I Will Teach You To Be Rich - 106. “I’m about to make $300k but we might have to live in our car”

Episode Date: June 13, 2023

Jack and Christina are 33, both born in Russia. With two young kids, they’re looking ahead to number three and to buying a home. But they have $0 saved and $87,500 in credit card debt that they can only pay minimums on right now. Christina’s income triples soon, can it solve everything? This episode is brought to you by: Masterclass | For unlimited access to every class and 15% off an annual membership, go to https://masterclass.com/ramit. DeleteMe | If you want to get your personal information removed from the web, go to https://joindeleteme.com/ramit for 20% off. Ness Well | IWT listeners can get an extra 5K welcome bonus when they apply for the Ness Card at https://nesswell.com/ramit. Methodology | Visit https://gomethodology.com/ramit and use code RAMIT for 10% off your first order of Methodology Links mentioned in this episode • Get the Podcast Newsletter and exclusive Q&A about the show • Get my New York Times best-selling book • Get Money Coaching with Ramit  Connect with Ramit • Download the Conscious Spending Plan • Get my no-numbers journal • Other episodes • Instagram • Twitter • YouTube • Submit a question for the newsletter iwt.com/askramit  If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here. Produced by Crate Media.

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This is the plan that we want and we go into earn more money. However, my worry is we're gonna spend it and more. She's a spender. But my argument is that our son is never gonna be three years old again. I worked 80 hours a week for three years. I have this kind of stealing from my future, future myself, because I have this contract that I signed. I'm gonna start summer that will increase my salary.

Three or four times. You know the reputation of doctors with money, right? Doctors don't know anything about money. I don't want to be that. No, I think we just went all out. I honestly, I don't want to be that. No, I think we just went all out. I honestly, I don't know what happened. We just decided to upgrade our lifestyle. Prips, clothes, furniture, about a nice furniture from West L.

We need to pay deposit. We need to pay first month payment, and we don't have any money. No money. And I got scared that like, where are we gonna live? Me, Jack and Christina, they're both 33 years old. They're from the same town in Russia, but they met in LA 10 years ago

and they were married in 2020. They earn a lot. Christina, for example, is a doctor, but what you'll hear today is an interesting combination of their culture, their upbringing, and a lack of financial discipline, which has led them to a very troubling situation. They are in tens of thousands of dollars of debt, and they even admit that if and when they start earning more, it's not going to change a thing. Now, a couple of things I want to point out before we go on, of course, you can watch this

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And we have two kids. We need to stay in the area because of the school and et cetera. That's when I felt very scared. I really was scared because we needed to pay $7,000 for the our town home deposit and first month and everything. And we didn't have that. When did that happen? Two months ago, honestly. Pretty scary. It was really scary. It's interesting hearing the two of you living paycheck to paycheck making $207,000 a year. Do you think that that's normal?

We have never been connected in terms of money. So when you ask like when did you guys disconnect, we've never been connected. So we kind of are separated from the get co. We've been together for quite a few years. We got married in 2020. Before we got married, we got a first kid. And then we got second kid. We got married. We never talked together how we're going to handle finances together from now on. Do you have conversations about having kids? We did. You have conversations about where you're going to live, and if you're going to buy a

new or some type of diapers? Yes. Not money, though. Not money, really. We didn't know what we're going to get into in terms of money issues. We thought we're not going to have any issues. How often do you think about it? Lately quite often, if one of us brings up conversation by money on a daily basis, that

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Again that's join delete me slash remete R-A-M-I-T. This is the plan that we want and we go into earn more money. However, my worry is we've done spending even more. She's a spender. If we get a good check, she gets a good check, she can go ahead and spend it on something nice. I have a feeling that we're going to change our lifestyle. And I don't want to be in the same situation we're in right now. So I want to be conscious So I want to be conscious while it was spent on. And when we got married, maybe we started to plan it more together. But again, we, because of the differences in our money philosophy,

we are not doing a good job. This ever come up before you got married. Like, for example, hey, I've noticed that you blank, blank, blank, and it makes me feel blank, blank, blank. I'm in the front, or you? No. I knew he was worried about money, but I didn't, I think I didn't realize how much

he was worried about money. Up until we were like married legally, I did not feel comfortable to ask for money. I was like anything to do with money. Once we were legally married, then I kind of like became more comfortable. And that was exactly when the debt started. Correct. We got married debt-free as far as I remember. Really?

