Honey You're Ruining Our Kid - Ep 31 Does My Kid Have An Unhealthy Obsession? Drawing Willies, Death & Eating Stones!

Episode Date: May 15, 2023

Willy obsession starts early! Tina gets an email from a mother of a kid who won't stop drawing dongs! If your child likes to draw them should you be worried or is it just a bit of harmless silliness that he will grow out of in his late 50s. When does artistic expression veer into unhealthy fascination? There's no taking the mickey with this question but plenty of laughs to be found in Tina and Jar's childhood memories of their youthful "passion projects". Young children love to explore the world with their mouths and hands. We all know that pretty much everything, even if it's nailed down, ends up in there. But what if your child likes to eat sticks and stones? Tina gets an email from one mother who is having this very problem and guess what? It's not that uncommon! The concept of death intrigues all of us at some point. But the finality and the idea of infinity can completely overwhelm our kids. So when they experience a death it can impact upon them in a big way. How do you navigate this very delicate topic with your child when it's all they seem to want to talk about? Can we inform them without creating an unhealthy interest? Email the show honeyyou'[e-mail] - whatever you're going through, TIna can help. Find even more episodes and content on www.patreon.com/irishmanabroad

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and Tina, we're recording late at night We are recording late at night and don't forget we're sponsored proudly by BuyMe.ie Get the app, put in Honey10 Yeah, and let us know if it's not working Well, let us know you get on If it's not working because it or not well let us know you get on yeah that's if it's not working we can help you i mean the honey 10 discount bit right yeah but let us know how you get on uh because last week of course we talked about tantrums in the supermarket

it was the perfect tie-in for getting your groceries delivered to your house because i mean the day i realized that i don't have to go through that stress of going to the supermarket i was obsessed with the friday shop were you as a kid absolutely and the only thing better than getting to do the friday shop with your mom was when your dad did oh yeah that was all rules it was game on can we get this da da can we get this it wasn't even that you'd say mommy always gets this oh right so you were duplicitous about it yeah i guess mama always gets this um i did use the buy me app this week and it is really good it's really easy what were you you're not obsessed with the buy me app even though you've mentioned it three times i'm just delighted it exists what were you obsessed with as a kid like what was an unhealthy obsession for you i'll tell you mine if you tell me yours you'll have to go first because you've sprung this on me

we've got a question in here about obsession a kid with a weird yeah obsession you have to put in the category of weird. Unhealthy obsession. Fancy paper, Tina. I feel like the fancy paper was a bit of an addiction for a while. Tina has told me about actual fist fights between kids in Navan. Yeah, well we would gamble. That's when it would go too much.

We'd gamble. Gamble how? We'd play games of Monopoly for fancy paper. For fancy paper or games of 21 for Fancy Paper Oh my god You'd have to put out Your best bit No holding back

And you couldn't fake it Because you'd already Boasted about your best bit To the man So yeah Oh my lord I don't think I was Obsessed with that though

I think I was obsessed With Billy Joe Armstrong From Green Day Yeah that was teenage Tina Teenage to kiss the poster. Charlie. What were you obsessed with?

Kiss the poster. Well, the Michael Jackson obsession. Oh, yeah. I used to pray. My prayers at night were, please let me meet Michael Jackson. Really? Jesus and God answered my prayers

by not letting me meet michael jackson as it turned out absolutely really decent of you god thank you so much for that uh blessing uh this first question though i can't wait to get to it because it it does veer into the kind of well like it's taboo what was the most taboo thing in your well what when you got caught doing something this is the other question i wanted to ask you today i was like what was the most trouble you got in as a kid because i'd imagine if i got caught doing what this kid's doing in this question i don't know if my parents it would have gone beyond trouble like they wouldn't know what to do they wouldn't know where to look team was going what question are you talking about

what question are you talking about we've got a peni question oh yeah well you know what the problem is i just don't think kids ever do anything that wrong so when you said true i was like which did you get in trouble you're a really good girl I actually have the table laid I got in trouble in I think senior infants for telling someone to fuck off and I was made stand at the bold wall for a long time

why did you tell them to fuck off I think they just told me that I looked like somebody I oh you had your brother's shoes on oh that was much older that I didn't take

well that somebody slagged me off about my dogs looking old so i grabbed her by the ponytail and pulled her around the yard i didn't get in trouble for that actually i didn't get in trouble for that that's the mean streets of navan let's get straight to question number one. You guys are going to love this one. What a kickoff this is going to be. Dear Tina and Jar, my child won't stop drawing penises, peni. I love that she put in the proper plural. Everything is either a dick or has a dick. Do you want me to say dick here each time or should i say willie i'll get an extra edit it shows how much she's um seeing them that she's so comfortable with

saying dick apparently she says here apparently he she says he used to save this just for us at home. So he used to just draw them at home. Okay. That's interesting. Yeah. Okay. But I got a letter from the school the other day. He is 10, so should know better. Okay, so he's a bit older, but still, he's around that age when they do.

