HR BESTIES - HR Besties Happy Hour – Watercooler Gossip and Besties Meet In San Antonio!

Episode Date: April 5, 2024

Welcome back to another Happy Hour, Besties! We’re sure as hell glad it’s Friday. In this Happy Hour: Besties meet today in San Antonio! Golf fans, you’re gonna wanna hear this Leigh's feature on the Today Show Addressing hate comments and *burning* dental questions (eye roll) Listener submitted story Your To-Do List: Grab merch, submit Questions & Comments, and make sure that you’re the first to know about our In-Person Meetings (events!) at https://www.hrbesties.com. Don't forget, if you're in the San Antonio area (or want to do a mileage run) join us at Hopscotch in downtown San Antonio at 6pm. We'd love to meet our fellow Besties. All are welcome! Follow your Besties across the socials and check out our resumes here: https://www.hrbesties.com/about.  We look forward to seeing you in our next meeting - don’t worry, we’ll have a hard stop! Yours in Business + Bullsh*t,  Leigh, Jamie & Ashley Follow Bestie Leigh! https://www.tiktok.com/@hrmanifesto https://www.instagram.com/hrmanifesto https://www.hrmanifesto.com Follow Bestie Ashley! https://www.tiktok.com/@managermethod  https://www.instagram.com/managermethod https://www.linkedin.com/in/ashleyherd/ https://managermethod.com Follow Bestie Jamie! https://www.millennialmisery.com/ Humorous Resources: Instagram • YouTube • Threads • Facebook • X Millennial Misery: Instagram • Threads • Facebook • X Horrendous HR: Instagram • Threads • Facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Happy Friday besties! We made it! Woo! Survived another week. And this is a bit of a special episode. We're actually filming it on Thursday to get it to you all because the ladies are coming into San Antonio to visit me and to film season three of HR Besties. So the podcast continues. Unfortunately for y'all. I'm so excited. Probably when a lot of people are listening to this that Ashley and I are on a plane on our way to you, Lee. Jamie, would you have like a mimosa or a Bloody Mary or a coffee? What's your airplane morning drink if you're going for a work slash fun trip?

Probably just coffee to be honest. I know I'm lame. I don't get the party started that early. I'm old now. No, I think I'm, honestly, I think I'm lame. I don't get the party started that early. I'm old now. No, I think I'm honestly I think I'm I think I'm the same. I like to I like to get I'm very bright eyed and bushy tailed in the morning. So I need that coffee. You don't want a $26 mimosa from the airport.

Well, I keep my Delta coupons. I'm a Delta person and I have I have them and I will I will just in case in case I can't get on the Wi-Fi, it is what it is, I will screenshot my QR code for a free drink just to have it in case of emergency. That's smart. Delta sponsored this podcast, just saying. Send us your coupons. They'll send us, they'll sponsor us for three drink coupons, absolutely. I do love how anything goes at the airport though.

It is such a lawless town and it's like the perfect place to people watch. It is so intriguing. People without shoes, people rolling on the floor, people drunk at 5 a.m. Like what the fuck is happening at the airport? For real. The Nashville airport is bananas because there's honky tonks in the airport. Right. Right. Every time I stroll through that, I'm like, um, and there's like live music and it's six AM. Oh, really? And people are drinking beer and shit. And I'm like, wow, that's awesome for y'all. The Vegas airport is the most. And they got the slot machines. I mean, it literally, well, that's the thing. You land and you're like, oh my gosh, that's so exciting.

Like I'm good. I love it. Like ding, ding, ding, ding, ding. Can't wait. And then you're leaving and you may not feel quite so good. And you're like, make it stop. Just like, just shh, shh. Well Vegas, it's kind of like flying out of a porta potty, isn't it?

Like something about, I mean, you know, it's just, oh, you know, like it, it could be better. It could be a little more comfortable, but that's okay. It's probably just your personal condition to your point, actually, like when you're departing. But no, I was going to say that a friend of mine actually got in a fight at the Nashville airport. Oh my God.

