Date Yourself Instead - Let go of them and become MAGNETIC as f*ck

Episode Date: February 6, 2023

We all know how this story goes; You’re in love or like with someone but you’re holding on too tight. When you choose to let go of them, they sense it and try to come right back into your life. In this episode I build on how to take your POWER back after a breakup and talk about what being magnetic means, what letting go looks like and the empowerment you’ll feel when you experience the freedom of stepping into your higher self. Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube

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And they feel that, they feel that energy from you. But the second you finally get over them, what happens? They come right back into your life almost instantly as if they have psychic, spidey senses. This person fucking knows you've cut energetic ties with them. And then what do they do? They weasel their way, right back into your life, try and talk to you again, call you again, text you again, and communicate with you again.

When someone feels like they don't have control over you energetically, or they don't have control over the situation anymore, they can feel that. Energy between human beings and everything, because everything is really divinely connected, it's just so powerful. The whole world is made up of energy, and us as human beings are also made up of energy. So when we shift our energy inwards, we become magnetic. We start to focus on ourselves, we start to become the best versions of ourselves, we're grinding, we're magnetic. We start to focus on ourselves, we start to become the best versions

of ourselves. We're grinding, we're getting up in the morning, getting up earlier in the morning, we're making our coffee, we're going to the gym, we're getting back into a routine, and we're starting to really focus down on ourselves. And then those people we were holding on to so tight for dear life, and we were trying to make them stay and trying to make the relationship work, or or friendship or whatever it is, they suddenly realize that we aren't giving them our power anymore. They can sense it and feel it and that's always when they come back into our lives. Hello everyone and welcome to another episode of Date Yourself Instead.

I hope everyone is having an incredible day so far. If you haven't already, be sure to rate the podcast on Spotify and Apple. It would be so appreciated as usual. Takes two seconds. I love your feedback. I love your DMs. I love your messages. It makes me so happy. All right. So I really just wanna dive right in. I'm so excited to talk about this because letting go of a person, it's so crazy, how it makes you so magnetic and so attractive

and so powerful and this really ties into stepping into your power and becoming the absolute best version of yourself. And if you haven't already listened to the how to take your power back after a breakup episode, I highly recommend you go ahead and listen to that episode as well, because it definitely connects to what we're going to be discussing in this episode.

Now, letting go of someone can be really, really hard and challenging. And we've all been there. I've experienced it. I'm sure you're experiencing it or you have experienced it in the past. And everyone that I've spoken to in my life has had at least one person in their life

that they can't fucking let go of. We've all had this relationship where we're literally holding on to someone for dear life because we're in love with them. And we would bend over backwards to make the relationship work, and we're literally obsessed with everything that they are. But clearly, they're not really reciprocating, or they're not feeling it on their end, and it's not very mutual anymore. And then they decide to walk away.

Now, you could choose to do one of two things if someone decides to walk right out of your life. You can either keep holding onto them and grieving and suffering and glue yourself to their energy even more, which will most likely push them further away, or you can consciously decide to take your power back and choose to let go of that person, that let go of you. Now that might sound a little direct in harsh, but those really are your two options. You could either stay stuck in a situation that's no longer serving you and immerse yourself in toxic energy where this person does not want to be with you, does not want to reciprocate,

and you could be sad for months or you could flip it around and reclaim your power and choose to consciously detach from this person that isn't putting in the same effort that you were putting in. You deserve 100%. If you're putting out 100%, you deserve 100%. And if this person wasn't doing it for you, it wasn't the right situation. Does that mean things can't change? I always say this.

No. Energy shifts and changes. It wasn't the right situation. Does that mean things can't change? I always say this, no. Energy shifts and changes. Whatever the situation was, I'm sure you had a great relationship and this isn't to invalidate anyone's experience, but if you're no longer together because of this person and they walked away from you, you have to let go of them if you want any chance of actually

rekindling this relationship. You have a much higher chance of attracting this person back into your life and getting back together with them. If you actually let go of them, and I know this sounds kind of like it doesn't make sense, but everything is made up of energy as I said in the beginning of this episode, and everything is energetic.

So people can feel it when you're obsessive over them. People could feel it when you're deeply in love with them and you're chasing after them and you're running towards them at lightning speed. People can actually sense that. And in order to have a chance at really making anything work with this person again, you need to step into who you are and take your power back and focus on yourself and channel every job of energy you're directing towards them back into yourself. Okay, so what does being a magnetic person actually mean?