So they're cartoon dicks, I'm sure. What can I do? She should have sent an accompanying drawing yeah send us in a drawing please oh i'm trying to raise him to be body proud but have i gone too far okay okay well then it is trickier isn't it because well like it's so hard with boys it's so hard he's fascinated by his penis obviously he's proud of his penis and he obviously thinks they're funny is that a thing with boys do boys think their penis is funny oh the only thing funnier is farts oh so it is funny so his drawings he's doing funny drawings of a penis i don't see the harm in it unless he's defacing things i don't

see the harm in it you don't see the harm in this no but he got a letter home yeah so he's obviously we need to redirect it a bit and tell him to do it in comics and maybe not at school but isn't it interesting that

he used to just do it for the family as a party piece I'd imagine he used to just draw them in the house and she just thought he's not going to do that at school. Have you ever seen this, Tina?

I know that's what she said. Have I ever seen this? Have you ever seen an unusual compulsion to draw a certain thing over and over again? Again, to go back, I would only draw Michael Jackson when I was seven years old was seven years old that's all i drew and i know my father only ever drew horses and you know then we know kids that only draw tractors are willies this kid's tractors well i think probably for the moment yeah they are and i think if she can just tell him just don't do that he's 10 years old I would like to know if all the dicks are uniform in size and shape well I want to know

are they cartoon like I hope they're cartoon or big veiny things I hope yeah like that you're worried I'm just assuming they're cartoons

a 10 year old boy wouldn't be drawing accurate penises yeah he's not looking for then it's a real worry he's not looking for he's drawn some hairy balls oh my god then it's a real worry he's not looking for some hairy balls

oh my god then it's like where did you see that yeah yeah charlotte no you're bringing in there no no no no i'm going in the wrong direction with this but listen this mom's worried this kid won't stop drawing dicks yeah because that but i'm thinking is that just because she's a woman is this something men do super bad as well this occurs oh really yeah okay so it's normal because it appeared in a fictional movie that was not a documentary you know super bad isn't i don't know i just think he's 10 years old he's probably just started fiddling with himself and he probably like there's another area i would tell him not to do it at school because like you know maybe he was just doing it for his friends well is it offensive

that's the next question i don't think so is it unless well if he was drawing boobs on everything yeah would that be different because he doesn't have boobs he has a willy i remember sarah silverman saying i think she may have even no i read this in her book that when she was on her tv show that she was not allowed to say labia but she could say penis really yeah and she remembers arguing with the censor over this because we do have different standards yeah that draws a willy it's like that's you you put that in the category of not offensive well maybe he's doing it for shock value well i think he's definitely doing it for the crack to get a reaction definitely you got it his mom is emailing me to parenting podcast but i feel sorry for this mom because

she's like i want him to be proud of his body i want him to be proud of his body. I want him to be proud of his penis. How is she teaching him that? And how has that gone so far wrong that he now is drawing? You don't think this is wrong at all? I don't think she's got it wrong. I think maybe she did a great job and he's really proud of his. Yeah, I think we need a drawing. We need a drawing. Is that weird, though?

What if it is an accurate drawing of his penis? And then we go, okay, get call the cops. But then we're looking at it. No, I don't know. This is a funny one. This is weird. Really, look, I don't want to throw bouquets on myself here. I don't want to toot my own trumpet.

No pun intended. But I was a fecking good artist back in the day. Did you draw penises? Never. Never. But I did go through a period where certain friends who knew that I could draw photorealistically were like, can you draw us a nudie lady? No. That's how low on porn we were in the 90s.

