Follow Him: A Come, Follow Me Podcast - Mosiah 25-28 Part 1 • Dr. Jenet Erickson • May 27-June 2 • Come Follow Me
Episode Date: May 22, 2024What is our part in building God’s kingdom? Dr. Jenet Erickson delves into the profound question of how we can contribute to building the kingdom of God. She explores Alma's solitude as a leade...r, the blessings of family life, and the transformative power of conversion through covenants and the Atonement of Jesus Christ.SHOW NOTES/TRANSCRIPTSEnglish: https://tinyurl.com/podcastBM22ENFrench: https://tinyurl.com/podcastBM22FRPortuguese: https://tinyurl.com/podcastBM22PTSpanish: https://tinyurl.com/podcastBM22ES YOUTUBEhttps://youtu.be/ejsI-VqNYzkALL EPISODES/SHOW NOTESfollowHIM website: https://www.followHIMpodcast.comFREE PDF DOWNLOADS OF followHIM QUOTE BOOKSNew Testament: https://tinyurl.com/PodcastNTBookOld Testament: https://tinyurl.com/PodcastOTBookWEEKLY NEWSLETTERhttps://tinyurl.com/followHIMnewsletterSOCIAL MEDIAInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/followHIMpodcastFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/followhimpodcast00:00 Part I - Dr. Jenet Erickson 01:31 What to expect from this episode?05:11 Dr. Jenet Erickson’s bio06:18 Come, Follow Me manual08:56 The importance of history11:22 Mosiah 25:11- Concern for the Lamanites15:27 The Lord will redeem our family21:06 The gift of the Book of Moses24:49 God is the surgeon, we are assistants26:11 The Church prevails when independent of the State30:48 The Atonement as communal power32:11 The data about daily and marriage in society33:39 Mosiah 25:15 - Teachers preaching repentance and faith36:01 Mosiah 25:14-16 - Remember the Lord38:29 Mosiah 25:23 - Taking His name upon us40:10 Mosiah 25:21 - One church, one doctrine of Christ43:00 Mosiah 26:1 - A rising generation of unbelievers44:14 Mosiah 26:12-15 - Alma’s character48:01 Mosiah 26:24-28 - Eschaton52:52 Trust and faith54:48 Mosiah 26:22-23 God’s in charge58:08 Mosiah 26:37 - Alma leads by revelation01:02:48 - Covenant language and the name of Christ01:05:32 End of Part 1 - Dr. Jenet EricksonThanks to the followHIM team:Steve & Shannon Sorensen: Cofounder, Executive Producer, SponsorDavid & Verla Sorensen: SponsorsDr. Hank Smith: Co-hostJohn Bytheway: Co-hostDavid Perry: ProducerKyle Nelson: Marketing, SponsorLisa Spice: Client Relations, Editor, Show NotesJamie Neilson: Social Media, Graphic DesignWill Stoughton: Video EditorKrystal Roberts: Translation Team, English & French Transcripts, WebsiteAriel Cuadra: Spanish Transcripts"Let Zion in Her Beauty Rise" by Marshall McDonaldhttps://www.marshallmcdonaldmusic.comSend us a comment.
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Hello everyone, welcome to another episode of Follow Him. My name is Hank Smith, I'm
your host. I'm here with my believing co-host, John, by the way, and our guest, Dr. Janet
Erickson. John, we have now finished the movement of Mosiah. People are going here and there
and up and down. Everybody's back in Zarahemla. Mosiah is king, Alma the elder is high priest, and they run into some
significant issues. What are you looking forward to today? The interesting
storyline here that all of a sudden everybody's back in Zarahemla and they
they look at each other and they hear each other's stories and it's this
emotional rollercoaster form at first to hear what happened's stories. And it's this emotional roller coaster form at first to
hear what happened to you guys. Oh, this is what happened. Oh my goodness. Then we've got this
rising generation stuff. And I'll tell you, you read Mosiah 26 and you read it and it sounds like
it could be today. It's a really fascinating chapter. So I'm looking forward to just talking
about maybe this was all written for our day as we say, and particularly chapter 26.
And then what do we do? How do we react? By written in chapter 26, the loneliness of
leadership. Alma is in a tough spot. John, like I said, we have Dr. Janet Erickson here. To us,
she's Janet, but she earned that title. So we'll call her Dr. Erickson, at least for a little bit.
What are you going to take us through today?
What should we be looking forward to?
This is powerful three chapters that present to us this focal point of
that's establishing of the church, this change from a monarchical, like a
monarchy that's Christian with King Benjamin, to the establishing of the church.
And it's going to be so significant because for hundreds of years they've been looking forward to
the promise that the children of Lehi and Saraiya will be restored again. And it hasn't happened.
They've tried and they've tried and it hasn't happened. And they've passed the record on.
We see from Enos, right, and all those generations passing on the record and the promise of the covenant. And now the
church is going to be established and it will lead to the Lamanite conversion such that the
entire Lamanite nation in a sense will be converted, will become more righteous than the Nephites,
and then the Savior will return. Joe Spencer will say, this is Mormon's project.
He's telling us about our day,
this shifting of a removal of the state,
in a sense, from religion, the restoration of the church
or the establishment of the church,
the conversion of the Lamanites, and the return of Christ.
And there's this beautiful plan laid out in these chapters.
But not only that, there's something maybe even more deeply meaningful or at the core of this in
these sections. We're going to witness the glorious story of conversion. The vitalist of
sinners will be converted. And not only converted, but they'll initiate the much looked for covenant being
fulfilled and they will be the ones who will start that restoration and enable it. So we
learn the Lord does hear the prayers of faithful parents. He hears the prayers of his people.
He does intervene and his will will be done. And then when we read Alma's conversion specifically where he describes
this movement from deliverance, we're gonna hear that word starting now again and again and again.
This is the book of conversion and deliverance and Alma's gonna teach us what it means to move
from physical deliverance to the deliverance that's so personal of each soul, coming to know that
only through Christ can we be delivered, the collective and personal Redeemer who brings
deliverance to each of us.
I love these chapters.
We're going to be introduced to Alma the Younger, who's going to get more coverage in the Book of Mormon.
Besides Jesus, he's going to get more pages in the Book of Mormon than any other person.
And you're right, this movement from violist of sinners to a translated prophet, I think one of
two, right, John? One of two translated prophets in the Book of Mormon. What does that say?
That message, you can go from this to this.
