Duncan Trussell Family Hour - 425: David Sauvage
Episode Date: February 27, 2021David Sauvage, a true empath and authentic healer, joins the DTFH! Check out David's book: Healing Heals the Healer Too, and you can read more about David's Empath Popup here. If you want more info ...on Dave check out his site, Empath.NYC, and follow him on Instagram and Clubhouse (@empath)! Original music by Aaron Michael Goldberg. This episode is brought to you by: BetterHelp - Visit betterhealth.com/duncan to find a great counselor and get 10% off of your first month of counseling! BLUECHEW - Use offer code: DUNCAN at checkout and get your first shipment FREE with just $5 shipping. Mint Mobile - Visit MintMobile.com/Duncan and get premium wireless service for just $15 a month!
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It's me, and we've got a glorious podcast for you today.
And guess what?
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which is why I have with us today a true empath.
David Sauvage is here with us,
and he's an authentic healer and an empath.
It was really wonderful getting to chat with him
because people like him, I don't know how it works.
We talk about it a little bit.
They can generate some kind of field
that seems to transcend distance.
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that David generates.
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Look, I know I said we weren't going to talk about the alien invasion.
I wasn't going to bring up their insane time displacement
blaster that freezes you in time forever
or their hypnotic eyes that make your brain bleed from looking at them.
But let's face it, we're being invaded by aliens
and the odds are that time itself is going to be devoured
by one of those fucked up sky worms
they ride around on to eat time.
The point is, I love y'all
and I'm really grateful to you for listening to this podcast for all this time
and it's really a beautiful thing that even as we're being invaded by aliens
you've chosen this as probably one of the last podcasts
you're ever going to listen to before you get turned into a bloody, pulpy
pile of bubbling meat husk.
But I just want to say that should we make it through this thing
and somehow, I don't even see how it's possible
80% of the world leaders have all been driven mad
or have jumped into the vortex of doom
the aliens opened up in France.
So yeah, I don't see any way that we're really going to get out of this
but if we do make it out
I'd like to invite you to join my Patreon
over at patreon.com.
I know what you're thinking really
any second my fucking body could get irradiated
or ripped apart by those bullet larvae things
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Yeah, I know
and I know you're probably thinking
well get on with the fucking podcast with the empath
how about that instead of showing your subscription paywall thing
how about let me hear the healer here
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should somehow by some impossible miracle
not only do we make it out of this invasion
but somehow the earth is rebuilt
and the internet still exists
which I can't imagine it will
you know if you could see right now
if you could see my legs are doing that thing
from the time waves they shoot out their ships
and have withered
and now look like the legs are probably a hundred year old
my toes have curled up backwards
my toenails are growing into my foot
it's very painful
but perhaps you know this is actually
this isn't going to continue
maybe there is a chance
and I really hope you'll subscribe over
again that's at patreon.com
whether you want to believe it or not
healing exists in ways that
you probably wouldn't imagine it existed
if you're like I was a few years ago
just pretty much thought anything that sounded
even remotely weird was more than likely bullshit
I've been proven wrong many times
thank God in that regard
and so I can't really claim to be a skeptic
or a cynic at least as much as I was before
but I met David in New York some time ago
and was really blown away just by his energy
he's a fascinating person
I'd already heard about him
he's a real empath
he can truly tune in to other people's energy fields
and from doing that he really can
he really heals people
what do you want I don't know
how does that work I don't know
I'm not Neil deGrasse Tyson
I don't care how it works to be honest
like when I'm drinking a margarita
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making me feel so good
I just like the way it feels
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like David Savage I just enjoy it now
and I think you will too
it's actually an experiment I'd like to hear from y'all
after listening to this episode
did you experience anything
did you get sort of
I don't know like upshifted
or did you feel like the energy he was putting out
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and I'll take all responses
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you're like 17 toks over the line man
and you would be right
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about his empath pop up on medium.com
now everybody please welcome to the DTFH
David Savage
Welcome, welcome to you
that you are with us
shaken, no need to be blue
Welcome to you
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David, welcome to the DTFH
thank you so much
for coming on today
I'm so excited to be here
Thank you
Okay, I just want to start off with more of a brief story
forgive me for being rude
than a question
just because what you do is so fascinating to me
not just because the implications of the possibility of the human humanity
and human consciousness
but because once, years and years and years ago
I was on a healthy dose of mushrooms
when I was a young lad in Asheville, North Carolina
and I was over at some friend's house
a friend's house and they had this beautiful kitten
and I was petting this kitten
this has never happened to me before
never happened to me since
but all of a sudden, I felt what it was like to be the kitten
and it wasn't like, you know, it wasn't a conceptual thing
of like, I bet it feels great to have a person touching you
and it was scary
because I felt the consciousness
I was like, I just put my consciousness into the kitten
and I was wondering, as an empath, is that what it's like
when you tune in to somebody, is it a sense of
just becoming them for lack of a better word?
Yes, you got it exactly
that is the most expanded form of empathy
is where you just become the other
and as you discovered, the other doesn't have to just be a person
though I tend to work with people
but the other can just as easily be an animal
or another kind of being
when was the first time that you experienced this?
Probably around the same time you experienced it
when we were in the womb
or just out
and we were completely unseparated from our mothers
Wow, and do you remember that?
No
Okay, so, but theoretically you're just saying
like the experience of being a baby
is just tuning in
oh, that is so interesting
so that's what it's like just to be a fresh human
Yeah, I think so
Wow
And I think children, the younger a child is
the less developed their sense of self is
the less those boundaries mean anything
So you can imagine being one year old, let's say
imagine you have a twin, you're one year old and you have a twin
and now the twin is freaking out about something
would you know on any level that you're not freaking out
or would you not be fully embodied in the freak out of your one year old twin?
Oh, wow, yeah, wow
Yeah, you know, when my first son was
just, I think he was right around one
he saw me, I can't remember what happened
it wasn't even that big a deal but I cut myself
or I was working on something, I cut myself
and he'd never seen me get hurt
and his reaction was to hold his hand
where I had hurt myself and to start crying holding his hand
Whoa, that's wild, so this thing that you have perfected
you're saying this is a natural phenomena, this is just something we do
Absolutely, and what you just described with the cut is called
mirrored touch synesthesia
where you have a physiological experience
of somebody else's physiological experience
and it is extremely common
in fact horror movies rely on it
so when you watch something horrible happen to somebody on a screen
don't you feel it on some level?
