Aware & Aggravated - 21. What I Learned From Rich People

Episode Date: April 4, 2022

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Hi friends, this is gonna be an episode of the things that I've learned from being around rich people. And this is the shit you ain't gonna find them as success books and the self-help books. And any of these books that you can fucking read or any of this shit you see online, no. I'm gonna tell you the things that I've observed from being in the lives of really rich people, from living day to day with them, to interacting near them, just the way that their brain works, the decisions that they make,

the shit that they do, the way that they think, I'm gonna expose it all in this episode. Honestly, I didn't even realize how much I've observed and how much I've learned just from being friends with certain rich people and just from experiencing being in the day-to-day life of someone rich, because it's different when you see them like at work, when you see them doing their job or running their business, it's different when you see them in their

home, in their like habitat where they're relaxed and the where they make their decisions, where they like think through their thoughts and like do you know what I mean? Like there's just a difference between seeing someone in action versus seeing them at home and this is the shit that I've learned from seeing these motherfuckers at home. So the first thing that I've observed is really rich people are very fucking quick to take action. So they have an idea, they'll think of thought and the gap between the time that they think the thought and take their first action is like instant. Like it's so fucking fast and it's something I have to call myself out on a lot because

I get in my head like I'll think of something or I'll have an idea and then I won't act on it or like I won't take it seriously. I'll just kind of like think about it like oh that's a cute thought, that's a cute idea and then I'll either think of the reasons why it's unrealistic or whatever or I'll just kind of like think about it. Like, oh, that's a cute thought. That's a cute idea. And then I'll either think of the reasons why it's unrealistic or whatever, or I'll just overthink it. Cause I love to fucking do that. I'm a rising Virgo.

I overthink Goddamn everything. And this also applies to when someone tells them something. They're quick to like take it in and act on it. So whether someone gives them a book recommendation, they'll start reading it the next day. If they wanna learn a new skill, they'll book a fucking class the next day or that day. If they wanna book a flight,

they wanna book a trip somewhere they have an idea of like, oh my God, I wanna go on a trip, they'll book a fucking flight. They'll start looking up flights immediately. They'll look up their schedule, make sure they have a gap, and then start looking for places they can start taking action to make the trip come about. Or even like starting a new project, they want to start a new

thing. When they think the thought of they want to start a new business or start a new project or whatever, they immediately start taking steps to gain knowledge about it. So even if they're not taking like an action step to like building a new business, they start learning about it. They start looking at the market, like immediately as they think about it, like it's like that day or the next day, they're researching, they're learning, they're gaining knowledge on whatever they can that goes along with that idea. Like I've just noticed the gap between very, very rich people's thoughts and actions is short. Like they fucking think shit and they take action very quickly. Okay, the next

thing I noticed, and this one I came to the realization of recently was really, really rich people are so confident in their ability to create that they're scared of it. Take that in for like two seconds. They're scared of certain things because they're so confident in their ability to create. Like they're scared to focus on certain things that could hurt other people or damage other shit because they know once they start thinking about shit, it's gonna start creating, but it's because of their action. You know what I mean?

It's not just like this whole manifestation shit. I've like, you just thinking it's gonna happen. Shut the fuck up. Alright, that ain't fucking real. Manifestation is real, I believe in that, but the whole think it into your reality, I don't fucking believe in that. You gotta move your ass bitch. Like Kim Kardashian said, you gotta get the the fuck up and you got to work.

There's too many lazy people that I need. Like that one was a little joke, but it's the truth. So I've noticed with really, really successful people, like they're scared of certain shit because they know that what they want they create. But to be scared of something, you have to be certain of it. So they're very certain of they want they create. But to be scared of something, you have to be certain of it. So they're very certain of their ability to create.

They have such a solid confidence in it. But this confidence is something that we all wish we fucking had, okay? And then I kind of figured out the way to like crack it and to like all of us had it, you know? Like this is my little key to unlock it. We all have the ability to create things. We all have free will.

