Aware & Aggravated - 30. Why Things Seem So Difficult

Episode Date: June 19, 2022

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Hi friends, so this week I'm gonna deconstruct some things around where everything seems so goddamn hard I've got three points or kind of like areas to deconstruct and when I say deconstruct bitch y'all know how I do I'm a deconstruct the motherfucker so my three areas are kind of like just different things to take into consideration But what I mean by why things seem so hard, I mean like why shit seems so difficult. Like there's so many things that logically should seem easy and you plan for it to go easy and it just don't work like that. Like the shit is just hard and I'm gonna go into my little theories about why. They're not even theories bitch because they're that right. They're just different perspectives around it. Okay, so for the first one, let's just jump right into this shit and I'm just gonna give

you an example because this is the easiest one. So let's say you wanna start putting yourself on a schedule. Like you wanna start working out, you wanna start eating healthy, you wanna get on a schedule and you wanna like get your life structured. Okay, it is so easy to fucking sit down when you're excited and start want to like get your life structured. Okay, it is so easy to fucking sit down when you're excited and start listing out all the shit you want to do. All the things you're gonna start incorporating,

the workouts you're gonna do, the outfits you're gonna buy, the foods you're gonna buy and then start cooking, the meals you're gonna make, the way you're gonna start living, you're gonna get up at 6 a.m. like a happy fucking dick and you're just gonna like run off into the fucking sunset, everything's just gonna be perfectly fine. I know I'm kinda being dramatic, but my point is it's so easy to make a list of all these things that you wanna do. And it's so like logical, it makes so much sense and it seems so achievable.

You're like, yes, I can totally do this. I can totally get up at 6 a.m. and make my fucking veggie-ass smoothie that I'm gonna convince myself tastes good with my collagen powder. And then I'm gonna do my 45 step skincare routine and then I'm gonna get on the car and go to the gym. Oh my god, we only have one cup of coffee.

And I'm gonna do that consistently. Like it's so easy to see how it could logically make sense. Like it's so easy to make changes. It's so easy to see how it could logically make sense. Like it, it's so easy to make changes. It's so easy to implement shit. Until you go to implement it. And the thing that a lot of people are missing with that shit is when you're logical and you're like, okay, this is how my day is gonna go.

This is the new activities I'm gonna do. This is the new schedule I'm gonna live on. Like I'm gonna start going to the gym and making my food and all of it's in that. Like it's easy to make that up so you basically set it up in your head when you're being logical. You set it up in your head. This is what you're gonna start doing. This is how it's gonna go and you're like okay great seems relatively simple. It's gonna be a little bit of hard work great, but like I'm gonna do this and you set it up in your mind to go this way. Like to get these things done and you can set it up and you can see how it's gonna be so smooth. How many times have we been sitting there at night and we're

like, oh my god, tomorrow I'm gonna wake up at six and I'm gonna like get up early and I'm gonna start my day. And then we go to sleep and when we're trying to wake up, we're snoozing the fuck out of that alarm. Like we don't want to fucking get up. Like it's nice when it's logical. It's nice when it's like the day before when you're planning it. Because you set it up in your mind that it's gonna go swimmingly, that things are just gonna go smoothly.

So that's your expectation. That's what you expect to happen. And then when anything goes off plan like that, it's like it just seems so fucking difficult. It seems so hard. But you don't realize you're setting that expectation up. You know, like you're not taking into consideration, you're not gonna motherfucking feel like it. It is gonna be uncomfortable. Like you're not gonna ever feel like fucking doing this shit.

