My Therapist Ghosted Me - MTGM EXTRA! "The T Word" - With Una Healy
Episode Date: May 24, 2023Una Healy joins Vogue and Joanne to tell her long-awaited side of the story, following the whole "throuple" thing... If you’d like to get in touch, you can send an email to hello@MTGMpod.comPlease r...eview Global's Privacy Policy: https://global.com/legal/privacy-policy/MTGM is going on tour in Ireland & The UK! Remember to check the venue websites as well as Ticketmaster! For more information about Joanne's gigs, just visit www.joannemcnally.comThis episode contains explicit language and adult themes that may not be suitable for all listeners.Thank you!
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Welcome to My Therapist Ghosted Me, our bonus episode, and it's a special one this week.
It's a very special one.
It's a special one. We've decided we're going to start having guests on.
Occasionally.
Occasionally. Only people that we absolutely love and adore and admire.
Una Healy!
I feel very special.
I've always wanted to be you
because obviously I've tried my hardest
to be in a girl band all my life.
She has.
Yes.
Never made it.
I lived the dream.
I know.
Were you...
So come here.
When did they start the Saturdays
and when did they finish?
Well, it started in...
I auditioned in 2007.
That long ago.
Oh my God, yeah.
And then we did our first single the summer of 2008.
What was the first single?
It was If This Is Love.
The one that sticks in my head is...
Superstar.
Oh, Ego.
Ego.
Yeah, Ego.
I'm surprised you actually got that
from that singing
she can hang the song
if she can't get it
who can
and you can actually sing
which I'm not being bad
but that's not that common
in bands
I mean that's why I thought
I could get into a band
I can't sing
I can't really dance
but you're hot
but Una can sing
and she's hot
yeah
can you dance
you can dance well I didn't do much
dancing before the Saturdays
I'll be honest
I was gigging
and with the guitar
literally in the corner
like doing gigs
with the guitar
so when I had to actually
perform and dance
at the audition
I thought
this is my weakness now
I might not get in
because of this
because some girls
like flat out
like you don't know
how to train
but luckily
the dance moves
were not that hard
in the Saturdays
they were quite simple I don't know what it was trained but luckily the dance moves were not that hard in the Saturdays they were quite simple
I don't know what it was but I remember
you girls on Saturdays being like god
why not me but I don't even like dancing
or singing well in fairness to Vogue that's not true
we have seen some footage that
we haven't shown anyone yet of Vogue
hip hop dancing at 14 practicing
and she was recording herself in her sitting room
we all did street dancing
in school yeah that was it was street dance so I wasn't you know like we all did street dancing in school yeah that was
I thank God
it was street dance
so I wasn't that bad at it
we did line dancing in school
there was the line dance craze
yeah
we did Irish dancing
I never did Irish dancing
I never did Irish dancing
only in Irish college
things like that
which was just a pathetic attempt
yeah
we were just kind of
skipping around the place
waiting to score someone again
are you still friends
with all the girls
oh yeah of course yeah
no we're all really good friends
yeah
no we
they're such lovely girls
we're very lucky
because yeah
we did audition
and we were put together
but they put together
a great combination
I know Molly
I know Molly and Frankie
and I met them at the Baptist
and they are really sound
they're lovely
yeah no they're gorgeous girls
they really are
like I miss them
I miss having the girls around me
do you know
so like when the band
went on a hiatus
that's what we call it
so you're going to get back together
you never know
one day
I hope so
I'll do
I'll be your pre-warm up show
yeah
actually you could do that
this is what I was going to say
years ago
like when everyone was young
it was like what do you want to be
when you grow up
a pop star
you know
but like now
I'm telling you now
little girls now
are watching the 2v
going I want to be them
that's kind of how it's shifted you know it's changed you know it's like I still want to be a pop star, you know? But like now, I'm telling you now, little girls now are watching the 2B going, I want to be them.
That's kind of how it's shifted.
You know, it's changed.
You know, it's like... I still want to be a pop star.
They're definitely not saying
they want to be me.
But I do think there is,
like when Vogue was talking
about getting into a band,
when you're young,
and I'm not saying this
in a...
