Aware & Aggravated - 61. Money DOES Make You Happy

Episode Date: January 30, 2023

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Hi friends, this week we're talking about money and a whole bunch of it. I want to talk about my two cents about how money does make you fucking happy. Because everybody in the little entrepreneur space, really anybody online, anybody with the fucking mouth. Be running it and saying that money doesn't make you happy. So, I'm going to tell you all the ways it does make you happy. Because in episode 60, I told you about how I touched your lifestyle, where I was spending around $100,000 a month. And I was a happy dick for a lot of different reasons,

but there are certain voids money can't fill. That's gonna be for another episode, but for this episode, we're gonna talk about how money does make you happy. Cause it does, to an extent. So I got a little list of all my key points I wanna hit on. Really, I'ma just ramble and talk my shit for my own experience and tell you what I've learned what I've figured out in the awareness that's hit me like a ton of fucking bricks

so the first thing I want to talk about is people's whole like money doesn't make you happy it's not that having more money directly leads to you being more happy there's two reasons money kind of makes you more happy First is the absence of stress. There's certain stress that just Goes the fuck away and it's so nice. It's so fucking nice Because you get your focus back like when you have money You're allowed to focus on the things that you want to focus on you're allowed to do the things that you want to do Whatever tickles your fuck a, you get to do it.

You don't have to be worried about, oh, the dread and the fear and the worry and the concern about not having enough money. Oh, it's a shit show. Absolute. Like, I've been up and down in both lifestyles. I've been struggling and I've been balling out. But you don't have that constant, everything's feeling like a setback. And like, dread, that's the word that keeps coming to mind is dread.

It's like, everything is fucking dreadful when you don't have money. It's just annoying. Like, waking up costs you a hundred fucking bucks. I swear to God, like to leave the house 150. Stay your house at home. That's how it feels a lot of days. When you don't have money, it just feels like

everywhere you turn, there's a new bill, there's a new expense, there's a new something, and it just will piss you off when you don't have Access money to just throw that shit Like little inconveniences Like you have this fear about just stupid little shit when you don't have money that kind of goes away Like if a rock comes up and cracks your fucking windshield or like someone breaks in your car like they fucking did to me on New Year's Eve I had to pay to go get it fixed. Annoying is fuck. But the other part of having money that does lead to happiness, so we talked about the absence of stress. So when there is less stress, you just feel

better. You feel happier. You get to focus on what you want to focus on. Whatever tickets you pay. Do you remember? But then there's also the whole aspect of money being a tool. Money gives you power because it allows you to bring about what you want to experience. So the more ability you have to get what you want, great, what the fuck like it's gonna be a lot easier. So to have more money gives you more tools in your tool belt basically.

So nothing really feels unattainable or that you can't have it or experience it in some way. You can get shit and manifest it. Oh please. I still have to do my episode about manifestation but it arcs the fuck out of me. But y'all go what I mean about the money thing. But I'm gonna give you a couple of examples I want to talk about when I didn't have money and how I was like living on a budget and I was like trying to be like a frugal fuck and then how I do have some money now where I can have a little bit of disposable income and buy what the fuck I want. Like I bought a fucking Versace bath mat for my kitchen because it was cute. But my first example when I was budgeting and when I

didn't really have much money to just do what I want with, like I lived on a very tight budget, like I couldn't fucking far and spend money, like I couldn't do nothing. So everything was very tight. So unexpected expenses came with so much emotional charge. Like I was aggravated and just pissed off. Every day I fucking woke up when something happened.

So like face wash, oh my God. I remember this clear as day. I Literally was on such a tight budget, but my fucking frugal ass still bought a $40 face scrub because it was just good. Best techified. So I'm like, I'll cut a corner somewhere else I didn't go out to eat. I didn't do shit like a couple years ago and I was like, I'm buying my face wash though Sorry skin's number one But I remember waking up one day and I went to use my face wash and I was like about to be out. Like I had like one more use out of it and I was like so mad. I got so mad because I had been saving a little extra money that week.

And then I was like oh my god I'm on top of shit like yay I have like a little like I'm okay right now. And then the unexpected expense hit and it ruined my Fucking day. I was so pissed off. I had to go buy the new face wash I know I didn't have to go buy it but like I was just so agitated like mother fuck It's like you feel like you can never get ahead when you don't have money for shit I've been there. I know it all too well And that's where I'm confident to say money makes you mother fucking happy because when you don't have

And that's where I'm confident to say money makes you motherfucking happy because when you don't have The money to buy even basic little shit some people can't fucking afford food, dude So when that time comes where you need to eat and you can't afford food You're gonna get pissed off every time you have to eat or you're gonna get extremely sad There's so many situations that come emotionally charged because of the powerlessness and just the Aggravation and feeling like it's a setback like you have this goal and you're saving this money and then all of a sudden You have this unexpected bill come up and you lose all the money you were saving the fuck That's the most like disheartening thing But when you have money living day-to-day is no longer an aggravation like when I run out of face wash now

I go buy a new face wash and it's not like oh my god I use the last bit in the shower I'm like okay I'll go buy more I don't have the emotional charge anymore I don't get frustrated I don't get annoyed I'm always a little bit like god damn it but it's not as emotionally charged does that make sense and that is alleviated throughout your entire life and another example of something where I had to like, re-buy it, I don't lose anything ever, especially if it's nice. So I had these Versace sunglasses,

and they were like, three, four hundred bucks, something like that. I don't know. I bought them a couple of years ago, and I fucking loved them. I loved them so much. And I've taken care of them. Like whenever I buy designer things, I take care of them because I don't want to lose them.

