Follow Him: A Come, Follow Me Podcast - 1 & 2 Timothy, Titus, Philemon Part 2 • Dr. Barbara Morgan Gardner • Oct 23 - Oct 29
Episode Date: October 18, 2023Dr. Barbara Morgan Gardner delves deeper into Paul’s letters. She discovers how the experiences of Paul, Timothy, and others continue to shape our understanding of the role of Bishops in leading oth...ers along the Covenant Path of Jesus Christ, including servant leadership.Show Notes (English, French, Spanish, Portuguese): https://followhim.co/new-testament-episodes-41-52/YouTube: https://youtu.be/tlwbBZ1k12AFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/followhimpodcastInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/followhimpodcastSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/15G9TTz8yLp0dQyEcBQ8BYPlease rate and review the podcast!00:00 Part II– Dr. Barbara Morgan Gardner00:13 The office of bishop02:42 President Hinckley “To the Bishops of the Church”04:27 Elder Holland’s story about a bishop and his wife09:28 Elder Bednar on balance12:25 Leading when young13:54 Joseph Smith’s ministering brother15:35 Joan of Arc20:08 Paul mentors Timothy regarding doctrine23:16 President Nelson and Sister Oscarson about allowing young people to lead27:20 Taking care of the poor28:14 What we leave behind30:17 The Law of Consecration33:17 Takeaways from the scripture block36:04 Fear or faith39:02 Paul encourages scripture study42:17 Encouragement when things are difficult43:26 Fighting the good fight46:38 Dr Gardner shares a personal story about her mom’s last days48:45 Overview of Titus51:08 Teach the doctrine of Jesus Christ and being a builder55:25 Philemon: the highlights57:08 The prisoner perspective1:00:29 Justification and grace01:04:01 End of Part II– Dr. Barbara Morgan GardnerThanks to the followHIM team:Shannon Sorensen: Cofounder, Executive Producer, SponsorDavid & Verla Sorensen: SponsorsDr. Hank Smith: Co-hostJohn Bytheway: Co-hostDavid Perry: ProducerKyle Nelson: Marketing, SponsorLisa Spice: Client Relations, Editor, Show NotesJamie Neilson: Social Media, Graphic DesignAnnabelle Sorensen: Creative Project ManagerWill Stoughton: Video EditorKrystal Roberts: Translation Team, English & French Transcripts, WebsiteAriel Cuadra: Spanish Transcripts"Let Zion in Her Beauty Rise" by Marshall McDonaldhttps://www.marshallmcdonaldmusic.com
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Welcome to part two of Dr. Barbara Morgan Gardner.
First and second Timothy, Titus and Philemon.
Barb, we've been at this for a while,
and we have covered a little bit of second Timothy
and a little bit of Titus, but let's keep going here.
Thank there's so much to cover here.
We could be here all week,
but there's some other important principles
that perhaps would be helpful.
Maybe chapter three, where we start talking about bishops.
Disinverse one, this is a true saying,
if a man desire the office of a bishop,
he desired a good work.
I as a woman, the way the church is currently structured,
it has been structured for a long time.
I cannot see myself ever being a bishop,
but I will say for those bishops that I have had in my life,
I'm so grateful for them.
I don't know of many who desired to be that.
What is your experience?
Have you, do you guys want to be?
Well, every time the Bishop vacancy comes up,
I put signs in my yard saying Smith for Bishop,
Smith for Bishop.
And for some reason, they never choose me.
So I can't imagine why.
Barb, I imagine we have a few bishops listening
who are interested in first Timothy chapter three.
What would you say to these men who are in callings? They probably did not see.
Such a great question. I just considered it my own life. The many bishops I've had since I've
been a child. I can remember my interview with the bishop for baptism. I remember pleading with my
bishop, elder, to let me go on a mission when I was 19,
and he wouldn't let me know how things have changed.
But I remember his goodness and his kindness.
I remember one bishop that I just loved dearly
in my youth saying to me,
Barb, you're going to be a leader for good or bad.
And before you leave my office,
you need to choose which kind of leader you're going to be.
I appreciate his boldness,
but also his integrity and his discernment
as a bishop and helping in guiding me my life. Remember the bishop who called me on a mission,
and the bishop that I interviewed with as I was getting prepared to be married, and the many
bishops I had during my single years and the impact they had and their wives had on me. I have loved
and had such incredible experiences with bishops and recognized that there's so much that they
have given of their time, especially in their talents to the Lord. Chapter three teaches some incredible principles,
just like previously we're talking about women speaking and not speaking, etc. in the church.
The principles that are taught here, what's most important, not necessarily the specific
to the bishop. We don't necessarily use chapter three to guide us through how to be a bishop or how
to be a deacon necessarily, but the principles here of who the bishop is in his character, I think,
are critical. And verse two, a bishop must be blameless.
The husband of one wife, vigilant sober of good behavior, given to hospitality, apt to
teach. And there's more there as well. But I appreciate the many bishops that I've had who
have just done their best. Of course, not perfect, but really are trying to be worthy before
the Lord. President Hinckley gave a great talk October of 1988
called to the bishops of the church.
He said this and I think the principles fit very well.
He says, let me now speak directly
to the thousands of bishops who are in attendance tonight.
Let me say first that I love you for your integrity and goodness.
You must be men of integrity.
You must stand as examples to the congregations
over which you preside.
You must stand on higher ground so that you can lift others.
You must be absolutely honest for you handle the funds of the Lord,
the ties of the people, the offerings that come of their fasting,
and the contributions which they make from their own strange resources.
How great is your trust as the keepers of the purse of the Lord,
even to this financial part as bishops are in charge.
And then I love this paragraph,
your goodness must be an ensign to your people.
Your morals must be impeccable.
The wiles of the adversary may be held before you
because he knows that if he can destroy you,
he can injure an entire word.
You must be wise with the inspired wisdom
and all of your relationships
less someone reads into your observed actions
to some taint of moral sin.
You cannot succumb to the temptations
and then he continues on and on.
Bishops have a very important calling
and again, they're not perfect.
They have families who are all mortal
from the prophet on down,
from the general Eucity President,
to the wives and the families of and everything
and sometimes bishops have such a hard role
as do leaders of the church and any capacity
because their life becomes public in so many ways,
especially in their own wards.
But how I appreciate these men who are called of God and who are key holders that really
are in a position to preside over a ward as a leader that has been given that assignment
by Jesus Christ through the keys of the prophet that come all the way down to him, that he
has been given that calling.
And I believe that these bishops have been called of God and they have this responsibility
and these are responsibilities they continue to have.
That doesn't mean it's easy though.
There's another great story that has been used often
as by Elder Holland where he's talking about
an experience between a newly called bishop and his wife.
It's kind of a long story,
but I'll just share this.
He says the following,
may I share just one contemporary example
of both the challenge and blessings
that our calls to serve can bring?
A wonderful sister recently said to a dear friend,
I want to tell you about the moment I see
resenting my husband's time and sacrifice as a bishop.
It has seemed uncanny how an emergency would arise with a ward member
just when he and I were about to go out to do something special together.
I mean, I just feel it.
And this is the reality.
And then she says, one day, I poured out my frustration
and my husband agreed we should guarantee,
in addition to Monday nights,
one additional night a week just for us.
Well, the first day at night came
and we were about to get into the car
for an evening together when the telephone rang.
And you just know what's gonna happen.
Oh, man.
This is a test I smiled at him.
The telephone kept ringing.
Remember our agreement.