These sections, the language that we'll hear, we're going to hear this beautiful pattern.
We're going to hear captivity, trust, deliverance, born of God, over and over again.
And that will be the foundation of his 20-year ministry.
It will only be in the years that we have in these sections, he will be a
prophet. His ministry will only last 20 years. So he could have been a 35 to 40-year-old man when
this conversion happens. We don't know, but it's going to provide the foundation for the teachings
that he is going to give all the rest of his life.
And we're going to see that beautiful pattern, trust, deliverance, born of God out of captivity.
I love it. I'm really looking forward to this. John, now, Janet has been here many times.
We love having her on Follow Him. She is delightful, fun. However, there might be a listener who has been under a rock for the last few years
and is saying, who's Janet Erickson? So, John, give her an introduction.
Yeah, I was taking notes. We're in the intros, Hank, and I'm taking notes. Captivity,
trust, deliverance, born of God. That's awesome. Dr. Janet Jacob Erickson is an associate professor
in religious education at BYU. She teaches the eternal family course.
So excited to have her here today because there's some real cool family stuff involved
in here.
And she and her husband Michael have been blessed with two children.
They live in American Fork, Utah.
We're really happy to have you back.
In fact, a couple of weeks ago I said, Hank, good for calling Jennet for these chapters because they're good family chapters. Like you
just mentioned, the prayers of faithful parents that have meaning. I'm really glad you're here.
Oh, thank you.
Jennet, let's read from the Come Follow Me manual. It's really well written. It says,
after nearly three generations and living in separate lands,
the Nephites were one people again.
Limhi's people, Alma's people, Mosiah's people,
even the people of Zarahemla who were not descended from Nephi
were all numbered with the Nephites.
Many of them also wanted to become members of the Lord's church,
as Alma's people had.
So all those who were desirous to take upon them the name of Christ were baptized.
And they were called the people of God, which is the name of the lesson this week.
After years of conflict and captivity, it seemed that the Nephites would finally enjoy a period of peace.
Oh, how often have we been there in life? Oh, like finally, it's going to be great.
But before long, unbelievers began to persecute the saints.
What made this especially heartbreaking was that many of these unbelievers were the believers' own children, the rising generation, including
the sons of Mosiah and one son of Alma. The account tells of a miraculous visit of an
angel. But the true miracle of this story is not just about angels appearing to wayward
sons. Conversion is the miracle. In one way or another, it needs to happen to all of us.
Oh, very good. Very good. Janet, where do you want to go?
I love that John referenced as we started this emotional conversation that happens here at the
beginning of chapter 25. Read the record of Zenef and buckle up. Yeah, that's so true. If we look at 7 to 11, you're gonna hear, hear they're all gathered and King Mosiah says, and I love this about him, he says, we have got to hear the history of these people. And we'll talk a little bit about why history matters, but you just hear what John referenced. And now when Mosiah had made an end of reading the records, his people who tarried in the
land were struck with wonder and amazement.
For they knew not what to think when they beheld those that had been delivered out of
bondage.
They were filled with exceedingly great joy.
And again, when they thought of their brethren who had been slain by the Lamanites, they
were filled with sorrow and even shed many tears of sorrow.
And again, when they thought of the immediate goodness of God in delivering Alma and his
brethren, they did raise their voices and give thanks to God.
And again, when they thought of the Lamanites, they were filled with pain and anguish.
Isn't this life?
It's this moment when you're like, if I looked back on my life, right, and remembered the
challenges and also the joys
and the miracles and the amazement and also the consequences and accountability that goes
on, he is appreciating the power of history here.
And I don't know if you have favorite historians, but I'll never forget when David McCollough,
the remarkable historian and writer of history came and spoke in the tabernacle and he talked
about the importance of history. The lessons of history are manifold.
Nothing happens in isolation. Everything that happens has consequences. We are all
part of a larger stream of events, past, present, and future. Read history. By all
means, read history. Giving us a sense
of proportion, our place in this grand story will tell our children history is Christ,
His story. It's God's dealings with His children. I love how you, in talking about the allegory
of Zenos, the powerful truth watching the
Lord's work be done even as he honors the agency and accountability, his will will be
done.
And when we see Christ, his story, we can develop a trust that his work amidst all the
complexity will be done.
I have one other little quote that I love from George
Marshall, a speech that he gave at the end of World War II that has to do with history. Again,
the great general George Marshall, it's 1947 and he says, in order to take a full part in the life
which is before you, I think you must in effect relive the past. And it's like Mosiah recognizes that. If we're going to take full part
in this life, we have to hear the history that has gone before us. A deep understanding of history
is necessary, not merely recent history, which concerns itself with trivia surrounding conspicuous
men and events, but an understanding of that history, which records
the past activities of men and leads to an understanding of what has created you and what
has destroyed great civilizations, emphasizing the power of knowing where we are in this story,
the effects and consequences, understanding our place in it.
And Mosaic seems to get that here.
Such a roller coaster.
Verse 8, filled with joy. Verse 9, sorrow. Verse 10, joy.
Verse 11, pain and anguish.
Like, ah, what a difficult day.
He ends at this description in verse 11, they are still so deeply concerned
about the Lamanites. And what I love is within just a couple of chapters here, the answer is
going to come in the conversion of people who had been considered the vilest of sinners,
and that they will be the catalyst having having been converted by Christ, to participate in the work of salvation,
which is always what happens when we're converted.
It's a catalyst to becoming participants in that saving work.
The answer is gonna be soon, in a sense,
that yearning for the Lamanites.
You mentioned Joe Spencer, who we've had on the show before.
There's a shift in perspective
when you see
the Book of Mormon as a story of redemption of the Lamanite people.
Yes.
Where you think the book's about the Nephites, which it is, but in the background is this
story of Lamanite falling away, coming back.
I think Joe would say that Mormon's project, it's very powerful.
Each book ends with a major
political change. Here we have at the end of Mosiah, a major political change going on.