So you bring it up. Nashville kind of reminded me because you know how like security is so tight everywhere in the airport, except when it comes to bags. Yeah. Like they're just like, ah, pick whatever fucking bag you want. Like they're like, no one, you know, like, yeah, yeah. Yes. And so, you know, he had landed and someone grabbed his bag and he was like, Oh, no, sorry, this is my bag. And it even had his tag and everything on it. And the guy was like, no, this is my daughter's bag. You're trying to steal her bag and just started screaming and yelling at him.

He's like, sir, literally look, it has my name, my tag. No, I don't believe that. I don't believe that. I mean, it was wild. Like police the whole nine yards. So it was a thing. Holy shit. It was a thing. It was a thing. And that's amazing.

Anyway, so I had never flown into Nashville. I've only driven into Nashville. But when I think of Nashville airport, that's what I think about is that fight randomly. Well, shit. I hope that doesn't happen when y'all come visit me next. Well, I once flew to Nashville and this was from Atlanta. I did a mileage run, you know what I'm talking about? So I think it's changed a bit because I know like Delta very controversially changed their frequent fire program and a lot have, but it was based on how many miles you had. And so at the end of a year, it was the end of 2019, I realized I was like 600 miles short from getting gold status, maybe either gold or

platinum. Gold is like nothing from Atlanta. You would never get upgraded hardly. But anyway, whatever it was, I wanted it. And so I realized that I could fly cheapest to go to Nashville and back. I literally flew to Nashville, got off the plane in Nashville, looked around, went to the bathroom and tried to hide as if anyone was going to be like, oh, what are you doing getting back on the plane?

And then got back on the plane. And actually it was the day I got Rosie. And so I flew back on the plane, drove all the way back up all through Atlanta traffic, back to my house in the suburbs and picked up my family. And we went and got Rosie out in Athens, Georgia. So it was quite a momentous day, but I got my status. Thanks to a very expensive last minute international trip I had to do at a prior employer that I got upgraded for. Between that, kind of the COVID things,

I have like platinum at this point on Delta, even though I don't travel, like I certainly don't travel every week, but I love some status and I'll do aggressive things to get it. Anything for it. Clearly. I know. Taking a 30 minute flight get it. Anything for it. Clearly. I know. Taking a 30 minute flight to Nashville. Oh my gosh.

Yeah. So that's what that's called? Yeah, it's called a mileage run. And mine is like people that are listening that are into that, that are really into it. Like I have a good friend now that's not in mileage runs, but she's into credit card points and the things you can get. This would be Dave Ramsey's, this is his nemesis thing. But she just, she went to the Bahamas.

She's about to go to Hawaii basically for free on these credit card points. So people that get into these travel hacks get really into them. Oh gosh. See, I was thinking about doing that last year, you know, to get the next level on United or whatever. And I was like, well, that'd be crazy.

That's not a thing, right? But look, it is. It is a thing. Oh my gosh. Okay, okay, good to know, good to know. Yeah, it is crazy and I've done it. But anyway. I'm too lazy and cheap.

Yeah, same. But it does pay off. So like we mentioned, the ladies are in transit as we listen. On Friday, it gets so confusing trying to keep all this straight. But we have an action packed weekend planned. Of course, when we get together, it's just like every minute is accounted for. But we're doing a little photo shoot action.

Yeah, because we got to get some brand photos for the happy hour. And just because, of course, there'll be alcohol involved. And then we go to happy hour, right? So if you are in San Antonio, please, please, please join us at hopscotch. It's downtown. It's like this awesome art installation venue. But we will be hanging out in the lobby, just chilling, totally free. Just come on, stop by.

We'll be there around six o'clock. They close at 10. But we were going to be drinking anyway. So we just said, hey, if anyone wants to meet up and drink with us, please do. But we promised you all that wherever we go together, we certainly will give the opportunity to just say hello. We love to know y'all. Come on down to Hopscotch, who is sponsoring us, and enjoy.

And then we film all day, right? On Saturday. It's going to be a long ass day. Long ass day on Saturday. Then we may go out and have a little fun Saturday night, because you all have never seen the River Walk and you all asked to see the Riverwalk. I love bodies of water. Yes, bodies of water.