You will sometimes, when it's logical, when it's the night before you feel like doing it, but like when it comes time to do it, you're not gonna work fucking do it, but my whole point is you're setting up this expectation in your head of how things are supposed to go. And you're failing to take into consideration a huge part, which is your emotions. You're not always gonna feel good, you're not always gonna feel motivated,

you're not always gonna be like wanting to eat your fucking spinach smoothie. Like who the fuck does? You know what I mean? Like the first day when you start a new routine, it's like, oh easy peasy. I'm so happy with this dry ass fucking oatmeal and then the next day you're like man Fuck this shit like it's easy when you're optimistic But then when reality sets in I've what it's actually like to work towards something you're like what the fuck But you don't plan for it like nobody plans for

Not feeling like it. It's like when you're in that happy phase of okay I'm gonna make these changes and I'm gonna do this thing. It's like great cool fun and then that feeling doesn't last But you didn't plan for it to wear off so everything is just gonna seem really difficult For no fucking reason and then that's where a lot of people will be like oh my god something's gone wrong Like it shouldn't be this hard. And I just want to reassure you, babe, you just failed to take into consideration the reality of what was going to happen.

Like when you were planning, you only took half of the reality. And the other half that you left out was your emotions and the way that shit's going to feel. So that's my first little perspective around why shit seems so goddamn difficult. It's because you're not planning for the emotions That don't feel good like you're only planning for the ones that are happy and like whoo like we can do this Let's go drink our fucking spinach So my second theory around this piggybacks kind of off of that one, but kind of not really so just hang with me

When people try something new like anytime you try something new, it's gonna feel uncomfortable as fuck. It's gonna be weird. You're gonna be anxious. It's just not gonna feel good all the time. There's a lot of emotions that come up that are uncomfortable when you're trying something new. And part of me wants to be like, yeah, no shit. Like every time I'm trying something new, like when I went to the Alpha Land for the first time, like the gym that I did, the big gym that I joined, to the Alpha Land for the first time, like the gym That I did the big gym that I joined when I went there for the first time I was anxious as fuck because it's like It's a new gym. I'm starting a new thing. I'm around all new people. I'm around a whole new environment I don't know yet, but I feel anxious and I observe myself feeling anxious and I'm like, yeah, no shit. You're anxious

everything you're experiencing right now is new and everything you're experiencing right now is new. And the meaning you assign to the feeling of new things is what will make it a good experience or a bad experience. Because you can take this anxiety in these feelings when you're trying something new or you're doing something unfamiliar. When you make that shit mean something is bad or something has gone wrong, you're fucking yourself.

You're literally fucking yourself and you're gonna ruin the entire experience. Like it's gonna become negative. As soon as you say, these feelings are not good. I should not be feeling them. Does that make sense? I promise my third theory has nothing to do with feelings. I don't know why the first two do,

but my third one's kinda like off on its own little thing. Not one's gonna get deep, but I don't know why I'm getting flustered right now. Like recording this right now is like pissing me off, I don't know why. It's not like it's pissing me off, I'm just like, I always start this bitch, hey friends, so like hey friends, like I'm gonna let y'all know, like I'm upstate, like I'm venting right now. Like, I don't know why I'm just aggravated. Like these first two points are about emotions and feelings, like okay girl, we fucking get it. I don't know why I'm annoyed with myself right now

But this is a really important thing With the whole newness like you guys get what I'm talking about you guys fucking get it You're aware and aggravated just like me like you fucking get it. I don't have to explain myself but That's a really big thing So with trying something new When you have those feelings come up of like oh my god. I'm anxious. This is new. This is weird if you're a little scared. That's kind of normal But one if you didn't prepare yourself to feel them

They're gonna kind of throw you off like you're not expecting to feel them So they're gonna throw you off and then what you tell yourself about the way you're feeling is What can make shit seem really really difficult? Like my example will try're trying the new gem, all those feelings I was feeling it was like, a lot to take on. And there was so much more to it than, oh, I try to new gem.

Like, I just sounded real fucking dramatic, but like, I'm someone that's known online. So, I get recognized a lot. I stick out like a sore fucking thumb, I'm 6'7". But going to this gem, it was like a very influencer filled gym. Like everybody knows everybody and everybody's seen everybody on fucking tic tac. And I was like one taking on the fact of I'm in a whole new environment. Everyone looks fucking hot and that's intimidating.

