Mind Pump: Raw Fitness Truth - 1445: Eight Golden Rules of Health & Fitness
Episode Date: December 14, 2020In this episode, Sal, Adam & Justin cover eight habits that maximize health and fitness. The Eight Golden Rules of Health & Fitness. (3:05) #1 – Don't overeat. (6:20) #2 – To eat MOSTLY whole foo...ds. (16:19) #3 - Drink water. (22:49) #4 - To move every single day. (29:10) #5 - Lift heavy things every once in a while. (36:46) #6 – Sleep well. (42:27) #7 – Manage your stress. (48:06) #8 - Be a good friend. (54:48) Related Links/Products Mentioned December Special: 3 MAPS Bundles heavily discounted to kickstart your health and fitness journey! Visit PRx Performance for an exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners! **Code “mindpump” at checkout** Intuitive Eating: What is it and is it Right For You? - Mind Pump Blog What if Macro Counting is Too Hard For You? - Mind Pump Blog The Most Effective Single Step You Can Take to Lose Fat – Mind Pump Blog NIH study finds heavily processed foods cause overeating and weight gain Visit Oli Pop for an exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners! **Code “mindpump” at checkout for 15% off your first order** Does Non-Exercise Activity Thermogenesis (NEAT) Actually Help With Fat Loss? - Mind Pump Blog Mind Pump #1387: Turning Your Body Into A Fat-Burning Machine 5 Long-Term Benefits of Resistance Training – Mind Pump Blog Mind Pump #1345: 6 Ways To Optimize Sleep For Faster Muscle Gain And Fat Loss Visit ChiliPad for an exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners! Visit NED for an exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners! Visit Felix Gray for an exclusive offer for Mind Pump listeners! Good night's sleep slashes the risk of heart failure by more than 40% Mind Pump #1402: Good Stress Vs. Bad Stress & How To Know The Difference Loneliness: A disease? Mind Pump Podcast – YouTube Mind Pump Free Resources
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Now in today's episode, we covered the golden rules
for health and fitness.
So what we did is we narrowed everything down
to the
eight most important things to focus on to optimize your health and your fitness. If you
don't have these things, everything else almost doesn't matter. So we talk about not overeating.
We talk about eating mostly whole foods, drinking water, how to move every day, talk about
lifting heavy things. That's important. Good sleep, had a managed stress,
and of course, had to be a good friend
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So I think we should talk about just the most important
like rules of health and fitness.
We talk a lot about other topics, specific lifts,
best ways to get lean and build muscle and stuff like that,
but there are like foundational, I guess, rules.
The golden rules.
That you want to focus on, that will give you five golden rules.
There's eight actually.
Okay.
There's actually eight golden rules.
But it gives you, that will cover most things.
You know what I'm saying?
Like, I'll start with the first one.
And this one, you know, when I first became a trainer, I focused a lot more on specifics
and I didn't focus so much on the generals.
And I think the general aspects of these rules
are what make them so important
because they're very important rules.
I like we're going here too right now.
We recently just had you responded to somebody,
I think on Instagram or form or someone
that was like critiquing one of the programs, right?
Cause it didn't have RPE in there
and it didn't have percentages of weight and this and that.
And you know, it's always interesting to me
when we get something like that.
It's always somebody I probably who hasn't listened
to the show very much.
And I think the guy admitted that, right?
Like he listened to the show at all really.
He just happened to buy a program
and was asking questions and critiquing.
And you know, when we wrote these things
and we created the content that we create,
we always were keeping in mind the clientele that we train, the majority.
I mean, it was how often did you have an athlete or somebody that was,
you know, actually breaking down their percentage of their body weight ratio
to what they were lifting and doing our very rare.
Yeah, very, very rare.
And in fact, and we were talking about less than probably, you know,
5% of the clientele that we trained.
So most people, it was about creating good behaviors
and good habits and changing their lifestyle
more than it was about macros and microbes
and then breaking down like really advanced programming, right?
Because you can get lost a lot of times
in the nuance of all these things.
And I think that even as long as we've been doing this
and trying to relay information about health and fitness,
it starts to feel like maybe we're not giving them enough
real specific content, but really what makes
the most difference are these major behavioral changes.
And that's where we should always start.
Well, it is.
And we worked a lot with the average person,
the general population.
Like if you look at the average person in America, right,
well, we are suffering from an epidemic of obesity
and diabetes and chronic disease,
well, a lot of our problems now are the results of our lifestyle,
a lot of our health problems.
Western medicine doesn't treat chronic health issues very well.
They do great with acute issues.
You have an infection, you take a medication,
you break a bone, or you need an operation, it's phenomenal.
But when we're dealing with illnesses due to obesity, right?
Illnesses due to poor eating habits or sleep or whatever,
Western medicine doesn't have lots of approaches.
What we're talking about are lifestyle changes.
And this is the stuff that we worked with most people.
And I want to talk about the most important stuff,
the stuff that really handles most of the issue.
For example, I'll start, the first thing is,
don't overeat.
Now, let me explain why that's so important.
Okay, so I'm sure if you're listening, especially if you're a new listener, I'm sure you've heard,
you know, people say, sugar's really bad for you or certain fats are really bad for you in the
past that was saturated fat or processed foods are really bad for you. You know, don't eat this,
don't eat that. These are really bad for you. But here, don't eat this, don't eat that, these are really bad for you. Here's an interesting thing.
When you are not overeating, the damage a lot of these things do is dramatically, dramatically
reduced.
In fact, there are studies with people who eat what we would consider unhealthy food.
And I'm not saying that this is the way you should go, but I'm just trying to highlight
how important it is just to not overeat.
They've done studies with people who will eat foods that we don't generally think are healthy,
but because the amount and calories below, there are cholesterol, you know, numbers and
lipid profile improves, they lose weight, insulin sensitivity improves, and markers of longevity
tend to get better.
So it's really, you know, overeating is the worst thing. In fact, if you chronically overeat healthy food,
you can cause yourself problems.
So overeating is the big one.
So it's the really, really, really big one.
So I think we should talk about how to help yourself
or prevent yourself from overeating.
Now, one of the first things that I like to talk to clients
about is to kind of change your relationship with how you should feel at the end of a meal.
The way I was raised, my parents are a tie-in immigrants and we tend to eat until we can't
breathe.
And the question that gets asked around the dinner table, especially for a Sunday dinner
at my mom's house, is, do you have room for more?
It's like, how much more can you fit in your mouth?
