Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan - Confidence Classic: How To Approach Any Conversation To Ensure You Are HEARD with Sales Expert Glenn Lundy

Episode Date: September 26, 2024

In This Episode You Will Learn About:  Finding opportunities you NEVER knew existed   Creating positive experiences  Becoming the catalyst for good in your life Resources: Website: glennlundy.com Join 800% Elite Automotive Club  Listen to #RiseandGrind w/Glenn Lundy & Breakfast With Champions   Read The Morning 5 ebook Call: 859-567-0333  LinkedIn: @Glenn Lundy  Clubhouse @glennlundy Instagram: @glenn_lundy Facebook: @OfficialGlennLundy Twitter: @GlennBLundy Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/monahan Kajabi is offering a free 30-day trial to start your business if you go to Kajabi.com/confidence Get your KPI Checklist, absolutely free, at NetSuite.com/MONAHAN.  Want to do more and spend less like Uber, 8x8, and Databricks Mosaic? Take a free test drive of OCI at oracle.com/MONAHAN. Get 15% off your first order on www.jennikayne.com when you use code CONFIDENCE15 at checkout. Go to ro.co/confidence, and pay just $99 for your first month. Overcome Your Villains is Available NOW! Order here: https://overcomeyourvillains.com  If you haven't yet, get my first book Confidence Creator Show Notes:  You take yourself wherever you go. That means that YOU can be the catalyst of everything good in your life. You have the ability to create greatness in your life! Dialing into your mind will allow you to attract even MORE success than you thought was possible. Glenn Lundy, automotive sales expert, is here sharing his comeback story and how he is a true testament to overcoming your villains! When you can tune into yourself and your mind, you can accomplish ANYTHING. 

What you see in me, exists in you, otherwise you wouldn't be able to see it. And it's just so true. Once we get to the frequency of our dreams, the things that we want to achieve, all of a sudden we start to see those opportunities that we never knew existed before. Before I was homeless in that whole season, I was at a certain frequency. And in my belief system, my world, I drew in shady characters like myself, dark situations all of the time. And it wasn't until I started to dial up that frequency that I was then able to climb into those spaces. You can't climb into them if you

don't know where they are. Come on this journey with me. Each week when you join me, you're going to chase down our goals, overcome adversity, and set you up for a better tomorrow. That's a no-see, guys. I'm ready for my close-up. Did you know I recently celebrated having created 450 episodes of this podcast? And we are still going strong. Thank you for listening. That is a lot of topics and amazing guests. So I thought I would put together a few of my listener favorites for

the month of September as bonuses on Thursdays to help you catch up on what you may have missed. So you can keep growing your confidence with these confidence classics. Let me know what you think. I'm so excited for you to meet my friend today, someone I know in real life. We've got Glenn Lundy on the show, husband and a father to eight. You did not hear me wrong. Eight kids. He's the host of the wildly popular Breakfast with Champions Club on Clubhouse.

His 20 years of experience in the automotive industry, Glenn went from leading a dealership from 120 cars a month to becoming the second largest used car franchise in the country. He has the ability to help identify the areas for growth in your store, teach creative ways to invoke your dealership spirit. He's a sales expert with a background in sales

and finance, which is so unique. He uses his skillsets to create growth as well as tapping into the mental side of human development. Glenn, thank you so much for being here today. Hey, thanks for having me. It truly is an honor and a pleasure to share this space and time with you. You're amazing. You're the best. Thank you so much. So we got to know each other during the global pandemic on Clubhouse and Glenn was kind enough to have me on his show. And then we were so lucky to, we forget because we live in this virtual world. One day you happen to be in Miami.

You text me, wait, you live in Miami, don't you? And we got to connect, have dinner and catch up. And it was so cool to hang out with you in real life. It was super, super fun. I really, really enjoyed that watching you run, doing your thing, running your businesses and mom and all at the same time, right? Well, listen, you know a lot about being a parent, a lot more than me when you've got eight little ones

that you have been raising. It's pretty incredible. Well, thank you. Yeah, we are blessed to have plenty. I can't take any credit. My wife is the, uh, she does it all. She allows me to travel around and have dinner with amazing super humans with the like you while she's home and homeschools all the kids and takes care of all the, you know, all that stuff. So she gets all the credit, but yeah, it's an incredible gift. I always have someone to play with when I get home from my trips. Yeah, you are right, my friend.

