Aware & Aggravated - 9. Caring What People Think

Episode Date: January 2, 2022

Why you can't stop caring what people think of you and what to do about it. Also some lil tid bits and examples from my life. You won't be the same after this one. Watch the Podcast on YouT...ube!https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtgs8c2Z_97gA_1TkJos18w/videosBook a 1-on-1 call with me 👇🏻https://leoskepicoaching.com/client-applicationSupport the podcast with a donation : https://www.zeffy.com/en-US/donation-form/46556b98-73da-47be-a3bd-a5646af9f8c5Instagram: @theleoskepiPodcast Instagram: @awareandaggravated TikTok accounts: @LeoSkepi@NotLeoForLegalReasons My app Positive Focus:Apple: https://apps.apple.com/us/app/positive-focus/id1559260311Google: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.positivefocusapp 

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Starting point is 00:00:00 Hello friends, if I sound a little weird and a little fucked up it's because I am, I'm sick, but the show must go on. So this week's episode is going to be about caring what other people think of you. So everyone says that you're not supposed to, but I disagree. I think you should care what people think of you. And I'm not being a smart ass, I promise, like I'm about to get into this. But it just seems like every time we turn around, it's like everyone's trying to figure out
Starting point is 00:00:27 how to not give a fuck, how to stop caring. But I'm here to deconstruct why you actually should care, and also why you actually cannot stop caring. Like you're not able to not care what people think of you. It goes against everything you are as a human being. Sorry, sorry to burst a little bubble, but you will never not care what people think of you it goes against everything you are as a human being sorry sorry to burst a little bubble But you will never not care what people think of you and that's normal It's fine, but I'm gonna teach you some things also in this episode of how to make that work in your favor
Starting point is 00:00:56 Okay, first things first so when I said you can't not care what people think It's the truth and I'm about to deconstruct that real quick can't not care what people think. It's the truth. And I'm about to deconstruct that real quick. So human beings are relationally dependent like our species. We need each other to survive. Like you need closeness with others to survive. And your body is hard wired that way. Cause try and fight me bitch. Try and fight me on it. Look at a baby. If you have a newborn baby and you put it in the middle of a living room floor and you just leave it there, what's going to happen to it? It's going to fucking die because it can't take care of itself. You have to rely on other people to take care
Starting point is 00:01:34 of you. You have to rely on other people for your survival. So your body doesn't forget this. Like when you were a baby, your nervous system was hardwired to need other people because if you don't have other people, it means you die. Your body doesn't forget that. You cannot unwire that. We are relationally dependent as fuck. So your body's kind of working against you when it comes to not caring how people think because when you're growing up, if you don't behave correctly or if you do something wrong to make your parent not like you, that means they can withhold things you need.
Starting point is 00:02:08 So you're pretty much trained to act good and right and be a good little boy or be a good little girl so that you don't fucking die. That's the message your body gets. So that alone explains why you care so much what people think of you. You shouldn't beat yourself up for it. You shouldn't get mad at yourself because you do care what people think of you. You shouldn't beat yourself up for it. You shouldn't get mad at yourself because you do care what people think. Have some compassion, like loosen the fucking reins a little bit, loosen the leash on yourself, and quit getting mad at yourself that you care, because it's totally normal. And what's funny is everything
Starting point is 00:02:38 is different, so what one parent would see as an acceptable behavior, another parent wouldn't. If you look at different cultures, it's obvious, like certain kids are allowed to do certain things in one home, but if they were in another home, that shit would not fly. So everybody's definition of what is good and right is just based off what got them approval as a child and throughout their life and like they're upbringing. So no one really knows what's right and actually wrong. Everyone's idea of it is skewed and different. So there is no one size fits all for this is a okay thing and this is a not okay thing. And that goes for things you can control like your behavior and your personality and things
Starting point is 00:03:21 you can't control like your physical appearance and your body and attributes. It goes both ways for either of them. So one person could judge it good and one person can judge it bad and neither are wrong. It's just subjective to whoever is judging the situation. But yeah, your body is hardwired to care what people think because your ego is trying to keep you alive. And it does that by staying close to people. So if you have a certain behavior or a certain thing about you,