Yeah, yeah, sure
especially if it's like well done
to me that's a true horror movie
that is the effect weirdly that we want
but this, but there is a difference
between what you are capable of doing
and what most people are currently capable of doing
we're not all going around experiencing other people
as though they were us
but you are, or you can
so what happened?
and you know outside of the theoretical
this is what it's like when you're a baby
can you talk a little bit about when this started manifesting in your life?
Yeah, definitely
and I agree with you that the way I play with being an empath
is extraordinary
not in the egoic sense of I'm extraordinary
but in the sense literally it is extraordinary
I go further than most people do
with their empathic abilities
but at the same time I feel like it's an ability so many of us have
it's just I've turned it on more
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maybe a bit like
like musical talent
we all have some musical talent
we all could play something if we practiced it
and some of us are going to be more naturally gifted than others
so I'm probably on the
I'm definitely on the more gifted side of empathy
but it's more universal than it's given credit for
so it came up for me
about
seven or eight years ago
when
I asked myself for the first time
in a real way
why am I so depressed
that's that was the
that's my origin story
I was
heavy and thick
and my energy was low
and I thought that the reason I was depressed
if you would ask me David why are you depressed
and if I had felt safe enough to tell you
I would have told you that I was depressed
because my career as a director
was floundering
directing documentaries and commercials
and I wasn't getting the jobs I wanted
and I wasn't getting the financing I wanted
for my films
and it just left me catatonic
but I had
just an intuition one day
that the depth of my depression
could not be explained
merely by my failures as a director
there was something else going on
and that question
led me to
it led me toward
somatic experiencing
in the sense of I started to
feel into what my depression felt like
what is this energy
it was the first time I'd gotten out of my head
and into my body with it
it also led me to plant medicine
and ayahuasca and
campedro and mushrooms as well
and playing with this question
what is really going on
what started to emerge
and then became so obvious
it couldn't be ignored
was that I had absorbed other people's emotions
I was like a pipe
that had been clogged
with all this stuff that wasn't mine
and it was
to give an example
it could be
my friend
who went into law school
and was filled with anxiety around it
and I had taken on some of that anxiety
it could be the barista
at the Starbucks
who was frustrated that day
and handed me my coffee
with that frustration
and I had absorbed that
or it could be deeper things
like
the grief from
my family history in Eastern Europe
that traveled from my grandmother
so I was carrying all these emotions
mostly negative
inside my own body
and I also
had never learned how to process emotions
period
so I learned how to process emotions
I discovered that these emotions
I was carrying were at mine
and as I processed them and as I released them
I discovered that I was
hypersensitive to the emotions
around me in the present moment
so I could walk into a room
and really know what somebody was feeling
and I also had this gift
that predated my empathic abilities
which is that I'm articulate
so I'm able to put words
to feelings better than most
so you combine those two gifts
and suddenly I found myself
describing other people's experiences
vividly
in a way that they could relate to
using my own sensitivity as my guide
and that
it started out just
really nilly
this is what I feel like you're going through
this is what I'm going through, let's play
and there was
a sense that more
was to be made of it
and I started to take my sensitivity
and turn it into performance art
I would sit
in front of audiences
back when there were audiences
and I would invite somebody from the audience
to sit with me on the stage
close my eyes, take their hands
and feel what it is they're feeling
and reflect back to them
their feelings
I called this show empath
and that's
I guess my origin story
wow
that is wild
I have some
just basic empathy
for you
where I would approximate
that experience
especially through psychedelics
I can recall a few
I can remember once
what I consider to be
a pretty
these days an error in judgment
which is don't take acid
and go to a restaurant
you want to order food right now
when you're tripping you're really going to eat
are you actually hungry
but I did that
and I remember just
looking in someone's eyes
like for a flash
it was just like
just getting a hit of all their pain
it was someone who was just
I don't know what the specifics
but it was just so powerful
I have that person's face stuck in my head
I think about them sometimes
just because it was such an
intense connection
with someone I'll never talk to again
I would not want
what I'm saying is I wouldn't want that to
be a kind of day to day
experience
I think that I would
develop probably some kind of
anxiety disorder
can you turn it on and off
I can turn it on and off
but I would also say
we're built differently
and that
when I'm in your presence
I really feel this
powerful energy coming out of you
through you
there's a lot of joy and playfulness
and so much curiosity
and it's a very strong identity
but when you're around me
and I don't
I think this is your nature
I think this is just who you are
and what you're here to do on this earth
and I have a different
energy field and a different
mission on planet earth
and part of being me
is this porousness
this emptiness
not in the maybe
somewhat in the conventional buddhist
sense
but I mean it more literally
like a kind of void in my
energy field that allows for
other people to enter
and my journey
is to master that void
and that's just what I'm doing here
I don't know why
I didn't choose that mission
it's just what's up with me
now for me and for people
who are built like me
you go
no please go ahead
I'm sorry I cut you off
for me and people who are built like me
our job is to learn how to master
boundaries how do I let people in
when it's safe and how do I close
the door when I need to recover
and who is it safe for me to open up to
and
a lot of people with my sensitivity
and my gifts end up with overwhelming
anxiety and burnout or depression
because like me they absorb a lot of
stuff so we have to learn
but for somebody who more naturally
like
exudes their own energy
like that's not
if you were to try to become like me you're right
you would break down really quickly
but that's not how your system is built to run
you know
well
I wonder you know
only because the invitation in a lot of the buddhist
scriptures that I've been
studying is to become
is to not just
not necessarily to become empty
but to begin to recognize
the emptiness that's already there
that you know whatever this thing
is that you're experiencing
that's me
it has to be inside of something
you know there has to be the womb that holds it
and that
I'm guessing is that's where you
