Dynamic Dialogue with Danny Matranga - 9 Training Mistakes Holding Female Lifters Back
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Welcome into another episode of the Dynamic Dialogue podcast. As always, I'm your host,
Danny Matranga, and in today's episode, I'm going to be reviewing the nine biggest reasons
women struggle to reach their fitness goals. Now, I recorded this in June of 2021, which is right
around the time I launched my Female Physique 2 ebook. Now, the original Female Physique and
Female Physique 2 ebooks are still available, but I've created something even better or what I believe to be even better, which is my Elite Physique
app.
It is a female-focused training community that you can join, interact with me, my fellow
coaches, and dozens of women all over the world with similar goals who are looking to
develop their best physique ever in a sustainable four to five day a week routine that they
can do at the gym.
So if you have not checked out Elite Physique yet, you can do that by heading over to my
Instagram, by heading over to corecoachingmethod.com, or even checking the show notes today.
Because when we discuss and unpack the nine biggest things holding women back from reaching
their gains, you'll see how much of these get zeroed out by following a good program.
So I've got a solution to a lot of the problems we're going to talk about today, but I want
you guys to sit back and enjoy the episode. Hey, everybody, welcome in to another
episode of the Dynamic Dialogue podcast. As always, it's me, your host, Coach Danny Matrenga.
And today, we're going to talk about the nine reasons women do not make progress in the gym.
Now, before we get into it, a little background, why I might be qualified to talk about this
and why you might be interested in listening.
I've got an education in the field, plenty of experience in the field, but most of my
clients over the 10 years I've been doing this in person or online have been women.
Women across the lifespan. When I started personal training, when I went to university, the majority of my clients
were college age women. But as I built a more robust client roster and started to kind of have
a little bit more of the ability to dictate who I worked with, I started working with many older
women and even women who were in their advanced
age. And one of the benefits of training women across the lifespan is it's given me unique
perspective as to how women are influenced by the health and fitness space, not just by me,
their trainer, but, you know, where did they get the notions that they have around diet and
exercise? Where did those come from? How do women in their fifties and sixties, whose, you know,
view of health and fitness was shaped in the 1970s and 80s, differ from women who are in their early 20s, who have exponentially greater exposure to things like social media and the internet when they're forming their identity of how their body looks, moves, and works. we're going to highlight the nine reasons that I really think women tend to struggle. So if you are
a woman, if you're a coach, if you're a husband, if you're a partner of any kind, and you have
women in your life who you want to help live healthier, build their dream physique, perform
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So guys, without further ado,
let's get into the nine reasons that women
really struggle to make progress in the gym. Starting with number one, and number one is a
little bit broad. We're going to dive into some different avenues here, but I think it's the most
important foundational piece, and that is that women are disproportionately targeted by health-related misinformation on the internet.
misinformation. They are literally targeted by it. More, we'll talk about that in a minute.
And women spend more time on the internet, particularly on social media than men. And if you're not familiar with how social medias or social media networks like Facebook and Instagram
work, they're free. But the reason that they're free is because they gather data about the people
who use the product, and then they sell that data in the form of advertisement space to people who have products or services. Now, the problem is
there's no real vetting as to what these products or services might be. So marketers are very aware
that women do the majority of the spending in the health, beauty, and fitness space,
much more so than men.
They spend more money than men in this space. So marketers will spend the majority of their time crafting products, services, and gimmicks targeting women. And many of these products
are crappy and they are kind of revolve around misinformation or, you know, kind of these
largely debunked claims. Like if you're a woman listening to this, you can think about
all of the products that you see Facebook or Instagram ads for, whether it's waist trainers,
fat burners, topical creams. I mean, sometimes these things get a little bit comical, but it,
and if you've been doing this for long enough that you don't fall prey to these things, that's
wonderful. But you know, one of the unfortunate phrases in marketing is there's a sucker born
every day and people in the fitness and health marketing space know that. And they know that women are desperate to change their bodies and the way their bodies look and that they're exposed to these societal pressures, particularly on these social media websites.
access and prey on people's insecurities, then after you've seen four amazing looking bodies,
and then boom, you're hit with an ad for some garbage supplement. But you don't know how to differentiate between information and misinformation because here in America, scientific literacy
and our general understanding of biology is quite poor. And again, I'm not talking per se about
anybody listening, but in general, right, we struggle here in America with scientific
literacy. A lot of people believe things that are patently untrue. And Facebook and Instagram are in
literal breeding ground for scientific misinformation. I'm not going to dive into
the pandemic. I'm not going to dive into vaccine culture, because I understand that people have
emotional ties to both of those things and I
don't want to trigger anyone. But again, much of the misinformation around the COVID-19 pandemic
and a lot of misinformation around vaccines is born and kind of runs rampant in these spaces.
