Date Yourself Instead - How to manifest a specific person back into your life
Episode Date: December 25, 2023How to manifest a specific person! Listen intentionally with caution. I want you to be happy overall, so I want you to manifest someone ONLY if you truly feel they were your person. Also I feel like I...'m going to get cancelled for being a cold hearted Capricorn in this episode because I discuss my icks, but oh well. In this episode I also talk about my experience from dating apps recently and some fun life updates. Enjoy! :) JOIN THE DARE TO DETACH MASTERCLASS Are you tired of constantly holding onto what or WHO isn't good for you? Are you feeling stuck and discouraged because you KNOW your higher self is calling for a massive upgrade? Are you ready to become a new, more powerful, more fearless, more unstoppable YOU? Let’s do this. It is TIME to uplevel into the most amazing version of you. MY DARE TO DETACH masterclass is designed to help you let go and set yourself free so you can UPGRADE YOUR LIFE baby. THERE'S NO MORE TIME TO WASTE. REMEMBER TO USE CODE "SELFLOVE" FOR $20 OFF.
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Okay, guys. So I'm on Raya. Yes, I have a huge announcement. I've downloaded a dating app for the first time in many years.
I haven't been on any dating app since 2019 and I've been pretty good at manifesting relationships without the use of any dating apps.
And any time I've used a dating app, it's just been an epic fucking nightmare.
So I've just tried to avoid them at all costs. However, I've been doing it more as a social experiment for myself and also to learn more about myself and learn about dating in
2023 and 2024 because I know a lot of people have actually met their significant others on
dating apps nowadays. And I feel like in general dating has just shifted and changed so much over
the years. And social media has facilitated that. Dating apps have facilitated that.
You got it.
You probably know, I'm sure there's many of you
who will have met your significant others
through dating apps or online or social media.
So yeah, I've never really tested it out
or given it a fair shot.
There was a year period of time, 2019,
where I went on a dating app rampage and I was dating
heavily in New York City, but then I just got so fatigued from the apps and I
was like, this is not working. I kept meeting up with people that just didn't want
anything serious and it never really went anywhere productive. So at the end of
2019, I actually deleted all of my dating apps and I was like, I'm done.
This just isn't working and it's not for me.
And within a couple of weeks,
I met my next boyfriend searching for an apartment.
And I felt like I had manifested it
because I had always said I don't feel like my partner
or anyone I would date would be someone I would meet
on a dating app.
And I think he was using dating apps,
but I never would have swiped on him.
No offense to him, like I love him to death, and I always will, but no offense to him.
I'm very attracted to him, but at the same time, like I just don't think he would have
been my typical type that I would swipe on a dating app. So I probably would never have
met him that way, regardless. Anyways, there were a few crazy situations I encountered while I was in London
for the holidays. I went back to London. Yes, I did. For those of you who listened to
the podcast regularly, you know that I love it there. And I spend a lot of time there.
However, this time, I realized that I'm probably never fucking going back there. And as much
as I love the city itself, I just had so many
crazy bad things happen to me during this trip, which you probably heard about if you've
been following me on social media. But if you want to go check out the full rundown
of what was happening, you can go to my Instagram at date yourself instead and check out my
reels where I talk about the most insane dating stories
that happened while I was in London,
as well as me having no variance
just that ruptured in the middle of the night
and I almost had to go to the hospital.
It was really scary.
And there was just a bunch of stuff combined
where I felt like my hotel room was haunted
and I just felt like weird energy all around.
Like I wasn't supposed to be there.
And I ended up canceling the rest of my trip
and leaving early.
And the first time I tried to cancel it,
my flight got canceled.
So then I was stuck there for an extra two days,
had to spend an extra $1,000 on accommodations and cabs
and food and it was just a whole shit show.
Okay, I'm very glad to be back in New York.
Not to go too off topic here, but I never met
anyone of significance while I was in London this time around. I used the apps. Everything was going
wrong. I was like, okay, if anything, I stand by this idea of not using them because I just can't.
I cannot waste my energy and my precious valuable time that I've spent the last year and
a half building myself a steam and my confidence and healing and doing the inner work and to go
through these experiences again where I feel like I'm back at square one with dating.
