Keep it Positive, Sweetie - Can An Alpha Female Have It All w/ Quiana Watson?

Episode Date: December 19, 2023

Season 3 Episode 3 | My good friend, sis and realtor Quiana stopped by to have girl talk and talk about the pros and cons of being an alpha female, relationships, her career as a real estate agent and... a whole lot more. Quiana is a BAWSE who knows what she wants and has no problem getting the job done. Listen and watch as she shares her thoughts on whether or not the alpha woman can have it all.

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Starting point is 00:00:00 Hello and welcome to this episode of Keylet Plaza, sweetie. I'm Kristen and Hazelid and today I have with me my dear dear dear friend, Keanu Watson. Hi! Y'all we got Keanu Watson on the sofa! Oh my goodness, I've been trying to get you here. You're so busy. Yes. So thank you for even today. You came in on the phone. It's kind of coming in hot.
Starting point is 00:00:29 Closing deals. Always, always. Thank you for having me. Of course. It was such a great vibe with you always. So I look forward to us having a chat like we always. Like we always do. Listen, we always make time for each other.
Starting point is 00:00:41 And you're like, OK, girl, we gotta go in the calendar. Yes. Yes, because we're so busy. So, that's one thing I love about you. You're so committed to making sure that you have time with your girls. Absolutely. I love that.
Starting point is 00:00:53 And it's like, we go through our calendar. You have you ever seen that mean that says, you know, look at two people in business and all they do is check their calendars for their availability. It may take us about an hour, but we come up with a date and time, and we stick to it.
Starting point is 00:01:06 None of that. Me too, me too. Because you'll be like, what about this? And I'm like, no, that don't work. What about this, no, that don't work. You're like, all right, what about this? And you're like, that one works. You're like, all right, this is it.
Starting point is 00:01:15 And I like the intentionality. Because we get with each other, we try to not touch our phones, or not be on our phones, so we can really engage and connect in that time. And it's just a perfect, it's always a perfect setting for us. So yeah, you're a good friend. You are too.
Starting point is 00:01:28 I love you. When I think about you, Keon, I always start to show the song or quote. And when I think about you, I think about how you are so this, what you see is what you get. Like, there's no fakeness about you You're very matter of fact and the quote that comes in mind is find out who you are and do it on purpose Yeah, I mean every like I really feel like you're one of my friends where every day you wake up
Starting point is 00:01:56 You wake up with purpose absolutely and you're one the most go getter women I know Which is why today we're gonna talk about can the alpha woman have it all You know because I know, which is why today we're going to talk about, can the Alpha Woman have it all? You know, because I know for me as an Alpha Woman, I have gotten to a point where I say, well, maybe I can't have it all, you know, because in my life, love, that one area always seems to kind of fall short.
Starting point is 00:02:20 You got your list and you're like, well, I got this, I got that, I got that. All right, Lord, I got everything else. Where is the man? Where is the man? Where is the man? So I thought you were the perfect person to bring on. Absolutely.
Starting point is 00:02:33 You are just so amazing. And we can talk, I know we can talk about this forever, right? Let me start by saying this. I think when people hear the word alpha, I want any male that's here and this does not mean non-feminist. All right. Alpha means leader. I think when people hear the word alpha, I want any male that's hearing this does not mean non-fimini, right? Alpha means leader. Alpha means someone that is in charge.
Starting point is 00:02:51 But that doesn't mean that this person is walking around with masculine energy. And I feel like that's the immediate thing that a man thinks when you say alpha, anything. And I wanna debunk that immediately. Yes. Because as I navigate my business, I know, I am in a male dominated field, you know, running a real estate brokerage and doing all the other things I do.
Starting point is 00:03:13 But when I come home, I don't want to be feminine, I want to be soft. I want to be able to have someone tell me what we're having for dinner or what the plans are. Make plans and let me just walk into that soft energy. So an alpha female is someone that definitely dominates in their life, in their world. And I think you name your personal life. You want to, you have a direction you want to take in,
Starting point is 00:03:36 but that doesn't necessarily mean you won't allow a person to lead you. Absolutely. Yeah, that's so true. And let's take, like having it all, right? I think that that was, I think it's such a profound statement, right? This year has been a very rocky year for me and my personal life, right? And I said, if I was going to talk about this with anybody, I was listening to a sermon
Starting point is 00:04:00 and it said, y'all have these public relationships. And you and everybody to fall in love with you, when really you're sharing the highlight real of your life, right? Wow. And then when something devastating happens, you get quiet and close up. And I think that, you know, it does, and everyone's looking like, now you don't want
Starting point is 00:04:18 to tell us what happened. Right, you didn't share it everything. And you know, you shared everything else. And I'll start off with the immediate thing. I think that we all have to have time to process before we share. Absolutely. You know, and I think in the world of social media,
Starting point is 00:04:32 I think that we have to be careful with how we share. Because there's more people involved than just the two people or the nosy people that once would be nosy. Or the people that could be praying and cheering you on. Sometimes you have to say say this is an ad. My real life has to matter first. Let me digest this and take my time and work through this in my real life and now I can publicly address it. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:04:54 So can we have it all? I'm gonna be, I don't think so. Not at the same time. I don't think that you can have it all at the same time. Wow. I don't think you can have it all at the same time. Wow. I don't think you can have it all at the same time. Why do you think that? Because I think you have way more experience in this area than I do. Yeah, absolutely. So I'm definitely curious, because I want these answers myself. Yeah, I think that when I look at,
Starting point is 00:05:13 I work with a lot of women that are married, and they also have children, and they want to have these incredible careers. And when I look at my career, I don't have children. I have a dog. And when I was married, and in that situation, it felt supportive. So I was able to just focus on my work
Starting point is 00:05:35 and just stay focused on my work. And by doing that, I would say this year with the challenges I faced in my relationship, I feel like a lot of that come came because I was too busy. Wow. And, you know, as a woman, when you're going around and, you know, I'm on these stages, like you pretended, you gracefully came to my online training events, right? And you saw firsthand, it's like I'm standing in line, I'm taking pictures for an hour.
Starting point is 00:06:04 Yeah. And the person you're with is like, at that time, they're like I'm standing in line, I'm taking pictures for an hour. And the person you're with is like at that time, they're no longer that person's name, they become the wife of the husband of that person. Right? I've had people say that. And my prior relationship, they were like, oh, you are a key honest husband. Wow.
Starting point is 00:06:19 I was like, he loses identity. They lose their identity. Yeah. And it's not what you do as a person. It's just that you have this notoriety and you're growing and you're ascending. And, you know, I don't know about you, but when I'm laser focused on a goal,
Starting point is 00:06:33 I don't see anything else. I'm tunnel vision to the fullest. No, literally, it's bad. And so when you don't see anything else, you could feel like everything is great around you. And unless someone verbally pulls you to the side and say, listen, I'm not happy here, which most men don't. They want you to feel them or see them.
Starting point is 00:06:54 They want you to see how they feel. You should be in tune with me. So nobody's pulling you to the side and you think everything is great. And you wake up like, oh, it's not. Oh, wow. And the first thing I did when I recognize, like, my relationship is in trouble, right? I looked at my life.
