Aware & Aggravated - 31. Signs You Can Trust Someone

Episode Date: June 26, 2022

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Hi friends, so this is the last fucking episode I thought I'd ever be making because I have the words Trust no one tattooed on my hand And here I am giving you a full fucking podcast of how to know you could trust someone But that's exactly what I'm gonna do So as much as I want to say trust no one and I stand by that's over there that I die you can trust people to a certain extent I a day that I die. You can trust people to a certain extent. I personally have like that low boundary of like, I'm never surprised by nothing. I don't fully trust any human being, but there are signs that someone is trustworthy and that you can't trust them. And

that's what this podcast is going to be. I'm going to tell you all the shit that I've learned from all the shit that I've been through and all the awareness that I have. These are the little things that you can pick up on. There's gonna be little things, there's gonna be big things, but I'm gonna teach you how to spot all of it. And after you hear this episode, all the things I'm gonna tell you, you're gonna get a newfound sense of trust with yourself because you're gonna feel like you can trust

your own judgment of people now because I got your back and I'm in your ear because you're never gonna forget this shit. Now you're gonna hear in this episode. Like I'm about to completely fuck up the way you look at people and I'm in your ear because you're never gonna forget this shit. You're gonna hear in this episode. I'm about to completely fuck up the way you look at people and I'm so sorry but I'm gonna show you ways to protect yourself. These are the identifiers that someone is not safe. And if after you listen to this, you realize that you don't actually trust anyone in your

life and no one in your life is trustworthy. I'm so rave. Listen at your own risk bitch because like this one's gonna hit ya. So one of my favorite type of people and the first sign that you know you can trust somebody is the type person that will tell you you have shit on your face or you have something in your fucking teeth. Like the person that looks out for you regardless if it hurts your feelings or not. Don't let me walk around looking fucking stupid.

If I have some MIT's, God damn tell me. There's just a certain level of comfort and just like assurance and safety you feel with somebody when they're honest like that. Like you're looking out for me. You're not worried about always just going to hurt my feelings. It's like no, your main concern is making sure that I'm okay and like you're looking out for me. You're not worried about, oh, is this gonna hurt my feelings? It's like, no, your main concern is making sure that I'm okay and like you're protecting me. There's two ways people can point shit out.

They can make fun of you for it. Or they can let you know that something's off or something's wrong or they can try and fix it, whatever it is, they can show it as concern of like, you know, I'm looking out for you, I'm protecting you. Or if they pointed out and make fun of you, fuck them. That's not the type you can trust. If they of like, you all I'm looking out for you, I'm protecting you, or if they pointed out and make funny, you fuck them. That's not the type you can trust. If they try and embarrass you for it,

anyone that tries to embarrass you, period, fuck them, don't trust them. But if someone tries to point something out about you to embarrass you, no. That's absolutely not, don't fucking trust them. Keep your fucking distance. But someone that's gonna look out for you and be like, hey, like, they get their points to their teeth

or they point to something on their face to wipe your fucking face. Like, that's the look out for you and be like, hey, like, they get their points to their teeth or they point to something on their face to wipe your fucking face. That's the down-ass motherfucker. That's someone you can trust. That's someone you can be comfortable with. That's my favorite type of person, and that's how I am. I always feel bad to have to point something out,

but I know how good I feel when someone points it out for me. It's like, you're not gonna let me walk around looking stupid. You're not gonna let me walk around on my hair fucked up. I know I'm bald right now, but when I had hair Like when people would like fix my hair for me Well like my friends like when I wear a gold chain like if it flips when we're at the club because I be dancing like a motherfucker When it flips like they'll like readjust it for me and make sure it looks flat like thank you for looking out for me bitch Like thank you like that is number one sign you can trust somebody do they tell me I have shit in my teeth or I have something on my fucking face