And then who is looking at me and recognizes me and is not saying anything. That is something I live with all the time when I'm out in public. Like who the fuck is seeing me right now and recognizing me and not saying anything. That shit trips me out. But like that was on the back of my mind too. And then also I don't want to look them. Like I'm already like lost in this gym. I don't know where the fuck anything is.

So I'm trying to like keep it together. And like there was just a lot of feelings going on with that whole experience. But I literally just tell myself all the time, yeah no shit. Like when I'm anxious, no shit. You're in a whole new gym babe. Like it's totally normal. You're totally okay. That's how I talk to myself. I'm like you're okay. Like I literally comfort myself like I'm a little kid. I'm like you're all right. You're okay. Come on Like I know that sounds so stupid But I say it out loud to myself

So if you ever see me like talking to myself in public leave me a goddamn alone I need comfort for some whatever reasons why just give it to myself But that experience at the gym like I was able to comfort myself through it and get through it like it was fine Actually, I had a really good fucking time because I didn't tell myself anything was wrong with how I was feeling. But if that was my first experience trying this new thing and it came with all these heavy feelings and all of it's like uncomfortable like all these uncomfortable sensations. Like if that was my first experience, people sometimes don't know to remind theirself that's gonna fade away. So like when you try something new, it's very uncomfortable at the beginning. But if you tell, like if I were to tell myself,

I'm gonna feel that way every single time I go to my new gym, Alpha Land. If I was like anticipating those emotions and those feelings, every time I was gonna go, it would make me not wanna fucking go. And I would look at it like it's hard. Like God damn, I don't wanna fucking go work out. It's like to work out is a fucking bitch in itself.

And then it's like to psych myself out mentally and be like, well, I'm going to feel the same way I did if I go to work out. Like it's just extra headache that like you play on your own mind. Like you're, you're like fucking with yourself. Does that make sense? So this is my reassurance. If you try something new and it's uncomfortable, it's not gonna be uncomfortable forever. It's gonna get easier, and I don't want you to psych yourself out like that because it will make you not want to do shit. Like it will make things

seem really really intimidating, and just make you want to throw your hands up and say, fuck this shit, alright, I'm not doing it. It's like with waking up early. Like if you're like, okay, I'm gonna try and start waking up early, You wake up one day and it's a fucking shit show and you hate it and you're groggy and you're tired and you're just like fuck this It's like to think about okay, so the next month I agreed to get up early It's gonna be like this like you how it's like the catastrophizing thinking it's like this experience of waking up early has been fucking hell I want a nap with my coffee didn't even work. It didn't even do anything. Like when you're at that level of like fuck this shit, you're telling yourself,

okay, the whole next month, I'm about to be waking up early. I'm about to be feeling like this. I'm going to want to take a fucking nap as soon as I wake up. You're instantly just going to assume based off of your first day waking up early, how uncomfortable it was that it's gonna continue to be that uncomfortable And I'm here to tell you it's not it's gonna get easier. You're not gonna need a nap by like day three day four maybe But does that all make sense like you're just your brain kind of just like assumes and sets this shit up in your head And you don't even realize it's going on

But I just want you to like be there for yourself and learn to comfort yourself through trying new things or just doing things in general. If it seems difficult, it's not always going to be difficult, it will get easier. And it feels bad because you're telling yourself something's fucking wrong. Okay, so my third little perspective theory thing, this is the long one, this is the one I got a lot of bullet points to hit. And I'm like scrolling in my notes app right now, I'm like, uh, that's the long one. This is the one I got a lot of bullet points to hit and I'm like scrolling on my notes app right now I'm like, uh, that's the whole way. I want to talk about it all. But our phones make shit so easy like everything. Like literally our phones make everything so fucking easy. Any need we have, we can kind of meet through our phone and we can have it quick and like instantly. So if you want to have discussion with somebody or like human interaction, it's not going to

be human interaction, but you can go on your phone and interact with other people instantly. So if you're feeling alone, you're feeling lonely, you can go meet that need for yourself really quick. Like it's right at your fucking fingertips if you want food Order the shit and it'll be at your fucking door in 40 minutes Uber eats or whatever fucking apps There are like I don't use that shit like if I'm a go out to eat. I'm a goddamn go I'm making an event like I want to go to a restaurant and sit down I don't want to fucking have some soggy ass food been sitting in someone's car for 40 fucking minutes on the way to me

