No Stupid Questions - 58. What’s So Gratifying About Gossip?
Episode Date: June 27, 2021Also: why do people hate small talk? ...
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I mean, I didn't swear or reveal secrets.
Oh, you've sworn. You've sworn.
I'm Angela Duckworth.
I'm Stephen Dubner.
And you're listening to No Stupid Questions.
Today on the show, what's so gratifying about celebrity gossip?
I hope that I don't get sucked into this illusion that most people are walking around in five-inch heels
and spent three hours in hair and makeup. Also, what's the purpose of small talk?
We're going to stick to small talk. And you know what? It's okay. We don't need to be friends.
Angela, you have mentioned in the past that you love reading Us Weekly magazine,
and I believe cover to cover is the phrase you used.
Correct. I read Us Weekly weekly.
I would like to know why you love it so much and whether you consider it a,
quote, guilty pleasure, or is it something more or different than that?
I love Us Weekly for so many reasons, Stephen. And I'm not
sure I feel guilty about it as much as I used to, maybe when I was on tenure track to become
a professor who didn't get fired. The reason, obviously, why I would feel guilty is that
there's something base about looking at women and men parading around in sequins and whatever. Like John
Stuart Mill, the philosopher, said that...
He's not commonly featured in Us Weekly, is he?
No. I mean, he's dead.
So the Mill quote you're about to give does not come from Us Weekly.
It does not, although Us Weekly is always filled with quotable quotes.
John Stuart Mill, the great philosopher, said there are higher and lower pleasures.
And I believe that Mill made the claim that given the choice between the higher and lower pleasures, that we would always spontaneously choose the higher pleasure, which is correct only to people like John Stuart Mill and incorrect for really everyone, because most of us just want to eat pizza and binge watch Netflix and read Us Weekly.
Can you tell us a few things that you've learned and or enjoyed from Us Weekly?
Because I have to admit, I have close to total ignorance of what's in it.
The premise is that in the last week, these celebrities have lived another seven days,
and there was the opportunity to photograph them and interview them about their
latest movie, etc. And the issue always has this very familiar structure. You open it up and there's
always this spread of one kind of dress, like they're all pink or they're all by Louis Vuitton.
And then you get to see all these different celebrities wearing it. And that's kind of fun.
And then there is a piece called Stars. They're just like us. And that could be a picture of John Travolta putting gas
in his Winnebago. Or it could be Julia Roberts at the grocery store with her own cart. And you're
like, she's just like me. I also go to the supermarket. Is the motivation to be inspired
by the lives of these celebrities?
Is it to feel like you're part of their world momentarily?
Is there some schadenfreude involved?
I think there's probably a variety of gratifications.
One is, by the way, just looking at really hot people.
And why is that fun?
Because I would assume that most people, when they get a high dose of really good-looking
people, would feel worse
about themselves, not better. There is some research showing that when we are in a context
where the people are somehow our peers, that if everybody's looking great, we can feel worse.
Upward social comparison to your peers can make you feel terrible. But when I look at Angelina
Jolie, I'm not thinking, oh, gosh,
I don't look as good as Angelina Jolie. She's in a different universe. Even though there's the stars,
they're just like us. It's obvious to everyone that they do not live in Hollywood and they are
not celebrities. And so I am not picking up Us Weekly and feeling bad about myself for not looking
like people did at the Oscars. You're saying two things that are in a way opposite.
You're saying stars, they're just like us.
They do things that we do all the time.
And stars, they're nothing like us.
They are a different category of people.
Do you see the depth and the complexity of Us Weekly now, Stephen?
I'm starting to appreciate it.
By the way, we wouldn't need the stars, they're just like us feature if it were obvious that stars were just like us.
So the fact that they have a picture of John Travolta getting gas for his car or whatever it is, is because they are not like us.
You appreciate these glimpses that they are sometimes living a quotidian life like the rest of us.
You mentioned that earlier when you were untenured, let's say you might have not promoted your reading of Us Weekly as aggressively as you now might. But I am curious whether you now
see it as, like I said, a guilty pleasure or is it just a pleasure, which we all pursue,
except for John Stuart Mill, apparently, and that you feel no guilt about it? And I certainly don't
mean to make you feel guilty about it. That's not my intention. Here's the part that I do feel
a little bit guilty about. It's like, who took this picture of John Travolta picking up a takeout container
from Kadova? The paparazzi must be following him all the time. What a terrible thing to be hounded
by scores of photographers. You know, Princess Diana being chased by the paparazzi leading to
her untimely death. I mean, this is like eating meat. It tastes
good, but you're kind of like, yeah, a lot of cruelty involved in producing this. And so I feel
a little guilty about that. You know, I learned in reading a piece in The New Yorker that the
phrase guilty pleasure, when it first appeared in The New York Times, which was in 1860, it was used
to describe a brothel. That is a guilty pleasure, I guess.