I'm not teasing you, Vogue.
I'm just saying,
Vogue knew that she was destined
for some sort of celebrity.
I'm sorry, you did. Your name's Vogue, for fuck's sake. some sort of celebrity I'm sorry you did
your name's Vogue
for fuck's sake
and you're hot
like something was going to take off
so when you're kind of thinking
okay what are my credentials
what can I do
and a band was
they were so huge at the time
there was all these talent shows
and Louis Walton
it was
it was a culture
it really was
yeah it was all that
everyone wanted
I met
speaking of Vogue
I met a girl today
in Heathrow Airport and her mom asked me to get a picture with her because she Speaking of Vogue I met a girl today In Heathrow Airport
And her mum asked me
To get a picture with her
Because she was called Vogue
And how old was she?
I met my first Vogue
She was about seven
It's like gosh
You could be
She might be named after you
You don't know
Well she did say that
But I thought she was
Just buttering me up
I love that
But I thought that was amazing
I've never met a Vogue
It's the first Vogue
Was she Irish?
No she was English
Do you know what
There's not many Unas
Like even though Una
Is an Irish name Well we have another Una In our life Do you? what there's not many Unas even though Una is an Irish name
well we have another Una
in our life
do you
our director's called Una
Una McEvitt
I know a couple of Unas
Una Mullally
she's been always
very kind to us
interviewing us and stuff
it's not that many
it's kind of a granny name
I think
I don't know
granny names are back
she has a friend
called Mary
oh yeah
I'd love to go and see a baby Mary.
You know, I just think that
Marjorie's going to be my next kid's name.
I think Maud is a really cool name.
Yeah, they do come round.
Oscar is big at the moment
and Oscar was very an old school
kind of traditional name.
I like Oscar.
It reminds me of Dog's name though.
What's your middle names?
Teresa.
Oh, no, Teresa.
And then for my confirmation,
I picked
Imogen
Imogen
you were
trying to be
cool
and my
so I'm
Una Teresa
Imogen
which is
UTI
it's very
unfortunate
I didn't
think of it
at the time
do you know
it's so funny
right my
mum was
going to
call my
brother
Stefan
but his
middle name
was going
to be
Stefan
like that
yeah
it's Irish
for Stephen Stefan yeah no one's going to be Stefan like that yeah Irish for Stephen
Stefan yeah
no one's going to say that
but anyway go on
Stefan
Thomas
McNally
MC
but back when
Connor was born
because he's
significantly older than me
people were still
signing cheques
and my mum was like
I don't want to call him that
because his initials
would be STI
yeah
STD
STD
I went to school
in France for a while
and the amount of girls
called Fanny
I was like
oh no
are they in Fanny
yeah
but they don't know
what Fanny is
Fanny is Rachel over there
anyway
we don't want to
bring you down to our level
you're better than us
you're better than us
come on Ines
stop bringing yourself
down to us
don't indulge us
now we were talking
about you on the pod
you've always been very well known but there's a we were talking about you on the pod you've always been
very well known
but there's a lot of
chat about you
at the moment
in particular
because of
the throuple chat
the t-word
that I had to google
myself because I never
heard of it in my life
literally
I was like
what is this
why am I being called
this name that I do not
have never heard of
and don't know what it is
first of all you look
amazing in the picture
you look amazing in the picture
so that's the only good thing
that picture
I'm telling you
I'll never wear a black bikini again
because I've seen that picture
so many times
and it's just every
like literally every single day
and I'm down there
in Thurles
living my best life
little hermit down in Thurles
while I'm
truffling in paradise
in this black bikini
well if I looked like that
I'd admit
I was in some sort of
harem or cult
if they were like Joanne McNally's in a cult and I look like that in the photo I was in some sort of harem or cult if they were like
Joanne McNally's in a cult
and I looked like that
in the photo
I wouldn't even dispute it
I'd be like
yes yes I am
but that isn't
like that isn't
actually true
I know it's not true
but no one else
like in fairness to you
you have said
absolutely nothing
nothing
I would be like
the biggest mouthpiece
because I don't
and I think it's nice
for people to know
the actual truth of it
you've always been
quite discreet
because when your husband
was acting the maggot,
you never said it.
