Exploring My Strange Bible - Ecclesiastes Part 2 - The Gift

Episode Date: August 28, 2017

In this episode, we explore how how acknowledging that all of life is "vapor" (Hebrew "hevel") can lead to the enjoyment of the small and simple delights we encounter in day to day... life.

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Starting point is 00:00:00 Tim Mackey, Jr. utterly amazing and worth following with everything that you have. On this podcast, I'm putting together the last 10 years worth of lectures and sermons where I've been exploring the strange and wonderful story of the Bible and how it invites us into the mission of Jesus and the journey of faith. And I hope this can be helpful for you too. I also help start this thing called The Bible Project. We make animated videos and podcasts about all kinds of topics in Bible and theology. You can find those resources at thebibleproject.com. With all that said, let's dive into the episode for this week. All right, this is part two of a three-part teaching series on the book of Ecclesiastes. We're unpacking the main themes in the Old Testament book of Ecclesiastes.
Starting point is 00:01:12 And in this teaching, we build off of the first one, which was exploring the core metaphor that the teacher, the skeptic in this book, has about all of life, that all of life is hevel, that is unpredictable, enigma, absurd, ungraspable. And so in the light of that fact, the teacher takes a pretty dim view of you being able to get really a lot of leverage on controlling your life or even understanding its meaning, which is not something you expect to hear from the Bible, but there it is. So how do you respond to this really sobering truth? And that's what we explore in this teaching. There's a handful of passages in the book of Ecclesiastes where the teaching voice says that embracing the fact that life is hevel, which again,
Starting point is 00:02:04 listen to episode one to understand what that means. In light of that fact, how then do you live? And what the teacher says is actually embracing life as hevel is a strange gift. It's a gift that can enrich your life rather than diminish it. How and what does that mean? That's what we're going to explore in this teaching. So let's dive in. We're in week two, then, of this Ecclesiastes series, and Josh was going to work through chapter two tonight, because I'm going to start at the end of chapter two next week, but instead I'm doing that tonight. So can you cut me some grace?
Starting point is 00:02:51 Yes, you can. You can totally cut me at least that much grace. So Ecclesiastes chapters two, dive right in. I don't have any pipes or other props tonight, sorry, but this book, this book is just so great. I'm really enjoying studying and being in ecclesiastics. By the way, you can read it in about an hour, which means as we're in this over the next month and a half, you can at least read this thing at least four or five times through. And I would really encourage you to do it. It's one of those books that actually repays you more and more and more the more time you spend in it. Because you finish it the first time or second time you ever read it, and you're like, what on earth is this about? So you got to
Starting point is 00:03:29 keep going for it. But it pays and continues to repay to spend more time in it. All right, let's just kind of reintroduce ourselves. Chapter 1, verse 1. This book contains the words of the teacher, the son of David, king in Jerusalem, and what are his words? His words are meaningless. Meaningless, says the teacher, utterly meaningless. Everything is meaningless. What do people gain from all of their labors at which they toil under the sun? So we explored last week just this basic idea, the core main idea of the words of this teacher who remains
Starting point is 00:04:07 anonymous to us. We're invited to come see the life from this Solomon-like teacher's perspective. And some of you have not meaningless, but what in your translations? Vanity. Others of you have meaningless. Some of you might have something like vapor, something. This is the key to the whole book is in understanding these key words right here. Meaningless or vanity or whatever about life here under the sun. If you grasp these ideas, you've got the basic idea of the book. Now, is meaningless the best possible English word to capture author saying here? It's as good as any.
Starting point is 00:04:42 Vanity is another good one. It's decent. But just like in any language, no language has one for one correspondence between ideas and words in one language and ideas and words in another. So we're doing our best here. But how many of you remember the Hebrew word that's used here? Hevel. Hevel is used over 40 times here in the book of Ecclesiastes, and it means, literally, smoke. Smoke or vapor. Vapor, says the teacher. Everything is like smoke and vapor. And remember, he uses this to mean a couple different things. So let's get the slide up here. So sometimes we'll use this word to mean life or
Starting point is 00:05:18 something in life. It's fleeting, it's short, it's temporary, it's here today, gone tomorrow. But the teacher's also going to use this concept of hevel to describe how unpredictable life is. It's short. It's temporary. It's here today, gone tomorrow. But the teacher's also going to use this concept of Hevel to describe how unpredictable life is. It's like it's ungraspable. We can all see that it's there, and it seems like life makes sense. But when I actually start the business of living and try and get my hands around it and make it work, things don't go the way that I wanted them to go. And so what he's not saying is, here I am. I surveyed everything. Life has no meaning whatsoever.. And so what he's not saying is, here I am, I surveyed everything,
Starting point is 00:05:46 life has no meaning whatsoever. That's not what he means. He actually, he really believes life totally has meaning, and that that meaning is bound up in God's purposes in history, and that God is going to wrap up history with a final act of setting everything right. He says that multiple times in the book. What he doesn't think is that you and I are always capable of understanding what that meaning might be in my life circumstances. I may not be able to make sense out of life and to get my hands around it, but that doesn't mean life has no sense. It just means I'm a small puny human and I'm fragile, right? And I don't understand the sense that life has all of the time.
