I Will Teach You To Be Rich - 144. “We make $245K. Why do I have to ask my wife for dinner money?”

Episode Date: February 20, 2024

Brad and Angie, 55 and 56, are each 10 years into a second marriage. With six adult children out of the house, they’re planning to buy an RV and tour the country in as little as two years. Carrying credit card debt, student loans, a HELOC, mortgage, and only $3,000 saved—can they? This episode is brought to you by: ZocDoc | Download the ZocDoc app for FREE at https://zocdoc.com/ramit then find and book a top-rated doctor today. LMNT | Right now, LMNT is offering 8 single serving packets FREE with any LMNT order. This is a great way to try all 8 flavors. Get yours at https://drinklmnt.com/RAMIT. Eight Sleep | For a better, smarter sleep, go to https://eightsleep.com/ramit for $200 and free shipping.  Fabric by Gerber Life | Protect your family today with Fabric by Gerber Life. Apply today in just 10 minutes at https://meetfabric.com/ramit. Masterclass | For unlimited access to every class and 15% off an annual membership, go to https://masterclass.com/ramit. Connect with Ramit • Get the Podcast Newsletter and exclusive Q&A about the show • Get Money Coaching with Ramit  • Download the Conscious Spending Plan • Listen to my book—now on Audible • Get my New York Times best-selling book • Get my no-numbers journal • Other episodes • Instagram • Twitter • YouTube • Submit a question for the newsletter iwt.com/askramit  If you and your partner have a money issue and you want my help, I occasionally select a couple to work with, free of charge. Apply for my help here. Produced by Crate Media.

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slash podcast newsletter. I've been using YNAV for like a year and a half and trying to get a month ahead in there, but I just can't seem to do it and it doesn't make any sense to me. I know it's probably, I know why it is because we're spending too much money, but can't seem to fix that quite right. When I talked to him about money, he would just kind of blow up. And I know it's because of his, he's uncomfortable with the whole money thing. She has a business degree and she's a spreadsheet whiz kid. I'm not saying it's right that I just took the easier out and let her handle

everything, but that's definitely what I did. I want to be able to say, yeah, we can do that. We can do that. We can do that because I figure I make a good living and I deserve it. But it's still above our means a little bit. You know what? I go through these things where I think somebody is just siphoning money off my account. It's just happening.

Somebody else. Eat's just happening. Somebody else. Eat Brad and Angie. They're both in their mid 50s. They have six adult children between them. This is a mixed family as this is both their second marriage. And they are empty nesters who describe themselves as excited for the next chapter in their lives. They tell me that they're a few years away from retiring and then they want to travel full time in an RV and see the country. Now what you're gonna hear in today's conversation is a mismatch in the way that the two of them see money. And I think most importantly,

you're going to hear this fascinating discussion of psychological and cultural values around money. So let's start the conversation with Brad and Angie. I'm on my way to work and I stop at the gas station to put gas in and my credit debit card or whatever is declined and I call Angie and I'm like, what's going on? How can we not have any money in there? And she said, well, we had to use $900 for this kind of an emergency.

We were at the hospital and the card we had wasn't working or something. So we had to put it on this other card. And so now we didn't have that $900 in there. So it was like these unexpected expenses. Okay. So you were at the gas station and you tried to use your card and it doesn't work. So what'd you do? Well, there wasn't really anything I could do at the time. I had to get to work and so I had to have her come and pick me up and drive me to work. What did that feel like?

That's not so bad. But I was on vacation once with a bunch of guys, you know, we're out to dinner and I go to use the card and it's declined and I had to call Angie, you know, back in Wisconsin and say, can you put some more money on the card? Because I can't pay for my own dinner. That's a little embarrassing when it happens, you know, in a situation like that. But at a gas station, it's just me and her. I can be embarrassed in front of Angie, but it's a little embarrassing in front of your friends. Oh, that was terrible. I've been using YNAV for like a year and a half and trying to get a month ahead in there. And I really like the

program, but I just can't seem to do it. And it doesn't make any sense to me. I know why it is, because we're spending too much money, but can't seem to fix that quite right. So I was embarrassed and I felt bad. When he was in Florida with his friends, that was worse because it wasn't just the one time he had to call me. He had to reach out to me like three times. So just didn't have any cash. And I hate that. and I just don't know why can I ask the the question that I think we're all wondering Yeah, if you didn't have any cash, how was he on vacation with his friends? Well, that's a good question because I wanted him to go right Yeah, that's a very good question. Well anybody got any answers? I think we had money.

I think it's just that we were trying to keep money in like a spend card and then money in more of like a buffer or like a savings. So I think she was having to dip from that and put it into the spend account. Honestly, I think it's more like I'm the kind of person for good or bad, probably bad, that says experiences matter. And I tend to think we can, we'll figure it out when he gets there. And that's not good. What do you mean? He did figure it out.

He called you and you transferred money. Yeah. But I don't think I had enough to just make him stop worrying about it or stopping a problem. But I just know that it does happen where we dip down and it's not comfortable. When I wanted to do this debt consolidation thing, this is when we owed a lot of money on credit cards

and I wanted to do that. I could feel the tension rising. And so what did you say to him? I didn't feel like we were going to be able to pay off our debt the way it was and we needed to do something different. And then it spiraled into why do we have so much debt? Then I say because we had to pay for this and this and this, it just kind of gets off track. Then I say because we had to pay for this and this and this it just kind of gets off track So you said We're not going to be able to pay and he said why do we have so much debt? What was your answer to that?

I probably glossed over it When I talked to him about money He would just kind of blow up and not yell at me But just get louder and I know it's because of his he's uncomfortable with the whole money thing. I used to feel like it was like everything was kind of a surprise to me because I wasn't involved in the finances. It just sort of came out of the blue. I wasn't really involved.

