Mind Pump: Raw Fitness Truth - 1371: Strategies for Massive Weight Loss, the Benefits of Creatine for Women, How to Deal With Anxiety & More

Episode Date: September 2, 2020

In this episode of Quah (Q & A), Sal, Adam & Justin answer Pump Head questions about how to help really overweight clients lose weight, whether creatine benefits women, ways to deal with anxiety, and ...how to prevent becoming burnt out as a trainer. Squatch needs more manly scents. (5:13) Fun Facts with Justin. (8:00) The moment that Sal’s world was shattered! (8:49) No medicine can replace a healthy body. (11:53) The Andrews Family has returned home. (21:30) Mind Pump Recommends, Cobra Kai on Netflix. (28:37) How Sal used the Joovv light to assist with his recent back pain. (30:52) Sal is back trolling on social media. (33:36) Justin recommends Bill & Ted Face the Music on video on demand. (35:48) Will baby Di Stefano be a boy or a girl? (38:32) #Quah question #1 – Can you please share your success stories of helping really overweight clients and how you helped them? It is such a different journey than training athletes and people who just want to lose a few pounds. (53:56) #Quah question #2 – Creatine for women, yay, or nay? (1:07:38) #Quah question #3 – What is your go-to thing for dealing with anxiety? From simple stimulation or something major that life throws at you, like Justin’s evacuation? (1:11:34) #Quah question #4 – As a trainer, how do you prevent yourself from burning out? Especially emotionally? (1:19:48) Related Links/Products Mentioned Visit Squatch for an exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners! *Promo code “MINDPUMP” at checkout for 20% off sitewide* Coronavirus latest: 94% of COVID deaths in US had underlying conditions, CDC says Nearly 30 Years After Chernobyl Disaster, Wildlife Returns to the Area Cobra Kai | Netflix Official Site Visit Joovv for an exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners! Bill & Ted Face the Music (2020) - Rotten Tomatoes Pros and Cons of Creatine – Mind Pump Blog What is Creatine? - Mind Pump Blog Exercise For More Than Just Aesthetics – Mind Pump Blog Mind Pump Podcast - YouTube Mind Pump Free Resources People Mentioned Tim Kennedy (@timkennedymma)  Instagram Jessica Di Stefano (@thetraininghour)  Instagram

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Starting point is 00:00:00 If you want to pump your body and expand your mind, there's only one place to go. MIND, MIND, MIND, MIND, MIND, MIND, with your hosts. Salda Stefano, Adam Schaefer, and Justin Andrews. In this episode of Mind Pump, the world's top ranked fitness health and entertainment podcast, we're number one. We talk about fitness and health. We answer people's questions, but the way we open the episode was with an introductory portion where we talk about current events We talk about scientific studies. We talk about each other So we have a lot of fun in this episode. I'm gonna give you a breakdown by the way if you want to go through the episode and see the topics
Starting point is 00:00:40 Time stamped so you can fast forward to your favorite parts. Go to MindPumpPodcast.com. So the intro portion lasted 49 minutes. Here's what went down in today's episode. We start out by talking about deep-sea goats milk. This is a scent by Dr. Squatch. Amazing soap. They make products that smell incredible and are all natural. And yeah, that was a real scent.
Starting point is 00:01:04 It's one of my favorite ones. Manly sins. You gotta check it out. And because you listen to Mind Pump, you'll actually get a massive discount. So here's what you gotta do. Go to drsquatch.com-minepump. That's DRSQATCH.com-forwards-minepump.
Starting point is 00:01:20 Use the code Mind Pump, get 20% off the entire site. Then we talked about the CDC updating their website page, showing that only 6% of people who died from COVID died just from COVID. Everybody else had at least two to three co-morbidities, and this is causing a big hubbub right now. Ground breaking news. Then we talk about Justin being able to go home.
Starting point is 00:01:45 Excellent. He's no longer evacuated from his home. They're safe and they are there. Thank you. It feels so good. Then we talk about Cobra Kai. This is the show on Netflix. It kind of follows the lives of Johnny and Daniel Sun
Starting point is 00:02:02 after Karate Kid. It's really good. It'll give you the feels. It gives me the feels the whole time. Then I tell him about my back pain. I hurt my back squatting super lightweight. Is it because I'm old, maybe. But I did use red light therapy on my back
Starting point is 00:02:15 and it did help. Now, red light therapy can help muscles recover. It gets your skin to produce more ATP through its mitochondria. That means your skin will look younger. It's proven to reduce the appearance of stretch marks and wrinkles. It actually helps regrow hair on people who've lost hair. I'm not making this up.
Starting point is 00:02:34 You can look it up yourself. This is all backed by a scientific study. Now the problem is there are a lot of red light companies out there and they're not using the same red lights that are used in studies. Now, Juve uses the best red light panels you'll find anywhere. These are the ones that they actually use in studies. So they are legitimate and because you listen to MindPump, you will get some hookups. So here's what you do. Go to Juve.com.jouvv.com forward slash mind pump. And any order over $500, we'll get a free maps prime program.
Starting point is 00:03:08 Just use the code mind pump. Then I talk about a pastime that I've rekindled these days. Throw rolling social media for fun. It's a good time to do it. Election year's a great time to poke at people. Yeah. Then we talked about the Bill and Ted adventure new movie that's out.
Starting point is 00:03:26 I guess it's pretty good. That's what Justin said. It is good. I'm gonna check that out. And then I talked about the ultrasound, the 3D ultrasound we did on my baby. They are adorable. Thank God they look like their mother.
Starting point is 00:03:37 And I guess the gender. We don't know the gender, but I guess it based off some of the comments that the doctor was given us while they're doing the interest ultrasound. That was 49 minutes, then we got into the question. So here's the first one that we answered. This person wants us to share success stories of how we've helped really overweight people. So if you have a lot of weight to lose and you want to hear our strategies that actually worked long term, don't miss that part of the episode.
Starting point is 00:04:05 The next question, this person wants to know if Crateen is a good supplement for women. The third question, this person wants to know how we deal with anxiety, so we talk about physical and mental anxiety. And the final question, this one's from a trainer. They want to know how we kept ourselves from getting burnt out when we trained lots of clients. T-shirt time. And it's T-shirt time. Oh, shit, Doug, you know it's my favorite time of the week. So this week we had a lot of reviews.
Starting point is 00:04:35 We have four winners for Apple podcasts, five winners for Facebook. The Apple podcast winners are Pat Joyce, The Apple podcast winners are Pat Joyce, Chammu 217, Sound Spirit, and casual movie watcher. For Facebook, we have Oliver Gregorik, Tyler McIntyre, Cam Plants, Danny Nurmi, and Jeff Ferguson, all of your winners. And then they might just read to iTunes at MindPumpMedia.com. That's a lot of names, Doug. That is for sure. And include your shirt size and your shipping address, and we'll get that shirt right out to you.
Starting point is 00:05:11 I saw it sinking over the weekend. You guys had a few ideas that I wanted to pitch to Dr. Squatch in terms of, you know, bringing up their manly sense a little bit. So I was thinking, you know, the night scent of the diesel fuel car exhausts. That's totally a man smell of dad. Fresh mode lawn. I was thinking like WD40, maybe sawdust and bourbon. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:05:35 And I saw like that, like, you know, something I could get behind. Those are manly smells for sure. Folger's coffee in the morning. Yeah. It has to be Folger's. It can't be like a good one. When I think of like, like smells and I think of my dad,
Starting point is 00:05:49 I think of like, like, he used to wear this, this cologne was terrible. Was it brute? No dude. My dad loved brute. Did he like brute? Yeah dude. No my dad got this, I don't remember what was called,
Starting point is 00:05:59 but it was like a cologne and it was in the shape of like a pine tree. Oh yeah. And I think my mom told him once that she liked it. That was it. That's all it takes. Yeah, he just sprayed it on. One time when I was a kid, I sprayed it on my face and it burned my skin.
Starting point is 00:06:13 What is that? Because if it was up to us for what we actually liked to smell, you know, it'd be totally different thing. Yeah, bacon. Right? Rub some bacon. It doesn't like this. Hey, all funny. All joking aside, they're deep sea goat milk.
Starting point is 00:06:28 By the way, it's a funny name for so smell so good. Oh, yeah. They have a name that I didn't know that one. Deep sea goat milk, I wash myself with it in Jessica's immediately glued to me. Just puts her nose on me and just smells me the whole time. They actually have a cologne called Beachwood bourbon. I just realized which I have to try that. Yeah, yeah, you know the, you know,
Starting point is 00:06:48 colognes are, or smells, they invoke feeling, they invoke memory a lot. And I don't know about you guys, but I'm always left like, every time I see something that's like, for men and I use it, no. This isn't, it's just smells like, you know, I don't know, peppermint, sweet, or something like that. Never smells, never gets me excited.
Starting point is 00:07:09 Right, you know what I mean? Yeah, it always says it's kind of real masculine smells. You should say it. How sure you're living here right now. I want to smell good. I want to smell like pupperie. Yeah, yeah. Let's man it up a little bit.
Starting point is 00:07:18 I want to smell good, but I want Jessica to also smell me and be like, oh my god, he's so masculine. So strong. He has an essence about him. You know what I mean my God, he's so masculine, so strong. He has an essence about him. You know what I mean? Meanwhile, you got that gorgeous wig on you. You like that? Yeah, no, it's real.
Starting point is 00:07:31 Low key is distracting. It's, I'm celebr, you know why? I'm wearing the, so for people who are not watching us on YouTube, I'm wearing a white, like, one of the, one of the wigs that got our forefathers. Like a powder wig. Yeah, nice, nice, this is back when putting your hair in a ponytail was actually cool.
Starting point is 00:07:49 Yeah. And it's to celebrate the shirt, dude, that we came out with. I like that, dude. This was, I love fitness, I love freedom. You like that? This is, yeah, it's guys. This is, I inspired this a little bit, right?
Starting point is 00:08:00 Cause I was talking about this kind of stuff. So it's a fitness and freedom shirt with a nice American flag on it. I like that. Available right now on the mind pool. Wasn't that because of syphilis? What? The wigs.
Starting point is 00:08:09 What? Yeah. Oh, wait a minute. Yeah. You did tell me, okay, tell me about this. Yeah, so basically back then syphilis, like one of the symptoms, I guess you lose your hair and stuff,
Starting point is 00:08:20 you know, happens to your skin, your body, all that kind of stuff. And so they would start wearing these wigs and it became like a fashion thing. And then that, that, yeah. And then they just try to keep the tradition of wearing those wigs, but it really started from the syphilis. So they all had them. They were all just a bunch of, yeah,
Starting point is 00:08:37 bunchotty pigs, just sex freaks. Yeah. It's a bunch. That's our forefathers. A bunch of, that's why they walked funny. Yeah. With wooden teeth, dude. You guys, my, this, I don't know why this reminded me of this, but I had this conversation with Jessica over the weekend
Starting point is 00:08:52 that shattered my world, like literally shattered everything. So we were sitting on the couch and we were just having a good time talking about like clients we've trained and laughing about certain things. And you guys know that definitely the back half of my career, I trained a lot of people in advanced age. You know, advanced age, I would consider it over the age of 60. I love that term.