We all have the ability to fucking bring what we want into existence. And if we don't see right now, how we can make something big come into our experience or to create something huge, we at least know that there are certain steps we can take now to get there. You don't have to know how to get to the end goal. You just have to know how to start taking steps to get there. Does that make sense? But my whole

point in that, as we can start creating now, you can start working toward what it is you want now. But rich people's confidence and their ability to create comes from repeated action. Confidence comes from doing something over and over and over. Everybody wants to be confident, but nobody understands that it comes from proving to yourself that you can do shit over and over. You become confident in something when it consistently performs. It's like when you have a new car, you don't worry if it's going to start or not. It just fucking starts. And every time you go to start it, you're like getting revalidated that it's going to

start. And then eventually, you just expect the car to start. You don't have to think about it. But you're confident in the car's ability to start because it's proven it has started a hundred fucking times. Weird example, I know, but confidence comes from repeated fucking action and doing the same fucking thing consistently so that you're confident that you can predict it. That's what confidence is. So these really, really rich people that have had certain ideas and have had certain

thoughts and then took actions to make those things come about and come into their reality are the ones with the confidence that they can do it because they have done it. So if you're someone that wants the confidence of like, oh, I want to be so secure in my ability to create that I'm scared of certain shit. Like I want to get there, but it comes from taking action. That's the main thing. You have to fucking do the shit to gain the confidence that you'll do the shit and that you can do the shit. But that confidence goes for like anything.

If you want to trust yourself, you have to act in line with what you want. So if you want to be able to trust yourself to look out for yourself, you have to act in line with what you want. So if you want to be able to trust yourself to look out for yourself, you have to look out for yourself and prioritize yourself over and over and over. And then you will gain the confidence because then you've just proven that you've done it and you can do it and you will do it.

And that goes the same way for achieving your goals. If you can prove to yourself over and over that you will work toward your goals and you will prioritize your goals You will become confident in your ability to create because you're taking the actions and you're doing it Confidence comes from doing confidence is not just this feeling you have like that self-love We talked about it's not just this feeling that pops out of your fucking ass Confidence is not a feeling that that pops out of your fucking ass. Confidence is not a feeling that just pops out of your fucking ass.

It is something you build. It is something you work for. It is something you work toward. And it's something that you create. Your ability to create. Let that start with your ability to create confidence. Become confident in your ability to create things by creating confidence for yourself.

Do the fucking actions. Become confident. The fact that you just created confidence and the feeling of confidence establishes that you can create things. So congrats. It is in your control. And that's the main thing I want to emphasize is it's in your fucking control. Not everything, not circumstances, but your actions are in your full fucking control. So your ability to create is in your full control. And I know that might be a little hard to hear at first, but you can try and fight it all you want.

But when you whittle it down and you boil it down, that's the fucking truth of it. And that's something that I've had to realize recently and I fucking got upset about it. I was pissed off. I was real fucking mad because because I had to face it. Tough pill to swallow, and I didn't have no fucking water. And of course I have to bring up the whole relationship to fear, and the fear of failure

and not succeeding and not getting something that you want. So whenever I talk to someone that's successful, when I throw an idea at them of something to try or do, they're like, okay, do it. Like it just seems like they have zero consideration for the potential of failure. Like they're just like, just try it, just do it. And I'm like, what if it doesn't work? And they're like, so what? They do not look at failure and Success the way that typical people do so when someone that is successful and they trust their actions and they trust their ability to create if

they say Okay, I want to make a hundred thousand dollars a month. That's their goal They're gonna stick that road post down and they're gonna to start working toward it. They are committed to getting to that goal. So they don't care how many ways they have to try to get there. They don't care about how many different roads they have to take. All they know and all they trust is that they're going to find a way to get there because that is what's in their control. They're not really that worried about, oh, well, what if I go down this road and it doesn't work and I have to go down another one?

They're like, okay, I'm just going to go down the other one, but they're committed to get into that road post at all costs. So they don't consider going down a road that leads to nowhere as a failure where I would. And that's, I'm having to switch my mindset because I look at trying a certain thing and it not working or it failing. I look at that as a failure. But that's just one way to get to the goal I wanted to get to. There's unlimited possibilities of how you can get to where you want to go. So just because you went down one route, it doesn't mean you failed. That is not a failure. It's a failure. If you stop people that are successful and people that are committed, don't look

at it as failure because they're not stopping. They're committed to getting to where they said they wanted to go. So they're gonna try a new route. Whether it takes 20 fucking times or 20 different avenues, they're gonna try them all, but they don't get discouraged When something fails or one of the roads they take is a dead end. They don't get discouraged because they know that they're gonna go down another one They're gonna keep trying. They might be like damn, they might be disappointed that this road wasn't it, but they are never discouraged. They always just come back to home base and start down the next fucking road. They're going to get there. And that's where their solidification and their belief and their commitment of like, I said, I'm going to fucking get there. Now I'm going to get there. And they don't look at coming back to home base and having to

restart and go down a different road as a setback or going to the same spot they were before because they know who they are coming back to that same spot is a whole different person. You have a whole different set of skills going down a certain road. You have a whole different set of knowledge and experience to draw off of. So you might be back in the same position, but you are not the same person in that position. You are a more advanced person, and you're a more equipped person to go down the next road. So they never look at it as a setback. But an important thing to remember is setbacks only exist if there's been progress.

