Mind Pump: Raw Fitness Truth - 2286: How to Workout After a Poor Night of Sleep, Using Exercise to Recover from Alcohol & Drug Addiction, Ways to Alleviate IT Band Pain & More (Listener Live Coaching)
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Look, you always hear us say avoid processed food.
Well, guess what?
One of the most processed foods that exists,
protein powders, protein bars,
they're extremely processed. Now, of course you processed foods that exists, protein powders, protein bars. They're extremely processed.
Now, of course you can use them appropriately, but at the end of the day, they fall under
that same category.
They're processed foods.
Whole foods are superior.
And the story.
Wow, this must not be one of our protein-based, butchie powder days.
Well, you know what's funny?
That would be a bad idea.
Can I tell you a story?
Years ago, so years ago when I had my, my wellness studio, um, I was, this is back,
like when I first opened, I was total meat head trainer.
So like proteins, carbs, fats, calories, lift weights.
That's it.
And I had this young lady that worked on that.
That was really good in the wellness space.
She was a physical therapist, but she was educated in wellness.
And she was talking about processed foods.
And so I heard her talking about it.
I got into discussion and I said, I kind of agreed with her.
I said, yeah, you know, you're, you're right.
Uh, you know, I think foods that are not really natural.
It was a comment I made, probably not good.
And she goes, well, that strawberry cake flavored protein powder you have is
probably in that same category.
And I couldn't dispute it.
I'm like, yeah, where does that, that is a hyper processed food. In other words,
just to put it more clearly,
if you're looking for the satiety producing effects that protein provides,
in other words, eating a high protein diet leads to less calories. You're
probably,
it's you're less likely to get those effects when you're consuming a hyper
palatable protein powder or bar.
They are, they are engineered to taste as good as possible,
just like other processed foods. They just happen to have a lot of protein.
Yeah. You know,
what was most alarming with that statement or that point you're making for me,
whenever I remember when this, when this came,
like full circle for me, cause I, I was like many people who just automatically
put those into the health food category. Yeah.
And then if you ever take a Snickers bar or whatever your favorite candy bar is
and flip around your favorite protein bar and actually look at the macro breakdown,
like it's pretty cool.
Yeah, it's almost identical.
Just one's got 10 more grams of protein inside of it.
And it's like, and the same thing goes for a protein shake, your strawberry,
she's gonna flip around a Nestle quick strawberry drink and look at the macros
and, you know, calorie macro, almost identical minus 10 grams of protein.
It's just like, wow, so I'm in taking this just so I can get an extra 10
grams of protein.
It's a glorified candy bar.
And so, you know, I definitely think that, and not to mention, especially with bars,
like shakes a little bit different, cause you can bolster shakes to be like a 40
gram, 50 gram shake.
And that's hard to get in.
Or add more scoops or whatever.
Right.
But most bars are only like from 10 on the high end, maybe 30,
which is not a huge portion of protein.
And yet it's a bunch of calories.
If it's 30 grams of protein in a bar, you're getting at least a 400 calorie plus bar and you just be far better off eating a,
you know, six ounces of chicken, a cup of rice.
You know, if you're using especially shakes to hit your,
like the way we talk about it, right?
Hit your protein targets at the end of the day.
Ooh, I missed it by 30 grams.
Let me throw a shake on top.
You'll gain the benefits of a high protein diet from a muscle building standpoint,
from a recovery standpoint, all that.
But what you're missing out on is,
or all of the other effects that protein provides in whole food form.
So like if, can I overeat? Let me put it this way.
Eat a high protein diet, one gram of protein per pound of target body weight
and whole natural foods. It's hard to overeat. It crushes your appetite.
It's a natural fat loss approach.
Natural fat loss diet will happen as a result.
What if I took that same strategy,
one gram of protein per pound of target body weight
and I made 60% of it come from shakes?
Would they get the same effects,
the satiety producing effects?
No, they probably overeat.
Now you're probably on a bulk on accident
just because you're trying to hit your protein with shakes.
So that's my point with it is that, um, you know, there's some value to them
and I use them too when I miss protein, but make no mistake.
It's look, the top selling protein powders and bars are the tastiest ones
because they still are still in that.
Well, that's usually the situation where you have like a young kid or somebody
that's like, has a really hard time with packing calories throughout their day.
And it's like they've gone the whole food route and they're trying their best to kind
of, you know, create meals that they can digest, but also like assimilate all those calories.
And, you know, it's a hard, it's a hard thing to do where something like that will actually
help because it's so hyperpalatable
where it's like, okay, we can actually add a lot more calories easier.
I just approach it with like a very growth-minded process, like meaning that when I look at the
whole health sphere, there's all these different, it's like this giant pie and you have nutrition,
you have sleep, you have exercise, you have all these different things and nutrition, it's like,
okay, what are the big rocks?
And then like, okay, go after my protein intake.
Well, that's step one.
And like, if I, if I need shakes and bars to get me to there, it's like, it's not
bad, it's just not ideal.
There's room for me to continue to improve there.
I don't want to settle for that.
I don't want to settle for, oh yeah, I hit my protein intake every day and I have
to, and I eat, I drink two shakes a day every day to do that.
You're always accounting for that as like a regular part of your diet.
Yeah, no, it's like, I mean, okay, so it's like, I'm going to the gym now,
but I have no rhyme or reason or what order of exercise.
I'm just going through and I'm doing the motion.
Okay, good step in the right direction, better than you staying at home and doing nothing or
playing video games all day long, but there's still room for improvement on what you're doing
there to get more bang for your buck and more value.
Same thing goes for the nutrition.
It's like it's a step in the right direction.
It's, it's a better choice than driving through McDonald's and getting
something or eating just a Snickers bar, but it's like there's still a lot more
room to improve.
Well, let me put it this way.
Like one thing that we advise, and this is a very effective strategy,
trainers and coaches who are good use this and people who don't aren't familiar.
It's a super effective strategy to both help
you build muscle and burn body fat. And that is, and I said
it earlier, hit your target body weight in grams of protein.
And I have to say this part from whole natural foods and
prioritize it. The reason why I have to say that part is if you
don't do that, then the effects I just said the fat loss
effects in particular aren't going to happen. In other words,
if somebody was hitting the protein targets
and saying, oh, cool, I need to hit 40 grams.
Let me eat this, let me have, let me slam this 40 gram shake
and then eat whatever I want.
Cause what follows up with the first part was,
do you hit the protein?
Don't worry about the rest of your food.
Cause it tends to take care of itself.
If it started with a shake, it wouldn't take care of itself.
And in fact, what would happen is you're just gonna add
extra calories to your diet.
So I just want to put supplements where they belong.
There's a category where they belong and it's not in the diet, exercise,
lifestyle category that makes up the majority of it does.
You know, there's a fact there is a, there is a, I do want to play a little bit
devil's advocate with that or like add more context to that.
There is a place where simply just doing that does
have a positive benefit. And what I mean by that is this. So here's an example of like,
like me not really focusing on nutrition and then me switching gears and going like,
okay, I'm going to start to dial things in. One of the first places that I go is simply adding
a shake at the end of the night, every night. And the reason why that is, is because one of my
habits of when I fall off consistency is I meal skip and I don't get enough protein.
So I go from-
So your calories are kind of low and low protein.
Yeah, exactly.
A little bit of both.
And so just simply adding a protein shake and I know I started to get closer,
not even to what I need to be protein wise and just boosting that protein intake.
My body now responds better to the weightlifting and I actually build some
muscle, which in turn speeds my metabolism.
It's a wild thing that happens.
And a lot of times it is the first step in the right direction for me as far as
it's like the easy like, okay, I'm not going to change anything right now,
but I'm at least going to add a protein shake at the end of the night.
And it also naturally does this is if I make a bad unhealthy choice, it tends,
it tends to be at nighttime after I smoke weed, I go eat ice cream or go get
a treat or I have popcorn. Whereas if I'm telling myself the last thing I'm gonna have is a protein shake, it now replaces that.
So not only does it replace this lesser choice, but it also adds protein and then it helps with that.
And I know that because I'm a low protein eater on, if I just go to my default.
Yeah, yeah. I mean, look, the, the, it's, it's, it's, and this is maybe why it might be beneficial, beneficial
in a bulk too. It's just, it's easy to overeat with, or easier to overeat with processed health foods
than it is with whole natural health foods is the big point that I'm trying to make. But for
someone on a bulk or if you have a lot of lean body mass, like if you're trying to hit 250
grams of protein a day, ooh, from whole natural food, you know, if you're a big dude, that's
gonna be really, really hard.
Shake makes sense.
Or if you just constantly have poor appetite, can't eat enough to build muscle,
then it can definitely make some sense.
But otherwise for most people want to lose weight, like do it with whole
natural foods.
And if you use a shake, then it's, it's going to give you some of the
benefit, but not all, and it's a process food.
So you're not really avoiding them.
Anyway, I, uh, I would, I came in this morning and I'll tell you a little bit
about the workout, but I came in angry because I saw that.
Oh, dude, I'm so mad.
Rowan, like three 15 guy.
Oh bro.
Well, so let me tell you your lent.
Let me tell you, no.
Don't I'm not sharing that bro.
I didn't know it was.
I'm just saying he gave something up and you're all angry now.
I'd let the audience like figure it out.
No, no, I so toddlers are just great, right?
They're great because there's so often times there's no rhyme or reason.
What's going to set them off.
And then when they're set off, if you it's like dismantling a bomb,
like you get the right wire otherwise, oh, fuck, we added 15 minutes to this.
Tenth. So it started this morning. So he,
we use the hatch light still for him. And so this,
this light is red. It means stay in bed. If you turn it yellow,
it means wake up or whatever. Now I have a monitor on him.
I can hear him when he's awake. And then what I'll do is I'll turn the yellow light
on and he'll come out.
Sometimes what he does,
he just opens his door and just stands by the door waiting for me to do it or
waiting for someone to do it. Right. So this morning he kind of does that and I can hear door and just stands by the door waiting for me to do it or waiting for someone to do it.
Right?
So this morning he kind of does that and I can hear him and I'm around the corner so
you didn't see me.
So I turned the light yellow.
No, I don't want, I'm like, huh?
So I go over and he's like, I want it to stay red.
I'm like, uh, okay.
So I go around the corner, turn it red.
No, I don't want it red anymore.
Okay.
Let's go back to you.
This is the beginning dude. This is the beginning of the day.
So it's like that.
It's like one of those things like everything's like, he's getting mad at things.
That being perfect.
Right.
So then I'm like, Hey, do you want, you want me to make you a pancake?
Like let's make a pancake for, for, we have this really great, by the way, pancake mix,
uh, almond flour base.
But anyway, I'm like, let's make a pancake together.
He's like, okay, okay, let's make a pancake.
Wrong shape.
It was the wrong shape.
It came out the pan.
It wasn't the way you expected it.
Oh, just.
You just woke up in a mood.
And just, and Jessica and I are trying to work with them
and empathize and he's obviously in pulse.
He's three.
And, but at the same time, I'm like, he's,
he's starting to run us.
Like this is like a little dictator. Like, oh, sir, I'm sorry, he's starting to run us. Like this is like a little dictator, like,
oh, sir, I'm sorry, sir.
I'm just getting so.
I mean, that has to be one of the greatest challenges
with the way you guys are raising him, right?
Cause you guys are raising him with this,
like being patient, empathy, communicate,
let him feel his feelings.
So there's gotta be this dynamic, like allowing that,
but then you also not being like punked by your kid where he's writing.
Oh yeah. So what this natural?
Well, what it is is I mean, we're good with our boundaries. So no, sorry, you're not going to get another pancake.
You know, I'm sorry, buddy. I know it sucks or whatever that type of deal, but the hard part is not getting frustrated and angry while you're doing it.
Because that ruins the whole thing. Because it's there's a difference between me going like, yeah, I'm sorry, buddy, you're not going to get into the pancake.
I know that sucks versus no, you're not getting into the pancake.
You know what I mean?
Like you'd be like, cause more problem.
Yeah.
So that started this morning.
Then I took my car into the, to, you know, get it serviced, which I hate doing
anyway, and it's the same thing that I brought in for last time that they didn't
fix the guy, argued with me and I was like, so I kind of let him have it a little
bit, drive here to work.
And I got like 40 minutes to lift
before I got to get on a podcast
and it's supposed to be like an hour workout.
So I'm just, mm.
So I went out there and-
I'm gonna hurt myself.
That's it.
Dude, it was one of those,
it was one of those like ego takeover.
I know what's happening and Kyle was in here and I'm like,
you should let it happen.
I'm like, listen, bro, this is going to look terrible.
And I'm not, if I don't get hurt, that'll be a success.
I let it out a little bit.
But I don't think I'm injured.
I'm moving right now.
Okay.
Kind of moving side to side.
Ask me tomorrow.
Ask me tomorrow how much I overreshow it.
Oh, you guys ever have those workouts still?
You guys still do that where you go to sleep sober?
Well, yeah, it usually is around if I'm angry and I need
to outlet, like it's
It's one of those things you just kind of get after a little harder
But I mean I've tried to now pour that more into like the dummy downstairs like the move
I've done with Everett or we'll we'll just go attack. Oh what's your ad? Oh wait?
Oh, is it big is it a big? I think you told us about this. Yeah, he's the torso guy, right? Oh that one
Yeah, so we'll go out there and beat the the show
Well, it's Bob like
Yeah, he named him Chad and I just I just
Taking out on Chad. Yeah, they have grappling dummies. Have you seen those? Mm-hmm. Yeah, those are bad
Yeah, I might have to get one of those next so is that that like, so your go to is to probably go, go for a workout, go expend a bunch of
energy.
Yours you're going to go, you're going to go box.
I probably go for a drive.
That's what I do.
Really?
Yeah.
Now do you drive fast on your Pist or is it just like you're just settling and doing
your thing?
I mean, it depends what I'm driving, but yeah, I mean, typically not necessarily.