You never said a thing.
Never said a word.
And I was like, look at Anna Healy.
She's like a diplomat.
She never said a thing.
I think a lot of people just knew,
so I didn't need to say anything.
You didn't need to say it.
I didn't have to say anything.
But you took the higher out,
something that me and Val
were always trying to find.
You did though. I thought that was amazing as well
because you had kids
involved in that too
yeah
and so
what a shitty thing
to have to go through
but publicly as well
yeah
we had so much
admiration for you
when you were
separating from Ben
yeah
that we were like
look at her go
she's just
there lifting her weights
saying nothing
lifting her weights
saying nothing
raising her kids
doing her squats
being an amazing mum
and you're a single mum
for most of the time
I am yeah
like I'm raising them
because he lives in New York
and he only sees them
like summer Christmas
right
so I am
because they're in school
yeah
so I'm raising them
with my parents basically
that's how it is
and he sees them then
for summer and Christmas
and it's not easy
but it's my life and it is how it is and I love it I love for summer and Christmas. And it's not easy, but it's my life
and it is how it is.
And I love it.
I love being a mother.
I've always wanted to be a mother
and I feel very blessed.
So, yeah.
And they're blessed to have you.
They have your eyes,
those eyes,
the huge eyes.
I love those eyes.
They're so cute.
Your daughter is literally
like your carbon copy.
I'm so jealous.
Speaking of your carbon copy,
I cannot get over
how much you looked like
that doll in that horror film
I know
I admit it myself
I do like
I was kind of thinking
did they see a picture of me
or something
and actually copy
and go we're going to make a doll
a horrible
evil doll
that looks like
I'd be taking them to court
you're their muse
excuse me
you're like the bride to Chucky
but like she's hotter now
yeah
tell us about the photo
what happened
how did it come about
so
how did you start dating him
yeah so
dating him is the right term
because that's
that's how it was
and how
you know
it wasn't a throuple
okay
so
I met him last summer
online
on a dating app
Raya and it was Raya
I'm giving them an advertisement now
I've been talking about Raya
for two years
that's a year and a half
I haven't had any luck
on it really
you know
apart from I did meet David
and we had a lovely
relationship
but I'll go back to the beginning
where I was swiping along
and I saw him
and he was doing his weights there
and I was like
oh he looks a bit alright
and I recognised him
I was like
I remember him from
back in the day
when he was boxing and stuff so I hit the like and then as soon as I hit the like you know when it connects straight away bling I was like oh he looks a bit alright and I recognised him I was like I remember him from back in the day when he was boxing and stuff
so I hit the like
and then as soon as I hit the like
you know when it connects
straight away
bling
I was like
oh he's already liked me as well
so then he
straight away
messaged me going
nice to connect
I was like
oh nice to connect too
and then after a couple of messages
he was like
oh here's my WhatsApp
so then we moved it to WhatsApp
you know
and then I straight out
asked him
I was like
what are you looking for?
Because I did a Google and I was like, well, I'm probably going from the frying pan into the fire with this fella because he did exactly to his wife what my ex-husband did to me.
Oh, okay.
So I was like, didn't like that now.
Yeah.
Did you know who he was?
Yeah, I would have been familiar with him.
I wouldn't have known.
I wasn't a big fan around him.
Yeah.
I just knew who he was.
Yeah.
He's well known in England
and
as then we were chatting
on WhatsApp
and I just said straight out to him
I said what are you looking for
in a relationship
and he goes
well I've just split up
with my girlfriend
that's what he said
and I'm single
but I don't believe
that the
traditional relationship
exists anymore
and I was like
in what way
he was like
sounds like Joanne McNally
yeah do you is he still on Raya I'll have a look okay go on relationship exists anymore. And I was like, in what way? He was like, Sounds like Joanne McNally.
Yeah.
Is he still on, Raya?
I'll have a look.
Okay, go on.