Starting point is 00:06:26 It doesn't mean it has no sense. Here's what we're going to do. We're going to explore just one passage, but we're actually going to look at a theme through the book. Because this is a conclusion that the author is going to draw. Chapter 2, which Joss will now do next week, he's going to talk about how he just immersed himself fully in the pursuit of pleasure and wine, women, and song,
Starting point is 00:06:46 and making gardens, and so on. And he comes to the end of it, and he finds that it was all a great weekend, but Monday eventually came. It's Hevel. It's Hevel, he says. Party all you want. Eventually, the weekend's over, and it's fleeting, and you'll find that you haven't really accomplished anything with your weekend voyeuring. Is that a verb? Weekend voyeuring. I just made it one, right? And so he has this real kind of dour, down-sounding tone throughout the book.
Starting point is 00:07:16 Hevel, hevel, everything's hevel. Everything's hevel. Everything you can imagine, everything you try, everything you're going to do. But then at the end of chapter 2, there's a huge shifting of the gears. Look at the end of chapter 2 with me. Chapter 2, verse 24. He says, a person can do nothing better than to eat and drink and find satisfaction in their own toil. This too, I see, is from the hand of God, because without him, who can eat or find enjoyment? So we were going like down this really steep hill. Everything is Hevel. Everything you try and grasp at the meaning of life, you can't
Starting point is 00:07:51 do it. Stuff happens in your life you can't control. You try and pursue things that you feel are going to give you purpose and meaning, and then they don't Hevel. So here's what I recommend. Enjoy life. Like have a good meal, enjoy a good drink, and enjoy your work, because that's the gift of God. Which is it? Is life Hevel, or is life an enjoyable gift from God? Turn the page, or go to chapter 3 with me. Go to chapter 3, verse 9. What do workers gain from their toil? I mean, I've seen the burden God has laid on the human race. He's made everything God has laid on the human race. He's made everything beautiful in its time. And he's referring back to the famous song that was made a time for this, a time for that, right? You know this? You know this is what I'm talking about? I'm not going to try and sing it, but it's that song.
Starting point is 00:08:36 God is orchestrating history, and there's a time for all of these different events in life. And God has set eternity in the human heart. You maybe have heard that verse from Ecclesiastes before, but he doesn't see that as necessarily a good thing, because God has put in us a sense that history should have meaning, and that this is all going somewhere, and that there should be some transcendent meaning and sense out of all of this, but none of us can fathom what God is doing from beginning to the end. I mean, I sure can't figure it out all the time. Can you? So what should we do in light of the fact that we know there should be some bigger picture to our lives and to history, but
Starting point is 00:09:15 none of us can figure out what it is? Here's what he says, verse 12. I know there's nothing better for people than be happy. Be happy. Do good while you're alive. Each of them should eat and drink and find satisfaction in their toil. This is the gift. Go down to verse 20. Everybody's going to the same place. We all came from the dust. We're all going back to the dust. I mean, who knows if the human spirit rises upward or if the spirit of the animal goes down to the earth. Animals, humans, we're all going to disintegrate back into dust again. So how then should we live? So there's nothing better than a person can do than to enjoy their work.
Starting point is 00:09:59 Because that's their lot. I mean, who can bring them to see what will happen after them? You're not in control of your life. You know you're going back to dust again. So at least have a good time. So go to chapter 5. It gets better. Oh, it gets better. Chapter 5, verse 15. Everybody comes naked from their mother's womb, and as everyone comes, so they depart. They can't take anything from their toil that they can carry in their hands. And this too, this is a grievous evil. As everybody comes, so they depart.
Starting point is 00:10:30 I mean, what do we gain? Since all our lives we're working, working, working, and we're toiling for what? For the wind, I guess. And all the days are days we eat in darkness with great frustration and affliction and anger. So here's what I observe to be good. It's good for a person to eat, to drink, to find satisfaction in their toilsome labor under the sun during the few days of life that God has given them. This is their lot.