They're positive. I'm going to need to work in some non-alcoholic drinks in this. Oh yeah. Will we do those? Well, there's so many options now. I love them. I love those fun non-alcoholic drinks and just water, but also things that are still fun.

I know, because I like a thing with a flower in it or something colorful. I don't know. I like that shit. I don't want to get fucked up. I know. Jamie's looking at us confused as to why. She's like, wait, what? Not alcohol? Wait, what? Not alcohol? Wait, what? I don't drink often. I mean, maybe once a week on Saturday. So I'm looking forward to getting fucked up. There you go. Right? So Jamie's getting fucked up.

Just to be honest. White Claw besties. No, we love it. White Claw. I am bringing those to the studio for you. Actually I'm bringing Modelo seltzers. Oh yeah, because you know. So I'm going to introduce you to something. Jamie's.

Something local. Jamie's. Oh, I also like Topo Chica seltzers. That's coming too. That's coming too. We like those. We do those. And then Sunday, I think we record a little bit and then gosh, you all are just having

to fly back out. I know. You know, so fast. Do you know, so fast. You know what I figured out yesterday is so I'm flying and I booked my flight a little earlier than I'd like because my husband Dan and I, we always watch the Masters together. Like we're both golfers, so into it. So I was like hoping to get back and make it in time for the final hole. Well, the Masters isn't this weekend, it's next weekend.

Oh my gosh. So I actually looked on Delta to see about changing it a little later. No, they're sold out. And I don't have enough status to knock them out. But I literally, LOL to myself, I was saving that to say on this half yard because I literally was like, we always watch it together. And I know you were hell bent on it. You were like, I'm sorry, I got to leave early. And we're like, okay, we get it. Oh damn.

Y'all have a thing. I know, but you know, I've never, I've never, I've a huge, huge golf person. I've never been to the masters. It's right down the road from you. Well, I know. Well, it's, well, the tickets are absolutely wild, but I got people will know you can do a drawing. So like if anyone is into this, which is probably 1% of our audience, so stay with us or skip 30 seconds ahead, whatever. But I got, you can do a drawing to get tickets for like 50 bucks. And once you're inside the masters, you can get like pimento cheese sandwiches

for a couple bucks. It's like the Costco equivalent, but obviously bougier because it's Augusta national. But anyway, I would not know that because I have not been there. But my husband Dan sure has because the year that I won, me, Ashley, got my name pulled from the drawing. It was in April and I had my daughter in February and I was like, no, that's fine. I'll be totally fine to still go. Well, of course I'm blinded by the realities of having a baby. And so I didn't go. My husband and his dad and his friends went and they brought me back something. That's a maner cheese sandwich that was warm. No, like a hat.

That's some grass. Yeah, some grass. But I did get up at the PGA championship, which is in Louisville again this year in May. It was in Louisville in 2014 and we actually lived in Atlanta back then, but went up for it. I got hit in the ass. Oh my God.

By a golf ball by Patrick Reed, who's notoriously a jerk, but he actually thought he was very nice because he apologized and gave me a sign ball. That's amazing. But yeah, literally it was coming. It was coming and everyone turned around and then I felt luckily I have some padding back there so we're good. Did it leave a bruise? Like a circle bruise?

It would have on me. No, no, it was like it was on the tail end, but it was literally right on the bottom. Wow. Anyway, now you can listen now, all of you, you non-gulfer listeners, you can. I know, turn it back on. Introducing Tim's new savory pinwheels, the perfect flaky and flavorful snack for those on the go, like me, who's recording this while snacking. Delicious. snack for those on the go, like me, who's recording this while snacking. Ooh, delicious. Try the roasted red pepper and Swiss or caramelized onion and parmesan pinwheels only at Tim's.

