Leah on the Line - 123: My best friend is jealous of me & my boyfriend is keeping me a secret!

Episode Date: October 14, 2024

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You guys remember a few episodes back. I said that me and Jamie like discovered this comedian and he he's like the auto-tune comedy guy You've probably seen him on your tick tock But he goes over to people in the audience and he's just like, what's your name, bro? And then they're like, Leah, is this your man? Is this your man? You gonna fuck tonight? And they're like, we already did.

So that's him. And he announced that he's coming to Europe on his tour this year next year, and I was like you better Believe I will tell me what I need to do for tickets. That was my mentality. Tell me what I need to do I Signed up to the mailing list. I got the pre-sale code. I was a rare D for these pre-sale tickets I'm on my train to London because I'm spending the day in London and I'm like shit I'm gonna be on a train when the tickets come out My signal is gonna be all over the place So anyway, my signal was fine. I'm on this website. I'm in the queue

There's like 700 people in front of me don't know how says that she there soon as a pin believe whatever and Then I get in at half past 9 tickets go and sell at 10, right? That's what he said And then I get in at half past nine tickets go on sale at 10, right? That's what he said half past nine I'm in sorry. There are no available tickets And I'm thinking is it because they haven't gone on sale yet? Or is it because they've sold out if it's because they're not on sale yet How come how come we've all been queuing and how come I'm in the room? What do I do just wait here half an hour like? I'm not gonna join the back of the queue, so I didn't know what to do

So I just say they must be gone. Like, they just must be. So I was like, oh, okay, nevermind. Like, wow, I didn't realise he was that in demand over here, but like, big fucking sleigh, do you know what I mean? So I was really actually quite depressed about it. And I was messaging Jamie and I was like, babes, I tried, cause he's working.

I'm the, it's on me, right? I was like babes I tried because he's working, it's on me right? I was like I tried but they're just gone, it's half nine and they're just gone right? And then it gets to like ten past ten and I thought let me just see what the website's saying, I go on there, it's all the fucking tickets are there, I was like SHIT I'M AN IDIOT they weren't even available yet that's why, there's no tickets available so I'm like, right, right, right Okay, don't panic. Don't panic. Don't panic and I've- me and Jamie have always said We- if we want to see Morgan Jay, we want to be like in the stalls because low-key like you want him to talk to you But then at the same time if he doesn't it's not the end of the world because it is his stand-up show

Do you know what I mean? He's just gonna make us LOL Can I get a LOL or a ha ha ha? If you know him, that makes sense. If you don't know him it's like, Liam, what are you saying? So anyway, we really really wanted to be in the stalls because we just wanted to be up close and personal with what's going down in the audience, you know, even if he's not talking to us. Like, we just wanted to be in the in the sticks in the stick of it So I'm like right click on best seats available One single seat in the stalls I was like

Tempting no, I was like fuck Anyway, it's gone. Like the stalls are gone. There was some riot at the very back I was like no I'd rather I'd rather not go. Not in a spoiled brat way, but I would be acting like a spoiled brat. I'd be at the back and I'd be huffing and puffing, like, oh, I can't even see, I can't even see, because it's quite a big theatre. And the only stand-up shows I've been to aren't big famous comedians like this.

Actually, I did go see Michael McIntyre in, where was that? I wanna say it was in, I don't know, it was a big West End theatre. But we were front row for that. That was real luck though, I think I probably told you guys about that at the time, let me go off track and tell you about it. So there's a website called applause store, if you don't know get to know okay, and you get to go and watch film, yeah filmings of TV shows, recordings, whatever, and being the live audience of TV shows. You can watch Catchphrase, you can watch Loose Women, like I can't remember what else, but

you can watch a tonne of shit. Game shows, Ant and Dec, like all of that. And Michael McIntyre's big show was there, and me and Jamie love Michael McIntyre, so we was like fuck it. And by the way, I haven't even mentioned these tickets are free It is free to watch you just have to put your name down and you'll get an email saying yeah here come you've got to get It's literally sick, right? Don't get me wrong Sometimes slash a lot of the time you don't get your ticket But a lot of the time you just you get your email you got your ticket, right?

And you just got you've got get there early to get a good seat. But we was late because I can't remember Jamie, for some reason Jamie was coming separate to me to London, so he got there before me but he wasn't allowed to join the queue without me. You need all your ticket holders in the queue at once, which I do like that they do that because otherwise everyone would do that. someone would get there early from each group and get the best tickets, and that's not really fair because everyone else ain't getting it until 6, do you know what I mean?

And by the way, this is at like 2pm, like you start queuing at like 2pm for your tickets, and the show doesn't start till 8, but you get in the queue, and then once you get your tickets, you go off in London for a bit, and then you come back for when the actual show starts, but it's literally like a race to get your ticket. So they didn't let Jamie get in the queue until we was there. I was there. So when I finally get there, hundreds of people have already got their tickets and Jamie's been watching the queue go down and down and down.