You got married only-free as far as I remember. Really? Yeah. You got married only three years ago. Yeah, so we all the dad accumulated within the last three years. So what happened in three years? The credit card dad is huge. We don't have money to pay more than minimum pay. And the minimum pay equals the APR. Yeah.

So we like, don't move anywhere, you know? That got you worried. Yeah. So we like, at the, like, don't move anywhere, you know? That got you worried. Yeah. I can go back to, was it last year? The plan was, was plan a trip to Hawaii. Cool. When you look at the, you know, flights and bookings, everything, you see the number, let's say $5,000 for the whole trip

with the family. And I know we don't have immediately that number. The only way to pay for it is credit card. So my argument is, hey, maybe we should skip the trip this year. Let's just save up, let's get rid of some debt. Let's plan it ahead of time, but next time, right when we do have cash. And Christina's argument is, hey, I'm going to be on vacation. What else I'm supposed to do on vacation. I want to go somewhere, you know, I'm tired because I'm always working. I, you know, I want to vacation and let's just, let's pay for it. So we went on that trip trip was amazing.

Great experience. Pictures. Everybody had fun. Boston trip came back happy. But that dark spot in our wallet, right, is still there because it left a scar which is more credit card that what do you mean it left a scar it was a $5,000 trip you put on your credit card and then what happened and that trip Never got paid for still I don't think it has been. I'll take the complete silence here to mean it's still not paid off. We actually plan in the trip in July. This coming July. What trip? We want to go to Singapore. What the fuck? Well, did you already book stuff? No, yeah

How much is this Singapore trip gonna cost the flight only like $10,000? Oh, that's nice and how much for all the other stuff too? Yeah, so you can imagine would be at least five grand more Yeah, at least let's say 25,000 total. Would that be fair? You factor it all in taxes, all that stuff, don't you think? 25,000? Okay. So where's that gonna, oh, you're going on that

because by that point you'll be making a lot more money. No, actually start right after. But again, this pressure, it's like pressure of myself on me, the society the pressure of the society. Which society is pressuring you to go to Singapore? Not to go to Singapore, but like, oh, I'm a doctor. So I can afford my friends, like the friends that we plan to go with to Singapore,

you know, everything. Should we get them on the Zoom call right now? They don't know. Yeah, everything is, they don't even know. They don't know you have debt, right? Yeah. If they knew you had debt, I'm not asking you to tell them, but if they knew, what do you think they would say about you taking a $25,000 trip to Singapore?

No, yeah, they would say we're crazy. Do you think you're crazy? Okay. When I think about that, that way, yeah, would you be open to canceling or delaying the trip? Sure, yeah. And I probably won't have another opportunity to go until later. But my argument is that our son is never going to be three years old again, and I want to give them like the best what I can.

I want to give them this experience. And again, as he said, I worked 80 hours a week for three years. So now when I'm having like more free time, I really kind of feel guilty that I didn't spend the time with my kids. And I have this kind of, I'm stealing from my future, future myself, because I have this contract that is signed, and I'm gonna start somewhere with like, that will increase my salary three or four times. So I'm kinda thinking like, oh, that's not a big deal. And then I pay my $100,000 credit card that,

but I know that's not right thing to do. But then again, because I'm stealing from my future, you know, future myself. You care? Does it really matter to you if you're going to triple your income? It does because again, I want to be able to use the money because I will have to pay off my credit card. And then I think I won't be able to save for the house or for whatever it is vacation. And I'm afraid that it's going to be the same. And it actually might get worse. I might have even more dad, right? So if I don't stop. Well, you'll definitely have more dad.

I mean, what are you paying? 26, 28% on your credit card? Yeah. You're using the Magic Wand right now. We're with Dead Free. Same income. We're going to go back to dead with current lifestyle. That's the truth.

That's consideration of our income. Actually, what caused this all this debt, to be honest. Yeah. Yeah keep going and we We should stop considering that until we have it. Oh Shit, okay talk it out. I want to hear you tell me. What do you mean by that? The first? I started with Jack's Job giving him higher salary and then I was sudden the business went down But the lifestyle did not and then I was suddenly the business one down but the lifestyle did not. And then now I'm approaching my, the end of my training, it's actually like two months

pretty much. And so I'm just like, all out, spending, whatever credit cards I've got. Have you actually thought about what you're going to do with the new income? Yeah, so that actually makes me very anxious. Oh, why is that? income. Yeah, so that actually makes me very anxious. Oh, why is that? I don't know. So that's why I've started to look into all this retirement plans. First of all, I'm scared of the taxes I have to pay. And second of all, I again, like, yeah, I don't know what to do. Besides of paying off my dad, I don't know how to save. I don't know how to use money.