This is a very G-rated guilty pleasure relative to that.
So let's talk about the upsides and downsides of gossip.
I have read that there's psychological research arguing that gossip is really an elemental part of humanity.
Can you tell us about that?
The strongest arguments, I think, come from people who are evolutionary psychologists. And the functional purpose of gossip, these scientists
would argue, is that it's the communication of very important information. For example,
if you are gossiping about people that are at your office, you know, who's really enemies with whom
and what they said, that's inside information that could be helpful. You know who to avoid
and you know who to ally yourself with because we are social species. Gossip is a way that we can
get and give valuable information at relatively low cost. What sort of information is Us Weekly delivering to you? Because it's not information about people
you know or that you'll interact with. I think this question is good in that if I'm not getting
information about anybody in my direct social network, I'm getting information about, you know,
Bruce Springsteen. How is that helpful to me? You might run into him sometime because he's another Jersey guy.
I would love to run into Bruce Springsteen. I don't think I will. So the question is,
what function could gossip have? It could be that we have this instinct to gossip that is
being played out in the form of reading Us Weekly. But actually, that's not good for us. It's just
that we have this evolutionarily conserved tendency, you know, much like craving for fat, salt and sugar had its
evolutionary origins. It's kind of getting us into a lot of trouble right now. So you don't
have to actually have a function which is contemporary for reading these gossip rags.
But you're making an argument against your consumption of gossip.
Well, OK, but here's an argument for it. And this is plausible. This was made by Roy Baumeister and Kathleen Voss and their collaborators. And
they argued that gossip is a form of cultural learning where these anecdotes say you read a
story about J-Lo reuniting with Ben Affleck and you get this little snippet of what people are
saying about it and what they've
said, that in this story of these two people that you will probably not meet, you are getting
social rules in narrative form. And so the valuable information you're getting is like,
how does society work? What's frowned upon? What's approved? How should we behave? How will other
people think? And you're getting it with these superstar actors and actresses in their actual lives. So it's social information about norms
in this story form where, as a bonus, you get to see pictures of them and they tend to be
attractive and live exciting lives. But one could argue a lot of gossip is not at all valuable
information and, in fact, can be hurtful to people.
Consider it from the perspective of, let's say, Angelina Jolie.
You get to consume it and it's relatively cost free for you.
You might feel a little bit guilty, but to be a person who is gossiped about all the time whenever they're gassing up their Winnebago or shopping or getting in a fight with their mate. That seems like close to pure downside to me.
That's the reason I feel some guilt.
It is kind of terrible.
Maybe it's not kind of terrible.
Maybe it's just terrible.
And I'm ignoring all that while I read it.
And a lot of gossip is unverified, right?
Can I just tell you something?
In the pantheon of rags on celebrities, Us Weekly is legit.
You know, there are ones I wouldn't be caught dead with.
So I just wanted to defend my tabloid as being the better of the tabloids.
Let me just throw an old cautionary tale out there, though.
I've read a story about when polio was still raging in the U.S. and there
were these vaccine trials, including one from Jonas Salk and Walter Winchell, who you may know
was considered kind of the founding father of celebrity gossip. Walter Winchell had learned
something about the Salk trial and he broadcasted, attention, everyone, in a few moments, I will report
on a new polio vaccine.
It may be a killer, meaning not killing polio, but killing people.
And apparently, Winchell had heard this from a scientist who'd been fired by the president
of the Foundation for Infantile Paralysis.
So it turned out to have been a disgruntled and bad source.
paralysis. So it turned out to have been a disgruntled and bad source. That said,
the National Foundation for Infantile Paralysis estimated that this report by Walter Winchell led to about 150,000 children or 10% of the overall study population dropping out of the
trial. So that would be an example of where essentially gossip could have really a
pretty gigantic negative social effect. Wait, Stephen, you said you were not trying to make
me feel bad about reading us, is that correct? Am I failing? I feel like that story is something
that would give me pause. And then I'm trying to graph that onto like Jennifer Aniston's new haircut
and what's going on with Tom Cruise really on set.
And then I'm trying to figure out
whether what you're saying about polio and vaccines
is something that I have to worry about.
