Best Friends with Nicole Byer and Sasheer Zamata - Nicole Reminds Us That Fish Are Friends Not Food

Episode Date: September 20, 2023

OWW Friends! Nicole hits her funny bone starting the show! Don’t worry, she’s ok. Sasheer wonders why we call our elbow the funny bone. Nicole wants the strike to come to an end. Sasheer recalls the many reality tv shows that she is watching, specifically The Ultimatum. Nicole asks Sasheer what reality show she would be on if they were on a different planet. Sasheer would like to be on the Amazing Race while Nicole wants to go on American Ninja Warrior. Nicole learns all about the competitive world of dog dancing. Sasheer thinks Nicole should do competitive dog dancing with Clyde. Nicole shares her favorite quote from the movie Finding Nemo. They answer questions about a friend sharing personal info with their partner and how to navigate feeling second priority to a best friend in a romantic relationship.This was recorded on August 31, 2023.Sources:Dog Dancing World Championship 2022, Anastasiia Beaumont and border collie Yukihttps://youtu.be/TtjY_YgZEzo?si=0xprLz0bH3s0_P2f FCI Dog dance World Championship 2016 – Freestyle final - Lusy Imbergerova and Deril (Italy)https://youtu.be/GL3DXJE9UJk?si=YTuW4otjl83e8Z8s Check out Sasheer’s Comedy Special “First Woman” on 800 Pound Gorilla or for free on Youtube. https://800poundgorillamedia.com/products/sasheer-zamata-the-first-woman Here is the quiz we took: https://www.buzzfeed.com/sleepy_101/golden-retriever-black-cat-quiz  Email or call Nicole & Sasheer with your friendship questions at:[e-mail] Get access to all the podcasts you love, music channels and radio shows with the SiriusXM App! Get 3 months free using this show link https://siriusxm.com/friends and code FRIENDS.

Hi Sashir! Hi Nicole! Ow! What happened? What happened? I hit my elbow on the desk oh no i think it was my funny bone because it wasn't funny i know oh my god that hurt oh god i'm sorry thank you i wonder why they call it a funny bone like what is it just to make fun of you? To be like, isn't that funny?

Isn't it funny that you hurt yourself, you fucking idiot? Maybe, I don't know. It's funny for the rest of us. Or maybe Dr. Doug Funny is the one who discovered it. From the cartoons? He became a doctor he did and he discovered the funny bone it is interesting how um i just feel like bodies should be better like more like more protective like like we have eyelids and eyelashes to protect our eyes from stuff getting in them and yet things are constantly going in my eyes and i'm like well

then what's the point of all this stuff well think of how much more stuff would be going in your eyes if you didn't have them luscious lashes to bat them out i guess so but it feels like not enough stuff is it's not stopping enough stuff or yeah or like that we can be like like totally taken out by hitting our elbow in a weird way yeah i mean bodies are actually fully weird oh judah found something Oh. The funny bone got its nickname because of that funny feeling you get after you hit it. But your phony bone isn't actually a bone at all. Running down the inside of your part of the elbow is a nerve called the ulnar nerve. Wow. The more you fucking know, there's no funny fucking bone.

It's the funny nerve. You got some nerve your nerve is funny um yesterday in pole i was trying to learn how to like do i guess it's a like a fireman from the floor where you like sweep up a cute little get up um and i slammed my back leg into the pole and it hurt so bad oh no like your thigh or like no my shin oh oh god and it was just like slam thud and it was like you like the pole was like like you know it like you hit something and it like vibrates yeah and I was like well i'm done with that i'm not doing it again oh god oh it still hurts and i think it's bruised i haven't looked at it today yeah it is quite impressive um just like how much pain your body has to go through when you're doing pole because it's just like a metal pole and it's like you don't want to put a pad around there but you can't because because it like won't work but it's like oh we're just gonna put it on my skin

directly on this metal i'm gonna hang off this metal with my skin i'm trying to learn how to do an outside no yeah an outside leg hang and fuck man it hurts so bad because you're just hanging there from the skin from behind your knee. Yeah. And then the skin on your like side stomach and then your arm like like the skin under your armpit. And I'm like, these are all pretty sensitive areas from my little body. And also the skin is pretty delicate. Yes. But it's what I've chosen to do with my life. I have chosen to dedicate my life to be a

polled performer who will only probably ever be mediocre to bad. No, you're way past mediocre. Listen, I think it's okay to be mediocre at your hobbies. And I proudly am mediocre. I am okay. I'm not even saying that to be nice though like you actually are not mediocre you can do like a lot of really impressive things on pole thank you i just watch a lot of videos where they're like this is a beginner move and i'm like i can't do that oh well it was probably because like you can figure out other stuff that makes sense for your brain and body. And then other stuff may be a little like more difficult or need more time.

But I think that's normal. I think that's normal, too. Yeah. I'm also really sore just in general from pole because I haven't done i haven't moved my body in a month because i've just been on a whirlwind of planes trains and automobiles vacation and now i'm like back home and i'm like oh god i gotta get back into a routine i gotta go fucking pick it again this shit sucks yeah i'm like guys just like come to a deal like what the fuck it it would be nice because like don't you want us to work again don't you want things to be created for you don't you want

entertainment for your subscribers coming up like don't don't you want something in the fall you want some winter stuff don't you want some stuff some some entertainment people are gonna want some entertainment in there won't be yeah people are gonna be going to the movies and they're gonna be blank screens and be like hey what the heck turn on their tvs to just fuzz what the heck open their computers and just see uh uh whiteness and they're like hey where's entertainment why did they sell me a ticket with to nothing this seems like a scam this is a scam this is all a scam what's going on that's very funny so what's gonna happen if the strike doesn't come to an end yeah this is true Although there's plenty of reality show.