Unless it's something that like, you're meant to trash up Because I have this weird fetish for like having things that other people want and just like treating it like shit Like to have a Birkin or like some kind of like expensive ass bag or like a pair of shoes that everybody wants and you just trash them Oh my god, that's the ultimate fuck you. It's not cool to have Something that's so hard to get in perfect condition Like people that are scared to crease their shoes like when you buy an expensive pair of shoes and are scared to crease them Or they have like a Birken and they never take the plastic off girl. Don't that motherfucker around. That's the flex

Okay, having a brand new like perfect little bag and perfect pair of shoes like I Don't know. That's my own little fetish. I like the trash things But I had this pair of sunglasses that I loved and I wore them every day and I lost them and The thing about those sunglasses was I liked them enough to rebuy them And that's how I knew I really liked them because I was like okay, I lost them fuck, but I Do like them enough to rebuy them, so I'll just re-buy them. Now to go re-buy those sunglasses I was like, eh, whatever, I'll just buy them.

3, 400 bucks, how for the fuck much they were? 3 or 400 bucks? Me a year ago would have crippled me. To just have to like have that unexpected expense and like to just re-buy something like that. To go re-buy these sunglasses, wasn't a big deal for me, and I was literally sitting in the car when I was like I was fucking sitting there I'm in a cigarette and I was like I want to and I just went and like reordered a new pair and I was like whoa That was my moment where I was like Leo you kind of made it like You're okay like you have disposable enough income where you can just like go buy something for a few hundred bucks and not blink

Well, that was so weird to me. But having a little bit of extra money and like having disposable income now and losing something or breaking something or having to pay for something is not a big deal anymore. Like things are not a big fucking deal. I'm like, okay, it sucks. Sure, here's the money. Like I'll just buy it, whatever. Get it over with. I don't dwell on it. I don't sit there and get emotionally charged by it because I have the money to pay for shit

And I'm not gonna hurt another area of my life because I have that money now me a year ago Had I lost them glasses? Oh, I would have beat myself to fuck up I'd have been so upset I'd have been so pissed off because I could have rebought them I always been very good with managing money But I would have had to take out of my savings or like take out of something else to read by them And I would have had to take out of my savings or like take out of something else to rebind them, and I would have been so pissed off it would have ruined my whole fucking day because I lost those glasses and I have like, oh my god I have to rebind them.

And then to not rebind them, I would just sit there and be pissed off. You know what I mean? So it's like, damn it if you do, damn if you don't. But that's the difference between these situations, like not having money to like when you lose something, it would have ruined my whole day. I would have been pissed off for probably a goddamn week. Probably a month about it. I would have been so goddamn mad.

And the people who are in the boat I used to be in, I fully get you. And you guys get what I'm saying. Where it's just like little shit, just bothers the hell out of you. And money does solve it. Money solves a lot of fucking problems. And it makes your life, like I said,

it just removes certain stress. And you get to just go about your life and it seems easier, it seems better. It's like you're not constantly hit every time you like turn around with some new annoyance or new inconvenience or new fee or charge or whatever the fuck. So yes, if you're chasing money, chase that shit, okay? People trying to talk people out of making money and starting businesses, do it bitch. Fucking do it. Stop making yourself go through this daily turmoil of not being able to afford things. Literally, if you want money, go for it. Go for it. Make it. Give yourself this sense of freedom and give yourself back the privilege of focusing on what you want to fucking focus on.

Not having all these things pop up and take your focus away from them. Because when I get to work on my businesses now, I get to do it without distraction of little things out of my control. I don't feel so powerless because if my car gets broken into, if I lose something, if I get to charge the fee for some shit or whatever, I just get to pay it. It's like this little annoyance comes up. I pay it, get rid of it, and I'm back to work. And I get to focus back at what I'm doing.

You're not constantly swayed and so overwhelmed, but a shit that happens. I'm rambling a whole lot, but money doesn't make you happy in that aspect. Fight me on it. So like I said, nothing seems like a big deal, and this kind of ties me into my next point. Shitches don't seem like such a big deal anymore.

Like my first example is you just get to focus on enjoying things. Like when you go to dinner with some friends or you go to dinner, you go out to eat. You don't have to fucking like stock the menu and eat as cheap as possible and sit there and like be worried about, oh, are they gonna split the bill?

Am I gonna have to cover it for the table? Like there's no, like all that fear, all that stress is gone you just get to go eat and have fucking fine meat so if you want to drink get a drink if you want five get five you can fucking afford it you know it just takes the frustration and the headache out of everything and you get to just enjoy experiences so like going to dinner something as simple as that going to get fucking gas when your car is out of gas you're not like fuck when it's on

eat or like a quarter of tank I always fill up out a quarter of tank because I Once you get fucking gas, when your car is out of gas, you're not like, fuck, when it's on eat. Or like a quarter of a tank. I always fill up out a quarter of a tank, because I'd be paranoid. I'd be scared to break down. I don't like to ask for help. But when my car was out of gas, now I'm like, okay, I'll go to the gas station. And I go to the gas station. It's not like, ugh, like I have to go pay for this shit.

You know what I mean? But like especially with dinner, like I used to have such a bad relationship with going out to eat, because I would sit there and just be like annoyed. And if I didn't have a good time at dinner, I would secretly in my mind be pissed that I just wasted this fucking money going to eat with this person and it was fucking worthless. Like, oh, I used to get so frustrated about that shit,

but now I don't care. I have the money to go have dinner. And it's so nice. The next thing is traveling. One, you get to travel and two, like I said, you get to just enjoy the experience of traveling. You can pay to upgrade your seats on a flight. You could pay to get a nice Airbnb. You could pay for convenience where you stay. You can pay for Ubers and being comfortable. You don't have to get into a carpool or like some weird shit. You can literally just gain comfort and buy comfort for yourself when you have money to travel. Like basically when you have

money at all this is just shit you can use it for and how it makes everything better. So like when you go traveling on a budget or you don't actually have a lot of money to spend you're gonna be trying to find the cheapest Uber, trying to find the cheapest Airbnb, trying to find the cheapest flight, send next to the fucking bathroom, smelling everybody's shit. Like, it's just gonna be a bad experience, and it's like, oh, it's so much better. Like, money makes all that shit so much fucking better. And like I said, you don't have to worry at a restaurant when you go out to eat,

you don't have to worry about when you go out, you don't have to worry about where you stay, you're in a safe spot, you're literally just, it just heightens every experience. And the biggest thing with all these points I just made with like dinner and travel and all that, stay, you're in a safe spot, you're literally just it just heightens every experience. And the biggest thing with all these points I just made with like dinner and travel and all that, you don't have to take so much into consideration with like trying to find the cheap shit. It's like all your focus is, is getting to have fun and enjoy where you are.