Remember our date. Remember our date.
Remember me.
Let the phone ring.
In the end, I wasn't smiling.
And then she continues,
my poor husband looked trapped between me
and a ringing telephone.
I really did know that his highest loyalty was to me.
And I knew he wanted that evening as much as I did,
but he seemed paralyzed by the sound of that telephone. I'd better at least check, he said with satis.
It is probably nothing at all.
If you do, our date is ruined, I cried.
I just know it.
He squeezed my hand and said, be right back and he dashed in to pick up the telephone.
Well, when my husband didn't return to the car immediately, I knew what was happening.
I got out of the car, went into the house, and went to bed.
The next morning he spoke of quiet apology.
I spoke in even quieter acceptance, and that was the end of it.
Or so I thought, and you could just feel what they're feeling here.
You just feel the ache.
Or so I thought, she says, I found the event still bothering me several weeks later.
I wasn't blaming my husband, but I was disappointed, nevertheless.
The memory was still fresh when I came upon a woman my husband but I was disappointed nevertheless. The memory
was still fresh when I came upon a woman in the ward I scarcely knew. Very hesitantly, she asked
for the opportunity to talk. She then told a becoming infatuated with another man, who seemed
to bring excitement into her life of drudgery. She, with a husband who worked full-time and carried
a full load of classes at the university, the department was confining. She had small children
who were often demanding noisy and exhausting.
She said, I was sorely tempted to leave what I saw as my wretched state and just go with this man.
My situation was such that I felt I deserve better than what I had.
My rationalization persuaded me to think I could walk away from my husband, my children, my temple covenants, and my church, and find happiness with a stranger. Then she continues, she said,
the plan was set, the time for my escape was agreed upon, yet as if in a last gas of sanity,
my conscious told me to call your husband, my bishop. I say conscience, but I know that that was a
spiritual prompting directly from heaven. Almost against my will, I called the telephone ring and
rang and rang,
such was the state of my mind that I actually thought,
if the bishop doesn't answer,
that will be a sign I should go through with my plan.
The phone kept ringing and I was about to hang up
and walk straight into the destruction
when suddenly I heard your husband's voice.
It penetrated my soul like lightning.
Suddenly I heard myself sobbing, saying,
Bishop, is that you? I am in trouble. I need help. Your husband came with help.
And I am safe today because he answered that telephone and then she reflects.
I look back and I realize I was tired and foolish and vulnerable.
I loved my husband and my children with all of my heart.
I can't imagine the tragedy my life would be without them.
These are still demanding times for our family.
I know everyone has them.
But we have addressed some of these issues and things are looking better.
They always do eventually.
Then she said, I don't know you well, but I wish to thank you for supporting your husband
and his calling.
I don't know what the cost for such service has been to you or to your children.
But if on a difficult day there is a particularly personal cost, please know how eternally grateful I will be for the sacrifice. People like you make to help rescue people
like me. And then finally, brothers and sisters, please understand that I am one who preaches
emphatically a more manageable, more realistic expectation. That's Holland. But I feel
for the woman who is having the experience where the bishop is leaving and has to go again.
But I also feel for the woman who desperately needs a bishop and someone who actually really does care for her
and has those keys and that ability to help.
Of course, in our recent day,
we've been given so many responsibilities
and the bishops are delegating so well
and have that assignment to do so.
But regardless, that assignment of being a bishop
is a difficult time-consuming assignment.
I'm so grateful for these bishops.
I'm so grateful for their work.
So shout out to bishops and their families.
Barb, there's such a balance there that's so hard for many to find that balance.
Elder Holland even acknowledges that in that talk you read.
Yeah.
He says, I am adamant about spouses and children deserving sacred committed time with a husband
and father nine times out of 10.
I would have been right along that wife telling her husband do not answer that telephone but I am as
grateful in my own way is that young woman was in hers that in this instant
this bishop was there so elder bednar has talked a number of occasions and
throughout the world on balance I've listened to him talk to those in South America, where he's being
transit and he's been asked, how do you balance your life?
And there was a young bishop asking, how do you balance your work and your
family and your children and all these different things that you have on?
And he just says, you can't, you can't balance all of these things.
But then he teaches an important principle.
Again, it's you have to say yes to some things and notice some things.
And if you're always saying no to your child, then you probably need to say yes to your
child the next time he wants you to throw a football with him.
But if you're always saying no to your state calling or your bishop calling or whatever
it is, then you probably need to be saying yes a little bit more to that.
And the key is to not always have the same answer to both, but just recognize it there
exceptions. You're trying to fulfill, but just recognize that they're exceptions.
You're trying to fulfill, in this case, he's talking about keeping plates up in the
year.
He talks about the Chinese dancer to have their spinning their plates.
People have different capacities to spin different plates.
Some people can spin 10.
Some people can spin 2, but you need to know your capacity.
The key is, once you know your priorities, you keep those plates spinning.
Sometimes you just have to look, is this plate about ready to fall and then give it a spin?
And then go to the next one, is this
and then give it a spin?
And then you need to know which plates need the most spinning.
And I think that's not just with bishops,
but with all of us in our capacities,
all of us are being called to serve.
And we look at our lives and say,
what needs to be spinning.
And hopefully the priority is exactly
where the Lord needs it to be.
And then we recognize that there are exceptions
from time to time.
He was wise enough to answer the phone call here,
which was great.
I remember when my father, when he was a state president,
he was such a busy individual,
but I remember his stake meetings.
He held, in this case, it's just an application
what worked for him and for our family,
but he had most of his stake meetings on Sunday mornings
at five, 30 or six, just because in his world
and his life and the way it worked in our stake at that time,
he didn't have any other time to be with his family except for Sundays.
And so Sunday mornings were his day meetings,
and then he was home with the family in the afternoons.
With my husband, I appreciate the sacrifice that Dustin gives when I'm out,
sometimes speaking at a fireside or I'm teaching or we're traveling,
but he is very, very supportive of me and we are supportive each other and we counsel together. Sometimes at Ignosi I'm going through our counters
and making sure we we sit together monthly on fast Sunday and we talk about our priorities and
just to make sure we bring each other back where we need to be. We're far from perfect at it
but regardless of our assignments and our responsibilities we want to raise our family very
intentionally with the help of each
other. And he supports me and I support him in doing that, regardless of our callings.
Fantastic. Barb, thank you for that. We love our bishops. We should probably do a shout out to
our bishops, Bishop Nuddle, John, who's your bishop? Bishop Ina, Barb, who's your bishop?
Bishop Carol, he was just called this last month.
Oh, we love you, our bishops.
As we look in chapters 4, 5, and 6 of Timothy,
I didn't realize in the context, I read the verse 1 Timothy 4, 12,
years ago when it was a youth theme, let no man despise that youth.
I didn't realize that he's actually talking to Timothy
because Timothy is a young leader.
He's saying people might Timothy because Timothy is a young leader. He's saying people
might think because you're young, you won't be effective, but he's saying, no, you will
be effective. You can be effective. What do both of you think of that verse? I mean, it's been
a standout for the church because it was a youth theme for 12, let no man despise the youth.
John, I'm sure you've talked about this at times in firesides and things.
and despise thy youth. John, I'm sure you've talked about this at times
in fire sites and things.
