Hidden Brain - Mind Reading 2.0: Why did you do that?
Episode Date: February 1, 2022As we go through life, we’re constantly trying to figure out what other people are thinking and feeling. Psychologist Liane Young says this ability to assess other people's thoughts ​is an extraor...dinary feat of cognition. But this mental superpower can sometimes lead us astray. This week, we kick off a new series exploring how we understand — or fail to understand — the minds of other people.If you like this show, please check out our new podcast, My Unsung Hero! And if you’d like to support our work, you can do so at support.hiddenbrain.org.
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This is Hidden Brain, I'm Shankar Vedantam.
All parents have moments when their kids test their patients.
Lian Yang is no exception.
I often yell at my kids for things that they did by accident,
like spilling a smoothie or leaving a cap off of a permanent marker
and, you know, making black permanent stains all over the sofa.
When this happens and the couches covered in black splotches or they're smoothie on
the floor, the perpetrators inevitably offer this defense.
It was an accident.
It's not my fault.
I didn't mean to do it.
I shouldn't say this but I tell them it doesn't matter that you didn't mean to do it. I shouldn't say this, but I tell them it doesn't matter that you didn't mean to do it.
What matters is that you won't do it again.
Leanne's reaction while understandable is deeply ironic.
She's a psychologist who studies how we read other people's intentions.
We need to think about other people's minds in order to figure out who our friends are,
who to avoid, whom to punish, whether to
punish, and we need to read people's intentions in any ordinary interaction, like having a conversation
and figuring out what to say and how to respond.
As we go through life, we are constantly making sense of people's actions by interpreting
their intentions.
Our ability to read what is happening in other people's minds is like an invisible compass
guiding us through life.
But sometimes it leads us astray.
We misread other people's intentions, especially when we are hurt or angry.
This week on Hidden Brain, how our powers of observation allow us to navigate our social
worlds until they don't.
It's the start of a series we're calling Mind Reading 2.0.
It explores a topic listeners have asked us about a lot.
How to decode what's going on in other people's heads?
We are constantly trying to read other people's minds. When we interact with friends, relatives
and co-workers, we ask ourselves, what is going on in this other person's head?
What is she want?
What are his intentions?
Our ability to read other minds involves an extraordinary feat of cognition, yet it mostly
unfolds in our heads without us being aware of it.
Minus the skill, the simplest of interactions would be mired in confusion and misunderstanding.
Leanne Young is a psychologist and neuroscientist at Boston College.
She has spent years studying this mental ability and the profound effects it has on our lives.
Leanne Young, welcome to Hidden Brain.
Thanks so much, it's good to be here, Shankar.
I want to start with a very simple example that shows how important it is for us to read
what's happening in the minds of other people.
In the 1993 movie Mrs. Doubtfire starring Robin Williams, the character's Daniel and Miranda
have split up, and Daniel comes up with this unconventional way to win Miranda back.
He returns to the house in disguise as Mrs. Doubtfire, an elderly widow who seeks
a role of nanny and housekeeper. Now, he quickly wins the trust of the family. Very soon, Miranda
is asking Mrs. Doubtfire for life advice, including whether to go on a date where the
man she's just met.
Mrs. Doubtfire, let me ask you a question.
Oh, sir. How long after Mr. Duffer passed away, Winston,
did you feel any desire?
Never.
Never.
Never again.
Never again.
Once the father of your children is out of the picture,
the only solution is total and lifelong celibacy.
Cellimacy? Yes. picture. The only solution is total and lifelong celibacy. So, Leanne, if we lack the capacity
to read what was happening inside the minds of Daniel and Miranda, how would that change
how we understood this scene? Well, I think we wouldn't be able to appreciate the humor
and the irony in that scene where Daniel is essentially, he knows what is going on with his wife and
he is trying to get his wife to not date this other man.
And of course, we know that the wife doesn't know Daniel's true identity as Daniel.
She thinks that he is this housekeeper and we know that she doesn't know.
And so there's this very sort of layered understanding that we need to have as the audience
to find the scene funny.
Yeah.
We can't find it funny without realizing that she doesn't know what he knows and then
who he is.
Right.
So we're able to read in some ways that he has an agenda here because he wants to
keep his wife from dating other men. And we also understand that she doesn't know what's
going on. But what's interesting to me, Leanne, is that we entue all of this effortlessly.