It's not distracting you, your focus is not being yanked from you. And put on, you gotta find the cheapest shit, you gotta find coupon, you gotta find anything you can to make shit cheaper. And you don't have that stress when you're doing things like oh my god, how much is it gonna be? Can I afford it? Oh no, you just get to go and just have fucking fun, dude.

It's a nice freedom. And I'm not at the point yet. Me and my ex would go fucking on a vacation and spend 30 grand. And just do literally whatever we fucking want it. That's the experience I'm speaking from. When I go out now and like I travel now, I'll be upgrading my seat in my flight, sure, because I'm six with seven, I gotta get the big one. But I still like watch my dollar. I'm not crazy with Airbnb's. I still

am very conscious and aware of like how much I'm spending, because I don't have that much disposable income to just be throwing out tens of thousands of fucking dollars. But it is so nice and there is such a like a freedom in it. And you truly get to enjoy the fuck out of life because you're attention. Like I said, you get your attention back. You don't have it on other shit. It's just having a good time. Now I want to talk about everything seeming possible. So like when you don't have money, everything is like a challenge or a chore or like it doesn't seem like it can happen for you. When you have money, you got to fucking shortcut to anything you want.

I got a pretty good list on this one. So dating. You could date anybody you fucking want. Distance is no longer an issue. Fly to them. Go see them. What the fuck? Like move them to you. Move to them.

Like when you got money, your dating pool fucking gets real fat. You can pay to go places. You can pay to take people to dinner. You can pay to go have experiences. It's literally like what? If you want to go fucking hook up, you ain't got to bring no one to your house. Go buy a hotel room for the night and go fuck some stranger. If y'all are into that, money just gives you so many options and your limit on dating just seems to go away. Like you have so much potential and so much opportunity. Like when you see someone's a thousand miles away, oh, one of us is getting out of flight

and it's like there's no hesitation. It's like when you have a desire for something you could just be lying for it instead of having to like not have it or be like sad about it because you don't see a way to get it. Money just kind of like solves that. It's more tools to get you to what you want. So why the fuck would you not want more of them? Also with dating is making friends. Because you can pay to go certain places, you can go out, you can do whatever you want to do, you can go to dinners freely.

Like whenever I was trying to save a lot of money A lot of people like to hang out in e like that costs money The only activity me and my friends in Pensacola would do would be like go eat and I was like I'm tired of spending money so I Isolated because I was like if I'm not eating I'm not seeing anyone if I'm not going out downtown and drinking and doing drugs I'm not seeing anyone and now I should advantage. So I literally was just like isolated. But when you have money to go to dinner, when you have money to go drink,

when you have money to do, you can do them. And not think twice about it. So like I said, you can pay to go places. You can join a fucking yoga class if that's what tickles your peach. You can go fucking join a little MMA fighting class or kickboxing class. You can literally do whatever you wanna do. You can go pay to get around these people a lot of people have country club

Memberships because they like to be around a much of fucking prudes with their little polo shirts and shit I wouldn't get kicked the fuck out. I want to lose in two seconds. Please. I don't like their pretentious bullshit I still I don't care how much money I make. I'm always have a bottle of tequila in my car to take shots before I go in the bar Why did that rhyme? I'ma just leave it there. But yeah, you can literally do whatever the fuck you want. It's so easy to meet friends when you have money to buy experiences and do all this shit. Like, you just kinda like takes the cap off and you don't feel so lonely.

Cause like, when you don't have money, it's like you have to start getting creative. Also, taking care of yourself is 10 times fucking easier when you have money to do it. You could pay for massages. You can get facials. You can afford to go get routine blood work done and go see doctors consistently when something's wrong. When you're sick, you can pay for fucking treatments. Stratially with like being hung over.

If you're hung over, go get a fucking IV. They're like 200 bucks. Go get a fucking IV. And it'll hydrate you the next day. Like a lot of rich people do that. They'll literally just go to a fucking place or have the IV place in their team out. And they'll come to your house and give you an IV and it like rehydrates you and gets you back to life and you don't feel hung over. Like what? There's so many cheat codes to everything. Also with hangovers, you can afford to buy expensive alcohol so it doesn't hurt so bad when you wake up the next day.

Win-win. But back to taking care of yourself. I started getting massages last week and it's so weird that I'm able to go and afford to just do that. I started ordering my groceries because going to the grocery store takes me like an hour and a half because I have to go to two different grocery stores so I just started instacarding them because now I have money to pay the little fee and I don't give a fuck about it. Like to pay 20 bucks extra to have someone go get my shit and bring it to me, gladly. It's usually more than that because I'm gonna tip them on top of it but to like buy that convenience back and just like have it done for me it's so nice it's so what the fuck like it's just so convenient but literally we're taking care of. Like I can afford to go get a massage now.

I can afford to go see a chiropractor. I can go afford to do whatever the hell I want to do. I can afford to do things that make it a lot easier to take care of my health and make it kind of fun. So money opens that door too. Also eating right, like you're able to buy healthier shit, better quality shit, you can buy a personal chef if you want. You can buy those meal prep companies

that send you everything already pre-made, save you all the time cooking and cleaning. You can afford to go out every meal if you got a damn want to, and it's just fresh good food if you go to nice restaurants. I'm going to go to a goddamn McDonald's. But if you're gonna afford to go to a nice restaurant two, three times a day,

you got more money than me, bitch. Cause the way I eat, please. I'm like, I got 50, 60 bucks to go out to eat. No. But eating right is a whole lot easier. So taking care of yourself in that aspect too. And my whole point behind this video is just like to give people inspiration that if you're trying

to make money or you have a goal to make more money, you're not wrong for it. You're not an asshole, you're not selfish. I don't want you to be listening to these people who are like trying to discourage you and be like, money doesn't make you happy, you shouldn't chase that. Chase that for a while. Chase it till you get it, okay? Because you can't unwant something that you want.