That's the problem. Great. Very honest answer. OK, I could work with that. Jack, what's your take when her income goes up, have you thought about what the two of you should do? Yeah, that was my primarily concern. That's why I apply because it's coming. It's around the corner and

It seems to me that hey now the income is more let's go on this vacation. Yeah But look at Christina smiling right now. She's like mm-hmm. That sounds pretty good to me. Christina, am I reading that right? Yeah? She's like, mm-hmm, that sounds pretty good to me. Christina, am I reading that right? Yeah. Notice the clues. They never really talked about money when they got married. Then they had two kids and realized they were in financial trouble. They were almost homeless.

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with money, or do you still feel like it's a bit murky or dark for you? It's a bit dark still. I just realized something. One of the reasons we got into debt and we allowed ourselves our current lifestyle is, first of all, we knew about Christina's path. people with triple income later. So I will have opportunity to pay off if we get in debt, which we did. And the thing with me, right, we were talking,

I hate, hey Jack, what is your, what you wanna do with your life, right? You wanna earn more, you could where you at. And I said, I wanna earn more too. So he had jump in his salary during COVID. And when he started to have this six figure salary, he shared with me that he never thought he would have that much money. Although it was not a lot, but he for him, it was like, oh, I would never even think that I deserve that. I think that. Hold on,

just a second, just to clarify, six figures is not a lot to you. So I mean, it was like low six figures. That's what I mean. What low is what? Well, what? It's like a hundred thousand. Okay, so. Very much. Yeah. What is a lot to you? Okay, that's a good question. Maybe half a million dollar. Okay, a lot. Did you expect to be the higher earner when the two of you met? maybe half a million dollar. Okay, a lot. Did you expect to be the higher earner when the two of you met? Not not necessarily. No. Okay. And is it common in Russian culture for women to be the higher earner?

Probably not. Is that an issue for the two of you or no? No, not I don't think that's an issue for me. Jack? On the surface, I don't think it's an issue. We just grew enough, right? In our culture, men would be always a breadwinner, at least in my family, that's how I went. I've had conversation with my dad when we talked about my current income, my future income, and he didn't mention that, hey, you know, you're supposed to earn more no matter what,

because you're the man you're supposed to provide for your family. That's this kind of thinking I grew up with. How did you receive that when he told you that? So I don't I don't fight my dad. You know, whatever I feel, I'll just tell him, but I don't I don't fight about it because I know he's not going to change his views. How would you describe the way you grew up when it came to money, Christina? And I remember my dad, he's a physician, and he had to take like extra night calls, and then he also was like a taxi driver

to like earn a little more income up until I was eight. We were kind of struggling. So I was born in the USSR with SARS so there was like not much money overall in the society. When I was eight, he opened up like a business, a clinic, clinic that grew substantially. So now he has a chain of clinics. So he did a really great job. So I don't, I didn't have any needs in terms of like financially when I was growing up. He did, we didn't need anything. He paid for my medical school, you know, like, I didn't have medical school, that, which is huge. But then I kind of got myself into worse, that. And what about your mom?

So my mom is a spender like me. So she, again, I think because she, she never really worked, I don't think she has a real understanding of what money is. And I think it's for her, it's really easy to spend. So she's kind of a spender and our family still is. Would you say that you have an understanding of money? I don't think so, but I, you know, at least I am curious about it now and I want to learn.

So I think that's my first step. First of all, you guys really have to stop using low six figures and mid six figures. None of you know what you're talking about and you always use it incorrectly. Have you ever noticed people totally use these phrases and they always twist it to their advantage? You have some 23 year old banker living in Murray Hill. He's out. He's trying to hit on people.

He goes, yeah, I make mid six figures. He makes $149,000 a year. And then you have some wealthy person. You ask him, are you wealthy? They go me? Well, of me? Will old me? I'm no Jeff Bezos.