He's like, we're probably going to be on the balcony at this point, but we did not care because it's Michael McIntyre. There's a big screen. You know what I mean? It's going to be fine. We get there, we get our tickets and I'm like right, just always be really friendly, do you know what I mean? It's always worth a little chance, you know, anywhere you go, the chance of an upgrade is always worth, hi, how are you, how's your day going? Just be very polite, ask people how their day's going because they probably haven't actually been asked that so far, do you know what I mean? So we're like hi how

are you how's your day going yeah yeah oh it's a shame you're in here it's nice out there blah blah blah and then she's like enjoy the show and then it's like okay moment of truth babe let's see where was that fucking front row it actually said row B so we're like oh my god we're in the second row we're in the second row we're literally jumping up and down buzzing buzzing buzzing my god, we're in the second row, we're in the second row, we're literally jumping up and down, buzzing, buzzing, buzzing. But then when we got to the theatre to sit in our seats later on in the evening, we're going down to the front and we realised there's no row A. Like it was just the front row. So we were so lucky. And things like that don't happen to us. I always say, like, I'm not one of them people that like, you know, you know Everyone knows them people that they're just fucking lucky like they win bingo. They win raffles

Like I'm not that person like I'm not that bitch that wins So when we got front row, we just couldn't believe it and we had the most amazing time So anyway back to Morgan J, right? so yeah, we really wanted to be at the front and then I So yeah, we really wanted to be at the front and then I Yeah, we didn't get any tickets in the stalls There was only one single ticket available and then all the balcony which we did debate But then I thought you know what he may release of a tour of a show date So let's just be patient. Let's not panic by with a seat that we're not gonna actually enjoy as much

So I thought fuck it. Let's just leave it in the hands of the universe. He then like an hour later announces a second show on the same day. First of all, I was thinking Jesus Christ, babe. You need to rest. But then I go strut on the pre-sale link, put in the pre-sale code, gone. Gone.

I was like, what? How are you guys any quicker than me? I'm on it. I'm literally on it. So then I said to Jamie, the second show's been announced, it's over. Like we can't go. And this was on the day before yesterday. This was on Wednesday, right?

And now I'm just sad at this point. I'm like look we can't go and see him He's not gonna do more than two shows in London It's not like he's going on like this fucking insane tour where he's not gonna sleep and eat for the next like eight months So that's it, you know, maybe the next tour or maybe there'll be a pre up. What's it called? Oh a resale someone will resell their ticket Who knows even though on the venue It says it's not allowed but whether we're hoping and praying for a miracle Miracle came Friday morning this morning

So I was just checking my emails blah blah blah And then I'm still on the mailing list for Morgan J and it was like general ticket sales now live At 10 a.m. And I read the email at 11 a.m. so I was like oh fucking hell he released more tickets an hour ago but I wasn't excited because I was thinking it sold out in pre-sale and you guys know when I bought Jonas Brothers tickets I said the same thing I don't buy tickets I don't do like concerts events I don't go to things like that so I only buy theatre tickets which is very straightforward so I don't know to things like that. So I only buy theatre tickets, which is very straightforward

So I don't know how this shit works I thought if you sell out and pre-sale they're gone Like it just means there won't be a general sale like they maybe they didn't anticipate it to be that successful in the pre-sale That there's literally not a general ticket left So I Go on the link. I'm awesome. Just have a little look, how's it going, do you know what I mean, maybe a miracle's happened and he's doing a second day. Nope, early show and the late show on the same day. Right, I was like, aw, I've already been on this, I know, there's no, yeah, I know, there's

probably one restricted view ticket on the back row. Okay? I get in, and I click best tickets available and it was in Rody Stools. Wait a damn minute. So I'm sussing everything out, I'm making sure it's legit, I'm on Ticketmaster so I know I'm on a safe website. I'm trying to work out why is there Rody Stools tickets available now and then I guess, I've just guessed okay well They obviously don't put all the tickets up for pre-sale that was kind of dumb for me to assume that obviously they're gonna have general Sell seats as well, but the thing is is I was like they these tickets have been live for an hour

Why is no one grabbing them when pre-sale went like that? Why is no one getting these tickets? So I was I just sussed one getting these tickets? So I was like, just sus- I was staring at the website for ages and I was like, do you know what? Fuck it. I just fucking pressed buy. Quickly went into my PayPal and I was like, fuck it. Let's fucking go. Let's fucking go. And I booked these tickets to Morgan Jay and then I rang Jamie, he's like in a work meeting so I was like, call me, call me, call me, call me.

And he's like, babe, I can't. I'm like, please, you just need to get out for two minutes. You will not regret, I need to tell you something. He comes out, calls me and I'm like, what's your name, bro? And then he's like, no way, you got tickets. I was like, I got tickets, babe. So yeah, I am so excited you guys if anyone else is going to see Morgan J we're going to the five o'clock

show one of you guys who has become a really good friend of mine Georgia shout out love you babe she is going to the eight o'clock show which is so annoying because we're gonna miss each other but hopefully we'll cross paths in the changeover of shows also, he's absolutely insane like I'd be exhausted doing a back-to-back show like that, but Listen, you gotta do what you gotta do, you know So if anyone's going to Morgan Jay in London, please let me know I would love to meet up with some of you there and we can just have a little drink together or something

But I'm so excited. Okay Halloween, we need to talk Halloween. So I was gonna do Deadpool and Wolverine. I thought I can get skin, tied, Deadpool suit, sexy right? Jamie can be Wolverine, arms out, sexy Wolverine, muscle hunk right? And I can be like sexy little Deadpool with my little booty and like little knives You know like so sexy a big big ponytail extension I Ordered it by way. It's not easy to find a lady Deadpool outfit. It's really not easy I found one ordered it got cancelled because they sold out brilliant searched high and low went to costume shops could not find one And then I found one well Jamie actually found it for me, an extra small, the last one available. One left and the size was extra small I thought.