And so I learned this kind of eating behavior
where I didn't feel done until I couldn't eat anymore.
What do you think this comes from?
Do you think this comes from the great depression
and not having food and because it was so scarce
at one point for our power of the creation?
Yeah, that was the big issue back then.
I mean, it really was scarce.
And that was always a concern.
Well, it was maybe someday we'll wake up
and we're not gonna have the amount of food.
They're just living off beans or living off potatoes,
whatever it was, that's a real concern.
And so I think that just generations after that,
that was just passed down.
And because I got that too, growing up was like,
making sure your plate was completely clean.
Like we didn't leave any food leftover.
You know, you always tried to stuff it in while you had it
and while it was plentiful.
I never noticed it as much as I notice it now
having a one year old, right?
So, because I see, I mean, and even Katrina and I,
we've had this discussion, like, you know,
she'll be like, we'll be sitting down
and we'll be feeding Max and you know,
he has portion sizes that we typically feed him
and when he's eating really good, he finish all of it.
But sometimes when his teeth hurt
or he's not been that active that day,
he doesn't eat as much.
And I'm constantly reminding her that,
listen, he'll eat if he's hungry.
Like if he doesn't want any more food,
we don't have to force him.
He's not looted.
The doctor's fine.
He says he's fine.
He's not losing weight every time we check in.
He's gaining weight in a healthy manner,
and he's got a great body weight right now.
So, if he's not hungry, he's not hungry.
I bet you if he doesn't eat very much this meal,
the next time we feed him,
he's gonna want more food.
And so, it is.
I think it's ingrained in our culture so much
that we start to teach it to the kids so early
that it just becomes a habit as they become into adulthood.
I mean, I mean, I can't even, again, speaking for myself,
I didn't feel like I was finished with a meal
until I felt stuffed.
Like, okay, I'm done now with breakfast
because I'm stuffed.
I can't eat anymore.
I'm done with lunch because I'm stuffed or dinner.
But really, here's a better alternative.
Alternative is eat until you're satisfied,
not until you're stuffed.
Now this is very, very different.
It's very different.
In fact, if you eat until you're satisfied,
you'll probably end up eating about 70% or 80%
of what you normally would eat.
It's a different feeling, right?
I'm gonna eat and then do I feel satisfied?
I think I'm okay now, but you have to change
that relationship with that feeling of,
you know, that feeling of stuffed,
that feeling of I can't eat anymore.
Like if you, if that stops becoming something
that you think is positive and you think,
I'm gonna eat until I'm just satisfied,
you'll find that you stop overeating.
Now do you guys have specific strategies
that you guys would do either with yourself
or with your clients to get someone to this?
Because that's just so you know,
we say that so easily, but it's not that easy.
It's not an easy thing for people to get the difference of,
oh, am I satisfied right now?
Am I fooling you with the look at that?
Yeah, that takes some practice to get an understanding
with that feeling. You really have to work on your relationship. Are there things that you guys would you with stuff? Yeah, that takes some practice to get an understanding with that feeling.
You really have to work on your relationship.
Are there things that you guys would do with clients?
Well, because proteins and fats are very satiating,
I tend to want to start with that food first.
And that's something that I had my clients start to gear
their meals around trying to consume that first
and then the excess.
It's just one of those natural things.
When you're satisfied, you don't feel like the need to keep consuming and keep going.
In a sense, that's one strategy that I found was effective.
Yeah, I think it's about becoming a little bit more aware and slowing down helps you do that
What you'll notice is when you eat until you're stuffed you tend to eat very quickly
And so I would tell clients like here's a great tip. I would say don't drink anything
While you're eating and the reason why I said that was because it forces you to really chew your food
Which forces you to slow down and slowing you down gives you the opportunity, doesn't guarantee it, but it does give you
the opportunity to recognize that you're satisfied.
Eating fast, you'll pass satisfied and get to stuffed before you even realize that you're
satisfied.
Well, this is where we're a little bit different, right?
And that's why I wanted to talk a little bit more length with strategies. I found with clients, this is where the meal prepping,
weighing and measuring thing really helped.
And I know we've debunked eating small meals
throughout the day, does not speed up your metabolism.
It's not better.
It's not gonna make you burn any more fat by doing that.
But what I did like was that it portioned out meals.
It forced them to prepare them way and figure out like,
oh, this is what a 450 calorie meal looks like.
And this is what it looks like over four or five meals
in the day.
This is what it feels like when I eat those 450 calories,
like how my body feels afterwards.
So with every client, this was why I like to start them there
is to get them to at least feel that and understand
like what a 450 calorie meal should feel like
and what you feel like afterwards.
And the thing that was common with all of them
is when they would finish it, and they're done.
Like you've finished what's ever in your Tupperware.
Once you're done with that Tupperware,
you're done with your meal, there's your 450 calories.
If any sort of hunger that they had leading into that meal
was completely gone.
And what they realized was that, you know,
that feeling of being satisfied,
it really didn't take very much food
to fill that satisfied.
And I think most people are so distracted when they eat
that they go beyond that satisfied feeling
and they over stuff.
Totally.
There's this saying in Okinawa,
and I was, I couldn't remember what it was
or it came from, but I pulled it up.
And the saying is Harahachi Bu,
which means eat until you're 80% full.
So it's kind of part of their culture.
Okinawa is also known for having some of the best
longevity and health.
And if you think about it that way,
it's like, it does require awareness,
but ask yourself this while you're eating,
while you're eating, have you reached, because you're probably familiar with what
it feels like to be full, ask yourself, have I reached 80% of that, and then stop?
Yeah, it's interesting to me, like most of those studies that they do even on animals,
like they find that the ones that they calorie restrict versus the one that they, you know,
overeat tend to live quite a substantial amount longer.
Well, I just, this happened last night, right?
Literally, so I'm, because I'm back kind of on my kick right now.
And I still check in with myself like this,
even all the years of doing this,
all the foods that I've weighed and measured.
And I think there, and I know there's a study cell around this.
Maybe you will remember.
But I know there is just tracking and measuring
your food, what that results in weight loss is just making people aware.
So like last night, so last night I finished dinner, I still had room for calories in the
day, and I was hungry, and I'm Katrina had just bought this, I love this dark chocolate
granola thing that she gets.
It's so good, and a little bit of almond milk in it or whatever, like that's almost like a bowl of cereal, but it chocolate granola thing that she gets. It's so good and a little bit of almond milk and whatever, that's almost like a bowl of cereal.
But it's granola.