We're going to see in the rise of the Lamanites, then we're going to see the Gadianton robbers
in Helaman. Then we're going to see the coming of Christ in 3rd Nephi. And these dramatic
the coming of Christ in 3rd Nephi, and that these dramatic political changes are part of the political theology through which the Lord is bringing about his work. There was no way that
the Lamanites could be converted because to be converted when we had a kingdom, a Christian
kingdom, a Nephite Christian kingdom, was to become a Nephite. And then when we see this split of
moving from the state that religion becomes fully separate from the state. You watch how Alma
refuses to be a king. He's followed on the heels of the horrifying King Noah who stands in as a
foil to King Benjamin. And Mormon it seems like is really
clear in trying to show the differences between these two kings, and Alma is asked to be king by
his people, and he says no, he absolutely refuses, and then you see this full separation, the church
must exist apart from the state apparatus, since they create create there's not a reliance on the state
it's their own covenant community that's created and then that is going to lead to the conversion
of the Lamanites who to convert no longer means I have to become an Nephite it means I become saved
by the Lord Jesus Christ a follower Christ. I think Joe is right in
seeing this beautiful plan that God has, including in the political process that then enables
the conversion of these descendants so it can fulfill its promise.
Fantastic.
It was brilliant of King Mosiah to say, everybody gather.
Now, I want you to hear this.
Can you imagine how differently it was?
Oh, just put those, that new group that just put them down on Zarahemla Street or whatever.
But instead, imagine how uniting to hear this.
You've been to testimony meetings like that where you're sitting there and you're filled
with joy and then you're filled with sorrow and then you're filled with thanksgiving and then you feel pain and anguish and you hear. When I was a
bishop, every fast meeting I took notes on every testimony. I had no idea that I would
use that for funerals, sometimes of the people whose testimonies I recorded. It's very uniting
to hear everybody's story and that was an inspired move so that now
we know where those people have been that are now trying to come together in this new group.
Wards are like that. We've got people coming from different areas. Think of the early days of the
church. Here come a bunch of migrants from England and let's hear their stories so we can become united in a church.
As you were talking, John, I was remembering, you know, the Steed family, that's the work in
the glory history, that wonderful, of course, when you go to Palmyra and you want to find out
where did the Steeds live? Where was their farm? Right? Where's their farm? But there's that
beautiful music that was produced to tell the story and it begins with a song that has the words, Lord, how we thank thee for families, seasons
of sorrow and seasons of joy. And that the story of the great family, here's this family
of Lehi and Saraiya that are part of this important branch in the covenant family that
have been split apart.
And the Lord has a story for their remarkable redemption so that the seasons of sorrow will
ultimately be turned to seasons of joy.
That's personal for our individual families.
I know that to be true, however long it takes.
And he's telling us over and over again, I have the power and the plan
to redeem and restore this family, the whole grand family, as well as our individual families.
In our seasons of sorrow and our seasons of joy that he will ultimately make eternal joy
is the real assurance of the Book of Mormon.
Janet, if you don't mind, let's just stop here for a second. Our listeners are
always on our minds. Everyone is going through difficulty of some sort and if
you're not, you soon will be. And what you just said is so crucial. What would
you say to a parent who's listening to this going, I want to believe that. I want
to believe that the Lord will redeem my family. Bring it, make it whole again. Hank, this whole story as
you watch a father plead for his children, his son to return, and you watch,
there's no question I remember first reading this story as a younger person
and thinking, where's the mother? Had she died? We don't know all the reasons why scripture the Book of Mormon obscures the presence of women
but there's no question that that mother was yearning. I think about Elder
Holland's powerful statement about a mother yearning. He tells the story of
the wonderful Preston Jenkins who had that terrible mission trauma and then
experienced same-sex
attraction comes home from his mission and Elder Holland's going to describe this mother day and
night for weeks then for months that turned into years. This boy and his mother sought healing
together through periods of bitterness mostly his but sometimes, and unending fear, mostly hers, but sometimes his.
She bore, there's that powerful burdensome word again, she bore to her son her testimony
of God's power of his church and especially his love for this child.
In the same breath, she testified of her own uncompromised undying love for this child. In the same breath she testified of her own uncompromised,
undying love for him. To bring together these two crucial pillars of her very existence,
the gospel of Jesus Christ and her family, she poured out her soul in prayer endlessly.
And then he bears witness with the grace of God, her own tenacity, and the help of scores
of church leaders, friends, family members, professionals.
This importuning mother has seen her son come home to the promised land.
Then he says, we acknowledge that such a blessing does not, or at least has not yet come to
all parents who anguish over a wide variety of their children's
circumstances. But here there was hope little by little. His Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ,
and his determined, redemptive, absolutely saintly mother. And he forewitnessed the Lord does hear
our prayers, the promises are sure in our covenants.
There is safety in our covenants. That power that draws them in is active and living and forceful.
The Book of Mormon is like a 2500 year story that he will hear our prayers. He will restore the line.
that he will hear our prayers, he will restore the line. Maybe the whole thing that we're developing in this process is learning how to hold on to the hope of
unfulfilled promises and develop that godly capacity in ourselves. That's who
God is. He is ever seeing where we are not and where we will be and he sees it with hope and absolute
assurance that in his hands that can be brought to pass. Well and in a book that
if we take them literally could have been 53,000 pages long because they
could not include a hundredth part why would they include this if it wasn't to
give hope and healing at least hope if the healing isn't there right now,
there's hope. Why did they include these stories here? Well, that's a gift. And I'm always reminded
of how easy it is to mess up Moses 1.39 and say as a parent, it's my job and my glory to bring to
pass the immortality and eternal life of my children. And actually, Lord says, actually, that's my work
and I am able to do my work. I'm really good at it. To be able to feel that hope,
that's why they're here. John, you brought up the one 100th. Yeah, this story of Alma the Younger,
we're going to get twice. Yeah. Yeah. Book of Mormon. Amazing. He's going to tell his own sons later. Yeah. One of the gifts, Jenna, that Joseph Smith gave us is obviously
the book of Moses and the God who weeps over his children. You don't get that anywhere
else that I've seen, but the Enoch, how can you weep like your God? Why are you weeping?
John, what does he say? How is it that thou canst weep like your God? Why are you weeping? John, what does he say?
How is it that thou canst weep? Yeah. What does the Lord respond with?
These thy children I created them and the day I created them I gave them their agency and asked
them to choose me their father but behold they were without affection and they hate their own
blood. It's ouch. I mean you read it and it hurts. Yeah. But that tells us he's not detached. He's not unaffected by what
happens to us. He's interested in us and what happens to us, thankfully.
