Mark Bell's Power Project - Goal Setting 101 ft. John Assaraf | Power Bite

Starting point is 00:00:00 Podcast fan, welcome back to Mark Bell's Power Project podcast hosted by Mark Bell, co-hosted by Nsema Iyang and myself, Andrew Zaragoza. We haven't done this in a while, but today's podcast is a power bite. These are shortened clips from a full length episode highlighting a certain topic or subject that we thought was really important, but might've gotten lost because it was deep inside a two, three hour conversation. So these are small little tidbits that are easy to digest. They're really good for sending to family members and friends that maybe don't have

Starting point is 00:00:30 the time or patience to sit down and listen to us yap at each other for a couple hours. This is a really cool clean cut little segment of each one of those podcasts. Today, we're actually going back to episode 409 with our homie, John Aseroff. He's just an amazing guy. He got us super inspired. And everybody knows that setting goals is super important. It's vital. It's super beneficial.

Starting point is 00:00:54 But nobody actually talks about how to set a goal. How big should a goal be? How small should a goal be? And that's what this topic covers today. So I hope you guys like it. If you do, please reach out to us at MarkBell'sPowerProject on Instagram, at MBPowerProject on Twitter. Let us know what you guys think and enjoy the show. I love this quote that you shared from one of your mentors where you said, what would you have to believe about yourself to achieve your goals? And I think

Starting point is 00:01:19 there's a lot of things that people currently aren't believing about themselves that they could go in and audit and reassess and look at them. And also, I think if you're being honest with yourself, you can recognize that there's probably not a lot of truth to whatever the statement is. I can't lose weight. You know, I'm always going to be fat. I'm always going to be this. I'm always going to be that.

Starting point is 00:01:40 If you're being logical, I think you could look at it and say, well, that doesn't really that's not a great way to talk to myself, first of all. But secondly, if I'm being honest, I can probably make some changes to head in a better direction. Absolutely. One of my, again, one of my beliefs is in 2020, all of the how-to that we want is already here. Unless you're trying to figure out how to colonize Mars, you really don't need to be innovative. So how to have a great relationship, we know how. How to lose weight and keep it up, we know how. How to get better at jiu-jitsu, we know how.

Starting point is 00:02:17 How to build a podcast, a business. How to get healthier, happier, wealthier, we know all the how. The how is not the problem. There's only three other things that will step in We know all the how. The how is not the problem. There's only three other things that will step in our way from the how. So let's assume that knowledge and skills is an impediment or impediment to us achieving our success. We don't know the how. We know we can find that out. The first reason people will not take action is they have limiting beliefs. reason people will not take action is they have limiting beliefs. The second is self-image. They actually don't see themselves actually achieving that goal. And then the third is fear. And there's

Starting point is 00:02:54 50 different types of fears that will hold people back. Those are the only four things holding people back. One of those four things, all of which we know exactly how to overcome them. Can you talk to us about some of your techniques, unless this is all part of it, about priming your brain for success? Sure. When I wake up every morning after my meditation, I do something called priming my brain. When I go into my bathroom, on my mirror are my goals. Not just my goals, you know, for the year, but my goals for my life. So I have it laminated right on my mirror, and I do something called brush and prime. Why? Well, brush and prime. Why? Well, I know that when my brain sees those words, when I repeat those words,

Starting point is 00:03:57 as I'm brushing my brain, brushing my teeth, I'm getting my brain to focus on what I have chosen I want to trade my life for, for health, wealth, relationships, career, business, fun experiences, my vision, my goals, etc. And then if I sit down for a few moments and I prime my brain every single day, does that not give my brain an instruction that this is important to me? Yes. Now, our brain works on a hierarchy of four things. Number one is survival. Number two is avoidance of pain or discomfort. Number three, which is the important one here, is conservation of energy. So anytime I repeat something over and over and over again, it doesn't make a difference if it's a physical move or a mental move. Anytime I repeat something, positive, negative, constructive, destructive, empowering, disempowering, brain doesn't care. Our brain says, okay, you keep doing this,

Starting point is 00:04:46 you know, every day, every week, every month. Our brain says, I'm just going to make this automatic. I'm going to create a pattern that actually focuses on this automatically so you don't have to spend so much time doing it. But I do it anyway. I reinforce it. So I review it.

Starting point is 00:05:02 If you were to look on my cell phone, if you were to go to my audio section of my cell phone, let me, I'll show you, you'll see a library and on my library, my playlist is my ELB, my exceptional life blueprint. Not only do I take the goals and vision that I have and the beliefs required to achieve them, I record them and listen to them every single day. So I have visuals, I have auditory, I have kinesthetic materials to imprint language patterns onto my subconscious mind. So priming your brain is being deliberate about your software. Priming your brain is being deliberate about your focus, your attention, and then your behaviors. So if I can get my mental and emotional and

Starting point is 00:05:55 physical aligned and working in synchronicity, I'm priming my brain on all levels to be able to get this thing I call my body into action every single day. And how far out should those goals actually be though? Like, you know, like, like how safe is it for me to write on, you know, the goals I want to be a billionaire or whatever it may be, but instead, would it be safer to say, I want to make a hundred thousand dollars a year in the next five years or by, you know, five years from now? I guess I don't want to say, I want to make $100,000 a year in the next five years or by five years from now? I guess I don't want to say like, is it safer to hold yourself back? But like, how legit do these goals have to be? Or should they be?