Now I feel as bad as I'm making you feel.
No, I'm just pausing.
I will say this.
When people become celebrities,
it is usually not by accident. They don't wake up one day and accidentally find themselves in Hollywood trying to make it in movies and television and so get all the perks of fame. And the cost of it is
that I will be photographed at the checkout in my supermarket and occasionally untruths will be said
about my last boyfriend. I feel like if they are signing that contract, then it is within my human
rights to, I don't know if I really believe that. I can't even finish a sentence.
All right. Since you're on the fence, let me just offer one more thought. I think about this
when I think about how people consume news, often a little bit out of context. In other words,
you might have a feed of headlines that don't have the articles.
Or a quote from something which is excerpted, but nobody actually clicks on the link to the
full story. Exactly. I think one downside of consuming a lot of news is that people tend to think
that the anomalous is normal. In other words, when you're always reading about some heightened
event, some tragedy or scandal or political fight, whatever, since let's be honest, that's what the news
usually covers.
It's new.
That's what makes it news.
Then it's easy to start to believe that is typical behavior.
And that gives people a warped outlook on how the world really operates.
And I'm curious whether you think that celebrity gossip is another version of that in a way
that you're consuming this information that is inherently anomalous.
Because the stars are not just like us.
And yet, I wonder if perhaps subconsciously we treat it as if it is a little bit more
normal than it is, and if that might have any downsides or upsides.
I hope that I don't get sucked into this illusion that most people are walking around in five-inch
heels and wearing two pairs of Spanx and spent three hours in hair and makeup or
that it's normal to start your day with a kale smoothie like all these
celebrities seemingly do. But that does sound like something you would do. No! The
kale smoothie or the heels? Kale smoothie. You've had a kale smoothie. I have had a
kale smoothie, it is true. Guilty as charged. Have you or have you not had a kale smoothie in the last 90 days?
Oh, not in the last 90 days.
It's not that good.
If you want to go that route, you go with spinach, Stephen, because it disappears and
it turns it this like sludgy gray color, but doesn't taste any different.
I think if I had, for example, self-image problems. I think reading Us Weekly could be dangerous because to some extent it creates a standard
of beauty or a norm of behavior that's not healthy.
Not having those issues, mostly what it is on a Friday night when I curl up in the fetal
position with my Us Weekly, eagerly anticipating all those features I've come to love. Fashion police,
by the way, is at the end and 25 things you didn't know about me. All those things which I
greedily devour. I think mostly I'm looking at pictures of hot people. Don't have to read a lot
because it's heavy on the pictures, not very heavy on the text. And I have some weird para
social relationship with these people because I've been reading the same magazines for
so long that I almost feel like I know the life history of Ben Affleck as a friend would. And
aside from that guilty twinge from like, ooh, what was the cost of getting this? I feel mostly like
it's okay. Last question, Angela Duckworth. Let's say that next week
in Us Weekly, there is
Angela Duckworth.
There is Angela Duckworth
in a 25 things you didn't know
about me feature.
What is number one?
The number one thing you don't know
about Angela Duckworth is
that Angela Duckworth would love to be
in the back of Us Weekly
saying 25 things you didn't know about Angela Duckworth would love to be in the back of Us Weekly saying 25 things you didn't know about
Angela Duckworth. Still to come on No Stupid Questions, Stephen and Angela discuss the value
of small talk. I would like to, for most of my neighbors, wave to them cheerfully without breaking stride.
Steven, I have an email here from a listener named Yvonne Couch.
Does that ring a bell?
I believe she has had a question of hers answered before on this show.
Is that true?
Correct. She may be the first person to have two questions addressed on No Stupid Questions.
So we should send her a
celebratory, a PEZ dispenser, at least a mug. So Yvonne asks, what is the point of small talk?
Don't get me wrong. I love a good natter about the latest No Stupid Questions episode or whatever
random podcast I've recently found. But the hi, how are you? I'm fine. Thanks. How are you?
That really baffles me. Terry Pratchett in one of his books said it was just noises one human makes to another to say I'm alive and so are you. I would get it more if people actually cared how you were, but I'm not sure most of them do. Thoughts on the matter appreciated as always.
Interesting. So we should distinguish this is small talk and not gossip necessarily, correct?