You're like, this guy can really draw and you would draw and everything yeah i draw um you know like i was basically it was your sister leonardo no i was about to say i was leonardo dicaprio on titanic they were very they were very but you did art they were French girls oh really or were they the girls in your art class because you did no I remember pulling

the pictures from the paper and doing those oh wow I could draw a photo realistically but I do I do think that

this isn't anything to worry about no I don't think it is either I think that if your kid is drawing that's brilliant depending on what the penis looks like

if it's cartoon willies grand he's just being silly but if it's there's a question later on in the show that we're going to talk about where i do think we have to be super careful and this is me now bear in mind guys i'm not the expert i'm putting this to the expert tina that your kids say stuff yeah do stuff to get the reaction and whatever gets the most one-on-one attention from mom or dad that's what they do yeah he's still only a little kid he's 10 but he's a little little kid and they were old enough as she said 10's 10's old enough to know not to drop 10 is also old enough to know as he said what crack is

what's going to get a reaction and you know maybe she just needs to redirect this passion like sign him up to an art class get him drawing other things that's the way I'd be going

yeah yeah we got there we got past the penises I still really want to see I think we need to see the cartoons I hope it's cartoons

he's been drawing I just assumed yeah the adventures of penises she did refer to them as dicks she didn't say willie winklers she did say dicks need to see the cartoons i hope it's cartoons he's been drawing i just assumed yeah the adventure is the penis refer to them as dicks she didn't say willie winklers they're not willie but just maybe she just that's the mood she was in did i ever say this on the show having to explain the difference between a mickey and a dick to sarah silverman again jesus are we gonna have a sarah silverman mention just call her here

get Sarah on the line Charlotte did the Ralph Press launch with Sarah and John C. Reilly and kind of spent the day with Sarah

having the crack and the head of Disney was like Sarah just when you're referring to Mickey you need to be careful that

in this country it doesn't mean it doesn't necessarily mean mickey mouse she's like really what does it mean uh it it means um penis and i had to step in and go technically it doesn't mean penis i didn't know this actually mickey means flaccid penis i'd say buy me dot a you're loving this this is what they signed up for anyway i hope you can buy you can get some lube and penis things and i remembered what i was obsessed with when i was a little girl what i was obsessed with those shoes that had the key that could get you into the forest i was obsessed tina that was an ad yeah no but the shoes were real come with a key i know i

when i finally got those shoes do you know the disappointment so clark's had a set of shoes we should play in the clip of the ad i was because the ad was mesmerizing oh i was like buy the shoes you get the key to the secret garden yeah you must have been pretty thick thank you mom buy me this show well i don't Pretty thick to think. Fuck you. Mom, buy me this shoe. And then I'll get the key. I don't think the key even came. I don't think he even got a key.

No, that's what I just said. It was so sad. Imagine the disappointment. I wanted the key. The blondie cutie pie Tina going, there's no key in the box. And then having to pretend that you like the shoes. Oh, I didn't pretend. I was like devastated I was full on

having the tantrums that I now help other parents to I bought Mikey a new pair of shoes this week I'm so annoyed at myself Tina bought them

a size too small I didn't know that and then had the absolute neck to come back and go jerk you didn't check the size of these shoes

well what I felt terrible was about was Mikey was like mum I love these shoes but I think they're too small was about was Mikey was like, mom, I love these shoes, but I think they're too small for me. And I was like, Mikey,

you were a size seven. These are a size seven. Well, there you go. And they were way, I feel so bad. Even Tina doesn't listen to her kids. No. Excuse me.

I went and apologized to him and I said, I collect sneakers. You do. In case people don't know, it has been a problem in the past, but our next questioner's kid collects something very different okay most kids collect stones she says and sticks we've all done that my kid eats them oh no i'm not exaggerating he eats stones and sticks it's a nightmare he's only two oh he's only two but i'm worried about

his teeth and his gut health yeah you should be your kids eating brambles and pebbles yeah should i be worried what can i do i can't believe that we're the people she came to well i mean it is a tough one because he's two and two-year-olds put everything in their mouths because that's how they explore the world their curiosity and they you know like i would suggest you go to the doctor because there's a chance how is honey you're ruining our kid her first port of call well she feels it's a safe place we're not supposed to judge i'm not judging anyone but i'm like don't ask us well she should ask us because you know what if it's a bit of shame if it's not curiosity and that he's doing it for it could be pika pika pika yeah now you you've told me about this a few times to the point where i'm like