And so like when she would tell me we were hurting that month or something, I would always be like, well, how can this be? Now, I'm a little more involved with those things. And I don't try to put my head in the sand, I guess you could say. At the time you went into debt consolidation, were you aware that you were in debt? Yeah, because of school loans and things like that.

It wasn't what I would consider severe, you know, when you hear about people with huge school loans and things like that, we weren't like crazy debt. How much debt was it? Uh, it was no, no, Angie, Angie, hold on a second. I want to hear from Brad. I don't remember actually.

I don't think we're irresponsible or anything. We just need to figure out why we're Sometimes surprised when bills come do we both make pretty good money and we shouldn't be Struggling I mean honestly if I could have done it by myself I probably would have because I tend to try to do that and that's not good There's something you you know what? I go through these things where I think somebody

is just siphoning money off my account. It's just happening, somebody else. But what I'm struck by in those stories is not that occasionally there's some account snafu and one account runs out of money, that happens, right? It shouldn't happen, but it happens occasionally. Okay, fine. What I'm actually struck by is the different ways

that you talk about what happened. I've become obsessed with these pivotal moments where people realize something is really, really wrong with their finances. I'm obsessed with it because you could actually go years without actually admitting how bad things are. You've heard it on this podcast. People will come on here.

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The pattern so far seems to be that Angie's taking control and Brad is taking a back seat. But I think it's actually a lot more complicated than that. Would you care to discuss it? Because I think it's actually pretty interesting what happened in the past, which might shine some light on where we are today. Care to discuss, Brad?

Well, of course, it's easier to just let someone else handle everything. So that's kind of what I was doing. Angie is way smarter as far as the accounting goes and look at Angie's face right now. What's she doing? She doesn't think she is, but I think she is. She has a business degree. And she's a spreadsheet, you know, whiz kid. I'm not

saying it's right that I just took the easier out and let her handle everything. But that's definitely what I did. I like to be the one who knows things. I don't like it when I don't know something. I agree. It's hard for me to admit. Uh-huh, even to yourself. Mm-hmm.

Okay, I appreciate the honesty. Okay. Yeah. When you did that, which happened over, like how many years did you do that for? Um, again, look at Angie's face. I mean, since we've been married. Okay. 10 years. Yeah. You ever go on a boat, but like a canoe or something like that? Yeah. All right. Yeah. I'm an outdoorsy guy. Oh, great. Okay can use and all that and I'm already outclassed because I don't even know the name of the boat I'm trying to describe but the ones with the oars. All right, so you're on a two-person kayak or whatever and you got one person

rowing And the others just like chilling What's the cost of that is the one in the back is doing all the worse? Yeah, and maybe you don't go as far as you wanted to go Yeah, maybe it's a lot harder on the one person rowing right and maybe you go in circles a lot That's a good point Can we go back to the part about how you two interpreted the credit debit card totally differently? What's your take? What happens?

Well, why it happens is because I don't have enough of a pluffer in the bank account to support that kind of action. Why? Probably because I spend more on the house and things like that that I shouldn't. Why? spend more on the house and things like that that I shouldn't. Why? Because I figure I make a good living and I deserve it. Why do you deserve it? Because I spent a lot of time in my earlier years not having things.

And so as a result, now that you make money, I don't walk around going, I feel I deserve this, but I definitely feel like I do because now I make a good living and I want my children to have things. I'm sorry, but I have to cut in here. Did you hear that last sentence by Angie? That was one of the most interesting single sentences I have ever heard on this podcast. In one sentence, it was full of rationalizations

and double talk and then the ultimate justification. I'm doing it for the kids. Listen carefully as I play it again for you. I don't walk around going, I feel, I deserve this, but I definitely feel like I do, because now I make a good living and I want my children to have things. And what about Brad? Things like the vacation? I want him to be able to go on those things.

Like, we're not hungry, we're not homeless, we have the things that we need, you know, we're Maslow's, we are above that. So I figure he can go because this is when they're going. Even the vacation I took, it wasn't some extravagant vacation, it was to Florida with some guys and we weren't doing anything extravagant down there, we're with some guys and we weren't doing anything extravagan down there. We're just hanging out and having beer and, you know, being goofy guys. But did we plan for it? No. We should have enough money to go for a weekend with the guys down to Florida and, you know, it wasn't like I was going to Vegas and, you know, letting it ride at the casino or something. Yeah, and could you afford dinner?

Right. Sometimes you don't have to be Eating at a Michelin-starred restaurant in order to be overspending. Right. Like there are a lot of families that never eat out They just can't afford it. So I just want to I want to be careful who we're comparing ourselves to yeah I was one of those kids that had a had a paper out when he was like 12 years old and saved every penny and bought it Bought my first bike, you know walking past the bike store every day on my way to work looking at that bike in the window and And I finally you know said dad. I got the money saved up I'm he's like what he didn't even realize that I've been saving it and I went in and forked down cash and rode home on the bike How much did you make on that paper route?

20 bucks a week or something like that. It wasn't very much. All right. Well to save up 300 bucks is very impressive Yeah, and it was a morning paper route. So I had to get up at 430 every day, no matter if it was raining or snowing and why'd you do that? Because they were going to buy me a bike. My mom was a stay at home mom. My dad was a banker, like a retail banker. What kind of banker? He was a commercial loan officer. Okay. We would go to dinner maybe once a year and you know take a vacation You know camping or something like that nothing Not going to disney or something like that and spending a lot of money and when you say you ate out once a year Is that for real? You're not exaggerating

I'm not exaggerating. No, okay. All right. They didn't really talk about it I just remember we never really had a budget for food. My mom always thought food was like medicine. You know, you, you eat healthy and it's, it's just preventative medicine. She made everything from scratch at home. And, um, that was the only really side financially that they, that I really heard. Did you remember asking them as a kid, like, can we go to McDonald's? Like, what would they have said to that? My mom would have said, no, we can make a burger at home with it's way better than a McDonald's burger

You know nice and they were so uh-huh you can't argue with that. That's true And what about if you said like mom I want to go to Disneyland or I want to go here or there What would you have said or what would your dad have said? They would find ways, like I had friends that were in like the ski club at school, and they would ski in these really fancy outfits, and they had brand new skis and all the equipment. I didn't have all that, but my mom found a way

to make it work. She would find used skis, and I would ski in my blue jeans, and still had fun. That's cool. I love that resourcefulness blue jeans and still had fun. That's cool. I love that resourcefulness of parents. I love it. It was a middle-class life. Yeah, I think so.