I only make six figures. I'm working class. Turns out they make $979,000 a year. Please stop it with this six-figure, mid-low bullshit. Let's get honest with each other. Okay, now to Christina and her background. They started struggling in her words in the former USSR and climbed the social ladder to where she quote didn't have any needs. Her dad paid for med school for

her. Christina's mom is a spender like her. Did you hear that? And interestingly, she said that her mom doesn't really understand money. Never did. But when I ask if she does, Christina says, I don't think so, but at least I'm curious about it. Lots of clues here that are going to be thinking. What do you notice? Seems like you're comfortable if I'm reading it correctly. That Christina earns more Okay. Um, well, yes and no. Tell me. So currently, right? Because we, we, we kind of go up and down in, at least in my incomes, right? I was a high earner.

Then I dropped down to be not the high earner. I don't even know how I feel, right? I feel fine. And I just I don't I don't even think about how I feel about that right now. Because I think about how we how we handle or the situation. So would you say that the two of you are on the same page right now? I think we're getting there slowly. Really? Why'd you fill out the application

that doesn't look like it from the application? Should I read it? You can read it. Have you read it, Christina? No, I wish I know. Because I wrote it twice. And well, I guess the second one. I got picked.

No, I have no idea. Okay, let's just take a look here, shall we? What is the biggest challenge you are facing when it comes to love and money in your relationship? Answer, lack of responsibility for our money. Living a lifestyle, we can't afford. Is there one main issue you'd like help with from Rumi? Answer, we earn good salaries yet we have debt that keeps piling up.

However, given our spending ambitions, we are very likely to keep living paycheck to paycheck. We'd like to both understand that no matter our income, we must still be conscious of our spending and money relationship. That answer is where I knew both of you did not fill this out. One of you filled it out in code for the other one to be able to do that. Jack, am I telling the truth here? Yes. Yes. Christina? Okay, I agree with all of that in theory. Oh, in theory. Oh, please, tell me. But no, I totally agree with the problem and what is the problem in a sentence or two? Like, living the, our expenses, like the lifestyle, is way beyond what we earn. This is becoming more and more common on this podcast.

One partner submits the application, the other has no idea. That first partner who submitted the application. The other has no idea. That first partner who submitted the application is worried. They're concerned. The other one, not a care in the world. Everything's fine. It'll all work out in the end. This is kind of mind blowing to me because they go through application, a screening interview. They get detailed instructions. There are so many opportunities for them to talk about things. How can a couple end up talking to me? Finally, after this entire process, and they never even shared the application with each other. Whatever, people are weird. This is why I love my job. Let's take a look at some of their numbers. Their assets are $11,000 in a Jeep Grand Cherokee.

$1,000 in a Jeep Grand Cherokee. Their investments are $54,400. Savings are zero, and their debt is $87,475. All of which is credit card debt. What credit cards, by the way? What do you have? Chase? I got three of them, and we have like Best Buy, you know, bought some stuff on it, but it's-

Hold on, hold on. Was this like you were in line at Best Buy and you're like, I know. I'm going to save 10% on my $30 purchase. How did you get a Best Buy card? The thing is, we've been moving from place to place, at least once a year, sometimes this is where the card came from. Because, oh, zero APR, we can get a fridge. Let's look at it online. We don't have money to pay for fridge right now, but let's get zero APR, whatever.

Did it work? The zero percent APR. We got to reach out. The zero-epi are going to work. No. It didn't. I'm so shot. Don't even tell me. Let me guess.

12 months, zero percent. And then you got to 12 months or 12 months and two days and you missed a payment or you didn't realize it was due on this day and they backdated all the interest and now you had to pay it all. Did I get that right? Not quite right. We just you just kept using the cart. That's the problem. Oh, yeah.

For you didn't get so you did get 0% APR for a year. For a while. Yeah. And then you just kept using it. We're over it now. Correct. And like, yeah, so it was not just the fridge. House of the fridge. So.

And how much debt is on that Best Buy card now? Things like Microsoft probably. Man, what? Best Buy is fine. Hold on. Hold on. I think I have it. Jack wants to set the record straight.

Hey, Rami, don't rag on my Jeep and my best bike. Go ahead. Tell me Jack. Twenty five hundred. Okay. So number five. Yeah. But you know, the Home Depot one. It was Bennett. Don't ask why we have some deep down. So it was the same. Home Depot we actually I think it all. So that one worked. There you go. What else do you have? Best Buy, Home Depot, what else? I have Capital One, Seated Bank. I have two Chase credit cards.