And there's a little bit more to that because you know you can trust their Compliments when they compliment you if they'll also tell you when something looks bad so you need someone that can do both Okay, that was the only like superficial one honestly Honestly, like the rest of them are kind of like big and serious. So let's move on to the next one, which is safety. There's little signs you can tell someone cares about your safety, like the whole text you when you get home thing, the check in and on you, making sure you're all right, making sure you got a ride, making sure you're watched out for. There's little things like that that will show someone cares for your safety, but that is the main fucking thing that you should be worried about is your physical safety and well-being. Does someone care about that? Are they going

to make sure you're okay? Do they show some kind of concern or consideration for your safety? There is so many little things that I do where I'm watching out for people like in a restaurant. I always sit facing the door so I always know what's coming in, what's going out. You know what I mean? Like I need to know everything going on. So I always face the door. When I'm with someone in a parking lot I make sure they get in their car. And if you're getting in the car door. When I'm with someone in a parking lot, I make sure they get in their car. And if you're getting in the car with me, I'm not fully in the car with my door closed until you're in the car with your door closed.

Like I'm making sure if someone grabs you, I can easily get to you. You know what makes sense? Like I'm never just like locking myself in the car. Also, I'm not letting my friends that are girls walk by their self to their fucking car at night. When I'm dropping off a friend at home, I make sure that they get in their door and they close it. When I'm dropping a friend off at their car, I make sure they get in and it starts and they're able to drive because I'm not just going to leave you stranded in a fucking parking lot and your car don't start. Like there's just little tiny signs that you know someone

is looking out for your safety and those are just a few. But that is a really really good sign. That it should be your fucking priority. Like there are some people that aren't confrontational and I understand that. There are certain people that are not violent. But I don't care who it is. When you care about someone, you will protect them at all fucking costs. It doesn't have to be an extreme. And just because someone is not aggressive and feisty and in your fucking face, they might be doing other things that indicate that they're concerned about your safety. So look out for them, like the things that I said, just see if they start doing any of that. These are like little tell tell signs that you know that they care about your safety. And that's a huge thing that you know you can trust them.

Okay, so my next sign you know you can trust someone is check them and watch what happens when they get mad. When someone gets mad, do their actions and their words still line up or is what they've said they are and what they like and what they do and what they value Does that flip all of a sudden just because they're pissed off? Do they stop respecting you when they get pissed off? Do they stop considering your safety when they get pissed off? It's like certain couples. It's like whenever they get into fight It's like I'm throwing all your shit out of the house. Fuck you get out of my house get out of my life

It's like how are you just gonna show such a blight in this regard for someone's well-being and their safety and their home? You know what I mean? That's just something that does not sit right with me. Like when you get mad, are you gonna start attacking me verbally? Are you gonna use shit that I told you in confidence? Like things that I was vulnerable about? Are you now gonna attack me with them?

Like you gotta watch when people get mad. Watch if there's a flip or watch if They're still consistent if someone is consistent even when they're pissed off That's a sign you can trust them. So with me. I'm able to be extremely angry I can be like foaming at the fucking mouth and I still am aware of what I'm saying I will be screaming at the top of my lungs, but I'm in control of the words coming out of my mouth. Some people aren't.

So just because someone gets mad and they start screaming, it doesn't mean that they're being inconsistent. They might be scaring you by getting aggressive, but check what they're saying. Does what they say line up with, what they say when they're not mad? Do their feelings for you change? All of a sudden because they're mad. Does what they say line up with, what they say when they're not mad? Do their feelings for you change, all of a sudden because they're mad? Do now they fucking hate you, now they're disgusted by you?

You know what I mean? You gotta watch for the consistency. See if when they get angry or when they get emotional, they use it as a chance to discard you, discard the way that you feel, and all of that. Because if someone gets mad and they use it as an excuse to no longer longer take you into consideration it's just about them because they're pissy. It's like that's not a safe person to be with. So you cannot fucking trust them. I'm sorry.