There is a lot of reality. Almost too much. Like, I think there's another season of the ultimatum coming up. And then Too Hot to Handle has five fucking seasons. Who knew? Oh, my God. I didn't know. I did not know either.

It's so wild. I started watching the latest season of the ultimatum and I've only seen the queer ultimatum first and so now I'm watching this latest one

boring yeah so boring I didn't realize I didn't know it's just straight people are boring I was like no one even kissed no one even kissed on the queer one everyone's all immediately fucking and i was

like this is this is great content great tv yeah um i will say the first season of the ultimatum was indeed very good like there was one dumb dumb uh, and then there was actually a lot of dumb, dumbs. And there was one woman who sobbed. She was sobbing because this man like wouldn't fuck her on camera and he was like later. And she's like, oh, you know, and it was like, he's literally saying he will fuck you later.

Oh my God. But yeah, the first season was so good. But then Colby was so funny colby was such a dum-dum and i loved him zay was also a dum-dum april not so much of a dum-dum jake a dum-dum um ray not a dum-dum but she came back bisexual so we were like yes ray truly. Oh, and then Hunter. No. Hunter's girlfriend, Caitlin, I think was her name. She walked around the first day being like, I need a man with money. I need a man with money, money, money, money.

So then everyone was like, we don't like her. So when it came time to choose, she knew no one was going to choose her or she'd get like leftovers. So she starts crying and she's like, I can't imagine my life without Hunter. And I can't imagine anyone choosing Hunter. um if hunter should choose me because like we belong together and then hunter did her a solid and was like i choose this one i won't do the experiment oh wow it was great so that i so the first season was really fun uh yeah but boy the queer ultimatum had me glued to my little seat i watched the whole thing in like two

days same it was great it was so everyone was great so much drama god so much drama i loved it what a funny concept for a show like the pitch was just like i don't know what if couples come here and like they fuck other people and then we make them watch it at a reunion and then be like, what? Do you choose to like stay together? Yeah. This show is torturous. Like you have to there's so many dinners or like whatever those things, the choices where you have to sit across from your partner and then straight up be like, this is why I like this other person. This is this person has stuff that my partner doesn't have,

and I love that. And I can see them as a potential husband or wife. And then the other person just has to be like, well, that hurts. That hurts to hear. I don't like that, but I guess, you know, whatever's for the best. It's horrible.

Okay. Do you think the people who go on these shows are like strong i couldn't do it i like yeah i can barely wrap my like fathom the person i used to date i like okay i was creeping on instagram a guy i was dating married somebody else we dated for such a short time and i don't think either of us liked each other but i was like damn to see him with somebody else happy that hurts and it's like what are you talking about you went on three dates and you didn't you actively didn't like each other he burped in your mouth like like what are you doing you're like oh if only if only he would burp in my mouth i wonder if he burped in her mouth at

the ceremony like it's just it's unhinged behavior from my part so like i couldn't do that yeah i would be good tv because i would be crazy but like i don't know how these people aren't going crazier there was so this current season there was a woman who did fully go crazy. It was like she was the one who brought her boyfriend to the ultimatum. And it was like, you know, we got to get married or we're done. And they started the first round of dating where you're talking to the other partners. And all she's doing is looking at what her man's doing, looking at who he's talking to, talking about her man to her other dates, being like, yeah, I'm so stressed.

I don't know what's going to happen. And then they all like get drinks later that night. And then she's the one who asked the group, well, what dates did you like? Or like, who did you like talking to? Which is like, why are you asking this? You're just going to cause trouble. And then one girl said

well i actually like talking to this guy who was her boyfriend and then she the girl gets up she's so upset and she's like and just really jealous because the other girl is just younger and hot and she's hot too but insane and then uh and then you know people go break off and start talking to each other that boyfriend goes and talks to that younger girl. They're talking, like, pleasantly. Not even, like, suggestively. There's no, you know, it doesn't seem hot and heavy. They're just talking, trying to get to know each other, which is the game.

The point of the show. The point of the show. And then the girlfriend comes over and is like, what are you guys talking about? What's going on here? And the girlfriend's like, I'm going to give you space because i don't know what this is and then the boyfriend and girlfriend get in a huge argument the girlfriend like pushes his face like on camera it's like if you want to be with her go ahead and be with her and it's like it's really unfortunate like she's just like screaming and it's like but brought him here. Do they make it past the first episode?

They don't because before they get to the choice, she takes a pregnancy test and tells him and the show. I cannot believe you just said that straight people are boring. This bitch is bringing it. This is true. She was. But it's also unfortunate because after they left everyone was boring but she was the exciting part of the show and then she was like i'm pregnant and he's like oh

well i don't know how that's possible i mean he didn't go into detail oh yes it was lisa and brian so lisa was like i'm pregnant brian's like i guess that is now our life and then they leave the show and we never see them again and i even googled did lisa actually have a baby because it really was the timing was so like perfectly timed that's like oh you just happened to take a pregnancy test before we had to make a choice as to who... You packed it with you to take the day we started shooting? Boy, that's funny. But then I do think... I saw stuff online that said that she did actually have a baby.

I don't know if they're still together, but I guess that was true. But it was just like, whoa, what? Oh, man. They should have just been like, this season of The Ultimatum is one episode. I wish it was. I wish it was an hour special.

