Family Trips with the Meyers Brothers - GIANCARLO ESPOSITO Rode Wild White Horses
Episode Date: October 8, 2024Giancarlo Esposito joins Seth and Josh on the pod this week! He talks all about his Dad not going inside museums or churches in Rome, his memories of Copenhagen, his experience being an altar boy and ...going to military school, riding wild horses, spending time in New Mexico during the pandemic, and so much more! Family Trips is supported by Airbnb. Your home might be worth more than you think. Find out how much more at airbnb.com/host to learn about hosting. Go to everydaydose.com/trips for  25% off plus 5 free gifts with your first order. Today get 20% off your DeleteMe plan when you go to joindeleteme.com/TRIPS and use promo code TRIPS at checkout.
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Hey, Pashi.
Hey, Sufi.
Somebody's getting married in five days.
I know.
It's you.
I know, I'm well aware.
You're well aware.
How are you feeling?
Excited, I just hope that it's a lot of work
putting a wedding together,
and I just hope it goes off without a hitch.
Axel, who's six, your nephew.
Yeah, I know him.
He wanted me to ask,
he wants to know if he can bring two friends.
He wants a plus two.
He wants, I know it's late in the game,
but can he get a plus two?
Are they both real or either of them imaginary?
No, they're both real
and they both have severe dietary restrictions.
and they both have severe dietary restrictions. Dad's really thrown down the gauntlet, FYI.
I think he wrote his speech, you know,
we're both talking at your wedding.
I think he wrote his over the course of months.
He's been working on it because I'll get these little texts
that are clearly speech-based,
where he wants bits of information He's been working on it because I'll get these little texts that are clearly speech-based
where he wants bits of information
or clarifications on some things.
And I really appreciate it.
I mean, it shows that he is putting in the work.
Again, I wish my father-in-law, Tom, had done that
because at our wedding, he famously got up
and had maybe put no thought into his toast.
Yeah, he had some wrong and some bad info.
He immediately said, I'll never forget
when we all went to Madrid and Alexi heckled her dad
and said, I've never been to Madrid.
Well, she wasn't wrong.
Yeah, no, he wasn't.
She def wasn't wrong.
That was def a Tom fumble.
So dad, I think is real,
cause again, he famously had a great,
great toast at my wedding.
But then you sort of dropped the mic.
Yeah.
It was like how Anthony Mackie also, you know,
had a really good rap in Eight Mile.
People don't forget that.
Yeah.
It was a good rap and then- Excellent rap.
And then nobody remembers Anthony Mackie's rap
because Eminem's rap.
And this is how people talk about raps.
His rap was the best rap.
And then the famous line,
which I'm sure said in this podcast,
which is somebody came up to dad and said,
oh my God, Josh's toast made me cry.
And he said, how do you think I feel before he gave it?
I was the best toast you'd ever heard.
Yeah, well, he's got another, got another bite of the apple.
He's got another bite of the apple.
And I feel like he's, I think he's trying to get in my head
because he's a lot of like, how's yours coming?
You know, and I'm like, stop trying to rattle me.
I'm like, stop trying to rattle me. We did a live premiere of an episode of Family Trips,
which is, it comes on YouTube live 7 a.m. Pacific,
8 a.m. Eastern on Tuesday.
And 7 a.m. Pacific and 8 a.m. Eastern
are two different times.
Didn't I say 10 Eastern? I thought you said eight. I don't want to, I just don't
want, you know, I feel like if Mackenzie hears this she might call off the
wedding if she doesn't think you understand time zones. Anyway keep going.
It was really fun. It was sort of live chat. I was on, there was some
debate among our listeners as to what they wanted to be known as.
There was Trippies was mentioned, Trippers, Tripsters.
I think Trippers would be my pick.
Do you have a pick among those three?
Well, I felt like the, I don't even know what to call it.
I don't want to sort of put my finger on the scale,
but there was a lot,
there seemed to be a lot of support for tripsters.
Trippers might imply sort of a use of illicit substances.
Oh, right, right, right.
Yeah.
And frippers, what would frippers,
if you heard frippers, what do you think just happened?
Well, that something happened to mom.
Something befell mom.
Yeah.
And it would be a sort of, I don't know,
sort of vague injury where she would say she got Frippered.
Fripper comes from, she had a fingernail get like broken
or bent back
and she said, my nail got Frippard.
And now Frippard sort of stands in for anything
that might befall you.
Yeah, it's not quite, it's a lot of like, I almost,
I think she lives her life, pretty much every anecdote
she tells us is about how she almost got Frippard.
Yeah.
She's not getting frippered as much as
her usage would leave you to believe.
But anyway, all right, so tripsters.
Tripsters?
Maybe, I feel like-
Yeah, we'll leave it.
We'll keep it in the hopper and keep working on it.
Yeah.
This is, there's a big movie coming out.
It's out.
This conversation happened before it came out
with, it's Megalopolis.
It's directed by Francis Ford Coppola.
It has an amazing cast.
Giancarlo Esposito, which I did not know
is how you said his last name
and we established in the podcast that it is.
Yeah, a lot of people would be saying Esposito.
Esposito.
Esposito.
And he's got an incredible story,
an incredible background.
An incredible, just, gentleman.
He's a gentleman.
Yeah. He really is.
And I think I'll probably,
I hope this won't bother you,
I think a lot of my best man toast
is gonna be about him now.
Well, he's a good man.
He's a good man.
You know.
Well, I'm very excited for all of you to hear that,
but you know what, even as excited as I am for everybody to listen to the pod,
I'm more excited about five days from now.
Woo-hoo!
All right, but first, ooh, ooh.
All right, but first, Jeff Tweedy. Family trips with the Myers Brothers.
Family trips with the Myers Brothers.
Here we go.
Yes. Hello. Hey.
There he is. There he is.
How are you?
Good, it's so nice to see you again.
You look so classic.
You look so classic.
You're a classic gentleman,
and then with your backdrop, it's just even more classical.
Oh, thank you so much.
Thank you, thank you.
Look at your fresh faces today.
Wow, awesome.
We have, we do what we can.
We are gonna get in to your upbringing
and you know, Josh is very loath
when I use this podcast to talk about our guests' work,
but I just wanna get out of the way.
You have done some of my favorite things.
You've been in some of my favorite television shows,
and I'm very, very happy every time I'm lucky enough to see you.
Oh, thank you so much.
I love what I do, and I start with that always.
I've been blessed to have worked with some great folks,
and what I do is mostly collaboration.
If you have great writing and great words
and you can sort of fill the in-between the lines
with some character stuff, it works.
And when it works, it's a beautiful thing.