So I went down and my first initial thing I would do
is just pour it in a bowl of cereal, basically, out of it.
But I was like, you know what, let me measure this
because I don't wanna over consume.
And I poured it in a measuring cup
and measured two cups,
two cups of 600 calories without the almond milk.
That didn't even film my little small cereal bowl up to half of it.
Major really aware of it.
Yes.
And that just knowing that was enough for me to not over do that.
And I was totally fine.
I ate this 600 calories worth it, but I would have filled the whole bowl up
or at least three quarters of it up in the past
and just crushed it if I'm not really tracking
or paying attention.
So just by simply tracking and being aware of,
oh wow, that's 600 calories right there, I'm good.
I can have that.
And then after I ate it, I was satisfied.
And that was fine.
Right, another thing you could do is set side to side
time to eat.
So rather than sitting in front of the TV to eat or on your phone or while you're working,
you actually sit down at a table and you eat your meal and you take your time and that slowing down process does help bring
awareness. Now the second rule kind of helps with the first rule and this is a big rule today, especially in modern societies.
And that rule is to eat mostly whole foods.
Now, why is that important?
It was a couple of reasons why.
Number one, processed foods.
So when I say whole foods, I mean foods
that are basically one ingredient, right?
It's like steak, it's steak.
Eggs are eggs, milk is milk.
Process foods tend to come in boxes or wrappers.
They tend to be frozen.
They have long shelf lives. Whole foods, number one, tend to be more nutritious. They tend to be
healthier, not always, but they tend to be. The second reason is the most important. Process
foods are designed to make you overweight, okay, and they do a damn good job of doing that.
And I love using this example. I'll do it again for people who have listened to the podcast for a while. I've said this at least 15 times, but it's my favorite example.
But a bag of lace potato chips, a regular large bag of lace potato chips has like five
or six potatoes in that bag of chips. Now if I boiled five or six potatoes, plain, and
put them in front of you and said, eat them all. Be very difficult.
After like one or two for most people, you hit palette fatigue
and you wouldn't be able to keep eating.
But if I gave you that bag of chips,
especially if I put you in front of the TV or a movie,
most of us could eat that whole bag of potato chips.
Here's the irony.
That bag of potato chips has added oil on top of it.
It's even more calories than the plain potatoes.
And yet, you eat more of it because it was designed
to be hyper-palatable.
Heavily processed foods do this,
eating mostly whole foods automatically.
And I'm not just saying this,
there are now several studies that show this.
Automatically reduces people's caloric
and take by like 500 calories a day.
Well, we've talked many times on this podcast
that early on in our career,
we made this mistake of, you know, when I'd write a diet,
it would calculate the person's weight out, their goals,
you know, to ask them what foods they do like,
they don't like, and then I'd write this, you know,
generic plan, you know, follow this to a T.
Towards the end of my career, it changed completely.
It just, we would look at at their diet and I would ask them
how they eat currently right now.
And I would just look at some major fenders.
It's almost always processed food, fast food
that they're getting or soda's that they're drinking.
And I wouldn't radically change everything.
I would just slowly start to add whole foods in there
in replace of those processed foods that they're eating
and it would just, it would naturally get them to lose weight.
And then they don't feel like they're restricting.
That's what I love about like teaching people
to go in the direction of whole foods,
is that if I, if I just tell you to do that,
I know what will happen from that.
And there's, there's a psychological part
that is playing in your favor as a trainer that,
oh, the client doesn't feel like you're saying, no, I can't have.
Because if you do the, you have to follow this, you can't have this, you play that, I can't
I can't have thing.
And that always ends up leading to binging later on.
Yeah.
Okay.
And that's exactly what the studies show.
They've actually done these studies where, and they're crossover studies, right?
So they'll take groups of people, they're controlled.
They're like in a lab.
And then they say, and then they, and then they actually control the macros, so both sides have similar proteins,
fats and carbs in the foods that they're eating. The only difference is one side is
all processed food, the other side is whole natural foods, and then they say eat as much as you want,
and then they watch the people for a while, and then they, you know, the researchers count the
calories and the proteins and the fats and carbs. Then what they do is they switch the groups
and say, okay, now you guys eating the whole natural foods
you're gonna be in this room with processed foods
and you who are eating processed foods
you're gonna be in the whole natural group are room.
And it's about five to 600 calories with a difference.
It literally, here's a deal.
When food manufacturers are making processed food,
the number one priority with these manufacturers, most of the research and development
goes into making this food as palatable
and addictive as possible, okay?
Because that's what sells food.
That's what we end up buying a lot of.
They want you to consume it and they want you to consume it quickly.
I mean, it kind of goes back a little bit to your point about eating slow.
The digestive process, it benefits from fibers.
It benefits from a lot of these things.
Nature already gives us when the food is balanced
and it's already coming from real natural food choices
to where your stomach's gonna have to work through
and get to the nutrients and digest all of it
versus like a simple sugar or something
you're just gonna consume it, a rapid pace,
and you're looking for the next fix.
Actually, in those same studies,
they found that when people ate processed foods,
they ate something like 30% faster on top of it.
So really, it enforces this or encourages
this kind of binge speed, over eat.
And that's just society in general.
I mean, we're just drawn towards like quicker, faster options,
and we just need to kind of pull the reins back.
Well, and I like that we, that we've titled this golden rule here
as a, as eat mostly whole foods, right?
The reality that we live in the real world, don't I?
Right. I mean, yeah, we, and both of our, all of us,
would be lying if we said that we don't have process.
In fact, there's process food that probably makes its way
into each of our diets every single day.
We're around it that much.
But the idea is that you are always pursuing,
it's the same thing that we talk about with supplements, right?
Like, I'm pursuing to get all my nutrients
from whole natural foods.
The reality is I know there's times
that I have to supplement that.
Same thing goes for eating whole foods.
Like I'm always trying to target getting whole foods. The reality is I know that there are sometimes that we're going to
utilize process. Yeah. In fact, if you look at the obesity epidemic, it's really when
processed foods became a big part of our diets. The average American consumes 70 to 80 percent
of their food is processed food. It really should be the reverse.
70 to 80% or I like to do 90% of your food
should be whole natural foods,
and then 20% or 10% should be from processed foods.
If you do it that way, here's what happens.
You naturally eat less.