She is flipping amazing. But let's take it back before this amazing life, because when you and I got the chance to sit down, you really got into your background. And I happen to think of myself as this comeback kid, and people always look at me for this comeback story, at 43, coming back from getting fired. But Glenn, your story is so much more

of a comeback than that, overcoming so much. And if you can just get into a little bit of what that adversity was that you faced and some of the levers that you pulled to lift yourself out of it. Yeah, well, you know, I think we all have amazing stories, right, of overcoming adversity. And what you overcame is something

that I might not have been able to, right? And what I overcame is something that maybe you weren't able to. Like we, you know what I mean? But it takes the same amount of strength to deal with the storms that come in our lives. So I personally grew up in just a unique situation. I grew up lower middle class.

We never went without, but there was never any extra. My dad is black. My mom is white. They got together right basically on the backside of You know when that stuff wasn't cool, it wasn't cool for black folks white folks to be together and they fought through that adversity to bring me into the world which I'm so grateful for but ultimately they end up getting divorced when I was 11 years old and What was interesting Heather is my dad when he got remarried He made a black woman.

And my mom, who is white, she got remarried. She married a white dude. And then my mom and her new husband moved into Greenlaw Garden Apartments at 2600 East 7th Avenue, Flagstaff, Arizona, apartment number 28. And then my dad and his wife got married. They moved into Green Law Garden Apartments at 2600 East 7th Avenue in Flagstaff, Arizona, apartment number 30, two doors down from my mom and her new husband. And what was really crazy is my dad's new wife,

she had four kids already, right? They were all black kids, four black kids. Then they, my dad and her had two more together. So there was eight of us over in dad's house. And then there was just me and my sister over in mom's house. And every stereotype that you could think of, Heather, existed in these two houses. Like dad's house was the black house, right?

Everybody played sports. There was sports on TV all the time. We listened to rap music, hip hop music, gospel. We had chitlins and collard greens and fried chicken and Kool-Aid. Like every stereotype you could think of existed in my dad's house. And then over in my mom's house,

we had all the stereotypes you would associate with a white household. Like, mom was a country singer, my stepdad loved rock and roll, they hung out at the little bowling alley, the little white trash bowling alley that everybody hung out at. It was crazy, right?

My mom would be whistling show tunes and stuff. It was a real quiet house, right? And so I grew up in these two very different, culturally very different environments. And looking back, greatest experience of my life, because now I can see things from different perspectives, which I'm so thankful for, because I didn't grow up in just one culture.

But at the time it was really tough for me. Being a teenager, going through all of that stuff, trying to figure out who you are, trying to figure out your identity, all of those things, that's already challenging enough as a teenager going through all of that stuff, trying to figure out who you are, trying to figure out your identity, all of those things. That's already challenging enough as a teenager, but being stuck in kind of these two different cultures, I didn't know, like, my skin was too dark to be considered white,

but it was too light to be considered black. So I didn't really know where I fit. And ultimately I became a chameleon. And so whatever group I was with, I'd become that, because I didn't have my own identity, right? And so if I was hanging out with the cowboys, I was a cowboy. If I was hanging out with the gangsters, I was a gangster.

If I was hanging out with the Mexicans, I was a Mexican, right? This sounds so dangerous to me. Yeah, and it really was, because I just, I didn't have any identity myself. And so I was trying to find a fit and all of my relationships were very surface because I wasn't authentic or real.

Like I was everybody's friend, but I didn't have any real deep like relationships, you know, everything was just kind of surface. And that's how I made my way into adulthood. And along the way would hang out with the wrong crowds and make a lot of poor decisions. And those types of things only last, you know, so long. And so it wasn't, it was just a matter of time, you know, before I was like in and out of jail, the drugs,

the drinking, you know, all of those things and just burning every bridge that I could possibly burn, which led me to, at one point, I ended up moving out of the state. I had burned so many bridges. I moved out of Arizona. I landed in Southern California. I spent a little bit of time in Southern California before one day I woke up and had nowhere to go, had no money, had no credit. And ultimately I was homeless in the streets there. And that season, Heather was, it was so difficult because what happens with homelessness is first year, first year homeless, right? And then you start to feel hopeless because every day is the same.

Nothing ever changes. Right? Like my day was literally I I'd ride the buses overnight in San Diego, they have 24 hour transit. So I'd ride the bus overnight, then they'd kick me off at six in the morning. And then I would go looking around for nickels, pennies, quarters, change, whatever I could find along the beaches.

