Date Yourself Instead - You’re not “crazy” - why trusting your gut is SO powerful

Episode Date: January 30, 2023

I pride myself on my sense of intuition, but those gut feelings can be easy to ignore especially if you’re like me and like giving people the benefit of the doubt. In this episode I share a story where gaslighting and red flags were ignored until my gut was screaming at me. Sometimes we get too in our heads to listen to that built-in accuracy radar but know that feelings of insecurity are normal, and the right person will work through those feelings with you. Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube

Welcome to date yourself instead. Date yourself instead. What does it mean to date yourself instead? I'm just gonna learn how to love myself, and that's it. Hello everyone, and welcome to another episode of Date yourself instead. I hope everyone had a lovely weekend. I'm sitting in the studio right now and I have my vanilla latte. I'm hyped up on caffeine.

I had some technical issues setting up the podcast this morning for some reason. Well, first of all, I left my SD card at home, so I couldn't transfer any of the files to my computer. If I recorded anything, I wouldn't have anything to back it up. And that was a whole mess in itself. So then I had to ask the studio if I could purchase an SD card and that SD card wasn't formatting and it wasn't working. And so I found someone else's card and now I'm trying to figure this out

so I can record this episode on their card and then transfer the files and give them their card back. I don't really know what's going on this morning. I have a lot of glitches happening in the simulation today. So anyways, I had a wild fucking weekend between my 30th birthday. For those of you who follow me on Instagram, you probably saw the pictures. I was wearing an all-white outfit, a really sparkly white jumpsuit, which by the way, it was probably one of the most incredible things I've ever had the honor of wearing.

And it was pouring raining all day. The sky was black, I live in New York City, and I had planned this outfit for a couple weeks now. The brand was so kind enough to gift me the jumpsuit. The brand is called Nadine Morabi. And I actually was Googling the brand because I'm such a fan. I've been wearing their clothes for literally five years.

And the owner and I have the same birthday. Like the designer of the brand and I are both born on January 19th. I thought that was pretty cool and I believe that everything is connected. And I just thought it was really interesting that we both had the same birthday. But anyways, it was storming all night on the night of my birthday. I had this white jumpsuit, white heels and sorry if this is too much information, but I also got my period on the morning of my birthday. So there was just a lot of commotion

and chaos going on all at the same time between it literally thunderstorming and me going crazy because my hormones were through the roof. I had been crying for a week straight prior to my birthday and I thought there was something actually wrong with me, I was really scared. I was crying over everything like any TikTok. I would like be scrolling on my phone at 12 o'clock at night trying to fall asleep and then I would see a video of like some animals or I'd see a video of this really cute

couple like walking and holding hands on the beach and I would just start bawling my eyes out for no fucking reason. And I didn't realize my period was coming. So that makes a whole lot of sense looking back. But I was unwell. So yeah, between that and it raining, I was terrified because this outfit is all white. Okay. And I didn't know what to do. I was like, do I wear this outfit? It's pretty risky. I don't want to get it dirty. So needless to say, I still decided to go through with it because I had nothing else to wear. And I was like folding up my pants and picking them up like a crazy person running down the streets of Manhattan in a thunderstorm and also trying to cover my hair at the same time because I got my hair done and I was trying to cover my face because I had my makeup done.

It was a chaotic shit show to be completely honest. And I jumped in the Uber and my white pants. The ends of them are soaked with dirty blacks, lushy, New York City mud and trash from the New York streets. And I'm leaping over puddles and heels in order to get to my birthday party. Overall, I made it just very interesting, crazy chaotic experience, but I did make it,

I made it alive, and I made it just in time, I made it 10 minutes before the party started, got everything set up really quickly, and then luckily everyone else was late because the weather was so bad, so I ended up being on time and everything worked out perfectly. The other thing is another crazy insane moment that happened on the day of my birthday. So my one of my best friends that I grew up with we went to preschool together and we've been best friends ever since.

She now lives in Arizona. So I don't really see her that often. I'm going to have her on the podcast soon because whenever I see her, it's always just the best time. She has the best energy. She's so fucking funny. I just laugh with her nonstop and I literally love her so much. And I think you guys would love her story and her background and all the crazy dating stories that she's been through. But this one really tops the cake. I don't want to spoil too much because I obviously, I want her to tell her story on the podcast eventually,

but I'm gonna just touch on it lightly because it really was truly just, it just shook me to my core. I was dressed up ready to go to my birthday party and my friend texted me and she had been dating a guy for about a year last year and they broke up and they've been broken up for months now but he was just doing the bare minimum from my perspective. I didn't know him that well. I had met him one time before, but he really wasn't giving too much to the relationship compared to what she was giving. She is such a good person, and I'm not just saying that because she's my best friend. She's just a ray of sunshine.