Starting point is 00:07:13 I went through my phone, I went through my archive stories, I was like, what was I doing on this day? What have I been doing for the last couple years? Getting on planes, speaking on panels, selling houses, working from sun up to sun down, going to all the big stuff, right? I have my person with me, so I think, well, you're with me, you're with me.
Starting point is 00:07:32 But they're not really with you. Because that's not intimate time. Those are, that's your stage time. Think about that. When we're at events, oh my goodness. And I love everybody that loves me. I love y'all back.
Starting point is 00:07:44 But when we're at these events, that's the stage time. That's not intimate time. It's not. Not with your person. It's not. Wow. So I do think that when you are building, whatever you're building a career as a woman, I do not think you can have it all at one time, you're going to have to decide what's most important.
Starting point is 00:08:05 Yeah. Yeah. What, in that moment when you said you realized my relationship is in trouble, what were some of those hard conversations that you had to have because a lot of times you said, a lot of times men are not going to tell you, hey, this is what I need, you need to be in tune with me. I think a lot of women do that too. We sit around and we're like, you should just know.
Starting point is 00:08:23 You know? Yes. And communicating is so important in relationship. Absolutely. What was that moment like? And what were some of those hard conversations where you even had to look within self to say, oh, dang, when you said you went through the calendar, you went through your Instagram,
Starting point is 00:08:39 like where was I, like, oh, I really have just been focused on my work. What were some of those conversations like? For me, when I started to look through my schedule and I'm adding up these timelines, and I'm, you know, I'm obsessive with everything. So whatever it is, I became obsessed with it. And I said to myself, I was too busy.
Starting point is 00:09:01 I was too busy focusing on what I wanted to gain. I just now became intentional, even with my friendships. Yeah. Because I was too busy focusing on building my career. And I'm like, okay, well, they see what I'm doing. They can wait. Yeah. So that hard conversation was, if you were on the other side,
Starting point is 00:09:22 if you were only receiving end of this, how would you have handled it? Would you have felt neglected? And when I asked myself those questions, the only difference is I would have felt neglected but I would have communicated that neglect. Exactly. I would have communicated it. I wouldn't have let it fester, but that's because it's a level of communication that I
Starting point is 00:09:42 have and maturity that I have about life and change. But I would have absolutely felt neglected though. I would have. So I asked myself that hard question. We've been in therapy. We talked through it. And what it comes down to is, you grow. I was in a 10-year marriage.
Starting point is 00:10:02 You grow and you change as a person when you're with somebody. But if they are only remembering who you were, and they don't want to see you grow into this person, because this person is no longer as available, as catering, as attentive. So it's not that they don't want you to ascend. They don't want you to go away from them. Yeah, because it's almost inevitable as you continue to ascend.
Starting point is 00:10:27 Correct. You're getting further away. Either they're going to have to choose to be supportive and be your biggest cheerleader or they're going to feel that insecurity and neglect. Absolutely. Yeah. And so I think I know that's what happened in my relationship and I when I look at other women and they're married or they're in a relationship
Starting point is 00:10:45 or they have a kid, I see that they choose, they work less. Yeah, absolutely. They spend more time with their children, they spend more time with their husband. That is why when you think about it, you know, as women we started this soft girl era, you know, we started this soft girl era because even me, how I am in this space, I am today. I don't want to work as hard as I were to build. Now that I'm either, I want to be able to enjoy what I've built. And now I want someone to take control.
Starting point is 00:11:20 That's why I do feel like gender roles, even though they're hybrid a little. They should still be separate because I do recognize that women, we're not designed to work hard forever. It doesn't work well for our mental. It doesn't work well for our physical bodies. And I do think that when you're looking at having a relationship and you are building a career, I built a great career. I have no, and I say this all the time, I don't have any regrets about building my career, but I wish that I would have been able to go back and say,
Starting point is 00:11:57 OK, let me pay a little bit more attention. Even though I didn't get the proper communication. Right. Right. I. You know? I want to know what that process was like internally for you, because I feel like I saw the whole thing play out how you got to the point of doing the self-reflection and realizing, OK, these are things
Starting point is 00:12:17 that I did to play a part in this, but I'm not excusing the behavior that he did. Absolutely. A lot of that is journaling. I started to journal every single morning. I wrote down my thoughts doing the research on my life and say, OK, this is what your focus was on, right? Now, person may have never said anything
Starting point is 00:12:37 or may not have complained and they really tell you their feelings, but as a person would would you want that done to you? And then when I thought about it, I'm like, I'm not excusing the behavior, but I'm taking accountability because as I progress in this life, I have not given up on love. I believe in partnership, I believe in the sanctity of marriage. I believe that you want to have that one person
Starting point is 00:13:00 that is your person. And because I've experienced it and how beautiful it can feel, I don't want to block it again. And I want to be able to recognize the signs within myself. And what I'm doing, if I ever get back in a relationship and position someone the wrong way. Right. So I can take accountability from my actions by saying,
Starting point is 00:13:22 I made these decisions and I don't, I'm moving forward, this is the difference, but I don't excuse what you did. So to not excuse what you did, you gotta go through your own healing. That means your own therapy. We can go to church, but we need both. We need therapy and church.
Starting point is 00:13:40 Let's make it together. It's a combination. And then we need to be able to eloquently communicate our thoughts. So that's how you can have accountability without excusing because you're watching the person do the hard work while you're doing the hard work as well. Yeah, that's good. And that's powerful. I'm noticed and I know we talk about everything.
Starting point is 00:14:00 But one thing I noticed is that this situation has brought you both closer to God. Absolutely. You started the year coming to church, you're like, I'm in church. With everything that's going on, that's the one thing that neither one of you have veered from. It's almost brought you closer to God. What has that walk been like and even just going closer to God and even helping you? I think sometimes when we're not in tune with God, it's easy for us to just push people away. Oh, it is.
Starting point is 00:14:29 But when we've learned the grace of God, then we start to look inward and see people through God's eyes. What has that process been like for you guys? The process has been difficult, right? Because what happens is, as much as you want to walk with God and you saying that God is walking with me, we live on this earth. And we're dealing with the adversity of other people's opinions.
Starting point is 00:14:52 And then we have to look in the mirror and we have to deal with our own ego, our own pride. And it has been a very difficult walk. And as I always say, God will do exceedingly and abundantly, you know, I always talk that verse to myself because I'm like, he can, he's a hiller. He can. If I want this, if I truly want to work through it, if we're willing to do the work, eventually it will happen. But I'm in a place where I want to make sure I've done the work.
Starting point is 00:15:22 Yeah. Because I don't feel like you can hear God if you are not doing the work. Because obviously sometimes we want what we want so bad. And maybe God doesn't want that for you. Yeah. Oh, I've been there. You know, it's like we want it so bad.
Starting point is 00:15:35 We want to put God's scriptures on our own decisions. Because we want it so bad. You know, I'm a human. Do I want my life where I'm like, yeah, this is my man, my man, my man. Look at this picture, y'all, we just put the strip. Like I want that.