And then I would take that and I'd go get a sausage McMuffin with egg and an orange juice. Then I'd spend the rest of the day looking for nickels, dimes and quarters so that I could get back on the bus at six the next morning. Now I would just do it over and over and over again. And so homelessness became hopelessness.

Hopelessness became a real deep depression. Deep depression became suicidal thoughts. Suicidal thoughts ultimately led to me attempting to take my own life. I tried to drown myself in the Pacific Ocean, just outside La Jolla, California. Luckily, I was unsuccessful at that, clearly. I would be here with you today. And it was in that moment when I was laying on the beach after just attempting to take my own life. I was laying on the beach. And I heard, audibly, I heard these words. I heard you take yourself wherever you go,

which that's a phrase that an old mentor of mine used to tell me all the time. When I was 20 years old, he used to say, you take yourself wherever you go. And I never really knew what that meant. Like, what does that mean? And so I started to really think about it. And I realized Heather, that I had been in different cities around different people, like all these different environments were always changing. The people around me, the locations around me, the activities around me, all of that was changing, but the result was always the same.

It would always end up not good, right? Me not moving forward. And so I looked in that moment and I realized, I'm the only constant. I'm the only thing that's consistently in all of these environments is it's me, right? And so that just opened up this door like I was like, oh wow, wait a minute, I'm the catalyst of everything bad in my life. Everything that's ever gone wrong, I'm the catalyst for that. And being an inquisitive person, as soon as

I had that thought, I immediately thought, well wait a minute,, I'm the catalyst for that. And being an inquisitive person, as soon as I had that thought, I immediately thought, well, wait a minute, if I'm the catalyst for everything bad in my life, does that mean I can be the catalyst for everything good? And so I started on this journey of self discovery. I had to figure out what is this, what is this ability that we have to create our lives? Like, what is that? Where does that come from, right? And anytime you wanna figure out where something comes from, you have to kinda go to the source. So I started doing research on humans.

I went to Orange County Church of Scientology. I started studying a lot about myself there. After about six months at the Orange County Church of Scientology, I learned so many things, but I realized that that wasn't the path for me. And so I left and I started studying Buddhism and Catholicism and Christianity.

And ultimately for me, I was able to find my way to a spiritual understanding through Jesus and Christianity. And once I unlocked that and I realized that we're not just mind and body, but we're mind, body, spirit. And it's the spirit element of ourselves that is connected universally,

that allows us to create good and bad things in our life. Then since then, now it's been game on. I've just been learning as much wisdom as I can, stacking on as much as I can, developing this as much as I can, getting as in tuned spiritually as humanly possible. And the rewards of that have been tremendous. So that's kind of the story in a nutshell.

You're so interesting. This is really new to me. I, you know, I grew up Catholic, but like probably many people, you know, we had to study parts of the Bible in Bible class or whatever, but it wasn't ever a calling to me. I wasn't going home and reading the Bible, right?

I was like, you had to do it, you had to do it, check it off and move on. When I hear you talking right now, just recently in the past year for me, I was learning about manifestation and then I was learning, you know, like the movie, the secret and all this. And then also I start seeing these messages on social media from the Bible and the Bible is like, it's everything that I'm learning about now is derived from the Bible. And I, I Glenn, it's crazy. And so when you're describing connecting to sources,

I'm beginning to understand what you mean, but it's so bizarre that it's taking me to my late 40s to start learning all of this originates with the Bible and God and that source power that you're talking about. And that's really the bigger picture answer here is how can we connect back to that? It's amazing. That is amazing, isn't it?

And you know, it's crazy. They say, what is that quote? You know, when the student is ready, the teacher- The teacher will appear. Yeah. Will appear, right? Right. And I think so many times in our lives,

you know, we walk around with this mud over our eyes and we don't realize it, right? And that mud wasn't placed there by us. We didn't put it there, but the environments that we grew up in, the people that we were around, the relationships that we had, if you're not exposed, you don't know what you don't know.

And it is very easy as human beings, it is very easy to end up in a silo, right? We see this in social media like crazy, right? Whatever you like, you're gonna get more of. of that's why we have such great division right now in humanities because everybody that believes you know vaccinations are the cure for the world they're getting information that that that agrees with that and so anybody that disagrees with that it looks like an idiot. disagrees with that, it looks like an idiot. And then every person that doesn't believe vaccinations is a cure for the world, they're getting information that aligns with that and they think anybody that does

is an idiot, right? And it's because we live in these silos and this has really shown that to be true. And so I know you're not beating yourself up, but I think that, you know, ultimately until that exposure comes and it usually comes third party, somebody's gotta bring you to it, right? Somebody's gotta say, hey, check this out.

