Muscle for Life with Mike Matthews - Nick Shaw on His 7 Favorite Habits for Success
Episode Date: March 3, 2021What if I told you there was one weird trick to realize all of your biggest dreams? Just one thing you could do to achieve success and live your best life. Want to know what it is? The trick is to ign...ore all the one weird tricks. That’s right. The real secret isn’t shortcuts and fads. It’s hard work, consistency, discipline, and building good habits. That’s the real juice. If I just knocked the wind out of your sails, I understand. Hard work sounds a lot less fun than instant gratification. But what’s more fun? Failing, jumping on the next bandwagon, and failing again, or making real progress and actually achieving what you want? In the long-run, the tried-and-true methods of developing a strong work ethic and discipline have an astounding track record and are far more likely to get you where you want to go. That’s what I’m talking about on this episode with Nick Shaw. He’s someone who’s learned these lessons and honed them through personal hardship, building them into an actionable framework in his book Fit For Success, that you can follow to live your best life. If you’re not familiar with Nick, he’s the founder and CEO of Renaissance Periodization (co-founded by Dr. Mike Israetel, who’s also been on the podcast). He’s also a former competitive powerlifter and bodybuilder, who’s coached hordes of elite athletes, including CrossFit Games Champions, Olympians, UFC fighters, and professional athletes, so he knows a thing or two about achieving success and helping others do so. In this episode, Nick and I chat about . . . Why he wrote Fit For Success Enjoying the work process versus being outcome-oriented Morning routines and the benefits of waking up early Mindfulness and the difference between using data instead of feelings Developing discipline and thinking long-term The importance of a positive mindset And more . . . So if you’re ready to ditch the fads and nonsense and build positive habits that can improve your life, listen to this podcast! 13:48 - What are the key concepts of success that you wrote in your book? 16:17 - What does hard work mean to you? 21:39 - Where are you now with work/life balance? 24:24 - What are your thoughts on developing work ethic? 25:57 - How do you organize your to-do list? 27:07 - Do you have a morning routine? 47:08 - What is your take on developing discipline? 53:47 - What does a positive mindset mean to you? Mentioned on The Show: Nick Shaw's New Book (Fit For Success) Nick Shaw's Instagram: @nick.shaw.rp Nick Shaw's Website: Renaissance Periodization Books by Mike Matthews: https://legionathletics.com/products/books/ Want free workout and meal plans? Download my science-based diet and training templates for men and women: https://legionathletics.com/text-sign-up/
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Hey, and welcome to another episode of Muscle for Life. I'm your host, Mike Matthews. Thank
you for joining me today to listen to an interview that I did with Nick Shaw, who is the founder
and CEO, but co-founder and CEO of Renaissance Periodization. Mike Isretel, who has also
been on the podcast, is the other co-founder. And in case you are not familiar with Renaissance Periodization or just RP as it is generally referred to, they are one of the
bigger players in the fitness coaching space and in the diet app space. They have a very successful
diet app, multi-million dollar business, and they have a lot of smart people doing a lot of cool
things, producing a lot of good content. And so I've interviewed several of RP's people over the years, and I'm always happy
to do it because they know what they're talking about and I like what they're doing. And one for
one, they've always been great guests. I've gotten a lot of good feedback on the episodes that I've
done with RP's staff, and in particular, in the several that I've done with Dr. Mike Isertel. Now, in this episode, Nick is going to be talking about a new book of his called Fit for Success.
And it's a book that resonated with me because I have a book called The Little Black Book of
Workout Motivation that is similar in that it's kind of a personal playbook for success. And in Nick's case, in his book, he talks about a lot of the
fundamental habits that he contributes most, if not all of his success in business and outside
of business too. And not only that, but Nick knows a thing or two about producing success
and excellence in others as well, because he has coached many elite athletes,
including CrossFit Games champions, Olympians, UFC fighters, and other professional athletes of
various stripes. And in this episode, Nick and I talk about several of the things that he believes
really sets high achievers apart from everyone else, including enjoying the process of doing
the work versus being very outcome-oriented.
We talk about morning routines and the benefits of waking up early, mindfulness and the difference
between using data instead of feelings to make decisions and drive actions. We talk about
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favorite fitness-friendly recipes. Hey, Nick, thanks for taking the time to do this.
Hey, well, thanks for having me on.
I really appreciate it.
Honor to be here.
Yeah.
Thanks for being flexible too.
I know I had to reschedule.
I was on a deadline that, I mean, you know how it is that you think you're done and then
you're not, and then you think you're done and then you're not.
And in this case, this is actually a book I'm working on with Simon and Schuster.
So it's not really up to me to even say that I'm done, you know, and especially, hey, the editor I'm working with is great and she has brought up a lot of great
points, but you get the manuscript back and then it's like, hey, there's actually a lot more to do
here. And that's fine. Oh, and by the way, can you get it back to us in a week? And the experience
has been great on the whole. It's just, there have been those moments where I'm like, oh shit,
I pretty much have to drop everything now for the next week or so. If I'm going to meet the
deadline, they would be very flexible. Again, not complaining at all. They've been very accommodating.
I try to over-deliver. So that's why sometimes I was like, well, I guess I'm just clearing my
schedule and I'm just going to make this the priority because I want to make sure that I
do everything I can to make this as painless as possible for them. Because I've heard many horror stories of authors, you know,
being a year late on manuscripts and just being a real pain in the ass to deal with.
So from the beginning, I was like, I'm going to not be a pain in the ass. I'm going to be the
easiest author they've ever worked with. Well, that's probably a good approach, right? Because
if they have a good experience and then they're more likely to want to do stuff. And yeah, the book publishing industry is really
interesting just by itself. Yeah, yeah, totally. And we were just talking offline about your
experience and my experience. And I don't know about you, but researching and writing is still my favorite work that I do.
I just really like the process. I like writing, which is nice. It's actually something I could
see myself doing for the rest of my life. And regardless of the finances, regardless of the
economics, it's just an activity I really do enjoy. And I've always liked reading books.
And so I've always appreciated the creativity of it. And it's fun
for me to speak with other authors because I'm guessing that's at least partly the case for you
because it's not like you need to write a book to make more money. Your company does great and you
live well. And so I'm guessing a part of this is just you were drawn to doing it.
Yeah, totally. I mean, I never would have, if you would have asked me this, let's say a year, year and a half ago, did I consider myself
an author or anything like that? I would have never said that, but I did. I just had this love
of reading and sort of just learning as much as I could. And I mean, you can probably relate to
this too, but as you read more and more books across different genres, like not just fitness,
not just health, It's really everything.
You just notice all of these themes, these common principles that apply. And I really just kept making all these notes. I just was really getting into it. I just really loved to do it. And
basically every time I would read a new book, I was able to kind of link it back to these
five or 10 common ideas. And then 2020 hits and my wife was dealt some bad health news,
honestly, almost a year ago today. She's doing well now though, of course, knock on wood,
but that just really kind of forced me to take these principles that I'd been thinking about
and really truly live them every single day. And I mean, maybe you can relate to this too,
but it's one thing to talk about all these things, but then when you really have to live them,
too, but it's one thing to talk about all these things, but then when you really have to live them, it's a little bit different. And it was a really unique experience, I guess, maybe,
I don't even know if that's the right word, but I just knew, I was like, you know what?