that's more where you're at
but
which is
I could be confused and I probably am
regarding buddhism but that does seem to be
one of the
qualities of awakening
is that you
start emptying out like that whole
the phantom self or whatever that is
it becomes more porous
and I guess ramdas call that you become
you get quiet
and I don't think he just meant
as in you stop talking as much which is part
of it but your energy field
becomes quiet and
also it reminds me
I was reading the scripture on the buddha
like it was a
literally like how did he walk
how did he wash his hands
like here's an enlightened being let's study
everything and one of the things
that they mentioned that I love
which reminds me of you is
they said
he listened with his whole body
that is so cool
you know he listened with his
the entirety of himself
and
so I wanted to ask you about
that in particular specifically like
if maybe you could teach me
a little bit about
listening from the heart or
the heart energy
center
what it is
and how to
maybe become a little less in your head
and more in your heart
yeah I'd love to
the foundation of listening
with the heart for me
is
being in my body
and I'm going to define
in my body in a way that
people can really follow
and that is bringing my
consciousness my attention
that word's a good one bringing my attention
to what my body
feels like
even just saying that
I can feel my attention
lowering
and it starts to scan my whole body
and now if you want
you can bring your attention
to your heart
and before you even try
to feel anyone else just feel what it's
like for you to feel
your heart
or your heart center
the area around your heart
what does that feel like for you Duncan
oh it feels good
yeah I because I spent
most of my life out of that mother fucker
because I was afraid of it and then
just lately I've been working with it and anytime
I can drop in it's the
it's the
that's where I would love to spend most of my time
but I get knocked out I get knocked out
of it man I like
and I miss it but I can't get back in but now
you're help like I am there it's great
I love it
and in some ways it's actually just as simple
as that it's just
paying attention to what our heart
feels like
our actual organ and the area around it
oh yeah that's cool
yeah but what
what is attention
do you ever
do you have any idea what attention
itself is
well that question
might be above my pay grade
but I'll tell you
but I'll tell you
a quote I heard
and I don't remember who said it
so whoever said it
I hope you're okay with me quoting you without getting credit
but I feel like you are
given the quote
so the quote is
attention is the most
basic form of love
oh fuck
that's good whoever you are
that's good
wow
so attention is
the core the little seed
of love that is in our being
can express itself in so many ways
but the first way it
expresses itself
is attention the most basic way
wow
that's so cool
yeah
that's so cool
the Buddhist teacher was saying
the best way to be a parent
is just be in the moment
with your kids
be fully there with them
and that's all you need to do
and then that what you're saying
illuminates why that would be
just because you're
allowing them to be in
the field of your attention
which is love
and so that's so beautiful
one of the things
when I
in my work as
an empath I also do a lot of
empathy training
I do
couples counseling sometimes
and I do a lot of
conflict resolution for companies
and one of the things
I fall back on teaching
I see as a basic principle of empathy
is people want
to connect and they want
to
be kind but they don't know how
they hit all these walls
and
one place where I find
is a really good place to start
is to tell people stop trying
to love them stop trying
to care about them
just try to understand
them
that's so cool
well let's stop there for a second
because here's
the problem that I have encountered
from my
own experiments in this
is that
the ego
wants to be right
and this thing that you're to understanding
another person
suddenly if you do that
it's almost like you forfeit
you're
a very specific type of power
which is I think probably
an ignorant kind of power
a basic kind of power
the same power that ruins planet earth
is based on I'm right you're wrong
you deserve what you got
you should have done it differently
you fucked up I told you so
that kind of energy
but then the moment you spend
any time I spend the slightest amount of time
putting myself in
theoretically not
like literally but theoretically
into somebody else's life that I'm pissed at
suddenly you lose
now you can't even do that
now it's like oh fuck
yeah from the way they're seeing things
I totally would have done that
but you know what I'm saying but this
this weird
thing that I think a lot of us like to hold on to
an imaginary
club or justice a gavel
it evaporates
and now what
now what it says you so much of what we're taught
is based on like
almost some kind of
code of Hammurabi or some
exactly based on the code of Hammurabi
I think you're literally
literally right
like that was the first codified set of laws
from the top down
that organized
society in a way people could follow
and what
the logic of the law
is very coarse
and it sits on top of
the
impossible to articulate logic
of the heart
which expresses itself
only moment to moment
based on the
embodied truth
in each person
and you can't pin it down
or write codes about it
all you can do is be in service to it
and be present with it
and it evaporates very
quickly all of the
silly artifices
of our legal
economic and political systems
yes it's revolutionary
yes
but it's
I mean from the perspective of
like society running
as we're running it
it's a disaster
how are you going to
simultaneously pull off
any kind of exploitive anything
whatever it may be
you know the any kind of vampiric
attitude or anything
that appears so much of
what
the mind
attitude is celebrated
you know like getting one over
on somebody or you know
that I got the best possible fucking
contract I told him I was going to
literally I've had people say to me you've got to tell
him you're going to walk away
since you can get more money
and I always thought like but I'm going to be
making something with these people
you know what I mean like we're going to
start our engagement
with and you know is a director
you know what I'm talking about that attitude of like
squeeze the mother fuckers
because blah blah blah
and I know people
who do that it seems like so much
of
the way our society functions does not
come from that place that you're talking about
do you think
there's an intentional
attempt from
the sum total of all
those power structures that depend
on people being in their heads to keep
us out of our hearts
yes
and no
yes in the sense
that
the fear that
people in positions of power
exploit in order to have
us serve them
they are consciously doing
that
they are consciously doing that the
political system for instance
operates very much on that
nobody's running
a political ad that says
come into your heart
be truly present
I will meet you there and together
we will create
the change we cannot articulate
now because it will only be true
in the moment when it transpires
is no political ad
ever
right?