So I'm someone that gets caught up, but I look at shit as a failure. I'm like, nah, I tried four things already. I'm like, now they all failed. So I look at it as a failure, but it's not a failure if I keep going. It's only a failure if you stop trying. I'm just trying to look at shit as like a redirection is when something doesn't work because every time I've tried to do something on my road to success and I've run up against the dead end, I've had to get on a new path. And this is like my sixth fucking path with this shit.

So I just have to keep reminding myself like it's only a failure if I stop. If I keep going and keep trying, eventually I'll fucking get there. But if I say I'm committed to getting there, I can't stop. I have to keep trying until I get there. But I will get there. And that mindset is something I've seen consistent throughout all successful people I've been around. And it is so annoying sometimes because when you are someone like me, that's like a normal person and then you try to talk to someone With this level of like confidence fearlessness and also someone with resources like money to fund the risks They want to take they're like just fuck it. Just do it But like for me

I just feel like there's a lot more to take into consideration because I could lose this I could lose that But you need to adopt that mindset of just fuck it. Just figure it out, commit to figuring it out and you will. That's it. Commit to figuring it the fuck out and you will. No matter where you are. So the next thing that kind of goes off of that, but it's really is its own point, is really, really rich people

don't talk themselves out of taking action. So if you have something that you know is in line with your goals or there's an action in front of you that you're considering taking that could get you closer to where you wanna go, a successful person would not talk theirself out of taking that action. They would talk theirself into taking that action.

An example of this from my own life is, this is a stupid fucking example. All right, it's a little fucking example, just leave me alone, don't attack me. But it illustrates the point. Well, so I told myself I'm gonna post every day on TikTok on my life coach TikTok so that I can build that audience

and I can just share knowledge that I know because I'm working toward getting certified as a life coach so I can do one-on-one sessions with people. I'm going to call them awareness appointments. You can book an awareness appointment with me coming in June when I finish this fucking certification. But part of that is I'm trying to get people to understand how my brain works so that

they'll feel confident and feel like I have something that I can provide them because I do see things from a lot of different fucking angles that a lot of people don't think of. But I need to share that. I need to expose that. I need to post about that. So I've been posting daily on life coach Leo on TikTok and one day I was going to post a video and I was like, oh, it's not a good time. It's like 11 a.m. It's like the algorithm doesn't really hit at this time. Like, uh, whatever. But I was like, I'm not going to be able to post this later. So it's like, I can post it now or not post it. And I was considering of just be like, okay, I'll post it tomorrow so that it can have a better like chance at the algorithm or whatever the fuck.

And in that moment, I was like, okay, no fucker. You're not talking yourself out of taking an action that is going to get you closer to your goal. Side note, I did post a TikTok anyway at the time that I thought of it just in this moment. And it did well anyway. So that was good. But I became aware in that moment of like, don't talk yourself out of taking the actions that are helping you get toward your goal. Like, the whole point of what I'm doing by posting on the fucking TikTok account is to share the knowledge I have and the perspectives that I've gained.

And that is my goal is to share that shit. And I was talking myself out of doing the action that would get me to that, you know, like I talk myself out of it because I was like, oh, it's not a good time. Yadi, like my fear, not really my fear, but I was just trying to have too much fucking control over that. It's like, just do the actions that are going to get you where you want to go, even if posting these TikToks don't work for me and they don't make anyone want to fucking have a call with me, I at least took the actions and I'm confident that I'll now take the actions and I've posted every fucking day.

And like that is building in itself in me, but anyway, the direct action that was helping me achieve what I set out to achieve, I try to talk myself out of. Successful people do not fucking do that. They don't get in their fucking head like that. They don't like hold theirself back when they have the urge to move forward. Like success is a forward moving energy. Masculinity is a forward moving energy too, but like being driven, reaching your goals, moving towards it, it's a forward moving energy.

So you can feel it in yourself. It's like, you'll get this sudden urge to do something. When you feel that urge, when you feel that energetic pull, that pulls you forward, take the fucking action because I felt it when I was like, okay, I should pose a TikTok right now. I felt that forward moving pull and I talked to myself against it.

