Mark Bell's Power Project - EP. 479 Live - Reframing Your Mind

Episode Date: February 5, 2021

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Starting point is 00:02:42 Episode 500. So close. Mm-hmm. I was about to say, before Andrew hit the bleep button, I've had some experience with painkillers before where they've, like, I felt like they heightened my alertness and senses, which some other people have mentioned that before, where you get, like, an Adderall-like effect. Normally they make you kind of sleepy.
Starting point is 00:03:07 Normally they make you kind of tired, but I was like, well, I can't take these because I really like this feeling. This is amazing. I'm like writing and journaling and working and doing all kinds of stuff. I'm like, probably not a good idea. Painkillers did that. No, I didn't, I didn't ever know that that could be a side effect they did that and they gave me nightmares like really bad nightmares like scary shit like where i woke
Starting point is 00:03:30 up like crying i'm like oh shit that was too fucked up from that i don't think that's good well good thing you're not taking those anymore yeah yeah where am i i don't know my only one experience with adderall was unfortunately not i didn't know it's a damn thing so i don't know if maybe i didn't take enough you really didn't yeah yeah no i just i was like oh that happened sick and i didn't take mind bullet and that i felt that feels way better mind bullet yeah if you guys are wondering how we got on this topic i was mentioning to these guys how i took a potion and like the mind bullet potion and seriously whenever i take like a mind bullet and i roll you killed four people at the same time at the same
Starting point is 00:04:13 time no like like you know we had steven cutler on he was talking about flow and like i jujitsu is one of the main things that i know when i can get into that like just things get super creative things are super quick it's not just reactionary but i'm just like i'm doing new shit that i've never drilled before never done that word even makes a lot of sense with jujitsu um i haven't done much jujitsu but the tiny bit that i have done it makes sense like this guy goes to put me into this and i counteract and i go this way. And then that guy knows your counteraction. And so therefore he goes for that, but you also know what's exposed.
Starting point is 00:04:51 So then you go to that. And if you're both really good, it'll, it'll kind of look magical, kind of look like you're dancing or something. People will kind of watch it and go, yeah, the hell are these guys doing?
Starting point is 00:05:02 Cause when these other guys are doing it, it doesn't look the same. Yeah. The other guys just keep tapping out and choking each other out and stuff. Mm-hmm. That's what, like, that's why MindBullet's freaking dope. Yeah. What's really cool is, like, in the UFC, Joe Rogan and the people of the UFC have educated
Starting point is 00:05:17 people so well that people don't know exactly what's going on. They don't obviously know jiu-jjitsu but they know enough about grappling to applaud when you see a series of moves being or people are trying to do execute these moves on somebody and they keep like blocking them or counteracting them and you're just like wow and they roll and they sort of does look like a flow it looks like they're flowing into something different yeah and when i was doing uh pro, there was a flow to that, too, because you would just. There were certain holds and certain moves that you would do, and there was like body language. I mean, we communicated. It's not no secret wrestling.
Starting point is 00:05:55 You know, you you talk to your opponent in the ring and. But it wasn't always talking. It was a lot of times it was just body language. You kind of knew what the person was going to do. By the way, they would deliberately do certain things. They might put their hand out or something like that. And then, you know, like grab their arm and put their arm behind their back or something. You got to try to do without it looking like ridiculous.
Starting point is 00:06:17 But it had a certain flow to it in your day to day, though. It's interesting. certain flow to it. In your day-to-day, though, it's interesting. Sometimes, like for me, sometimes I'm going for a walk, and I'll feel like I get hit with something, and I don't know what it is. Sometimes Mind Bullet is part of it. Sometimes a cup of coffee is part of it. Sometimes it's music.
Starting point is 00:06:40 And then I feel like, and, you know, what our guest was talking about, he was kind of more referring to, he was believing that that was more of maybe like mini flow, you know, it wasn't, uh, it wasn't what he's able to kind of work people into. So it'd be interesting. I don't know. Maybe I've never even been in a flow state before. I don't know. No, you probably have. You definitely have, but it's, uh, it's really cool when like it's really cool when you i guess when you're in like the zone that people call it and you're just like doing stuff it's dope yeah
Starting point is 00:07:12 it feels good to uh to have a invention or innovation around something you start having an idea whether it be for a podcast or whether it be for a painting or whatever it is that you're doing and then you start to think about it more. And when you think about it more, the idea kind of grows on itself. And then sometimes you think about it later and you're like, that really wasn't that good of an idea. Or you share it with somebody else. And then you kind of realize it's just maybe not even feasible to make this thing work
Starting point is 00:07:42 that you just thought of. Maybe there's economical reasons. Maybe there's economical reasons. Maybe there's technological reasons on why it can't happen. But sometimes you nail it and you're like, okay, cool. I get to run with this. This is kind of nice. Yeah. I mean, you could probably say in terms of you yourself, that's probably happened a lot
Starting point is 00:07:59 to you because you always have a bunch of different ideas because you're always like you're always putting yourself in the States to come up with things and come up with ideas but that would probably be a form of it because you guys have made so many things here that it's kind of undeniable that that's probably been a part of how you guys or how you operate yeah and i would say even like i mean watching you work out and stuff getting yourself ready for a big lift yeah i mean there's times where we're trying to hype you up you know but like we're all kind of wondering like does he even hear us like i'm pretty sure you do at times and other times you definitely don't right and what steven was talking about like that like triggering that fight or flight response can trigger flow
Starting point is 00:08:41 and can like boost your testosterone and get you ready for whatever the hell you're about to face. So I would say we've probably have been there many times when it comes to lifting. Yeah. I wonder, um, I guess we didn't ask this, but like if you're on a football team or you're on a team of some sort and you are all encouraging each other, kind of what that does, because that does feel amazing. You know, you, you feel like indestructible. So I kind of wonder what what that what state that is or if that's something different yeah it's like adrenaline yeah like it reminds me like when i used to watch soccer there's this team that messi used to be oh i think missy is still on it but barcelona sometimes when you'd watch that team play together and when
Starting point is 00:09:20 they were just doing like playing beautiful soccer it's like it was insane how everything just looked. It looked unreal. Like that type of stuff. You can tell it's just it's something else. Yeah. We call that like chemistry, right? Like that team has good chemistry. But yeah, it could be even deeper than that.
Starting point is 00:09:37 Yeah. I like it. Yeah. Or like the triangle offense. That was, you know, Lakers, Bulls, Phil Jackson. Yeah. Yeah. It's unstoppable. They just couldn't stop it you knew what was coming you still couldn't stop it can only hope to contain him when shack was just killing everybody shack is a salty dude man have you heard him like honestly like real time have you heard him um just talk about or roast other players because of their
Starting point is 00:10:03 lack of rings like the way he roasts dwight howard oh because dwight howard had the new name of superman like shack always right superman emblem yeah okay yeah because he doesn't have a ring shack always just decimates and roasts the hell out of dwight howard it's a really sad thing to see it's like why you're you're one of the greats why are you going after dwight like that is funny us man dwight howard should have been way better than he ended up being, though. He's pretty damn jacked. He was fantastic. Yeah, he was.
Starting point is 00:10:31 But, man, once he left the magic, it was like, yo, what happened to him? Yeah, people have theories. There's some, yeah, it's whatever. Shaq was amazing. He was. And he made things look easy, and he made it look like he was just having fun a lot of times. And he still killed everybody. He made me mad.
Starting point is 00:10:50 As a Kings fan, yeah, he pissed me off. And he ended up owning part of the Kings, too. That's really weird. But he would just knock people with his gigantic ass. Just literally clear out the entire floor and then just dunk it. The reason why Shaq made me mad is like he was so good but you could tell as he got older he starts to just kind of gain weight and like lose his mobility but he didn't really care right so he was just like bombing on people when like i'm
Starting point is 00:11:14 like dude you lifted some damn weights you'd be there's this big just diesel oh my god just he would have won way more championships on his own if he didn't just let himself go There's just no question he would have been just I mean he kind of was unstoppable anyway Yeah but it would have been more unstoppable It would have been a lot worse How crazy is that He has a couple of dope songs too He has one with RZA
Starting point is 00:11:39 It's so dope called No Hooks I've never heard it It'll blow your mind. He's got a whole rap album. Yeah. No, he has a couple. Yeah. And a video game that was terrible.
Starting point is 00:11:50 Shaq Fu. I remember that. A couple of movies. Shazam, right? Yeah. Shazam was good. Now he owns all kinds of shit. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:11:59 He's got all kinds of dope. He's crushing it still. I know. He's on all his commercials now. Mm-hmm. Did he do something? Talking about arthritis. Icy hot. Icy hot. He's crushing it still. I know. He's on all his commercials now. Did he do something about arthritis? Icy hot. Icy hot.
Starting point is 00:12:09 That's what it is. Oh, man. He's killing it. All right. We're going to talk today a little bit about reframing. We've been kind of poking back and forth with some text messages earlier today and how you got the ability to choose how you interpret stuff. And I was listening to something the other day and the guy was talking about
Starting point is 00:12:29 reprogramming your brain. And then he also kind of said, it's not really reprogramming necessarily. It's probably programming for the first time. Cause you may not have ever really thought about some of these things. You might not ever thought about why you thought a certain thing. You just might think a certain thing. You might've been, might've been kind of born into it.
Starting point is 00:12:47 You might have been born into some of these beliefs. And I think most of us at some point have kind of thought about what our parents taught us sometimes. And we're like, huh, I don't really agree with that. That actually seems really opposite of the way I feel. Yeah. Or grandparents or whoever it is that's in your family. And you're kind of like, why did I learn that?
Starting point is 00:13:09 That's strange. Like you start to think for yourself, but there's probably a lot of areas that you maybe have never really focused on or, or thought of before. Something that I feel that is like refreshing is that we, we, the words that we use,
Starting point is 00:13:25 I think we use them so often that they're damaging and they kind of a pigeonhole you into a certain, they kind of paint you into a corner because, uh, we say made me feel, or this makes me feel somebody made me feel this way. And no one can really, unless, unless there's like physical harm going on
Starting point is 00:13:47 and you harm the person every single time uh that they you know do whatever it is that you don't want them to do or something uh so other other than like torture or like abuse um no one can really really make you feel anything it can make you feel pain in your shoulder if they punch you or something. But again, without, without contact, it can't really make you feel any which way. And if you were to, if you were to go up to a girl and, you know, try to hit on them and, and, and try to get a date or something, I mean, you could walk away and be demoralized.
