Aware & Aggravated - 23. Realities People Like To Hide

Episode Date: June 8, 2022

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Hi friends, I don't know where this episode is going to go, but I'm going to just stand here and run my mouth and see what happens. So the thing I want to talk about is people being a lot more intentional about what they're doing than you think. I've kind of touched on this in other episodes, but I've never really went into it. I've said people are trying more than you think, putting more effort into things, but people are a lot more intentional behind the shit that they're doing. And the reason I want to make a whole episode about it is because everyone makes it seem

like shit happens to them by accident. So success. If someone's very successful, if someone's famous, if someone has a lot of money, if someone has a really cool outfit, if someone has a really of money if someone has a really cool outfit if someone has a really good body they act like it's all just a fucking accident and like it just happened and they oh my god they're like a deer in headlights like just a dits oh my god how did this happen like I don't know why that's so common and why that's like the trend is to act like you fucking have no clue how you got where you are and how you have what you have

But people behaving like this and people hiding their true intentions behind what they're doing Fucks a lot of people up in the head so like everybody pretends like they're not actually trying and they're not actually intentional behind their actions like oh, I just don't know how it happened. And that sends the narrative that shit happens by accident. Success does not happen by accident. Making money does not happen by accident. Having a really good body does not happen by fucking accident.

So I wanna go into a lot of these things and kinda deconstruct some shit. And I'm gonna hit like every area I can think of really like no there's not that many. There's like six or seven. So there's seven areas I want to like deconstruct and shed some light on because I know what it's like to be working towards shit. And okay this is something that I've noticed. There's a void of in like social media spaces.

So it seems like there are people that are wanting to start working toward their goals. And like they have their little routine and they're like doing their shit. And then you have people who are already successful. So you have the people that are starting on their success journey or you have people that are already fucking successful telling you how to get there.

But you don't see anyone in the middle struggling and failing and bust in their fucking ass and keeps getting shit thrown in their face. So I've noticed there's a void in the market basically for someone that's climbing the ladder, but it's also sharing all the trials and simulations and all the hardship that comes with it. That's why I've opened up so much about some of the things that I'm facing and I'm dealing with on my road

to trying to fucking mix and goddamn money. Like honestly, it's so frustrating. And I feel so isolated and alone with it, because I only see people who are already successful That's not where I'm at They're ahead of me and then I see people who are doing their basic little fucking daily routines with their lemon water and making their bed Thinking that's gonna fucking do something. I'm gonna do a whole video about Morning routines and having a routine in your day and how it's actually fucking you and holding you back

But that's a separate episode. But my point is there's people that are ahead of me or people that I feel are behind me. I have no one to relate to right now. Like, where's the people struggling their fucking ass off? Where's the people that are like failing? Where the fuck are y'all? You're sitting there fucking being quiet and not posting shit. And that's making other people like you and me feel alone Because nobody wants to post that nobody wants to fuck a post how they're so goddamn frustrated

Or how that just lost a certain amount of money or how shit's just not working out for them No one wants to post that But it's important that we start posting it because I really need to relate to someone right now I need to feel like someone fucking gets it like I feel like I'm struggling and like as Gary V says, eating shit, I feel like I'm I hate that motherfucker. Okay, he pisses me off. But I feel like I'm like sucking fucking wind and I'm struggling and the only people I have to turn to are people that are ahead of me that are already at the other end of success or people that are just having the idea and starting and doing their little routine. Like, you know, I have no one that's actually like

Made shit started shit done shit and like it's failing Like honestly, where the fuck are y'all at? Like connect with me. Be friends with me Be friends with me so we could be there for each other. And fucking help each other through this shit, cause it's hard. I need someone to lean on, but not just someone that is there. Like, I want someone that I can relate to. I want someone that's like, going through it with me. Human being suffer less when we suffer together. So it's not gonna seem so fucking bad if we fail together.

So let's do that. But I'm also not the type that gets like jealous. So like, if we're both working on something and do that. But I'm also not the type that gets like jealous. So like if we're both working on something and your shit takes off and mine doesn't, I don't give a fuck. I'm gonna be just as excited for you. I'm not gonna be intimidated. I'm not gonna be mad. You're gonna like push me to work harder. Like I'm gonna be like okay it can happen. Look it just happened it worked. Like I can do it too. I'm gonna feel encouraged, not intimidated. So, somebody goddamn, come be friends with me. That's on their little entrepreneur journey

and it is struggling because I feel very alone in that upset. But anyway, let's get into my fucking seven topics of where I'm about to expose these motherfuckers, all right? So, success. That's my first one. People that are successful, it doesn't happen by accident. I wish it God damn fucking did.

I wish it just happened by chance and I wish it was just fucking easy. Like success does not just happen to people. Even if they're not busting their ass, they're doing a lot more than you think. So an example is Kylie Jenner. Like yeah, she was born into it, sure. But so much more went into her being famous than people even fucking realize. Like yeah, you have born into it. Sure, but so much more went into her being famous

than people even fucking realize. Like yeah, you have the fame of the name, but that bitch became one of the most famous people in the world because she was marketed, she put what she needed to put out on social media. And yeah, all these big managers and shit are telling her what to post, telling her what to do, but she's still having to do the work and post the shit so that she can become famous.

