Date Yourself Instead - A Halloween storytime and my best manifestation tips

Episode Date: October 31, 2022

HAPPY HALLOWEEN! For all of you fellow witches out there, I know this day is very special to you because it is to me. This episode is going to be different. I’m diving into a crazy story about how my mom was almost murdered while she was pregnant with me. I’ll also be covering my best manifestation tips and practices for this spooky season. PS - if you have any fun Halloween plans, DM me on instagram @Lyss. I would love to hear what you’re up to tonight. Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube

This is a Halloween special of date yourself instead. Hello everyone and welcome to another episode of date yourself instead and happy Halloween. I am actually recording this before Halloween, obviously, but this is like my favorite time of year, this is one of my favorite holidays, even though I don't typically dress up, I haven't really found a costume yet or planned any sort of anything for this year. I don't even have any plans. So this year is probably going to be low key for me. Nothing too special, nothing too crazy.

Although I kind of wish I did have something to do, so I'll have to figure that out at some point. I'm just such a last minute person with everything, but hopefully I will figure something out. I usually do. I'm sure there's a ton of parties and events going on in New York City this year, so if anyone wants to invite me, send me a DM on Instagram at least. So today's episode is going to be a little bit different than what you're used to hearing. The first part of the episode, I'm going to be telling a crazy, scary story time about how my mom was literally almost murdered by a handyman that she hired to do renovations

in our house on Long Island, like he literally almost killed her. And this is a completely true story. I know I said that pretty casually, but I wasn't born yet. This was in October of 1992 and just a couple of months before I was born, but I asked her for the details and she gave me permission to share the story on the podcast. I thought it was very Halloween appropriate and it's a super insane story time. So that's gonna be part one of the podcast. And then the second part of this episode is gonna talk about manifestation and how to manifest in a magical way

because this is a Halloween episode. And I truly believe that I am a witch, now I'm kidding, sort of. But I'm just like psychic. I have very good intuition and I feel things energetically and I'm still discovering my abilities, but I don't know. I just have a lot of things that I've manifested that almost don't make any sense. And it's pretty wild and I'm going to share my top secrets and everything I know on how to someone back into your life, if you want to be in contact with someone you broke up with,

or if you just want to manifest someone new into your life, or something new into your life, or a new group of friends, or a specific goal in your career, whatever you really want. Just creating that sense of magic in your life to make your dreams a reality. I think it's such a cool thing to talk about, and it's how I've lived my life forever. Like I always knew that I could manifest anything I wanted into my reality. And it works. It really does. So I'm going to talk about those two things. It's going to be like black and white to totally different topics.

But I never want to leave my podcast on a scary, crazy note. And I feel like if I only share the scary Halloween story about my mom almost being murdered, like I just feel like I just don't want to end it like that. So we're going to talk about these two different things. And I hope you enjoy it. So let's dive right in. Okay. So what happened with my mom in October of 1992? She was 30 years old, she was pregnant with me, it was just a few months before I was born. My brothers went off to school, my mom was a housewife, a stay-at-home mom, she was home doing chores,

and my dad went off to work, and she was completely alone in our house on Lung Island. Since she was pregnant, my dad wanted her to stay home and take care of herself, and she was just providing for our family emotionally and doing chores around the house, keeping everything clean. As you know, having kids can be chaotic. So my dad was working, and my mom was a stay-at-home mom, and she loved it. She loved taking care of the kids and just keeping the house in check. So my dad was at work, my brothers were at school, and she was doing renovations on our

house. So we had a lot of construction going on, actually funny side story. There was an incident before this all happened with a construction in our house that felt pretty creepy to begin with. My parents were renovating the floors and when my mom was pregnant with me, the floors were not completely ready yet or sturdy yet. And she accidentally stepped on a hole in the floor and fell through the floor into the basement when she was like seven months pregnant with me. So that was the first weird creepy thing that happened. Thank God she wasn't injured. She, you know, still had a

completely non-complicated pregnancy with me. I'm fine. I don't know. Maybe that did something to my brain, but now I'm kidding. But like, she was pretty much okay, like coming out of that, but she did fall through the floor. And maybe she had a couple bruises, but from what I know, she was totally fine. Thank God. Anyways, after that incident of my mom falling through the floor, she's in the kitchen on a random morning doing the dishes and she hires a handyman to come put together a stand for the TV in our kitchen. She was just mining her own business, washing the dishes, and she leaves the garage door open.