One of my favorite shows, which is streaming again
on Peacock is Homicide Life on the Streets.
And you showed up for the final season of that.
And then I realized your upbringing is kind of a little bit
like Yaffe Koto's character, Al Girodello,
because you are half Italian.
I certainly am.
And in my conversations to get into that show,
I remember really wanting to expound on the background
that I have to make it more natural.
And I would look at Yafet and go, oh my gosh,
this guy is really African royalty.
And what part of that looks Italian?
But we, you know what I mean?
But we, Tom Fontana and I had long conversations
about wanting to get some of that Italianism into the show.
And I was really honored to come in in a year
where Andre Brauer was leaving
and take over that storyline in a new way
in the relationship as Mike Giordello to Yafet's,
very stern, captain, and fatherly attitude.
I also think of you as,
I guess I always associate you as a New Yorker, especially I think because maybe
the first time I laid eyes on you was in Do the Right
Thing, but you were not born in New York.
I think no one will guess where you were born.
Lay it on us.
Yeah, Copenhagen, Denmark is where I was born,
which is really out of form for me being the Italian
who was born in Copenhagen to a mother who was from Alabama
who became an opera singer, went to Europe,
met my father, Alla Scala in Milan
and also in San Carlo opera in Naples.
And she was performing with Josephine Baker.
And when I was born and she was,
she had had my brother in Rome and was maybe six months pregnant
with me and had these large hoop dresses made to hide her belly and she was doing a supper
club act at that time. So I have that, you know, that, that part of me that is multicultural
in, in, in, in every sense of the word.
Was she, was your mother performing like right up
until your birth or a couple of weeks before?
She was, she was until,
she describes it to me,
she described it to me that she had a country doctor
who didn't monitor, did natural things
and didn't really monitor her weight. So the, my birth was
difficult for her because I was born 13 pounds. And so, yeah, so that, so I think I tortured her
a bit in my coming into the world. But, you know, I love that I have this background to speak of,
because it's had me look at the world
through a different lens.
Raised in a household with a mom and dad
who listened to operatic music,
who that was their life, was the creative arts.
My father was a stage technician and lighting man
and fly man.
He did everything backstage in a small opera house
in Naples, Italy, which was San Carlo.
And I recently went back there.
I went back there last year.
I took three of my four daughters.
We met the fourth in Portugal for her engagement,
but we went to Naples and I went to that opera house
and I stood in that opera house and just cried tears
because all of my familial history came back to me.
Now, two things I want to say.
One, I feel like they should have written an opera
for your mom about someone giving birth to a 13 pound baby
because I feel like those are,
those would be really fun notes to hit.
Now, when you go back, I say this,
my children obviously are younger, minor eight, six, and three.
But when you went and had an emotional moment
in the opera house in Naples,
were your children also emotional
or were they the kind that I have
that make fun of their dad when he gets choked up?
They saw that I was very moved.
It was a strange situation.
The opera house closes during a lunch period because
in Italy they take very long lunches. And so they went sort of, there was someone in
the box office who was explaining as soon as he said they were closed until three, I
just took off. So they watched me go one way and they were talking to this gentleman, what's
he doing? What's he doing?
And my kids called me extra anyway.
And so I just went right up the corridor,
right into the opera house and stood there
and was frozen by the red draperies,
by the red seats, by the size of it.
It was intimate by the visions that were coming to me
that I had never seen,
but I'm making the imaginary visions of my mother on stage and my father back,
and the curtains were partially up
so I could see the backstage,
and tears are coming to my eyes,
and then a man taps me on the shoulder and says,
no, no, no, no, no, no.
I'll tell you.
No, no, no, no, no.
And so I came out and they saw I was visibly moved
so they didn't make fun of me.
Which was nice.
That's very nice.
So your parents never then, when you were young with your siblings,
they never took you on a trip back to Naples
to show you where they met?
They never did.
I did do one trip to Italy with my father,
which was a lifelong yearning for me to do with him.
And I went back with him in the early 90s. And he was a very
complicated man, my dad. And so I kept having the feeling that he didn't really want to go back to
Italy. He would go back every year when I was young, which ceased after I was 13 or 14 years old.
He didn't go back anymore. And so he was a bit curmudgeonly on that trip,
but I was able to go to Rome with him. And it was a bit of a bittersweet trip. We went to Rome,
we went to Pisa, we went to Assisi, because I was a very spiritual, religious kid who was an altar
boy. And my father had become basically an agnostic. So, you know, it was a strange
moment to go to the Vatican and him not want to come in. No, John Cottle, I don't want
to go in. So, what do you mean you don't want to go in? I don't want to go in. I said, well,
why wouldn't you want to? No, no, no, it's not for me. It's not for me. You go, you go.
And so, the whole trip was about me bonding with, and he doesn't want to go in. But he knows all the history about the Roman guard and the Swiss guards who guard
the Pope and all this. So he's given me all this history and drawing me in. And so I went
in and walked around by myself and came back and met him outside and he's feeding the birds
with some bird seed or whatever it is out in the courtyard, which is really beautiful
with fountains and all that. So it was a really interesting trip for me
because I realized he was put off a little bit
about going back to where he started.
What do you think it was about it?
That it was just that you can't go back
or that the past is the past?
I think it were his memories of going to Rome from Naples.
Now, I started to figure it out when I went to Napoli.
Napoli is very different.
It's a very edgy town, great food, great theater,
great people, but tougher and rougher.
And he left there at a young age to go to Rome
and become an artist, right?
After all, if you're working in the opera and theater,
you're an artist.
And so I had the same experience, you know, going into the galleries in Rome because he
is a boy, it didn't cost anything. And so, you know, we wanted to go into the Medici
castle, which is beautiful. And no, no, Giancarlo is too much. I said, what do you mean he's
too much? Giancarlo, he says, no, no, this is ridiculous. Is it too much?. I said, what do you mean he's too much? John Carlos says, no, this is ridiculous. He said too much. And I said, Papa, I'm paying for it. No, no,
you don't pay for me. And so it happened again at the Medici castle. And I thought, oh my
gosh, what's going on with him. But I let him go through his journey and his moment,
went in, looked at the David, looked at this and look at that came out. And then we proceeded
on. Assisi was beautiful because
there was a lot of time outside, but he was really shied away from the religious connection
to Rome and the Pope and all that. And I have a feeling that it was because of his childhood
upbringing, you know, those memories that come back that you haven't never looked at
or faced. To me, it was just marvelous to see the art
and to spend some time with him.
Did he spend the rest of his life in New York?
He did.
He spent the rest of his life in New York.
He worked in the New York theater.
And then, well, most of his life until close to the end,
then he went to Florida.