I just can't.
And I know I'm actually not back at square one because I have boundaries now.
And if something doesn't feel right, I immediately cut it off, whereas maybe in the past I used to drag it out. But still, the
audacity that some of these people have, the audacity that these men have, this one guy
literally asked if he could call me a car to his apartment without ever meeting him beforehand,
literally in the middle of the night, it was like almost midnight and he's like, let me
call you a cab. No, sorry, he said, am I calling you a cab
in a very aggressive weird tone?
And he cut off the conversation just to ask me
if I was coming over to have sex with him basically.
Just stuff like that where I'm like,
how do men even still talk to women this way
and get away with it?
Like with no shame, with no remorse,
they just have no respect or class at all.
Anyways, so I end up going back to New York
and I literally had deleted the dating app off of my phone.
And I am on like this trial where my subscription ends
at the end of the month, so I'm like, okay,
I'm done with this app anyway.
I'm not paying for it anymore.
This is absolutely ridiculous and a waste of money and time.
And this morning, before I got to the podcast studio,
I was bored and I was like, wait,
like I still have my subscription to this dating app.
Maybe I should just read, download it for a hot second
and just see what's up in New York.
And of course, like, open my app
and I had matched with this guy from Australia
that I have never seen before.
I don't remember if I had liked him a couple of days ago
or a week ago, I really don't remember.
But he was pretty attractive, and he was making me laugh.
And it made my morning, because he was making me crack up,
because he was asking me what the biggest I find in a guy
are.
And that was just entertaining to talk.
It was just an entertaining conversation.
And it made me crack up, because if anything,
I was making myself laugh more, because I was telling him
that there was a time where I walked into a first date,
and the guy stuck his tongue out at me
and gave me this weird, creepy date and the guy stuck his tongue out at me and gave me this weird creepy smile where he stuck his tongue out and was like showing all of his teeth and scrunching
his face up and I was like, dude, absolutely fucking not. We're not doing this right now. I'm done.
And that might sound like I'm being extremely mean
and fucked up, but I just can't certain things.
If I just meet you and you go all out
and you're doing weird things with your face,
can you tell I'm a Capricorn?
I feel like we're just stone cold and heartless
in the beginning of dating.
Like when I'm initially getting to know someone,
you have to play it cool with me
because I'm playing it cool. And you have to match my energy and kind of mirror what I'm initially getting to know someone, you have to play it cool with me because I'm playing it cool.
And you have to match my energy
and kind of mirror what I'm doing.
Or else I get so easily turned off.
And that might be really horrible.
And I feel like maybe that's why I'm still sad.
I'm kidding.
But like, it was just this weird thing.
Like I can't even really reenact it.
It's just like obviously a person to person situation.
But yeah, that was one big Ick
and I was telling him like, yeah,
like this guy stuck his tongue out at me
and I was creeped out.
And then I was thinking about another Ick for me
where if I see a grown man licking an ice cream cone,
you're done.
This is so extreme.
I'm gonna get so much backlash.
I feel like I'm gonna get these vicious DMs
later being like, you're a fucking bitch.
But I cannot witness if it's the first or second or third date
and your grown man licking an ice cream cone passionately,
it's just so bizarre to me.
That image in my head, go Google it, okay?
Google man licking an ice cream cone
and screenshot it and send it to anyone
and get their opinion, okay, it's weird,
it's fucking weird, not like eating out of a cup, okay?
That's fine, but if you're a grown man licking
an ice cream cone with sprinkles walking around,
I don't know, something about that.
But it freaks me out or giggling.
Giggling is another one.
Okay, so I also have this thing and I do attribute it
to being a capricorn because a lot of people
have told me this.
I have a very dry sarcastic sense of humor.
It's a very specific type of humor
where I'm very overly sarcastic and I'm like monotone in a way,
but I can still be super sarcastic and funny,
but someone really has to understand that
and keep up with it and understand
that I'm being sarcastic.
And I need a man who gets that
and breaks me out of my hard Capricorn shell.
And it's very hard to find someone
that makes me genuinely laugh all the time.
So this guy was actually getting it,
who's making me crack the fuck up.