She's still having to do a lot of things, and there's so much more calculated action than everyone fucking realizes behind that. Because if you look at her Instagram, she's just a pretty bitch that does nothing. She has some skin care, she has some makeup, but like she's just a pretty fucking girl. That's it. Like, that's all she contributes through her fucking Instagram with some cool pictures to look at.

That's what I'm saying. Everything is so much more calculated than you realize. Literally, every fucking thing about people's social media is calculated and thought through and takes so much more effort than you think. I guarantee you there's 10 fucking people that run Kylie's Instagram and she's just the one that takes the fucking pictures or has the pictures taken of her but there's

10 different fucking people analyzing shit, thinking of shit, scheduling shit, telling her win-wear, what how and all that. It's not just her running the fucking Instagram, I promise. But we don't see any of that. We don't see any of the planning and the preparation that goes into any famous person's Instagram, or anyone that has an Instagram with like a decent amount of followers,

because as much as like my Instagram is a shit show and I just throw random shit up, sometimes I think it through and I calculate it a little bit. Like I have to take into consideration the way that my grid looks because I have brands that are like looking at my shit and I have to make it like look pretty. You know? But you don't get to know that.

You don't get to know that these people are planning all this shit and putting all this effort into it. All you see is that they post a little story or they post a little Instagram picture. They just make it look so effortless. It's like, oh, I just took this and threw it up. Look at me. Look how cute I am. Look. Like that's all it seems like it is, but there's 20 times more the fucking intention, effort, and strategy behind it. But like sure, look at fucking Rob Kardashian. He ain't shit. He has basically the same opportunity being related to the family and he's a fucking flop He didn't do shit with it like

Kylie tried and like has done a lot more to Have the fame that she has and the success that she has like I get it a lot of people want to say it was fucking handed to her Chris Jenner is a goddamn genius. I've said this before and I will give credit where credit is due. I fucking love her. But they both have the same opportunity. And why did Kylie Skyrocket? Because she fucking did more. I can guarantee it to you.

But she was a lot more intentional with trying to gain an audience than Rob is. Rob is like, okay, whatever. I'm a little famous. Cool. By like, his intention is probably to make money. He did that. And Kylie's intention is to be famous. So she's gone after that and done that. But the success of that is like,

there's so much more that went into it. Even with like goals and shit. To meet a goal, people are doing so much more than you realize. I'm overlapping because I'm about to get to that shit because like all these things are goals really. I have gotten so off track with this shit and I'm frustrated with myself. But I'm talking to get to that shit because like all these things are goals really. I have gotten so off track with this shit And I'm frustrated with myself, but I'm talking about success. Okay, I keep overlapping points, but success

It is not fucking easy. It's not I shouldn't say it's not easy It's not simple. It's not simple by any fucking means. It takes a lot more action than you think. It takes a lot more intention than you think. And I say then you think because everybody's posting that it's easy fucking peasy. Like, oh my god, you just drink your lemon water in the morning and you make your bed and you meditate and you journal, you're successful.

No, bitch. That's not fucking success. At all. None of those things lead to success. None of those actions directly lead you to success or having a business or owning shit or making money. Sorry. None of those actions that everybody keeps posting about are gonna make you a fuck thing.

This is just my reassurance to you. If you're trying to start something or you're trying to be successful and you're like running into a lot of shit, nothing's gone wrong, babe. Nothing's gone wrong. I swear the more you become aware, oh my god, look at me rhyming.

I swear the more you become aware. You're gonna see that all the things that you're facing other people have faced too. You're not like the odd one out. Like everybody has to go through a lot of shit and like put a lot of intentional effort behind things. And like this whole manifestation ship, bro, with the whole like, you just think of thought and it's going to create your reality.

No bitch, intentional action is going to create your reality. So if you want success, you got to work for it. You got to do things. You got to take action. So just think. Anyone that you know that has a business has that to go through the process of doing the paperwork for a sole proprietorship or LLC or whatever paperwork they did to establish the business. Okay. People have done so much more than you realize for their fucking business and you're never gonna realize that until you try and start one. You're gonna be like, God damn, all these people were doing all this or like they hired an attorney to do their paperwork,

but like damn, like they had to do all this, you're gonna realize as you start to create something, fuck, like a lot more win into this. Okay, so my next point is gonna be about fame. That one was about success, but I got some shit to say about fame. People that are posting on TikTok, myself included, wear a lot more intentional about what we're posting than we lead on. Like, I schedule, not schedule, because you can't schedule TikToks,

but I plan out when I'm gonna post certain things, when I'm gonna do certain things, I record videos and I never post them, like I have over 400 drafts, because I'm so calculated about what I want out there, and how I want to represent myself on my TikTok accounts, both of them. So, I record a lot of fucking videos, I do a lot of shit, but I'm very picky with what I post.