I mean, I would do crazy stuff to earn money. I would sneak onto the golf course at night with my friends and we'd go in the water up to our chins and get golf balls. We'd bring them home and clean them up. My mom would save egg cartons and we'd sort them by the brand and we'd go out on the golf course the next day and or Saturday whatever and we'd sell golf balls to the golfers, sell the same balls they probably hit into the water. Wow. And we'd make money doing that. I got a job at a restaurant when I was,

you know, 16 and I just always had a job really. What did you feel when you got that money, whether it's cash or a paycheck? What did you feel? Independent. You know, I didn't have to ask my parents for money. They didn't know where I was spending it either. So that was kind of fun. Being able to just get whatever I wanted and not have to ask. Yeah. Okay.

And if we just fast forward, like 35 years, and it's you in Florida and you're calling up your wife and You're saying and you please put 50 bucks on the card What does that feel like? Yeah, it felt like I was a kid asking my parents for money and Yeah, it felt like I was a kid asking my parents for money. And I'm not blaming Angie. I don't want to come across as I'm blaming her.

It just felt like I wasn't in control of my own money. Yeah. Can't feel good. Yeah. I don't know what to make of Brad's story about having a paper route. You know, on one hand, he was a very resourceful kid. It's clear that he loved money and he loved the independence it gave him. But in his adult relationship with Angie, he's acting the exact opposite.

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so we eat there, you know? We had a supper club. This is Wisconsin, we have supper clubs, you know? Okay, hold on, hold on, hold on. What is this supper club? Oh my goodness. Yeah, you go to supper clubs around here, they serve you a delicious dinner

and you have old fashions. You know what old fashion is? Yeah. That's a Wisconsin thing. Really? Now that's trendy, you know? Yeah, yeah. yeah, that's a Wisconsin thing really now. That's trendy. Yeah. Yeah So we got to go out to eat there but that's because my mom either got us to eat for free or cheap but Yeah, we didn't do that a lot. My dad was a truck driver

So he was gone a lot of the time and my mom was raising three kids on her own essentially when my dad was gone So and I had no idea we were broke. I shouldn't say broke. We were able to pay for things to my mind, but I never asked for anything extra. And I couldn't afford the clothes that you know that I wanted and things like that. How do you know you couldn't afford it? I don't know how I knew because we never talked about money at all. One time when I was a young adult, my mom said she remembers searching through the couch cushions for milk money. Wow. And I was like, what? You know, or every year my mom would say, it's not going to be a big Christmas this year. And it was always a perfectly fine Christmas. You know, we definitely, we had what we needed to live.

I was never disappointed. I don't ever remember thinking, oh, we didn't get anything for Christmas. It was never like that. Okay. How is she doing financially? They're fine. They're, you know, they're retired for many years now and they watch their money because it's, there's no income coming in,

but they don't feel the need to work to bring any extra income in. So they're, yeah, they, I think they've done well for themselves. As I look back, I would have liked to have known more about how they did that, you know, and how they got to that point. It just wasn't talked about. It's very Midwest thing, you know, Yeah, money is for the adults. And she has a very German family too, you know? Oh, okay, got it. Bring up emotions.

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. So did you two of you ever talk about your upbringings around money with each other? Yeah. We have, yeah. That fact that there is nothing really to talk about? Well, Angie makes it sound like she grew up on Little House on the prairie

and she lived out in the country and they... They did. They were happy with a straw doll for Christmas or something. I don't think it was that bad, but that's how it sounds. Hey, one year we got, one year that mom said it wasn't gonna be a good Christmas We got these big TV pillows me and my sister and brother and we love them So hey, we were happy

It's not that I didn't have things as a kid. I just knew that my parents worked their butts off They were not just sitting around doing things for themselves. They were working really hard for us and it was tough. So I didn't wanna bother them with things. I wanted to feel like I'm free to do this now. I wanna be able to say, yeah, we can do that. We can do that. We can do that. I'm not crazy about it,

but it's still above our means a little bit sometimes. But if I was ahead a little bit, then it wouldn't be, you know? Did things change when you started making more money after your master's degree? Yeah. For the better, I think. You made a lot more money then, right? I think that's when we really buckled down and that's when we were trying to pay off debt and consolidate debt and get to a better place. Because now we now we had the money to do that and kind of like catch up. I'm looking at downsizing and getting rid of clutter and I don't need

a lot of things. I just want the simple life. I don't want to have to worry so much and I don't like I don't need a Fancy watch and a fancy car and all this. I just want to have a fun adventure with my wife and See this country's beautiful sights and and things like that like before it was like okay We're Racking all this stuff up just to survive basically and then once she got a degree and got a better job, then it was like, okay, we're making better money. Now let's get the financials in order.

You know, we didn't just say, woohoo, let's go spend a little bit. A little bit. We took a trip with the kids because we finally had a little money and we were like, this might be our last trip with the kids because now they're all moving out where'd you go? That was the Mexico trip. How much did that trip cost? 10,000 15,000 probably because we took as many of the kids as we could I don't think I don't think it's that little I think it's more it might be Probably it's kind of like asking somebody how much they drink.