So I was kind of like,
because I'm a monogamous person and that's why,
you know,
hopefully one day
I will settle down again
with a nice monogamous man.
That's what I want, you know.
So I said to him,
oh, good luck with that.
So I said,
we can just be friends anyway.
But then because we got on so well,
I was just like back and forth, like we got on so well, I was just like,
back and forth,
like we'd be chatting every day.
He was sending me pictures
of him and his kids
and we'd be hours on the phone,
yeah,
and then met in person.
He was a real gentleman.
He brought me on a lovely date,
went to see a lovely play
in London
and then any time
I was ever working in London,
I'd meet up with him.
You know,
it was casual,
like it wasn't serious.
But that's all you probably
could handle at the time.
Yeah,
I was happy enough with it.
Was it, as my mother would say,
in a romantic capacity?
It was in a romantic capacity.
You were hooking up with him.
Oh yeah.
I know, she was coming
to the theatre with him.
I genuinely didn't know.
I'm sorry.
So you were hooking up
with him after a while.
We were great pals.
I didn't know.
But anyway, he was very honest
that he,
I wasn't the only woman
he was seeing.
He was like,
I was very aware
that he was seeing other people.
But I feel like that's kind of like the start of relationships but at least I knew he was honest
and that's the thing so it's not like I was being cheated on and I was like well you know it's like
I know he's not husband material so this is just a bit of fun yeah and I was enjoying it yeah and
then as time went on just from conversations and little things and when the phone would ring and
I'd see her name light up the ex-girlfriend was back on the scene
Is that Sian?
Yeah
and I was like
so what's going on there
and he was like
well she's very involved
in my life
she knows a lot of the stuff
what I'm working on
she's kind of involved in that
and yeah she is around
so he said
because you're very special to me
and she's very special to me
I think it's important
that she meet each other
at some point
and I wasn't fond of the idea
I was like
no I'm happy just seeing you when I see you.
She doesn't need to be around.
She gets enough time with you.
Can I just have you on my own when I get to see you?
And then he was like, no, I think it's really important that you do meet her.
And I think he kept saying, she really wants to meet you too.
And then I was thinking, oh, do you know what?
Because they've been pictures in the past.
And as his girlfriend, I was thinking, well, if we're ever pap sometime
and I'm with him
or no,
it's just me and him,
it could come out
that he's cheating
on her with me.
That was my first instinct
to go,
well, maybe I should meet her
and then at least
if we're all pictured together,
we're all a happy family.
Do you know what I mean?
It's like there's nothing
sinister going on.
And they weren't
going out at this time.
Well,
you see,
this thing,
he doesn't label
he never really
says girlfriend
he's never called her
his girlfriend
and he says that as well
it's like any time
I was like
she's your girlfriend
he's like no
I'm like well she's like
Richard the whole time
so why
she then was like
but he's other
you know
he's open
he's open
it's an open
he's kind of like
polyamorous
yeah I would say that
yeah
and so I did
I did meet her
really nice girl
and I didn't get to know her
very well
so it wasn't a throuple
you know
so there was no
not to be crude
it's not
like you weren't
like you were
you were romantic with him
you weren't romantic with her
I wasn't romantic with her
I don't really know her
you know
yeah you see
that's the thing
that they make out
I think they made out
that like you were having
like some three way relationship
but actually
we did spend a few days
together though we went away to Morocco the three of us yeah but you were having like some three way relationship but actually you were only we did spend a few days together though
we went away to Morocco
the three of us
yeah
but you were very
you weren't
I just thought it feels
very modern
it was very modern
I was on the flight over
so like I met you
at the airport
I remember that yeah
and I was saying to you
because Christmas is hard
for me every other year
because the kid's dad
has them on Christmas day
so like you know
it's sad that I'm up there
that when Santa Claus has arrived that I get to see the kids faces open in the presents so I was like you know it's sad that I'm not there that when Santa Claus
has arrived
that I get to see the kids faces
open in the present
so I was like this year
I just had it in my head
I'm getting out of the country
I just do not want to be in Ireland
for Christmas this year
so I said it to David
because he was the guy
I was seeing at the time
I was like
please can we just go
can you come away with me
and he was like
okay
but Sian's coming too
and I was like
okay
I would have rather
just me and him
but I was like she's a nice rather just me and him but I was like
she's a nice girl
she can come too
At this stage now
did you know
that they were
kind of seeing each other as well?