that's not a thing yeah well actually in the younger children up to the age of six, it can just be something they do and they grow out of. So pica is like a condition where the child, like this child, will eat things that you shouldn't eat. And like properly put lots of stuff in their mouth that are actually dangerous and detrimental to you, to themselves, like balloons, stones, coins. Coins? and detrimental to you to themselves like balloons stones coins coins yeah like pregnant women sometimes get it and they'll eat like coal and stuff and oftentimes it's children with learning difficulties too who can sometimes do this but it's actually i'm not suggesting that because it's actually really common for under six year olds to do this and the only thing you can redo to stop it is to help them with distraction techniques at this age and telling them repeatedly you can't eat that that's actually bad for you that's going to hurt

you are they enjoying eating these yeah they are if they have that they have a compulsion to eat it but i'm not i'm not saying he has a grass like oh i wish they had grass at least that would be some nutritional value yeah i mean it's dangerous like they'd eat like um screws and wood and ribbon and i mean i remember having to like pull balloons out of a bum before and that wasn't in the bedroom this is a very sexy episode but um that's insane to me this kid that you worked with yeah was into eating balloons and it was very sad actually because she would wear a nappy and when you're changing a nappy sometimes she'd have eaten her nappy

but she had a learning difficulty you know she had are you okay? We're not laughing about that because that's not funny. But it was at the time, it was terrible because then you would have to put her in kind of things that she wouldn't be able to get to her nappy. So it can be quite serious. But I'd imagine that this child has just one of those kids

in the zero to six category that has this sensation or need at the moment this pick a tendency and when does it stop like if you're able to distract them and kind of get them away from eating cork and coins and pebbles and stuff and bits of wood when should like if they're still doing it at stage six you've've got a problem. So this could your reassurance for this mom with this two year old is that they may want to eat sticks and stones until they're six. Yeah. But like I'm telling her that or the dad that you need to get down to his level and tell him you're not allowed to eat these. These are not safe for you.

We can't eat these. And when you feel like eating it, we're going to give you something else that you can eat so previously in terms of stuff and digestion you've said get them into get them watching youtube videos yeah the digestive system what we do eat what we yeah that's not a bad idea because if this kid is eating sticks there is a chance that they could perforate their bowel or oh yeah it's very dangerous yeah no no and it could be pens paintbrushes all sorts of stuff they just have a compulsion to eat it yeah yeah it's it is quite frightening and like i thought this question was going to be a bit of crack oh sorry at all and also sometimes when you do substitute it with food and keep them full like i've seen this though only in children who

have actually got learning difficulties as well as pica then they have compulsive eating so they want to eat all the time and that's really tough rough yeah that's really tough but what they need to do is actually bring the kid to the doctor because he is eating sticks and stones that's not good for anyone get a little check on his bowel you know maybe he needs a little ultrasound but also you need to actually educate him no that's dangerous we don't put those in our mouth we just can't and you're going to have to be super vigilant around this kid if it's a compulsion a condition will that even go in yeah well like will eventually go in repetition because if it's not actually a problem that's going to stay you

can break a habit like if it's a habit like you can break it you can retrain him you were worried at one point that mikey had this one he had a high chair with a little bit of fluff that used to come out oh my god i had totally forgot about that and pull it and then you get to him and he was like putting it in his mouth like it was candy flask going out yeah he used to do that and he used to pull that out of the nappy yeah and he used to eat my hair too he did oh my god he used to call my hair miss i'm like freaked me out i thought he was turning into the guy from charlie's angels because sometimes he'd want to hug me but he wouldn't want to hug me he just wanted to hug my hair i feel like he's that weirdo from charlie's angels

yeah yeah no um i think this mom needs to take it more seriously than emailing us i think you're right she needs to bring this kid to the doctor but thanks for the email yeah what a level of trust we've got but like i gotta get on to teenage are here well i can reassure her by saying i've seen it lots of times in young kids and it's just been a phase. Soon there's going to be infomercials on the TV. If you're having an issue with your child, do not email Tina and Jar. See a doctor.

What was the most trouble you ever got in as a kid? You keep asking me that. I don't think I got in trouble. Come on, Jar, tell us what it is. I can't remember right now what did you do i let the air out of the tires of my brothers and sisters bikes that is so bold charlotte reagan and i don't use that word that is terrible the only time i got what age were you when you did that eight nine whoa i don't think that's a big deal that That's a big deal. Why did you do that? Well, they were annoying me. They were annoying you.

In a nutshell. Did they know you did it? Who knew? I think I owned up to it. Why? Because no one noticed. By the way, check your bikes. They're obviously pissing me off like

they had it coming and i let the air out of all of their bikes and i remember there being consternation over it and i was sent to my room for the first time in my life oh really and being like i thought the response was too much. Charlotte, I think what you did was very bold. Tina, it's air out of the wheels of a bike. But honey... Pump them up again.