Two hour special. God, that is so funny. Yeah, I mean, I think that's how I would behave. I know I would not behave correctly or well. And it's not that I'm a jealous person. I think I'm just like, I'm insecure in relationships. So it's like... But also, I for i think i'm just like i'm insecure in relationships so it's like but also i don't think i would bring anybody there i know i mean it's it's unfortunate because like lisa's not wrong what is happening is crazy like the the scope of the show

is wild of course she doesn't want to see her man talking to somebody else like yes these are normal reactions to have but i guess the choice to even come on the show is like, what are we doing? Yeah, what are we doing? This is wild. Yeah. Boy, oh boy. Is there a reality show that you would go on?

Hmm. Like, say we're on Earth 62, which is an alternate universe. Ooh. You're still a fishier, but you have a different career you are a golf instructor and you you teach children golf on uh earth 62 and you know you you you have a friend me um i'm i'm still nicole i am a botanist and i'm like so she are you've been like tired of golf for so long i think you should like really push yourself

to go on that show you've been wanting to go on maybe maybe i'd want to do like the amazing race with you or something like that yeah where we like travel and we have to solve puzzles I also don't really know what the show's about are there puzzles? seems like there's puzzles seems like a scavenger hunt of some sort I don't know I would do it because I have a wonderful assistant

who can look after the plants so I would go solve puzzles with you. I think you still have an assistant too. Well, I'm a botanist. I'm discovering new plants every day. Well, not every day. That's too many plants. I'd say every couple of weeks.

Well, maybe on earth 62 plants are corrupt. Just pop it up every day. That's too many plants. I'd say every couple weeks. Well, maybe on Earth 62, plants are just popping up every day. I don't know. Yeah, there could be a lot of plants. And maybe they go extinct fast. They are created quickly and they go extinct quickly. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Okay, now ask me.

Oh, Nicole from Earth and our occupation. Okay, now ask me. Oh, Nicole from Earth and our occupation. Okay, Nicole. We're on Earth 69. Yeah. And we're dirty. We're bad. Everyone's like partying all the time. They're real nasty.

and and your job uh you're um uh a madam at a brothel yes okay and i'm uh uh i work the ticket counter at a sex show yeah the ticket counter okay i'm not in the show i just take your ticket and you go in oh that wasn't my judgment i i was just hoping that you would reach higher for yourself and maybe you owned the show or or like it was your review but ticket ticket taking is not it's not a shameful job and i think it's okay that you chose that. You know what? Maybe I'm a theater reviewer for sex shows. I go to sex shows, and I'm reviewing the performances.

Yes, keep it horny. Okay. So, all right. I can leave the brothel for a little bit. So, I think I want to go on American Ninja Warriors that seems hard it does seem hard and

this is going to be since it's Earth 69 not everyone is like an elite athlete here and I don't know why but they have like a dumber down version that like we can do yeah I love that it does look super super fun right like just aumber downed version that like we can do. Yeah. I love that. It does look super, super fun.

Right? Like just a fun obstacle course that's like that like would be attainable to do. Yeah. I feel like there's gyms dedicated to stuff like that where it's like we train you to potentially do a show like this or just I guess it's also like if you want to do it for fun. But like they have like a thing you hold, hold you know you hold on to the bar and then you move it and you do jump into this thing and you put one foot on this thing and one foot on this thing it's like like a parkour gym yeah i do want to take a gymnastics class i think i want to get into tumbling oh that's fun yeah

also would help you with being upside down. Yes. Cause I panic when I get upside down and I don't know what to do. That's fun. It's hard. Also, I feel like there should be an American Ninja Warrior show for normal people. I would watch that.

I would watch a 35 year old Midwestern mom of two be like, OK, now I'm a jump on this and see what happens. I mean, well, wait, is that is that different from Wipeout? So I don't know if Wipeout's intentions are for people to complete it, to succeed, to fully succeed. I think it's rigged against you. But this is kind of, this would be like, and I think Wipeout's funny in a way where American Ninja Warriors is like, wow,

look at what they can do. And I think if there was a normal person one would be like, wow, look at what that 62 year old grandpa can do. It wasn't that hard,

but it was good. He did it. I would actually love to see that. Like, imagine like an older man just like doing a tumble and jumping on a little trampoline to hold on to a bar for two seconds to swing two inches into like a pit or something. Yeah. We'd be like, honestly, impressive.

Unexpected. Impressive. Yeah. I think about like those dog shows where the dogs run around. They're not really doing that huge feats of things, but you like it. They're moving. Yeah, I do like a dog show. Yeah.

Yeah. I mean, I don't want to tell you what you should do. Please do. I have no direction. I don't know if there's a name for it, but have you seen those dog dog dancing videos where people are dancing and there's like dogs going in and out of their legs? That'd be maybe a fun thing for you to do with Clyde. Do you even know what I'm talking about? No, I have no idea.

Really? I have no idea what you're talking about. You're dancing and a dog is going in and out of your legs? Yeah, I feel like I just saw a video on Instagram. It's, there's like a whole, I think there's competitions too. What? How does everyone know about this? Are you sending me a video?

I'm trying to see if I even saved it. Yeah, but it's like, I guess you choreograph your dance and then the dog kind of bounces around you, goes in your legs. Oh, my God. Tumbles. It's a competition? Yes. Oh, boy. Okay, they're going back and forth.

And this is something you want me to do. I think it'd be really cute. This is wild. Yeah, she's like, you know. This is. Wow. Look how beautiful that is. The dog's like jumping up, spinning around, going backwards.