Starting point is 00:11:02 Even more so, when God gives someone, well, their possessions and the ability to enjoy them, to accept their lot and be happy in their toil, this is God's gift. They seldom reflect on the days of their life because God keeps them occupied with gladness of weight. So is life meaningless and hevel and chasing after wind, or is life a gift of God that's meant to be enjoyed? Which is it? What's wrong with this guy? Go to chapter 8, verse 14. This one's really good. Here's something Hevel that occurs on the earth. Here's something that seems to make no sense. The righteous get what the wicked deserve, and the wicked get what the righteous deserve. This, I say, is Hevel.
Starting point is 00:11:47 And do you agree? This is totally Hevel. This is an enigma. It's a paradox. How does this make sense? I don't know. So here's what I commend. The enjoyment of life.
Starting point is 00:12:02 Because there's nothing better for a person to do under the sun than to eat and to drink and be glad. And then joy will accompany them in their toil all the days of their life that God has given them under the sun. Chapter 9, verse 3. Here's another evil that happens under the sun. The same destiny overtakes everybody. The hearts of people, moreover, they're full of evil. And there's madness in our hearts while we live. And afterward, they all join the dead. This view of life here under the sun. So verse 7, so go, go eat a good meal with gladness and drink your wine with a joyful heart. God has approved of what you do.
Starting point is 00:12:50 In other words, it seems that God takes special pleasure when people enjoy the goodness of life. Always wear white and anoint your head with oil, which I think essentially what he means is don't dress like a funeral mourner and put some product in your hair. You know what I mean? Like, look presentable, right? Don't be like dour and be like the Portland depressed person with like messy hair and always wearing a black overcoat or something. Like, don't be that person. So, like, look presentable. Look like you're enjoying life and actually go enjoy it, right? Enjoy life with your wife whom you love all the days of this meaningless life. And here, I think, actually means have all this, like, temporary, of your temporary life that God has given you under the sun. All of your temporary vapor-like days. This is your lot in life and your toilsome labor here under the sun. Last one, chapter 11, verse 7. Light is sweet,
Starting point is 00:13:48 and it pleases the eyes to see the sun. However many years a person may live, man, enjoy them, all of them. But you should remember the days of darkness, for there's going to be a whole bunch of those. And everything to come, it's like a puff of smoke. So when you're young, be happy while you're young. Let your heart give you joy in the days of your youth. Follow the ways of your heart and whatever your eyes see. And some of us are like, sweet, I want to memorize that verse in the Bible, right? But then he qualifies. He's talking about enjoying every good thing that life has to offer. But he says, but remember that for all of these things, God's going to hold you accountable, right? So your enjoyment needs to be done in the
Starting point is 00:14:30 fear of the Lord and honoring him. So he says, banish anxiety from your heart and cast off troubles from your body for youth and vigor are here today gone. So enjoy them while you have them and remember your creator in the days of your youth. Do you see a pattern here? We just walked from one end of the book to the other. Did you see the pattern? Hevel, smoke, vapor, death. You're all going to die. We're all crazy. We're all going to die. So enjoy life, right? Just like sit back, have some dinner with your friends. If you find a life companion, that's awesome. Just enjoy. Enjoy the days that you have because the days of darkness are coming and heaven and smoke and it's going to be horrible and you're going to be old and decrepit and you're not going
Starting point is 00:15:11 to know what to do. So enjoy life because that's coming. And right, do you see this here? Back and forth, back and forth, back and forth. So we read this and we think this guy's crazy or whatever, like he has two people in his head or something. What's wrong with this person? What's happening here is that somehow the way that we see the world, this is an either or. Either life, I can't make sense of life all
Starting point is 00:15:36 of the time. I don't always know what's going on. I'm in a perpetual state of bewilderment about my life. So I'm going to mope around and do nothing, whatever. It's all, it seems meaningless to me. Or we have this like starry-eyed optimism and like God is going to make all my wildest dreams come true or something like that. None of us actually say that, but many of us actually live like that, right? Because we're very disappointed when God doesn't underwrite our dreams. So we begin to resent God and so on, but at least we're going to go pursue and follow whatever is in your heart, you know, all this seeing life through rose-colored glasses. What the teacher is going to say is, actually, this is not an either or. See, we see failures in life
Starting point is 00:16:13 and disappointments as obstacles in my way to a life of joy and fulfillment. And he's just going to turn that right on its head. He's going to say, actually, it's life's failures and disappointments that are the key to embracing a life of true joy here under the sun. We see failure as an obstacle. The teacher sees life's failures as an opportunity to embrace true joy. Why? Let me frame this in a few different ways. So I live by Franklin High School, up off of 50th and Division, and there's this public park by the tennis courts of the high school, which is kind of weird because it's a high school, but it's a park for all the little kids of the neighborhood, which means that it's one of those parks that's perpetually filled with high school students, like just sitting around on all the stuff that's for the little kids. You know what I mean? Like one of those kind of parks, whatever. So we live a number