Starting point is 00:09:15 I don't dance. It's exactly. It's better than saying old, right? Pinnacle. So I trained a lot of people and we were talking people, and we were talking about that, and we were talking about Farts, and I said, yeah, dude, I said, man, I trained some of these older people, they would fart during the workouts, because they couldn't control themselves, and they'd do a squat, and they fart every time.
Starting point is 00:09:35 Leg press gets them every time. Yeah, yeah, and she laughed, and she's like, oh yeah, good push. Yeah, she's like, if you train a client for longer than a month, you're gonna hear them fart, I'm like, absolutely. And then I told the story of, I love this woman. I will not say her name, because I will not call her out. But there was this woman I trained in her 80s.
Starting point is 00:09:51 So she was in her mid 80s. She was by the, she was one of the oldest people I'd ever trained. Mm-hmm. And every single, we used to, one of the exercises that we worked up to because of her age and she was deconditioned was to just sit down and stand up off of the bench.
Starting point is 00:10:05 And we worked at different levels. Eventually I got her to sit all the way down on a bench and stand up and that was one of the fundamental exercise we did. But if we did a set, let's say we did a set of, eight to 10 reps, that's usually what we would do. She would far at least three or four times during that set. Every set.
Starting point is 00:10:24 So every set, she would come up and you'd hear, and she'd come up, and she, and I told Jessica, it's like, man, she couldn't control her, you know, she just would far all the time, and it would've been a big deal, I didn't make a big deal about it. And she looks at me and she goes,
Starting point is 00:10:37 because she, now I remember, Jessica used to work in medical offices, so she knows a few thing. And she goes, that wasn't a far-t-sale. I'm like, what? I'm like, what? She goes, yeah wasn't a fart sound. I'm like, what? I'm like, what? She goes, yeah, she's older woman. She was queuing. What's it like, like the same audible power?
Starting point is 00:10:52 She's like, because of the weak pelvic floor muscles and a lot of stuff sitting down and standing up, and she was doing it that much. She goes, that wasn't gas. The reason why it happened so frequently is because, air, what? She queued. Really? Yes, dude. She goes, that wasn't gas. The reason why it happened so frequently is because- There? Why? She quieved.
Starting point is 00:11:06 Really? Yes, dude. Bro, the whole, everything exploded all at once because I remember that this memory was like a, you know, a thing about this woman I trained. Yeah. Not realizing that she was quiefing the whole time. From totally different.
Starting point is 00:11:19 Yeah, really? Every time she- That's a thing. That's what I said. I didn't even know that. Neither did I. What? Did you imagine, put yourself that's what I said. I didn't even know that neither did I Did you a man put yourself on my shoes? Yeah, I Thought that this woman was farting every time. Yeah, it wasn't that any complimenter and say good push It was it was
Starting point is 00:11:38 I did not I did not know that couldn't sleep dude. That's needed that's new to me Yeah, that's a thing apparently. Just could drop in all it's powerful. That's way worse. Yeah, I got something that seems like nobody wants to talk about that I want to bring up. Oh, it's a worst of my creep stories. Yeah, maybe. I don't know. Yeah, probably everybody who's bequeath probably offend everybody the same one, I guess. The CDC came out with new numbers and doesn't seem like anyone's talking about it.
Starting point is 00:12:08 Oh, what do you mean? I want to talk about this. A lot of people are talking about it, they're close it all over the place. So basically what they did is they showed that going through the numbers, and this matches like what they showed in Italy, and in France and other countries,
Starting point is 00:12:22 that a very small percentage of the deaths associated with COVID-19, a very small percentage of those people died who solely had COVID-19. The vast majority had on average, and this is what they showed in Italy, by the way. On average, two to three co-morbidities. So co-morbidities are health issues that can cause complications or challenges like-
Starting point is 00:12:49 That may lead to death. Like diabetes, high blood pressure, dementia, cancer, like things that if you have these things and you get sick- Two to three, it said. Two to three, two point six was the average. That's crazy. Yes. But I mean, this is what we've been seeing
Starting point is 00:13:03 in other countries that if you have comorbidities, your risk, and your older, that's the other thing. A very high percentage of the deaths are for people who are over the age of, I think it was 65 or 75 or something like that. So this is making like big news, because now you have people who are saying that we overreacted with the shutdowns and that we a lot of problems, and it's not nearly as bad as...
Starting point is 00:13:27 Yeah, let's start that conversation. Yeah. You know, like, I think it's appropriate to start having that conversation now. Well, the way I look at it is, you know, that's a different conversation, but the way I look at it is, it's the same that I've always felt about every illness. You gotta be... you have to have a healthy body and a healthy immune system. If you can't rely on Western medicine to cure you, it can never replace, or any medicine can never replace
Starting point is 00:13:55 just a healthy body. Yeah, and that's what it always comes back to speak to. I know I saw, I think it was Tim Kennedy posted a really good post about that. It's really like the answer is to try your best to stay as healthy as possible and to do all the practices necessary to keep your body strong as possible, especially your immune system and everything else. So that's just not a message. The preventative message has never been part of the conversation so far.
Starting point is 00:14:22 No, it feels like it's because it occurred during an election season that it was... Totally got politicized. It's politicized. Yes. So they're using it to, you know, one side's using it one way, the other side's using it another way, which is a little sad. But here's the other thing, the whole world acted this way. Everybody.
Starting point is 00:14:41 Yeah. You know, I don't know. Do you think that's the argument when people say that? So when when you try and say it's political, then everyone's like, get the fuck out of here. It's not political because the entire world is reacting the same way. I could we potentially, in the future, look back and think that this was one of the greatest overreactions of all time? Is that going to, is that a potential? Or do you think we'll look back and say, we behaved, you know, we did the right thing?
Starting point is 00:15:05 Yeah, I think there's always going to be the debate that the reason why it is, you know, there is low as they are is because we took all these precautions. I don't think you can ever win that argument. It's a speculative one. Exactly. So I think that to say it's political, you're always going to have, you know, a group or a large, a large portion of people that will disagree with you and say, it's not the entire world, did it? Everybody's not in on our election, so that's a bunch of bullshit.
Starting point is 00:15:31 And then when you start to debate numbers and we start to see that, oh, maybe it's not as bad as it was, or what we expected it to be, then you're still gonna have that large group of people that are gonna tell you that, yeah, we'll thank God that we locked everything down and that's the reason why it's not as bad as what you thought it was. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:15:47 It's always going to be different perspectives around it. It's that's the thing. It's like you're arguing and debating something that was unknown. And now it's like going back and trying to retrace like how we should have done it better. Yeah. I don't think anybody's going to still have a good solution. Well, one Western nation did not do mass shutdowns, and that's Sweden. And so you can look at Sweden's data
Starting point is 00:16:07 and see how they behaved, what their infection rates look like, their death rates. Now they did, if you compare them to their neighboring Nordic countries, they did have more infections, but the infections came down very quickly, and now they're seeing very little infections, and the way that the people in Sweden behaved,
Starting point is 00:16:28 which I feel like we would have done the same thing. They were informed, and then people started to be responsible. And you started to see that already, remember? Before any shutdowns were happening, you saw it was a huge reduction in people going to places like restaurants and to mass events. People were kind of starting to become more responsible. But-hmm, but yeah, I don't know forever We're ever gonna have a I don't know if that's how the reaction we would have either
Starting point is 00:16:51 I mean when Sweden is what what the size of Sweden and could with a California size yeah Yeah, but then they're also homogenous like everybody Yeah strong community sent to the political like a general there's so much division here, especially right now. I don't see that at all. I see the opposite. I see people, I see one side being like, FU about it, I'm not going to do it. Then the other people being like,
Starting point is 00:17:13 I can't do it too hard on both ends. Yeah, I don't feel that way. I don't think we're anything like Sweden. Well, I know that there's now a lot of pressure on states to open things back up. You're starting to see a lot of people really push them in that direction. In my opinion, it's been, it's always been this,
Starting point is 00:17:29 it's been inform and then allow free people to make those choices themselves and allow free businesses to choose if they want to allow people in their business or not. And then because that's how free society should be. I look at this as good news. I know everybody might be like, yeah, might get still divisive in terms of,
Starting point is 00:17:51 well, we still need to lock everything down. But I look at this as good news. There's not as many people dying. So let's reevaluate now how to deal with this and maybe restructure things so that we can then move on and move forward. We don't have to look back and see how many fuckups there were. Let's just move forward together.
Starting point is 00:18:09 Well, here's my fear is that because of the fear surrounding this, that when a vaccine is introduced, I'm afraid that maybe some states, or I don't even know if the federal government would do this, is make it mandatory to get the vaccine to do anything. Like if you want to fly, if you want to travel, if you want to cross state lines, it's mandatory to get a vaccine. My fear around that is not because I'm afraid of the vaccine necessarily, although I'm always wary over a vaccine that took a year to make, usually it's a 10-year process. The part that I fear is the reaction you're gonna get. I feel like that would get less people to want, to get vaccinated because they feel like
Starting point is 00:18:50 they have to be forced. So I'm wondering if that's gonna be the hope not. How would you even control what you have like a card or something that everybody has to like show before they be in a plane ticket? But I tell you what, I flew this weekend and weird. Yeah. It has to be like a flying, when I flew,
Starting point is 00:19:07 I flew out on Thursday, yeah, Thursday, right? I think it was Thursday. Thursday I flew out and then I came back on Saturday and flying both days felt like what it must have felt like on a week, you know, middle of the week, day in the 70s or something. It was like a ghost town. I mean, I took a picture at one point. Like by yourself on the point. Yeah, they first of all, they don't see anybody next to each other.
Starting point is 00:19:30 The only people that could be next to each other are people that are in the same group. So it has been in wife. If they were traveling together, they would put them together. But if you were by yourself, there's always at least a seat in between you and somebody else. Like, I had nobody in my row. I had one person in front of me diagonally and they kinda do it that way too. So they do a good job of, I just don't know how they're managing. No lines when you're going into it.
Starting point is 00:19:55 Oh, nothing. I mean nothing. You only think I loved it. I just did travel like not too long ago. And it was so easy. Oh, it was quick. It was beyond easy. I mean, you guys know, like what's one of the biggest
Starting point is 00:20:06 nightmares for us when we travel is the car rental. And, you know, I was texting back and forth between Katrina and I landed over in Idaho like it, nine something at night and I'm like, I'm ready to go home and go to my hotel room or whatever. And she's like, well, I hope the cushy always know. I always bitch about the car rental experience. It take forever. Yeah, it's just, I dinosaur age the way they do always know. I always bitch about the car rental experience. I take forever.