I think I have something here. I think it could really help a lot of people. And again, at RP,
we're mostly just helping people with health and fitness, you know, like yourself. And I just
thought, well, this is a really cool opportunity to step outside that, like, Hey, I've kind of been dealt this bad hand in 2020, but it doesn't
really matter. We can overcome it. And Hey, there's these principles. If you just use these,
apply them really to whatever it is, you can be more successful. And given the nature of 2020 for
everyone, well, shoot, it seemed like a really good idea to get this book out before
the year was over because everyone has been negatively impacted by COVID, something else
crappy in 2020. Totally. And yeah, I wrote a book similar in theme called The Little Black Book of
Workout Motivation, which I would say is a bit more maybe whimsical and less structured than
yours, but does touch on some of the concepts that you talk about in
your book, which of course, like you mentioned, and how that book came about was similar.
There wasn't any specific event that occurred or a specific trial or tribulation. It was more just,
there was a point when I had achieved a certain level of success as an author and entrepreneur
that more and more people were
asking me for my thoughts and my advice as to how to be more successful, just in terms of achieving
goals, not necessarily making money per se, but I'm sure that could be a goal. And as more people
were asking for that, then that's when of course I started to think like, maybe I should write a
book. Maybe I'm credible enough to write that book at this point. And then as I do also read widely, or at least I make an attempt to, I follow a rotation of genres
related to things. Yeah. So I have a personal list and then a work list and I just go back and
forth in between and I'll read one or two books on a personal list genre and then I'll flip over
to the work and do one or two there and just kind of work through it. And then when I was starting to read
with that idea of, okay, how could I tie this stuff that I'm reading into this other book that
became a little black book and what ideas are interesting to me? I like that process. It's fun
because it feels like there's a lot of scope for creativity. And it feels like there are
almost like infinite ways that you could put this thing together and you're finding your own
that really resonates with you and that you hope resonates with your readers.
Yeah, totally. I mean, I'm kind of the same way. I'll kind of have like a list in mind of books.
And usually what happens to me is I'll be reading some books and then they'll reference
one or two books.
I'm just like, man, I have to read this.
So what do I do?
Write it down, go to Amazon and add it to my list.
Amazon's amazing.
Basically the next day it's there.
And then, so like, I feel like I have this list of books that has been sitting there
for a while that I feel like I'm never going to get to because this like.
Oh yeah.
Mine is absurd. Like I have it broken down into genres. I will certainly die with a
long TBR pile. It's just going to be all the things I never got to basically.
Yeah. Yeah. No, exactly. Same. I don't know. I like, I read some digital too. I read a lot of
hardcovers too. And so I just, yeah, I have this stack right now, probably like 20,
30 different books that I'm just like, I don't probably need to buy another book this entire year in 2021, but
I know that's not realistic.
So it is what it is.
You collect them.
I do the same.
I collect board games too.
I have probably a hundred and most of them are unopened because I have no one.
I haven't really figured out where I want to fit that into my life yet, but I have them.
Yeah. Well, there you go. Well, you know, you kind of have two kids to experiment with, right?
That's true. They're not quite old enough yet. It's an investment in my future
enjoyment. At some point, my wife laughs and I'm like, you wait and see. One day,
this is going to come into play. Like I will decide that I'm going to start putting time
into this. It's just not right now. And see the thing with board games, more so than than books is they can go out of print. So, you know, you got to get it while
you can get it. So it's not gone in the future. At least that's how I rationalize it. Quick tip for
your TBR pile. You may already do this, but something that I do is before I read a book,
I always try to find a book summary. So something on Blinkist or InstaRead or Get Abstract. And if
that isn't available, I'll go try to find a summary, some sort of review that gives me an
idea of what's in it. And the reason being is I've found that if I go through something on InstaRead,
one of these other platforms, and I haven't made any highlights and my curiosity isn't sparked,
then that's one of those books where you're like 100
pages in and you know you should quit, but you don't want to quit. So you just keep going.
And if you take your reading seriously, which sounds like you do, you know that there is a
real opportunity cost. The next whatever, however few hours, even let's say it's four or five hours.
And for me, reading takes a bit longer because I spend a fair amount of time in the dictionary. I like to clarify words I don't know or I haven't heard.
I like to check words and learn new definitions. And so it's maybe even a bit of more of a time
investment for me than some people, but that is time that you're not going to get back. And
that is time that you could have put into something that makes more sense. And so what
I've found is by sticking to books that were, if the summary has some interesting things in it, then I've often
found that the book, depending on not so much maybe with like business books or some self-help
books where there is maybe really just kind of one big idea per chapter and the rest is kind of
filler and fluff. In some cases, you could just get away with the book summary and you don't even
need to read the book. But in many other cases, take a book like Thinking Fast and
Slow, which I liked. You could read the summary and be like, oh, this looks pretty interesting,
and then read the book and learn a lot more than you learned in the summary and really appreciate
the experience. So random tip that might help you just avoid wasting your time with shitty books,
at least. Yeah, no, that's actually a really good idea. I end up probably sticking to a lot of books that aren't super long, but yeah,
every now and again you'll get into a book and you're just like, yeah, this just isn't.
I mean, if you've gone like 20 or 30 pages and you haven't made a single note or highlight,
for me, that's where I'm like, eh, this is, and I'm not really not good at quitting books
every once in a while. Yeah, same. Yeah. Yeah. So anyways, random tip, but let's transition and
talk about your book. So there are, let's see, what did I make a note here? Three, six, seven
kind of key concepts that you talk about in your book present as like, here are the key habits of
success. Do you want to share what those are? And then, and then we can maybe dive a little bit
deeper into some of them?
Yeah, yeah, sure.
So, yeah, it's built into a pyramid.
And the reason that I did that is because a lot of our other books at RP, so about nutrition, about recovery, they all relate back to a pyramid.
So that's kind of where I came up with this idea one day.
Right.
And it's a good metaphor, right?
Like, okay, here's your foundation.
Here's the base.
Exactly. Yeah. No, no, for sure. Because it just helps show people like, well, what should you really focus a lot of your time and effort on? Well, probably the things that form the foundation
versus the things at the top, usually going to be more efficient, better use of your time.
So yeah, I mean, I did it one day, I was making notes one morning while I was reading a book
and I kind of sketched it out, took a picture of it, sent it to a couple of people.
And I was like, Hey, does this make sense?
Like, does this seem like something?
And they're like, yeah, that seems pretty good.
I don't think you're too crazy, at least not about this.
And so I was like, all right, well, I'm going to run with this.
And that's really how the book idea got started.
And that was, you know, about a year ago.
And it was really cool.
Just kind of fine tune it.
Like you were saying earlier about the publishing process it went through several different iterations and kind
of definitely landed on one on this eventual pyramid i guess after a while a little bit of
back and forth there which is cool i think there's some good arguments to be made you could probably
rearrange some of the stuff and there's probably a good argument either way, but yeah. So the foundation of the pyramid is hard work and it seems so painfully obvious, but for some,
it still has to be said. So that kind of is the most important part. I mean, as you know,
you've written tons of books, you can have all the ideas in the world, but until you actually
do something about it, it really doesn't matter. So that's really the core of everything.
Totally. And maybe quickly, if you want to just
run up the pyramid just to give people the overview, and then I'll follow up on this
hard work point. Yeah, totally. So hard work is number one. Number two is internal locus of
control. That basically, well, I'll just go in order. I'll just list them out. So number three
is then positive mindset. And then number four is being disciplined. Number five is your purpose and meaning. And then
number six is failure. And then number seven at the very top is the idea of recharge.
And it's interesting that order. I have some thoughts on, I'm curious regarding purpose
specifically. It's interesting that you put that where you put it, but let's start with hard work.
What does that mean to you? Like specifically, because that's one of, this is one of those fuzzy, you know, oh yeah, I work hard. How many people do you know who say they
work hard and they don't by your standards? You know what I mean? Like how many people really
know what hard work is? It's just like a theme of some of these discussions I've had on this topic.