No one sits down as they're watching the movie and actually says to themselves, all right,
this is who, what's going through his head, this is what's going through her head. It's
the fact we're able to take it in so effortlessly that allows us to understand the scene. Yeah, so we're able to, and I remember watching this movie
as a as a child who of course hadn't had the benefit of studying how theory of mine works
in the brains of children and adults, and I still found it very funny. I knew exactly what was
happening, who was misunderstanding, who knew
what other people didn't know, and so on in order to be able to enjoy the scene and
really the entire movie.
So you used the term just now, Theory of Mind.
It's a term that you and other researchers have to describe our capacity to understand
what is happening in the minds of other people.
Can you explain what that term means to me?
Yes.
So I should say that many psychologists and neuroscientists
use a number of different terms.
Theory of mind is one of those terms
and that describes the theory that we all
have, ordinary people have, about other people's minds.
And what I mean by that is how we understand
that other people have thoughts, beliefs, desires,
and intentions, mental states in general.
And so other terms that have been used
for this general cognitive capacity
include mental state reasoning, mentalizing,
reasoning about intentions, and so on.
And again, the fact that we do it so effortlessly,
many of us don't even realize that
we are doing it.
Many of us don't realize that if we are having a conversation and we were not able to
intuit what was happening in someone else's mind, really difficult to have a conversation.
Exactly.
Even as you and I are having this conversation, Shankar, I'm trying to figure out, you know,
what it is that you want to know and how to explain
the term theory of mine in a way that will be accessible and so on.
And sometimes we take different cues from people as we're having that conversation, whether
they're nodding their heads, whether they're pausing, whether they look confused and so
on.
And so we take in all of that information to figure out what people are thinking and how
they're responding to the information that we're giving them.
Nearly all the world's greatest stories ask you to exercise theory of mind, to inhabit the minds of other people.
Think of books such as Kazoo or Ishigoro's The Remains of the Day, or TV shows such as Breaking Bad, or musicals like Hamilton.
I think it's really important that we're able to take the perspective of different characters
when we're watching movies, watching TV shows, reading books, and often as the reader, as the
viewer, we have a sort of different, in some cases, omniscient perspective. We can see the scene unfolding in a way that characters
within the scene cannot.
And so on one level, we understand what's going on
in a way that characters within the story do not.
And we also are able to not just get into the minds of characters
but get into the hearts of characters as well.
So we know how they're feeling and how they're reacting
and responding in ways that maybe other characters
in the story don't.
So psychologists have found different ways to measure this ability and to test how it develops in small children.
What are they finally at? Is this a skill we are born with at birth or is it something that develops over time?
Is this a skill we are born with at birth? Or is it something that develops over time?
This is a little bit controversial in the field,
but I think what is generally recognized in the field
is that at least children's capacity
for explicit theory of mind being able to reason
and verbalize answers to theory of mind tasks,
that ability emerges between the ages of three
and five years.
Psychologists are able to administer batteries of theory of mind task to young children
to figure out when exactly it is that individual children are able to think about other agents
in the world as having minds that are maybe separate from the reality of a situation.
Some of these tests create artificial situations where one character knows more than another.
Daniel, in Mrs. Doubtfire, understands the sub-diffuse she is perpetrating.
Miranda does not.
The tests evaluate where the children can keep track of all the different perspectives
in the minds of different characters,
that one person has a belief that's true, for example, and another has a belief that's false.
So one example of a false belief task would be the Sally and task, in which you have two puppets,
Sally and Anne. Sally is playing with a ball and then she takes the ball and puts it away in a basket.
She leaves the room and another puppet comes in and moves the ball to a different location
and then children are asked when Sally comes back into the room, where does she think
her ball is?
Did Sally see Anne move the block?
Because she was outside.
That's right.
So, that's right. She didn't see.
So, when Sally come back in,
what where will she think the block is?
And there, but it's not it's in there.
So, she'll think it's in there.
And three-year-old children will tend to say
that she thinks the ball is where it really is,
even though she's not supposed to know that, Anne came in and moved her ball whereas older children by the time children are five,
they know that Sally has a false belief about where that ball is.
Right.
So once Anne moves the ball, a small children deduce or believe that Sally must somehow intuitively
also know that the ball has been moved to the new location,
whereas older children realize,
no, Sally, in fact, does not have the same mind as Anne,
and what Anne knows is not what Sally knows.