Do not fucking do that. Successful people do not cut off their forward moving energy. They walk in the direction of it. That's a huge fucking realization I had, but that's a sensation you can feel in your body. When you have an idea or an urge to do something and it feels like taking action, take the action. Do it. Don't talk yourself out of it. Literally use this as a reassurance of motherfucker. Take that action. Trust me. Now, I do need to say, I'm not talking about if you're out in public

and somebody says some shit and you feel that urge and size you to lunch for it and swing on them. I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about go with the feelings that make you feel pulled forward with what comes to your goals. Okay? Even if it don't make fucking sense, just do it. Like starting this podcast, it only happened because I didn't cut off my forward moving energy. The day I had the idea to start a podcast, I just got the fuck up and did it. I for once in my life was like, I just got the fuck up and did it. I, for once in my life, was like, I'm done overthinking shit.

I'm done with that. Like, I just got the random urge on a fucking Saturday, on a random Saturday, I got the urge of like, huh, maybe I should start a podcast. And it made me sit up in my chairs, I was like, fuck it, let's do it. So I literally walked to this fucking closet of standing in right now. I record this in my chairs, I was like, fuck it, let's do it. So I literally walked to this fucking closet, I'm standing here right now, I record this in a closet, so it's like padded and

you can like, this sounds good, you know? But I walked my ass to this fucking closet, I sat down and I fucking recorded in my first podcast episode. I didn't let myself overthink it, I didn't let myself get stressed out, I just was like, fuck it, even if it doesn't go anywhere, I at least had fun. But I was like, let's just do it. Like, just do the fucking podcast. So I did it. I set that on my computer. I edited it. I fucking got online, made the little cover art for it in 10 minutes. I found out how to host the podcast. I googled it and I posted the fucking podcast and I scheduled it for the next day, Sunday. That's how this podcast started.

And because I followed that forward moving energy that one day, it's got me to where I am now. I've had to do it multiple times. Like every week I have to follow that forward moving energy to make the fucking podcast. And sometimes that ain't there. Sometimes I have to push myself to do it. But my whole point is when I had the initial idea

to create the podcast I felt that forward pull and I didn't cut it off. I was at a point where I was so tired of talking myself out of taking actions and Acting on my ideas that I was just like, you know what this podcast is gonna be the one thing I don't overthink. I'm just gonna fucking go for it and just do it and It's been the one thing that has been the most rewarding for me. So when you feel that fucking pull to get up and do something, do not talk yourself out of it.

Get up and take the action. Get up and do it. Okay, my next point, my next observation from these rich mother fuckers, I'm trying to get like, is they accept the reality very quickly. So when something happens, they accept the situation at hand immediately. They don't get caught up in their emotions. They don't dwell on it. They don't freak out about, oh my god, this could have happened.

This could have happened. This could have went different. I could have done this. The you and so and so could have done this. Is there fucking fall? They don't point the finger. They don't get mad about what could have been different. They get clear about what they can control right now. They damage control now. Given what just happened, what are we gonna do? It's like if a plane crashes. Smart and successful people are not gonna start freaking the fuck out because the plane just crashed.

What they're gonna do is they're gonna grab their fucking shit. They're gonna help, whoever needs to be helped with the safety slide, they're gonna get their fucking ass out of the plane and they're gonna get on the little safety fucking boat. They're gonna take the actions that need to be taken in the moment and they'll reflect later. When you reflect on something,

you reflect because it's in the past. When something happens, like the plane fucking crashing, sitting in your seat and freaking the fuck out is not gonna do anything you need to get it together you need to grab yourself by your fucking hand and help yourself you need to do what you need to do in that moment given what just happened sitting in the seat freaking the fuck out blaming the pilot oh my god I can't believe this just happened saying shit like that just sit in there freaking out is gonna do nothing it's not gonna help you at all it's gonna

fucking hurt you because the plane sink in bitch I don't know if planes sink I'm just giving you a fucking example okay don't get at me I'm not a pilot I don't be knowing how planes work but that's the thing is they focus on what needs to be handled in the moment. So when the plane goes down, what needs to happen? Like your safety needs to be your priority. You need to find a way to make sure you're safe and that you're okay. So successful people are gonna be very direct in getting to that. They're gonna take the actions that are in line with getting their self to safety.