Starting point is 00:20:25 Yeah, it's just dinosaur age the way they do it. Everything else we do is so much fast, right? Not like that anymore. Now, I know that I know Jerry set us up for like the executive company thing or what I thought. But I literally walked up. First of all, there's no line. So of course that's sped things up.
Starting point is 00:20:41 But I walk right up. I go up to the, they're just happy to see a customer product. It's felt like that, right? That was on. You want two cars? Guy was super friendly. And I was like, oh, let me get my confirmation number.
Starting point is 00:20:53 And he's like, oh, what's your last, as I'm reaching in my bad to get my confirmation number, I said, oh, shaffer. And he like pulls me up before I can give a car. And he's like, oh, Adam, he's like, okay, here we go. I have a BMW for you. Throws it over to me. And I go, do I have to do anything else?
Starting point is 00:21:05 He goes, no, you're all good. And I go, well, he goes, yeah, do you just go down the hall over here? He go out the main doors. Your car's in that stall. And I go, do I need to go check with anyone else? He goes, no, you're good. That's great.
Starting point is 00:21:16 I swear to God, it was that easy. And then on my car or on my kitchen, it's like, stall B24, walk outside, find the stall, get in the car, take off. Wow. That was it. Hey, speaking of magical. Of good news, Justin.
Starting point is 00:21:30 Yeah. Back in your home. Yeah. Dude, oh my god, you guys, you have no idea, dude. Like I am so beyond words. Like us coming back to our house was like this enormous amount of stress just all of a sudden just melted away. You know, like we spent our entire weekend
Starting point is 00:21:49 just working outside and like staying home. I didn't even leave, dude. We were just like, ah, like, it was like our house was hugging us, you know? Like I was just like sleepy at the best sleep I've had and whole new appreciation, huh? Totally. I saw your post that you did with the boys.
Starting point is 00:22:05 That was cool. Yeah. Now, did you see any, like, was there any, Sutt or Ash or like? There was a lot, yeah. Inside the house that it smelled like smoke or was that okay? No, actually it wasn't too bad. It wasn't too bad.
Starting point is 00:22:16 We weren't, I mean, we weren't like right next to the flames, so we didn't get quite as bad of the smoke. We did get some of the remnants. Definitely our entire lot. It's like about a quarter acre lot of really dense redwood, foliage and whatnot. So we were just out there just trimming and trying to, I don't know, man, I just felt so grateful that I could be there just appreciating my backyard and the dogs actually have their own space. We all had our own space again.
Starting point is 00:22:47 I think it just really got to us, where we were just all on top of each other 24, 7. It's fun, I even tell you guys, so we stayed our last night in the VRBO and we got lucky to get this place because first of all, like he allowed dogs and I appreciate him for, you know, kind of sneak because he didn't normally do it, but he allowed us to bring our dogs and have like a granny unit in the back and this is somewhere in Willow
Starting point is 00:23:13 Glen. What he didn't tell us was that the CalTrain goes right behind the back of the bird and give it elevator the first week. This week you got Caljord going, bro. So we're back there and it's just like, we're like, oh, this is cool, you know, like whatever. It's a nice little backyard set up and then, New, New, New, New, New, New, New, and this happens all, I don't know, like, at least it only went to like midnight, you know?
Starting point is 00:23:39 That was the bonus to that. But so then we got the orders that came out that we were able to come back to our house and we had a few, we had like a week still planned with this guy. And so we kind of, we're like, hey man, we're out. We're going home. Like we're not going to stay, but thank you.
Starting point is 00:24:01 And so we went back and just did you break the deal then and was it okay? Cause I would imagine you signed for longer. Yeah, so we had to kind of negotiate, like, you know, he gave, basically gave like half of it back, which was really noble of him. Like he could have just taken all of it, but. So it was nice of him.
Starting point is 00:24:19 And, and so, yeah, dude, I mean, we got back. I honestly, like, I didn't even know what to do. I just sat there and was just staring at the wall, staring at my backyard, and then me and Courtney were puzzling. And then I was like, it was almost like this weird, like cathartic, I just was taking all the stress and kind of put it all back, almost pieces back together.
Starting point is 00:24:45 You know, it was like this weird metaphor. Like we just like put puzzles together all weekend. That was it. So you think God for the brave men of women that, that way. Stop that liar. I'm so appreciative. And from all over the place too, from like New York,
Starting point is 00:24:59 they flew in people and they brought people from LA, from out of the country. I heard only from Australia. I saw in our forum that somebody was saying that. Wow, really? Yeah, they kind of returned the favor for us flying out there to help them out with the fires. They sent people this way too.
Starting point is 00:25:16 Wow, it was so humbling. It was like, Matt, do you know anybody in the neighborhood? Would everybody okay? Or are there some houses that were affected? Yeah, I do know some people at Losser Homes. So, you know, that's sort of the bitter end of it where, you know, you're like, yeah, like you're so,
Starting point is 00:25:32 like elated and like, you know, grateful. And then you're just like, oh my God, my heart, you know, goes out for those people that didn't have anything to come back to. But, you know, it's, it definitely happened. Like there's, there was over 700 homes, you 700 homes in our community that were lost. But Boulder area, was that guy hit the hardest? Is that what?
Starting point is 00:25:52 Boulder and then up like Empire Grade and over in Bonnie Dune and kind of coming in to Felton and then Lomon. I know somebody who lost the house. Oh really? Yeah. And one of the camps, I went to as a kid that I really loved
Starting point is 00:26:08 and I wanted my boys to go to completely ashes. Oh wow. The entire thing, and that was heartbreaking. What's that one state park that's over there with this really old? Big basin, they're burned, right? All, yeah. Now the entire thing.
Starting point is 00:26:19 Oh, big basin burned out, yeah. Now hold on, did the, because they have some trees there that are like thousands of years old. Did they get burned? Yeah. Oh, yeah, but you know, a lot of the trees too though, the thing about red was they burned
Starting point is 00:26:33 on the inside and so like the structure of the trees still there. So you're going to see a lot of like trees still standing, but like they're like burned through and hollowed out. Do you know, I was watching. I was in one of my, I loved to get you know, anytime I get an opportunity, if I want, I don't let you guys, you guys have TV, you watch when like the wife isn't around, like the, the TV, the one thing that can turn and I don't like, she does not want to watch with me is the nature channel stuff.
Starting point is 00:26:57 Mm-hmm. And I just let's like, I love to get high to watch that. Yeah, I will, I will. I want with you on that. Yeah, I watch like a whole like I think 12 episodes or day like in a row just sitting there watching the nature channel. And it was, they did a Chernobyl. They showed, looks like, down, did you see,
Starting point is 00:27:16 have you seen what's going on? This is really cool. I haven't seen this, but I've heard that like just updated. Wildlife is coming. Yes, yes. And only a matter, they said within like 10 years, if they showed this like photo, I mean, it's completely looks like a forest now.
Starting point is 00:27:32 I mean, because obviously, because now isn't it not safe to go there for like a hundred thousand years in person? Yes, so completely no humans, we completely just eradicated the place. So with, I forget what the radius is of what, but it was, it used to be But it up next to this this this rainforest and because we've left because humans are completely left
Starting point is 00:27:51 And even though it's unsafe for us to be there the trees now and plants and like has just overgrown and growing in the buildings And taking over and now it's like some of the most wild wildlife in the area have all migrated to now. They're still hell of radiation. I know I see I feel like there's so many potential sci-fi movies hundreds of years it'll still Thousands that we that they say it's unsafe for are you gonna make Godzilla or something out of there now? I don't know, but I mean Supposedly all the green and the trees are supposed to be like canceling out some of that That was what was really interesting. It was like how strong and resilient
Starting point is 00:28:30 that the forest was to be able to come back in an area like that. Yeah, I just thought that was pretty cool. That's very good. Well speaking of TV, I finally started watching Cobra Kai. Yeah! Dude, I haven't seen talent. So I watched the first few episodes on YouTube when it came out. So good.
Starting point is 00:28:46 But I saw that it dropped on Netflix. Yeah. Now you said- Both seasons. So I didn't see both seasons, I only saw one. No, no, no, both seasons, four. On Netflix. Yes.
Starting point is 00:28:55 Oh, that's weird. Dude, they did such it, so Jessica's like, ah, I hate this or whatever. Fine, don't watch it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But it's such a throwback to everything from the original karate kid, the storyline. Well, I used this in the main guys. Dude, they weaved it in, right? Like so masterfully.
Starting point is 00:29:11 Like it still gave you the feels which is really hard to do if you're trying to recreate like something that you grew up with. So many feels. Yeah. Throughout the whole movie, the whole series, you just every episode, they'll do some kind of a throwback. And you're just like,
Starting point is 00:29:25 the characters didn't change. You know, they still had that same mentality, but they were able to now kind of show how the mentality's different with the kids. And then how, I just love that dynamic. Johnny, who was my favorite. He was the asshole bully. So what's interesting about Cobra Kai is that
Starting point is 00:29:42 he has a completely different, yeah, they reversed the ropes. No, he has a different perception of what happened. Oh, yes. Like he's like, this kid comes into town, takes my girl, sucker punches me. Yeah. Three months later, puts a hose, prays this with water and it's like, well, that kind of happened. And then you see why he became an asshole too. Like, because his home, you know, like, home life where he's got this dad that was like this total dick, you know, like, home life where he's got this dad that was like this total dick, you know, to him and he's trying to escape and like, trying to build himself up as this, you know,
Starting point is 00:30:09 empower himself with, you know, karate. And it's just interesting, because like, you don't take his perspective, you just only got from Dan. He's hilarious though, in the series. His character's so funny because he's so like, not politically correct. Yeah, and such a...
Starting point is 00:30:24 Unfiltered. But a likable, he's like a likable, uh, asshole. Yeah. And just said shit. You're like, I thought the few episodes I watched, they did, they kind of reversed the roles, right? They make Johnny kind of like the, uh, the, uh, the asshole. Now it's an adult. They're actually, they go back and forth with it. They're both likable. Yeah, they're both flawed, both likable. Okay. Yeah. So you like them both, but Johnny's just hilarious and the whole thing
Starting point is 00:30:46 I thought they did a great job. I loved it. Yeah, I can't wait to watch to finish the whole thing. Yeah, anyway, so I hurt my back Friday Oh god, what did you do there? Overreaching old man story. No, no, this isn't definitely an old man story So I went light. This is not what happens normally. I went really light and all I did was Push the the depth a little was push the depth a little bit, push the mobility a little bit. It was trying to work on my depth, on my squat, and get control at the bottom or whatever, trying to do all that.
Starting point is 00:31:14 Rack up the bar and I'm like, huh, that feels funny. No pain now, but I'm like, okay, let's see what happens. It feels a little unstable. You hear that feeling in your back where you're like, it just feels kind of unstable. Yeah, like something's a lot. Yeah, what's going on?