I guess not thinking much of it. She just assumed, I guess, that like, when the handyman was here, he would knock on the door and she would let him in through the garage, or he would like ring the doorbell and come to the other side of the house where the front of the house was and ring the doorbell. As she's doing dishes and her back is turned towards the garage door, she feels like a presence lurking behind her. Like she just felt someone's energy behind her. You know when you feel someone like creeping up on you and you know someone's there but your back is turned and then you like look over your shoulder. It was one of those moments where she just like quickly turns around and there's a guy just standing behind her in the kitchen

with this creepy look on his face. Like totally freaky, just completely scared her and caught her off guard. And she was really startled. She stopped doing the dishes, turns off the sink. And then he proceeds to lecture her on leaving the garage door open. So this was the handyman that she hired, sneaking up behind her. His name was Carl and he basically told her after he scared her, like you should not leave the garage door open because anyone can come in here and sneak up behind you and kill you. And obviously that is such a weird and creepy

and inappropriate thing to say. And so what ends up happening is she gets freaked out. Her gut is telling her something is wrong with this guy, but she just, she's home alone, she kind of tries to ignore it, she's thinking maybe she's just being paranoid. But she definitely gets a weird vibe from him. He still proceeds to do the work putting together the TV stand in the kitchen, and he's still somewhat like friendly-ish to her throughout the process of him working in the house. He was with her for like a full hour and he tells her that he needs to go get some missing parts and he forgot something and he needs to come back the next day. So after an hour he ends up leaving the house so she doesn't really get any other weird vibes from him but she definitely remembered just feeling a little on edge and anxious

while she was alone with him. Like, you know when you know something is slightly off in the energy between you and someone else, but you can't really put your finger on it. Her intuition was just kind of kicking in saying he was just weird, but she didn't think he was like gonna harm her anything like that. There was not a thought in her head that he could be actually dangerous. So she continues on with her day and then she agrees to schedule another time for him to come back to the house. But then he just never ends up showing up. They re-scheduled for the next day and he disappears off the face of the planet. He never came back to the house or called her back to re-sched. And she was just genuinely confused, but also not that much time had gone by.

So she was like, maybe he's just really busy and he can come back later in the week. It turns out a few days later, it was like two or three days after he was supposed to come back to the house. My mom and my dad are eating breakfast in our kitchen and my mom turns on the news. And they hear an announcement that a man on Long Island was being arrested for the rape and murder of a woman nearby. So obviously,

they both look at the TV and they're listening. And out of nowhere, they see the handyman, Carl, that was standing in my mom's kitchen working on the TV stand, being arrested on television and being escorted by police and handcuffs to prison, I guess, or whatever. I have no idea. But my mom's like shocked. Like she is floored that this man that is now announced as a murderer was standing in the kitchen just a few days prior. He was literally a rapist and a murderer. And she was obviously hysterical also because she had been home alone at the time she was pregnant with me. That could have been her.

Obviously, I wouldn't be alive today. I wouldn't be here. It's insane to process and think about this because she could have been murdered so easily. But I asked her why she thought he didn't do it, and she said she thinks it was really because she was so pregnant with me, like she was about to give birth with me,

and maybe he was just put off by that, or maybe it was just pure luck, and he decided not to go through with it that day. But just to know and process in your head, like that easily could have been my mom, and she thinks process in your head, like that easily could have been my mom. And she thinks like in her head, like that could have been me, like talking to her about this story. She said she just gets chills talking about it because it's one of those things where you realize you came so close to death. And it's just such a chilling