I'll suck it in. You know, so I ordered the extra small, it arrives, I put it on, I think you actually thought, you thought, you thought, you were gonna look so sexy in this. I'm looking at myself, Jamie's such a a liar Jamie would never tell me if I looked bad Like if I put something on that I know was hideous and I was like, what do you think babe? He'd be like, I love it, baby. You look really beautiful. You look so sexy. You might think oh, that's so sweet No, it's a bad thing. It's genuinely a bad thing It means I cannot trust what I look like when I go out the door because he will lie to me

So anyway, I'm putting this stupid costume on I look so stupid and James like babe You look sexy like your eyes looks bang it. I'm like stop lying. I look so embarrassing It's high neck, right And it's long sleeve and it goes down to my ankle. It's so embarrassing It's like if you showed up to a Halloween party It'd be like calm down Calm down with the costume Because it's not even just given like Halloween costume. It's given costume like I'm gonna cost you. It's given cosplay

It's so embarrassing. I was like, oh, I really thought like I just thought we'd look so sexy and cool So now I don't know what to do I did put on some knee-high boots and tied my hair in a ponytail and I thought okay It's better when you put on some knee-high boots. It's sexier, and it's better And it's iconic because it's Deadpool and Wolverine and as such an iconic couples costume It's it's current because the film came out this year There's so much tic-tac content. I could make Deadpool Wolverine Deadpool Wolverine, you know, like there's so much that song And ain't no baby bye bye bye

So like there was so much potential for these for this costume idea And I put it on my fault. No No, absolutely positively not so now I'm stuck I did order gun holsters to go with the Deadpool costume just to add some shit to it to make it a bit more Interesting than just like a fucking leather suit So now I'm thinking should I just do Tomb Raider but is that so boring? I've always wanted to do a Tomb Raider costume but I've never done it and I'm thinking I could order like a long plait extension, have like a fucking

long fuck-off plait coming out and be whipping it around. The two front pieces you know we said it last episode of Jamie, the boys love it for some reason, so I just know Jamie will be like, who'd say it anyway to be honest, like I put a bag over my head and he'll lie and say, you look really pretty, it really brings out your eyes. So yeah, I'm thinking maybe some little combat shorts, gun holsters, a little crop and some boots and just calling it a day, but then I'm like It's so fucking boring like going as as Tomb Raider is such a boring cop-out But like I'd be more comfortable and you guys know me

I'm not like a party pretty bitch like pretty chick like I like party animal So like the more comfortable I am the better time. I'm gonna have I Don't know what I was thinking thinking. I'm gonna show up to a party in a Deadpool costume In an absolute jumpsuit, so I've spent like 70 pounds on this Deadpool costume if anyone wants it Let me know because I don't need it It says it's size 2 to 6 Listen it doesn't fit great like it's saggy on the armpits. You need to really pull them up It's it cuts off the blood circulation in your arm if you bend your elbow

It rides up your bum which to be honest, I think it's a nice thing goes right up the bum crack So it really makes it stand out, you know So yeah, let me know if anyone wants to do that Deadpool idea get your boyfriend to order a Wolverine costume or get your best friend to like do a sexy Wolverine. So I have seen some sexy girl Wolverines and I feel like that would eat. So let me know what you think and then the other option because if I go as Tomb Raider I don't know what Jamie's gonna go as maybe like action man but that's so embarrassing it's like oh you guys think you're really fit? Do you know's so embarrassing. It's like oh you guys think you're really fit

Do you know what I mean? It's like do you do you guys just think you're really sexy? Like yeah, I do. No, I'm joking. So now we don't know and then I'm the other option is like pirates like er Like super scary like er happy Halloween. Do you know what I mean? I want to look nice because like I said I get anxiety stepping out of the comfort zone so and I don't think I'm gonna know many people at this party so I feel like the more comfortable I feel the better but this is what I do every Halloween you guys know I spend so long what am I gonna be what should I wear what should I order who should I go as well and then I'll just be like fuck it. I'll be a cat

Every fucking year fuck it. I'll just be catwoman again and again. I think I've been catwoman ten times I'm not even kidding So yeah, I won't be catwoman again this year They should do you know what they need to do? Rebrand catwoman. Oh wait. They already did that. It was Angelina Jolie, wasn't it? Ignore me. What's another superhero slash villain that just needs rebranding that has been like left and left to die for years? Superman Who is there actually a Superman film because I've never seen it Probably in the sixties Did you know Batman came out in 1966? I'll always remember that not sure why

Not sure why I always remember that same year that the Beatles revolve album came out. I think actually I might be getting that wrong but anyway And thank you for being here today Thank you for listening to this episode and sitting down Choosing to listen to Leah on the line out of all the podcasts that came up on your Spotify, on your Apple, whatever it is that you're on. And Lear on the Line was the one you picked. Thank you so much. We're going to have an amazing time today. I hope you enjoy this episode and let's get into it. Welcome to Lear on the Line. Join me every Tuesday as I dial your number for the ultimate

unfiltered bestie catch up. Whatever it is, we will laugh together and guide each other along the way. Head to learontheline.com and and follow learontheline on instagram to get involved. Love you! Really like cold and flurry at the moment. I feel like I'm just always ill. I know I say it all the time but like guys think about it, how often do I actually say oh I've got the I've got cold or I'm ill blah blah blah too often in it anyway the reason I'm bringing it up is because I When I'm ill I just need orange juice. I don't know what it is. I'm like need that vitamin C I need that orange juice So I went up to the shop yesterday with all intentions to buy some orange juice