And so that's just one example of how health misinformation, not even fitness misinformation,
can run rampant on Facebook.
But you have health fitness marketers targeting women using the ad models baked into things like
Instagram and Facebook to be able to literally say, we want to target women who have an income
between this much and that much, who have an education level that's between this and that,
who have recently said that they's between this and that who have
recently said that they're interested in losing weight or have you know search for something
related to weight loss they can very much target people with crap products and because women spend
more time on social media they tend to consume more products in this space they are taking on
a literal deluge of shitty information just being thrown at them.
And even if they don't take it all in, even if you know better, even if you know these ads are
silly, they start to form an identity. They start to kind of manipulate how it is that you look at
things and it influences your identity in the fitness and health space. And so often I'll have
people asking me questions like, what's the deal with
apple cider vinegar? Is it really all that? Or what's the deal with this particular product?
I see it everywhere. And where people tend to see it is on places like Facebook, Instagram,
when they're using Google as a search engine and the cookies are following them around. So
again, the number one reason on this list of
one through nine, this is not in a order of importance, but reason number one is there is
just a greater exposure to crap for women. And marketers do this intentionally. And it's not
that women are unable to parse through that. It has nothing to do with that. It's just when you
are exposed to more crap, that means you have more crap that you have
to sift through to get to the truth. And that is just one of the very, very unfortunate truths
of the fitness and health space. Number two, or number two reason is women spend too much time
focusing on cardiovascular exercise. Now, there's a lot of reasons for this. Much of it, again,
is just quote unquote, conventional wisdom being, and women being told that lifting weights will make you bulky, and that doing cardio is truly the key, and then, you know good tool for fat loss. And there's certainly plenty of reasons to do it. But one of the problems with women who have a body fat loss goal,
or they have a body composition goal, maybe they want to look a little bit more muscular or
athletic, or quote unquote, toned, right? Toned isn't a thing, but toned can be used as an umbrella
term to describe a lean athletic female physique that isn't overly muscular. We can probably agree
on that, right?
So one of the problems with cardiovascular exercise, if those are your goals, is it doesn't really preserve muscle if you're in a deficit. In fact, cardiovascular exercise, while helping you
enhance your fat loss, will also enhance the rate at which you lose muscle if you're not making sure
that you have a resistance training stimulus and adequate protein intake.
We'll talk more about that later.
So you look at a population of women
and let's say you have 10 of them
and they're all eating the same diet
and two of them are lifting weights
more than they do cardio
and eight of them, the other eight,
are doing more cardio than they are weightlifting.
But if the diet is the same,
I would say that the two women
who are focusing more on resistance training would be more likely to lose the body fat they want to lose and
keep it off than the women who only do cardio. While the cardio group might lose more weight,
it will be very difficult for them to sustain it because of the negative metabolic implications
of losing too much muscle. And that can be very problematic when we talk about just metabolic differences
between men and women. Women tend to be smaller than men. They tend to have less muscle mass than
men. Generally speaking, they tend to occupy more jobs that are quote unquote sedentary.
So that makes every ounce of muscle and every degree of metabolic output that you can get out
of your body really, really important.
And if you are pounding away on the cardio and eating in a calorie deficit, you can expect to
lose some muscle. And as far as long-term metabolic kind of robustness, if you will,
is concerned, losing muscle is not ever a good idea, particularly for women. So the conventional model of eat less and do a crap
ton of cardio will certainly help women lose weight. And quite frankly, they'll lose weight
very quickly. But the problem is a lot of that weight is going to come from muscle. And that
could lead to some long term negative metabolic adaptations. And a lot of people refer to this as
metabolic damage. So if you're people refer to this as metabolic damage.