Starting point is 00:14:26 Or you can just think, well, you know what? That's perfect because now I know that she's not into me. And I can, you know, there's a couple other cute girls over there. I'll ask them tomorrow or whatever when I feel a little bit better about myself. So, I mean, you can look at it in some different ways. There's got kind of a silver lining to everything, right? And I think sometimes we don't realize how powerful that can be because the input that you have doesn't have to be, doesn't have to predetermine the outcome. You get to determine some of the outcome.
Starting point is 00:15:02 You get to decide how you want to react to it or how you want to at least think about your thoughts we don't always have control of like what pops into our head because random shit pops in there and there's a lot of outside influences you might just hear something on the radio you might hear somebody say something in passing so there's a lot of stuff coming our way uh but the way that we interpret it is up to us. Yeah, no, I get what you're saying there. One thing that when you were talking that I was that I kind of focused on is is the idea that no one can make you feel anything. Right.
Starting point is 00:15:39 And I agree with that to an extent. I agree with that to an extent. Like I think that, or maybe it just could be that I need to develop more potentially. But when someone really close to you, and we've, we've spoken about this before, but when someone really close to you says something or, and,
Starting point is 00:15:57 and they're close to you in a way that you are vulnerable to that person. And that person's also vulnerable with you. And if they say certain things, it's like, yes, you can control if you like, you feel hurt technically. Right.
Starting point is 00:16:10 But at the end of the day, that if it's like a potentially really mean thing or it's a really harsh thing or whatever, because they're so close to you, right. Then that has more of a possibility of really hitting to the core. Right. Like if my mama said something to me,
Starting point is 00:16:25 that was just like really just really just like, ah, and a lot of times in those cases, they don't even know that they said something. They said something and it, you know, I never thought you'd be capable of this cause you were always into sports or something.
Starting point is 00:16:37 You're kind of like, well, what did she think? I'm dumb. You know? And she didn't say anything about you being dumb. She's actually just surprised. Maybe she meant something totally different by it. she's complimenting you but she's trying
Starting point is 00:16:47 to compliment you but got her own way maybe yeah and then in regards to what mark was talking about which i think maybe might kind of circle back and clarify for what you're talking about is like you know like the like the chick not being into you scenario like that's not good nor bad yeah it's just how you interpret it that's very true you know so like until you put your label on it correct yeah so like if you take that as she's not into me because i don't know i'm ugly or whatever it may be then like okay you just made it bad but her actually not being into you is not good nor bad it's just again how you interpret it i think the the thing is is that you have to just it's it's difficult but you have to be in a constant um you have to
Starting point is 00:17:33 be constantly i guess this is our topic but constantly reframing things that you hear because that that that girl situation right um if you're not on your guard necessarily i don't know if i want to call it on your guard but if you're not on your guard, necessarily, I don't know if I want to call it on your guard. But if you're not on your guard, that could potentially make you feel bad. But immediately, you have to be like, ah, there's so many other chicks out there. I learned this from this one. Let me go figure something out with another one. Or your parent says something to you and you're like, let me try to understand what they were saying. They're like, maybe there's some truth to that.
Starting point is 00:18:03 So let me try and get better somehow, right? You have to constantly be doing that, and that in and of itself is something that takes a lot of damn practice. Yeah, it's very difficult to do. And then I think another part of this, like there's multiple pieces to this puzzle, because if somebody that you love says something, we have determined in our head, a value assignment to that person. That person has a particular value to us.
Starting point is 00:18:32 And what I would also maybe question too, is like if somebody obviously like, if it's like your mom or something that you can do about it, but if it's, I mean, I guess you can communicate, but if it's like a spouse or somebody like that, then I think you, it's time to communicate. It's time to open up and try to
Starting point is 00:18:52 communicate because you do place that person, they're a high value to you. And it's easier to get hurt by what they say, where for the most part, like what we're dealing with on a day-to-day basis, I don't see that that doesn't happen as much. What happens more often is we get taken away by like the wind will blow the wrong way. And we get thrown off our course. We get thrown off the direction that we want to go. We're working towards something.
Starting point is 00:19:22 And then something derails us. Something distracts us that doesn't have a high value assignment, but we assigned it something. We gave it power because we let it make us mad. Like watching the news, like the news doesn't have really, the news doesn't really have much. It just doesn't seem like it has hardly any benefit at all. I mean, I guess we can figure out some benefit. We can probably come up with five or 10 reasons on why you might want to watch the news, but we can probably come up with thousands of reasons why you shouldn't or why it'd be a good idea to miss a lot of it and maybe just catch up with it once a week or something.
Starting point is 00:19:58 We could probably come up with some cleaner ways to get that information because as you said, it's hard to, it's hard to always filter it out. It's like your filter starts to get full of gunk. It gets full of stuff. And you're just like, man, I can't keep filtering this shit out. And sometimes you just get worn down. Like you're, and that's an interpretation too, right? Like, are you actually really worn down?
Starting point is 00:20:24 Are you, like, why are really worn down are you like why are you worn down did you not sleep are you overly stressed but if you're overly stressed a lot of that would come down to interpreting stuff but we're not robots and the more stuff that comes our way a lot of times the harder it gets to make decisions and we start to crumble we start to make poor decisions and you make a poor decision especially with something like your food you're like oh i'm doing it again you know i'm hurting myself again i wanted i had this goal i wanted to lose 30 pounds and here i am again being the same fat bastard i was yesterday making the same shitty decision or drinking or
Starting point is 00:21:03 whatever it might be. Yeah. Um, just cause he, we did have him on the show, but again, talking about, uh, Steven Kotler, he talked about, um, cognitive load. So, you know, like what you just said, all these things are coming in and our filters getting a little gunked up. You know, it's like imagining, imagine you have, uh, like, you know, 40 tabs open on your internet browser and you're trying to get anything done it's like yeah good luck with that you know like your your defense is down already and then you're trying to do something serious but you're already tired because like shit let me just get rid of all these windows it's like shit you got to click 39 times before you get to the one you need that that's going to have a toll on you and it's going to really break you down. Yeah. It's again, it's like putting the, yeah, the 40 tabs open, but
Starting point is 00:21:51 they're not really that important. And it kind of goes into the value assignment thing that we were talking about. You have all the, the, the, you have your value assignments all on the wrong things. Just fucking close all the tabs. You can't really care about all the things that are going on there and focus on one thing. But also I i was i was wondering or thinking about this when you mentioned that um i think one big thing is that we put too much value on certain things in certain opinions like i think that most of us tend to spread that across a lot of different people and a lot of different inputs and we lot of different inputs. And we just give things so much more importance than they actually have. Um, what's an example? Like there's,
Starting point is 00:22:33 there's something that you want to do, but you're, you're scared of doing it because something might happen, something bad might happen, but you're putting too much value on that thing that might happen. That's, that's negative that it really isn't a big deal. And that's affecting you taking action. Right. So it's like, we really need to be careful what we give value to in, in essence,
Starting point is 00:22:52 you give it power. You have anxiety over it. Anxiety is things that haven't happened. And you have anxiety over hurting your back during sets of deadlifts. And today's a deadlift day. And, you know, you kind of put that in the universe a little bit.
Starting point is 00:23:07 Um, and now it's sort of out there. It's in your brain. It's sitting there in your body. You go to deadlifts and sure enough, a little bit of a tweak goes on and you're like, I knew it. God damn it.
Starting point is 00:23:18 Um, a lot of things are like that. I think we, you know, we're always trying to, well, you want to try your, but you want to do always trying to, well, you want to try your, but you want to do your best to set yourself up for success.
Starting point is 00:23:30 Oftentimes we set ourselves up for failure because we're behind a little bit because we tried to rush something. We don't feel like we had enough time for it. It's really easy to, there's so much negative and there's so many and even that's an interpretation because there could be an equal amount of good, right? It's just the label that we stick to it. But I think you get my point. It seems
Starting point is 00:23:53 to be, and this is my interpretation, it seems to be easier to be negative than it is to be positive. It's easier to think about how fucked you are each day. Something as simple as going to the grocery store you probably know that you uh had an opportunity to go to the grocery store a few days earlier maybe on the weekend when you had a little bit more time now you're running
Starting point is 00:24:19 over there after lifting and after a long day and you're starving and then you check in with, with your wife or girlfriend and you know, they're, they're, they're not sure what they want to eat and you're trying to pick up some food and then you're trying to pick up food for the week and it just, and then you go to the grocery store and the grocery store is a nightmare because everybody else there is everybody else. Everybody else is there for the same reason that you're there. It's because they didn't do what they were supposed to do when they were supposed to do it. And so now they're lumped in with you.
Starting point is 00:24:49 And now all the lines are packed. All the lines are full. And you say, motherfucker, can't they get more people to work here? What the fuck's going on? There's like five lines. There's like 20 people in each line.
Starting point is 00:25:00 This is taken forever. You're getting super frustrated. And you're like this fat bastard in front of me doesn't need to buy this candy like come on now let's let's let's let's get some let's move all this along here right do you notice that when you do get in that mode you get so much more judgy yeah oh yeah thanksgiving lines yeah hey you're talking shit about everybody in there because i'll leave you know the store being like, dude, I'm such a dick. Like, why am I so mean? You're like, I'm buying, I'm buying nutritious food.
Starting point is 00:25:32 These guys are, you know, and you don't know anybody else's story in there. No. You know, they, the likelihood they have it worse than you is probably pretty high, you know, and you shouldn't even bother to really get caught up in a lot of that. I think we put a lot of undue stress on ourselves and we make things a lot harder. And then it gets to be more difficult to even look at something with a positive attitude because you set yourself so far back. You set yourself so far behind that now you're screwed. When, when I try to think about some of these things, I try to think about a couple of things that are fairly simple to do and fairly simple to practice. And one of those things is walking.