So like in the position that I'm in right now, I came from a place where I wanted money so fucking bad. Got with that motherfucker that had a lot. to my lifestyle with not having much and then I still had the desire to make more money Like it even was like heightened because I wanted my own fucking money this time I wanted my own shit and I could have just sat here and be like oh Leo You were so upset and you were more unhappy than you've ever been when you were over your spending a hundred thousand dollars a month I wasn't happy for a lot of reasons. But money made a lot of shit better and you can't deny that. So wanting money

nothing's wrong with it. Nothing's fucking wrong with it and I want to give you that reassurance. So if you're in a place where you want money, mother fucker shoot for it, get it. Because where I'm in the place I am right now, I now have this disposable income where I'm comfortable and I can do what the fuck I want. And now that I'm here, I get to what the fuck I want and now that I'm here I get to decide what do I want to do next like if there's nothing wrong with pursuing money There's nothing fucking wrong with it. Watch your ass. Don't fuck people over for it stick to your morals stick to your values Stick to your standards. Don't be inconsiderate. Don't be disrespectful like do it the right way

But there's nothing wrong with going for money and wanting to and wanting money. Like I'm telling you it's a lot better than these people even fucking explain. They're so asleep, they're not in touch enough to even be able to explain the things that I'm telling you how much of a relief money fucking is. They're just not with it enough to tell you. That's why I want to make this episode because I used to when I didn't have money trying to convince myself, oh it's not that great anyway anyway all these rich people are so fucking miserable they're miserable for their own other reasons but there's so many fucking problems you have that can be solved like that once you have more money

promise you but watch just make it and see so something else that seems more possible because that's kind of a note I was on, was starting businesses. Your fear of failure kind of goes the fuck away when you have money and disposable income. Like what's the worst that's gonna happen? The company's gonna fail. Oh, okay, I'll start a different one. When you're not scared of a financial loss

and trying to start a business is not gonna lead to financial ruin where you're like, oh my God, how am I gonna pay the bills? Am I gonna lose my house? Am I gonna lose my pay the bills? Am I going to lose my house? Am I going to lose my car? Am I going to be able to feed my kids? When you don't have that stress on you, you're free to pursue what it is you want and not be so fucking fearful.

Like my ex was literally not scared of starting shit and we had such a disconnect because I would talk to him about wanting to start certain businesses and he's like, what's the worst that's going to happen? You fail? And I literally was like, yeah, and lose all this money and he goes, so what? And I'm just like, I never looked at his money as my money and that was one of our big fucking fights was like, I'm all the fuck, I'm not stupid. I came into this relationship with what I came in with it and I'm leaving with that. Like, what? I'm not fucking thinking I came into this relationship with what I came in with it and I'm leaving with that. Like what? I'm not fucking thinking that your shit is my shit.

But he was in a position where he had money to just throw that shit. He was able to lose it. Cause like starting a business is gambling. So he was able to just like try that and have no fear of failure. Where I was sitting here looking at this opportunity was starting a certain business.

And I was fucking fearful because it would lead to so much ruin if it didn't work out. For me to invest so much into it, it just seems like such an unfair disadvantage because you don't have to take so much into consideration. Not so much as riding on the business succeeding when you have money versus if you don't. For me to try and start something back then, I was too fucking scared. There was too much potential risk with it. I guess so I went to fucking nursing school.

I wanted something secure and stable. Well people with money genuinely are not scared to start things or invest in things or buy things. They're like, oh, what's the worst thing to happen? Ooh, you lose the money, whoopee. Like girl. I'm excited to get to that level. Because I still be scared. I still be scared about shit.

So now I want to talk about a couple of things that having money makes more convenient. That you probably don't think about. Moving. Literally, when I moved to Houston from Florida, I did it by myself. No one helped me lift the fucking box. No one helped me move shit. I did it all myself. No one helped me lift the fucking box. No one helped me move shit. I did it all myself and I fucking hated it. When I moved from my old apartment here, so my new one, this one, I hired motherfucking movers. Okay, I have the money now to be able to do shit like that.

Fucking do it. If you have the money to hire a mover, hire a mover. It will save you so much time and headache and frustration and muscle soreness and drop me shit on your feet trust me But make sure you get over the insurance in case they fuck your shit out But yeah, like it just made it so much more convenient and it was such less of a headache to move all I had to do was literally Come to my new place and unpack all of my shit. It was all moved for me That's where I'm saying nothing seems as big. Like moving when you don't have money it's like, oh fuck, like everything just seems like such a big chore or task because you can't pay to make things more convenient

or pay for help. That is something I fully get, bitch. I fully get it. And like when you are living a life where you have money and you don't feel like everything is such a big deal and such a chore. You're a lot happier to get up in the morning. You're a lot happier to try things and do things because you're not fucking discouraged

every time you turn around with how much effort everything's gonna take. You can pay to make it a little easier. And another thing with convenience is overnight shipping. That's something I still have a hard time paying for. Like, it's like 30 bucks and I'm like, oh, it depends on how bad I want one of it as I'm ordering, but a lot of the times I'll just pay for overnight shipping because I can. Like, 20, 30 bucks is not gonna fucking kill me

and it's so nice. Like, I used to always be looking for the cheapest option and always be looking for a coupon code. Girl, I still be looking for coupon codes. The fuck, I will never put in order. Just put it in. I'm always discount code, coupon code, Google. Bitch, I'm be looking for coupon codes. The fuck? I will never put in an order. Just put it in. I'm always discount code, coupon code, Google. Bitch, I'm always looking for a guy down coupon. Forever told me they I die. I don't

care how rich I get. But I will pay for the fast shipping now. Because I want it quick. Only face. The next thing that makes very convenient is getting famous online. Getting famous online or growing on social media is not hard when you have money. So let me break down some shit people are doing. Okay? So let's say someone that has a lot of money, all of a sudden decides they want to start getting on social media and they want to blow up. Easy fucking peasy. They can hire a photographer to get cool pictures of them made.

