty about.
Imagine this, your friend comes up to you
and tells you that they're struggling with anxiety
and that they feel really shitty
and they start kind of confiding in you about it.
How are you gonna feel?
Are you gonna be frustrated or annoyed?
No, the fuck?
And if they, if like you did,
then that's something you need to reflect on,
because that's not good.
And I can tell that you wouldn't feel that way.
Just based on the way that you wrote your message.
I mean, like, you have to understand,
people are not that selfish.
I mean, there are a lot of selfish people,
but even the most selfish people
would probably hear you out and try to help.
Don't feel bad, don't feel guilty.
We're all in this planet together.
We're all working together, okay?
And we also only live this life once.
We're all just trying to make this shit as good as it can be.
I think that we're all on each other's team.
So try to remember that.
And just kind of push your discomfort aside
and be honest.
Find somebody that you feel comfortable with,
find somebody who you feel is nurturing,
and just let it go and let it out.
Somebody said, if you could be in any place right now,
where could it be?
I would be in Paris for sure.
Europe, Paris, Italy, something,
I just wanna go to Europe really bad,
although I don't wanna sit on the fucking plane. So yeah, I'd go to Paris, Italy, something I just like want to go to Europe really bad, although I don't want to sit on the fucking plane, so
Yeah, I'd go to Paris, but like teleport vibes. I don't really want to be on the plane for that long
Oh, this is a really interesting question that I just got from two guys
Somebody said let's say I'm walking behind a girl late at night on a quiet street or something.
What can you say to show her that you're not a threat?
I feel bad because I don't want her to be scared or think I'm trying to kidnap her.
And then another guy said, L.O. this point, I either crossed the road or walked past them
so I'm in front.
I think that's really great.
I, and really, really sweet that you think like that, you know,
because I do think that, you know, I mean, as a,
as a human being in general, I mean, walking at night and shit like that is scary,
you never know, but I think especially as a girl, you know,
it can be frightening and especially right now where we're starting to learn about
all of the things that go on in this world that are so fucking terrifying.
You know, with people getting kidnapped and stuff like that. And I think that it's a really important time to
As a woman, you know, be fucking on your A game. And I think that a lot of girls do get worried about somebody falling them, even if it's totally innocent.
And so I think I don't think you even need to say anything.
I think the whole crossing the street thing is great,
just crossing the street and trying to get ahead of them.
I think that that would definitely ease their mind.
I know that for me, when I felt like I was being followed,
when they've gotten in front of me, I was like, oh, we're good, we're totally good. And I was like I was being followed, when they've gotten in front of me,
I was like, oh, we're good, we're totally good.
And I was like, totally fine,
because it just showed that they're not watching,
like they're going on their own way.
They're not, they don't care about where I'm going.
You know, I remember one night, I was in New York,
and I was on the phone, and I was walking around,
and I was walking around my hotel in circles during winter, actually.
And I was talking to my parents and some guy followed me in the circle because I was walking
in a circle.
I wasn't, I had no end destination.
Okay, and this guy followed me in a circle the whole time until I went back into my hotel.
I mean, and it was fine because he didn't do anything,
but it was fucking frightening, like, for sure.
And I don't know, maybe he was just going for a walk, too.
Maybe we were on the same page.
Doubt it, but I mean, that's a crazy coincidence.
I walked around the building probably 15 times.
But if he would have, like, sped up in front of me,
I would have not given a fuck.
I would have been like, oh, we're good.
But I also think that that is, you know,
that's an important thing to talk about in general.
I think that, you know, keeping an eye out
and being wary, you can never be too careful,
you know what I mean, ladies.
I mean, and guys too, I mean, who knows?
Anything like this can pertain to anybody
Just watching your back at all times, you know, and there's something to be said for that so just like
Staying aware of your surroundings and being smart you can always go into a store. You can always go into a restaurant
You could knock on someone's door even if you really feel like you're in danger. I mean, there's so many, so many options.
Not always, but if something like that's happening to you, you know, just be wary.
You know, be wary out there.
Be careful, everybody.
And, and dudes, it's really respectful of you guys to think like that and do that.
So I really appreciate you thinking about that.
Somebody just asked me what my favorite hairstyle I've had. Y'all, I'm loving the blonde. like that and do that. So I really appreciate you thinking about that.
Somebody just asked me what my favorite hairstyle I've had. Y'all, I'm loving the blonde.
I never want to be brunette again. I'm sorry guys. I'm sorry I ever doubted you. Everybody
always told me like, I mean, you need to be blonde. You need to be blonde. You need to
be blonde. We want blonde Emma back. And I was like, no. And then now I'm blonde again.
And I'm like, wait, I get it. I get it. I love being blonde. And I also love my hair
length right now because it's not too long not too short
period
Okay, so somebody said I'm in high school and all of my friends are super boy crazy, but I'm not I
Just feel like I don't want to waste my time
Worrying about some shallow guys who aren't people I see myself with in the long run anyway
But they think I'm weird for not wanting a boyfriend thoughts y'all
Wow, okay, you are really, really 10 steps ahead because in high school,
I knew deep down that like the guys that I was dealing with were like, you know, not
for me long term, like I'm definitely somebody who I think I'm more into.