It's usually double it, you know? Oh, yeah, I know. Yeah. Like when your doctor says how many drinks would you say? Yeah, they just take whatever, especially if you're a guy, they take whatever and then they triple it. It's like, all right. Yeah. I've tried to ask Angie how much we spent on that Mexico trip, but I don't think I ever go back. I don't think I've ever got a straight answer. No. how much we spent on that Mexico trip, but I don't think I don't think I've ever got a straight answer. No Okay, here are four things where nobody ever knows the actual cost of them number one a house number two a car

Number three a wedding and number four a vacation Do you know why? Because you don't want to know People pick some arbitrary number for their wedding like the couple we heard from last week And then as the costs start creeping up, and it's too late to cancel, they simply shift those costs to some black hole where you'll never have to think about it again.

Well, I don't know, it's a little bit more than I thought. Oh, well, can't do anything about it now. This is the power of systems and psychology that I teach in IWT. You've gotta be humble enough to admit that you, me, and all of us, we are all human. This idea that I don't wanna know the truth. Okay, you don't wanna know the truth, neither do I.

Now let me build a system to make sure that I can still function. I can save up ahead of time. I can add a healthy buffer, and then I can try as much as possible to stick to a number. But the trying part is the least of time. I can add a healthy buffer and then I can try as much as possible to stick to a number. But the trying part is the least of it. Building in the buffer and the systems, that is the real magic here. Okay, back to Brad and Angie. Angie got her masters, which triggered some changes in their money dynamic. And they're talking about potentially

simplifying towards an RV life. Recall that they are in their mid fifties. Let me dig into their numbers for you right now. Their assets are four hundred and ninety four thousand dollars. Investments are three hundred and ninety four thousand dollars. Savings is about three thousand dollars. Their debt is four hundred and thirty three thousand dollars for a total net worth of four hundred and fifty eight thousand seven hundred dollars. All right. What do you think about that number? I don't like it. I mean, I'm happy with it in the sense that it was way lower a couple

of years ago, but I still am not happy with it. When I project it out, we need like one and a half million. Okay. Good. Just the fact that you use the word projected is impressive to me. That's great. Okay, Brad, what do you think about those numbers? I don't really know what they all mean. We have about 11,000 in various credit cards. And then the car loan is about 30.

That's my Bronco. The HELOC 39. Okay. Student loans, 107. Okay. And our mortgage, about 243. What's the interest rate on the student loans and the mortgage? The student loans on the bulk of it, on 105,000 of it, it's 6.5%.

Okay. And what about the mortgage? And the mortgage is 3.125. We took out a HELOC not too long ago to do some projects around the house. We kind of went through that pretty quickly on some of these projects and then Angie said, oh, that's pretty much gone now. And I'm like, where do we spend all that on? And she's like, well, we paid off the car and we did this and we did that and we did

all these landscaping projects. And yeah, I guess it did go faster than I thought it would, but we got a lot done. So I think we'll be in a good place when we when we go to sell the house. You know, we put a lot of sweat equity into it. All right, cool. Um, let's uh, let's continue down here. Income, did you know that you made a $245,000 household income? Um, not really.

Okay. Angie, did you? Yes. Okay. Well, did you? Yes. Okay. Well, you two fit statistically perfectly because about 50% of the people I speak to do not know how much they make. So here we go. 50%.

This is only because I was using your conscious spending plan though before, so it's helped. Before that you didn't know? Not really because, I mean, I know what what I make I know what he makes I wasn't Really figuring it out though. It's kind of crazy. Isn't it? Yeah, we spend our entire lives yeah talking about work thinking about work being at work and 50% of us Don't really know how much we make. Yeah, I don't think that I put

don't really know how much we make. Yeah. I don't think that I put that kind of thought into it all the time because I was just trying to get through the months paycheck to paycheck to paycheck to paycheck that I just didn't, you know, the only time I thought about it was when you have to fill in a little scrolly thing when you're doing something online. A lot of us believe very simple stories about money.

You can hear it with Brad and Angie over and over. We needed to renovate, so we took a home equity line of credit. That just rolled off their tongue, when in reality, a home equity line of credit is an extremely complex financial instrument. And even their comment that they're just trying to get through the months paycheck to paycheck a lot of people just roll that right off their tongue as well a lot of people genuinely believe that most Americans live

paycheck to paycheck number one that is not true and number two that is meaningless since you have personally heard people on this podcast who make multiple six figures they max out their 401ks, their 529s, and then they complain that they are living paycheck to paycheck. Please stop with these simple stories that make you seem helpless around money. If you look up with the actual status of American finances is today, it's better than ever. Yes, housing is expensive. Yes, health care is expensive. But you've got to stop repeating these phrases that

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They give me a nice bonus every Christmas. I kind of don't really think about how much they're paying me because they treat me so well. I feel appreciated. I don of don't really think about how much they're paying me because they treat me so well I feel appreciated. I don't feel stressed coming home at the old place And you would say you got to get out of there So now I'm now I'm out of there and I feel great. I guess I just kind of put it in the back of my mind because I feel so much better Mentally and emotionally and everything now

I'm glad to hear that Honestly Honestly, I mean, I want everyone to have a great job where they feel respected, appreciated, no, compensated well. Yeah. But I'm happy to hear that you made that move. Great job. But I just want to say it's extremely interesting that the two of you make certainly in the top 10% in your area probably the top 5% do you feel rich? I feel fortunate I know that we make that much money I don't feel rich because I still worry about money. Okay. Do you feel wealthy? Hmm. See, that's a term I can't apply to myself.