We have to understand the term magnetic first. A magnetic person is someone who's able to draw people into their life and make them feel really connected and engage. A magnetic person walks into the room and lights up the room. A magnetic person is someone that you just want to be around. It's someone that draws in so many different types of people because they have such a good positive, vibrant energy. This type of person is usually confident within themselves and charismatic and engaging. Honestly, I don't know if I'm charismatic, I would

say though I have a sense of self-confidence and security within myself where I'm able to meet a lot of different types of people because I've done the inner work. This usually comes with a lot of inner work and a lot of self-reflection. A magnetic person is super engaging and they have an ability to make others feel good too because you're radiating good and positive energy. The first step to becoming this type of person is to develop a strong sense of self-confidence. Confidence is so important when it comes to dating and relationships in general. And it's not about pleasing anyone else, okay? Self-confidence is for yourself.

Doing the inner work to heal parts of yourself and love yourself and radiate self-love is all for you. It's all for your highest good and for your benefit. This isn't too necessarily get anyone else back into your life or to have a ton of friends or relationships, although all those things come with it, this should be solely for you. And then everything else will follow. It's super important to

remember that confidence is something that can always change and improve over time too. There are moments in my life, even in my late 20s, you know, as many things as I've been through, I still have so many moments where I do feel insecure and I don't feel like the best version of myself. And I'm not so confident. We're all gonna have our moments in time where we don't feel super confident. But the more you work on it, like a muscle, the more you work on it, because it's a skill, the better it becomes and the easier it becomes to step into your power and really feel good about yourself. Something I do to become really confident in who I

am is just taking a long time to myself. At least 10, 15 minutes a day, I'll make sure to set aside some quality time to reconnect with my inner voice. I'll either meditate or I'll do some breath work or I'll do a yoga class. I've been really getting into yoga lately. I'll just take some time aside every single day to connect with who I am and really just recollect my thoughts and make sure that I'm aligned for the day. If I'm having a really rough morning and I'm really stressed out and I'm not feeling very confident in myself. I don't beat myself up up over it because it's human and it's okay to have days like this. But I really just try to center my thoughts and my energy and try to snap myself out of it by doing something productive that'll make me feel good.

As I just said, meditating or journaling, I like to write down my feeling sometimes, or I'll make a voice note and give myself my own little pep talk, or I'll go for a long walk with my headphones in and listen to a podcast to clear my head. Just doing something to get your brain in a healthier head space, it always helps. And the more you practice this and the more you practice, redirecting any sort of negativity going on in your head into something positive

and the more you consciously choose to redirect your thoughts in a positive way, it really does help and it really does help with self-confidence. Now another huge thing that comes with being a more confident person and being more magnetic is to be authentic with who you are and actually make sure you're being a genuine person. You never want to put on a show or fake it or be someone you're not in order to please anyone else. One of the biggest takeaways I've had in my 20s is making sure I'm staying really true to who I am. It's making sure I'm aligning with my values, my morals, what I actually stand for, and what I actually believe in,

and not letting anyone else's opinions or thoughts filter into my identity. Knowing who you are and knowing what you actually stand for, and what you actually believe in, is so important in maintaining that sense of security and self-confidence from within. You never want to be around the wrong group of friends or the wrong group of people that might sway you into becoming someone that you're really not. This used to happen to me a lot because I would surround myself with certain groups of people

that maybe weren't really aligning with who I was deep down and I was putting on a mask, I was putting on a facade to show people that I was cool, that I wanted to fit in, that I wanted to look a certain way and act a certain way and be invited to parties and be invited to all these extravagant events because New York City can be like that. It can be a little bit clicky and it's sometimes hard to really maintain your sense of self when you're trying to make friends. But in order to actually attract the right people

into your life and become a confident and magnetic person, and this goes for everything. This goes for friendships too. This goes for business relationships and romantic relationships. You really need to know how to maintain your sense of self and integrity and actually know who you are without anyone else around you. And that's something I've learned the hard way, because I've tended to lose myself in situations where I really cared about people, and I surrounded myself with people, and they just weren't healthy for me or right for me. And it cost me a lot of who I was,

and it cost me a lot of unnecessary energy and time. So just really getting a sense of who you are, taking that alone time to really center yourself, doing things that truly make you feel good and make you feel aligned with your higher self, these things are so key and so important in order to become a magnetic person. Letting go of someone toxic that wasn't healthy for you in your life, and especially if they walked away from you, can also make you feel really powerful

and magnetic because you're not letting them control who you are anymore. This partner has no control over you anymore because you're choosing to willingly let go of the relationship, you're not willing to let them affect your day-to-day emotions anymore, you're not willing to let them have power over who you are as a person and it feels really good because you're finally able to get a sense of who you are back. I feel like it's really easy to lose a sense of control when we're with the wrong person because we feel like they have this chokehold on our energy. We feel like they're controlling our emotions and dictating our happiness. And that's not healthy.