Like you'll be at the mercy of whatever emotional state that they are in. So every time they get upset, you are a sense of safety is gone. And I want you to watch out for that. I want you to protect yourself from that. And it will start with little things. One more little thing around this is like do they leave you places? Like if you're out together and you go out and they get pissed off, are they just going to leave you? Are they just going to leave you in a parking lot? Are they just going to leave you out of club? Like if you drove together, are they just going to take the car and fucking leave you there?

Do not trust the motherfucker that does that. You will only allow someone to do that to you once if you listen to my podcast bitch. We don't let that shit happen. Wonder why I always drive separate. You will never catch me nowhere without my own fucking car. Because I'm not taking a chance with that. But if someone does do that, like if you go on a trip somewhere and they're just going to leave you somewhere and they don't care about making sure that you get home safe,

that's a big sign that you can't trust them. Because even if I'm like pissed off at you, like I want to punch you in your fucking throat, I'm still gonna make sure you get home okay, you know, like if we went together, I'm gonna make sure you get home. Your safety will never be at risk, even if I mad at you. So that's one way that you can know you can trust someone. And another way you can test, like if you've just met someone and you want to know how they react when they're angry, like maybe they haven't gotten angry with you yet.

Look at how they treat other people they're angry with. Watch that interaction. Listen to how they talk about people from their past that have done them wrong. Are they vengeful? Are they fucking hateful? Are they spiteful? Because they'll do the exact same shit to you. And trust me, I've learned from fucking experience with that. Like, I'm like, oh, it will never be me. It will never be me. Yes, the motherfuck it will. People do not deserve for you to be hopeful about them. You're gonna look at their fucking actions, you're gonna look at their fucking patterns. You don't give

people hope. You give them what they show you. So if they show you that they're unsafe and they have patterns of disregarding people when they get mad or when they get upset or when they're mad at somebody like they start fucking with them and they get Spiteful you don't give them the hope and the benefit of the doubt that they'll treat you different They're gonna treat you how they're showing you so I want you to remind yourself of that you're not special You're not different. It's not about you. It's about them and them not being able to control their emotions and their reactions when they're emotional. So it's not about you babe.

I don't care if you're the fucking best thing they ever met, they'll fuck it up if they don't know how to get a grip on their emotions and when they're upset. I'm sorry to say that, but I gotta tell you the way it is because I've been burnt so many times from giving people the benefit of the doubt

and just hoping that they cared about me. But someone can care about you and still hurt you. So a big thing you can use from this podcast is I'm the know I'm saying signs you can trust someone but look for signs that you're safe with someone. That's a good thing too because most of these are that. that you're safe with someone. That's a good thing too because most of these are that. Okay, so the next way you know you can trust someone, if they don't let things prevent them from helping you, so they're not going to let something get in the way of being there for you or helping you. And I have an example for my own personal life with this one. So one night, I'm at a bar, bitch, and y'all about like trigger warning gag warning throw

up warning alright I love watching people throw up but I don't want that fucking shit near me I don't want it on me there's just that's a weird fetish mind I like to watch people cry and I like to watch people throw up like I don't want it near me I don't want to smell it like I just want to like it's just satisfying to watch it you know but I'm at a bar one night with a couple of friends and we're like outside of the little like area and I'm having a fucking cigarette and I'm hanging out and we're all just like chilling and apparently this dude gets sick and like he's about to throw up. So he takes off running and he like runs

through me and my friends and as he's running through I like, I wasn't aware of like what the fuck was going on. I was like talking to somebody, mid conversation and I pointed over at something on the other side of the club and as I put my arm out and pointed, he starts throwing up as he's running by and it fucking like goes straight on my arm. Like full arm covered and fucking some random dudes vomit and he wasn't even cute. That's the fucking worst. Like you're gonna be ugly and you're gonna throw up on me. Please. Oh my god. But I'm a nurse. So I'm used to very very nasty ass shit and I don't