I guess. I don't know why. I feel rich for what I have in life, but not in a, not in a monetary standpoint. Listen, Brad, it's not a Hallmark movie. Okay. Oh, the angels come out Just watch out is his hippies gonna come out. I know listen Brad. Thank you. That's very pleasant. I love hearing that Do you feel wealthy? Do you mean financially? Yes

No, I don't feel wealthy. Hey, hold on hold on I'm still driving a crappy car to work Okay, hold on. Hold on. I'm still driving a crappy car to work. What's that number on screen right there? What's it read it out again, Brad? 245916. That's your household income in Wisconsin. If somebody in California saw the size of our yard, they'd be like, that's like a $5 million piece of property in San Francisco or something maybe more Yeah, I love this beautiful example where you make an extremely high household income which by the way doesn't even factor in some bonus we'll get there. Yeah, and you live in Wisconsin so

All the excuses are out the door and yet here we have the two of you who still don't feel well. Yeah. What does that tell you? We're warped. No, they're not warped. They're just like everyone else who realizes that the way you feel about money is highly uncorrelated to how much you've got in the bank. I especially love this example because they live in an affordable area. Listen now as they do mental gymnastics to make sense of their wealth. Honestly, I don't know because I do make enough money. I can buy this really cool composter for my little pantry so I can compost things, but I just feel like nope. That's too much. I can't do that. I can't do that I don't know. It's a little

Because why don't I have this money left over in my account every month? What's up with that? Why is my savings so low if I'm so rich? Yeah, or wealthy or whatever. Yeah, not handling it well or something I think that's very candid. I wish more people would just be honest about that. Mm-hmm What does it tell you about your feelings Brad? The fact that both of you are Oddly resistant to define yourselves as wealthy even though your income is in the top four or three percent It tells me that we even though your income is in the top 4 or 3%. It tells me that we have the means, but we're not managing it the way we could be.

If you managed it, would your feelings magically change? Oh, I see. No, probably not. Hell no. Well, when I think of rich, I think of people just spending extravagantly. And I don't think we've ever done that. But didn't you tell me you took a Hiloq

and you do all this renovation around? It sounds pretty extravagant to me. I did all the work myself, though. I was moving boulders that were, you know, 300-pump. I went to pick out the Vakunya sweater that I bought myself. I felt 10 different cashmere Instead of paying a landscaper that was what I'm saying. Oh, I could have fair enough. I did all the work myself so I don't I feel like that's like the

The the compromise that I make in my head like yeah, we took out this loan But I'm gonna do all the work myself. So it's not as bad. It's not you know because I do all the work myself, so it's not as bad. It's not, you know. Because what does bad mean to you? If you're doing that work and putting the sweat equity in, then it's not so bad to rack up that debt. I guess I wanna ask you, Brad, what if you could live your life without having to rationalize what you do with your money?

Like for example, there are certain things I love to spend money on. I know my numbers. If I can't afford it today, I save up for it in a disciplined way. And when I go buy it, I don't need to justify it by saying, you know, I'm sweating and pushing a wheelbarrow. I bought it because I love it and I can afford it. Does that sound like a possible identity for you, Brad? Or does it sound totally opposite of who you are?

Be honest. Yeah, it would be hard for me. Even now, like, Angie tries to get me to buy new clothes and I'm going to the thrift store and buying, she's like, we don't need to do that, honey. You know, we have money, you can to buy new clothes and I'm going to the thrift store and buying, she's like, we don't need to do that honey. You know, we have money, you can go buy new clothes. Do you know why you do it? It's, it just seems extravagant when I can buy

a really nice shirt that is $5 versus a $40 shirt. This sounds very normal to what he says. I come home with some new clothes for him and he's like, I could have gotten that at the goodwill. And so he says that a lot. Like I just bought one of the little Roomba vacuum, I mean, not Roomba, one of those things around the house.

And I felt totally guilty about it. Like I didn't even tell him I did it. Not because I'm afraid he's gonna be upset about the money at all, but because it feels like a shameful purchase, even though, I don't know, we have a hard time with it. I agree. I don't feel like we're, you know, like I still judge

somebody who is wealthy by an eighth grade experience of me sitting in a social studies class. And this girl that was in my school that we all knew was the rich one. Laura, the rich one. Whatever her name was. I would write it down in my notebook what shoes she was wearing because I was so shocked

that she had 30 different pairs of shoes that she didn't have to wear the same pair of shoes. I was just like, this is crazy. And you talked about the kid that had the round driveway. A circle driveway, I always meant you were very rich too. Let me make an observation. Financially speaking, the two of you are wealthy. I'm talking about income-wise. Yep.

And when I hear you talk about the way that you think about money, behave with money, feel about money, I notice that you're both still playing very small. And in fact, you have the worst of many worlds because you're playing small, meaning you're still talking about like goodwill, not because you enjoy goodwill, but rather because it's just inconceivable to you to change your identity and to recognize that you can actually spend more. You know, I hear this eighth grade reference,

which was like 40 years ago. It deeply sticks with you. actually spend more. You know, I hear this eighth grade reference, which was like 40 years ago. It deeply sticks with you. I appreciate you. But at the same time, you've convinced yourself that you're just simple people. We're not spending extravagantly. Meanwhile, you have $11,000 of credit card debt. You have a home equity line of credit at $40,000.

You have a car loan for $30,000, student loans for $107,000, and a mortgage. So you're actually getting the worst of both worlds. You're playing small and you're telling yourself, oh, we're simple people, but you're deeply in debt. Wouldn't it be much better to simply acknowledge we make extremely high incomes? We probably need to change the way that we treat money. Yeah. If I'm playing like the comparative thing with people I know, I know people that have, you know, a second vacation home and they have hunting land that they go to and they have, you know, a boat in a Harley and they have this and they have all these toys. I don't feel like we're spending on like, like, I don't know. I don't feel like we have all these toys that that the guys have my age that I know

We don't do that Brad who said anything about comparing yourself to someone I Don't know if it's a Midwestern thing or that people don't share what they make We're just simple people we can take a home equity line of credit and spend it on expensive home renovations But because I pushed that lawnmower myself and I hammer in the nail myself, that's not extravagant. Meanwhile, they're actually living the worst of all worlds because they have to concoct these fantastic justifications and they're still in debt for a couple making $245,000. A rich life does not have to mean ATVs and a hunting ground lodge or what it it doesn't have to be that it can be what you want.