Like your mood doesn't dictate how fast you go.
Yeah, yeah, no, like if I need to get out,
like if I'm like in one of those moods,
it's like I want to be by myself in my thoughts.
And a lot of times it's not about like driving fast
and crazy, it's more like just getting out and getting away.
Like I love to go over to the coast and just like drive
on something about that calms me down.
You know what, a lot of,
because you are driving healthier than what we're doing.
That wasn't my point by the way.
I mean, it's better.
I mean, if I drove the way it worked out,
it would have been very dangerous.
You know, you're a driving enthusiast.
Doug's probably like this too,
because he really likes to drive and stuff.
It probably puts you so in the present.
Oh yeah.
Yeah, it calms me down.
It calms me down.
I'm in my thoughts.
I'm alone.
I don't have to communicate to anybody like that.
I put easy listening music. I don't have to communicate to anybody like that. I put easy listening music.
I don't put anything like rage or anything crazy like that.
It's like windows or tops down.
I'm cruising.
It's like that.
It's totally that type of mindset.
And yeah, that lets me kind of,
I mean, I haven't done,
I did that over the Christmas break.
That was the last time I got so angry
where I needed to go somewhere.
I was just got in the car and I drove for hours.
That's a really good part of awareness is, uh, not being able to
control cause I think pretending like you can always control, you know,
your reactions, but rather identifying like, oh, this is when I, I'm,
I can't control my actions.
So let me do something to help regulate myself.
Yeah.
That's a really good.
It's funny that we're bringing this up.
This was actually the conversation Katrina and I landed on last night of all
conversations, uh, cause she was talking about how her family interpreted that,
that her family was around when I did that.
Oh,
this is the first time they'd ever seen me like really upset at Katrina enough to
where I was so angry that I left.
I just don't do that.
Like it's not a common practice.
Like I can't remember the time before that,
that I did that.
And she was sharing with me about like each family member,
like how they came to her and talked to her,
asked afterwards, Hey, how's Adam doing?
Or how are you guys doing?
Or just like, you know, like, oh my God,
like it triggered one of her family members
and made like a big deal about it.
And so she's like, it's really interesting to see
how everyone in this family has interpreted that.
And the irony of that is like,
how toxic all of their relationships are
and how they handle stuff.
Like it's like, you know, loud and screaming
and all this craziness and it's like.
But leaving.
Yeah, but some people actually interpreted my leaving.
That's an abandonment.
It's called a, that's an abandonment trigger.
And they, and they got all like freaked out about it.
And I explained to Katrina, I'm like,
that's so wild to me because the way I processed that was like,
like if I had to go do it again,
I would do it exactly the same way.
You actually did, because you knew you were so mad.
That's your escape hatch.
Yes.
Let me go and get myself.
Yeah, I didn't want to make a scene in front of the family members.
I didn't want to scar my son on a holiday.
You did the right thing.
Yeah, like he'll never remember,
his dad was gone for five hours.
No, no, you did the right thing.
Collected your thoughts.
And, but the fact that the family interpreted it like this,
like some of them thought it was just so bad.
It's horrible.
And to the point where Katrina, obviously in the moment,
she wasn't defending me, but later on she's like, yeah, no,
I think he did the right thing in that situation.
That's cool.
And she knows that she's like, she's like, I fucked up,
you know, it was my bad.
I was the one that was out of line in the situation,
but to see how each family member based off
of their experiences with how they're. If you have abandonment issues, because they'll say this like with couples therapy or
whatever they'll always say, take a break. Who was it? What was that book Dr. Gottman,
where they were studying couples and they were testing their blood pressure, heart rate monitor,
and he had couples living together and they were testing all these parameters and they'd have them discuss a challenging topic.
But what they would do is for the listeners who don't know,
brilliant studies.
These were duplicated several times, very few studies.
Most all of our marriage counseling
and stuff is based off of all their research.
Yes, their research.
So what they did is they would monitor these people,
have them discuss something challenging,
and then when they would notice their heart rate,
blood pressure go up and all that stuff, like markers of stress, have them discuss something challenging. And then when they would notice their heart rate, blood pressure go up and all
that stuff, like markers of stress, they would create an excuse.
So, oh, the equipment shut down.
Can we have you guys take a break real quick and continue it?
Cause we're not able to monitor it or whatever.
Then they would wait until their blood pressure came down, their heart rate came
and all that stuff.
Then they let him come back.
The success rate of people coming to resolutions was dramatically different.
The problem is, is if you're with somebody who has
abandonment issues, like, you know, someone's parent left or
whatever, and they're a kid, and then you're like, you go to
drive away, throw off the rails.
It'll, it'll trigger the.
I mean, that's why pairing is so important.
Like the partner, you put, you know, it's so funny.
We're being aware, right?
This all stimmed into my son and raising him and how we were
going to raise him different
and all these things like that.
And it actually was brought back.
And I think it was something you said to me
that was very useful that I've held onto
because I've told you like I've always,
I'm always thinking about this manufacturing adversity
in my son's life.
And I'm like, he's got no fucking adversity.
And he's like, when's he gonna have to overcome something?
And you were explaining that, you know,
his ability to regulate his emotions is that
for his age at this time. And it's like, so I remember that. And I'm more aware of that, you know, his ability to regulate his emotions is that for his age at
this time. And it's like, so I remember that. And I'm more aware of that now than like, oh,
that's good. That's a good example of I'm doing it. Like just, just happened just like two days ago.
I'm in the, I'm on, I'm wearing our master bedroom. That's where the, until the left of me is like
where the, uh, his bathtub, the bathtub is. And we normally let him bathe in our room and stuff
like that. Cause it's a big bathtub and Katrina's in there doing his thing, bathing
and stuff like that.
And I'm sitting on the bed.
I don't even remember what I was doing.
I was doing something and I, but I'm listening to their conversation.
And he, I think that day was the day that he went to not his house, right?
To my mother-in-law's house and she will let him, you know, be on his iPad
or play, play more video games than what we would, right?
And so he's asking for it.
This is like, he has a routine. Like we don't, we don't fuck around with iPad this time. I want
to do this with this. And you can tell he's like, Katrina's like, no, you've already had enough
today or what about that? And tell him no. And he's like, the relentlessly asking like that.
And she say, no. And then like his default, because this is how my son is like, he'll cry.
Sure. Yeah. So he's emotional. Right. He starts to cry like that. And I, and I'm,
so I'm listening and I'm paying attention and it's like, I'm
waiting and Katrina's kind of handling and stuff like that.
And it's like, do I need to step in and be like, that's not, and what I'll do
normally in a situation that I'll come over to listen, we don't, we don't cry
over video games.
We don't cry with you that this, you're not going to get your way by doing that.
This is not going to help your cause.
This is not how you handle the situation is by crying over that.
You're not hurt.
You didn't, no one did anything wrong to you.
You know what time it is right now.
I'll come over and do that.
So I hear him and then I see him look, he kind of walks away and he's,
and he's crying and he walks around the bed and it goes over to the corner on
the side of the bed and I like, I'm getting a little upset and like,
I'm getting ready to sit up, I sit up to go over and go, say, sit down and
just talk to him sternly.
And before I could come over there or say, he goes, daddy, I'm not crying.
I'm drying my tears right now.
Oh.
So it hits me, right?
But then at the same time too, I go, that's awesome.
Because like he recognizes that he's not supposed to be crying over that.
He's, he's regulating his emotions on his own without me even coming over and
having to sternly talk to him about that.
And I'm like, oh man.
So Katrina and I were talking about this and she's like, you know, oh my,
you know, I also don't want him to be afraid to cry.
I'm like, he's not, we don't, we don't, if he cries when it gets heard,
or we'd let him cry.
And it's not, we don't tell him not to cry.
It's like, there's certain things that is okay to cry about and there's
things that are not.
And getting your way over video games is not one of those things.
And so I said, I liked the way we have, we have taught him to regulate himself
over that. And that was a good example of that, like manifesting from all the training that we've
been doing. So I think, I think, you know, it's modeling, it's more than anything, you know,
like if he sees you get mad and you go, you know what, I need to take a break. Yeah. Like they
learn from that, or if you yell or whatever, they learn from that as well. Yeah. But to be like,
you know, because Aralea said the day goes, he goes, mom, hold on one second.
I just need Pa Pa's attention for a second.
And then he, so he stopped,
he waited for her to stop her sentence,
paused her and then, and we don't teach him that.
We model it in front of him so he can learn.
So, you know.
I remember when we first like got Max to understand,
excuse me, like when we communicate
and not to interrupt this like that.
It's so funny cause he, he hacked into that and learned that. And so he just goes around, excuse me, like when we communicate and not to interrupt this like that. It's so funny because he, he hacked into that and learned that.
And so he just goes around, excuse, excuse me.
Cause he'll interrupt a conversation.
Yeah.
In the middle.
Yeah.
Yeah.
It's like, okay, buddy.
Listen, mommy and daddy were still talking, hold on.
And then you can do that.
Excuse me.
Excuse me.
He's at this phase right now.
It's a really cool.
We are now entering, uh, like before he was born, I, if someone asked me, what is your favorite age? And I'd say somewhere between four and six,
I just love that age. And it's like, you've, obviously they're beyond talking and communicating.
And now they can like articulate their thoughts and they can like think in like kind of like
complex, like starting to like put, put you can you can ask him deeper questions
Like I think ages two three four. They're just starting to talk and just straight answers
Questions. Yeah, what questions yes. No that type of stuff where now you can ask him about how he thinks about something
Or tell them what should we do ask? What do you think we should do? You know, and then like him, and it's so hilarious. So he caught me, I was looking at like, I was looking at cars,
right? So I'm like, going through these cars and daddy, what's that? And I was like, oh,
this is a Porsche. And I'm explaining to him what the car is like, where are you going to,
where would you put, I was like, Oh, daddy might want to, daddy wants to get one of these or something
like that. And he's like, where would you put it? Like that, like that. I said, Oh, I said,
uh, Katrina's on the couch. I'm like, well, maybe we'll move mommy's car out.
And he looks, he's like, Oh, that's a good idea.
And then Katrina speaks up.
It's like, no, that's not, that's not a good guy.
Then he looks back at me.
He's like, that's not a good idea.
And I'm like, well, then I look at him and said, well, what should we do?
And he goes, hmm, let me think about that.
So he's at that.
You know what I'm saying?
It's so fun. He's all my room. Oh yeah. he's at that. You know what I'm saying? It's so fun.
He's on my room.
Oh yeah. So fun to challenge like you.
Yeah. Do you get caught in the, you know, because your son probably does this,
where you get caught in the what's that cycle or like, so in other words,
I'll tell you a story. So I really saw me getting ready and he goes, what is that?
And I said, oh, it's deodorant. What's it for?
Sometimes people put it on so that they don't, you know,
smell is bad or whatever. Why do people smell? Well, uh,
at some point you'll get more testosterone. What's testosterone?
Testosterone is a hormone. What's a hormone? It's hormones, a chemical.
What's a chemical? And we're just, just, oh,
everything I say is going down in your life.
I love that. And I tell Katrina,
to the point of super esoteric with Everett.
We go like all the way to the meaning of life in the universe.
I just get trapped and they're talking and trying to explain the best way I
can. It's, it's fun.
I told Katrina, that's my, one of my goals as a dad is to, to, to never dismiss that.
No.
Yeah.
I always want to, to the point where there's been times where he gets me and I'm like, you know what,
let's look it up.
Let's look it up together.
And I'll actually pull my phone.
Oh, I had a debate with my three-year-old
because he learned about the planets,
but he, some reason, so we're outside, it's at night,
we're about to go to bed.
And he goes, oh, look, look at Earth.
I'm like, oh no, that's a moon.
He goes, no, circle planets or earths.
I said, no, we're on earth.
This is earth.
And he goes, no, that's those are earths and all the earths go around the sun.
So I'm having a debate with a three year old over.
I'm like, what are you showing Google?
I don't know.
I wouldn't this argument.
I will, he got me the other day.
So I was like, so blown away by this.
We were, um, oh, here we are.
He has a, did you guys ever read highlights when you were kids? Yeah, so we every like Dennis thought yes
They still are a thing. You know that right there like still a big thing in my my aunt actually
Subscribed us to that so he gets side. He loves the the highlights on the back of it
There's always this you know you scratch off these things and then you put the stickers on yeah, yeah
So I haven't changed. Oh, there's like identical to how they always have been right so he's uh, he goes I go
Hey, go grab a
Pinnie in the in the in the drawer for for us to scratch this off and he goes
Oh Abraham Lincoln's on the on the penny. Yeah, huh?
I go, how did you know that and he goes yeah, George Washington's on the dollar and I'm like oh my god
Do you do that and I'm and Katrina's he's asking me and I was like do you know what president?
Yeah, that's the that was the first president and I was like oh he goes then who was the second daddy and daddy goes
Yeah, I don't know
Let me look real quick
Have a big quiz on that oh the second
Damn I wasn't ready for that I said I don't remember quizzed on that. Oh, the second person? Hold on, let me get this call real quick. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I was like, damn, I wasn't ready for that.
I said, I don't remember the last time I looked.
The popular ones.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
I knew the ones that were on the dollar bills
and the pinnets.
Abraham Lincoln, Ronald Reagan.
I actually think I defaulted about it.
Well, Abraham Lincoln was the 15th.
I think he asked me who the second was.
Let's just jump forward.
Yeah, I was like, well, Abraham Lincoln's the 15th.
Oh, that's 80 Roosevelt or somewhere.
It's actually 16.
No. Oh, is he 16? Yeah.
Oh, I thought it was.
Yeah. I thought it was 15. Oh my God.
I did not know that a history podcast. Yeah.
I know. Definitely not a who's to who's to who's three.
I would say it was a John Adams Adams. Oh, I actually that's okay.
That was a guess. So that's good. That makes me feel like I guess.
All right. So it's got a good.