get grossed out by things. I kick in the fucking like fix it mode and I like I dissociate from the situation and I control it. But I'm just standing there for a second. Like taking in what the fuck just happened. Like this dude really just fucking threw up on me and everyone around me is like oh my fucking god, like girls are gagging guys are like what the fuck, like everybody's shocked and like all the people I was friends with were just kind of like looking around like ill. All the people I was friends with were just kinda like looking around like ew. So I take my drink, my fresh drink I just got from the fucking bar and I pour it on the

top of my arm and like just let it run down and I got everything off of me and I was just like fuck. Like one I just lost my whole fucking drink, I just got it and it was good. And then two, that's grossest fuck. I just got thrown up on by a ugly guy. But that was fucking nasty. And then all of a sudden, my friend Amra comes running up to me with napkins and starts like wiping off my arm. Like she didn't care that I just got thrown up on. She was there to help me and was the only one that like came to help me.

Made sure I was okay one, but two like helped helped me clean it like everybody else was standing around like EW EW and like emra as soon as she saw it happen took off to the bar grab the fuck kind of napkins and came running back over to me and Like she was the only one that was there for me and in that moment I felt so cared about Because like she showed me she had my back no matter what. And yeah, it was fucking nasty that it was throw up on my arm. But I'm the same way. If I see you're dealing with something, if I care about you, you're not dealing with it alone. I don't care how bad it is. I don't care how nasty it is. If

you're throwing up on, I'm gonna be right there with you getting it to fuck off You just like how Amber was for me. She didn't let anything stop her from being there for me She was right there would be cleaning it off like everybody else let the throw up stop them. They're like it was gross She dove into give a fuck and was like helping me. She saw I needed something and like she Prioritized me making sure I was okay and cleaned it like she was fucking there for me and that's what I mean by do people let things get in the way of them being there for you so like with the throw up like she didn't fucking she didn't budge she didn't think twice like yeah it's fucking gross but like I was more important to her

and she cared more about making sure I was okay than being focused on how gross it was. Does that make sense? But it's deeper than just the throw-up. It's like in that situation Everyone around us was so fucking grossed out that she didn't care if people looked at her like she was fucking nasty Because she was coming to clean it off me like People were looking at me like ew because I like, I got thrown up on but like I just like, I just like, I'm like, you're fucking in with your like, shut the fuck up. Like you're, you're a titty baby ass bitch if you can't handle a little throw up. But anyway, they didn't have the background that I have which is nursing.

Like I've been shit on, I've been thrown up on like nursing, you see the worst of the worst, especially in nursing school. But yeah, my whole point was like she didn't care how people were looking at her her priority was being there for me And that's something else that someone could let prevent them being there for you Like if someone is worried about how they're gonna be perceived if they're worried about other people It's like if they show that you're safety you're well-being You making sure you're taking care of you're okay, you're not upset.

If they show you, they make that their priority and they care about that, that's a solid fucking person, and you know you can trust them. Okay, so my next pointer for knowing you can trust someone is do they exhibit a deeper understanding of things? Like do they seem like they just get it? Do they seem like they understand shit

at more than just a surface level? Like are they situationally aware? Like do they understand that there's more two things that there's more perspectives, there's more possibilities, solutions, explanations? Like you can tell when someone's with it or when they're fucking not. Like it's like they're switched on.

Are they switched on or are they not? Cause it's a very clear distinction of do people get it or do they not get it. And one way you can tell if someone is switched on is seeing how they treat other human beings. Are they in touch with the fact that other human beings have feelings? Like if you look at how people treat weight staff

or any customer service personnel, it's like they're a human being, okay? They're not some fucking slave. They're not someone that owes you shit, all right? Like, I don't like people that have big fucking egos when it comes to like thinking they are somebody when it comes to customer service. You ain't fucking shit, all right? Be fucking polite or get the fuck out. Like literally don't do not be mean to people. That shit pisses me off and I'm not even gonna go there.

But you can see, are people cut off from the fact that other people are human? It doesn't matter what position they're in. Do they only respect CEOs and people with fucking titles? Or do they respect the janitor too? Are they fucking nice to a janitor? Do they speak to the janitor? Do they hold the door to the janitor? Do they speak to the janitor? Do they hold the door for the janitor?