Starting point is 00:26:15 Another one of those things would be eating nutrient-dense foods or just foods that you feel are fairly healthy for you. you feel are fairly healthy for you. So if you are feeling like crap and you're having a hard time with interpretation, you're having a tough time reframing stuff, you feel like you're a pretty negative person, having poor nutrition is not going to help you get out of that slump. It's probably going to make you worse. It's probably going to make it so that you don't want to take that first step to get a gym membership or take that first step to go do something. You're just, you just tend to, at least from my own experience, you tend to look at everything a little bit differently.
Starting point is 00:26:54 Yeah. Um, when you do get ahead, then you'll, you'll find yourself enjoying, uh, you'll find yourself enjoying a lot more things a lot more often and stopping and kind of quote unquote smelling the roses because you have time to think about it a little bit. You go on a walk and you're like, oh, it's a beautiful day out. Wow, this is really nice. You smile at a couple of people, they smile back, hold the door for somebody like, and you get this little, these little chunks of momentum going and not everything, but a lot
Starting point is 00:27:24 of things feel positive. You're interpreting a lot of things as being positive for that day, as opposed to the reverse of it and living your life, kind of being behind a lot. No, I think that's, that's huge right there. Like starting your day with something again, something positive or starting your day, doing something that's actually going to push you in the right direction is going to help set up a lot of other things. Whereas, you know, if you wake up in the
Starting point is 00:27:46 morning and you hit your snooze button and then you eat some crap in the morning that you know you probably shouldn't have, you're already starting on a bad, well, yeah, on a bad foot. And some for sometimes if you're trying to build momentum, it's hard to regain it. You kind of just let things continue spiraling. You make one bad decision, then you make another decision that's not too great. And then sooner or later, it's 9 PM, the day got away from you and you have three slices of pizza in your mouth. At once, at once, that is sometimes what happens. So I think, yeah, one big thing is figuring out, I think this is why probably people are always talking about what's your morning routine. Because it's not that it's just like a fad and people are just trying to do the best things.
Starting point is 00:28:28 It's just people are trying to set the day up to be successful. So you have this positive momentum getting you going for the rest of your day. Yeah. And I know we're trying to like say that nothing is good or bad. But, you know, yeah, when you start the day off with a, you know, whatever, a donut or something, it's not optimal, right? Yeah. Most people, yeah. a donut or something it's not optimal right yeah it's just it's not unless you're planning on going to you know you have like a big bench session where you have these bench bagels right then you have an excuse not excuse but like you have a purpose for it other than that yeah i don't think that's going to be beneficial for anybody absolutely
Starting point is 00:29:01 yeah i mean there's there are things um that, there are things, um, that I think are, there's certain things that I think I would say are universally bad. Um, and I would say that, um, messing around with anybody else's property, which I would consider to be their themselves and kind of whatever else they have worked for. I got a problem with that. You know, like I think that I personally think that that's bad. I don't, I can't picture any good in it. I can't picture you messing with my kids and me thinking that it's good.
Starting point is 00:29:38 I can't, there's just nothing, there's nothing that would change that for me you know and uh i don't think there's i don't think that necessarily for something to uh for something to be one way or the other uh that you have to find a silver lining in it but i would say that there's just certain things like i don't see how rape is good yeah i don't see how right um you know I can, I know why war happens. And I guess there's like economies and things like that. Things seem to get better sometimes after a war, but I don't really think war is good. You know, I don't, I don't think people fighting and shooting and killing each other is, I can't really, I guess I can't really put it into the right words and
Starting point is 00:30:25 express it the right way but i personally don't think that that's good i feel it so i've heard listening to jocko willink on his jocko cast sometimes you sometimes hear some of these guys be like hey we're there killing evil like that's what that that's what that you know they would they would look at war and say war is not ideal. But the silver lining there is we are getting rid of people that do evil in this world. Right. Even though there are a lot of times other, I guess, other interests within war. Like, yeah, some people would find that in there. Well, and it would be morals, right?
Starting point is 00:30:57 Like, it's now my morals versus their morals. And that gets to be really weird because, because again you get to be born into some of those things uh just because you're born into a certain religion or and i'm born into a certain religion do we have to like we have to fight do we have to kill each other do we have to be mad at each other i mean there's certain countries that have been war at war with each other for a long time it's just always been that way yeah um take it down a much lesser degree and take it out to like sports rivalries or something like that and this team hates that team you know and they just they're and that's kind of taught in high school like you know you
Starting point is 00:31:35 hate that other we hate this rival school we're going to kick their ass and there's fights at the games and like and it's like this 16 year old kid is the same as you you know he probably has so much in common with you just as a lot of your 16 year old friends that are at the current school that you're at than the uh opposing high school so there's some like disordered thinking going on just because that person's wearing red and you're wearing blue or whatever it is who's the guess that we had on that um he uh he like helped a bunch of kkk members disrobe what was his name um oh man it makes me so mad i don't remember this but one of us will at some point the reason why i'm remembering that is because as you were just talking about, like, we're all born to these different morals.
Starting point is 00:32:25 Like he was talking about, we had them on twice. Yeah. Individuals that were like born into like their, their families were racist. They're born thinking certain groups were, you know, lower than others.
Starting point is 00:32:38 And it's like, he, like he helped change that individual's morals because of what he was able to show them. Right. So it's, it's like, we all have these individual's morals because of what he was able to show them. Right. So it's, it's like, we all have these different sets and it, it doesn't necessarily, I guess you're, you're not stuck with that. Even if that's your background and that's what you were born with, or that's what your parents were thinking. Like you were mentioning, like sometimes you think, Oh, my parents taught me that. Is that right? Or is
Starting point is 00:33:03 that wrong? That doesn't mean that you're stuck like that. Just like, you know, if you have this negative mindset, because and we've talked about this too on the show before, like a lot of times kids are, kids are, they grow up having a negative mindset because of maybe the way their parents talk to them because of the way their parents told them they couldn't do something or this wasn't the right way for them to go about things. They weren't given positivity. Right.
Starting point is 00:33:29 Sometimes as an adult, you think that it's too late for me. I can't necessarily change this. This is how I am. But you actually can. It just it's just going to take a lot of effort. It's just going to take a lot of reframing and it's going to take a lot of reprogramming as we were talking about before. Daryl Davis. Daryl Davis.
Starting point is 00:33:45 Daryl Davis. Episode 387 and episode 397. Yeah. 10 away. Damn, we had one quick. Yeah. If someone can like, if someone can grow up and change their idea on like believing black people are inferior, even though that's what they grow up. And I, I'm, I absolutely believe that people can change their mindset.
Starting point is 00:34:07 Right. And their, their ability to reframe things that happen in their lives and, and their future. I think in previous shows, I think I may have talked a while back about, uh, this idea of like equanimity, like having some, having some balance, having a balanced mind where again, you're not going to be able to always do this. And this doesn't mean you're emotionless. This doesn't mean that you turn into a robot. But the thing to think about is when you think that a mountain is too tall for you to climb
Starting point is 00:34:39 and you think that you do not possess the ability, I can't do that. I can't be the person that loses 50 pounds. I can't be the person that has the discipline to work out often. I can't be the person that ends up making $100,000 a year or whatever the thing is that you're shooting for. The question to ask yourself is, can you be better than you currently are? Do you possess the ability to, or are you happy? The question to ask yourself is, can you be better than you currently are? Do you possess the ability to, or are you happy with the results that you're currently getting?
Starting point is 00:35:15 A lot of people play like a victim mentality. That grocery store thing is real. We've all kind of been there, and we've been hangry, and we've been frustrated. And we've been hangry and we've been frustrated. And then we end up there like two weeks later again, you know, because we didn't learn from something, you know, or just human fallibility comes in like we're not perfect. This shit happens and things things tend to pop up that are maybe unexpecting or we waste time somewhere where we shouldn't have. We get distracted very often. Something to think about is when you have these feelings, when you feel bad about something, when you feel bad about your diet
Starting point is 00:35:54 and feel bad about not being able to stay disciplined to something, the question is, are you okay with feeling like that? Because if you're not, then you need to work on reframing. You need to work on what we're talking about. And it's very, it's very difficult, but it's as simple as making a choice. It's as simple as just,
Starting point is 00:36:12 just deciding that you might have to do a bunch of things that, that put you in a better position. So you feel good enough to do any of this in the first place. You may have to distance yourself from social media for a while because maybe social media is bogging you down. Maybe it's making you at the, maybe at the moment, maybe it's quote unquote, making you not feel so great about yourself. You're having shitty posts or whatever your interpretation of whatever's going on there.
Starting point is 00:36:38 But if you can't organize it well, fucking get rid of it. At least for a minute, you don't have to get rid of it forever, but get rid of it until you can come back to it and we're seeing people do this all the time i'm seeing young people in the gym and people that we work with all the time like yeah i got rid of that shit and i'm like that's awesome like how long you got it rid of it for and they're like i don't know yet but for now i got rid of it and i think that's great and i think a lot of people are learning that that's important because they have not been able to gain control over how they think about the different things that they're seeing. And they're recognizing that as being massively problematic. of some of this stuff, then it won't probably bother you that much to check out social media here and there and see some negative comments or see comments that are, uh, that you're maybe not
Starting point is 00:37:31 interpreting as being positive. Absolutely. I think like that's important. I, I think one of the big things is, um, not just potentially getting rid of social media, right. But, um, potentially getting rid of social media right but um individuals in your life that you you feel that i guess they're not aiding in that idea for you or they're not aiding in that that help reframe because you might have people that are close to you that when you're trying to do something or or when you're trying to move forward somewhere right you always manage to potentially revert back because of them and And you can't necessarily even blame them because at the end of the day, it's your choice to partake in terms of what they're doing or give the words that they have, like, you know, that they speak to you power.
Starting point is 00:38:15 But at the end of the day, you might really have to assess that and be like, is this benefiting me or is having this person in my life consistently making me move backwards and regress? I think that's one of the hardest things to do because when you have relationships with people, most of the time you want to maintain that most of the time you want to try and keep it. Um,
Starting point is 00:38:36 but sometimes you have to make the decision to let that go. Yeah. Letting go of stuff is really important. And, uh, again, Steven Coddler, he taught this Coddler,
Starting point is 00:38:44 Coddler, Coddler, Coddler, coddler coddler coddler coddler with the t yeah he talked about um letting go and he talked about how it's important at like a certain age to make sure you're kind of letting go that you have let go of uh i think you said 50 by the age of 50 my dad told me a really cool story today pretty great you know get an opportunity to go on these walks with him every morning um he told me a really cool story today. Pretty great, you know, get an opportunity to go on these walks with him every morning. He told me a story about a friend that the dad, I guess, left them when they were young. And the mom and the dad got into, like, pretty good, like, argument. And the dad was just like, you know what? I just, I don't want anything to do with any,
Starting point is 00:39:26 any of you anymore. And he, and he, and he took off, you know, and he got remarried and stuff and they didn't know where he was. He was, he was a foreigner.