She is so positive. She is so upbeat. Like when she walks in the room, she can make friends with anyone. She's just like so sweet, and I just want her to be happy, obviously, because I care about her and I love her. And also she deserves that. She deserves the bare minimum treatment from a guy, clearly. But her boyfriend at the time, he was just not giving much. Like she would go to fly to see him and she would like bend over backwards to try to make the relationship work all the time,

but he was just very nonchalant about everything, very casual about everything. He just wasn't really putting in the type of energy that she wanted and she was definitely putting in way more effort than he was overall. That's the short, really, really short spark notes summary of that whole situation. But she just found out on my birthday

that he was speaking to other women while they were together the entire time and basically cheating on her emotionally. And she doesn't know any other details as far as like physically or anything, but he was definitely cheating on her throughout the entire relationship. And she just found this out now, even though they've been broken up for months.

And it kind of like reopened this whole conversation of the relationship and like her not getting enough out of the relationship and why all the pieces and all the puzzle pieces clicked together and finally made so much perfect sense. And I felt so bad for her. I was on the phone with her talking with her about everything. And it was just so fucked up and so crazy to hear that. Because she was doing so much and she was trying to analyze like kind of what went wrong in the relationship

because as a human being, when you are with someone you love and things don't go as planned and you end up ending things, sometimes there's so many unanswered questions once you end things and you never speak to this person again and you don't see them anymore. And she just had a lot of unanswered questions. And now all those questions were answered. And she figured out everything. And the truth was exposed. The truth came to light. And I'm going to let her share her story eventually. But honestly, I just, I think 2023 and I don't know why I have this really crazy sense, but it's gonna be the year of just bringing everything to light and bringing everyone into their highest power and exposing everything for what it actually is. I feel

like it's one of those years where the truth is going to be revealed about so many different things. I don't know if that makes sense to people, but for some reason, it just feels like everything is like opening up more and everyone's getting really authentic and really honest and really transparent everywhere, like all over. And even on social media, like everything, I'm watching, I'm consuming, I'm seeing, everyone's just becoming more real, more open, and more authentic, and things are really just being brought to the surface. And it feels like some crazy, worldly awakening, but yeah, just this whole situation,

my mouth was dropped open. I was like about to go to my birthday party, and then she's just telling me this insane shit that was going on that she found out that he was doing all these crazy things behind her back. And I guess I'm going to let her share her story in another episode and I told her she should definitely come on here if you guys are interested. Send me a message and we're going to get her on the podcast to share the full story because it is wild. And on top of all, we also just have so much to talk about

about other dating stories we've been through together. We've known each other for so long and we've both been by each other's side through some of the craziest dating stories ever. Like I swear, I don't think anything tops hers and it would just be really entertaining to talk about it in the open, I guess. I don't know. We'll see how it goes. But if you talk about it in the open, I guess. I don't know.

We'll see how it goes, but if you guys are interested in hearing more, you could always send me a message on Instagram and we'll definitely have her on this year. So anyways, welcome to this episode of Date Yourself Instead. We're going to be discussing how trusting your gut and truly knowing yourself is the most powerful part of being a woman and a human being. Literally, the biggest thing that I pride myself on is the fact that I have the strongest, most powerful sense of intuition ever. Every time I get a gut feeling about something or someone or I'm in a situation where my gut just starts to feel a little off,

I'm always right. I can't explain it, I can't justify it. There's no true logic behind it. It's just as if my body physically knows that something in the situation is either right or wrong. I also saw this TikTok recently, which was really fascinating. This woman was talking about how our gut has like 500 million neurons or something like that, and that's why we can sense things in our gut. I don't know how true that is. I actually didn't Google this myself and look up the scientific information on this.

I just watched a TikTok. That's where I get all my facts from. That's probably not a reliable source of information at all. But anyways, that's what she said. So I'm just going to go with it because I feel like it makes a ton of sense. It really does. Regardless if that's necessarily 100% accurate or not, it makes so much sense because I swear to you every time I feel something in my gut, I'm always right.