Starting point is 00:31:26 Anyway, next morning I wake up and I'm like, this is, I'm asking my pregnant wife to help me out of bed. The hell's going on, dude. I think it's my QL and my so-as that might be Hurtin. But yeah, dude, I'm just, I know you weren't probably maxing out or going really heavy, but were you going heavy considering the depth?
Starting point is 00:31:43 No, dude, I went hell of light. Oh wow. I had 135 on the bar. Oh wow. And I'm playing with depth. That's two weeks off. Yeah, exactly. Were you distracted all because that's what happened to me
Starting point is 00:31:52 when I got hurt? No dude, I'm bracing my core, pay attention to my feet. I got no excuse for you then. Yeah, it's trying to help you out right now. I'm trying to tell you about it. I have no idea what the hell is going on. It's very frustrating, but so all weekend, I'm doing these, you know, I'm trying to get out,
Starting point is 00:32:07 it's like, it's so embarrassing too. I'm watching TV in the couch. I'm like, oh, I gotta get up to go pee, so I gotta like, lift up one leg, you know? Grab my leg, use my legs momentum to, huh? Damn, it had you that good, huh? Dude, even right now, I still feel it a little bit, but I do think it's those muscles,
Starting point is 00:32:22 because it feels deep inside, but I don't know. But I did use the Juve light, so I have one, and I don't injure myself often, and I did use it on my back, and it's deep. Now here's a thing, right? It's a deep muscle, QL is way inside the body, so I'm like, I don't know if this is gonna help me or not. It actually did.
Starting point is 00:32:42 How do you... Yeah, the Juve has both the near and the far infrared, right? Yeah, so I designed to penetrate. I used it a couple times and it did make it different. Now Jessica's been using it regularly to prevent stretch marks and some of the side effects she's getting, is her skin is looking really good. That's what I'm good.
Starting point is 00:32:57 You feel like it's glowing. Yes. I noticed that. That's the biggest thing. I noticed my skin morning, you know, so I know that we've talked about all the science that supports all the other benefits, but personally, and I think probably at all of us, I probably have used it the most because of my skin.
Starting point is 00:33:12 It's sort of, it takes years off for your skin in terms of the way it looks. Yeah, yeah, it's pretty, it's pretty wide. It gives you this weird glow. It gives you like a glow, almost like, like when you have, you've been out in the sun like a couple of days and you have like kind of a nice tan that kind of glow look to you.
Starting point is 00:33:24 It gives you that kind of glow look. And then it totally suppressed my psoriasis if I'm consistent with it. Totally. But anyway, because I was at home and my back was kind of hurting, so I wasn't doing a lot of moving, I went back to an old thing that I used to do back in the day for fun.
Starting point is 00:33:40 I was on social media trolling people. Oh, yeah. Oh, what a good time that is. I get, yeah, everyone's like, I get, yeah. No, he's more than I am. Oh, what a good time that is. Yeah, everyone's like, I love that. Yeah, no, he's more than I am. It's not a past time for me. I think I got him started, right? I kind of started the fire with Sal on that.
Starting point is 00:33:53 And he's like, oh, this is kind of dude. I'm gonna tell you right now, election year is prime for trolling. All you gotta do is wait for a news post or article and go in there and just say first to comment say something that Couldn't be can be interpreted as inflammatory. You don't want to say anything crazy because it's there's records out there But you want to say something in a way that you know is gonna piss people off and then just walk away I just let it burn and then dude an hour later
Starting point is 00:34:22 I see like 50 notifications and there's like people arguing underneath the comet that I I did that like a hundred times as we get it. It was such a good time Like it was like a post on Trump and so underneath that I put orange man is bad And I know that triggers people That's like a thing that that's like a thing that assholes will say to trigger you know the left for example And I get like a bunch of, baaah, arguing back and forth. It's a good job, dude.
Starting point is 00:34:49 Oh wow. In fact, if you go on Instagram, I think when you follow people, can't you follow the comments they put on other posts on Instagram? Okay, is there a way to do that? Yeah, absolutely. So one can follow what you can follow.
Starting point is 00:34:59 Yeah, you can follow what, of course you can. Yeah, no, no. Well, that's how I got in trouble with the like and booty picks and stuff. Yeah, that's how I found in trouble with the liking booty pics. Yeah, that's how I found that out. I forgot about that. We had that happen to little, was that Katrina's friends? Yeah, I was like, Katrina's friends would be like sending her post of like, you know,
Starting point is 00:35:15 Adam commented this on this girl's page and liked this for like that. And I was like, how the fuck does she know that? She's having the Instagram. I'm sure Katrina's response is probably like, yeah, no. Yeah, well, yeah, that's the irony of all of it She like I know we did it. She like hey, could you least give me a heads up when you're gonna do some that shift So when my friends send it to me. I don't have that act like I don't know already. So that come on man Are you kidding me right now? Tell your fucking weird friends? They stop following everything I'm doing
Starting point is 00:35:38 I think ahead you know me gotta leave comments like this this picture is immoral Hard it yeah comments like this this picture is immoral. I know you heart it. Yeah, but you still like it. Yeah, dude. So Bill and Ted's. Oh, yeah, that came out. It came out. I almost watched it, but I didn't watch it. It was a good.
Starting point is 00:35:53 Well, I liked it. I thought that it it followed kind of the same feel as the other two movies. And I hadn't watched the bogus journey one in a while. And I watched that after I watched this with my kids And was like, oh wow, like there's some like unPC parts of this the old one completely So they cleaned all the PC stuff up and this one had a little bit of that which didn't quite ruin it for me because I I don't know it's still kept the same kind of silly vibe to it but
Starting point is 00:36:24 Yeah, there was there was this character that he was like this robot. He was really funny in the movie. So there was a few parts that really won me over, but it was just silly, light-hearted, and something that's like, if you wanna get away from all the burning murder in Mayhem, you know, go to the show.
Starting point is 00:36:41 Is it so it's worth it? Yeah. All right, so far, bro, you've been hitting 100% with your movie recommendations. So far. So you've been hunting? I don't know.
Starting point is 00:36:49 So here's a thing. Adam's 50, you're 100 feet. What? If you take a new account, the other people talk about it. No, no, no, you're 50%. Get out of here. Get out of here.
Starting point is 00:36:57 You recommend sometimes I'm like, this is not that bad. What? Just in a hundred. You know why? You don't even watch the ones I recommend. I don't know what you're talking about. That's because you're 50%.
Starting point is 00:37:04 We don't even know. No, no, no. You're not even letting the ones I recommend. Oh, you're talking about. That's because you're 50%. We don't even know, no, no, no. You're not even allowed to add this conversation. Doug, Doug, I hope Doug will back me up on it. You and Doug match. You guys both. We both have good taste. Exactly.
Starting point is 00:37:15 Thank you, Doug. Thank you, Doug. Here's what it is. I, Justin has the same level of geekiness that I have when it comes to. Okay, so I will give you this. Justin, Justin's weird humor aligns better with your weird humor. It's not just that.
Starting point is 00:37:29 It's also that the nostalgia pieces, like when I walk, like for example, Kobakai, if I wasn't so nostalgic about Karate Kid, I would watch, I mean, like this is not that well made. But because I'm a geek about Karate Kid, the whole time I'm watching I'm getting the chills and emotional. Yeah, exactly. I'm a geek about karate kid the whole time I'm watching I'm getting the chills and emotional. Yeah Doug and I have different standards like I want like something that's well written. There's there's there's great dialogue in it There's great acting like that too, but yeah, you know sometimes you know, it gets too dramatic Get out of here with that nonsense. That's 50's not bad. Yeah, you can hold on hold on just that you also got fell a little emotional watching
Starting point is 00:38:05 Yes, you know, that was such a part of my childhood. Yes, it was crazy Yes, when he gets the car we puts up the thing and it's a co-bro card. Yeah, and then mr. Miyagi. I mean did that guy I love that I give recommendations that anybody at any age could watch and they're like hey That was a good flick where you guys you if you did not watch Karate Kid, you're not liking Cobber Kai. Yeah, whatever. Yeah. I don't care. I'm just talking to the cool people. Everybody else, though. Everybody else listen to Adam.
Starting point is 00:38:30 Hey, so, so, did I tell you guys that we did one of those advanced ultra sounds for the baby? You ever seen those advanced? The 3D ones. Did you guys do one? Yeah, it's weird. I think we did it.
Starting point is 00:38:40 Yeah. So we went to do one, because now we don't know what the gender of the baby is or the sex of the baby and that's cause we want to be surprised or whatever. But you know, we haven't done really any ultra sounds that aren't necessary, but we were sitting around, I'm like, you wanna do one of those 3D ones
Starting point is 00:38:59 just see what the baby looks like? And she's like, yeah, let's do it. So we booked one and we go in there and I tell the guy right away, I'm like, we don't wanna know the sex. Yeah, it blurred out. Yeah, just don't tell us the sex of the baby, right? So we're looking, first of all, my baby's adorable.
Starting point is 00:39:17 That's 100%. Objective. Obviously. I have no bias, okay, but just a very cute baby. If I say so myself. But as he's going through and he's making comments about the baby, I just a very cute baby. I have to say so myself. But as he's going through, and he's making comments about the baby, I think he let it slip.
Starting point is 00:39:29 There was a comment that let it slip that I think it's a boy. Oh my, what do you say? So he's going through the, in looking at the limbs of the baby, and he goes, wow, he goes, oh, look at that, you go, no, no, hold on a second. He goes, I'll let you finish.
Starting point is 00:39:42 Yeah, I already see where this is going. He goes, he goes, look at that calf. He goes, that's it. Wow, he goes, hold on a second. He goes, I'll let you finish. Yeah, I already see where this is going. He goes, he goes, look at that calf. He goes, that's it. Wow, he goes, look at those calves. Now first of all, one of the reasons why Mary Jessica and had a baby with her is because she has amazing calves. She's got incredible calf genetics, offsets mind a little bit. So there's hope.
Starting point is 00:39:58 I was hoping for the same thing. For the future, did she have natural calves too? She's got great calves. You can't get great calves in the legs. How's your boy's calf so far? And your boy's analyze it looks like you're seeing like three lanes. That's what I thought you had. Wait, that's not a cab.
Starting point is 00:40:10 I was waiting for you. Hold on, that's not a cab. I was like, yeah, no, that's what happened. So he's going through and he's like, oh, and he goes, wow, he's like, this is a cute baby, a very sturdy cute baby. Now, you don't say sturdy about a girl. No, no, nobody says sturdy. That's a compliment for a boy. Stoic. Like a sturdy. Yeah, nobody says sturdy. That's a compliment for a boy.
Starting point is 00:40:25 Stoic, like a sturdy. Yeah, if you're little boys walking around right now and we were all sitting around and I said, oh man, Max, he's built sturdy. You'd be like proud, right? If he was a little girl, and I was like, man, your daughter's built sturdy. You're like, what the hell?
Starting point is 00:40:39 He's like, hey dad. Yeah. All right, she's sturdy. So he said sturdy about my baby, which makes me think it slipped that the male, a male word came out. At least I hope he said that. Oh my God.