Like we said, in the first rule, which was Don't Over Eat,
because I'll tell you what,
you can definitely track things and eat mostly processed foods, don't overeat because I'll tell you what you can definitely
Track things and eat mostly processed foods and not overeat and get some health benefits, but it's a lot harder
You know if I eat processed foods and I'm not overeating I tend to want to eat more and it becomes a struggle every single day
I want more food. I want more food. I'm not I'm craving more food
But if I avoid processed foods, I don't necessarily feel like I'm under-eating. In fact, when I eat whole
natural foods, again, my calories drop quite naturally. Now, the third one, Adam, you mentioned earlier
about sodas. You've talked about that being one of the processed food thing. The third role is just
drink water. This is a big one. It sounds silly. But it's a huge one. I remember getting blown away
by when I would have clients track their food and show me what they're eating.
And then I'd always make sure to tell them,
make sure you put in everything that you drink.
It was hundreds of calories a day in beverages,
which I'll tell you what,
500 calories worth of food requires some work
to eat and some time, 500 calories a drink.
I mean, that's gone in five seconds.
Out.
And I don't even feel like I ate anything.
It makes up, it's such a big, easy thing
to change out to cut calories.
Just drink water, makes a huge difference.
Yeah, and it's interesting.
I've, this was a game changer,
just pointing that out with a lot of clients is,
why don't you just focus on just drinking water
and not anything else that's gonna give you
any kind of flavor.
I know a lot of times it's actually really hard
and challenging for people to not just seek flavor.
Everything we have available to us is always selling us
on the flavor of it and the experience of it
being this is like flavor explosion in your mouth
and everybody always highlights that because it's definitely,
I mean you, it's like a reward your body's getting
from a lot of these flavors,
but to focus more on just being hydrated
and feel like you don't have fatigue
and all these benefits of being hydrated
is gonna make a massive dent.
You guys ever get clients that tell you
that water's boring?
Yeah.
Yeah, I don't like the taste of water.
I got that all the time.
Yeah, if you're listening and this is you,
if you don't like the taste of water,
you've actually, because remember, water is essential for life.
So if you don't like the taste of water,
that's like saying sleep is boring.
Right, exactly.
Like, I don't like sleeping, it's boring.
You know what to do.
You've actually
trained yourself to the point where you need to have like Justin was saying earlier, flavor
all the time. By the way, artificially sweet and zero calorie beverages also remove those
because those encourage you to over eat. Water doesn't do that. In fact, water does the opposite.
If you are well hydrated,
you'll find that you're actually eating less.
If you drink a lot of flavored beverages,
including zero calorie or officially flavored beverages,
you'll find that you overeat.
Well, I told you that.
That was one of the things that got me to kick
the diet coax, right?
So I thought it was really interesting.
It was, this was, I don't know,
a while back when we were talking about this. And you
brought up, you know, what I'll just do is I have a regular
Coke and then I just account for the calories and because you
account for the calories, you drink less of it, right? Where
because I knew if I allowed diet Coke, what would happen, what
I'd notice is this, like so like I haven't had one in a long
time. But let's say I decided to have one today.
I'd have one today, and then another two days
would go by, then I'd probably have another one,
and so now I've got a week, right, if I had two of them,
then I'd have a week, or I have three of them,
then I'd have a week, or I'd have them every day,
and then before you know it, I'd have two in a day,
and real quickly, I found myself craving more and more,
and real quickly, I found myself justifying,
have another one because it's zero calories,
where I guys switched over to
drinking things like the Hanson or the Oli Pop which have calories in it. And I'm like, okay,
if I want to bubbly beverage that tastes good, I'm going to have one of these things, but I'm going
to have it with the calories. By doing that, I actually limit myself better than having all that.
You get that natural barrier of calories. Yeah, yeah, that's a good strategy. But for the most
people, don't drink any of your calories.
It's silly. Eating calories is way more fun. Go with the food and not the beverage and remain
very hydrated. By the way, if here's something, okay, for people, and I used to use this as a strategy
quite a bit for people who are really, really hated water, and you run into this quite a bit,
I would have them switch to carbonated water. Carbonated water is not bad, not a bad transition.
It was easier to get people, some people to drink more water, if it was, you know, sampele
green or a topochico.
Well, especially, there's like prone to drinking loss sodas.
Yes, yes.
And it just, it was, it was just easier for them.
But, and you, by the way, you'd be surprised.
You start drinking, you know, half a gallon to a gallon of water every day and no other
beverages.
You'd be surprised at how your skin looks, your inflammation goes down, your digestion improves
if you're...
Often times if you're constipated often, it's because you're not hydrated, a lot of people
don't realize that.
I also have found clients losing weight from this and it took me until I competed to really
piece this all together and what I found was, so when I,
I'd get a client and I'd find out they're not drinking
very much water and you know,
they would, I would recommend anywhere from a half a gallon
to a gallon, which would be a lot for some people
and they'd tell me, oh my God, Adam,
all day I find myself drinking water and peeing,
drinking water and peeing, drinking water,
that's all I feel like I'm doing all day long.
And it would just result in this weight loss.
It didn't really connect completely for me
or all the way line until I started competing and having to push gallons of water every
day. What I found was when I was in a calorie deficit and hungry, keeping my mouth busy,
drinking, and then the amount that I'd have to go pee and get up and go walk and pee,
just the extra movement from that, and keeping my mouth busy with drinking water,
kept me from wanting to eat or doing anything else.
As a result of that, I was able to lean out.
I found the same strategy with clients
that don't drink a lot of water,
just simply telling, and again,
not telling them you can't have any of these other things,
and saying, hey, I need you to get a half gallon,
or I need you to get a gallon of water every single day.
And because they're so focused on that,
it distracts them from drinking all these other things.
It does.
And it eliminates a lot of the achiness
and a lot of these signals after the workouts,
we get a lot of achy feeling.
And being hydrated, a lot of times eliminated that
for some of my clients as well as the fatigue.
Yeah, well, one sign of not having enough water is also hunger, so sometimes you feel like
I want to eat something, drink some water, wait 15 minutes, not hungry anymore.
That's how I thought it competing, I mean you're always, you're eating in a competitive level,
you're hungry all the time.
And a lot of times what would curb that for me is just simply just pounding a glass of water
and that would make me feel better
until I get to the next meal.
Now the next one is extremely important.
This one's not diet related
and that is to move every single day.
Now I know we get recommended to exercise every single day,
which fine, that actually falls into this category.
You know, have your schedule 35, 45 minute bout of scheduled activity
and exercise, but I have a better option
because that one tends to be more difficult
to maintain for a lot of people,
especially if you are busy, but sedentary,
carving off 45 minutes every single day to,
you know, to walk or hike or ride a bike or swim or whatever
again in a treadmill.