And every time I don't listen to it and I ignore it with my logic, I'm always so pissed at myself later on because I knew I was right in that moment, but I couldn't logically explain it. So then I would go with my head instead of my gut. And the truth is using your intuition is so important. It is so, so important. And I personally always go by my intuition versus logic now. In everything that I do, I always go with how I feel over the logic explanation behind it. Because some things are just not explainable in the moment. And when we're in a relationship or in a situation

where we feel like something's wrong, but then we have our partner telling us or someone telling us, oh, you're crazy. Oh, you know, it's all in your head. Oh, that's not true. And they make you feel like you're wrong. It's so easy to ignore that gut feeling. And I've been through this on countless occasions with people that I've dated. I have dated guys that have done pretty sketchy things to me. And because I'm an open-hearted and warm and caring, nice human being, I always try to give people the benefit of the doubt. I always try to see the good in everyone. But when I feel like something's wrong and then I have this guy telling me, it's all in your head,

your psychopath, your crazy, you're making shit up. I used to backtrack and then question everything that I was thinking. That's also gaslighting. When someone makes you feel fucking crazy for having feelings and having emotions and feeling a certain way, if they're saying things like that to you, that is gaslighting. But at the time when I was in these relationships, I never really saw it as that because I was in love or I really cared about this person,

and I would justify everything that they were doing in order to make the relationship work and to stick around and make sure that we were still together. It sounds a little silly looking back because I realize now that I deserved so much better and I deserve to be talked to with so much more respect than I had been spoken to with.

But it's mind-blowing how my gut always knew that something was wrong, but I couldn't make sense of it. There was no way it's approved logically that this person was lying to me, this person was being unfaithful to me. This person was doing things behind my back that they said that they weren't. There was no real way to know other than the feeling that I had inside my body. There was one time where I was dating a guy and for some reason when I was around him, I would feel like I had to throw up.

I would feel sick to my stomach. And this was like six months into the relationship. So I never used to feel that way when I was with him in the beginning. But as things progressed and as things got more serious, I started getting weird energy around him. Like, everything just felt super weird and uncomfortable around him. He was more disconnected from the conversations. He would always be looking around the room as I'm talking to him.

He would just be preoccupied in his head about something. His energy felt very detached and removed after a certain point hit in the relationship where I think it was getting a little more serious and intimate and he started to pull away. So in my head, I'm like, maybe he's just afraid of commitment. Maybe he just isn't sure if he wants to get super serious with me. I shouldn't know that from month one, obviously,

because he said he wanted an open casual situation, but he was open to seeing where it went. And those words really got me to hold on when he said, I want to see where it goes. Because then I thought there was hope that maybe we would end up together. That was my first huge mistake that I made just believing what he was saying. Usually when a guy says, I want something casual, that's exactly what he means, and there's no changing that unless a fucking miracle happens. I'm kidding.

I mean, there's obviously been situations where it has changed, but more often times than not, they're saying exactly how they feel. Men don't sugar coat things. If a man wants to date you, he's going to date you. If he doesn't, he'll also tell you that and there's usually no changing as mine. Anyways, so this person would say to me, you know, I don't know, I like you, but I'm not really looking for anything serious. I'm not looking for a serious relationship. I really care about you. I care for you. I like spending time with you. He would say

everything but I actually want to date you. Literally used every fucking line in the book. And I still stuck around because I did enjoy spending time with him. And I did like him and we had fun together. Long story short, his energy shifted, things felt a little awkward and weird. And I just wasn't okay with how I was feeling internally. I felt like I was going to puke every time I was around him because he didn't seem like he wanted to be there anymore. And I confronted him about it because I also wanted to know where we stood, where do we stand? I don't want to be wasting my time for another six months hanging out with someone that doesn't have any interest in actually dating me. And I did a feelings for him.

So I said straight up, what's going on? I need to know what we're doing. And I was very direct and very upfront about how I felt because I liked him. And he was like making me feel so stupid and making me feel so crazy. And he started throwing all my words back in my face, saying, you know, I told you this is what I wanted

from the beginning. And you're crazy if you think I wanted anything else. And he started just making me feel absolutely terrible about even bringing up the conversation in the first place. So that was a little weird. Actually that was very weird. That was a huge red flag in an indicator that this person was not it and not the right person

for me. But me trying to give him the benefit of the doubt still wanted to continue what we were doing. And for some fucking weird ass reason, I was the one who ended up apologizing in that conversation because he was like basically saying to me, I was honest with you the whole time, I never led you on blah, blah, blah, blah. So I was like, oh, you're right, you're right, I know it's okay, don't worry about it. Let's just have, blah, blah. So I was like, oh, you're right, you're right, I know. It's okay, don't worry about it. Let's just have fun and enjoy the night.

