Hidden Brain - Radio Replay: Playing The Gender Card
Episode Date: March 2, 2019Annie Duke was about to win $2 million. It was 2004, and she was at the final hand of the World Series of Poker Tournament of Champions. But as a woman at a table full of men, she wasn't sure she dese...rved to be there. In this week's Radio Replay, we tell the stories of two people who grappled with gender stereotypes on the job. Annie Duke shares her experiencing at the World Series of Poker, and then we hear the story of Robert Vaughan, a former Navy sailor who decided to pursue a new career as a nurse.
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This is Hidden Brain, I'm Shankar Vedanta.
We begin today in Las Vegas, the year 2004, the scene, a high stakes poker game.
Our protagonist is a woman named Annie Duke. She's about to win $2 million.
I'm all in. And with that top-air fill, Helmut's going all in with his 450,000 chips and he duked put
the pressure on Phil and she checked raised him.
This was the final hand of the World Series of Poker tournament of champions.
They had these incredible Hall of Fame players like Doyle Brunson who was a Hall of Famer,
Johnny Chan who was a Hall of Famer and then Phil Helmuth who has the most champion chips
of anyone in the history of the World Series of Poker and then
there was me.
And he calls you all in and Phil sees what he's up against.
Annie and this guy Phil were the last two at the table and Annie has overcome
with emotion seeing how close she is to winning this championship.
Annie's crying, Phil standing up, pacing back and forth,
the dealers laying out the cards that will determine who wins.
Annie has control of his hand.
Now here comes the turn. It's a seven. No help for Phil.
Annie was the only woman in this competition.
She had knocked out eight guys, eight of the best players in the world,
to get to this point.
Annie, Duke, is now what card away from $2 million?
But I didn't really feel like I deserve to be at that table.
At that moment, Annie Duke was feeling the pressure
of something that psychologists call stereotype threat.
Here's how it works. Let's say you think people have a certain stereotype about you. There's a part of you that's afraid that your actions and behavior will prove the stereotype is true.
I'm sort of thinking about, well, if I fold and I'm wrong, everybody's going to be like,
see, she plays like a girl, like, look how he pushed her around.
But Annie's story is also about a second girl, like look how he pushed her around.
But any story is also about a second idea.
One that often has a positive outcome.
This idea is called stereotype tax.
That's when a stereotype that others have about you works to your advantage.
If somebody was at the table who was so emotionally invested in the fact that I was a woman, given
that they're treating me that way, how can I come up with the best strategy to take their money?
Because I guess in the end isn't that the best revenge.
Annie had started playing poker in 1994.
By the time she got to that championship game 10 years later, she had basically figured out
how to make stereotypes about women and poker work for her.
So I can tell you that the first year that I played in the World Series of Poker main event,
which was in 1994, 3% of the entrance were women, and last year that number would have been
the same.
Wow, so this is an extraordinarily male-dominated sport.
Completely.
I was generally the only woman at the table.
I had to really love that game in order to be willing to expose myself to a lot of the
behavior that I was experiencing.
Tell me what you heard.
What did people say?
There were people who were incredibly welcoming.
There were other people.
There was one guy who I lost a pot to and he said,
don't cry, I'll give you your money back if we go across the street to the Northern.
And the Northern was a hotel.
Wow.
You know, and I got called a lot of bad things.
But to think about it as, okay, given that this person is viewing me in a way that I find disrespectful,
try to separate yourself from your
emotional reaction to that and think about how you can use that to your advantage.
Annie had learned to make her opponents pay, literally pay for the stereotypes they held
about women.
Right.
At the poker table, for example, I sort of in my head divided people into three categories.
One was the flirting showvonist and that person was really viewing me in a way that was sexual.
And not as blatantly as the guy who invited her back to the great Northern Hotel.
These were just guys who sometimes seem more concerned about getting Annie to like them
than they were about winning.
They'd show me their whole cards
when they were done with the hand
to show me whether it was a good fold or not.
They'd kind of tell me during the hand
if I was alone with them in the hand,
you know, what they had.
They were trying to make nice with you.
They were trying to make nice with me.
Exactly.
I never did go out on a date with any of them,
but, you know, it was kind of flirtatious at the table
and I could use that to my advantage.
Then there's a second kind of guy.
What I would call the disrespecting show of anist, who mainly just thought that
women weren't creative, that they could only think one level deep.
So they didn't believe that you knew how to bluff, for example,
because that's a level deep in your thinking. They didn't think that you really had creativity.
They thought you were very straightforward in the way that you play, because you know, you're a girl.
Right, so they assume that you're naive creativity, they thought you were very straightforward in the way that you play, because you know you're a girl.