That is not a healthy situation. And it could be really difficult to see it when you're so sucked in it because you love this person, you care for this person, you want to be around this person all the time, and you've built a relationship in a connection with them for so long that it seems fucking impossible to move on. It seems impossible to let go. But the truth is, if you really want any chance with this relationship working, you need to let go and order for it to unfold the way it's supposed to unfold.

You need to be okay without them, and they will sense that. Once you've truly let go of that energy, they will sense that you've finally taken that step to move on and focus back on yourself. It happens every time. Anytime I've actively consciously made an effort to let go of someone and focus on myself

and focus on becoming magnetic and independent and strong and do whatever the fuck I want with my life because I'm not gonna let this person dictate who I am anymore. They've always come back. They've always reached out again and made an effort to see me again and to make things work again.

And ironically by that point, I was usually over it and moved on already. And I was healed enough to know that I deserved better. Letting go of this person can make you feel more independent and more powerful because sometimes when you're stuck in a toxic situation, you might feel like you need this person to survive

and they get that energy from you. They feel that desperate energy clinging on to them for dear life. But letting go of them can make you gain your independence back. You can learn to depend on yourself again. You can start to feel more confident and capable of taking care of yourself again, and you open yourself up to new possibilities by doing this. Once you claim your independence back

and you're like, wow, I was fine before I met this person and I'm gonna be fine after, they will sense that. Because you start to radiate confidence again. You start to radiate that powerful energy again. That person that you were before you met them, that person starts to come through and shine again. And it's such an empowering and incredible feeling when you start to recognize who you are again.

It's so easy to lose your identity when you're with a toxic person or in a toxic situation. It's so easy to lose sight of yourself and that strong, happy, independent person when you're so stuck in something that's not good for you. And the only way to really get that person back is to be brave enough to break the cycle and break the patterns of the toxic relationship to understand that you deserve better and to understand that you know your worth, you're not going to settle for anything less, and this person does not have control over your happiness. I was talking to a friend of mine who was in a relationship with a guy who seemed pretty

narcissistic from my perspective because he thought that he was her whole world. He thought that she couldn't survive without him. And she would do things for him that were really amazing gestures in a relationship like she was just a really good partner and a really good girlfriend. And he would take advantage of that. He used her as a dormat pretty much because she would be flying to see him across the country and making grand gestures to be with him and make the relationship happen and work. And he was just sitting on his high horse thinking that he was the shit, frankly.

And it was really hard to listen to her explaining this to me because I was like, it's so messed up how he thought that you catered to him in this way, but you were just trying to do the right thing and be a good girlfriend, but what exactly was he offering you? And the answer was absolutely nothing. He was doing the bare minimum for her. He wasn't putting in any genuine effort. And they ended up breaking up for other reasons, which I'm so grateful they did, because

I knew she deserved better, and I saw it all unfolding in a really negative way way and I didn't want to see her get hurt any further than she was already getting hurt. And once she broke that tie, so many other pieces of information started unraveling about the relationship she hadn't seen before. And once she started working on herself again and healing and doing things that made her happy again and putting herself first. She ended up moving away. She moved out of her house and she just started taking care of herself and putting herself

as the number one priority again. And amazing things started to happen for her. She started to open herself up to new opportunities and new experiences and she showed him that, in fact, her world did not revolve around him. She had her own life, her own world, and her own independence. And she was able to focus on herself again and reclaim her power and become magnetic again.