But anyway my point you can literally bring anything you want like quick into your experience. And you don't have to put really any effort into doing that. So where like before and the olden days, before there was fuckin' phones, like if you wanted to interact with a human being, if you didn't wanna feel alone, you couldn't just get on your little fuckin' phone

and satiate that need. Like you would have to get up and go out and be around other human beings and talk to other people if you wanted interaction. The same with food. If you wanted food, you had to get the fuck up and go out and get it. You can order groceries to your goddamn fucking house. You don't have to do nothing, really. You don't even have to fart on your own.

I'm sure there's some machine that will like suck it out of your ass What the fuck am I saying My point is like everything's just so goddamn easy like everything is just takes no effort now and the fact that everything and every aspect can Be simplified and be like Sped up and then you can get it quicker. you can get it faster, you can get it now. Without really having to exert any effort, that's kind of setting up a baseline in our

head. So like when I talked about social media setting a baseline for what we think is attractive in my other episode, where social media shows you hot people over and over and over again and then you start to believe that's normal. You being able to meet needs for yourself instantly and quickly over and over and over makes it set up in your mind that the expectation is like that's what's normal. It's for sure to be quick right now. Instant I can do it with like barely any effort. So there are still things in life that require a lot of effort and when you start to go to do them It's gonna feel like fucking hell because you've just been programmed that everything is quick and easy with little effort

So like even if you want to date like if you want to find a date You can literally download an app and go meet up with someone in less than a fucking hour If you want a fuck you can download an app to go fuck somebody and literally have them at your house within an hour. That's like insane and people don't realize. Like we just like have that and we don't understand what the fuck like is going on, you know? Cause we're before, you'd have,

if you wanted a date, you had to go talk to people. If you wanted to fuck somebody, you had to go to a bar. Like you have to go do things, you had to put effort into anything you wanted or needed. So that's why people are like kind of turning against theirself, it's like anything you want or need that you can't meet for yourself quick, it's like you turn against yourself for even wanting it

and you get mad or annoyed or frustrated and it's just like fuck it, like it's that frustration because it's not simple, but people aren't aware of like why things seem so goddamn hard And it's because we've all been trained with this new generation of phones stuck up our fucking asses Like literally at our fingertips anything we can have we can get it right now like it's insane like I ordered protein the other day I literally was standing in my kitchen and I was like damn. I need protein Like I'm out and I'm not used to living in a big city.

So like I got on my phone because the kind that I buy is very hard to find. So I can't just go to GNC and fucking buy it. I was like, why don't I shop? They ain't got the shit. So I get on Amazon and it says it can be here within four hours. And I was like, what the fuck?

What? Like I literally put in the order and then four hours later it showed like what the fuck what like I literally put in the order and then four hours later it showed up right in my doorstep I was like what the hell like I'm I'm from a smaller town where that shit was not like useful but now I see how majority of people have been living for so long and I'm like damn y'all that's's why I hit your fucking lives. Like you think everything is that quick easy simple and so many of the best things in life are so fucking hard and takes so much time. So It's interesting like what I'm observing with the ways that

Dynamics are set up with our phone and like accessibility to shit because I'm not the type that's like complaining about it. I'm just saying our phone and like accessibility to shit because I'm not the type that's like complaining about it. I'm just saying understand this perspective and take it into consideration because it's an explanation for the way that you feel because I love that shit is convenient. I sure as fuck do. I'm not anyone to talk against technology. I think they need to fucking quit with the AI shit. That scares the fuck out of me. Stop playing robots.

Stop trying to make like fake humans. That's fucking weird and it's scary Have y'all not watched any fucking movie? Do y'all not have any critical thinking skills like bitch? Once you give a computer, no, don't talk about it I'm not I don't want to speak it to into existence because I'm skiing it like that fucking shit is so scary to me Like they're gonna blow up the world Like what the fuck are you doing? Like they're gonna turn on your ass. Don't give them consciousness.