Starting point is 00:15:52 You know, I want what I thought I had. I want that back. So as bad as I want it back, I know that it's, I'm in a season that I need to hear God. And I want God to speak through me, speak through Him. And we'll know. We will know if we decide to walk this path again that it is the right path in God as in his inner of it.
Starting point is 00:16:12 That's beautiful. I remember your husband made it public that he had done something and you woke up. You didn't even know he was going to do it. What was that like when you wake up and more now, like you know, you're like, you're like, you're like,
Starting point is 00:16:30 because I woke up, I said, er, I said, what, this is what we do it? What was that like when you wake up, you know what I'm saying? And you're like, oh wow, he's made this public now, you know, not giving details,
Starting point is 00:16:42 but like he let it be known that he had done something wrong. This is the thing. I think for me, I was so, I was so blindsided in angry. I was both. So I was blindsided in angry about what took place. And so as I'm feeling like, forget this, this is over forever. I really never could talk again. You know, I had, everybody's,
Starting point is 00:17:06 you have Instagram is called Close Friends, and then you have a subscription. So I had a subscription that we started when we went on our 10 year anniversary's trip, and I'm like, well, I'm gonna share it in my subscription. Yeah. You know, I'm paying for this. You don't pay any shit in this conversation, right?
Starting point is 00:17:19 We have St. Bart. Right. And I kept it, but I never would go back in it. So I was like, I'm on this healing journey. I'm going to go on my subscription. I'm going to tell them, hey, is he did these things? And he did these things. And I'm going to take you guys on my healing journey
Starting point is 00:17:35 and blah, blah, blah. And this was like I was in the middle of the funk of it. Like I'm going to show them, I'm back outside. I'm going to make more money still. More houses. Be more houses. Like I'm full of like, you know, like the green dior. I'm gonna make more money, sell more houses, build more houses. Like I'm full of like, you know, like the green tire.
Starting point is 00:17:48 I'm just like that. And then the dust settles, things calm down a little bit. And I said, you know, it just something hit me one day. I remember I told you I said, I don't want to close friends and I don't want to subscribe. Be sure to. My life is not up for sale. And I deleted my subscribers.
Starting point is 00:18:06 I deleted close friends because I feel like if I can't post it freely, then I shouldn't be posting it. Wow. And when I did that, this was before him and I even decided to talk to get or even talked about reconciliation. And then, of course, a few people caught wind of that video, you know, how bad news spread fans, you're doing this to Keanu, you did that.
Starting point is 00:18:28 And I think it was so many opinions coming at him, right? And here we are, you know, trying our best. Like we're going to church, we're trying our best. He's talking to my mom. Yeah. You know, and I think he felt the need to just say, with all this going on, you know, the good thing about being popular and attractive
Starting point is 00:18:47 and unlikable is so many people love you. But then so many people see in you what they did not accomplish within themselves. And so instead of people looking and saying, this girl is going through it, this man did something that hurt her. And I'm gonna pray for her. Yes.
Starting point is 00:19:05 I got attacked. You know, I had people truly like wanting to make it my fault of whatever he did. And I think that for him, it was like, if I can't do anything else, I can at least try to defend her. Wow. You know, I can at least try to at least say this because I'm getting it.
Starting point is 00:19:26 How can you get it? How is it that you are attacked and you are the person that got it? Right, I got her. You know, but I recognize that these are broken people and hurt people when I hurt people. And when you're broken and you're hurt. And you know, it's like, oh, she portrayed this perfect life.
Starting point is 00:19:42 I didn't portray a perfect life. I showed you highlights of my life. And you portrayed, you's like, oh, she portrayed this perfect life. I didn't portray a perfect life. I showed you highlights of my life. And you portrayed, you said it was perfect. I never said that. You know, I grew up in the South. My mom said, house business is house business. So let me tell you something. And let me tell you something else.
Starting point is 00:19:56 I'm never going to truly share everything because I wasn't raised that way. We were really raised that way. And it's just, it's in me. That's why I don't do too many personal podcasts. I don't do too many personal events. It's all business for me. It's your a really close friend. And so I think that for him, that's what I think he wanted
Starting point is 00:20:20 to at least say. Let me defend her in this way. That's the least I can do. Wow. You know. I know that definitely caught us all of guard. I'm close to both of you. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:20:32 And these help renovate my home with his team. And you two have built this amazing business together. And I want to speak to that too. I had called you one day before all this had happened. And I said, hey, I was like, I'm looking for a general contractor. The one I had is like charging ways too much. You said, oh, if he can do it, he's got a team. I said, okay, cool.
Starting point is 00:20:52 Then all this happened. And I went to my, I went to my, I mean, you were like, I'm coming. Yes. So you come and you were like, oh girl, I got to get out of here. And I was like, if you don't want me to work with him, let me know. He was like, no, I do not want him to lose any clients. And in that moment, you were so broken,
Starting point is 00:21:11 but your heart posture was still, I don't want to take anything away from this man. Absolutely. And I said, my God, that spoke volumes to why I love you as my friend and the type of person that you are and the integrity that you have to be at your lowest but still not want to see the person that calls the pain to you suffer in any kind of way. And I was like my goodness I was like if I could take anything away from this whole situation it's
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Starting point is 00:22:18 and I said, I'm looking for a good church, and you said, go to change church. And I started going, and I have been out of town, I've been out the country, but I will either be on my cell phone and watch it. I watch the replay or I attend in person. And I think I want to say that diligence and getting really connected and having someone
Starting point is 00:22:38 to be a vessel to really give me that work and allow me to and want me to yarn for more so I'll research on my own and start opening my own Bible and ordering books and ordering things to help me pray through what I'm going through. I will say that is what has carried me through this because I tell people you can be, you can literally be broke but you cannot be broken. Right? So as much as the situation broke me, it didn't break me. Oh. You know? That's a message, yes.
Starting point is 00:23:10 It did not break me. I was able to steal function. You were, yeah. And I'm grateful for that. Yeah, that's beautiful. During this journey, I know it's taking a lot of self-reflection. What have you learned about Kiana through all this? I've learned that I can definitely be a little selfish
Starting point is 00:23:29 when it comes to what I want and how I see things. So actually being open to other people and allowing everyone to feel seen is something that's important to me. I think also through this situation what I've learned is, you can love people and you can have people close to you, but you have to be the alpha and the omega
Starting point is 00:23:52 of your own life and your own decision. And I've learned that I'm not easily influenced by other people's opinions. I'm like, you can think what you want, but I'm gonna do what I want. And I love that about me because I know like, you can think what you want, but I'm gonna do what I want. And I love that about me because I know that at the end of this life that I had, and I tell people this story all the time, you know, my dad, he passed away from cancer. He was only 52.