I knew she was
very involved in his life
but like as I said
he's
very open in relationship
anyway
At least he's being honest
Yeah
this is the thing
there's the honesty there
I think that's what
I found attractive too
but I did get on
really well with him
and I remember like
sitting on the plane
on the way over
to Morocco
literally
I got the window seat
and he was in the middle
and the hand
the hand was on
one leg on mine
and the hand
was on her leg
and I kind of looked
and I was like
and I said to myself
I said to him
I goes
what am I doing
and he goes
you're having a midlife crisis
and he said don't worry so am I doing? And he goes, you're having a midlife crisis.
And he said, don't worry, so am I.
I was like, well, she's not because she's 10 years younger.
So anyway.
Oh, no.
But I can totally understand the, especially, you're in something new.
You've come out of something else.
You're in something new.
He's very charismatic.
He's offering us a kind of a modern way of looking at relationships.
Oh, he's very modern with it.
Yeah, and you're kind of just curious.
You're like, okay,
well, let's just see how this goes.
But especially if you don't want
something really full on.
Yeah, but
those few days were fun, nice,
you know, a bit different.
But when I got back
and I went over for four days
to Costa Rica to see him,
it was like,
I felt like it actually, the song came on on the way in actually today and I went over for four days to Costa Rica to see him it was like I felt like it actually
the song came on
on the way in
actually today
and I was like
it's a sign
Brandy and Monica
do you know
the boy is mine
oh yeah
like as soon as I got there
I just felt
it was like
I could hear the song
da da da da da da da da
yeah
you're like
chills are done
I was like
I'm Brandy
I'm Brandy
you're definitely Brandy
you're Brandy
so I was like
it just was like it was just thank God there was quite a few're Brandy so I was like it just was like
it was just
thank God there was
quite a few other people there
so it was like loads of us
so she was kind of jealous
of you being there
I just know
I don't know if she was
it was just
there's no dynamic there
at all
clearly she's not my girlfriend
we're both
he's both our boyfriend
and it was just
I was like
you know what I'm out
this isn't for me
you can have him
you can have him
he can have whoever he wants
because I know
one will never be enough for him
and I just want to go
go back on my own
and I went back
little hermit
back in Thurles
as I said
for months
and literally in the paper
nearly every single day
used as clickbait
as being in this throuple
that was existing
in print
but in principle
and in reality
I'm actually at home in Thurles looking after and in reality I'm actually
at home
in Thurles
looking after my kids
when I'm
I tell you
I got trolled to death
did you?
I got absolutely
trolled to death
I would have thought that
I know but
I think it's
in this day and age
people are just
throwing shade at you
because they just
they see you as someone
who's just in this
modern relationship
he's allowed to have it
as a modern relationship
where you're seen as somebody who's like
not supposed to be doing
something like that. Yeah but it wasn't what they labelled me you know it just wasn't
because if you google that word
because I actually can't even bring myself
to say it it's a romantic relationship
between three people and there was
troubles coming forward like going
on the likes of this morning and they were like
we had a trouble but they were really proud of it and they should be that's
what they're in and they're happy in
but I was labelled the wrong
that wasn't what it was
did you know it as well Una
I swear to God
I think people
are jealous
look
it wasn't
it wasn't what it was presented at
Grant
even if it was
what it was presented at
you were three
incredibly attractive people
photographed in a pool
and people are
their fantasies
their imaginations
run wild
that's what it was as well
and they're like hold on a second if I have to stay if I'm stuck in a monog people are their fantasies their imaginations run wild that's what it was as well and they're like
hold on a second
if I have to stay
if I'm stuck in a monogamous
relationship
with this lad
I've been with
since I was 22
why the fuck
can Una Healy
go off and have a good time
she should be ashamed
because I don't have
the courage
to live that type
of lifestyle
so I think people
project their shame
I really do
and I think that's a lot
of what it was
there's that and there's judgment as well.