I was like apologizing to him, cringing. This is embarrassing, but honestly, it happens, okay. I've been in these situations, and I know a lot of other people have been in these situations. So this is my experience. I'm here to share my experiences so I can tell you what I've learned from them and also tell you what not to do because this is something you should never do.

If someone's telling you straight up that you're crazy for feeling a certain way, they're not a good person. I'm sorry to say, but they're really not. Or there are situations where people do gaslight each other and they're not really aware of what they're doing. That's totally different, but you can call each other out and work on it together. If it was a healthy relationship and it happens because people fight and people, you know, say certain things that sometimes need to be worked on and improved on, totally understandable. But in this situation, it was not like that. He was trying to make me feel crazy, trying to get under my skin to make me feel stupid forever feeling the way that I felt. So we're going back and forth a little bit longer. We keep seeing each other, but things just keep getting worse.

And I just felt like every time I was with him, it was almost a burden to him at that point. And I don't know why he kept meeting up with me. So I basically just said to him, listen, I really enjoy spending time with you, but I just don't know if I'm comfortable doing this anymore. I really don't think I am. And he proceeded to tell me that he was going on a work trip with a girlfriend.

And that's where it just, for some reason, something switched in my brain after that moment because he kind of told me, like, listen, I want things to be casual. Oh, by the way, I'm also going on a work trip with a woman. And I just lost it. We were sitting in dinner and I was really drunk. And this is the other thing. I don't really drink alcohol. I mentioned this in a previous episode. I'm not big on drinking because you kind of lose control if you get too deep into your drinks. Okay. If you have one drink, it's fine, but then it leads into another and then it could lead into another. And then you go from zero to 60 and you're basically holding on to the fucking bar table for dear life because you're going to fall over because

you're so drunk. And I just hate that feeling where you feel like the room is spinning and you don't know what the fuck you're saying. And everything is just butterflies and rainbows because you don't give a shit and all your instincts are out the window. I don't know. You get the point. Being drunk is just, you feel like you've lost control and you can't really function. So I don't really drink for those reasons. I like being in control. I like knowing what I have to say.

I'm very direct. I'm very open. And when I'm drunk, I tend to lose sight of that. So I was really drunk and I was trying to focus on what he was saying, but I was also, my head was just spinning because he was basically telling me he was going on a work trip with another woman and it freaked me out. And I was panicking internally and like about to start crying. And I just got a bad, bad feeling in my gut.

My gut and my body and everything was just telling me, you have to leave. Like, you cannot see this person anymore. This guy is probably having sex with other people and his coworker, whatever whoever he's going on this trip with. I just didn't know for sure what was going on and it felt like he didn't give a fuck about my feelings anymore. I could be wrong. I don't really know what was going on in his head.

I don't know him that well. I haven't spoken to this guy in years. I just remember the way that I felt was signaling to me. Like, you need to get out of this situation because it's not safe for you and it's not healthy. It's not healthy for you. So, oh my God, I almost just spilled my coffee

all over the table because I'm like animating this whole episode with my hands. I'm getting really into this story right now. Okay, so I hope this is entertaining so far. If I'm rambling and being annoying and you wanna turn this off, go ahead. But I literally was losing my cool and I was like shaking at this point

and my body was telling me, which is my gut intuition just saying like he's lying or something is off here okay he's not telling you the full truth or the full picture and he doesn't want to date you so what the fuck are you doing sitting here with him having a glass of wine. So long story short I've said that like three times, but really long story short. We go back to his apartment because he lived nearby and I was just having an internal panic attack and it was already really late at night.

I didn't really wanna take an Uber home so late. I just wasn't up for leaving, but I also didn't wanna stay. So I was just like going through all the emotions in my head and I felt like I couldn't tell him how I felt. It just, the words wouldn't come out because I was afraid that he would just start screaming at me or something. I just felt like it was a bomb ticking

and like waiting to go off if I were to say anything in that moment. So what I ended up doing was pretending to go to sleep and then when he was asleep, I ended up getting up and leaving and going home. I took an Uber home at like two or three in the morning. I just couldn't deal with the conversation and I also had such bad anxiety and I couldn't deal with how I felt and I also didn't know what he was doing. I couldn't prove anything. If I had said to him, oh, are you, you know, sleeping with your

coworker? Are you going away with her and having sex with her? If I had said to him, oh, are you sleeping with your coworker? Are you going away with her and having sex with her? If I had started accusing him of things like that, he would have found a way to make me feel so dumb for even considering that option. He would have said, are you fucking crazy? He would have blown up in my face and said something like that. Or he would have held it against me later. It was just the type of person that he was.