but
but
that's so cool
right I'd vote for that
I would vote for that person
but
but at the same
time what is unconscious
is the wound
of those people in power
that is driving them to behave that way
so they are
consciously
those at the top of the power structure
are often consciously exploiting
our vulnerabilities and keeping us out
of our hearts but they are not
conscious of the wound within themselves
that is causing them to do that
so for instance
if you take the example of those
people who are like just squeeze them
dunk and you can make a fortune
you can win
yeah
the way you might
play with thinking about it
when people come at you like that
and the way I aspire to be
when they come at me like that
is to see how much they must be hurting
in order to tell me to disconnect
from my own heart
right
right yeah
yeah
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you see this is the problem because if
essentially like
I think it's just
from a subjective perspective
the growing
realization of how addicted
I have in the past
been to
power to
all the stuff that's just such
a waste of time you know because
the difference to me between
being up in my head
which I perfected
living up there for the longest time
and being in my heart is you don't really
feel anything in your head it's just
thoughts it's vapor
there's nothing and then also at one
point I thought it was pretty amazing
that I'd managed to shut down
everything under my neck
I mean that's a
sad situation I was
in is it wasn't just that I was
in my head thinking God Duncan you really
need to you know you need to
probably a good thing to feel something more than
an icy numbness
in relation to reality
because more like wow
I did it
success
I'm numb from the neck down
I'll never feel pain again
you know like
and I don't know I don't know how many
people have made that decision
but I do understand why you would make that decision
I do understand why you would make
that decision because it is a pretty
heartbreaking world
wouldn't you say
yes
I probably wouldn't say it was a decision
it might have felt like a decision
but it was probably
a necessary
form of self-protection
there were probably
things that had happened to you
and certainly to me and to most people
listening that were unbearable
literally in the sense that we couldn't bear
the pain that they caused
and our nervous system took over
and said we are not going
to have you feel pain you cannot handle
so we are going to shut you down
and that is a
as a philosopher named
Thomas Hubel teaches around trauma
that is an intelligent function
that is an intelligent thing
that your body is doing if you cannot deal
so what we're
really waiting for are spaces and places
where we can come back to our feelings
come back to our bodies
safely and be held there
in community with each other
yeah
yeah
that's what you give people isn't it
that's part of what you do isn't it
that's the energy you're generating right now
so cool
it's a bubble
how cool is that
people start crying
and healing
that's so cool
what a wonderful talent that is
thank you for seeing me
yeah
thank you for doing it
interesting that
it works
it works but we're not in the same space
what is that
what does that imply
how much
change is actually possible
and how powerful media can be
to bring it about
yeah
huh
and you know if I can create a little bit of that
I would create
if I can open space
for your authentic experience
and your body and your feelings
and I can open space
for people who are listening
thanks to your reach
and this medium
what amazing shifts are possible in this world
that we haven't even imagined
yeah
that
see that's the thing
what you're talking about there
we look at the internet now
and everyone's like oh it's a nightmare
it's a swamp
you know the
it's why
it's just a wild swamp of
negativity
feedback loops
amplified feedback loops
but
the implication
is oh you know see the thing is
it's just conducting that kind of energy
because that's the energy that's being put into it
so it's doing amplifications
of that kind of energy but the implication is if we
people start figuring out
how to pump through the medium
what you're doing
it's
that seems to be like a big secret
we just haven't quite gotten
there with it yet you know we're still at the part
where we're using fire to burn down
other people's villages
and somehow we haven't figured out
you can also cook with it
you know you don't have to just set people on fire
I couldn't agree more
my heart sings when you say that
I imagine the internet
or all of these screens that the internet
is connected to
it's like this piping system
this huge grid system
but we've been putting the wrong stuff
through the pipes
and what happens
if we just change
the stuff we put through the pipes
the
shift in consciousness that is possible
through using
the infrastructure of media
is unimaginable
we can have the world we are
hoping for
or as Charles Eisenstein puts it
the more beautiful world our hearts
know is possible
if and when those folks
who control
the pipelines to our eyes and heart
wake up to the
responsibility they have
and commit to allowing healing
energy through those pipes
I see it as an
inevitability
somehow the initial
waves of
the various earthquakes
that have trembled through the internet
over the last year
and many of those
earthquakes
are creepily constructed
weapons
clearly some kind of weapon
some enemy of this state
or that state
the CIA has done it
to overthrow governments
so it's a practice of distorting reality
around certain
countries
in a way that produces unrest
the unrest produces economic collapse
the economic collapse produces advantage
if you're the enemy of the thing
but again
if we can destroy with the damn thing
it will do the reverse
it will do the reverse
meaning you could potentially produce healing
some kind of a sound crazy
a healing bubble
some kind of like joy
data source
that isn't
bullshit
I'm not talking about roomy memes or some nonsense
I've had other healers
that do something like
I've had a similar experience
just being on the phone
where they've said look what do you think about
what about this
and then suddenly you just
you're blasted by whatever it is that they do
and it doesn't make sense
it's not supposed to work that way
it's tangible
and then I've said to them
what are you doing
what is that
that's amazing and they're like oh that's just
it's called sharing
that's so good
yeah but it's
it's wild
that is not just
that's a real thing
so what is it then
if we're going to get into this conversation
regarding healing energy
what is it
I think it's more than just placebo
is there some
unquantified
output or something
how could it possibly be
energy could get digitized
blasted
into the into space
and shot back to earth
so that it has a tangible effect
on someone far away
what is it what is this stuff
what are we working with here
well
I don't have a direct answer to your question
but I have an indirect
answer in the form of a vision
and maybe that vision
has the answer to your question in it
about
four or five years ago
I woke up with the thought
that what if
we could
sell healing
and transformation
and political change
real political change
not left right political change
the kind of deep political change everyone is ultimately
yearning for
what if we could sell that
at the same scale
the tools that coca-cola
uses to sell soda
what would that mean
imagine if you had
an ad agency or an ad
agencies
and I started to think about what that agency would look like
this
fantastical agency that's selling
transformation the way coca-cola sells
soda and I realized
it would have to do something very different
you still with me
yeah
I'm with you
okay so I realized it would have to do something
very different
than the way ad agencies work today
it would have to rely
on the
intuitive
abilities of artists
to bring about the shift
so we'd be opening up
the floodgates
for the creatives who are already
in touch with the world we need to create
who can channel that energy
through their art
that could be visual art
it could be writing, it could be dancing
it could be any form of artistic expression
whatever is people's native gifts
and then the media
would be the vehicle
for pushing forth
all of this beautiful work
that is calling into being the world we all want
I can see that
I can feel that
I know that that's a possibility
in my heart
in some ways I tried to build it
but I wasn't ready for it yet
so I think
I love it
so I think what that healing energy
is
is
a sense of a future
a felt sense of a future
that some people
are able to hold in the presence
and artists
for instance
healers too
yeah
healers too, artists for instance
are able to channel that
and if we can allow those artists
the space and give them the resources
to channel that the way
we currently channel
Hollywood
and beer commercials
and billboards for shoes
we can put those
two things together
the artists who hold the keys to the future
and the platforms
that are now selling stuff nobody needs
oh my god
we are home
that's my vision anyway
yeah
yeah it's like
well
you know
so
it happens in war
it happened during the pandemic
they repurpose facilities
to
pump out something that they need
for war
they repurpose facilities to pump out
masks now
but what you're talking about is like
repurposing these pre-existing
amplification structures
that are being used to sell like brown water
and then
so you don't really have to start fresh
you're using something that's already built in
that already has
like a grasp
on the importance of sigils
symbolism
the power that that has
but instead of maybe like
you know what's that great
documentary
Zizek's
you know what I'm talking about
it's very funny
but he's just analyzing
commercials and movies and stuff
but you know he's like out in the middle of the desert
with
a warm bottle of Coke
and he like takes a sip
and he's like
it's cold
but then he's talking about these Coca-Cola commercials
you know how they're