Yeah. Well, it is a really good idea and topic to talk about because a lot of people do think
that they work hard. And so a lot of people, a question that I get a lot, maybe you do as well,
is, hey, what do you think about the idea of work-life balance or something like that?
I get asked about that often.
Yeah. Well, so I'll give my opinion real quick. You can tell me what you think of that.
So I think that there are certain times, especially early on in the process,
when you're first kind of just getting going with something like, let's say,
being an entrepreneur, you're not going to have balance. It's just not really possible early on in the process when you're first kind of just getting going with something like let's say being an entrepreneur you're not going to have balance it's just not really
possible early on you know especially if you're kind of doing things by yourself like it's just
not going to happen you just have to work your ass off literally day and night pretty much every
single day until you maybe get to the point a lot of people might not even get to the point where
you can kind of ease back but you just have to work so fundamentally hard that a lot of people
aren't even aware of what it takes and so so I've had the pleasure of working with someone like the best
athletes in the world, you know, like CrossFit Games champions and all that. And I've seen them
train in person. Let's take Rich Froning as an example. I mean, I like to think that I work hard,
but boy, I'm probably done with my workouts in 60, 90 minutes. I mean, this guy's in the gym
four or five hours a day. So do I work hard? Maybe, but like compared to who, right? So a lot of people don't have this true
idea of just how much the top people in the world work. It's really astounding. It's crazy.
I totally agree. I mean, if we take it into the realm of business, as far as entrepreneurship
goes, I get asked a fair amount about that. I'm sure you too. And I tell people as a number, I say, if you can't work at least
50 hours a week, and when I say work, I mean work. Like, yes, you're going to have your breaks to go
to the bathroom. You're going to check your phone here and there. We're all human, whatever. You're
going to have to eat some food, but not you're going to have the TV on in the background and you're just basically watching TV or you're going to be jumping
back and forth between email and social media and other things that aren't productive.
Not all quote unquote deep work necessarily, but work. Really, you're working, right? If you can't
consistently work at least 50 hours a week, and I would say probably if you want to increase the
probability of winning, push that up to probably 60 or 70 hours a week consistently without losing your mind. Maybe you're going to feel a little
FOMO and you're going to wish that a part of you is going to be thinking it would be nice to go do
that thing with the people or to go watch the movies or whatever. And that's fine. That's normal.
But you're not on the brink of a meltdown. You're just doing your thing and you get into your groove. If you can't do that consistently for an extended period of time,
I wouldn't say that I don't recommend becoming an entrepreneur, but I would say that that's not a
good sign. May alone be enough, depending on the circumstances for me to, if I were to try to give
my best advice to a friend, don't do it. Don't do it. Just get a job instead. Because the point of
building a business and becoming an entrepreneur is not just to have another job that also just
has all these other risks and all this other stress with it. There's something to be said
for the autonomy, but there's a lot to be said for having a job, working in a business you like,
doing something you're good at, only having to focus on what you're good at, not having to worry
about any of the other things like making payroll, for example, or getting sued or whatever.
And you can focus on this skillset. You can get better at it. You can grow. You can actually,
you can get some autonomy. Maybe you can even become an intrapreneur where you kind of say,
hey, you pitch someone like you, an owner of a business and say, hey, Nick, what if I took this
area that I'm in right now? And I have this vision vision for it and I think I could build it out to this. What do you think? And if you had any faith in that person, you would be excited. You'd be like, please, yes. How do we do this? I'm all for this. And if you can do that, you're going to make a lot of money, right? I don't want to hijack the conversation, but these are just my thoughts. I've had these discussions a lot. So I think that again, it's correct that it's almost like a point
of estimation of effort, I guess. It needs to be way higher than what I've seen with many people.
Does that make sense? Yeah, it does. So think about how much work you think it might take,
and then start adding to that because that's probably what it's actually going to take.
And I like the idea that you've said that, just being brutally honest with people,
because I conclude of, I conclude
the book by saying, you know, everyone kind of thinks that they want to have six pack abs. They
think that they want to be a millionaire. And then you tell them how much work that it truly
actually takes. And the number of hands seem to go down quite a bit when you start talking about
trade-offs. And so that usually is a pretty good awakening for people. They're like, well, you know
what? I like the idea, but yeah, I'm not really willing to pay that cost and that trade-off. So I'm good. And I don't think there's any shame in that. No, there's not. Yeah.
I think it actually takes, in a sense, it takes some, at least self-awareness and some
self-honesty to make that assessment and say, yeah, it's not worth it to me. That's not worth
it to me. And I'm going to find something else that is worth it to me. Totally. That's the
ultimate brutal honesty because a lot of people, they'll lie to themselves
like, oh yeah, I can do it. And then, you know, they get too far into it maybe, and they don't
really have a choice. They kind of just have to keep going. And you know, that can be good or bad,
of course, but yeah, for some people it's just, Hey, you know what? No, it's just not for me.
And there is nothing wrong with that. Totally fine.
Where are you at now with work-life balance? Because you don't have,
quote unquote, have to work the way that you did in the beginning, but what does that look like now?
Yeah, it's definitely a little bit more balanced now for sure. So it's kind of nice to have a
little bit more time to work out myself and read a lot of books and stuff. But I also kind of
consider that, obviously when I am reading books, it's thinking of ideas, like how can I apply this
to my own business, my own life? How can I get better? So it's kind of all indirectly related
to work, but I'm not having to do as much hands-on stuff as I used to be a couple of years ago or
whatever it is. So it's a bit more, I guess, managerial kind of leadership roles, which is
pretty unique to be doing that now. And as far as your time goes, do you find,
and this is really just a personal question because my experience has been that there was
a time when I thought, well, in my personality, I tend to, when I want to do something, I tend to
just want to do that and nothing else. And I've gotten better in that regard. So early on, I was
thinking more, okay, if I reached a certain financial, like certain level of income, then I can think more about quote unquote balancing my life, right?
And then I got there and then just wanted the next thing, right?
It wasn't satisfying in the way that I had envisioned it, right?
Get to the next level and then feel the exact same way until now I've just accepted that
it's not a financial thing per se, but I just really enjoy working
and I really enjoy, I do not enjoy doing things that feel purposeless to me. Like if I'm spending
my time on something, I really find it more enjoyable if I know why I'm doing it. And so
my default kind of go-to is always just working on something. What has your experience been like?
Yeah. I mean, it's better now than
that. I have a little bit more free time, but I'm very similar to you in that. Yeah. You kind of
have these ideas in your mind of, yes, I just want to get to this next level and then everything's
just going to be drastically different. Life's going to be perfect. And then you get there and
it's just like, oh boy, it's almost like you add more layers and more complexity and there's even
more issues. Sometimes there's even bigger issues.
So it's probably this thing of, I don't want to seem ungrateful because I'm certainly grateful for everything in my life, especially even more so after 2020.
But at the same time, that's just my personality.
I just always want to do more.
I want to be more.
I want to help more people do whatever I can to do that.
So yeah, very much like you, it's like, if I were
to retire tomorrow, I don't know what I would do. I would start something else, right? I would be
doing something else. I was like, well, why don't I just keep doing what I'm doing? Because I love
it so much and it'll help a lot of people, which is really cool. So let's just keep going with that.
And it's just, it's the mastery mindset. You just love the process. It's not really an outcome.
You just love the process. Totally. Yeah really an outcome. You just love the process.
Totally. Yeah, I totally agree. What are your thoughts on developing work ethics? So
let's say for people listening who maybe feel like they're kind of soft in that regard,
or it's something they struggle with to maintain a sharp work ethic, so to speak.