And then it was next to the sunny D And it said like 50% of your Sunny of your vitamin D I thought I could use some vitamin D for the Sunny D right and then I'm getting home and I've been drinking this Sunny D for two days now and now it's got to the point where every time I sip it it's making me feel ill because it's what I've been drinking when I'm feeling ill and And it reminds me, when I was a kid, okay, and I know everyone can relate, especially my UK peeps, you're at home, you're off school, you're not well, Jeremy Kyle's on the telly, right? And your mum or your dad or whoever was taking care of you would always get you

a drink, right? And it was usually always the same drink and I know a lot of people, they always, they opted for a LucasAid sport or just your general Luke and that was like the drink of choice for a lot of people when they were unwell. It was a LucasAid. For me, for some reason, my mum always got us Oasis and now I hate Oasis. I cannot stand even the smell of it. It makes me feel violently sick and it, I genuinely find it concerning if you go to McDonald's and you get an oasis. I'm genuinely, I genuinely think you're unwell because

that's so strange to me. You could get a nice cold crispy Coke Zero, a crispy Fanta. Even a Sprite, I think, strange. To order a Sprite from McDonald's, odd behavior, but an Oasis juice, just a fucking squash. It's basically a glass of squash, right? McDonald's and you get an Oasis. But anyway, it comes down to the fact that when I was so ill as a kid and you're off school And you're being sick It's just pure oasis coming out of your mouth, and it would be the orange one It would be the purple one it didn't matter And I don't really get why she'll always opt for oasis because when I think about it

What's in oasis that my body needs because I understand the leukazade. It's an energy drink. It helps you want your muscles recover It says it on the bottle, right? What the fuck is an oasis doing? Besides giving me a headache and Giving me acid reflux while I'm sick, you know, it's insane But isn't it funny how everyone's got that drink that they it reminds of them of when they were ill when they were a kid I feel like most people do Also, like the first drink that you ever ever got properly drunk on, like it's so common that you just can't drink it. For me it was an Amaretto. Amaretto or De Serrano, whatever brand it

was but I can't really drink it. But now I'm, I love a De Serrano Sours, the cocktail, so I think I've gotten past that. I think I'm over that now which is quite nice to have moved on from that trauma to be honest. But yeah, I feel like everyone has that, you know? Like the certain shot Jaeger bombs. Do you know when I was at uni right? Because I'm so fucking cool. When we used to go on nights out, which was every week in first year, we would multiple times a week by by the way, for some reason I was a different person and I didn't really get anxiety until my second year, crazy.

And then we'd get to the bar and because we didn't wanna carry drinks around, we just used to go to the bar and order five Yeagers each and just go bang, bang, bang, bang, bang. Bang, bang, bang, bang bang bang bang bang yeah for some reason I felt like I said that four times and I just wanted to check so yeah and we would just be like it was like five for a fiver five yeagers please sometimes you'd share and you'd be like right here we go guys let's have two each and then for some reason

someone would have a spare but whatever like sometimes you weren't as crazy as like doing five at once. But that's just what we would do. And we'd go bang bang bang bang bang and then we'd leave, go dance, go outside, go mingle, whatever. And then we'd go and get our next round of Jägerbombs again. Fucking vile mate. Why would we do that? Anyway, so much nostalgia today. Let's just get into some dilemmas guys, I'm talking too much, I am... Okay, ugh, whoa. Oh my goodness, it's like somebody just cut off my voice then. Okay, we actually have an update somewhere.

Let me try and find the update. Okay, okay, who's ready for the update? Me, I am, let's go. Just an update. I was the girl whose, my boyfriend had the hidden phone in the bathroom that featured a few episodes back now. You guys remember that, she found a random phone right? You'll be pleased to know I left him in July.

Turns out he was cheating on me. A lovely girl tracked me down as she was using Snapchat, as he was using Snapchat, to declare his love to her and she found me via his Instagram. He of course denied it but I had screenshots which I presented to him. He then tried telling people we were on a break so I released the screenshots so people could realize we were not on a break. I have moved out and left him with nothing much more than his mattress and a chest of drawers and a TV, onwards and upwards in my single gal era." Isn't that just beautiful? To be fair, it's not because you've been cheated on and that was the fear when we had your

dilemma. We were very much dreading that that was the case, but I think we all knew, didn't we? So I'm very proud of you for walking away. God bless the girl that reached out and told you we love her. We love a girl's girl. And onwards and upwards, baby. Do you know what I mean? Oh, hiccup time.

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Hi, gorgeous Listen to your podcast every week and I swear they've helped me through so much anxiety phases and I felt like I'm not alone That means so much to me. What the fuck? I love that. Thank you so much. I'm so glad I'm so glad we can we can be together on that, you know So my dilemma I've been with my boyfriend a year I've only met one of his friends every time I asked to meet his family He just says yeah, you will and then says that they're intense and he doesn't want them to be involved yet He's met my family and all my friends and it just unsettles me

He talks about us living together, etc. But like why am I not allowed to meet your family? Also I'm nowhere to be seen on his socials. Ffffuck. And when I bring it up he gets defensive and says he never posts. He just went on a night out on Friday and was posting all over his socials pictures of him and his friends. Oh you fucking liar. What a liar. I can't help but feel he's trying to appear single and it really breaks me. We had a rocky phase.