implying that you drink this stuff
and like your life is you're at a rave
you've got beautiful friends all of a sudden
they're healthy
this is the peak experience
wrapped up around something that is
as far away from that as anything could be
so
what I'm saying is
what you're saying
is brilliant because the structure's in place
and maybe the reason we
there is a kind of like
fashionable
that seems to be actually weirdly going away
but I'm from the 90s
I don't know where you're from but there's a vilification of corporations
which is now I think
being looked at by young
but that is now seen as a musty attitude
by younger generations
they don't see it like that
they don't have that same sense
that we do
or had
but maybe the vilification is more related
not so much to the
you know communal endeavor
of a corporation
to like create life's free
for that group of people working there
but it seems to be
the locus of the thing seems to be
just like what you're saying around something
that maybe we don't quite need
so you're looking at a kind of fervor
associated with
a briefcase or you know what I mean
a phone Jesus Christ
like the new iPhone commercials are so powerful man
like they're erotic somehow
one of them made I was like
weirdly turned on by an iPhone commercial
it's like what are you guys
you've figured something out here it's powerful
but imagine centering that power
around what you're talking about
this future
but I want to talk to you about this
and not to get too literal
okay great
so when you say an artist is channeling
or connecting to some possible future
mm-hmm
do you think
it's possible that there's
an actual kind of wormhole
situation happening here
where there is this future the
Shambhala the beautiful
vision of that we're all kind
of feeling and that
via some
strange quantum entanglement
to a potential
paradise version of reality
where it's not just like
we're imagining something
but it's more like we're
some quantum level in the heart chakra
we're opening up
a tiny little portal
that is manifesting here
in a thing called that we are calling art
but it's that's just what we call it here
it's it's something
pouring in from that
place
yeah I feel
I feel like first
before I answer your question
you can probably tell how I'm going to answer your question
before I do
I just want to acknowledge
the part of me
that can't believe that's even possible
and I want to acknowledge
the part of all of us
that cannot imagine
that there could be
a more beautiful world out there
in the future
in the present through our hearts
and through art and through healing
that that is unimaginable
and I think one of the reasons
why that's so hard to imagine
for so many of us
and so painful on some level to imagine
is because if we were
to fully step into the reality
that that world is possible
and that we right now have
the power to channel it
and bring it into being
if we were to fully step into that reality
we would have to grieve
for the way we've been living so far
it will be so
painful for us to have to acknowledge
the mindless
silly
shallow
empty
ways we spend
most of our days
and all of the phony shared agreements
that we all hold around
money and science
and
just government
and all of these
these artifices
to mourn those
so that's why I think we have trouble
being in the truth
and the truth is what you said so beautifully
which is that
yes, absolutely
I know in my bones
in my heart and my being and at the level
of my soul
that time
is not linear
and that we hold in the present
both the future and the past
and as we come into
a deeper awareness of who we really are
time
diffuses and dilates
and we can tap into
the more beautiful world
that we want and bring it into being
and in fact on some level
it is already here
and it is simply waiting for us to acknowledge it
oh wow
yeah
that
see that
to me
that is where it's at
because it's not so much that
it's like
just thinking in terms of just
the way we currently understand travel
you want to land a plane
you're going to have to build a runway
you need the runway first
and so
to me that's what we're calling
the internet right now
that's the runway
that's the machine that's building itself
out of us
and then the plane
and we're using terms
like future right now
you might as well say it's a
place in the past
there's really no difference
one or the other
but it's there
it's real
and this might be thinking
what the fuck are you talking about Duncan
but other people are thinking
I know exactly the city
the place
I know exactly what you're talking about
I know I never wanted even to believe
that it could be real
because that's the other thing
it's heartbreaking to think about it too much
because the moment you connect
with it and you feel it
there's a
how can you not
how can you not have a sense of
missing
or did I do something wrong
that I should not be there
now and I should be here
or various
thoughts like that
but it reminds me a little bit of
sorry y'all but
like Burning Man you come in early for the
bill
to me it seems like some people are here for the
build of this thing
and weirdly part of that is you don't
get to remember
that you were sitting here
you got to be a little amnesic
I don't know why that is
but it seems to be a quality
of
this work that we're talking about
for lack of a better word
I feel like trying to make this
just a touch more concrete
please
and I'll do it by bragging
great
which is one of the things I'm most proud of
I've ever done in my life
was
I rented a storefront in the east village
a year and a half ago
on 12th street
between A and B
just a small store
and I put up a neon sign in the window
with the word empath
and I called it the empath pop up
and people would
come in
and I would say would you like some empathy
and they would come and they would sit
and I had two fellow empaths
working with me
the three of us would hold the space together
Bailey and Jess
and people would sit for hours
and they would just share what they were feeling
and other people would listen
and that was it
it was really as simple as that
and we created what you were calling earlier
a shared field
and the field was
merely permission
to allow people to be as they are
and to accept them as they are
that was
it and that was not just
enough that was plenty
that was spectacular
that was earth shattering
to do that in a storefront
in the east village
it cost me
a friend of mine financed it
it cost him me us $5,000
we took it over for two weeks
and we changed the field of New York City
and we had a lot of empath pop up
and you know what
you can do it on a smaller scale than that
all it requires
to channel this energy
is to sit with someone
and really tune into how they're truly doing
or to sit with yourself
and ask yourself what's really going on inside
really truly
and if you're numb and you don't feel anything
then that's what's going on and that is okay
and accept that you're numb
and if you're an artist
and you're in front of a page
or if you're a dancer
to allow your body
or if you're a singer to allow your voice
to express whatever it is
that is alive in you
what is truly alive in you
it's stepping out for just a moment
from your conception of what you're supposed to create
from what will make money
from what will succeed
though those things are perfectly wonderful things to worry about
but that is not the future we are creating here
it's just to be present to what is truly alive
and to be holding in yourself and in others
and that's how you can tap into
and touch that world that Duncan and I
are alluding to
wow
that is so
cool that you did that
I have a lot of admiration for you
that is
you should brag about that
because the steps leading up to that
you have to really overcome a lot of
you know
there's a lot of reasons to not do that
there's a lot of reasons to not do that
and to get to the point where you actually
do it
wow that is beautiful
are you going to do that again
once this thing passes
my dream is May
2022
so yeah once this thing passes
I envision taking over
a huge storefront in Soho
putting the word empath
really big
and opening up a space for people to connect
and hug and be present with each other
where we don't even
try to extract your emails from you
our intention is so clean
and so pure
all we ask for is presence
and for you to take off your shoes
and um
so yeah I'm
intending and hoping to do that
and if somebody listening is like yes that sounds awesome
feel free to reach out
to jam
well I think that you could expect
I would say that you could sort of
you know I love science fiction
and I love like
you know
what to look for in space
what you could expect to see out there
if there was an advanced civilization
you know so
you might expect to see
massive machines around
a star
converting the energy of the star
or capturing the energy of the star
to use for this or that
if you see a star
that appears to be obscured
in a predictable way
that could be what it was
you know I love reading
about quantum physics because
the
physicists when they're saying
well how do we build a time machine
they don't let any kind of
thing like we don't have the ability
to do to create
a cylinder
the size of the universe
but if you created a cylinder
the size of the universe
and then ran it
got it to spin and somehow it
structurally stayed intact
potentially
there might be a way to go backwards
in time but you would need that much
energy to do that regardless
I'm on a little tangent I'm sorry
I would say if there were
many people have
felt
the possibility of some incoming
intelligence to the planet
it's going to show
one of the ways you would expect it to show up
is what you're talking about
suddenly these
pop-ups that are weird
empathy crop circles
that are just suddenly there
and then that would spread
and then more would start popping up
and then probably some methodology
for connecting them
which would then cause them to spread more
it would be things like that
moments, things like that
where it doesn't make any sense
well why would it?