Yeah. Got a good beer. John Adams was okay. That was a guess. So that's good. That makes me feel like I guess all right. So good. Yeah
John Adams was second who was third
I'm terrible with stuff like that so yeah, no, I'm like that's a goal of mine though, right? Like I'm gonna he goes why why why why I want to go all the way to I can't and then when I can't I want to show
How to look up like oh, yeah, I don't know know let's look it up. Let's try and figure it out like I always want him to see that process and not default to the like
Whatever or dismiss like that that his questioning like that. Well speak speaking to that though to like
Ethan was the one that always would stump me because he he just so much more interested in things. I'm not even interested in all
Like yeah, like all the world politics like every leader like all the flags
Like he can literally tell you the color scheme and like the way the flag is for for almost every country
And it means something right? Yeah, and it means something and he knows the origin of that
I'm like why like what? It's cool. He loves it though. I'm like sweet, and it means something. And then he has the origin of that. And I'm like, why? Like what?
That's cool.
He loves it though.
And I'm like, sweet.
You know, he's, he's found his thing.
He's got something though.
Yeah, there's something there.
Yeah.
You got to like that.
That he's into stuff.
He's not to learn about it.
Totally.
Yeah.
So I, yeah, I found myself trying to kind of look it up and like refresh, you
know, some of these, cause I'm like, especially like Eastern European countries,
like I'm just like very, I mean, I only know like a handful.
Well, there's some of them don't, they changed their name since we were kids.
Yeah.
Because we had the, when we were kids, the Soviet Union, the Soviet Union, the Soviet Union
broke apart and then a lot of the countries.
Yeah.
And he knows all that and the conflicts and all this.
I actually asked him a lot.
Oh, that's so awesome.
About history.
Yeah.
Do you guys remember the, the, where you would do the, I don't know what they were called,
where they would, someone would come, it was a company that would sell books like the Scholastic
and the Highlights.
World Book?
No, no, they would come to your school.
Remember it was like Book Drive Day and you'd show up and you could buy books or you could
buy posters.
Oh, I do remember that.
I do remember that.
Remember that?
Yeah, I do remember that.
You remember if you bought a poster, you were like, like that was the kick?
I do remember that. Oh, you got a poster you were like the shit like that was I do you got a poster you got a Ferrari, but it was called something like scholastic some yes
What was that called still do them?
That's scholastics. Is that what it's called? I think it's called that it's something like that
I do remember how exciting that was it was always be like at a book I'd get an eraser and be a poster
Yeah, you get pencils. Yeah. Yeah, boy. That. Boy, that's a, you're taking me way back.
I don't remember when we did,
because it, I don't remember doing that
in junior high and high school.
It had to be before that.
Elementary school.
Yeah.
It was elementary school.
It was exciting.
It's called like town now,
where they all like kind of have this exchange
of goods and books.
Really?
Yeah, it's interesting.
The two most exciting days when we were kids was that,
which I remembered the other day.
And then here's the other one.
How exciting was it when they were wheeling the TV
into the classroom?
It was always on the platform, a big ass heavy TV.
The strap over the top of it.
Movie day.
Oh yeah, so look at that.
They still do it.
Scholastic, I know.
And it was Scholastic Book Fair.
And it was a book.
I said book drive.
Oh yeah.
So how does it, so you remind me how it works.
They come into your school. Yeah, and they have a deal with the school. Yeah. Like some does it, so you remind me how it works. They come into your, they come to your school.
Yeah. And they have a deal with the school. Yeah.
Like some of the pros and cons will be buy like goose bumps.
Why do you think the books are the same?
I know. No innovation in the books whatsoever.
What do you think? How do you get at that deal?
How did you get that? You sign with the districts.
It'd be so interesting to hear the history on how they, how that person.
Talk about a guarantee. Yeah, they got in in on that one.
Yeah, guaranteed right? Yeah.
Customers and everything. Yeah. I know.
So what did I just saw some that some some potential monopoly just got denied. It was Kroger's and
who just tried to merge. I saw I saw a big two big grocery stores and they call it a monopoly.
Well, I mean, that's why that's the only reason why the FTC would get involved, right? So it was, oh, it was, uh, Kroger and Albertsons for a $24.6 billion
grocery market.
That was a monopoly.
I mean, that's the only reason why FTC would get in, right?
There's so many other grocery stores.
I don't know.
People don't understand the law.
I don't understand the monopoly law.
So I don't, I don't understand what qualifies, but the true definition
of monopoly is only that.
That's the only, and that only really exists
when every other competitor is considered.
According to the suit file with the US district court
of Oregon, the FTC charges that are proposed with the deal
will eliminate the fierce competition
between Kroger and Albertson's leading to higher prices
for groceries and other essential household items
for millions of Americans.
Attorney General from Arizona, California, Illinois, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah deals. They have much bigger purchasing power, not to mention competition still going to exist.
If they just raise prices, it's going to open the door for competitors come in and charge
less.
If anything, I would bet that that merger would cause prices to go down in comparison
to keeping them just because now they have more purchasing power.
Yeah.
You know, it's interesting.
I was on the other side of this.
My best friend's interesting. I was on the other side of this. It's more of the PGEs.
My best friend's family.
Yeah, the energy company.
My best friend's family owned the land.
So they lived up in this small town,
out in the middle of nowhere.
Like there's literally a few thousand people
that live in this town.
And there's like one gas station
that doesn't even have like a real grocery store.
It's like the first, the closest real grocery store
is like an hour away.
So that's where you get your groceries.
You get your groceries at this little this little mini mart or what that and he owned the land of it,
at least the land back to this place.
Well, then the the place was going to get bought out and they were going to build a dollar general store
or like that and they were getting their back and forth and all all this because they didn't want the dollars.
He was going to put all these other small businesses in the area that have
little businesses built around everything dollar that, because the dollar
general serves so much more than just that.
Which would be a lot cheaper.
And now the, the irony is it actually would be better for the customers
because the dollar general has low prices.
So, but it puts all these other small businesses.
So it's like, who do you protect?
Do you protect the small business owner?
Do you protect the consumer?
It is, you protect the business owner against laws
and regulations that will put them out of business.
That's what you're protecting against.
Not against the consumer in competition.
Because an entrepreneur's job is to serve as customer
and figure out ways to do so
and maneuver through the market.
Not force the market to maneuver.
So when I see stuff like this,
I interpret it as businesses,
small businesses getting together to rally or against this because it's not
consumers, consumers will probably, like used to your point, would probably
benefit from that.
Imagine the purchasing power of both of them to buy or to work with, uh,
distributors and, you know, shipping and all that stuff.
And again, they're going to have competition.
I know a lot of, there's a lot of grocery stores
besides that.
Now they position it in a way that,
oh, now these grocery stores are gonna own all this
and so therefore they can raise these prices
and nobody can have anything to say about it
because there's no competition in the area.
So that's what they say they would potentially do.
But the reality of that is, I don't know if that's so.
If an Albertsons Kroger was in a place
and they were just jacking up prices
and all the consumers around that the customer was like, this is terrible were just jacking up prices and all the gonna hurt their business. All the consumers around that the
customer was like, this is terrible. You've doubled the
prices as another competitor, potential competitor. I'd be
like, yeah, wow, what a business opportunity. I'll open up
right there. They're charging twice as much as they need to.
Yeah, that's why I'm unless you know now if Kroger Albertsons
was the government and they said we're the only ones allowed
to sell you food, no one else can. Well, now it's different.
Whatever happened to Whole foods and Amazon?
No, I know they did.
I know they bought, they bought whole foods out.
And I know the move was all we talked about a couple of years ago was to do these,
you know, cashier less stores.
I forget what they're called.
And I've seen a couple of them.
And are they growing still?
Is there, are they adding more to it?
I haven't looked back into that to see like, where's that at?
Like that was a really interesting.
Yeah.
There was only limited places there experimenting with that, right?
Yeah.
And I don't know if that, uh, fascinating model.
Yeah.
Tell me grocery stores haven't changed dramatically.
Love it.
Haven't they changed dramatically with that?
Oh yeah.
You go check out now and there's one or two people and then the rest is all.
Self checkout. Yeah. It's all, it's already radically changed from with that? Oh yeah. You go check out now and there's one or two people and then the rest is all self-checkout. Yeah.
It's already radically changed from not that long ago.
No, almost to it's, or it's annoying though sometimes.
Yeah.
Because there's, there's certain that you can't buy alcohol through that.
So self-checkout.
Yeah.
That's an annoying part.
So it's super annoying if you have like a bunch of groceries and you have one thing.
You know you can doordash alcohol?
Can you?
You can.
Oh yeah, you can, but you have to show your ID when they show.
You still have to show your ID. Yeah, yeah I'm like, huh you can order like yeah. Yeah
I want to I gotta figure out how much I'm losing by dashing everything like that cuz don't don't do it. I looked into this too much
Hey speaking of money and so I learned I learned a couple things about so
dynasty one of the companies that we work with,
two things, number one, literally,
if you go on their website, literally,
okay, it's getdynastee.com.
A trust in five minutes, you have a trust, free.
That's, it's that easy step by step.
Yeah.
So there's that.
So anybody can make a trust right now for free,
cost you nothing, no lawyers, no nothing.
Here's the other thing I didn't understand
between like a trust and a will or owning a property through a trust versus owning a
property. Did you guys know all that stuff is public information unless you put
it in an anonymous trust?
I didn't know that the trust actually protect you that I didn't know that.
Yeah. So if, so anybody can look up a property you own,
anybody and can see that you are, but if the trust owns it,
you can name the trust, whatever you want.
Nobody will level be able to connect you. It's completely private, 100%.
Yeah, no, that's really smart,
especially when you get into a situation like where we're at
where people are like, I feel like with target,
target people.
Yeah, they first will go look up like,
is this worth it to go target this person
to try to sue or make money?
It's like, so hiding that that way
is a brilliant strategy.
And then will too, a will.
A will, even if you leave a will,
the, the probate still gets involved.
I thought a will was literally like boom, boom, boom, but no, it still goes through
the government.
Yeah, I guess it still has to get processed with the government and people
could still make claims on it.
Whereas with the trust, your money goes directly to your family.
You can still dispute a will, right?
And that's what happens a lot of times. It's like these situations where a parent
leaves everything to one child and puts it in the will.
It doesn't necessarily mean it's gonna lay out that way, right?
Like if the other son could say,
listen, my mom could say all she wants,
she's leaving it to my brother,
but I'm the one that helped build it.
I have all the proof that I worked differently.
Yeah, and so it's like, how this is not fair and I have I have a
percentage that so they can dispute it and it's not it's not ironclad trust it immediately as soon as you die
No, what you have the trust was put in someone's name or an entity that it doesn't you it's just there. Yeah, it's there
Yeah, well speaking of some money moves and whatnot an investment
so we've mentioned before that there was like a Twitter page that was devoted to Nancy Pelosi
and like a lot of her stock.
Oh, her trades.
Trades and all that, like how amazing she was doing.
She's the best investor one of the most amazing investors just randomly like she's, you know,
God sent with that.
Well, there's another guy that's actually even better at it than her, who also is part of Congress. And so I found out there's this page that actually tracks all this stuff. It's called like Quiver quantitative, I believe. And so yeah. And so this guy's named Tommy to Tuberville. Yeah. And so he's, he's like a Congress person. I don't know if you sent it or, or House of Representatives or what he is and so he's he's like a congressperson
I don't know if you sent it or our house representatives or what he is
But he's on a lot of different committees and and so he has he's on like most of these meetings with like all the different departments and everything
So he has apparently the best stock picks you've ever seen horse. Yeah, and so it's not weird. That's not illegal
It's it's insanity is what it is
It's like why aren't people like I don't understand this outrage. I believe they're in directions
Why isn't their outrage at things that actually are?
Obvious and right in front of us. I thought I heard someone tell me that there's
YouTube channels that are like dedicated to purely just making following these their trades
Why wouldn't you pick the trades?
They crush the market.
They're the best investors of all time because look, you're the one making the
laws, you know, where to invest your money.
Yeah.
Well, I guess the, the one thing, yeah, that, that sort of brought more attention
to this guy is cause he just like sold like 80% of his everything.
Oh, so it's me.
Yeah.
So exactly.
Be conscious about to come here. Well, you know what's crazy is that we,
and I think I've talked about each,
some of these individually,
but we are now at like such an unprecedented time
when you talk about like debt.
We have the most outstanding mortgages in history ever.
So the highest dollar amount, right?
And in debt, we had the highest car loan,
student loan, credit card.
Is that why they call us the everything bubble?
Yes.
It is, we are like everything is like just on full tail.
You guys see Argentina?
Catastrophic.
Remember how that they elected that guy, Javier Ol...
Yeah.
He was like a libertarian and he slashed,
slashed government agencies and caught whatever. For the first time in I think 10 or 15 years, his country's like a libertarian and he slashed, slashed government agencies and caught whatever.
For the first time in I think 10 or 15 years,
his country's in a surplus.
They eliminated their deficit was massive.
Eliminated in, was it 15 months?
Yeah, he's only been in there not that long.
And put them, look up if someone can look them up.
It's hilarious though.
No TV time over here. We're not blowing them up. It's hilarious though. No TV time over here.
We're not blowing them up or talking much about them.
No.
I mean, you see nothing.
Yeah, prices of like the rent control he got rid of,
it did a bunch of other things.
People are getting access to more properties,
more business, and very short period of time.
But wiped out their deficit in less than like a little
over a year.
Meanwhile, I thought I heard too that Biden has the 1.2 billion on student loan forgiveness on the table again.
It keeps getting shot down.
It keeps getting shot down.
It's election season.
Easy way to get votes.
He needs something.
You know what's terrible?
It's so terrible of an idea.
Number one, it's one of the reasons why student white white a higher education so expensive is because it's easy to get money for it because of you know government has said oh everybody deserves an education they make the money easy to get easy money now you get bloated costs for college it's exploded in costs this will make it worse but you're also taxing people taking money away from people who didn't go to school or who took out business loans that never got it covered.