Starting point is 00:17:11 of blocks away, and so I often take my son Roman to the park to go play there. So he's a year and a half, and his whole life is climbing and slobbering and these kinds of things all over the parks. And we're going to the park one day. It's a school day, and the school's letting out. It's like 3 p.m. And so we're going down the sidewalk, pushing Roman and his little stroller. And so there's a few things. First of all, in the parking lot, I observe a small group of skateboarders, right? Home team. So I'm automatically, I like these guys, and I'm like, oh cool. And they're like kind of skating around the parking lot. And then I can see they're getting ready to leave the parking lot. So they begin to skate out. And so it's like the parking lot, then the driveway crosses the sidewalk out into the street. At the same time that this little group, three or four guys, is getting ready to go,
Starting point is 00:17:54 there's a group of girls coming towards me on the sidewalk on the other side of the driveway. I can see the look in their eye, and I can see what's going to happen here. So they're going to race out of the parking lot. One of these guys, they want to do something cool to impress the girls. They go out into the street. And I'm watching this with pleasure, you know, like, ooh, what's going to happen here, you know? And so Portland here, city sidewalk, grass patch, and then the street. And so one of these guys, he starts pushing pretty hard because he wants to come at an angle
Starting point is 00:18:22 and, like, jump over the grass patch into the street right in front of the girls. That's totally admirable. And so we're watching, you know, we're just a number of yards away as we go. And so this guy comes and he doesn't make it. He doesn't jump far enough. And so he's going and he lands his back wheels in the grass. So he just sticks and then he just pitches right into the street and it's like the shoulder grind. And he's got like his backpack on, you know, and he does this roll and what have you. And so the girls now, they're not impressed. Obviously they're like, they're laughing or some are horrified and so on. I felt so horrible for what's happening inside of me. On the outside, I went like, oh, oh, yeah. But on the inside, I had this feeling of like, that was so awesome. I watched this
Starting point is 00:19:05 happen with a little bit of relish inside of me, mostly because I resonated with this guy's experience because precisely the same thing happened to me in high school a number of different times. You're trying a trick in front of the girls that you like, and then you fall in front of them. So as we were at the park or whatever, and we're hanging out, and I was really kind of working this over because, you know, it hurts to fall like that. And then I was like, what's wrong with me? Here's a moment. This guy's trying to make something happen in life. You know what I mean? Who knows his story? And this is his chance. You know what I'm saying? Make himself appear like he's somebody in front of these girls. We have a name for these
Starting point is 00:19:37 moments in our culture. We call them fail moments, right? There's whole like websites dedicated to these, the fail blogs and epic fails and so on. Someone is intending to make life go a certain way, usually to make themselves look better, and then they humiliate themselves in some horrible accident or something like that. And sometimes they're really like, someone gets hurt, but you're laughing. You know, like, we're laughing at this, and we make whole websites out of this. Why is that? I think there's a couple of reasons. One is, it's a form of psychological displacement because what we're really thinking is that could be me.
Starting point is 00:20:10 I'm sure glad it's not. So that's one thing we're thinking. But in another, it just exposes this irony in life. We have these ideas about how life ought to go, and we certainly have ideas about how my life ought to go and the path and the course that my life is going to take. And then things happen in life that you simply cannot control, whether it's something serious like a tragedy
Starting point is 00:20:35 or something more silly like you fall on your skateboard or, right, there's a whole spectrum in between of things that happen to us. I had this plan, you know, I had this career. I'm in this relationship. Here we go. And then we have these epic fail moments in our lives. And we view those as obstacles in life. And the teacher says, no, actually, that moment in that kid's life could be the best thing that ever happened to him. It could do two things. It could strip him of the illusion that he's actually in control of his life and that he can actually make things happen the way that he wants them to. And the sooner we are stripped of that illusion,
Starting point is 00:21:14 in the teacher's opinion, the better. Because the more we're trying to hold on and control the outcomes of the events in our lives, the more we're going to be so myopically focused on the control of making things go a certain way that we're actually blind to the everyday moments of joy that present themselves to us. So we need to be stripped of that illusion. We also need to be stripped of the illusion that if I could control my life to go the way that I want it to and get the outcomes that I actually want to achieve, that then I'd finally take a break, I'd rest, I'd have satisfaction and fulfillment and joy in life.