Same thing with something happening to the fucking business. It's like if I run a business and I have two employees and they get into a fight and they fuck up something and I'm supposed to send something to another company and their little altercation made it where I couldn't send what I needed to send. I'm not gonna waste my time yelling at them and trying to sort out their fight and I'm not gonna waste my time yelling at them

and trying to sort out their fight and I don't care who's in the wrong. I don't care who's to blame. What I need right now is my mother fucking shit done so I can send it to my other company. I don't give a fuck whose fault it is. I don't give a fuck what's going on. What I'm concerned about is the goal I need

and the objective I have. If my goal is to send whatever information I need to send to another company and these people just inhibited that, I'm not focused on the people. I'm focused on the problem at hand and how I'm going to solve it. Because whoever's to blame doesn't fucking matter right now. I'm objective. I need to get done. What I need to get done.

Successful people focus on what is urgent and they'll reflect later. I'll go cuss my fucking employees out and fire who needs to be fired and hear out the situation after my problem is handled. Successful people handle the problems at hand and do the shit that needs to be done now. They don't get caught up in the bullshit of whose fault it is, how it could have been different yada fucking yada. They handle what needs to be handled and they reflect later. Like I said, you reflect on things that are in the past. You don't reflect while they're happening.

I guess another way to put it is really successful people and forward moving people don't let theirself get distracted by what is not fucking important and by what is not going to get them to their goal into what they want to accomplish. They stay objective and something else that I kind of learned from nursing about like a chaotic situation. So I gave the example about being in a plane that crashes. A lot of people have an emotional reaction and they can't control whether they freak the fuck out fight or flight, you know, or freeze, some people freeze. But these people that don't allow for distractions are very controlled and going into nursing, I had to learn to become very controlled in the face of trauma, literal fucking traumatic

events. People being mutilated, coming in with limbs hanging off, you have to learn how to fucking gather yourself because you can't make a mistake, you can't fuck up someone's life in your hand. So you need to learn how to fucking gather yourself and one way that I've learned how to do that is to observe the moment. Whenever you're facing something that is serious and you need to gain control of yourself in that situation, observe it. Take literally feel like taking a step back inside your body and observe the situation. Just look at the situation from like a top-down view and look

at what is the priority. What is the most important thing right now in this room? Or whatever the situation is, what is the top priority? What is the main goal? So if it's saving this person's life, that's dying in front of me. Okay, get objective. What would need to be done? Takes you out of the fear.

It takes you out of all the chaos, everything going on. You organize your thoughts, you get your action steps going. one takes you out of the fear, it takes you out of all the chaos, everything going on. You organize your thoughts, you get your action steps going. You ask yourself, what step would need to happen next and then do it and then keep asking yourself, what would need, what needs to happen next and then do it? What needs to happen next for this person and then do it? Do the same thing with your goals. One needs to happen next and then do it.

But it's very easy to gather yourself in a chaotic situation after you do it a bunch, like the confidence thing I talked about, that's a skill you build and you'll learn how to get very controlled. It does not matter the circumstance and you'll still be able to think clearly under pressure. Just looking at the situation and observing the situation, okay, this is what is going on. And these are the interventions that would be situation. Okay, this is what is going on. And these are the interventions that would be helpful. You don't focus on anything else. You focus on what needs to be done.

So that's kind of like my two cents and how I relate that to my life and how I've gained this skill. But I learned how to do it in an extreme environment. I need to learn how to fucking do it with goals and other shit too. Like remain objective, remain goal oriented and focused and stop letting other shit get in the way. Because that is something I've observed across all rich people I've

encountered. Is they're very objective. Now some can't control their fucking emotions. So when something chaotic does happen, they do freak the fuck out because they're not emotionally controlled. But with everything else, they're objective in what needs to be done and the actions that need to be taken when they're not in a high emotional state. Okay, my next point. So they invest money into different things than like normal people, air quote normal people. And I'm not saying I'm a stock market. A lot of them be in the stock market but I don't fucking get it.

I don't understand the stock market. So I'm not even gonna try and tell you the game of that shit because I don't even know the first thing to fucking tell you. But they invest into gaining knowledge and they invest into gaining skills. A lot of them buy online courses and there's certain courses you can take for like anything. You can find a fucking online course for anything. They

range from like a hundred dollars to a thousand dollars to five thousand dollars, whatever it is. You can go and take these online courses and I've seen a lot of people talk about online courses are going to become the new like, air quote, college, because the amount of information and the amount of skills you can gain from some of these courses for a thousand dollars, beat the shit out of a full degree that are like tens of thousands of dollars

and way more time. So that's something really high on like the new wave. It's like you can learn anything you want to learn now online. You can get any kind of like Knowledge you fucking need because there's people making courses on everything. Definitely looking at the people You're getting a course sweat because some of them are fucking wackos, but My main point with this is like people invest in their knowledge and then skills So whether that's courses podcasts wink wink, but you just did it. So I'm proud of you.