Oh, now they're back to back. That's cute. Oh, dog. Between the legs. Back and. Oh, my God. It, now they're back to back. That's cute. Oh, dogs are spinning around. Between the legs. Back and between. It's mostly between the legs, honestly. It is a lot of between the legs. I feel like this would me being like,

well, I give up wanting a relationship. I now am very intimate with my dog and we dance together. And that is my partner. Oh, paws are in the hands. It's cute. Although Clyde might be too small for this. Clyde is too small and honestly, a little too unruly. He would never twist around.

I mean, this dog is really well trained. Right? But is the dog happy? Yeah, looks so happy so happy having a blast full tongue oh my god but how does the dog know how to do all this i don't know the music are they listening to music cues i don't know maybe i or just time i don't know i guess what kind of dog is this a border collie yeah i think border collies are like the most popular dancing dogs because i think they're really easy to train interesting this is really wild for me if you watch her mouth, I think she's saying commands. Oh. So even though the music is so loud, I think you can see her lips moving.

So I wouldn't be surprised if she's saying certain stuff. I also wouldn't be surprised if people had certain clickers in their hands while they're dancing. But it's really impressive yeah wait can you go up there was one dog dancing thing that 31 million views and i want to see what that is oh wow they made this ladies in camo this dog is so happy to be here with this lady okay there was a salute. This is very patriotic. Very patriotic.

This is for the troops. Oh, no. This dog just played dead. Oh, no. Oh, this really is for the troops. Whoa. Wow. Okay.

Oh, no. Maybe they're sleeping. This is wild. This is like an interpretive dance. I feel like it's going to be. Oh, okay. The they're sleeping. This is wild. This is like an interpretive dance. I feel like it's going to be. Oh, okay. The lady's also sleeping. Yes.

Okay. Now the dog's taking the blanket off. Yep. Wake her up. Got to get ready for the military. Oh, she doesn't want to wake up. Oh, no. The dog peed on her for pretend.

More through the legs. All right. Oh, the dog peed on her for pretend. More through the legs, all right. Oh, the dog saluted, okay. Oh my God, now the dog is marching. This is wild that there is pockets of the internet that I have not explored. I didn't know this was a thing. 31 million people know this is a thing this is wild do you think i don't know i feel like this is views from eight people who've

just watched this a hundred times i mean probably or just sent their send it to their friends being like look at this all right i'm a little bored now i get it wild i you know i'm really glad that i let you tell me what to do with my life I'm gonna think about it I'm gonna wake Clyde up later and I'm gonna say we gotta get to training you gotta get to it there's other dogs

performing that could be him that could be him he could be my little show dog I oh boy I just I really think about it like right now i'm like really thinking about it and i think he would just constantly disappoint me i don't think he would show up when i need him to practice i think he'd want to like play instead of dance i think he'd lay down like i've been trying to get him to eat these sweet potato treats and he doesn't want them.

He just leaves them around the house. Oh. Is it because they're just a new taste? Maybe. Or maybe he did. So like they're like freezer dried or dried sweet potato. And I think he's like, bitch, where the chemicals at? Where's the other additives that make a like a doggy bone a doggy bone treat?

Yeah. Yeah. He hates them yeah how have you ever had to give Clyde a pill yeah how do you do it um with a lot of peanut butter sometimes um and then sometimes if it's something I can dissolve in his water, I'll do that. And then there has been times where all of my little tricks, and you can put it in a treat, but sometimes he'll eat it, not eat the pill, and spit the pill out. And then sometimes he'll do that with peanut butter, but peanut butter is so like, that he has a harder time doing that. And there has been times where I have cradled him and put the pill in his mouth and then just like pet his throat to be like swallow it swallow it swallow it and then like keep pushing it back in his mouth and then be like just swallow it please swallow it um yeah it's it's not fun yeah i just saw someone give their cat a pill and and their dog and they put it in the back of their throat and then like clamped

their hand over their mouth so they can't can't like do anything and they they don't have only have a choice to swallow and it looks so violent and and but then we like looked up a video because i was like that can't be right and then looked at a video and that that is how you do it or that's like a way to do it is just a clamp your your hand over their nose and mouth and be like swallow. There's no other choice. I've done that a couple times with Clyde, but it really feels like I'm torturing him. So I don't. Yeah.

It just it hurts my heart too much. It looks bad. Yeah. And I don't like when he's sad. Yeah. I mean, yeah, the cat like went to the other side of the room it was very bad he's like i'm not doing this again y'all fucked me over once you're not gonna catch me again Should we do a quiz? Yeah.

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Let's do a little quiz. Let's do a little quiz. Let's do a little quiz. Just a little quiz.

I went swimming today and accidentally got my hair wet. All of it. And by accidentally, i dove right in um seems like that's the only outcome actually yeah it's a pretty pretty pointed um but now it's just like wet and i'm like oh now i have to wash it i'm really upset with myself i'm sorry okay should we do since we're talking about pets should we do are you more like a golden retriever or a black cat yes i would like to do that yeah oh i wonder what i am i have a feeling i'm gonna be a golden retriever i also feel that way and i have a feeling i'm gonna be a black cat i I think so. Mm-hmm. Okay. What's your favorite color to wear? Blue.

Black. Red. Yellow. Gray. Orange. Green. Brown. I think orange for me.

My colors are there. Oh, yeah. They don't have purple here. No. And I love wearing purple. Or leopard. Yes. Well, I guess I could say brown because I do love leopard print.

Okay. Yeah. Yeah. Mm-hmm. What's your favorite movie genre? Fantasy. Sci-fi. Horror.