Maybe the guy, maybe there's a plumber who's like,
I didn't go to college, but he had to get some,
get in credit cards so we could get a truck
or get some tools.
Like he's going to pay for your Ivy League,
you know, debt or whatever.
That's, it's crazy.
So I think that's the, I think that's a,
I don't like explaining it that way anymore anymore.
Like I like explaining to people like making them privy to the hustle.
It's so versus like, because if you sound like that, you sound like then you get, then you get labeled as-
I know who deserves it, who doesn't deserve it.
Yes, yes.
I know, I know.
So I don't even explain it that way to anybody anymore.
I'm like, okay, fine, let's do it.
But let's, let's, let's, let's become aware of what's really happening here.
And the reason why there's politicians and
people that push these agendas because they really don't give a fuck if they put another 1.2
billion on the monopoly table. They're just moving money. They exactly, they know it always ends up back
in their right and you go huh I don't understand well let me explain if you had $60,000 in student
loan debts that all of a sudden he forgives you now free up $60,000 that you can go spend. What do you go do? You go buy things, you buy luxury items, you go buy cars, you go buy,
you go buy, you go rent airbnbs, you go on vacations, you go take flights. Plus that money
you rent for the college. And all of these, all of these people that are, are pushing that these
things get funded and we print more money and we go in and we forgive all these things, own the
hotels, own the airlines, own all the banks, own all these things that you, that money just ends up getting funneled right
back to them.
And it just devalues the dollar and inflates everything else,
inflates assets, which they all own all of them.
And so of course they're all for it.
And they, and they, they do it all under the guise of help the little guy,
help the little guy.
No, they're not, they're not really helping you.
You think they're helping you because they're forgiving what seems like this massive loan that you're under and you
temporarily think it's a good idea, but you're really getting fucked on the back.
But also it's it's it's taxing poor people to pay for rich people's education. It's
the craziest. Yeah, it's the craziest thing ever. And these look, imagine if student,
imagine if car loans, which is kind of happening a little bit, but imagine if the government
said everybody needs to own a car.
We're going to make it way easier to get a car loan.
Car prices would explode because all the car manufacturing,
they did do that. That's what happened. Yeah. Yeah.
They did do that. Well, I have the extent of college, but they did. Yes.
They did. They did that. Yeah. Not to that level, right?
We're there. It was like giving it free to everybody, but they,
they loosened up the regulations around loaning for the vehicles, much like they did with now, here's
the difference with the vehicle. There's at least an asset you
could take back. You can repo it. Yeah, I could repo it. Right.
Edgy college degree, like what do you do with that? You're not
gonna pay me back. What do I do tax you like, you know, anyway,
bad idea, but it's a great way to get votes. It's kind of where
we're sitting at. Would you guys, we all took a nice hefty dose of brain blend earlier?
What do you guys think was that brain?
Oh, you did a different one Justin and I hit the brain
Oh, yeah, no, I got the hemp
I saw you guys do that. I thought it was the same thing
I thought we're gonna chill out today.
Every time it delivers, the brain blend really delivers.
I'm out of that.
I thought we were out.
I didn't know we had some.
We were out because Justin and I used it all the time.
I know.
I didn't know we had it.
We're always over kind of a go-to every time we podcast.
And all the real difference, so the milligrams,
are they lower?
It's got a different cannabinoid profile.
I know that.
And it also has Lyons main in there Are they lower? It's got a different cannabinoid profile. I know that.
And it also has lion's mane in there and the terpenes that also boosts like cognitive.
It has the lion's mane.
I forgot about the lion's mane there.
Which one is it? CBC or the other one that's the cannabinoid?
CBC is one of them. CBC is good for the brain.
And then I think CBC is the one that helps you sleep. Oh yeah. So you personally, do you use more of the NED products
for a cognitive benefit or more like a relaxing benefit?
Like how do you use it most of the time?
Once or twice a week, I'll use it in here on the podcast
and I'll just remember and then I'll typically pass it
to Justin because I want him to use it too.
And I noticed it on the podcast.
I just feel, you know, I feel really good, energize that type of deal.
But mostly I'll use their traditional hemp one for like stress.
So if like I'm at home and like, yeah, I'll take it.
So I'm a little more chill.
I don't use the brain one that much because we went through it and I didn't
realize we had to run around, but I really liked it when we first got it.
I didn't, I didn't notice the difference with it.
So, uh, just, I want to ask you about this pyramid that you're talking about.
And oh, yeah, earlier, you were talking about it and I cut you off.
Cause I want to get back to you.
I was talking about Eastern European country.
Like I was like, uh, starts with a B like Bosnia.
Oh yeah.
Uh, so there's this huge, uh, it was, it's basically a mountain or a hill
that people have looked at like,
oh wow, it's pyramid shaped.
It's very distinctive when you look at it from afar,
but it's massive and it dwarfs even the pyramid Giza, I believe.
Oh, so it's even bigger?
I'm pretty sure.
That's a pyramid?
Yes, it's a pyramid.
How did they figure out it was a pyramid? Well, so it just looked like it's
well, because it just speculated, right? Like it's just a hill, but they actually like have
been able to excavate and they found tunnels underneath it and they found like this whole
like labyrinth and artifacts that are, you know, very ancient, obviously, but the problem is they can't excavate any further
because the government put a halt to it. And so, from my understanding, the Egyptologists had a
hand in a say in this in terms of them asking the government to step in and halt.
Why? Because they didn't have to rewrite the whole.
Challenges the whole story. So coming from like the Graham Hancock perspective, the prevailing theory or his theory is that they don't want this stuff to come out because it's going to completely
Timelines. Just mantle their timelines and our our full oh man. What was the other thing you were
saying to your teasing your teasing me about another carbon dating,
oh the fossils.
Yeah, fossils aren't real.
Fucking knew it, man.
No.
Fucking knew it.
That's where fossils are.
No, what they said was,
fossilize quicker than they thought.
There was this guy saying that things can fossilize quicker
that all these fossils are typically found in one area.
So we're just like a cool million years old.
And he talks about this flood.
Depending on the catastrophe, yeah.
Yes, like there's a huge catastrophe that happened. So we're like a cool, our carbon dating's a cool million years. And he talks about this flood. Depending on the catastrophe. Yeah. Yes. Like there's a huge catastrophe that.
So we're like a cool, our carbon dating is a cool million,
million and a half or million.
I'm super accurate.
So, so, um, so did you guys know this?
So here's another interesting thing that the, oh, it's false.
I hate that.
Damn it.
It was really cool when I first read it, that the latitude of the pyramids in Giza, in decimal degrees,
it matches the sequence of numbers expressing the speed of light.
It's not true.
No.
That, boy, that went from that aerial photo.
That really looks like a pyramid now.
When you first, when you, for that first picture,
Doug pulled up like, no, I don't know, a pyramid.
That's a stretch, a hill.
Oh, that's a pyramid.
That looks like a pyramid.
Yeah, when you zoom out and it's the,
none of the other surrounding mountains look like that. It's like, it's, it's, I guess that's a pyramid. That's that looks like when you zoom out and it's the, none of the other surrounding mountains look like that.
It's like, it's, you know, I guess there's another one in China too,
that they've covered up.
There's so much we don't know.
Like we have no idea.
There could have been some really interesting advanced civilizations that were
lost history so far, just interpretation.
It's like, I like that way, way better. What would I say? I don't know. This more just don't know. Yes, I like that. I like that way better yes I like
that I like that side of you so much better this is what science showed this
is what evolution based off this I like that you know I don't have a more
smarter I get the fucking more less I know every time you make my voice yeah
you sound like it's easily I'm not easily hey, look a Doug pull this up right here. This is funny. You guys. Did you guys see the the trumps?
You know we talked about his shoes. Yeah, did you see the siren at Saturday lights kit? No play it you got play it
So we'll play it is a shame gillis here cuz he went on there. Oh, was it shame gillis?
It might have been him was did you hear his his opening monologue?
So watch watch watch the Saturday skit for the shoes.
It might be Shane Gillis.
I, he's, that was him.
Was he, he does the best Trump impersonation.
He hosted the show.
I had to have been him.
Oh, oh, wow.
Yeah.
I just saw the exploding in popularity right now.
He's hilarious.
Let's see.
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Oh, shit.
I love it.
And Gordon Dwyer's about to find out that winning
is the only way to win.
I'm not a loser.
I'm not a loser.
I'm not a loser.
I'm not a loser. I'm not a loser. I I'm good basketball. Mr. Mitchell, everybody's saying I should have your office because my cubicle is a disaster right now.
What can I have a minute to gather my things?
Bye bye, he gets it.
That's the most fantastic love make you've ever had.
Not really, it only lasted two hours.
That was a two hour love sketch.
Two hours.
I did?
No.
Want to go again?
I'd love to, but you're too tired.
Excuse me, excuse me.
It's 170.
Now, please don't break me.
Excuse me, excuse me.
People are noticing.
Nice shoes. I'm not sure.
But you know, in many ways, the real magic has been inside of you all along.
Wrong.
It comes from the shoes and you're coming off as very stupid and frankly quite rude walking in here like this
He does a better trump. Oh, yeah in terms of basketball movie vestige and with regard to shoes. I think we've done a wonderful point man
You got new shoes too white men can trump.
So good, right?
I know, I was really impressed with that. I thought that was a really good one.
I hadn't hit something really good in a while and I was like, how else? He's a shangyoist.
He's a fire dude. He does a great job, you know?
Yeah.
He has a really, really good job.
I watched you stand up twice.
It was hilarious.
He's one of my favorite right now.
No, he's like up and coming right now, right?
Like as far as exploding, right?
I shouldn't say up and coming.
He's been on the map for a minute,
but I thought that was so good.
It was so good.
Hey, I wanted to bring up an interesting study
before we switched off here.
I read a study on depression, stress stress and fat loss that I'm still trying
to break down because I read the results and it's actually, I'm going to read to
you guys the results.
It's, it's, it's quite trippy, um, what they found with the study.
And it's really interesting.
I don't, I would, I mean, cause we wouldn't, we wouldn't guess it.
We wouldn't.
Here's a title of the study.
Um, it says daily stressors past depression and metabolic responses to high
fat meals, and then it's a novel path to obesity.
So what they found, so here's the, the, the conclusion, the cumulative six
hour difference between one prior day stressor and no stressors translates
into a 435 kilojoule calorie difference,
a difference that could add almost 11 pounds per year. These findings illustrates how stress and
depression alter metabolic responses to they use high fat meals and ways that promote obesity.
In other words, it wasn't that people ate more, It was that it changed their metabolic pathways to promote
fat storage.
So same calories.
Huh.
Yes.
That's the, that's the, the potential conclusion.
Now what they're looking at is, uh, they're looking at resting energy expenditure,
carbohydrate oxidation, glucose before and after.
So I don't know if it'll completely translate, but essentially what they're
saying is being very stressed
out, literally tell, and the evolutionary,
this would make sense.
Yeah, it does make sense.
That it would teach your body with the same calories
to store more body fat.
Wow.
Wow.
Is that new?
No, it's not.
It's a 2015 study, but Jackie shared it with me.
And I thought it was really interesting.
I thought maybe it was new.
So I definitely have this prediction that we're gonna see. Oh, and it's not like a,
uh, you brought this up earlier about that. We're going to see pharma and food for the first time
going against each other. I just saw an article on Goldman Sachs coming out and saying that, uh,
ozympic could be the thing that boosts our economy, like bring.
Yes. Yeah. And that's true. Our Weight Watchers bet is going to look really good.
How would ozympic boost our economy? Just because Yeah. And that's true. Our Weight Watchers bet's gonna look really good. How would a zempic booster economy?
Just because it's because it's good.
Because of that sales of that?
Yes.
But then people are buying less food.
Are you guys not feeling it the same way?
I am like, I like family, friends.
Oh, I know.
It's wild how many people are like.
Oh, it's the thing.
Yeah.
I just went to, Max and I walked you at the mail
like we do every day and we're walking back up
and I can hear my neighbor in the air shot away
and he's talking, oh yeah, I'm trying to cut out this and that
and I started that, that was zipping, man, it really helps you
and I hear him just raving about it to a neighbor.
Do you know anybody that's using it?
Cause I do.
I know someone right now is on week six.
Yeah, I know several people.
Oh, you do?
Yeah.
And now what are their experience?
That everyone's been positive.
So my family member.
I haven't heard anyone, I haven't had anyone close to me that's had a negative thing.
So I had a family member go through our people
at mphormones.com and I said,
make sure that you take care of her.
We want to monitor whatever she's monitoring everything.
And in six weeks, in five weeks,
so here's what she told me.
I'm like, tell me if you notice any differences
in energy, depression, anxiety, like any other side effects
besides the fact that maybe you
don't want to eat more or whatever.
Anyway, we had dinner the other day, um, hanging out and she
goes, I asked her about it and she said, it's weird.
Food still tastes good.
I still enjoy it.
I just don't think about it all the time.
I don't crave it.
She's like, it's weird.
She goes, I'll have ice cream and I'll have some.
I won't have like a big bowl and I won't want anymore.
She's like, it's so weird.
I said, do you notice anything else?
She's like, that's it. She I said, do you notice anything else?
She's like, that's it.
She's on half dose too because they started with half dose.
So that makes me, even though I'm like,
I'm not a real good candidate for it.
But I would, because I have such a good gauge on that.
Right.
It's been a thing I've been in my whole life.
And I know my behaviors around stuff like that.
And so if I saw that change that in me,
that would blow my mind.
It would blow my mind.
So it's a part of me that wants to do it just for that reason.
Just to show you.
You should because you'd be the perfect person to,
to actually break it down.
You have such a close, you know, you know,
you understand how you feel.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
That would be, but I, same thing.
People are telling me stuff just like that.
And I've actually had the, I've got half,
I've got half people that are like really overweight
that are using it and it's helping.
And then I have some people that aren't even like currently
they're like just trying to lean out a little more
and cut some habits like that.