Yeah, I have like seven. Why? I don't know. No, you know. You know why. Tell me why. Again, it's the same story. So we went to Hawaii vacation to get with a 0% APR for 12 months,

that we never paid at all. And then Jack went to Florida to visit his friend. That's why we got Alaska card. So we get miles. How much is on that Alaska card now? Please tell me zero. And no, it's actually $12,500500 and it's pretty much maxed out. So I think the credit limit is like 14,000. Yeah. So you're paying almost as much in debt payments as you are for rent. And this is like what the minimum? This is only the minimum, literally. Wow. You know what the minimum you're basically going to be paying this for like 25 plus.

Yeah, that's what they send me, yeah, 30 years. Recently, I forgot and I got like the fine and like another fee of like 60 bucks. And I was like, always like, oh, I should call them. And I never did call because I think I, I feel embarrassed. That's the reason I never did call. Because I think I, I feel embarrassed. That's the reason I didn't call. You feel embarrassed to call Bank of America, but you're on this podcast. I know.

You know how you hear stories about people opening up credit card after credit card, jumping from 0% gimmick to another gimmick, and you go, ha ha ha, that's so crazy. There's no way that's true. It's just something people talk about. Nope, here we have a chance to meet people who actually do exactly that.

I have a real problem with people who write me asking if they should open up the 0% balanced transfer thing that they can get for 12 months because why do they have to pay interest? It turns out that people who ask those questions are almost always looking for a gimmick, a hack, a shortcut to avoid doing the one thing they need to do. If you have credit card debt, the single thing you need to do is to set up an automatic

payment plan so that you are paying off your credit card every single month. And if you set that up, that means you will naturally be controlling your expenses. But most people don't wanna do that. They wanna jump on any particular gimmick they can find instead of the single thing that actually works. Stop it with these gimmicks. Spending $50,000 so you can make 10 cents in free Marriott points, jumping around from 1%

balance transfer to another, promising yourself that you will magically change in the future when you're not even willing to change today. Get real, take control of your money and do it the real way. That is the only way to start living a rich life. Jack, your total net worth is how much? We're negative 22,000. How do you feel about that number? I feel like that's that's not good and I feel

like that needs to change in the opposite direction. You know how do you feel about that? I was actually really happy when we filled it out because I thought we're going to be like a hundred thousand in credit card that but then I forgot about my retirement account. So that kind of is it that you are surrounded with other like physicians who have tons of debt. So it's normalized to you. Kind of yes. That's I guess this like delayed gratification and and knowing that and knowing that I will have money in the future. And many of my physician friends do that. You know the reputation of doctors with money, right?

Kind of. I mean, I can guess what is your guess that like doctors don't know anything about money. You care? I do. I don't want to be bad. All right, let's move on. Let's take a look at the income. I'm so interested in this line. Christina, can you read this to me? The gross monthly income for me is 11,400.

And what about, and what about for both of you? For both of us, 17,268 dollars. What do you think about that number? It's a lot. Yeah, did you know that? Actually, when we put the numbers, again, I was surprised. $268. What do you think about that number? It's a lot. Yeah, did you know that? Actually, when we put the numbers, again, I was surprised. And I don't know where it goes.

Oh, literally. You don't know where it goes? I mean, right, hard death. Well, we're about to find out. But if we annualize that number, that's $207,000. That's a pretty good income, wouldn't you say? Yeah, fantastic. Any comments?

You don't think, wait, wait, didn't you say that like $100,000 is like not that much? So is $200,000 a lot or no? It is, I mean, it's definitely enough, especially if we didn't have a dad. How much were you making when you got married? Probably around the same, right? So if you, yeah, it was around the same, because Jack

was earning more, but I was earning less. Was it enough for you then? No, I think we just went all out. I honestly, I don't know what happened. We just decided to upgrade our lifestyle. Prips, like clothes, furniture, about like a nice furniture from West L. So it's kind of interesting that you said just a minute ago,

200K, 200 seven Ks good, if we didn't have debt, but used to make the same amount with no debt and it wasn't enough for you. What's your takeaway from that? I mean, we definitely increased our spending. Do you ever want to go down? In how much you spent? I don't know, I don't want. Yeah I suspected that and why is that? Because I want to go out. Why? You know like I always believe like in growth and like going up growth and going down.

And means like, like anything, right? So like lifestyle wise, money wise, the earning attention. What is the word up to you means what? It means like, I don't worry about my finances and it means that I don't work for the money. We have a bit of a conundrum though because you told me 200K is enough money for our family if we don't have debt, but then we realized you used to make 200K.