Starting point is 00:40:56 Like, hey, man, what's wrong with you? I don't know. My sister's nickname was tanking. You know what I'm saying? That's not like a real feminine nickname for sure. That's right. But it was that because she was just, she was just, she was a bulldozer, dude.
Starting point is 00:41:05 She would just, she was a tank. I mean, she had, she had been in the hospital for stitches twice before the age of two. You know, so she was just bulldozed everything. Well, that's different. Neces like that too. Yeah. Just like slamming everything. It's crazy when they're like, so she was like that.
Starting point is 00:41:19 That was her nickname at one, two years old. And it's crazy how you, you can already get a glimpse of what they may be like as they get older because when she played sports, man, my sister was ejected for red cards. Oh, she would just, oh, she played so physical, man. And I remember my little brother's only a couple of years younger. And I'm a good 10, 10, 13 years older than both of them. So I was always, you know, kicking the soccer ball around and teaching them. And when I would try and play physical with the both of them that teach them, you gotta use your body and try and show them how to be physical.
Starting point is 00:41:48 Oh, my little brother would fall down and cry and didn't wanna play what she would just give it right back to me. So you saw it even at a really young age and she grew up to be 100% that, so it's interesting. That's awesome. Yeah, so I don't know, but I will say this. I was analyzing the muscle insertions because I was paying attention to the leg Wow, it's kids got long muscle belly
Starting point is 00:42:07 I mean takes after their you know their mom I have some a few here and there but you know that lat's brain I like the baby's mom, but yeah, so I'm gonna say it on the podcast. So it's recorded But I think he let it slip by saying the word sturdy. So I think it might be a boy. Yeah Are you gonna do the big reveal? Are you guys gonna do like a party like that? What do you mean when the baby's born? Yeah, yeah. I mean, I'll tell you guys what's going on.
Starting point is 00:42:30 You're not gonna do like a big reveal with your family where you like, because you're gonna find out, you know, deaths. Yeah, yeah. No, because the baby's already born. That's the reveal, I feel like, is it for the parents too, right? That's true.
Starting point is 00:42:40 Yeah, oh, that's right. That's not, you guys. Just said to a picture of the baby's like, baby's penis or vagina. Yeah. picture of the babies like Babies, you know penis or vagina Yeah, it's a guess Don't even say you think I should have this is what we got right? Yeah, no, I'm excited I'm really really excited seeing the babies little picture and and babies got these really full lips It came so fast
Starting point is 00:43:03 Dude it's around the corner, right? You were here already. It's around the corner. I was always like that. Another conversation I was having. So we have names, you know, like a set of names that we really like. And so, you know, every name has its own nicknames, right?
Starting point is 00:43:18 So I'm saying all the nicknames that go with the names and Jessica's like, there's some nicknames that she's like, no, no one's gonna say that to us. And I'm like, listen honey, the way kids get nicknames, you have no control over. A random person gives it and it sticks, and that's your fucking nickname forever. Should trying to tell, I'm trying to explain this to her.
Starting point is 00:43:35 She thinks she's like, no, I'm the mom, and I'll make sure I'm like you. I say, especially if it's a boy. Oh, lay the hammer. The nickname you'll have with his friends could be the worst nickname you've ever heard of your life. And it's gonna stick. There's nothing you can do about it.
Starting point is 00:43:47 So you guys have not nailed down one male, one female name. No, we have a few that we like. So how the hell is that gonna work? So there was some compromise. Negotiating. Yeah, no, there were some compromises that had to be made because the names that I liked the most are really Italian names.
Starting point is 00:44:04 And for Jessica, she's like, God, that's so, to me, they sound like normal names. To her, she's like, I'm gonna have this little Italian kid right there. She likes them, but she's not sure. So the compromise was, we pick some of the best ones that we like, and then it's up to her. So when the baby's born, she's gonna decide
Starting point is 00:44:21 what the name is based off of the baby, with the way they look, and I'm happy with all the choices that we have so Okay, yeah, so you're gonna you're gonna literally gonna wait the name until until it comes out It'll come to come to us. You know come to her This is it. Yeah, yeah, the baby's interesting Our deal was like the if it's a boy It's I get to I get the last say on it
Starting point is 00:44:39 So we agreed right we do the same thing we kind of narrowed down to handful of names boys and girls And then it when we found out if it was a boy or a girl, if it was a girl, she gets the final say. What was your name for girl? Are you keeping that secret? Oh yeah, I keep that secret until that happens, right? If that happens. So we kind of gave ourselves the one-year window, right?
Starting point is 00:44:57 So if it happens, and then this next year, and she, so she just start breastfeeding, so she's just now back to having her period again. So really, even though they say she can get pregnant during that time, it's like the percentage. Yeah, super low chances. So literally the clock has started right now for us if we're gonna do. We got her to finish the podcast then.
Starting point is 00:45:15 Yeah, she's over there. Yeah, very hip and trust. Very good. Now, were there any names that she loved, but you're like, no, and vice versa? Not really actually. I think that we both were, it was actually kind of crazy though how it all happened because we didn't talk very much about it. We knew that we were going to be finding out about the sex soon. And so we said, Hey, we need to come up with a
Starting point is 00:45:36 handful of names, male or female. And we were driving, we had like a, we were driving to my back to my hometown or something. So we had a two hour drive and we just started throwing things out. I had some things that I was like, I wanted a powerful name. That's for him and she's like, she agreed. And then we went through a handful and then we started throwing out names and then we looked up the meaning behind it. Oh yeah, that does that. I don't like the meaning of that.
Starting point is 00:46:03 And so that was kind of like what would eliminate certain names. And we nailed it down to a couple of them. And that was just kind of it was, we agreed that if it was a boy that I would have final say on it, if it was a girl, she'd have final say. And Maximus just was, it was so obvious to me with using Joseph as the middle name. Like MJ would be up there. Yeah, so I love Michael Jordan.
Starting point is 00:46:28 I love MJ as a nickname for him. I love Maximus, I love Max. So it all flowed for me for that. So that was a really good one. Oh no, we got in fights dude. We got this was a big deal. He's my brother in law. Oh dude, her and I, we'd get in arguments, fights,
Starting point is 00:46:44 that over names. You know what name she really liked? That definitely not ever, definitely. And if this is your name, okay, sorry, Abraham. She liked the name Abraham. I'm like, no, I'm not gonna have, what am I gonna have? It's a really old school.
Starting point is 00:46:57 Yeah, dude. You had to ensure he gets picked on. Is that what you gotta have like an impressive beard? Especially if he takes after me, you'll be like annoying noodle in school, plus be named Abraham. The kid's gonna get bullied forever. Yeah, for sure.
Starting point is 00:47:10 And Abraham, get over here. Yeah, it's like, yeah, what are we doing here? Yeah, no, with Courtney, it was weird. We actually like immediately agreed. It was kind of, it was bizarre. Because I thought for sure that was gonna be one of those things. Like we hadn't had many fights, but I'm like, this is definitely gonna be a fight.
Starting point is 00:47:24 I'm sure, like I gotta like figure out how's it those things. Like we hadn't had many fights, but I'm like, this is definitely gonna be a fight, I'm sure. Like I gotta like figure out how it's gonna work and we just were going through and kinda we're matching them to like middle names that were like carried on. Certain names that are in our families that were similar and then how they kind of flowed in terms of how you say it. And so we already knew like our,
Starting point is 00:47:42 we had, we thought for sure, you know, poor Everett was to be a girl. And so we had already named the girl name for that. And so that was one of those we combined our both of our gammas. So we had Ava Jean. We had a cool kind of 50s feel to it, you know, but, uh, yes. And then we had to read, re figure it out and start all over and figure out every name. But we found like, we try to find names
Starting point is 00:48:07 that you don't hear a lot. Of course, Ethan's one of those, he's here all the time now. Like everybody had the same idea at the same time. It's weird how names get popular. Yeah, you know, it's really weird. It's just resurfaces. There's a site you can look at.
Starting point is 00:48:20 That's what I do. Yeah, you can look at like a night, if born in this year, these are the most popular names. Yeah, you can look at all of them. Yeah, this year, these are the most popular names. Yeah, you can look at all these names. Yeah, yeah, yeah, no. For one of the girl names that we like is a name that I always liked
Starting point is 00:48:31 and it's also a name that she always liked. That's the only name both of us were like, you know, really excited about. All the rest, man, it was, I'm telling you right now, it's been like a, I don't know, five-month negotiating process, picking the names. I think we're okay.
Starting point is 00:48:46 We've got like three for the boy and two for the girl that we like. The biggest thing that we have contention with her right now, and because the name was really easy, is his haircut. So in Katrina's family, it is tradition that they let the boy go four years before they cut his hair. And I'm like not happening. I'm like there's no way.
Starting point is 00:49:05 And I've been trying to like evaluate that. Like why am I so hard up on that? Why, like, it's not the end of us? You know, it's fuck you. I'm like, why is it? I think, yeah, I don't know. Maybe I'm a different guy right here, right? So like, you know, girls, like,
Starting point is 00:49:24 this is sound sexist, in case a lot of times here We go. Yeah, I know right backpedal first before put my foot my mouth here You know and no, it's common right it's common that many girls dream of their wedding They dream of the white wedding they dream of what the location of it the dress everything and they're like very Okay, so okay, so I just wanna make sure, you know, you never know who's gonna get offended for some shit like that. But so for me, I always envision having a boy
Starting point is 00:49:53 that I got to dress, like a dress and style and like, as a kid growing up, I like that stuff, and there's a lot of things that I couldn't have or couldn't do. So you want his hairstyle to match his clothes? Yeah, all that, like I want to be able to, I want to be a- Yeah, herbys when you're like, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no his clothes? Yeah, all that. Like I want to, I want to be able to, I want to be a Lurby's when you're like, no.
Starting point is 00:50:06 So I guess, I guess it's different. It's weird. I guess many guys don't think about that. I thought about that. So I think that's what makes it so difficult for me to let it go and just be like, let him grow his hair out and be like this mop on his head for four years. I'm like, no, and I don't need to shave it or make it crazy.
Starting point is 00:50:23 I just want to keep it lined up. And so he's coming up at that point where it's starting to, I love the way his hair falls and goes right now. And it's like, I want to keep it like that. I want to keep it cleaned up. Now, what are the roots of this tradition? And have they been doing it for generations? So all the boys, all the boys in our family have done that.