But why did you do it? Because they were annoying me. I can't be any clearer. You still sound like you're not sorry. Well, I don't feel like I am. I really am sorry. Here we are. This is like 30.

35 years later. And I'm like, meh. I've had it coming. You're Conor McGregor. I regret absolutely fucking nobody. We could take this opportunity to apologize to absolutely fucking nobody. That's when we could like Conor McGregor when he used to be like, oh.

Oh, God. I loved that bit when he said that. No, I don't think, I can't remember anything I did really bold. We can ask my mom. It's amazing because both your sister and your brother did immensely bold shit.

Yeah, they did. Really bold. We don't even need to go into that yeah but you didn't not that I can remember I was always trying to be good not that it didn't mean any good

I regret that I should have been bold too but I was very serious kid trying to be and grown up we've one more question for you here coming up and I guess we should warn people that it

does hit on the area of grief and around that so if that's triggering for you we should shout it out because this is a parent who suffered a loss and you know trying to work through it with their kid there's also more over on patreon.com forward slash irishman abroad there's an extra question and look back on some things a bit more crack with me and tina and a lot more over on patreon.com forward slash irishman abroad my child won't stop talking about death and dying she's completely obsessed hi guys i just have a quick question that i was hoping you could give me some sort of advice on my overthinker of a five-year-old has started asking a lot of questions about death and i'm not sure how to deal with he regularly and randomly says that he doesn't want

to die doesn't want us to die and we reassure him we're always here for him and that death is something that is only happens when you get really really old or sick and we're always here for him and the death is something that is only happens when you get really really old or sick and we're all fine now he started asking everyone's age and saying so dad is going to die first then mom then me then my little brother he said to his little brother the other day that he was so lucky he was younger than him because he was going to die last oh god that's very tough i'm not sure how to manage it correctly. My husband's mother was cremated and he is now asking,

where is her grave and why can't we visit her? I told him she's in lots of her favourite places and we can go and think of her and be close to her there. I definitely haven't even attempted to explain cremation to him as he's only five. And I've read the book, The Invisible String. Yeah, it's wonderful.

And explained whenever I think of my dad his granddad my heart tugs on a string and it tugs on my granddad's heart and we are all connected even up in heaven but he is really getting obsessed about it i try to answer always but then close the conversation not sure what else I can do. The reason I decided to write to you is that my four-year-old said last night, I don't want to die. And it freaked me the fuck out because the conversation is starting to get into his head. And I'm worried I'm not dealing with it correctly. Any advice?

Well, I mean, first of all all i think this mom has done an incredible job of being able to handle these questions when obviously her and her husband are both working through it working through their own grief i think that's pretty amazing and it's also great that this child both of them feel free to be able to say whatever they're thinking to their parents. It's amazing. It's a very safe space. That's beautiful. It is something that children tend to get fascinated with at this age because they learn about numbers and infinity and they become aware of people dying

and babies being born. And unfortunately, they've obviously had two things happen to, what would you call, what's the word? Two people have died in their family close to them. So they've seen proper heartaches. They've lost a grandparent. And they've seen how absolutely broken people are after when people die and the and how they've had to understand very quickly that those people are

gone you don't get to see them again so it's very very tough so i think this mom is doing an incredible job but how do we help her i feel like she shouldn't stop anything she's doing i think she's just handling it brilliantly i love the way she talked about how because the granny was cremated that she's in all these different places that's absolutely wonderful she could redirect him to learning about different cultures and their different ways of burials different burial customs throughout the years and stuff if he has an interest there or if she doesn't think that's healthy yet because he's still only five she could just redirect him to a more scientifically factual thing of life cycles and you know life cycle of a frog and life cycle of a butterfly and

how you know the life cycle of a human is that we are born we grow up we die we go back to the earth and then we start you know we start again not. But, oh my God, that sounded so silly. Like Mordor, we just dig people out of the mud. It sounded so silly. But, you know, that we become part of the ground and we become part of the place and we're all around. It's a really tough one. It's really individual because it's all about

how comfortable are you with answering the questions you're going to get asked for me i always go with facts i always go with honesty as honest as i can be and you hope then that that's that's that question satisfied and i don't need to ask again you're very good at the matter of factness yeah i keep it matter of fact that's true what it sounds like there to me and that people listen to this might need clarification on this is you sounded there before this that like you were going to give this loads of attention in terms of those things and i worried as you were saying it and as we discussed this before coming on air that if you give it loads and loads of attention does the kid get like oh this is this is a subject me and my mom have together i know what you mean what tina's not saying is that she's brilliant at