Starting point is 00:03:49 that people have always told you is bad or wrong, you're going to cut off from that. You're going to stop doing it. You're going to stop acting that certain way. And if it's something that you can't control or can't change, you're just going to try and hide it. But you never knew something was wrong about you or bad about you until someone told you it was. Because when you come in this fucking earth as a baby, you don't know
Starting point is 00:04:12 Jack shit. You are taught what is acceptable and unacceptable. And like I said, everybody's version of what's acceptable versus unacceptable is due to their own shit. You know what I mean? Like, their own upbringing. So, no one really knows what's going on. And I find comfort in that. Like, no one really knows what the fuck is going on. And nothing about you is actually bad or wrong. Basically, your body works against you
Starting point is 00:04:40 because when someone rejects you, your fight or flight mode will trigger. Like, your body will have a full-fledged fucking reaction like it's a threat so When you wear a risky outfit or you wear something that could potentially Leads you to being rejected. You're gonna be anxious. You're gonna be nervous That's normal. You're not gonna fucking get away from that. I guess just your body's response to fear So since you can't control that you do care,
Starting point is 00:05:05 what people think about you, what you can do is use it to your advantage and use it as a compass and kind of like a guide to the people that you're meant to be around and also as a way to help you stay away from the people you're not meant to be around. Like if someone doesn't like me, I wanna know. You know what I mean?
Starting point is 00:05:23 I care that they don't like me because how I respond and what I choose to do, that's a good piece of information to have. So if I want to go be friends with someone and I know that they don't like gay people, everyone's allowed to have a preference. Watch your fucking mouth. Okay. You're going to be polite and respectful, but you're allowed to have a preference.
Starting point is 00:05:41 If you don't like gay people, that's fine. But I'm going to know that and I'm going to. If you don't like gay people, that's fine. But I'm gonna know that, and I'm gonna care that they don't like gay people, so I'm gonna set the fuck away from them. Or I'm gonna know if we do have any sort of interaction, it's gonna be superficial, and I should know not to try and go deeper with it, because they're not a person that's like a valid connection
Starting point is 00:06:02 for me. You need to care about people's preferences. Because if my goal is to make a friend, that's not the fucking friend I should go try to make. I need to go find people that are okay with gay people. But if I just ignored that and I tried to be friends with this person, it's not going to go well. It's going to bite me in the ass. And if I don't take into consideration people's preferences, I'm going to set myself up to get my feelings hurt. So you need to be preventive.
Starting point is 00:06:28 You need to read the room. You need situational awareness. That is basically the big phrase for read the room. But even a situation like that, if I try to tell myself, oh, I don't give a fuck. He doesn't like gay people. Fuck him for what? Like why am I going to go get pissed off and get mad that you don't like what I am? Who gives a shit? You're allowed to have a preference. The other
Starting point is 00:06:49 great thing about looking at what people think and how they think will kind of reveal a lot of shit about them because you can see the way that they think about others, the way they think about topics, the way they think about topics, they think about certain situations, and that will reveal who they are as a person. And then you can judge that, is this a person I want to be around? Do they have an open mindset? Are they accepting? Are they loving? Are they empathetic?
Starting point is 00:07:16 Or are they the opposite? Because if they're the opposite, run for the hills, bitch. Use this inability to stop caring what people think, flip it and use it to make your life better. So if you can't stop caring what people think, use it to your advantage, use the way that people think as an interview if they should be your friend or not, or a partner if you're gonna get into a relationship, you need to care what people think and how they think
Starting point is 00:07:43 because it lets you in on how their brain works and the kind of person they are. So when it comes to freaking out over if people like you or not, it comes to really not trusting your own judgment. So when someone criticizes you for something or doesn't like you, you make it mean that they're right. Let's say I want wanna revamp my style and I wanna try dressing in a new way. So I have a new little outfit on.