And a big ik for me is if I'm the one making you laugh
the whole time and you're giggling like a little baby.
Like I, I don't know how to explain this,
but I've experienced this before,
where a man just was like laughing
at everything I was saying, but I wasn't being entertained by him.
And it felt like I was like putting on a show and a performance, and I had to actually
force my way through the conversation and perform during the date, if that makes sense.
I don't know if it's actually an IK, but it's more like,
if I'm not being entertained and I'm just being the entertainer right off the bat, that's just someone that I wouldn't necessarily want to be with. I love someone who can banter with me
and we could go back and forth and make each other laugh maybe equally or they're making me laugh more.
That's such a huge, huge, huge, huge thing for me. Anyways, I might sound like a fucking asshole right now
and you guys are gonna turn my podcast off
and never listen to it again, be like,
wow, I didn't realize.
Yeah, I didn't realize how mean you are.
Take these things lightly, okay?
I'm half kidding in a sense because obviously,
I think if you had a genuine connection with someone,
nothing's really gonna turn you off.
I truly believe that and this whole Ick thing is gotten completely out of hand on social media and technically everything could be an Ick now.
But for me, I really believe that if you love someone enough and you care about their...
Like if you genuinely feel a connection and a spark and a vibe, nothing is really going to scare you away from that.
So yeah, I think I X are only applicable when you never
could have seen yourself with that person in the first place, if that makes sense.
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Now, let's get into the episode. How to
manifest a specific person back into your life. So now I want to preface this
episode by really saying this podcast is literally called date yourself instead
and I'm fully aware of the message I'm trying to send on here. We're all about
self-love, self-empowerment, and doing your own thing and the last thing that
should be on your mind is trying to manifest a specific person
back.
But I know how it goes.
Okay, we're human.
Sometimes we miss people and we want them back in our lives because we had an amazing
relationship with them and we miss them and we feel like maybe they were the one, but
maybe the timing was off.
Maybe there were certain circumstances
that just prevented you from being with them and you want them back in your life. So what the fuck do
you do? The truth is at the end of the day, no matter how many tips and tricks I give you about
dating yourself instead, I know how hard it could be when you feel like you lost the love of your
life or you lost someone that meant so much to you and you just want them to be a part of your life still. And if you truly, if you truly truly believe this person is the one
with all of your heart and soul and you are not living in delusion where they treated you poorly
and you just want them back because you have no one else right now, then this episode is for you.
I don't want to promote you manifesting someone that's not right for you because that's a totally different situation.
This is for the people who know that
this is the one. This is the person that they should be with. Or if you're just looking to manifest someone that's actually
right for you and you're looking to manifest your soulmate, keep listening, right? But don't
try to
put all your energy towards someone that treated you like fucking garbage
because that's not gonna benefit anyone, especially you in the long run.
It's gonna bite you in the ass because even if you do end up manifesting that person back,
it's gonna end up in the same cycle and the same toxic pattern where you're gonna end up hurt again and again and again
and I've done this before and that's why I highly advise against that.
So just be aware of what you're doing and what your intentions are before moving forward
and before listening to the rest of this episode. I want you to understand
the universe does not fuck up your plans and your journey. This is your unique life path,
and this is just the timing of your life. Sometimes breakups and separations between people need to happen
in order for each person to grow individually and do the inner work. And sometimes breakups
just need to happen in order for you to take time for yourself to heal and do things on your own,
okay? Timing is everything when it comes to relationships. Sometimes people just aren't ready,
or maybe you're not ready. It could go either way.
Sometimes people need to separate because each individual just truly has shit to figure
out, and that's okay.
And it happens all the time.
No relationship is perfect.
I've heard countless stories of people who have broken up for months or even years, and
they ended it back together because they just needed to do inner work and healing on their
own before being in an actual healthy relationship for the long term.
I also want to go into this episode with a really balanced, practical way of giving advice where I'm not giving you insane amounts of false hope because
there's a difference between being open to receiving love and trying to manifest the heck a specific person, and then understanding that,
you know, everything happens for a reason,
and sometimes things have to end to clear space
for someone new and even better to walk into your life.