Yeah, I took this verse apart,
and it was interesting to me because without the context
that we've been talking about,
and I didn't realize the first time what Timothy's age was,
and I thought, let no man despise thy youth,
meant something like, be good when you're young
so that people won't say, well, I knew you and you are a youth,
and you got in a lot of trouble. So I looked up some other translations of Let No Man despise the youth to see
if I had the meaning right. And the new international version says, don't let anyone look down on you
because you are young. And I thought, oh, that's a different meaning. The new living translation,
don't let anyone think less
of you because you are young.
I really love the idea of don't worry about your age.
Just do your duty.
It reminded me of a story of William F. Cahoon.
There's a book somebody wrote years ago called
They New the Prophet, people that had personal interactions
with the Prophet Joseph Smith.
He tells the story about being called to be a ward teacher
and I'll just paraphrase, but he said, I felt like shrinking from
duty. He went alone in those days, I guess. And he said, I got to the door and
Joseph Smith opened the door and he said, brother Joseph, I've come to visit you
in the capacity of award teacher if it is convenient for you. And you can just
imagine the reactions he could have got. Oh, we're fine
Go see the Peterson's down the street, but he said brother William come right in. I'm glad to see you I will go call my wife in and he got Emma and the kids and he said now brother Kahun
Ask all the questions you feel like you ask them are you having prayer with your family?
Are you teaching your family the principles of the gospel? Are you reading? You're asking, are you reading your scriptures?
To all those questions, he said Joseph said yes, we are trying to do that and then he turned to sister Emma and
Asked her the same kinds of questions about her duties with her family. Yes, we are trying to do that and
This wonderful young man he was 17 said,
Brother Joseph, I am now through with my questions as a teacher.
And now if you have any advice to give,
I shall be happy to receive it.
I just love the story.
Joseph Smith jumps up, says,
Brother William, God bless you.
If you are humble and faithful,
you shall be able to settle all difficulties
that may come before you in the capacity of a teacher.
That was his feeling.
Don't worry about your age, just go worry about your duty.
And I love the way that the Prophet Joseph Smith
treated him, but I also didn't forget that lesson.
John, I sort of appreciate that experience,
especially of these young people.
When I think of young, we obviously go to Joseph Smith
and his early age and having that experience
as he's praying and studying and seeing God, Father in Jesus Christ. He's 14. In my world though, I also go to John of Arc.
I love John of Arc. I recently went to France and visited the places that she was born and the
places that she traveled to. She's 13 years old in the 1400s and she says that she hears a voice
that she recognizes eventually as one
that is coming from God.
She was illiterate.
She couldn't even sign her own name.
She was a poor peasant.
She hears this voice, and she recognizes this voice
of coming from God and others that God has sent.
She hears from the Lord that she is to be the leader
of the French army, and that she is to put King Charles
the seventh on the throne.
I mean, this is ridiculous.
She's 13.
No money. Her parents didn't actually support her in this. She leaves on her own at this age, continues to hear this voice, and her voice continues to guide her through the next few years
until she literally wins battle after battle against the English. Finally gets the king on the throne
of France. And again, recorded in her court cases, her explaining that she
hears the voice and she's finally caught. She's put into prison in this very dark, horrible
wall of a prison. And why is she going to be killed? Because she, as a woman, says that
she heard the voice of God. And they said that that is not right for a woman but her age is also too young.
So a person at this age and this gender could not hear God's voice, God doesn't speak to her.
She would not deny it and so she is burned at the stake. And the last words that she calls out
as she is dying, she has a priest hold across so that she can see it at the stake and she cries out
Jesus Jesus. And those are the last documented words that we have of Joan of Arc.
Her testimony as this youth, she saves an entire nation.
In fact, one of the wars that she wins,
I just love the story.
She is about ready to go into battle with the English.
And before they go into battle,
she actually gives the sacrament
to all of the individuals that are in her army
and says that she can't go on the Sabbath day,
going into battle with the English
until they have all partake enough and our terminology will be the sacrament.
They all partake of the sacrament and it scares the English so much that they run away.
They won't go to battle because they recognize that the power of God is with her.
In regards to modesty, they say that she shouldn't be wearing pants in these clothes of
the men and she says, this is my own summary.
I wear these clothes because I know that God has a greater call for me.
And I need to make sure that I'm always pure before the Lord.
She wants to serve the Lord.
Everything that she does is the call from the Lord.
She keeps herself pure.
She's allowed to do these battles.
And eventually she's stopped.
She's imprisoned and she is fighting this battle
as a 13 to 19.
She's spurned at the cross at the age of 19.
If Joan of art can be that powerful,
if Joseph Smith can be that powerful,
all of the youth have the capacity to be that powerful.
I love that now we have missionaries going out
at younger ages.
I love that we have these young men and young women
that are able to now attend the temple
and make and keep sacred covenants and be witnesses
of baptism at a younger age, just the most beautiful thing,
and I believe that the Lord, just like with Timothy, the Lord understands and knows that these youth are incredible and
that we have high expectations for them.
The world is expecting less and less as President Eiring has said, and the world will continue
to do so.
And as a world expects less and less, we as members of the Church need to be expecting
more and more of our youth.
I love the understanding that youth today are supposed to be the presidents of their classes,
not assistants, so let them receive revelation.
Let them plan activities.
Let them reach out to each other.
These are their forums, these are their classes.
They can receive revelation.
They can receive guidance.
Let's get out of the way a little bit.
Again, this is a mentoring experience.
Let's be a guide on the side
and help these youth fulfill the measure of their creation
and be able to use the authority that which they have been given. An 11-year-old girl
who was a class president of her young women's class has priested power and authority given to her.
Let her use it. Let her learn how to be an instrument in God's hand in the most positive and the
most powerful way that we can help them. I've seen so many incredible youth. I was just in Navajo to church history trip
and I had four young men and two young women
who bore testimony of Joseph Smith at Carthage
and in the red brick store.
And it was powerful and the spirit was strong.
And I am convinced that they had a serious impact
on all those people that heard those testimonies
born that day.
They are young, but they are powerful
and they're safe for this day for a purpose. And young adults too. Absolutely.
Hank, I think about verse 16 there where Paul is writing to Timothy, you can just see this
mentoring again. Timothy, you're young. Take heat unto thyself. And then to the doctrine,
it's kind of Joseph Smith, the same ideas. He was young and he was maturing and there were
sometimes maybe thoughts and he maybe maturing and there were sometimes
maybe thoughts and he maybe fell to the follies of men. Timothy, take heed unto yourself.
And what do you focus on Timothy, doctrine? Again, there are going to be crazy things. He just
tells us earlier that there are going to be fables that are going to be taught. Old wise fable,
he says, and there are going to be people teaching things that are not godly, take heed unto thyself. Timothy, do what
you know is right. Understand the doctrine, make decisions based upon the doctrines and
the guidance that we have been given in the church and what Paul has taught him and that
he has probably learned in other ways. And then continue in those things. Watch yourself,
continue in the doctrine. And then it says, for in doing this, and there's the blessing
that comes with it, vow shall both save thyself and them that hear thee.
I love that Paul is trying to help Timothy,
and I believe Timothy probably doesn't naturally,
but he's reaching beyond himself.
He's not just saying Timothy, be careful of these things
because it may hurt you, Timothy, be careful of these things
because what you do impacts other people as well.
What you do, Timothy, know the doctrines you can make decisions and also know in your
youth.
It's the Alma de Coriantomer.
It's a father to a son, it's the Shiblon, it's the Helaman, speaking to their sons, it's
Helaman, calling his sons Nephi, and it's this whole understanding of, we are examples
to other people.
Watch yourself.