Starting point is 00:08:10 I like the way that I feel in it. When I look in the mirror at myself, I like it. I think the outfit is cute. I'm like, yeah, let's go. So when you're wearing something new, you're already gonna be a little like insecure in it. It's your first time in it, you're not that comfortable. So when you're on the way to go somewhere, you're already going to be a little anxious.
Starting point is 00:08:28 That's normal. And then when you get there, if you're in your new little like get up, you're going to be a little worried about how people respond to it. You're going to be sensitive to criticism more than usual when you're uncomfortable and trying something new. So if you're out and your friend tells you like what the fuck are you wearing or if they said that they don't like it or they criticize what you're wearing in any way, no shit it's gonna hurt your feelings, no
Starting point is 00:08:54 shit. How I used to be was I would trust other people's judgments more than my own. So if my friend said my new outfit looked like shit or it looked weird, I would immediately get insecure and be like, fuck, oh my god, I want to go change. I want to go take it off and I wish I didn't fucking do this. Because right there in that moment, when my friend said that the outfit looked bad, I believed it. I threw away my opinion of what I thought about the outfit. Because when I was at home and I looked in the mirror, I liked the outfit. I thought I looked fucking good. So when my friend just said it looked like shit, I immediately replaced my opinion with theirs
Starting point is 00:09:34 and I made it the truth. And that is why I want to go fucking change so bad. I used to not be able to hold space for other people's opinions. I would take them on and like make them more important than my own. So if someone else said my outfit looked like shit, I believed it. And something that really helped me stop doing that is to remind myself that I have fucking eyeballs. So with this example, go in the mirror.
Starting point is 00:10:01 If you like your outfit and you can see physically that it looks good and you like it, then it looks good. I don't know what used to not click in my brain, but I did not trust my judgment of myself over others. So if you remind yourself, no, I looked at myself in the mirror before I left, I liked my outfit.
Starting point is 00:10:22 I think it looks cute. You can stand there in front of your friend and not give a fuck what they think of your outfit because you know it looks good. You're allowed to have different tastes and different preferences. I hope your friend is not telling you, yo, you look like fucking shit.
Starting point is 00:10:38 I hope they're nicer than that. But when you do face criticism for something that you like, don't just immediately throw away your opinion of it. Stop yourself and your mind yourself. No, this looks cute. I like it. You're allowed to like it, even if other people don't. And honestly, the most ill-dressed motherfuckers are the ones that want to come to you about the way that you're dressed. And I think that shit is funny. But you don't have to let that make you feel less confident.
Starting point is 00:11:05 You like just remind yourself, their opinion of what is right and wrong and what looks good and what doesn't is theirs. That's from their upbringing, from their experiences and their life. We don't have the same definition of what is cool and what is not cool. They're not gonna like what I like.