So, you know, so Florida to me is the last stop.
Yeah, yeah.
Yeah.
He went to Florida.
For a lot of people.
Yeah, for a lot of people.
What is that about?
He started an opera company.
It's weird, right?
He went and started an opera company there?
He started the opera bouffa company.
Opera bouffa meaning short opera.
Because he felt like Americans couldn't appreciate
two and three hour operas, and he would shorten them,
and he tried to start a company which, you know,
it didn't really take off.
But it was a great idea, I think.
Yeah, I mean, and you know, a lot of people,
certainly I think most people don't go to Florida
in their final days to try to start a short opera company,
so I applaud him.
Absolutely, I looked up to him for doing that. in their final days to try to start a short opera company. So I applaud him.
Absolutely.
I looked up to him for doing that.
I truly did.
And he almost had all that come to fruition.
He did a few performances and it kind of worked.
But then he started to fall into ill health
and he took off on us.
What about your, how did your mother find her way
from Alabama to Europe?
My mom was performing at a great place
in Cleveland, Ohio called Karamu House,
which was a training ground for young actors, writers,
dancers, and musicians.
And she won the Marian Anderson Scholarship.
Marian Anderson was the first officially successful
African American opera singer.
And she left a scholarship fund.
And my mother won that scholarship,
which allowed her to come to New York
to a place called International House,
which was on Riverside Drive near Grant's Tomb,
up at 123rd or 124th Street,
where she continued her studies
and then had an audition for a show, a State Department Tour,
which they were doing in the 50s,
to bring American culture to Europe.
And she won the audition of playing alternating bests
in a show called Porgy and Bess by George and Ira Gershwin,
and Leontene Price was the other best.
So they alternated on a state department tour,
which was about a four-year period in Europe.
And that's what brought her to Europe,
and that's how she met my father and fell in love
and had her mother come over from Alabama
while they got married and started this very romantic,
great love affair of two people,
one on stage and one behind the scenes
in their partnership in the creative arts.
Wow. What a thing.
And then was Copenhagen for,
when you were born in Copenhagen,
were they there for a long time?
They were there, I remember, for a little over a year.
My brother was born in Rome.
He was born, there was a hospital on the hill where
Nero fiddled while Rome burned. So my parents, you know, my brother eventually became a violinist
for many years.
Oh my goodness.
Yeah, so my parents had this romantic view of the world. And she then went to Copenhagen
to open up for Josephine Baker. And so there was this connection to Josephine.
They became friends.
And so we lived in Denmark.
And I have some photos of me in Denmark, one sitting on a nun's lap and one with my godmother.
Her name was Adi, blonde and blue-eyed.
And they loved the feeling in Denmark. I think in Rome at that time, they experienced,
some experiences had them feel like they weren't,
they didn't belong in a way, because it was, you know,
although Italy has a history of welcoming soldiers
after the war and interracial marriages,
it was something that was kind of acceptable in some places
and other places not.
And so I had a feeling that they were really comfortable
in Denmark.
And so I'm reminded through some photos
that I've looked back at that it was a happy time
for them there.
So it was about a year before they moved on to Hamburg.
My mother performed at the Hamburg Stadts Opera.
And then of course, back to Rome,
toured around Europe for a little bit
before coming back to America.
I do just wanna say real quick that I have a,
I have a three-year-old daughter
who is a blonde blue-eyed Addie,
so it will come full circle, she's Adelaide.
I love it, I love it.
It's a beautiful name, Adelaide, truly is.
It was our grandmother's name as well,
so it's inherited.
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Yeah, Sufi.
You know we have an annual trip.
Yeah, we sure do.
We get a couple regular trips,
but which trip are you talking about?
I'm talking about the fact that you and I
and 10 of our closest college friends
get together every September for our fantasy football draft.
Such a trip. And very little of the trip September for our fantasy football draft.
Such a trip.
And very little of the trip
is about a fantasy football draft.
Yeah, I always feel a little nerdy
saying that we're going on a fantasy football draft,
but we're going to hang out with our buddies.
Yeah, that's why I say it's a fantasy friendship draft.
Would that make it less nerdy or is that maybe worth?
No, I think it's charming, it's sweet.
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A fire pit?
There's a fire pit, Pachi.
There's a fire pit.
I wanna say there's a volleyball court. There's a fire pit, Pachi. There's a fire pit. I want to say there's a volleyball court.
Yep.
There's a pickleball court.
There's a lot.
It's driving distance to a hospital
that a bunch of 50-year-old guys are going to have to go to
when we blow our ACLs.
Yeah.
But in general, it is so nice that it has all the things
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Yes. Thereabouts.
And so prior to that, you were just traveling around
wherever your parents were performing and working, yeah?
Absolutely.
I learned about the world through the eyes of the theater
and the creative arts and didn't know much.
You know, there were certain clues that we were kind of colorblind growing up.
You know, we were in Germany and, you know, a man came to the door to deliver groceries
and he was as black as my boots.
And I had never seen someone that dark And my brother and I started screaming.
And we answered the door because, you know,
when you're four or five years old,
you wanna do everything, you wanna be grown.
And so we answered the door
and all my mother and father heard were,
were, Schwatzer, Schwatzer, Schwatzer.
So we literally ran into a closet.
My mother was kind of freaked out and came to the door, got the groceries and realized,
oh, they don't really see that I'm darker than Giovanni.
They don't, but this man at the door was African.
So as I understand, he was really kind of a blue black color.
And so to us, he looked like a ghost,
but that's when she realized she had to really start
to figure out how to speak to us he looked like a ghost. But that's when she realized she had to really start
to figure out how to speak to us about people of the world,
thinking already that we were worldly
because we had been around,
but didn't really understand this man who was at the door.
The accent and everything else.
But yeah, I had a very different kind of upbringing
that was, my bubble was burst when I came to America.
So I came to America.
It is so funny.
I have, wait, your mom,
I understand your mom being from Alabama
and she has kids who've been in like Copenhagen, Rome,
Hamburg, and it must've been so drawing for her to be like,
are you telling me they're not worldly?
Like, what do I have to do?
And when you say America opened your eyes,
I worry and I'm afraid to ask, but I'm assuming for the worse?
It was a discovery for me.
We're talking 62, 63.
And so that period of time in America, I think there was a certain tension between blacks
and whites in certain parts of the country.
And I felt shielded from that as I grew up in the theater.
It gave me an identity that didn't have to identify with any color because I felt like I was the best of both worlds.
That's what I was taught.
And so I didn't understand when people just looked at me and had a judgment just based on the color of my skin.
And so that was the difficult hurdle to try to find out
how to embody all of who I am without any apology
and not feel like I wasn't acceptable.