Know the doctrine yourself and the Lord is going to use you so that you can bless other people. And what you need to do, you need to know the doctrine yourself, and the Lord is going to use you so that you can bless other people.
And what you need to do, you need to know the doctrine, you need to watch yourself, and then remember that you are an example.
I believe that if we really give youth those experiences and help them understand, we're not just teaching them,
we're teaching them to be teachers of others. We're not just leading them, we're leading them to be leaders of others.
The youth today and the youth back then, the youth always have had an extremely heavy responsibility. And it is to get beyond themselves and to serve other people. Reach out to
the world. And there are so many ways the youth and the young adults of the church can do that
today. I mean, it's everywhere. They serve missions, but they can be on their Instagram accounts.
The media, the possibilities, the understanding that the youth have today, teaching people about
baptans for the dead, temples are open to them right and left. The more we help the youth get out of themselves, the more they're going to find themselves, because
we're helping them come into Christ. And I think that that's what Paul is doing here. He's helping
him have those experiences. Get beyond yourself. And I love them in chapter 5. He says, now go take care
of your family too. Like, take care of your grandparents. Take care. Love people. Serve people.
I love them for say, but if any provide not for his own and especially for those of his own house, he has denied the faith and is
worsening in fiddle, give responsibilities to our youth to take care of their grandparents without
pay, just to go visit, to ride a letter to someone, to go knock on the door of a widow. We're talking
about widows later. Help them see an experienced service and help them apply the Atomina of Jesus Christ
in their lives so that they can testify and be stronger and the benefit of other people.
I would say, despise not that you give the youth opportunities and trust that they can do this. They have a serious and incredible capacity.
I have a President Nelson quotation. We need to let the young people lead, particularly those who have been called and set apart to
serve in class and core and presidencies.
Priesthood authority will have been delegated to them.
They will learn how to receive inspiration in leading their class or core.
And I love that in light of what Elder Oak said, yes, the young women classes have priesthood
authority.
Whether other authority could be be, President Oak said,
and they will learn how to receive inspiration.
It's interesting when you look at the primary adults
are set apart to administer and run that,
but when you look at the youth, the youth are set apart,
the youth are the ones who are set apart to do that.
What a wonderful thing the way the church is organized
so that they will have hands-on experience.
If you are a bishop or a
leader, you can ask them, how have you felt prompted about members of your class
this week? What needs do you see in your class or forum this week? Can help them
see? That's what a leader does. I love those questions. I think those were
suggestions from Elder Holland. How have you felt prompted? What needs have you
seen?
Instead of you telling them what you're seeing,
you can ask them because that's their job
that they've been set apart to do.
This reminds me so much of Sister Oskerson speaking
about the young women, when she was the general
young women's president.
And we talked about bishops, so these tie
and really well together.
She says this to bishops, bishops,
we know your duties are often heavy,
but just as one of your high priorities is to preside over the eronic priesthood forums,
Handbook 2 explains that the bishop and his counselors provide priesthood leadership for the
young women organization. They watch over and strengthen individual young women, working closely
with parents and young women leaders in this effort. It also states that the bishop and his counselors
regularly participate in young women meetings,
services, and activities.
And then she continues,
we are grateful for bishops who take the time
to visit young women classes
and provide opportunities for young women
to be more than spectators of the work.
Thank you for making sure
your young women are valued participants
in meeting the needs of ward members.
These opportunities serve in meaningful ways
bless them much more than activities
in which they are just entertained.
That important role of the young women,
I think sometimes they feel like they're getting
kind of squirted to the side,
or they're supposed to be doing some
unimportant activity while the young men
pass the sacrament, or the young men take the sacrament
to somebody who is sick, but these young women
have incredible capacity.
They have been given, as you said,
John, priesthood power and authority to fulfill these callings. And there's a lot more that these
young women could be asked to do. They want to serve. They have the capacity to do so. And she says
in here, make sure that every young woman knows that she is needed. Each person has something
important to contribute and has unique talents and abilities that help move this important work
along. So remember, young women and young men, and men and for me I would say that's really focused on helping those
young women fulfill the measures or capacity at this age. They're ready to go. I think about these
young adults and the capacity of these young adults sometimes it blows my mind. I've had young adults
in my classes that have called and said how can I help so and so in class? I want to invite them to
church and they follow with me as a teacher. They have come home some of them from their missions and they are
just on fire and they want more capacity. They want more to be asked of them. They want to
continue to serve the Lord. They want to save souls. And regardless of whether they serve a full-time
mission or if they're just young adults, we may be older to have more experience, but boy do they
have energy and boy do they have experience and they also want to hit the ground running
I think about so many of the young women's presidents and relief society presidents that I know that are in their 20s
And I think of these great primary leaders and so much that these young adults in youth are willing and able to give to the church
I would reiterate what Paul says
Let no man despise their youth. So for any youth that are listening, let no man despise their youth. You are incredible.
You can teach the gospel.
You've been given special responsibilities.
You're unique to this generation.
And we need your help.
Please use the power and authority
that you've been given in this work,
especially that comes to you
through keeping your covenants.
Beautiful.
Barb John, it seems that the end of First Timothy
is taking care of the poor to watch how you feel about riches
a famous verse that we've already mentioned here for the love of money is the root of all evil.
So before we finish with First Timothy, let's take five minutes on the idea of your attitude towards money
is a big deal in following the Lord. George Bailey said to that angel, Clarence, that he came to help him and he said, you don't
happen to have 8,000 bucks to you.
And Clarence said, no, we don't use money in heaven.
And Jean-Wolha, a calm, pretty handy down here, Bob.
He says, she...
The whole movie is an illustration of really, it was the people and the friends that were
most important and we can figure out the money part, but a lot of discussion about that
versus isn't there.
Oh, so much.
As I've watched my own parents pass away, my husband's parents pass away and other people
that are just so dear to me and I think about possessions they had. And even discussions that we have as children,
it's almost laughable.
My parents passed away.
There wasn't a lot of monetary going on there,
as you can imagine.
But you have 13 children that are trying
to decide what to do with what's left.
So what do we all care about?
We all care about the letters and we care about the love
and we care about the things that are relationship-based memories.
And that's what we all want copies of.
That's what we all want to share with each other.
That the reality is they have passed on
and they took nothing with them except as they took
their intelligence, they took the knowledge,
they took those things that they have become.
And when it really comes to it, I'm so grateful
for the reality that money can be the root of all evil,
but it also can be a great blessing.
And again, it's all about where the heart is.
But in the end where the heart is.
But in the end, the money is still behind.
It's still left behind.
Eternal life is what matters.
It's this, oh, man of God, flee these things.
Follow after righteousness, godliness, faith, love, patience, meekness.
Fight the good fight of faith.
Lay hold on eternal life.
Regardless of the money, the point again, it's not the money.
It's who we are serving.
It's disciples of Christ. And that's what this is. It's never about the money. It's just about who we
are as individuals. You mentioned the doctrine of covenants. We can take our section 130,
whatever principle the intelligence we attain to, right? First Timothy 6, 7, 4, we brought nothing
into this world. And it is certain we can carry nothing out. There's a reference to Job there. You can't carry it, but there's things that fit in your spirit.
And that's what I like what the doctrine of covenant says.
You get to keep your character, your intelligence, your relationships, and we don't want to
spend our lives climbing the ladder of success and discover its leaning against the wrong
wall as somebody said.
So what can we carry with us, which is a fun discussion?