So if you're familiar with the term metabolic damage, you're familiar with what I'm talking
about when I say metabolic adaptation. But basically what we're talking about is sending
the stimulus to your body to do a ton of in doing a lot of cardio, that stimulus will basically say,
hey, look, you know, if we're going to be doing this running or stair mastering or whatever,
and we want to be aerobically as efficient as possible and improve our aerobic economy,
all this heavy muscles weighing us down. So let's lose some body fat, let's lose some muscle,
right, because we're in a deficit, and we're not getting a resistance training stimulus to really
help preserve the muscle. So that can be a very, very big problem. And one of the more common problems
I see with women who are struggling to really achieve the physique they're after is they've
just put a little bit too much weight into the importance of cardio compared to resistance
training. And so as a general rule of thumb, I recommend women really prioritize resistance
training. So if you're going to go to the gym three to four times a week, I might say, you know, hey, look, we want all of those sessions to incorporate resistance
training and do a little bit of aerobic work to warm up, but do not make it the kind of bulk of
what it is you're doing for your exercise. So number three, moving on, is women tend to be
afraid of lifting heavy and building strength.
And I use the phrase tend because, again, this is not universally true of all women.
And there are plenty of men who are, quote unquote, afraid to lift heavy.
This is not a gender-specific thing.
These are behaviors that I've noticed that are semi-consistent and are influenced by outside sources.
that I've noticed that are semi-consistent and are influenced by outside sources. But it is pounded into women's head from very early on that lifting heavy is masculine, that lifting heavy will build
too much muscle, and that lifting heavy will lead to a bulky or more masculine physique.
And this is not true whatsoever. In general, if you put a man and a woman on the same training
program and the same
relative nutritional protocol, I'm using the term relative here as relative to their size and
activity level, the differences in their hypertrophic or muscular gain outputs or where
they would be at the end of the program isn't necessarily going to be influenced by much more
than things like testosterone, growth hormone, and genetics.
And so, you know, unless you're a woman who has equivalent testosterone to a man,
you can't expect masculine results. And even if you are a woman who has a genetic predisposition
to build more muscle, muscle growth is a slow process. So you can always pump the brakes.
If you feel like lifting heavy and lifting with a progressive overload structure in your programming is making you gain weight more fast than you would like. And I totally understand that, you know, not all women or not all men or just people in general aren't necessarily as interested in getting as muscular as maybe I am or maybe some of my friends are. Everybody has different goals.
as maybe I am or maybe some of my friends are. Everybody has different goals. But whether you want to just build a little bit of muscle or a lot, muscle growth is going to be a slow enough
process that you can pump the brakes. And taking the time to focus on lifting heavy and getting
strong is extremely effective for all lifters or anybody who wants to perform at a high level.
And even if lifting weights and getting strong isn't your primary
performance goal, it will help you if you have a physique goal or if you have a, you know,
sports specific goal, or even if you have an aerobic goal, being strong is always a good idea.
And progressive resistance training, particularly for women, will pay metabolic dividends by helping
you have more muscle, better strength, better coordination, as well as setting you up for long-term success by helping you build better bone density, which can be a huge problem
for women over time. And being strong, working on building strength is not going to masculinize
your physique, meaning if you were to lift weights but keep the weights lighter and focus on
quote-unquote toning, you're not going to be any more likely or less likely to build muscle because you can build muscle at any
rep range if you are training hard enough if you do sets close to failure at five reps a set 10
reps a set or 20 reps a set you're going to see some muscular growth because one of the things
that really helps build muscle is mechanical tension and training close to failure.
So both of those things are going to make a big, big difference.
Lifting heavy, though, is particularly beneficial for building strength.
And lifting with a program that focuses on progressive overload is as well.
That's why when I put together the Feet For Her bundle on my website, I put power build and female physique
together, because I love the idea of a woman doing a 12 week strength focused block that's
going to allow her to develop strength, power and coordination, and then going into that hypertrophy
block, or I shouldn't say block that hypertrophy program, right, you do the 12 weeks of power build,
you build a wonderful foundation of strength, coordination and competency in the gym, then transition to female physique. And in female
physique, we have that same 12 weeks, but the volume's a little higher. The library of exercises
is a little bit more diversified, if you will. And you're going to take that strength and then
apply it to some higher volume training and hopefully stimulate some muscle growth. And I
find that a focus on strength
first for women is one of the best things you can do for driving long-term performance outcomes,
preventing injury, helping with bone density, and building a relationship with training
that is constructive. Everybody likes to be strong. Men, women, you name it. Everybody
benefits from being strong. Literally, there are myriad benefits to just having strength
that expand way beyond what you're doing at the gym or in your workout setting. So a focus on
getting strong and a focus on lifting heavy is something that I think women would benefit from
being more comfortable with. And it's unfortunate that women have been told for so long that lifting
heavy and lifting
with progressive overload is going to have these masculinizing effects on their body
and their physiques.
I just feel that that's largely untrue.
And like I said earlier, a lot of those masculinizing effects of resistance training that you see
in men are driven by genetics and testosterone.