Yeah. Well, I think some of it maybe goes to that mastery mindset where you kind of just
have to abandon some of these outcome goals and you just have to hopefully learn to love the
process. And if you can start to enjoy the process, it becomes a lot easier and easier
as all relative. So that's maybe one aspect of it. The other aspect I talked about a little bit in
the book, but you just have to become good at making lists and just doing things because you're
not always going to want to do them, but you just kind of have to do them.
You know, we're all adults here and no one's forcing us to do all these things.
But if you really want to, it goes back to the why and the purpose.
And you had said, if we jump ahead a little bit here, you know, interesting where I put
that in the pyramid, I think you could make a really good argument that could go lower
in the pyramid.
And I don't think that argument is off base at all.
Just kind of with the way it was tying in the book, I think it fit in really nicely there because it does at the end of the
day, right? Like, well, why do we do the things that we do? Well, you know, usually it is purposeful
and meaning to us. And that's hopefully why we're doing what we do. Again, it's just,
you just kind of have to do things and that's where discipline ties into because you're not
always going to want to do them. But I started finding that I just made a daily to-do list and just started checking them off.
And I'm the type of person that if it's something on my list, well, I'm going to see it.
I'm going to be like, oh, shoot, I should have done this this morning, but I didn't.
But now I have to do it now.
And it just helps cultivate the idea of getting work done.
Yeah, I work the same way.
For your to-do lists, how do you organize them out of curiosity?
I'm sure you have some sort of system you use.
Yeah, totally.
Well, I just kind of have this daily list.
It's probably not just a random list of tasks.
Yeah, so there's a handful of them.
So they'll change a little bit based on what's going on.
But I always do have this handful of things that I like to do every single day, working
out, being more mindful of things, just having some household chores, just to make things
a little bit easier around my house for my wife.
It's probably a good idea to do. Right. So, and I almost...
Happy wife, happy life.
That's what they say, right? That's what they say. But I actually, I have some like easier things
that are on my list, you know, and I just, you know, it kind of feels good when you check them
off in the morning and say, okay, yeah, got that done, got that done. And it just builds just a
tiny bit of momentum. And again, like these are just things that, you know, I usually spend some
time after I take my kids to school
or whatever, reading or just doing the dishes.
Maybe I'll kick on a podcast or an audio book while I'm doing that.
Just little things like that.
And then just checking off the main things that I need to do at work each day, making
sure typically I want to get those done earlier in the day so they are out of the way.
So I'm not having to think and procrastinate all day about them, but that's kind of maybe a general way of
how it's put together. Makes sense. Do you have a morning routine? Sounds like you may, but.
Yeah, yeah, yeah. And you know, it's really funny because over the holidays.
I know it's kind of trendy, but I actually do think there is something to be said for it. And
I'm the person who has essentially given up on the self-development space. I don't read
many self-help, I guess, probably not self-help at all, maybe some self-development here and there. It's just,
I've read so many that we got to a point where it was just kind of the same ideas rehashed again
and again. So I was like, all right, this is not a good use of my time. But I do think that there
really is a value to having a good morning routine. Some of the stuff I've seen out there
is way over the top in my opinion, or at least it wouldn't be necessary for me. But I'm curious if you have just a standard
number of things you do from when you get up to whenever.
Yeah. So it's a little bit in the book. And the main reason that I wanted to do this was just to
really cultivate the habits of making sure that I focus on myself every day and not letting life
work all that get in the way. So for me, it was just
easier. So I do a lot of social media stuff. I don't know about you, but there's a lot of social
media stuff, emails and all that stuff. It's sometimes hard for me to get into that deep
work mindset, which is required. So I just started thinking, well, gee, when's the best time to do
this? Usually it's earlier in the morning and there's not a whole lot going on social media.
Other people aren't up. They're not shooting emails and Slack messages and all this. Usually it's earlier in the morning and there's not a whole lot going on social media. Other people aren't up. They're not shooting emails and Slack messages and all this. So I just
thought, hey, this is probably a good time to read. And because I'm not doing this stuff now,
it's just going to be really hard to do it later. So again, I don't think you have to get up in the
morning and do all this stuff. I don't think there's anything mandatory about it. Now that
being said, so let's ask ourselves, why is this stuff so popular then?
Like, why do people think that they need to do it?
Well, again, I don't think there's any magic of getting up early per se, because I've actually
been experimenting with this a lot recently over the holidays, because I kind of, you
know, I took like a day or two off over the holidays when some family and stuff was in
town.
And I just kind of lost that momentum of doing it.
And I've been doing it every day for like five months in a row, just getting up early
and just doing these things.
And it becomes just habit, part of who you are, part of your identity.
And so it's really easy to keep doing.
And then I lost some of that momentum.
And boy, if you lose that momentum, sometimes it's just really hard to get it going again,
which again, I like to consider myself decently disciplined and motivated, all that good stuff.
But it's hard.
So for people that might not be as internally motivated, it that good stuff, but it's hard. So for people that
might not be as internally motivated, it's going to be really hard. So cultivating those habits,
doing them every single day, just making them become automatic. I think there's a lot to be
said about that, especially the same for fitness. Again, you just cultivate these habits of meal
prepping and making sure you have some food prepared, making sure you take your supplements
every day, all that stuff. You just have to keep doing this. And over time, it's just
going to become automatic. So that to me is why the morning routine is probably so overblown and
so overhyped. But, you know, again, like let's say if you're still working out, but maybe it's
midday instead of the morning, if you're still able to read, you know, 30, 60 minutes a day or
whatever it is, if you're still able to, you know, be more mindful, you don't necessarily have to do it all in the morning,
but for a lot of people, like, let's be honest, real life gets in the way. So for them, it's just
easier to do it earlier. That's it. Yeah. Yeah. And I can attest to that personally,
my little routine is I get up around six and then I read for the first hour or so,
sometimes a little bit more.
And during COVID, when it was like full lockdown, I was doing cardio in the morning and I would
actually just continue reading because I have an upright bike. So I just hop on it, do moderate
intensity, nothing wild and 30 minutes, burn some calories, sweat, help my heart out a little bit
and continue reading. So get my reading done. And I guess first I drink a liter of water because I'm
thirsty to be specific. I have an infrared sauna. So I'll sit in the sauna and do little stretches
and read. And I like to massage gun. There are a couple of spots, almost like trigger points,
and it just is easier than rubbing it with my hands. So I have my little thing there.
And then now it's changed a little bit. I go to the gym. So I get my workout done first thing. I'll leave 7.30, 7.45 or so, leave, get that done and come back and then
get to work. And I've just found that those aren't, again, there's nothing really special
about that. But I've noticed that the waking up early, one thing I can say that I enjoy about it
is that means I have to go to bed. So I get in bed no later than 10 on most nights, sometimes a little bit earlier. I wish I, when I was younger, I didn't need to be
in bed as long as I didn't have to be in bed eight hours. I had a really good run for like five years
where I would sleep probably six and a half, maybe six hours, 45 minutes. Just I'd fall asleep in
five minutes, blackout unconscious and naturally just wake up after six and a half, no more than seven hours and have no problems whatsoever for five years straight. And then after I had kids, now
I'm a sleeper and that was it. That was the end of the, but I, Hey, I made good use of it. That
was, I worked hard during that time. So at least I capitalized on it, made, Hey, but now I'm a
sleeper. So it really is a point of discipline to make sure that I'm in bed eight hours to get enough sleep. Because as I've gotten older, I'm 36 now. When I was 26, if I slept,
I remember days that, not that I wanted to, I just didn't sleep well. Maybe I got five hours
of sleep and I really wouldn't notice anything. I would go have a great workout, work all day,
do my cardio later and be like, yeah, maybe I feel it a little bit, I guess.