Starting point is 00:21:51 And the teacher is just going, he's deconstructing all of that too, because he sees these little moments of joy in life, like a meal or a drink or a walk with a friend, he sees them as merely pointers to some greater future joy to a degree that we have never experienced and won't experience here under the sun. Chapter 5, we read this, verse 16. As everyone comes, so they depart. What do they gain since they toil for the wind? Here we are working. Work is like what most of us do with most of the hours of our days. And so he comes along and he says, work, it's like a grievous evil. At least the way we experience work or different jobs at certain times in our lives, because we're working and often we don't know what for, or maybe we have some goals that we're moving towards or
Starting point is 00:22:44 something, but something's going to happen to those and then a life will change, heaven will happen, and then all of a sudden, like, the thing that you're working for, it disappears or she moves away or something, whatever. And then where are you? It's just like we're chasing after the wind. Not only that, work is stressful. And so all the days that we're working,
Starting point is 00:23:01 we're eating during our lunch breaks in darkness. There was one job I had. I had the worst, like most depressing lunchroom in the whole world. Anyhow, so darkness, great frustration, affliction, and anger. That's toil. So this is what I observe to be good. That it's good for a person to eat, to drink, and to find satisfaction in what? In your work.
Starting point is 00:23:22 Somehow, there's two ways to approach any of life's same circumstances. If I'm a person that's clamoring for a certain outcome in my life, what the teacher is saying is what's in store for me at work is frustration, anxiety, affliction, and anger in sitting in dark lunch rooms, right? But if my beginning point is not working so that I can achieve my plans and certain outcomes or something, and that's what this is all about, if my beginning point is I release control of the outcomes of my life, then I'm free to actually begin enjoying simple moments like having a good meal and having a drink with some friends
Starting point is 00:24:07 and actually seeing the funny, ironic things that happen in this workplace that I used to think was horrible, but once I got over my control issues, I could actually, there's some beauty and goodness in these people that I'm around here. It's the same exact circumstances from two different points of view. And actually what he's saying is being frustrated with your work and finding that it's Hevel is the key to finding joy.
Starting point is 00:24:33 I have to look at my notes. So what he's saying is that my ability to enjoy the goodness of simple everyday events like work or eating in the lunchroom, he says it's directly tied to my ability to see that I have no control over my life. And some of you that might be like, what? That doesn't make any sense to me. And that could be a sign. I still actually am working under the illusion that I have control over my life. But there are some of us who have been in a whole bunch of life circumstances where time or age begin to wisen you to the fact that you can have the most noble intentions and plans and goals. Life is almost never going to turn out exactly the way that you planned it.
Starting point is 00:25:16 And that doesn't mean life is going to be horrible. It just means it's almost never going to work out exactly the way that you planned it. And for some people, that's the worst possible thing that could ever happen. But for some people, it's freedom. So as I've been sitting in this truth, I thought I would have another week to sit in it. But to be honest with you, this truth in the book of Ecclesiastes is taking me to school personally right now in two different ways. And the first one is right here, like this thing that we call Door of Hope. And Josh and I talk all the time about this. You may or may not be aware of this, but for people who start new churches or for leaders of churches, there's just like a whole industry of like books and DVDs and conferences of like, take your church to the
Starting point is 00:26:03 next level, you know, whatever, like, you know, lead with power and vision. And a lot of it's really helpful, practical, and great. It's really great. Practical stuff for leading, starting churches, and so on. But if you ever, or as I've kind of been exposed to some of that, there's a strange seduction that begins to take place there, for church leaders at least, especially if it's a person whose personality is wired towards outcomes and goals and making things happen in life, right? And I've had this happen to friends of mine who are pastors, and I can observe the tremors of it, even in my own heart sometimes. Right? So you have, so here's what, we need to make this,
Starting point is 00:26:49 we're going to care about the poor more. We're going to make an impact in this city, making things happen. We're going to have 80 small groups by the end of the year. You know what I mean? Like, we have these outcomes and goals, and then you realize, like, this is a church. And what's the church?
Starting point is 00:27:04 It's not a building. Not once in the Bible is the, this is a church. And what's the church? It's not a building. Not once in the Bible is the church connected with a building. The church is people. Are people an outcome? Are people a goal? Can you just make people do what you want them to do? No, of course not. Of course not.