And even women who have a greater potential to build muscle
because of their genetic makeup, or maybe they do have slightly more testosterone because everybody's
a little different, or they'll be able to pump the brakes and you won't necessarily just wake up and
be like, oh shoot, I overshot. I got way more muscular than I wanted to. And now I have to walk
it back. Like even if, let's just paint the hypothetical where you're like, okay, I'm actually
more muscular than I would like to be. This is a rare thing, but it does happen. And I have to walk it back. Like even if, let's just paint the hypothetical where you're like, okay, I'm actually more muscular than I would like to be.
This is a rare thing, but it does happen.
And I have worked with women who build muscle very easily,
but want to temper how much muscle they build
because they have a goal for their physique.
And that goal does not include them
getting any more muscular.
So what you can do is you can walk
and dial back that training volume.
You can focus more on intensity and lifting heavier, but keeping reps further from failure and keeping volume down. So you're not having such a hypertrophic or muscle building stimulus.
You know, there's a million things you can do to really just modify the way or how you're driving
results. And I think the idea that you'll just wake up one day
and get way too jacked, and it'll be irreversible is somewhat silly. So don't be afraid to lift
heavy. Moving on to number four, and this is a big one. And that's that women simply don't eat
enough to make the progress in the gym that they need, or they don't eat enough to meet the demands of their training. And again,
most of this influence is societal and driven by health misinformation or just a general lack
of nutritional competency at a national or even global level. We don't teach children how to eat.
We don't teach children the benefit of getting adequate protein and adequate dietary carbohydrate.
I challenge you to pause really quick, close your eyes and think, don't close your eyes if you're in the car,
but think about when it was that you first were exposed to the way that nutrition influences
your body. Was it at home in a nurturing environment where you learned the benefit
of healthy foods? Or was it maybe in your more formidable years in young adulthood where you learned the benefit of healthy foods? Or was it maybe in your more formidable years
in young adulthood where you were told
that these foods make you fat
or that you shouldn't eat this or that
and that you should eat a certain way
if you wanna look a certain way?
Most of which of course is bullshit.
But what I found with women
is that a lot of their understanding
of how nutrition works comes from the diet industry
and the diet space, not necessarily
any of the different avenues of nutritional science. So there isn't a particularly good
working relationship with anybody in America, not just women, but just most Americans don't
have a functional understanding of how food interacts with their performance, their body
composition. And so when women go to the gym
and they start layering on different stressors, whether that be cardiovascular exercise or
resistance training, that is often paired with really clamping down on the calories and really
restricting intake of important nutrients or even macronutrients like protein and carbohydrate,
right? Women are told eat less to get small. Don't eat too much. You'll get too big. You don't want
to eat that. It'll make you fat. And so you go to the gym, you bust your butt and you lift and you
have these goals perhaps of maybe developing some muscle or building your glutes, whatever your
goals may be. And those extra stressors, the stressors in the
gym that break down muscle, particularly lifting weights, require more raw materials to repair
and build and help you recover and flourish, right? Because what can happen when you layer
on a bunch of these stressors, but don't meet them with adequate nutrition, is you can end up
in a worse place than you started.
And we touched on that a little bit
when we talked about doing too much cardio
and the metabolic impact of too much exercise
with inadequate nutrition to recover.
The same is certainly true of resistance training
or just not eating enough in general.
And one of the areas where I see this is quite prevalent
is with carbohydrate.
Women tend to be very scared of carbohydrate,
but carbohydrate is extremely valuable for training.
We use carbohydrate as our primary fuel
for resistance training.
The type of pathway that we use
to perform most of our resistance training
is called the glycolytic pathway.
And glyco usually means sugar or carbs.
When you hear glyc, G-L-Y-C, you can think carbs, sugars.
And lysis means to break. And so the glycolytic pathway functions by breaking down and using carbohydrate to fuel muscular
contraction. And if you don't have adequate carbohydrate, unless you're totally keto
adapted, which is very rare, it's quite difficult to perform at a high level, even cognitively.
And so we're not just talking about the way that nutrition
impacts your gym performance. We're talking about your total performance. And so women being afraid
of food can have ramifications that impact them with how they manage stress, with how they perform
in their relationships and at work. And it's disappointing to me that a lot of this comes from
what I think is a very noble goal of improving their health and fitness. Hey, I want to get in better shape. I want to feel better. I want to look
better. I want to be more confident. I'm going to go on the internet and see what I have to do.