Do they say hi? Do they smile? Are you aware that every single human being has feelings? Not just the ones that you respect. That's how you can fucking clock if someone's a piece of shit. One, or two, if they're switched on. Because motherfuckers that are not switched on, I want to smack upside the fucking head.

And I've gotten into a lot of like altercations with people for being so fucking like unaware that people are human, god damn beings. Like Jesus Christ, I don't understand how we're still so in the dark age with that. Like these people that are in establishments like screaming and showing their ass like over their coffee that got made wrong Shut the fuck up. You need to be hit. You need to be fucking sat the fuck down bitch One you need a reality check of what the fuck's really important in life You're a little coffee you can wait bitch, but two like where do you think you're gonna be so disrespectful to somebody Just because they made a mistake and they did something wrong, like I understand some people need to be like checked and you gotta show a little tough

love or if you just just berate somebody because they made a mistake, realize they're a human being, understand like even if you're in a coffee shop, understand bristas if you go to a Starbucks, they're constantly fucking moving, go go go they have so much shit they're doing, it's easy to make a little mistake, they're overwhelmed. There's a lot going on. Like you gotta cut them a little slack. Shit happens. They're humans. They're not machines.

That's a really, really big thing that I look for. I just unpacked a lot of little points on that one, but you get my point. Just check. Are they switched on to the fact that other people are human and that everyone has feelings, regardless of their position, regardless of everything. Like even the homeless people you see on the side of the road, they still feel all the

exact same emotions that you feel. So if they seem disconnected, there's a good word, switched off, switched on, disconnected, connected, whatever you want to word it as, just look for that. Because if someone is switched on and they understand people have emotions, they understand you do too. Okay. on and they understand people have emotions, they understand you do too. Okay, so your chances of them hurting you and fucking you over and treating you like shit are lower.

So that's a sign you can trust somebody. Okay, so my next thing to look for, you've got to check, do they fold under pressure? And what I mean by do they fold under pressure, is can they be convinced against their self and their beliefs and their values? Can they be forced out of their character? Because a lot of people will switch the fuck up for money. One, that's like the most common one. Two, societal pressure, fear of rejection, fear of not being liked.

Like people want to be liked and accepted. So they flip the script and they'll flip who they are basically. It's like they want to appeal to who's in the room and they want to appeal to what like makes a situation best for them. There's no consistency in their character. There's no consistency in their beliefs. And like you don't know me that they don't have a solid sense of self. Like they can be put under pressure and fold like a fucking napkin. That's someone that you can't trust. That's a big, big red flag is if someone is not able to stand up in a room and stand

solid in what they believe and what they stand for. Like do they give into temptation? Will they be able to be swayed easily? You know what I mean? You gotta have someone that can put their fucking foot down and say no and then have that be consistent or like A big example of this is discriminatory things people say like there's certain times where people just say discriminatory shit or like certain words that you shouldn't say By society standards like oh that words off limit. I get it

But judge the context of what they're saying it like what the word Faggot I don't give a fuck if people throw around the word Faggot like if you throw around the word I think it's a funny ass word throw around Faggot I don't care but as soon as you flip into being disrespectful with that word I'm smacking the fuck out of you. I'm not putting up with that shit You need someone that's not scared to speak up, especially with like racist shit Like if someone says a certain term and it's not like harmful I get like not needing to make it like a big deal, but If someone's saying something in a derogatory way, check them

Stand the fuck up and speak up. You need someone that will speak up regardless. That's how you know you can trust someone Is whose values stay in line no matter who they're around? and speak up. You need someone that will speak up regardless. That's how you know you can trust someone, is whose values stay in line, no matter who they're around. You know, cause you know how sometimes it's like, oh, I just don't wanna cause any trouble. And it's like, nah, cause if it actually bothered you, you'd speak the fuck up. It would not feel good to shut up.