Right, so they assume that you're naive, basically.
Exactly.
So there are strategies that you can use against them, mainly you can bluff those people a lot.
And then there's a third kind of guy, perhaps the most reckless.
The angry show of an ass.
This is a guy who would do anything to avoid being beaten by a woman.
You couldn't bluff them because they would call you all the time for fear that you
might be bluffing them.
And then they would also try to push you around a lot.
So they would play extremely aggressively against you.
They'd be trying to bluff you all the time.
Because the best thing that could happen to them was that they bluffed you and then they
could show you that they had a terrible hand and be like, ha ha, little girl, look what happened to you.
Right, because that would confirm that everything that they believed about you was true.
Right.
So you can just sort of wait until they, what I say is, until they would impale themselves
on your chips.
I have to ask you though, so it's clear that thinking about this mathematically and in a
very detached and unemotional way gave you an edge at the poker table and I can clearly
see how that's very smart.
But you're not a robot, you're not a computer.
At some level you also are processing how people actually are behaving toward you.
And I'm wondering if you could talk a minute about how this felt.
Most of the time I would sort of say I have emotions about this, I'm going to set them talk a minute about how this felt. Most of the time, I would sort of say,
I have emotions about this,
I'm going to set them aside and deal with them later.
And then I would leave the table and drive home in tears.
In her first 10 years of the poker table,
Annie was able to compartmentalize her emotions,
and she won a lot of money doing this,
using stereotype tax to her advantage.
That was until 2004 at the Tournament of Champions.
Intimidation is such a big part of being a successful player. Is that going to come into play at this table, you think?
Not really. In fact, these players know each other so well. If one of them sneezes, somebody else has already handed them a handkerchief.
Actually, at least for Annie, that wasn't true.
She had never played poker on TV before, and she was pretty sure she had been invited
as the token woman, that she was way out of her league.
She thought that ESPN, televised in the game in this way for the first time, just thought
it was good optics to have her there. And I went in there with this incredible fear that my play,
which was now in front of lipstick cameras,
so my mistakes were no longer going to be private to me,
that that was going to expose that everybody was right,
and I was actually a terrible player,
and despite the fact that I had spent the last 10 years
making my living playing poker at the highest levels
of the game, that I didn't really deserve to have ever won
anything I was bad and I had just gotten lucky.
And now everybody was going to know it
and what they were saying was true.
You felt like an imposter.
Completely.
You were facing a very difficult situation here,
which is you're not just juggling
with what's happening at the poker table, but you're juggling with all this other psychological
crap in a way that just makes it hard to focus on what it is that you're actually doing.
And in so many ways, that not to me is a perfect illustration of stereotype threat. It shows
that when there's a stereotype that's in the air, when there's a stereotype that multiple
people believe, even if you don't believe it yourself.
If you're the person who is potentially at the receiving end of that stereotype, it affects
your behavior in such a way that you become more likely to make the stereotype come true.
I think that that's completely true.
It was always in the back of my mind, like, that, do they really respect me?
Why are they talking to me?
Is it just because they are thinking about me in a different way? Like they want to be friends with me because I'm a girl or do they really respect me? Why are they talking to me? Is it just because they are thinking about me in a different way?
Like they want to be friends with me because I'm a girl or do they actually respect my
play?
There was one hand, Annie says, when stereotype threat got the better of her.
So in this particular hand where I had two tens, which is a pretty good hand, it was good
enough that there wasn't a huge chance that her opponent,
this guy Greg Raymer, had a better hand. But there was still a chance. As a professional poker player,
this is the kind of hand that you evaluate in a matter of seconds. So I really needed to eliminate
that hand as a possibility and I was having a lot of trouble doing that because I was so afraid of
hand as a possibility and I was having a lot of trouble doing that because I was so afraid of making this really bad big decision on television and having everyone say I told you so.
This was a pivotal hand, but a lot of the significance was really just in Annie's head.
If she folded but really had the best hand, everybody's going to be like, see she plays like a girl,
like look how he pushed her around. And if I called and I was wrong,
then I could come up with a whole other thing, like look how bad she could, didn't she know that
he had the best hand, like any idiot would have known that, you know, and that was running in my
head as I was trying to make this decision. So you're down to if you do and you're down to if you don't?
Absolutely, absolutely. And it was incredibly difficult and it wasn't until I kind of
Absolutely, absolutely. And it was incredibly difficult and it wasn't until I kind of snapped to and saw this tell that he had.
And you see a tell you mean what?
So a tell is a physical, well it could be something verbal that somebody says that gives a clue,
but generally when we talk about tells we're talking about something physical that somebody does,
that telegraphs the quality of their hand or at least what they think the quality of their hand is.