There's judgment.
Or just society and everything else.
But they're projecting.
It's judgment on themselves.
Because they're like, hold on, if I have to abide by these rules of monogamy and all that shit, why doesn't Una Healey?
But I also think that people just are very opinionated on things that they just don't know anything about.
And I think, I look at you and I'm like, fair play.
You're down in Thurlis and you want to go and have fun.
You're back and forth to London
and you're seeing a guy that is seeing other people,
but you don't mind because you're not into a full-time relationship.
So you went home.
Yeah, I came home in January.
So the last I've seen of David,
and we've only been in touch here and there,
I said, he calls it unsubscribing from the team.
So I had to tell him. Because you have a spreadsheet. I got back and I was like, I've unsubscribing from the team. So I had to tell him.
Does he have a spreadsheet?
I got back and I was like, I've unsubscribed.
And he was like, OK, fair enough.
He goes, you do you.
Do what makes you happy.
And he always says that.
He says, I'm just living my truth.
I'm my authentic self, he said.
And this is who he is.
And so I unsubscribed, came back to Ireland in January.
But as I said
like yeah
I've been months
in the press
being in this
this trouble
so I got back
and
and then it came to Valentine's
now I'd already
unsubscribed
but for some reason
he wanted to share the love
or show
show his appreciation
for the queens
so he had
he had
one picture
of her
oh she got in first
so maybe she was Brandy
and then it was like
happy
happy Valentine's
to
and he did one for her
an appreciation post
and then one for me
and I was like
oh two separate posts
yeah but like
you know kind of swipe
on the story
you know
happy Valentine's
oh no he did put
the two of us
in the picture as well
then on the actual grid
even though you
don't subscribe
I don't really unsubscribe yeah maybe he was trying to get you to resubscribe maybe maybe yeah to put the two of us in the picture as well then on the actual grid even though you'd unsubscribed I'd already unsubscribed
yeah
maybe he was trying to get you
to resubscribe
maybe
maybe yeah
sounds like he was
but I was like
oh thanks
and he was like
and he kind of got
you're not going to like
repost it
and I was like
and I kind of
unwittingly did
I went
and then all my friends
were messing with me
what are you doing
why are you reposting
you're not with him anymore
why are you doing that
I was like I don't, I don't know.
I don't know.
And then I did another one.
Like, you know when you do a post
but delete it afterward?
It's actually like the picture.
It's like, I thought it was cute.
Might delete later.
Well, there was a lot of that going on, you know?
Yeah, yeah.
So I put one up of just me and him
and it was like really philosophical.
I was like, it was only him, you know?
But I deleted it again.
Oh, but they'd already
seen it
oh of course
the
the press had already
seen it
screen grabbed it
oh because you were
trying to say
it was only him
you were only with him
yeah I was trying
to explain that
but I didn't do
a great job
I think that's
I think that kind of
says it all
it was only him
yeah so I said that
and then
oh sure just
that was back in February
and look where we are now
they still haven't
anything like literally
if I made a fart
they'd link it back to him
yeah
I think the worst for me
was some people
were there
with the judgment
where they're kind of like going
the poor kids the poor kids the poor kids, the poor kids, the poor kids.
Like that's just so nasty because.
And I'm just standing up for myself here because I look after and love my children so well.
Yeah.
So I'm so proud to be their mother and they're proud that I'm their mother.
So I just felt that that was that was really horrible.
Yeah.
I think that that it was the media that kind of pushed them to say those things. Because it's how they headline things.
I don't think it's fair the way they did that.
If I'm being honest, I actually have not, I've really hated the first half of this year.
And I haven't been able to enjoy it.
I've been really upset about it.
But luckily, back in my hometown, nobody looked at me differently.
Nobody gave me weird remarks or any of that.
There was these sources coming forward then
and saying things that weren't true.
And that's where I had to draw the line.
I was like, if anything more is said here,
I'm going to have to take some sort of legal action
because I can't have my name trashed about the place.