And so it was a tricky balance to find.
And I think I finally achieved finding it through my work.
Did you, was the move back to New York
because your parents were planning on having a life
in the theater in New York?
Absolutely, my father joined the union, and he experienced
a certain other kind of racism because it was all Irish.
And so he was an Italian and trying
to join the Irish clan, which was the union in the theater. And so he felt like he was
always struggling against being looked at as if he had the skill to do what he does.
I've recently unearthed some photos of him behind a lighting board in Italy and realized,
oh, he wasn't only a carpenter and fly man and property man for Hello Dolly in New York
with Carol Channing and that championship
season that show he worked on.
But he was also a lighting man.
And that takes some skill to be able to light a production from a small lighting board and
change that atmospheric lighting feeling as the opera or the show went on.
And I don't know if he ever achieved that because in the union here, you had to come up as a carpenter.
You had to come up and, as he would say to me,
you have to shape up.
You have to shape up and earn it.
And I think it took him a long time
to feel comfortable in the union here.
And he was a bit of a commudgeon,
and he spoke up for his rights.
And so I think he became, after a while, ostracized.
I remember at one point, he was working at a theater downtown a few blocks from the Orpheum
Theater, and I said, what are you doing?
He said, I have to shape up to get back into the union because I was put on leave. And he was putting the movie sign on the marquee,
which were big red letters that you clipped in on a ladder.
And so they gave him the grunt work to do
to be able to work himself back into the,
back on Broadway again.
But he loved the theater and his passion for it,
certainly was passed on to me.
Did you, did your mom still have family in Alabama?
And was that a place you'd take trips back to?
Well, we, she did.
She had my grandmother, Bertha Foster Price,
lived in Alabama and my mother basically abandoned us.
I mean, you know, it's like, it's the truth of the matter.
She at one point in those four years, when she brought us over, she dropped us with Bertha.
And then she went back to Europe with my dad, because we were we were a lot as little boys.
And she thought, you know, let me just put them with my mom.
And so we were there for a few years
in Cleveland, Ohio with grandma,
which was an interesting experience all in itself
because my grandmother played organ and piano
in the Baptist church,
and she would always get tight with the ministers,
so she had an inside track to God and other things. So, it was, coming to Cleveland and going to church with Pentecostal Holy Rollers was like a movie
every Sunday morning. You know, catching the Spirit, speaking in tongues, you know, shaking
and screaming for the Lord. It was something that shaped my childhood
in a very different way from that moment forward.
Did you have immediate like buy-in to that movie?
Were you a fan of that movie
or did you and your brother fight it at all?
I was a fan of it.
I don't think my brother was such a fan.
I always felt a connection to another spirit
or guiding force inside my heart and soul.
So much so that, you know, when my mom abandoned us
the second time.
I just.
I'm just.
Yeah.
How old were you the first time?
How old were you the first time, real quick?
The first time I was four.
Okay.
You know, three or four.
And your brother was how old?
My brother was a year older, so he was five.
And that, she left us there for about a year,
a year and a half.
She came back after a sudden illness that I had
that she, my grandmother had written her and said,
baby's in the hospital.
She never got that letter.
She got the letter that said, surgery, surgery went well. He survived. He lived and he's back home. And my mother flew back. Uh,
I had, uh, my grandmother cooks Southern, Southern cooking and she knew that I loved
to eat. I mean, I was born 13 pounds, so I had an affinity for food in the belly of my mom. And so she would cook cornbread and grits and all that heavy southern food.
And I had into secession of the bowels.
And so after a couple of days, she noticed I didn't go to the bathroom, I wasn't pooping.
And so she got concerned.
And then a couple more days, this is my grandmother Bertha, a couple more days went by and she
was even more concerned.
And then I started to turn colors, like a little blue,
and then she was really concerned.
And so she took me to the hospital
and they knew what was happening immediately.
Well, first they said,
and I'll never forget my mother telling me this,
oh, they told my grandmother,
oh, he's gonna be fine, he just have to be fine. He just have a little gas.
Baby just got a little gas.
He's all right.
We're going to shake him up.
We're going to pat him on the back.
He's going to fart.
It's all going to come out.
It's going to be good.
You know?
And so a day and a half went by of that.
And my grandmother saved my life.
She walked into the hospital.
She picked me up and swallowed me.
She looked both ways
down the hall, and she ran out of the hospital with me.
Took me to another hospital where they took me into emergency surgery.
Turns out later the doctor, Esant, never forget his name, who operated on me, had a glass
eye, thank God he didn't miss, and he opened me up, cleaned me out,
and I was fine after that.
I think that kind of ended my mother and father's time
in Europe, they thought, well,
we should get back to the boys.
Now, abandonment number two, leaving,
so this was a little more complicated.
They found a way to abandon you again.
They found a way.
The second time, we were just too much for my mom.
I think it was after a road trip to the city with her.
And we had a couple of very disastrous road trips.
And so we lived in Westchester County,
we were driving to the city.
And we came to the city on this particular time
and my brother and I had got Christmas gifts
of machine gun water guns.
You ever, right?
So you got a machine gun water gun that holds a whole lot of water.
Yeah, you can't.
As a parent, don't let that go in the car.
Just, Seth, I'm going to tell you, don't do it.
Don't do it.
Because you know, take your finger off the trigger.
No, my brother and I, you know, we had our time together and we're shooting each other
with water guns.
And my mother's trying to drive and she's being distracted and she reaches back over the seat and she grabs one of my water
gun and she literally cocks it and smacks it and breaks it over my head. I was absolutely destroyed.
I don't think it was as much pain as it was my water gun will never be again. And so, I kept thinking about those moments
that determine things and change your life.
And it was after that that she took us
to Mount St. Joseph Military Academy
and said, I need a break.
She was working at Radio City.
So I gotta understand this trajectory
from opera diva to Radio City Music Hall,
singing a solo alongside the Rockettes.
There's a different one.
Yeah.
She was providing for us.
My mother and father were separating at that time,
and she put us in military school.
I had defined, I'm trying to think about my life here in the theater.
It's a life of escapism.
I'm thinking about my life in military school. Where did I go? To the church. I became an altar
boy. It's a life of I need to figure this out, how to find some solace within the situation.
And so I became an altar boy and then learned about the priests and how they operate in the world,
the clerical world backstage,
which I learned about all too well.
So how many years were you in military school?
I was there for three and a half years.
Marching, learning how to shoot, following orders,
being, how do I say it, being reformed in a way.
We had prefixes and we had priests, monks who taught us. And so, we had to operate as
a group. And when that didn't happen, we were disciplined. And that discipline was inclusive of standing at attention for hours, getting your hands
whipped on palms with birch branches until they were basically about to bleed.