You have to really evaluate what's right for you,
and you have to really be the ultimate judge of that.
If you were constantly on edge and anxious and depressed
and miserable around someone and they were draining
the fucking life out of you,
you have to really reevaluate and be honest with yourself.
Do you actually wanna manifest them back
or do you wanna manifest the love of your life,
someone who treats you and worships you like gold
and makes you feel like an even better version of you?
What do you actually want?
Do you think this person's actually gonna be able
to show up for you in the way that you want them
to show up for you?
Or do you think you're just wasting your fucking time
by trying to get them back into your life?
Your ego is inflated for a little bit
because you're like, oh my God, I got them back.
And then we'll end up in the same toxic cycle
that it could have been before.
Or maybe if it wasn't necessarily that toxic,
and you just believe you're supposed to be together,
then fine, but just be really honest with yourself
and be really clear about the situation at hand,
because you don't want to waste your time.
You have to really get real with yourself
and try to figure out why you want them back
in your life in the first place,
were they really benefiting your life?
Were they making you a better person?
Were you waking up every day happy with them in your life
or were you anxious and stressed out
and crying all the time?
Get real with yourself before you move forward
with this process, okay?
Because the last thing you would want is to waste your time
and drain yourself even more and go back into a toxic pattern.
The universe ultimately knows what's best for you.
And if you're trying to manifest someone
that's really, really, really not supposed to be in your life, what I will say is that it could be really difficult to do
that because the universe, if you're a good person and you have a good heart, the universe
might be divinely protecting you and helping you move away from that person at all costs.
So even if you try this manifestation technique and it's not working and you're getting blocked,
it could also be for very good reason
and divine protection that you're not seeing
because you're blinded and you're not being real with yourself.
Because maybe this person actually wasn't the love of your life
and they were just really toxic
and it was some sort of weird trauma bond
because that happens all the time
and we can get so blinded and caught up in the BS
because we're emotional and
we're like, oh my God, you know, I can't see myself with anyone else.
Meanwhile, you were crying every day and you were not happy.
So really, do you really not think you can do any better?
The universe knows you can do better, so it might intentionally block you from manifesting
this person back.
So keep out of these facts in mind, okay?
For example, when I had manifested my ex-boyfriend back
four times, okay, there were four different occasions where I just could not get over him
for the life of me. And yeah, I still love him. I don't, I think it's, I've come to accept
that he's that one person for me that I'm always going to have so much love for because
the overall relationship was not toxic. It was very good. But I would always think I need a back.
I need a back.
How do I do this?
And I would detach in a healthy way
and still focus on myself.
But in the back of my head, I was like,
he's the one I need to be with him.
And then he would come back.
And what would happen was the same fucking pattern
would repeat where we would just have to end up breaking up again.
And it's not to say I regret any of those experiences that when we did get back together because
I learned even more throughout that process and sometimes that needs to happen to repeat
mistakes and patterns in order for you to really drill it in your head that it's not
working.
But what I will say is nothing really changed.
And if you want to evolve and change and level up and you want
to actually find the love of your life, really keep that in mind when you're trying to manifest
an X-back because you might repeat the same pattern over and over and over again and it's
really going to get you nowhere in the long run. So just keep all this in mind when you're
trying to manifest your X-back because it's ultimately your judgment call and you know what you're looking for and you probably know what you're going
to get out of the situation if they're back in your life.
So let's get into the formula.
Okay, I'm just going to get straight to the point so I don't waste too much of your time.
I know I'm not wasting your time, but I just wanted to preface the episode in this way
because I want you to have good clear judgment when you're doing something like this because this brand is important.
Okay, the whole day yourself instead of moving the whole purpose is to honor your truth and
know your worth and know your boundaries and know what you deserve.
And I don't want anyone to fall into a toxic pattern of entertaining someone that's not
worth your time and entertaining someone that doesn't value and appreciate you because you could technically manifest
anything or anyone back, but is it right for you?
Ask yourself that question, is it right for you?
Okay, now let's dive into the formula.
The first step is genuine detachment.
You have to get so unattached to the outcome
of what it's gonna be with this person.