So Greg Raymer did something which I haven't actually said what he actually did because
I think that's unfair to him.
But he did something that gave away the fact that his hand was very, very strong, which
allowed me to then fold.
And at that moment I was actually quite confident in it.
But Annie's confidence in her decision was short-lived.
Another player came up to her during a break in the game.
What he said, kicked the stereotype threat and Annie's head into overdrive.
Phil Helmuth, right after that hand occurred, came up and just told me like what an idiot I was because
Clearly Greg Raymer had Ace King and I thought oh my gosh
This is a guy who's like at the now. I think he's a 12-time world champion
But at the time he probably had you know seven world championships or something and he seemed pretty confident that he had
Ace King and oh no, and it was just and and then I had an hour in my room having a panic attack
Well, we were on break from the tournament. It was pretty awful head ace king and oh no, and it was just and and then I had an hour in my room having a panic attack.
Well we were on break from the tournament.
It was pretty awful.
Stereotype threat had produced in Annie's head what poker players called tilt.
Tilt when you allow kind of bad things that happen to you that very often are out of your
control to cause you to be a poor decision maker going forward.
Annie has picked up a heart draw here. of your control to cause you to be a poor decision maker going forward.
So after she nearly lost it in her hotel room, Annie comes back to the table and she has a stroke of luck. She wins a pretty nice hand.
And you can actually hear her at this point in the game, Annie begins to loosen up.
It was as if she'd finally gotten the stereotype threat under control.
The flop was just wow.
Yeah, it doesn't matter what order they come in, right?
It doesn't matter. Well, it kind of does in that situation, you know.
Annie had turned on the charm.
The next time she faced Greg Raymer in a hand,
now Raymer needs to call or get out of the way.
He got cocky.
I call.
Well, the world champion is going to call.
It's a three no good for Raymer.
On the next hand, Annie would knock out Raymer, whose nickname was Fossilman.
It is an ace, it's no help to Fossilman and he goes down.
He played really well.
Just like that, Annie was back in the zone.
And that actually sort of brought me out of this very bad headspace.
Soon, the table dwindled to four players.
Helm is knocking out Johnny Chan in fourth place.
Then there were three.
It's a three and that's the end of the line for Howard Letterman.
Until finally, Annie and Phil Helmuth,
the guy who newly destroyed her confidence earlier in the game,
these are the only two left.
And Annie says to him,
This is alright, you know, I'm just happy to be in the final two, I mean, seriously, I
don't my money off in the first two hours.
You could argue that this little old me act, somehow, really did a number on Phil Helmuth,
because for the next half a dozen hands, he just did not know what to make of Annie.
And he's got Phil second guessing every movie makes and every movie doesn't make.
At this point, it's obvious to both Annie and Phil the other person has a strong hand.
The question is, how strong?
That's a judgement call.
It's based on probability, instinct, and all the undercurrents,
expectations, and stereotypes that have been running through the game the entire time.
But now, there's only one question. If anythings that Phil has misjudged her,
she knows she should call his bet. And call. Annie calls the all-in!
And Phil sees what he's up against.
And what he's up against here, meaning the dealer's cards.
That's going to determine who wins.
And if there was any moment that perfectly revealed
how much of an outsider Annie was in this situation,
it's this next one.
Annie Duke is now one card away from $2 million.
In 8, please.
Phil Helmuth needs an 8 to win this pot.
Both players on their feet anticipating the river card.
It's a 3.
Annie Duke has defeated 9 of the strongest poker players in the world
and wins the first ever World Series of Poker Tournament of Champions.
In classic reality television style,
cameras follow Phil as he storms away from the table,
out of door, just pacing around, talking to himself.
I know she didn't have it all six times.
Oh my God, I won!
It was a reaction of a man who just got beat.
She had to be 30 to 1 to win that.
By someone who wasn't supposed to win and maybe even wasn't supposed to be at the table in the first place.
But precisely because Annie Duke knew how stereotypes can be both threat and advantage.
Well, you heard Phil and he was right and he was definitely a long shot to win this all,
but as the only female at the table she is now the last man standing.
I have to say, Annie Duke, you're not just a good poker player, but you're clearly a very
wise person.
Well, so are you, thank you.
High stakes poker is one of many domains where women have been forced to be flexible, or
in some cases, to elbow their way into a world dominated by men.
For centuries, women have been locked out of different professions because of barriers
built on sexism and patriarchy.
But as the economy has started to boom and feels traditionally dominated by women, men
have not saw jobs in those areas.
If anything, they seem to actively avoid such professions.
With women are attracted to the occupation, then it becomes something that women do and
men would perhaps hesitate to enter.