All those things that teach you to stay in longing.
So I learned a discipline.
I also learned how to be a gentleman.
Table manners.
Learned how to put corners on my bed.
Learned how to be responsible.
Learned how to show up.
So all that is the good news of it.
Learned how to be a gentleman.
That's what it taught me.
Did your brother get the same lessons from it?
Was it as effective for him?
It was, it was.
He learned how to dominate me.
So I think his lessons were even far greater than mine.
Because he learned how to keep me in line
as per his wishes, which was perfectly fine.
He needed to feel that power.
And it's like having kids.
And I think having children, you wanna keep them safe.
I'm not sure my brother's motive
was to keep me completely safe,
but I know for me and my children,
why do you have to listen to me?
And I think about the practical things,
don't cross that street,
because basically you'll get squashed like a bug.
So maybe you should listen to me so I can help protect you.
But then after a while they get it
and they can start protecting themselves.
Yeah.
Now three and a half years of military school implies
that you either started halfway through a year
or you jumped ship with a half a year to go.
So did you come in halfway through a season?
I came in at the beginning of the season
and I jumped ship with half a year to go
You know, there were circumstances behind that that were were troubling I was in the music department
so music was my
Place of solace and being an altar boy was my place of solace as well
And I was in the music department with a young man named Carlos, who decided that he wanted
to play with some matches and play with fire while the window was open.
He was consumed with it.
And I was across the room and he lit up a handkerchief on fire and I'm like, what the
hell are you doing?
And then he, you know, when it got too hot for his hand he threw it out the window
I said what what what is happening right now and
and so of course we were
descended upon by staff and all that and and they they they
Accused us of well they accused me until I expressed the truth of the story, accused him of playing with fire
and causing a hazard and trying to burn down the building.
And of course I stuck on for him,
he wasn't trying to do that, he was just a little absorbed
with the matches he had.
He just loves the sweet dance of flame.
That's right, he loves the sweet dance of flame. And's right. He loves the sweet dance of flame.
And so that was the end of my time there.
Really? That was it?
That was a handkerchief.
That was expellable.
You know, it really, I didn't get expelled.
It was an interesting process.
They were so angry and upset
that they made me sleep in the same single bed with my brother, with
his head one way and feet this way and my head one way and feet the other.
And my mother came up, because of course they called her, and she was beside herself.
She thought that was cruel and unjust punishment.
And at that point in time, you know,
I just, my brother's BO in the bed was way too much for me
and I wanted out.
And so we moved on from there.
Your brother, Terry, did he leave too?
He left as well.
I will say if anybody got an unfair punishment here,
don't take this the wrong way,
it was your brother who was nowhere near
a handkerchief on fire and then all of a sudden gets you in his bed.
I agree. I agree. I think I soured the water for him as well. You know, it's really funny
because I've been back to Mount St. Joseph Military Academy in Newburgh, New York, and
it's turned into a home, a nursing home for old nuns, for retired nuns.
Then I had to go back just to see this place
that was so, so a very powerful part of my life
and my upbringing.
And in the end, after all of that happened there,
I feel like it was a good thing for me.
I really do.
It changed my life for the better.
I think a lot of people would assume, you know, maybe,
although you're in the music program, so maybe I'm leaning
into an unfair stereotype that military school would maybe
beat the arts out of you, but obviously you're brother
and you leave and that's still your future.
Like, what you're born into, that family,
overrides three and a half years of military school.
Absolutely, you know, and I'm always surprised
when I hear about well-known artists
who've been to military school.
I've met a number of them.
Al Roker went to the same military school I did.
Joe Morton did 10 years earlier than me.
Oh wow.
Francis Ford Coppola, who I just worked with
and was at the premier of Megalopolis
here in New York last night,
went to New York Military Academy down the road from Mount St. Joseph Military Academy.
So I'm always kind of, and I didn't know this until last night that that Francis had gone to
Military Academy too. So many, many artists have gone to a military school. I've just started to
talk about my experiences because, you know, that's what happened. And, you know, I've just started to talk about my experiences because that's what happened.
I'm writing a memoir and I have an editor I'm working with,
and he asked me about my childhood and I was like,
oh wait, I got to do Seth Meyers podcast.
I didn't even know we were set up to do this when I saw you last week.
Yeah, I know. I used that backstage.
I know. It's so weird.
Then I went, oh, what am I gonna talk about?
So my editor's like, did you have any fun times
when you were a kid?
I was like, was it all doom and gloom?
And I said, look at me, look how happy I am.
Cause the instinct sometimes
is to make up something that's not.
And although as a boy going through
some of these traumatic experiences with my family,
I realized that that's what happened.
And when I'm able to say what happened,
I'm able to work through it in everyday fashion
in a much more seamless and easier way.
Yeah.
And did you, so when your mother wasn't working, if she had time off, would you guys take any trips? Do you recall any, like, run of the mill vacations?
I do. We went to Bloomington, Indiana, and we went to a horse farm there, which was like the, I loved animals. And I've always been intrigued with Westerns when I was a boy.
And, but the road trips were arduous
because after a while when you're, you know,
five, six, seven, eight, nine years old
and you're hearing La Traviata,
how many times can you listen to La Boheme?
How many times can you listen to Traviata?
You know what I mean?
How many times can you listen to Traviata?
So that's, so not only they were opera people but they made you listen to, you know what I mean? How many times can you listen to Traviata? So that's, so not only they were opera people,
but they made you listen to it all the time.
It's in the car all the time.
And it was like, oh my God.
I mean, I gotta be, there were probably horse farms
closer than Bloomington, Indiana.
It does seem like a weird.
I'm sure there were, but this horse farm was special
because it had wild white horses.
So, you know, so we get there
and you're gonna go to a horse farm
to ride some wild horses at like seven years old.
Like, how does that work?
You know, you're gonna tame the, yeah.
So, yeah, it's a very good question.
Well, you sounded like wild kids.
So they probably thought this, you know,
game recognize game.
Yeah, that's right.
Johnny, she'd call him Johnny.
Johnny, these boys are too much.
Johnny, you have to come over here.
Johnny, it's too much.
This is after they were, but they were together
when we went to this horse farm.
So they put me on one of these wild horses,
which was actually fairly tame,
but it didn't want me on its back.
So, and we're in a corral going around and around,
and I lost my seating and I lost my grip,
and I was off that horse by the third or fourth time around.
You know, it's funny, when a horse trots,
you gotta, you know, use your inner thighs
to keep yourself buckled down on that horse.
They don't put a seatbelt on you, baby.
Yeah.
So, I went off the horse and landed on the white fence
and then landed on the ground.