It's so part of the zeitgeist now though,
like in terms of like, I look at it when you would say,
oh, he must be on steroids.
It's the new thing.
Oh yeah.
Like, you know, all this, don't even lie around Zephyr. She lost her way. Oh, I must be on steroids. It's the new thing. Oh, yeah. Like, yeah.
Don't even lie around. She lost her way. Oh, I have to. That's funny. I have to. That's so hilarious. So you notice other GLP one agonists that are out that are supposedly better. Yeah, better. Better.
Yeah. So some of the blue tides, the one that is the brand name Osempic that's getting all that
whatever you could get it. Like, like if you go through our partners, it's a compound form, same compound,
it's just generic, cheaper, same compound.
But there's one called trizepetide.
Maybe look that up Doug, if I'm saying that right.
From what I'm hearing from the people we work with,
cause they have people doing some aglutide
or I think it's called trizepetide,
look up GLP1 agonist, TRI,
and then it'll pop up and sure it'll populate.
Turzepetide. Terzepetite.
Terzepetite.
Yeah.
Supposedly, it's even more effective.
What?
It's like really effective.
People tolerate it really well.
Yeah.
And it's like another generation.
So they're coming out with better one.
Is it just because it's behind?
Is that why?
Because it was made after some of the Lutite was made.
So they were like, oh, this is a better way
to compound a GLP one or put together a GP one agonist.
So supposedly it's better.
So there's a lot of other ones that are coming out too.
And then the reports on how it's affecting people's
other habitual impulsive behaviors,
like alcohol and smoking.
That's what blows me away.
The food part, cool.
But if this is like something people are going to use, that's the more help
with smoking or alcohol or like, oh, or gambling or something like that.
So that's the part that I think would be really interesting with me being
able to do this.
Just notice.
Yeah.
It's the notice that like I just, it just, I don't have that, that craving
to keep going or to eat more than what I should.
Or maybe I even like, don't go.
Impulsivity in general being lowered. Yeah. Yeah. Cause that's forever been a challenge
for me is to have it in the house. If I've got candy, if I've got stuff like that in the house
and that that time comes around where I'm craving, not only is it hard for me to resist,
it's hard for me to just have a tiny bit and not fully indulge in that moment. And it's taken
years of practice and discipline to not do that.
That will leave nerds on this chair.
Yeah, yes.
Just test them out.
Yeah.
No, I mean, I've gotten better.
I'd say I've probably gotten the best with like, you know what,
changed this behavior more than anything.
My relationship with candy has come full circle.
I don't have that same addiction with candy.
Ice cream still. There's something about the ice cream that still, I have that relationship with candy has come full circle. I don't have that same addiction with candy. Ice cream still, there's something about the ice cream
that still I have that relationship with it.
I don't have it with candy anymore.
And you know what broke the candy one was
when we were recording this pocket,
when we did the ketogenic diet.
When it went, when I went from 600,
the 600 grams a day on carbohydrates to nothing.
And then when I reintroduced carbohydrates,
I only wanted about 150 or so a day.
So it reduced the cravings across the board.
Yes.
And so now like I actually have, I've had, when do we fly?
Where do we just fly?
What was the last place we flew?
Mexico.
Was that the last place?
Was it last?
Yeah.
It's been a while.
It's been a while, right?
So when we flew to Mexico, I bought those last time you had candy.
I bought those nerds.
I still got them in my bag.
The same ones? Same ones that I haven't finished. I still got them in my bag. The same ones.
Same ones that I haven't finished.
Are they the chewy ones?
Yes.
With the ones on the right?
Yes. The ones you love.
So, but here's the thing.
What I know, and I, what I noticed with them, it's just like that.
It's, I still haven't finished the bag is I'll actually, it bothers me to eat too much.
We're in the pet when I was eating 600 grams of carbs.
But ice cream still.
I have for some reason ice cream.
And I don't know if it's more to do with the fats that are in there.
And I can tolerate that more.
And it's because of that.
Or if it has the, because the sugar has become too much for me.
So I can only have so much candy now in a sitting.
So even if I'm in the movies or as time when I would normally eat a whole box of something,
I'll actually stop the candy.
There's two foods for me that if they're in front of me, I'm going to eat them.
Chips.
Like I'll just eat them until I hate the world and then or like warm
French bread with butter
Even though gluten messes me up. Did you get did you get some of Courtney's sour? No, don't oh, I don't want it
She's on a kick. Oh, it's it's good
I mean real sourdough is easier for like gluten intolerance, dude, but
Yeah, I had to do it with Olives, like this company
that we went down to Monterey.
And so yeah, I had that this week.
I was like, oh no, because I'm, you know,
I can tolerate just a little bit more gluten these days,
but not a lot.
And sourdough's got less gluten in there.
Sourdough's is okay, but I still have to like taper it.
And I, you know, went a little over and I was like, oh man.
No, no, so good though.
Don't do it.
So good.
But I can, again, I can hold back on that.
It's always been the ice cream and candy,
but candy went away after the ketogenic diet.
That made a big difference for me.
So if you're somebody who eats a lot of carbohydrates,
addicted to sugars and candy,
that was one of the benefits of the ketogenic diet.
We're gonna get you on, we're gonna get you
on some of the glutide.
I wanna hear about it.
You don't use a ton of peptides.
Like I get experimented.
I would use it, but I've also got so many peptides.
I don't know what's happening.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
I'd test them all out.
I've missed a ton about it.
Yeah, I would like to see either one of you,
but I'd love to hear a few.
Yeah, I brought it up.
Because I know, we're gonna be honest, you know?
Oh yeah, you know me.
You know me, I wouldn't bullshit
if it wasn't making a difference.
And I'm gonna know because that's a very it's like
I've so I've been paying attention to that for so long that I know what that feels like you have your try
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Our first caller is Andy from New York.
Andy, what's up, man?
How can we help you?
What's up?
So a little backstory before my question.
33 years old, married with two kids, two and a half year old, and an almost one year old.
40 hours a week work life.
On top of that, I go to school full time.
I'm going for my associates. On top of that, when when I get home pretty much try to get out some strength training two days a week
With the busy lifestyle I have already
Pretty much that's just like a push ball program
So I was wondering my question
Kind of like in a mind-funk of like just brain fog and whatnot
Just I know having the kids and all that, you know,
obviously, you know, help doesn't help. But wondering if there's any tips or tricks to help
me like get out of that like mindfuck of like just the blindness, you know,
the two, the top two things that'll affect mental, I guess, clarity or cutT are number one sleep and then number two diet typically.
So the first one would be try to maximize the quality of your sleep or get
more sleep if you're not getting enough sleep. Then when we get to diet there's
a couple things. First I would look to see if you can identify when you feel
the brain fog the most and does it tend to be
30 minutes to 60 minutes after a meal and what are you eating in that meal? Have you identified
anything like that by the way? So no but like kind of it's like spread it throughout the day almost
so I'm pretty good on like my diet pretty much chicken and rice or protein and rice for lunch
at work and then I go in for at dinner
Just another protein like vegetables something like that and then throughout the day kind of just I always feel it
It's not just like oh at night or during the day or in the morning. I do actually I did try to take
Organify their focus supplement. I started taking that about a week ago
I did notice a little bit different there so far, but nothing. I just kind of still in that funk every now and then
Okay, how's the sleep by the way?
Okay, so another yeah, so I work for like I said 40 hours plus a week
So I wake up at 3 30 and every day. And then having the two kids,
generally I try to get to bed by nine o'clock.
But sometimes a two and a half year old is a monster.
So that doesn't let me always happen.
Yeah, as you guys probably know.
So the sleep I know I can do better at,
but it's what I'm trying to figure out like a balance of,
if I can't get to sleep, what can I do to help me out?
Anyway, you could take naps?
Not really, because pretty much by the time I get out of work, I
go pick them up from daycare and then I'm just constantly on
the go.
What does your caffeine intake look like?
So I do take RSP aminoene. I take that in the morning,
like right when I wake up, like an hour after I wake up,
and then I'll take that around lunch.
And that's pretty much it.
I don't drink coffee or anything like that.
You can cut it off after lunch.
Okay.
Do you get breaks at work where you can go in your car
and take a 15 minute nap?
Yeah.
Okay, I would do that.
Like, I could tell you all kinds of different stuff.
Nothing's gonna help you because your sleep is so bad. I mean, nine, even if you. I would do that. Like, like I could tell you all kinds of different stuff. And nothing's going to help you because your sleep is so bad.
I mean, nine, nine, even if you went to bed at nine, even if you went to bed at
nine, I woke up at three 30 perfectly.
That's still not enough sleep.
So like every, like all the hacks and all the stuff that you could try right now,
um, to improve the mental brain fog, it's not going to do much because you're,
you're just not sleeping enough.
And it's having some detrimental effects.
Naps will have, will have, will make the biggest impact.
Um, besides, besides going to bed earlier, waking up later.
I also think the types of workouts would, that would serve you better
would be like a maps 15 opposed to like a full hour workout.
Like even though I know you've reduced it to two times a week, which
probably seems like it's not a lot.
It's a lot for somebody who's not getting a full eight hours
every single night.
And so you'd be far better off actually just doing one
to two exercises a day.
And I know that doesn't sound like very much,
but-
It's like an energy boost.
Yeah, you're just, you're,
we're deprived of sleep so much.
And you've got so much on your plate
that a full hour, you know, intense workout
is, is not doing in you any favors. And so we'd be better off just a lighter dose of
that all week long, just a little in one, literally max 15 is one to two exercises,
right? So that's what it would look like is, and do you have that program yet? Cause if
not, I'll have that sent over to you.
No, actually, that's after a strength training, I was probably going to pick up that
maps 15. Okay, we'll send that to you. Yeah, we'll send that over to you? No, actually, that's after a strength training, I was probably going to pick up that maps 15.
Okay, we'll send that to you.
Yeah, we'll send that over to you.
Is there any way you could wake up a half an hour an hour later?
Or is that not possible with your schedule?
Um, I live almost like 45 minutes to an hour away from my work.
So unfortunately, no, because of my start time.
Gotcha.
Yeah.
Okay.
That's why hopefully when the kid goes to bed is try, I go
right and start getting ready to go to bed as early as I can.
Yeah.
I, so I have, I had a client like this and what we ended up doing, and it was
just, it was impossible.
He had so many, um, he had so many responsibilities.
It just wasn't, no, look, sometimes it's the case, right?
Uh, oftentimes it's not, oftentimes a person can just modify their lifestyle,
get more sleep, but sometimes it's like, like, you, like, you're in the middle of
you're raising little kids, you're supporting your family,
you're getting an education so you could probably support your family a little
bit better with finances later on. All commendable. You're young, you're in your
early, your young, your early 30s, young man. So this is the time to push yourself.
Weather in the storm right now.
You're weathering the storm. So I had a guy like this, just like this.
And what we did is I said, okay, well you get breaks at work. And he said,
yeah, I said, can you go out to your breaks at work. And he said, yeah, I said,
can you go out to your car, put on an eye mask, set a timer, and
go to sleep for, you know, 20 to 30 minutes of time. And he did.
And it was profound how much it helped. And I didn't fix
everything. But it made a big difference. And so that's what he
did. So he literally went out to his car when he had lunch. And
instead of eating, he went to sleep. And then he woke up five minutes before it was over and ate
his food real quick and went back to work and it made a big difference.
So that would be the, there's no new tropic, no supplement, no,
nothing else I could say to you that will come close to just getting a little
bit more sleep.
Yeah. Yeah, it's perfect. I'll start that tomorrow really.
And literally you just park, park your car somewhere when you get to work.
And this is how we, this is how we plan it out. He's,
he would scope out a spot where he could park where he knew he wouldn't get
bothered. So okay, this is where I'm going to go back to.
He brought an eye mask with him and then he would use his phone alarm.
And so what he would do is he'd go out to the car,
he'd lay back, put his eye mask on, fall asleep.
Sometimes he wouldn't fall asleep, but sometimes he would fall asleep., the reason why I'm saying that is that even if you don't
fall asleep, resting does have some beneficial effects on the body where you just close your
eyes and you kind of drift in and out a little bit. Now, another thing you can do is to add
to that is if you do, you said you don't take caffeine. Was that what you said earlier?
Was it a something?
Yeah, I don't take caffeine.
Okay. All right. All right.
That's it.
That's it then.
Yeah.
Go out to the car and see if he can squeeze out 30 minute apps.
And that should, that should help you out.
And just remind yourself, you know, how this all started this conversation is that
right now you're playing defense, you know, like this is, this is not the time to
go on the offense and try and make huge moves in your fitness.
It's like you are trying to get as much rest and as much recovery and mitigate as
minimal as minimal damage that you're doing to the body as you possibly can at
this point. And so whether the storm, you know, and the, the, the thing that you
just don't want to do it, what will be tough.
Cause one of the things that happens when we're deprived of sleep is cravings,
right? And so resisting the temptation to not binge,
overeat or go off the wagon will be your greatest ally right here.
Right? I mean, what you said you're eating,
if you stick to things like that,
venison and chicken and steak and rice and for the most part,
stay in that lane and be good and focus on getting as much recovery and rest,
do the maps 15 when you can. Uh,
and then just know that there's a lot of the
other tunnel, you know, before you know it, kids will be older than three, four years
old and kind of putting themselves down for bed. And you can actually maybe even get to
bed before nine and, you know, things will get better. But for now, the best thing to
do is just to try and optimize that and not allow yourself to go off the wagon nutritionally,
because off the wagon nutritionally will only make all of this more difficult.
Yeah, I'm pretty good. My diet, like I said, always stay true to that. So that's I'm not
really worried about that. But good. The sleep is kind of figured out my going to be my problem.
Yeah, good, good. Yeah, you got it, man. Also, maybe check into, you know, over 60% of the
population is deficient in magnesium. magnesium was a big deal for me to have getting like
really good rest.