And I was afraid to express how I felt because with the right person, you'll never feel this way. I've learned that from being in a healthy relationship. If you're feeling a certain way and you bring it up to your partner and you're throwing it back in your face and making you feel so stupid,

they're not the right person for you. For me, this person clearly wasn't right and I was terrified to express how I felt about him. So I left, I went home, ended up in my own bed, slept in my own bed, actually had a very peaceful sleep. My anxiety went away, I felt totally fine and stable. The next morning he texted me extremely confused. Where did you go? What happened? Why did you leave? And he was getting mad at me for leaving and not waking him up and saying goodbye.

But I knew that there was a bigger issue at hand. Regardless of if he was mad at me for leaving, you know, walking out the door, running out the door and going home and not saying a word to him. I knew I had to take care of myself first in that moment. I knew I had to trust my intuition and trust myself and just leave this all in the past and leave it all behind because I was making myself so physically sick and my gut was screaming at me. This is not right for you. This is really, really bad.

And if you continue down this path, you're going to get even more hurt. You're going to get extremely hurt. So that's a pretty extreme example, but it is a big example of like trusting your God and trusting your intuition, because after that, everything fell apart really quickly. Everything crumbled and he didn't give a fuck. He barely spoke to me again. After that moment, everything just got super weird and the relationship fell apart super fast. He made zero effort to make anything work with me.

He also didn't consider where I was coming from. He made it all about himself just saying, like, you got weird, you ran out on me, and I was like, I'm dealing with anxiety and panic attacks, and I couldn't sleep. I was trying to explain to him what happened after, and he was just not hearing it. And I realized that the right person,

if that were to happen with literally anyone else that had genuine respect for me, they would have said something like, are you okay? Can I do anything for you? I didn't realize like you had problems with anxiety, like someone with compassion and true empathy, probably would have taken that approach. But this guy was so mad at me, just screaming at me, telling me like,

why did you leave blah, blah, blah, and like making it as if I was this horrible person for just trusting my intuition. Meanwhile, he went on the trip, never heard from him all weekend. It was just super weird. And regardless of his side of the story, maybe he has his own version, maybe he thinks I'm a crazy person and, you know, I'm a clingy psychopath. I don't know. All I know is that I needed to take care of myself in that moment and I needed to trust what was right for me.

So I am just really big on listening to my intuition, knowing what feels good and what does in. And if something feels extremely off to the point where your stomach is churning and you feel like you're going to puke, you're usually not feeling that way for no reason. Or maybe I should say that differently because that sounded really confusing. You are feeling that way for a reason. You are smarter than you think. Sometimes we get so in our heads about if we're crazy or not

because other people are telling us that we're fucking crazy, but our intuition always knows. It's an unspoken, accuracy radar. Like it knows shit that we don't logically and it's so fascinating and it's so wild to me. And for the most part, I would say I've had a 99% success rate with my gut intuition being accurate. There's been a few instances where I've actually gone

a little crazy and I was wrong. I will admit, I thought I caught someone red handed cheating on me once and I like messaged the girl because I thought I saw something that wasn't what I thought it was. And this girl messages me straight up and she's like, I have no idea what the fuck you're talking about. And I was like, sorry, wrong person, my bad. I probably shouldn't have done that.

But honestly, the person that I had these trust issues with handled it with so much respect he was so nice about it and he didn't even question that I had done that. He just listened to me and heard me out. Yes, was it a little weird and uncomfortable because I was wrong? Yes, but he was so nice about it and we talked through it and it was also someone I was dating so it wasn't that big of a deal in the long term. And then we uncovered why I had these trust issues and why I've been hurt before and like all these things that had led me to believe that I was being cheated on.

And he completely understood and understood where I was coming from. Long story short. I'm sorry, I keep saying that. Along, okay, I don't even know like another expression. Like, I don't know what else to say in replace of long story short. To make this story snappy, I guess,

okay, that's so awkward, whatever. You get the point, the right person will never make you feel stupid for trusting your gut and your intuition. They'll never make you feel crazy for trusting who you are and they'll validate your emotions and your feelings. If you're ever feeling insecure, if you're ever feeling jealous, if you're ever feeling upset, there is such thing as working on these issues without getting mad at each other and without gaslighting each other. There are so many ways to communicate and go about creating a healthy dynamic between two people.