Starting point is 00:24:16 And he did not, he had sarcoma cancer, sarcoma cancer was his cancer of the soft tissue. They removed a 17 pound tumor. He went through everything. He got better than he immediately got worse and passed away in a half, like a year and a half, right? Right. And he didn't want to suffer. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:24:33 And at the end of his days, and I was spending time with him, he reminded me to live my life unapologetically. He reminded me that you need to make sure that you live this life for you. And I'm reminded of that every time I have to make a difficult decision. Every time I have to face some adversity, I'm like, this is my one life. And as long as I'm internally happy, I'm pleasing God, I don't care what you or you think about that. So that's one thing I learned is my strength in that.
Starting point is 00:25:03 And then I want to say my best trait that I've learned is, now I'm very intentional. I am very intentional about checking in. You are with everything I'm talking about from. It's been a time when my niece is my nephew, my mom, my friends. You know, even in my business, making sure I feel like it's softened me.
Starting point is 00:25:23 It's the situation has softened me. Like I check into my team. Yeah. I check into everybody more because I recognize that being that one, like being on that train and just pushing forward, it's a lonely ride if you don't have people with you. That is so true. That is so true. And with all that, what has this process
Starting point is 00:25:46 taught you about forgiveness? I know that's a tough thing to do sometimes when you're the one that was hurt. I'm still forgiving. I'm still forgiving. I give myself the grace. But I do know this. The closer I get to the forgiveness part, the lighter I feel.
Starting point is 00:26:06 The lighter, the better my days are, right? You know, the easier it is for me to enjoy my life, fully enjoy from within, right? That glow that you could, someone's like, I can see that glow. It's coming because I'm allowing myself to say, you have to forgive what you can't forget. And there was one actually gifted me a book
Starting point is 00:26:28 and said, learning to forgive what you can't forget. And she gifted me this book and I started to read it and I'm working to finish it. And I plan to finish it through the holiday season because what I recognize, if you cannot truly forgive someone, how can you expect God to forgive you? Because none of us are perfect. We have done imperfect things in this world.
Starting point is 00:26:50 I have done so many imperfect things. I have made so many decisions that I feel like, dang, that was a terrible decision. I was a terrible friend. I was a terrible sister or a terrible daughter. And if I want God to forgive me, I'm going to have to forgive that person, right? So forgiveness is one thing,
Starting point is 00:27:08 and then reconciliation is another thing. So I'm working on the forgiveness part now because I gotta forgive, or it's going to eat me up. Yep, and I don't want that. PD talked about that, it turns on Sunday saying that a lot of times forgiveness isn't about the other person is about your own healing. Yes, it is so true.
Starting point is 00:27:26 It is, so forgiveness is something I'm still working on, but I take it a day at a time and I recognize my feelings and I talk through them. Right. And that has helped me towards that forgiveness journey. Yeah, so good. I think something that you and I both have discussed and that we have in common is that we're
Starting point is 00:27:46 in our 40s but have not had children yet. Right. Do you feel like because your career was just taking off that was something that you just put on the back burner or did you not even want to have children? What was the decision in that? It's a lot of factors in that. That's like a, that is a layered question. I'll say when I first got married, I was on Burkhan Trail.
Starting point is 00:28:06 So most people assume, oh, she can't have kids like child. I was on the depot shot. Before I got married, I stayed on the depot shot. I didn't have a period for almost seven years because the depot shot took it away. And I was enjoying my life. So that's when I met my husband and when we got married. So then when it was time to like, okay, do you want to have kids? So I get off the shot.
Starting point is 00:28:28 Yes. You get off the shot, they do all these tests. It took me a whole year and a half to start having a cycle again. Oh wow. What did you have to do to start to go away? They said you had to wait and you had to take, you're progestian levels, we're off and all that stuff. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:28:42 And so they were like, take these vitamins, take that. And so then once everything started to even now, you know, we start having these tests. So we're taking tests, I'm getting my test, and he's getting his test. And I'll say with respect to a little bit of our privacy, that it's always, it's sometimes it's both people or sometimes it's one person.
Starting point is 00:29:03 The assumption is always that it's the woman, right? That's gonna be the easiest thing to assume. But in my situation, that's not the case right now. You know, my eggs are geriatric. They go and tell you that child. Yes. Can I just say a disclaimer, if you are in your early mid-20s, early-20s late early-30s,
Starting point is 00:29:23 and you say, I don't know if I want to have a child in your financially able. Please go freeze your eggs because by the time you get over 35 they will call them Jerry Atchard. I don't care how good you look. You can recall the green tea. Eat all the salad. Your eggs are Jerry Atchard.
Starting point is 00:29:37 I hate that word. But it's true. They just do. It's true. It's like they literally just put me in the grave. I'm like, yeah, it's like you can't have it. I'm like, oh my gosh. And so when that happens, I think that I came to terms with it.
Starting point is 00:29:53 We went through an IVF cycle. It was unsuccessful. And I was like, well, we have a beautiful life. You love me. We have a dog. We travel. I'm a great aunt. You know, you already have a daughter. So everything is beautiful. I don travel, I'm a great aunt. You know, you already have a daughter,
Starting point is 00:30:05 so everything is beautiful. I don't, I'm indifferent. I'm indifferent about having a kid now because now I don't necessarily want to commit to going through the process. And having that type of failure or blow come again. Right? So I would say it was a combination of all of it.
Starting point is 00:30:24 And I came to that conclusion at the end, like I don't, you know, if as long as it's us, like you know how like Mr. Big and Carrie was, it's like me and you're just us too. Yes. I was fine with that, you know. And that's just the decision that it's a lot of, it's like I said, it's a lot of caveats that come with that.
Starting point is 00:30:39 There's a lot of layers. And in my situation, it's not just that my age of geriatric is the person that I want to conceive with also has some challenges. And so that is how it all kind of froze. Right. Did that affect you guys anywhere? Did you both agree like we love each other, we good.
Starting point is 00:30:58 We both agree that we loved each other and we were good and then it's like but now as we're going through our challenges it's like maybe we want to revisit it, maybe you want to see what can be done. And so we shall see. Yeah, that's good. I love that. I know a lot of people talk about freezing eggs and you've gone through the whole imbietra process. Yes.
Starting point is 00:31:20 What was that? Like, because I've never done it. I'm actually scared. Because I've heard a lot of different stories about it. I want to say if you're afraid of needles, you're going to have a hard time. And you feel, I kind of felt like a lone scientist. Because there are certain things you have to mix yourself. Oh wow.
Starting point is 00:31:35 Everything is not pre-mixed. So certain things you're going to have to watch a little video, mix it, and put it, yeah. So then when you get everything set up and you know, get into your flow and you don't mind sticking yourself. Is it like a needle like that's just poking out of it? Is it like, is it inside a cartridge that you just punch? Yeah, it's like, it's a cartridge. Okay, so now that one where you can see the needle and you're like sticking it in yourself.
Starting point is 00:31:58 Or is it like you just like this and punch it? You just like that and punch it. Okay. So you're gonna have to punch it and, but it changed my, one, of course I got bloated. Everybody I think they get bloated. But beyond being bloated, it changed my temperament. Like literally, I became a completely different temperate because again, when I'm in work mode,
Starting point is 00:32:18 and we had just launched Watson Realty Co. And I was having a team meeting, and I do not cry for real like that. I started crying to my agent because I was like this is my first agent. I'll never forget Kiera. My very first ad man, she's still my agent built me into this day and I was like you have to sell at least this dollar amount. It was a certain dollar and now I need her to sell. And I started crying and I think she was looking at me like, what is going on?