Right. What is that like for you in Brad? What's the thing you do in your life where you see it if you can afford it and you want it you get it? What is it? Oh, it's usually something stupid Star Wars related. If I see it, I just get it. Why does it have to be stupid? Because it's... Because I'm a 55 year old and buying toys. So what? I think that's cool. Yeah.

Honestly, it's pretty refreshing to see a guy having a hobby. I don't think it's stupid. I think it's interesting you describe your own hobby at 55 as stupid. Well, I think most people would call it stupid. You see what I'm doing with my head right now? I'm not trying to minimize your life. I actually think it's cool. And Brad, what I wish is that you would find your own interest cool as well. Because they don't need to be minimized.

I think it's really interesting and cool that you're an artist. Like this guy has clearly thought about what he loves. He has a little hobby, a little routine, and he's got this beautiful office where he puts his things, memories. It's f***ing cool. So if anything, Brad, I'm impressed. And the money part is like irrelevant to this. What's this thing's memories? It's cool. So if anything, Brad, I'm impressed. And the money part is like irrelevant to this. It's just the fact that I like seeing people unapologetic about what they love.

That's what I like. But what it would take would be changing the way you think about your money. Because right now that's really focusing on $3 questions. Lunch, should I get this shirt? Should I get the Star Wars thing from Goodwill? That's not the question anymore.

The question is, why do you make $250,000 and have only $2,900 in savings? That's the question we should be asking. Why do you have all this debt when you make $250,000? That's the question we should be asking. Those are the $30 this debt? When you make $250,000, that's the question we should be asking. Those are the 30,000 or even $300,000 questions. And that's the kind of questions wealthy people concern themselves with.

Okay. Okay. That's what we want to do. The theme of today is elevating. We're not going to play small anymore. I just won't allow it. Cool? Okay.

Let's put the numbers back up. Okay your fixed costs are 70% of your take home pay. That's a little too high. Yeah, your housing cost is extremely low. That's fantastic so I calculated that I combined your Mortgage and your utilities and you're at 7.3%. God bless Wisconsin. We refinanced at a good time. Good. How many kids live in the house now? Zero.

Oh, okay. So two of you. Yeah. We're empty nesters. You look so happy. Good. All right. Good for you. God bless. God bless empty nesters, especially after six kids. You really deserve all the peace you can get.

Yeah. Your clothes are $100. Fine. Debt payment is $3,316. Yeah, all right, so I'm gonna guess That you were overpaying on your debt and I'm guessing because Angie you seem pretty savvy with money that you're overpaying on your To your get your credit card debt fast. Is that correct? Yeah, I have a snowball thing going on All right fine. All right, so are you maxing out your 401k? Yeah, I have a snowball thing going on. All right, fine.

All right, so are you maxing out your 401K? Yeah, we're doing 20% on Brad's. 20% of his income at $60,000 a year? Yeah. Oh, good. Okay, so you're maxing it out. Fine. Yep, and mine's only at 8% because I was too scared to do too much.

Hold on. We need to correct this real quick. This is one of those things that will change. Angie, the key thing that I would say is a couple making $250,000 a year who's savvy with money would never say, I'm afraid of investing too much. Yeah. Okay. Particularly when they are, they had not been investing aggressively for a long time. Yeah. Right. Fair enough. Yep. So that's like a mental shift I want you to start making. Okay. What would a couple make a 250k plus per year who's savvy with money? What would they be doing? Okay, this is changing your identity along with increasing your knowledge, okay? Okay.

All right, your savings goals are at 9%, which is about $1,000. Like if you were 25 years old, I would be like, this is good, but you're 55 and you told me you want to RV in 10 years, especially because you're, you know, you only have like 3 like 3000 bucks in savings. Yep. Who's tracking all this stuff? Oh that's me, uh-huh and Anyone see the cost of having Angie do all this stuff for the last 20 10 years. Oh

Yeah, I just bought another book like with all our so I could write all my passcodes in it because I'm afraid he wouldn't be able to For my passwords and stuff because I'm afraid. I don't know. I don't know what would happen. Can I tell you first of all? It's not the passwords that are gonna save them. Trust me You can sit them down right now and log them into your accounts Brad. We have no idea what's going on Brad fair fair to say Yeah It's a problem for a 30 year old married couple, but it's a much bigger problem for a mid 50s couple. Yeah. We got to get real. You know people in your 50s, your friends probably who have gotten sick, maybe even some who have passed away.

I'm not afraid, and I don't think any of us should be afraid of talking about mortality. We're all gonna die Oh, let's just talk about it. So part of that is that's one of the reasons I insist that both couples get involved with money Right, but I'm gonna get hit by a bus one day or something and you think I want to leave a grieving wife At the mercy of some Goldman Sachs face who's gonna try to circle her like a vulture and charge 1.25% AUM? No. We listed off some categories in the CSP

to give Brad ownership of them. See, when you've got one partner who's been ignoring money for a long time, they need to take ownership. And you can start off small, groceries would be one one things like that. But I wanted to really dive into the RV that they want to get and travel around the country. Don't you guys say you want to like retire and do the RV thing in like 10 years?