This is Northwestern University Psychologist Alice Eglie.
She says men even avoid female-dominated professions that used to be male-dominated, like working
as a bank teller.
There used to be quite a few males, but then there got to be so many women out of town.
That man could find a bit of a masculinity threat.
Oh, you're a bank teller, people would say.
They see bank tellers being women,
and so they think of it.
Oh, it's feminine, not even knowing much about what they do.
After the break, masculinity threats.
Man up.
You must be gay.
How a fear of appearing feminine shapes the lives of men and affects us all.
Man up.
Kind of girl, isn't it?
You're gay.
A woman's job.
Man up.
A woman's job.
This is NPR.
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This is Hidden Brain, I'm Shankar Vedantam.
My name is Robert Vaan.
When he was 23, Robert Vaan faced a dilemma, conformed to norms of masculinity or pursue a
promising career in a field long dominated by women.
His life illustrates how such norms exert a gravitational force on the choices of millions of men.
Robert grew up in Belprey, Ohio.
Very small town on the border of West Virginia.
There were clear expectations for the men in Belprey.
Military service was big in my community.
For boys who were Robert's age, the extracurricular activity of choice was scouting.
My parents were divorced when I was two.
And I didn't really have a father figure growing up and so scouting became a way of getting
bond with other men.
A few years into scouting, Robert desperately wanted to go on a trip to New Mexico.
I grew up in a very poor home, you know, we were on welfare, we didn't have the money to
afford such a trip and one of the men in our group actually stepped forward and paid for my way to be able to go. So that was
really impactful for me to have one of the men in our troop that saw me enough as a
a son or at least someone he took under his wing to say, you know what, this is important,
it's a good life experience and I'm going to take the financial hit to make this opportunity
for you.
Robert loved everything about the trip.
You're just doing guy things.
It's amazing where you're building campfires and you're putting iodine and water and you're
smelling the ponderosa pine trees and you're seeing deer and bears and having to put your food in
bear bags and you're just being rowdy and wrestling. It's a great time.
When Robby graduated from Bellbury High School in 2002, his plan was to go to college,
but he couldn't afford it. I actually did not know about student loans.
I thought you just had to pay out a pocket and I was like, I don't have that kind of money.
And so my opportunities were either go get some working class job in my town, working
manufacturing at a plant or join the military.
He chose the latter.
He enlisted in the Navy.
One of the things they asked me was
Where do you want to have your first duty station? I said I want to be as far away from Ohio as possible
And they said how does Sandy go sound? I mean, I said that sounds good
His first job out at sea was an aviation boson's mates handler.
Long job title paired with equally long work hours.
18 hour days we would get the aircraft from the flight deck and we would tax them down to
the hangar bay and Chacam and Chainam and do that and so we'd have these long flight
days of bringing aircraft
down from maintenance.
Robert Lightworking those long hours, living on a ship, was like an extended scouting trip.
Out to see, there's literally nothing else to do.
You are living your life with these people 24-7 and so the downtime for us became sitting
around and talking crap to each other and wrestling.
So we'd be in our break room pretty much just having full-on group wrestling sessions
to get out to energy and then they'd say, okay, we got some flights that are coming in,
we got to bring them down.
And so you're just doing that all day, so it's just your whole life is
around doing your job.
Robert joined the military because he didn't have the money for college.
But after four years of service, he qualified for the GI Bill,
which would cover his tuition and living expenses. In 2007 when he was 23, I got out of the military
and my wife became the primary breadwinner force. He began thinking about schools and programs.
His wife's father had a suggestion. My father-in-law who's a respiratory therapist
My father-in-law who is a respiratory therapist said, hey, you know, you should really look into nursing.
A man encouraging his daughter's husband to become a nurse.
If you see in the movie, meet the parents, you know this is the exact opposite of the
relationship portrayed by Ben Stiller and Robert De Niro.
You know Greg's in medicine too, Larry.
Oh really?
What feeling?
Nursing.
That's good.
No really.
What feeling?
Nursing.
The first thing to win through my head was, well, that's a woman's job, that's a female
job that's not something that really men go into.
We know how this works.
Remember psychologists, Alice Eglie?
With women are attracted to the occupation, then it becomes something that women do and
men would perhaps hesitate to enter. Why is this? What explains the reluctance of many men to enter professions that are
dominated by women? Psychologist Jennifer Boston used to believe there was a
straightforward answer to that question. Her mother taught her at a very young age
about sexism and misogyny. I was raised by a mother who was going through her own feminist awakening in the 70s and 80s.
So by the time I got to college, I kind of, feminism was familiar to me.
I had read a lot about it.
So for me, college wasn't about kind of realizing that the world is unfair toward women.