Starting point is 00:50:39 That's kind of just what's like a really big deal for them. Yeah, it's kind of a, so that's like the biggest contention that we've had with Max is that, is that they, if the boys have let their hair grow out, and I know, and of course, Mom is like queen in the family, and like Mom is like all about that. Like, you know, that's what I wanna do, and I'm over here like, no, that's not happening. Like I'm taking my booty to get his haircut
Starting point is 00:51:00 or I'm gonna do it. I'd have a problem with it. Yeah, yeah, so it should, and I'll win. That's it in the day, I'll win this one. Oh, wow. Yeah, yeah, no, I'll win this one. Especially after she hears this part. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Starting point is 00:51:10 Well, yeah, exactly, I hate to be that way, but it's like, and in my compromise, and let's listen, when we have a second child, the daughter, and if it ends up being a boy, then I would flex on that. I'd be like, okay, listen, you know, you allowed me to do that for my first born, if we end up having a boy for second one that I'd be more flexible about it.
Starting point is 00:51:26 And no matter what, if it comes if it's a girl for the second one, she can name it, she can cut the hair, however or not cut the hair, however she wants to, I would be okay with that. That's my thing. I get it because my family has certain traditions and sometimes it's hard for Jessica to be like, well, why?
Starting point is 00:51:41 Why? Like, for example, first birthday. In my family, first birthday's are big. You have everybody over, it's a big deal for her. She's like, no, first birthday, if the baby's so young, I just want it to be us, just to spend the time with the guy. So we've compromised on some, that's what I get.
Starting point is 00:51:57 Yeah, no, I mean, I think Jess and I have a lot of stuff in common with the way we were raised and not having a lot of that stuff. And it's, you know, these are things that are different. I'm the same way, like, I was bummed that stuff. And it's, you know, these are things that are different. I'm the same way. Like, I was bummed out by Max's first birthday, you know, one, he'll never fucking remember. So it doesn't really matter.
Starting point is 00:52:11 So I'm not like that big of a deal. But it was overwhelming for him. It was so many people. That makes sense. It's logical, you say? Yeah, there were so many people that I felt I was hosting a party, which is what I was doing. And, and, you know, going around saying,
Starting point is 00:52:24 how the family haven't seen it a while, which is what I was doing. And going around saying how the family haven't seen it a while, making sure everybody felt comfortable, and not really getting a chance to really like taking the moment with my son. And if I could do it over again, what I would have done to compromise, because that was really like Katrina,
Starting point is 00:52:38 well, if it was like Katrina, if it wasn't for COVID, we would have had a massive thing, and we still had a pretty big birthday party for him considering. If it was up to me now, what I, we would have had a massive thing. And we still had a pretty big birthday party form considering. If it was up to me now, what I wish we would have done is, and maybe this is something you and Jessica do is, I wish we would have first held our own little private thing,
Starting point is 00:52:55 just our family, me, her, him. And we did that. And yeah, and like watched him take his first bite of his cake and do all that just her and I. And then we had like the big party with the whole family. Right. If I could go back and do it again, I would have preferred to had like the best of both worlds,
Starting point is 00:53:11 which is the intimate birthday party where her and I get to experience everything just with him and do that and then go to this big party. Cause then I would have cared less about it that I was missing certain things that was going on with him during that day and I could be entertaining, which is what I felt like I was doing the whole time. This Quas brought to you by Organify.
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Starting point is 00:54:19 when you're talking about really overweight people, I consider I would say 60, 70 pounds plus overweight, right? The average person wants to lose weight with me was anywhere between 20 to 30 pounds. Once it got 60 to 100, typically you're dealing with someone that's been overweight for most of their life. Their relationship with food is a very difficult one to change because food to them kind of like a drug.
Starting point is 00:54:44 It's used to numb feelings or they've found comfort in it. And so it's a difficult thing to change, a very, very difficult thing to change. The way I used to train people like who were really overweight was very different in the way I ended up training them later on in my career. The way I first started training them was,
Starting point is 00:55:03 here's your meal plan. You got to get strict, you got to show up to the gym this many days a week. That's it. We're going to do it. We're going to low calorie, burn a lot of calories. All discipline based. All discipline based, all, you know, dropping the hammer and I was the motivating hardcore, you know, take no bullshit type of trainer. And this was successful in the short term. I would get people to lose weight in the short term. I got none of them to keep it off. None of them to keep it off.
Starting point is 00:55:32 And it took me a while to really figure this out. And I remember the first time I actually figured this out. I had a client who came and saw me, who was a hundred pounds overweight. And as I was, and I remember this because I was showing them around the facility, I sat him down, and they were visibly uncomfortable and shy, okay? Now this is kind of common with this type of client,
Starting point is 00:55:57 where you can feel that they're, I mean, think about it. They probably haven't worked out in a gym like, you know, ever, and they feel uncomfortable, they feel like they're being watched, like they don't fit in. But this was really the first time when I really felt it. Like I was really paying attention. I remember they were super uncomfortable.
Starting point is 00:56:12 So then we sat down and I thought, I need to communicate to this person a little bit differently because I can tell that they're intimidated by the weights and by other people working out. So we started talking about their goals and what got them to where they were. And, you know, I remember sitting there talking to her and I thought, I'm gonna change my approach.
Starting point is 00:56:32 I'm gonna change my approach. I'm gonna, this time I'm gonna be successful longterm. And so I said, look, I said, here's the deal. I said, I've trained a lot of people in your situation and I've had a lot of failures, and here's why. Now, the reason why I'm telling you this is not to motivate you to not be the failure. The reason why I'm telling you this
Starting point is 00:56:53 is because we're not going to use that strategy. Here's what I want to do with you. I want you to come in, train with me, we'll figure out how many days a week is realistic for you to show up, and we're not even going to try to lose weight. I don't even, let's not even talk about weight loss. I know you said that's your number one goal, but let's start with you coming in one day
Starting point is 00:57:14 a week, meeting with me, and let's do that until this is something that you're not afraid of and you don't hate, because she had told me that, you know, she was intimidated. And she thought that was a great idea. She hired me, and we took this very slow approach. We didn't talk about weight. In fact, I told her to not weigh herself. I said, I know maybe you should weigh yourself, to track her.
Starting point is 00:57:37 Let's not do that at all. I didn't tell her to take anything out of her diet. What I did is I started adding things to her diet. And Adam talks about this a lot himself. And it was this kind of her diet. What I did is I started adding things to her diet. Adam talks about this a lot himself. It was this kind of slow process. Here's what happened. The first year she got stronger, improved her mobility. Started to enjoy the way she felt. Started to enjoy showing up at the gym. She got comfortable there because she would have conversations with me, conversations with the other clients that happened to work out at the same time. She became a staple in the facility.
Starting point is 00:58:07 She came to the Christmas party that I had every year, talk to people, everybody treated her amazingly. She lost no weight the first year. She just got stronger and felt better. This ended towards the end of the second year, she on her own started to make changes to her diet. And she would come to me and say, okay, Sal, I'm ready. I think I want to make some changes.
Starting point is 00:58:29 I've already eliminated soda. And remember, she said that to me. I was like, oh my God, you already did it on your own. That's beautiful. Let's just stick with that for now. So at the end of the second year, she started to see some results. It was the third year that she started to lose the weight. She lost all of it. and it never came back. In fact,
Starting point is 00:58:47 I still am friends with her on Facebook. Until this day, she's kept the weight off. So now we're talking, I don't know, 10 years later, she's kept it off. She's not one of those statistics, which is a majority of people, especially in that category, that fail. She did not fail. She has a very good relationship with exercise and see her posting pictures of hiking. She likes to bake. She still bakes foods that she's enjoys, but she's got this great relationship with exercise. That was the first time I was able to really piece together what gives people long-term. So, I like you, same thing, for many years.
Starting point is 00:59:24 I think I did a really bad job. And so the back half, I would say, or at least the last five years of training clients, this was actually what I focused on. So I actually stopped training a lot of athletes, it would be a rare occasion. And I actually really enjoyed this type of client. And I think it was because I was very motivated to figure this out because I didn't do such a good job in the early years. And I think what made me realize where I went wrong and this person did a great job asking this question
Starting point is 00:59:56 because they compare it to like at training athletes what, so different and you're right. The journey is completely different and they're at a different place. So the irony of that is that as a as a young or immature trainer You you sometimes approach almost every client of the same way. Here's your meal plan How many days a week can you commit to you know, and you write a good workout right and then you train them hard and you try and you motivate them to be consistent and the truth is That everybody is at a different place and their journey and a good trainer will learn how to meet that person
Starting point is 01:00:26 where they're currently at. And that light bulb didn't go off for me till way later on in my career. And it's so funny when you think about it though, it's so obvious. It's like you wouldn't treat somebody learning a language that way. You wouldn't treat an athlete even that way.
Starting point is 01:00:41 And after it's gonna throw them in the game without the training. Exactly. And if you're somebody who is really, really overweight, it's more than just calories than calories out thing. There's a relationship that you've established with food. There's a lack or a relationship that you've dealt with with exercise and movement. There's a lot of things that have came into play that have got us in the place that we are. And so I want to slowly start to unravel all of that versus like, here, throwing it all
Starting point is 01:01:14 at them. Just like I was using the example of learning a language. If you've got somebody who has no clue about anything and you also start speaking to them in that other language, it's going to be really tough for that person. Maybe some people start to pick things up and they might learn or see some results that way, but it's going to be really hard to get it to stick like what Sal was saying. And so it really was about learning where they're at and then setting very small, realistic, obtainable goals that then can become part of their lifestyle. And one of those things is, you know, if they came in and said, I could commit to three or four days a week of training, absolutely, I didn't want them to do that. You know, like Sal said, I just, you know, let's just start with one day a week or two days
Starting point is 01:01:54 a week, something that you know that you can stick to. This is also where I started to add things to the diet. Many times when I would get clients like this, it would be somebody who you would think was eating McDonald's four or five times a day and a ton of calories and just sitting on a couch watching TV. That wasn't the case. Many times these clients had already yolio dieted so many times they're in metabolism was extremely slow
Starting point is 01:02:18 and they were eating only 1,300 or 1,500 calories of like nothing. And so it was like, I would look at them and I'd be like, wow, they're this much overweight, they're only consuming this much. They've really slowed their metabolism down. I definitely can't take this person and tell them to eat less than what they're already eating. So I needed to add food.
Starting point is 01:02:38 So, and like what Sal said, I would not focus on weight loss. That's not, it's all about making good habits in your life right now. And let's start with one or two at a time and slowly build on that. And after I would build on it, I would want them to stay consistent with it for a couple of months before I even thought about
Starting point is 01:02:57 adding something else or taking anything else away because I really wanted them to be the one to be begging for it. Adam, I'm like, I haven't missed a day on this. It's going great. I feel good. What else can I do? Okay, now we're ready for the next thing to focus on.
Starting point is 01:03:12 And that's just it. I think that when you get in that situation, there's normally something that triggers them to come in that day and hire the trainer or start on their fitness journey. And they're highly motivated because of emotions. Either something set them off to trigger them to come in and finally do that and make a change or a biggest loser show they just watched or something or went to the doctor and found that they have a health issue. And so all of a sudden they're making a decision based off of emotions.