Starting point is 00:39:38 And so he didn't have, they couldn't like track them down. She couldn't try to get alimony from her. You know, she couldn't figure out anything. She's trying to provide get alimony from them. She couldn't figure out anything. She was trying just to provide for her kids and things like that. Anyway, fast forward 40 years or so. Now this lady's 65 or whatever, one of the children.
Starting point is 00:39:58 And she feels kind of scorned by her dad. He never came around. Well, now he dies. He passes on. Never had an opportunity to talk to him or anything. He did pretty well. He made, he made some money and he, you know, had a home and stuff like that. And so she gets caught up in this idea of like, well, you know, I never grew up with him, you know, he never really, he provided for us for a little while, but, you know, I never was really able to get anything from him.
Starting point is 00:40:26 Now she's all excited about potentially getting some of this money from this house. And so she asked my dad about it and my, and when she goes to him and asked my dad and my dad's like, I gotta be honest with you. I would just forget about that money. She's like, what? This could provide, you know, some really good money for us. She's like, he didn't, he didn't care about you guys. Why would you want money from someone that doesn't care about you? He didn't want to give it to you while he was here. And I'm sure he probably doesn't want you to even have it now. You know, my dad was just being like
Starting point is 00:40:57 straight up with her. And she's like, I think we should, you know, anyway, my whole point is she spent a couple of years of her life, you know this money and i don't think she ever got it she was never able to she wasted a lot of time a lot of energy it's money that wasn't even hers i guess you we can argue over whether we think that she's uh entitled to any of it i don't know that's hard really difficult to determine but a court is not going to determine that somebody else's money is yours. Unless, unless there's some sort of contract or something like that, or unless I don't know what they would have to prove to do that. There's probably a maternal stuff that they could figure out.
Starting point is 00:41:34 But anyway, I just, I thought that was really interesting. Cause it's like, man, you should have just let that go. Like, and I,
Starting point is 00:41:40 I understand, like, I understand that people are hurting for money. I understand that people think money is going to really move the needle for them. Um, but I, you know,
Starting point is 00:41:52 it's easy for me to say in a position I'm in, but even if I was in my old position where I didn't have any money, I, I would just be like, oh man, it sucks that he died. You know, I,
Starting point is 00:42:02 it would have been cool to talk to him and figure out why the fuck he left or whatever. And that would probably be that. But I don't think I would be kind of waiting around for a handout or whatever. Yeah. And with that, when you were talking about that and equanimity, what was the essence that if she was,
Starting point is 00:42:24 I guess if she didn't put that much value on that she could have figured out something else or she got caught on and done the other things that she needed to do um was that right right she could have also just not had any stress over it she could have said i don't really know anything about this is if there's any sort of uh if there's any sort of, uh, if there's any sort of legal action, uh, that we can take to actually, uh, like, like if we're actually, um,
Starting point is 00:42:50 if, if, if, if we're actually like entitled to that money, then let's just let a lawyer figure it out. And I'm just going to sit back and, and I'll, I'll see what they think.
Starting point is 00:43:01 I'll present the case to them. And, uh, but she did present the case to them. The lawyer's like, yeah, it's going to be like rough and it's going to be, but she spent time and money and was never,
Starting point is 00:43:11 and, and stressed out a lot over and was really hurt, like had hurt feelings because now that attachment or that disattachment from her dad was now all brought up again. She had to kind of live through it again for the next couple of years. But had she been someone who's able to practice any of these things that we talk about on this show, even some stoicism would have helped where she could have played this through.
Starting point is 00:43:37 She knew her dad had cancer. She could have thought to herself, oh, my God, like he's in his 70s or he's in his 80s. He's probably going to die. And then I wonder, you know, she could have called him while he was still alive and said, Dad, you bastard. I think, you know, she could have, whatever she thought was appropriate. You know, you could have.
Starting point is 00:43:58 But I think when it comes to, when it comes to stoicism, when it comes to practicing some of these things, when it comes to stoicism, if you can play out the fact that anything can happen from anybody, it sucks, but those are things that are important. They're important to at least think about because if you did a dress rehearsal for any of it, you would be better prepared for the outcome. It's easier to think about someone who's 70 or 80, the fact that they're going to pass, but to think about your own kid or it's like, it's like, who the fuck wants to do that?
Starting point is 00:44:35 Yeah. But is it possible? I mean, it's possible. Any, anything that's living is going to die at some point. So nothing's forever. Your pet's not forever. Your kid's not forever. Just there point so nothing's forever your pet's not forever your kid's not forever just there's nothing that's forever and so uh as much as it sucks to play it out
Starting point is 00:44:52 i think it can be helpful i have a question for you because i i see your notebook right there and um the reason why i'm asking this is because i think that a lot of we have so many things that are flowing within our head when it comes to ideas of things that we want to do, um, anxiety about certain things, uh, stress, uh, just, just, there's so many things that we have flowing in our head and that we're thinking about all the time. And even if you just got walking, it's still up there, you're still thinking it through. But I want to know how often do you like write things out? How often do you, do you do that every day? Something you do often. And the reason I'm asking you is because like, for me, I have to write things out every single
Starting point is 00:45:28 day because like, um, I'm always forgetting something, right? So it'll, it'll hit me later on. And then it'll be like, God, I should remember that five days, days ago. But if I'm able to just get things out during my day or at the beginning of my day, it clears everything out for me as, as, as time goes by. Um, I think that's something that if, if, if more people had that practice, that would or at the beginning of my day, it clears everything out for me as time goes by. I think that's something that if more people had that practice, that would help alleviate a lot of stress and anxiety. So how does that, like, how do you operate when it comes to that?
Starting point is 00:45:55 I have many notebooks jammed with a lot of stuff and it's kind of all over the place. You know, you'll see some references references to like you know jordan peterson in there and then in here there's like there's drawings of uh like inventions like here we go it's like uh i won't show it but there's you can see it but like there's there's current inventions and things in here i had to change the camera just in case yeah there's current things in here and stuff that i i've had ideas for and yeah i write them down um actually i had a situation happen not too long ago where uh somebody was talking about how they you know uh in collaboration with me created this thing
Starting point is 00:46:37 um and then they said um they're like oh yeah i i made that from scratch and i was like uh i was like hold on a second you know what i mean like and i was like i i could have drew this up this morning you know because i you know there's there's no there's a date on it and whatever but i'm like there's no verification for the date but i'm like this idea came from me i communicated that to you and then um it's uh anyway you know it's it's great to have it's great to have record of these things and like sometimes when i look back you know i'll see like a date on there i might write something like super bowl like it's like just because it's like super bowl sunday you know i might even write who's playing in it i don't really care that much about the game or the outcome of the game or whatever,
Starting point is 00:47:26 but I'm just kind of trying to, I'll write Christmas, I'll write Jake is driving, or just something completely random that doesn't really have much to do with the organization of my thoughts, but then when I look back at it, it brings me back to that. So I would recommend to people, it can be a pain in the ass, but try to write down as much stuff as you can. If you can, if you can write down like the top, the date and the time and like where you're writing from, you'd be like, oh yeah, I remember that. Cause it might be five years from now.
Starting point is 00:47:57 I'm like, I remember that coffee shop. I used to go there all the time. Or I remember when I used to write in the corner of my house or wherever, whatever the hell it is you're doing. I think it's, it's great to keep a record of it. And it's great to have, it's great to have these things that you can go back on and look at. Yeah. And then just in the, like the present moment, it's huge for when you're feeling overwhelmed.
Starting point is 00:48:18 Cause you're just like, so much shit to do. I'm never going to get to it. But then you, you write it all out and you're like okay maybe it's not as much as i thought it was yeah and then you cross one thing off like all right then you got some momentum going but that's essentially what i do like in the mornings is all not every morning i need to in my opinion i think i need to because it does help me out a lot yeah but yeah i'll write out my tasks based on priority uh sometimes i'll do them based on which one i want to do the least which is you know supposed to be the first one um but yeah i
Starting point is 00:48:50 mean for relieving anxiety and that that that that feeling where i like you know you see the memes where i got so much shit to do i'm gonna go take a nap yeah like it gets rid of that feeling i like that that's a good meme it is it is a good meme but no that's a practice i like a lot of if you guys are listening to this show just pick that up because it like seeing all of all of that um i mean personally like i i if i'm feeling a certain way about something or i'm feeling something i'll write down what that is and i'll literally write out okay why are the reasons why i'm feeling like this or what's causing me to do this or what's causing me to feel this way. And that'll actually really help me to kind of just play through why certain things are
Starting point is 00:49:29 going on. It's super helpful. And it's just, it's one of the easiest things that you could do. It's also cheap. All you need is a pen and a cheap notebook. Yeah. It's been really, uh, really helpful to me. And then, you know, I think you can write down your thoughts but you can also like listen to podcasts
Starting point is 00:49:47 or listen to um there's a lot of stuff on youtube um i forget half the stuff that i even listen to but a lot of it's on markbell.com if you guys want to check it out there's markbell university and it talks about some of the different things uh on there that i listen to but i take notes on it you know and i'm listening to shit from like friedrich nietzsche and stuff like that you know and it's like it's just these people from the past have come up with these great philosophies and come up with these great concepts and ideas uh why not entertain them why not look at them you know sometimes when i'm when i hear something from somebody i'm like how come people don't still talk about this guy like all the time like how come like it's not you know like okay i understand like the importance of george washington and i
Starting point is 00:50:34 understand but like i don't remember them bringing up some of these people in school i'm like there's some great information here like these would be and i guess i get it because some of them are um their their thoughts are pretty wild some of the things that they talk about can sometimes be uh you know kind of wild but it's it's amazing it's really empowering when you start to learn when you hear somebody say that um you know nothing is is either good or bad until you put a label on it, you're like, wait, then it then just gets you to think. And you can think for yourself on that, whether you even believe that, because that doesn't have to be true. It doesn't have you don't have you don't have to share that belief. I believe most of that for the most part. I mean,
Starting point is 00:51:20 I did talk about a couple of things that I think are bad and it's easier just to label candy as being bad for your diet. It's easier just to say, I think steak is good. I think chicken is good. I think these sources of protein are, are good, you know, but I think a lot of times in our, in our mind, we have, you know, a side of the brain that that is kicking over stuff that's bad. And it's like, this is bad and it goes over here and this is good and it goes over here. But I think for most of us, maybe if you haven't practiced some of these things yet, what we would see is probably like your body's probably 70 percent overrun with some bad thoughts. And maybe all of us, I don't know. Cause it seems like, I don't know about you guys,
Starting point is 00:52:07 but I'm trying to talk myself out of stuff all day long. Yep. Yeah. And I, yeah. Temptations and stuff. And it's like, yeah,
Starting point is 00:52:18 like joy. It drives, it drives you. It drives you crazy. If y'all didn't see the camera right there, you should be watching us on YouTube. You know what I'm talking about if you saw that left hand. Oh, my God. Jessica Smith peeking in on us.