You had no debt. It wasn't enough. And now you've told me you don't want to go down in spending. So we've kind of boxed ourselves in. What do you think the solution is here? I mean, I think the solution will definitely have to go down in spending have to go down and spending to pay off that debt and then be more careful in the future and like youth cash. So you think that that's possible for you? I think so, yeah. You seem very achievement oriented. It seems like you've been like that for

most of your life, would that be fair to say? Yeah. So if you have been doing this for your whole life and suddenly you're asked to do this, do you think it's possible for you to do it? I think I can. Why? I mean, I do have experience with delayed gratification in like their medical school and through my training. Totally.

So I think I can handle for another year. Another year? Yeah. What if it was two years? I mean, two years also should be okay. You know, what Christina said resonates a lot with me, this idea of wanting to go up in life. And I'm gonna give you an example from my own life.

I'll use hotels because I love hotels. I want to go up in life when it comes to hotels. If I go to the same hotel, I wanna stay in the same room or nicer, I don't wanna go to a less nice room. Now, that might resonate with you or if you don't like hotels, think about the food you buy. Think about your kids' activities. Think about the clothes you wear. Whatever it is that's important to you, most of us have at least one area of life where we want to go up. We don't want to go down. So, I get it, Christina. In order to do that, in order to have a constant upward trend,

you need to keep an eye on two things. Number one, your income and number two, your expenses. Now, Christina's income is going to go up. That's fantastic, but she has not kept an eye on her expenses. They are going neck and neck with her income. In fact, they're actually exceeding how much she makes. And so it's very predictable that with her income. In fact, they're actually exceeding how much she makes. And so it's very predictable that when her income goes up, her expenses will go just as high. Now again, it's very, very difficult to cut your spending on things that you've become accustomed to, especially if they're important to you.

In fact, for a lot of people, it's psychologically devastating to have to downsize your house or pull your kids out of certain activities. If you have to do it, but the ideal situation is to monitor your income and expenses, so you never have to make that decision in the first place. What situation are you co-creating? Because then and only then can we start to change it. Otherwise, we're just talking at the superficial plan level. So, what is going on? I kind of have this emotional, I'm getting emotional after I spend a lot of time working,

and then I have this vacation. When you're medical training, you do not get to choose your vacation. They just tell you, oh, your vacation is July 15 to July 30. That's it. And like in order to like relax and do something, I just have to like, oh, we'll go to Hawaii or whatever. Yeah. So it's like you have this compressed period of time where you're off work. You don't even know when it's going to be. And when you're at work, you're working like crazy hours.

So you're just like, ah, this is my 15 days and we're going to use it to the max. Correct. And so therefore you go, I don't really care what it costs. Like, let's just go and we'll deal with all that stuff later, right? That's correct. That's exactly correct. And sometimes Jack would say, like, oh, maybe we should not. He'd been very nice. And he, like, maybe we should think about that. Maybe we should save for the next vacation. Like we went to Las Vegas in October from my birthday. And it was like, all credit card again.

And I know you didn't want to go, but you just went because I was pressuring. How's that work, Jack? It's very tight. It didn't really work. And then considering you've tried that, what, 25 times has it ever worked? No, because something else. It's just very convincing.

Neither of you really took it seriously either, because dynamics win, not a plan. I'm trying to think of other areas of our life that I think we excel that, right? We both, we eat healthy foods, we work out every day. You work out every day? We wake up at 5 a.m. and we go workout first thing. You know what I wanna do? The way you two treat fitness.

Calm, cool, methodical. You have a training plan. You show up every day, you have a goal, and you have people in your life who go, how do you so motivated? How do you go to the gym every day? You ever have people who say that to you? Yeah, all the time. And what's your response to them? When you have to do that, you have to, that's what people always ask me like, how do you do with the kids and work in art and just basically choose to do that. Wow. You have another choice.

That's so interesting. And Jack, what about you? I say the same thing plus I just add my little philosophy where I went to come to training eating healthy to me. It's to have more energy for my family and kids, because it takes energy. So you developed a philosophy around your training. I love that. Either of you seeing any connections to the way that you handle or don't handle money?

Yeah. What do you see? Disconnecting money philosophy and lack of our own money philosophy together. Beautiful. Christina. Yeah, so I agree. So we don't have any plan. We do have this workout plans,

but we don't have any plans regarding our money. Yeah, exactly. Exactly. In fact, I would be willing to bet that two of you are so advanced. Like when people ask, how do you make time to work out or how do you motivate? You're just like, in your head, you're like, what? Like, I don't motivate myself. It's just we go every day. It's a habit.

