Aware & Aggravated - 101. Discipline & Having Fun. How To Balance The Lifestyles

Episode Date: November 9, 2023

In this episode Leo shares his tips for having self control when you party. He explains how to master discipline so you can live fun and enjoyable life while still working toward your goals. There are a lot of gems in this episode, and Leo shares exactly how he balances the goal oriented lifestyle and still lives the party lifestyle at times.   ✅ FOLLOW ME HERE: https://www.instagram.com/theleoskepi https://www.tiktok.com/@leoskepi https://www.snapchat.com/add/leoskepi   😁 WWLD Submissions: https://forms.gle/sNtQjjwvXUisfdgh9   👕 MERCH https://shopleoskepi.com/collections/   📱 MY APP POSITIVE FOCUS Apple: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/positive-focus/id1559260311 Google: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.positivefocusapp&hl=en_US&gl=US&pli=1    🔒 MY PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT COMMUNITY  https://m.facebook.com/groups/851294735925522/?ref=sharehttps://m.facebook.com/groups/851294735925522/?ref%3Dshare&exp=7ffb&mibextid=I6gGtw    📝 ACCOUNTABILITY TEMPLATES/WORKSHEETS  https://leoskepitemplates.com   Business Inquiries: [e-mail]

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Book with your travel agent or... Hi, friends. This week we're talking about one of my favorite things. Self-control when it comes to partying. I'm going to basically give you my guide to how I've mastered self-control while partying and still having a fun life. Because a lot of people online, like a self-help people, they want you to basically cut all fun out of your life.

No partying, no drinking, no nothing, no friends, just isolation and work. That's not fun, that's not attainable or like reasonable for most people. So I'm gonna teach you how I've found the balance, but also my little tricks that I have for staying very self-controlled while I'm drinking and then also explain how

I've achieved that. It's not a fun process, but you absolutely can be controlled when you're drinking and partying and still achieve a lot of things. You can achieve everything you want to do and still have fun while you do it. It's a delicate little dance, but the self-control aspect is really going to save you. And all that's stopping you from learning how to do it is the self-control to learn how to balance it. So I'm going to give you my couple of tips for when I go out or I party or like celebrate something and drink. And then I'm going to give you my tips for how to control yourself. And you're not going to like it, but I'm going to call you on your shit.

You want to do grown up things, you want to drink, you want to partake and grown up activities, you're going to have to be grown about it then. We'll get there. If you are going to party, if you do want to still partake in alcohol and going out, having fun, celebrating, whatever it is, here's my few tips. Remember me in the back of your head saying, keep it cute. You can drink, you can have fun, you can go out, but keep it cute. Keep it under wraps. What I like to do is set a limit for myself of how much I'm going to drink. That's where a lot of you are going to be like, I don't know how to set a limit. We'll get there. I like to cap myself out five to six shots. So that could be five to six shots just straight or I could do like a little drink. But if I do have a drink, no sugar, no nothing. Like tequila soda

lime is what I get. Taste like shit, you're gonna drink it slow. But also, sugar's gonna make you feel even more hungover. It's not good to have that. And this is a little heads up for anyone with fitness goals or is wanting to lose weight. There is a hundred calories in every shot of alcohol. So if you get a drink with a shot in it, and then you get coke in it, or you get sprite in it, or something with sugar in it,

that's gonna basically double the calorie count of what you're drinking. So that's why I say diet or just soda water. Like soda, never tonic, cause tonic has sugar, cause tonic has calories. It tastes the same as soda water. It's got a whole bunch of shit in it.

Trust me. And if you are a little bit smaller, you might wanna cap your liquor intake a little bit more like five to six shots or drinks for me for a whole night. I don't get drunk. Like I haven't been drunk and probably a year. Like I don't like to. Like I haven't been drunk and probably a year.

Like I don't like to get shit faced anymore. It's not fun, it's not enjoyable. It's like, it's never a good time. Like I wanna remember everything clearly, but five to six shots or drinks, those keep me like buzzed, I'm tipsy, I'm having a good time, but like I'm not out of my mind.