At participating restaurants in Canada for a limited time. Well, let's run through some things that happened this week, maybe. We'll just share a little bit of that. And then I think we have some listener stories and questions and just some fun happy hour water cooler gossip, some hot goss here. But I'd love to share that I was on the Today Show this week, which is neat. I know the ladies have already been on the Today Show. I have not. And so that was, now we got a trifecta here. But so excited. People just started randomly messaging me. They didn't reach out and I'm like, oh shit, I was on the Today show.

So that was neat. And then people were sending me the video. So that was cool. That is so cool. It's so neat to see. It is neat. So neat. So neat.

So that was cool. And then I went to the dentist this week and why that is relevant is because I get lots of comments on my teeth. All sorts of crazy shit on my teeth. So people see what they want to see and the angles of the videos and the lighting and whatever. And they say what they want to say. Yep.

And they say what they want to say. Part two of it. And it's so charming and it's so wonderful. But people are convinced that I have a lot of extra teeth, right? So I took the opportunity to ask my dentist. He comes, he checks my teeth. And I say to him, I say, oh, hey, can I ask you a question? He's like, oh, yeah, of course.

I stick in the sharp implements in my mouth. And I was like, do I have extra teeth? And he like kind of pushed his chair back and he was like, what? And I go, well, a lot of people are saying I have extra teeth. And he doesn't know anything about my social shit. So I realize that sounded weird to say. And he goes, who's saying that? Are you seeing other dentists? That's what he said. Like literally.

Are you cheating? Oh, cheating. Am I dentally cheating? This is an example. In the workplace, if you say something to somebody and they don't understand context, they'll assume it's the worst and it's about them. So a good lesson, but yes. They do.

He's like, are you seeing other dentists? I go, no, no, like people online. And he's like, people online. He's so confused. Again, like people online. And he's like people online. He's so confused again, like I did, he doesn't know I do this, you know. And I go, yeah, yeah, just people, you know, seen, you know, my, my photo or my, my content, they just think I have a lot of extra teeth. And he goes, no, you have 32 teeth. You're actually missing two because everyone has 34 and you had two wisdom teeth out. And then he's like, hold on, let me, let me re verify. And he goes and he counts my teeth for me. So I just want to put that out there that I don't know what the fuck

you all are saying. But some of y'all are saying. Also, hey, anyone who feels the need to let anyone on the internet know about their physical appearance, they can get fucked. It is so rude and so unnecessary. Commenting on someone's teeth. Are you okay? Do you need a hug? Well, like I said, Mercury's in Gatorade this week.

Yeah, it's purple fucking Gatorade too. I had over the weekend, someone comment and like, you look and I especially on the weekends tried not to look at social media too much. But I looked and saw a comment and someone said, I recommend you drink more water. So I look at this video and it was like in the evening and of course I'm looking like, do I sound parched? I'm like, kind of okay, like, do I look like what does that even mean? Do you look gray? Like, what does that mean? Right. And I'm like, kind of, okay, like, do I look like, what does that even mean? Do you look gray? Like, what does that mean? Right? Right. And I'm like, who the fuck is this? And so I looked at this person and they had

their full name in their Instagram bio. And so of course, lawyer Ashley, here I go to LinkedIn. Let's see what you do professionally. Tell me like, what's your, what's, let me get my context of the world. Are you, are you a... Dishonny rep. Are you a dermatologist? Like, what are you talking about? No, she she lives abroad. She's American, but I don't do she lives abroad. She's American She is a VC founder, but more notably just the two days prior to this she had posted on her LinkedIn a story about some female founder getting taken down and wrote this post about you know enough is enough This is an American thing, but enough with bringing people, bringing women down.