Now, unfortunately, not the case.
I'm not going to be passing out at 4 p.m., but the whole day kind of sucks if I don't sleep enough.
And so that is one thing that I'd say is beneficial about waking up early is if you're going to be
good on your sleep hygiene, that means you get to bed early. And that means you're probably going
to spend less time just dirtling around on social media or just watching TV.
And you will more naturally orient yourself toward, I think, more productive activities.
Because if you're waking up at 6 a.m. or 5 a.m., you're not going to go sit on the couch
and turn on Netflix.
You're not getting up for that.
And you're naturally, I think, again, you're like, okay, cool.
You're going to feel that the world is still asleep.
Like you were mentioning, there are no nothing pinging.
There are no notifications of any kind. and you can focus on these things. So again, nothing
magical, but it is maybe a little bit of a quote unquote, hidden benefit of getting up early.
Oh, 100%. And that's why I think a lot of these people out there, you know, kind of preach that
there is something magical about it. No, there's not. I mean, you can do these things anytime, but let's be honest, it's just not practical for most. So it's not really an option.
Whereas just getting up a little bit earlier, getting it done, getting it out of the way.
And let's be honest, if you do those things, if you do get up early, I don't know about you,
but you just kind of feel good. You're just like, yeah, hey, I did this. It just builds a
little bit of that early momentum of the day. Like, yeah, damn. Like, hey, I'm the man.
I got up early.
I did all this stuff.
There's probably something to that, I think, as well.
Yeah.
I mean, it sounds a little bit cheesy, but I totally agree.
No, it's true.
I mean, there's even, I talked about this in my version of this book, and there's some
research to show that your mood in the morning kind of sets the tone for the rest of the
day.
Again, that's something we don't need science to tell us.
We've all experienced that, but there is, I think, definitely some psychological and
emotional benefits too, like you're saying, just starting the day out, doing some positive things
that you know are, maybe they're not going to pay dividends immediately, like reading. Yeah,
you didn't get more money in your bank account or something because you read a book, but you know
why you're reading. And in your case, you're doing it partially because you just enjoy it. But it also, it sounds like you read a lot of stuff that's related to just how to live better. And so it gives you ideas. And this is a segue into something I also want to get your thoughts on. me, of course, on the importance of hard work. Something I have talked with some of the guys
who work and some of the women who work with me, some of my team, and just something I've
thought about is it is interesting though that, and this is particularly true in creative or it's
particularly obvious in creative pursuits, but I think it applies to really any type of work that
while hard work is certainly necessary to get anywhere, the efforts can be subtracted to or added to greatly by the ideas that preceded the work.
And this is something I'm not articulating it all that well.
I probably should think a bit more of how I would say that.
how I would say that, but the point of where if you start off with good ideas, it become an extraordinary force multiplier for the work that you put into it because there's a quantitative
element to work, right? We can only exert so much effort. We only have so much time.
And even if we look at the qualitative aspect, we can only be so good and so efficient with the
output that we have. So even if we're good at getting into that flow
state and really doing good deep work and we're not distracted and we're being about as productive
as we can be, that's it. There is a cap there and maybe we can improve it a little bit. I don't
know. I feel like it's probably similar to athletic ability, like good luck trying to
increase your vert by 50%. Yeah,
it's not going to happen. But if you can come up with better ideas and especially when it comes
to like breakthroughs, maybe a better metaphor could be if you have a glass and you play a loud
sound and at a certain frequency, it just vibrates the glass. But if you get the frequency just right,
you shatter the glass. And that's one of the big benefits that I think is, I just, I mean, I talk about this because I do book reviews on my
podcast, that it's so hard to really create a mental model of the world that is accurate and
works and that is useful for making predictions and that you can rely on without reading a lot.
That's my opinion. What's your thought? In that people who don't
read consistently and read the right types of books and really think about things and how the
world works and how people work are at such a disadvantage in life that so much so that I would
argue that most of them have very little chance of achieving the type of life they want to live.
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Yeah, I think there's a lot to that. So when you were saying that just about being able to predict outcomes and predict things that are going to happen, it made me think of the book Super
about being able to predict outcomes and predict things that are going to happen.
It made me think of the book, Super Forecasters, and the types of people that are the best at it, you know, have this attitude where they're always trying to learn more.
They're not huge egomaniacs.
They want to learn.
They want that quick feedback.
This is kind of the way they have to be.
And then you even look at it further and like, they don't make these really crazy claims.
They're just like, Hey, I'm pretty confident that, you know, this event is going to happen. And I would place the odds of it being 65, 70%. And like, that's kind of the way people who really understand what's going on and are going to have the best predictions and models. That's usually how they think. They're not these talking head experts that are out there saying, oh, this is going to happen 100% guaranteed.
Like, I mean, come on, you just usually don't do that.
So that was one of these things that really stuck out to me when I was reading a book like that.
Sort of learning about these people that are the best at making predictions.
Like, that's just kind of how they operate.
They're not the talking heads that people seem to love, you know, the Stephen A. Smith or something like that on ESPN that kind of just gets paid to have
crazy opinions. The most successful people typically don't do that stuff.
Well, it's better marketing to make very specific predictions and to make a lot of them and just to
get lucky now and then, and then draw all the attention to the ones that you were right on.
And of course, just never mention all of the other ones. Totally, totally. 100%. That can make you look so prescient. And then all of a sudden,
now you're a guru. Yeah. Right. And then people, it is really funny how that works because you get
lucky here and there, right? If you make a hundred predictions, you're going to get right on some.
And then if you are really good at marketing, whatever, or you have a lot of money behind you
with big TV or whatever it is, like they're going to tout you
as the next go-to expert. And then everyone's going to start looking to you. And did you really
learn anything when you're making these predictions or were you just spouting off stuff? And reminds
me of Annie Duke when she talks about it, like playing poker. Well, like, are you learning
anything? Because you might just be really lucky, but you make really bad decisions. Well, we don't
want to follow those people because they're probably going to be wrong most of the time. But the people that
are able to kind of see through that and be a little bit more calm and logical and rational,
well, those are the people that we probably really want to listen to. And boy, it seems like
we don't do a ton of that these days with just the way social media and TV and all that stuff is,
because yeah, it's probably just geared to,
we want to promote the people that just say kind of the craziest stuff.
Yeah. Right. Clicks, eyeballs. And then the reason why those things drive clicks and eyeballs, obviously one of the reasons is the emotionality of it. It's a totally different experience to
hear somebody say, well, based on my analysis, probabilistically speaking, that's different than some concrete statement about, you know, take what's going on politically or culturally.
We see so many examples of that.
And so I understand there's a bit of human nature in that.
And where, though, I think it becomes very self-destructive is when people don't incorporate probabilistic thinking. Talk about
poker. A long time ago, I was pretty into poker and read, I don't know, every book I could find
at the time and was getting lessons and playing a lot. And I really liked the game. It really is
a fun game if you're into math and if you're into psychology. and the luck component, I thought made it even more fun
because I didn't care for the gambling, but it was fun to, I mean, do a lot of what we're talking
about and then see how it played out, you know, over time, over the course of hundreds of thousands
of hands and so forth. But when, and again, this is just something that I think is such an important
skill to cultivate, which is to learn how to think in this way that you're talking, where instead of being the pundit to yourself and latching on to, for example, having a goal, envisioning some outcome, and then not thinking with anything other than, has somebody who's remotely similar to me accomplished this before?
Oh, they have?
That's it.
I'm sold.
I'm going to go for it. As opposed to looking at the circumstances and to start thinking in terms of probabilities and talk about Annie Duke, start looking at the decisions that you make in terms of
bets. And it sounds like this is kind of an attitude that you have as well.