Instead, college was when she began to realize how the world restricted the choices of men.
Freshmanier, Jennifer lived in a co-edorm. She made a whole suite of new friends, both men and women.
And so I remember one time I had a crush on this guy and I thought he was really just
the cutest thing.
And I asked a friend of mine, a male friend, don't you think I'm going to change his name?
I'm going to call him Dave.
Don't you think Dave is really cute?
Am I friend?
Um, I should have changed his name.
And um, my friend Mark, let's call him, said, I don't know, I can't tell.
And I was like, what do you mean you can't tell if Dave is cute? Look at him, look at his face, he's call him, said, I don't know, I can't tell. And I was like, what do you mean you can't tell
if David's cute?
Look at him, look at his face, he's super cute.
And Mark insisted that because he was a man
and a straight man, he was incapable of judging
the attractiveness of other men.
And that enraged me at the time.
I thought it was ridiculous.
And I thought that he was just being kind of homophobic.
Did you tell your friend, I think you're being homophobic?
I don't remember if I accused him of that.
I think what I was more inclined to do was say,
nobody's gonna think you're gay. I really just want to know,
do you think his face is attractive?
Jennifer never got an answer from her friend Mark.
I assumed that he knew but just didn't feel comfortable saying.
Jennifer's first reaction to this was what her mother had taught her.
Guys go out of their way to appear macho because of a combination of homophobia and sexism.
But over time, Jennifer began to study men's behavior, She is now a psychologist at the University of South Florida.
And her data prompted her to a more nuanced conclusion
about why men like Mark behave the way they do.
In one revealing experiment,
her team gathered a group of about 200 men and women
and sat them in front of computers.
We just kind of let them write for, you know, a few minutes about a time when they violated
their gender role in public.
Some of the women talked about being called a tomboy.
Others mentioned times when they worked in male-dominated fields and were made to feel
uncomfortable by co-workers.
But men?
Men say things like, I wore a pink shirt shirt to work or I held my girlfriend's purse while she ran into the bank
Or I ordered a drink at a restaurant and when it came out to me
It had a little cocktail umbrella in it and my you know my friends tease me
So it's like it's just mundane things like women don't say oh, I wore the wrong shirt
They wore the wrong shirt. Why would men make such a big deal out of trivial things?
The familiar explanation is misogyny.
But then Jennifer began to think about the different messages that boys receive from
a very young age.
We've all heard the taunts.
Are you a real man?
Are they say real man? Or they say, man up. There's a lot of things that are
off limits for men. Jennifer's research experiments gradually led her to a new understanding of why
men behave the way they do. My collaborators and I argue that the male gender role itself is kind
of conceptualized as a more precarious status. So, manhood is something that's hard to earn and easy to lose, relative to womanhood.
Manhood is something that is hard to earn and easy to lose.
This insight changed the way Jennifer thought about the behavior of her friend Mark.
The pressure to not reveal any kinds of non-masculine opinions may have been so profound that it
kind of made him feel like he really didn't know.
Seeing this way, the driving force here is not misogyny, but fear.
Men are defending something that's fragile.
In terms of why this would be the case, why would you have one sex essentially have a
more limited repertoire or have more policing around its boundaries?
Why do women take their femininity for granted in ways that men do not take their masculinity
for granted?
That's a really hard question to answer, but I think it has to do with how men, their social status is
more hierarchically organized than women's is.
So men are kind of more interested in or motivated to attain social status, and that kind of
then translates into what we propose is kind of a chronic anxiety about their status, and
that translates into a concern about whether one's seen
as a real man or not.
This chronic anxiety comes through in one of Jennifer's experiments.
We have men do a stereotypically feminine task
like braiding a mannequin's hair versus in another condition,
they braid three strands of thick rope.
So we kind of, in both conditions, they're braiding, but in one condition it's very what they're doing
is very stereotypically feminine because there's a mannequin head and they're
kind of she's got this long blonde wig on and they're asked to braid her hair
and there's little pink little both that they're supposed to put in her hair.
When you run that test on man and you randomly assign them to either braid hair or braid
rope, how do you test what happens next and what do the men do?
So, after they do that, oh and also while they're doing the activity, we're videotaping them,
so we want it to feel very public to them and we tell them, people are going to later code
your videotapes.
So it's not just that they're sitting alone in a room doing this. So then we shut off the camera and we say, oh, for the next half of the experiment, we're going to have you do
another activity, but this time you get to choose which one you want to do and you can either do this
brain teaser puzzle where you have to rearrange these shapes or you can put on some boxing gloves and hit this
shapes, or you can put on some boxing gloves and hit this punching pad. And so in one of our studies we found that, if men braided hair, then they were much more
likely to choose as their next task, the punching task.