Starting point is 00:32:45 And I was like, is this even me? It's like watching yourself in an outer body experience. And you're experiencing emotions that you know normally you wouldn't have. And I think that those are the two, that will be the biggest thing for you. Forget the bloating, I'm gonna be a big shirt, but not being able to control my emotions,
Starting point is 00:33:04 especially in the business field. That was the biggest thing that I would say watch out for when you go through it. Don't be in the position where you got to make a lot of heart decisions quickly. Yeah, that's good, that's good. I want to switch gears a little bit and talk about what's in Realty Co. Okay. And how we met. Yeah. I met you in 2017 when I was purchasing my first home.
Starting point is 00:33:26 Yes. And we were like, four houses in now. Yes. You have been with me every step of the way. And it's grown way past being my realtor. But I remember not knowing anything. My friend, Chivine, she was like, oh, my boyfriend's time. He knows a realtor.
Starting point is 00:33:43 Her name is Keon. And I was like, OK, well, give me your information. And she was like, oh my boyfriend, and he knows a realtor, her name is Keon, and I was like, okay, well, give me your information. She black, and she was like, yes, perfect. And we met, and we ended up finding this townhouse that I just loved. And it ended up being one of your preferred lenders, was their preferred lenders. So we didn't have any clothes. It was like $5,000 to which it closed and cost. All these things just lining up.
Starting point is 00:34:05 And I remember we got to the house, and the person who was doing the open house said, well, somebody's already left to go get their earnus money. Keana literally was like, all right, well, we'll wait. And she's like, I said, we're gonna get our earnus money. We're gonna come back, and we're gonna wait. And the person never came back. So we gave him our earnus money.
Starting point is 00:34:20 Yeah. And once we came back with the earnus check, you literally set with me at that diner and table and read the entire contract with me so that I understood and explained it to me. Which makes sense why you do agent tools for success now because you want people to understand what they're signing up for. Absolutely.
Starting point is 00:34:40 When I got the house, first of all, I was seamless because of you, but I also learned so much during that process because you weren't just trying to get a check. No. And that was before you had your own brokerage. So you always take in this series. So for anybody who may be watching that wants to be a realtor, can you kind of walk me through the process of what even made you want to be a realtor and what that journey was like? Okay, when I first got my real estate license, I just thought I'm just going to be successful.
Starting point is 00:35:08 I'm good with people I can make this work. But it wasn't till I spent some time in property management that I got a better understanding of reading through documents and interpreting those and running reports and understanding the market. So when I really jumped into real estate full time and that was in 2015, September 2015, what I recognize is that I have a certain way that people trust me, right?
Starting point is 00:35:37 It's like people come around me and because I've always been hungry and not thirsty, let me tell you the difference. The difference is I can take my time with you. Let me tell you the difference. The difference is I can take my time with you. I can show you six houses. I can show you 10 houses. I can show you one. And I can make sure you understand what you're doing
Starting point is 00:35:56 and understand every step of the way. And so I'm big on putting together processes. So I'd be like, well, let me write this down so that way they can understand you. Or let me break this down in layman's terms. So in comparison to what they see on this contract. This makes sense to them And I just started to run my business that way because you never know Where someone is going to lead you and I always tell people start how you want to finish. Yes, right? Start how you want to finish and so if you're a future if you I think for me when it came to real estate
Starting point is 00:36:22 I recognize that one I I love houses, I love people, and I love winning. So when you have that salesmanship, you're going to enjoy this business because it's beyond the customer service, the same way the woman there, she wants us to increase our offer while we were waiting for the other offer. And I'm like, I'm not gonna increase nothing.
Starting point is 00:36:41 I'm gonna save you some money so we can wait here into the doors closed at six. And now the doors are closed. You're gonna take this offer at this price. And we, and everything worked out. So you gotta, you have to enjoy sales. And then you have to enjoy people. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:36:55 Well you definitely do. And you made all the processes so seamless. Yeah. Even I know I had found a house on Mount Pairing with Tyler actually found the house. Oh Lord. And I said, Keana's like, Tyler didn had found a house on Mount Panger and with Tyler actually found the house. Oh Lord. And I say, he had a like Tyler didn't found his house and she goes, all right, let me find out who's who's listening it is.
Starting point is 00:37:13 And we went and looked at it and you're like, it's going to be a lot of work. I was like, okay. It's a lot. It's a lot of work. It meant nine months later. I was like, I can't do this anymore, because we got the house, and it was taken for everybody at permits. And I called Tyler and I said, hey, I think I found the house.
Starting point is 00:37:32 I like, and he's like, what's the many pictures of it? So I sent pictures, and then he goes, go get your house out by the other house, girl. And I said, Keanu, I said, I wanna go look at this house. You'd like, let's go, let's go. And within, like, every time I call you, because I'm the type of person where I may need to see it a few times, every time I call you, you were right there
Starting point is 00:37:50 or if she needed to see it, you're like, oh, I'm there. And there was another house. And we had already. It was another one in the middle. Had the offer all over. And we over there still looking at houses, the whole another house.
Starting point is 00:38:01 The whole house was beautiful. That was beautiful. It was just positioned wrong. It was gorgeous. We already had an offer on the other house. The whole house was beautiful. That was just a position wrong. It was gorgeous. We already had an offer on the other house. It under-contracted. We was under-contracted. I was like, this girl is crazy.
Starting point is 00:38:12 But at the same time, I also recognize I know Georgia law. I know we're within the time period that she can get her earnest money back. So if you're going to have second thoughts, you need to have them right now. Before we get past this contingency, which is called the due diligence period if you guys want to know so in the state of Georgia only is that's the only time on the person in celebration that you can terminate without calls that means you can get your artist money back you don't have to have a reason so I knew we needed that yeah and I and I felt like this is such a huge purchase you know so you want to
Starting point is 00:38:43 be as you want to be extremely happy, extremely sure about that decision. Exactly. So it was, it was, but it's always good to learn with you guys. Yeah. Oh my god. The entire show's up. It's just hilarious.
Starting point is 00:38:56 It's so, it's hilarious. A Tyler Perry, Mr. Perry, like the call of Mr. Perry. I'm like Tyler, it's hilarious because he has all this stuff. Like, nobody knows who he is. Yeah, like he's, and then the guy we leave and then like, is that the, the, the, the, I'm so glad to tell him, it's hilarious because he has all this stuff. Nobody knows we. Yeah, like he's, and then the guy we leave, and then like, is that the man you're at? Oh my gosh. And I think it's in my thumb, maybe you maybe not. And I'm like, he needs to be a realtor at this point.