And you kinda wanna keep your awareness there because that's when you start messing up and you still have a little bit of judgment when you're tipsy, as soon as you get drunk, you're not making no good decisions. So two other rules that I have for when I go out or when I drink is no drinking past 2 a.m. Bad idea, your body's not gonna filter,

it's not gonna feel right, you're not gonna get the same effects, it's just gonna prolong like the filtering out of the alcohol in your body is not gonna filter, it's not gonna feel right, you're not gonna get the same effects, it's just gonna prolong like the filtering out of the alcohol in your body. Like just, there's no good. That's gonna come after drinking after 2am. Trust me, just don't drink past 2am. Switch to water, that's my other thing

is drink a lot of water throughout the night. You don't have to do the whole like, a glass of water with every drink or a glass of water with every shot because who wants to pee that much? Just remember it in your head, that's one of your rules now. No drinking alcohol past 2 a.m. Drink water and if you get like a water with a lime in it,

everybody thinks it's a drink, no one's gonna give you shit. But my other little thing with time is no caffeine past 5 p.m. Because it's gonna mess with your sleep. When you drink alcohol, your sleep is already interrupted. You're not gonna get deep good sleep. You're not gonna feel rested. You're gonna feel a little bit like shit the next day. It's normal. You can't deny the facts of the human body and what you're doing to it. Like a lot of people are like spiritual like, oh, if I tell myself I'm gonna feel like shit, that's what's gonna do it.

Nobody of the alcohol is what's gonna do it. If you know you're messing with your body in a certain way, let's be smart about it. And my reasoning behind no caffeine after 5 p.m. is the half life of caffeine is five hours. So it's not gonna be out of your system for 10. So you don't want to be like having caffeine in your system while you're trying to go to bed. Again, it's gonna make your sleep even worse.

So no caffeine past five, trust me. And if you wanna hear more tricks like this, cause now I'm gonna get into like other stuff, if you want more tricks about alcohol and all my kind of like tactics and things like this, I have a whole podcast episode about alcohol and all my hacks in this called alcohol. It's episode 35.

It's only on Apple Podcasts and Spotify cause I only did audio versions back then, but I'll link it in the description if you want to other little secrets. My next point is call it a night at 2.230 max. When you're out and you're drinking, no good ever comes from an after party. If you really think of it, like you're sitting there, you're excited, you're wanting to like keep the party and keep the vibe and the mood going.

Babe, nothing good ever comes after 233. If you want to push it to 3, at 3 you call it a night and you go to hell home. No one has fun past that time. Like the afters, have you ever really been to a fun aftoparty? No, it's some weirdos and then they start pulling out drugs. It's not a fun time.

Like for my experience, I've never had a good aftoparty. It's like you've been partying and you don't want it to die, but the clubs are closing, so you go to someone's house. It just gets weird and a little uncomfortable. And I know certain people like when you are that friend, like I was for a long time, who had to go out and then go home alone, that ride home alone and then going to bed alone is not fun.

And a lot of people want to stay up and stay out so they don't have to go through that. Trust me, just go your ass home. Put on some apple cane, put on some sad shit, and go talk to yourself in the bed, get you low water. Don't stay out past three, max. I'd say 230, call it a night, absolutely. But three, you best have your ass on the way home.

The other thing that's helped me with not going out so often is I save going out for special events. So if it's someone's birthday or there's an actual event or like there's a house party, that's fun. Not some random little like kick back. Like you're going to a party or an event or a celebration of something, whether it's someone's birthday or yourself. That's one thing I'm very big on promoting is like celebrating yourself.

You need to celebrate yourself, celebrate your birthday, celebrate your accomplishments, get people together, they love to celebrate that. And you need to sit in that place of gratitude and like excitement and appreciation for yourself and what you've just done. Like give yourself the chance to celebrate that. But that alone will help you start going out a lot less.

And the biggest thing I want to bring up is if you're in a habit or routine of going out and that's kind of like your social time, there's nothing wrong with not going out on the weekends. Like if you have a weekend where you don't go out, great. There is this weird period you're gonna go through when you start spending weekends alone where it feels very off.