They can hire an interior decorator to give them a nice setting and a nice setup, or they can go rent a fucking studio and get some professional ass pictures taken. Get some cutesy little funsy shit. They can get a content scheduler. Someone that's like a social media manager that can tell them what to post, how to post, hashtags to use, times to post, all that. To optimize their growth, you can pay for platforms that automatically generate likes and put you on people's for you page and shit and like explore page on Instagram and TikTok.

Then you want to take it a step further. Once you've got like a little bit of a following or it looks like you do, then you can start going at other people's podcasts or meeting up with other people that are influencers in your place or like where you live, start going to the places that they go, run into them. You might have a little bit of a following now

or it's gonna look like it because you bought some fucking followers and then you're buying the likes to make them look real. It's a whole fucking shit show in this. And then you can pay blogs and newspapers for articles to be written about you. And once you have a few like articles and blog posts and like if a news station writes about you,

you can apply for being verified on Instagram and you will get verified if you have articles written about you. That's just how it fucking goes. You'll see people with two or three thousand followers and they're blue check verified because they have articles written about them, whether they're a little athlete from some podon cast school, if they got articles written about them

from a credible place, they're gonna get verified. That's how the shit works. Also, you can pay to become verified. On Twitter, you can just buy it. But for Instagram and TikTok, if you can weasel your way in with a social media manager and like, get in the right doors and pay the right people, you could pay a few grand and get fucking verified for real.

There's plenty of people that do it. So if you ever look at someone's page and you're like, who the fuck are you, why are you verified? They might have bought it. But once you get that blue check, when you start trying to go hang out with other influencers, they're gonna take you more serious When you start posting shit and it like blows up a little bit because of your little fucking algorithm shit that you bought

People are gonna start following you because they think you're important because you have the blue check like it just buys you credibility You can go from a nobody to a somebody in 30 fucking days and there's this couple that I follow that I'm fucking obsessed with and I love them and I'm not talking shit I'm just saying like how they did it and what expedited their growth Alex and Layla Hermosi They both have grown so much on social media so fast and the last like year and a half two years They've blown the fuck up like hundreds of thousands of followers on every fucking platform And they have an entire team of people that helps them film and record their content Okay, so they'll record like a YouTube video and then their team will edit it Turn it into YouTube shorts turn it into TikTok videos turn it into Instagram Reels turn shit into written copy like written stories written posts

Tweets they'll literally take their one video and repurpose it into like 30 different forms of content So their actual input of time and energy to make a video is however long it takes to sit down and record the fucking video Everything else is handled for them and they're blowing the fuck up because social media is a numbers game How many videos can you get out? How many eyes can you get in front of they have their team posting for them like three to five times a day Every fucking day. And when you have money, you can pay for that. They said that they paid their team around $70,070, $1,000 a month.

$70,000, $70,000 a month. But they're growing like, wow, fucking fire. And they should, like they honestly like deserve to grow because they share good ass shit like they're genuine ass people and they share such good information And they've helped me a ton like some of the best business advice I've ever fucking heard and I'm obsessed with latela Oh my god, I just love her, but it's not that they're cheating or doing anything wrong They're doing it the correct way because all you have to do is just post a fuck ton. If I'm over here posting five videos a month and they're posting a hundred videos a month,

who the fuck do you think is gonna grow faster? Them. It's because they're doing the numbers game. They're just paying for someone to help them reach the higher numbers and put out as much content as possible. So it's not that they're buying fake followers and shit. They're doing it the legit way. Them having a lot of money allows them to be more efficient and

effective and pay for the convenience of having it done for them. Like they make the content, like they're recorded. They're the ones that say things, they have the content to share the value to contribute. They're the ones making the content, they're responsible for it, but dispersing it, they get to hand off Which is very fucking time consuming like me trying to make my little clips and shit I'm a one-man team with this shit in this heart. It's up like four full-time jobs, bitch Like it's literally 148 in the morning right now on Saturday night And I'm recording this podcast my life ain't fucking sweet and peaches the cream bitch like it's rough It's difficult, but if I had a fuck ton of money to just throw 70 K.a. editors, I would be millions of followers right now

It's just a numbers game and it's anybody because there's so many fucking Joe Schmo loser-ass people online That have millions of followers. They've done the numbers game. They've done the time. That makes sense That was a long little like tangent, but money makes it convenient That's another thing that money can help you feel like is attainable is fame. But one of the biggest things I noticed about having more money is you're so much less mentally tired, because you're not spending all of your time constantly thinking of ways to be resourceful instead of just buying something or paying for something. Like if you're always constantly trying to think a little covert and like different ways to get things that you need,

when it's so much easier to just buy them but you can't because you don't have the money, that's a lot of fucking energy you're spending on trying to like meet needs for yourself in other ways. So when you have money, you're a lot less fucking tired. Because you don't have to think outside the box and constantly like divert your energy always different places non-stop. If you want something buy it it's as simple as that instead of trying to go oh my god I can't even fucking get into it it's just stressful and you're a lot less mentally tired when you have money. Trust. So my next little topic I want to talk about with money is when you have money you have a better sense of safety

Or more of a sense of safety like you feel more safe when you have money because Like I talked about in my last episode you can represent yourself in fucking court Okay, you can defend yourself you can protect yourself legally you can go about things the right way and Especially with taxes like you can just pay for someone to do your taxes and you don't have to take on the stress and the burden of dealing with doing it wrong And then having to go to court and get fucked But also if someone does you wrong, you can go have it rectified in court You can make them and force them through a ruling in court to do what the fuck like they were supposed to do for you If something is gone wrong

Or if someone damages you or causes damage to you, you can afford to get just this bitch. We'll try to, because like I said, justice system ain't for justice. It's so much a horse shit, but you have a higher chance. And if someone is attacking you and trying to take you to court and sue you, if you can pay an attorney,

you're a lot less like, you're a lot more peace of mind. You're like, oh, you just get to throw that pressure into the attorney's hands and they get to handle it and represent it. You're still gonna less like, you're a lot more peace of mind. You're like, oh, you just get to throw that pressure into the attorney's hands and they get to handle it and represent it. You're still gonna be a little stressed, but you get to have guidance and feel supported and feel a little more safe because you have the money to pay for that.