Like, I'm a lot more intentional behind blowing up on TikTok than it might seem. Like sure, there are videos where I am just effortless, and I'm like, whatever, I don't know if a lot more intentional behind blowing up on TikTok than it might seem. Like sure, there are videos where I am just effortless and I'm like, what I'm running over, fuck if this one blows up. But some of them, I'm like, goddamn, I hope that one does good. You know? But it's always the ones that you don't expect to blow up that blow up because my cabo video of me taking shots in my hotel room, that was just a for fuck video.

That's like a for fun video. And it got like 10 million views. And I was like, huh, like that's my most popular video. And it still shocks the shit out of me. But my point is, I'm a lot more intentional behind my TikToks. And everyone is so much more intentional behind what they're posting than you fucking realize. Everyone is worried about what time they're posting. They're worried about their fucking caption. They're worried about the way their pictures look on Instagram. Whatever it is, people are so much more intentional behind it. It's not a fucking accident. It's not an accident that people look the way that they do and post what they post. It is all

very much intentional. People say the shit that they do and behave the way that they do online for a reason. There's a reason that everybody behaves a certain way. Now my shit is my personality. Like this is just how I fucking am. Like you know, like the people that know me know me because my podcast reflects exactly the same as my tics oxygen shit. Like I'm the same fucking person, but a lot of people construct like who they are and how they behave, but they do that for a reason. Like that fucking dumb bitch that is like a Trump, like she's the Trump bitch that goes to the college campuses and your name's Caitlin or whatever the fuck and she'll go to like campuses and like harass people and just like fuck with them and try and start controversy, like she goes around her little microphone. You know I carry, right?

Like shut the fuck up, you dumb cunt. You dumb fucking cunt. You, oh my God. I just wish I could run across the bitch like that so I could put her in her fucking place. Oh my God, I would eat her the fuck alive with my words. Cause she's a girl so I wouldn't hit her. But when she said, you know I carry, right?

Yeah, I do too bitch, I want about it. Oh my God, but you don't need to run around and fucking say that. You don't need to run around me, I do too bitch. I want about it. Oh My god, but we don't you don't need to run around and fucking say that you need to run around me like I have a gun Shut up shut the fuck up. I'm not even talking about that Leo get on to something else get on to your point But my point behind that bitch is like she knows what the fuck she's doing She knows she's starting controversy. She knows what she's saying is Causing people to want to watch her videos. They like to watch the conflict It's so fucking funny, but she behaves that way on purpose. It's very much calculated like that's just that's not just a dumb bitch

Like she knows what she's doing But like with videos if you just would take a second and Ask yourself what went into this? This would take a second and ask yourself, what went into this? You're gonna fucking get disgusted. Like if you look at someone like Vinny Hacker, for the people that know Vinny Hacker, I'm about to eat this little boy alive. Okay, so look at any thirst trapper. So like Vinny Hacker is something who comes to mind.

But if you look at all of these people that make like thirst trap videos, if you just imagine, okay, what went into this video, you're gonna get the ink because if you imagine these people like setting up their ring light, putting their fucking phone on it, setting their phone up, making sure that they're in frame. And then like, making sure that their abs look good, like moving their pants around. Like when you like, imagine them trying to perfect theirself for the fucking camera, or like the ones where they stick their arm out

and record theirself, like imagine Vinny Hacker laying in his bed with his arm stuck out, trying to be like sexy to his phone. Like bitch, as soon as you imagine it from the other end of the phone and you're like observing them, making the video, you're the fucking ik and you're gonna be like ew like that's embarrassing Like even with my shit sometimes I'm like you literally like can imagine me like walking up setting my phone down Making sure I look okay and then running my mouth about some stupid ass shit or like

Making a fucking cooking video like if you just picture what went into this becoming a thing That's when you're gonna start realizing like oh my god. There's like 45 fucking things I didn't even think about that like made this video a thing and The whole thing I want to like bring to light in this and my whole intention behind making this podcast episode Is for people that want these things. Like when these people are posting and making it seem like it's so easy to achieve these things and it just happens by accident, when you go and try to do it too, you think it's going to be easy or you think that you're going to get really good results because you're

doing what everybody else is doing. They're doing 12 times more than what they're fucking showing you that they're doing. So, when you try to do it and it's really hard for you, you're gonna think something is gone wrong. You're gonna be like, what the fuck? Or you're gonna get really discouraged. And I'm here to make this episode to reassure you. Nothing's gone wrong. It's hard for fucking everyone. Like, they're just making it seem like it's no big deal. But all the effort that you're having to put in, yeah, bitch, they all are. I promise. Like, don't get discouraged. Please, just keep going, keep working towards what you want to work on. And just realize that everyone is more intentional with a lot of fucking things than you even would consider. And I'm going to get in some more like personal things in a second, but next thing is money.

People are a lot more intentional about making money than you think. Everyone has a bill of some sort or rent or whatever they have to do. And even the people that don't, like I live at home with my dad right now and I'm living for free because I don't have to pay rent. So I'm staying here to bank up some fucking money while I decide where I want to move to. I'm moving out in the next couple months.