Although I guess gossip could be small talk. I think actually Yvonne is not talking about the kind of gossip that we were talking about because small talk is almost this formulaic like, hey, how are you? I'm fine. How are you? How's the weather? Kind of humid, that kind of thing.
kind of humid, that kind of thing. Although I could imagine that gossip could constitute small talk on occasion. Like, can you believe what so-and-so said, some public figure said? You
could have that conversation even with someone you didn't know well, theoretically. Perhaps,
but I think this is more about, like, I was just reading this interview with Alice Waters,
and the very first question the interviewer asked her is, how are you? And she responded, I've never
been able to answer that question the way you're supposed to, because what I'm supposed to say is,
oh, great, beautiful day. And that's always been an existential question for me. So she
actually takes it seriously. So I think Yvonne is asking about these automatic pleasantries.
If you ask another person what they think about some politician's last
statement, that's not small talk. I think that's what scientists would call substantive talk.
Small talk versus substantive conversation is a topic that scientists are really interested in,
in large part because it looks like small talk is much inferior to substantive conversation
when it comes to happiness.
So you're saying the people who engage in small talk often are less happy on average
than the people who engage in substantial conversation?
Well, I think the most convincing evidence about the benefits of substantive conversation,
like you're really having a conversation and you're thinking about what you're saying and it's not formulaic and it's not just skimming the surface of things.
The most convincing evidence for this comes not from small talkers versus substantive talkers,
but more that even within a person's day, they might have more substantive conversations,
they might have more superficial conversations, And within-person research on this
is even more convincing. How much do you think, however, that might be driven by the fact that
small talk is usually engaged in with people that one doesn't know very well, whereas more
substantive conversation is with people that you do have a deeper relationship with? So wouldn't
it be possible that the different levels of happiness are more connected to your different level of connection with the person you're talking to?
Yeah, I think that's actually a really good point. You want to make sure that it's really
the conversation itself that's moving your feelings around. And there have been some
experimental studies where you can get people to be self-disclosing, vulnerable, talking about deep things that are emotional and close to your values and so forth.
And that tends to make relationships better and get people to feel more like they like the other person, that there's intimacy there.
And those experimental research findings are so important because of what you just said.
Because otherwise you can think of a million reasons why small talk would be just correlated with less well-being.
Unless the person you're speaking with finds out later that you were lying
about those revealing things that you said.
Yeah, I don't know that anybody's actually studied that, Stephen.
Let's do it.
Let's lie to people and see what happens.
Okay, but I do wonder if Yvonne is being a little bit hard on small talk. So let me
try to, I don't know if defend it, but at least talk it out a little bit. First of all, it's better than nothing. It's awkward
to stand there in silence with other people. Isn't it? We're expected to engage in some
kind of conversation. Look, I have a husband who is constantly making small talk with neighbors.
My civic husband, right? From your tone of voice, it sounds like you're not 100% on board with this small talk. I would like to, for most of my neighbors,
wave to them cheerfully without breaking stride.
But Jason wants to stop and ask about
that new rhododendron that seems to be flourishing.
I would call that medium talk, rhododendron.
That's like a step above.
But like this kind of conversation
happens a lot in coffee hour for church. I will confess that it's been a long time since I've
actually been to church with Jason. But when I did go, I dreaded coffee hour. You're in this room
with a bunch of people that you see once a week, by the way, during the service, you're not
interacting, you're just all facing the same direction. So you don't really know each other. And I found myself dreading this small talk
pleasantry like, oh, Gloria, I just love that blue dress and what a pretty hat you have. And
it was always a charade almost of intimacy. I would just go to the bathroom and spend as much
time washing my hands as possible and then come back when I needed to. Maybe it was more about you did not want to engage further in
that community and therefore it was capped at small talk for you. Whereas theoretically, if
you'd been more enthusiastic about that community per se, no judgment here, that maybe it would have
turned into, because, you know, I get the criticism of small talk, no doubt. But I also think that it is a starting point. If the small talk goes well
with a particular person or group of people, then it'll get deeper. I'm thinking of this
friendship formation I'm in the middle of right now. There's this guy that I know, and I've
chatted with him five or ten times. And it started as pure small talk.
Who is this person?
He's actually a golf buddy who I met playing golf. And our level of conversation was
extraordinarily superficial for the first several times. But then after about five or 10 of those,
I found us talking about deeper things. It was a very natural progression. It felt kind of
like you're starting in the shallow end of the pool and now we're doing like the linguistic
version of these full twisting triple pikes off the high dive. We're talking about real stuff.
And I don't think it would have started without small talk. So I'm not so sure that we should
dismiss it out of hand. What you're saying is that this is the entry point to a human relationship.