Sally knows only what she knows,
and as far as she knows, the ball is in the old location.
So when she returns to the room,
she's gonna guess that that's where it's still is.
Why do you think she'll think that?
I don't know, to keep put it there.
Yes, that's exactly right.
So younger children through old children
don't have a concept that people could have beliefs in their heads
that depart from the reality of the world, the facts of the situation.
So we've looked at a couple of humorous examples of how theory of mind operates.
But I want to stress again, this capacity we have to intuit what's happening in the minds of other people.
This is a skill that we use all the time.
Can you talk a moment, Leigh Ann,
about what would happen if we lack this skill?
Are there people in fact who do not have this skill
as they move through life?
Yeah, this is in a uniform capacity that we see
the same in all people across all situations.
It can be dependent on the individual.
It can be dependent on the context, even in healthy, typical populations.
We've also looked at specific patient populations as well, including patients with specific brain
damage.
We've looked at prison inmates with a clinical diagnosis
of psychopathy, and we've looked at high functioning adults with autism. And so we've seen sort
of a range of behavioral patterns across different populations of people in terms of how they
use and how they deploy theory of mind capacities
for moral judgments in particular.
Leon and others have found that people who have a difficult time
inturing what is going on in the minds of other people
find themselves hamstrung as they go through life.
They can be awkward in interpersonal settings.
They can fail to read the room in a meeting.
They may even demonstrate reduced empathy for others.
Moving through the world, without an understanding that other minds are different than your own,
that they have different intentions, desires, and hopes,
this is like playing music without a sense of rhythm.
You find yourself constantly out of sync with your fellow musicians.
I mean, we've all been a situation where a joke falls flat
because the person who's telling the joke
is unable to appropriately assess the mood in this space
or what other people know or don't know and so on.
Right.
And so certainly there are many cases of that.
And then there are sort of the opposite cases
where we really admire individuals for having a keen sense of what other people are thinking and feeling, and able to shape a conversation
or discussion in that way.
You know, I'm reminded of the work of the psychologist, E. Tori Higgins, who's done some work looking
at politicians who are very skilled at reading a room.
He has described this phenomenon called audience, where in some ways the politicians are changing what they say in order to be best received by the
people in the room.
They're in some ways manipulating the people in the room, but they're also being manipulated
by the people in the room so that what they say aligns with the audience in the room.
It's interesting.
So theory of mind is not just, I suppose, on an interpersonal level,
it can also happen at a group setting where we entue how a group of people is feeling or feeling
toward us. Yeah, you're right. And so it can be very complicated trying to figure out how theory of
mind plays out in any given situation. You know, on my lab, when I'm particularly in on Zoom in
the pandemic, it can be a lot harder to read the room if you will figure out, you know, on my lab, when I'm particularly in Zoom in the pandemic, it can be a lot
harder to read the room if you will figure out, you know, as a group how people are doing
and how to shape that space.
Leon and other researchers have tried to understand how the physical brain produces the
superpower.
Surprisingly, they found a specific region of the brain plays a crucial role.
They've even found you can temporarily disrupt this brain region
and profoundly change the ways people think and act.
That's when we come back.
You're listening to Hidden Brain. I'm Shankar Vedanta. To navigate our social worlds, we rely on something
psychologists call theory of mind. It's our ability to guess the intentions, desires, and motivations of other people.
When your coworker tells you she's thrilled it's Monday, you know that sarcasm because
you unconsciously pick up the intention behind her words.
But it's amazing as our social antenna can be.
They can also sometimes make mistakes.
We can misread other people's intentions.
Maybe your coworker really does
like Mondays. Psychologist and neuroscientist Leanne Young studies how our brains read intention,
both the intentions of others and of ourselves, especially when it comes to our moral judgments.
Leanne, you run experiments where you test how volunteers react to a story about a woman
who accidentally poisoned her friend.
Can you tell me the setup of the experiment and describe the scenario in more detail?
Yes, absolutely.
So we usually have our subjects read stories that we write about other people who are performing
actions that have effects on other people in the scenario.
So in one story, we have a person named Grace who put some powder into a co-workers coffee.
And in one scenario, she thinks the powder is sugar, but the powder turns out to be poison.
And she ends up poisoning her friend. So that's a version of the scenario
in which someone causes harm to someone else by accident
because of a false belief.