But my whole rationale behind that is like, I'm not going to pay to live in Pensacola if I'm gonna pay to live somewhere. I'm leaving So like I'm when I move out it's I'm moving away. I'm not just moving out So I'm trying to like figure my shit out with that But yeah people are a lot more intentional about making money and having an income than they let on like money It's such a like a taboo fucking topic and nobody talks about it. And nobody tells the truth about their intentions with it. Like everybody wants to make fucking money.

Everybody's goal is to make money. We need it to fucking survive. At the end of the day, I know I have the whole episode about money where I said you didn't. Like we all want it because it makes things very, very easy. It's a tool. So who doesn't want more tools in their fucking toolbox?

Everybody. So I just want to make that clear. People are a lot more intentional about fucking money than we think. And one thing I kind of want to bring up about that is like, when you see influencers online with their fucking paid posts and shit, you do not realize how much work goes into that. So you don't see the hours of communication back and forth between the influencer and the brand. And So you don't see the hours of communication back and forth between the influencer and the brand. And then you don't see the contract they send over. And then you don't see how long it took for them to create the content, whether it's take a picture or make a video for the brand, then they have to send it to the brand for approval.

And if the brand says no, we want something different, you have to redo it. And then you post it. But all the viewers sees is you just took an effortless looking picture and threw it up and made $20,000. That's not the fucking case, okay? It's so much more complex and so much more difficult than you think. And the intentional behind money thing, the reason I'm bringing that up is because there's nothing wrong with wanting to go for more money. There is nothing wrong with wanting to make more money.

Everybody fucking does. So, there's just a narrative that's pushed where it's like, no, you're not supposed to want more money. You're not supposed to nothing. And if you do want more money, you're not allowed to talk about it. You're only allowed to suffer and struggle in silence. Like, you have to fucking just deal with it. And then you can make the money, but don't brag about it. Like there's such a weird fucking like connotation around money

and like the whole thing, but everybody's more intentional with it than you think. And I've said that like 25 fucking times now, Leo, shut up. You see all these people spending all this fucking money online. It's like they have to be intentional about making it. And even people that are born into really rich families and they have the money there, they're fucking stressed about it. They're not just like,

ooh, carefree, like it seems. Like everybody has a concern around money and stress is about money. The people that fucking go and are spending all this shit, it's like, they're stressed too. All you see is them being happy. Oh my God, just being carefree and spending all this shit, it's like they're stressed too. All you see is them being happy. Oh my God, just being carefree and spending all this money, it's like no bitch, they're stressed the fuck out too.

And even if they're not like stressed, like we get because we're normal people, they're at least like taking it into consideration and being like, ooh fuck, for a second, you know? Like everybody has that kind of worry. It doesn't matter what fucking tax bracket you're in. Everybody has money stress and everybody deals with that shit. And people are more geared toward making more money

than you'd think. So like even these little trust fundee people, like they know they're okay right now, but I guarantee you they're fucking stressed about their future. They're like, okay, I'm gonna enjoy myself. I'm just gonna ignore it. I'm gonna go party and have fun.

I'm just gonna ignore this feeling that's coming up of like, oh my god, what am I gonna do? What if my money runs out? What did I piss my parent off and they cut me off? Like that's all gone through their fucking head. Okay, next one is a little bit more personal. So what people prioritize? They are a lot more intentional about about I swear to God. So when people prioritize relationships or trying to talk to certain people, they're a lot more intentional than you think. If someone likes you, they will prioritize talking to you. And I hate to be the bearer of bad news. But if someone makes an excuse for why they can't be with you, understand that it's an excuse. I don't care if they're like, I need to go work on my mental health.

I'm not in the place right now for a relationship. I'm worried. I'm really stressed. I'm yada yada. Everything that they say is a fucking excuse. Because I'm more busy than I've ever been in my entire fucking life right now. And my mind is pulled in like 45 different fucking directions. But if Mr. Right came and plop

down in my lap, you best believe him and make it work because I'd want him. Like if I found Mr. Right, I would do what it took to keep him and have him in my life. So if someone truly likes you and truly cares about you, they will be intentional about prioritizing you. Don't let no one give you no fucking excuse of why they can't be with you, but they still want to be friends or like, oh, I can't date you, but I still want to be friends with benefits. Fuck that. They're telling you they don't care about you enough to date you. But yes, this is reassurance that people know what the fuck they're doing, and they're a lot more intentional about what they choose to prioritize than you'd think. But like friendships too, if your friend

is gonna hang out with other people, they're prioritizing that. They're choosing that. Like people choose who they wanna hang out with. People choose that they wanna be close to. People put the effort, the intentional effort, into who they want to put it into, based off who they like and who they care about.

People are not as oblivious as you'd think. I swear, I really promise they're not. Like if you voice something to someone and they just act oblivious to how they just don't know how you feel so neglected and they just don't understand how you feel like unwants it as a friend and not prioritized. No, they fucking know.