Does that make sense? So someone that's consistent with their beliefs and what they stand for, got to watch out for that That means they're trustworthy if they be flip flopping and folding like a napkin, they're not trustworthy Okay, this is just a little quick one, but people that are worried about looking broke That is a type of person I don't fucking get like It's so common now that he everyone tries to not look poor to not look broke. It's like the people that are actually concerned about not looking broke are broke people. Rich people don't

care if someone thinks that they're broke because they know that they're not. So anyone that's like always having to do the bougie shit and can't do nothing ratchet, it's like they're the broken fucking ones. The ones that are always like, I only do the best. I only do a filet mean nine. It's like bitch, if you go to a restaurant with somebody and they order a filet and they say filet manion they're broke only broke people say the full fucking name it's a filet bitch it's it's clear that you don't eat them often okay now I'm just talking shit I'm just talking shit but I really do mean it about the filet like do not ever say minion in front of megnon Mignon minion don't say that in front of me bitch. It's a filet. It's a filet period done. Shut up after that

But yeah, my whole point with that is like people that can go back and forth with The shit that they do so like someone that's down to do bum shit and someone that's down to do bougie shit Like but not someone that always has to do bougie shit. Like someone that is so scared to look like broke, I don't trust you. Because what are you willing to do to not look broke? Are you willing to sacrifice me? Are you willing to embarrass me, put me down,

put me in a weird situation just so you don't look broke? That's not safe. Cause you don't know if they're willing to put you down to look better in front of others. That's someone that cares too much about other people's judgment of them and I don't fuck with nobody like that. Like I understand why they are the way that they are but I don't want you near me. That's unsafe to be around because it's gonna be at my expense that you don't look broke. It's gonna come to that eventually.

And I don't like to have to be around people like that like I am someone that like girl My fucking couch is from goodwill It was $200 you know what else was $200 my fucking Versace ass tray I'm very picky about where I'll send my money. I'm not broke. I'm not rich But I don't care about looking rich like I don't care if people look at me like oh my god He's broke because I know I'm fucking not you know? But that's how you know somebody's broke. Is if they're so worried about looking broke. Like I'm able to do the bougie shit and the ratchet shit. Like I can do both and I need that in all of my friendships. Like you need someone that's like that

and that doesn't care about how they're being perceived, you know? So if they're down to pregame with you in the car before you go into the club or if they're down to save money in certain spots or down to go to thrift stores or down to do just anything, like if they're smart around money and they don't give a fuck about looking broke, they're trustworthy. Okay, so my next one, do they own the shit that they say? So I've talked about this before on my podcast, but it is such a big one. Like, if I say something, I'm gonna own it. That's why I'm so bold with the shit that I say. Like, anything I say that's very like stern or harsh, I've thought it through. And I know I'm right, and it's a solid point, and there's no negating it.

There's no fucking fight in it. There's not a rebuttal. Like, if you look at my TikToks with like, where I like cuss people to fuck out, there's no rebuttal bitch Your case is closed like drop that hammer dung-dung lawn order face ass like it's done And I'm so bold with what I say Because I know it's the truth and I'll stand behind it like I'm not the type to backtrack It's like if I say something and I need to clear up something I said I will but I'm so strategic when I speak I don't have to take shit back and I'm fully fine

standing behind something I said so look if I say something about somebody that's the thing is I don't talk shit about people if I say something about you and it sounded like I was talking shit that's a wake-up call that I'm not talking shit I just said something I observed about you, and you don't like how it sounds. So that call is coming from inside the house, babe. You need to fuck and reflect on that. I'm not talking shit.

What you're doing is just shitty. But that's a big thing. Like if someone says something about someone or says something about a situation or voices and opinion, do you stand behind it or do you backtrack? If someone backtracks, don't trust them. I don't give a fuck. And that's it's about your safety.