Starting point is 00:11:23 You're allowed to be different. But remember that you have fucking eyes. You know what looks good and you know what doesn't. Don't compare to what you see and what everybody else is doing. Look at yourself by yourself in the fucking mirror. Does it look good or does it not? Okay, if you agree it looks good, then keep that all night when you're in your new outfit or you're in whatever you're wearing. Remind yourself, I look fucking good. Anytime that insecure voice in the back your head comes up or the fear of what are people thinking, no, I look good. It might not be what they're used to, but I look good. And the same thing goes with personality. Just because one person doesn't like something doesn't mean
Starting point is 00:12:02 everybody else will hate it. Because my personality is very in your fucking face and very like outspoken. And I swear a lot. I swear a whole bunch because I like to be casual and comfortable. And other people don't like that. They don't like people with personalities like mine. Does that mean my personality is bad? No, it's just not for them. Some people were raised in a home where swearing was bad. Where we're being relaxed and expressing how you truly feel and what your thinking was bad. So they're going to look at me like I'm bad because I don't behave the way that they do. I'm not a fucking prude in the club standing there with my drink not moving bitch. I'm shaking ass. I'm having fun I'm swearing I'm taking shots. I'm in a great time Even if I am by myself
Starting point is 00:12:52 Having fun by myself. I still don't give a fuck because I know that there's people out there that appreciate me You know just because they don't I know there are other people that do. Like, my TikTok is a reminder for me. Like, I used to be so fucking insecure, so cripplingly insecure. And like, to know that people like me, and for you guys that listen to my podcast, you have no clue how much it fucking means to me because my personality has always been received weird. And some people like it and some people fucking hate it. There's no in between. You love me or you hate me or you're intimidated. But when I can talk about that. But yeah, I'm the prime example. Like there are some
Starting point is 00:13:36 people that fucking hate my guts just because I'm everything that they were taught was wrong. They can, like I said, they can shut the fuck up and have their opinion, but they can have their opinion. You know, like they're not gonna voice it to me and expect me to be nice, but they're allowed to not like me. So the thing that will really wreck you and what wrecked me for a long fucking time
Starting point is 00:13:58 was trying to control people's perception of me and the way that people looked at me or thought of me because you can't. You cannot control the way that people looked at me or thought of me because you can't. You cannot control the way that people see you. You can do things to influence it like the way you dress, the way you act, the way you walk, the shit that you do. You can do a bunch of things to influence it, but you can never fully control the way that people perceive you.
Starting point is 00:14:21 If someone just doesn't like you, sometimes there's nothing you can do to make them like you. People don't realize when you try to control how people see you, you're gonna lose yourself. You're gonna completely fucking you lose yourself because instead of being who you are and standing in that, you're gonna be running around going fucking insane. No, I have to say this. No, I can't say this.
Starting point is 00:14:44 No, I have to do this. I have to do't say this. No, I have to do this. I have to do that. Oh my god. No, I can't do that because they're gonna think of this with me. All you're gonna do is run yourself fucking stupid. And I did it for so long. Like, I had to run myself to a point of exhaustion and complete frustration where anything I ever did never worked to get people to like me or to look at me a certain way. So now I'm at a point where I got so frustrated, I was like, fuck it. Like, fuck it. Fuck you in your face. I'm done. Like, I'm done with the effort of trying to get people to see me a certain way. If you don't see it, you don't see it. Your loss. If you don't like me. Okay. Have fun.
Starting point is 00:15:23 I tried to fit so many different molds it never worked. You can just tell when someone's trying to fit a certain mold, you know, like when they're trying to be a certain thing, like these people that dress like these TikTok people, I don't even know what to call them, like the little TikTok kids with the pearl necklaces and the fucking Jordan ones and the shorts and like the baggy cargo pants and the fucking oversized T-shirt, the bass pro shop hat, I don't know why everyone's wearing those fucking hats, but you know that and the fucking Jordan ones and the shorts and like the baggy cargo pants and the fucking oversized T-shirt, the Bass Pro Shop Hat, I don't know why everyone's wearing those fucking hats,
Starting point is 00:15:47 but you know that typical style that everybody tries to do? That's true, people with no identity. The people that follow the trends really heavily are the ones that are kind of trying to fit the mold or they're lost and they're just latching onto what is getting people attention. They're latching onto what is like cool and what is getting people approval. You know, if you look at someone like me, I don't dress like other people. I just like a fuckboy sometimes, but I always have my own elements to my style.
Starting point is 00:16:17 And I've tried. I have spent so much money trying to dress like other people. I only wear black. I have since I was in high school. My whole family usually just we all just do fucking all black. All of our cars all black. My cat is black. All my clothes everything I own is fucking black. That's just how we are. And I've tried so many times to wear color. It makes me so fucking uncomfortable. And you I just feel like you can tell's so forced. Like I'm trying to like fit in and wear color and not look like a scary fucking Albanian. You know what I mean? Like I feel like people can tell. So I've really just like grabbed myself
Starting point is 00:16:56 by the nuts and be like, look, we're gonna address how we wanna fucking dress. I'm gonna dress how I feel comfortable. And that's it. I don't care if I look weird to other people. This is what I feel comfortable in. This is what I like. I'm not gonna wear no colored fucking shit
Starting point is 00:17:10 because it looks stupid on me. It doesn't fit my personality. I got enough personality, okay? I need all black to like, chill me the fuck out. Because if I'm out in some colors and I behave the way that I do, that's too much. It's too fucking much. And I'm tall, please, get real. That's too much. It's too fucking much. And I'm tall.