Look at you. And skills. So it will take classes for things to like they'll go to like a physical class if they need to learn a new skill. But rich people invest in theirself. And I'm not saying they go take theirself to the fucking beauty salon and they get a massage and they do this and they do that. They invest in the things that will increase the value they have to offer.

So adding more knowledge, adding more skill sets, adding more perspectives, which is like comes on like reading and listening to shit like this, that increases the value you're able to offer, which makes you able to make more money. Because having more skills means you can provide more value. The more value you provide, the more money you make. It's a basic equation. But my point with this one is, instead of buying a fucking Gucci bag, or going to buy some stupid ass shit, look at the skills you could purchase instead. Look at the knowledge you could purchase instead. Look at the knowledge you could purchase instead because there's plenty of time to buy a fucking

Gucci bag. Okay. I'm wanting to speak because that was a motherfucker with a ton of designer shit for no reason. But now I'm investing in courses and all these things that are going to help me grow. Like my life coaching thing has cost me about $4,000 and I'm okay with investing in that grotesque hurt my feelings okay for grant oh I'm gonna be really real like I hurt my fucking feelings immensely and I will not be eating out for quite some time but I'm willing to invest that money into the skill sets I'm gonna learn and into getting the certification that I need because that is gonna make me

Better at what I'm trying to do which will make me be able to charge for it So it makes sense because right now it's like I have my podcast to stand on but I don't have really any Certification so it's like as soon as I get that and then gain some more knowledge for the business aspect and The like one-on-one coaching aspect, I'm gonna be able to provide a lot more value. So I'm investing in that. I'm investing in the knowledge that I need. And that's something that I've seen is very consistent

throughout all the successful people I've been around. They're all doubt, they don't skimp on that shit. Like, that's another thing is rich people be weird. Like, sometimes they'll skimp on like certain things and like sometimes they'll blow a lot of money. So like, I know one guy that buys like $100,000 guitars and like blows money on stupid ass shit like that. But we'll like trip over like drinks being too much

at a bar. Like it's the funniest shit because like it's like if two shots is like 30 bucks, he's like, eh, he's like disgusted, he gets mad. But it's like, grow you by and $100,000 fucking guitars. But most rich people have like places where they're very frugal and places where they're willing to spend ridiculous amounts of money. But the one area that all of them are fine with investing a lot of time and money into

is building their skill sets and their knowledge. That's one that's been consistent throughout all of them. So remember when I said I was gonna be real vulnerable about something, this is the point my next one that I'm gonna share. So really successful people are not afraid to look like an asshole. So when they have a goal and they decide that they want something, they're going to go for it.

And they don't let potentially looking like a bad person or looking like an asshole get in their way. So if they need to take certain actions to get to where they want to go, they're going to do it. They don't care that they're going to hurt other people's feelings or that other people are going to look at them like they're an asshole. They prioritize their goal and they fucking go for it. They don't let things get in their way. They don't let people's opinions like fuck with them. They put their blinders on. So they're so focused on their goal that they don't even consider what other people are like thinking about it, you know?

But another thing is with my life right now, I just came back from Cabo and I had a full like, revelation, like a whole mindset flip and shift while I was there. Part of that is like when I got home I was like I'm about to turn into a fucking like workhorse. Like I'm about to drill so hard into the things that I want to achieve and what I want to work on. Like I'm about to fully put all my energy into the goals that I have and I'm gonna be unapologetic about it. But with doing that here it comes we come back to the part about being afraid to look an asshole. The people around me are about to think I'm a fucking dick because I'm not

gonna be hanging out with my friends, I'm not gonna be going out to party anymore, I'm not gonna be out doing the shit that I used to do. I'm about to be so fucking busy, I'm about to neglect all the relationships in my life to a certain extent. And I feel bad about that. But I need to fucking do what I need to fucking do to get to my goals. But if I sat here and stressed myself out and told myself all the reasons why, I need to be a good friend and how I'm a bad friend

if I start focusing on myself. And I need to still make time for other people and I need to not work so much that I can have extra time for others. It's like, no, if what I wanna spend my time on what I want to spend my fucking time on because I have goals, then so be it. If people aren't understanding of that, I'm sorry, no love lost, I still care about you, but I need to do what's best for fucking me. And I need to finally just crack down and run straight fucking head first into my goals.