In another version of the story, Grace puts powder
into her co-workers' coffee, she thinks the powder is poison,
but it turns out to be sugar.
So that's a situation in which she has a harmful intention, but no harm is done.
So in these two cases, there is a conflict between the intention of the agent and the outcome
of the agent's action. And so we can ask our volunteer participants for their moral judgments of both the person,
the agent performing the action, and also the action itself, whether this action is morally
permissible or morally forbidden. And using these kinds of scenarios and these kinds of
moral judgment skills, we can get a sense for the extent to which different people rely on information about intentions to make
their moral judgments.
So you and I, for instance, could have very different views about how bad it is to accidentally
poison a coworker.
And sort of depending on the circumstances, there could be a situation
in which there's just no way she could have known maybe somebody swapped the sugar and
the poison, and she had the best of intentions.
And so those are cases where there's a lot of flexibility for individual variation in
moral judgments.
We can apply that same reasoning to the case of a failed attempt to cause harm to.
Some people might focus more on the neutral outcome, the fact that nothing bad happened
at all, whereas other folks might focus a lot more on the fact that this person just
tried to poison their coworker, and that's very, very bad.
Yeah, as I was listening to those scenarios, I would have said that the person who didn't mean to harm her friend but accidentally caused harm is in fact innocent, but the person who
didn't cause harm when she intended to cause harm was in fact culpable that this was an
act of attempted murder.
You have the insight to study not just how people reach different conclusions, but how
their brains were operating as they reached these different moral judgments.
Can you tell me about those studies and what you found, Leon?
So we've run a number of studies now using brain imaging techniques to look at how people's
brains are responding as they're making moral judgments of these kinds of cases.
And so what we found in one study was that a brain region called the right
temporal pyridol junction, which is right above and behind your right ear, processes information
about people's intentions. And what we found was that the more in individuals, uh, right temporal
pyridol junction responds, as they are making these moral judgments,
the more they are using information
about innocent intentions to let the person
who caused harm by accident off the hook.
And so we see this correlation between brain activity
and this region that tracks intention information
and the moral judgments that people
are making of accidental harms.
So you could of course say that merely because
a brain region appears active, you don't necessarily know
that it's actually connected to the outcome and behavior
that you're seeing, but you've got to step further
to actually test whether this brain region is in fact
implicated in understanding the intentions of others.
Tell me how you've done this Leon.
In addition to using brain imaging,
which helps us to track what brains are doing
as people are making moral judgments,
we've also used a technique called
Trainscranial Magnetic Stimulation, or TMS,
for short, to temporarily disrupt activity
in this particular brain region,
the right temporal-pridal junction,
to see what effect that has on the moral
judgments that people make.
And so when we temporarily disrupt activity in this brain
region, we see that people's moral judgments rely less
on information about intentions in these kinds of cases
that we've been talking about.
So to give you an example, if you are
reading a story about somebody who tries to poison their friend, but fails to do so because
they mistook the substance for poison, but it was in fact sugar, if I am disrupting activity
in your right-temperprile junction, you'll be more likely to say that that is more okay
than if I didn't disrupt activity in your right
temporal-pridal junction.
That is actually somewhat disturbing, isn't it?
The idea that you disrupt a small portion of my brain and something that I think of
as core to myself, how I think of myself as being a moral person can be altered by small
changes in neurochemistry.
I think a lot of us share the intuition that is confirmed
by recent empirical work in psychology that how we think about moral situations or moral
beliefs are really central to what we consider to be our identity. We take our moral identity
central to our self-concept. And so to think that interventions, scientific interventions, can alter our moral judgments is in some ways upsetting.
That said, as neuroscientists,
we've assumed all along that our moral judgments
have some place in the brain.
And so it stands to reason that when you disrupt activity
in people's brains that you will be disrupting
the kinds of judgments that we'll be disrupting the kinds of judgments
that we'll be making too,
including moral judgments.
And there is so much work on the unconscious influences
on behavior.
And so, social psychologists have shown
that the smell of freshly baked cookies
can alter charitable giving behavior,
whether someone is in a rush to get somewhere, can change or impact the likelihood of
they're stopping to give money to a homeless person. I think that there are environmental
influences, there are cultural differences in the degree to which people rely on intention information. And so in many ways, I'm not sure
that I would be more upset by the fact
that smelling fresh cookies is going to impact my behavior
or somebody applying transcranial magnetic stimulation
to my brain is going to impact my behavior
or my decision-making.