And then over time, she realized there were so many other red flags she didn't see because she was so swept up in him for so long and catering to him for so long, that she didn't realize there were so many other issues with the relationship. And after she worked on herself and got that sense of power back,

her eyes finally opened and she was like, wow, like I didn't see all of these things, but these were actually major issues and major problems that I didn't see because I was so sucked in it for so long. The truth is love can be really fucking blinding and it's really easy to preach and talk about this and help you guys and give advice. But the only reason I'm able to give this advice in the first place

is because I've actually been in situations like this before. I've had to learn from past relationship experiences. I've been so blinded by love because I have a really big heart. And when I'm really invested in someone, I really tend to give my all. And I get so caught up in people because I give and love so deeply, and I give my love away so easily, that oftentimes I get so blinded

by other things that they'll do in the relationship that actually aren't healthy and I'll hand over my power. And I've handed over my power on numerous occasions with different people. And as I've got an older and I've been through all of these experiences, what I've realized is the most important thing is to always take a step back

when you're in a situation that doesn't feel good to you. And if you're having trouble letting go of this person, taking a step back and actually examining it from the perspective of a family member or the perspective of a friend, what advice would you give to yourself? What advice would you give to you? What advice would you give to you seeing the situation you're actually involved in? Is it really healthy? Are you being completely honest with yourself at all times? Is this something that's highly benefiting your highest self?

Is this person actually good for you or not? And once you kind of take a step back from someone else's point of view, it can kind of give you a fresh perspective on what's actually important and what's not, and it could also show you where the issues lie in order for you to properly let go and move on and step into your power again. One of the biggest things in order to become magnetic and to step into the most powerful

version of yourself is actually letting go of everything and anything that's no longer serving your highest good. If you are okay with detaching from everything that no longer serves your highest good, it makes you so fucking magnetic and powerful because you're not attached to the outcome of anything anymore. You're not pouring your energy into someone who doesn't give a fuck about you. You are focusing on yourself and you are stepping into an energy of empowerment because you know your worth, you know what you want, you are aware of your value

and you're not gonna let anyone treat you anything less than you deserve. Letting go of someone in particular can have a huge, huge positive impact on your life because when you let go of a person that's holding you down, that's weighing you back, in particular, can have a huge, huge positive impact on your life. Because when you let go of a person that's holding you down, that's weighing you back, that's making you cry every day, it can be such a freeing feeling

because you don't have anyone having any control over your emotions anymore. It feels empowering and it feels just so freeing. When I went through my last breakup, I ran to my tattoo artist, and I got the word freedom tattooed on my wrist for a reason. The reason I did this is because I felt so fucking free. I felt like I had broken out of prison. You should never feel like you're in prison with a significant other, okay? And this also goes for friendships, too,

because I've been in really weird shitty friendships where I've always felt like suffocated and I felt like I couldn't be myself. This can apply to a variety of different types of relationships. But when I went through my breakup, I was just so mind blown by how freeing it felt once it ended. Once I got out of that relationship and I made the conscious decision to walk away and leave.

And also, he wanted to leave as well. It was a mutual agreement and understanding that we could no longer make the relationship work. I got the word freedom tattooed on me because I realized that freedom is the purpose of life. We all deserve to feel free. We all deserve to feel like the best versions of ourselves. When you are with someone that's not making you feel like the best version of yourself and you feel like you're tied down and locked down in a

really toxic way because they control your emotions and they dictate how you feel on a day to day basis. That is not healthy. That is not a healthy relationship dynamic. So when you finally make that decision to let go, it can be so satisfying and so rewarding because suddenly you realize that you own you, like you are the owner of your life and life is supposed to feel good and happy and light and free.

And when you let go, other people sense that because suddenly you have this weight lifted off of your energy, you're walking around feeling confident again, you're getting back to yourself again, and you suddenly become a human magnet of energy where you're radiating this incredible field of energy and light around you so people want to be around you and people want to get to know you, and you start attracting better circumstances and situations into your life.

The best part of becoming magnetic is that you could take back your life from this relationship that you were in and you're going to start to live according to your own rules and your own timeline and on your terms. You don't have to revolve your life around anyone other than yourself anymore. You have the power to decide who you want in your life and who you don't. And you don't have to be held back by someone who doesn't support what you're doing or who doesn't love you the way you love them or who doesn't make you feel good about yourself, you can just simply be free and be a magnet for better people that will eventually come into your life once you feel like yourself again.

It's so easy, as I mentioned earlier, to lose yourself with someone that's not right for you. When you lose focus on yourself and you start investing all your time and energy into the relationship and you stop taking care of yourself, that'll always lead to the end of the relationship because you start to give away your power. You start to give away bits and pieces of who you are. It's never going to work if you continue to do that and you continue down that path because by the end of the relationship, you're left with nothing. I went through this.

I went through a very long-term relationship with someone that I loved more than anything. I was obsessed with him. I was giving everything I could possibly give to this relationship. And it went on for years. I let it continue on for years because I was so in love with him. And he was in love with me too. He wasn't a bad person, he wasn't a bad boyfriend. It was actually a relationship with a lot of good memories attached to it.