A lot of the guys in high school that I was interested in, they're all like sporty dudes.
And I'm not saying that that I don't wanna put anybody
in a box or anything, I don't wanna stereotype,
but I kinda knew deep down that that wasn't really my type.
You know what I mean?
But I was kinda like, that was kinda what was available. So it was like, you kinda work I mean? But I was kind of like, that was kind of what was available.
So it was like, you kind of work with what you have
when you're at school.
And those people are sometimes not for you, you know what I mean?
I never out of my friend in high school.
I didn't really, I tried to like, I mean,
I like would have little talking phases with guys,
but I never like dated guys in high school. I was more of a friend zone girl, to be honest,
which is fine in retrospect.
No regrets, who knows what type of fucking mental damage
I would have experienced from dating somebody in high school.
I don't know, don't wanna know, but anyway.
I think that stay true to yourself.
And honestly, it kind of sounds like you need new friends
because it kind of sounds like your friends
are not on the same page as you
and you're really, really 10 steps ahead.
I mean, I wasn't even there yet.
I was still trying to like make the guys work
and I was still kind of boy crazy
even though I didn't really like these guys that much
because I knew that they weren't up my alley really.
But, I mean, no shit to them like that's they
Whatever but they you know, I was trying to make something work
I was trying to make a puzzle piece fit that didn't fit and I think you're one step ahead
Just knowing that it's a waste of time because it totally is
So I think you just tell them y'all I don't want to waste my time. This is not my type these guys are not my type
I don't care. I'm gonna find a a guy that's more of my Allie in college
or when I, you know, work here or whatever.
So y'all can mind your business.
Thanks.
Oh my god, I can't believe somebody said,
are you going to make music one day?
No, god, no.
I leave the music to the musicians that I fuck with and then I listen to their music, sing
it in the car and then call it a day.
The thing is, I don't know how to, like I wouldn't even know how to write music, the fuck.
I mean, I had a freestyle rapping phase with my friends that was so embarrassing.
We were literally, we would freestyle on the car for hours and it was so funny but it
was also like really cringey in retrospect, at least on end. I mean my friends were you know spitting and I
appreciate it but I mean for me I just was probably so cringey. And that was fun and all.
And I mean don't get me wrong the adrenaline rush when I would come up with something good
was really fucking awesome but I'm gonna keep it to free styling with my friends
once every blue moon and listening to music and singing it in my car by myself.
Sorry.
Somebody said what's your favorite vegetable?
Y'all, let's talk about it.
Definitely, I have a lot.
Surprisingly, I like cauliflower when it's cooked right.
So like, if it's kind of like,
I like when you put batter of some sort on cauliflower
and then you turn into like a chicken wing.
That's really good.
I also like broccoli a lot if it's cooked right.
I also like kale a lot again if it's like the right kind of kale and it's like all the
stems are cut out.
I like kale sometimes.
I like butter lettuce.
Yeah.
I like corn but I don't know that that's a grain sin, everyone. Sorry, I like butter lettuce. Yeah. I like corn, but I don't know if that's a grain
sin, everyone. Sorry, I'm fucking dumb. Hopefully that helped. I don't know. Somebody said,
have you ever physically fought someone? No, interesting question. I am not a fighter.
I am a lover. I really am. Although I did, I did try to start a pillow fight yesterday
with my friends. That was probably the closest I've ever got
to a fight, to be honest.
But I actually hate, I don't like that shit.
I don't even like pillow fights.
I was lightly hitting everyone because I like don't,
okay, so I've had friends before
that were really violent.
You know what I mean?
Do you guys ever have friends where they just
will pat you on the back,
but they'll fucking fully five star you on the back?
Or they'll be like, pillow fighting
and then they'll hit you in the head really hard
until you're almost, can cussed?
Like, I am not like that.
I like to be gentle.
I don't see the need for that.
I also don't like when people jump scare me,
like jump out and scare me.
Like, fuck that.
No, no, no, no, no.
None of that for Emma at all. jump scare me, like jump out and scare me, like fuck that. No, no, no, no, no.
None of that for Emma at all. I don't really think that any of that shit's fun,
but some people do, so I mean,
more power to you and enjoy yourself, but not for me.
Somebody said, wait, wow, y'all fucking predicted something.
Another collab, sorry, collab.
Someone said another collab with wildflower
cases in the future, maybe. I'm not gonna answer this, but I'm just gonna say that
I wouldn't read it if it wasn't an important question. Do what you want with
that. Somebody said, do you think you were born in the right era if not what era?
You know what? Yes, I do think I was born in the right era. For sure, because,
okay, listen, a lot of people are always like, oh, I was born in the wrong era. You know what because, okay, listen, a lot of people are always like,
oh, I was born in the wrong era.
You know what, we don't know shit about what it would've been
like to live in that era.
I'm sorry, we romanticize different eras.
Don't get me wrong, I'm obsessed with 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s,
90s, early 2000s fashion.