And I had the experience when I got out of my routine like a couple of years ago, I was partying every single weekend Friday Saturday Sunday like fully balls of the walls going for it. And I would wake up on Saturdays being like, why do I feel hungover? I didn't drink or go out last night. Like your body just like has like fanned some hangovers. I don't know if I'm the only one that's experienced that comment below if you have that too, but I had that for a while. But staying home on the weekend is not a bad thing, but there are gonna be a lot of weird

and uncomfortable and unfamiliar feelings that come up when you have this routine of like going out on the weekends, you wake up the next day, feeling like dog shit, you don't have to do anything and then the weekends over you go back to work. If there is a weekend where there's actually nothing fun going on, don't go. Like don't force yourself to go out just to have something to do. When you stay home and you sit

in that weird little uncomfortable, what the hell do I do it myself? Feeling that's when you have new ideas for things. That's where you find new motivations, new everything that you're looking for is kind of gonna pop up when you sit still for a minute and get out of this routine. But it is gonna feel uncomfortable. It is to feel weird. You're going to have to find new things to bring you excitement and fill your time, but it's not every weekend you're going to have to do it. It's not like you're cutting cold turkey.

Some people need to, like some people have problems. I don't. And I'm sure if you listen to this, you don't have a problem either. At the level of like girl rehab, I'm talking like just balancing life and getting out of the whole routine a bit. But with being more selective with when you go out, a lot of times when you're in a routine of it, it's not fun, it's not eventful. When you start being a little bit more selective

with how often you go out, people are gonna appreciate your presence a lot more and they're gonna invite you to things that are more exciting and more fun because they can't just get you out the house to go to some little podonk bar It's like oh, there's this event. There's this big party. There's this big thing happening at this certain club You want to go to that. It's like you'll start being invited to things that are more substantial and more fun So when you do go out it is way more fun. It's not like just a redundant

Every weekend seeing the same people doing the same things boring after a while So my biggest point here is not going out every weekend or not going out for a weekend or a few is not a bad thing Like you're just gonna have to get used to and adjust to this new opening of time that you have and how you want to spend it You're fully in control. You could do whatever you want But you're gonna realize you have a lot more time than you think to get things done. And if you just do it and have fun, don't convince yourself, oh, I'm missing out on all this and that. I actually like, when I first started saying no

to going out to things in LA, it was like I was going out, out, out, out, and then the one weekend I skipped, everybody was hanging out with the cast of Selling Sunset, all my friends. And I'm like, God damn it! You're gonna have the FOMO, but a few weekends later I went out and we all hung out with them. So if there's gonna be like periods where you're gonna miss out on things but that's something you're

gonna have to choose. You're gonna have to choose, okay I want to spend my time like this and take what comes with that if you want to stay home. So don't get too caught up in the whole FOMO thing. Like create a life for yourself where you feel like you're missing out on what you're doing when you're not going out. That's what you want to get to is build to that so that when you do go out, it's got to be better. It's got to be something that's substantial

to get you out of what you're happy with. You just have to sit in the uncomfortable real quick, get used to it, get adjusted, get the new ideas of what you want to do, how you want to spend your time. Make this life of staying home, fun, productive, exciting, hang out with people that you usually like wouldn't hang out with, whatever it is, build that little life, and then you look forward to it, and you're not like, I just think home this weekend, you go what I mean, it's just going to suck at first, and then it's going to feel way better, and then everything

is going to kind of like blend. Like we're talking about balance here. So once you have your life set, where you're happy with it, when people invite you out, you don't feel obligated, like, oh, I have to go out because I hate my life. You're not trying to escape your life anymore.

You've got this cleaned up, you enjoy it, you like it. And you go out for birthdays, you go out for special occasions, you go out for a big event, or whatever it is. It just gets very fun. And there's no guilt, there's no fomo. It's like, you have the good balance above Now before we dive into my tricks for self-control and how I stay self-controlled with

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If you go out and party, the next day, whatever your goals are, are now non-negotiable. That's going to be your contract with yourself. If you're going to go out, tomorrow, we're still doing everything we have to do. We're still working toward our goals. We're still going to the gym, working on, we need to work on whatever it is.

Like your goals are now non-negotiable. The next day after you go out, you don't get to turn this into a whole go out, go too hard and then have to spend a full day recovering sometimes two days. It's like, no, you get to go out. And then the next day, your goals are non-negotiable. You're going to have to force yourself to do this. And there's a reason I'm talking about how you're going to have to position this in your mind. You're gonna have to force yourself to do this. And there's a reason I'm talking about how you're gonna have to position this in your mind.