They know exactly what they're doing. They're prioritizing other shit. They just don't wanna say it to you. Like, just, if when someone does that, just let them do that and go fucking do something else. Like, don't let someone just like play around with you like that. They're clearly not okay with communicating

their true feelings and intentions. Well, one, you gotta ask, but two, if you ask and then they give you some bullshit excuse, they don't want to fucking hang out with you. And that's that. And the same goes for dating someone. Like if they give you a bullshit fucking excuse or any excuse, like I said, it's an excuse babe.

And I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but people are intentional about spending their energy and time on things they want. If they don't do that, it's because they don't want it. Oh my god, the next thing on my list, like I'm annoyed, just fucking looking at it. People's appearance, okay? And I'm about to like unravel some thoughts on this shit, because we're gonna get to tattoos in a minute. Oh my god, it fucking makes my ass itch.

People and their fucking tattoos nowadays. But we're talking about looks and appearance first. So people are a lot more intentional behind the way that they fucking look. People are a lot more intentional about the vibe that they put on and the clothes that they wear and the certain like style they have. People are a lot more fucking intentional behind it than you realize. They're fucking outfits, they're style.

Like everybody's going for a certain look. All these boys on fucking Instagram and TikTok that are trying to look like they're being effortless. Like they're putting their laying that shit out the day before. Like they're spending an hour every night thinking of what they're gonna wear the next day. Like they're laying their outfit out to go to the fucking coffee shop in the morning. Like they're fucking going to school. They're picking their outfits. They're laying their little fit out.

Like their first day of school outfit. They be putting that level of energy into every day's outfit. To look effortless, air quote effortless, bitch, any fucking effortless. They're trying so much harder than you realize. And they're not just going to thrift stores and finding all this great shit. I promise you, I fucking promise you, these little thrifters online.

They're not fucking finding all this cool ass shit at thrift shops. There's a lot of places that make vintage looking things and they just sell them at online shops. Like, they're very much mass producedproduced, they're very much not vintage. There might be a couple things people find that are vintage that are cool, like from thrift shops or wherever. But not as much, like, no one is wearing a full fucking thrifted outfit and looking the

way that these people look. You'd look raggedy as fuck or shit just ain't gonna fit you right. So like, a lot of people get their shit tailored and that's something that people need to take into consideration. These people are not going to these thrift stores and just finding things that fit their body perfectly. They're fucking getting shit altered

so that it does fit them perfectly. But they don't show you that. They just show, oh my God, I went to Goodwill and I found 500 fucking things and they all fit me perfect. Look! I have a whole outfit. Look for $12. But you're not gonna say you spent $150 on getting a tailored dumbass. Oh, that's a shit that works me. People just are so fake about what they're fucking doing and they hide so many details and it's like, yo.

So like, when I go to the thrift store and I don't find a fuck thing that fits me, So I go to 12 more stores and I don't find a single fucking thing that fits me good or looks cute Like where are y'all finding y'all shit, you know? That makes me think something's wrong with me. Ain't shit wrong with me. There's something wrong with y'all lying about what the fuck you're really doing I also am six foot seven so I will take that into consideration So I'm not gonna find much that fits me very awfully. So I will, I'll put that one to rest. Okay, let's get into tattoos. So when people get tattoos, they know what they're getting.

They're choosing what they're getting. They know how it's about to fucking look. They know the vibe they're about to have, okay? And that's something that Erkst is living shit out of me about tattoos nowadays is every fucking little Joe Schmo fruit loop has them. And they try to get them to look all tough stuff. Like there's these little 18 year old boys on TikTok be bopping around doing their little dances with dope ass tattoos on like some tough stuff as shit and like You can't tell who's with it anymore like you can't tell who actually will fuck your shit up or won't anymore like every normal

Asked person has tattoos now It's like the people that used to have tattoos and used to fit a certain image We're like okay, we're like, okay, we need to watch out for them or like, let's be friends with them. They're with the shit. You know, that's how you could like tell. But nowadays, everybody has tattoos. These fucking no good can't even fight.

Soft as a marshmallow motherfuckers are covered in tattoos. Vinny Hacker. What are you fucking doing, kid? Like he has some cool ass tattoos, but like,. You're trying to look all grunge and tough stuff and you over here living in a goddamn fucking mansion and you over here making thirst chaps for a living. It's very contradictory. Like people wanna look a vibe

but they don't wanna be the vibe. Oh my God, I just fucking figured it out. That's it. These fucking losers with these goddamn tattoos trying to look a certain vibe but they are not that vibe. Like, these are type people to like try to look tough stuff and then get their fucking shit smashed in

because they're a fucking pussy. Y'all, you could tell I'm aggravated by this because there's so many people that have like a false sense of confidence and a false sense of superiority because they have some fucking tattoos. If you're a fucking loser and you have tattoos, all you are now is a loser with tattoos. You're still a fucking bozo.

Your skin might look a little cooler, but you're still a fucking pussy at heart. I think that's another really big contributor to everybody being so fucking confused, is because nobody is what they portray. Like everybody's intentionally getting these tattoos to look a certain vibe, but they know that ain't them. They know that their personality does not match that shit. Like, I saw this one boy on TikTok.