Mystery. Ha, ha, ha, ha. Comedy. Pew, pew. Action. Romance. Drama. ha ha ha comedy action romance drama what i mean as of late i have been loving action movies i just watched the new laura croft movie that i think came out in 2018 and it was so good. Oh, I don't remember hearing anything about it. Real quick, Judith.

Can you look up the latest Lara Croft movie? I remember it coming out, but I didn't see it. I loved the originals. With Angelina Jolie. Yeah, I loved those ones. Yeah, Tomb Raider. Yeah, 2018. Nobody really talked about it, and i really thought it was fun yeah it was great walton goggins was the bad guy and uh dominic west

played her her dad it was so good anyway um i've been really loving the action movies lately. Also, I feel like this is probably a dumb question, but did the video game Tomb Raider come out before the movies or was it the movies and then the video game? It was the video game, then the movies, because she had hard hexagon titties. And I feel like when the movie came out, everyone was like, is she going to a hard hexagon titties and i feel like when the movie came out everyone was like is she gonna have hard hexagon titties and they're like no she's a woman named angelina jolie and they're smooth and round well i also because they like the video game character

and angelina jolie both have big old titties and i couldn't remember if they modeled the video game after her big old titties or if they but also i don't believe or maybe they did i was gonna say i don't believe they cast her because of her titties because she felt perfect for the role i think they cast her for her talent and the titties were secondary titties were also there you know i think they were like oh let's do angelina jolie and they're like she's a great actress and they were like, ooh, let's do Angelina Jolie. And they were like, she's a great actress. And they were like, and? She does got some big old opportunities. That does help, because that's what the character looks like. All right.

Yeah, so Shira, what's your favorite movie genre? I would also say action. It's fun. It's fun. Okay. Go for it. He just stopped and started nodding. Well, we started at the same time

and I was trying to nod to go, here, go ahead. But it just, it ended up with me going, eh, and then nodding. I was just like, I'm not okay. I'm having a stroke. I was like, oh no, she broke down. What style are your outfits? Grunge.

Vintage. Hippie. Casual. Gothic. Preppy. Streetwear. Dark academia. Boho.

Punk. What is dark academia? Like a professor? Yeah, I guess. Glasses and like tweed. Oh, this is a thing the internet knows. Oh, I was right. It's like tweed and blazers and belts.

Okay, cute. Yeah, that is cute. I don't think I know anyone who dresses like that. I don't think so either. I feel like that's just in movies. Yes. When they're depicting someone in New York. Mm-hmm.

I think I'm pretty cash. Mm-hmm. Because I do wear a lot of vintage stuff, but it's not like period-based. It's just like this sparkly old thing I found. Mm-hmm. Maybe boho? Yeah, I can see that for you. Yeah.

Boho. After a long day of work, you come home and... Sleep. Play video games. Read. Watch TV. Ride. Eat.

Cook. Sports. Sports? You do sports? Like you actively do sports or you watch sports? You just. Well, I think. Well, you've watched TV.

So I think this is you come home from 16 hours in the coal mine and then go play soccer. A nice restful game of soccer wild no who does that um i definitely eat as soon as i get home from like working yeah probably eat okay what's your favorite musical film? Ooh, Hairspray. Sweeney Todd. The Greatest Showman. High School Musical. Grease Lightning. Go Grease Lightning. Mamma Mia.

Into the Woods. La La Land. Dream Girls. I don't like musicals. Wow. Mm. Mm. Mm. I don't like musicals. Wow.

I'm between Hairspray and Dreamgirls and Grease. What's yours? Probably Dreamgirls. Okay. Then I'll say Hairspray for sake of difference. Yeah. We have to have some difference. Sake ofspray for sake of difference. Yeah, we have to have some difference. Sake of difference. Sake of difference.

What a weird way to say that. If you could have a superpower, which would it be? Move metal. No, that's not an answer yet. Flight. Super strength. Invisibility. Telekinesis.

Shapeshifting. Electricity. Communication with theis. Shapeshifting. Electricity. Communication with the dead. Whoa. Fire. Hmm. Telekinesis is moving stuff with your mind, right? Mm-hmm.

Yeah. I'm a nosy person, so I'm going to say invisibility. Let me get all up in your business. Mm-hmm. I would say, yeah, telekinesis. I want to move stuff. Yeah, move it around. Mm-hmm. You can only listen to one artist for the rest of your life.

Who will you choose? Billie Eilish. Harry Styles. Ariana Grande. Ed Sheeran. Taylor Swift eminem adele the weekend nikki minaj bruno mars now are you saying like this because you never heard of these people or yeah who's bruno mars who is the weekend i know saturday and sunday who's eminem i know the candies ed sheeran i know ed mcmahon harry styles i know harry and sunday who's eminem i know the candies ed sheeran i know ed mcmahon

harry styles i know harry and the hendersons i know ed mcmahon literally the only ed i could think of that's really funny. I think Bruno Mars because he's always happy. Not always happy, but he has happy songs. He has sad songs. He has quite a variety of songs. He really does. I feel like if I did Billie Eilish, I'd be sad all the time.

Or if it was Ed Sheeran, we'd be bopping around too much. Or Eminem, I'd just be angry all the time. Bruno Mars. I feel like I'd still have a range of emotions for the rest of my life. And that would be great. Yeah, I'm. The weekend is not is an interesting person. The music is good.