Oh, okay. I just got hit with a bunch of misinformation. I'm going to cut all my
carbs out. I'm going to go to the gym and I'm going to train seven days a week.
And I tried that for three weeks and then I just felt like absolute dog shit. And I don't know why
it's so hard for me to lose weight or to change my body.
These are very, very common pitfalls that women run into. And I don't think it's particularly
their fault. That's why I made this episode, because I wanted to give people the ammunition
they needed to navigate this space because it's very frustrating. And these are things that I've
learned from talking with hundreds of women over the course of the last decade that I've been doing this.
So keep in mind, if you're going to be resistance training, if you're going to be looking to change
your physique, even if you want to lose fat and you're going to be in a calorie deficit,
it becomes quite important to monitor and make sure that you're getting adequate carbohydrate
to perform, adequate dietary fat to're getting adequate carbohydrate to perform,
adequate dietary fat to take care of your reproductive system, your brain health, and of course adequate protein to fuel and help you recover from the hard work that we're doing in
the gym. And we'll talk more about protein in a minute when we get to point number six. But guys,
I think it's very important that we acknowledge exercise is a stressor in a world that's quite stressful
And while it is extremely valuable at helping you build muscle build metabolic, you know robustness
I don't even know if that's a word, but I love it
Helping you build bone density and it can help you manage other stressors and reduce anxiety and depression
It does add to the allostatic load or the cumulative amount of stress and so if you're pairing that exercise
with malnourishment or inadequate nutrition you'll pay the price for that
in the long run and I think we can say just succinctly to put a bow on this if
you're gonna train like an athlete you need to eat like an athlete and I don't
think that there's anything wrong with that just because you're a woman.
And I think that women get punished for this and they often get exposed to too many ideas about what a woman's diet or how a woman is supposed to eat that are just not aligned with the amount of exercise and the amount of, you know, resistance training a lot of women are doing.
So we need to kind of shift the paradigm and change the narrative here.
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the podcast and enjoy the rest of the episode. Number five is there isn't a lot of dialogue
around the ways in which the menstrual cycle influences training. So every woman is different and it's not as simple as every woman being on
the same 28 day cycle. And not, again, not everybody has the same response physiologically,
even if you have two women in the follicular phase or two women in the luteal phase,
hormonally with what's going on with estrogen, progesterone, all of these different things,
they're not the same. So one of the things that I tend to recommend for women is getting in the
habit of tracking your cycle. Find out when you're in the follicular phase, which is usually from
the first day of your period until ovulation stops. Find out when you're in the luteal phase,
right? Which generally coincides with PMS and needing to maybe back off on training. But,
you know, I'm planning on doing an episode in the future with Lyle McDonald or an episode with
just myself or someone else who I think is qualified to talk about this, where we really
unpack how to handle and how to juggle your cycle so that you can optimize performance. But, you know,
if you have hormonal fluctuations as a woman,
with these really vital hormones, like estrogen and progesterone, and you have an expectation
that you need to be able to go to the gym and kill it every single day, you're going to find
that you might be mildly disappointed when you run into a hormonal wall. Maybe you hit that luteal
phase and you're like, my PMS is killing me and I'm really struggling here. And like two weeks ago, when you were in the follicular phase, when things tend to be easy to kill it, you're like, my PMS is killing me and I'm really struggling here. And like two weeks ago
when you were in the follicular phase, when things tend to be easy to kill it, you're like, I was
killing it. I don't understand what's wrong with me. And so even something as simple as just tracking
your cycle and being like, wow, you know, I trained really, really well for the, you know, 14 days
from my period to when I finished ovulating. And then I struggled a little bit. That can be a
consistent pattern that you'll see. You'll know when it might, you might need to back off and
then you'll be like, Ooh, you know, next week I'm going to be back in that sweet spot. So I'm going
to make sure that my programming is aligned with really killing it in the gym on those two weeks.
You know, there's a lot of things that you can do to really enhance the way you respond to training.
Do you simply track and learn about how your menstrual cycle works? And again, this is a nine-part episode. So I think that this in and of itself is its own episode or
even a series of episodes. So I don't want to go too much into this now. But one of the reasons
that I think women really struggle is because they aren't taught the ways in which their unique
physiology impacts their training and their training recovery. Men are pretty fortunate. We have testosterone that just slowly, slowly, slowly declines as we age after
we hit about 30. But other than that, you know, with the, of course, there are things that can
influence testosterone, like lifestyle, environmental exposure to different chemicals, all kinds of
stuff. But in general, men have a much more consistent hormonal profile than do women. And that's part of what makes us different. There's
nothing wrong with having hormonal volatility. If women did not have these cycles, we would not
exist as a species. And learning how those affect your body, how your body is going to respond to
those, particularly how those cycles influence your training is a really important thing to do
if you want to train for the long run. And I think it's a dialogue that I'm seeing a lot more. There's a lot of women and
awesome female coaches in the space who have really kind of taken the torch on this and run
with it. And I think it's wonderful. I think what I would say is that every woman is different.