Starting point is 00:52:36 What's up, Jess? Yeah. Made it all uncomfortable. Now you have to be all straight faced. Four pills. All of it oh yeah yeah yeah I only took two capsules oh man damn it Jesse messed up
Starting point is 00:52:56 our roll we were flowing we were flowing it was a heavy flow day for us it was How about for yourself? We're talking about being in the zone. Right? Exactly. Was she thinking something different? I don't know if she was. I hope she wasn't. Yes.
Starting point is 00:53:20 Exactly. That's what we're going on over here. Speaking of, I mean, I promise I'm not trying to be mean, but we were talking about distractions and like, that's a good example, right? I mean, Hey, like we're doing our absolute best to try to get over this right now. Yeah. Are we going to talk about women now? Because they can be very distracting. They can be. You're trying to get work done. You're trying to do what you got to do to be a successful man. And then a woman just comes in and ruins it all. And then they leave. Oh my God.
Starting point is 00:53:58 I'm going to text them. I'm going to text them. Oh my God. Oh my gosh yeah i remember at the old gym at the original super training there was like oh yeah chicks on the other side you know and it was like i had to snap my fingers at our guys hey hey let's go back and just do some squats over here and they're like oh yeah i forgot it's watching a girl do wall balls over there like dude you've been warming up for like four hours like let's go ahead yeah hop right hop right into it oh god today's episode of the podcast is brought to you by piedmontese beef
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Starting point is 00:56:16 I think a hard part about a lot of this stuff is, uh, is, you know, learning about whether, whether these are like your own thoughts or if these are things that are from your past experiences, uh, or whether you're being shifted around by your emotions, you know, because a lot of times you'll have an emotion. Like if, if somebody,
Starting point is 00:56:38 um, if somebody has to show you like a picture, they show you a picture of like a cheeseburger or something, you'll have a little bit of an emotion to it. Yeah. And if it's a recognizable cheeseburger, like one from like McDonald's or In-N-Out Burger, you know, you'll have a different reaction to that. Somebody shows you an axe, you'll have a reaction to that. And they show you an axe with blood on it, you'll have a reaction to that. you're going to act with blood on it, you'll have a reaction to that. And so we, those, those reactions are, I don't know if you can change those too much.
Starting point is 00:57:12 Those are, those are pretty tough. Because I think, I don't even, I mean, that's got to be pretty deeply etched in your brain from the time you're like a little kid watching cartoons and whatever the hell else you saw and whatever video games you played and all those different things, they factor in there. But I do know that we have the ability to not say some of these thoughts out loud or not turn those thoughts into an action or to think about the thought to where you can start to turn it into something more positive, regardless of what you saw. It's just, it's just very difficult. It's a hard, it's a hard practice because, uh, the, the human body is like a freaking computer. And we take all these experiences that we've had in the past and we try to we try to condense them down and say okay how does that how does all this stuff from the last 44 years how does this apply to right now and i could say you know i've been screwed by this type of person before it's only going to happen again
Starting point is 00:58:18 but that doesn't make any sense yeah it doesn't really make any sense because this is a different person. These are different circumstances. So it can be really hard. And I think some of our best bet is to try to play through, as they talk about in Stoicism, is to try
Starting point is 00:58:38 to play through some little bit of worst case scenario stuff. And then as you do that, you're also working on reframing stuff. And then as you're, as you do that, you're also working on reframing stuff. This is stuff that I've worked on quite a bit for myself. I found it to be helpful. I also found that sometimes it's,
Starting point is 00:58:55 sometimes it's a little weird to like detach yourself from emotions. It's like, you can go too far that way. You can. And, and and then and then everybody around you thinks that you don't care about anything and that's not good either especially especially for your significant other they're like huh like what's going on with you like you happy i'm like yeah i'm pumped what you were just saying they remind me what was um see this is like the day that i'm remembering things but i'm not remembering the name of the guest who said it remember the guy who kept the
Starting point is 00:59:30 doritos next to him oh yeah at all times come on i just literally um but anyway evan evan carmichael yeah it's like he keeps the doritos next to him all day the closed bag of doritos that typically you'd open and you'd kill the whole bag just as a reminder that he could you know he doesn't have to reach for them he could control himself around them right so it's like one of those things where he's intrinsically building the habit of not having to always reach for the doritos you know whereas like you can consistently build these better habits into your day you consistently build these things so that it you know you like fasting you don't always have to reach for food when you feel that hunger come upon you right you um you just do these things
Starting point is 01:00:18 over and over and over again to change yourself so that that that's very reminiscent of that yeah it was funny when he was like yeah sometimes if like a employee or co-worker comes in actually eating doritos that he'll like get it and like he'll smell the bag yeah and mark was like whoa like you probably shouldn't do that you're gonna trigger insulin response he's like that can happen he's like yep absolutely he's like okay i better stop yeah it was just funny to me because his response was like yeah because he's like very like all right let's go go go go like i'm on this podcast let's go and then it's like oh wait that actually can happen like yes sir yeah yeah he's uh he's really positive but that's another example it's like why not listen to other positive people
Starting point is 01:01:01 why not why not explore uh what it's like to ditch a lot of negativity. I hear people, you know, kind of say, get rid of the negative people around you. And that might be something that you want to explore. But I would say beyond that, just try to,
Starting point is 01:01:16 because that's a little tougher and these might just be friends that you've been buddies with for a long time. And there's probably not a lot of great reasons to boot them out just because they're a little negative. I don't, I don't, just because they're cynical, I don't think it's, I don't think there's any reason to be like, hey man, you got to hit the bricks. It's good to have friends. And if you can, you know, go through this world and have one or two friends,
Starting point is 01:01:37 you know, when you die, then I think you've probably gone through a pretty decent life. It's not easy to have a really good close friend. It's important. And you don't want to, you know, you don't want to just kick people out because you think that you're interpreting them to be negative. But instead of that, I would, you know, try to ditch some things that you're viewing as being negative. And again, it can be until a time where you can reframe them
Starting point is 01:02:05 and you can get better at it. It could be social media. It could be, uh, the news. It could be, uh, whatever's in your, in your day. I know a lot of people like, you know, from a lifting perspective who, and I guess, uh, you know, for me, deadlifting has always been pretty difficult. I wasn't a great deadlifter. I could figure it out enough to win some meets here and there and to put together some good totals. But I know like when it came to deadlifting, I that's my stomach. I think I know most definitely. I would have a little bit of a defeated mindset on a deadlift day like i wasn't
Starting point is 01:02:47 as confident i wasn't as excited um because my interpretation was that i struggled at getting better at the deadlift and so therefore they have it you know what i thought was true um because i'm because i'm like made it so i don't know like, like, I, I mean, I worked on correcting it. I got to a point where, you know, I was able to do like a 675 pound deadlift, which was my max for a little while, stuck pretty bad there. And I was able to eventually do that for a triple. I was able to do seven, a 766 deadlift. Um, but in accordance to my strength in other areas and the progress I made in other
Starting point is 01:03:26 areas, I just didn't make the same progress on this one lift. As I started to examine and look around the gym and see some other successful lifters that we've had, they were always people that didn't, they didn't miss their lifts. They always made their lifts. And not only did they make their lifts, they usually lifted them really well you know oftentimes to the point where they did the lift very explosively and through the range of motion that you're supposed to do it through and very cleanly and you're like damn and so over a period of time i started to kind of learn that the reason why these athletes were so successful is because they had such a
Starting point is 01:04:05 positive mindset about some of these lifts. Yeah. When Stan came in and lifted Stan efforting, when Stan came in and started lifting with us, he Stan is Stan is actually a great example of it's neither positive nor negative because he didn't really view any of it to be that way. He didn't really get real hyped up. He might make some noise.
Starting point is 01:04:26 Well, he made a lot of noise during the lift, but he didn't really get all hyped beforehand. He didn't get hyped up afterwards, even though he broke all-time world records. A lot of it he knew was coming from the work that he put in. So there was really no reason to be overly hyped. There was no reason to be sad, mad, happy, or anywhere on that scale, because what he lifted that day was simply a byproduct of things that he has done previously.
Starting point is 01:05:02 It wasn't about being tough. It wasn't about being macho. It wasn't about being a badass. It wasn't about being tough. It wasn't about being macho. It wasn't about being a badass. It wasn't about the music that was on. It wasn't about, it wasn't about any of that stuff. It just simply had to do with what he programmed himself to do over a period of time.
Starting point is 01:05:18 When he went to do the lift, it didn't matter if he had pre-workout, it didn't matter. None of that stuff really mattered. It didn't matter if he had pre-workout. It didn't matter. None of that stuff really mattered. What mattered was is whether he taught himself how to do the lift the right way.
Starting point is 01:05:34 And he would make these lifts, and he'd make them pretty effortlessly. There wasn't a lot of friction. I think oftentimes in life, we're trying stuff. We're trying too hard. And there's really not a trying to it. It's you have to back up a couple steps, and you have to engage yourself and involve yourself in the doing of the thing. That's why people are like, you got to be in the moment.