Doesn't it seem like it's easy in the complexity of life to really wonder, where is God? And we
might wonder in this story, this 2500 year story, where is he? And that allegory, right, that we have
recently studied, Zenas' allegory, you see this being is actively involved. And we're
going to see in this story, he will intervene. He honors agency, he honors accountability,
but his will will be done. Jacob testifying in his mystery. God honors agency and accountability and He will bring us
where He needs to bring us. He will bring the world to the place it needs to be. And I don't
know how He does it, but I think we can trust it. Alma, His whole testimony is going to be grounded
in trust in God. Trust in God. Trust in His power to redeem.
And people very close to me need this today. People that I pray for. We want everybody
to feel the same hope that we're talking about and to say, hey, we have a Heavenly Father
and a Savior who is mighty to save. He knows what He's doing.
And that has to be why this story is told twice. It has to be to
tell us, I will redeem. I can hear my mom last year and every family. This is a story of family,
the complexity of family life, the complexity of these journeys. But she describes aching. And here,
I want my parents to be resting in their retirement, but God is very efficient in using mortality.
And she describes getting up out of bed and pleading, where are the promises?
Remember these covenants that I've made and where are the promises, the assurances?
And into her mind she was told, think on your covenants.
In your covenants lies your safety. And then she sat up on her bed and
reflected on the promises of the initiatory blessings, the promise of beginning with the baptism, the Holy
Ghost, the initiatory endowment, and was filled with joy. He will keep his promises, his covenants. General
Conference, what do we hear 100, thousand times? In your covenants,
in your covenants is power and strength and it's infinite in its power to redeem.
A couple of weeks ago, Dr. Bowen was here and he said, the Lord is playing 5D chess. He is moving
pieces. Yes. Ways you can't understand. You see 2D or 3D. My ways are not your ways, right?
There's nothing we can do that he has not already taken into account and that's
our children. That's all of us. We can't trust him. That's maybe the bigger
question rather than when will they come back? The Lord's saying, trust me. Who is
it says they were his long before
they were yours? Is it the Orson Whitney quotation? I frequently tell parents or friends of someone
who they're like, oh, I wish I could bring them back, bring them back. I use a little analogy.
I'll say, just remember who the assistant is. The Lord is the surgeon. You're the assistant. If you
swap places and say, Lord, assist me in this work, he's going to say, well, go ahead. I'll
have to fix pretty much everything you do. Right? After you do it. I've seen people go,
oh yeah, I am his assistant. Just wait for him. He'll tell you what to do. He'll say
scalpel and you give him a scalpel.
But don't switch places with him. Don't start thinking, I'm the surgeon, the Lord is going to
assist me. You're going to get it backwards and you're going to make a difficult thing even
more difficult. Yeah, that's powerful, Hank. And it feels like we're going to learn from Alma the
Elder what that looks like to allow the Lord to be the surgeon and maybe the assistant
and the joy that it brings as we allow his miracles to happen. Let's jump back in, Janet. Thanks
for taking that pause. John, you and I talk frequently that we're always thinking about
our listeners. We couldn't do this if it wasn't for those who put up with us. I love that and I
feel that from you both.
Thank you for being that way.
That's how the podcast is.
Where should we go, Janet?
We're gonna get to this whole remarkable King Mosiah
who then is encountering Alma.
Alma, who refused to be a king,
he's in this country with a king
and was called by God to establish a church. And what is Mosiah going
to do with this? And what you see is we have to recognize that King Benjamin, the remarkable
King Benjamin, and Mosiah is going to tell us in 29 when you discuss this next week,
that if you had a righteous king, it would be wonderful like Benjamin. But we saw in Noah,
that's not always possible. What we're going to hear is the covenant that King Benjamin was able to have an entire nation make.
Like, wow, all of them entered into that covenant. Yet, it did not have transgenerational stability. That rising generation did not participate in the covenant.
did not participate in the covenant. Joe Spencer was right.
We will learn that the church fares best
when pursued and perpetuated as an institution
fully independent of the state and its interests.
The Christian church prevails rather than
the Christian kingdom, which is remarkable.
What we find out is in the covenant
the church establishes for them under Alma, there is not a state apparatus in the covenant.
They carry one another. The reliance isn't on the state. A new community is created out of covenant.
They weave together a community through covenant. Mosiah recognizes this is fundamental. So the church must be established with teachers and priests.
It must be established here in Zarahemla.
It's really interesting, you know, just now we're having this recognition that an increase in the United States in terms of people not affiliating with the church, what does it mean? What does it mean? What are the challenges? And you actually see in our most elite writing the Atlantic an article just a week ago talking about this is written by an agnostic
the risks that society faces when we are not
Connected to churches because nothing is as powerful in building community
There's nothing that society has to replace what happens when we are knit together
in religious conviction. And it's why there's Boku data, Tyler Vanderwill at the Harvard Human
Flourishing Center. He's a super gifted scholar, but he'll show through very sophisticated means
what the implications of religion are in people's lives. And they're remarkable.
Improvement in well-being, improvement in lifespan, improvement in health. There's really nothing to compare other than the
family itself with its impact on development than religion. And yet he'll distinguish spiritual
from actual participation in a religious community. And spiritual is powerful.
When we align ourselves with something higher than ourselves,
whatever form that takes in our lives, it's a powerful gift.
But the positive impact are magnified multiple fold
when you are part of a religious community.
There's something about the power of religion
within that community and these
smaller communities of wards where we are bound together that I think Mosiah is recognizing God
has brought to us and we need this in our community. We need this in our nation.
I wrote a book on happiness. It sold dozens of copies. We're so grateful for your books, by the way.
But one thing I learned is something very similar to what you just said,
Jennet, that happiness and social circle are almost twins. And that warred family creates a
social circle. I feel and I hope this is true that people after COVID when we started to gather together
again, I hope that people went, oh, this is so nice to see everybody. Hi, hi, every other
bench, however we did that. But I hope they felt, oh, I think I get why we need to gather.
Because I did. I thought this is so nice. We lift and help each other. I remember seeing a headline
that said, society benefits when people believe they are accountable to God. I didn't read the
story. The headline was so good, right? But all of society benefits, but when we gather, I don't know
if we're accountable to each other, but we sure do help and support each other. By experience,
I've needed that help and support in my ward neighborhood. I love that. It is
interesting. I think we rightly recognize the power of the Atonement as a personal
power of salvation and exaltation, but it's also a communal power. Throughout
the Book of Mormon, we're seeing the Lord save nations and peoples
which are really families. They're family lines that are being saved and that the
atonement is not just an individual force but it is a national, it's a people,
it's a community. When we watch Alma ask his people if they want to be baptized
and the question he asked them, do you want
to mourn with those that mourn and are you willing to do this?