We were talking like two. Uh, no. What? Two years. Are you serious? Mm hmm. We were talking like two but no what? Two years are you serious? But I'm not gonna quit working I'm gonna keep working All right, are you gonna sell your house? Yes. Yes, how much you gonna make from that? I'm hoping just under Depending on the market's still good in a couple years like around 200 or just under, depending on the market's still good in a couple years, like around

200 or just under that? 200. That's all in or minus transaction fees, updating, painting, all that stuff. No, that was not without all those things. So maybe like let's knock off 50K. Yes. The 150. And then do you have to buy an RV? Yes. How much does that cost? Well, I'm hoping around 80 or 90,000

because we get a used one. We wouldn't get a brand new one. Okay. All right, fine. A new one. Okay. All right. Fine. A new one would be extravagant. See? We're simple people.

We're just getting an $80,000 RV. Where's the money for all this? Like we've already discussed. I tend to say it'll all work out. And I just want to have my eyes a little more open at that before we get there. Well, step one is that it's not your eyes alone that need to decide this. It's Brad's. Yes.

You alone cannot carry the load anymore. Okay. So that's number one. Yeah. How much have you spent on renovations? A lot. Like how much? Well, we built a pond in our backyard, so that was about $15,000, $20,000 probably.

Simple people with a pond. What else? You know, did a lot of tree removal and so that's probably been over the last two years. That's been about at least 10,000 think 10,000 25. What else? We remodeled our bathroom. I keep thinking about wanting to redo my laundry room, but How much so far that's about 40k. What else? Forget about the fact that you want to Do a RV thing two years from now if they go we're 55

We have less than three thousand dollars in savings and we want to drop 40k on home renovations I'll be like no way. Yeah, there's no way it makes no financial sense. Okay second. I want to point out that This whole story about you know, I don't need all this other fancy stuff. Like 40k in home renovation is actually quite fancy. It's just politically acceptable where you live. We don't need all this fancy stuff. We're going to just renovate our house. We're going to do it ourselves. We're people of the earth.

And it's going to come back to us, right? Because it's an investment. So when we sell it, a story upon story upon story But the fact is we're looking at the numbers There's just no savings Right three thousand dollars a month being paid for debt So the stories are not lining up with reality Okay, right now would I say you have to sell your house today? No, but would I say if it stops you from renovating more

You should maybe or just stop renovating? Do you all see that you have been overspending, even though you've told yourself you haven't? Yeah. So the story that you tell yourself is totally incongruous with reality? Yeah. Agreed. There's no reason to take a HELOC. There's no reason. I know. Brad, are you aware that as it currently stands, you cannot go in the RV two years from now? It wasn't a set date. It's a goal. If it takes three years, if it takes five years, that's not the question though, but You can't do it in five years either All right How do you feel about that?

well, I Would have liked to have done that I don't want to wait until I'm 65 to go and do these things and then I'm too old to Hike up that mountain or something or you know, I don't want things and then I'm too old to hike up that mountain or something or, you know, I don't want to wait until I'm, you know, you hear about people, they retire and they're literally dead in five years. So I'd rather do it now when we, when we're still relatively healthy and can do those things. It's interesting that I've asked you several times, Brad, like, how do you feel about something? And I've never once gotten an emotional answer. And as a guy who probably

like you was not raised talking about feelings a lot, I totally, totally understand it. I completely understand it. When I ask you how you feel about certain things, I'm not just asking for no reason. I notice your response is typically to minimize it. Oh, it's not so bad. Oh, three years is actually fine. Maybe five, maybe nine. It's not that big of a deal. And if you were to actually access how you feel about it, and you were to actually like rip away the shield of armor and maybe get really honest, maybe really vulnerable in a way that you haven't been too often around money. I think that might actually connect with Angie and make her understand the effects of what

is going on, particularly the overspending. Look at Angie's face right now. Yep. Brad, you do that thing, which is you say everything's going to be okay. And as a provider in all these gendered ways, that's what a lot of people, particularly men are taught to do. It's going to be fine. Any of this sound familiar? Oh yeah, when Angie was going through her cancer, I said, it's okay.

Kimo's only going to be one season. It's going to be winter. And by spring, all that'll be behind us and we'll be on to a new chapter in our lives and yeah it's just kind of how I handle trying to handle things. Thank God because thank God Angie that you're okay. I'm thankful for I know you too are thankful. Sometimes you have to be that just the person who can stay positive because someone else is going through something really tough like you did Angie.. Thank God for that. But this is not the time for that,

Brad. This isn't the time to put your head in the sand. It's happened for 10 years, and it's not the time to say it's all going to be okay. It's actually the time to say, you know what, I really want to go on this RV trip with you, Angie. And if we don't do it next year, okay, I could wait two years, I can even wait three, but I'm gonna be pretty disappointed if we can. It would actually make me regret a lot of this stuff we're doing.

Or, Angie, it confuses me when I come home and see a rug because that's money that could be going towards our RV excursion. And it hurts because I thought we were focused on the same thing. Now watch this, Brad. Angie, if Brad said that to you, how would you react? Well just hearing it kind of makes me feel, well, it makes me feel a little guilty at first, but it kind of like releases some pressure from like, I have to make everything perfect, you know?

And I can't do that because I'm spending the money doing that and it's derailing our other plans. And you can't do it alone. And I can't do it alone. And it just feels like, yeah. You can't get where you're going unless the two of you are both rowing in the same direction. Here's what I would be doing. I would first sit down and have a serious conversation with each other about this RV

thing we've talked about. Let's revisit it. How serious are we? And everything's on the table. Maybe it's the thing we want to do. Maybe not. Maybe we want to try it for a month. We'll rent an RV. Let's just play it all out.

What does it look like? Because right now it sounds like you're like burning the boats. We're going to buy an RV and all this stuff. Maybe I don't know that you can afford to buy an RV at age 55 with $3,000 in savings. I think you could rent one. I think there's a big surplus of RV owners who realize it's a lot more expensive than they think. I'm sure you know plenty of them.