Well, then he did.
But then he did that post.
So he did a post, Joanne,
where he like basically put up a picture
and said, we're looking for a new team.
Yeah, he said there's an opening in the team
because I let it slip. I was at a library event for team member of our team there's an opening in the team because I let it slip
I was at a library event
for International Women's Day
and there was a journalist
in the audience
that I wasn't aware of
and then I was just asked
about being a single parent
and I said
yeah I'm a single woman
single parent
that's all I said
but then one of the papers
I think it was the Mirror
did this big like
headline
exclusive
and they did a two page spread
on that little one thing
that I said
but then he was like wow well you've made it public to the world that you're single and ready to mingle page spread on that little one thing that I said but then he was like
well you've made it public
to the world
that you're single
and ready to mingle
I'm putting it out there
that I'm doing the same
so he did
and then it kind of
brought the whole thing
back around again
so I think
like you're living
your best life
you haven't done anything wrong
anyone can be
whoever they want to be
or be in the kind of relationship
they want to be in
but like your thing is
you were with one person
you weren't in a relationship
with three people.
No, I wasn't.
Two other people.
And I really enjoyed
my relationship with him
and he is actually
a really nice guy.
He was very kind to me,
very honest,
but it ran its course.
And I've been single ever since.
I haven't been on a date.
I went back on the app
for a while and had,
oh Jesus.
We were talking about
the fish in the sea.
The swamp.
It is tough when you get
to my age
in the dating world. It's not like when you're younger and it's like, there's loads of fish in the sea because that it is tough when you get to my age in the dating world
it's not like when you're younger
and it's like
there's loads of fish in the sea
because that's an expression isn't it
but there actually isn't
because a lot of the good ones
are caught
and taken
now I've always said though
I would never have swiped on Spenny
like not in any bad way
he just wouldn't have been my type
had I not met him in real life
I don't think I would have met him online
and been like
I want to be with you
so I think
that's the tough thing about online dating I've only ever have met him online and been like I want to be with you so I think that's a tough thing
about online dating
I've only ever fallen
for people I've been
kind of forced
to spend time with
and that's the truth
that's the God's honest truth
that I was kind of
forced to spend time with
that's so true actually
yeah
yeah well I think
that the dating apps
are like
if you go into a restaurant
and it's always a bad sign
when the menu
there's like
nearly every single
option on there that you can imagine they've got it all that's not a bad sign when the menu there's like nearly every single option on
there that you can imagine they've got they've got it all that's not a good sign there's too much
and then they show when they show the pictures as well it's even worse because you know the food's
not going to come out like that so you see the picture and then you need them it's actually
that's what i think it is and it's terrible i have to i'm not going back on the app i'm staying
off the app someone will and i i am like i know one of my actually god rest her soul lindsey my
my friend who passed away last year,
she always said to me, Una, stop looking.
You're looking and looking and you're finding the wrong ones
and you're attracting, you know, because you're looking,
all the wrong ones are like literally like a beacon.
I think being set up by somebody is nice.
Let's think about that.
I think that's actually a really good way to do it.
I want to meet someone naturally.
Yeah, I'm going to have a little think about that.
The triple thing.
It sounds to me like you were just involved
in a casual relationship
with the guy you met on radio
yeah
who was also in a
that's it
this sound to me
sounds very much like
this was his narrative to push
that he wanted people thinking
that this is what it was
yeah
and he's kind of
I think he's very happy about it
of course he is
he looks like
whereas I was in bits about it
it's only different for men and women.
He looks like a hero
and then people pile on the two women.
And he didn't get it.
Like he was like,
oh, he was always really trying to coach me
and trying to not get upset.
And he was like,
why do you worry so much
about what people think?
And I said, it's not really that.
It's more what they're actually saying to me.
I've never had to hit the block button so much.
I was literally like,
block, block, block, block.
That's horrible.
Yeah.
And I had to like,
you know, in Instagram,
I didn't even know you could do this,
but you can actually make a list of words that you don't want.
So say people comment and they're calling you certain names.