You can't carry it, but there are things that you have become, as Elder Oaks might tell
us that, what have you become, you get to keep that, and that's the focus.
Yeah.
You know, in the temple, John, one of the covenants we make is we covenant to keep the
law of consecration, and we covenant to keep the law of sacrifice.
Again, in verse 10, it is not money that is the root of all evil.
It is the love of money that is the root of all evil.
That's the important part.
If we love anything more than God, it is the root of all evil.
We build our house upon the rock of Jesus Christ.
If it's money, it's sand.
The sand is money.
The sand is anything but Jesus Christ.
So to your point, we bring with us who we are and we are disciples, we are gods in the making. So the love of
anything besides God is the root of all evil. In this case, clearly there's a need for
talking about money. I would imagine that there are some issues that are going on. We've
already talked about the wealth and some of the women and what they're wearing, but maybe he's
getting offered different things. I don't know exactly what that is, but it's not money that's
the problem. It's the love of things. I don't know exactly what that is there, but it's not money that's the problem.
It's the love of it.
It's the problem.
And you read the rest of the verse and it says that some coveted after and then aired
from the faith.
And so then you can see, ooh, look at the problems that come if that becomes more important
than the other things like you just said.
Yeah.
Verse 9 says, if you're going to seek after riches, you could easily fall into temptation
and traps hurtful lusts and drown in destruction.
What an interesting phrase to drown in destruction.
Then elder oaks, in 2015, I'm sure you both remember this devoted an entire conference
talk to the parable of the sower.
He talked about in that parable,
the Savior talks about the deceitfulness of riches.
This is what Elder Oak said,
that wherever we are in our spiritual journey,
whatever our state of conversion,
we are all tempted by this.
When attitudes or priorities are fixed on the acquisition,
use or possession of property, we call that materialism.
So much has been said and written about materialism that little needs to be added here.
Those who believe in what is called the theology of prosperity are suffering from the deceitfulness
of riches. The possession of wealth or significant income is not a mark of heavenly favor,
and their absence is not evidence of heavenly disfavor.
When Jesus told a faithful follower that he could inherit eternal life if he would
only give all he had to the poor, he was not identifying an evil in the possession of
riches, but an evil in that follower's attitude toward them.
As we're all aware, Jesus praised the good Samaritan who used the same coinage to serve
his fellow men
that Judas used to betray his Savior. The root of all evil is not money, but the love of money.
The Book of Mormon tells of a time when the Church of God began to fail in its progress because
the people of the Church began to set their hearts upon riches and the vain things of the world.
Whoever has an abundance of material things
is in jeopardy of being spiritually sedated
by riches and other things of the world.
Excellent, spiritually sedated by riches.
It's good.
Barb, this has just been a fantastic day.
We've talked a little bit about second Timothy.
Is there anything else in there, or Tit Titus or Philemon that you think our
listeners could benefit from? One of my all-time favorite scriptures is second timothy chapter 1
verse 7. It has been an eight. These are foundational to how I also live my life. These are the verses
for God have not given us the spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.
Again, it's Paul talking to a youth, Timothy, and he's teaching and he's mentoring and he's
training as a younger individual, especially remember being a young adult and reading this verse
and thinking to myself, am I not moving forward because of fear in anything? Or does fear guide my
decisions in anything? And if it is, guiding my decisions, then it's not from God.
There may be other reasons that I may not be doing this.
But if it's fear that I need to back up and say,
this is not from God, love this.
If I know if I'm not going to take a speaking assignment
because of fear, that's not the reason.
If I'm not going to get married because of fear,
that's not the reason.
If I don't take a job, it's not the reason.
If I am not moving forward because of fear,
then I need to start working on exercising my faith
and increasing my faith. I love this. And then he fear, then I need to start working on exercising my faith
and increasing my faith.
I love this.
And then he continues,
be not there for ashamed of the testimony of our Lord,
nor of me his prisoner,
but be thou partaker of the affliction of the gospel
according to the power of God.
So when I was a young adult,
or I was, I don't know if I was a young adult,
let me think about this.
This was, when I was younger,
I read this talk by President
Hinckley, and I did exactly what he said here because of the impact of what
he said. Regarding these two verses, President Hinckley said the following,
I wish that every member of this church would put those words where he might
see them every morning as he begins his day. They would give us the courage to
speak up. They would give us the faith to try. They would strengthen our conviction of the Lord Jesus Christ.
I believe that more miracles would happen over the earth.
He's speaking about these words and he's saying do not fear.
So in my office at work, I have the quote. I have a little piece of a magnet that I have taped there and it's on my desk.
It works. So I see it when I go to work in my office at home.
I have a little poster that has it on there
that I just created on my computer.
God have not given me the spirit of fear,
but of power and of love and of a sound mind.
It's there.
I see it.
If there's any reason for fear, I just say, you know what,
Satan, take a hike.
I'm on God's team.
My power is through him and my covenant.
So to me, that's extremely important.
I think a lot of people struggle as I have have struggled in my life, that we make decisions
based on fear.
Fear is not from God.
God gives power.
And so, to the youth, I would say that, Dean, I would say that, and to all of us who may
struggle with fear from time to time, which is probably all of us in some way, remember
that the power is of God.
We bear testimony of Him.
There's no reason to be afraid.
Absolutely wonderful. I heard somebody say once that fear,
FEAR is false expectations appearing real.
A little acronym for the word fear.
That's good.
False expectations appearing real,
but they're not the same idea.
Don't take counsel from your fears.
I love the way you put it.
I think it's critical when we look at this fear,
we don't just say, don't be afraid,
because that's not so not what he's saying.
He says, God has not given us a spirit of fear,
but of power and of love and of a sound mind,
but then he teaches us how to not be afraid.
And that's what I love here.
Again, we're talking about Paul is taking Timothy
back to doctrine and Jesus Christ every time.
So he says, first of all, he talks about
the testament in our Lord. He testifies who has saved us and called us with an holy calling,
not according to our works, but according to his own purpose and grace, which was given
us in Jesus Christ before the world began. And then he continues, why else would you not
be afraid? It is made manifest by the appearing of our Savior, Jesus Christ, who had abolished
death and had brought life and immortality to the light through the gospel. We're into I am appointed a
preacher and an apostle and a teacher of the Gentiles. In other words, Christ is the one who gave
me this calling, Timothy, and he's the one who gave you your calling. There's nothing to be
afraid of in any continues. For the things which haze I also suffer these things,
nevertheless, I am not ashamed for I know in whom I have believed.
And I am persuaded that he is able, he meaning Christ, is able to keep that which I have committed unto him against that day.
Hold fast the form of sound words back to doctrine, which Thou hast heard of me in faith and love which is in Christ Jesus. And then he reminds him that he has the Holy Ghost
with him and he talks about mercy and being refreshed and off refreshed within himself. And then he
says, hold fast the form sound words referring to doctrine, which thou hast heard of me in faith and
love which is in Jesus Christ. And then verse 14, that good thing which was committed unto the
keep by the Holy Ghost which dwelleth in us.
It's not that he's just not supposed to be afraid. He's not just saying, you know what?
Timothy, grow up a little bit. He's saying, Timothy, because of Jesus Christ,
you have no reason to be afraid. Your calling has come from him. Your power comes from him.