And if you're like, hey, this is kind of dissatisfying, you're like, of course,
it's dissatisfying. It's the entry point. It can lead to a more meaningful relationship
and more meaningful conversation. But it could also be that this guy that I've come to like,
that there were nine other guys that I didn't like and the small talk stays small talk. And
that's fine. You don't want to be friends with everybody, right? Okay, fair point. And by the way, I think there is a social lubricant
function of small talk. Maybe that's part of the glue that holds us together. You know,
we do want a best friend. We do, for many of us, want a romantic partner for life.
But we must also want these weaker social ties just to have a neighborhood where you walk around and you
do wave pleasantly to people and know a little bit about them. Which is what you want. You don't want
to talk about the rhododendron, but you're happy to have the wave. I also think that small talk
is useful as a way to set a boundary. Like, yes, you and I, we are communicating, but we don't have the kind of relationship where we're going to
engage in big talk or deep talk. We're going to stick to small talk. And you know what? That's
okay because we don't need to be friends. And it reminds me of other linguistic strategies,
the formal and familiar versions of words in French. Sometimes you're vous and sometimes
you're tu. Yeah.
I just don't want to toss out the small talk with the big talk. You know, I just learned of this
interesting research about work from home or work from anywhere. We've been in this pandemic for
15, 16 months and starting to come out of it. And every firm and employee in the world is
basically wondering, if I was able to do remote work, how much
of my work will be remote in the future?
How much should be in person?
What does it mean for real estate, for companies, for personal relationships, and so on?
And this one researcher found really useful what was called a virtual water cooler.
Different people within a firm, especially the kind of people who typically
wouldn't share a meeting, let's say, when they were invited into a virtual water cooler and
engaged there, it led to really significant information exchange and in some cases,
deeper relationships, in some cases, hiring or promotion that wouldn't have happened otherwise.
And that to me is like the epitome of the potential for small talk. And if it can be done even virtually in a Zoom, I think it's
not to be discounted so easily. The proverbial water cooler as a metaphor for what we're missing
when we're not all in person. I've never actually seen anybody standing around.
I think bottled water killed the water cooler.
But we actually used to have a water cooler, literally, you know, with one of those 60-gallon clear plastic jugs that you'd have to tilt over.
And I've gotten water out of the water cooler, but I've never seen anybody stand around the water cooler and socialize.
Usually after you get the water, you go back to your desk. For all we know, it may be even easier with software than it is in person. We've talked
about a similar thing in the past. I mentioned that one reason photographers still love black
and white is because it kind of sharpens the intensity of the focus, not the camera focus,
but the topical focus. The color makes it almost too
rich, too dense, too lifelike. And instead, black and white can sharpen what you're actually
looking at. It may be that virtually that kind of small talk is better because you're not dealing
with all the in-person cues that happens when two people or five people talk with each other.
in-person cues that happens when two people or five people talk with each other. And you can actually focus instead on the content of what's being said. And maybe that content actually builds
stronger ties. Maybe that's why Yvonne is so frustrated is because when you're in-person
talking small talk with someone, you kind of know that you're killing time and you're not really
affording the opportunity to make it slightly bigger talk. But look, Yvonne maybe should just move somewhere. Small talk is not
universal. It is not popular everywhere. Are there cultures that don't have small talk?
Well, first of all, I think America is a world champion in small talk.
Are we really?
There is a Brandeis psychologist named Andrew Malinsky who's written
about how people from other countries are often surprised at how important small talk is in the
U.S. and how naturally and comfortably people seem to do it. I'm sure you know the cross-cultural
psychologist Michelle Gelfand. She's talked about the difference in national cultures being either
generally loose or tight, and the U.S. is pretty loose. And so that would make sense that we are willing and even able to engage in
some kind of conversation, even with people we don't know at all. And even if the conversation
is not going anywhere, but not everywhere is this the case. So in Finland, for example,
small talk is seen, as I understand it, as a
total waste of time. There is apparently a national saying which says, silence is gold,
talking is silver. Now I'm trying to picture these Finns standing around in silence. Are they
really just not saying anything to each other unless they're going to drop a deep insight? I mean, I'm trying to imagine what social life looks like in the absence of these pleasantries.
It feels awkward.
Okay, let me ask you this then.
What would your best advice be for Yvonne or anyone who chafes at the emptiness of small talk?
What would your best advice be for turning small talk
into something more substantive?
So Yvonne, you might enjoy research
that says substantive, self-disclosing conversations.
By self-disclosing, I mean,
you are revealing something personal about yourself.
Like, let me tell you about my last colonoscopy,
that kind of thing?