Don't fuck with computers. Like Amazon's great. Like just leave us with our little Amazon and our little eBay and our fucking Google. Like that's fine. You don't need to be making like robots and shit. Like I'll clean my own house.

I don't need like a fucking like electric robot made. I'm okay. I promise I'm okay. I really don't want that. Like I scare the fuck out of me. Stop trying to make like AI. Oh my God, okay, here I keep going off a fucking tangent. Back on track.

I appreciate the like convenience of technology, but yeah, I wanted to share this perspective because it explains why shit seems so goddamn difficult. And it's because we're not trained to like put effort into things anymore Like reading books like if someone reads books still it's like God wow like round of applause Like if you read a book, I'm so like envious of you like bitch. You have patience. You have determination you have time and I'm proud of you like that's a fucking like

have time and I'm proud of you. Like that's a fucking like accomplishment to read a book now. I listen to them on audible and shit like audio books. I'll do that but like for me to stay on and read a physical book bitch fuck no. Like that takes so much concentration and energy and it's like I want information quick and fast. Like I like a YouTube video. I like a TikTok where they like spit that shit at me really quick and books are diluted and Longwinded and it's like not quick information like once you hit a certain awareness level nothing's fucking impressive and Once you read so many books It's the same repetitive fucking shit like most self-help books They're gonna they tell you for the first like two to three chapters

How your life is about to change and how Things are gonna get better and I'm just like motherfucker Just tell me what the fuck you have to tell me stop convincing me that my life's gonna get so great I already bought your goddamn book so just give me the value now like give it to me straight I want it fucking force fed like fucking just give it to me right now I don't want to have to read your fucking intro. I don't have to read your preface and your goddamn two chapters of like Explanation I'm good bitch. Just give me the information. I can handle it. I promise But right there that's something also like

Information is so readily available all the time like you don't have to fucking struggle to learn anything. Like you can just fucking Google it and it's there. And that's like when I have, when I can't find something online, it pisses me off, bro. Like I get so fucking mad. I'm like, how the fuck has nobody like talked about this yet? Like my whole podcast is all the shit that I couldn't find. I'm like, how the fuck are there seven billion people in the world and nobody has like Talked about the shit that I talk about the way that I talk about it and like make it digestible And not like these concepts floating around in the air that sound nice and pretty But you can't apply it to reality like bitch. How has nobody done this?

I like it aggravates the living shit out of me when I can't find something but that's because I'm like Conditioned that everything is like right there easy accessible Everything's been done by somebody like nowadays. You can't find shit that someone else hasn't done So that's why it was so frustrating for me to try to find what I'm creating But that's the thing also everybody's doing everything like so Everything's already been basically fucking done in one way or another. It's weird. If you have an idea now for something to make or an invention or anything, it's like someone has already thought of it and put it into action unless it's something very far-fetched,

like very specific that no one's put time or effort into. But it's like, there's not really a problem without a solution anymore. Like, there's always, I don't, is that the thing? So like, when I have a problem that I can't solve, it pisses me off because I'm used to it being solved. There we go. That makes sense.

You hear my brain turning? The little mouse is running in my brain. Like, it's on its little wheel and it's running. Like, it's turning. Like, things are making sense. But another thing I wanna talk about is like being entertained. Like if you have any moment of boredom, like you don't have to like sit with yourself and sit in your thoughts or try to think of a way to entertain yourself, it's like you just pull out your little phone and you play

on an app and you're entertained forever. Like TikTok bitch, I could stay on it forever and like never be bored I really I have to pee or something, but like tiktok like an Instagram and like social media It's just so easy to be entertained and distracted. It's right there. So People in the olden days you just have to go to fucking movie theater or like if you wanted to hear music You had to go to a concert bitch like now you just play anything you got damn Want like you just play anything you want at any moment at any time and

I don't know like that's just I don't know the little thing. I wanted to point out But my biggest point about this is If you are feeling away that you do not want to feel Or you're feeling something uncomfortable. There's so many air quote quick fixes out there. So like distraction being one, like getting on your phone and playing on something that's a distraction from your current reality, the current things you're feeling and facing. You got drugs and alcohol and if you don't want to go to a store, order them.