Satan may try to destroy you and take away this power. You don't
have to worry about it. You were appointed by Jesus Christ. He is the savior of the world. He
has overcome death and everything bad. He is the light and the life of the world. We know in whom
we have trusted. You're still young. You may not have the experience that I have, but you've got
to trust me here. Do not be afraid. Take one step after the other and get on the move. Hit the
ground running, Timothy. He's not just dismissing his fear. He's saying, let me help you have confidence. It's Jesus Christ and who
we have confidence in. It's not that he has faith in himself. He has faith in Jesus Christ and
faith overcomes fear. If we have faith in God and in love of God, we have no reason to fear. It's
verbatized. This letter becomes even more powerful when you realize, Paul is, I think
he's realizing he's coming to the end. Right? All the manuals, his second Timothy is to believe
to be the last epistle Paul wrote, and it seems he knew his time on earth was short. How might
Timothy have felt, knowing that he might soon be without his trusted mentor. What did Paul say to encourage him?
I'm looking at second Timothy three. He says Timothy, continue thou in the things which thou has to learn. That's verse 14.
You've learned from the scripture since you were a child
1617. Scripture is given by inspiration of God. It will be help you become thoroughly furnished under all good works. So here Paul is kind of, I mean, saying goodbye,
saying, like you just said, don't be fearful,
continuing the things which you have learned,
and you're gonna be okay.
Keep yourself in the scriptures.
It's Mormon talking to Moroni.
Come unto Christ and be perfected him.
It's Mormon, it's Moroni talking to us.
Come unto Christ.
It's all these prophets and leaders
as they're giving their last word,
their last letter to people
and just be firm in the faith.
Oh, be wise, what can I say more?
It's, I love chapter two as well,
as he's talking to him,
he's talking about seeking godliness
and shunning all of these bad things.
Again, he's talking as a youth,
but foundational to you being an effective instrument
in God's hands is, as he says,
in verse 22, flee youthful less, but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace with them
that call in the Lord out of a pure heart. Foolish and unloored questions
avoid knowing that they do gender strife. I mean, he's avoid the things that
cause contention, avoid questions that are just pointless, just for the argument
sake. He's helping him and he's training him as a leader. And I love in meekness, instructing those that oppose themselves. Be meek, be
teachable, be learnable, understand that they're going to be people that maybe you could
learn some things from as you continue on. Not just me, Timothy, but maybe your mom,
maybe your grandma, you have more things to learn from them, maybe other people in your
path. I also love in chapter two, first of all,
he talks about Christ again.
Thou, therefore, my son, be strong in the grace
that is in Christ Jesus.
And the things that Thou has heard of me among witnesses,
the same commit Thou to faithful men
who shall be able to teach others also.
Timothy, you need to be in a position to learn from me,
learn from Jesus Christ, so that you can teach others
how to teach. Thou, therefore, end your hardness from me, learn from Jesus Christ so that you can teach others how to teach.
That will therefore end your hardness as a good soldier of Jesus Christ.
It's all about his responsibility to teach the gospel of Christ, and then no man that
worth entangles himself with the affairs of this life, that he may please him with who
have chosen him to be a soldier.
If a man also strives for the masteries, yet he is not crowned except he strived lawfully.
The husband men that laboreth must be first partaker of the fruits, and then consider also strive for the masteries, yet he is not crowned except he strived lawfully. The
husband men that laboreth must be first partaker of the fruits and then consider what I say
and the Lord give the understanding. In other words, ponder what I'm teaching you here,
Timothy. Consider it, think about it, take it to the Lord, do more. It's not just a quick
reaction. Ponder these things in thy heart, just as Joseph Smith talks about, and that
President Nelson as asked us to do, consider ponder the truth that you have been taught.
And then I'd love verse 10,
therefore I endure all these things for the electric
that they may also obtain the salvage
in which is in Christ Jesus with eternal glory.
Timothy, it's gonna be hard.
Ponder ponder ponder things.
Understand the doctrine.
Move forward with faith.
Speaking of the soldier thing,
just came to my mind. When my mom passed away, I just had the hardest time. I just wept. And I remember being at my
father's home and laying on the couch. And it just tore me to pieces. I was teaching religion
classes at BYU. I was supposed to just wake up the next morning and go teach a class.
It was so hard. And I remember my dad just looking at me and he said,
barb, it's okay to be like the good soldier and lay down for a while and cry. But then you've
got to get up and fight, fight, fight.'s okay to be like the good soldier and lay down for a while and cry, but then you've got to get up and fight, fight, fight.
Sometimes we lay down like the good soldier,
but we have to get back up on our feet.
We know in whom we have trusted, get back to the work,
don't let the world overcome us.
Remember that Jesus Christ himself overcame the world.
He resurrected, there's hope in Christ,
and we can get up and finish our battle.
But it's okay to lay down and cry for a little while.
It's okay to be hurt.
It's okay to mourn.
And it's actually, it's a beautiful thing to mourn.
But we need to continue on, not deny, move forward.
Be strong.
And losing those we love and having difficult experiences
and having others, older people, maybe blasphemy,
us, whatever else, all these things are things
that we can overcome and grow from.
If we will be meek and lowly of heart and trust
and no one whom we
have trusted. Well, second Timothy, four or seven famous verse, I have fought a good fight. I have
finished my course. I have kept the faith. Man, Paul, Paul gave his all. And I know I'm
harking back to this, but I am so convinced of the importance of what fight, did he fight, what was the good fight?
It's back to who he was as an individual.
He says in chapter three,
this know also that in the last days,
perilous time shall come.
We've heard this so often.
For men shall be lovers of their own selves,
covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers,
disobedient to parents, unthankful and holy.
I feel like we're talking about our days, say,
so obvious without natural affection,
true spakers, false accusers, inconsinent fears, despises of those that are good, traders,
heavy, high-minded, lovers of pleasure, more than lovers of God, having a form of Godliness,
but denying the power they're of from such turn away.
I hope we can see that how do we turn away from these things and how do we recognize them?
Well, he teaches us this.
We learn the doctrine of Christ.
And then he says, all scriptures given by inspiration
and before he gives us chapter four,
he says, for the time will come when they will not
endure sound doctrine.
But after their own lust, shall they heaps themselves,
teachers having itching ears,
they shall turn away their ears from the truth
and shall be turned into fables.
What is Paul done to keep the fight
and he fight of good fight?
He has kept the fight of the gospel of Jesus Christ.
He's kept the fight of keeping the doctrine pure,
of living the life of Jesus Christ,
of changing his life to be a disciple,
and he is fighting that fight
to make sure that he is on the right ground in Christ.
And that's what he's trying to get Peter to do.
He hasn't thought a good fight because he's lived a long life.
He's fought a good fight because he's a disciple of Christ.
He's fought that good fight because he's a disciple of Christ. He's fought that good fight.
Fantastic.
I'll continue on that.
So he's fought the good fight.
And then I always love that he teaches kind of the invitation.
So in a sense, he's saying, Timothy, you fight the good fight too.
But then he says in verse eight, and it's always,
there's a blessing for this.
Henceforth, there's laid up for me a crown of righteousness.
He knows that.
He doesn't have to guess.
He's not like he's going into a class and he's saying, I don't know how I did on this earth. I'm going to receive an ABC or D
in the next life. Am I going to be celestial, T-restual, T-lestual? Paul knows. He has the confidence
because he's given his life to the Lord. Literally, he's concentrated. He knows that a crown of
righteousness will be his. That's not pompous. That's not prideful. He just knows that he has done
what he can do. And then he says, which the Lord, the righteous judge, shall give me at that day. And not to me
only, but unto all them that also love his appearing. Do the idyllicities to come shortly unto me.