You're literally gonna feel like hell when you wake up. After you parted and after you went out, you didn't sleep good, you dehydrated. So main thing, you're gonna make yourself do it, you need to do. Get you some water, hydrate, whatever you need to do on that front, have a little coconut water, whatever. Have a gay to aid, get you some coffee,

and get your ass moving. And this is the tip for people who always say, I lack self control, I can't control myself when I'm out. The biggest reason I'm saying you have to make everything you're doing non-negotiable the next day, you want it to feel like absolute hell. You low-key want it to be traumatizing, how bad it is. The next day after you party that you make yourself do, all the all the things you need to do, like working on your goals and

staying on track. You have to get back on track immediately and you want it to be off all. Because how many times is it going to take for you going out, drinking too much, staying out too late, waking up the next day, enfor forcing yourself to still do what you need to do. Before you realize, I don't want to feel like this no more. So if I'm still going to go out, I'm going to cap it at four or five shots, whatever it's going to be. Going home by 2 a.m. max, you're going to learn to negotiate with yourself and you're

going to low key have that in the back of your head of like how much you dread the next day And it's gonna make you feel so much more in control when you are out partying like like I said you want it low-key Traumatic how fucking dog-ass tired you're gonna be after you party and force yourself to do what you need to do like Experience that consequence experience how bad it is because that's what's gonna keep you aware Next time you go out. Hey, this is what happens when I drink this much and I still have to work on everything I'm doing tomorrow. Like, let's not take this shot. Let's switch to water. Let's actually go home and not go to an after. Like, you're gonna have that awareness kick back in because you're so emotionally like invested in the last time you experienced it. Like, the discipline needs to kick in full effect here.

You need to force yourself to do what you need to do. You fully can do it. But my biggest thing here is you need to mentally prepare for the day after. You go out and you're still gonna make yourself be productive. And I have a little example from this cold plunge I did the other day. I

Was fully ready physically. I knew what was about to happen I knew I was about to get in some ice cold water I was like hovering over to little tub and when I dropped myself in I was like I got this I didn't take a second to get myself mentally ready. I Got myself like physically really okay like I know this is gonna feel like this, like it's gonna suck, I'm just gonna force myself to stay under there. When I dropped my ass into that water up to my neck, oh I wanted to come hand off.

But not being mentally and emotionally prepared for what I was going to experience made me start to freak out. Like I was in that water and I was like like panicking like give me the fuck out of here But I was like forcing myself to stay in but my physical body and my emotional body were not on the same page I did not prepare my emotional body for what I was about to experience So I started to emotionally panic and I didn't like it and I hated it and it made me feel very weak Like I knew physically I could handle it,

but like this made me very aware of how on the same page you need your physical and emotional bodies at all times. Like before you do something hard, you need to make sure you're in check with both because if you're not physically ready for something, you physically can tap out. If you're not emotionally ready for something, you can emotionally tap out and you'll be over it

because I didn't last long in that water at all. I think I lasted like 20 seconds and I jumped out and went into the sauna because I was doing like back and forth like contrast therapy like you go into sauna then you go in the cold plunge then you go into sauna and go into cold plunge. And I kind of sat there and like talked to myself and I had to mentally prepare myself and emotionally prepare myself for next time I got in the water. But taking a second to get myself mentally ready, I'm like this is going to suck, you're going to want to get out, you're going to sit there, you're going to be fine, it's

going to be ass. Like mentally just preparing myself or how hard it was going to be and thinking through like when you want to get out, just remember you only have three minutes or two minutes. However long I say that, I think I say even like two minutes after that, like increments, but next time I got in the water, I was fully emotionally and physically ready, and I set my stubborn cold ass in that water,

and I was just mad as hell, but I was emotionally ready for the experience I was gonna have and it allowed me to have control because when I didn't have my emotional body ready, I felt very out of control. I felt very panicked. I wanted to just get out and abort missions so bad. And I tried to force myself to stay in, but I got out

and then got myself mentally and emotionally ready. And then I handled it no problem. Like there is a very big disconnect with people with understanding your physical and emotional body, like your mindset, like you have to have it so right. And the reason I'm bringing this up is because when you go into trying to develop self control with partying and having a balanced life,

like if you do not mentally prepare for the way you're going to feel what you're going to be thinking, how everything's going to go the next day, you're going to be dogass tired, you're going to probably have a headache, you're going to feel confused, you're not going to feel into anything, you're not going to feel any sense of motivation, you're going to want to just go lay in the bed. You have to mentally prepare yourself for that before you walk into the experience because it's gonna stack you with strength to keep going. Like nothing's unforeseen, nothing is all of a sudden.