I'm done fucking around. I'm done feeling bad. I'm sick of it because I'm trying to do a balance of like chase my goals, but also people please and make sure everybody's not mad at me, but it's getting to the point where worrying about what people are thinking of me and worrying about people's reactions to me is holding me the fuck back

from what I want. So now I get to pick one. I get to pick rootlessly go for your fucking goals of me and worrying about people's reactions to me is holding me the fuck back from what I want. So now I get to pick one. I get to pick rootlessly go for your fucking goals or pick the people and the life you have now. I don't fucking want the life I have now. So I'm at the point I have to just go for what I have to go for and that's what I want and it's the life that I want to create and I have to just do it and I'm going to have

to look like a fucking dick. I'm gonna have to hurt people's feelings and pull back and not be as available. And it sucks, but I don't fucking want this life anymore. I want better, I want more. And I'm finally at the place where I'm like, all right, I need to go forward with it. And I talk to one of my friends about this that is really successful. And he said, Leo, I've been watching you and I've been waiting for you to get to this point because I see it in you.

You just had to get pushed here because you have too big of a heart. You needed to get pushed to the point where you just said, fuck it and just did it. And he's like, I'm happy that you're finally here because now you're about to skyrocket. And that was really nice validation. But this is the point I took from him was you can't be afraid to look like an asshole. If you want to achieve your goals, you have to go for them. You can't have the best of both worlds.

You can't fucking try to be leveling up and still be dealing with the people that are on the level that you were on before. You're gonna have to go. You're gonna have to step up the staircase and fucking go. And if people don't grow with you, then that's on them. So that's my biggest point with all of this. And that's what's been the hardest for me because I care so much. And I don't want to hurt people and I don't want anyone to feel bad about theirself,

but I'm at the point where it's me or them and I've picked other people for so long and that's what's gotten me to where I am now and I don't fucking like where I'm at so I have to pick me if I want to get out of here I have to pick me if I actually want to get to a life that I want to live so moving on to my last point I feel like it's like two points. Being smart is gonna fuck you when you try to become successful. And what I mean by being smart is being too much of like a street thinker, being too paranoid, being too like analytical and trying to outweigh everything and like think of the bad options,

thinking of the way shit can go wrong and bad, it's gonna bite you in the fucking ass, because it's bit me forever. So really, really dumb people, it's easy for them to make money, and there are so many stupid fucking unaware ass, emotionally immature ass people that are so rich, because achieving success for them is easier when you only see one perspective.

You're able to just drill forward and only see that. When you see a lot more perspectives, there's a lot more to take into consideration. People that are asleep have a lot less to consider. People that are aware and people like you and me are going to have a lot more trouble because we're going to be so overwhelmed because we see so many perspectives to consider Smart people have their brain working against them like we're aware we have our brain working against us in this way But you have to learn from the dumb motherfuckers. You have to learn from the ones that are so blind to their one perspective and just go for it. Like, it's, it seems simple for dumb people because they're considering a lot less. So I just want to validate you on that.

If it seems like stupid people are making it work and they're just taking off and it just works out so easy for them, it does. It literally seems like it for them because they're not as stressed out as we are. They're not overthinking like we do. They're not trying to consider every fucking thing that we see. They don't see it. So they're free to just work toward what they want.

But my point here is we can still make it work. We just have to remember that simplicity is key. And we have to learn the skills to reassure ourselves and to be there for ourselves and to calm ourselves when we're emotional and fucking keep taking action. The necessary part of what we need to do is in the action. Stop with the overthinking.

Stop with the fucking bullshit. Just do the action. Reassure yourself that the action is what is going to get you where you need to go. Like with my TikToks. When I was going to post that one TikTok and I was like, oh the algorithm is not a good time. Don't even worry about it. Take the actions that are gonna get you where you want to go. Because even if the algorithm was bad at that time, I still posted the video. It was still seen by certain people. Even if it did bad, which it didn't. But even if it were to have done bad, I still am one step closer. That action still got me closer than if I didn't. But even if it were to have done bad, I still am one step closer.