That can be a little bit difficult or challenging.
Instead, here's a strategy that I found for clients.
I'll tell them, walk 10 to 15 minutes after breakfast, lunch, and dinner.
Now, let me tell you why this works so well.
First off, it sounds very manageable.
10, 15 minutes at a time.
Quite easy.
Number two, I've attached activity
to something that they already do.
It's not a, it doesn't feel like a new thing.
Like carving off 45 minutes to exercise,
feels like a new thing.
If I say walk 10 minutes or 15 minutes
after breakfast, lunch and dinner,
well, I already breakfast, I already lunch already dinner.
So I'll just get up and walk around
for a little bit, walk around the block
a few times or whatever.
Makes a huge difference and people are far more likely to stay consistent when they do something like this, but
it's very important that you move every single day now much more than ever. Mainly because like I said earlier,
we're just so sedentary even though we're very busy. We wake up in the morning,
we, you know, e-breakfast, get in the car, we sit in a car, drive to work.
Nowadays, even with, you know, with, with lockdowns and stuff,
people didn't even do that. They didn't even walk to the car,
they just get up and sit at their desk. But let's say you do,
you drive in your car, but you're sitting there, you get to your
office, sitting at your desk, doing that for eight hours, get back
in your car, drive home, what do you do? Sit back down, eat dinner,
sit back down on the couch. The average person walks grand total
if they're not scheduling activity under 4,000 steps.
Under four, what is that?
Like a half a mile?
Yeah, it's like a day.
Yeah.
That's it.
The body wasn't designed to do that.
It's not even a full hour of activity
of moving all day long.
It's what the average person is moving right now.
That, and this is my favorite rule of all the rules because I think that it's one of the simplest
to implement and be consistent with it if you make an effort to do the things that you're
saying right now.
Like, that was something later on that became a hat.
In fact, it didn't become a habit until I was with Katrina.
Katrina and I started to do this anytime that we would go out to eat.
That was just kind of how it started.
It started as a rule, not at home, but as if we were to go out.
We're going to go out and go have a nice sushi dinner or go out have a steak dinner or
whatever.
As soon as we got out of the restaurant, we wouldn't just go walk back to our cars.
We would go walk for 30 minutes and take a walk up and down the strip or wherever we're
at.
I really attribute a lot of our weight management or keeping us healthy to that.
The other thing that I started to notice
when we started to create that as a habit was,
this was also one of the best and few times in our day
when we were completely present with each other
and non-destracted.
And I know this is about like health and fitness
and we're talking about more like weight loss,
weight gain type shit, but you know,
we talk how important that it is
for your overall health to manage
like your relationships and being present.
And to me, that was a side effect
that I wasn't anticipating for this.
I was doing it originally for the calorie burn.
I'm gonna move, because I need to move,
I need to burn the calories, I ate a bunch of calories,
let's move.
What I found as a cool side effect was,
this was really nice.
Here I have this half hour hour walk with my partner
and we would not have our cell phones on us.
We wouldn't have any distractions around us
and we were just enjoying the day
and having great conversation.
And that is what actually led it
to being a lifelong habit of ours.
I mean, it started off as a calorie burn,
staying shape thing, and it turned into,
wow, this is one of my favorite times with my partner,
because it's one of the few times that,
I don't have a television around, I don't have a computer around,
I don't have a phone around, and it's just her and I,
walking out in nature, connecting with each other
and having great conversation.
Yeah, two of my favorite sayings,
one is movement is medicine, and the other one,
it was like movement creates momentum.
And both of these things ring very true to me.
And it's just something why I really focused
a lot of the initial bit of when I would talk to a client
that was potentially gonna work with me.
This was one of those things that you just want to figure this out,
like how much movement are you capable of doing throughout your day?
How can we implement strategies to make this?
And I think the ritual thing is probably the most effective way to accomplish that first
bit of introduction to making that a priority in your lifestyle, but then we want to build
on that momentum.
And we want to keep that going and challenge the body because muscles benefit from it.
Your entire system benefits from a digestive system, muscular skeletal system, everything,
your body is comprised of benefits from movement.
Yeah, well, one thing I used to laugh at when I was an early trainer.
I thought that was silly as I would hear people say, oh, I park my car further in the
parking lot, where I took the stairs
Instead of the elevator, I'm like, oh, that's so silly. It's barely any activity. Here's the truth
That stuff makes a big difference over time. If you do it every single day
If every single day you take if instead of taking the elevator up three to the third floor you take the stairs
If every single day instead of using the bathroom that's next to the office that you're working,
you use a bathroom that's on another floor, if every single day you park all the way on the other side of the parking lot,
and you just do that every single day, tremendous long-term health benefits.
And forget the calorie burn, because we're going to get to the next rule, which really helps with that.
Forget the calorie burn aspect. It's just good for your health. It's good for insulin sensitivity.
It's good for movement, circulation.
Regardless of the amount of calories that you burn,
our bodies were meant to move most of the time.
In fact, sitting all day long is worse for your health
than smoking.
I was gonna bring up just simply starting
at the fact of sitting less.
Just just standing and whether you have the ability
to get a standing desk, if that's gonna be your situation,
you should really look into these things
because you want to really promote a healthy body
because it elvates your mood.
It just promotes all this benefit to you
for every aspect of your life.
Well, you also just have to be aware
where we're moving right now with tech.
Like, look what we've seen in just the last two decades
with things like Uber and DoorDash.
And I mean, we're moving less and less and less.
And it, that stinks up on you.
And all those things are great too.
So that's not me like, harping on that.
It's just that you have to be aware of that.
You have to be aware that everything is becoming so convenient,
right?
Amazon, deliver to our door.
Like, I mean, I, here's, it sounds stupid, but, you know,
part of me in the, here's, it sounds stupid, but, you know, part of me in the,
you know, 10 years ago being able to get away with more food around Thanksgiving was shopping.
I, you know, having to go to the mall and drive and walk, I don't do any of that anymore. So you
have to think about that stuff. Like you eliminate that. That's a bunch of movement that you used to do.
You just deleted that. Yeah, you, so you have to be able to adjust.
Either one, create movement in other places
or you have to adjust, calorize otherwise,
the weight just piles on and that just adds up over time.
Right, but again, regardless of the calorie burn,
movement on its own is beneficial.
And really, the key here is to inject it
into your daily life.