Now I know that sounds like it makes no sense
because the whole point is to attract this person,
but you cannot attract anything into your life
if you're clinging onto it desperately
and projecting your energy at it all the time
because that's actually repelling it
from coming into your life.
In order to attract anything,
you have to focus your energy inwards.
So you become magnetic and you'll draw situations
and circumstances and people in when you are most focused in
words and on yourself.
So how do you really detach?
I get into the nitty gritty details in my master class,
Dare to Detach, of course, which is why I created it in
the first place and why I talk about it so much.
The Dare to Detach program will set the entire foundation for
the rest of your life because it's literally there to to reprogram your brain into detach and let go and free yourself
from clinging onto the past. But I'm also going to give you the free advice on the podcast,
which is being extremely aware of your thought process. You have to be so aware of what you're
thinking on a daily basis and also
what you're feeding your brain on a daily basis because it's affecting your subconscious mind
and your programming. Detachment comes from a genuine rewiring of your entire thought process.
So when you wake up in the morning, if this person is the first thing on your mind and you
start replaying memories and you start thinking about ways you can get back together with
them and how you miss them and how you wish you were with them and
you're crying and you're upset and you're constantly thinking of those thoughts in your
head.
That is causing so much resistance to actually attracting them back into your life.
So when you wake up, I want you to immediately do a meditation, go to YouTube, type in quantum
jumping meditation, find one that resonates with you or type in a meditation, go to YouTube, type in quantum jumping meditation, find one that resonates
with you, or type in a meditation that resonates with you.
It could be really any morning meditation.
Joe D'Spenza has amazing ones.
You could YouTube, Joe D'Spenza morning meditation, look it up, and I want you to envision
your higher self giving you advice.
Would the best version of you approve of that person in your life?
And also, how do you want to show up in the world?
What's important to you?
Who are you?
What direction are you trying to go in?
Is this person really idealistically
going to be a part of your future?
Or are you just holding onto the past
because you're afraid to be alone?
And you're afraid to truly let go
and become an even more empowered version of you?
Sometimes we're afraid to let go
because we don't know what the future actually holds
and we're scared to tap into our higher self
because we're not really sure of what the unknown consists of.
But the truth is, the universe is constantly guiding us
and protecting us when things aren't clicking
and things aren't working.
And when they're constantly getting blocked,
it's always a blessing in disguise.
So just be aware of that and really get clear
with yourself, is this person the husband of your children?
Is this person going to be there for you
when you're laying in bed sick?
And in your wedding vows, you say,
in sickness and in health, right?
Is a person actually gonna show up for you 24-7
or are they gonna ghost you?
Like they did 30 times in the past.
Is this person actually a reliable partner?
You have to be completely honest with yourself.
And then sometimes that'll even make you change your mind about them.
When you really, really reflect and you start doing this inner work,
you could detach the point where you're like turned off by their old behaviors
where you know that they're not even the right person anymore.
And this has happened to me on several occasions.
I also want you to keep in mind.
If you're constantly communicating to the universe
that you want someone or you want something,
and you're saying, I want them, I need them, I miss them.
You're communicating to the universe that they're not in your life,
and you don't already have them.
And the key to attracting and manifesting
is knowing that it's already a part of your life
and trusting that it's already yours.
You're only going to attract experiences
and people into your life
when you already feel like it's a part of your life.
You have to make it a part of you.
You have to act as if this person
is already a part of your life
and it's not something you've lost, right?
Because if you constantly say,
I miss them, I need them, I need them, I need them.
It's actually driving them energetically further away.
The next step is I want you to keep yourself in check and make sure you're actually in
alignment with this other person and you can really, really see a future with them.
I just mentioned this, but you have to be realistic when it comes to making
decisions about the person you want to spend your time with, your time is precious, your energy is
precious, your energy is valuable, it's your currency. Okay, if you're directing all of your energy
towards someone who's not doing the same for you and who doesn't give a shit about you, what are you doing?
Are they trying to manifest you back?
Think about that.
Are they trying to bend over backwards to see you
and make you a part of their life?
Probably not.
If you're listening to this
and you're trying to manifest them back,
you're like, okay, you would know if they wanted you.