It's important to us. So we do it. That's what I say. I say discipline. It's not motivation is discipline. Yeah. So right now, there's no consequences. But there's also no consequences in fitness if you don't train for a week, a month, even a year. Okay, whatever. So you've found meaning in coming up with a training plan and going, etc. You found meaning there. I don't think you found meaning with your spending. Would you agree with that? Yes. It's Jack. Yeah.

And so I hope you can see, there's so many strands here. We could pull them forever because you could just as easily say that in the morning in the morning I'm tired. I don't want to work out, but you've created meaning and a plan and a set of behaviors. And when it comes to money, it's totally absent. And especially when you combine all those absences with really hectic work schedule. Of course, you're just gonna spend money to feel good. So, looking at your conscious spending plan, what do you think is, well, what's your goal?

What do you want to accomplish here? Pay off the credit card. Is that true? Yes. What do you think is a good plan to do that? Kind of limit as much as possible other expenses. Okay. And use that free money to pay off the credit card. So what would be an example?

So our son will start public school in summer. So we can use that $1,000 to pay. My work also will start giving me housing allowance in summer, $600 a month. So we can use that to pay. Hold on. Let me make some notes here. So you're going to get a thousand a month for housing. 1600. 1600 Wow, great. Okay. And how much are you going to be able to spend from your $1,345 towards debt? That's your daycare and after school.

Um, likely, maybe 900. Can we be conservative? Maybe like 800. Sure. 800. I don't want to have a bad surprise. So that's 2400 a month more towards your credit card. That's kind of amazing, don't you think? I read somewhere that you can span extravagantly on the things you love.

Oh my God. Right? This is like music to my ears. Keep going. Yeah, and you cut mercilessly on the thing you love. Oh my God, this is like music to my ears. Keep going. And yeah, and you cut mercilessly on the thing you don't care about. This is the greatest podcast conversation of all time. Okay, and so all that sounds really good. Where did it go wrong?

That's what you would do, right? That's what you would do. That's what you would do. That's exactly what I wanna do. Oh, so you wanna do. That's exactly what that's that's exactly what I want to do. Oh, so who's so you want to do it? I want to do it. So who's missing from this equation? I like to hear we want to do it. Why don't you why don't you say that? Tell her. Yeah. I mean, I want to do that. I agree. Sometimes the best thing I can do is to help people make a connection between money and something that they are already good at.

What is it for you? Could be cooking, fitness, organizing your house, whatever it may be, think of all the work that you've put into getting good at that. Think of all the subtle behavioral tweaks that you make on a daily basis that keeps you on top of it. That's the same with money. A lot of us think that money is some mystical thing. You're either blessed and good at it or you're not. No, what I like to do is make that connection and show you just the same way you practice cooking for thousands of hours is the same way you can get good at money. You can take control of your money.

You can use it to live a rich life. Now if you listen to this podcast, this gives you an insight into how other people are doing it. If you want more specific help, get my book. It's in every library or any bookstore. And if you want to ask me questions and surround yourself with other people, get more hands-on help. Go to Iwt.com slash money coaching. I do a live Q&A every single month. Now you're starting to really get into what

the core cause of this is. For so long, you have been subsidized or been made consequence free. Think about it. You were very fortunate that your dad paid for medical school. Amazing. That's like awesome. You were doing okay on your own. You got into a little bit of debt, paid it off fine. It three years ago, what happened?

The two of you combined your finances. Suddenly, it appeared that you had a lot of money. So because of this compressed work schedule, small vacation, you were like, let's go, what's the phrase you to use? It starts with an A, all out. Let's go all out. Dinner, fuck it.

Trips, book it, right? And that debt starts accumulating. And you still kept going. 10,000, 20,000, 50,000, $87,000 of debt. Honestly, what's the problem? Jack's a little uncomfortable sometimes. Jack writes this application. Big deal. But then you almost got kicked out of your housing.