But if they braided rope, then most of them wanted to do the brain teaser.
So this suggests that the ones who had done the hair braiding task felt emasculated and
so they kind of wanted to restore their masculinity by punching something,
by, you know, behaving aggressively.
There's something really funny about these studies, isn't there?
Uh, sure. That's one of my favorite things about what I do is the kind of the creativity and kind of
concocting these scenarios. I also want to be taken seriously so the findings aren't funny.
The methods can be funny. To be sure, it's worth pointing out that societal messages that
constrain men have often been developed by men. Jennifer's point is not that sexism doesn't play a role in shaping these behaviors.
Her point is that men can be trapped by the gender roles that they themselves have authored.
There's a way in which you can look at your work that you're doing,
and sort of say in some ways you're drawing,
perhaps compassionate is sort of the wrong word,
but you're drawing a more deeper understanding
of why men behave the way they do,
that is not just men behave the way they do
because there is misogyny.
Right, I guess I feel like I have compassion
for anybody who kind of finds themselves stuck
in a world that makes no sense to them.
So regardless of whose fault it is,
I think that the struggle for status that men kind
of are constantly feeling like they have to participate in, it sucks.
Men worry what other men will think, what women will think, what they themselves might think.
All this leads us back to Robert Vaughan's dilemma about whether to become a nurse.
The precarious status of masculinity drives many men to see the profession as the equivalent
of braiding hair with pink ribbons.
Remember that clip from Meet the Parents?
Not many men are professional, are they, Greg?
No, Jack.
Not traditionally.
This idea is deeply woven into our culture.
Think about all the jokes you've heard about male nurses.
So then?
You've heard them on friends.
Nurse found a doctor, huh?
Kind of girl, isn't it?
And even on shows about hospital life.
Like how?
Sorry, I can't remember if I mocked you yet for being a male nurse.
And scrubs.
She's embarrassed that she likes a nurse,
and I really can't figure out why.
Well, that's because you're doing a woman's job, son.
Have a good one.
So if you're in Robert's shoes, is there a way
to silence the voice in your head that says,
this kind of work is emasculating.
A woman's job. A woman's job.
A woman's job, a woman's job, a woman's job.
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London, autumn, 1854.
Word was spreading through the city.
Thousands of British soldiers had died in a conflict 1500 miles away in Eastern Europe.
The Crimean War.
But these men were not killed in combat.
What they were really dying of, which was of not of the wounds, but infectious disease.
Historian Julie Fairman at the University of Pennsylvania
says Londoners were shocked to learn
about the poor medical conditions in Crimea.
One woman in particular felt called to action.
She was wealthy from high society.
Her name was Florence Nightingale.
She was able to convince her friends, and she had friends in high places, to let her take
a contingent of nurses to the Crimea to take charge of this hospital.
In November 1854, she arrived at a war camp with a group of nearly 40 nurses.
She finds hospitals that are dark and they're dingy and there's no air and their
soldiers lying on the ground crying out.
It must have been horrendous.
Florence Nightingale took charge bringing cleanliness and order to the medical camps.
She focused on sanitation.
She made sure that injured soldiers were fed.
Back home she came to be seen as something of a trailblazer. When
she returned to London, she established a world's first professional nursing school with
one type of student in mind. Women. This was a shift before the Crimean War, nursing
was not seen as the exclusive preserve of women.
Everybody was a nurse. Everybody took care of their family members.
They took care of the children. They took care of the wounded in battle.
And so the profession, in fact you don't even talk about profession,
but the idea of providing care to people was pretty heterogeneous across men, women and others.
But Florence Nightingale was convinced that nursing was not for men.
As her methods spread to Australia, Canada and the United States, women came to dominate
nursing.
Men were pushed to the fringes of the field, limited to working in psychiatric wards.
By the 1930s, men were only 2% of nurses in the United States.
Even today, that number is only 10%.
The idea of women being able to give that gentle, caring touch
when they provided care was a really strong
ethos throughout the nursing profession and the public.
Of course, when you think about it, there's nothing inherently feminine about nursing.
Florence Nightingale literally invented that idea and made it real.
So if you could turn nursing from a genderless profession to one seen as exclusively female,
can you make the clock turn backwards?
To some degree, you can spin any job. This again, a psychologist, Jennifer Bossin.
You could spin nursing as a very masculine occupation. It's dangerous. It's physically
grueling. You don't really have to be that warm to be a nurse. It doesn't hurt. But, you
know, so our stereotype of the nurse is one that almost you know you could modify that stereotype and turn
nursing into a profession that does seem
masculine or male appropriate
As it turned out something along the lines of what Jennifer proposed was presented to Robert Wann
Remember how when Robert got out of the Navy his father-in-law suggested he think about nursing as a profession.