Which I think this is why it's so important. The church will preach this, but maybe they do it in the right way, maybe they don't. I'm not a big fan necessarily of church itself run by man. I'm a very spiritual person. But they're like, hey, you gotta go share your story. You gotta share your voice.

You gotta share your wisdom, right? Like they shout it from rooftops all the time. Whereas I think that that needs to be a standard practice for all of us, not just a religious practice. Like share your voice, share your story, share your wisdom, share your experiences. Because you never know,

you might just be wiping the mud off of somebody's eyes so they can start to see the greatness that exists inside of them, right? And you can now start to help them get to that next level. So I love that you're on this journey now though, because you got so much to learn, girl, it's awesome. Meet a different guest each week. Money's on the line.

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agree with you 100%. However, what I typically hear from people and what I've experienced is when shame is an issue, right? You feel bad about where you've come from, bad about experiences, bad about life choices, or just fear, general fear of what are people gonna think about me, insecurity, right? All of these things are the reasons

why people don't move forward. How were you having such a challenging situation that you overcame? How did you overcome that fear, that shame and that insecurity to own your voice? I think that for everyone, the situation's different, right. And the experience is different. And there's ways to share your story, share your voice, share all of those things without necessarily directly reflecting on you

if you don't want it to, right? There's authors that write under different names. There's artists that perform under different names. Like these are, we see it over and over again. When you study success, as much as I have, you'll see quite often that a lot of people bury who they were and stand out with who they are and they share that voice

and that might be the path for someone that really doesn't want, they want to help, but they don't necessarily want to be in the limelight. Not everybody's a spotlight person like me and you. Not everybody wants to go and get the eyebrows done and the makeup and go stand on the stage, right? And so I think everyone just really has to fall into the position that ultimately works for them.

But for me, what I found is as my story came out, I got feedback loops that it was helping people. And I, you know, like it's just in my nature. I want to serve and I want to help people. I'm very empathic, right? I, I absorb people's emotions and energy. So I want people to smile and I want to bring them joy.

And so for me, as I started to creep into just sharing pieces of my story that I was comfortable with, I started to creep into just sharing pieces of my story that I was comfortable with, I started getting feedback from people saying, oh, that was inspiring for me or me too, right? Me too is the greatest two words you can ever hear on the good side. Matthew McConaughey talks about it in his book,

Green Lights, how he walked around with a monk for four hours and poured out all of his, everything on his heart and the monk never said a word, right? And then when they got back to the place after walking for four hours, the monk just leaned in and said, me too. And just knowing that other people are going through things

can be really comforting, right? So for me, it was little bit of the story, little bit of the story, little bit of the story, little bit of the story. Then I started hearing the me too, me too, me too, me too. This is helping, this is inspiring. And that led me to go deeper and deeper and deeper and deeper. And I gotta tell you, Heather,

once you get it all out there, like, it's so freeing, man. Like, it's just so freeing. And people can choose to like me, not like me, whatever. Last time I checked, I don't even know if they know anymore because it's growing so fast. There's like 14 billion people out there. And so unless you piss off 13,999,999 people, you're never gonna walk around this earth alone.

That's the way I look at it. I think Putin's the only one that's able to do that. So we're probably in a good situation. So, here's the only one that's able to do that. So we're probably in a good situation. So, you know, here's the thing, and I appreciate you sharing the personal development side of it, but I'm also super interested in business. And I'm also very open to understanding

all of this does come in and affect business ultimately, which I'm just learning now, as I mentioned to you, how did this way of thinking affect you coming from literally ground zero nothing to making it huge in automotive? How did that way of thinking impact business for you? Yeah. So I went into a small dealership. So my now wife, she wasn't my wife at the time, but she got pregnant with my second child, her nice first child,

but my second child. And when she got pregnant at the time, I was running a free poker league here in Kentucky, right? So I was in bars and restaurants till like four in the morning, every single night, all over the place and having a blast and making good money and doing all of those things. But it wasn't a healthy lifestyle whatsoever. And met my wife, she got pregnant

and ultimately she told me I had to go get a real job Like I had to be a big boy. I couldn't be out till four in the morning playing poker games And so I decided that we would move to close to her parents So her mom could help with the with the baby and I would go back into the auto industry Now I had done a season in the auto industry before and that season for me was one where I moved up. I went from through multiple promotions, but my company never grew around me. I was the only thing that really grew, but the company's numbers never really went anywhere. And it was a very toxic environment, but it was really all I knew

was selling cars. It's all I had done. I dropped out of college to go do that. And so I knew I was gonna get back in the industry, but I couldn't let the industry destroy me. Instead, with my newfound wisdom and knowledge, I knew that I could be the catalyst of change for a dealership, that I could make an impact on the industry versus the industry making an impact on