The person might be a little interesting but i think i i think i'm gonna choose the weekend he has great songs yeah very sexy yeah and i if i for the rest of my life baby i'm already horny all the time so got a soundtrack for it keep it going when you're in a bad mood do you prefer to be alone or with others? I say alone. I'm going to say with others because when I'm in a bad mood, I will stay in a bad mood if I'm alone and dwell and think and get lost in the sauce. But if there's somebody else, I get lost in their sauce and my mood goes better.

Yeah, that's smart. My mood goes better yeah that's my mood goes better i am constantly in awe of the words that come out of my mouth what pixar movie is your favorite toy story wally oof that's a good one. Oof, Finding Nemo. The Incredibles. Oof, that's a good one. Monsters, Inc. Ratatouille. Oof, that's a good one, too. Inside Out. That's a good one.

Up. That's a good one. Coco. That's such a good one. Brave. Never seen it. It's a good one. Pixar has hits.

They do have hits. They're all great. They're all so good oh my god i love toy story because i was too old when i saw it and i still like had i had barbies past the time you're supposed to have them i have barbies now um but i would truly leave my room and open the door really quick to be like what what are them Barbies doing? And they were always doing nothing. Wally made me sob. I loved Finding Nemo. The Incredibles was just so funny and great.

Monsters, Inc. I love that little girl. And I love Mike Wachowski. Ratatouille, a rat under a hat. Stop it. Inside out, all the emotions up that first scene and then that kid oh that boy scout coco made me cry this is so hard i can't believe they're trying to make me choose this is actually really hard i'm gonna say coco because it truly made me sob oh god and

every time um you know when you sign put your password in to like sign into something and there's like a little check mark at the underneath it this is remember me i always think of the song from coco it's like remember me oh i'm like oh i'm gonna pick finding nemo because whenever I like am afraid of something, I always say fish are friends, not food. Just to and I know it's like for a shark to not eat the fish, but like I have turned it to being like people aren't terrible. They're food.

I don't know how I rationalize it in my mind, but I do. I thought you were going gonna say just keep swimming nope fish are friends not food and then i love those seagulls mine mine yeah mine mine i went to disneyland last year and they have those seagulls and we were i was walking past them and i heard them go mine and then i stopped stopped and I was like, they say mine. And then I took out my phone and they didn't do it. But then I outweighed them and they did it. And I, what I tell you, I cackled for a solid two minutes and children were staring at me

being like, she's having too much fun here. She's too old for that. Oh, I love fighting Nemo. and we're staring at me being like she's having too much fun here she's too old for that oh i love finding nemo but honestly that's really interesting that i don't use just keep swimming and i use fish yeah and i really thought that's where it was headed because you're like oh when i get scared of doing something i always say that famous quote from biting nemo it's your friends not food and i say it i like if somebody like a person i don't know if i've ever said it to you maybe you've never been like i'm afraid of this or i'm nervous

about something but if someone comes to me like i're like, I'm nervous about this, I will say, just remember fish are friends, not food. And not one person has said, why do you say that? I'm so deeply embarrassed. Better quote is just keep swimming. Whatever works for you. If that is what sounds good to you to motivate you it's great i'm like am i the only person living in the world like this just like wrong like loud and wrong i can't believe there's such a better quote from that movie it's really funny oh no now i'm crying oh no

oh my god are you a morning person or night owl i think i now am a morning person it's's switched. I used to be an owl. Yeah. But now I naturally get up early. And I have to go to sleep quite early. I wish it would switch for me. I'm still a night owl. Oh, my God.

So this is Nicole's. And I think she got the same thing. Wow, we're golden retrievers. We're probably extroverted and affectionate. We like adventure and will gladly spend time with friends and family. We often are quite playful. I don't, that's on track for me. It really doesn't. It really doesn't.

That's interesting. I mean, I guess we said a couple of the same things, but. Here, I think you're, I think, I think you you're a mutant i think you're half black cat half golden retriever like cat dog you're a cat dog i'm cat that's a famed nickelodeon show true yes i've never seen it one time it was funny it was cute it was weird it was a it was a cat dog a dog a tan a tandem animal that had two heads two brains one was a cat one was a dog oh maybe it was trying to make conjoined twins feel better about them like their disposition whoa you know maybe it was like a secretly inclusive cartoon oh i like that. Right?

Mm-hmm. And then everyone can enjoy it, but it's specifically for conjoined twins. Wow. Look at that. Good job, Nickelodeon. Look at Nickelodeon. Inclusive from the start. um should we answer queries and quandaries and questions of galore galore yes questions and

queries and and galore oh my okay an email. Yeah. Hi, Nicole and Sasheer. Whoa. Okay. We did it right at this. Yeah. Okay. You could go for it. Hi, Nicole and Sasheer.

Love the podcast and have been a listener since the beginning. So here's my tea. I just found out recently that one of my best friends shares all of my personal stories with her husband. my best friend shares all of my personal stories with her husband. I was just talking to my best friend a couple of weeks ago about how I think maybe my partner and I have low sex drives and haven't been intimate in a while, but that our relationship is still good. It's closer than ever and maybe we don't really need the sex. Anyway, I found out my best friend's husband knows my shit because while I was over their house last week, her husband mentioned if my partner and I were finally starting to fuck again.

I think he was trying not, I think he was trying to be funny, but I was shooketh because even though her husband is fun to hang out with, I don't know him like that and don't want him to know my tea. I know she likes to spill other people's tea all the time, but I thought I was safe because we're best friends. Isn't that like best friend code? Don't snitch on,

uh, don't snitch your best friend's shit to other people. I'm not trying to start a drama between the two of you, but Sashir, have you, uh, or do you share really personal information about Nicole to your partner? Like things you should know probably should just stay between you and Nicole.