Starting point is 00:27:20 So there's two ways you can go down that road as the leader of a church then. You can begin to see the people in your church as a means to an end. I'm going to take this church somewhere. Here's the power to do it, you know? And then when that doesn't work out, then you get pastors or leaders who become like resentful of the people that they're called the shepherd because they're not responding the way that I think the church ought to. You know what I'm saying? And the very thing that ought to bring joy, people, is the very thing that brings me grief and frustration because my starting point was, I'm going to make things happen,
Starting point is 00:27:52 and we're going to take this place somewhere. My starting point is, I can't make Door of Hope do one thing. I have no idea what's going to happen like two years from now at Door of Hope. I can't control the outcomes. I can't make people do anything at all. I can kind of sometimes control this person right here, right? So not always in the ways that I would like, but I think I'm getting better at it as I follow Jesus longer.
Starting point is 00:28:19 But be in control of this person. I'm responsible for this. And so what I can do is release the outcome to God. That's actually not my burden to bury. It might bury me, but it's not my burden to carry, right? Like the weight of all of our collective destiny and so what we're going to do in this. Like how presumptuous of me to think that I should carry that or Josh or the elders or something. No. We're people.
Starting point is 00:28:49 Two of us has roles and responsibilities. If my starting point, we're going to make things happen, destined for disappointment and bitterness, anger, frustration, affliction. But if my starting point is, I have no idea where this thing's going to go. And I can't control it. I begin by acknowledging my powerlessness. I release the results to God. And according to the teacher, now I'm ready to dive in, to work, and to maybe actually have a good time while I'm at it, to see moments of joy because I'm not so obsessed with obtaining a certain outcome. The teacher in Ecclesiastes is taking me to school in this area. Taking me to school also as a father and as a parent. And if you're parents, you will resonate with this. If you had a parent,
Starting point is 00:29:38 you'll resonate with this. And I think that's everybody in the room to some degree. So one thing, so I have this one and a half year old Roman, as I mentioned, and he's like a little caveman right now. He slobbers and grunts or whatever. He can't quite communicate. He's pointing everywhere. He's like knocking stuff over. He's always into everything and he's happy about it. Like that's just kind of what he does. And so I have two responsibilities as a parent. One, I need to help civilize him to like the land of civilized people, you know. And we're reading this parenting book right now that says parents are ambassadors of the civilized world to these little cave people, helping them learn that grunting and slobbering and so on is not okay all of the time. That's one of my roles is to guide and to train him, right? That's very important that I do that.
Starting point is 00:30:20 But so quickly and easily, I can slip from guidance and training into control mode with Roman. And so, like, if he's, you know, if he's, like, particularly ornery one day, which sometimes that happens or whatever, and so, like, I'll spend the whole, it's like a day off, and I'm with him, like, a whole afternoon or something. I'll spend, like, the whole day just stressing about, like, why does he keep doing that? Like, I just told him not to go towards the plug five different. He's going again. Here he is, a little caveman. And like, oh, don't get into that and so on.
Starting point is 00:30:50 Or maybe if we're in a public place, it's even worse because I'm hyper aware of his caveman-like qualities because he's going around running into stuff, you know, and I'm like, oh, sorry, you know, excuse me, sorry. And I get into this hyper control mode of like, no, he needs to not do that. And sometimes it's necessary. Sometimes it's probably unnecessary. And a whole afternoon has gone by, and what have I not done once? Enjoyed being with him. You know what I'm saying? Because I'm so stressed. I need to control what this kid does. And yeah, I need to guide him. I need to train him. But especially as Roman becomes
Starting point is 00:31:22 an adult, I'll always have a degree of influence in his life, but I should never live under the illusion that I can control him. He's a person. He's a person. And so we have these relationships in our lives, and we want there to be a certain outcome. Where is this relationship going? Why does my mom always act that way? You know what I mean? And we want to control the outcomes of these people, these relationships. And it seems to me that what the teacher is saying is if my starting point is why doesn't this person do what I want them to do, you're just set up for darkness, frustration, affliction, and anger, according to chapter 5 verse 17. If my beginning point is I have no control over this person, I might have a degree of
Starting point is 00:32:08 influence. I might have a degree of training or guidance in their life. But if Roman grows up and he loves Justin Bieber and going to the mall, I just have to deal with that. And so I'll weep in my heart or whatever, but that's whatever. That's okay. He's a person. I shouldn't carry the burden of thinking I'm responsible for his destiny. I'm responsible for a big part of his destiny more than most other people because he's my son. This kid was given to me as a gift. He's not mine. He's on loan to me for a while, and I can influence, I have a role. And what it frees me to do is to just wholeheartedly dive into being a dad and to have open eyes to these moments of joy when he says really silly things. He said, shoo today for the first time. He was looking at my shoe. He was like,
Starting point is 00:32:57 shoo. And they tried to stand in my shoes. You know, it was this really beautiful little moment and so on. It's because I wasn't in stress control mode because I was stressed about preparing a sermon. Right? So that's what he's saying. The same exact events, work, life, relationships, he's going to go through all of them. They'll either be hell to you or a taste of heaven. It depends on whether you're willing to give up control of where this train's going. Failures, disappointments, frustrations, teacher's mind are the way into enjoyment in life. There's a second illusion, a final illusion that he's trying to strip us of. Chapter 2, verse 20. We're going to come back to this passage.