Also with a sense of safety, you get a sense of safety with your body. Because if you get sick or you have an illness or you have something go wrong, you break a bone, whatever. When you have money, you got access illness or you have something go wrong, you break a bone, whatever. When you have money, you got access to shit, other people can't fucking access. There are cures to cancer and I don't want to die. Just in case I go missing after this shit, I worked in the fucking medical field.

People with money got the cures to everything. All the timers can't, Leo, do you want to talk about this? There's cures to everything you can fucking think of, You're just broke and can't get the access to it I've heard about some crazy ass shit from people that have a lot of fucking money Just go look at Tony Robbins and when he had his brain tumor and how he got rid of it go look it up When you have money you can access technology and Science and doctors and resources that the public can't access you get a sense of safety with your body because everything can be reversed

I'm scared. I don't want to talk about this the government's gonna kill me But it's just so fucked up like feeling scared for your own health or someone you care about health That's awful Because I had a patient one time who was diagnosed with cancer and her health insurance would not cover the treatment like the medication. It was $30,000 a month for her to take this medication or else her cancer was going to get worse and she was going to die. So every month it was $30k For something just to stay alive What the fuck is that? Oh my god like I've seen too much as such a young age. I've seen way too much at such a young age

The justice system is not there to help you the medical system is there to fuck you out of money Literally one Tylenol in the hospital is $80. Don't ever take Tylenol at a fucking hospital. I'm gonna just warn y'all now Have someone bring it to you fucking Uber eats that shit. It's the card it, okay? Don't ever take Tylenol or don't ever take no Little like shit. You could buy it a grocery store or like a convenience store from a hospital If you need Benadryl get your own fucking Benadryl because they're gonna up charge a shit out of you Tylenol It's $88.0 dollars per one pill they charge your insurance company y'all want to know why the fucking medical bills are so goddam

high this is a tangent another one but if you ever get a really high medical bill call them back and ask for an itemized receipt and watch that fucking total drop bitch just watch just watch trust me I'll help y'all I just can't say too much because the government on Kimmy but let's get past all that the next thing I want to talk about is confidence because when you got money bitch you have no excuse to be ugly there's been this quote that's been going around that's like you're not ugly you're just broke that's the god damn fucking truth because you see so many people who are butt-ass ugly And then they get money or they get famous and all of a sudden they attend they all of a sudden have they all of a sudden

Shape like they wasn't shaped like before But money allows you to fix anything you want about your face about your body about your skin You can afford all kind of fucking shit So if you want to talk about cosmetic things like filler, Botox, you can afford all kind of fucking shit. So if you want to talk about cosmetic things like filler, Botox, you can get all kind of shit like that. There's so many treatments that you can get like kaya bell love for like, oh my god, just look it up. Just fucking Google it y'all.

If there's so much shit you can get done at sick. But like if you have the money to do it, you can complete changes the way that you look, which will lead to more confidence. You can change fucking anything you want. Then you can go under the knife and get surgery. And then you can get your teeth done. There's so many things you can get.

You can get your hairline done, literally. You can fuck it. There's like dick extension surgeries. And like, vaginal rejuvenation. You've been a hoe too long. You're shit's like a fucking hallway. Go get it sewed back up. Like there's so many things you can do to just alter your body and make yourself more confident.

Any insecurity you have, you can get it fixed if you have money. And with that comes steroids. Steroids are so fucking expensive. I literally like didn't realize. I genuinely didn't realize how expensive steroids are, but when you got money, bitch, you can afford to go get steroids. You can afford to get the little cheat codes for going to the gym. You want progress faster. boom, get some steroids. You can afford it,

and you can afford the medical care to make sure you get the good shit. You can afford to get your blood work drawn every week and read by a physician to help you to make sure you're safe. With that, with the steroids and going to the gym thing, you can fucking pay to go to a nice gym. Going to nicer gyms motivate you and make you feel inspired and make you just feel better I like to have a clean environment where people around you are motivating because everybody's in goddamn shape You can pay for a trainer that can teach you what to fuck to do You can pay for a trainer to just have someone to be accountable with There's so many things you can do when you have money that will expedite all of that and just make it so much easier and so much better.

So the next thing with confidence is you can literally pay for a wardrobe and a lot of us have a certain style we've always wanted. We just couldn't afford it. Like we have certain ways we want to look. We just don't have the money to buy the clothes that we want to fucking buy. And when you have money, you can finally express yourself and be fully confident and put the effort into your appearance. A lot of people were like, I don't have time to worry about my appearance. Yeah, bitch, you stress the fuck out working too much. Like you don't have money. So your attention is on

making more money, not in the way that you look. But like I get it. But we all have a way we want to look. And when you have money, and you can afford to dress the way you want to dress and like exhibit your style and like embody it. Oh, it's the nicest about concealing. But that's a big sense of freedom you'll get is being able to like fully express yourself through your clothes.