I think he was like 17, and he had like knuckle tattoos, like how Biker gang is get them. And he had hand tattoos, like skulls and shit with flames. Like, he had some really, really well done tattoos. And I fucking loved them. really, really well done tattoos and I fucking loved them. But he's this little fucking teeny bopper that like you ain't been to a fuck thing. Why you dress like that? Like why are you dressing your skin like that? To put on this image that you're tough stuff

when like you grew up in suburbia and your parents love you and baby do and you have a fucking horse. Like what? You don't get to have those t-t-t-t okay y'all know what I mean like do you get what I'm saying

like you fucking people you are not allowed to have these type tattoos like you look so fucking stupid like these people are covered in tattoos and they're too scared to go ask for fucking catch up at a restaurant like oh I'm in my villain era know you're a pussy sit out your fucking sleeve is cool, but you're a fucking little care bear All right, I need to stop being so mean and disson everybody okay. I need to cool it. I need a drink a little water

Oh fucking chill out But yeah people are a lot more intentional behind the vibe they're trying to put on. I wish people would put more intention behind trying to be what they're trying to look like, like actually embody it and actually become it, then just fucking look like it. But unfortunately, that's not the case because looking a certain way online gets you certain attention.

So you don't actually have to be that thing. You can just look like it and everyone will still love you and think you're great. So a lot of people can control the way that they're perceived online and they can shine a better light on theirself or like a tougher light on theirself than is actually there. Like these bitches that look witchy and they dress like very like hippie and they try and look like witches, they're trying to do that. Like I love those girls but like they don't just wake up with a wardrobe of fucking pentagram necklaces and goddamn

scarves and robes and shit that they wear. Like no, like they're intentionally trying to do that. People's style does not just happen. Like they're trying to look a certain way. Okay, onto my next point because that just fucking derailed. Like, I really like that y'all like to hear me ramble, because that's one thing about me is I'm a motherfucking ramble. I'ma get off on a tangent, and I'ma get off my point. I always come

back to it in a way. But next thing I want to talk about is people's bodies. Like it goes with the appearance thing, but people's bodies bodies like if someone isn't really good fucking shape babe. It's not by accident It's not by fucking accident. I promise you I Me if you're not by accident. They're trying their ass off to look the way that they look like me I don't even look that fucking great and you have no idea how much effort I put into looking the way that I do. So these people that look 10 times better than me, girl, I can't even fucking imagine. I cannot imagine how much more strict and like intentional they are with every fucking

move they make. Like they probably jerk off at a certain speed so they can burn a certain amount of calories. Like god damn. They probably jerk off at a certain speed so they can burn a certain amount of calories like goddamn A lot of them don't go out and a lot of them don't drink and party and do shit like that like people Oh my god, the hot ones are so nuts like the ones that have really really good bodies are like muscular Or like people that are just in really really good shape and they're very fit like y'all They're like the fucking they're a weird breed. Okay. I really want to be like that But I'm fucking busy. I have too much shit to do to be like worried about every fucking micro detail of like how I look like y'all I ain't talking shit cuz if I was

bored and had nothing to do girl sure shit sure shit I'd be the most perfect looking motherfucker you ever seen in your life one day I'm gonna get there one day I'm gonna be be so tired of working on shit cause I wanna write a book now. That's like an ex on my journey. But I'm gonna be so tired of working on shit that I'm gonna just make myself my own trophy husband. Like I'm gonna pay my own shit and be my own shit

but I'm just gonna worry about looking cute and going to branch and drinking Xanax smoothies. Like there's gonna be a point in my life where all I focus on is my appearance, but maybe, I don't fucking know. I think I'm just too like, my brain is too high maintenance for that. I need more stimulation than just like eating,

cleaning, working out. But people that work out, babe, there's so much more intentional about it than you fucking think. When I tell you, every meal is counted for, and what I mean by counted for is they'll eat like five, six meals a day, and they will weigh out every single thing they eat.

I have to do this too, but these people with really, really like perfect bodies and are in super good shape, they have to do this like 10 times more strict than I do it. So I'll like fuck around and weigh my rice, weigh my chicken, and I just try to make sure I eat like four to five times a day, make sure I get my protein in. But no, these people want their fucking numbers hit.

And they will do what it takes to make sure they hit their goddamn numbers. Like they don't fuck around, they don't take chances, they don't go out to eat. They like do not fuck with that shit. And if they do have a cheat day, it's once in a goddamn while These really really fit people that you see online Posing with a cheeseburger or posing with a pizza or like something. It's like bitch Half the time they don't even eat it. I'm sorry to say it half the time They don't even fucking eat the bad food that they're showing

They just take the picture with it because they wanna like be cute and be trendy. But even if they do eat it, they're not eating it every day. And let me tell you, when they go home, they are freaking the fuck out mentally because they just had a piece of pizza. They are like being theirself up. They're going on a stair master for the next fucking week

and they're fucking freaking out. Oh my God, I ate a piece of pizza. I'm gonna fucking kill myself. Like they literally like our next level with the shit and all their meals are calculated and planned what they eat is planned how they work out is planned they all got their little fucking notebook journal shit at the gym or they got the notes in their phone like every move they make is calculated and that is such a draining fucking life to live because I tried to live it and I fucking hated it.