So the reason then there wasn't as many nasty comments written was because I have my list of words blocked.
I didn't think you could, but that's how much I've learned.
But I don't know, I'm glad to know what it's like out there and what it feels like to be.
And you know what, they wouldn't come up to your face
and say it
they just wouldn't
because not one person
not one person said a word to me
well I'm so glad
that you've come on now
and you've had
like it was like
again because you were so good
with your marriage breakup
and everything like that
you just kept silent about it
and then you kind of did it with this
but it's nice to just get across
your own side of the story
and that's kind of it
because to clear that up
as well that there was
the report that they
concocted was that
I went on Rhea
and that they were
a couple on there
but that is fine
if that's what they
want to do
but that was not how
the relationship started
for me and I don't
want to be part of
a three way relationship
you were hoodwinked
into a throuple
I was
you were hoodwinked
in a way
I was
you were hoodwinked
well in a Spencer
and I are auditioning for our team and I think you were hoodwinked in a way I was you were hoodwinked well in a Spencer and I are auditioning
for our team
and I think you look great
I tried to subscribe
and our phone said
no you've unsubscribed
I was like
I'd like to subscribe
it is though
it's just
it honestly just looked
to me
like you were living
your best
modern day life
there was
that's all I saw
I would still use that picture
if I was you
I'd just cut the other two out
because you look amazing in it
I'll keep the picture yeah
I definitely will cut the other two out
yeah
so are they gone now
no contact
I never
as I said
I don't really know
Sian
I don't
I don't
I honestly don't know her
we never used to like
WhatsApp or ring each other
like I don't
I don't know her
so
but David I'd hear from him
the odd time
like he'd check in
like just like how how are you?
Like we never,
it wasn't that I'm bitter or anything.
It's all fine.
It suited him down to the ground though,
didn't it?
This is what I mean.
What would he have done
if you were seeing someone else?
Oh no.
That was a no.
Well,
I didn't want to anyway
because I'm,
as I said,
like I am a monogamous person.
I just,
I don't feel comfortable
seeing more than one person.
I just don't get it.
I'd be, I think, We'd be blocking the right person I just don't get it I'd be
I think
we'd be blocking the ride
left right and centre
I'm very
yeah I'm very monogamous
I really am
you always try to think
that you're not
but you are
I am monogamous
I 100% am
I'm just a bit
I can be a bit
as I call it
hyper independent
but it's not that I'm off
trying to ride other people
I'm just
what's next?
well
I've got a new single coming out on June 1st it's not that I'm off trying to ride other people. I'm just... What's next? Well, I've got a new single
coming out on June 1st.
Oh, yay!
It's called Walk Away.
What does that rhyme with?
It's called...
Ding!
Swipe right.
No, hold on.
Which is the right?
Which is the right?
Walk away.
David Haye.
Yes!
Yes!
Look at us.
We're delighted with ourselves.
Like, boss guys.
They're like,
whoo! You see? Everything's content yes look at us we're delighted with ourselves like boss guys they're like woo
you see
everything's content
at the end of the day
you can always get something
out of it for yourself
no the song's called
Walk Away
it's very like
kind of country pop
and
yeah
and I can't wait
for it to come out
I'm really excited
can't wait
to hear it first
I can't wait
okay good
thank you
how are you okay
I am now
I'm delighted I feel relieved the fact that I've okay good thank you how are you okay I am now I'm delighted
I feel relieved
the fact that I've got to say
my bit
and like that
I'm not reading
learning about this whole thing
and about myself
through the media
because I think that's how people
have heard about it
and I'm actually getting to say
the truth
from the horse's mouth
do you know what I mean
it's not like
rumours
it's the truth
everything I've said
I have not lied
leave Una alone we'll do like leave Britney I have not lied. Yeah. Leave Una alone.
We'll do like,
leave Britney alone.
We'll do,
leave Una alone.
Leave Una alone.
Two of us under a bed,
she's bawling and crying.
Yeah.
Release her from her conservatorship
and Tipperary.
Free Una.
She's unsubscribing.
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Thank you.
Thank you.
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