Me and so the mindset that I went in with I went to a small store in a tiny town on population 9600 people and I gotta tell you Heather here comes this brown guy in a suit out here in the backwoods in the country And they're all wearing like car hearts and flannels and smoking cigarettes in the showroom and doing all of these things. And I went in and I just had this mindset that, hey, I've got to get into a position of power and influence because if I can get into a position of power and influence, I can start to really create change.

And not for me, but for all of these people that are in this building, I can make an impact in their life, right? I wanna help, I wanna serve, those types of things. And so I took all of the wisdom and knowledge that I'd been learning and started to apply it really with a people focus. So instead of most people build their businesses,

they say, okay, I need money, I want profits, right? So I'm gonna go make money. Then at some point they say, well, I could make more money if I had more customers, right? So I'm gonna go make money. Then at some point they say, well, I could make more money if I had more customers, right? So they start going for more customers. Then at some point they go, oh, I could get more customers if I had more people, right? So it's normally money first, customer second, people third.

That's normally the model for when we start our own businesses. So I went in and said, I'm going to flip that upside down. Let's go people first. And if we develop our people, that's going to draw more customers. And the more customers, they'll draw more money. Let's put money as the last priority instead

of the first priority. And that was the shift we made. And nobody had really seen that in the auto industry. The auto industry was known for being profit first, customers always right, treat your employees like crap. So we treated the employees like gold, they treated our customers like gold, and it brought in the gold. And that's what ultimately allowed us to completely expand, grow 800%, become the second largest

used car franchise dealership in the United States of America in a tiny little town with 9,600 people. It was all through developing our people. The same methodologies or leadership tactics and strategies you used back then, is that the same type of attitude and mentality you led with to,

let's talk about the Breakfast with Champions. I mean, you launched and literally overnight that club became the number one largest club on Clubhouse. So for anyone who hasn't been on Clubhouse, it's an audio only platform that exploded during the pandemic. And Glenn had the biggest club on there. That was fun. It was crazy. I wasn't expecting all of that. But really it is. It's the same principles, right? It's so funny. Like there's a book called The Greatest Salesman in the World by OG Mandino. And in one of the scrolls, it talks about how the principles never change, right? Strategies change, how we apply things change, but the principles never change.

And so it really is very similar principles. There's an acronym that I remind myself of every single day. A great leader, right? A great leader takes the lead, L-E-A-D-D. And for me, that acronym, L, and I'd spell it L-E-A-D-D, two Ds, there's a reason for that. Because the L in lead stands for listen. We have two ears and one mouth your mama told you this you're supposed to listen twice as much as you speak

And I believe that's true of all great leaders if you look in like African tribes villages So on and so forth the chiefs of those villages whenever they have a town hall or or anything like that They will always listen to what to what everybody has to say before they'll ever say a word. Always speak last, they listen first. Because you can get so much information when we listen to people, it gives us direction on how to guide them, right?

And so a great leader listens and then encourages. The E in LEAD stands for encourage. Now when your intention is to encourage after listening, it changes the way you listen. See a lot of times we listen to defend, we listen to tell people where they're wrong, or we listen to correct. But when we listen to encourage,

it forces us to find the good in that human. What is the good? Even if what they're saying is like kind of crazy, we're like, okay, I gotta find something to encourage here, right? Like, hey, Heather, I really appreciate the fact that you came in here and told me that. Even though what you just told me makes absolutely no sense.

No, you don't say that part, right? But you're like, you find something to encourage about that person. Their shoes, their shirt, I don't know. Just make sure it's authentic and real. Don't lie about it, right? But a great leader will listen first with the intent to encourage.

And as a leader, we wanna encourage the behaviors we wanna see more of. So those are mainly the things that I'm looking for, right? I wanna see more people coming into my office and sharing their thoughts. I wanna see people standing up with creative ideas, even if those creative ideas are a little bit crazy, but I want to see more of that.