Starting point is 01:03:41 They're emotionally fired up and they want to make a change. A lot of times, just like in any other aspect of our life, when we respond emotionally all the time, it's not the most logical approach to doing things. So as a coach and as a trainer, I had to really watch that and then help them understand that. Listen, I feel you and I understand what you want, but this will be a better strategy
Starting point is 01:04:03 and then explaining to them to set small goals. Let's hit that out the park before we add any more to it. Yeah, and this may sound a bit redundant because I definitely went through the same experience and came to the same conclusion as you both did with training these people to add to that as far as when somebody comes in with this type of urgency and emotion and they're driven and they really, you could tell they really care about themselves now more than ever, this is really what drives a lot of personal trainers and health professionals into their field. They want to match that emotion, they want to match that urgency and they want
Starting point is 01:04:46 to, they want that same result as their client. Like, I felt passionate about trying to get them to that place and I wanted to be a part of that, like so bad that, you know, it was misplaced energy that I was putting in my initial clients where I was so focused on, let's get to it, let's get to it, let's get to it. And it really took a lot of time and people that I've trained to realize, you know, this sort of conundrum where much like when you're given to a charitable organization where you go in somewhere else, where you realize that just giving people things isn't the solution.
Starting point is 01:05:31 Like this isn't what's really gonna help them long-term. They really have to own it themselves and build themselves from within. But how do I be a part of that and be around that and provide them with the necessary things to make that happen? And, you know, for me, that was the lesson, the lesson that I am just here as, you know, like a vessel.
Starting point is 01:05:55 I'm here to be able to provide what's necessary in whatever stage you're at. So I had to listen a lot more. I had to ask more questions. And that was like what I had to learn as a trainer Was what what are the needs right now more so than what you need to do? What you need to do is this like I'm not driving the ship you're driving it. What do you need for me? You know and to ask those kind of questions more was you know, I got a totally different result
Starting point is 01:06:23 Oh totally and really it was for you know, it became for me about creating a new relationship first with exercise, a good one, and then later on, one with food, which is why when they show up to the gym, it was, it turned into something they really enjoyed coming to. They enjoyed coming to it, not because of the hard, crazy workouts, sometimes we'd have those,
Starting point is 01:06:45 but really because it was a place where everybody was cool with them. Hey, how do you feel today? Oh, you're really tired. All right, today we're gonna do things that are gonna help relieve stress. Sometimes I would take this woman on a walk. She would show up and she'd be like,
Starting point is 01:06:59 oh man, I had, you know, got terrible sleep. I've been really whatever. Like, you know what? Instead of working out in here, let's just go for a 45 minute whatever. Like, you know what, instead of working out in here, let's just go for a 45 minute walk. Or, you know what I'm gonna do today? I'm just gonna stretch you out. You look like a little tight.
Starting point is 01:07:10 We're not gonna do anything with resistance. I'm just gonna stretch you out. So, stretch out. So, this person showed up when they felt bad. That's what you want. What you want is you wanna client, okay, a client who calls, who shows up when they feel great and what rate of workout, okay, congratulations,
Starting point is 01:07:25 you did nothing, that's easy. You want your clients to show up when they don't feel like showing up, when they feel bad. If your client calls you and says, hey man, I feel really terrible, can I come in and see you today? Then you know you're doing a good job. Next question is from Booker T.
Starting point is 01:07:40 Creatine for Women, Yay or Nay. Yay. Yeah, let's see, do you nay. Oh, yeah. Yeah. Let's say, do you want better health, better cognitive function, healthier mitochondria? Do you want to get a little bit stronger? Or do you want to speed up your metabolism? Do you want to be able to burn body fat a little bit more effectively and directly through a fast metabolism?
Starting point is 01:07:59 Why is this a question though? Is it because the water retention that everybody thinks that it's a bad thing? Because when you take creatine, you are going to gain one to three pounds on the scale, depending on how much muscle mass you have. Because of that, some women are like, oh no, a pound of extra weight on the scale. And that's your muscle belly. Right. And then when you explain it to them, oh, it's fluid.
Starting point is 01:08:22 Yeah, and when you say it's just water, they get even more freaked out because they think it's bloat. Blot is not the same. Blot is water outside of the muscle. Water inside the muscle just makes your muscles look more defined. Yeah. It just makes your muscles feel tighter. That's what happens when you take creating. There is no supplement at all. And there is no supplement that I recommend more than creatine.
Starting point is 01:08:45 Creatine, I recommend to my grandmother and grandfather. I recommend to my parents. It's good if you work out or if you don't work out. It's good for your health that helps with heart health and cognitive function. You're gonna start to see creatine. It's the crossover from performance into wellness. It's interesting.
Starting point is 01:09:00 It's a great supplement for everybody. Now, of course, if you have to have good healthy body, if you have kidney issues or other issues, you might want to check with your doctor. Otherwise, it's a great supplement to take. And there's nothing that is as proven as safe or effective as creating. There's literally, it's actually the most
Starting point is 01:09:20 studied supplement there is. There's, I don't know, thousands of studies on creating that show it's benefit both long term and short term and it's one of those weird supplements that's great for performance but also great for wellness. You know, it's like it's going to help you. I want to make it clear though, like you don't have to take it either. No. Right. You don't have to. You do not have to take this because there's that, the other camp that everybody thinks that you have to take it. You don't have to at all. I just think if there's a supplement that we were ever to recommend to people, I've
Starting point is 01:09:51 recommended creatine more to people than probably any other supplement. It was funny about this whole thing that, you know, for women or whatever, is the clients that loved creatine the most ended up being my female clients, because they would take the creatine, here's what happens when you take creatine, right, for a lot of people. You take it and it takes about a week or two before you get saturation levels in your muscle, and you can expect to gain one to three reps
Starting point is 01:10:18 on every exercise or five pounds on a lot of your lifts, just like that in two weeks, you're just stronger, and my female clients loved it. Like they just, they would lift and be like, oh my God, I'm so much stronger, I feel so much better. And I'd say, did you wait, go up? Sometimes it went up the pound, sometimes it didn't go up at all. But they all noticed the definition.
Starting point is 01:10:38 So they'd say, my arms look a little bit more defined or I feel a little tighter in my legs. And that was from the creatine. So it's, it's one of those supplements that, uh, here's what you're going to end up seeing. You're going to see creatine, uh, you're already starting to see this, but it's going to get real popular and wellness supplements, uh, hospitals are going to start giving, uh, creatine to, uh, a lot of their patients. You're going to start to see this being included in supplements that are typically
Starting point is 01:11:04 tar, for, to that target advanced advanced age population like those insure drinks or whatever, you're going to start to see creatine. I know they include H&B in them now, which is there's no comparison. So yes, male, female, you want to burn body fat, you want to build muscle or just improve your health, definitely give creatine a try. Again, you don't have to take it like Adam said, you don't think you have to build muscle or just improve your health, definitely give creatine a try. Again, you don't have to take it like Adam said. You don't think you have to take any supplement if you have a good diet, but you'll notice, you'll probably know some benefits from creatine.
Starting point is 01:11:34 Next question is from ex-riceballx. What is your go-to thing for dealing with anxiety from simple overstimulation or something more major that life throws at you like Justin's evacuation. This is a big thing right now. Yeah. Have you guys seen the articles like how much anxiety and mental illness is going up? It's everywhere.
Starting point is 01:11:57 I mean, it's not just my situation. Obviously, this is everybody's dealing with this on another level, I think, right now than ever before. But to be honest, I could sit here and talk about meditation and breathing and all these kind of biohacks and all that shit, but to be honest for me, it's been all gratitude and humor. Like that really has been like carrying me through
Starting point is 01:12:21 a lot of what obstacles and what crazy is sort of presenting it in front of me is really to take that time out to reflect on things that are going well, that on things that I do have, on a life that I do wanna live. And so like for me gratitude is just, it's a practice that I think a lot of people, it sounds so basic and simple, but I think a lot of people don't recognize the power of
Starting point is 01:12:53 it. If you really, you know, set your mind on more of those things, like it's amazing what starts to kind of appear in front of you as you're focusing exclusively on those things and not just consuming. It's really about the consumption that you need to assess, like where you're flooding your mind that's making you, like it's creating all this anxiety. I think the first step of overcoming anxiety is recognizing that it's self-inflicted. Which, you know, I don't know if it's this generation or this time that we're going through right now, but a lot of this is like we're always pointing at the things that are happening to us,
Starting point is 01:13:36 but it's us who allows ourselves to feel anxious over all this stuff. And, you know, so my answer to that is to reframe it. In every obstacle that we have, every challenge, every hardship, there's an opportunity there. There's an opportunity for growth. There's an opportunity for you to learn. There's an opportunity for you to refocus. I mean, I think Justin made the, the point of trying to make lemonade out of the lemons that he was given the last couple weeks. And, you know, I think that's what you have to look at this is like, okay, because of what's going on that's causing you, quote unquote, you know,
Starting point is 01:14:11 because nothing else is causing you're causing yourself to be anxious over it. Well, where are the, where are the opportunities live to improve? And now, let's use Justin as an example. And I don't know if this was going through his head or not, but, you know, you get evacuated from home. This is a scary sad time, and probably a lot of emotions going around them, but it's also a time that your family's all brought together.
Starting point is 01:14:33 You guys are, and it also can bring perspective of these things that we put so much value in, like a home and items and stuff like that, really mean nothing if we don't have each other, right? And that's kind of like to his point about gratitude, is it's really reframing where your values are and what's important to you and the opportunities that are there, and now we have this time together
Starting point is 01:14:56 that we could focus on each other. And now I bet you when he came back to his house, he had a whole different feeling because of it. And so, you know, and that's just it, when you went, one of the best things too that I learned going through adversity was when I got to the other side of it, those were some of the best times.