So I don't know if you've,
I do actually take that before I go to bed.
Oh good.
I actually do.
Yeah.
Like about an hour before I go to bed.
Good.
Cause I actually heard of people that's actually,
so that's when I started taking.
Okay.
Good.
Awesome.
That's good.
All right, bro.
We'll just, whether the storm keep us posted, we'll send over math 15 to you.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Perfect.
Thanks guys.
I appreciate it.
All right.
You got this.
Yep. That's just that season of life, man. Yeah. Yeah, perfect. Thanks guys. I appreciate it. All right. You got this. Yep.
That's just that season of life, man.
Yeah.
This is why it's, I have this party.
You was like, we talk about father all the time.
It's like, you know, if you wait till you're older,
you're wiser, you're more calm, but then you also don't have the like the,
the ability to weather storms like that, you know, at my age now, if I had to do,
I wouldn't be able to do five hours.
It's more difficult now for sure. Well, yeah, but also the
Difference now I have the finance
Like if I'm in his shoes at my age and stuff like that and it's like you're hiring people
Yeah, I'm hiring people to handle a lot of this stuff so I can actually do that's brutal five
That's five hours if he goes to bed on time. We should come out with map snaps
Maps maps. Yeah, I like my there. I do like the addressing questions like this because I do think that there is,
uh, there's a need in the, in the space in this conversation because there is this
like, you know, this overwhelming popular, you know,
grind through everything, military, Navy SEAL training attitude. It's like, that's the last.
Just deal with the do your workouts anyway. Yeah, exactly. Like I think that a lot of people would push this guy in the, oh, you know, you grind through
it or make do the workouts here and then break them up and do this.
It's just like, dude, you're not getting even eight hours of sleep on a regular basis.
No, that's like five and a half hours.
Yeah.
He goes to bed on time.
Yeah.
So it's like there is no supplement.
There is no fitness hack that we have for you
that's going to benefit you.
It's like-
Your family will enjoy hanging out with you more.
Right, it's weather the storm right now.
You got this, Andy.
Our next caller is Morgan from Texas.
Hey, Morgan, how can we help you?
Hello, it is great to see you.
I've been listening for six years now, which is crazy.
Wow.
So I'll just jump right into my question then.
I'm having a little bit of trouble with some of my longer
distance running.
When I go for longer distances, my upper IT band starts to hurt
to the point that sometimes after my runs,
I can't put any weight on my legs.
And I've watched some videos of myself running from behind
and you can see that as one foot is landing
and the other one's picking up,
my pelvis is a bit uneven.
Now I've read that this can be because my glutes
aren't firing properly and need to be strengthened,
but I run different variations of foundational days
from anabolic and performance
and don't seem to have any trouble connecting to my glutes
or feeling them in squats, lunges, that kind of thing.
So I didn't think this would be an issue for me.
And I was wondering if you could help me figure out
what is causing this and how to fix it.
Typically, upper IT band pain in running has to do with a lack of lateral stability.
Okay?
So, your ability, your strength of the muscles that pull your legs apart, the abductor muscles.
Okay?
So, like tube walking or lateral sled drags,
probably a really good idea for someone like you.
So what I would do is I would back off on the running.
So maybe cut the volume in half for maybe four weeks
and then replace that volume with the sled
and do some lateral sled dragging,
both where your feet come together and come apart,
or where you cross over and drive all the way across,
and start to develop that lateral stability.
And you should notice improvement pretty quickly.
In fact, here's how you would know.
The next time you go do a run,
do some tube walking before and after,
and see if you notice a difference.
And you're likely to notice an improvement.
I love the 90-90 variations for this too where you actually lift your back heel up off the ground.
Do you do 90-90s at all before you run?
I do not. I do more combat stretching.
Oh yeah. Oh yeah. Yeah. So I mean that'll be good for like shin splints and stuff,
but for your hips and the it what you're dealing with
Do get down and do the 90 90 variations where you are in the 90 90 position And you lift off your back heel and you try and do that so internal external rotation go in the hips
Yeah, that compa that combined with the tube walking or lateral sled drags is is the key
Do we lose her heaven?
Oh, I thought we lost her right there. Oh, there you are. Okay, so is the key. Do we lose our heaven? All right.
Oh, I thought we lost her right there.
Oh, no, there you are.
Okay, so by the way, just for, you know,
because you said, I feel like my glutes connect
with a lot of exercises.
When we say the glutes, we tend to,
I mean, we just look at the butt and we say,
okay, I got this butt muscle.
And then when I do squats and hip thrust,
I feel my butt firing.
You have the glute maximus, which is the big meaty part,
and then you have the minimus and the medius, and they all have to have a balance with each other.
And in fact, sometimes you see this pain with people who just lift weights and squat and dead
lift and hip thrust a lot as well. So it's that lateral ability to support your ability to move
forward. How often are you doing lateral lunges,
cossack lunges, things like that,
where you're actually doing exercises
devoted to lateral strength stability?
Not very often because I've stuck to just running anabolic
or whatever's in performance when I'm in a big on-season for a race.
Yeah, people like maps anabolic because it's so good at like building muscle sculpting the body
and all that, but it's a very linear program. Right, it's on the same plane.
Yeah, and so if you just do that over and over again, you'll look like you're developing an
incredible body, but then you start starting to notice these aches and
pains. So that lateral stability is one of the weaknesses in MAPS and Ebola.
If there is no lateral, you know, real lateral movement.
I would add that in a bit more too. And I think symmetry would actually be a great
program for you to run. So to address any of that instability, whether it's, you
know, with rotation or lateral movement, you know, you'll be able to kind of like build some strength there and stability more effectively.
What happened? So to back to Sal's point about the, the, the glute being broken up in three
different muscles and also what you kind of researched on your own and found that it was
saying that you were not, you're having a trouble connecting the glute is you are having trouble
connecting to the glute mede, right? So the glute mead is responsible for you being able to push your knees out.
And so what happens, and it's probably really difficult to see this in the run
is you have this slight caving in of the knees.
And when the knees slightly cave in every time you strike on the ground like that,
it internally rotates the femur, which winds that it ban.
And then it has that direct feels like someone's sticking a knife in your upper hip.
Like that's where it feels like. And it's just, just might not even be able to see it on the form it's just the tension is moving right exactly so you
don't even have it doesn't have to be it's not gonna be so exaggerated where
you can like watch a video and see like your knees like just that little bit
just attention of that glute me not firing and hoping keeping you in a more
neutral position or forcing the knees out a bit is allowing the femur to internally rotate, which winds that IT and then that repetitive
motion for running in that plane for so long just causes it to be.
And I have, I've struggled with this.
So it's definitely close to home for me.
And I know what that pain feels like.
I couldn't even drive for 15 minutes in my car without having to pull over and
like address it and stretch it.
And because it was so painful. So are you, are you feeling any of that pain right now as we're
talking? Are you able to feel any of that pain now or no? Um, a little bit, but it's been a few
days since I've run. I did Saturday morning, a half marathon actually, and I have not run since
then. So I'm starting to feel better now, but
Morgan, would there be a move, would there be a movement you could do right now that you could where you would feel it?
Like if I were to ask you right now, could you do something
with a squat? Would you feel it if you did a squat right now?
Yes, I mean, I would feel it if I just stood up to.
Okay. So it could so here's an easy test to see if we're right.
So if you stand up and then just do
some, just, just go ahead and stand up and then just bring your leg out and just do some abduction
on the side that hurts. So just stand up, you can use that desk for support. Which side is it?
Is that that right side? Yeah, the right side. Okay. Now, do some reps like that, bring your leg
out to your side, but bring the leg out kind of back a little bit as well. Not far out to the side, but kind of back. Yeah, there you go with your back. Yeah
So you're leading with your heel. Yeah, do do like 15 reps like that
Go ahead and do 15 reps and I want to see if this makes a difference and
Come up nice and high see how high you can come up and you can start to feel that kind of outer glute start to fire
Yep, keep going and then what we're gonna have you do is sit back down and stand back up and see if you notice any difference
She might not she's in that much pain, bro. Yeah. I mean, I, when, when I was in that
much pain, you know, it takes a little bit more.
But sometimes it's like, boom, right away. Okay. This is the issue. So I just want to
see if this is, if this is going to help. Sometimes I'll do that elevated and lift up
off the, can you, is that how far, is that the furthest you could come out with your
leg, by the way?
No, there's a table behind me.
Oh, I see, okay.
I can move this chair a little bit more.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
There you go.
And then bring, yeah, keep,
you do like, just like five more,
bring it out nice and high.
And then I'm gonna have you squat and come back up
and see if you notice a difference.
Just do one more.
We're not trying to do a workout.
Yeah.
Now go ahead and sit down, stand back up and see if you notice any
difference in how it feels.
I can actually because it feels different than the other leg now.
Yeah.
Lateral stability.
Just it's so it's lateral stability. So just what we said, I think it's going to the other leg now. Yeah, lateral stability. Just, it's, so it's lateral stability.
So just what we said, I think it's going to fix that for you.
Have you seen the, uh, the YouTube video I did on,
I think I'm, what's the name Doug?
I think I actually have it under the chronic knee pain is what I think I have it under.
I don't remember what the title is, but I go into the 90, 90 variations.
I actually show you, I thought, so I foam roll first, right?
So that'll give you kind of an immediate relief so you can get into the movements
So I would foam roll the IT ban both sides
Then I would get in the 90 90 and do the 90 90 progressions and then I would do either two blocks or sled drags
That becomes like your every every time you can go it before you go into a workout
That's how you start your workout always no matter what you're training what you're doing. I think we just throw that at the beginning.
Yes, throw that at the beginning always.
And you should already see like gradual improvement from that over time.
Almost immediately.
Yes.
Yes.
All right.
Thank you so much.
All right.
You got it.
Thanks for pulling in.
Sometimes these issues are so, they're hard for people to fix.
They don't know what the problem is,
but then you find the solution.
It's super easy.
And that lateral stability issue, the upper IT band,
like, you know, I had so many runners that came to me,
couldn't figure out what the hell was wrong with them
in like literally two workouts.
We would do two workouts where we'd do two blocking
or lateral sled drags and they were like,
it's fixed, I can't believe you fixed my problem.
It's like, you know.
You need to strengthen that lateral system there.
It needs to be addressed otherwise too.
If we're just continuously in that one sagittal plane,
all these things are gonna come to haunt you later on
if we're not strengthening the supporting cast
that's keeping you kind of in place where you need to be.
The mistake I made for years was just foam rolling it.
So I unlocked that, okay, if I do this foam roll
and calm this IT band down, I could go play basketball
and I'd be okay while I play basketball.
But then it would just be there. It would be there. It would always be there. So that became like, oh, I could go play basketball and I'd be okay while I play basketball. Then it would just, it would be there.
It would always be there. So that became like, oh, I have to phone roll before
because I wasn't addressing the lateral stability and strength at all.
And then it was the 1990s that opened my eyes to that was getting into the 1990s,
progressing that and actually starting to do strength exercises in that plane.
And then all of a sudden it was like gone. And what's awesome about this
is that this played me for years, for years. That's what I'm saying. And then it was gone.
I haven't had any issues. And then if now I'm so aware of if I feel it starting to creep up,
I know right what to do. But it's great because I don't have to do all those,
I don't have to do that every time. I just make sure I'm doing the protocol. Yeah,
you just that's right. And then you make sure you incorporate exercises that,
that strengthen in that plane and then you're good to go.
That's right.
Our next caller is Melissa from Canada.
Hi, Melissa.
How can we help you?
Hi.
Hi.
Hi.
Great to see you guys.
Thank you.
All right.
Yes, I'm not, if it's lagging or something, it's kind of pausing, but,
um, yeah, I wrote in actually just over the
weekend. I wrote in on Saturday and I got a response right away. I guess someone I've canceled. So
here I am. Awesome. Yeah, it's great. I do the the anabolic I purchased in December and I started
it in January. So I'm still getting used to it. One of my biggest concerns is not trying to fit
it all into the morning before I go to concerns is not trying to fit it all into
the morning before I go to work. So trying to get it in within the hour and doing it
properly. The other thing I'm worried about is I don't know if you got my email. I sent
some pictures with just my my shoulders. So I'm really really adamant about not building
them anymore. So because I am fairly strong now, I find and I'm just nervous about
looking fuller and bigger in my shoulders because I always have been self-conscious about that.
But I don't want to like make shortcuts on the program. So I'm just wondering,
I don't know, like I'd rather work on my triceps, like triceps more than my shoulders.
But that makes any sense. Yeah. What's your what's your exercise history? Are you are you
new to working out and strength training? Have you been doing it for a long time?
Wait, here and there I've dabbled, but not much. No experience. Since I started listening to you
guys, you've just inspired me to get right into it. Okay. I've always done a lot of cardio, a lot
of into a lot of sports, always been fairly strong for my for being a female for my age,
but never got into lifting weights because I was always afraid of strong for being a female, for my age, but never got into lifting
weights because I was always afraid of, I just never liked my genetics.
I was built.
I always felt like a football player.
And so it's always kind of hesitant to get into weights, but after listening to you guys,
you've totally changed my mind on that.
And I listen to you guys daily and I, even when I'm working out or on the way to work,
so I would like to get into it more
I'm just just a little hesitant still with
Not getting too bulky for my size. Listen. I'm gonna say this here
This and this sucks because I think this has been terrible for women who have really good
Muscle building genetics is that we've made them feel so insecure
That they don't want to pursue anything that could potentially make and build more muscle, whatever. The truth is if you do indeed have those genetics that
can build a lot of muscle, you are going to look phenomenal at the end of this
journey. It's gonna serve you so well. You're at an incredible advantage. Now
you got to also remember that body fat on a pound for pound basis is so much
more volumist than muscle is. So in other words, if you're also through this journey
trying to get leaner, like most people are, and even if you even if the scale stayed the same,
if you if you gain 10 pounds of muscle and lost 10 pounds of body fat,
you're going to be smaller. You're going to be smaller all the way around.