We're both emergency workers with mental shift patterns and struggle to see each other. Thank you for your service. We love you. But we're back on track and he's been much better at communicating with me and reassuring me when I have episodes of anxiety. Am I overreacting? Please help a gal out. You're amazing. Love you. Love you. Okay, I'm worried. I don't feel good about this. And I want to talk about the not being posted on social media for a second because we've done this debate and I've thought about it. And I really can't think of a good fucking reason why you can't just post me on your Instagram. Even if I'm asking. Do you know what I mean? I don't care if it's organic, I don't care if it's natural, I don't care if I'm literally pointing a gun at you and saying post a picture of me on your fucking

Instagram or else, or it's over, and that's how you have to do it. I want to be on there, okay? And when I think about it, there is no good reason why I shouldn't be. If I've brought it to your attention that I want to be, and you're just defending the reason I'm not, rather than just saying, okay babe, that's fine, let's get a nice photo and I'll post it, or send me a photo you like and I'll post it, no problems, absolutely no drama, I'd love to do that, I'd love to show the world how gorgeous my gorgeous girlfriend is. If that is not your response, you are a sneaky little fuck and you want to be single. You want everyone to think you're single and you want to act like a single boy. That is genuinely, I cannot think of a good fucking reason.

What is the reason? If your girlfriend is coming to you and saying, how come I'm not on your Instagram? You look single, your only response should be, let me post you right now. Unless it's the middle of the night because that's just not good for engagement, but you know what I mean? You know? I don't get it. So the fact that he's got defensive and come up with an excuse as to why you're not on

there rather than just saying, oh babe that's absolutely fine, I'll post you, like, give me a, send me a picture you like, I'll put it up tomorrow. I'll put it up in the morning,. I put a nice caption, you know If you're not responding like that and he's getting defensive of you So I don't even use it and then he's using it on his night out. I do not trust this boy I don't trust him and I'm sorry if it's not the response you want But I just can't think of a fucking good reason Like if you was in a relationship

and your boyfriend said to you, babe how come you don't post me on your Instagram and rather than going oh I will, you're going well I don't use it, I don't use it but then you go on a girls night out and you're posting it all. You know deep down like everybody can imagine that that's us, everyone listening, imagine that's the scenario, Why would you be doing that because there's somebody else on the cards because there's a certain person that you want to believe you're available Or because you just don't want to be off the market That is the only reason we wouldn't be posting our boyfriends So why are you not posting me even when I've brought it to your attention? The meeting your friends and family situation it could be true

It could be a case that his family are intense and he does feel uncomfortable, you know, like I Think it's common that a lot of people are oh god. I really don't want you to meet my family They're so embarrassing or like they're gonna really it's gonna be awkward. They're gonna they're gonna make you uncomfortable you know some people like my family are fucking rude. That could be true and I would believe that if all of your other behavior was painting you out to be a trustworthy person, it's the fact that altogether, I'm not meeting your friends, I'm not meeting your family

and I'm not meeting your friends, I'm not meeting your family and I'm not on your Instagram. It's all together that makes it sus. On their own, not so sus. Do you know what I mean? So I don't trust him and I don't like how it feels, you know. I think your gut knows as well. Like you said, I can't help but feel he's trying to appear single. I can't help but feel the same. Like I do agree with you, babe. I think it is highly likely that there is a specific person he wants to appear single to, whether it's because he's sliding in on their DMs, popping up to their stories, or because he just doesn't want to be off the market, whether it's a specific person or

just to keep the door open in general. And to be honest, if it was me, how long have you been seeing each other? Oh my God, he has been your boyfriend for a year I'm sorry a year in I'm giving you the ultimatum at this point. I've not met your family We've been together a year You've met everyone of obviously you've met everyone. We've been scared for a year fucking normal. I Need you to prove to me that you don't have anything tied, you're proud to be with me, I need you to put me on your socials and I need you to introduce me to your family. A year in at this point I need it from you and if you're not willing to do it I'm not willing to keep giving myself to you, giving you 100% when you're giving me five. No fucking way!

You should be proud of me. A year down the line you should be fucking proud of me. So yeah, I believe this is a good time for an ultimatum. A lot of people wouldn't agree. A lot of people would say it's unnecessary. It's not fair. Asking- the social media is not a lot to ask. Listen, the family could be true. They could be crazy, but still. But the social media, there is no fucking good reason a year down the line that I don't even exist on your socials. There is no good fucking reason. So I want you to post me to prove a point at this point. You've made it toxic now.

You've made it difficult at this point. A year down the line and you're not just going to do it just to make me feel better at least. You know, just to give me a bit of reassurance. Okay, babe, look. I don't really use it, but I get it It will make you feel better. I'll just put one up and I'll leave one up there if that makes you feel better Yes, please. Thank you One a year would do it. Do you know what I mean? Just one fucking picture a year would do it Even the occasional story would it go. But still people can be hidden from stories, it's not really the best thing in the world but whatever. Yeah, that's my opinion

babes. Keep me updated with that. I'm not sure about this guy but yeah I love you and I hope, I hope this isn't the case. I hope it is all just that he's fucking dumb and he hasn't really thought about how it looks, you know um but tell him how it looks and tell him he has something to prove at this point so please fucking prove it I love you and good luck next dilemma hey Leah I have a dilemma I could urgently use an outsider's perspective on please sorry for the long email I'm 30 years old and a new mum of a four-week-old baby girl. Congratulations! For context, I have endometriosis and I've previously had two ectopic pregnancies. Oh I'm so

sorry, I love you. I'm so happy you have your baby. One of which resulted in one of my fallopian tubes burst in and having to be removed. Oh my god that's terrifying. I'm so glad you're okay though. All of this had left me worrying that I would never have children so obviously I'm extremely grateful to now have my dream baby girl. Oh that gives me goosebumps I'm so happy for you. You deserve this. Okay my dilemma is one of my best friends, we'll call her Sarah, has repeatedly shown jealous tendencies towards me over the years. However, I have just brushed it off.