because on one level there is time
and the problem with this
is it's like
Taylor de Chardon
I can't say his name but he talked about the omega point
this place of maximum harmony
and maximum complexity
and if that were a place
or a place that we're being
drawn into
part of being drawn into it
we'd start seeing better versions
of it all about
and it would definitely one of the first place
it shows up is the heart
center and then it's going to tell you
okay why don't you open this thing
it's an empathy dome or whatever
and most people are going to hear that
and be like I'm not fucking doing that
that's crazy an empathy
dome
I can't make money with an empathy dome
I'm going to franchise a heart ease
or a Wendy's
you know what I mean but
one of the paradoxes of
possible paradoxes in
creating a time machine
is that you could travel back to yourself
and tell yourself
how to make a time machine
from the future when there was a time machine
and in that case the ability to
the
inspiration for a time machine would have come
from the future
where it would have been impossible
for that to happen it's a paradox
but I think
this is what
this is what we can start expecting
is
messages from
ourselves in the future
inviting us to do a thing
but the reason that there are ourselves
in the future are able to send us
those messages is because we did the thing
you know like that's the paradox
it doesn't work with the way
we understand
time right now
so I think most people just turn it off anyway
but I think we can start expecting to see
more and more of this what other ideas do you have
for the
for amplification
mechanisms to create
the shift in consciousness that
so many people are
beginning to realize is
legitimately possible
so I told you about my fantasy
for an agency of
massive transformation
I told you about my empath
pop-up idea which I want to do
and you intuited correctly that I have visions
or maybe you have visions we both have visions
of that spreading and spreading until
imagine
to play with that one for one more second before I tell you
another vision imagine
all these malls that have been emptied
all these storefronts that have been emptied
imagine if they were spaces of
genuine connection imagine
if you knew you could walk down the street and instead
of going to buy a shirt that is
supposed to bring you happiness and connection
you walk next door and actually connect
with humans who actually do bring you happiness
and connection
yeah
yeah what where are you
gonna go yeah where are you gonna go
you're you're what you're talking about
is the
it is the to
me I see it is like
you know the problem is
our country's been at war for 93%
of its history so we come from a war culture
I mean we're basically Klingons
and so the way we think about things
sadly that our language is
market language and war language
but
to me what you're talking about is similar to
a guerrilla warfare
the opposite of guerrilla warfare
where it's like no don't worry we're not
gonna we're not gonna do some violent
thing revolution thing
actually we're gonna do something that's
far more effective which is we're just gonna
produce
the actual experience that
you're selling this honestly
yeah
and we won't even need to sell it that much
because it will be the real thing it will sell itself
so you have to you know
somebody once said that
marketing or advertising
is a tax you pay
for being unremarkable
because you have to
that's vicious
that's vicious
but you need all this extra energy to sell
something that does not sell on its own
whereas theoretically if you were to create the thing
itself
like here you can come into this place
and actually feel connected and loved
because that's we're really offering connection
and love for real
then you might not even have to market it so much
people would just come and come and come
I have
I have other visions
of
of the way that this
this transformation will spread
I've been I was so inspired
by Occupy Wall Street
and
I think there is such
opportunity for
people to
plop themselves down in the
right space or spaces
and just say here we are
and
the beauty of Occupy Wall Street is
when you were there
in the actual space
it was a world of mutual aid
so whatever your gifts were
you were giving them my gifts are in media and communication
so I was helping in media and communication
but if you were great with food
you were in the kitchen cooking and if you
had
if you were a doctor you were a medic helping out
and everyone was if you were good at logistics
which I'm a nightmare at
you were figuring out how all this fit together
and people were just giving their gifts
and the community built itself
the problem with Occupy Wall Street
was that it was antagonistic
it was Occupy Wall Street
and as we
the deeper we go into
the energy of fighting
and occupation
we realize that we are just calling back
what we are fighting to come back
at us which is what happens
it was still beautiful
and I'm still proud that I gave my whole heart to it
but the next occupation of Wall Street
won't be occupying Wall Street
it will be just being
and connecting and sharing
so somebody can take over
a big plot of land somewhere
plant a flag and say here we are
we're going to feed people
we're going to care about people
and that's all we're doing
that's it we're just taking care of each other
in the spirit of mutual aid
and I think
if that were to happen
today the first thing you would have
are the darker forces calling
a bunch of idiot hippies
and a bunch of whatever
but there would be enough people like you and me
I think now
who have professional media backgrounds
and understand tools of communication
well enough to get the message out
that might be able to break through
what Fox News would try to do to it
so that's another vision
and the last
I love that
please
as many as you got
I'll take one more please
one more vision please
I love
thank you for getting these out of me
I just like they just
swim around in my head all the time
the last vision
is what I'm calling
an organized politics of love
and
it would manifest
as it would look like
protests but it wouldn't be protests
it would be people showing up
loving with love
the people they are protesting against
so an example would be
what's a Monsanto
a boogeyman of the left
that is doing all sorts of horrible things
to our soil and our food
what if
instead of fighting Monsanto
we hate Monsanto
screw Monsanto
tear down Monsanto
what if there was an organization of people
who went to Monsanto
with the intention of loving them into changing
we see you Monsanto
we care about you Monsanto
we
we send love to the CEO
we are here truly to have an open dialogue
to understand where you're coming from
and to help you
shift into awareness
we don't want to cancel you
or scare you
we want to hold your hand through this shift
so it's like this new form of activism
that has not yet been born
I haven't even seen examples of this
but I know it would work
if the leadership arrived
to crystallize it
okay
so here's my response to that
it would work
as above so below
so you can understand
the way black holes
smash into each other just from
looking at things on planet earth
and making them much much much bigger
and you can be very accurate in that
so
okay so
unconditional positive regard
Carl Rogers
I know he was a little bit
okay so
because he was in
I think because he was a psychologist
he had to come up
with a word that wouldn't
seem cheesy to
academics for love
so his word for that was
unconditional positive regard
and
which is a brilliant way of saying
love but
one of the stories that's always stuck
with me
is there was this kid who was about to get
sent to a
reformatory
or prison situation
because he was misbehaving so much
doing horrible things
and they tried everything
and so Carl Rogers
was
working with this new idea
which is exactly what you're talking about
but the collective version of this
so essentially
the kid comes in