Then he's clarifying, yes, the bond in President Nelson's quoted words from recent general
conference is both lateral, it's this horizontal direction and it's vertical and that covenants with God establish bonds with one another that are saving
bonds. They're redemptive, powerful bonds. So I think that's what you're hearing in church,
right? In our ward families.
Jennet, maybe the predominant message or the loud message we're getting that religion is bad,
that it causes all sorts of problems. You're saying that research, the data is opposite. I cannot tell you that enough.
Like it is exactly opposite. Now that's not to say that there are
individuals in religious institutions that are suffering and that religion can
be a source of pain in people's lives. That can be true as well.
But when we look broadly sociologically, the benefit of religion in people's lives is unparalleled,
second only to, I should say, family, like the closeness of family bonds. There's no
replacement for us in society that can replace the impact of religion.
I hope our young
adult listeners are hearing this. Don't listen to the chatter, listen to the data.
We're talking to Dr. Erickson here who knows the data and the chatter and the
noise out there might say something different. This is why I love having you
on because you know stuff about families from the data. I'm grateful for good scientists.
You do not get a better scientist than Tyler VanderWyl.
And the methodologies that are used to establish
does it actually have a causal effect?
Is this just a link that's correlative or is it causation?
And he can establish a causative relationship
between religious affiliation and benefits in life in all the dimensions of well-being. It's very real.
I love it. We're going to keep tapping into your knowledge here, Janet. So we're still in 25. We've been here a little bit. Let's keep going.
Do you love that in 2515, we're going to get this set about Alma. He went preaching to these groups of people,
preaching repentance and faith on the Lord. And we're going to hear when he first organized the
church way back in Mosiah chapter 18, we're going to hear that he preached repentance and faith on
the Lord. And he's going to tell those that he calls to be, priest of keys, those he calls to have teaching responsibilities.
They will preach nothing but repentance and faith on the Lord.
The next thing that's going to happen, of course, is they will be baptized.
And Limhi's people had heard about baptism.
They knew it way back when King Noah left.
And Limhi comes in and Ammon comes from the people of
Zarahemla and they hear about baptism and they want to be baptized and Ammon
says we're gonna have to wait and it's so beautiful that now is the time when
those people of Limhi who had experienced all that difficulty, the
destruction and then miraculously being brought out of that land of Nehemiah
into Zarahemla can now be
baptized.
We're going to see the doctrine of Christ laid out beautifully.
Faith, repentance, baptism, joining the church, becoming part of this covenant relationship
with Christ and with one another and the blessings of the gift of the Holy Ghost.
You're just going to see all that laid out really beautifully
in the teachings in chapter 25
that Mosiah is giving to these groups of church members.
Can you hear Elder Renlund from this last conference
talk about spiritual momentum is created,
and he's quoting President Nelson,
over a lifetime as we repeatedly embrace
the doctrine of Christ,
this spiraling
that happens in our lives as we over and over again repent, exercise faith, faith,
repent, renew our covenant with the Lord and are changed by the power of the Holy
Ghost. Alma gets it. That's what he's telling us. He's saying the same thing
President Nelson's saying. He's saying what Elder Renlund's saying when he quotes President Nelson, that this process
is a beautiful spiral through which we are transformed over time, faith, repentance,
renewing that covenant, receiving the power of the Holy Ghost in our lives.
I am struck again that in verse five, Mosiah did cause to be read. Okay, let's hear from
Zenneph and his people. And then verse 14, now Mosiah had made an end of the speaking and reading
to the people. He desired Alma should speak to the people. Now I want you to hear from Alma,
and I love this, that Mosiah could have said, I've prepared a talk, but he's like, no, no, no,
listen. Now you tell him what happened to you. Such cool deliverance stories. And then in verse
16, he did exhort the people of Limhi and his brethren, all those that had been delivered
out of bondage, that they should remember that it was the Lord that did deliver them.
So I put my margin, who is the deliverer? And I'm thinking of the New Testament. Let's
create some feasts so that they will not forget. Okay, we'll call this
one Passover. We'll do that every year. We'll call this one Tabernacles so that you'll remember what
you lived in when the Lord delivered you. And it's that constant challenge we need to remember
who our deliverer is, who our redeemer is. I always underline those. Now, are you guys going
to remember this? Because usually two or three pages later, it's somebody forgets.
Yeah, that's so fast.
This will take exactly five paragraphs before they forget.
That verse is so important.
We have to come back to it because this is going to be the whole theme of Alma's ministry, is deliverance.
And it's going to start first with the Benedi.
It's going to go to Alma,
his father, and it's gonna be transformed in really beautiful and powerful ways
in Alma the Younger. You are exactly right. This is the theme of the Book of Mormon
captured here. Alma the Younger is going to be our great teacher of that, taking
it from his father. The text doesn't say this, but Limhi is the son of Noah, right
John? Right. And I'm assuming that Limhi was alive for a lot of his father's ministry.
That means he might have seen Alma as one of the wicked priests.
How interesting, yeah.
How do they relate to each other?
Yeah, here we are.
Okay, Limhi, listen up.
Alma's going to say something.
You need to hear this.
Yeah, and Limhi's going, wow. Yes, Limhi, listen up. Alma's gonna say something. You need to hear this.
And Limhi's going, wow.
Yes, that is amazing.
This is surreal, right?
That he is up there teaching.
No wonder there's that sorrowing, rejoicing.
They're struck by amazement.
I mean, including Limhi, like wow.
Yeah.
That guy, I knew him.
I knew him. Yeah. He was not that when I knew him. Yeah. That guy, I knew him. I knew him. Yeah. He was not that when I knew him.
Yeah. Now, I don't think we can leave this Doctrine of Christ chapter without looking at
verse 23, and it's going to talk about the seven churches that are established by Alma.
It references a very important part of this, to take upon them the name of Christ or of God.
You're never going to hear this beautiful doctrine of Christ without taking upon us his name,
which I think is capturing the covenant relationship that's established with God
in this doctrine of Christ, that it's really establishing that relationship through which
this doctrine of Christ, that it's really establishing that relationship through which conversion and change can take place. All of these things are really important, faith, repentance, baptism, the gift of the Holy Ghost, they happen within relationship.