It's not happening as your experience in it. Like you've thought it through, you've prepared for it, and you're ready to handle it. When you just throw yourself into something, you'll quickly just back out of it if you're not prepared for it mentally and emotionally. So by reminding yourself and making yourself aware of what this day hung over is about to be like,

it's not gonna seem so abrupt and so bad. Like it's gonna suck, but you're like, I've got this, I'm ready for it. I know this is gonna happen, you're expecting the day to be awful. And it looks like it frees up a lot of your mental state and you'll realize as you get going in the day, you feel a lot more back to life.

You feel a lot better than you thought you would, but you were prepared and ready to feel like ass. And that got you moving, and the momentum kept going because you started feeling better. Like that's really how I've gotten this self-controlled with even parting and drinking. Like I've experienced the shitty days enough times where I know I'm not gonna let myself off the hook.

Like we're still doing what we need to do tomorrow. And me that's drinking is the way I'm dead. And he's scared of that consequence. So he's gonna make sure he ain't gonna suffer too bad tomorrow. Like it's just a matter of like experiencing how bad it is, forcing yourself through it anyway, holding yourself accountable. Like I said, you wanna do grown shit,

not be grown and handle what you need to handle. You're gonna feel bad, it's not gonna feel good, but you want it a party, now come on, let's get that asset, let's get moving. And it's gonna be awful. And so you finally get fed up with yourself and say, okay, I am gonna cap these shots. I am gonna go home a little early.

I'm gonna do what I have to do to make sure tomorrow is easier. Like, it's just going to take a minute, but you will absolutely get there. It's just going to be a hell of a process, but you're all of a sudden, after you experience like one or two bad days of keeping yourself accountable and doing what you need to do, even when you're hungover, you're going to weirdly have this awareness that will not pop out of your head when you drink. Like, you're gonna weirdly have this awareness that will not pop out of your head when you drink. Like you're gonna be aware of the consequences. You'll be able to think forward once you train yourself with this.

Like you'll be able to think forward when you're drinking, when you're out, when you're doing things, and you'll still be able to be logical and have self-control, which a lot of people don't have when they're drinking and like when they're drunk. So this is kind of my game plan for it, and it's not fun, and there's no other hack, there's no other way. Like this is how I've built this self discipline around drinking and like balancing my life. You have to experience how bad it is to know, okay,

this is how I'm gonna balance it. So make yourself experience that bad, trust me, and you'll be as controlled as I am when it comes to drinking like I still have fun I still let loose I still get tipsy and sometimes I do stay out a little bit later Sometimes I do drink a little bit more than I tell myself but It's not often because I know the next day. I'm forcing myself to get up and do what I need to do there is no like Throw away the consequence. I make myself experience them like you are allowed to let loose and do what I need to do. There is no like throw away the consequence. I make

myself experience them. Like you are allowed to let loose and have fun. I'm not saying you have to be like this all the time, but if you want this skill, you need to build it. And this is how it's built. And there's a little saying that I tell myself all the time when I don't feel like going to the gym or I don't feel like doing something I need to do. Something is better than nothing. And I want you to keep that mentality and give yourself a little bit of leniency because you are gonna be hung over.

If you try and force yourself to go to the gym the day after party and you think you're gonna go in there and have a perfect workout, you're not. It's gonna feel like shit. It's not gonna be a good workout, you're not gonna feel strong, you're gonna feel more tired than usual. You're probably not gonna sweat very much because you dehydrate it. But just telling yourself something is better than nothing makes it a feasible task.