Yeah, right. I mean, you can look at, let's say one example of someone doing something and you're Elon
Musk, let's say like, oh yes, well, Elon Musk did it.
Like I can do it too.
Okay.
Well, maybe you're like, okay, well, someone has done it.
So it can be done.
Or even less, maybe less, less dramatic.
And it just takes smoking, right?
Somebody who smokes a lot and they're like, oh, well, I know somebody they've been smoking
their whole life.
They're fine. And you're like, but the data says this
is really not a good decision. Like this is a bad bet. You know, if you were at a casino and you
just run this bet like a thousand times, you're out of money. Do you really, you want to take that
risk or? Yeah, totally. I don't know for sure. It works great in health outcomes too. So real
funny example too. I don't really play poker. It's just never really, I've never really gotten into it.
But as a family, I have two small kids.
And even like when some of my other family comes to visit,
we play a card game called Sevens.
Have you ever heard of it?
No.
I won't really go into detail, but whatever.
I mean, someone could probably look it up
if they are interested.
But it is funny how I think when it comes to playing a game
and I have to kind of predict
what other cards people might have
and sort of like, well, should I play? Let's say there's a couple of different plays. Well, like, well, do I want
to play here? Do I want to play here? Almost every single time in my head, I'm thinking, okay,
well, I'm just going to take the statistical probability and say, you know what? There's
only one other card that can be played on this one. Whereas this other one has two,
I'm going to choose the one that only has one every single time. And I might not always be
right because the person sitting next to me, they might be down to one card too too and that might be the one that they have but guess what like there's no way
that i can really guess that i mean maybe i want to like look them in the eye and kind of like grill
them and all that stuff like you know people do that in poker like i'm not going to do that you
know i'm playing with my family and all that so like it's not that big of a deal but i'm just
going to play that statistical probability every single time and you know most of the time again
kind of comes down to you know what's any do talk. It's kind of like that 60-40. And if you can get to that point,
the 60-40, you're going to win more often than not. And that's usually how the successful people
are. Totally. Yeah. I totally agree. And it requires maybe a bit more of a rigorous approach.
And it also requires maybe a stifling of emotion.
How has your experience been in just getting to where you've gotten in your business and
in your life and in your family?
Because this is also just something that I've thought about a fair amount and reflected
on is that, I mean, I guess how I think of it is I don't put very much weight on my feelings.
And I could talk a lot about that,
but this is not my interview. I'm curious as to your thoughts, like feelings versus
maybe the more rational where you are like sticking to an analysis and then actually
following through on it. And even when it costs you something, and you had mentioned that earlier
in the interview, and I think that that's an important point because it's one thing to say things and say you have
these values and say, this is what you would do if you were faced with the certain situation,
but it's another thing to actually be in it and have something at stake and to follow through
with what, when you were not emotionally involved, you clearly saw as the right thing.
You know what I mean? Yeah, totally. Well, so a couple of things that come to mind on that. So one, I think the idea
of practicing mindfulness and whatever, meditation. What does that mean for you? I'm curious.
Yeah. So it is something that I have really, pun intended here, I have been a lot more mindful of
it and I can give actually a really good example of something that I was not very good at for the longest time. And that was watching sports. I would get really angry about
watching sports and to be even more specific, Michigan football. And I don't know if you're
a big football fan, but Michigan football is not that good. And they're sort of traditionally,
they'll always not, they'll kind of not always win the big game and whatever. And it would really
get to me. Like I was just too emotional. too emotional. My wife would maybe say I had a little bit of a temper problem. This was never something that
happened at work. But-
My dad is from Buffalo. And he has loved football his entire life. So I've seen it firsthand.
Although now finally, what has it been? He's like, they won their first playoff game in 25
years or something.
20. Yeah, yeah. So I almost took this as a challenge because my wife is like,
Hey, you know, like sometimes you kind of just get a little too angry about things. And it was
mostly just like silly, stupid stuff. Right. And so I just reading enough, being more mindful,
just, it gives you that split second. Right. And so you mentioned the condiment thinking fast and
slow book. So like reading something like that, and then, you know, reading other books kind of reinforce that idea of there's this constant
internal battle of, you know, the quick impulsive brain that just wants to react emotionally. And
you're not going to make good choices most of the time if you're only going on that.
If you can give yourself that split second to not react super emotionally,
you can be a little bit more calm, cool, collected, use that more of the system to
thinking, chances are you're going to be better off. And how do we kind of get there? For me,
that's what mindfulness is. So whether it's meditation, whether it's reflecting, journaling,
whatever it is, I don't personally care what it is. You can kind of do whatever it is that you
want, but it just gives you that additional perspective. So you aren't a slave to your
emotions and you're not overreacting to every single thing. So you can see things more clearly, more logically, and ultimately make better decisions. Totally agreed. What about
discipline? What's your take on developing discipline? I mean, I don't think that anybody
listening needs to be sold on why being more disciplined is better than less. It's basically
like, well, being stronger is better than being weaker, right? So what are some of, and I know this is, of course, these are things that you talk about
in the book, but what are some of the habits and what are some of the ways that you have
been able to develop enough discipline to get as far as you have?
You know, liking the idea of the process and the things that you're doing, I think that's
a big part of it. But I think there's also a couple other parts. And one is being able to
think more long-term, having a longer-term time horizon.
So if you are really only concerned about immediate gratification and maybe it's, do
you take the business deal that doesn't kind of fit your overall look and brand, but you
make a few quick dollars in the interim?
Well, is that a good decision to make in the long-term?
Probably not, right?
Because you lose trust, you lose that, hey, these guys know what they're talking about. Well, I'm not really sure
anymore. So if you have the longer-term time horizon, again, this actually is a lot of credit
to my colleague, Dr. Mike Isertel, who I think you've interviewed before, but he's always been-
Several times.
Yeah. He's been great with that. He's just like, well, we just need to do a good job and think
long-term. And I'm just like, yeah, damn it. Yes, I know you're correct, but something like that. He's like, well, we just need to do a good job and think long-term. And I'm just like, oh yeah, damn it. Yes, I know you're correct, but something like that.
And so he's been really good at always reinforcing that. And of course, I've generally been a fairly
disciplined person, but again, just reading a lot, seeing these same common themes pop up for a lot
of different folks across all the different fields. It's just like, you have to think longer
term. I mean, that's really what it is. Again, it's almost because you already mentioned deep
work. Usually anything that's going to be more painful in the short term, seemingly,
it's going to pay off more in the long run, right? So what's easier, sitting there on social media
and answering emails and like, you know, feeling like you're busy and doing 50 things at once?
Because like, I mean, I'm certainly guilty of doing that a good bit where it's like,
it is entirely different thing to dive into that deep work realm and really be in that space and
be able to do really productive work. Like our engineers and software developers have to do that
stuff. It's very hard. You have to be very disciplined. And it seems that all the things
that pay off just quickly
in the short term, usually aren't as good in the long term. It's like this kind of polar
exchange. You just have to keep that in mind. And something that can make the long-term thinking
hard. And this is something that I don't know if I'd have any great personal stories to share
on it, but it's something that I've definitely observed and I've tried to become
more aware of. And it comes back, I think, to something we were talking about, which is, okay,
so if you're going to think long-term and you are going to forego instant gratification, then
you want there to be some sort of long-term satisfaction that is greater than what you can
get right now, right? And if you don't have the confidence in yourself
to actually be able to get there,
then in some ways I can understand why some people,
they would avoid the long-term thinking
because maybe they've tried,
and this comes back to this point of,
the model in your mind that you use
to create your plans, for example.
You have a goal, how are you gonna get there?