Everybody responds differently when they're going through their unique cycle. And so take it into
your own hands to track and learn how your body responds to these things. And you will be very, very happy
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com and apply for one-on-one coaching with me and my team today. Number six is women are particularly scared away from things like protein and creatine. And protein as a macronutrient or protein powder
as a supplement and creatine as a supplement are two of the best things that you can incorporate
into your daily routine if you want to build muscle, burn body fat, or perform at a high level.
Why it is that women are constantly told that these two things are problematic,
I'm not entirely sure. I'm pretty sure that it extends from just this kind of subculture within
the bodybuilding community, particularly around creatine, and that creatine has generally been
a supplement that men start taking
when they start working out or when they're playing sports in high school as a means to
gain water weight, put muscle on fast, recover better. And these supplements are entirely fluid.
You know, they can go men, women, otherwise, and everybody can take them. They're going to get
almost the same effects. Of course, if you're pregnant, breastfeeding, or you have secondary health conditions, you
should check with your doctor before you take any supplements.
But creatine has no masculinizing effects in men.
It's non-androgenic.
It's non-anabolic in that, or non-androgenic in that it's not going to impact your testosterone.
Creatine works to improve performance using non-hormonal pathways.
Steroids work to improve performance using hormonal pathways. But creatine is not a steroid.
It's an amino acid derivative. It helps pull water into your tissues. It tops off your intramuscular
creatine stores, which are vital for the first like 10 to 12 seconds of rigorous exercise.
Creatine is valuable for explosive performance. And supplemental creatine can help you regenerate ATP a lot faster,
whether you are a man or a woman. And as for the kind of new, big, scary elephant in the room of
does creatine cause baldness? The evidence is incredibly inconclusive, and I'm inclined to say
no, it doesn't. And protein is a wonderful macronutrient, whether you lift or not.
And just because I find in general men like to eat more meat doesn't mean that protein
is only for guys.
You know, I know plenty of women who eat a ton of red meat or fish or plant-based protein,
and they really love eating dietary protein.
I do know more men who like crave steak and red meat and burgers.
And I don't know what that is. Could be, you know, it could just be a societal thing. Could
be a genetic thing. Who knows? But it doesn't mean protein is going to have a masculinizing
effect on women. And I probably get, and this makes me, this really makes me sad.
I probably get about 10 messages a week from women who tell me something almost exactly like this.
My boyfriend says I shouldn't take creatine or my boyfriend says too much protein is going to make
me too big. And, you know, I'm, I'm not going to sit here and, and say that I have not made,
uh, you know, silly recommendations to the partners that I've had over the years,
the girlfriends that I've had over the years, about how they should handle things,
and not have had any fucking clue what I was talking about.
I'm certainly far from perfect.
But these things seem to be quite prevalent, and they tend to, and from what I've seen,
come from men who have zero fucking understanding of nutrition and supplementation. And so if you're a woman and you're listening to this and you have a partner who is dissuading you from eating dietary protein or taking certain supplements, if that partner is not an expert in these subjects, you can just respectfully say, hey, I appreciate your input. I'm going to do my
own research on this. Or hey, I appreciate your input. I'm going to link up with somebody who's
an expert in these areas. And if you get pushed back on that, I'm not a relationship coach,
but you're probably dealing with somebody who's insecure. And your partner is probably somebody
who's a little bit controlling. And you might want to examine that privately as an extension of your relationship because I find that for women, men who are controlling around the way that they eat or the way that they train, and again, I've seen this a lot because I've trained many wives, many girlfriends, many fiancés, and there's always a couple, you know, demonstrative in-your-face boyfriends who want to know how you're training their wife what you're doing and again some of this is born from just the way that trainers are depicted in media as people who
pretty much solely exist to fuck your wife while you're gone on vacation um and that i understand
but you know a lot of these guys uh are just insecure men who are concerned about their wife
looking better and getting attention from other
guys. And I don't think that that is their wife or their girlfriend. Um, and it's obviously not
exclusive. I know I have worked with same sex female couples who have extremely, um, rigid
communication around nutrition and it creates friction in, in those couples, men and women.