and crazy situation. So yeah, that was how my mom was almost murdered by the guy that she decided to hire to do renovations in our house and he decided to do it elsewhere which is completely tragic and so sad and I know the woman that was murdered, I feel terrible, obviously, because it's such a sad situation, but I don't know the details on the case. I've tried to Google it, but it was so long ago, it was in 1992. So there wasn't a lot of news on the internet at the time yet, and it's such an old story that I couldn't find the specifics online. but there was someone else murdered tragically and it is such a sad situation and yeah, just one of those things where you hear it and you're like, oh my god, I cannot believe

that that could have been you, like that could have been my mom, like that could have been such a different outcome. And it's just so crazy to think about. Now, part two of this episode, I'm gonna do my best to pivot this into a lighter note because that was a very intense story time. And I don't wanna ever end my podcast with negative energy. So I'm gonna pivot the story time into manifestation and how I'm able to manifest things into my life. Now things could easily blocked when we're

not in a good mental place. And that is why I always say the power of your thoughts has everything to do with manifestation and just learning how to become a really powerful person by believing that you are that person already. The biggest thing I can say about attracting things that you want into your life is about really believing that it's already happened for you and believing that you already are that person that you want to be. When you say things out loud, such as that's impossible or that's never going to happen for me, it is deflecting your manifestations 100%. Like, if you are delusional in a way,

like delusionaly positive, I don't even know if that makes sense, but like, if you're just so sure of yourself that you're going to get what you want in a way that seems manic and crazy to other people, it's more likely to happen because when those negative thoughts creep in your head

and other people's feedback starts creeping into your head and like you start doubting your abilities because of what other people are saying like, oh, that's never gonna happen, that's impossible. Like you think too big, you dream too big. Like those things block your manifestations. That's also why I always tell people, like do not listen to anyone else.

And also like try to keep your manifestations to yourself. Try to keep it private and don't tell anyone what you're trying to accomplish because their energy can deflect your manifestations. Like if people don't want things to happen for you or they doubt your abilities, it can really infiltrate into your thoughts and like deflect your

manifestations. And it really does block things from happening. So try to keep what you want to yourself. I'm going to give an example of how I manifest, but also I want to clarify, there is also work to be done in manifestation. If you are trying to achieve a certain goal or thing, it's not just going to happen by sitting on your ass and blatantly thinking about it and then like moving on with your life. There are certain steps you're going to have to take, but those steps should feel good to you. And it's not going to feel like strenuous labor in order to get there. Like if you're really passionate about a specific goal and you really want something and the journey

is making you happy and excited, it will happen for you. And that's a part of the manifestation process just being excited about what you're working towards because that good energy is going to manifest it for you. If you're constantly complaining and crying and like straining to get to where you need to be, it can happen eventually over long periods of time with strenuous amounts of work, but if you're actually excited about it,

it'll manifest and happen a lot faster. An example is when I really wanted to go to India, but I had no idea how the fuck I was gonna go to India. Like in what world would I be traveling to India, I just didn't know, and I didn't wanna go alone. It just seemed so far away and so out of reach. And it was just a country I'd always wanted to visit, but I didn't have any opportunities to. And I had just set it out loud a couple of times that I would really love to go to India. But I never thought too deeply into it. I almost thought like it's something to put on the back burner

for another time in my life, but eventually I do really wanna go. So I kid you not, I remember this specific moment I was sitting in a coffee shop in New York City, and one of my followers from India had messaged me on Instagram and said, you know, we would really love for you to come visit our country,

and I replied back saying I would love to, but I had no set plans to go, but I would absolutely love to one day within a few hours of talking to one of my followers about it. I get an email from a brand saying they want to fly me out to India to work on a campaign. So not only was I going to India within the next few weeks, but I was getting paid to go to India. And I was shocked because I was like, how did this even happen? Like, how is this real? But the truth is, it was because I manifested it. I almost believed that I was going to go there at some point, but I didn't harp on the details of how it was going to