Oh my God. Women need to be given the same opportunities as men. So I, what do I, what do I do here in this situation? You know, I'm going, you know, I do the mileage runs. I'm crazy. So I go back to Instagram and respond to her comments that I recommend you take the advice in your latest LinkedIn post. Fuck yes. Um, and then I screenshotted her, her, her face and said, I recommend you take the advice in your latest LinkedIn post. Fuck yes. And then I screenshotted her, her, her fans and put it on my story. So it's no wonder there. And someone commented, I've got some like people know, people, people know I'm,

I'm crazy. And so I, but, but also, but don't, don't, don't post a bunch of bullshit as women supporting women and then go and write some comment. And then, yeah, and do the exact fucking opposite. Like, fuck you. You're only doing it for LinkedIn. Well, y'all know, I told y'all about the one I had this week where, first of all, it was a fucking hilarious video. I thought it was about me spewing negative energy in the workplace. And if you actually know me in real life, you know that is not me. So there are a lot of comments And I thought it was about me spewing negative energy in the workplace. And if you actually know me in real life, you know that is not me. So there are a lot of comments that don't understand how jokes work.

But one, there was a couple of comments about my body and something I've always struggled with and it hurts me deep as opposed to someone saying something about extra teeth. But one of them, I went deep. I found this man's aunt. I found this man's dad. I was gonna screenshot it and send it to his mom. I mean, he was a 17 year old kid and he wanted to make a comment about my body.

And I didn't do it, but I went deep. Like, look, baby, I got time. If you wanna talk shit, I got time. Especially, you're like, the busier you are, the more that someone does that and you're like, I am lazy. Yes. I got time to devote to your ass.

If I found his mama, oh, you're damn right, I would have screen shot and said, like, hey, this is the son you raised, FYI. And she would have been proud because she raised, when people do those things, they tend to hear it from somewhere else. Yep. And that's why I didn't send it to his daddy, who I did find, because I was like, I'm sure he got taught by this by his dad. So fuck that.

So I let it go, even though it's still rotting inside and I still saved all the screenshots. Yeah. Well, that's why, but that's why we have our group and when it's Purple Gatorade in particular, we send our love language is texts, love language as texts of affirmation to each other. Texts of support. But just for the record, you hear how crazy Ashley and Jamie are with this shit, y'all. We're also crazy with Lee. She sends us this shit and we dig deep. Jamie will go, she is your...

Yes, especially me. They do. They investigate. What does Lee do? Lee reports people for hate speech and then blocks them instantly. I would never look anybody up or anything. I'm like, ah, fuck you. I'm sending screenshots to your mom and your employer.

Lee doesn't really give a fuck. I know. Y'all are extreme for real. It's one of those things, I'm glad you all are my friends. You know what I'm saying? Like, like I love that about you all. Like total. I need crazy like that. You know, cause I don't do that. I don't even think about it. Ride or fucking die. I am ride or die. I go like, no, I go deep. Like, like what Lee talked about and we'll, you know, like

this right to disconnect law in California that Lee had a video posted about. Like I did, I like went to the source. I was looking up the California assembly bill. You're reading the legislation. Oh my God. Oh my God. Like during the paycheck protection program, PPP, back during COVID, I was so into it. I'm not a good Twitter person, but I was tweeting, I've met a variety of people in there. I was breaking it down. I was on conference calls with a bank talking to their team about what to do. This is like 1am. Oh my God. I love to break down and go right to the source, whether it's more relevant or whether it's someone who's trying to fuck up my mindset.

You're just saying you're crazy about everything. I'm glad we're on the same side. Three part yin and yang is what we are in HR Besties. I'm so glad y'all are on my side. Oh, I never want to be an enemy. I'd be totally fucked. Hell no. Oh gosh. But we did get to help transition us.

We did get an awesome story from a listener and I think Ashley has it. I don't know if you want to share it. It's relevant this week, right? Because some of us had Easter on Sunday. Yeah, we got all sorts of things going on with Easter. Which yeah, I posted Easter, I posted a video Monday and I was like, oh, jokes on us, April Fool's Day, which is stressful in HR. And I'm like, the rest of the world's off today. Again, I say that in a satire video. I got multiple comments. What would someone say to me?

They're like, some countries are working today. Not very well-informed, are you? And I'm like, oh my God. Okay, got it. It's just jokes. Ah. But what cheered me up was the beginning of this story, which made me chuckle. Okay.