So I think that one of the things
it's important to do, and again, this is a big time departure from what we were originally talking
about here, which is the importance of protein and creatine and why women are scared away,
is to not let your partner influence your decisions too much if in fact they're not an
expert in those areas. And that it's more than okay to say, I'll find advice.
Thank you very much for your input. Okay, moving on to number seven, we're moving on to some of
what I would describe as the emotional barriers. And this is, I find women more so than men tend
to pour from an empty cup. I've worked with a lot of women in the demographic between 50 to 70.
And so these are generally moms or grandmothers or heads of household, matriarchal figures in many ways.
And what I find is this consistent putting other people first, this consistent behavior of putting everybody else first.
I can't go to the gym today because I have to pick up my grandson from this. I can't go to the gym today because I have to take my
friend to the airport. And again, this is not universal in this demographic, and this is not
exclusive to this demographic. But I find much more so than men, women have a hard time putting
themselves first and doing the work that they need to do to keep themselves healthy. And I think that it's wonderful that we have a culture where women are so selfless and so
family oriented and so invested in their friendships and helping people out. I would
never change that. But one of the things that I have found is that it's in that desire to help
friends, to help families, to put other people first, to be caretakers, to be nurturers, to be providers.
They skip steps with the nutrition.
They fall short on the workouts.
I didn't get to the gym today
because I had to take care of other things.
Oh, I ate a little bit too much
because I didn't have time to do things for me.
And I think it's important
when you have a fitness goal or a health goal
that you make an agreement with yourself
that it is
more than okay to put yourself first. And it was working with the older demographic that I really
saw this more become more prevalent. When I worked with younger women who didn't have perhaps,
let's say the pull of a professional, professional pull, they didn't have a career yet they didn't have a family
yet um a lot of the women that i worked with who were younger were basically just students who
wanted to look good for spring break or you know wanted a quote-unquote fat ass that's that was
often something that i got in consultations how can i help you today what are you looking to do
with your fitness i want a fat ass okay well a fat ass you shall get, honey. Let us go to the Bulgarian split squat and we'll
hit bias that bitch and we will fucking take it for a ride. And you know, that's all fine and good.
And then you go on to, you know, go back to your dorm room, pound back some protein, you have a
class, and then you go out drinking. A lot of those women were putting themselves first and they made
wonderful gains. But they also had youth and, you know, the advantage of not having so much on their plate on their side. And it wasn't until I started working with women who were mothers, who were busy professionals, a lot, in taking care of everybody else, it is extremely challenging to take care of
yourself.
And so it wasn't an issue of they didn't want it bad enough.
It was a genuine issue of, holy crap, there truly is a limitation on how much time and
energy you can put into your health and fitness.
So how can I as a trainer help support you?
And how can you have a conversation with your family, your spouse, your partner, your children,
your boss, whoever it is that,
hey, these health and fitness goals that I have
are really important to me
and I need to be able to make time for myself
to get to the gym even three times a week,
even two times a week, whatever it is.
And so I find that a lot of women
really struggle to see results
because they are so overextended
in so many areas of their life.
And so if you're a coach or you're a trainer listening to this, try to take this stuff
into account when you onboard new female clients or look at the clients you already have who
are female through this lens and ask them, you know, hey, what are the extracurricular
non-workout things that are on your schedule?
And I bet what you'll find is that these women are busy.
They are stressed. They put a lot of other people first. And it's really important as coaches,
as trainers, as spouses, as boyfriends, as girlfriends, as partners, whoever,
that, you know, the women in your life who are overextended, who are doing whatever they can
to help the people around them, that you support them and you remind them, hey,
why don't you go ahead and go to the gym? I'll take care of the kids. Hey, can I make you dinner tonight while you do that
thing? Do you want me to put some protein in there? What can I do for you? You know, we can
all help each other out a little bit more. And as coaches, reminding these people that their health
and fitness goals matter. And one of the things I've had to have as far as a discussion with women
is saying, hey, I know that you're an incredibly integral part of your family. You're the linchpin.
Everything revolves around you. You hold it all together and it's for that exact reason that you
need to put your health at the forefront of what you do because this family, this business,
this corporation, whatever it is, does not function without you. And we can't afford you to get sick.
We don't want you to get burnt out. We want you to be fulfilled. We want you to be healthy.