So we listen and then we encourage. After we've listened and we encourage, then we go to the A in lead, which stands for advise. Now most managers start at advise. They walk into the room, they tell you what to do, right? And they tell you what you did wrong. So most managers do. A great leader will listen first,

encourage, and then advise areas of growth, development, and opportunity. The D in LEAD stands for develop. Don't just tell me what to do, show me how to do it, and go with me. Be willing to walk through this with me, right? And then the last D in LEAD stands for daily. So listen, encourage,

advise, and develop and do it daily. When you're having a conversation with your spouse or your boyfriend, your girlfriend, listen, encourage, advise, and develop. Do that daily. When you're talking to your kids, listen, encourage, advise, and develop. When it comes to a coworker, listen, encourage, advise, develop. If you're trying to close a deal, listen, encourage, advise, and develop If you're trying to close a deal, listen, encourage, advise, and develop. And when you're putting something together on a brand new platform, that's gonna require a lot of people

in order to make it happen, right? We do 50 hours of programming every single week. We have 80 different moderators that all moderate segments. The way that we were able to pull that together is I went room to room to room to room to room, listening, encouraging, advising, sharing my wisdom, and then developing. And by doing that, we were able to create amazing relationships. People wanted to come, people flocked into our rooms, right? Flocked into

our rooms. We were able to build this club, build this community that here, fast forward now 15 months later, and we've had, you know, 4 million people that have come through our rooms and we've connected with, you know, people we never thought in a million years that we'd connected to. But it all came to that one simple principle. Just take the lead, listen, encourage, advise, and develop and do it daily. different guests each week. When we had dinner, you had had some meetings beforehand before you came to meet with me and you were talking about how the dynamics upon walking into one meeting versus another is very different, depending on who's in the meetings and how that can affect a meeting. And you called it tone scale,

which is something I had never heard of before, which definitely means some of the people listening right now have not heard about this. So please share your wisdom around this and how we can leverage this information to get better. Yeah, so the tone scale is something that I learned back when I was studying the art of communication, right? So effective communication requires multiple components. So in order to communicate effectively, I have to have intention, right? I intend for you to hear me, I have to have your attention, right? This is where my wife gets it twisted all the time. Me and my wife argue about this because she has the intention to be heard,

but she'll talk when she doesn't have my attention. And the communication doesn't work. She's like, you're deaf. I'm like, no, I'm not deaf. You just didn't have my attention. I'm watching TV. I'm watching a football game or I'm playing with a kid. Right?

So we have to have both. We have to have intention and attention in order to communicate effectively. Now we also have to keep in mind something like space. There's gotta be, we have to be close enough to where you can hear me, space and volume, close enough to where you can hear me, but not too close, if I'm all in your face,

then you're all distracted, we can't communicate. If I'm too far away, we can't communicate because you can't hear me, see my body language, so on and so forth. So these are all different pieces of communication that I learned a long time ago. And one of the most valuable attributes that encompasses all of that is the tone scale.

So the tone scale allows you to get an understanding of where the other person is. And then depending on where you're trying to take that conversation, you always wanna be within two points on the tone scale of this person that you're talking to. So I'll give you an example. If somebody's really down in the dumps,

they're depressed, they're grieving, there's a loss, something like that, they're really low on the tone scale, right? Like really low on the tone scale, maybe a one or a zero even. If you come to that person, bright eyed, bushy tailed, up here at a nine, full of energy, like everything's gonna be all right, girl,

they're in a better place now, like all that stuff, they're gonna be like, get the heck out of here. You're too far removed on the tone scale, they can't connect with you, they won't listen to you, they will shut you out 100%. You're too far away. Now on the other hand, we want to bring them up, right? We want to cheer them up. And so what we have to do is if they're at a zero,

we've got to be at a two. We've got to be within two. So we're up the scale a little bit. We're a little more upbeat. We're not going to go wallow in the pits with them. That doesn't do them any good. We don't want to be at a zero, but we don't want to be at a nine. but we don't want to be at a nine.

So we got to be at like a two where we're a little brighter, maybe a little bit more positive aspect, but at the same time we're compassionate, we're understanding, right? And we can sit down and maybe put our arm around our friend and we can listen, encourage, right? Advise and develop, we can do that. And we can really take the time versus being all just crazy,

suck it up, get over it. One of my friends say, suck it up, buttercup, right? That this stuff doesn't necessarily work. Now, let's go to the other side of that. When I was in the car business, I used to get some of our customers were really angry, right? They buy a car, something goes wrong. You know, a lot of things can happen

in an automobile for sure. And so they come in super angry, like hot, like ready to fight, right? They're at a nine tone scale, fully agitated, fully activated. Now if I come at that person at a nine, we're gonna fight, simple as that, right? We're gonna scream at each other,

they're screaming, I'm screaming, everybody's at a nine. We're not gonna be able to communicate. It doesn't work. Also, if I come to them at a two, where I'm like, oh, Heather, yeah, I completely understand, Heather. Yeah, Heather, we'll take care of it, or whatever.