Starting point is 00:17:25 Please get real. Like that's like, it's just not me. I can't do it. And you have no clue how many times people have tried to change that about me and make me wear color and make me do all kind of shit. Like every once in a while, I'll wear something with some color on it. Okay. But majority of my shit is always black. When my point with that was like trying to fit a mold, people can tell when you're faking it. People can tell when you're trying to be something that you're not and when you're trying to like pretend
Starting point is 00:17:53 to like something that you don't like, like these TikTokers, the people that dress like this shit and buy everything off-sheen, my vogue, we see through y'all. Like, well, I do. Be aware ones, see through it. You're lost. And that's okay.
Starting point is 00:18:06 We all have to get to a point where we're fucking lost because I had to get there to find myself. You can never find yourself until you lose yourself. So, congrats. You're at the pivotal point where you're gonna completely lose yourself and get so fucking frustrated that you come back to yourself. So, I'm happy for you.
Starting point is 00:18:24 It's gonna suck and it's gonna be very fucking painful, but big changes are coming for everybody that's in that stage. But my thing about dressing in black and trying to wear color, it's not for me. I don't like it. So instead of trying to force myself to like something that I know I don't like, I just allow myself to put my energy into other shit. Because if I'm just sitting here constantly like getting fucked up over what I have to wear and trying too hard to look a certain way and dress a certain way, like that's energy I could be spending doing shit that is more beneficial with my time. I don't care if people don't like my all-black good up in my fucking timberlands. I don't give a shit. I like it. And I have this, I don't give a fuck attitude,
Starting point is 00:19:06 I think because I've spent so much of my life isolated with no friends, no people around me, nothing to do, that I'm not scared to lose people. I prefer to be by myself. I love my alone time. If I spend too much time around people, I start freaking the fuck out, because I need to get back to like myself.
Starting point is 00:19:24 I need to go spend time alone, you know. But my ability to just say, fuck it. I'm gonna wear what I want to wear and be who I am. It's not something that you can just go to the store and buy. It's not something that you just have or don't have. It's something that's built. Like I said, I got to a point that I was so frustrated and overwhelmed and like pissed off that I was so frustrated and Overwhelmed and like pissed off that I couldn't do anything right It seemed that I just threw my hands up and said fuck it I'm gonna do what's easier for me and that's be myself and my whole thing about not being scared to lose people I am like I am so scared of losing people and abandonment
Starting point is 00:20:01 But I've spent so much time alone like I I said, that I have no problem with it. Like, once I get over the sadness of like, oh, I lost you, once I get over that disappointment, I'm fine. I know how to sit by myself and I know how to be by myself and have no one. But that's also something that is built and learned and earned. That is not something that you just have. And it's not fucking easy. That is one of the hardest things you will ever go through if you ever have to go through that. And if you have been through that, I'm sorry because I understand it exactly. But isolation is like fucking torture because like I said, we're meant to be around people. We're meant to be
Starting point is 00:20:41 connected to people. That's just the discomfort that I have the skill of dealing with now. I don't like to deal with it. I don't want to fucking be alone. I'm so scared to be abandoned. Like I'll own that shit. If I can get my hands on you, I will beat the fuck out of you if you abandon me. But I'm terrified of that shit. Everybody is. And being alone, it's not that it's comfortable and it's easy, but I can deal with it. That's a pain I've got a tolerance to now. I can deal with that. Whereas someone who's been surrounded by people their whole life is going to be a lot more scared to lose people because they don't know how to exist without them.