So much of our moral reasoning depends on our ability to consider the intentions of other
people. When someone makes a mistake but we see they didn't mean to do it, we usually
are less harsh with them. This is why kids say it was an accident. But as Leon points
out, a number of factors can change how and whether we are willing
to consider the intentions of a wrong door.
When someone steps on your toe in the hallway, you automatically assume they didn't mean
to do it.
Your mind gravitates to an innocent explanation.
But other situations work the opposite way.
They make it nearly impossible for us to think about the intentions behind an outcome.
Consider this disturbing new story out of Chicago.
At 6 o'clock in off-duty Chicago police officer now sided with hitting and killing a nine-year-old boy riding his bike in West Rogers Park.
Hershel Weinberger died Wednesday night after a pickup truck hit him in the crosswalk at Sacramento
in Chase right by his house.
The driver who stayed at the scene was that off-duty police officer.
He's been sighted with him.
Now, when I hear this, I find it really difficult to think about whether the police officer
meant to do any harm.
A nine-year-old child is dead.
The intentions of the driver seem irrelevant.
And when I hear, as actually happened in this case,
that the police officer was given a traffic citation
rather than a criminal charge, I feel outraged.
But here's the thing, if the cop had run a stop sign
and that was the end of it,
do I think he should be criminally charged?
That would be absurd.
So the same actions, with the same intentions,
caused my mind to reach for very different
conclusions. There is this terrible tension between the fact that nobody meant any harm,
nobody meant to kill anyone, and the fact that this nine year old boy died. And to take
it a step further, you could think of a case in which he hadn't
run a stop sign. Maybe he was just driving and the child came out of nowhere. I think
we would still have the intuition that if you caused that event to happen, if you caused
that bad outcome, then there is a way in which you are causally responsible for something
very bad that you didn't know that you would be doing and maybe could not have prevented.
And so it's really tricky to figure out how to handle that kind of case, as you point
out, I think different people have different responses to what happened and what should
be done and how to prevent that from happening again.
There are other situations where our ability to think about intentions gets disabled.
If we hear that someone has knowingly committed incest with a sibling,
you might not stop to think about whether both siblings consented
or that no one else was affected.
The violation of the taboo, the outcome, is all that matters.
And often in these cases, we downplay intent information.
It doesn't matter that you didn't know
the fact that you did it is bad enough.
And so that happens for, again,
as I mentioned, violations related to food and sex
and those are cases in which once you are sort of defiled,
there's very little that you can do to get clean again.
And there's very little that you could say to sort of justify or mitigate the behavior,
including that you didn't know or that it wasn't done on purpose.
I want to talk a moment, Leanne, about how our understanding of events changes as our
understanding of the intentions behind
those events changes.
On September 11, 2001, when the first plane hit the World Trade Center tower, no one knew
what was happening.
Many new reports, in fact, speculated it might have been some kind of accident.
But when the second plane hit, it changed the way people understood what was happening.
The second plane made it clear the attacks were intentional.
I want to play you a clip of a bystander talking to CBS News, at the point where this clip
starts, only the first plane has hit the towers.
We heard it and because I was just like standing there, pretty much looking out the window,
I didn't see what caused it or if there was an impact.
So you have no idea right now?
Out of another one, another plane just hit.
Right, oh my god, another plane has just hit another building.
Pull right into the middle of it, explosion.
Like, oh, it's right in the middle of the building.
This one into the east tower.
Yes, that was definitely look like it was on purpose.
You saw a plane.
Yeah, I just saw a plane go in to the building.
So as soon as the second plane hits Leanne, this bystanders understanding of the intentions
behind the event changes, and that changes her understanding of the event itself.
Yeah, exactly.
So whether we interpret an event as just a natural disaster or a technical malfunction or as a coordinated
planned attack can really affect the way that we respond to those events.
And so when we hear about something like that, I think, first we ask ourselves or read the news to find out what happened, and then we
want to know why and who if relevant.
So we ask those kinds of questions in that order.
And as you say, our answers to those questions really help shape our understanding of an event
as either misfortune or we are trying to figure out who did it and why and what we can do to prevent it from happening in the future.
So do you think this is why in some ways we have this capacity in our heads in the first place?