And you're thinking with how the world works,
how people work, and if you do this, then this is likely to happen. And then
this is likely to happen. And you get to a point where you feel convinced that you've put together
a good sequence of actions to make this goal a reality. Nothing's guaranteed. If it were,
life would be boring. So we can thank the universe for that. However, unless you're at a point where
you have the confidence again, where you could plan, let's say a year out in However, unless you're at a point where you have the confidence again,
where you could plan, let's say a year out in advance and you'd have, there's a lot that goes
into it and you're really, really going for a big goal. It might be helpful for, and this is
again, such advice that I've shared with people to take it on a gradient, look for the easier wins
first and build up some confidence in, again, your ability to observe the world
and see it in a different way and then work backward to how you can get there.
Does that resonate with you at all?
It absolutely does.
So it reminds me of tiny habits and talk about a little bit earlier, just in, you know, like,
why do you get up early?
Well, you just kind of create these little momentum wins early in the day and you get that confidence, you feel good about yourself. So if you were able to create these
little things that give you some confidence, well, again, success usually takes a little bit of
success and it kind of snowballs, you know, builds on itself. So again, do these little things.
It doesn't even matter what it is, right? Because it's all relative to our goals that we're trying
to accomplish. But if you can do these little things that add a little bit of goodwill
and build that confidence, because we do need confidence. Because if you just don't think that
you can do it, you kind of get that learned helplessness where you don't really feel like
anything you do is going to matter. Well, why would you ever take action if you think like that?
If you can do some little things, get that momentum building, I think momentum is
a great word here, get that building, seemingly everything becomes a little bit easier, right?
And then it's just get more confidence.
And then you're probably likely to take more action.
You're more hopeful, more optimistic.
And I think that that's a much more productive approach.
The just looking at how you can get into action and allowing that to now mold your attitudes and
your worldview really, and eventually your values. Then the other way around, then trying to
fix quote unquote, or address the internal stuff, the inner game, exclusive of the outer game,
exclusive of getting into action. I think that's something that's worth emphasizing.
I don't know about you, but my experience has been that it can be more powerful than
you think.
Just thinking about it in your mind, you're like, yeah, sure, whatever.
You do little things and you gain momentum.
But then you actually go through it and you experience it for yourself and then you really
get sold on it.
Yeah, totally.
And again, the long-term thinking, everyone, whatever, social media makes us worse, of
course, but a lot of people just see the finished result. they don't kind of see everything that it takes in between. So they think
that seemingly overnight they have to go from zero to a hundred and it's like, that's just not how it
works. I'm sorry to say that, but again, it's like going from zero to one. And then maybe you can see
those exponential jumps here and there, but like there might be sometimes where you're just stuck
on, let's call it 10, right? For using the one to a hundred analogy here, you might just be stuck
on 10 for a while and then you kind of slowly start building from there. But again, it is just
this wrong impression that people think they have to make these huge leaps. So that's just really
not how it works. So people that are the most successful just do these things consistently,
right? Consistency wins in the long-term. That's the idea of long-term
thinking. Just keep doing the little things over and over and you're going to see success.
What's your take on positive mindset? What does that mean to you?
Yeah. Positive mindset's of course a good thing to have. So if we go back to when my wife was
diagnosed with breast cancer, it's very easy to fall into the negative kind of downward spiral.
Oh, woe is me. Like, why did this happen to me? I can't believe this. I'm
so mad. There's nothing I can do about it. Well, you very easily fall down that downward spiral.
And, you know, funny enough, one of the first things we were told, you know, by a good friend,
she runs a breast cancer nonprofit, actually. And so I was talking to her about it. And she
just says the first two things she said, one, you have to have a positive mindset. So you just got
to stay positive. She said, two, you got to focus on the things that you can control.
Well, lo and behold, that becomes chapters two and three of my book.
Not just because of that, of course, but they tie in together, right?
So talk about being hopeful, being optimistic.
Well, that's because you believe that your actions matter.
So positive mindset, internal locus of control tie together.
You can't really have one without the other.
It's the idea of the exact opposite of learned helplessness. It's actually learned hopefulness.
And there's actually a book type of that. But again, the two tie in together, which is a cool
thing to me. Again, it goes back to the pyramid image and you'd said, well, you know, purpose
of meaning could be lower. And it's like, well, yeah, totally. It could. It's just all these
things tie in together. So to be successful, it's not just any one thing, right?
It's not just any two or three things.
Being successful actually takes all of these things.
It's a recipe for a feast.
Yeah, totally.
That's a good way to think about it.
Or you could think about it, maybe pillars, right?
You need them.
But yeah, no, I totally agree.
And that makes me think of what you had mentioned earlier regarding to take this positive mindset
point.
And so that was obviously not a good day for your wife and glad to hear that she's good
now.
And I'm sure though, that was not a nice experience and it's something she would prefer to be
done with.
But for you as well, of course, it's different because it's her body and her health, but
it's your wife.
So what was that experience like?
Because I'm sure these were ideas you had read about and you're like, yeah, positive mindset,
be hopeful, don't be a victim, growth mindset. But then you experience something like that,
which may be short of your kids going through the experience. It's probably one of the worst things
that you can experience. It's probably worse to see your wife go through it than you yourself. That's how it would be for me. How were you able to actually apply these concepts and not just give
into what I'm sure were some emotional just tornadoes that were going on that were trying
to suck you into them? Yeah. I mean, you're going to have some of those. It's going to happen along
the way, but it's just being able to, you know, kind of recognize them and not letting them build and spiral down.
But Hey, you know, if you are having a bad day and shit is just really tough on this
particular day, well, okay, well, it is what it is and it's going to happen along the way,
but it's just not letting it dwell and kind of ruminate and build those downward spirals.
You just got to recognize it and hopefully get back on track and be okay.
Well, I had a really bad day. What can I do about that now? Okay. Well, are there things that you
can do? If so, great. Let's start doing them. That's the internal focus of control. If not,
well, let's not stress out about it too much. You can't really change that you had this diagnosis.
So now we got to focus on the things that we can actually control because focusing on the externals
really leads nowhere good. Totally. And that I've always attempted, and I think I've done a pretty
good job is when I'm not in a good mood for whatever reason, right? So let's just say if
I'm feeling kind of bitter and hostile or worse, basically, and maybe that's the point of delineation
where I'm just certainly, I'm not going to be a great person,
not going to be the life of the party kind of thing. Then there are two things that I
consciously do not do when I'm in that state. One is make any important decisions,
any meaningful decisions, any certainly irreversible decisions. And also I've
developed maybe good discipline on not acting on those emotions. So there's this point
that you mentioned where, what can I do? I had a bad day. What can I do about it? Or I mean,
just a personal example of that is sometimes mornings will get away from me with phone calls
and Slack messages and things like little fires. I mean, you know, you have to put out and it
actually kind of irks me because that is my deep work time. And now I have other things I have to
do. I have to record a podcast. I do another one. It will annoy me to where I go, okay, what can I do about it?
I can put an extra time tonight or maybe tomorrow night or maybe on the weekend,
or I can just let it go and move on and know that this point of consistency is very important.
And just because I didn't get my 2000 words done in the morning, just like as if I missed my meal plan by
a few hundred calories one time, who cares? Let's not allow the molehill to turn into a mountain
just because it feels good to wallow in, I don't know, in emotions sometimes, right?
But anyways, I just thought I'd share that. I'm curious if you have any sort of similar habits
that help you. Because in my observation, when you're in that state of mind,
that's when, and this will speak for myself, that's when I am much more likely to make a
stupid decision or to do something that will just make things worse. So if I can just avoid that,
if I can not do those things, then at least I'm turning the scales a little bit to my side.