And I know I only wear black, but I do it with personality, leave me alone. And dressing the way that you want to dress will make you feel better. It's just the weirdest little thing. And money gives you that freedom. All right, next I want to dress will make you feel better. It's just the weirdest little thing and money gives you that freedom. Alright, next I want to talk about being lonely. You're way less lonely when you got money and I'm going to give you an example from when

I moved to Houston, I didn't know anyone. I had my cousins who lived like 30 minutes away. They all had COVID when I first came to Houston. For some of my first month, I was like not seeing anyone I was isolated. I met a couple of people randomly one from social media who introduced me to like two more and then it was just like I just spiraled from there And it was great, but I wanted to go to pride in Houston like the gay pride parade and like the whole little shabang and I didn't have anyone to go with because all my friends are busy and my family was busy and I was literally like

It's my first pride and I don't want to go with because all my friends were busy and my family was busy and I was literally like it's my first pride and I don't want to go alone but I'm not gonna miss out on it like I moved to a bigger city to get to have these experiences So I'm gonna go and I have to go to my first pride alone. I had a fucking blast I met so many people I met this little friend group that I hung out with and I fucking love and stuff Like I went and hung out with them. We fucking hung out all night until like four in the morning We end the night with a fucking blunt on the sidewalk and we just like had the best night like they were just they were so genuine I met them because I went alone

It was just weird how it all fell But I also met some of you guys that recognized me and that was fun But I was kind of bummed that like I had to go to my first Pride alone because I feel very uncomfortable. Like going and being around gays is stressful for me. And I want to do a full podcast episode about my experience with the gay community and why I feel so fucking uncomfortable and unwelcome. But my whole situation with the Pride thing, if I had money, I could have just flown one

of my friends from Florida out to f**king spend the weekend with me. And I considered it. But flights were like 400 bucks, like minimum. And I was like, sh**t. Like I don't want to go spend 400 bucks. This is right when I moved to Houston. So I wasn't like figuring out the not financially yet.

But I literally was like, if I had money right now, I could pay to have someone I care about come with me. Or I could pay for one of my friends in Houston to be off work. I could give them their money for their shift they were going to make and just skip it and then come to the pride parade with me. But I had to go fucking alone. Being lonely is not really like a thing. Like you miss someone, fly them to you.

You miss someone, fly to them. You miss somewhere, fly there. Like it's just, money gives you that freedom to not feel alone. If you exercise it and use the money right. So a couple more ways that money has made me more happy is tipping. Like when you get to go somewhere, I loved just tip people and like when someone is a good waiter, a good waitress, a good service provider, like customer like customer service anything I always like to tip people and when I didn't have money I would always like I'm a type where if I don't have the money to tip right I'm not going out to eat period if you don't have the money to tip your fucking server right don't go out to eat

You can't fucking afford it. Sorry going out to eat is a luxury and too many people have gotten fucking comfortable with that shit and Expect it like it's just an extra to go out to eat. It's like, yeah, it's like an expected thing. Y'all fucking think you're entitled to that shit? Going out to eat is a fucking luxury. Remember me saying that. If you can't afford to do it right, don't go. Cause the motherfuckers that don't tip are the same ones that complain about every fucking thing.

They were too much ice in my doing. What the fuck up? I couldn't be a waiter, I get fired in two seconds. But literally with tipping, like I love that I'm able to tip people more now. And I've always been big on that. Like when I was with my ex, there was this kid that drove valet.

And when we pulled up, like it was freezing fucking cold outside and he was sitting in his car, like in between people coming up and it's like as soon as someone would pull up, he would hop out and like go greet them get their car park it And then you would go get back in his car to get in the heat and his car was like an older car It was like kind of beat up and I just felt so fucking bad for the kid I was with my ex at the time who had a lot of money

But I was still working as a nurse so like I had my own little bit. It wasn't a lot but After we left the restaurant and the kid came and gave us the car I was sitting in the car and I was like I get this weird intuition where people need money And I always give it to them I don't know what it is But I will just feel something with waiters waitresses any anyone that I see like they I'll randomly just get an urge

to go up to someone and just like hand the money, and I never second guess that I never question it. And it always like hits who it needs to. So I let money do its thing through me. Like I'm very intuitive and in touch with that, and I've always been like that. So I made my ex stop the car, I got out, and I went back to the kid, and I was like,

hey, I wanna tip you. And I was like, I don't have cash. Like is there an ATM around, have cash like is there an ATM around or do you take like Venmo like do you have PayPal anything like that and He was like yeah, I have Venmo so I got his Venmo and I tipped him $100 and It didn't feel like enough like I was literally standing there in a fucking Balenciaga jacket with a fucking Rolex on it even fucking like and I had all this cardier shit on and I was just like I feel embarrassed so I taped him another thousand bucks so I gave the kid a hundred bucks and like the way he lit up for the hundred dollars like I didn't send him the money until I left like as I had his Venmo so I just sent him the money like after I pulled off like he got

happy about the hundred and then like I didn't feel satisfied with it. I felt just weird, and I needed to give it to him. If anybody fucking deserves it, it's him. He's there working his ass off. I'm over here just dating some rich prick. What the fuck? I will give as much as I fucking can. So I sent him the money after we pulled off,

and he left a comment, and commented back to me, and was so grateful, and so thankful and was like basically saying something broke in his car and he didn't have heat in his car. So when he was sitting between taking people's like cars for a valet, he would just sit in his car to get away from the wind. I thought he had heating in there. He didn't and he literally was like, thank you so much. Now I can afford to go get like the heat repaired

in my car. And it just like, listen to your fucking intuition. If money tells you to give it to somebody, fucking give it to them. I don't care if it's a goddamn stranger, just give it. The more you give it, the more it comes back. I don't know how it works, but it always just is just work like that for me.

If you're too scared, don't try it. But I'm very in touch like that. Seeing suffering like that, me. If you're too scared, don't try it. But I'm very in touch like that. Seeing suffering like that or seeing someone uncomfortable and just being able to help them is the best fucking feeling I could like ever describe. You know, like, oh my god, just being able to tip people and do things for people and give them money and like help them and give them things is just the best freedom. Like I want to help you not be uncomfortable. If I can do something to help that,

whether it costs money or doesn't, I want to do it. So like if I'm able to just like have money to throw at shit, oh my God, the whole thing about giving to other people, when you have a heart like mine and you want to give to others, but you don't have enough to give, you're put in like a standstill of like, I can choose to hurt myself because I want to help my friend or I can not help my friend and not hurt myself and just keep the money.