If I come to you at a two, we're not gonna be able to communicate either, because you're like, why aren't you taking this seriously? Like, my family almost died out there, right? So they get more mad too. So what you have to do is you have to come in at a seven because I do want to bring them down from a nine. I don't want them to stay at the nine.

I want to bring them down from a nine, but I'm not going to bring them down by being passive, by being any of those things. So instead we have to come in stern, right? There's coming in at a seven, we have to say, Hey look, Heather, I completely understand why you're agitated about this. If I were you, I'd be agitated about this too.

Totally 100% get where you're at. But here's the thing, as long as you're waving your arms and screaming around, we're not getting anywhere. So what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna need you and I to agree that we're gonna bring this down just a little bit, and we're gonna have a conversation where we're gonna get you the results that you ultimately deserve, right?

And when you come at somebody like that, you can communicate with them. They can go, okay, this person understands the urgency of what I'm saying, and they're doing this in a way that they can now bring me down. So tone scale and making sure you're within two of that person, whether you're trying to bring them up

or to bring them down, is one of the things that I learned that is I mean dramatically impacted my ability to communicate with people at all levels Across that entire spectrum and so yeah, you guys can look it up look up tone scales You can see all the differences where people are at but it's really important that you understand the Frequency that the other person is vibrating at right? and the frequency that the other person is vibrating at.

We are all vibrating at a frequency. If you look at it from an atomic level, everything's in motion at all times and those vibrations shift. Sometimes it's more frequent, sometimes it's less frequent. It's all attached to our emotion. It's all attached to what's going on in our surroundings. And so having an understanding that we have to get roughly on that same frequency

in order to be able to communicate is a huge deal. I'll give you an example, radio station, if you're listening to a radio, and I know some of your young people probably don't even know what a radio is, but if you're listening to a radio, you have to tune in to the exact frequency in order to get a clear signal. Now, if you're real close, if you're like within one, you

might get a fuzzy signal, right? If you're two or three away, you're not going to hear it period. Like you're going to a completely another station or channel. And that's how it is with human beings is we have to dial in that frequency and at least get really close, if not spot on, to the same level that other people are vibrating at in order for them to hear us and for us to be able to hear them. Is this similar to the law of attraction?

Cause that somewhat seems in regards to vibrating at a certain level, if you want to attract that opportunity or whatever it is that you need to get on that level. Yeah, a hundred percent. Like you have to position yourself energetically with the things that you want in life, right? We can't have, if we have a block, it's again, it's the mud, right? You can't, you can't see, we can only see and connect with,

I wanna make sure our word is the exact right way. So Grant Cardone said this on one of my podcast ones. He said, I put him up on top of a mountain top and I said, what would you tell the whole world? If all humanity was listening to you, what would you say? And Grant said, what you see in me exists in you, otherwise you wouldn't be able to see it. And it's just so true, right?

Once we get to the frequency of our dreams, the things that we wanna achieve, all of a sudden we start to see those opportunities that we never knew existed before. Before I was homeless in that whole season, to see those opportunities that we never knew existed before. Before I was homeless in that whole season, I was at a certain frequency. And in my belief system, my world,

I drew in shady characters like myself. Dark situations all of the time. I believed that everybody did drugs. I believed that everybody drank. I couldn't even imagine. Anybody that said they didn't do those things, they were a liar. Like it just was impossible for me to imagine

a life free of those things, right? And it wasn't until I started to dial up that frequency and get into some different circles and be exposed to some new ways of living that I was then able to climb into those spaces, right? But you can't climb into them if you don't know where they are. And that's all about getting into it.

You've got to get into them with your goals, your dreams, the visions, or you won't, you just won't be able to see the opportunities that'll get you there. And your mission, you know, going back to what you were saying earlier about serving, I just know for sure for me being in corporate America for a long time,

my objective was to make rich people richer, make the shareholders wealthier, and I always was missing that mission piece from my life. I didn't know it at the time, right? You only know what you know, but lo and behold, I get fired. I start my own business where a big part of what I do is empowering and helping other people. And then when I start getting the notes and the messages and I start feeling so positive, I truly believe that has me vibrating at a different level now where now doors open so much easier and the right door is open and opportunities are coming in left and right.