A bit of a disaster.
The good news was I didn't break my back and I was okay.
But I felt like I ruined the vacation.
Which is how a kid would feel, you know?
Like I messed it all up.
I'm still recovering.
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So your mom called your dad.
Your dad was Giovanni.
She called him Johnny.
What did she call you?
What was her? Did she shorten your name at all?
No, she called me Giancarlo or Giancarlo
because sometimes she didn't roll her R,
sometimes she did.
Was there a difference?
Were you in trouble with one and not the other?
Oh, Giancarlo!
Then I was in trouble.
If it was sung, I was in trouble.
Oh, that's great.
Without a doubt.
Yeah.
It took me many years to pronounce my name properly
because I came to America and my name is Esposito, right?
You know, we had Tony and Phil and everyone knew Esposito
and it wasn't for years that I realized
that my name was Esposito.
When I went to Italy the first time
and then I went back with my father,
but I was afraid to say it because I felt like, okay, I'm an actor, creative person.
If I say Esposito, that sounds a little affected.
I want to be real and not affected.
And I realized I was just, I was skirting my true identity and the pronunciation of
my name is really as it should be Esposito.
So I started saying it years ago.
I had done Jay Leno and I think I pronounced it my full name, Giancarlo Giuseppe
Alessandro Esposito and that's kind of music.
So I pronounced it correctly and I've been saying it correctly ever since.
But switching code switching when I needed it, like when ever since, but switching, code switching when I needed.
Like when I was, you know, when people would didn't,
if I judged that they wouldn't understand me saying
Esposito, I would say Esposito.
Oh, Esposito, or if I say Esposito, they go,
oh, it's Esposito.
No, no, it's Esposito.
Now I insist, and recently I was watching the Olympics
and Manila Esposito, a great gymnast from Italy,
they won their first medals and I was
so very proud to be able to congratulate her.
Share the Esposito name.
Share the Esposito name.
So I get a call from Anthony Anderson.
It's a message, a voice message.
It's interesting people who just, they don't leave their voice message, they record one
and send it to you.
Hey, brother, where you at?
Hey, man. Look, have we been pronouncing your name?
Wait, let me just explain.
We're watching the Olympics, me and my lovely
watching the Olympics.
And there's this girl, Manila.
How do you say that?
Manila.
You know what I mean.
Call me.
It's called.
I love Anthony Anderson. That was his message to me. So I love Anthony Anderson.
That was his message to me.
So I called him immediately.
Brother, we've been pronouncing your name wrong.
I said, yes, Anthony, my name is Giancarlo Esposito.
That's it.
That's what I'm talking.
Esposito.
Man, I'm so sorry.
When you were there, let's have some dinner and let's talk about your origins.
It was a wonderful call.
It was a wonderful call. It was a wonderful call to get.
It was a wonderful call to get.
I'm very proud of who I have become in accepting who I am.
That's just wonderful.
Did you, would you guys, living in Westchester,
would you drive in to see shows?
Would your parents take you as kids to see Broadway?
Yes. Yes, I saw Hello Dolly, that championship season when I was a kid, because my father
worked on those shows. I saw Pippin, is where I first got to know Ben Varine. I saw Hair,
and then I started making my own trips in to do theater. I've done 13 Broadway musicals. So the trip in was always a bit of a navigation
because there were always was the car going to start?
Would I get to the theater on time?
Is everything going to go smoothly?
And then it turned into, John Carlo, would you drive?
Because my brother and I would always argue
about who's going to turn the car around.
Like it was that simple.
And we wanted to get in. Like it was that simple.
And we wanted to get in.
And so we'd alternate.
We'd come in 7 North Lawrence Avenue,
facing down a hill that was a dead end.
And we'd go down to the end of the street,
turn the car around and park it
and get ready for my mother to come out
and take us to the theater.
My brother did two shows,
Maggie Flynn, Jack Cassidy, Shirley Jones,
which is where we both started.
Stephanie Mills, Irene Escalara, Irene Cara, David Lindsay.
We were nine years old now.
Eight, nine years old.
Wow.
And so my brother did The Great White Hope
with James Earl Jones, who I absolutely adore.
And I met him the first time then,
and then did a play later on in my life called,
what did I do with him? I did, well, I'll get it in just a second.
So I'm still back in this story of Broadway.
Um, cat on a hot tin roof.
I did with Jimmy later.
And then my brother dropped out and I kept going.
And so there was always the driving thing.
And I remember, and driving from Westchester at that time took, you know, took an hour.
Now it's a little less time.
The saw mill's been, well that's never been redone, but 287.
This is right before 287 was really built all the way, right?
This is going back, don't check me, don't fact check me, I could be lying.
So I remember my mother one day saying,
I don't wanna drive, well you drive,
and I was so excited, I'm gonna drive all the way
to New York, to the theater, and we had to get off
the highway at 125th Street because it was backed up,
and I had to come down the streets,
and so we had to go through Harlem.
And in Harlem on Lenox Avenue and the major avenues,
you can turn both ways to make a left or make a right and I remember turning and I turned and my
rear end hit another car that was turning the other way and we were on the
car my rear left door was on the car's rear white fender and I was 13 years old,
and my mother just turned and looked at me,
and it was one of those looks like,
what are you gonna do?
What are you gonna do now?
And I looked at her.
Wait, you were driving, you were 13 years old?
Yeah, yeah, yeah, she let me drive all the way to the city.
Okay, okay, yeah, go ahead.
Yeah, yeah, I mean, she trusted me.
Please continue.
I'm a good driver, I was a good driver then.
Sure, sure, you sound like you're great.
Tell it to the police.
Tell it to the police.
Well yeah, that was what was going through my head
when I'm on this car, I put it in reverse,
I hit the gas, backed up, backed off of him,
made a wider turn and kept on going, baby.
Wow. Wow.
And got myself to the theater on time,
a little bit shaken, a little nervous, shook it off,
felt badly, guilt, I'm a Catholic, a little nervous, shook it off, felt badly, guilt,
I'm a Catholic, former altar boy, you know what I mean?
I'm like, I was gonna become a priest
and that ended my priesthood days
or my thoughts of being a priest
because I did something really horrible
but I had to because I'd never get a license
and worse than that, I would be late for call time
and you can't be late, the show must go on
and I'd be docked money when you're late. Back then they docked you, you can't be late, the show must go on, and I'd be docked money when you're late.
Back then they docked you, you can't be late.
And now I get to the theater for a seven o'clock show,
I get there at 4.30 in the afternoon.
It changed my idea of being on time
and the responsibility it takes to be in the theater.