I love the fashion, I love hearing stories from people
who live through those times.
I love the movies, the aesthetic of all of it.
Don't get me wrong, very awesome.
Appreciate it so much, but I like that I get to appreciate it
as somebody who didn't live it.
I don't think I'm living in the wrong generation.
I'm placed on this earth right now, to live right now,
and I wouldn't want it any other way.
I think people romanticize these times, right?
Like, you know, I talked to my dad about like the 80s,
for example, and yeah, it sounds like it was pretty fun,
but like, you know, based on his story,
it's like there was also shit that was not fun at all,
and there were things that people don't maybe talk about that were
shitty about it. And also, I wouldn't be living the life I live remotely at all if I didn't
live right now. It's the first time in history that this is a possibility for a life, you
know, on the internet. Like, and I really do love it. And I wouldn't want it any other
way. So no, I appreciate other eras, but I do not think I was born in the wrong era.
And I think that a lot of people say that.
And I even used to think that, but I don't think that we know enough as kids to say that.
You know what I mean?
Anyway, it's not that deep, but I mean, maybe some of us were born in the wrong era,
but I personally wouldn't want to be born in 1810 when I had to
Brush my teeth with a rock like I just that doesn't sound fun to me. So anyway
Somebody said which celebrities would you choose if you had to survive on an island?
Name three explain why number one hairy styles for no other reason besides the fact that I feel like
He has a really good luck and is like really like he
would almost be on the island for a good luck charm. I feel like he does everything perfectly
so I feel like if I was like Harry start a fire, he would like snap his fingers in the
fire would start. If I was like Harry, I really want to roast some hot dogs vegan hot dogs
over the fire right now. I wish we had those two bad we only have like nuts and seeds. He
would snap his fingers and he would have hot dogs
in his hand.
See what I'm saying here?
Harry Styles would be the fucking,
the magic token to making this fun.
If I was like Harry Styles,
uh, like I really need some sunscreen.
I'm getting really sunburned.
He'd snap his fingers.
Sunscreen.
Boom.
So I just would use him for that.
Next one would be.
But next one would be... I feel like I'd need somebody funny on the island that would like make me laugh so that
I could kind of like to kind of lift the spirits.
Like I'm trying to think about somebody who would lift the spirits.
Okay, so...
The next celebrity I think I would have on the island would be Joe, I don't know his
name, Joe Kinney or something.
The guy who's the voice of SpongeBob, he's a comedian probably because he does SpongeBob
but also I would just kind of want him to hide behind a tree or hide in a tree or something
and just talk to me and SpongeBob boys.
While I couldn't see him, and if that makes sense, so that I could imagine that I was
like in bikini pond.
The way he just said that was crazy.
Leave that in.
So that I could imagine that I was in bikini bottom.
It would like make it more fun, right?
Like it would, okay, we're stranded on a desert island.
This is deserted island, desert island.
I'm literally losing it.
I need to fucking turn this straight off.
I'm like slurring my words.
Did I get drunk from my coffee?
I don't understand.
I didn't, like, I don't.
Shameling coffee goes crazy, making me,
making me not be able to fucking say words correctly.
Anyway, I would want the voice of SpongeBob, dude,
Joe Kinney, I think that's his name,
to be sitting up in a tree somewhere
and just constantly having dialogue with himself
in SpongeBob voice, just as kind of entertainment.
Also to kind of set the tone in the mood of the island,
Bikini Bottom vibes, it would be fun to have them there. I
Also feel like I get the vibe that he can cook. I don't know why but I feel like he can I also feel like
If you spend that many years doing a SpongeBob boys, there's no way that you're not kind of going insane
So he probably has some violence. He wants to get out
Which I think could be helpful when I need him to chop down a tree.
Like he could probably chop down a tree in like two hits with an axe because he's been
doing SpongeBob voice for so long that he's probably exploding with anger.
Like there's probably a lot of pent up anger.
I don't know.
I'd love to have a conversation with him about it, but we can discuss that when we're on
the island.
Yeah, I feel like he's necessary.
Last but not least, I would probably have Margot Robbie
just because I want to be her best friend for some reason.
And she's just so beautiful, so I just love her.
So I'd probably have her on there.
And then just for like, girl time,
so that I can be like, I can tell her a bunch of stories, she can tell me stories,
and we can just bond.
So like, while Joe Kinney is cutting down the tree,
while making SpongeBob voices,
and then we got Harry Styles floating or something in the air,
like, levitating or something.
Me and Margot are just like, getting our tan on on the beach,
chilling and talking about boys.
Sounds like a dream
Anyway, I'm done with this episode. Um, I hope you guys had fun hanging out with me today. I had fun
I love you all so much and I really appreciate you guys
Thank you for coming back every week if you do that I don't know this could be your first episode
Thank you guys for listening in general. Um, if you got to this point. Don't know why you would I don't even remember the last hundred things I said I blocked out so oh my god I have
to for it don't listen oh no I hope you didn't hear that all right guys I love
you all bye guys well
Bye guys! Muah!