going those the facts that's how it works and like this mom is already doing yeah closing the conversation and let's move on yeah that's just the thing that's part of life yeah yeah keep it very like oh well that's just that and that yeah absolutely you're right though you have to be very careful that your child hasn't noticed especially if these are grieving parents that they can draw you in here that this is something i get all the eye contact everything mommy gives me full attention for this so you have to be very careful to be a little bit more they're so smart they're smart. And what do they always want? This is a different kind of conversation. Yeah, they just want.

I get real talk with my mom on this. Yeah, I've said this a million times. And it's true that sometimes children will just misbehave because in those moments they have our attention. They eventually get a hook. So you need to find different ways of giving them positive attention throughout the day. So they'll crave that. So you're right. I mean, it could be that he's completely clicked. Mom, mom gives me her whole. giving them positive attention throughout the day so they'll crave that so you're right i mean it

could be that he's completely clicked mom mom gives me her whole the worrying thing is little bro is now starting to do it and we're worrying about don he's probably seeing the attention that it gets his other brother like you you had this we all had this with some subject or other with our parents yeah you had this with your brother and the cars. You'd get chats with your brother about cars. So you've been interested in cars. You know, I knew to get proper time with my dad. Talking about horses was the way to go. I'm not saying that's what this kid is doing.

No, no, but it would definitely be a factor. It would be a factor. And it wouldn't be on purpose. They'd just have figured out this is nice. Like we get to have talk but also their identity child is smart enough to identify that yes this is something that we will that we take seriously and talk about i think mommy what she's doing is really good and maybe just redirecting him to a different way but also keeping the conversation positive

short factual and then talk about something else yeah but what about little bro how does she do that with him if he's worrying the all of it all of the above yeah it sounds like she's doing what you're saying i think she's amazing she's doing a great job she's worrying that she's going too far i think but i don't think you're ever going too far if you're just being honest if you're just answering the questions but like you say answer them in a very matter of fact that's my answer on that yeah yeah so they'll get bored hearing the same answer yeah yeah yeah like I always recommend this Kurskazak YouTube channel that Mikey actually that's really good for this age I mean I think so but like yeah I mean first because that is in a

nutshell yeah that's what it translates as and they basically are a crowdfunded science channel and it's animated so it looks like they're watching cartoons but they're learning about subatomic particles it's brilliant the universe so if your kid is like like Tina said, I love that kids get into metaphysical talk so quick. Yes, yeah, they do. They're really into it. A philosophical chat. They're little philosophers when they're this age. They really are, yeah.

And we lose it. At a certain point, we go, what are you going to be thinking about that for? Yeah, or it becomes very annoying to answer. That's all you need to know. But they're actually like, I can remember being in a church and thinking about the concept of infinity, that this, if that kept going, you know, the infinite number of monkeys on an infinite number of typewriters. Yeah.

All of that stuff. Like what this mom might be able to, when you say redirect. Yeah. He's into other fascinating subjects. Fascinating. Yes, because that's a great word. He is fascinated with this. He's fascinated with the idea that people die and you never see them again great word he is fascinated with this he's fascinated with the

idea that people die and you never see them i'm still fascinated yeah it is really sad it's really sad but i think she's dealing with it brilliantly and yeah just getting that interest somewhere else would be really good and i actually love those kurskas myself i do i love them um yeah so i hope this is a help and obviously if you've got something similar, message Tina. Irishmanabroadpodcast at gmail.com is my email address. Hers is honey, you're ruining our kid at gmail.com. It's in the bio. And, Charlotte, this week was incredible because, you know, the mom with the twins who was struggling.

I got so many emails from moms of twins with the runners with the runners to with advice to pass on to the mom and that i was which i know which is wonderful that's great wonderful and i thought and and some of them were just like different communities and stuff in different places she could vent yeah we need to get a discord channel going discord yeah discord is a it's a platform for the listeners of the show to interact with each other oh wow yeah because i'm gonna get that set up obviously people really their heart went out to this woman and i thought it was wonderful that they were emailing they weren't emailing for help they were emailing to

just go can you pass this on to that lady I thought that was amazing fantastic okay we've got one more question it's over on patreon.com forward slash Irishmanabroad get access to the

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