Starting point is 00:21:20 A lot of people's identities are who they hang out with and the friend groups that they have. And that's not a bad thing, but that definitely will contribute to people being scared to express their true self. Because of being a certain way has gotten you accepted your entire life and you've just been putting on a show. And you know that's not the real you. When you do reveal the real you, of course you're scared. You don't know if that version of you is accepted or not. You know the facade is that you've been putting on this mask you've been hiding behind. Everybody
Starting point is 00:21:50 accepts that. Everybody's fine with that. That got you closeness. But the real you behind that, you're scared shitless because you don't know if people will like that one. The true you. You haven't showed it to anybody. But I do need to talk about the bravery that it takes to be the real you. And there's also a hidden positive that comes from it. Because if you keep hiding behind who you really are because you're scared of what people think, that's all your life is ever going to be. The only way to find people that are going to accept you for you is to show them the real you. Because how are people supposed to know who you are? How are people supposed
Starting point is 00:22:33 to be able to accept you if you don't show yourself to them? You're never going to find the people that you actually will connect with and that will actually love you deeply for who you truly are If you never put yourself out there and I think there's a little bit of relief that comes with that Because like with my TikTok. I've got like 90 something thousand people that like me What the fuck? They liked me enough to follow me and If I never took the chance to be myself, I would have never found these 90,000 people. Do you know how many people that is? I bitch, I was lucky if
Starting point is 00:23:12 like a hundred people liked me. But 90,000. That shit makes me anxious just thinking about it. But my point is, I wouldn't have found these people. I wouldn't have known that I was actually lovable and likable being the way that I am until I was the way that I am. You have to take the fucking chance of showing yourself to the world to find the people that truly are meant to be with you and to be around you. If you keep playing it safe, you're only going to have a mediocre life. And I know
Starting point is 00:23:46 not everyone can be special like some people have to be average. Some people have to live a normal average fucking life. I'm not going to choose to be one of them. That'll sit right with me. But if you keep playing it safe, you're committing to be an average. So I found with that. I do want to slam this fucking point into everybody's head that just because someone doesn't approve of something doesn't mean that it's bad. It doesn't mean that you're wrong. It doesn't mean that anything is wrong with you because just like there is someone that disapproves of it, there is someone that approves of it. Think about fucking furries like these weirdos that dress up. Let me let me stop Let me be nice these people these individuals that dress up in these fucking fur
Starting point is 00:24:34 Costumes and fuck each other like huh? What the fuck y'all got going on? But think about it like the first furry or the first person that was into that Did it know anybody else was into that and then they started finding each other But the only way to find another furry is To tell people you're a fucking furry, you know You're never gonna know that people will accept it Until you share it and there will be because if there is motherfuckers that are into scat if you don't know what that is that's what you're having sex and people shit on each other and
Starting point is 00:25:08 they play with shit. If there's people that are accepting of that I don't mean to kink shame but yeah I do that's fucking weird. If there are people that are accepting of playing with each other's shit while they have sex there is someone that will approve of you and your new little outfit. And there is someone that will approve of you and your true sexuality.
Starting point is 00:25:30 And whatever weird little quirky fucking thing that you're scared to share, people are ready and waiting to accept you. You just have to show them you. But just remember that. Anytime you're scared of being rejected, know that there is people that accept each other and play in their shit together. And there is people that accept each other and fuck as mascots and like furry costumes.
Starting point is 00:25:56 That should make you feel better. But, perfect example. I'm sitting here like, yo, this shit is fucking weird because that's my opinion but what does that matter to those people they're still gonna do what they want to do and they should if they like eating each other's shit let them go do it I'm trying to be serious improve my point but this is just a topic that's funny if they like to do that let them go do that What does my opinion matter? What do I expect like? Do I expect them to not do what they enjoy doing just because I don't like it who the fuck am I? If you like to go play with each other and fur costumes go do it like for them to let my opinion of
Starting point is 00:26:43 That stop them from doing what makes them happy, that's stupid. As long as you don't try to shit on me, we're fine. If you want to go do it the whole scat thing, just don't get it near me. I don't want to see it, I don't want to smell it. But go do it. Go have your fucking fun. Go live your life. Go do what makes you happy. And it doesn't matter if people agree with it or not. Why should that stop you?