Starting point is 00:39:17 No, seriously. Yes. Well, you know, his first passion was architecture. So, when we went to that house, he literally sat in his car, pulled out a piece of typing paper, and started drawing up the plans, and he was like, this is what I wanted to have to look like to his architect. And I was like, I don't like this house, but I like what you just drew. But I want to be here. You can make this look like this, and we're good. But you've always been there. I just love that. Now, when it comes to actually running your own brokerage, getting to this alpha woman that you are, what is that like?
Starting point is 00:39:48 Because you have a beautiful office, you have some amazing ladies that work under you, that you mentor, that look up to you with such adoration. What is that like on a day day basis knowing that you have all these women that are depending on you and your guidance to succeed and knowing that this business has your name on the front door. It's a lot of pressure. I had someone ask me, it was like you look like you can't, like you change, and I'm like you have to change.
Starting point is 00:40:17 When you're a level of responsibility changes to who much is giving, much is required. You cannot move and operate the same way. You have to be mindful of what you've built, who's looking to you. And these, the agents that work for me, they're full time. Most of them are full time. So under my tutelage, under my brokerage,
Starting point is 00:40:37 they're feeding their families, they're taking care of themselves. And what I found is I have, I make sure that I cross my teeth and I got my eyes like I've always done. So instead of doing that, like with a contract, like I did with you, I do that when it comes to my business. I want to make sure we have the right training, the right resources, they're getting the right leadership, and they know that they're looking to someone that not only has done the work, but encourages them throughout the process. And that is what's so important in leadership. that not only has done the work, but encourages them throughout the process. And that is what's so important in leadership.
Starting point is 00:41:07 People, you have to lead from the front. Yes, yes. When you lead from the front, people will absolutely follow. And that pressure is, you know, pressure sometimes bursts pipes, right? Because sometimes like, yeah, I just want to be soft. To make me, I don't know.
Starting point is 00:41:24 We're worried about none of this. Right. Y'all go break the emails, emails, read yourself. Right. And then write yourself with it. Like, just close the laptop. Slams the laptop shut, right? Sometimes, some days it is like this.
Starting point is 00:41:38 Because you're like, whoa, but at the end of the day, it's rewarding to know that what you worked extremely hard for is now coming to fruition and it's being successful and people are receiving it will. So that is something that I just day to day, I manage it. Now what is it like having to fire somebody, being the boss? Kind of you grow so close to these women.
Starting point is 00:42:00 And you care about them. What is that putting that hat on like? OK, so I've had to do that. And it's not directly a fire, because well, this is two parts. Okay, I've had to fire some assistance. Those are people that have worked for me. In agent, you just kind of dissolve the relationship
Starting point is 00:42:16 because they're independent contractors. You can say, listen, I just don't, I no longer want to hold your license here. And I made that tough decision as I was growing this brokerage at the top of the year. I was like, next thing, I blinked and I had like 60 agents. What? I'm like, how did this happen, right?
Starting point is 00:42:34 Because everybody want to work with me on a Watson. And so there are people coming from other team, people I recruit at, because I was thinking that I just get more agents. And you know, I'm going to do less work. And at the same time as I'm growing more agents I'm getting all these development relationships right. So now I'm representing subdivisions. It's no longer one house.
Starting point is 00:42:52 Can you tell me? You've said it again. It's no longer one house. It's a subdivision. Yes. You bet. That was like 10 houses. You need to list this 15 house community.
Starting point is 00:43:02 You need to list this enclave of six houses and they're all new construction. It's a great developer. Thank you to Delphi and Nick and brothers. And through that relationship, I have now I have like eight different developers that I work with. And I said, oh, I'm being, and I'm very aware of who I am.
Starting point is 00:43:20 I said, okay, I am being pulled. I'm being pulled in a whole lot of directions because now I have all these agents with me and they have their demands. I have my own line training academy. That has its demand. I have my own book of business. That's a demand.
Starting point is 00:43:36 I have the Q Watson team. That's a demand. Goodness. And then I have Watson Realty Co and all that. And I said, you know, I can't, I have to first evaluate what brings me the most joy. And then secondly, what brings me the most income. Joy and income was the first two things that I calculated. And I said, I have to, I'm going to have to trim this fat.
Starting point is 00:43:59 And they were producing agents. They were producing agents, shout out to all of them. I'm still really good, cool, cool with a lot of them. Some of them, I want to say this directly, I don't want you to feel away. It comes to the point where you have to put your own oxygen mask on first. And when I recognize I'm getting these development relationships, I cannot not build this part of my business and cater to the demands that is that they feel are necessary to be a leader in this part of the business. So I made the
Starting point is 00:44:31 tough decision to release them. Respectfully and I did it in such a respect where I gave them back all their listings most eight most brokers when you write a contract with the brokerage even if you leave that contract is in the name of the brokerage and they get to keep it. And they can release you and keep your contracts. They can keep your buyers, they can keep your sellers. It doesn't belong to you. Because you like to say you work with me.
Starting point is 00:44:53 You get to 10 people under contract. And it's under Watson Realty Co. And I say, you know what, Chris, you can no longer work with us. You have to leave. I can release your license. And those are technically my contracts. But that's how the law works, that's why it's so brokerage. It's a pass-through.
Starting point is 00:45:11 And I gave everybody all their deals. Integrity, I gave them all their deals. As long as it enclosed with them three days of them leaving, I gave them all their deals back. And I did it in the best way, but it wasn't about them. I think that people always want everything to be about them. It was about me. I have worked extremely hard in this capacity,
Starting point is 00:45:30 in this career, and this happened before I thought, before the relationship issues came. Okay, honey, let me make that clear, because everybody's like, oh, she had relationship. Is she let go of these agents? Right, oh my people find it. They just got let go before the relationship issues transpired. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:45:47 I released the agents because I had to choose me. I said, I am not going to be stretched thin in this season. I remember that. I can't do it. I want to enjoy my life. I want to enjoy the people that love me. And if I continue to stretch myself, then I won't have anything left for me.
Starting point is 00:46:00 Yeah. So I just made the decision to choose again, which gave me what gave me the most joy and which gave me the most income. I love it. We talked about the industry being such a male dominated industry that she work in. And for alpha women, when men are alpha men, they are successful. The most successful out of the group, they're a leader, a breadwinner, but when women are the alpha female, then it's, oh, she's a bit, she's vicious.
Starting point is 00:46:28 She's cold. What has it been like navigating those areas? I feel like as women, like I said, so I say when you say that word alpha, that just means liter. That doesn't necessarily mean cold. But in certain aspects of my business, it can feel cold.