But I started my journey from that age,
I did 13 Broadway musicals one after the other
and it just has been a thrilling ride. I love the theater and and it's something
I'll return to very soon. Were your parents delighted and proud by the fact
that you sort of found your way to the theater and the world that they had
first met in? Yes, my mother was dedicated to training my voice.
So I did musicals to begin with.
And so it was great to have her guidance in the vocality
of how to be able to sustain, you know, eight shows a week.
And that was something that took, you know,
timing and energy and you had to meter yourself out.
So you didn't blow your voice on a matinee and not have the voice for the evening performance so my mother was very very proud that that i moved into musical comedy.
My father was proud as well his story is a little different about how he viewed my progress because he lived on forty six street in manhattan the theater district and he could go to any show for free because he can walk right in.
And there's something called second acting,
which is, you know, if you don't have a lot of money,
he happened to know everybody,
so he would just walk in at the second act
after intermission, everyone's on the sidewalk,
you just walk back in with them,
and you just find an empty seat where you stand in the back.
Yeah, a little clue there in case you wanna see
a second act of a show and you haven't been able
to get tickets for the first act.
People leave, people don't stay, people get sick,
people haven't shown up.
So he would second act the shows
and I wouldn't even know he was there
until the stagehands who really liked me
because I love the backstage rhythm of what happens now I come up in a time where
You would wench a whole setting on from the wings
Whole living room set would be on a platform
Beyond rollers and they would wench it and so these very big men would wench this thing right out and all those guys
Really liked me because I was interested in what they did. Like it
wasn't just grunt work. They were, they allowed and helped facilitate all of this happening.
And so they would tell me, your father was here. I was like, what? He didn't stop and
say hello. He didn't come back afterwards. And, you know, he would attribute, you know,
my success to my mother's training. You know, he'd be very deferential to her and say,
you know, she did it all.
But I took that as him being proud of me.
That's really nice.
Both of our parents think they did it all.
They both, they both want full credit.
And you gotta give them credit
because had I not been exposed to their lives,
I wouldn't have been inspired to have my life.
Yeah.
I think for me,
it was a great inspiration,
but I finally wanted my real life.
I looked around and saw the time and tide of the 60s,
and how black folks were the entertainment.
I realized that although it took a lot of talent to do what I did,
that I wanted to further my talents,
and I made a very,
very strong decision,
and that was to learn how to act.
You know, the singing came naturally. I learned how to dance. Michael Bennett taught me how
to dance in a show called Two for the Seesaw. He was the second director to come in. He
and Grover Dale and Nita Morris, they taught me how to dance for that show. So movement and singing felt like second nature to me,
but acting was something new to learn.
I decided to become a dramatic actor.
The reason was because I wanted a world that deepened
my craft outside of just Broadway,
outside of just New York.
I felt a calling to it.
I started to take acting lessons in earnest,
and I seeked to do a straight dramatic production.
And when I did my first dramatic production of a play at
the Negro Ensemble Company under the direction of Douglas Turner Ward,
Zoom in on the sign, it changed my life.
I put my head down and learned this character,
Mary Alice was in it,
Carl Gordon was in it,
and it was written by Charles Fuller,
who was a Pulitzer Prize winner for A Soldier's Story.
I put my head down and after opening night,
I was plastered in the theater section of
the New York Times and the New York Post and the Daily News with a great stellar reviews for my performance
and the play.
And I eventually went on to win the Obie Award and the Theater World Award.
And that solidified my confidence that I could be a dramatic actor and that I could affect people on a deeper level
than just being what I prescribed to
as being the entertainment, the laugh, the fun, the dance,
but I could then really move people
from one place to another in their emotions.
And that was the beginning of my interest
in film and in television and in straight
drama.
That's fantastic.
Before I forget, did you ever go back to Europe?
You mentioned going with your dad.
Did you ever go back with your mom?
Was that ever something she wanted to do later in life?
You know, I felt like she had that desire, but she sadly never got over
her not making it as a diva soprano.
I think what happened for her was,
if I can't be the best, I won't be at all. And so that's a different kind of love and adoration
that you need to continue.
You know, there was a time in my career, Seth,
where I went, all right, you know,
I think it was after carbon copy
between me and Denzel Washington,
and George Siegel star, and I didn't get that movie. Like, well, it may have been between me and and Denzel and five other actors, but as far as I was concerned,
it was between me and Dean.
Yeah, you were number two.
You were the second choice, for sure.
And I didn't get that, and I went,
okay, what does this do to you?
Like, that was my moment to be a star,
and I knew I could do that role,
and they told me I was a little too young,
and Denzel had a little more depth,
and he was a little older, a little more experienced.
Okay, great.
And so I and Denzel had a little more depth and he was a little older, a little more experienced.
Okay, great.
And so I asked myself, will you stay in this if stardom and celebrity is never part of
the equation?
And I knew I would.
I knew it didn't matter.
I knew if I had to do regional theater or Broadway
for the rest of my life, I would do it because I loved it.
And it wasn't about the fame, fortune or stardom.
So once I gave up the idea of any of that,
then I started to realize,
oh, what the small rises and steps to stardom was.
I've had all these different rises to stardom, and now I kind of giggle and laugh because
now I'm a lifer.
Like, now it doesn't matter.
You're a lifer.
I'm in it.
Whatever.
And now the material is what really moves me more than anything.
And the process, and I think it's part of that little boy's journey
to exercise all the demons that he accepted as true
from people who said your life's gonna be like this
or like that or the other.
And it's the understanding that I have a choice
in what I choose, and if I choose quality,
and I choose the dedication to doing something real
for a purpose, for a reason,
then I'll be fulfilled.
I want to ask about a location you worked for a long time
because it's where my family takes a trip every year.
My wife is from about a half hour north of Albuquerque.
Did you enjoy your time in New Mexico?
I know it stretched over many years. It did, you know, I enjoyed my time in New Mexico greatly.
It is, was interesting to be in a cast of folks
who came in during the week and went back to LA
on the weekend.
Yeah.
And I came in for Breaking Bad
and I would do five, six day stretches
and leave, stay in a hotel, they'd put my episodes together.
And there was something about the city
I immediately fell in love with.
It felt easier, it felt at a different pace,
it felt real, it felt like ordinary people to me
than how I felt in New York, Chicago, or LA.
And so I did that for a number of years and then went back for Better Call Saul and quickly
realized that I didn't really want to just stay in hotels.
That would be way too much.
So I bought a little cottage that I could be in and didn't know why I bought it.
I bought it and I walked in with my youngest daughter,
who's now 20, took a selfie at the door,
which I'll never forget, and sent furniture
and furnished it with some mid-century modern furniture
and never was there again for one whole year.
Wow.