Starting point is 01:06:00 You got to be present. You got to be in the moment. That's love the process. Yeah, yeah. But if you're in that, what they're referring to referring to if you're in that that'll get you the result you're looking for oftentimes i'll get your result you're looking for and imagine doing your training that way all the time imagine going in the gym and just seeing like i gotta squat 600 pounds for a triple today and you go to your max set just didn didn't feel right, you got two. And instead of throwing a fit or instead of being pissed
Starting point is 01:06:29 or instead of yelling at your coach or instead of whatever it is that you might do, going home and shooting up a bunch of steroids or whatever the hell it is that you think is going to solve this problem for you, you think about it in a way that is going to be productive towards you getting the extra rep. You know, you can think,
Starting point is 01:06:47 well, I, I, I was, I was planning on getting three reps. Maybe I miscalculated and maybe that's the strength that I'm at right now. I'm not quite as strong as I thought I was. I'm about a week or two behind.
Starting point is 01:07:03 I'll, uh, I'll see what I can do next week to kind of solve this. I'll research and talk to some people about, you know, people that have been in this similar predicament as the meat gets closer, when they're kind of testing to see what their opening lift should be. And I'll, I'll troubleshoot. I'll try to see like, where was there an error made?
Starting point is 01:07:24 Did I over-train? Did I under- like where, like, was there an error made? Did I over train? Did I under train? Uh, what's my body weight. You weigh yourself and double check and make sure you're not like five pounds lighter for whatever reason. Um, there's all, there's a lot of things that you can do to come up with the right answer and to make sure that you get it done correctly.
Starting point is 01:07:39 But being mad about it or being sad about it, um, isn't really going to, isn't really going to necessarily help with production. Although sometimes, well, not sometimes, oftentimes your emotions can help with a decision. So you could be pissed off enough to where you're like, fuck, man, that's unacceptable for me. I need to come back from that. But to be any madder than that, that's not going to really assist anything. It reminds me like what you're talking about there, especially when you were talking about Stan. It's like.
Starting point is 01:08:12 Like, yeah, there's this idea of trusting the process or liking the process or liking the training. But with anything that you want to do, say that we're talking about the gym, you have this goal of numbers that you want to hit and there is a process to get there. There's a training plan. There's certain steps you actually need to take to be able to get to that specific goal. Whatever it is, you actually have to learn how to enjoy those moments because that's where you're going to be most of the time. When you're trying to diet to lose weight, we always talk about like, you have to kind of like the diet you're doing. Well, you have to like that daily process of eating that specific food. And even if you don't like how the food takes, maybe tastes,
Starting point is 01:08:53 maybe you do like the process of making the right decision. Because you know that every time you do make the right decision to eat the right food, you feel proud of yourself. Even if you don't necessarily enjoy the food the most at the moment, the fact that you're doing that right then and there, you're usually like, oh, wow, I'm happy that I'm doing this for myself. I'm happy that I'm making this decision. And you feel good about that. Well, you have to learn to like that day after day, month after month, because that's what's going to get you to that end goal. But if you're always trying to envision that end goal, it's like when you do make a misstep here or there, when you do miss a training session, right? Or your training session doesn't go the way it needs to go.
Starting point is 01:09:30 You start to beat yourself up over it. And that's not going to help you out at all. It's not going to be beneficial. I was actually going to ask you, like, where does like visualizing come into play then? I remember you said when you work with clients that are in meat prep that you'll actually have them like download like a certain app that shows like their kilos and the plates and all that, like to let them know like, hey, like I need you to visualize lifting that much weight. So where does that or when does that come into play or like is there room for that with this conversation? I think there's room for that all the time like like that there's a reason why people always talk about oh visualizing where you want to be and all of that um i think that's that's always beneficial but at the end of the day no matter what it comes to uh you always have to do that day after day work that training that that
Starting point is 01:10:21 you're doing to get to that goal right um. Um, so, I mean, it's just like when I deadlift in here, right before lift, I usually just picture it going well. That's what I always do. Especially if it's hard lift, I picture that specific lift going well, and then I go and I execute on it. But I think there's always room for that. If you could, if you can get yourself in the practice of doing it, I think it can make a big difference. I mean, there is a, where we've been referencing him a lot,
Starting point is 01:10:49 this podcast, but in that Steven Kotler episode, there was a book, I think it was the rise of Superman where he was, everyone's heard of this study where there are like three groups who were, one group was actually shooting free throws. One group was visualizing shooting free throws and one group wasn't shooting any free throws at all.
Starting point is 01:11:05 Group that was actually practicing and doing the work. Obviously, they had the best results after that. But the group that was visualizing it, even they improved to an extent just by picturing it. And the group that didn't do anything at all, they didn't improve at all. Right. So there is a benefit in not just visualizing the end goal, but visualizing the work and learning to fall in love with the work. I think what you said about, you know, feeling good about what you did, being proud of yourself is like just maybe not talked about enough. Like you're really pumped about what you did, you know, and the reverse of that is horrible, too, when you made a bad decision.
Starting point is 01:11:43 And the reverse of that is horrible, too, when you made a bad decision. And you and again, like maybe you should reframe why you're categorizing it as bad. For myself, I try it when it comes to the when it comes to the food side of things. I have worked on really not trying to categorize it as being bad and trying to categorize it a little bit more as being part of the process. When I am in a mode where I'm really working on getting leaner and where I'm focused on that, I do view it as being bad. I'm like, no, that's not what I'm doing at the moment. I'm going to stay on this path because this is getting me the result that I want. And I already kind of usually when I make that decision, I'm already kind of locked into it and it doesn't feel like I'm being forced to.
Starting point is 01:12:33 It doesn't feel like I'm forcing myself to. And so I'll do that and say, you know, the ice cream that's in the freezer because my kids are always eating some ice cream. I'm like, that's not part of the plan right now. It's not part of the diet. At other times where I'm allowing myself some room, I don't view it as like, all right, I'm going to like pig out or I'm going to cheat or I'm not really viewing it as any of that.
Starting point is 01:12:58 On the other side of that, I'm also okay with a little fluctuation, you know? So these are all things that you can play through in your head as you're talking about visualizing. Well, if you're going to, if you're going to loosen up your diet, you know, you've got to know that your pants are going to fit a little bit tighter. Like things are just going to be a little different for a short period of time, but it's not forever. It's just for a moment.
Starting point is 01:13:20 It's just for you. Maybe you want to just enjoy yourself on a vacation or who knows what it is who knows what it's for maybe just tired of eating the same foods he's got tired of eating chicken or whatever whatever the case is and i think um the reinterpretation of a lot of these a lot of diet uh a lot of diet tricks and things like that can really be really helpful for people yeah i like that pretty much everything from helpful for people. Yeah. I like that. Pretty much everything from the diet to the training, it kind of sets you up to never be surprised,
Starting point is 01:13:51 you know, like, Oh shit, I didn't hit that three 15 bench. It's like, well, dude, look at your training.
Starting point is 01:13:57 You know, did you actually set yourself up for that? It's like, if you're honest with yourself and you'll see, and then, yeah, you, you went off your,
Starting point is 01:14:04 your diet for for you know Two months, of course your belt size is gonna go up a little bit you know, so I really dig that as somebody who's has been like an anxious person in the past to be able to look at stuff like that and be like There's no more surprises because I can already kind of see it happening or I can see it coming I should say and if you were to think about like what you would say to somebody who comes to you and they're like, Andrew, I hear you on this podcast all the time.
Starting point is 01:14:30 You guys are always talking about fitness and stuff. I'm really frustrated with myself because I gained 20 pounds. You would say, okay, what are you currently doing about it? And then they would talk about their job and they would talk about how this happened and that happened and they just moved. And you'd say, okay, that's totally understandable.
Starting point is 01:14:51 What are you doing about the 20 pounds that you gained? You know? Right. And so I think, you know, people, we like to kind of clutter stuff up with a lot of these other things because we know how easy it is to be
Starting point is 01:15:05 distracted. So if you ask me a question like that, like, what are you doing about this? I can easily point out all the distractions that I have and you can kind of empathize with it. You can say, you can say, oh, yeah, I've been in those. I've been in those. I've been in your same shoes. You know, I've done the same thing before.
Starting point is 01:15:23 But a key factor to getting yourself out of that is just to think about it's just a problem solve what what are a couple things that you can do maybe your situation is kind of screwed maybe things are going to be a little bit more difficult for you for a moment um but what can you currently do to change that situation what are things that you can do to kind of get yourself out of it? And I think one thing would be to work on reframing what's going on because you moving and you maybe having a new job or take it on more hours, it really doesn't have anything to do with the control over the food that you put into your mouth, but it does because it has an impact on the stresses that you have each day. And then, so from there, you'd have to kind of unwind. Okay. You'd say, all right, dude, like, where are you fucking up? Well, I, I tend to eat a ton when I get home from work,
Starting point is 01:16:16 you know, and then you might be able to say, okay, well, do you have a microwave at work? How about when you leave work at four 35 o'clock, you have a meal right work? How about when you leave work at 4.30, 5 o'clock, you have a meal right then so that when you go home and you eat, you probably don't have an opportunity to eat till it's 6.30, 7 o'clock and you're probably starving. If you had some chicken breast at 6 o'clock or at 4 o'clock before you left the building, you'd probably be good to go. Yeah. And I think, so I know for me personally, like, you know, like why can't you do X, Y,
Starting point is 01:17:06 Yeah. And I think, so I know for me personally, like, you know, like, why can't you do X, Y, and Z? I'll pile on a couple of things to kind of like hide the real, like obvious answer, you know, which is like, oh, it's just because I'm not willing to not, or I'm not willing to like put food in the microwave as I leave because, you know, whatever, I have my own reasons or whatever, but it is funny. Cause like, you know, I'll say like, Oh, it's the baby it's work. It's this, it's that, you know, instead of just being like, I don't know. I'm just being a piece of shit right now. You know? Um, so yourself and Carlos, right. Carlos had a baby a few months ago. Um, and you just had your baby and you know every there's not one time after carlos had his baby even on week one week two week three or four and weeks after that that i've seen him come in here and be hey carlos man how you doing man how's the baby wow she's great she's beautiful she's
Starting point is 01:17:36 awesome right and he never once mentioned like what i now know like babies be keeping people up every two hours right and he was coming into work two hours, right? And he was coming into work. You're coming into work. And he was coming into work every day. Just smile on the face, getting shit done. Not even there wouldn't be, if I didn't know him,
Starting point is 01:17:55 I wouldn't know that he just had a new more baby. But there are some people that, that happens to, I don't know, but I know from talking to some people that having a baby is difficult, but you will not get a new. They will tell you about all the problems all the time, all the difficulties all the time. You won't be able to hear enough of it again.