Starting point is 00:46:44 Yeah. When I had to send those emails to release those agents, But in certain aspects of my business, it can feel cold. When I had to send those emails to release those agents, I'm pretty sure it felt cold. Because at the same time, it was direct assertion assertion for the situation it was. I think that we have to be mindful that you cannot run a business like you run your personal life. What Beyonce says, she said, in business,
Starting point is 00:47:05 being polite does not mix, but she did say, you can be fair. But when you're out here being polite, you're being unfair to yourself. And I have learned that you're the in business. In business, you cannot always just be polite to people. You have to be fair and stand strong in your integrity and move forward. I love it. Oh my goodness. I want to ask Keana with everything that you've gone
Starting point is 00:47:34 through in the year of 2023. Yes. What are you going to do different in 2024 and how do you want to move forward? In 2024, I want to continue to really nurture my relationship with God. I want to be so in tune with God that I hear his voice very clearly. So when he tells me to move, I move. I want to move slower. I am an intentional person. And if I don't like something, or if something is not going the way that Keanu says that she'd go, I quickly disassociate and I quickly make decisions. And I don't, that's another thing,
Starting point is 00:48:14 you cannot run your personal life like I would make the same decisions in my business life. That's good. So I wanna go into 2024 slowing down, like not being so quick to decide. And I wanna spend more time enjoying the little things. I think that I got so caught up, like I wanna go to Central Pay, we're at the Central Pay.
Starting point is 00:48:33 I wanna go to Italy, I wanna go to this, you know, I gotta be on this big boat, I did that. I did it now. I definitely did it. I want to pair it at least three times. Right, so I just wanna go have chicken wings and hamster. All of that, right? But I, oh, not only, you know, let's not forget being the VIP risers
Starting point is 00:48:54 and watching Beyond Saying With Your Freak Christian. And she'll be like, I wish I did it. But I want to do more of the small things. I want to be able to have like intentional lunches like we did the other day with my friends and not let it does everything that doesn't have to be a photo off our video. Right. We didn't take, we didn't, we spent a lot of time together and we don't take pictures. We want to take a picture at the event because again, we're on the stage.
Starting point is 00:49:19 We're on the stage, yes. But we know we have a personal relationship, we have nothing to prove. Because we call each other all the time. You have my real personal number. Not just the public business. Hello, I got Kiana business Kiana personal. And so I want to spend more time. I want to spend more time with friends and family.
Starting point is 00:49:35 I want to enjoy more of the little thing and still sprinkle in a lot of the big things. Well, I just want you to know that I'm so proud of you. I'm your constantly in my prayers. I'm one of those friends that I'm cheering you on. And I hope that you feel the support and that I only want you to be happy. And whatever that looks like for Kiana.
Starting point is 00:49:58 Absolutely. You are one of the most non-judgmental people, but you also are very much so like I heard you. And then you give me your opinion without it being a judgmental opinion. People really can't help themselves. It takes a certain special type of person to be able to give an opinion that's not biased
Starting point is 00:50:19 or based on their own experiences. But that's what we're going to do. Yeah. So I appreciate that and I feel that love. And I hope that you feel the same. I do. I'm always supporting you. I'll, you know, I'd probably be watching your show.
Starting point is 00:50:33 I would be watching your show, but beyond that, I'm always just rooting for you. And your greatness, you know, I love watching the show. I called her one day and I'm not going to say what happened. But I said, I watched this episode. And I think you need to take this date. I won't ever, I won't ever, I won't do it. Because the thing about it, you have built and guess what, you can have it all,
Starting point is 00:50:56 but maybe not at all at the same time. So think about this. Because I think you do, there are, some things have to take a sacrifice. Yes. And I'm learning that. And so you've done all the hard work. Yeah. You're on you know how much you have to work and when it's gonna be done, you don't have to over it or just self. And you could focus on your relationship if that's what you choose. Okay. Or you can be you can be you can be a walking hail walking um fake filter.
Starting point is 00:51:21 in fake filter. I'm just gonna say that. I'm gonna say that. I'm gonna say that. I'm gonna say that. I'm gonna say that. I'm gonna say that. I'm gonna say that. I'm gonna say that.
Starting point is 00:51:29 I'm gonna say that. I'm gonna say that. I'm gonna say that. I'm gonna say that. I'm gonna say that. I'm gonna say that. I'm gonna say that. I'm gonna say that.
Starting point is 00:51:37 I'm gonna say that. I'm gonna say that. I'm gonna say that. I'm gonna say that. I'm gonna say that. I'm gonna say that. I'm gonna say that. I'm gonna say that. I'm gonna say that. I'm gonna say that. I'm gonna say that. I'm gonna say that. You who so much. Oh. Now we are going to do one of my favorite parts,
Starting point is 00:51:47 this positive outcomes, where our listeners write into us and we give them advice. OK. All right, so this one says, hi, Crystal, I recently turned 41 this year with no kids, and I've been working in education since the age of 13. My career is going great. I brought my first home at the age of 39,
Starting point is 00:52:03 and I'm very independent. I absolutely hate depending on a man to do anything for me. My dad taught me how to change my own tires and brakes. Okay. All right. I don't know how to do that. However, my hyperindependence has caused a lot of confusion in past relationships.
Starting point is 00:52:18 Should I just play the damsel in distress, which would literally hurt my nerves, help assist out? Well, first of all, I've had to learn this because I was a single for so long that when I did have a man in my life, I didn't know how to allow him to lead. I didn't know how to let him do things. Like, if I did, get a flat tire,
Starting point is 00:52:38 I would just so you say, handling everything on my own that I didn't make the man feel needed. And I don't think you have to be a damsel in distress because I feel like if you play that role, eventually it's gonna get on the man's nerves. Yes, of course. Yeah, but I do know that it's important to let the man feel like he is needed in the relationship.
Starting point is 00:52:57 Let me tell you something. Well, I remember I did this podcast, y'all. I was on the stage with my prior relationship. And I said, I don't need a man. I want you as my man. I said that. I meant it when I said it, because I, in my mind, I'm thinking tell you that you want it.
Starting point is 00:53:16 Yes. It's going to elevate. It's like, it's open to answer. Open to answer. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But for a man, it's like, oh, you don't need me? It's a different thing. I would say you've got to learn to let these men lead.
Starting point is 00:53:26 And you need to be the damsel in distress. I can, with my past relationship, and us trying to work through it, the first thing I said is I want to be a pampered princess. I can't figure out nothing. Darling, I don't know how to tell the show. Make a plan. Tell me what time to show up.
Starting point is 00:53:40 I don't care. I don't want to be in charge of the tickets. Wherever you decide we sit, that's where we sit. Because sometimes we can get like that too, as women, we're like, I want to sit on this row at this section, but sometimes let the man lead and whatever they can do, and how they want to do it. Let them do it, and show up and be happy for it.
Starting point is 00:54:01 Because they didn't have to do it. They didn't have to plan a date for you. They didn't have to plan this. So it said, maybe they planned a picnic, but you wanted to go and have five trips to Agu with extra truffle. Relax. I think that you need to relax and read the room.
Starting point is 00:54:17 And I think that if I could give her any advice, I would say, you say that you don't need a man. But let's be clear, you don't need a man maybe for your financial support Or for that physical support since the girl can change its hire and change its price, but crazy emotional support of a man No girlfriend can feel it No, a man can't fulfill that emotional support from your girlfriend's and your family family. Each of those love pockets are different and that love pocket from a man, you do need that. So I have to recant my message, I do need a man.