Starting point is 00:33:42 We're going to spend a whole Sunday talking about the meaning of work in Ecclesiastes verse 20. He says, so my heart began to despair over all my toilsome labor under the sun. Because look, a person may work and labor with wisdom and knowledge and skill, but then you got to leave it all to somebody else who hasn't worked for it. It's a great misfortune. What do you get for all the work and the anxiety and the striving that we're working for here under the sun? All their day's work is like grief and pain. This is a big issue. What do you get out of this? You work so hard. What do you get? And so in the teacher's mind, we're all here like working and striving. We're like the skateboarder kid. We're trying to make things happen here. And for all kinds of different reasons, we're trying to get something
Starting point is 00:34:34 out of life. We're trying to get admiration. We're trying to justify our existence in the universe. Trying to make ourselves feel competent in the eyes of others, in our own eyes. We're trying to make ourselves feel competent in the eyes of others, in our own eyes. We're trying to get joy. But somehow, paradoxically, he's saying joy never comes if you're trying to work for it. If you're trying to do all of these life accomplishments, you might get little bits of joy, but eventually you'll see that they're hevel too because the weekend always ends and Monday always comes. And so somehow he wants us to see that even like the best that we can get are moments of, verse 24, having a meal, having a drink with friends, seeing satisfaction in our work, joy. He's trying to strip us of the
Starting point is 00:35:21 illusion that even under the best of circumstances, we're going to find ultimate satisfaction and fulfillment. We want to control life because we think, I've got 70 years, and even if I say I'm a Christian and I say I believe in Jesus' return and the new creation, virtually none of us actually live like that. We actually live as if all we've got is our 70 years. And so we control these 70 years because we want to maximize pleasure and minimize pain. And what he's essentially saying is even the maximum amount of pleasure that you can get for yourself out of controlling your life here, I mean, it's actually quite minimal,
Starting point is 00:35:55 actually quite Hevel. Monday always comes. And the capital M Monday, the grave, it's coming and none of us can stop it. And it reduces all of our pleasure or work to heaven. Why does he commend having a meal and a drink with friends and trying to find the joy in little moments in life? This struck me because, did you notice, every single passage that we read about being happy and joy involved what two activities? Eating and drinking, right? Having, feasting, feasting.
Starting point is 00:36:29 Why did he choose that image? Why did he choose that image? Feasting is one of the most common biblical motifs and themes from cover to cover to describe what human beings are made for. So eating and drinking is actually what we're doing. We're engaging in mystery every time you open your mouth and eat something. You're acknowledging your dependence on something outside of yourself every time you open your mouth and eat. Did you produce all the food that you ate? No, and McDonald's sure didn't. You know what I'm saying? They got it for somewhere else. Who knows where that came from, right?
Starting point is 00:37:05 But so every time we open our mouths to eat, we're acknowledging my fragility, my smallness, my dependence on larger forces at work outside myself. And so when we eat, we're just announcing our dependence on others. And when we eat, typically it's with others. I'm announcing that I need others in my life and relationships. So feasting. So feasting is what God and humans were doing in the garden and so on. All the fruit trees that God made and it was God and humans in the garden.
Starting point is 00:37:34 It was great. Feasting is the image of how Israel was to enjoy the promised land. Every seven days they're supposed to have a big feast and rest from their labor. Feasting was what Jesus did with all of the wrong people, right? At least in the eyes of religious leaders. Eating and drinking to announce and celebrate the fact that God's kingdom has finally arrived in Jesus and he's come to rescue his world. And feasting is the last moment of the story in Revelation as heaven and earth come together. So the author of Ecclesiastes, the teacher, this is not like incidental that he chooses. Feasting is something we do every day where we have a chance to make the relentless
Starting point is 00:38:18 movement of time, to make it stop for a second. And we pause with others. And I remember my smallness, my dependence, my need for other people. And in theory, you're hungry, you eat, and then what do you experience afterwards? Satisfaction. It's not permanent. It's a short, momentary state of just pause and rest, momentary state of just pause and rest, people, food, all is well. Feasting is an image of shalom and well-being in the scriptures. But the moment that we see Big Mac as the thing in life, none of us, that was ridiculous. That was ridiculous. We would never see that. But the moment that we look for feasting, moments of feasting, we try to manufacture those moments of joy and feasting and so on. I mean, Portland, holy cow, you could feast every night of the week, you know what I mean, at a new place.