And that's going to take taking good care of yourself. So can you commit to XYZ number of
workouts a week? And that's what I'm asking you guys to do, which is to just acknowledge the fact
that some people out there, maybe you listening, are going to have a very hard time
making progress. If you have a hard time putting your health higher on your list of priorities.
Okay, number eight, the comparison trap, who and this goes back to social media, right? And I find
that women have a particularly hard time navigating and part of the reason I find
this is because men do too but they don't fucking talk about it and that is one thing that you'll
find if you work in this industry long enough men have many of the same body image insecurities or
issues that women do they just don't talk about it women are exponentially better at communicating
these things but they're exposed to a lot of content on things like instagram social media or the fucking hell
spawn that is tiktok which is literally just teenage pornography the way i see it and you're
looking at these bodies that are there the algorithm is sending them at you it makes you
feel insecure in many ways it's almost impossible for it not to at least skew the way you look at
yourself then even the women who i know who buffer this stuff wonderfully who don't let it not to at least skew the way you look at yourself. And even the women who I
know who buffer this stuff wonderfully, who don't let it get to them, for every one of them,
there's 10 women who are influenced heavily by the things that they see and compare themselves
to on social media every single day. And that is a motivation killer. And so even though I don't
think motivation is that important, and I think it's really
important to be able to continue on working towards your goals, whether you're motivated or not,
you've got to understand that constant exposure to things that make you feel shitty or inadequate
is going to set you back. So don't be afraid to hit unfollow on the pages that you find yourself
comparing yourself to. The only person that you should compare yourself to
is yourself.
And so just bear with me on this one.
I know that it might seem a little bit like,
oh, well, you know,
I don't want to unfollow people on social media.
They're motivating to me.
I find those physiques inspiring.
If that's you, that's wonderful.
But if you find that every time you open the app,
you feel shittier about your body,
you might want to check who you follow. All right, guys. And the last one in the list of nine reasons why women
struggle to make progress in the gym is they're convinced that progress is supposed to happen
faster than it should. And I want to rephrase that is part of the reason why women struggle
to make progress is because they don't
fucking know that it's okay for progress to be slow. There's no such thing as slow progress,
only impatient people. Okay. Building muscle is slow. As far as processes go, losing fat is going
to be slow as far as physiological processes go. And that is totally okay. The idea that things need to happen fast
is what really drives a lot of the program hopping, diet hopping. I tried this. It didn't
work. I tried that. It didn't work. I tried this. I didn't work. I often say to those people,
did you try trying or did you try sticking with it? Because all of these things happen slow. And
if you get fast results up front and then things start to slow down, the answer isn't to pivot to something new. The answer
is to say, things are slowing down. This is normal, because a lot of these processes are
influenced by the way in which my body adapts. So I either need to change my deficit, change my
training stimulus, right? So just a general departure from the idea
that things need to happen fast for them to be worth doing would really help women and men and
anybody with a fitness or life goal achieve them and accomplish them a lot more quickly.
So there you have it, guys. Those are the nine reasons that I think women particularly struggle
to make progress in the gym. And we'll go over them again together. Number one, they are targeted more by health-related misinformation on the internet and on social
media. Number two, they've been told for a long time that they need to focus on cardio. Number
three, there is a fear around lifting heavy and building strength. Number four, they don't eat
enough to make progress. Number five, the influence
of the menstrual cycle and the ways in which female physiology differs from male physiology
is a very new concept for a lot of women and something they would benefit strongly from
understanding at a deeper level. Number six, they are scared away from things like creatine,
protein, and other supplements
that might help them by small subcultures of the fitness community that don't know what
they're talking about.
Number seven, women tend to be more often than men in my finding, overextended and helping
people out, helping family out, and pouring from an empty cup.
And it's very hard to put yourself first in a world that tells you
everybody is more important. And a lot of people feel that push and pull regardless of their gender.
And so just remembering not to pour from an empty cup. Number eight, the comparison
on extent we're exposed to or the desire to compare ourselves to people on social media
can be very defeating and demotivating. And lastly, we have a extremely pervasive myth in our space
that things need to happen fast. And that's just simply untrue. And lastly, I just want to finish
with kind of a blanket apology. If I came across in any way misogynistic, if I came across as some
bro who's preaching to a bunch of women who doesn't understand the struggle, I think it's very
important that I understand and acknowledge that I have some degree of authority in this space.
And I have every reason in the world to communicate with integrity and communicate with
tact on some of these sensitive issues. So if you felt like in any way, shape,
or form, I could have improved my delivery on some of these topics, I'm more than open to hearing
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