We're not necessarily talking about scheduled,
structured workouts, but that does lead
us to the next one, which is lift heavy things every once in a while. Now, here's the wonderful
thing about resistance training, a resistance training covers, of course, traditional weight
lifting, using machines, body weight training, resistance bands, suspension trainers. That's
all resistance training. The beautiful thing about resistance training is,
we're gonna get into its benefits, right?
But one of the beautiful things about it
is you don't have to do it all the time.
In fact, for most people, one or two days a week
of a good resistance training program
will give you a lot of the incredible health benefits
of resistance training.
Now you may not maximize muscle development
and super sculpt your body and that kind of stuff,
but in terms of that health benefits, right, in terms of the metabolism-boosting effects
that resistance training offers, one or two days a week for most people can make a pretty
big impact.
And that's really the big benefit from a health perspective of resistance training.
Besides keeping your body mobile and strong, which is resistance training does phenomenally,
it actually maintains a fast metabolism.
Now, why is that important?
Well, we're surrounded by food and we don't move much.
So we're not burning a lot of calories,
so we don't move much.
And there's a lot of calories that we eat
because food is easy and it's delicious.
An amazing buffer against that,
a great insurance policy against that,
is just to have a faster metabolism.
Resistance training is the only form of exercise that reliably speeds up your metabolism.
In fact, other forms of exercise may actually do the opposite
and make you more of an efficient calorie burner.
Not resistance training, it speeds it up.
So, you're literally, if you lift weights once or twice a week
and you do it in a good way with good exercise programming,
you could be burning 300 more calories a day
doing what you normally do. You're not moving more, you could be burning 300 more calories a day doing
what you normally do.
You're not moving more, you're not exercising more, you're doing that work, that resistive
training work out every once in a while.
But now you're just 300 calories more a day because you have a fascial metabolism.
Now, how have you guys implemented this into your own lifestyle?
Now I know, Sal, you rarely miss a workout.
I think you probably adjusted myself and maybe even Doug are the ones that probably have moments where we're less consistent. How do you use this philosophy
into your own lifestyle? Do you guys do things different today than what you did in your
20s like when you think about strength training and lifting compared to what you did when you
were 22 years old?
Yeah, I'm just more conscious that I seek it out. I'm always thinking about where I can come home from work
and how I can add resistance training into my lifestyle
because I know the benefit of it of providing the strength
but also just keeping my body able
and keeping my joints healthy
and making sure that everything is working properly.
And I wanna maintain that.
I wanna have all the abilities that I have now going forward.
So I just find ways during the week now,
I don't put so much pressure on a long period of time
of working out.
I get it more in smaller windows,
but I build upon that.
So if I've missed a few days or whatnot,
I don't punish myself in one session
like I used to for a longer period of time
with more intensity, I'm very much more methodical
about building that momentum back up
with smaller workouts.
That's the thing I would say I'm most different about
in my late 30s than what I was in my early 20s.
So in my early 20s, it was kind of an all or nothing
Also, like if the workouts not perfect
Right, like if I didn't have a you got to make up for it
Yeah, exactly either I got to make up for it or if it wasn't in an hour of intense training
Then you write it off completely the same thing where a lot of times
I will spend the entire time in the gym just squatting or just Turkish
get up or just the overhead press.
If I haven't lifted in a while and I'm just not feeling like a 50 minute or hour long
training session, the old young version of me would just ride it off because I'm not
in the mood to get after it and I would think that if I don't get after it, I'm not making
any progress where today I'm different.
Like, I live by this philosophy of just make sure
I lift heavy things every once in a while.
Like, there's the major lifts.
I want to be strong in them.
And even if it just means I'm gonna go bench for,
you know, for the day, I'm gonna go do that.
And I wouldn't do that in the past.
And that is something that I do now today.
I think older and wiser version of me
than I did in my early 20.
Yeah, I mean, personally, I very consistent with it,
but I never trained a client, I don't want to say never.
I almost never trained a client more than two or three days
a week of resistance training.
In fact, 90% of my clients that I trained in my career,
my most successful clients, they did resistance training
two days a week.
Okay, I had another chunk of clients that would train resistance training once a week.
These were people that were just interested in longevity and health and they did a lot
of other activity on their own, whether it was hiking or cycling or swimming.
And they'd come see me once a week and we would do a traditional resistance training work
out once a week.
Again, the beauty of resistance training is you don't have to do it all the time
to get the health benefits.
Now, of course, you can get more and more advanced
and build more muscle and do all that kind of stuff.
But if you want the health benefits of resistance training,
a couple days a week of a good structure routine
will give you the metabolism boosting effects.
You'll get the mobility effects, the strength effects,
you'll get the insulin sensitivity effects,
the testosterone boosting, and manifests,
the hormone balancing and women effects
of resistor strength.
You don't need to do a whole ton.
And if you just move every day, like we said earlier,
you'll get great benefits,
but you still need to lift heavy stuff,
because lifting heavy stuff is what makes you stronger.
It's what gives your body a reason to have muscle and strength.
Now the next one, this one's one, Adam,
you're talking about becoming wiser.
This one took me a long time to figure out,
and that is to sleep well.
I almost never prioritized good sleep.
In fact, I took pride in seeing how little sleep I could get
and how little sleep I can get away with.
This is a big one.
In fact, studies are pretty conclusive.
Sleep is as important for your health as diet and activity.
In fact, if your sleep is really bad, it can actually impact your health more acutely
in a negative way than your diet.
I mean, you can get away with a terrible diet for a month.
You have really, really bad diet for a month. You can't, so you get, you have to really, really bad sleep
for a month.
You can develop some pretty bad chronic illness.
The sleep is extremely important.
Well, I remember, I wish I remember who it was,
but I do remember the first time it was said to me
and I was like, oh shit, that is, that's powerful.
And I never thought of it this way.
And you know, once I had realized the importance of sleep, the next thing was like, okay, it's important. And once I had realized the importance of sleep,
the next thing was like, okay, it's important.
I know I've read the studies, I get it.
I don't put a lot of effort into it.
I remember someone saying to me that,
think about the way you get up every single morning, right?
And they would ask me, like, what's your morning routine?
Oh, I do this, I brush my teeth, I shower,
I read something, I eat, and then I head out the door, whatever,
I have a cup of coffee, whatever.
And then they ask me, well, what does your night routine look like?
And I'm like, I don't really have a night routine.
Sometimes I go to bed this time, sometimes I'm like,
yeah, exactly.
If you understand how important sleep is, right?
And you don't put any effort whatsoever in a routine
to get you ready for it.