happen and how I was actually gonna get there. I just believe that eventually I would be there. So when you stop focusing on the how of things and how things could turn out and just believe that it will happen for you in one form or another, no matter what way you cut it, it will happen for you. And that's when your manifestations come into your life and you will

allow them into your life because you're not focused on the how and how am I going to do this and how is this possible and how I'm going to get there. Those thoughts are blocking the manifestations from coming your way. Those how questions deflect your manifestations. And I really do believe this because every time I've said something that I really wanted and I just trusted it and I really do believe this because every time I've said something that I really wanted and I just trusted it and I trusted that it was going to unfold in whatever way it decided to unfold, it ended up happening for me. Now let's talk about manifestation if you want to manifest your ex-boyfriend back or your ex-girlfriend back. I wasn't sure if I should touch on this one because if it was a toxic situation, you should not be trying to manifest them back

But if you really think this person was your soulmate and you were madly in love with them And they treated you right and for some reason you're just not together right now I've been there so I completely get it. I definitely understand and I definitely wanted to manifest certain people back into my life at one point or another So I'm just gonna share how I did it. Another disclosure though, the relationships and the people that I've attracted back into my life, although it worked in the moment, it was still a temporary thing, because the universe had other plans for me and was trying to redirect me to something better,

like usually when things end, they end for a reason. And none of these people and these situations and relationships, none of them ended up working out regardless because they just weren't the right people and situations for me. But in the moment, I remember I just really wanted to talk to my ex-boyfriend again and I wanted to give it another go and see if things had changed. So if you really want this opportunity by all means go for it, but in no way am I trying to promote attracting your ex back if they were shitty to you and they didn't treat you right, like you know you deserve better. So I just wanted to clarify that

before diving into this. So the first thing is if they were with you at some point and they were dating you and they were in love with you at some point, that could happen again. It's totally possible. The thing is, you have to become that person when you first met them. Who were you before you were in a relationship with this person? Were you sad and miserable about them and missing them? No, because you didn't even know them yet. You had no idea who the fuck they were. And you were amazing and powerful and you still are, but if you're like in that weird phase

after a breakup where you're really missing them and like you're sad and depressed, like you have to pull yourself out of that in order to attract them back in. When you feel good and when things are aligned and going really well for you in your life and then that person reaches out again, it's for a reason. It's because they feel your energy and they feel yourself getting better. Like they feel you getting better. As weird as that sounds, it's so true.

People and circumstances that are right for you show up in your life when you're at the best version of yourself. And if you ascend to an even higher level without this person and you become an even stronger and more independent and powerful person post break up They're gonna want to talk to you again They're gonna feel that energy and want to communicate with you again

And if they don't if there is a situation where you are healed and you are doing better and they still don't contact you I promise you you will just end up attracting someone so much more amazing and better circumstances into your life and better relationships into your life that you won't even miss them anymore. You won't even care anymore because you've leveled up so much. So it's only benefiting you by working on yourself to become a powerful, happier, healthier version of yourself. Like, you have nothing to lose by working towards that. So one of two things are going to happen, but both are positives. It's either they're going to come back into your life and you're going to manifest and attract them back into your life, or you're going to level up so much to the point where you don't give a shit anymore about this person anyway, and you're going to find better circumstances and people for you.

Every single time I've gotten anyone back into my life, I was in an amazing place in my life. That's a fact. I was in a powerful, high vibe state. And that's the key to manifesting anyone back. It's when you don't need them. It's when you're so happy with your own life and so in love with yourself and your own life that you really don't need them anymore. And then they magically appear again or you just end up finding something or someone better. Once you truly let go, that's when all your manifestations come into fruition. And I'll definitely record a more in-depth episode about this and also like detaching from situations that no longer serve you because that could also help you with your manifestations. But that is really how you get someone to come back into your life.

All right, guys. I have to go figure out what I'm doing for Halloween now. Maybe pick out a costume and try to find some plans. So I hope everyone has an amazing and happy Halloween. Stay safe. Thank you so much for listening and stay tuned for the next one. one.