to his office
and he describes the look on the kid's face
and other psychologists like
and I think the kid said something
like I'm not talking
and Carl Rogers said
you don't have to talk
and
yeah
and
the kid
sat at his desk and there was crayons
and he was just drawing and then he left
and then he came back
same thing
and all Carl Rogers was doing
was scolding a space
of unconditional positive
regard for this kid
for once
nobody was trying to change him
nobody was scolding him
they were just letting him be
in a space of attention
and that kid everybody was like
what are you doing
he's so happy
he's healing
so
this is also
why being in the presence of
Ram Dass's Guru named Crowley Baba
which is just that
this being
knew you
and loved you
not for how you might be
but how you were just then
all of it
and that was enough
to cause many people to wake up
just that experience
but what you're saying that's so brilliant
is there could be the possibility
of actually collectivizing
that
whatever that phenomena
and focusing it
on all the
structures that are currently
causing problems
you know because these people
it's like you want to make the people
the left you know my wife
and I we I don't know why we do this
we shouldn't but we like we hate watch
Tucker Carlson just to get it
it's like a barometer for conditioning
how how what's the propaganda machine
trying to make us afraid of
but then it's addictive but
they love the hate
they want the left to hate them
they enjoy it it makes them feel
it gives them street cred
they think we're crazy
but what you're talking about is
really like a dissolution
like they don't if you don't give
any fuel for them to exist
to burn the fire
they will melt into your arms
if you can hold them in a field
of sufficient love
and and we're Tucker Carlson
and Ann Coulter
and other right-wing ideologs
Rush Limbaugh are right
they're right is the
hypocrisy of the left when it comes
to love and tolerance
and right you know on the left
there's this there's this myth
that we care about people and we want
to save spaces but that's not
true we only want safe spaces
for people who are aligned
with our vision of the world
and if you are a fascist
or a racist
an out-and-out racist not the subtle
racism but like the actual
extreme racism of a Tucker Carlson or
something we have no space
for you and he's
right in pointing out the hypocrisy
of the left and so in
a sense the right
is challenging the left to
grow up and integrate
fully
right the pain
that the people on the right are experiencing
that is causing that level of hatred
to come at us
it all feels it all feels so possible
I mean it like I mean put me
like Tucker if you want to have me on your
on your show tomorrow I would
go joyfully like
we need we need people
who can
step into those spaces and hold them
in unconditional positive
regard and see
that the hatred that they're spewing
is ultimately coming from a form of self
hate
and can we hold that
compassionately I think I can
and I think there are other people who can
and I think that that kind of activism
the conscious and deliberate use
of love to bring about
massive shifts
is like so untapped
it's so it feels so possible
so ripe so ready but hasn't happened yet
it's like coming soon to a world near you
this world
it's coming to this world through what you're talking
about because it's
this is your number
your analysis of Occupy Wall Street
is brilliant and
it's true where the problem is
I've
talked about this in earlier podcast sorry for those
listening but I noticed once
that when I would go and visit my dad
during like the power struggle
time that I know when I would look at myself
in the mirror I would look
fatter
because my dad would make fun of me being fat
and I would look at myself in the
mirror and see
a representation
of me that matched how my dad
imagined me
like but
in later life I thought is that
some kind of like quantum entanglement
observer effect
where my dad so didn't want me to be
some certain way it was
concretizing that way
any time I got around him and
so this is the problem is like
we're making
the very thing that is infuriating
us
it's a
terrible relationship
I was just
watching this documentary on bees
with my son
there's a
monk's hood flower it's actually poisonous
beautiful flower looks like
a hood
purple and there's a type of bee
that's evolved
to only go into that kind of flower
and it was saying the problem with this
is if one goes away the other one
goes away
but this kind of
demonic pollination
yeah exactly yeah
we're the bee we're the thing
pollinating the thing that we
are by the very act of disliking
something we pollinate the thing
into the world more
so the experiment is one of
collectivized
non-bullshit
love see because this is what I think
I think this shit is legitimately quantifiable
I think there is
some possibility of measuring
this energy
like I don't think it's just like
a group of people smiling at you
or letting you be I think there's a real
energetic system here
that we don't really understand
because we've been spending
all our time developing the opposite energetic system
things that
shatter people into a million pieces
instead of things that make them whole
and but I think
it's a real system like folks
listening quantum businesses out there I'm telling you
get us a Fermilab
fuck going on we need you at Fermilab
we need you
in a place where like
what you're doing can be really measured
so we can start understanding
I'm not going to keep going on in this ramp
but to finish it up
this book I'm listening to
or one of the Tibetan Buddhist books I'm listening to
they put this monk into an MRI
machine
and started playing
sounds unpleasant sounds
like sounds of people screaming
or sounds of like bad things
happening to see what part of the brain
was lighting up
and what they said was
what they said is that the part of the brain
lighting up is the part where mothers hear
their children crying
like the monk had to
why was his compassion
that makes so much sense
yeah yeah it's pretty wild
so what I'm saying is it's not just
this isn't just the realm of like
you know
new age
imaginary shit I think this is
legitimate tangible
energy that we just haven't figured out
like
what it is exactly
hold on one second
I'm getting a charger hold on
okay great
what's your one last thought on what we're saying
there was a bit of news
on the radio I heard
in a cab in New York City
a year or two ago
and it was a tease
for a news
program and it said this person
is having tremendous
effects on healing people
what is he doing
why are these patients getting healthy
what is his magic
and they interviewed this guy
who was going around to patients
after surgery
and spending time with them
and asking how they were doing
and listening to them
and caring about them
and patients were getting better from the surgeries
faster
and the guy was mystified why people were mystified
he was like yeah I'm just making people
feel seen and understood
and then that helps them
and then the news people were like
but how does this work
it's like
it's just
so while
I share your
I share your desire
for science to come in and validate
the healing power of compassion
so that people who are not
in their hearts can finally realize
those of us who dabble in our hearts
already know that compassion is healing
I also
long for a cultural
shift that doesn't put
these greater powers at the service
of science that doesn't say
we are not real this is not valid
until science comes down and stamps us
with its approval because most people
operating in the sciences
are coming from the detached
headspace of prove it to me
and the detached headspace
prove it to me is not the world
that I want to surrender to
I want the people who have those skills
to be in service of the heart
not the heart to be in service
of their worldview
well
when I was saying it the reason I was getting into the
quantifiable part is not to prove it
necessarily