It's a...in the man field pays...pretty well.
And it's stable.
You work 12 hours shifts, three days a week.
You can make it money at it.
Robert didn't take his father-in-law's advice, but he did get a job at a hospital as a security
guard.
And one day, he had to deal with two patients who were out of control.
We had a couple guys who came into the emergency room who were high presumably on PCP. I don't
remember what it was at the time. And they were just very belligerent fighting. There was blood
all over the place. And they were had to be split up into different rooms. And so we're trying to
attend to them. And when you actually asked to secure them in one of the rooms,
what was the role that you were playing?
Yeah, security were kind of there to have eyes on
and potentially hands on if we need to,
to help control the situation.
So I was there, and these guys both came out of their rooms
that they were isolated into and just started fighting.
And they actually locked themselves in one of the rooms and destroyed the room, did a couple thousand dollars worth of damage
and blood everywhere on the ceilings and the nurses and us and the sheriffs were in
the doctors are all holding them down and sedating and restraining and I was like, man this
is pretty cool.
As much as it was potentially dangerous, the action that the nurses were seeing was pretty
exciting for me.
You think of nursing, you think of someone sitting at a bedside and being like, let me hold
your hand and you see what it is realistically day to day and for me it was 180 degrees.
Robert took his father-in-law's advice and enrolled in nursing school.
Now it's not as if the old stereotypes about gender and nursing disappeared altogether,
but Robert found ways to carve a path of his own.
His wife Christine says that when he was a nursing school,
he bonded with the handful of other men in the program.
Four of his closest friends are men who went through the nursing school program with him,
and that kind of bond that they build that brotherhood.
Maybe it's a very kind of like military-esque that they were together,
and so there's this common thread of like,
we're the men united together in you know, in this space.
He's now been in the field for more than a decade.
He works in a cardiovascular unit.
When you made the decision to become a nurse, did you tell your friends or family
about this? I'm wondering if, did you have
hesitation about doing this? Were there an awkward conversation where you sort of
said, you know, I'm going to become a nurse and people look at you strangely.
I thought I would. I thought I would get some, at least some jeering from guys that I knew, to be like, oh, you're going to be a nurse, you know.
Oh, we always knew that you were in the closet or, you know, there's jokes about it while if you're a nurse then therefore you must be gay. It's surprisingly I did not get that. A lot of the
guys that I was friends with and when I told them you know I'm gonna go into
nursing they were like that's cool it's a good job it pays well. You. It's a good job. It pays well. You know, it's a job of service. You're helping
people and their time of need. And I don't think there's any better job out there as far
as you literally get paid to help people in some of their worst moments and help them
get better and heal and go home. And that for me, I get paid to do that. That's awesome.
And I find something really interesting
if I do say my husband's a nurse.
People usually want to know if there's a specialty.
Christine Wannessine people perform mental gymnastics.
When she tells them about her husband's job.
And sometimes when I said, oh, well,
he works in cardiology, but it's like, oh,
as if that's masculine,
that's made it more masculine, nursing.
And it's just a very interesting dynamic.
I know he'll tell me stories just that he'll walk into a room
and a patient will assume he's the doctor.
And once they realize he's not,
Robert says patients sometimes get uncomfortable.
In fact, I just got that last week and you just go,
oh, it's okay, if you don't want to mail,
perfectly fine, we'll work with that.
I can talk to the charge nurse and we'll get assignments
to change around.
And we'll make a note that you prefer female staff only.
And did you do that?
Did you say that?
Oh, yeah, I said that.
I always say it every time.
If they have an issue and sometimes they go, no, no.
It's fine.
It's just I've never had a nurse before that was mail.
And sometimes they're OK with it.
And sometimes they do want to change.
And it's just not a factor.
I just want to spend a second talking about how you feel with these interactions. I understand
that at a professional level you are you're happy to sort of say, you know, I'll accommodate
your request and move on. But at some level this is, you know, someone is basically saying they
don't want you to be their nurse. And isn't that a little hurtful?
It's a little hurtful, especially when I find it somewhat hypocritical when they'll have
a doctor is a male and they're present, they're doing the checks and it's very intimate
but somehow as a nurse I'm male and that's a problem.
It doesn't make any sense to me.
You go wait a minute. the doctor is a mail too.
Somehow you have no issue with him.
That is a mail nurse.
You have an issue.
It's contradictory.
Nearly everyone agrees it's a good idea
to have diversity in healthcare.
But Robert says there's a double standard
when it comes to men in nursing.