A lot. So I, and because you're just getting into strength training,
I would not advise you to modify the program and reduce volume from the upper
body and whatever. I would follow the program as is,
hit your protein targets, watch your nutrition,
and then allow your body to slowly start to take shape.
And again, if you have those genetics,
like you say, you've been, you've, you know,
sounds like your whole life, you've probably been strong,
that you've noticed that you were stronger than most people,
you're gonna do very well, but you gotta trust the process.
Don't let your fear get in front of you
because you're about to embark on a pretty amazing journey.
If that's the case.
Melissa, you're not in our forum, are you?
I'm not, no.
Okay, I'm gonna have Doug put you in our private forum.
And the reason why I want you in there
is because I know how challenging this can be,
especially at the beginning.
It'll get easy when you start seeing the results
that you really want.
Like once you realized what Sal is saying that the ability to build muscle is a
massive advantage, especially for a female, because it's really tough for women
to build a lot of muscle.
And even though that's been an insecurity of yours and you don't like it,
it's going to work to our benefit.
And the hardest part with a client like you and I've trained many
is to get over the mental hurdle of it. It's okay. Stay the course. We got this. I promise
that when we get to where you want to be, you're going to be very happy that we did this way.
What I don't want to see you do is to bail on some movements or to all of a sudden because you see
the shoulders starting to pop more or something and you start cutting calories dramatically or doing something drastic that is not going to support and help
what we're trying to do. And so I want to be able to put you in the form so I can help support
this process as you go through it because a lot of it is the mental game. And a lot of times
we need somebody that's non-bias on the outside talking to us or talking us off the ledge, because all of us are guilty of
this of being our own worst critics and being insecure
about all of our own. I'm this way. We're all this way. And so I
don't want you to make a pivot when you're doing really,
really good. And so the goal right now for me with you would
be, let's hit our protein intake, which I'm heard, I'm sure
you've heard us on the show, like hit, let's do that consistently every day. Let's follow maps and a ball just
like it is. And the goal right now is actually not to see major shifts on the scale or any of that,
it's to build your metabolism, build some muscle, slowly increase calories over time and get to a
place where you just can feel your roaring metabolism. You feel hungry
a lot, you're eating a lot of food, but yet you're not putting weight on the scale and
you're getting stronger in the gym. And now we know we've primed the body to get in this
like phenomenal shape and lean out.
And then we cut.
But we got to get there.
Yeah.
Yeah, I work out from home. And again, since listening to you guys, I purchased a Smith machine a year ago and now I don't really want much to do with it. I'd rather have a squatting bar.
Why did I buy this? Because I really don't use it. And I have a 13 year old son, so maybe it's good for him just to get him started and stuff when he's by himself.
when like when he's by himself. And the other thing is I have a rolling machine. I so I use that to warm up. So I didn't I know cardio's I don't need to be doing a heck of a lot of cardio like I was that orange theory, which is crazy. But there's a
water the water roller suitable for like a 10 minute warm up before working out.
That's totally fine. Yeah, yeah, 10 minute warm up, not bad.
Because it kind of works your core, you're using your back.
Don't worry about what don't worry about what it works.
Just don't worry about waking everything up.
Yeah, if it helps you get kind of warmed up,
you warm up your body and muscles for your workout, that's fine.
Then it's way more specific with that down the road,
but that's fine for now.
Yeah, worry about what you work with the strength training, not the cardio.
Okay. Yeah, that's kind of what I was figuring out.
Just it's nice to hear some from you guys from the horse's mouth.
It's nice to connect.
Well, we're going to put you in the forum and you're going to be able to connect
to us a lot more.
I think that's a good call out of it because the forum,
you're going to want to be around other people who are going through the same
thing or who have already gone through the same thing.
Lots of people in there that have gone through.
Exactly. That's why I want you in there. I want you in there.
Make sure you introduce yourself, say hi, tag us,
and then just kind of keep us posted.
And every time you kind of have these moments, like what we're having,
right, we're talking about, we're like, oh, I don't like this,
or I don't feel like express it, share it with us.
And then allow us to help you work your way through that process.
That's great. I really appreciate that.
You got it. All right, Melissa. Okay. Well,
get back to work. You guys enjoy the rest of your day. You too. Keep on doing what you're doing.
Thank you. Great inspiration. Thank you. We'll see you on the inside. See you soon. Bye-bye.
I, in my entire career of training clients, I never, I've only had an employee this
happened to, but never had a client, never had a client, a female client, where we got her down
to like 22% by, so not shredded, just a nice lean, got them down to 22% body, but never had a female client where we got her down to like 22% body fat.
So not shredded, just a nice lean, got them down to 22% body fat. Never had a female client
said, I have too much muscle in my arms. Yeah, like I feel too huge. No, it's always
because their body fat percentage is in the 30s. And they're, oh my God, I don't want to get any
bigger. And then we build the muscle, boost the metabolism, get them leaner. They get down to the
body fat percentage they want. They look at their arms and go, oh my God, they're so sculpted.
I love the fats taking up the majority of the mass.
Well, and I get it though, why this is so hard because you hire me and you say,
Adam, I want to be lean and fit and smaller, right?
That's what you hire before.
And I'm like, I'm going to build you.
Yeah.
And I say, okay, initially this is what I want to do with you.
We're going to increase calories.
We're going to get your protein intake.
We're going to build some muscle.
And you're like, well, no, I already have more muscle than I want on
my shoulders, and I didn't tease as a kid. Right. Right. So you
have all this stuff. And I'm trying to tell you otherwise. And
the truth is, there is a phase that you'll go through where you
don't really feel like it's, it's moving the needle much, the
scale is not really going up or down, it's kind of hovering the
same.
You feel uncomfortable because you are building a little bit.
That's right.
The, maybe even the shirts fit tighter than you go, oh my God, I'm going the wrong direction.
And you start, but it's like, you got to trust the process and understand.
Well, and, you know, the best way I could always explain it to clients is like,
imagine us wanting to sculpt this beautiful sculpture.
And that, that beginning process is me kind of like slapping
kind of clay all over the place.
And that slapping the clay on is like us building
that metabolism up and then it's gonna make it real easy
for us to carve down.
If you already get me this little piece
and I don't have much to work with,
I have very little room for any sort of air
to make this thing sculpt the way I want to.
And so this part, this part of this process is allowing me to pack this clay
on and I promise you, you're going to be happy with the end result even more,
but you have to go through that process.
Our next caller is Thomas from Florida.
Thomas, what's up man?
It's going on man.
Like we helped you see man.
How's the podcast going?
Thanks.
This is Ben.
He's my, he's my co-host.
What's happening guys? How are you?
How you doing, Ben?
Hey, Ben's Ben's doing another bodybuilding show on April
20th.
Yeah.
Good deal.
Good luck.
Thank you.
Yeah, I'm ready for it to be over because he's not he can't go
eat lunch or nothing.
Oh man. Selfish body. Thank you. Yeah, I'm ready for it to be over because he's not, he can't go eat lunch or nothing. That's kind of annoying.
Oh man.
Selfish body.
Yeah, I know, right?
We sent this in back in November
and Ben called me this morning.
He says, I think you got the answer
or you know, the kind of part of the answer
to your question in the latest episode you guys recorded, which was the
people that over train the most. So I listened to it this
morning and you know, for us, Ben and I, you know, we're
dealing with addicts and alcoholics on a daily basis.
And I know it was one of the people that you talked in there that tend to over-train a
lot and we see that here.
Because you know, with our program, a big emphasis is fitness, weight training, stuff
like that.
But I tell you what, one of the most difficult things that we have found is helping people understand
that less is more, especially when you're dealing
with an addict or an alcoholic.
So I guess the questions would be more
from your professional opinions and between all of you
working with thousands of people, I would assume, how have you navigated this with people
to really get them to buy into the less is more mindset?
If you've had any experiences with working
with people in recovery, addicts and alcoholics,
and how you navigated that with them.
We could start off there.
Yeah.
I have some experience here.
Um, so do I with delicate dance.
Yeah.
So lots of conversations.
So you, of course, now you could, you could go the logical route, right?
Explain the benefits and how the body reacts.
And here's what to expect.
Here's the hurdles that you may run into here.
The signs to look out for, but I think at its core, if you look at any form of exercise,
but in particular forms of exercise
that involves some sort of intensity.
So long distance running is quite common way
of abusing the body.
Strength training can be as well,
how somebody abuses their body.
There's a big difference between how exercise is used
to abuse versus care for the body.
And the big difference is,
are you in your body when you're doing it,
or are you not in your body when you're doing it?
So what you'll notice when it becomes a bad relationship
is it's a distracting, it's very distracting,
it's getting me distracted.
I'm doing this, I'm moving, I'm just escaping, okay?
Versus when you're doing the workout, don't do it with music. Don't do it.
Just focus on what you're feeling. Slow things down.
Where do you feel it on your body? You know,
somatic experience type stuff. What does it look like? Where,
where do you feel it when you sit down and you're resting? How does this feel?
You know, being in your body with it makes it less likely to be abused
than using it to be outside of your body.
Once you use it as a distracting tool,
well now it can become a drug.
Now I can just run my ass until I can't breathe anymore.
And if in the temporary feels good,
cause I'm out of my body,
or I could just beat myself up in the gym.
But if you slow down and you feel yourself
and feel what's happening,
then it becomes therapeutic.
Now it puts the person in the present.
So that's really the main way to do it,
alongside with communicating ahead of time what to expect
and what pitfalls you may run into.
Because I've noticed when I tell people ahead of time,
they're more likely to,
oh, wow, he told me this would happen and it's happening.
So now I can avoid it versus trying to, you know, you're behind the eight ball.
So for me, this really depends on where they're at in their recovery.
So if I have, if I have somebody who is just, just breaking through and just
starting to recover from say alcoholism or drug addiction, and they're using
exercise as, as their form of getting through that process.
I'm going to allow a lot more latitude around probably the overtraining because we're bridging
this gap of kind of trading one addiction for a lesser evil, right?
With the exercise, knowing that I know that the amount of volume and intensity that they're
training with is not going to serve them in the long run and eventually we're going to hit a
plateau or eventually they're going to see some chronic pain.
But I also recognize how sensitive it is because of how early we are in the
recovery process.
So I'm going to be, I'm going to be way more patient.
And what I'm going to do is I'm going to allow,
I'm going to allow things to kind of unfold and then to probably hit a hard
plateau or them to start to battle chronic pain. And then I'm going to allow things to kind of unfold and then to probably hit a hard plateau or them to start to battle chronic pain.
And then I'm going to explain why with like kit gloves, like soft gloves and go like,
well, here's what's been going on.
Here's why I kind of allowed that to happen because I know that this has been a huge tool
for you to not revert back to drinking or revert back to doing the drugs.
And I love to see you making that progress and we've made huge steps in the right direction,
but we're now at a new milestone in this recovery process.
You've now let go of this thing in the past.
You've now found this thing that's doing so well.
Now we need to learn to have the right balance of it.
And let me explain what's happening to your body
and why you're either dealing with chronic pain right now
or why you hit this hard plateau
because we've been training this way. So that's that that's that's one example.
Then if it's somebody who is long been recovered, I might probably lay it out early like Sal was
saying where it's like if they hire me and they're three years into recovery and they've been
exercising for a long time and now I've got a hold of them, I would probably lay out what's going on
and even lay out to them what happens to a lot of my clients
that were in the recovery process,
and then they find exercise and exercise
just becomes another addiction for them.
And letting them know that it's common.
Hey, this is very common that, you know,
we trade one addiction for the other,
and because it's a health related one,
we tend to justify it and allow the abuse to go on longer, because we think it's something that's
good for our body. But like anything else, the dose really decides whether it's a poison or not.
And we're overdosing on the training, and we need to find some sort of balance. And so,
I guess, the conversation around teaching them what the science that's happening, right? The reason
why the plateau, the reason is, is the same. But how I deliver that message has more to do with
where they're at in that recovery process.
Individual.
And yeah, and that's the individual part. And how important I see, like, the last thing I'd
want to do is discourage my client who just started, has only been sober for 30 days
and they're getting after it and training right away
and it's like, it's working for them, right?
They're not thinking about alcohol,
they're training hard.
And they're trying to build new healthy patterns
and they need some practice with it.
So yeah, I could totally,
in terms of what Adam's bringing up,
like volume is something that we can manipulate
versus intensity.
And so, you know, in terms of the beginning,
being able to create more healthier practices.
So like activity in general, like adding that in,
like in mobility and like other things that we could do
instead of just like super intensive weight training,
because I mean, they're gonna wanna be active.
They're gonna be doing anything.
They don't wanna have things to do to kind of like mentally get their mind in that healthier place.
Obviously, it's not going to be ideal for the long term.
And so this is too forecasting like why it's better to, you know, lower the volume at this point and allow your body to recover more.
But we can, as coaches, um, manipulate the work that they're
doing throughout the week. Uh, so it's actually a little bit more beneficial,
but they are staying busy.
I know that that trick, tricking is not the word I want, but we're going to,
for lack of a better word, we'll use that. But a lot of times you're trying to
trick your clients into doing what's healthier for them without them kind of
realizing it. And to
Justin's point, like one of the ways that I would do something like this is like, instead of like,
you know, harping on them about their abusing the training, like I would give them a new, like
teaching a Turkish get up is such a process. And right. So it's like,
they've never got good at it. So like, I'm going to get them to hyper focus. And so I'm going to
allow them to almost get addicted to the process of process of putting together a good Turkish get up. And they can kind of obsess about that a little bit.
Before I start to like pull things away from them, when that that thing has helped them so much,
get away from whatever addiction they had. And so a way that I can get them to reduce volume or
intensity is to teach them like a new complex movement that I know is going to require lots of practice and work towards it.
And, you know, and or like if you're good with like big move explosive type movements, like triple extension or things like that.
It's like, you know, teaching a snatch is like something that you would start with a broomstick.