So Timothy, I have confidence in God. I have confidence in his resurrection in Jesus Christ.
And I am confident because I know in whom I have trusted
that I will receive this crown of righteousness.
And Timothy, so will you.
And let's help everybody
because of the love of God
receive this crown of righteousness.
Be a teacher, be a leader, be a missionary,
let's all have eternal life together.
And that's what at verse 17,
notwithstanding the Lord stood with me, strengthen me that by me the preaching
might be fully known and that all the Gentiles might
hear and I was delivered out of the mouth of the lion.
The Lord shall deliver me from every evil work
and he will preserve me and to his heavenly kingdom
to whom be glory forever and ever.
He knows that it's not him.
It's all because of the Lord and the Lord has saved him.
And then verse 22, as he's ending this off,
he just says, the Lord Jesus Christ be with saved him. And then verse 22, as he's ending this off, he just says,
the Lord Jesus Christ be with thy spirit.
Grace be with you, amen.
Paul knows the work of the Lord.
He knows what the Lord can do.
He knows that only through Christ can we be saved.
And he wants Timothy to get it.
Likely, his last letter has everything to say,
Timothy, I believe, please believe, please teach these things
because even to his dying day,
he wants to make sure that the gospel is preached forever.
A true disciple of Christ loves people.
And he loves people so much that he wants the gospel
taught to them and he's using these individuals
to help teach that gospel, knowing that he's passing on.
In fact, I'll tell you, when my mother passed away,
one of the things I thought was so fun is she,
she was in a coma and a few days into her coma, she woke up just a couple days before she passed away and she said to
me, Barb, I need you to teach me how to teach better.
And I just kind of laughed at me.
This is my mom coming out of a coma clearly about ready to pass away.
And I just kind of laughed with her.
I just, and bomb was so good to see you.
You came out of it and she just said, Barb, there are people on the other side of the veil who need me.
And when I get there and I see them, I want to hit the ground running. She said, I need you to
teach me. So I sat with my mom for a few hours in her very short awakening from her coma. And we
talked about how to better teach and influence people on the other side of the veil is one of the
most sacred experiences in my life. And as my memory is,
that was the last conversation I have with my mom,
teaching how to teach on the other side of the veil.
To one who had taught me most of everything that I knew,
a mother who I never saw,
a speck of dust on her scriptures,
and a mother whose scriptures were full of markings
and teachings and doctrines and principles,
just like Timothy's mother and Timothy's grandmother.
She was one who does not despise my youth. She asked me questions and genuinely wanted to know
how I could help her better teach people on the other side of the veil. So humbling and so
exciting to have that moment with my mom. I asked her one, as I was working on her obituary before
she passed away, like, what do you want to be known for? And she said, I want to be known for one
who is a seeker and liver of truth. I just thought that was so beautiful. That's what Paul's doing here.
He's trying to help Timothy have a testimony of truth and live the truth. And frankly, it's what
he's doing with Titus in this next part as well. Let's take a quick look at that, Barb. Seems
that Titus is the leader of the church in Crete that Paul kind of gave him that assignment
to lead the church in Crete.
Crete is not an easy place to be a Christian.
Much like the other places that we've looked at
that Paul is writing to,
is there anything entitus that we should see?
It's very similar as I've read to Timothy
saying, these Christians need to be this light
and they can make a big difference in the community that they're in.
If they deny ungodliness and worldly lusts and live soberly and godly, they can do great things. Anything else?
I think there's so much here again and I'm probably a broken record because I just feel like this is such an important discussion.
I just feel like it is a mentoring teaching opportunity. You see at the end of verse two,
as Paul is writing to Titus,
and to the pure, all things are pure,
but into them that are defiled,
and I'm believing is nothing pure,
but even their mind and conscience is defiled.
They profess that they know God,
but in the works they deny him,
be abominable and disobedient,
and end to every good work, reprobate.
He's not trying to call people on things,
but he's trying to teach discernment to Timothy people on things, but he's trying to teach
discernment to Timothy and it seems that he's trying to help Timothy see like those people who want to hear you
will be pure and you'll recognize their purity and they will want to believe and those who do not want to believe
There are other things perhaps going on in their lives
They may be of a different nature in some things, but the obedient and those who want to know truth will want to know truth.
They will come to you with a desire and they'll recognize a truth when you teach it to
them.
And I think that's what we see in chapter 2 as well.
Speak now the things which become sound doctrine.
So again, we have in verse 1 doctrine, then we have in verse 7.
And all things showing thyself a pattern of good works in doctrine, showing uncruppiness,
gravity, sincerity, sound speech that cannot be condemned.
Verse 10, no perloining, but showing all good fidelity that they may adorn the doctrine of God
or Savior in all things. He is so clearly focusing on what is true, because we're seeing in these
last days that we're going to have wicked times, and there are going to be people that are
covetous, and there are going to be false accusers and false teachers
and he is sticking them so strongly,
you must know the doctrine of Christ.
You must teach it, you must live it,
you must not be a hypocrite,
you have to be sound in speech
and then he says,
deny ungodliness and worldly lusts,
live soberly, righteously and godly in this present world.
I just love that in verse 12 and then verse 13,
looking for that blessed hope
and the glorious appearing of the great God,
our Savior Jesus Christ, who gave himself for us
that he might redeem us from all iniquity
and purity into himself, a peculiar people,
zealous of good works.
These things speak,
tie to speak and tell people that we are meant to be peculiar.
We're meant to be zealous and good works
We're not trying to be like the world be doctrinally sound and then verse 15
These things speak and exhort and rebuke with all authority let no man despise the he's being told and assuming he's younger
Don't despise you but do speak with authority
Exort people just as it says in section 121 of the doctrine and covenants
Speak with authority, exhort people, just as it says in section 121 of the doctrine, and covenants, reproof be times with sharpness when led by the Holy Ghost, be a discerner of
those things, and correct people when needed.
President Reese at BYU just recently talked about how when things are not doctly sound to
mark them, mark the things that aren't sound.
In this case, make sure that you understand and know the doctrine of Jesus Christ, and make
sure you know what is not.
Don't be easily confused. Be careful that you're not being swayed by every wind of doctrine.
Helaman chapter five, we understand Jesus Christ and we have that faith but we're not just easily
swayed to believe so many are in our day and age. I was talking to my sister who was on an airplane
with someone who was going to my home state.
My sister asked him, why are you going there so much?
And he said, because I love the confusion that exists there.
I can't think of anything worse than to try to be in a state of confusion.
He just wanted, he loved feeling confused.
There are very few things in my life that I tried to avoid more than that and clarify
than confusion.
I want truth.
I want to know what is true and I want to live it. I don't want to live in a state of confusion. And I desperately don't want to cause confusion. I want truth. I want to know what is true and I want to live it. I don't want to live
in a state of confusion. And I desperately don't want to cause confusion. I think that we're seeing a lot
of confusion in these last days. And again, I think it's fascinating in chapter three that Titus is
also told to avoid foolish questions. That's verse nine. Avoid foolish questions and genealogies and contentions and strivings about the law for their unprofitable and vain.
I remember as I was in my youth genuinely trying to come up with
questions that was stumped people or coming up with questions that
may cause people to struggle.
And I wasn't trying to hurt people's souls.
I just thought I was funny.
And I remember reading because I was in this state where I was
trying to find testimony,
it was at the same time where I came upon ever learning and ever able to come to the knowledge
of the truth.