You would know if they wanted to be with you.
So get real with yourself.
The only way for them to come back into your life
or for anything to come into your life
is when you're okay without it.
You have to be okay and willing to accept your life
without this person and have the ability to fill your cup
with or without them.
They don't need to fill your cup for you.
You have to fill your own cup.
That's the only chance you have at actually getting them back into your life when you're okay without them. They don't need to fill your cup for you. You have to fill your own cup. That's the only chance you have at actually getting them back into your life when you're okay without them.
And the next step. If you're really, really, really looking to manifest them back or you're
looking to manifest the love of your life in general, it doesn't have to be a specific person even,
but this is something that I've done. It's almost foolproof. It's worked for me on three separate
occasions. It might sound a little weird, but I've also, it's almost foolproof, it's worked for me on three separate occasions.
It might sound a little weird, but I've also made an entirely separate episode about this
called How to Metafist your Soulmate.
I'm mentioning it again.
I want you to buy a card, like an actual physical card, that you would buy for a significant
other if you were already in love with them and in a healthy solid relationship with them.
And I want you to write a letter to this person if they existed or they are already your
partner and the love of your life.
Dear love of my life, I appreciate you so much.
I love waking up next to you.
I love traveling the world with you.
You're my best friend.
You're my soulmate.
I couldn't ask for a better partner, a better support system.
You are an amazing partner to me,
and you make me feel like the best version of myself,
et cetera, et cetera.
You get the point,
you can write really whatever the fuck you want.
Anything that resonates with you
that you would actually write to a significant other.
And I want you to keep that letter
and put it in a safe place,
but then forget about it.
Just write it out, take 30 to 40 minutes, whatever amount of time you need to craft a really
meaningful letter, and then put it away, put it in a drawer, put it somewhere safe, and
just move on and forget about it, okay?
And don't look back.
Just know that you sent the message out as if this person already exists.
Because the key to manifestation is feeling like that person already exists.
And I find that this letter technique is very powerful because it's essentially programming your mind
to believe that you're about to give this letter to someone.
You're about to give this letter to someone special.
someone. You're about to give this letter to someone special. Now, the last and final step is to fully trust and surrender to the universe and just let go and start living your best
life, focus on yourself, date yourself instead, move on. Don't hyper focus on anyone other
than yourself. Don't cling onto this idea of,
oh, I need this person.
I'm miserable without them.
I'm never gonna find anyone stop feeding your brain
those thoughts and constantly put the energy back
into you and say, I love myself.
I'm amazing.
I'm going to attract the most amazing person,
regardless if it's this person or someone else,
and I deserve the world.
And in the meantime, I'm gonna take care of me.
I'm gonna do me, I trust that my person's coming.
I trust that they are coming.
Trust is the key.
You need to fundamentally trust that they are coming.
And I want you to get really honest with yourself.
Are you the best version of you right now?
Could you be doing more to feel better about yourself?
Could you be investing more energy into you right now? Could you be doing more to feel better about yourself? Could you be investing more energy into you right now?
Could you be doing more self-care?
Could you be taking better care of your mental health?
Be real.
Would you date you?
Would you actually date yourself?
Be your own fucking soulmate right now, okay?
That's the best thing you could do in order to manifest
anyone or anything into your life,
be your own soulmate. Love yourself so deeply that it does not matter if you are with someone
or not. And that is usually when they come. And with that being said, that concludes today's
episode. Be sure to check out the masterclass Dare to Detach. Doors open December 19, 2023. I am
so excited for all of our new members
who are ready to join. Send me a DM, send me a message if you have any questions at all
on Instagram. My Instagram handle is at date yourself instead, just like the podcast.
I love you. Thank you as always for listening and being here and stay tuned for new and improved
episodes in the new year. I am so excited.
I'm going to be doing way more video content, way more travel content, and way more dating
content.
It's going to be fucking incredible.
I am so grateful for all of you.
I hope you have an amazing, amazing holiday season.
I hope you have an amazing rest of your holidays for those of you who are celebrating.
And I love you. I celebrating. And I love you.
I appreciate you. I value you.
Thanks again.
And stay tuned for future episodes.