I remember on 9-11 I was working in the newsroom of the Washington Post and once we knew that two planes had hit the World Trade Center and a third plane had hit the Pentagon, it was clear that we
were under attack, at which point it prompted us to say, okay, what should we do?
Could we be under attack?
Is there some danger that's facing us?
And of course, if our reading of the events had been different, if we had said, all right,
this was an isolated accident.
It was just a plane that basically lost control and happened to fly into the World Trade
Center building.
Our response to the incident would be entirely different.
We would say, okay, we need to have better flight security measures, better pilot training.
So our responses to the events are very different as we read the intentions behind those events.
And I'm wondering, do you think this might be partly why our brains come with this capacity to read intentions
because as we read intentions,
it tells us how to respond to the world.
Absolutely.
I think our ability to read intentions
tells us how to evaluate the events around us,
how to understand them,
how to predict what's going to happen in the future
and how to interact with people in the present.
And so all of that depends on our ability to figure out intentions and distinguished
intentional events from accidental events.
This happens in a lot of news events that we read.
When we read about a building collapsing, we think, you know, what happened and how can
we prevent that from happening in the future?
And again, our answers to those questions depend on whether that happened on purpose, whether someone
caused it or whether it was an earthquake, for instance. And so I think your question about
why it is that we have this capacity is a really important one. And I think we don't have an answer to that question yet
as a psychologist, in part because there's so many reasons
why that capacity for a theory of mind
could be important.
We need to think about other people's minds
in order to figure out whom to learn from,
who's the right expert in a particular domain.
We need to know about people's intentions to figure out who our friends are,
who to avoid, whom to punish, whether to punish,
and we need to read people's intentions in any ordinary interaction,
like having a conversation and figuring out what to say and how to respond. When we come back, the ability we have to read other people's minds can be a super power,
but this super power can fail us, sometimes with terrible consequences.
You're listening to Hidden Brain, I'm Shankar Vedantam.
This is Hidden Brain, I'm Shankar Vedantam.
Our ability to read the minds of other people is something of a mental superpower.
It allows us to effortlessly navigate a complex social world
and entue what other people want and how they feel. This superpower helps us understand when bad
things happen by accident, when they happen by design, and it allows us to tell friend from foe.
Of course, the fact that our minds read so much into the intentions of others also makes
the superpower ripe for exploitation by con artist, marketing gurus and politicians.
At Boston College, neuroscientists Leanne Young studies the psychology of theory of mind
our ability to think about the mental states of others including their intentions.
In her lab, she and her colleagues
explore the role of intention when it comes to making moral judgments. Leanne, I want to talk about
some ways in which our ability to read other people's intentions can sometimes go wrong. And I want
to start again with television and the arts. There's a very funny scene in the TV show Seinfeld.
The character George has just gone on a date with a new love interest. They drive back to her and the arts, there's a very funny scene in the TV show Seinfeld.
The character George has just gone on a date with a new love interest.
They drive back to her apartment, they're sitting in the car outside its midnight,
the air is crackling with sexual tension, and here's what happens next.
So thanks for dinner, it was great.
Okay.
We should do this again.
Would you like to come upstairs for some coffee?
Oh, no, thank you.
I can't drink coffee late at night.
It keeps me up.
Oh, God.
Oh, God.
Oh, God.
So, um, okay.
Okay.
Good night.
Yeah, take it easy.
Leana, I'm not sure if you're a fan of SignFell, but what makes this clip funny is that George is actually not picking up on her intentions.
I am a fan and it's a very funny clip because it captures this phenomenon that we study in psychology called indirect speech, which allows for misinterpretation of intentions.
Because she's inviting George up for, quote, coffee, as opposed to asking him up more directly, it gives her plausible deniability.
So if she declines the invitation, she declines the invitation, she doesn't have to feel bad or offended or lose her pride.
But on the other hand, it also leaves room for just
misinterpretation and miscommunication, which is what happens a lot in real life.
Such miscommunications can be trivial, but they can also sometimes have life and death consequences.
A police officer might have to make a split-second decision about whether a suspect is reaching into a pocket to grab a cell phone or to grab a gun.
The officer has to read the other person's intentions in order to decide how to respond, and how he reads those intentions could be shaped by all manner of factors, including
bias.