You go, all right, your misfortune is my great luck. And I'm going to happily rent for a little while. And another way might be, no, we want to buy one. Okay, fine. So what's it gonna take for us to buy it? And you start to go down each of these paths and you're having these connective conversations and one of you's going, I don't really feel that good about this option or gosh, this is like the rental option for you. Gosh, this is making me uncomfortable because I always imagined us having our own RV. But if it was the choice of not doing it at all or renting it,

I could probably get on board to rent it, at least try that to start. Stuff like that, you're talking on us. And then you're looking at the numbers and saying, what do we need to be doing? OK. I just like to spend my my later years with Angie doing fun things. Now that we're empty nesters, it'd be nice to just go on some adventures with her. It doesn't have to be in an RV. Love that.

Love the flexibility, Brad. That's cool. Angie, what are you hearing? I mean, he said some of these things to me before, you know, but I've been solely like down this one path, but not really because I'm not planning properly for it. You know, I like that feeling of having these meetings and talking about it and having someone else to help me because I don't know all the right things to do. I mean, I try to educate myself, but I, you know, um, it feels like relief to me.

Honestly, it feels like relief. I can change some things and we can have a more of a combined effort to get there. That makes me feel encouraged. Okay. Let's check out their follow-ups and then I'm gonna share my thoughts. First, Angie. I learned that I am giving away a lot of my income. Whether that means to things that I probably didn't need,

things that I felt like I deserved, that kind of thing. So I've really reevaluated that and will continue to do that. What surprised me is that I did not know how to ask for help for my husband. I didn't know that I was like keeping that all inside so much. I just thought I was just doing the bills. What changes will I make?

So I've been working on our conscious spending plan and was able to move our fixed cost down from 70% along with Brad's help down to 59%. So it's still a little high but it's in the range that you that you created. So I think that's good and the thing that most resonated, I think, is that my rich life means that I want to do this RV experience with my husband and my little dogs and travel around the country and see all of our kids and all of the places that they are and see our country.

So I want to do all those things. So we're going to make this happen. And now, Brett. I learned from our talk those things, so we're going to make this happen. And now, Brett. I learned from our talk, well that Angie and I, if we want to pursue this goal of ours, of selling our house and doing the RV life, that we need to buckle down a lot more and focus on the bigger picture instead of tiny things

like small amounts of debt and things like that. So we went through our spreadsheet and looked at some things that we could cut out, managed to get to a good starting point at least. We still need to find some other areas where we can make up for some investing and things like that. What changes will I make? There's some simple things I could be doing like not going out to lunch so much and putting premium gas in my car or something like things like that. I think that's about it. First off, I wanna thank Brad and Angie for coming on

and discussing their finances. It is incredibly courageous for anyone to come on the show and open up what may be the most intimate part of our culture, our finances. With that said, candidly, I'm disappointed in these follow-ups. I think there were a couple of realizations, like Angie asking for help from Brad, Brad taking a little bit of

ownership over a couple of categories, but when you're in your mid-50s, making $245,000 and you have essentially no money and savings and debt, there's some big realizations to be had. Now, I do know that for a lot of people, it's difficult to think ahead. It's difficult to make a long-term plan. I get that.

And I have a lot of compassion for how hard this is, especially with money. But when I spent several hours with a couple who applies to be on this podcast, of course, my ultimate hope is that they make a big change. Unfortunately, that's just not a reality for everyone. It's very possible in life to go through making more and more money simply looking at what's in front of you. A new car, home renovation, RV, and you chase that. Feeling bad the entire time. And that is not a rich life.

I want you to feel good, I want you to feel confident, competent, and I actually think if you put a little bit of planning into it, you can live a much richer life than you ever thought possible. Anyway, that's my philosophy. I wanna thank Brad and Angie for coming on the show, being so open with me. I do wish the best for you and I would love to hear

an update from you a year from now. For everyone who watches and listens to this show, thank you so much for being a part of it, for listening, for leaving comments, for sending me feedback, all of it. This is one of my favorite things I've done in 20 years of running my business and a lot of it is because all of you in the community are with me every single week. Thanks and I'll see you next week. Thanks for listening to I Will Teach You to Be Rich. I'm Ramit Sethi. Please follow the show on Apple, Spotify or wherever you listen to podcasts. If you haven't read, I Will Teach You to Be Rich, my book, pick up a copy.

You can get it at any bookstore or any library, and it will show you the specific tactics for how to build the I Will Teach You to Be Rich system into your personal finances. You know, travel is one of my money dials. It's one of the areas that I love to spend money on. I travel for months every year and I'm fanatical about the hotels I stay in and the experiences that my wife and I go through when we go on these trips. And I wanted to share another podcast that I really love called All the Hacks.

It's by my friend Chris Hutchins. Chris is the person I actually called when I wanted to build a personal playbook for how to use my airline points. I got on the phone with him and my assistant and Chris said, okay, which cards do you have? And we went through it and we built a personalized travel playbook because Chris knows everything there is to know about travel. And now he's got this amazing podcast that I want you to check out. Again, it's called All the Hacks.

Chris has traveled to over 60 countries mostly for free and each week on All the Hacks he shows listeners how you can do the same with expert guests. He even does deep dives on specific travel locations. For example, there was recently an episode with the founder of a travel company where he broke down where to find off the beaten path experiences in Italy and the best way to use points and miles for your next trip there. I've had the opportunity to be Chris's guest multiple times. Most recently, we talked about

money and relationships and building a shared vision for your rich life. You can check that out on episode 112. So check this podcast out. It's actually very interesting. I want you to search for all the hacks on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen to podcasts. Your wallet will thank you later.