because I don't need it proven
but
but more from
I think from
the perspective of
oh I think this is
actually the technology
I think this is an actual technology
and I think because it's a technology
it's
we can perfect it
using all methods
it's a self perfecting technology
and so
even though I know what you mean
I don't need like some fucking
scientist to come and be like
I tried my
I turned on my measurement device
and guess what
compassion's not real
you know I don't need that
you know
that was one of the
very funny article I read
very short article
which was some quantum
physicists at Fermilab
announced there's no such thing as ghosts
because if there was
they would have detected them in the particle accelerator
I think it was a little tongue in cheek
but to me it was
it was a really funny like very
scientific thing to say okay
we've eliminated the possibility
of ghosts in all levels
of the universe forever
via you know blowing up
fucking atoms
but yeah
but I'm saying that this thing
that you're talking about
there's a quality
to it that it's
naturally attractive
and naturally self-evolving
like it evolves itself
and the way it evolves itself is
via connection it functions
within the connection
between people who are in their heart
and then when it shows up it grows
and then in that
it takes on many different forms
and I don't think these forms
are going to be limited to even humans
I think that
AI is potentially going to
be one of the ways we measure it
which is what does happen
if you get an empath
to hang out with a neural network
you know what would happen
if you did the very thing
you do with people
with one of these like advanced
AI's that they have right now
my sense I would like to test this
more but my sense
is that I could tap into the intention
of the programmers who created it
so whatever
the programmer is holding
in his or her heart
when they are writing the script
that is the foundation of AI
that is the energy that the
AI holds
so that speaks to the absolute critical
importance of getting
the technologists who are holding
our future in their hands
in the technical sense
getting them into their hearts
because if they are not in their hearts
but if they are in their hearts
if they see this responsibility
that they are holding
fully
and are connected to their hearts
what AI can do could just be
unbelievably beautiful
see this is
I
though I know
I understand why
that would be a concern
but from my very brief
investigation of
AI and neural networks
they don't know what the fuck
is going on in there a lot of the times
they don't know there is too much going on
they are not even sure so they
might be able to create a chain reaction
or a situation where
something is happening but the
evolutionary process that is taking place
is I think
if it were within their control then it would be too slow
to reach the levels
they need it to reach so it has got to do its own thing
and
in that doing its own thing
if what we are talking about
is something real
in other words if
for lack of a better word
the future
incoming future
is real
then it is going to be detectable
not just by human intuition
but also it is going to start showing up
in everything
and just like you were saying
I don't know if you chose to be numb
but I think a lot of
maybe is part of what we do as a human
is we after the fact
say I chose to do that
well I was inspired to do that
or whatever when the reality is
maybe you didn't
maybe you are just a runway
maybe you are just a runway
and something is landing into this dimension
via you
and part of the runways are probably like
I said runways if they could think
I sucked another plane out of the sky
planes
oh wow
you know it is a joy
chatting with you I am so lucky
we connected
on clubhouse
and
I have learned a lot from
this conversation from hanging out with you
are you
offering do you work
with people online right now
like if somebody wanted to
thank you for that
I work with groups
I love teaching emotional intelligence
I love doing trainings
I also like working with companies
working through
cultural issues so I do some consulting
I am not currently
doing one on ones
with one exception
I am very interested in working with people
who have a lot of resources
and are looking to connect their resources
with their heart
what is you
and you are like I want to do the right thing
with this what is this
I want to help you get into your heart
so that the right thing emerges organically
but other than that I am not doing one on ones
so you can hire me
to help your company navigate
difficult cultural waters
and you can hire me to teach empathy
and you can hire me to bring
your money and your heart into alignment
and you can read my book
why no one on one
what did you say
healing heals the healer
why no one on one
I am just curious
why no one on one
I don't
the answer is that I just like working
I do do some
but I like
if you called me I would do it
but I like
we don't need to talk about it anymore
okay awesome
this is selfish question
I am just kidding
I imagine it would be
like it is signing up for a lot
to have that kind of connection
it is
and it is just when people come in
that I don't know
there is some like
there is a block there the amount of money
that makes it feel like it is worth it for me
is more than the amount of money I want to charge
it is a lot
yeah you are taking on
what you are doing is I get it
I get it
that is a legitimate
complication
and I really love I feel most alive
I love what I am doing with you right now
I feel so alive
I love feeling like what I have to say
or what I have to share energetically
gets amplified that just warms my heart
so much
that is why I have been loving clubhouse
because I can just step on randomly
and maybe 30 or 40 people
come into the field with me
and that just warms my heart
that is so cool
yeah it is a clubhouse
I think is also potentially one of these
runway technologies for this thing
for sure because it is mixing
people up in a pretty
profoundly interesting way
and sometimes it is an embarrassing mix up
of entrepreneurs talking about
like I heard one of them on clubhouse
somebody literally said
the question to someone
there is an entrepreneur group
just because I never heard
this language was wild man
but one of the entrepreneurs said to the other one
how do we monetize daylight
I mean right now
how do I monetize daylight
it is like holy shit man
they were wanting to
make it rain gold
from their computer in that moment
but other than that there is a lot of cool
little burrows
appearing on clubhouse
I guess you put a dome over people
that blocks the sunlight and then charge them
to open it
that is the cruelest
that is the cruelest thing
that is what Nestle does with water
we block access to water and then charge people
for it
a lot of people do that with God too
yeah exactly
wow
healing heals the healer
that is your book it is available on
Amazon right now
any links you all need
if you want to connect with David I will have that
at dunkartrustle.com
is there another way people can get to you
David do you ever do it
Instagram at empathnyc
clubhouse
my username is just empath
if you are on clubhouse come hang out with me
and
you got my links and just so grateful
that we could do this
man this has made my week
thank you so much David
and hopefully I will be seeing you
in New York pretty soon
look forward to it
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for appearing
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I still want to rub
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a wonderful week
I will see you all
next week
by some insane miracle
we have a conversation
with Anne Lamott
and that is blowing
my mind because she
is one of my favorite
authors and
she's got a brand
new book out called
Dusk Night Dawn which you
must check out if you are
bummed out by this freaking
pandemic slash alien invasion
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