Starting point is 01:15:14 So if I'm feeling anxious or having anxiety and I feel stressed or I'm going through a hardship, one of the things I always remember is that, man, it's hard right now, but when I get to the other side of that, those are always the best times. And so I just gotta get through this. And so if that means meditating or using positive affirmation or reframing your situation,
Starting point is 01:15:39 that's up to the individual on what works best for you. But just remember that something like anxiety is self-inflicted. This is something that you are internalizing. You're allowing something else that's external, that's happening around you to affect you internally. You're giving up your power. And so you have the ability to stop it in its tracks and look at its opportunity. And now, I have a religious background. And so there's the part of me, like I always kinda like,
Starting point is 01:16:07 if it's really, really bad, I kinda chuckle, and I look up in this guy, I'm like, what are you trying to tell me? What do I need to learn? Yeah, what am I supposed to learn right now? What is the lesson here, right? Like so, and if you're not spiritual, and you have other practices that you practice to do that,
Starting point is 01:16:20 then you know, so be it, that's my own. Like that's, I always feel like there's a lesson in everything that I'm going through, and I'm own. I always feel like there's a lesson in everything that I'm going through, and I'm always looking for it. Of course, I'm human, so initially when it hits me, it hurts, it freaks me out, I get scared, all the emotions are swirling around, but once I take a deep breath and realize that,
Starting point is 01:16:37 it's not the end of the world, I still have my health, I'm still here, my family's still here. Okay, this is a shitty situation. What part of this situation can I control? Can I own and what can I learn from it and reframe it and get through it? Because on the other side of it, it's better. Yeah, it's, so the way I look at it is there's kind of two
Starting point is 01:16:58 aspects of anxiety that you want to look at. There's the physical feeling of anxiety and then there's the mental anxiety. And they typically go hand in hand, and one can cause the other, right? So you can think about things that make you anxious, and that causes a physical response, the faster heart rate, the dry mouth, the clammy hands, you know, feeling a little bit dizzy sometimes or whatever, that can happen physically, or you can get physical anxiety,
Starting point is 01:17:27 those same symptoms, which then make you freak out because you feel crappy or you feel a particular way. So the reason why I'm saying that is because I want to address the physical anxiety first. Physical anxiety can come from poor health. Okay, this is why exercise and diet has been shown to be extremely effective for many, many people with anxiety. If you have poor health, if you have a nutrient deficiency, your diet's not working for you, you have poor sleep, and you're not active,
Starting point is 01:17:54 you're literally your body could be producing hormones that make you feel anxious, chemicals that make you feel anxious. It's like your body, your health is poor, and your body's sending out these signals. And so it's like when you have a dog and you keep your dog in a crate all day long, and then you let them out and they chew up the furniture and stuff, it's like energy that needs to come out. So if you have physical anxiety
Starting point is 01:18:17 and you can't figure out why the hell am I getting this anxious reaction, everything seems to be okay. This is what's happening to a lot of people right now. They're like, well, you know, I still have my job, everything's okay. Why the hell am I getting this anxiety out of nowhere? Exercise, diet, and sleep can be tremendously valuable for physical anxiety. Now the mental, let's talk about the mental anxiety.
Starting point is 01:18:40 Nothing has been shown to be as effective as a spiritual practice. Spiritual practice is, and you could be philosophical, like stoicism, it could be religious, like Christianity. It could be Eastern with meditation. But those practices, a lot of their value, is in exactly what Adam and Justin are talking about, which have to do with refaming things and gratitude, and eventually letting go of the things that you can't control. So those are the two ways I handle my anxiety.
Starting point is 01:19:08 Exercise for me is the best cure for physical anxiety ever. If I'm ever super stressed out and I feel that anxious physical feeling and I go work out, man, my body's chill afterwards. I don't got that physical feeling of anxiety more. Now, if my mind is still racing, that's when I turn to things like prayer and gratitude, and I start to leave things that I can't control,
Starting point is 01:19:30 and I start to become okay with whatever happens, right? So those are the ways that I tend to handle it, and I think both of those are the approaches that most people need to take. I don't think one tends to solve all of it. I think both tend to solve all of it. I think both tend to be the solution. Next question is from Tiffy Leap. As a trainer, how do you keep yourself from getting burnt
Starting point is 01:19:52 out, especially emotionally? Oh, wow. This is a good question because... This happens. If you're a trainer and you're so married to your client's results, and you're so married to the fact that your clients gotta do what you say, you're gonna be screwed. Okay, because more than half the time you'll fail. The client's-
Starting point is 01:20:13 That's just the fact. They're not gonna do what you want all the time. Sometimes they're gonna work out, half-ass, or they're gonna cancel, or they're gonna do what you tell them, and then they're not gonna do what you tell them, and it's gonna happen a hundred times over and over again, and you're gonna wanna get to the point where you're gonna be like,
Starting point is 01:20:27 I actually, I used to get trainers telling me this all the time, and it used to make me laugh. They come up to me like, I wanna fire my client. I'm like, okay. Well, why? Why do you wanna fire your client? Because they just, you know, they do the meal plan, and then they don't, or they tell it, and then they don't.
Starting point is 01:20:39 They're not taking this seriously. I only train serious people. I'm like, okay. I've told them the same thing like a hundred times. I'm like, yeah, welcome to the club. Yeah, you need to relax. First of all, you're not gonna help them by firing them. Now, there's of course clients if they know show,
Starting point is 01:20:53 and then you need to respect your time, that's totally different. But if they're showing up to their workouts, that's one big step that they're doing. And so you need to chill out with the whole amount of fire on my clients if they don't take me seriously, because I only train serious clients. That's so great.
Starting point is 01:21:07 It's like pretentious. You will burn yourself out if you have that attitude. So number one, be okay. It's their goals and their life. And you're the guide, you help them. But they make the choices. You have to be okay with the choices that they make. Here's the second part.
Starting point is 01:21:21 This one was a big one. If you don't really love people and enjoy talking to people and enjoy hearing their stories and love hearing about their lives and asking them questions, you can have a tough time as a personal trainer because you're gonna be training if you're successful six to eight people a day.
Starting point is 01:21:38 So that's six to eight hours uninterrupted, you're on working with someone. And if you can't deal with different personalities, different stories, different stresses, because they're gonna tell you about their husband and their wife and their job and their kids and gonna tell you about why they don't wanna do this, why they do wanna do this, how they feel.
Starting point is 01:21:54 If you don't love people so much that you don't find that entertaining, it's gonna suck to show up to work, because you're gonna have to hear all the stuff and be like, oh my gosh, I don't wanna hear some. So, you're gonna get vested in each one of this. Yes. And I went through a period of this.
Starting point is 01:22:08 And it mainly it was because I was stacking so many clients back to back to back to back. And I was just in the zone of, I'm gonna just get as many in as possible, many reps as I can. You know, I'm gonna try my best to make a career out of this. And so I was, I was just focused on trying to get the work in when I could. And that's when I started, when you start to build this feeling of feeling burnt out,
Starting point is 01:22:34 you got to kind of reassess now, okay? If you've done your time and this is something that you're doing, you might want to reevaluate your business plan. And so that's something that I went through and started to start to think about how I can provide better service. Because if I'm feeling burnt out, that's going to be a reflection of what I'm bringing in now to each one of my clients. And my service is going to drop on some level.
Starting point is 01:23:01 And so I had to really recognize that and sort of like restructure the whole thing to where it allowed for more opportunity for free time for me, which is important. You have to think about yourself too to get my workouts in, to just have moments where I could think in plan and think about my business outside my business. And so that meant a reduction in clients, but now to survive, I need to bring my rates up a bit. And so there's that whole process of sort of changing and altering your business plan
Starting point is 01:23:37 and gear it more towards what's gonna benefit your lifestyle. That's a good point. And I also used to love the conversations that we would have, and I would look forward to learning from the clients that I trained all the time. And so they would come in and I think to myself, what can I learn from Sonso?
Starting point is 01:23:53 Oh, he's been in business for 20 years and he's successful. I'm gonna ask him a bunch of business, oh, that's a doctor. Yeah, they're mentors to you. That's all I used to love it. I did come in and I used to feel guilty sometimes, even when I trained him and stuff, I'd be like, man, I just learned a come in and I used to feel guilty sometimes even like train them and stuff I'd be like man
Starting point is 01:24:05 I just learned a ton in that hour talking to so and so about investment or talking to so and so about this particular Surgical procedure that I'd never heard of before or whatever So then that made it just fun. Whatever they may show up. I'm like, oh my god I can't have fun. Well, I'm glad Justin you with the direction you did because I have a different opinion I think that sal does on this and that's, I would take ownership as this is my cue to myself. I need to be a better business operator. If I'm getting burnt out and I'm dealing with a lot of these clients that I don't like the train, there's a massive pool of people that you can reach. We are fishing in a huge sea of all different types of clients.
Starting point is 01:24:47 And if I like a certain client, but then I find myself, I keep getting these clients that are making me feel burnt out, then I need to be a better business operator and attract the people that I want to train. And so this was my, because this happened to me,
Starting point is 01:25:01 I definitely got burnt out. And the burnt out feeling was that of frustration because the truth is being a good trainer is a lot like being a good baseball player. The greatest baseball player is still bat under 500. I mean, it's just statistically speaking, you're not gonna get all of your clients results. That's just part of it.
Starting point is 01:25:21 But if you want to attract more people that are serious about the results that are consistent with the things that you're telling them and work with just them, then you gotta get to a place where you have so much demand as a trainer that you can turn away all the people that are. That's the important point because the complainers
Starting point is 01:25:38 were the trainers that didn't have that. That's right. And I'm like, you can't be picky and choosy. That's right. Because you're like, you have, you can't be picky and choosy. That's right. Because you're looking for more clients. Exactly. So get to a place where you can say no. And then once you get to that place, you start to learn.
Starting point is 01:25:53 I mean, obviously, I've been doing this for a long time. I can sit down for an hour and to this day, I get people offering me ridiculous money to train them and turn it down because it's not worth my time because I already know What kind of person they're going to be just by having a conversation 45 minutes to an hour in so even though the dollar amount May sound appealing to me. I care also about my mental health and not feeling burnt out So I don't want somebody who is gonna pay my bill But then I'm gonna be constantly having to text and remind and they're going to give me excuses every time and they're not going to say, those are my, these people are your, you're walking billboard.
Starting point is 01:26:28 So I want all my clients to see phenomenal results and sing my praises because I've changed their life, but they got to be ready to want to change. And so I would, I would build my business to a place where I can only take, I want to take on the people that I know are really ready to change. Not just the people that are willing to spend the money. There's a lot of people that are in a place financially that they know that they can afford a personal trainer and it's the cool hip thing to do
Starting point is 01:26:54 or they know that, oh, I don't know a lot about that, so I'll just hire somebody. But they haven't made the commitment to themselves to actually change their behaviors. And if those are the people that I wanna help out, and I needed to get to a place where I could turn down all the other clients. And for these reasons, exactly,
Starting point is 01:27:11 not because I'm like, oh, I'm a dick, and I couldn't find a way to help that person. No, it can become very exhausting when you're training six to eight hours back to back to back to clients. And more than 50% of them are half-assing their attempt to get to their fitness schools. So okay, I need to get better as an operator and get my level of training up to where there's
Starting point is 01:27:33 a high enough demand for me that I can start to be a little more picky and choosy about the clients that I decide to help out are the ones that are already in that place where they want to help themselves. And boy, did that make a huge difference in me feeling burnt out because I still this day, and that's why I still will always have one or two clients I'm helping, is I love to help somebody who is ready to help themselves. That is looking just for guidance.
Starting point is 01:27:58 That it's just like, Adam, I don't go to school for all this. I didn't learn all this stuff, and I respect your opinion on it. I just need you to kind of guide me. Tell me this, tell me that, and I'll execute, I'll follow, I'll learn, I'm eager to learn. I love helping someone out like that. It's still very rewarding for me.
Starting point is 01:28:14 So get to a place with your business that you have that opportunity to say, notice somebody who's not ready yet and say yes to all the people that are ready to make that change. Look, my pump is recorded on video as well as audio. Come check us out on YouTube MindPump podcast. You can also find the four of us on Instagram.
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