When I told Sarah that I was pregnant, I got the impression she wasn't completely happy for me. One of the first things she said to me was, will I better get trying? What? I'm pregnant. Ooh, well I better get trying. Why?

What has that got to do with you? What has me being pregnant got to do with you? That's so weird. I found this so strange as Sarah has never mentioned wanting kids anytime soon. Wow, okay. So it felt like she was saying this just because I was now pregnant. It felt like she then became desperate to get pregnant and this was all she would talk about. Oh my god, this is a serious competition between friends here. Well, it's on one side by the sounds of it because you couldn't give a shit, which I love for you. I had a really rough start to pregnancy, dealing with all day sickness etc. I was also moving house and working full time. Sarah never once

showed any interest or even mentioned me being pregnant when we would talk. When I was planning my baby shower, Sarah made multiple backhanded compliments such as, I just find baby showers so embarrassing. Sarah made no effort to help with planning, whereas my other friends did. On the day of my baby shower, Sarah left halfway through and said she didn't feel well. Obviously this really upset me as she is one of my best friends and she also knows the difficult journey I've been through to get here. I personally feel like she was jealous of me being pregnant and the centre of attention. On the lead up to my due day, multiple other friends were checking in on me daily and asking for updates. Sarah never bothered to text me or

show any form of excitement. When baby girl was born, I FaceTimed Sarah in the hospital to show her. I asked if she liked my baby's name, to which she replied, I don't dislike it. What? Again, I was really taken back by this, however, I didn't even get a chance to react as Sarah then proceeded to hold up a pregnancy test and tell me that she was pregnant Okay, babe, can I have my moment though, you know

Obviously I congratulated her and was happy for her. But looking back I now find this really disrespectful She told me she was pregnant on the day my baby was born totally taking away that special moment from me She did not even look at my baby for more than 10 seconds before blurting out the nose. Fast forward to today, my daughter is now four weeks old and Sarah has met her twice. She is very early pregnant and said she is too nauseous to leave the house. Whilst I would understand this to an extent, she has not once asked me how I'm coping as a new mum, if we need anything or cared about how my daughter is doing. Luckily I have an amazing partner and family so I do have support but I would expect more from my best friend. Whenever we do speak

she only talks about herself and how nauseous she feels. I haven't told her how I feel as Sarah is good at playing the victim and I don't really have the energy right now of being a new mum. I want to be supportive to her but at the same time she wasn't supportive to me throughout my pregnancy and also hasn't made an effort to see or ask about my newborn daughter. What do I do about this situation? There has been a lot of instances where the friendship has been one sided and I feel like this has been the icing on the cake for me." Thanks. Right. There's a lot to unpack here because I feel like this could be, this could have layers okay. Sarah could definitely have some feelings that she hasn't voiced and this competitive jealousy, it could

be deeper like she might feel the same about you like I think sometimes when friends don't communicate you both have these feelings and you both feel like shit friends. Do you know what I mean? Like, she might have feelings towards you that are making her bitter and making her like, oh she didn't give a shit about this, why should I give a shit about the fucking baby, like why should I give a shit about her pregnancy, she didn't care about this. We have no clue what she is feeling. That does not make it alright by the way. I just, I always think it's worth considering that people aren't just nasty and don't give a shit. Like she might

have some feelings that she has never voiced which is always the problem when people aren't good with communicating their feelings. So it might not be just pure jealousy and competitiveness, it could be a case of like, I don't know, maybe there was something that she had going on that she didn't feel you were supportive of so she's finding it difficult to be supportive of you, blah blah blah, whatever it is, there are some underlying feelings between the two of you. You've never voiced how you're feeling and therefore I'm just going to assume that she's feeling things that she hasn't voiced. I do think it's not very nice how like this is your best friend. Like your best friend, your best best friend is you're on FaceTime, you've just given birth, you've shown your best

friend, you've probably been so excited and she's just like, I'm pregnant and that's not very nice, like, Oh my god, she's so beautiful, how was the labour? Like, that's what I'm expecting from my best friend, I'm so proud of you, you did amazing, you know, I can't wait to squeeze her, I can't wait to cuddle her, you're so amazing, she's so perfect, I can't believe it, like, whatever, but none of that. So that's what makes me think there's underlying feelings because I find it hard to believe you can be best friends with someone for so long and then they're just like not nice to you. Do you know what I mean? I feel like there must be underlying feelings so I do feel like, I know

what you said, she's good at playing the victim. I do think it might be worth having a conversation because she might have some feelings that she hasn't voiced and now you're both just butting heads without communicating about it. Like she might be pissed off about something and carrying it and now it's it's developing into like toxic friendship you know. So I do feel like if this friendship is important to you it's worth communicating what's going on and just saying like look, when I told you I was pregnant, your immediate response was like I want to get pregnant. You spent my entire pregnancy talking about yourself, you spent my birth, my labour talking about yourself, you spent my newborn stage talking

about yourself and that's hurt my feelings. Is there something going on? Is there something you feel that maybe I've done to upset you? And maybe there is. Maybe you didn't realise. Who fucking knows? Or maybe you've done nothing wrong and she is just being unfair. But either way, you have a right to voice what you're feeling because it's not nice how you feel and what she's making you feel and the way that she's been treating you is not nice. And if this is your best friend, you should be able to have these conversations and hopefully come out stronger so that your friendship doesn't just end up more and more toxic.