I just want to know if this is normal coupleship because I definitely don't share personal information with my partner about my friends, especially if my friends are confining in me. I really lost trust in my best friend and don't talk about personal stuff to her anymore. Damn. Yeah. Yeah, so Shira, you tell my business to your partner? yeah hmm yes this year you tell my business your partner i mean some stuff but not everything um because i guess i don't know you're a part of my life so sometimes it feels like i'm like if we're just talking about like what's going on, it might come up. But it's not like, I got to tell you the tea about Nicole.

You'll never believe this. We're not like dishing. But yeah, there's some things that I've talked about, but also a lot of things I have not. Have you ever told my stuff to a person you were dating? Yeah, but not like secret personal stuff. Maybe like, oh, so she was in Atlanta working. Or like, yeah, just like, me personally, I think the information I have shared with someone i was dating

is nothing that you wouldn't tell them yourself yeah um and it's not like yeah it's no deep dark secrets that would literally be insane yeah um and if it's like serious serious i know i have some things you've told me that will go to the grave with me well so yeah you'll have to dig them up because i'm gonna i'm gonna write them on little notes and put them in my pocket oh no you don't have to do that i'm gonna sorry and then you can figure out which secrets i've never told anybody it's just like a scavenger hunt for me uh-huh and then you're gonna read them and be like this wasn't that important that's funny um i will say this i don't think it feels good to have your best

friend talk about that to their partner but i don't think that's a bad thing for her to talk about with her partner especially if maybe they're having some issue or i don't know like if it comes up i think that's like a like a normal thing to say to their partner i think it's the abnormal thing for me is the partner saying something to you because who is he he's not your friend like that. Yeah, that's honestly a huge mistake on that part. Weird. Yeah. Yeah. I can see it being a thing where it's like, yeah, maybe they are also having sex issues.

And maybe it came of a conversation. Because you said that sex was not necessary to the relationship. And maybe they were like, sex is very important. And that was just like a different take on it. So they had a conversation about it which i think is good and whatever and fine i'm just like that man was weird that's weirdo fucking behavior like because like how tone deaf or like obtuse do you have to be to not realize like you didn't actually have that conversation with your

partner's friend that was a conversation you had with your partner and it i don't there should not have been an assumption that this is public information for us to discuss openly yes so i I don't know yeah so that it is weird I don't know if you need to be mad at your friend for even saying something but I don't know what do you I mean I

it was funny when I was initially reading this and I was like what did Sajir tell her partner stuff about me and then I was like, what's a cheer tell her partner stuff about me? And then I was like, yes, because I'm a person, like you said, I'm a person in your life. And it's like, you're not gonna not talk about a person you're very close to with your partner.

That's truly unhinged, I think. Because I don't know, like I want a partner that I can tell almost everything to, but also be able to trust them that like some things that I say stay in the house. Yeah. I just, I don't like that dude being like, y'all fucking, that's not,

that's not good and that's not right. Maybe you have a conversation with your best friend and you just go, hey, I just wanna make sure our connection's like okay. And that when I'm telling you things that, like, maybe you don't share all of it with your partner because I don't need the whole world knowing my business. And I'm not sure.

I just didn't really love when he came at me and said that specific thing. Like, that didn't feel great. Yeah, I like that. I think you're well within your rights to say something and be like, I was really uncomfortable when your partner told my business to me. Yeah. And in a joking way.

And like, I'm not saying you don't have to talk about me at all to your partner, but maybe make it clear that like this, some stuff is actually private, private. And I don't, I don't even want to know that, you private and I don't I don't even want to know that you know or like I don't even want and I certainly don't say it to people who are not me or like I don't you know I don't want that spreading around or something like that

just so there there's some like boundaries there of like I'm not saying like I'm not policing your conversations with your partner but just make sure he knows that's not for everyone to know. Yeah. That's not like conversation fodder at the dinner table. Like get the fuck out of,

get out of here. Yeah. Yeah. I didn't like, I don't like, I don't like this man. Yeah. Yeah.

Honestly, he's also a talk to the friend to be like the, the choice of partner we have here. Yeah, what are we doing? A little bit questionable. Gabs McGee over here can't close his fucking loose lips. He's thinking chips. Get him out.

Although I'm sure I can also see a world where this man was just so excited to be a part of the tea. Like he was just so excited to get any gossip. He was like,'re talking yes i'm one of the divas yes what do you what about this issue girl and then i was like what what jim shut the fuck up and shut the fuck up that's not how we do it we're never gonna tell you anything again yeah Yeah, I think just like have a little talk and just don't, yeah, just be like how I felt and I just wanna make sure we're on the same page about things and, but also I think just be understanding that your friend will talk about you to their partner, all of your friends will.

All like if you're in someone's life, you're part of their life. Just most people understand that there's decorum with getting information. Yeah. And it's unfortunate that this person did not. Yeah. Solve. Solve.