So the consistency is more important than perfection. There's a really funny meme, Dr. Spencer, he's a great memeology. I believe you've had him on
before as well, but it's this analogy that let's say you're driving down the road and you get a
flat tire. Well, no one in their right mind is then going to flatten their other three tires
because one tire happened to become flat. No one's going to do that,
right? It just doesn't make any sense. So it's similar to that. If you have a bad few minutes,
you don't let that impact the rest of your day. You just get back on track. That's the whole thing.
It goes back to the consistency. Again, the most successful people, they're just more consistent over the long run.
Have a bad day?
Okay.
Who cares?
Flip it around.
Just get back on track.
That's it.
There's a quote from, I believe it was peak performance, and I'll just paraphrase, but
that great, he's talking about athletes, are not consistently great.
They're just great at being consistent.
They keep showing up and every now and then they perform at a level that they would consider great, but most of their performances
is not, is good. And it's a lot of good enough, but they're always the one showing up and putting
in the work and giving himself the chance to be great. And it comes and goes. It's like the muse.
Yeah, totally. It reminds me of the Kobe Bryant examples, right? Like he'd be in the gym at three
or four in the morning, but he'd just be working on the basic footwork fundamentals.
You kind of think that, well, why is one of the best players in the world just doing this? Well,
he was one of the best in the world because he was so good at the basics. A lot of people miss
that. Again, they get wrapped up in thinking they need all these fads and gimmicks and quick fixes.
And again, like that's why people think that the morning routine
is so much more important than it really is. It's like, well, it's because people want to be
spoon fed that one thing. It's like, well, it's not really any one thing. Does that help? Yeah,
sure. Does a handful of other things help as well? Sure. You actually need them all. It's
not just any one thing. Did you ever read the book, The One Thing?
Funny enough, no. I know what it is.
I actually recommend it. It's better than you would think just reading its little Amazon page
or like reading the back or whatever. It is one of the few simple self-help books that I recommend.
I think that there are a lot of good ideas in there. And the guy,
there are two people who wrote it, but I believe it was, there's one guy who was a very successful
business person. And then I think the other person I think is a writer, but regardless,
it also is coming from someone who has done some things. It's not just theory. You know what I mean?
Totally. Well, I'm going to guess it's pretty similar and I'm definitely going to add it to
my list now. You'll burn through it is it's okay good yeah yeah again that's
always good too because it's always good to go through a book quick and especially when you're
really into it you're like wow like yeah that was good not everything needs to be belabored you
know what i mean where if this chapter really only has 10 pages of worthwhile content it doesn't need
to be 30 pages that formula irks me when you read a book
and you're like, that was really probably like a 5,000 word article that now turned into an 80,000
word book because there's just a bunch of pointless stories and filler. You could have done without
any of it. You know what I mean? Well, so interestingly enough, that's why the chapter
in my book on work ethic is actually the shortest. It's like, well, how much can you really talk
about work ethic? You can only talk about it so much. And then after that, it's
like, okay, the horse is now dead. It's been beaten, right? Let's just, let's chill out there.
But the book that I always like to recommend people is called The Slight Edge. I'm going to
assume it's probably the same idea. And it's just like, you just do a little bit and you just keep
doing that. And it's the idea of being consistently good is better than occasionally perfect because
no one really cares about the people that are occasionally perfect and then totally
fizzle out and you never hear from them again.
Like people that are good, they just keep doing the things that they need to over time.
And similar to fitness, I think once you start seeing results of this approach, it's unsexy
and there isn't much emotional payoff
initially. But in time, as you start to see it again in fitness, that's counting your calories.
You don't feel like there's no breakthrough here. There's no revolutionary new science of nothing.
And it's just like, yeah, this is kind of what scientists have been saying forever now. And
you have to watch what you eat. It's not very fun or sexy. You can make it easy, but you do it. And then though you take your measurements here
and there and whatever, and a month later, you're like, oh, wait a minute, this works.
And then you realize, so if I just keep doing this, then I certainly can get to where I want
to be. And then the whole experience changes. I think that a lot of the habits in your book
that you talk about, a lot of the stuff you're talking about is similar in that if you just read meaningful progress or making meaningful change, then your
value or maybe your appreciation of all this stuff, it really changed. At least that's been
my experience. 100%. I would have to agree. It really is that simple and people love to
overcomplicate it. But again, you get really good at the basics and do them consistently long enough.
That's your winning ticket right there. Totally agree. And I'll mention the name right in the intro so people, I realized that we haven't
even mentioned the name of the book yet. So I will mention it in the intro so people know
throughout what exactly we're talking about here. Although if anywhere along the way,
somebody has been sold on checking it out, of course, they'll know to search your name.
But why don't we just close with the name of the book and where people can find it. And then of course, tell us about Renaissance Periodization and any other
exciting kind of things you have that you want people to know about. Yeah, totally. It is funny
how we've said that we've been talking about success a lot, but here we are, the book is
actually called Fit for Success. And it really is just lessons on achievement and leading your
best life. So it's really, if you buy these habits, you're going to be more successful in whatever
it is that you're going to do.
And it's not a super long book.
It's about 160 pages or so.
And it wasn't intended to be this super long, science-y drawn out book.
It's like, no, there's going to be some actionable take-home stuff at the end of each message.
And again, if you just do these things, you consistently apply them, you're going to be more successful. Like you said, there's nothing
super sexy about it, but the sooner people realize that they need to stop chasing the fads and the
gimmicks and the one things, and just do the basic things consistently over time. And that's what
this book is going to help people do. That's actually the shortcut. That's it. So yeah, so that's the book. You can
get it on Amazon, just search Fit for Success. And who knows, you'll probably see all your books
along there too. If people are buying mine, they're probably buying yours too. Maybe they've
already come across it. What's great about that though is books are not a zero-sum game. People
who read tend to read widely. I mean, I'll get people asking sometimes how I feel about other people entering my domain, and I encourage it. I wish every single fitness influencer out there would write a book or pay someone to write a book because all that would mean is more people are going to be filtered into the book reading ecosystem. I mean, it's mostly going to be Amazon, but they're now
in orbit with not just the book, not just your book, but also my book and vice versa.
I like that element of writing as well and of book publishing. Again, the bigger the category is,
the better it is for all of us. Yeah, totally. I mean, I've already seen your book pop up
everywhere. So it is funny and it did, it had a similar effect. So, you know, we normally do a lot of eBooks and kind of sell them on our
own website, rpstrength.com, but we do have some stuff on Amazon and I've already noticed it on our
other, so Renaissance Diet 2.0 book that we did like, well now, so what is the first thing that
pops up if you buy my book? Well, it's that book. And so like, we've seen that kind of get that
residual bump from this book so
it is really interesting how it all works and like amazon they usually have good recommendations and
you go down that rabbit hole for a long time but you know we don't actually have to do that here
we've been we've been chatting for a while so i'll just kind of quickly wrap it up for everyone
again just say thanks for having me on and you And if you want to check out myself on Instagram at nick.shaw.rp or check out our main page,
it's at rpstrength.
That's how most people know about us.
Awesome.
And then as far as finding your website, rpstrength.com or is there another one?
Oh, that's it.
Yeah.
Just so we simplified it down.
You can type in renaissanceperiodization.com if you want, but no one wants to do that.
down. You know, you can type in renaissance periodization.com if you want, but no one wants to do that. So I didn't want to say that because I, yeah, I was like, I hope there's something else
because that's going to be tough. For sure. rpstrength.com at rpstrength on Instagram. That's
it. That's why we simplified it down. Awesome. Awesome. Well, thanks again for taking the time
to do this. I appreciate it. Of course, man. Thank you for having me on. Honored to be here.
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