A relationship that's established by covenant connection. It's such a beautiful relationship that the Lord endows us with his name. That's how close he wants to be with us. That we are his, as if we were his own, in his own household, or in his own embrace, in his own family.
Right off, we're going to hear, development happens from within relationship. That's absolutely true in family life. Development spiritually happens from within covenant relationship. Taking upon us His name is the language of covenant relationship that allows the doctrine of Christ to do its beautiful work in our lives.
Now we get to 26 and it's painful. It's the painful part.
I like starting in verse 21, how are we going to organize all these new people that want to believe it sounds, Hank, like Alma baptizes Limhi.
Yeah.
That's interesting.
Yeah.
Hey, will you baptize me?
Wow.
I love verse 21.
They did assemble themselves together in different bodies being called churches.
Now, have you heard this word before?
The word does come up before, but he's explaining it.
Every priest preaching the word according as it was delivered to him by the mouth of
Alma, thus notwithstanding there being many churches, they were all one church.
Yea, even the church of God. There was nothing preached in all the churches except it were,
here we go again, repentance and faith in God, doctrine of Christ. Now there were seven churches
in the land of Zarahemla. I just like the idea of, I have on my margin one church, many meeting houses.
I like that he's explaining, we are one church, but we are many. These communities are going to
meet in smaller groups all over the place, but there's one church. John, you referenced
so importantly that priesthood keys that are included here that allow for that oneness,
that allow for covenant relationship to be established that allow for that oneness, that allow for covenant
relationship to be established and allow for that correlation to happen. It
happens through priesthood keys. Beautiful that we see that here. Sheri Dew, it
wasn't her that said it. She was at a training. One of the visiting authorities
said Satan will do everything he can to separate you from priesthood keys and I thought how interesting as we've talked about
covenants and the church and their importance and if somebody's trying to
separate you from keys from priesthood keys I hope you see who's behind that. Wow
that's powerful it is the way whereby Christ is accessed through those
priesthood keys that opens the channel,
yes, through which covenants can be established.
How cool was that to have President Nelson talk about keys and Kirtland?
Yep, temples, covenants.
Oh, yes.
Yeah, it was fun.
I went to my classes.
What was conference about?
There are temples.
Yeah.
Yeah, I got that impression too.
I think of the 1830 church and it's kind of like a ward. And then we keep making these little
1830 churches all over. With 24-year-old bishops and 22-year-old bishops, right? Yeah.
That early church. Yeah. John, you mentioned one church, many meeting houses.
I've loved hearing from those who listen to our show all over the world.
It's surprising the different countries.
Where were people listening?
Kuwait?
Didn't we hear that last week, Hank?
Kuwait?
Yeah.
India?
Come onto YouTube, tell us who you are and where you're listening from.
We would love to see the many churches but one church.
It'd be fun for you to see that, Jennet, all those who hear this.
And all of us doing the same sections of scripture together. It's like, wow!
How cool is that?
Yeah. Chapter 26 is where it gets a little hard because we've had the joy of the church being
established and the miracle of the Holy Ghost being poured out on these newly baptized members
and all organized under teachers that teach them the doctrine of Christ. And then it says we had a
rising generation that could not understand, did not believe, rejected the doctrine of Christ
and are trying to destroy the church.
Really, it's a really tough issue because we're trying to figure out the church and the state in a sense,
because we still have a king who was the leader of the church in a sense.
And so now who's responsible for this? And we see that there's sin going on.
It appears that those who are rejecting Christ are rejecting right
commandments and are rejecting accountability and the resurrection and all of that. It says
in verse 6, they did cause members of the church to commit many sins. Therefore, it
became expedient that those who committed sin were admonished by the church. They come
to Alma, the priests bring these people to Alma, and Alma's like,
I don't know what to do. Aren't we part of a kingdom still that would handle these wrongdoings?
Takes him to Mosiah. Here.
Takes him to Mosiah. Yes. And Mosiah says in verse 12, I judge them not. This doesn't have to do
with the state, Alma. It has to do with the church. I deliver them into thy hands."
And I love that verse 13 where it says, and now the spirit of Alma was again troubled.
Who is this man? He's like been given this huge responsibility. He's in a sense the Joseph,
who's asked to restore the church and establish the church. Alma's in this place, verse 10, there had not any such thing happened before in the church.
I'm looking through the handbook on this, I can't find this. What do I do?
It says in verse 13, he feared that he should do wrong.
You might remember this Hank when President Elson came and gave a devotional at BYU 2019 and he was super open
about the challenge of the policy around the children of LGBTQ parents and it was so tender
to hear him say, whenever the sons and daughters of God weep, for whatever reason, we weep.
So our supplications to the Lord on this issue continued and I could hear in Alma and our dear president else in that same
yearning of prophets
They are suffering. I don't want to do wrong
Help me know what to do
We get the very first prophet revelation written down in the Book of Mormon right here this in answer to question that Alma
Yeah, I put this is the beginning of his Book of Commandments. I put my margin.
Here's the Book of Commandments. Here's section one for Alma, right?
Yeah, so beautiful. It's going to say in verse 14, he pours out his whole soul to God.
There's a wonderful scholar who writes about Enos describing that same thing,
pouring out his soul to God. And the word is kenosis. It's a Greek word that captures this
emptying out of power that then produces power in a religious sense. And you can just hear this.
When we are called upon to offer our all to God in covenant relationship, then not holding
anything back, it opens the door to power and that's what we see in Alma. So we see
the beautiful verses. Hank, do you mind reading 15? Mosiah 26 verse 15. Blessed
art thou Alma and blessed are they who were baptized in the waters of Mormon.
Thou art blessed because of thy exceeding faith in the words alone of my servant Abinadi."
Isn't that beautiful? And then do you see blessed again?
Yeah.
Blessed art thou and blessed are they and blessed art thou. Yay blessed is this people.
And the Lord is telling him, you are so beloved.
Thank you for all you've done. Thank you for what you've done for the people. Thank you for
establishing the church and they will be blessed for bearing my name, being part of this covenant
relationship. He needs a boost, doesn't he? He needs a boost. The next part is really interesting because he's asking
what to do. I mean, the Lord says, blessed are you for asking about what to do for the transgressor.
And you can hear in the Lord himself, I care about these people. Thank you for asking me about them.