But when you start to lose yourself and you're not taking care of yourself anymore or putting your needs first at all and you're constantly bending over backwards to make sure this person is accommodated instead of yourself, that's when problems start to arise. Because you start to lose a sense of your identity and what you really stand for. And when you give your power over and hand it over to a relationship, once you break up,

if you do break up, it could be really hard to gain your confidence back. I felt like I was so insecure when I went through my break up in the beginning because I had no idea what I was doing with my life, who the fuck I was. I was sitting in my apartment crying every single night because I felt like I had lost every single piece of who I was.

I didn't know where my friends were because I ditched all my friends to be with this person. I stopped focusing on my job and my work, so I was behind on my career, and I lost so much money financially because I was always crying over this person. It was just so unhealthy. And ironically, it was the person I loved the most. This was the person I loved the most in my entire life, and yet it was the most unhealthy dynamic I have ever been in because I stopped loving myself.

And becoming magnetic is directly tied to dating yourself. Dating yourself is a far better option than staying stuck in a toxic relationship. That isn't doing you any good anymore. If you're constantly being let down by another person and it's sucking the life out of you, it is such a better option to be alone than to continue down that path. One of the most amazing things about learning how to date yourself and love yourself

is that you truly learn how to enjoy your own company. And that's what makes you so powerful and magnetic. You don't need anyone to make you happy. You don't need any external validation to remind yourself of who you are. You don't need to depend on anyone for your happiness. And spending time alone and really getting to know yourself and becoming happy, doing things alone is so rewarding because eventually when you do find someone amazing to compliment who you are, you know you're coming from a place of want and not a place of need, and it won't be a codependent

unhealthy toxic situation. You can learn and grow from each other and become the best versions of yourself together without sucking the energy from each other, which is amazing. Dating yourself is also really fun because you could discover new things you love about yourself, you could discover new hobbies, learn new skills, and just enjoy the peace and company of yourself. And you don't have to answer to anyone,

you're not getting in a fight about something every five minutes, you're not talking back to someone because they rubbed you the wrong way, no one's getting under your skin, you're not being gassed slit, you're not being manipulated. It's actually really, really nice if you're coming out of a toxic situation

and then you finally get some peace and quiet to reflect on everything and to start build your life up again. To start to build yourself back together is such a special thing. And even though the healing process can be so painful at times and you're like, why the fuck did I go through this?

This is so unfair and you're super, super hurt. It teaches you so many lessons along the way. When I went through one of the most painful breakups of my life, I was dying. I thought my life was over. I thought the world was ending. It felt like there was a black cloud hovering over me every single day for months. I thought it would never get better. I thought I could never see myself with anyone else. I could never see myself

looking at another man or giving another man a second chance. I don't know. I just was freaking out because I thought that this person was my forever person and I would beat myself up every day over it. But then it got to a point where I realized that I had all the time in the world to truly reflect and actually get to know myself better. I started turning all the pain into something I could look at from a positive perspective. Yes, it did take time. I always tell people, take the time to heal and

cry it out and feel your emotions. But one day I promise you you're going to snap out of it and you're going to wake up one morning and be like, okay, it's time to grind again. It's time to work on myself again and heal and start to move on. And then you begin the moving on process. And of course, everyone's timeline is completely different and everyone heals in different ways and uses different methods of healing and to each their own. But at some point, there's going to be a pivotal moment where you go from healing to actually realizing that everything really did happen for a reason and everything had a purpose and everything that you went through happened for a reason. And everything had a purpose. And everything that you went through

happened for a specific reason to build you up and make you a stronger and better and more wiser individual. At first, it's normal to feel like you've lost a part of yourself. And if you're listening to this episode right now and you're going through a breakup and you're trying to get that sense of self-back

where you're magnetic again and you're trying to get that sense of self back where you're magnetic again and you're attracting abundance and positivity and amazing things and people into your life. And you kind of lost that drive and that spark and you're looking to get it back. I promise you, it's always been there and it always will be there. It's just kind of covered up by the fog of the break up. I would always tell myself, I used to be able to manifest everything. My life was perfect before I met this person. I was so happy what happened. And I was afraid that I had lost that magic in my life because of someone else, but the truth is you didn't lose it.