Text your fucking plug, drop them in my mailbox, bitch. Like, there's so many ways to get things so quickly to you that like, in order to not feel the way that you do, it's so easy. It's so fast. Whereas before, people were sat down and like made to sit in the way that they felt. Like if they wanted to distract theirself, it took a lot more effort and energy. Like people were a lot more in touch, I believe a long time ago.

Cause like the shit that I'm observing now in the world is some asleep ass, snoring ass shit. Like everyone is so out of touch with theirself. And it's insane. They're out of touch with theirself, the people around them and the fucking world, like bro. But that's the whole thing, is like you don't have to sit with yourself anymore, so how are you ever supposed to get in touch with yourself? Like you're able to distract yourself instantly, and all these apps are so fucking addictive

that like even if you don't plan on getting on one, like if you just like, you're habitually trained to click an app, so it's like if you start moving the icons around on your phone You'll realize your finger automatically clicks to Instagram or clicks the TikTok or clicks to snapchat or like whatever It is like whatever you fucking get on all the time like your brain just like clicks on it automatically so That's something fucking weird that I've like started thinking about a lot is like people can instantly Not feel the way that they feel. One way that I do it is if I'm feeling something

I don't wanna feel, it's like a bad little trait of mine. I know I'm supposed to give myself attention and focus on myself, but to be honest, all the time, I don't wanna fucking do that. I'm so glad they're fucking medium, I'm like, can I just not? Like I'm tired of having to cover myself bitch bitch So I just jump online and I try to look for a new perspective about what I'm going through and That will change the way that I feel about it like that's something I do a lot

And that's another reason that I made this podcast is because I ran out of places and perspectives to look for So I started sharing them so y'all can do it. But that's my thing is I might be gaining awareness and that's great and all. Like I'm waking up and I'm growing, I'm seeing new perspectives, but I'm still not sitting with myself. I'm still distracting myself with the new perspective I just gained. So that makes sense. Like everything is pulling us away from ourself. Like it's so easy to get away from yourself and the way that you're feeling. Like it's so insanely easy that it's kind of scary. But something that makes shit seem hard is when you can't use your phone. Like if you try to go live a day without your phone, you're going to be sitting there forced to face how you're feeling and it's going to fuck with everything.

So like going to the gym, whenever I'm not feeling motivated Instead of having to sit in that and work through that on my own to get myself to get up and go to the gym I could put on a good song. I can look at people online that makes me insecure and like looks better than me So I want to go or I can fucking watch a YouTube video and see someone that is inspiring to me like there's so many ways video and see someone that is inspiring to me. Like there's so many ways to deal with the emotions that come up throughout the day that it makes it so easy. Like but if I didn't have my phone and I had to like find motivation it would be a lot harder. Does that make sense? Like so shit seems so fucking difficult when you can't use the typical things that we use to help ourselves.

So that's just another random perspective with all this. But I do want to say if you've made it this far in the podcast, I'm not done yet, but I am going to ask you to leave me a 5 star rating. And if you made it this far, you don't want to give anything less than 5 stars because bitch, you're really invested in this episode of you this fucking far. So go ahead and get my low 5 stars because I'm entertaining you you're still here. Thank you so much But another example of this that's like fuck to me up is trying to find furniture bro like I've talked about it before I taste is so fucking picky and I don't like anything

So trying to find furniture like I'm used to just being able to go on Amazon when I want something and buying it but When I tried to do that with furniture, I can't, like I can't find shit on Amazon, I can't find shit in IKEA, I can't find shit anywhere. Like I had to physically go to a bunch of different antique shops to find the things that I want. And it's taken like a lot of effort and work and I'm hunting like I'm on the fucking prowl First of all, I like When I first moved in I got up and just shipped from Goodwill Like I got a couch in a table from Goodwill in a little chair Because I was like okay great this is enough to like move me in

And get me like livable until I Can actually find something I love then I'll like drop some cash on it And I just found a table that I love and And if you follow me on Instagram, then you already sell the table, antic talk. I posted it on there too, I'm so excited about it. But I finally found the table, and now I get to get really good with one. But I spent so much on that goddamn table.