Thank you for seeking help in what to do." He's going to talk to Alma about
gathering them as a shepherd does, a sheep. And you're going to hear Alma say,
his son, say that again in Alma 5. It's like he's quoting his father's Book of
Commandments, Revelation, and he'll talk about gathering as a sheep. But then what
the Lord's going to do to him is he's gonna take him past the immediate question
And he's gonna take him to the end of time. It's really interesting
Joe will call this term eschaton
It's a Greek term that focuses on the final event in the divine plan
Here's this Elmi's like this big question. What do I do right now? And the Lord takes him to the end of time and he says,
if they know me, they shall come forth. This is verse 24. And they shall have a place eternally at my right hand that when the second Trump shall sound, if they knew me, they shall come stand at
forth. And those that didn't know me, they will know that I am the Lord, their God. So he's going
to take him to like to the end of time. It's as if he's telling him, Elma, I am the final judge. I will do that. You don't have to worry. I
will do the judging. This whole end thing that you're worried about, am I going to be condemning
people? Am I going to be doing something wrong in this? I will do the judging. Don't you worry
about that. And then he's going to say,
this is what you need to worry about now. And that's when he's going to give him his beautiful answer. Verse 28,
He that will not hear my voice, the same you will not receive into the church, if this is a person who does not want
me to be their Redeemer. And then he describes that you will judge according to the sins which have
been committed. And he's going to use these two words over and over again, teaching him about
repentance and forgiveness, forgiveness and repentance. When people repent, we forgive.
He that forgiveth not will have the same condemnation. So the Lord is going to be
teaching Alma about repentance and forgiveness. He's taken him to the end of the time. I am the final judge. Then he
brings him back to the present and says, these are the truths about repentance and forgiveness.
We forgive, I forgive any and all, whenever they repent. You should also forgive. But
then he's going to say something powerful. and it's really getting to this idea that
the Lord will protect his church. He will need to protect this covenant community. It has to be a stable and protected
community. Elder Oaks explained so powerfully, the objective of church discipline, because that's really what Alma's asking about, how do we respond? The objective of church discipline is to facilitate repentance,
what President Oaks says, and at the same time protect the flock and preserve the good name and
influence of the church. You hear in Alma's answer, right? The Lord is saying there are boundaries around this.
There are some who will be in a sense blotted out, who have rejected and refuse and are
causing harm. I will protect this church. I will protect its purposes in the lives of
people. He's going to teach Alma how to do that, recognizing the whole purpose is to draw people back in,
those that have sinned, to draw them back in, to forgive and invite repentance. But I will
protect my church and there is a boundary around it to facilitate all that is needed in this covenant
community. Towards the end of the year when we get to Moroni 6 and he talks about this is how we
ran the church. It's nine verses Moroni 6 and he has that last part. If some was found to commit
transgression and they repented not, it sounds very much like this. Maybe he drew from this. I also
wanted to emphasize those two words for will not. What's the difference
between will not and cannot in verse 28? It's not those that cannot hear my voice, but those
that will not, they refuse to hear. Oh yeah, that's a good point. And speaking of will
not believe, it's really interesting at the beginning when this rising generation, as
it mentions, starts to go a different direction.
It says in verse 3, now because of their unbelief, they could not understand.
And most of us would think, isn't that the other way around?
I don't understand this, so I don't believe it.
No, it's because of their unbelief they could not understand.
We're told to doubt not, but be believing.
We're a believing people.
Our articles of faith, all but one,
start, we believe. I'm reminded of President Packer who said once that in the world,
seeing is believing, but in the gospel, believing is seeing. It's the faith precedes the miracle
thing. We're also taught that in Polar Express, but I didn't think I'd mention that. That's
interesting that their unbelief made them so they couldn't understand. It's so
interesting in the department to have these remarkable historians, right, who
know all the facts about church history. And they'll talk about what it's like to
engage with people who have questions about things. So often what we might
experience as a question is really what's presenting from a deeper question with people who have questions about things. So often what we might experience
as a question is really what's presenting from a deeper question about
trust. So often something is felt violated or betrayed. There's been an
emotional experience that then we're asking the question seemingly focused on
some aspect of church history or something like that, but really it's belying what's underneath, which is, I don't know if I can believe. I don't
believe this. I can't even hear what some historian might say is accurate facts
because what's really at the core is I don't trust. Some have reasons, having
been betrayed in some way or a trust that felt like it was not fulfilled in some way.
But really at the core so often is trust or belief. 32 chapters from now. In Alma when he
is talking to the Zoramites and he's the best phrase, I love it, will ye give place
that the word might be planted in your heart? Would you open up enough belief to see what this does? Maybe that's what that is. They
didn't give place, so therefore they couldn't understand the Word of God. And that's an act
of faith, to give place. And that's what he was asking them to do. I'm going to tell you something
that based on what your prayer on the rami umptim just said, you don't believe, but don't cast it
out. Give place and see what happens.
Yeah, that is powerful.
I feel for Alma in this chapter. I think of any church leader, a bishop, a stake president,
a Relief Society president, a young women's president,
thinking, I don't want to mess this up.
These are souls.
What if I do something and ruin it?
What if I personally take down the entire church?
Yeah, right there go the pyramids. Yeah
The Lord's response that you showed us Janet is listen. This is my church. I
Am doing this he says in verse 23
It is I that taketh upon me the sins of the world Alma you didn't do that. I
Created them I grant under the end a place at
my right hand. Hey, Alma, you are doing a great work, but just remember who's in charge. And maybe
a bishop or a Relief Study president needs to hear that. Hey. This is so reassuring. I've got
the pronoun circle, verse 22. This is my church. And then him will I freely forgive. It is I that taketh
upon me the sins of the world. It is I that hath created them. It is I that
granteth them the him that believeth unto the end. Place at my right hand. And I was
texting our dear friend Sherri Dew this morning going, I'm trying to remember this
story about President Hinckley being assured this isn't your church, this is
my church. The Lord keeps saying I will do my work. This is my work. I will do the redeeming.
I love you. You're doing great. This is my leather-bound copy.
Oh, that's a special copy, John.
John, it must be nice to read a book and then go, I'll just text the author, right?
Who knows more about President Hinckley? Well, I'll just text the author, right? Yeah, totally.
Who knows more about President Hinckley?
Well, I'll text the biographer,
because usually we're texting about BYU sports.
There was a time when President Hinckley was called
to the first presidency as an additional counselor.
And Sherry said, he used to say, I'm not the third counselor,
I'm an additional counselor or assistant counselor.
The other members of the first presidency were ill and President Hinckley was shouldering a lot of the load of the church.