That action still got me closer than if I didn't take the action at all. It's like going to the gym. So the action of going to the gym and working out is what determines the growth. You are only going to grow if you go to the gym and work out or lift weights or wherever you only have to go to the gym and work out or lift weights or wherever you need to go to the gym. If you just lift weights and your goal is to gain muscle, lifting

weights is the only thing that's going to get you there. But someone like us will overthink shit. We're like, oh, what supplements do I need? What time is the best to go? What should I eat before? Let me look at the diet. Let me look at what I need to be eating. Let me make sure I'm doing all the right exercises. Let me look up and make sure all the scientific proven fucking shit. It's like, that's not what's important. The micro details, the supplements, the bullshit on the side is not what determines the growth. The literal, just the act, just the act of lifting the weights is what determines the growth. So focus on that. Focus all of your energy on lifting the fucking weights,

which means doing the action that is gonna get you where you need to go. Don't focus on the fucking supplements. Don't focus on the fucking bullshit. Don't distract yourself from taking the physical action that is gonna get you where you need to go. And that's my best example with the working out thing because I trust out and I get all up in trying to find the best of this and the best of that.

And I'm always trying to find a shortcut in a quick way, but it's like that all that energy I could have been using and just doing the action of working out more. Put your focus on what action you need to take, simplify it, stop overthinking, listen to this podcast as many times as you fucking need, because I need this reassurance too. And I know this sounds like stupid, but I listen to my podcast sometimes, because it feels like a smarter version of me, like when I feel dumb or I feel sad or I feel whatever, I feel like it's the smarter version of me that's like talking to me. So I get to feel comforted by it. And that's why I say just listen to it if you need to

because I do sometimes like when I'm down and I don't feel like smart Leo and I'm just like sadly, I'll sad to press Leo, like I need smart Leo to knock some sense into me. So my last point is something I've observed that successful people never do. And it's taken a long time for me to realize through the contrast because this is something

that I've done in the past where I've had to learn to stop doing it. And it's trying to make myself comfortable with being uncomfortable. So when something happens or I realize that I don't like something about my life, a successful person will never try to just cope with it and make their self be okay with it. People that are wired for success instantly look for ways to start changing

it and bettering their situation. They're not gonna try to comfort theirself and make theirself cope with whatever they're dealing with. They're gonna look at whatever's in their control to make their situation better. And this is something that I observed about two years ago and I've actively started doing it, but it's one of those things like with awareness. It's like once you gain the awareness you have to act,

I've talked about it before, this takes it to a whole new extent. Because successful people, I've seen like, they don't try to make theirself okay with the bare minimum. They don't try to make theirself accept less. They want more and they don't try to make theirself even settle for less.

They don't even try to make theirself settle for less. They understand it's not acceptable and they're going to do what they can to change it. And I'm not talking about when you're emotionally uncomfortable or like you're upset by something, that's a different process of how to handle yourself. I'm talking about a situation you're in. Whether it's a relationship in your life or financially you're in a certain situation, you're not happy with it or like your job. And you know you want more. As soon as they become aware, they want more or they want better, they start moving toward it.

They start looking at what's in their control and taking actions that they can to improve their situation. They do not waste energy and they do not waste time trying to become okay with where they are. They're okay with not being okay where they are and using that to change shit. So that's a huge part of it that has made a big impact on my life. Like I don't cope anymore and I don't try to make myself okay with shit being bad or less than I want. And I'm the type person you're going to ask anyone that's been around me. I'm the type to make the best out of a situation. Like even if we're stuck in a shitty fucking situation,

I'm a find a way to have fun. Because sometimes there are situations where there's nothing you can control the change of situations. So you might as well have fun while you're in it. You might as well extract what you can out of the situation while you're stuck in it. Reminding yourself that it's going to end. But look for all the ways that you can control the outcome and you can control the quality of the position that you're in and motherfucker act on it. Like trust me, there's so much more that you're not seeing than you even realized because as soon as you open up to trying to see what is in your control, only then will you be a match vibrationally to seeing all the possibilities

you're seeing before. So switch your mindset from trying to get comfortable and make yourself okay with not living the life that you want. Do the opposite. Look for ways to make yourself uncomfortable with the life that you have so it lights a little fire under your ass to start making changes. If you like this podcast, I just have one request and it's that you go leave me a five star rating. Thank you so much. If you want to keep up with me, all of my social media will be linked in the description of his podcast and also if you're interested on one-on-one coaching with me It is now an application process. So due to the high demand I've had to make an application process to try and filter some things out and get matched up with people who are actually a good fit for me to work with

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