And I thought, because my girl said,
Papa, don't you want a home of your own?
When you come to our house, you sleep in my bed
or my sister's bed, you know, or you sleep in the
basement and you're always on the road. Don't you want a home of your own? So I
finally did it. So after that year went by, I went, why did I buy this house?
They just so stupid. I'm a nomad. You know, I don't need it. And then pandemic hit.
And I went, now I understand. And so that taught me to be alone. I didn't
know how to be alone. All my kids called my dear manager, Josh, and said, he's gonna,
he's not gonna make it. It's not gonna be COVID that he gets him. He ain't gonna make
it. The guy just can't be alone. And I planted a garden, grew a beard, read a book,
cultivated a podcast,
cultivated two different projects
that I finally got to the screen,
my own show, Parish for AMC, worked on that,
did the broken and the bad wraparounds
with one of my daughters,
but largely learned how to be within myself.
And- Well, I'm just happy to know you have a place
because when my, we stay with my in-laws
and when they start driving me crazy,
I'm gonna call you and say,
did you leave the keys under the mat?
I can hook you up because I have a beautiful place
that feels like not only home, but it feels like solitude.
Where are your people from an hour North?
Cause I go up that way.
They're in Placidas.
Placidas is a little town between Santa Fe and Albuquerque.
Yes, it's a little small town.
Small little town, yeah.
Not much is there.
Not much is there.
I would say when I'm there for a week,
we go to the like science museum like four days.
I just have to get my kid.
But it's good, obviously that's the thing
about Albuquerque that's amazing is if you,
again, if you live in New York,
if you live in LA, Chicago, like you mentioned,
like you go to the Albuquerque Zoo, which is a great zoo,
you just like park at the door.
Like there's, it's just amazing how convenient it is
to be in one of those like sort of middle level cities.
Well, I have to tell you the Explorer Museum in Albuquerque
is one of my favorites.
The best, love it.
It's the best.
I still have a video of my third child,
who's now 23 when she was nine,
making that little film with the blocks
at the Explorer Museum.
It's a very, very, very special place
and Albuquerque has become that for me.
It feels quiet and reserved and lovely.
So did you spend most of the pandemic out there?
I sure did.
I sure did.
I grew tomatoes and lavender.
I grew string beans, artichokes, squash.
I had a most incredible garden.
And it was fun to be there during that time.
Look, for me, I made a phone call.
Pandemic kid, I made a phone call.
I called the accountant.
I said, okay, my divorce father of four
and taking care of everything, you know,
four cars, girls in college, all of that.
How long can I last?
He said, you know, it's like calling the doctor.
You got about a year.
Maybe, if you're frugal, you got a year.
And so I went, okay.
He's like, make your own squash.
Can you grow your own squash?
That's right.
And then he said, you have to sell it too.
And I started to think about Edison and Henry Ford,
like, you know, great men who went bankrupt more than once.
And I had already been bankrupt once,
and one and a half times.
Yeah, you know, how does that half work?
I don't know, James, I'm gonna ask that question.
What about that half?
Yeah.
And I realized I had to go to work.
Like, this is the time for me to work.
You can rest, get to know yourself,
but it's time to develop.
I developed a show called Parish for EMC.
I developed the idea of writing this memoir,
which I'm deep into now.
I developed the idea for a podcast and did
two installments of it to get
some attention and have some folks who'd like to do it.
As you guys know, it's time consuming, thought provoking.
You have to give a lot of attention to it.
And I all of a sudden has been working like a mad man again.
But all of these things that I did during that pandemic
are paying off for me now.
One of the things is to change my attitude
and have my attitude be of one of success
and know that the time I put in now
is gonna display and show itself tomorrow.
Well, fantastic.
This has been just a terrific conversation.
No surprise.
It's always such a delight to see you and talk to you.
But before you go, Josh is now gonna ask you
the questions we ask all of our guests.
All right, some quick questions here.
You can only pick one of these.
Is your ideal vacation relaxing, adventurous,
or educational?
Adventurous.
Yeah, very good.
What is your favorite means of transportation?
Train, plane, automobile, boat, bike, walking, et cetera.
Motorcycle.
Whoa, look at this guy.
I don't know if we've gotten a motorcycle yet.
The Esposito comes out.
Here you go, baby.
Ducati all you go, baby.
Ducati all the way, baby.
If you could take a vacation with any family, alive or dead, real or fictional, other than your own family, who would you like to take a family vacation with?
Brian Cranston's family.
All right.
Excellent.
If you had to be stranded on a desert island with one member of your family, who would it be?
My youngest daughter, Ruby.
Okay, great.
The youngest man, they're the only one you can give
where everybody's like, all right, fine.
Well, she's hope for the future.
The others are too far gone.
Okay, good.
Your hometown would be Westchester, New York, I'm guessing?
That's correct.
Elmsford, New York.
Elmsford.
Would you recommend Elmsford as a vacation destination?
Absolutely, go to King Pizza and do nothing.
Okay, so short vacation.
Or you can be there as long as you want.
I mean, that sounds very restful.
And Seth has our final questions.
Have you been to the Grand Canyon?
I have not. Do you want to go Grand Canyon? I have not.
Do you want to go?
Desperately.
Okay.
Well, feel like you kind of blew it.
All those years you were in New Mexico,
I feel like that's what you should have done it.
I know, I went to Sedona
and my eldest daughter went to the Grand Canyon,
told me all about it, I'm so jealous.
Well, you know what?
I'm gonna amend my answer.
I have been, I flew over it in a plane.
And boy, did I see it.
We don't count it.
Ah!
Get out of here.
Too bad, okay.
I tried, I really tried.
Well, this is the best.
Thank you so much.
I can't wait to see Megalopolis
and just hope to see you in person soon.
I hope so too, and look out for Captain America 4, Brave New World.
I play a character you've never seen me play before.
Welcome to the Marvel Cinematic Universe.
I'm very excited for that.
Thank you so much.
You have been lovely, both of you.
This has been a great experience.
All my anxiety melted away in the first three minutes
and I just adore both of you.
Thank you. Thank you so much.
Thank you.
All right, we'll talk to you soon. Thanks, John. Have a of you. Thank you. Thank you so much.
Alright, we'll talk to you soon. Thanks, Junkaro. Bye now.
Giancarlo would ride in the backseat with his bro And would play with aquatic machine guns till his mom
Said I can't have this shit going on And sent them to military school. Giancarlo drove to the city
when he was a boy of thirteen.
And after an accident in the Bronx,
promptly he fled the scene.
Giancarlo went to ride some wild white horses.
He fell off and over a fence.
The horses weren't really that wild, but he still fell off and over that fence.