So this was sent in by an anonymous HR Besties listener, which you can send these on our website, on our contact page. You don't have to put your name. And this person may not want to because in their workplace, the payroll manager plans an annual Easter egg hunt around the office. And this will be our third one. The payroll manager's idea was to put in laxatives in the shape of eggs as candy in the plastic eggs. And he did not because this listener in HR told

him it is not HR approved, but the horror in that would have been awful. And so I say to this is the story. And so imagining that in the Easter egg and the visuals of that. And so again, when people say HR is not your friend, sometimes, sometimes HR is your friend because it saved you from a real not fun weekend. Like we're looking out, you know, because honestly, like corporate pipes can only handle so much shit. I mean, I've had so many overflowed bathrooms and toilets and busted pipes in my day where we'd have to like shut down the office like after potlucks. Who the

fuck's idea was it to have a chili cook off? You know what I mean? Like what the heck? You know, like the pipes aren't that strong. You know, they really aren't. You have to do the chili cook off. Like if you're going to do it, you need to do it within minutes of quitting time. You really seconds to spare. It's a 3 PM thing for sure. Yes, 4 30 maybe. 4 30. A lunar meal. Just send everyone home after lunch. Yeah, for sure. It really dismissal. Oh my gosh. Lactatives? Come on, fave roll guy. Come on. What I'm just like thinking, are you okay? Well, you can see, like you can see in the grand scheme when people think of something and like, oh, that would be really funny and an idea.

And you're like, I mean, honestly, like, no, like, no, no, no, no. So anyway, so that was a really funny one from a listener that we got a kick out of that thankfully put the stop to. So appreciate HR as the enforcer there. Just stick with chocolate. And I love this is not HR approved. Oh, I know. Gosh. But HR could probably use a laxative. I don't know. Maybe I'm just speaking

for myself. I mean, yeah, we're older is all I'm saying. Oh, gosh. Well, ladies, I'm so excited that you're coming in this weekend. What are you most excited about? The matching pajamas that Jamie bought? I really want to play in that ball pit at hopscotch. I have not stopped thinking about it. I specifically bought biker shorts to wear under my dress so I can play in the ball pit. We do that.

I mean, honestly, it sounds corny, but I'm really excited about seeing you all because I love when we can get together and I'm excited to like go and let loose and just catch up in person. I'm also excited to be in person recording. We posted, you know, when you see this, you can look on our socials and see this week, we posted just a 30 second video. That's like a bloopers clip. Like I rewatched that like three or four times and it got me excited to see all, cause I forgot that that had happened until I watched it. And it's when, when Lee was preparing, cause Lee is,

she said she's an artist. She, she deliberates, Jamie and I are just like, let's do this. So, but he was like preparing, but, but Jamie and I did not know what the fuck she was doing. And so I forgot how funny that was. So it just made me excited to see you all. Yeah. At least there's into space to think sometimes. I close my eyes sometimes. What am I excited for?

Oh gosh. Showing you a little bit of San Antonio, because I know y'all haven't been here before and I'm born and raised and live in San Antonio and I'm very proud of San Antonio as many San Antonians are. And it's just a beautiful place with beautiful people. And so I'm just so excited to get you down here. Just so you can, you know, just try it on for a couple days. You know, you won't really get to see much of it which sucks. You know, you'll definitely have to come back. But just to share that with y'all is special to me. I hope everybody that's listening is having a good weekend and some of you all will be

seeing us tonight. Come up. Don't be shy. We're very moderately, minimally normal people. I'm so abnormal. Oh my God. But we, you know, we just, we're excited to have a good time. And it just means, it means a lot when people say they listen to the podcast, like when

you, you know, people leave that feedback, but like the idea of coming out, like again, we've all had these corporate careers, done things for a long time. And so having this creative outlet, sometimes we feel like it's just the three of us and you forget that we're talking to, talking to some of the besties. So it means a lot to each of you all listening right now. Yes. Excited to see you all tonight. Come on down to Hopscotch. And follow us on social media to follow along if you can't meet us in San Antonio this weekend. Yeah.

Let's go. Jamie's going to share her ball pit video. Awesome. Well, we appreciate you besties. Enjoy the weekend. Glad you survived the week.