So when you're getting in the car to go, if you're trying to force yourself, okay, I'm going to work out how I usually do, you're going to want to get out of the car, you're going to want to turn that bitch around and go park it back at home and get in the car. So taking away the big feet of like, I am gonna be productive, but it has to be like, how I am when I'm fine, that's unrealistic. Get it in your head, like something is better than nothing.

I'm gonna go to the gym, and it seems like a more doable task, especially when you're low energy, you're tired, you don't feel good, hungover. You'll be able to get to the gym, at least do something, whether it's cardio, you do half a low workout, or maybe you just work out all the body parts that are lacking, and it's like a little full body day, and you just hit little things here and there.

Like go, show up and do it, and be consistent with it, but that's the biggest thing with consistency. You're going just to do something to show yourself you can show up and still function and still do it, even when you feel like hell, and when you do it then it's very important because it's gonna make you feel very empowered and very strong. Like when you walk out you'd be like I did that and there's no beating yourself up of the whole like oh it wasn't a great workout.

Well it was a workout. I'm hungover. Lucky I even went. Like you have to give yourself a little grace and a little leniency while you kick yourself in the ass, or it's just abusive, you know? But the biggest thing here is showing yourself that it's possible to stay on track even when you feel like hell.

That's discipline on a different angle, but the other thing is like showing yourself the first time that you're out and you stop the amount of drinks that you have or you go home early and you call it a night. Once you do that for the first time that you're out and you stop the amount of drinks that you have or you go home early and you call it a night. Once you do that for the first time and show yourself it is possible, you're going to be like opened up to a whole new world.

Like what? What? Like just showing yourself it's possible. Going to a gym a day that you're hungover. Just showing yourself it can be done is so freeing and it's just that first time of doing it that's hell and then knowing that it's possible knowing that you can choose it anytime you want is great. It's like when I used to get high a lot I get high here and there. Like we'd

just punch me in the face with the munchies. Oh it's like it's sad. Like it's genuinely sad. The amount I'll eat. like the amount I eat in general But like the amount I could put down when I like I live it Oh, fuck, but I still remember the first night that I let myself get high I smoke my little pen and then I made myself go get in the bed and not get up I was like you do not get to eat you're just going to go to sleep like you want to be like Oh, I'm so stressed out like I want to smoke so I can go to sleep. So do that then. You don't get to get up and go have food and all that.

Like I ate all my meals for the day. I was full, I hit my little pen, but my problem is that I can still like keep eating, even after I eat a whole meal. But I ate, I was full, I was satisfied, I got all my food in for the day, and I hit the pen and I went and forced myself to lay in the bed.

It was a battle to stay in the bed like I wanted to get up so bad and go eat and I was Commit in myself like oh you can have a protein shake you can have this like telling myself anything like remotely healthy I could eat you can go have Adam on me because it turns Once I get in the kitchen it turns from like oh, I'll eat this first thing and then it's oh you can have these chips Or you can have this popcorn or you can have this salmon, I don't know where. Like, I just start eating and don't stop. So like, when you just show yourself, you can do the hard thing just once and you see

that it is possible and you can do it. Everything kind of unlocks from there because like just showing myself, I can smoke and stay in the bed, changed a lot. Like, I'm aware I can do it and I have that muscle now. I'm aware that muscle exists for me to restrict like that. So now every time I go to like smoke, I know I can stay my ass in the bed and it's possible. It's going to take a lot of willpower, but it's possible. My whole thing here is just showing yourself that you can do something at least once, make sure where of that possibility and you feel so much more in control and happy and empowered and you feel stronger. So these are some of my tips to get you controlled

and help you balance partying a little bit. Like I said, if you want to hear all my other hacks about alcohol, I will leave the link to episode 35 in the description. And if you're watching this on YouTube, leave me a comment. Let me know what what you thought and if you have any more tips, please tell me But if you learn something give this video a little thumbs up and if you're listening to the audio version of this podcast On Apple Podcasts and Spotify leave me a five-star rating for five shots a night And all serious as I hope is brings you a lot more of a sense of control over yourself and gives you a little hope And a new way to navigate this whole little life that a lot of people feel like they're powerless too.

You're not. I promise. You got this. So everybody be safe. Take care of yourself. And I will talk to you guys next Sunday. Nobody goes on vacation for the moments that are just... Okay.

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