You know, you see women going into become doctors, they are,
it's like, oh, it's great. It's a wonderful thing that they're going to this.
And we want that, but the flip side of, you got more men going into nursing,
there isn't the accolade of, oh my gosh, you are,
it's great of you to be reaching out and overcoming these gender stereotypes
and going into this profession. They just look at you go,
I guess you probably weren't smart enough to be a doctor.
There was some things about Robert.
I figured I couldn't get by just talking to him on the phone.
So I went to meet him.
You must be Robert.
How are you?
He's 5'10".
He has a muscular frame and a shaved head with a goatee.
I shadowed him as he exercised in his home gym.
I think for him, when he was in nursing school, starting cycling with a group of other males
going through nursing school was a starting point for him of like, I'm going to have my
own equipment, I'm going to do this, I'm going to take care of my body and I'm going to
do so very early in the morning and religiously while I was sleeping because I'm just still
amazing.
He wakes up at 4.30 in the morning to do these things.
Do you tell you this?
Today, he thankfully moved the session to 4.30 pm.
Robert has set up a bunch of equipment in his garage.
There's a bench, stacks of weights, dumbbells, a pull-up bar.
My favorite things are the motivational messages
plastered on the wall. One sticker says, Discipline equals freedom. Robert says it's from
Jocco Willink. Jocco Willink, he's maybe he's on Twitter, he's
quite popular but he has a method. It's a squat day, you have a push day, you have a lift day, and you have a pull day.
As I listened to Robert,
I couldn't help but remember the study
that Jennifer Boston had conducted.
When men are asked to braid hair,
they compensate by punching bags
to reclaim their lost masculinity.
Could some of Robert's intense exercise regimen
be connected to his job as a nurse?
Could the sports truck he drives to work every day be a defense mechanism? Robert's intense exercise regimen be connected to his job as a nurse?
Could the sports truck he drives to work every day be a defense mechanism?
I think a lot of guys who might go into healthcare are interested in health and fitness.
And I think part of it may also be showing, hey, you know, I'm not this, I'm not sure the wording I'd want to use for
it. I'm not a this nurse stereotype. It's maybe it's pushing against the stereotype of
what you might assume a male nurse would be. And so it's saying, you know what, I'm not that. I'm actually pretty manly in other aspects.
By Robert rejects the idea that his own fitness regime
is a form of psychological compensation,
he does see himself compensating in another area.
I've had patients where I've had them a couple of days,
two, three days, and at first they were hesitant
about having a male as a nurse
and they would pull me aside as they're discharging home and they say, you know what, you were the
best nurse the entire time I was here. I had a lot of female nurses and they were great,
but you were actually more gentle and more caring because you are acutely aware of the fact that
you're being judged in that manner. Robert was drawn to nursing because he saw the job as an extension of the identity he'd
established in the military.
When in his decade as a nurse, he's grown to admire the skills he once considered feminine.
My thinking on this is evolved to the point where I can say men are still just as compassionate
and empathetic.
We just express that sometimes in a different way.
Being a father, I have two kids.
I don't love my kids any less than my wife does, but I show my love and my compassion,
my empathy to my kids sometimes in a different way than my wife does.
Is that your trampoline?
My daughter, who's four, almost four, goes up to my mother and says,
um, grandma, look at my muscles. I work out.
Oh my gosh, what are these? Are these two-pound dumbbells?
My daughter wakes up and she wants to do push-ups with me in the morning and she wants to eat my protein bar when I'm waking up in the morning.
You know, the impact that I have on her, you know, is me being a role model for making her a strong independent woman.
When policymakers talk about interventions to help the jobless find work, they talk about vocational schools and retraining skills.
They don't talk about how, without anyone saying it allowed, one half of the population
might be systematically excluding itself from the very parts of the economy that are booming.
Robert was reluctant to pursue nursing because of all the narratives about male nurses.
Kind of girl, isn't it?
Of course, there is another word for these emasculating jokes.
They are stereotypes.
When it comes to fighting stereotypes, we often imagine that the right approach is to explain
why the stereotypes are wrong.
But Robert's life suggests a different solution and perhaps a more effective one.
Stereotypes are powerful because the stories we tell about ourselves are powerful.
They shape how we see the world and how the world sees us.
But in the end, they are only stories.
And stories?
We can rewrite them.
This episode of Hidden Brain was produced by Part Shah and Brent Bachman and edited by
Tara Voil and Raina Cohen.
Our team includes Jenny Schmidt, Thomas Liu, Laura Quarral and Kimmelavarga Strastrepo.
Special thanks to Maggie Penman and Andy Huthar. I'm Shankar Vitaanthum. See you next week.
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