It just sucks because like when you don't have the money and you want to help or you have to take something from yourself to give it to them. I don't like to be in that position. So being in a position where like I have a little bit of extra money and I can help other people and like give it out. That shit makes me so goddamn happy. Like it's such a relief. And like it's such a battle that people will never really talk about when you have a good heart and you want to help people, but you don't have money. Like it's such a battle because you're constantly with like me or them,

me or them, me or them. That's not fucking fun. So money sets you free from that and you're able to just let your heart out and just do what you feel called to do freely. That's a fucking relief I can't explain. And the last thing I have to say about money making you happy, this episode is too goddamn long,

it is 215 in the morning and I want to go to bed. Tired. But when you have money, you don't have to tell yourself no to your desires. You don't have to tell yourself no to the things that you want. And when you constantly have to tell yourself no to shit, it's painful and it hurts. Like to look around and see things that you want or see things that can improve your life or improve your confidence or things that would just make you happy. And you have to constantly tell yourself no to that. That's fucking miserable. And I'm not saying like a spoiled brat. I'm just saying like little shit. Like there was this story I saw a long time ago about this homeless woman.

And they asked her like what she spent her last like $40 or $50 on her. So I don't know the context of the story, but basically, she had like 50 bucks left to her name. And she went and bought a lobster dinner from some restaurant and sat there and ate it. And the people interviewing her were like, why would you spend your last 50 bucks on that? A one-time dinner you're not gonna be able to eat again.

And she's like, because it just made me fucking happy. And something people don't understand about people that don't have money to like do shit is little moments mean a lot. Like when you don't have money, you're so upset. And life is so just, it seems unfair. And it every time you turn around, it's more headache. It's more just upset and So for someone that goes spend ten bucks and go buy a pack of cigarettes and they get to like have a cigarette like 20 times because they have 20 Like that little box of joy for them like it's worth the ten bucks even if it's the last ten bucks like homeless people that go just buy liquor Bitch if I was in that position I would be buying liquor too if I was in that position, I would be buying liquor too. If I was fucking homeless on the street, my only excitement would be, oh my god, I get to save up enough money.

I'm about to have a few more bucks, I'm gonna go buy a fucking shot. I would be doing these exact same shit. Because the places people are in, you gotta look at their situation before you judge what the fuck they're doing. Not having money, like, you can't judge how people spend their money. Like, oh my god, my brain is like not making words. I don't know if it's just late or This topic but people that don't have money want a lot Like they want a lot of things they feel like they cannot have and when you're sitting here and you're like Oh my god

I would just love to have a car or I would love to have a house or have a home or not have five fucking roommates or to have a job or let's say they want a consistent place they know they can get food from that's a valid fucking want and a lot of people don't have that and they don't see a way to get that so if they go buy a box of fucking cigarettes or they go buy a lobster fucking meal. They get to go forget about the worry for a second and just enjoy themselves in the moment. They don't have to sit here and worry about all the shit and how they have had to tell theirself no so many fucking times because they just can't have shit. It's like they tell themselves no but also everything

else tells them no because they don't have the money to buy it. Like how cornered you would fucking feel? So don't judge a homeless person for going to buy a goddamn cigarette or shooting up with fucking heroin. I'd be doing the same shit. Maybe not shooting it. I would just sort it. Because once you shoot it, it's like, it ain't coming back for me. But that was my last point. You don't have to tell yourself no to things, which is a painful thing. You still have to tell yourself no and no matter how much money you have, but it's not a constant no. It's not a constant feeling like you want something and having to shove it down and be like, no, you can't have it or you can't

afford it or what like there's just no longer that block and like that hurt. You'll know what I'm talking about when you want something so much and you just can't have it and then you have to cope with not having it. And it's like you didn't even realize you didn't want it until this thing came up. And you're like, oh my god, this new desire came up. Oh my god, I want that. But you don't see a way to get it. So now having that new desire causes you pain because you don't think you can have it. Ugh, money saves you from a lot of that. So that's the last thing I want to say. This is a long fucking episode, but I hope you guys enjoyed it. If you did it a thumbs up if you listen into the audio version leave me a five-star rating

And if you're on YouTube you should be watch you on YouTube everybody I bought all this fucking equipment. Watch me on YouTube But leave me a comment and let me know what you thought I would love to see what you guys have to say about this episode But I'm going to do another episode. I don't know if it will be next week or just sometime in the future about but I'm going to do another episode. I don't know if it will be next week or just sometime in the future about Voids Money Can't Fill.

Because I was just devil's advocate and I talked about how money does make you happy in certain ways from my experience. But I'm also gonna talk about the Voids that money can't fill and also the heartbreak that comes from making a lot of money and getting a lot of money that I've never heard

anyone talk about so I'm gonna fucking do it. Oh, one thing I want to throw in, my clothing that I'm launching, comes off February 1st, 2023. I'm so fucking excited. So follow me on Instagram, I'll link it in the description, I have a clothing page and my main page, I'll be posting on both. But remember, February 1st, the clothing drops. All my socials and everywhere you can keep up with me will be in the description. I hope you enjoyed this episode. I really do.

I hope it taught you something or gave you a new perspective about something. But I'm going to go take my tired ass to bed. I don't know if you can see my under-eye bags because I got filler to make them look less big. But I'm so god damn tired right now. I'm pretty sure it don't even work. So on that note, I will talk to you guys next Sunday. A little less tired. look less big, but I'm so goddamn tired right now, I'm pretty sure it don't even work. Huh. So on that note, I will talk to you guys next Sunday.

A little less tired.