Cause like, if I, like I'll talk all this shit on cops, like fuck cops, fuck the system, but whenever I get pulled over or whenever I'm interacting with a cop, I'm a manipulative little fucking shit. I always start out nice. I always start out like, I honestly start out like I honestly don't fucking it I don't engage with them. I don't talk to them I size them up and I look at them and I watch their mannerisms because I just need to know You know what I mean? But if they interact with me, I'm like I don't overextend myself

I'm fucking keeping my distance, but if I get pulled over or something it's like I'm very Manipulative and if I have to be nice to be manipulative here. I go But that's because my ass is on the line and that's a situation where like my safety is involved because if you piss off the wrong cop These corrupt little motherfuckers will fuck with your life and arrest you for blinking too many times like they'll find some stupid As example, oh you got a you're a little you look a little cock eye you must be drunk No bitch. I just got a lazy eye you're arrested boom like if you piss off the wrong one you're fucked So I understand you got to like navigate certain situations So like that like if your physical safety is at risk I get it

But I'm talking shit that's not like that like people that just be talking shit and I'll stand behind it. I don't fuck with that Okay, so we got two more. My next one is look for, does someone need to justify what they do? Like do they always need to feel the reason to explain what someone did to them, that justified them doing something back? You know? It's like if someone asked me, Leo, did you just call that woman a fucking cunt? Yep, I sure did I

Don't feel the need to explain further. Well, she said this to me first or she did this first I'm fine just sitting here and owning up to what I did Does that make sense like I'm not afraid to look like a bad guy because I know I'm not a bad guy So when people constantly feel the need to explain it's because they're scared of looking like a bad guy because they feel like one. If I do some fucked up shit, you best know the motherfucker deserved it. Now, I don't care if I look like a bad guy. So just look out for that. If there's any allegation made against the person and they all of a sudden like they feel the need to quickly defend their self and they're eager to do it and they're like antsy to defend theirself constantly. Like they can't take the pressure

of possibly looking like a bad person. That's the red flag. So someone that can stand in what they did and not be like ruined by the fact that you think they're a bad person, that's a good sign. Okay, so moving on to my last thing. This is the most important one and it's going to be short and sweet and like sort of got the end point.

When you say you're uncomfortable, what do they do? Do they all of a sudden make a change? Do they change something? Do they care that you're uncomfortable and try to make you more comfortable? Or do they ignore it? Do they try to tell you you're annoying? Do they try to discard it?

Do they try to invalidate it? Do they try to make you seem like you're being dramatic? What is their response to hearing that you are experiencing something uncomfortable? And you know the answer for fucking that, okay? So, I want to leave the podcast off on that one. I feel like I've prepared one. I feel like I've prepared you. I feel like I'm sending my kids off to school and I'm like, I've just taught you everything you need to know before you go to the school of life. Good luck. Love you

some mates. Be safe. That's how I feel right now. I feel like a proud parent. But if you've made it this far in the podcast, will you leave me a five star rating? Because if you made it this far, I taught you something. God damn it. So give me the 5 stars, thank you. But if you are listening to this, share it to your Instagram story. If you have a Instagram, fucking share this shit, I'll repost you on my story too. That's it be friends. If you do want to follow me, all of my social media will be linked in this podcast. You can go follow all my TikToks, my Instagram, all the good stuff.

Also, if you're interested in a one on one call with me, I do coaching calls so we can talk on Zoom about whatever you're going through and I will get you through it and I will offer you any insight that I have and I promise you will not be the same at the end of the call because none of my clients have been. I will leave the link for the application for that if you wanna apply to be a client.

But thank you so much for listening. I hope you feel a new, found sense of like security with yourself and like, okay, now I can trust myself because I know, I don't know if I can trust someone else. So that makes sense. You can now trust your judgment if someone is trustworthy. So I hope I've supplied you and equipped you

with what you need to know. If you have any questions, feel free to DM me and I can post a story if I need to elaborate more if people keep asking the same thing. But thank you so much for listening. Stay safe, take care of yourself, and even though I just told you how to trust someone, it's tattooed on my hand for a reason, so I'm going to remind you of it. Trust no one.

I will talk to you next Sunday. Talk to you next Sunday.