Like, how are you ever going to be successful at it? And I remember that, like, aha moment of,
oh, wow, I'd never thought of it like that. Like, I just don't treat it like that. I just wait
until I'm tired and exhausted. And then I crash, you know, and many times I'm staring at a phone or
on a computer or watching TV. And that completely changed the way I look at it. Like, we're now, soon as that sun goes down for me, like, my brain's already turning
on, like, okay, what's the, my last three hours going to look like and getting ready
for it?
Yeah, it's still relatively new in terms of putting a lot of intention around, preparing
for sleep and, you know, being more mindful about, you know, leading into a higher quality sleep experience versus where I used
to be like, well, I guess I stood up too late or I had eaten something or kept me up all
night or whatever randomly would happen is what I felt like the result of my sleep was.
And there was no structure there or any kind of intention leading into, well,
I could actually manage this a lot better.
Like, I could actually, like, put more thought into this
and reap the benefits of sleep and you feel the difference
when you actually get quality sleep, like nothing else.
I would say I use, I don't know about you guys,
sorry, Sal, I'll cut you there.
I would say I use, I don't know about you guys, sorry, so I'll cut you there. I would say I use more of our partners and sponsors
or more products and things to assist me
here than anything else that I do.
So like a little more consistently?
Yeah, exactly.
I mean, you look at like the, you know,
the uler, the Felix Gray, the Ned sleep,
these are all partners that we have.
And the sleep thing has been one of the hardest things
for me to get really good at.
And I would say that I've used AIDS to help all
that to get this like routine together
more than anything else.
I would feel like spray blue blockers all these things.
Well, I mean, we treat, you know,
especially as fitness fanatics, right?
We treat our workouts, sacred, like, okay, I gotta, you know,
do my mobility before and have my pre workout
or my coffee and get ready. And I know my structure workout, but then when it comes to sleep, great, like, okay, I gotta, you know, do my mobility before and have my pre workout or my coffee and get ready and I know my structure
workout, but then when it comes to sleep,
it's like, oh, I'll just turn the lights off
and hit the pillow and then expect to have.
That was my eyes.
But not a little sleep, but it doesn't,
it doesn't work that way.
And here's the thing, if you've been having bad sleep
for long enough, you don't know the difference.
Here's the crazy thing.
I, when I would work with clients and I would talk
to them about this and they would change it,
they'd come to me and be like,
I had no idea that I felt the way I did.
I was just used to having bad sleep.
It's as easy as this for a lot of people.
Not for some people, for a lot of people,
it's as easy as this.
Make sure you give yourself eight hours.
So go to bed at a time and wake up at a time
to where it gives you at least eight hours.
So that's number one.
Number two, have a sleep routine.
Adams was alluding to that earlier.
One to two hours before bed, put on blue light blocking glasses
if you're gonna walk around with electronics on, lights on,
you're gonna watch TV or whatever.
That makes a big difference.
Wind down, avoid stimulating stressful articles
or news things.
So if you're stressed out about politics or COVID
or whatever, save that for the morning.
Don't do that right before bed.
I'll just look at it all.
Yeah, that's the best thing.
Drinks in Camimil T.
Kind of turn the lights down a little bit
like you're preparing yourself
for some, just like if you're warming up for a workout.
And it's actually quite nice when you start to do this.
The whole family starts to wind down.
You know, we dim the lights.
Next thing on my kids are going to bed.
A little bit better, I get better sleep.
It's as easy as that.
Start doing that and you'll find that you'll get
some tremendous benefits.
Cause poor sleep is very detrimental to health.
I mean, I just read a recent study that showed
that people who got less than seven hours of sleep
a night chronically.
So just a little less than ideal
had a 40% increase in heart disease risk.
So it makes that big of a difference.
And sleep is one of the best stress relievers
that there is around.
In fact, we tend to know this naturally.
If we get overstressed over long periods of time,
you'll find that you wanna sleep more.
Sleep is a great stress manager,
which brings us to the next one,
which is to manage your stress.
Stress is an interesting one.
You don't want to get rid of stress.
I mean, exercise is a stress on the body.
You want to be able to manage stress.
And people ask me, like, what does that mean,
manage stress?
Does that mean that I make stressful situations less stressful?
That's part of it.
That has to do with mindset.
I'll tell a story that kind of illustrates that a little bit.
It was maybe a month ago, I was coming home
and my garage is separate from the house.
I have to walk through this little back area.
And I'm walking through and I smell gas.
And I'm like, what is that smell?
And so I said, okay, I better call PG&E.
This is the gas company here in California.
Because if you smell gas, it's a good idea to call them,
just to double check.
Well, they came, lo and behold, there was a small gas leak
on the side there.
So they turned off all the gas to the house.
So I had no gas to the house.
Okay, so the next morning, I wake up,
and because I have no gas, I have no hot water.
So I take a freezing cold shower,
and I'm just pissed off, right?
Cause it's freezing cold.
And I walk out of the shower, and I'm him and Han,
and I'm pissed off about it being cold.
And Jessica was there, my wife.
And she starts giggling, and I'm like, what's so funny?
And she goes, why are you so mad taking a cold shower?
She goes, sometimes you do that on purpose
for health reasons.
And I thought, yeah, you know what the difference is?
The difference is, I choose to do it.
Reframing versus, I feel like I'm forced
to take this cold shower.
So you can do that with a lot of things in your life
to make them feel less stressful,
is to reframe the situation, just stuck in traffic.
Oh my gosh, I'm stuck.
Let me listen to that really cool podcast with that book,
giving me that opportunity.
Let me get on the phone call and call that person,
I haven't called reframing stressful situations,
can do that.
Now here's the other thing I want to comment on
that is I think was a game changer for me
is when you have stressful stuff happened,
balance it out with stuff that you know relief stress.
So it's like I had a really stressful day.
This is a good day for me to go do a walk
which I personally find to be stress relieving
or watch a funny movie,
which I find to personally be stress relieving.
That's one of the ways that I try to balance it out.
Well, this is the real power behind meditation
or just practicing stillness, right?
And I'd get this, like when I talk to somebody about this,
like how do you meditate?
And it's kind of a weird question to try and answer it.
One of the best ways that I have found for me is
that is a moment where I am completely still
and I am processing all the things
that's happening in my life currently
and I'm practicing reframing them.
That's, I am looking at the things at that moment
when I go into that stillness or that meditation,
I'm thinking about all the things that I'm frustrated.
I'm frustrated because of this going on work
or I'm frustrated with this.