It's actually always there. It's just sometimes covered by the fog of sadness, by being disappointed and let down by someone. Just because you're going through a negative emotional fog of sadness, by being disappointed and let down by someone, just because you're going through a negative emotional period of time, doesn't mean you lost that sense of self and you lost that sense of magic. It's still there technically. You're just going through a hard time. And once that fog is lifted and once it's cleared and you really heal and start to work on yourself and everything eventually will get lighter,

you will see that it was always there to begin with. It's a realization that happens much later down the line once you've gone through the majority of the healing process. Becoming a magnetic and powerful person after a breakup will involve embracing a lot of change and transformation and learning how to set better boundaries and developing personal habits. Most of all, it's important to accept that the breakup happened.

That's the first step, but also it's important to recognize that pain is temporary and what you're going through is a temporary period of time and you will make it out on the other side. Giving yourself that foundation of hope and understanding that it's okay to feel and it's okay to be sad as long as you need to be sad, but that you will be okay is one of the most important reminders

you need to give to yourself. Allow yourself to feel every emotion that comes up. Don't bury anything down, don't drink it down with tequila shots for the next three weeks. I mean, you could do that as a coping mechanism. I know a lot of people who do that after a breakup, but I personally think the best way to heal is to face your emotions heads on instead of suppressing them.

Becoming magnetic is also about setting really good boundaries for yourself in relationships and for the future. Do not allow yourself to be taken advantage of by your ex or by anyone else or be manipulated into getting back together with someone that's not good for you. You need to know what's good for you and what's not. If you tune into your emotions and you know what makes you feel good and what doesn't,

you're gonna have a really easy time setting clear boundaries. If someone's making you feel anxious all the time and like you're gonna puke, they're obviously not good for you. It's pretty clear. And your body will speak out and tell you things, but often we tend to ignore it because we're in love and we wanna see the good in everyone. But the truth is, you know what's actually best for you.

You don't need to ask anyone else, you don't even need to listen to this podcast to know what's actually good and what's not good for you. Don't be afraid to say no to people, don't be afraid to listen to this podcast to know what's actually good and what's not good for you. Don't be afraid to say no to people. Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself and protect yourself. Don't be afraid to block someone if you need to block them in order to move on. There's many different ways you could cope and deal with things in order to step into your

power again. And you don't have to be apologetic for taking good care of yourself. You don't have to feel bad or guilty for doing the necessary things you need to do in order to move on and become the best version of yourself. And most importantly, developing really good and positive habits for yourself on a daily basis to become magnetic and getting yourself into a really healthy routine is super helpful. Spending time each day doing something that makes you feel productive

and that makes you feel empowered and helps you to focus on taking care of yourself. This could include exercising. I love going to the gym to clear my head. Once you set a routine and actually make it a mission to move your body every single day, it can really help yourself esteem. It can make you feel good mentally,

it's not about looking a certain way, I always preach this, it's not about looking a certain way physically. The gym for me is all about my mental health and it really does help. Journaling, writing down your feelings, taking care of your emotions, spending time with friends that make you feel good

and empowered, just anything else that actually brings you joy and peace and happiness in your life will ultimately make you more magnetic and make you feel more empowered and better about yourself. By embracing change, setting boundaries and developing positive habits, you could become super magnetic and super powerful, especially after a breakup. You don't have to pretend that everything is butterflies and rainbows 24-7, but just taking small steps towards necessary changes to better yourself is always super helpful. Using pain as an opportunity to better who you are and actually make positive transformations and changes in your life is such a boss move.

I always say everything happens for a reason and to trust the process of your life. And I say this because it's so fucking true. Every single thing I've gone through with anyone in my life that was super challenging has always led to something better and greater, and it has taught me so, so, so, so much about myself. And I'm so grateful for the lessons that these challenging times showed me. Even though it felt at the time that my world was ending and that everything went to shit, I realized looking back how it was building me up for something so much better, and it was showing me parts of myself that I didn't know existed that made me

a stronger person overall. And here I am with a dating podcast helping other people. And I think if I hadn't gone through all of these crazy things in my life, I wouldn't be able to deliver the messages that I'm here to deliver. So that concludes today's episode for today. I hope these tips about becoming magnetic and letting go

and stepping into your highest self helped you a little bit. Thank you, as always, for listening. To every episode, you guys are amazing. The feedback is always so helpful and incredible. And it motivates me to keep going, and I really, really appreciate everything and all the support. I hope you guys have an amazing day. Always feel free to send me a message on Instagram, at lists, LYSS, or on the podcast account, at date yourself instead. Have an amazing day,

an amazing week. I love you guys, sending you love and healing vibes. Always, and stay tuned for next Monday. love and healing vibes. Always and stay tuned for next Monday.