Again, there is this question of what cues we are using to read people's intentions from
their actions and what is really tricky about this problem is that we can't see into people's
heads, we can't observe their thoughts or their feelings, we can only observe
what people do and in this case people's body movements reaching into a pocket, reaching
into a glove compartment.
And so that leaves room for misinterpretation and really awful consequences.
So the fact that our ability to read intentions happens,
you know, unconsciously, that most of us are not even aware
that we are doing it, I'm wondering how much of a role
that plays in our misreading of other people's intentions,
because presumably that also is happening unconsciously.
Absolutely.
And there are many cases in which we don't realize that we are
misreading people's intentions. In the Seinfeld clip, George realized shortly after the fact that
he missed the boat on that opportunity because he didn't catch what the woman was doing,
but there are many cases in which we don't catch our mistakes and we're not able to fix them after
the fact.
I'm wondering in your own life, Leanne,
have you noticed this happening of people failing
to pick up on things, reading each other wrong?
You've, I think, described during the pandemic
wearing a mask as you go into some stores
or other social settings,
and wondering what people must think of you
and what your intentions are.
The pandemic is a really interesting case of intention reading and misunderstanding.
So there have definitely been instances in which I've gone into a public indoor space wearing
a mask and I wonder what people think about what I'm doing.
Do people think that I'm unvaccinated
because I'm wearing a mask?
And then I have to sort of stop and think about,
well, what do I think when I see somebody wearing a mask indoors?
Do I think that they're unvaccinated
or do I think that they're being extra careful?
Do I think that they're immunocompromised
or if they have young children who are unvaccinated
and so on and so it becomes a really interesting exercise
to think about how people are reading my intentions
and then how to read other people's intentions
and sort of backtrack from that exercise to the other.
When we see someone wearing a mask or not wearing a mask during the COVID pandemic, many of us assume
we can read the minds of the people making those choices. We feel we can even read their character,
tell if they are good people or bad people. It turns out we do this a lot in politics. We regularly
misread the intentions behind the choices of our political opponents.
We see them as malevolent. Here's a political attack act from the presidential race in 1988. His revolving door prison policy gave weekend furloughs to first-degree murderers not eligible
for parole, while out many committed other crimes like kidnapping and rape, in many are
still at large.
Now Michael DeCocca says he wants to do for America what he's done for Massachusetts.
America can't afford that risk.
So what I hear in the ad lian is that Michael de Caccus was intentionally allowing criminals
to go scot free and commit more crimes.
And, you know, the ad doesn't explicitly say that, but I think it leads me to that conclusion.
That's right.
There are many cases where because intentions are not black and white, because we can't
see them, there's no clear evidence for intentions.
This is a case where politicians are able to frame
or reframe their opponents' intentions. However, they see fit to be able to shape other people's
thoughts and feelings about others. There's this sort of ambiguity in this space.
Politicians have the opportunity to be able to create different narratives, particularly
about people's intentions.
I'm wondering how much of the daily partisan rancor that we hear, not just in the United
States, but in other countries, is shaped by misreading the intentions of our opponents
that we're not just taking what they say and do at face value,
but we're reading into it what we assume
to be their intentions.
A lot of times people do engage
in this willful misunderstanding or misinterpretation
of the minds of people on the other side,
but then in a lot of cases,
I think this happens sort of automatically and unconsciously.
We give people that we know and like the benefit of the doubt. And often those are the folks who are on our team or in our party.
And we can interpret or understand those events very, very differently. So if you imagine that somebody in your party is being accused of some transgression,
in your party is being accused of some transgression, you might start to seek alternative explanations for why they did what they were accused of doing, whereas if you heard the same story of somebody
committing a crime on the other side, then you might automatically take that story description
at face value that they're guilty. Mm-hmm. You've conducted studies involving Democrats and Republicans
or Israelis and Palestinians and obviously each of those groups is prone to mistreating
the intentions of their opponents. What kind of a study was this and what did you find, Leah?
We ran a series of studies in which we tested American Democrats and Republicans and also Palestinians
and as well as the Middle East and we gave them examples of acts of aggression in both of those cases and asked our participants
to attribute motives.
And what we found, which is maybe not so surprising, but was very consistent across those different
groups of people, was that people were more likely to attribute acts of aggression
performed by their own group to in-group love. People are just trying to defend their own values
and their own people, whereas people would attribute those same acts of aggression performed by an out-group
to out-group hatred. They're doing this to retaliate. They're doing this to attack us.