Because imagine when she gives birth and she FaceTimes you, you're not gonna be like, yeah nice. Because you're just not that kind of person. But low key you're gonna be feeling like, why should I fucking be all happy for you when you was a bitch to me when I gave birth? Do you know what I mean? And it's not nice to carry these feelings, like it's better for you and you'll feel lighter if you can put things out there, talk it out and just let it go and move on. So I feel like do it for yourself yourself you know, and for your friendship. If it's your best friend and it's really important

to you then I really feel like this friendship can be saved. Hopefully. Maybe it is nothing and maybe she is just a bit of a bitch, who knows. But hopefully it's a case of like yeah I'm sorry I've just found it a bit difficult because of xyz, you know, whatever. And then hopefully you might be like, I didn't actually think about that. That's true. I didn't see your side there. You know, like, hopefully for your friendship's sake, it is salvageable. That's what I'm hoping for.

But yeah, this is a difficult thing. Friendships are difficult. People are difficult. And yeah, like I said, she could be feeling things that we don't know about so it's definitely worth conversation if not maybe she's just a jealous bitch okay but congratulations and I'm so happy that you have your baby girl and you're amazing you deserve this keep smashing motherhood you're amazing love you okay next dilemma hey I love pod. I've been listening since day one. Wow, we've been together so long. I love you so much

I'll get straight to the dilemma. It may sound a little petty, but I don't hear of people going through this So I wanted some advice. I got engaged in January this year and me and my fiance only told close family and friends about it We haven't posted about it online or anything. In March we met up with a friend who we told the good news to. We ended up chatting and he told us he wasn't thinking too much about marriage. A few months later he proposed to his girlfriend who I'm pretty sure does not like me or my fiance. He didn't tell us we just saw her on Instagram. I guess my question is, is it weird when a friend gets engaged the same year as you, especially

if he wasn't thinking about it until he saw us get engaged? I feel weird that we may potentially all get married around the same time and we'll also have to celebrate engagement at the same time. My fiance doesn't really care, he says we're the best so no one can ruin our moment. Haha I would appreciate your thoughts though. Love you. Love you so much. Okay My day one bestie, let's go. I don't know. This is difficult because at the same time He said to you like oh god. I've not even thought about getting engaged engaged engaged What now now you want to get married? Where the fuck does that come from? And I get it, it's a bit like can we just have this one moment, like, but at the same time like, I'm kind of with your boyfriend on this, like he's like

I don't care, like we're the fucking best, like, because what can you do? Realistically, what can you do? You can't say to them like, hey, we fucking shotgun this year. We fucking shotgunned This engagement year 2024 marriage. This is our fucking year. So you fucking get the next one mate Like you can't so like realistically It's just a case of like This is pissing me off. You piss me off. You never know. They might not get married Was the desire to get married there in the first place not sure So they may not even get married, it could just fizzle.

Fingers crossed, I'm joking. Just praying for their downfall, no, I'm joking. But yeah, like your boyfriend said, there's nothing you can really do about it. So let's just hope that you don't get married around the same time, but then at the same time, like on the flip side, what difference does it make if they get married around the same time but then at the same time, like, on the flip side, what difference does it make if they get married the day after? That

would be annoying just because it would be chaos and exhaustion. But let's say you get married in August next year and they get married in December or even if they get married in ... oh, imagine they get married before you, that would be low key really annoying. Wouldn't it? Although, actually, if they get married before you, would be low key really annoying Wouldn't that although actually if they get married before you you can go to their wedding see what works and doesn't work and then just Do it better Just make it fucking competition. All right, you want to go? Let's fucking go babe. You want to make it a competition? Let's fucking game on Game fucking on bitch. No, let's not do that. But you know what, like your boyfriend's

saying like, oh well, who cares, we're the best, like what can we do, you know, we win. We're in love. Our love is stronger than their love, you know, as Morgan Jay would say. So it is annoying, it is so so annoying especially because it's like we had the most beautiful, genuine engagement and you didn't even wanna fucking get engaged with me and now you're engaged so... I mean that makes sense but either way you win. In my eyes. You guys are on top.

Your love is stronger than their love! And they can have an amazing wedding. What if their wedding is better than yours? Oh shit. No we haven't thought about this. What if they have like the most incredible wedding and everyone's like God wasn't their wedding great? No.

Leah just stop that's not gonna happen. It's not gonna happen. Everyone's gonna be like, God, their wedding was so shit compared to you guys. No, it's not competition, Leah. It's not. Who cares? Do you know what I mean? Your love is stronger than their love. And that's all that matters. I love you. And congratulations. It's amazing. I'm so happy that you're engaged how do you guys feel about getting engaged I would kind of I don't know how I'd feel like seeing Jamie get down on one knee I want it to feel like the perfect time I dread being proposed to if I'm just like whoa baby like whoa baby like get up join me

like I dread that like imagine it's like like imagine. It's like not the vibes That's just not the vibes like we're out in a restaurant and you get down on one day, and it's just I wasn't expect It wasn't the vibes No, I don't want a restaurant proposal I know what proposal I want and Jamie knows what proposal I want so when it all starts happening I'll be like oh, I know this so he's gonna have to come up with his own fucking shit Okay, he can't take my idea because I'm gonna know about it. Oh, babe. We're going to the beach. It's sunset. I've hired out There's no one there. It's just me and you I

Will have what for? What we're gonna fucking do all day? What are we gonna do all night? Oh I know what this is and I've got a fucking French manicure. He told me to get a neutral now. I don't know exactly what's going down so he needs to, he really needs to pull something unique out of the bag because I know exactly what he's gonna do otherwise and I'll be like okay just let's get this, let's get this ball rolling. Down you get. come on. Yeah, I will show me the ring show me the goods What's it like being proposed to you guys that have been proposed to before has anyone ever been proposed to and said no Could you imagine?