Like I have a balance. So like I'm very calculated with most things that I eat but like I give myself a little bit of freedom. You know, like I make sure I hit what I need to hit for like my protein goal and my calories but like I'm not as strict as these people. So like yeah, I look like I just have fun and I do whatever and I drink because I post a lot of like shit with me drinking alcohol y'all when I drink

I Make sure that I can and I make sure it's not gonna throw off my fucking calories So I know that one shot of tequila because I only drink tequila one shot of tequila is a hundred calories So I know that going into the shit So I do not order sugary drinks. I don't order anything that's like a drink. I rarely order a drink. But if I do, it's tequila soda with lime. Because that's fucking zero calories of like the liquid. It's just the hundred from the tequila, hundred calories from the tequila. So if I know I like to have between eight to ten shots throughout the night, because

I'm very big It takes a lot to get me drunk and I have a tolerance like a motherfucker sometimes it's more than that But that's 800 to a thousand calories. I know I'm gonna spend from drinking So I will do extra cardio at the gym and I will eat a little bit less throughout the day So like I'll do 500 calories of cardio after my workout out the day. So like, I'll do 500 calories of cardio after my workout, 400, 500, whatever. And then I'll eat a little bit less throughout the day so that I know when I go out that night, I'm not fucking up my calories and I'm not going to wake up fucking fat. But I'm serious. Like I take that into consideration of like my goals, but other people that work

out really, really hard and have these perfect fucking bodies take it to the next level Like they're like I'm not even gonna drink tonight because I don't want it to ruin my workout tomorrow Because tomorrow I'm not gonna feel as energized. I'm not gonna sleep as good tonight So I'm not gonna have as good of a workout tomorrow And if I want if I feel hungover, I'm gonna fuck up like what I'm gonna do tomorrow Like these people don't even go out and if they do they have one or two drinks They don't get drunk. They have like the slightest little buzz but like that's it because they don't want to fuck their shit up Which is totally like

Respectable and I love that people have that level of self-discipline, but they don't show that They don't fucking show that online. They don't show how strict they're actually being and they pretend that they like their life. They'll like show a couple of meals, they'll show a couple of things, but they don't show anything else that goes into it. They don't show the mental side of it. They don't show how they have to sacrifice having fun

and going to restaurants and going out and having friends and having a fucking social life. They don't show that. They literally show theirself eating their fucking meals, going to the gym and watch a Netflix. Boring. But like, that's very respectable.

But that's the price that comes with having a perfect body like that. And then there are some people that have really, really good bodies that party a lot. And let me fucking tell you, they are a lot more calculated about it than you think. So just how I said, I'll do the cardio, they will too. Or they won't eat that fucking day because you'll get drunker faster on an empty stomach. So I used to have a friend that was super muscular and she was in such good fucking shape. And I was like, bitch, how the fuck are you in such good shape? Like you don't fucking eat barely and you drink all weekend. And she would eat very clean throughout the week, very, very, very clean.

Her fucking chicken, she would eat high protein, but on the weekends, she wouldn't eat much so that the alcohol would hit her harder so she could get to the same level of drunk with half the calories. But then she wasn't even eating the calories, like she was still in a negative, even though she was drinking. So she was able to drink sat up Friday and Saturday and be fine. You know what I mean?

Like, there are a lot more calculated than you fucking think. And you don't know every micro detail of people's lives, bro. Like, there's so much more that goes into these people with the perfect fucking bodies than you realize, but a lot of them just make it seem like it's accident or like they, you don't know.

It's so much harder than you think because as soon as you get on your fitness journey or you try and start counting a macro or like they, you don't know. It's so much harder than you think because as soon as you get on your fitness journey or you try and start counting a macro or a calorie, you're gonna realize, God damn, this is annoying. This is fucking annoying. I'm tired of this. I'm tired of this grandpa. But literally, that's the where I'm at.

Like I've done it so long, I've done it since I'm 14 and I've just like had a general understanding of like what the fuck's going on, but I'm not gonna commit my life to being miserable. Like I'd rather prioritize looking not in perfect shape and still enjoy living my life, you know? But some people looking in perfect shape is their enjoyment. So it's all subjective and it's up to you.

But my whole point about all this fucking shit is that people don't get muscular and get in good shape by accident. They're training their fucking ass off and they're being very, very calculated about what they eat when they eat, how they exercise. There's so much more that goes into it and it's a lot harder than they're gonna

fucking warn you for. And that's why so many people fall off the wagon because they ain't prepared for what's coming. Like you think that you just need to hop on a wagon and keep rolling Really bitch you got a hop on a train like you got a fucking you got to elevate and like it's so much more It's not a wagon. It's a train babe. So hop the fuck on the right one So one more idea that just popped into my head, okay? This one is like off to cuff, but my last one is coming up next. But this one is like another example of all this shit.