And so it's very interesting that we see this asymmetry in how people are attributing motives
underlying the very same actions depending on whether those acts are being performed by
people on our side or people on the other side.
This tendency to be selective in how we read intentions extends well beyond the realm of politics.
Leanne says we often interpret intentions in a way that confirms the stories we wish to tell about ourselves and others.
I think we do that all the time and we do that in the ways that we interpret the intentions and actions of our friends as opposed to people we don't know or
people that we know but don't like. We give our friends the benefit of the doubt. We give ourselves
the benefit of the doubt. We don't want to see ourselves as bad people. We don't want to see
our friends as bad people. And so again, if you encounter a friend doing something morally ambiguous, you might make up an excuse
for why they did that in order to read their behaviors as fitting with your narrative of
being friends.
And so it's very interesting that we see this asymmetry in how people are attributing motives
underlying the very same actions in very different ways depending on
whether those acts are being presented as performed
by people on our side or people on the other side.
You know, I'm reminded of a conversation
that's coming up in a few weeks.
It's part of our mind reading series
and this is where the linguist Deborah Tannen,
she says it can be hard to recognize someone's intentions
even when you're having a conversation with them,
but it's worth assuming their intentions are good
because that makes for a smoother conversation.
I'm wondering how you've taken the research
that you've done Leanne and applied these insights
in your own life.
I think it's really useful for both relationships
and also for ourselves to give others around
as the benefit of the doubt.
I think it makes for smoother social interactions
and also for happier selves.
What I've told my students is that if you have a bad
interaction with someone, chances are they're not
trying to offend you or insult you,
maybe they're having a bad day,
maybe they didn't get enough sleep.
And I tell them to sort of think about insult you, maybe they're having a bad day, maybe they didn't get enough sleep.
And I tell them to sort of think about our one-on-one interactions in the same context that if we
have a bad conversation, it's probably because, you know, I am feeling bad that I yelled
at a kid that morning and has nothing to do with, you know, their paper or their project.
And so again, we come back to this idea
of giving people the benefit of the doubt
and taking intentions into consideration.
I also think about times when I'm on the road
and I get upset when other drivers cut me off.
And there's really nothing that I can do about it
aside from give them the benefit of the doubt,
because I know that when I'm the one who's speeding
or cutting other people off,
usually it's because my three year old in the back seat
says she needs to go to the potty
or because we're rushing to an event and we're late.
And so to be able to extend that to other people,
both strangers and the people that we interact
with on a regular basis, I think just
makes for happier interactions all around. Isn't it really hard to do the lian? I feel like,
even as I seek compassion and empathy from other people, it's hard for me to sort of give them
the compassion and empathy that they seek. So there's a real paradox here. It's really hard. It's really hard to take that step back and think about what are the
situational stresses and influences that could be leading to other people's actions,
whereas it's sometimes easier to see those external pressures on our own selves and lives
and interactions. And so if we're able to pause in the midst of a tricky interaction and think about what that other
person is trying to do or not trying to do, again, that will lead to much smoother, much
more positive interactions and ultimately relationships.
Leanne Young is a psychologist and neuroscientist at Boston College.
Leanne, thank you for joining me today on Hidden Brain.
Thank you so much, Shankar.
Hidden Brain is produced by Hidden Brain Media.
Our production team includes Bridget McCarthy, Annie Murphy-Paul, Kristen Wong, Laura Quarelle,
Ryan Katz, Autumn Barnes,
and Andrew Chadwick. Tara Boyle is our executive producer. I'm Hidden Brain's executive editor.
We had voice acting today from Clara and Rose Dubois and Scarlett McNally.
Say, it was an accident. It wasn't an accident. It wasn't accident. It wasn't. Our unsung heroes this week are Isaac Handley Minor and James Dungle.
Isaac and James are respectively current and former graduate students of Leans.
They helped her to brainstorm some of the examples she shared with us in today's episode.
Thank you so much Isaac and James for your help in bringing to life the ideas that we shared today.
Next week on the show, we continue our Mind Reading 2.0 series
where they look at how we often draw the wrong conclusions from our social interactions
leaving us lonelyer than we need to be.
There's just so many mistakes that we fall into,
these sort of social traps that lead us to be a lot more pessimistic
about our social lives than kind of reality warrants. I'm Shankar Vedantam. See you soon. you