Starting point is 01:18:14 I have sympathy for that. I like it's difficult. I get it. But you guys, both you and Carlos have reframed all aspects of that, it seems. And it doesn't even look like anything in your life has changed it it has for sure and carlos is just like a perfect example of somebody that just will see the positive and damn near everything like i it would be shocking if he just was didn't have a smile on his face right Like he's such a good positive person to be around.
Starting point is 01:18:45 But in regards to like reframing the mindset and stuff, like, I mean, a couple of months ago, if my dogs woke me up more than twice in a night, I would come in just like dragging, like, I can't believe I'm going to get rid of these dogs, you know, blah, blah, blah. And then now it's, you know, every two hours. And like, I'm not like i'm i'm asleep i could
Starting point is 01:19:08 go to sleep right now but like i'm not completely hitting a wall the way i was before when you know before my son was here and then now like i won't go too far off on a tangent even though i will but everyone talks about like oh you gotta have purpose and you know move with purpose and find your purpose and then the rest will follow and stuff which i agree and now with my son yes he is a big part of that purpose but now like literally everything has a purpose now like taking taking out the trash like okay if stephanie has to throw something away and that trash can's full and now she has the baby in one hand
Starting point is 01:19:47 and, you know, a diaper in another or something like that, like, that's going to cause a chain reaction of things. Whereas now it's like, okay, yeah, I'm going to take that trash out because that could happen. And like, that little thing now has a purpose. Coming to do this podcast today,
Starting point is 01:20:01 you know, already had a big purpose, but now it's like has another purpose because it's like, oh, shit. What if our podcast reaches, you know, X amount more people and we grow and, you know, we get way more downloads or whatever it may be. But like literally every little tiny thing now has a certain purpose. And it's such a cool feeling to get like this, like little boost in like motivation for everything. It's it's really awesome it is awesome yeah cool it uh makes certain things kind of weird i know that uh after i had jake like i went to get on a plane to go somewhere and i all of a sudden got super nervous and i was like the fuck is that
Starting point is 01:20:39 about i got like claustrophobic i was like I just was like scared to fly, which never happened to me before. But I'm like, why the fuck am I scared to fly? And then, I don't know, I was okay. You know, it wasn't too bad. But then, I don't know, a few weeks later, I talked to some friends. I've had some kids and they're like, oh, that's because you're a dad. And I was like, that's what the fuck that was? I was like, holy shit, man.
Starting point is 01:21:03 I was tripping because I don't mind flying. It's not a big deal. But yeah, I mean, still, I still get a little nervous here and there. You think about it a little bit. You're like, oh man, like what if this is it? You know, what if something happens? Yeah. No, I had that thought driving into work today.
Starting point is 01:21:17 Like, cause I, I, I wanted to be here for, for, um, we had a meeting earlier, but I was running a little bit behind. Um, just, I timed it wrong. So like, I, I checked into the meeting like virtually and I was like driving. It's like, no big deal, whatever. That's reframing right there. I timed it wrong. You know, like you just, you reframe it.
Starting point is 01:21:35 Cause you probably normally would say an excuse, but you just say you just took, you just took it on yourself. Cause I timed it wrong. Um, thank you. I didn't even notice that. That's a good way of doing it. But yeah, like changing lanes and like listening into the meeting. And I'm just like, ooh, like, damn, this is weird.
Starting point is 01:21:53 Like I all of a sudden care. Like, whereas before it was just like, I should be okay. Yeah, I'll figure it out. Right. Like I might be down for the count for a couple of weeks, but I'm okay. Yeah. Now it's like, oh shit. What if this and that? And yeah,
Starting point is 01:22:07 like Stephanie had to go to the doctors and I'm like, you ain't going by yourself. It's like, what do you mean? Like, dude, there's like baby snatchers everywhere. Like that shit terrifies me now.
Starting point is 01:22:16 Oh shit. Yeah. Never thought about it. And then, okay. So in SEMA had texted me short, like I think like the very next day or something. And my response
Starting point is 01:22:25 because he asked like oh so how's everything going with your son like how's everything you know with stephanie and my response was just like i understand why people kill people now i was like man because one of these nurses like she had to give him a k2 shot and or a k1 one of the k K's. I don't remember. Yeah. And he started crying. I'm like, what the fuck are you doing? I was so upset. But yeah, it was just vitamins.
Starting point is 01:22:51 It wasn't a like a vaccination type thing. Yeah. Not that I'm anti-vax. It's just that sort of thing was weird. I was just writing down some stuff this morning that I guess sort of goes with the flow of this show. I'll just read this. This is kind of based. So I stole some of this from and I didn't write down the guy's name.
Starting point is 01:23:13 So I'm stealing some information from somebody. Maybe I'll try to find the information before we hop off of here. But I put some of my own thought into it as well. But does anyone need to teach you how to think? How much thinking are you allowed to do? And the answer is no, not necessarily. People don't have to teach you how to think.
Starting point is 01:23:38 You can think for yourself. But thinking about my thoughts is something someone could have taught me at five instead of me learning it at 35. I think I'm allowed to think infinitely, but I also think I don't understand how long that'll be. Learning how to think really means exercising some control over how and what I think. Choose what you pay attention to and choose what you think about. So kind of confusing, but what was the sentence before the last sentence? That one really caught me. What was that?
Starting point is 01:24:19 Let's see. Uh, learning, learning how to think really means exercising some control over how and what I think. Oh man. That, I like that a lot because like that one, like we were talking about this, you have so many random, just dumb thoughts during the day, right? Just, just like things that just come to you and you're like, why the fuck am I thinking that?
Starting point is 01:24:40 Why am I thinking that? Why am I thinking that? Why am I thinking that? And like, yeah, when you, when you are trying to improve how you do certain things and learning how to think, you get better at kind of just like siphoning out negative thoughts. Right. Cause there are some people who have negative thoughts throughout their whole
Starting point is 01:24:57 day, like all day long. And for some individuals that is literally called depression. But some people, maybe that's where they used to be. And it took a lot of practice and it took a lot of learning how to think. But they don't have nearly as many negative thoughts during the day or they don't even they don't think negatively about things because they've just gotten so much better at like what you did there, Andrew, at the time thing. Right.
Starting point is 01:25:21 You reframe that. They got so much better at changing the way they think about things. This is from David Fosterid foster who's david foster uh a really like forward thinking guy i don't know much about him i just uh stumbled upon him today i'm probably somebody i should have known about for a long time apparently but um he has passed on a couple of years ago. I don't know what the issue was. He was pretty young, but he has a lot of great thoughts. But the video I was watching is from a YouTube channel called after school. S K O O L. I like that.
Starting point is 01:25:55 Um, I subscribed to that channel. Um, but they also say in that, in that video that I was watching, it says your mind is an excellent servant, but a terrible master. And, you know, being like, if your mind is an excellent servant, then you need to kind of think about that a little bit. Like, why not? Why not? You can, you can work on strengthening the master side of it, right? You can work on, on that, but that's going to be like a lifelong project. Why not stick to what your mind, what your mind is already pretty good at. And that's being a servant.
Starting point is 01:26:26 So being a servant would mean that you can take orders really well. You can, you, you would probably most, most likely, like, I don't like a schedule, but most likely just like myself,
Starting point is 01:26:37 you will perform better with a schedule than you will without a schedule. You need, you need to have a schedule. I mean, I think it was about two years ago that I finally started having stuff like in a calendar, you know, and that's been helpful for all of us.
Starting point is 01:26:51 And it's been helpful for the whole team and, and all that. But before that, um, I was always like, I might do this. I might do that tomorrow. I know.
Starting point is 01:26:59 It was always like really carefree with a lot of that stuff. Um, but what are the things that you could, uh, like service? What are the things that you could like service? What are the things that you could do every day? You know, whether it be getting in some exercise, your nutrition, walking, whatever, whatever the hell it is. Dude, do you have, let me ask you this.
Starting point is 01:27:17 Do you feel a natural resistance when someone says you need to get something done by this time? Yeah, totally. I have a natural like kickback. Like I hate, I hate this about myself but when someone's like you have to get this done by thursday at 1 30 immediately my mind's like fuck you like immediately and then i'm like wait why did i do that oh yeah cool dude i'll get that done for you yeah but for some reason i just have this natural resistance even if you know you need to and even if you're like literally on your way to
Starting point is 01:27:46 do whatever it is that task is if somebody says to do it it's like the fuck you mean i need to do i don't know why that is i'm very similar yeah when, uh, just, just anybody asked me to do anything, I kind of get a little pissy, you know, like I've been, I've been working with a couple like new doctors and they're like, okay, just go here and fill this thing out on the website. I'm like, fuck that. I don't want to do that. You know, and then it's like this survey or questionnaire that I got to fill out that goes on forever or whatever.
Starting point is 01:28:24 I'm like, oh my God. I'm like, oh, my God. I'm like, why the fuck am I doing this? Just feels like a lot of feels like a lot of work. Yeah. Yeah. Being micromanaged is terrible. But we do respond really well to a schedule to some sort of organization. And I would say that if you're going to, you know, master some of your thoughts, which I don't know if you'll ever have an opportunity to do that.
Starting point is 01:28:43 to, you know, master some of your thoughts, which I don't know if you'll ever have an opportunity to do that. But if you're going to at least master some of them, I think the first step would be to be organized and to have some sort of, you don't need to be meticulous about it. I don't think you need to be crazy about it, but it helps. It can be helpful. I'm going to lift at this time. I'm going to work from these hours to these hours. I'm going to eat approximately around this time to this time. I mean, just knowing what times a day you're going to work from these hours to these hours. I'm going to eat approximately around this time to this time. I mean, just knowing what times a day you're going to eat could really help clean up your diet tremendously. And it's something that no one ever really talks about.