And instead of being frustrated about it,
I'm looking at the silver lining
in all those situations and reframing it.
Just like the example you gave,
this is where I find meditation to be
very powerful. To each their own, if you do it and use it for other things. But for me,
that's how I've learned to use it. It doesn't have to be this. I'm sitting in Indian style
with my hands in a prayer situation and I have crazy lights on or in the dark or what
are that. It just literally is a moment of stillness, thinking about my day, thinking about the things
that at that moment, I think are stressful
or I think are so bad, and finding the silver lining
or finding the opportunity for growth and all those things,
that can really change the way your body perceives
that stress.
I've gotten a lot better about writing things down
and really reflecting and doing sort of an inventory on my day and things
that would potentially be stressful or things
that I carry with me.
And I just think that, and I release these things.
It's if I don't, if I can't get it to it today,
I'm gonna get to it eventually.
And I just keep it there in front of me.
So it's not something that will spin me out.
It's something that I'm carrying with me.
I think it's just a healthy thing.
However, you can do this in terms of relieving yourself
of your mind at night, especially when things start to spin
and stress kind of lingers on,
and you carry that with you into the next day.
You just wanna make sure it's out in the open,
and also one thing that helped
with me for that to be able to kind of notch, to counter a lot of these things on my list
was to write down what I am grateful for and what things are going well and really see
a lot of the times way overpowers.
Totally.
Anything that I am really upset about and stressful about.
Well, the more that you practice this, the easier it becomes to do it in real time, too.
I've shared this before that this is my self-awareness where it came from.
It started off at night time, laying in bed and reflecting on my day.
From years of practicing that, it became more real time.
Sal has talked about this before, right?
You share your dish washing example, right?
There's a good example.
Something that as a kid, you looked at as a chore
and oh my God, at the wash dishes,
you've learned to reframe that as,
oh wow, it's an opportunity for me to put some music on
or to be totally mindful and present
and think about my day and all the things I'm grateful for.
And so I think that that's the idea here when we talk about managing stress, we talk
about meditation stillness is your your training yourself to learn to reframe these things that
end up being like chronic stress for people in their life.
If you train yourself to do that, it becomes easier and easier to be able to do that real
time. So when the stress hits you, because it's inevitable, right becomes easier and easier to be able to do that real time.
So when the stress hits you,
because it's inevitable, right?
Nobody's going to avoid shit.
Shit happens in everybody's life.
But what you do with that is everything
and how you respond to it is everything.
Right, and here's the, you know, one more thing
and this is just a fact that laughter
is one of the pest stress relievers there is around.
It really is.
In fact, and I remember I watched this video on it
and it was hilarious, literally,
because the guy said, pretend laugh right now,
fake laugh right now,
and then you'll find yourself laugh for real.
And if you're listening to podcasts, try it out.
Start laughing, like you're pretend laughing,
and what you'll find is you'll actually start to laugh for real.
This is a great thing to do when you're feeling
really stressed out is to find something funny or to make yourself laugh.
It's why they say it cuts the stress in a room
or the tension in a room, it's to crack a joke or whatever.
Laughter is, this is probably why it exists in the first place
is something that we do as humans.
It's a great stress reliever.
So to find yourself real stressed out,
do something funny or something fun.
It's a great way to kind of balance it out.
Now, the last one I think is one of the most important ones.
And we listed it as be a good friend.
Now, the reason why it says be a good friend
is because really what it means
is have good relationships with the people around you.
But I think we put so much on other people
in the sense of the good relationship has to do
with the person that I'm having the relationship with.
Oftentimes when you're a good friend,
good friends find you.
If you're the good person, the good friend,
I mean, people take advantage of you,
but I mean in a genuine way, you're caring,
you offer help, you listen to people,
you'll find that, you'll find those kinds of people in your life as well.
And studies do show that the places with the greatest
longevity people in those areas have wonderful social
networks, have very tight social networks,
whether it's church or family,
they've got people around them that they're close with.
What was that study that you shared that one time about?
People that have good relations or community?
Poor relationships was equivalent in terms of damaging your health to smoking.
I think it was 10 cigarettes a day.
Yeah, something crazy.
Yes, yes, yes.
That's crazy to me.
That's how bad it is to have bad relationships around you.
This is why I think that religious people live longer than non-religious people.
Scientific community believes it's because of the how religious communities
tend to have these kind of networks and relationships and they think that's what may be contributing
to the longevity. I'm sure the religious people think it's because they're favored. Community
was always a big factor in all the blue zones and all those things and it's really an important
thing too with purpose, even for your own purpose that you find every day, which,
you know, really guides a lot of people's lives. And I think pouring that into other people
is a big part of that and to be able to, you know, have community, you also have to give
of yourself in order to receive.
So I think it's important though, if we're going to talk about friends and community, that
it, I think it's also important that you evaluate your circle too, because many times we are drawn to people that feed our insecurities and the issues that
we're still dealing with from childhood or whatever, and that can really just fuel the
toxicity, right?
And it not really help you grow or move through or manage stress better.
So, uh, it's yeah, like if you're trying to avoid drinking alcohol
and the friends that you have, the way you bond,
the only way you bond is through alcohol,
you may need to reevaluate why your friends
with them on the first day.
Yeah, or if you have, I mean, I had friends
that I was really close with since we were high school kids
and in high school, we were all into sports
and really competitive and that was what we shared
in common as kids. Then we grew to be adults and we're very different, but that competitiveness
stayed in us and we became that way in life instead of being supportive of each other and lifting
each other up and being happy when the other one was successful. It was always trying to put the
other one down or one up the other one and that can be a really unhealthy circle to be a part of.
And a lot of times people get stuck because they're in circles like that.
Yeah. It also, it just feels good, genuinely feels good to be a good person to someone
else for the sake of being a good person.
So what I mean by that, because when I say like be a good friend or do good things, don't
do it with the intention
of receiving anything back.
That's the wrong reason to do it.
You don't get the same benefit.
If I go out of my way to do something nice to Justin and I'm thinking to myself, I'm doing
this because I want him to be nice back or I want something back from him, I'm not going
to get the same value as me doing it because of just the act itself.
The act itself is what I value,
the fact that I'm being good, being nice to you,
and then I'm done and I expect nothing.
And then if he does do something, nice to me back,
what a wonderful cherry on top of the Sunday,
it's a nice extra, but I find being a good friend
is how you find good friends.
Being a good friend is how you also find
when you have bad friends. Up in time.
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