I remember reading this and being kind of humbly and gently spanked by the Lord, like
Barb, are you trying to find truth or are you trying to be obnoxious?
You're ever learning and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.
You're asking questions that are foolish.
You're trying to stump your teachers.
Like, what are you doing?
Are you trying to build a faith?
Are you just trying to be funny?
Or are you really a builder of people?
What kind of questions are you asking of other people?
And more importantly, what kind of questions are you asking the Lord?
Are you spending time coming up with really good questions in your prayers?
Are you writing down your questions?
As Alder Bednar says, he goes to the temple to find good questions to ask
so that he can be answering them
throughout his own personal study
throughout the rest of the week.
I've learned a lot about avoiding foolish questions
and avoiding foolish questions with God.
When I pray in the name of Christ,
I want to ask questions in the name of Christ too.
I want to ask God the kind of questions Jesus Christ
would want me to ask his father in his name.
Learning to ask good questions is critical, and he's teaching that to Titus.
Ask good questions.
Be wise in your conversations.
Be loving.
Avoid contentions as President Nelson says.
Be a peacemaker because all of these things if we do wrong,
really could destroy people's testimonies.
Those are not attributes of a good missionary or a good member of the church.
But learn to ask questions that matter. testimonies. Those are not attributes of a good missionary or a good member of the church,
but learn to ask questions that matter, learn to be peaceful, learn to have conversations with people that will be uplifting building and that will increase people's faith. I think to Titus, yes,
I think there are many things here and focus on that doctrine.
Yeah, and be zealous of good works, eager, enthusiastic about doing good things.
Absolutely. This last letter to Philoman,
Philoman, Fille Moun, however you want to say it. I think I've said that a few times today.
We find out that he loves Jesus. He's refreshed the hearts of many saints. He's a church leader.
Paul considers him to be a friend. But this is a bit of an awkward situation.
considers him to be a friend. But this is a bit of an awkward situation,
because he owned a slave.
Onesimus had run away from Philemon,
and Paul is now sending him back to Philemon,
and he's been saved.
Onesimus is gonna show up Philemon's doorstep
with this letter that's gonna ask,
it's gonna ask him to forgive him and then accept him as a brother and not a slave.
So a very specific situation that I don't think we'll ever find ourselves in, but is there
anything we can take out of this?
I think maybe a couple of thoughts have come to me, just as you are explaining that, Hank.
I think it's interesting that Paul, in this case, in the other cases, he's writing a letter
and introducing himself and then talking about how, in this case, Timothy and Titus were both
his sons, and he talks about who they are in the relationship. In this case, in this case,
in study, he says, Paul, a prisoner of Jesus Christ. So he's putting himself in a position of being
a servant or a prisoner or one who has been captured to.
He knows what it's like to be captured.
He knows what it's like to be a servant of another person.
It reminds me of Joseph Smith and Liberty Jail, right?
And he is talking about being in Liberty Jail.
And that process of being in Liberty Jail, the Lord teaches all of us how important it
is that when an individual is given authority that they do not use
surp the authority and use it against someone else. It's interesting that Paul puts himself in the
position as a prisoner. Joseph Smith is in a position of being in prison. And in these cases,
Joseph Smith, Paul, and others are learning the importance of changing and becoming a brother
and being able to repent and
recognizing that there is a higher power. I think that Jesus Christ often teaches
us who he is and how we can better treat other people when we are in positions
of being in a sense enslaved. So whether it was in prison or as a servant, Paul
has empathy here. Jesus Christ had empathy when he's teaching to Joseph Smith and that sacred,
holy jail, temple. And Paul just kind of, to me, it seems like he's in that very first verse,
he's recognizing he was, he was also a prisoner. He was also a servant or in some ways confined to
somebody else's desires and wills. Yeah. And it's beautiful. Paul seems to act as almost a
No. And it's beautiful. Paul seems to act as almost a savior type role here when he says, I'm sending him to you, or 16, not as a servant, but a beloved brother. He says,
receive him like you would receive me. If he has wronged thee or Oeth thee, put that on my account.
There's a mediator type role that Paul is taking on that can teach us
a little bit about the Savior. It's kind of the parable of the Good Smiritan puts him on his own
donkey. They go down there and he gives to the keeper keep tabs on this. I'll pay for everything.
I'll make sure he's okay, right? And that to your point, that is very symbolic of Christ and his
atonement and His paying for us.
The grace that He offers and the salvation that He offers through His atonement for us.
It has that feel and that's verse 8 wherefore, though I might be much bold in Christ to
enjoy the that which is that that which is convenient yet for the love's sake, I rather be
see each the being such and one as Paul the aged and now also a prisoner of Jesus Christ.
So he's tying that into being a prisoner of Christ
and that kind of relationship of all of us
needing Christ to tell him,
and all of us are sinners per se.
All of us are captured.
All of us are in prison in some way,
and all of us need Jesus Christ.
It's a great lesson on we all are in a sense,
brothers and sisters in Christ,
and all of us are desperate for him. But I do love verse 19, I will repay it.
Yeah, Barbara, I love that insight as he introduces himself as a prisoner who are a slave of Jesus Christ
and trying to get into the heart of Philemon that we are all servants of Christ. So we are all brothers.
That's what I thought of too as it's like King Benjamin. Are we not all servants of Christ. So we are all brothers.
That's what I thought of too,
as it's like King Benjamin, are we not all beggars?
We are all in that same position
where we are asking for salvation.
And I just like the very short synopsis at the beginning,
the gospel changes a servant into a brother.
One of the probably the shortest synopsies
in all of the
stedro works maybe. Yeah, that's fantastic. I didn't even see that, John.
Barb, we have a lot of listeners who are listening. They want to live better lives.
They want to have better relationships with their families and friends. What do you hope
they get out of our time together today?
First and second Timothy, Titus, by lemon.
And Titus chapter three verse seven, it says,
being justified by his grace, we should be made errors according to the hope of eternal life.
I think what I would hope that everyone has as a result of this discussion and in their own personal scripture study, frankly, is an increased hope in eternal life through Jesus Christ that we are errors with him that
Christ does not expect perfection.
But as President Nelson says, he does love effort and that we can all stretch a little bit
more.
As President Kimball says that sometimes we need to get on our tippy toes
to receive revelation, but that we succeed because of Jesus Christ.
And we are who we are because of Jesus Christ, and that we all have a responsibility and,
frankly, an opportunity to help each other on the path that we can be both mentored and
be mentors of other people on this path.
But for what purpose and the purpose is to become
heirs with Christ.
And I love that Christ is the perfect example.
Surprise, surprise.
Christ wants us to be heirs with him.
And as we continue this path, we understand Christ's teachings.
We know who he is.
We will receive, as it says in section 84,
all that God has heirs of Jesus Christ.
He is the most selfless, the most gracious, the most
charitable being that being Jesus Christ. And if we continue on this path, we will also
be able to share the air of joy or become heirs of joy and eternal happiness now and in
the next life. So that would be my thing is we find joy and hope in Jesus Christ and we'll receive all that he has which for me is
eternal life all the joy all the beauty all the love that our Savior can make possible because of him
Fantastic fear can dissipate with that faith in the Lord again
Barb, this has been just a
Fantastic day. I hope we've gotten closer to the heart of what Paul was hoping for
in writing these letters and feeling mentored, like Timothy and Titus, feeling buoyed up by this
amazing church leader. Yep, we need each other. I need you guys. Thanks for your great examples and
your teachings and and all that you do and our wonderful examples to so many of us.
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