Starting point is 00:06:36 It depends on your knowledge, your skills, your awareness, and your ability to manage your emotions. So let's understand that when you set a goal that is a billion-dollar goal and you don't have the knowledge, you don't have the skills, you don't have the ability to manage your emotions, you don't have the ability to focus, you don't know the strategies, the tactics, a part of your brain is going to activate and go, bullshit, you're never going to achieve that. Now, if you don't understand that it's the Einstein part of your brain that chooses the vision and the goals,

Starting point is 00:07:12 but it's your Frankenstein brain that's responsible to check what's going on at the deeper recesses of your mind and find any discrepancies between the goal and the vision and your knowledge, your skills, your beliefs, etc. If you don't understand what's happening in your own mind, don't set that goal. Because if you recall, the number one priority is survival. Number two priority of the brain is to avoid any pain or discomfort, which means any mental, emotional, or physical or financial pain or discomfort. means any mental, emotional, or physical or financial pain or discomfort. So when our brain feels and sees this discrepancy, it's going to trigger self-talk that is negative. It's going to trigger emotions that most people don't know how to manage. So for the untrained person, I say,

Starting point is 00:07:57 don't set a goal that scares you so much that you're going to freeze. Set a goal maybe just outside your comfort zone where you say, okay, let me take a little bit of action. So it all depends. Now, let me give you a simple example of somebody who sets a goal that they absolutely don't know how to achieve, but we can change in two seconds. Let's say you set a goal for becoming a billionaire, and it's a far-fetched goal. You have no idea how to achieve it. You don't have the knowledge, you don't have the skills, you don't have the beliefs, you don't have the habits. Zero.

Starting point is 00:08:30 And what if a friend of yours says, wow, I really love that vision. My friend can get you on the phone with Richard Branson tomorrow, and he might be interested in being your partner. Do you all of a sudden have hope again? your partner? Do you all of a sudden have hope again? And the answer is yeah. In a nanosecond, you have hope again because all of a sudden, somebody else has the knowledge, the skills, and the money to maybe make it happen. So in a second, you can change somebody's physiology and you can change somebody's perspective and their emotions. But for the untrained person, no, don't set a billion-dollar goal unless you also know how to manage your state and what's going on within your ears and within your heart. We can end up beating ourselves up when we have some conflict, some internal conflict.

Starting point is 00:09:16 You know, we set a goal. We got the stuff written on the mirror. We're all fired up. We're excited. We're trying to do the best we can every single day. But what happens, you know, when you, when you fall short, how do you personally, how do you work your way out of that? How do you work your way through that without, without, you know, having a lot of negative self-talk about yourself?

Starting point is 00:09:37 Practice. First and foremost, I try to operate as much as I can in a space of no blame, no shame, no guilt, no justification. Just operate from a space of I set a goal. I separate myself and who I am from the goal. So I surrender to that happening the way it does. Now, I always look at what could I have done differently in my approach? What can I have done differently in my approach? What can I have done differently in my behavior? So I'm always looking for the process instead of me as an individual.

Starting point is 00:10:13 And even, you know, when my kids were young, I used to tell them, hey, listen, that behavior is not acceptable. You I love. And so whenever we're looking at achieving a goal, if it's an achievable goal and I didn't achieve it, I look to understand what caused me not to achieve it. If I took action, then something must have not been accurate in the actions that I took. Because if my intention is pure in wanting to achieve it and my commitment is there, then what happened in the approach and in the behavior that I need to modify? Did I not act fast enough, too fast? Was the strategy wrong? Were the tactics wrong? Did I not put enough time or energy?

Starting point is 00:10:58 What happened? I try to analyze what happened. Whenever there's an effect, I never, ever, ever focus on the effect. I focus on cause. Right? So whenever we're looking at effect, everything in our physical world, everything is an effect. So the question is effect of what? And the answer is the effect of my beliefs.

Starting point is 00:11:23 Yes. Effect of my emotions. Yes. Effect of my habits. Yes. Effect of my emotions. Yes. Effect of my habits. Yes. Effect of my behaviors. Yes. Yes.

Starting point is 00:11:29 So I'm trying to look at what caused the effect that I didn't want. And I tweak there as opposed to focusing on the effect.

Mark Bell's Power Project - Goal Setting 101 ft. John Assaraf | Power Bite

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