Starting point is 00:39:15 And it might be fun for a while, but Monday always comes, and capital M Monday is always going to come, you know. It's Hevel. It's Hevel. And so feasting, I think in the teacher's view, is a forward-pointing symbol to what he says in the last words of the book. Fear God, for he's going to hold all of us accountable. He's going to bring a moment of justice to set right all wrongs and restore his world. Restore his world. And when we feast, we pause for a moment, we experience a momentary sense of shalom with those around us. In theory, we remind ourselves that all of my experiences of joy in life, they're just little breadcrumbs that I'm following in a trail that lead to the great wedding feast of the Lamb and the reuniting of heaven and earth. And when I mistake the small
Starting point is 00:40:07 momentary joys of day-to-day life for the real thing, it's Hevel, because Monday always comes. Monday always comes. So it seems to me that the teacher is not schizophrenic. Death, death, Hevel, hevel. So enjoy life. What he's actually saying is that recognizing my lack of control and recognizing that my life here under the sun in a broken, compromised world, I shouldn't expect this to be heaven on earth. Why should we expect that? It's clearly not.
Starting point is 00:40:40 It's a world compromised by evil and by sin and selfishness and our own stupidity? Why would we think for a moment? Think for a moment that we can find ultimate shalom here in these 70 years. But we do all the time. Let me close with some words from Blaise Pascal. He was a 17th century French Christian philosopher. He describes the restlessness inside of us that causes us to believe in the illusion that we can control our lives and that we can find joy
Starting point is 00:41:12 here. He puts it this way. He says, we're never satisfied with the present. We anticipate the future as too slow in coming as if we can hasten its course, or we recall the past to stop its too rapid flight. We are so unwise that we wander about in times which are not ours, and we don't think of the only one which belongs to us. We are so idle that we dream of those times which are no more, We are so idle that we dream of those times which are no more, and we thoughtlessly overlook the only one that exists. It's because the present is generally painful to us. We conceal it from our sight because it troubles us, and if it just happens to be delightful to us, we regret to see it pass away. Next paragraph. We try to sustain it by the future and think of controlling matters which are not in our power, and so we're preparing for a time which we have no certainty
Starting point is 00:42:14 of reaching. Each one of us, let's examine his thoughts, and he will find them all occupied with the past or the future. We scarcely ever think of the present, and if we think of it, it is only to take light from it to arrange the future. Isn't this great? This is so depressing but enlightening at the same time, right? So the past and the present are our means, and so we never live. And as we're always preparing to be happy, it is inevitable that we should never be so. That's precisely what the teacher is saying. The moment I give up the illusion of control
Starting point is 00:42:56 and the illusion that life here under the sun can give me the ultimate shalom I'm looking for, then we're in business to enjoy and to see life as a gift from this one who loved me, who created me, and despite my own sin and folly, who gave his life for me to save me and to give me new life. It's then that I can experience joy. Amen? new life. It's then that I can experience joy. Amen? I don't know how this speaks a word of God to you, but I would just put it out there. And as we go to the bread and the cup and into a time of worship, I would just encourage you, like Pascal says, examine our hearts. Are any of us like white-knuckled, clenching our teeth, holding onto a person or situation or a certain outcome that's robbing you of joy.
Starting point is 00:43:48 Listen to the teacher. Are there any of us under the illusion that this person or career or something in my life, you realize I'm working so hard because I really think this is it. This is the best it's ever going to get. It's an illusion. It's a pointer to the best that's yet to come. That sounds cliche. I'm sorry. The best that's yet to come. All right. Thanks for listening. Just as a side note, I remember being deeply impacted as I studied and reflected on the themes for this message. It's been a very rich set of ideas that have turned into a set of practices in my own life, set of practices in my own life, trying to push my own mind and heart towards contentment and receiving life as it comes to me rather than as I would prefer it to be. And I don't know where that lands with you today, but I trust that that's something that you need to hear as well.
Starting point is 00:45:00 So, God's peace be with you all, and thanks for listening to Strange Bible Podcast.

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