Starting point is 00:27:04 Look at the perspective from the furry for a second. If I'm someone that likes to go dress up in these costumes and go have sex with other furries, I can sit here and suppress the urge to want to do it so that other people will like me. Or, I can fully step into that community and I can go be a fucking furry and I can go find furry friends and we can have a into that community and I can go be a fucking furry and I can go find furry friends
Starting point is 00:27:26 and we can have a whole little community. I will find people that accept me fully and I go for it. Versus just sitting here living a life where I'm unhappy, I don't feel understood by people. I'm constantly hiding a part of myself to the people that are around me. It's just a toss up of like, what life do you wanna live?
Starting point is 00:27:44 There was a boy at a club that I was at like a week ago He was a twink like he was a little he had like long-ish hair to his shoulders and he wasn't like to Sissied up where he was like makeup and shit, but he had like a little crop top on he was like doing his little thing And he was having a fucking blast and if you look at Someone like me in the club, how I'd be dressed in when a snapback in a gold chain like a fucking douchebag, you don't know that I'm gay because I make out with my girlfriends too. But you would never assume that I would be like silently rooting for him and I'm so happy that he is being his
Starting point is 00:28:19 fucking self on the dance floor. Like we were dancing like near each other and I just like kept watching out for him because I'm very protective Of people Anytime I see a Muslim or a gay guy or anyone that's like small I'm instantly like protective to the max because I'll be damned if you're gonna yell at some fucking woman because she's wearing a Her job I will fuck your shit up. I will put my gun in your mouth and make you suck it like a dick. I don't play that shit. And like this boy was dancing to do in this thing and I live in a town that's kind of close to Alabama. So there's a lot of hicks. There's a lot of asleep motherfuckers and
Starting point is 00:28:54 judgmental people and fucking anti-gay people. So I was looking out for this boy like if someone comes up to him, I'm fucking their shit up. You know what I mean? But my point is you never know who is silently rooting for you. You only ever hear the negative voice in the back of your head, but you don't know who is really proud of you for stepping out in that weird outfit, or being yourself dancing on the dance floor, wearing your crop top. But when I was leaving, this boy and his little girlfriends
Starting point is 00:29:22 were like walking by. So I leaned over and I told him in a shoulder and I was like, yo, I love you And I just kept walking to just let him know like I'm proud of you like I'm I'm so happy for people when they express their true self But my whole point behind that was I don't look like someone that would I look like a judgmental fucking douchebag when I go out you'd never know That I'm actually aware and like with it mentally. My last point I want to bring up is remember when I said if you are wearing your new outfit and you looked at it in the mirror and you thought it was cute and then your friend said it looked like shit, just please remember that other people's opinions do not discredit
Starting point is 00:30:01 yours. Like if you went in the mirror and you saw your outfit and you liked it and you thought it was cute, then it's cute just because someone doesn't like it, it doesn't mean that they're right. It does not discredit your fucking vision. If you have eyes, you can see that you look cute. So if someone says you're ugly, you can like laugh and be like bitch, like where? Because you know what you look like, you can trust your own judgment, you can trust what you see with your
Starting point is 00:30:30 own fucking eyes. That's all I've got for this episode. I hope this helped and I hope you see things from a different perspective now and I hope you give a little less of a fuck or you feel inspired to be yourself. But remember don't get mad at yourself for giving a fuck if you do. It's normal your body is wired that way. If you like this episode leave it a five star rating whatever you're listening to it on Spotify, Apple Podcast, whatever it is. Leave me a low five star please. But if you're not gonna leave me five stars don't leave fucking shit because I don't want no one star ruined in my fucking day. Okay. Thank you for listening.
Starting point is 00:31:06 I love you all. Be your damn self and I will talk to you next Sunday.

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