And remember, friend, fish are friends, not food. So let's do another one. Hi. I'm trying this message again because I did it the first time and it was incoherent. But I was listening to the recent episode where you guys are having the why won't you date me best friends kind of crossover. And you're talking about how your friendship is so intimate and special and kind of unique in your lives where it feels like you are the other person's number one. And, Nicole, you kind of mentioned having to talk about that with potential people you're dating,

like how your best friend is kind of that number one person. And I'm in a situation where I'm kind of like the person that you would be telling that to. So here's the context. My boyfriend and I are doing great. His best friend has a similar relationship to him as you guys. So, you know, when he and I started dating, he was like, I really like you. I really like where this is going, but you just need to know that my best friend is my number one person and he's always going to be around. And I was like, that's fine. I truly genuinely love

that about my boyfriend. He, you know, I think for men, it's unusual to find people who are like have that kind of vulnerability and intimacy and a friendship. And I'm glad that he has that. But for me, it does feel a little bit like I'm just kind of delegate or relegated to this second place, no matter what I do. I want to feel, I don't know, I want to feel that important to him. I want to feel like I'm also a priority and also like he and I are that close. And he's known his best friend for a really long time and he and I haven't been together that long. So I understand that this is something that has to be built. But I'm just curious, I guess, to share if that was ever something that you had to bring up with your man when you all got together. I know, Nicole, you had said that when Sashir and her man got together, like, you were feeling nervous about how your relationship was going to change. And I'm just curious what that looked like, I guess, in practice and how you guys talked to people who are entering your lives as individuals about your relationship to each other.

Does that make sense? I'm just curious, like, if you had a new person, how would you be like, hey, this is my best friend. They're super important to me. And what would you feel like and what would you say if that new person was like, but what about me? Because I feel like, but what about me? And it's hard to understand as someone who's outside of the relationship, like, where I would fit in. Yeah, I think there's, I think it's natural to have what about me thoughts no matter what. Even if it's like a best friend of your partner, some people's dog or their pet is their main priority, their parents, their family, their kid.

Like there's so many things that could also be a priority for people. family, their kid. There's so many things that could also be a priority for people. And it's very easy to be like, well, why don't I feel like number one right now? And it's just something that has to be talked about and put in practice. And everyone has to be honest about how they feel. Because if your partner doesn't know that you don't feel like a priority, then they can't make changes to make you feel that way. And it might just take some massaging. Like, okay, I will be better at like letting you know

when I'm hanging out with my friend and giving you time too. Or like, I want to go on a weekend trip with my friend and giving you time too. Or like, I, you know, I want to go on a weekend trip with my, with my buddy, but I'll make sure to call you like these hours when I'm gone or something like that. You know, like trying to figure out how to work it out so that like, you don't feel left behind when your partner is like, just like hanging with his best friend all the time um but also that you're still giving them space to have their relationship because it is a priority and there and there is a way that everyone can like share in the space and like still be a priority but but um it's gonna be an ebb and flow i guess yeah i think open communication is like a nice

clear thing and he was clear enough to say that my best friend is like my number one person it's the person i love the most he's like a brother to me so i think that's maybe a better way to think of it that he's not just a best friend that that this man is this other man's chosen family this is his family so and i don't think you would feel second fiddle if they were like blood brothers um i think you just go oh he's really close to his brother okay whatever but i think it's like since this is not a relative and you know friendships are we're taught that they're not as important as romantic relationships when sometimes they are um so i think yeah if you're just vocal enough to be like hey um i just want to make sure that you're making time for me as well and taking 30 minutes out of a trip a weekend or whatever for a phone call is truly nothing um and that's something that somebody can do because it's not

taking away from anybody's time it's making sure that you feel loved and included and he's something that somebody can do because it's not taking away from anybody's time it's making sure that you feel loved and included and he's still spending time with his best friend um i think it's like if they hang out five days a week i think you can truly just say hey i think we're missing a little bit of quality time i would like to see you a little bit more that doesn't mean that they they can't hang out five days a week it just means that they hang out five days a week but then there's time for you during those five days a week. It just means that they hang out five days a week, but then there's time for you during those five days a week. They hang out from like three to five

and you get five and an overnight slumpy with some deep dicking. Yeah, I am not great at communication, but I do think communication is the key to just having everybody be on the same page yeah yeah and i think uh being specific helps too because if you're like i would like more quality time with you or i would like to feel like a priority like not more than but like your friend um offer some suggestions too because it's like it's kind of hard to know what to do if you're just like i want more and then the and then your

partner's like well what does that mean or like you might think there's no problems at all he might be like we've spent time together all the time but like what is the quality time that you need to feel like included is it physical quality time is it phone calls is it face times is it memes you know like what is it that what makes you feel good that you like and then be specific like okay well what if we do this and hopefully yeah you'll be able to hear that yeah maybe it's like when we're together no phone time like we just spend at least an hour or two off our phones where we just like connect or it's like, let's go away for a weekend or, you know, maybe Thursday is our standing date where we always go try a new restaurant that we've wanted to go to or something. So like maybe. Yeah, I think that's like a really good idea.

I think like having one day a week where you're like, this is our day. That's not interrupted. Makes you feel like it's important because he has that one day a week set aside for you. Not to be like, and every other day is friendship day. But like in my brain, I'd be like, this is nice. This is nice that this man set aside a day for me. Like that's a special thing that we have. That's nice. Yeah for me like that's a special thing that we have that's nice yeah i like

that and remember fish are friends not food okay and don't walk around going mine mine mine because you do have to share him with his friend wow and if you have any questions or queries or or advice you want to give us you can email nicole and sashir at gmail.com or call text or leave a voice memo at 424-645-7003 and if you're walking around going mine mine, mine, mine, that's because you have merch of ours that you can get at PondSweat.com slash best friends. And if you want to keep on swimming to some words that we're saying, you can go to Earwolf.com to check out our transcripts for our new episodes. And don't be a clownfish. Don't forget to rate, review,

and subscribe. That's the easiest way to support this show. Ah, perfect. I honestly am blown away that I, that I, I haven't said the correct quote from the fucking movie that would be helpful to people. I really thought that's where you're going with it.