And it's like, he can do 1000 of those reps and he's not going to get over trained.
So, okay, let's find a movement that's very technical, that I can get him or her to work towards.
And so they can kind of obsess about that. So they're being distracted from this other thing that was, that was, you know,
obviously harming them. That is, so there's little things like that that you can use to help bridge these gaps into getting
them to understand that there is a balance of how intense and how much volume we train or else you fall in the same trap of it becoming an addiction
like anything else.
At the bottom line is, are they escaping with exercise
or are they going in?
Okay, that's the bottom line.
Cause you can definitely escape with exercise
and that's when you develop a bad relationship with it.
Is when you're escaping life and you're escaping,
how you feel.
So, but you could do the opposite with your workouts.
Look, you guys work out, you know,
I can work out in a way to where it takes me
to another place and I'm not even there,
or I can really be in my body.
To somebody who's uncomfortable with themselves,
they want to escape.
So, it's how you approach the workout
and that's how the relationship develops.
Cause you'll notice, and like I said,
it's more common with, with like running
or grueling long type exercise.
You'll notice that they're just moving.
They just gotta move.
I gotta get you to keep moving
cause it's so uncomfortable to sit still.
So it's, it's, it's really how you approach it.
That's the root.
That definitely gives some clarification
because one of the things that I was struggling with
and wanted y'all's insight was
and it was just said like the delivery of it. You know, addicts and alcoholics, especially in
early recovery and that's who we're working with tend to be extremists right out the gate.
And you know, I spent a lot of the time taking our clients here through workouts,
like as part of our program. And you know, we see them jump into it in such an unhealthy manner with,
like, taking it as far as, for instance, we consider, you know, anabolic steroids and
psalms and all that stuff to be mood and mind altering. And next thing you know, our clients
are sliding into that behind our backs and we're catching them doing that. They're going to the
gym twice a day, seven days a week. And we're like, whoa, whoa, whoa, what are you doing?
And trying to convince them,
and like the approach with how do we slow this down
is the hard part to sell them on.
Because to be frank with you,
they do have a lot of extra time on their hands
in early recovery,
because generally speaking, they're not working.
So like you're saying,
it's almost like they're filling time.
If they don't know what else to do with themselves,
they're going to the gym
or going for an extreme long run, whatever the case is,
but trying to convince them
to not take these things to an extreme.
And I'll be honest, we were joking about it
in the beginning about selfish bodybuilders.
Here I am running these workout groups. And I have to tell them all the time, Hey guys,
I'm 13 years sober. Do not do what I do. You know, and it's, uh,
so maybe I'm not the best example. And it's,
it's something that I struggle with personally with, you know,
trying to encourage them to do it in a healthy manner because to call it what it
is, the competing can be unhealthy, etc.
Well, here's a little hack, a little workout hack.
Okay.
Let's say somebody says, okay, I want to work out for 60 minutes a day.
All right.
I'm going to work out an hour a day.
What's more effective for somebody who's just coming out of, who's just entering into recovery
would be to do six 10-minute workouts a day than one 60 minute workout.
Okay, so if they did 10 minutes of activity every hour,
they're less likely to over-train, less likely to overdo it.
They're gonna get these little mini bumps in, you know,
catecholamines, feel good hormones.
They're gonna satisfy their itch for needing to do something
all the time.
And it has a much more profound kind of
anti-depressant effect on somebody.
Now that's not a long-term approach,
but literally you could, I've done this with people.
It's like, oh, every hour I want you to do 20 squats
and 10 pushups, okay?
And they do it and they get great progress,
but it feels good to them because every hour
the little phone alarm, and it develops this like consistent discipline all day long.
Now you're not gonna stay there,
but as far as transitioning is concerned,
it's a great place to start.
Yeah, they tend to want to stay busy, right?
And so you're trying to find a way
to kind of bridge that again.
I was saying, there's been times too,
where I like I prescribe like reading and journaling
and the walks and like so I give
them so many things and I know a good amount of those things I know are like recovery and they're
anti intense and they don't even really get what I'm doing. I'm just trying to keep them away from
punishing themselves in the gym all the time by giving them a bunch of other things I also want
them to focus on and kind of speaking to that. That's also a strategy, but.
You know what they can do?
A lot of static stretching.
You could throw static stretching.
Yeah, even just static stretching is just,
you could do a shit ton of that.
It's like, okay, I'm working out four days a week.
You're telling me not to work out anymore,
but I want something to do every day.
Like you want to stretch, you go ahead and stretch
for 30 minutes every other hour.
I don't care.
Like you could do that all day long
and could you overdo it? You could, but it's a lot harder and it's much more of a slow, steady, I'm in my body type of a practice. So with our females, it's obviously a lot easier to navigate
than our young men in particular, our young men, you know, they want to get in there and lift
it as much weight as humanly possible. And our females, they seem, you know, because we run them
through like, you know, boot camp style stuff. I mean, it's, you know, we only have so much time.
So we take them through some basic, you know, boot camp style, we're not doing a lot of,
you know, back squatting and benching, stuff like that.
We're doing some of it, but, you know,
so I know we don't have much time left.
We've wanted, and we've talked about quite a lot,
incorporating some maps programs.
I have a crap ton of them, you know, and I'm kind of going through my head
and Adam what you just said or Sal,
maybe you said that 10 minutes a day,
almost like a maps 15,
give them something that they can do
like a modified version at home with bands
and stuff like that.
I feel like that would be something good for them.
That'd be the best workout.
I'd go a MAPS 15 and then I would use Prime Pro throughout the day.
So they want to do mobility movements.
They can do that as much as they want throughout the day.
MAPS 15 is your workout.
I also think too, I mean, because you guys have all this experience now with this,
right? So it's obviously not your first rodeo dealing with this is, you know,
getting better and better.
This is, this reminds me of just plain old leadership and management,
like getting better and better about communicating all these things at the
very beginning, right?
So like you get, you guys onboard someone, they're about to,
and, and forecasting for them, what's very common.
Just so you guys all know, you're going to start feeling good.
You're going to see these things and then you're going to want to do
SARMs and then you're going to want to do, and like, this is common behavior.
So, right.
And so forecasting for them that you're going to have these
temptations, you're going to find yourself.
That really helps the conversation later when you're addressing that situation.
You know, remember when I was telling you, when we first started, you're
going to start catching some momentum and then you're going to want to do this.
And you want to do that.
That really makes that conversation a lot easier versus just kind of getting them
started exercising and then you're having to address, you start to see these things in common and then you're trying to
put the fire out after it's already roaring. It's like, you know what, if we let them know ahead of
time that these are very common behaviors that we've seen over time and we just want to warn you guys,
it's not a healthy path to go. And I want you to know that it's super common that people tend to want
to do this. And we're going to be here to help you guys guide through that process that we do this
the right way.
And so that's what you're getting from us and that's what you're paying for or whatever
you're enrolling in.
That's what we're here to do is support you through that.
So learning to communicate that even better at the beginning is only going to help this
process too.
Yeah, that's something that we don't, I don't think we do really a good job at.
Communicating that in the beginning, which is something we definitely can do for sure.
That's a massive difference, bro.
I mean, that's literally like, that was like a leadership 101 for me.
Like it took me a while.
I wasn't thrust into a leadership role at such a young age.
And it wasn't until like my mid to late twenties that I piece that together and it just made those conversations so much easier.
Because I told, I called it out before they did it. You know,
you're going to want to do this. You're going to, and so then when we were sitting down,
they're like, ah, fuck, I am that guy. You said this, you said this would happen.
And here I am that, you know what I'm saying? And it's a,
it's a lot easier to have that versus not addressing it and then waiting.
They're putting out fires.
Yeah. Then waiting till it happens and then trying to address it. And it's like, oh, shit.
And by that time they've already caught momentum.
They're seeing their body change.
They got all that, all the cortisol from the workouts.
Like good luck convincing them this isn't good for them.
They're like, I'm loving me.
I like how I feel.
And it's like, now you're trying to convince me
that I'm not doing it right.
Fuck you, I got this.
Whereas if you told them ahead of time,
they're gonna think this is good for them. They're going to think,
and then they get there and it's like, oh shit, he did tell me I was going to
want to do this stuff. And here I am. You know what I'm saying? So, yeah, yeah.
Yeah. Hey, I wanted to tell you guys, and I, I'd, I'd, I'd kick myself if I
didn't, but, um, you know, we're on YouTube and I had a,
one of our, one of our long time listeners, he sent me a comment on YouTube and I had one of our one of our long time listeners, he sent me a comment on YouTube
and he said, Hey, congratulations, you went three episodes in a row without bringing up
mine pump. And he actually, I think he may have gotten either the Instagram question
answered or he was a live caller at, I don't know, some months back.
But, you know, we've had quite a few listeners that, you know, because from our approach,
it's like, oftentimes people are like, I'm just going to stop drinking and stop drugging and
everything's going to be okay. But we're addressing spiritual, mental, physical, emotional, all those
components. And that's why, you know, we like to reference you guys a lot. And, you know, a lot of our listeners have, have, you know, come to you guys and,
and, and really followed the methodologies.
And, you know, if, you know, we get clients that are like, I'm doing Keto and I'm
doing this and I'm doing that.
We're like, do nothing, listen to mind pump, and they're going to steer you in
the right direction.
Um, and, you know, I think it goes a long way because it's, it's, nothing, listen to mind pump and they're going to steer you in the right direction.
And you know, I think it goes a long way because it's, you know, it's, it's, we're
not jumping on some sort of crazy diet or anything like that.
We're just, you know, like you guys said, having a, having a balance of all of it.
So I wanted to say that the last thing are actually two more things. Um, and if I can't say this, cut it out or whatever, but April, um, Sal, if
you're still wanting to do the podcast, I'm totally on board looking forward to it.
In Orlando, my question is, cause I know you guys are going to be at the coaching
con thing.
If that is something that you would foresee being beneficial for somebody like myself,
I'm not directly a fitness coach, I'm not a nutrition coach, but could it be something
beneficial for what we do?
30 second answer on that.
I think, I think learning, uh, if you're going to advise people on nutrition and exercise,
I think education in that direction would definitely help.
I actually think you would even benefit from our coaching program.
If, because I imagine a part of your business is sales and scaling your
business and communication with clients.
That's a lot of what our course is like.
So, um, so both.
Yes.
I think, uh, NCI is more focused nutrition direction, which I think is extremely
important if you're giving diet recommendation and talking a lot about that, you're
going to, you're going to benefit from that on the business side, looking to scale
your guys's business, communicating with your, your clients, stuff like that.
We're heavily focused in that direction.
So I think both could be beneficial.
Yeah.
Well, and I'm not just saying this, but I have full intentions on going into
your coaching program, but the coaching con, definitely I like the in-person stuff too.
And I've never been to anything like that.
So I think it would be beneficial for us.
Awesome.
Yeah.
We'll see you there.
We'd love to see you guys out there.
All right.
And the last thing I'm on board with the peanut butter and jelly stuff, but I can't get on board with the P and sitting down.
Thank you.
Thank you.
Thank you. More men.
I'll take one out of two.
More men.
I'll take one out of two.
Maintain your man.
Ben, you P standing up or sitting down?
Standing up.
Alright.
You made a whole lot of something, damn it.
What the hell?
I'm losing everything over here.
Alright boys, we'll see you guys out in Orlando, huh? All right.
Thanks, guys.
Appreciate it.
Thank you.
Nice guys.
Yeah, yeah.
Great guys.
Yeah, yeah.
What the recovery talk?
What's their podcast?
Do we know what it is?
Give them a play.
Real recovery talk.
Real recovery talk?
Yeah.
You guys are doing good work, man.
They really are.
I remember when we met them the first time.
Nice guys. Yeah, yeah. And I've since, man. They really are. I remember when we met them the first time. Nice guys.
Yeah.
Yeah.
And I've since then paid attention to some of their stuff and I'm like, oh, I
like the messaging that you're doing.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I know, I mean, again, you know, one of the big things in common, you see with
people who use exercise in that way is they're not, they are using it to escape
and you watch them and they are not there, man.
They are using it to distract, distract, distract versus using it to focus in.
Oh, that's a whole different feeling.
One of the things that I would say tip a trainer from being like a good trainer over
to being a master at their craft is the ability to assess clients like this at the jump and
forecast what you believe they're going to do.
Oh my, you forecast it.
Otherwise you're behind the A-ball.
Otherwise it's like, is he really saying this
to because this happens all the time?
That's why repetition matters.
I mean, you gotta acquire that wisdom from practice.
Because it makes that conversation so easy.
Yes, because you already had half of it.
That's right.
You had already told them you're gonna, at one point,
you're gonna wanna do this, and then you're gonna wanna do that. And then you're gonna feel like this them you're going to, at one point, you're going to want to do this.
And then you're going to want to do that.
And then you're going to feel like this.
You're going to feel like this.
And then that's going to tell you.
And then when that moment happens and you
have to have that conversation.
Now, you're the wizard.
They want to listen to us.
Yes.
And then it's more like, yeah, you're right.
OK, well, what do I need to do to fix that?
Versus they come to you and they're not seeing results anymore.
They're hard plateau.
They have crime.
And they're asking, what's going on? And then you're going, well, you're doing too much of this and you're doing too much anymore, right? They're hard plateau, they have crime, and they're asking,
what's going on?
And then you're going, well, you're doing too much of this
and you're doing too much of that,
and you shouldn't have been doing this.
And then they're like,
Now it's a little bit of a battle.
Yeah, now then they look at you like,
oh, he's just giving me these excuses
because he's not a good coach or he couldn't help me.
It's like, no, no, no, this is what we saw coming.
But so having that conversation to me is, is everything.
And the, and the better as for all the coaches and trainers
that are out here, the, take the time at the beginning when you see these things and you have a feeling
that this could be our challenge.
Communicate that.
Communicate that from the jump because it'll make your job 10 times easier when you're trying to overcome that hurdle down the road.
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