So listen to this. This is quoting, President Hinckley was faithful to the scope and limits of his stewardship, forwarding many matters to the Twelve.
He was unwilling to move ahead on decisions of any magnitude without the full support
of his brethren.
Nonetheless, at times the load he carried seemed overwhelming.
One day, when faced with an unusually difficult situation for which there appeared to be no
resolution, he dropped to his knees to petition the Lord's help.
He later related what took place.
There came into my mind the words, Be still and know that I am God.
I knew again that this was his work, that he would not let it fail, and that all I had
to do was work at it and do my best and that the work would move forward."
It's okay, this is not your church, this is my church and I've got this.
These verses remind me of what you said earlier, Hank, that this is my church, that you are not the surgeon, you're the assistant.
I love that you emphasize that, John, because later when his own son is lying unconscious for three days,
he gathers the people and his whole thing is, I want you to see
what the Lord has done. He deeply internalizes that message. It is God who is doing this work
in the most personal aspects of his life, Alma the elder's life, his children, and also doing the work
in his sphere as the prophet of the church. Beautiful how he internalizes that message
and you see him bear witness of it to others. Isn't it a miracle that after he receives this
revelation, this instruction, and the Lord tells him, go forth, it says it came to pass in verse
37 that Alma did regulate all the affairs of the church according to this revelation, and they began
again to have peace and to prosper exceedingly in the affairs of the church. Then you hear these remarkable
leaders walking in all diligence, teaching the word of God, suffering affliction,
going forward, trusting the Lord in the work of his church, and it brings about goodness. It brings
about the prosperity of the people. Janet, as I've looked at this chapter, I've thought no matter what Alma does at this point,
someone's going to be unhappy.
And isn't that pretty common in leadership?
Look, I'm deciding who to make mad at me.
How do we help members realize that leaders are in a hard spot?
I know when I have been in the presence of leaders, I've had some interesting interactions
about difficult things and it is so humbling to me to witness their earnestness to do whatever
the Lord wants.
They truly have to lose any sense of, I need validation from others.
They have to leave that space of my decisions are going to be based on validation. I've heard Sister
Beck describe it beautifully. It's like, where are you facing? Are you facing outward or are you facing
upward? Which direction are you facing? And to see the earnestness,
to know and carry out the will of God regardless of what it might mean for how they are spoken
of or how popular they are. And you can see they cannot do otherwise. They cannot do otherwise
because he is their leader. He's the one to whom they must respond.
And I think with it is this assurance as we see in Alma,
if we do that, good will follow.
It's the only path to take that's sure.
It's difficult, but it also sounds freeing that you can say,
I'm putting all that aside.
I'm going to get my message.
I'm going to give it.
Come what may and love it. Yeah
Yes
Elder Worthland. Oh, yeah, I have presided over some membership councils and
The song going through my mind all night long
Who am I to judge another when I walk imperfectly? I remember one time
kneeling down with my counselors and the handbook says, you have to decide and then you ask your counselors
what they think. I felt something lighter than I thought. I think disfellowship. I don't
think, excuse me, on this one. And right when I said it, I heard the words. That's right, Bishop. Just as clear as
somebody was right there. That's right, Bishop. Wow.
Thank you. Thank you.
This is not your church, John. This is mine. I got this. That's right, Bishop. And
probably the clearest thing I've ever heard.
That's right, Bishop, and the clearest things I've ever heard.
John, that is so beautiful because I think that's exactly what Alma is in this place of, right? This isn't about punishing.
It is preserving the church.
But it is this.
I love how President Oaks says in that quote that I just referenced.
He says, the principal purpose is not to punish the transgressor.
In fact, that isn't what the church does.
It isn't punishing, but to aid his repentance and save his soul. And who can know that?
But God, through the power of the Spirit, what needs to be done? That's what Alma is learning. This is not a state-run operation. This is revelatory
church, broken apart from the state, receiving direction about how to help a soul repent
and how to protect the integrity of the church. And I keep thinking of Doctrine and Covenants
year and section 64, those sections in there, I the Lord forgive sins.
It's like, that's what I do.
Boy, you guys mess up a lot, but I the Lord forgive sins as you're trying to figure all
this out.
Wow.
And be gentle with your leaders, everyone out there.
They're not perfect.
They're in a tough spot.
So be gentle, be kind, be merciful, the same way you would hope someone would judge you.
We're talking about these people joining the church, but I love the way it's put in verse 18.
Blessed is this people who are willing to bear my name. Listen to the sacrament prayer, willing to
take upon them the name of thy son. None of us are able, but we can be willing. We can try,
because we're going to stumble. For in my name shall they be called, and I love the Lord says,
and they are mine. I think about when I went to get my scriptures embossed before my mission,
you can put your name on your scriptures. I had the whole conversation, is that really your name?
Yeah, B-Y-T-H-E, yeah, just put it on there.
And what does that say?
It says the scriptures are mine.
When I see people who are willing to bear the name of the Savior, and sometimes in literal
ways putting on the name tag, I think of this verse, they're mine.
The Lord loves us for that.
I think that when we go to sacrament meeting, don't you feel this?
I'm not only willing
to take upon me the name of Christ, I'm honored, I'm humbled, I'm thrilled to take upon me the name.
What other name would you rather have? What a great thing that is to be able to do that every week.
Yeah, it's covenant language. I think whenever we hear that bearing name, I remember hearing
about President Oaks
called to be an apostle. That calling as an apostle is to bear witness of the name of Christ
throughout the world. And he launched into this study of what does it mean? What is this reference
to the name of Christ? And ended up writing a little book that I think didn't get shared widely,
but with these profound insights about the name, referencing
the authority of God, referencing his power to redeem, referencing his ultimate power.
But hearing you describe that, I was reminded of Emily Bell Freeman one time describing
sitting in sacrament meeting, partaking of the sacrament and thinking of all the names that the name of Christ brought with it.
Redeemer, Savior, Comforter, all these names that say, He has made it possible for me to receive
the power of that name in all of its meanings. And it's no end. There's no end to the power
of the name of Christ. So beautiful, be willing to bear that
and receive the gifts that come with it.
Coming up in part two of this episode.
My children are a reflection of me, my skills, my capacities.
Their goodness is an evidence of my goodness
and their failure, it's so human of us as parents
to be like their failure is an indication of my failure. It's so human of us as parents to be like their failure is an indication of my failure.