And that's something I've had to learn the hard way because I was with a lot of people who never wanted to work through things with me in a very healthy, communicative way. I was always with people that would make me feel terrible if I ever said how I felt. I will say my first boyfriend, who I dated on and off for eight years, but for the first solid four years we were together, he was a really good boyfriend. He was a really good partner. And for as young as we were, it was impressive how mature he was in the relationship and how he handled certain things and handled my emotions. I think it's also because he came from a family of therapists, which is probably helpful, but he was so good about emotions. And he would talk to me about anything that I was going through and vice versa. We were super open with our emotions with each other.

And we were so young too. So obviously, there's a factor in there where we were each other's first love. It was both our first series relationship and we were still learning and all this stuff. But like, there's a lot of people who don't know how to deal with emotions. And this goes for both ends. It goes for men and women. And that is so important when you're in a relationship with someone or even in a situation ship or a friendship or anything. Dealing with emotions and understanding that you don't have to get at each other and try to rip each other apart and make each other feel stupid for

expressing how you feel is a key part of having a healthy relationship. And when you find someone that actually lets you have those issues out in the open, for example, if I get a little jealous, and I express that to my partner, and they don't shut me down and tell me how stupid I am for feeling that way, that's a sign of a healthy relationship, because then you can work on it and work on yourself, and you can grow together as people. Because everyone has their flaws, and everyone has their flaws and everyone has their things and has their issues. We're all human.

None of us are perfect. I have jealousy issues in my relationships I've had it before and it comes from a lack of feeling like I'm not enough sometimes for my partner because maybe, you know, I grew up a certain way. There was environmental factors in the way that I psychologically developed. I don't fucking know. I grew up a certain way. There was environmental factors in the way that I psychologically developed. I don't fucking know. I've done a lot of therapy.

I've done a lot of inner work. Everyone has their reasons. And I've definitely gotten so much better with these issues over the years. And I've learned how to love myself so much that these issues don't come up as much anymore. But there's been times where, you times where a girl has hit on my boyfriend and I'm like, you're going to answer that message or it's just kind of like this little pain of jealousy sometimes

that I get. And it's like my insecurities come up to the surface again. And instead of running away from them and saying, oh, why am I like this? Why am I jealous? I'm so embarrassed that I'm this way. It's better when you have a partner that supports it and understands it, and then you could work through it together and improve it, so eventually,

it doesn't bother you anymore. And eventually, you become a different person because you're learning how to trust and change parts of yourself in a healthy way. And sometimes it doesn't happen overnight. Working on yourself is work, and working on yourself does take time. So if you're insecure, you're feeling jealous

with a partner, and it happens multiple times, you don't have to beat yourself up over that because you're capable of learning how to change that, but sometimes it will take time because you're unlearning certain behaviors and you're capable of learning how to change that, but sometimes it will take time because you're unlearning certain behaviors and you're unlearning certain patterns that you grew up with, okay? So like, I get a lot of messages actually

on Instagram DM about jealousy issues and about your partner having the fear of your partner abandoning you and having the fear of your partner leaving you for someone else because it's so easily Accessible nowadays to go on a dating app and swipe and to go on Instagram and find a pretty girl and message them. But the truth is it's okay to feel this way sometimes because we live in a world where everything is very easily accessible and

It's normal to have insecurities and fears. And when you're vulnerable with a person and you're really in love with them and you really care for them, these feelings often tend to come up because you want this person all to yourself. There's nothing wrong with that. But it's just about having someone that supports those fears and works with you on them. That's the point I'm trying to make. You should never feel terrible about yourself just because you have certain feelings and emotions.

And if your partner understands that and loves you and respects you, they're gonna wanna work on you with it. Like, they're gonna wanna work with you on those things. And you should never feel like you're doing something wrong just because you feel a certain way. So I feel like that concludes today's episode. I think we covered so much and honestly, I hope that was helpful. All the stories that I share, I hope you could take bits and pieces

of what I say and apply it to something that you've been through or something that you've gone through in the past. And I hope it helps. And it resonates with you. Thank you so much as always for listening. If you haven't already, be sure to rate the podcast on Spotify and Apple Podcast. It would mean so much to me. I did mention that I'm going to be having guests on this year and I promise that's coming in the spring and I'm very excited about it. If you have any other topic requests you want to talk about, you want to share with me. If you have any other topic requests, you want to talk about, you want to share with me. If you want to hear something specific on the podcast,

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