And what was the one thing that saved you from getting kicked out of that housing? What was it? My dad. Yeah, another check, another subsidy. So I don't mind that you have a dad who's really generous and he's able to get, I don't mind that. All right. What I would like is for you to create your own subsidy. I would like for you to create your own emergency fund. I would like for you to

create your own plan fund for Singapore trip before you go. And most of all, the way to do that is to create your own vision. Okay, that is the most important part. A vision would be something like, we never take a vacation unless we can pay for it in full. Okay. A policy would be, we are going to accelerate our debt by cutting back on X, Y, and Z and pay it off automatically every single month. Okay. Another philosophy would be, we're going to celebrate along the way, but we're going to do it more modestly because we want to live and even richer life in the future. How do those things strike you? Um, I like that. I, I completely agree.

Let's just look at this right now. So I have here, your debt payoff plan. Now, is it actually true that you're paying $3,841 a month towards your credit cards? So it's gonna go down, because again, it's like payment plans, so it's gonna go down. But I hopefully will not go down because, oh, I mean, I will remain it at that amount just to pay it faster. Okay.

It will go down. But the last six months, they were like this, 300,000, uh, $3,000. $3,841, right? About that. Okay. All right. That's quite aggressive. Great. And with your income, you can afford it. Uh, okay. Um, And with your income, you can afford it. OK. Right now, you're going to pay it off by January, 2026. OK. If you take it up to the number that you discussed, which is with your child care and the housing allowance,

I want to show you from January 2026, which is about three years. You can actually pay it off by October, 2024. One year. What do you think about that? It's pretty fast. I would like to do that. That's like amazing. Jack, what do you think?

Yeah, I think it's more than possible. Okay. All right. I think that part is really good. So what that shows you is, yes, you have a lot of credit card debt, but you also have a high income and you have money starting to become more available

from other places. That's fantastic. You know, it's very possible. You know, you're gonna make what, 300 plus, plus like $370,000 or something like that. It's extremely possible for you to to live, check to check on that. It is extremely possible. I've met people on this podcast who do that. What a tragedy. If that's the way you live your life. You know, at $370,000 a year, you could be multi,

multi, multi millionaires. Easy. I'll tell you, like truthfully, I want to pay this debt off fast. First just for a sense of pride, but really because I'm like, we're young and we have an awesome life ahead of us. We have two kids. We love to travel. We love to have a good time. And so we've like created this thing that's just dragging us down.

And we're going to be doing this for the rest of our lives. Fuck that. Let's get out of this, get rid of these things that are holding us back. And then we can start to do some awesome stuff. That's how I look at it. What do you guys think? Yeah, we need to grab this by the neck and really attack, attack, exactly. Yeah, I like it. I like it very much. And now for their follow ups, first, Christina. Christina writes, the podcast was truly a life-changing experience with many insights. I was surprised how easy it was to talk with you about this very intimate topic.

I consider my financial issues a weakness, and I do not want to be viewed as a weak person. Moreover, I think I hide behind more spending from the fact that I'm in debt just to make myself look better. I realize that I always refer to help from my parents as help from my dad. Probably that's the reason I never connected with Mike on the topic since I've never observed that connection between my parents. I do understand mutual financial goals are essential and will take steps every day to build

that connection. You understand mutual financial goals are essential and will take steps every day to build that connection. I admit I'm a spender and enjoy it. However, we plan to take care of the credit card debt ASAP before any trips. Lastly, we were truly surprised to find out how much guilt-free money we will have when we updated the CSP. We plan to invest a lot and save up for a Singapore trip that actually was cancelled for July 2023. Jack said, being a guest on your podcast felt literally like being a guest at someone's house,

warm and comfortable. I was actually surprised to see my wife and I so easily share our money struggles publicly and I'm glad we did. Our talk together helped both of us realize that like other aspects of life, we need to create rules and stick to them. We are now committed to having more money dates together to discuss our rich life on fine-tune it as necessary, at least one in two months. I was personally surprised to see my wife change her mind about the trip to Singapore and make a better decision together, and by the way, we are not going to Singapore this year. Instead, we are going to plan a smaller trip close to home in California with a couple of nights with the kids.

I want to thank you, Christina and Jack, and I want to remind you on Thursday, on this podcast, I'm going to do a special episode where I talk about how I plan my dream travel. I got a bunch of questions from you on social media. I'm going to answer them, including specific locations, numbers, everything. And on Saturday, on the podcast newsletter, I'm going to share some peculiar things I've noticed about the way that we travel and spend money on it. You can get on that podcast newsletter at iwt.com slash podcast newsletter. Thanks for listening. Thanks for listening to I Will Teach You to Be Rich. I'm Remeded Saiti. Please follow the show

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