You'd have to say yeah and then just like low-key be like babe like I'm not actually like we're not because how could you say no, especially if it is in public? It'd be like um I guess Imagine that imagine if someone proposed proposed to you No, if you if you propose to somebody and they go I guess Imagine that imagine if someone proposed proposed to you know if you if you propose to somebody and they go I guess I Literally rather you kicked me in the face has anyone ever proposed to their boyfriend before Is there a year that you're supposed to do that is it leap year? I'm not sure it's like where the girl can propose. It's like the traditional year

Could could never be me. Maver proposed on Made in Chelsea he said no though I feel like a lot of guys would be like oh isn't that like my thing like am I not supposed because I wouldn't want to be getting done on one knee because it's like realistically you expected to have this, and you haven't done it yet, which means you don't want to, so why would I ask you, you know? But then, there is something beautiful and empowering about it, do you know what I mean? Like, all right, you know what?

You're not gonna fucking do this, I'll do it. I love you, and I wanna spend my whole life with you. Will you marry me? Imagine that. Imagine me getting on one knee to Jamie. He'd actually crease. He'd be like, what are you doing? You don't even tie your own shoelaces when I'm around. Why are you getting down on one knee? Baby, I love you. You are the man of my dreams. I want to spend my whole life with you. Will you marry me? I wonder what he's gonna say to me when he proposes to me. Oh

What will I do? he better make sure that the cameras on my good side and slightly high and Slightly lean towards the front so that my nose looks alright. Guys someone commented on my fucking TikTok By the way, the TikTok about me having no friends. Can I just add? So it was a really nice one to comment on They their username was I am a C-U-N-T and I would agree with that because the comment said You do actually have a massive fucking nose though By the way, I did not mention my nose in the video so not sure why he said.

You do actually have a massive fucking nose though and you're not being invited to the coke party. So that's a shame. Because I love drugs. I'm joking, I'm joking. But how mean is that? But I saw this TikTok and it was like, everyone that leaves hate comments is just so ugly. And it made me laugh so much because it was like, there is not a pretty person out there

leaving hate comments because they're pretty. So like they have nothing to be mad about because they're pretty, like they're just not mad. You're so ugly that you're mad and you're leaving hate comments. And I just find that so funny. So every time I get a hate comment, which touchwood and I feel very grateful for, like isn't often and they're not like nasty, like really horrible like that. So whenever I do, I just think I think of that tick-tock and I think you are so fucking ugly May you ugly bitch ugly bitch ugly bitch

And then I laugh in my head because I'm like I'm literally just hating back like And I think he loved to think of it Sometimes I want to track them down and find where they work and send it to their manager so they get sacked Because I just think listen, it's not alright. It's not okay to do this to people and I hate when people like Listen, like you put yourself on social media. Like if you can't hack it Actually fuck off. Nothing makes less sense to me than that. It's like, somebody works in retail, I'm gonna come in to the perfume shop, where you're just trying to sell perfumes, right? And I'm gonna come in and go, you are ugly, you're so fucking ugly behind that counter, you look so ugly. And they're gonna go, what the hell have I ever done to you? I don't even know you. And then I'm gonna go, look, you decided to work out here in the open

on a fucking counter in the middle of a shopping center. It's your choice. If you can't hack it, it makes no sense. It makes zero sense. Oh, because you work in a restaurant. When you come and serve me at my table, I'm gonna go, your nose is fucking massive.

Baby, your nose is massive. Can I get a chicken Caesar wrap? And then they're like, whoa, why would you say that's so mean? And I'm gonna go, you're the waitress? Listen, you're the one walking around here talking to all strangers, it's your choice. Do you know what I mean? It makes no fucking sense! It makes no sense! But yeah, sometimes you've just got a laugh. Somebody commented saying I've taken too much cocaine that my nostrils are fucked. I was like wow. What's with the cocaine jokes? I was always insecure about my nose length, but now I'm insecure about the shape of my nostrils because I can't agree they do look a bit fucked.

So the nose insecurity just is not going away and I feel like the more attraction I get on social media the more dangerous territory I'm in, you know. But you've got to get thick skin. My skin is definitely getting thicker I would agree because back in the day like I would have deleted my whole account. Oh whatever babe. You know what I mean? Anyway I didn't think it looked that bad in that video that's the bad thing about it but yeah guys I love you so much. Thank you so much for being here and listening to this episode. Had an amazing time chatting

with you today I hope you all enjoyed it. Oh my god, the next episode I need to pre-record because I'm gonna be away on holiday. How exciting is that? I'm honestly so happy! I'm so excited! I'm so excited! I'm so happy, please everybody wish me a safe flight. As you guys know how I feel about flying, I actually strangely feel okay about this flight. But I'm sure the anxiety will creep in on the day. I'll have to pop up a panel all before I board the flight. But I hope you all have an amazing day, an amazing week, and I'll speak to you on Tuesday for a brand new episode. I love you so much. All right. I love you. Bye! Only have 10 minutes? Take a quick Peloton workout. Want to go all out? Chase down your goals with 20 to 45 minute tread workouts. No matter your goals or time, Peloton has everything you need to become everything you want.

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