So I couldn't agree more with you. To the point about the tone scale, this is what popped into my mind. This makes total sense to me and I definitely want to deploy this in my day to day. However, how do you deploy that strategy when you're speaking to a group or you're speaking to a conference room or you're speaking at an arena at an event? You're going to love this Heather. So we don't know exactly where everybody's at in the room, right? We'll never necessarily know that.

However, sometimes I'm sure you've experienced where you can feel the energy in the room, right? We'll never necessarily know that. However, sometimes I'm sure you've experienced where you can feel the energy in the room, right? So ultimately it's a collective consciousness. It's this whole process. When people get together in a room, they all have the intention of being there. We have the attention and it's just like, I'll just say it.

It's just like when my, I'll just say it. It's just like when women start to cycle together, right? Like when you spend a lot of time and the intention is the same, those things type of have, sorry, that was a little embarrassing. That's just where my- No, but it is a fair point.

When women hang around together, groups of women hang around together very, very often, they do start cycling their menstrual cycle, aligns, and it just happens out of nowhere, like it's the weirdest thing. But you're right, that is a good example. Yeah, and that's all that energetic connection of a collective consciousness that's happening.

So what I do when I speak, and I suggest this for you, is I understand there are four major personality types. There's four major personality types. You've got your urchins, which are your very analytical people. They're introverted usually. Then you have your dolphins, which a dolphin is me. I am a dolphin.

They love the spotlight. They love all that. They're not necessarily the most organized, but they light up any room that they walk into. Then you have your sharks, which sharks are just out for blood. They don't care who gets in the way. They're just bricking getting after it, right? Grant's a shark. Then you have your whales, and the whales are like your save the world type people. So, Oprah would be a whale. Grant Cardo would be a shark. Richard Branson would be a dolphin. And Warren Buffett would be an urchin, right? To

give you an idea of the different personality types. So here's what I do. I use a combination of understanding the four different personality types, because I have to speak to all of them. Like if I go all sharky, sharky the whole time, if I'm all just like blood, you know, punch through 75% of the audience, I'm gonna lose them.

If I go all urchin data analytics spreadsheets in Excel, I'm gonna lose 75% of the audience. I'll have the urchins, but I'm gonna lose the other 75%. So knowing those four personality types, what I do is I actually pick four people in the audience. One of them becomes my urchin, one of them becomes my dolphin, one of them becomes my whale, one of them becomes my shark.

And I just label them when I get out there on stage, right? And I'll position myself to where, when I'm looking at the urchin, like if I know I've got data coming, stats, facts, whatever, I'll send those directly to the urchin, right? When I'm looking over at my dolphin, I'll go up tone, more energy, I'll bring the volume up, my mannerisms are a little bit more, right?

And I'll go into that while I'm delivering that portion of the talk. When I'm looking over at my shark, it's stern, fight, let's go, aggressive. I can, I will, I must, I can, I will, I must, right? For that person. And then when I'm looking over at the whale, I soft it and I bring my tone back down and we love and we hug

and we save the trees. Right. So that causes my talk to go through all these different levels on the tone scale because I'm looking at personalities changing my volume, my tone, my intention with each one causes me to go up and down the tone scale, which allows me to hit everybody in the room in a different way. So that's the strategy I use. It's been really impactful for me. I've never thought about that, but I'll tell you, it's so funny. I did a virtual talk, which is even harder because you can't feel the energy. Right. And I was doing a virtual talk for a very analytical group. And I'll tell you, it was one of my least

powerful talks. I even felt it. And it was so funny. I got on with a woman who had hired me after and I said, gosh, how did that go? I didn't get the sense it was amazing. She said, no, it was great. They're just a very low-key, dial-down kind of a group and that's typically not the audience I'm speaking to. And now to your point, I could have just pulled in a lot of data. I could have, on the tone scale, come down. You know, I just didn't intentionally think about that ahead of time. But this is it's very, very empowering to have this knowledge. So thank you, Glenn. This went by so fast.

How does everybody find you? How do they get a hold of you and how do they get more Glenn Lundy? I would love to connect with everybody. If you search Glenn Lundy, apparently I'm the only Glenn Lundy that I know that cares about anything media wise. And there's other Glenn Lundy's out there, but they must be in different businesses because I never see them online. So if you search my name there you can find me. One of the things I'm a big advocate of is morning routines right. If you change the way you start today it makes a

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