It's like studying when you're in school. I dealt with this shit a lot, where everybody just seemed to do so good on the tests, and I was like, what the fuck? How? Like there was a couple of people that always got A's, and I'm like, how the motherfuck are you getting an A? Like I studied my ass off of this,

and I got a C, what? Like when studied my ass off for this and I gotta see what? Like when you get into nursing school, there's a whole, it's a whole different way of like taking tests. Like you have to completely change the way that you answer questions and go about taking a test because every answer is right, but it's about which one's the most right. But that's besides the point. So after tests and shit, like I would go around to the people that made A's and I would ask them like, what the fuck are you studying because I studied my ass off and I'm still doing bad

and they would just be like so eloof about it, like oh I read the power points, I studied the power points and I'm like, okay so like, huh, I did too, so what do you mean you studied the power points and you read a little bit in the textbook? Like, I fucking did that too, but they didn't tell me how long they read the power points and you read a little bit in the textbook. Like, I fucking did that too. But they didn't tell me how long they read the power points and how long and how many times they read the textbook. Because I stopped asking people for advice and I just decided I'm going to figure this fuck a shit out of my own. Because what was working for everybody else was not working for me. Typical how my fucking life goes. So I cracked down and I was like, you know what? I'm about to study these motherfucking power points for my next test. And I sat down and I read the power points every

single day three times a day. So I was spending around four hours a day reading these fucking power points basically in studying for my tests for like the week before. Like bitch, when I tell you I studied, I studied. And then I made a fucking A because yeah, all they told me was they read the PowerPoints, but what I had to learn for myself was how many times, like I memorized the fucking PowerPoints by reading them three times a day for a week. But it took me four hours a day to do that shit. So like they just say I read the PowerPoints, but it's a lot harder than you think.

It takes a lot more of, it's like more than just reading the PowerPoints. It's studying the PowerPoints. It's fucking memorizing them. Like when I went to a real estate school and I took my real estate exam, I passed it on the first try because I knew about studying.

Like going through nursing school, I learned like, yeah, you might be studying the right thing, but you're not like learning it enough Like you need to like drill that shit into your brain So when I went into real estate school, I knew how to study and I was the only person in my real estate class that passed the exam the first time because I read my entire textbook Again before I took the test So I sat down for a weekend for three days and I did nothing but read my fucking textbook Cover to cover and made sure I understood everything in that fucking book

And I did that because I knew that's what it takes to Pass a fucking test like if I really wanted to prepare and make sure I didn't have to take it twice, I did what it took. But most people were not willing to put in the three days of effort that I did to reading that fucking textbook. Who wants to read a textbook? Nobody, you know? But when people would ask me what did I do,

I could have just said, oh, I read over my textbook. And they would have thought, oh, okay. And they would have thought to just like, go scan over a couple things and read a couple sections. They wouldn't think that I read over the entire textbook.

You know what I mean? So like, people that are really smart and making A's in class are doing a lot more work than you fucking think. There are a lot more intentional with it. And I hate when they hide their fucking secrets and they hide what they're doing. Like, motherfucker, if you're studying four hours a day, tell me. Tell me that so I can go do that. So the last thing I wanna talk about, people are more intentional about than you realize, is being positive and having a positive mindset. So someone like me, I take a lot of time to look into things and journal about things

and I take a lot of time looking into other perspectives. Like my brain doesn't just work the way it does and I don't just automatically see the bright side of shit. That's not how our brains are wired, one, but two, it seems so effortless with me. Like yeah, I vent, yeah, I rant, but like I always have a good point. I always have a positive note to end on

and that's not just how I am. That's what I've had to teach myself to be and what I've had to like work toward because I get sad a lot and I go into the way that I feel. I spend a lot more time with my emotions and in my head than people realize. And my outlook on life was earned. It was grown.

I achieved this. Like it's not something that just happened to me like, oh, he's just, he was just born smart. No, I didn't know shit when I was born. I was a fucking little neck and mole rat. Basically, that's what babies are. Like I just, I didn't know shit. Like I had to learn it. But people that are positive are a lot more intentional about being positive than you think. Like they're, they're intentionally looking for other perspectives. They're looking for other viewpoints. They're looking for other ways to see a situation

so that they can feel better about it. They don't just automatically feel good about everything all the time. People that are very positive and that are able to stay motivated and keep going and just have a like better mood, I guess. They're intentional about that. They put a lot of fucking effort and work into that. So if you're someone that's like, okay, I want to feel better and I want to change the way that I think.

Bitch, buckle up, that shit's hard. You're gonna fill up journals like every fucking couple of weeks with shit that you just pour out of your brain. Like all the negative shit has to come out. All the old perspectives that you hold have to come out. And then you have to question yourself for the new perspectives and those will fill your fucking journal up. You have to be intentional about seeing different perspectives and experiencing different shit because your experiences come from your perception. So if you change your perception

of how you're looking at something, it will change the way you feel about it, 100%. But that's a very intentional process. It becomes easier as you do it more but it's still very much intentional. You have to check yourself. You have to choose to think in certain directions and about certain things and in certain ways. Like, people that are just positive polys are not positive polys just fucking because. Like, oh, that's just how they are. No. And you're not negative Nancy just because you was born like that. Like you it takes effort to be the opposite. So that's

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