Starting point is 01:29:14 What if you're like, okay, I'm going to eat at 12, four and eight every day, 12, four and eight, whatever, whatever the numbers are for you. I'm gonna eat at 12, four and eight. Okay. That's three meals. And then when you start to think about that three meals, I'm going to eat 12, four and eight. Um, let's just say that you want to follow a, um, a diet where you track your calories. Well, you're going to eat three times a day. Uh, let's say that you need 1800 calories in order for you to lose a little bit of weight. Then you can just say, okay, well, over those three meals, I'm going to eat the 1800 calories. And now your diet doesn't seem so confusing and hard. What's the diet? I'm eating this amount of food every day. If you are hungry, you can utilize some stuff that we talk
Starting point is 01:30:03 about on the show often, which is just eating a little bit more protein. So it might be possible for you to eat a little bit more if you wanted to get a little bit more from meat or whatever it is, or from protein sources. Yeah. But that's simple, right? That's simple.
Starting point is 01:30:15 That's a simple thing, a simple thing to follow, a simple thing to adhere to. You know, the way that you're going to be able to eat an elephant, they say is one bite at a time, the way that you're going to be able to eat an elephant they say is uh one bite at a time the way they're going to be able to eat an entire uh pizza pie right is going to be not one slice at a time but one bite at a time you got it it's going to take it's going to take a while to be able to eat all that yeah um what i was thinking for a second there where was it
Starting point is 01:30:43 where was it eating a whole pizza in one bite or no because when he when he said the pizza like my mind i started thinking about the pizza and lost what i was about to say because damn it mark why you have to be here here's an example of having poor control over your thoughts there we go pink dildo boom it's in your head there's more than a pink dildo in my head oh yeah but i was gonna say i was gonna say no um no what you're talking about in terms of like the scheduling thing because like you we always were like you know uh that thing that i want still okay i'll just do it tomorrow and then tomorrow comes the whole day goes by like uh okay i have a lot of time to do
Starting point is 01:31:21 it tomorrow and then that just goes on and on and on. But if you just like, look at the most important things you really want to try and do, and you just set a time the next day to try and do it, just, just for the most important things, right? More, you're more than likely going to start being on the track to get it done. And then that just goes into the whole momentum bit that we were talking about. Once you set that up and you do that thing the next day, just like you, you say that you set your clothes out for the next day, right? That's already you preparing to have some that thing the next day, just like you, you say that you set your clothes out for the next day, right? That's already you preparing to have some momentum for your next day, the night before, like that can help really set you up and move you in the right direction for all of those
Starting point is 01:31:53 things that you're trying to do. Yeah. Even when you're talking about tracking, you know, and you have your meals planned out when I was tracking very, um, when I was very strict on it, I would not only write out what I was going to eat or the times I was going to eat, but what I was going to eat and what each, you know, the macro breakdown of each, every single one. And it just made life so much easier. Got rid of any like doubt or any issues I would have with like, Oh, am I going to make
Starting point is 01:32:19 it tomorrow? Like every day was like, Oh my gosh, like these calories are getting cut more and more. And it's like, Oh, okay, am I going to do it? And yeah, just write it down or, you know, everybody has a phone. So track it that way. I think the word might is a good word to try to get rid of. Yeah, I might. Yeah, I might call that guy this week.
Starting point is 01:32:39 Why not just say, I'm never going to call that guy this week. Why even fucking bring it up at all? Like, you know, it's not going to happen. I might go in early tomorrow to train just. Yeah. And maybe you said that too many times. Yeah. Just,
Starting point is 01:32:50 just, uh, chop it out, you know, and then it, it turns into, I am going in tomorrow to train. And even when you say it,
Starting point is 01:32:57 even when you say it to somebody else, like I would, you know, it's, I still mess up all the time. I'm trying to reframe a lot of words. I, I just said the word try.
Starting point is 01:33:06 I'm working on getting that one out, but it's a difficult one to get rid of. And I try to recorrect myself because I think our language is important. And I think that the things that you say are kind of felt by your body a little bit. But with a word like might, I noticed that when I say might, then I don't follow through with it. So it's like, I'm like, that's not it that's not great it's so powerful that i'm actually the night before i i don't even want to say i'm going to the gym tomorrow morning because then i have to do it because like it's like it if i say it it's gonna to happen. So what will I say? I'm going to try to get up early and go. And it's like knowing damn well that I just gave myself an excuse to not go tomorrow.
Starting point is 01:33:52 Like that's how, that's how. Yeah. And I think that's a moment where you can reframe and you can feel proud of yourself. You can think about how you would feel afterwards. Like I know that if I go, I'll be proud of myself. Yeah. And I know that when I see, uh, when I see market and SEMA, I can talk shit to them. Cause I already lifted while they were sleeping, you know, that kind of thing.
Starting point is 01:34:15 And you could kind of envision that side of it. And so you can, that's like some motivation, you know, you can say, Hey, look, that's going to be, that's going to be great. I'm going to already had worked out. I can leave early. I can get back home and see the baby, tackle the baby, that's going to be great. I already had worked out. I can leave early. I can get back home and see the baby, tackle the baby, beat up the baby. Well, you can't really do that yet. Almost.
Starting point is 01:34:31 You get a little older, you can wrestle. You can toss it. Man, I'm so, like, I don't know how bendy he can be and stuff. Like, I'm still very, like, timid when it comes to anything with that little guy. Gained weight, though. Nice. 7.1. Damn. Yeah. So the goal today was to get up to
Starting point is 01:34:47 6.8 you get on the scale and do the double bicep pose yeah yeah while the opponent was sitting there trying to take pictures and stuff sick yeah we're excited you should make a uh you know you have the tri hat you should make a might hat but make sure that like there's verb next to it. So people know it's the might verb and just cross it out. Cause it might like, but my verb is like, no English words. Hey, I have a word for you guys today. Here we go. Negligible.
Starting point is 01:35:19 Wow. You guys want to go for it? Yeah. I think I got that one negligible negligible negligible I'm like uh
Starting point is 01:35:33 negligible okay it wasn't as hard as I thought it'd be for you guys Massachusetts Massachusetts is easy Massachusetts Massachusetts Massachusetts Massachusetts Massachusetts Massachusetts
Starting point is 01:35:45 Massachusetts I'm gonna try to come up with an entire show where we have like all this weird list and then I'll hit you guys with like the spelling specifically is one that took me a while specifically
Starting point is 01:36:00 specifically some of them are so dumb and they're spelled so oddly anemone anemone yeah that's good from uh anemone am i saying that right yeah you're saying like nemo yeah anemone i sometimes can't i sometimes i i think that i don't properly hear what i'm supposed like how it's supposed to sound or whatever. I can't mimic it when I hear it from somebody else. Anemone? No, just certain words.
Starting point is 01:36:30 Worcestershire? Worcestershire. I hate Worcestershire. Is it Worcestershire? Worcestershire. I call it Worcestershire. Worcestershire. Worcestershire.
Starting point is 01:36:38 Worcestershire. I hate that word. That's a weird one. Why would we even... Why would we just... How about steak sauce? Yes! Call this fucking steak sauce. it's called steak sauce but the first time i saw it i'm like the what is this yeah it's impossible this year we're sure yeah that's not a good one colonel
Starting point is 01:36:58 colonel colonel colonel why is it spelled colonel oh i don't know that one's done it's it's a kernel well i so complicated red read lead lead we're weird english is weird man and then even like door moon door door like doorknob door yeah what's wrong with door d-o-o-r and then moon m-o-o-n also two o's in the middle one makes a totally different sound ooh door door moon does it really though
Starting point is 01:37:36 yeah moon and door o-o-o-r laughing laughing laughing laughing somebody just came to that i think i like that everyone's noticing how high our education level like like proper education level
Starting point is 01:37:59 is yeah it's horrible it's not good it's not good it's not it's great good news is nobody's listening the race to zero followers you spit on yourself yeah i don't think it got on the mic oh okay bro yeah i made you guys some new words tomorrow some difficult ones at the end of the podcast yeah i'll send uh settlegate a bunch of different things like i'll just find weird things like like the lead and lead that sort of thing uh red read like through though thought like they're all like you know what i mean yeah yeah i do and then there's like uh there's's like, there's a couple words that all have a bunch of the same letters, but they don't rhyme. I think it's like comb, tomb. Yep. Bomb.
Starting point is 01:38:56 Yeah. Like, there's a bunch, and you're like, how do they not sound the same? Like, they have a bunch of the same letters, but they don't go together. It's very odd I'm not going to find it what about some words that you can spell them the same way as front words or backwards race car oh yeah race car is a good one race car
Starting point is 01:39:13 is one of those oh yeah race car spells race car backwards those are called palindromes palindromes that's not easy to say ever but that's what it's called it's a palindrome have you guys seen the movie palindrome sounds like a finishing wrestling move it does the palindromes that's not easy to say ever it's not but that's what it's called it's a palindrome have you guys seen the movie talent room sounds like a finishing wrestling move it does the palindrome that is yeah yeah coming off the top rope maybe i don't know yeah but have you seen tenant i feel like that's a movie we're seeing by now yeah absolutely that was amazing that movie's
Starting point is 01:39:37 great you haven't seen it it's a movie i have to see a second time because like after i finish like oh there's a lot i don't know how many times i need to watch it to figure it out yeah probably a lot yeah i think it was it was close to the level of inception i watched inception like four or five times i like really cool okay before we finish what do you guys think happened at the end of inception do you think that he was still dreaming still dreaming yep that's that's what i thought yeah i was thinking he was still dreaming too, which just is so fucking sad. Yeah.
Starting point is 01:40:08 I remember like, uh, there was like an article somewhere that said that there was actually another indicator that showed when he was dreaming and when he wasn't, it was like, he like had a ring on or something, like something small that you couldn't catch unless you really were looking for it.
Starting point is 01:40:23 Christopher Nolan would do that. Yeah. It's a good movie though. It for it. Christopher Nolan would do that. Yeah. It's a good movie, though. It was great. Good shit today, guys. That was fun. I love these conversations. Take us on out of here, Andrew.
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Starting point is 01:41:24 Yeah, it worked pretty good. Yeah, mine did, too. I put it in this raspberry Zevia tea. Yeah. You put it in. Well, don't put it in a full monster because it could fizz over. But yeah, try it out, guys. I didn't see any on Instagram and YouTube.
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