Starting point is 00:54:53 I want a man and I need a man. I want that emotional support. I want that love pocket feel. You need to really think about that and stop saying that you don't, so you can get what you need and live your life. Oh, I'm taking that advice, Keanu, because I definitely have said, I don't need a man, but I want one. And I feel, and I thought the same thing, I thought that when I say I want you, it's a choice that I'm making that I want you, and I thought that meant something they want to feel needed.
Starting point is 00:55:23 Yes. They do. That's so good. Thank you so much for writing in and please take her advice something. They want to feel needed. Yes, they do. That's so good. Thank you so much for writing in and please take her advice because I'm gonna take it. The next thing we do is what I'm going through and what I'm growing through. Okay.
Starting point is 00:55:39 And just off of what we talked about, I definitely need to work on allowing men to lead. When I do have that opportunity again, allowing them to lead, not being in control to what you said about, I need to sit on this row. I want my wagyu with the extra truffle. I want to go this way. I want to drive this kind of car, like, on the flat first class. I want to say in this kind of hotel, like, I have all these things that this is what I like.
Starting point is 00:56:08 I have to allow the man to leave. Yes. And preparing myself, I think those are things I need to work on so that when the next one comes, I can be ready. I absolutely think so. Yeah. I think it's a beautiful thing to allow a man to leave.
Starting point is 00:56:22 And if you, like my aunt told me, I had to go, I had to go talk to my old school aunt. I know that's right. As I'm dealing with and growing through, what I'm growing through. And they were like, you know, the man is the head, but the woman controls the neck. And she said, Kiana, if you want a man,
Starting point is 00:56:39 if you control in the neck, they're going to turn whatever way that you're controlling and men are controlling with nurturing. They're with love and nurturing and femininity. You'll get more. Yeah. Instead of demanding.
Starting point is 00:56:54 And I bet you you'll still end up having the waggoo with the extra truffle if they have to work two jobs to make sure you get it. Oh wow. Because now you're controlling the neck and they want to do it for you. Yes. That's beautiful. Yeah. Free game, y'all. want to do it for you. Yes, that's beautiful. Free game, you know. She just gave it to you.
Starting point is 00:57:08 That's so good. So what are you going through and growing through? I would say I'm going through my personal relationship battles and really trying to make sure I find the light in that, however that turns out, right? And being okay with knowing that I'm allowing God to grow me through this situation. So I feel like even in that growth, I'm going through it, but I'm growing through it.
Starting point is 00:57:34 Because at the end of all this, I'm going to be a much better woman. Absolutely. And that is an overall woman to a mate, to a friend, to a better daughter, better sister, better aunt. So, you know, I feel like situations happen sometimes to really humble you and to make you look at the mirror and say, you know, maybe you are not as together
Starting point is 00:57:54 as you thought. And that's what I'm growing through right now. It's so beautiful. I love it. Before we close out, we do what is called keep it blank, sweetie. Okay. And when I think of you, I think of keep it, keep it private, sweetie. Oh yeah.
Starting point is 00:58:17 Yeah. Certain things just keep it to yourself. There's things to share because you want to help other people learn and grow through their experiences, based off of what you've dealt with, but there are some things where you say, I'm too unkept to myself. I like that. Yeah, I love that. I mean that season is definitely keep it private.
Starting point is 00:58:35 Yeah. And I don't think it's anything wrong with that. Yeah. What can you really think about it? What you really love, you protect. You do. And what you truly love about it? What you really love, you protect. You do. And what you truly love and you care about you protect. And you see me with my nieces,
Starting point is 00:58:49 I'll say send you a picture of me, your, you see all of my plans. How often have you seen them on my social media page? Same. So I just asked other day, did I have any siblings? Because I don't post. You know why I don't? Because I really love them and I want to protect them.
Starting point is 00:59:02 And I realized that there are so many outside forces that I don't have control of, and they didn't ask for this type of platform. They didn't ask for these people to take a screenshot of them and try to criticize them. So you protect what you love, and that can be friendships. So even though we may not post each other all the time,
Starting point is 00:59:20 every single meetup, we know what we have. And we are probably post-apictures. They say, hey, we went to this event. But every single meetup, we know what we have. And we are probably post a picture and say, hey, we went to this event. But every single meetup is not a photo of some things that you absolutely love and you trust and keep close to yourself. That's so good. What would you say? Keep it blank, sweetie. I'm going to say, keep it real, sweetie.
Starting point is 00:59:44 I've heard it. Keep it real sweetie. You heard it. Keep it real sweetie. I'm in that space where I'm keeping it real with people that are around me. And by keeping it real with yourself, people are forced to accept you for who you are because you are no longer walking around with some mask. Because guess what? A mask that you walk around with will always eventually fall off. So keep it real sweetie.
Starting point is 01:00:07 I love that, that is so good. Can you have a thank you so much. Thank you. I'm so, so proud of you. Guys, thank you so much for tuning in to this episode of Keep It Posit, sweetie. If you want to write into our positive outcomes listener letter, you can write into keep it positive
Starting point is 01:00:20 sweetie at gmail.com and at sweetie with an i.e. You can follow Kips on all platforms that keep it positive, sweetie. And you can follow me on all platforms at luvcristernae, KeanuTill the people where they can find you. You can find me at keanuwatson.com, KeanuWatson on Instagram, KeanuWatson on social media. And of course Watson Realty Co.
Starting point is 01:00:42 That's my real estate broker here in the Metro Atlanta area. Any of the 25 agents can service you and then my online training academy for those that are looking for guidance and growing your real estate careers. Go to agent2sforsexcess.net and you can find me on all those platforms. Yes and if you want to learn more about Kiana,
Starting point is 01:01:00 she has a book. I forgot to say that you're also an author. Oh yes. Yes, clear to close. We were talking about how beautiful you were on the cover. Thank you. Yes. Give us more insight on her life and everything
Starting point is 01:01:10 that it took to get to where you are today. Absolutely. Yeah, we couldn't get it all in one hour. We couldn't get it all in an hour. But you can purchase the book as well and learn so much more about this amazing woman that I am so honored to call my friends. You are such a great woman. I love you.
Starting point is 01:01:23 I love you more. Thank you for knowing this is a say space for sharing this story. And I know so many women are going to be healed from this. I pray for you. I love you. I love you. Yes.
Starting point is 01:01:33 So good. I love you. Yes. So good. I love you. I love you. Yes. So good.
Starting point is 01:01:41 I love you. I love you. I love you. Yes. So good. I love you. I love you. I love you. I love you. Thank you so much for this day. Thank you for waking us up. Thank you for your mercy, dear God. I ask that you continue to allow us to reach everyone with this podcast, spreading more positivity into the world, dear God.
Starting point is 01:01:55 I ask that you use me in Kiana. We know there's so many people look up to us and look to us for inspiration and light, dear God. I want to shed truth. I want to shed some love today. I want people to truth. I want to shed some love today. I want people to see the authentic us to let them know that we are just like them to God. Thank you for Da Nora. Thank you for her guidance. Thank you for the anointing that you have in our life to
Starting point is 01:02:15 God. God bless YM. Thank you for his talents. Thank you for allowing him to be a part of this family. The God we love you, and Jesus name we pray amen. Amen. Amen.

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