Oh my god, it makes me fucking sick. But I do love it. It's from the 70s, and it's real pretty. But I've had to like check myself, we're trying to look for furniture. Like I've been looking at it and telling myself, this is so hard for no reason. Like why the fuck am I not able to find what I want at places? And I'm like Leo, hello, like you know you don't like normal shit. So you're trying to find

special things in normal places. I've talked about that before, but telling myself it should be easy and then experiencing it being difficult, piss me off 10 times worse and made the experience even worse. So I have to check myself a lot mentally. Y'all aren't the only ones that have to do it. I'm constantly on my own ass, having to call myself out and check the assumptions that I make and watch the assumptions that I make and watch the shit that I speak over myself.

Because it's not been hard to find furniture, like I've just had to go to a lot of places, like I've had to put a lot more effort into finding things than I usually do, because I can just find it online real quick. But that's the thing, is I'm not doing something that's extremely hard. I'm just having to put more effort into it than just tapping some fucking buttons on a computer or like tapping the screen on my phone and then having it show up and be delivered. Me telling myself that that was hard and that was difficult is what made me feel like it was difficult.

But once I told myself, okay, you're looking for a bunch of special shit. And you're putting in the expected amount of effort. Like the amount of effort it's taking from you to find the things that you want is normal. Like that's the expected level of effort it takes to find what you're looking for. So watch in the meetings I assigned to that shit. Made it seem a lot easier. Cause once I put myself off the hook, I was like, look Leo, like you're not exerting extra effort. Like you're actually doing the normal amount. Like this is not actually that difficult. It's just not what you're used to. That set me the fuck free.

And it made me kind of enjoy this little hunt now. Because I wanted it fast quick now. But it's taken me a month to find some shit that I actually really like. So that's not really that long. because the things that I want are very specific and special. So the amount of effort I've put in hasn't been awful, you know? But that kind of brings me back to point one with the expectations thing. Look at what you're going through and look at what you're dealing with and check yourself.

Are you actually working that hard? Are you actually like having to put in too much effort? Is it actually difficult? Or is it just more difficult than what you're used to? Because everything is so fucking easy now. That was a pretty goddamn good question. Damn. I'm gonna leave it off on there.

I'm gonna shut the fuck up and just end the episode here before I start like going too much ruined in that because that was a really good point. Once again I'm gonna ask you to leave me a five-star rating in case you forgot because now we're at the end I have to remind you thank you so much love you so much. If you want to keep up with me all of my social media will be linked in the description of this podcast. Also if you are interested in one-on-one coaching with me I'm doing applications now to keep up with the demand, because it just got too high, so now I'm screening people, basically to see who's a good fit and who's not. Because I want to work with action takers.

I want to work with people that are serious about transforming their life, because the shit that I say, y'all know, that's what it's for. And where I specialize is with the people that have been looking for answers they can't find and the people that have been trying shit and it's just not working. I'm the person that those people can go to. So if you're interested in that, I will put the link to the application

in the description box also. And I wanna make it very clear that you've already got what it takes to get through what you're dealing with or to improve your life or to reach your goals. And I'll help you see that. And it's going to be a lot easier when you got me in your corner because that's exactly how I want it to feel. I want it to feel like you have someone that has your back and like I'm in your corner

because that's what it is. Like I'm there for you and I'm there to do shit with you. But anyways, thank you so much for listening. Please stay safe and take care of yourself and I will talk to you next Sunday. you and I'm there to do shit with you. But anyways, thank you so much for listening. Please stay safe and take care of yourself and I will talk to you next Sunday.