That would be self-disclosing, Stephen. I know my friend Mark Brackett at Yale Like, let me tell you about my last colonoscopy, that kind of thing? the reflexive, I'm fine. How are you? So there are paths to this more substantive and self-disclosing
kind of conversation. One question I might have for Yvonne, though, is whether she considers
herself an introvert or an extrovert, because it turns out that when you ask people to be a little
more socially engaged with other people, basically act like an extrovert would.
Introverts can actually get a short-term boost in mood. If they act like extroverts,
they can feel better in the short term, but they also find it kind of exhausting.
I'm thinking about research that was just published by Jessie Sun, who's a postdoc I know,
and her colleagues. And I find that really interesting because I remember reading Quiet by Susan Cain, and she had claimed that introverts are exhausted by some of the requirements
of socializing. So I'm all for substantive conversation, but I do think getting over that
speed bump, it can be a little bit more exhausting for some of us than for others.
Did we have small talk when we first met?
No, because I think our first conversation,
you were like interviewing me
about what I really thought about something.
Yeah, and I remember afterwards,
you sounded a little bit pissed off, actually.
You got me to say things that I was like,
I probably shouldn't say those in an on-air interview.
I mean, I didn't swear or reveal secrets.
Oh, you've sworn, you've sworn.
Well, but not in that conversation.
I think I just said things that were more speculative.
I was like, well, if you want to know what I really think,
I think I was just astonished that I had done that.
I was like, damn, you must be a good interviewer.
But I think that you like to disclose.
Yeah, I'm a little bit of a self-discloser, true.
But in a very appropriate measure,
as a means to either express or to signal to the other person,
which is a really nice thing to do as a conversationalist, that I am willing to
disclose. And therefore, if you choose to also disclose, I welcome that. That's what a
conversation is. You're good at that. Well, thank you. And if that's true,
why have I had so many dissatisfying... Why do you hate coffee hour so much?
What's up with me and coffee hour?
Can I float a theory here?
Yeah, go.
Because you mentioned that you were going to church for a while, but you're not any longer.
And it sounds, this is just me totally speculating, but maybe the hatred of small talk at the coffee
hour was just connected to the fact that that was a place you did not want to be.
And therefore, you didn't want to disclose and have substantive conversation.
Like, the Angela who discloses and is substantive is in a different kind of circumstance and with a different set of people than the people who are going to the coffee hour after the church service.
That would be my theory.
I have to say that I really like these people who go to Overbrook Presbyterian Church. They're community-oriented,
and they're smart, and they're friendly. Not going to church really wasn't because I was
just avoiding coffee hours. More like, I just didn't want to go to church anymore,
but that's a whole other conversation. Maybe it was that in this pleasantry exchange,
there was no progression. But I think what this conversation is making me
realize is that isn't inevitable. For example, there's this one woman, Natalie, whom I loved
to hunt down at coffee hour. I would scan the room looking for Natalie and I would make a beeline to
Natalie if I found her. And that is because we had progressed beyond small talk to friendship.
I knew her two kids and she knew mine and she was a medical doctor. So whatever medical thing had happened in the last week to anyone, I was like, Natalie, I have to ask you a question.
So I think maybe what this is telling me is that I need to figure out how to get beyond the first opening moves of small talk and not get trapped.
And that's possible.
I mean, look, no one's saying you have to.
You could model yourself on Calvin Coolidge.
The president?
Yeah.
Silent Cal, he was called.
I didn't know that.
He was a man of few words and he particularly hated small talk.
By the way, was he a good president?
I don't know that.
I just know that he didn particularly hated small talk. By the way, was he a good president? I don't know that. I just know that he didn't like small talk.
He was once described
as an eloquent listener who could
be silent in five languages.
And his wife
told this story once where
he'd gone to a party or some gathering
and the hostess of the party
said to Calvin Coolidge,
I made a bet today that I could get
more than two words out of you.
And Coolidge said, you lose.
Okay. Well, look, if you came up to me at coffee hour and you said anything like that,
I think I would like coffee hour a whole lot more.
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This episode was produced by me, Rebecca Lee Douglas, and now here's a fact check of today's
conversations.
Angela says, in the pantheon of rags on celebrities, Us Weekly is legit.
According to a 2010 report by the now-defunct gossip website Gawker, 35% of Us Weekly is legit. According to a 2010 report by the now-defunct gossip website Gawker,
35% of Us Weekly's cover stories and 59% of the unconfirmed reports turned out to be true
during the 20-month period that Gawker reviewed. So, legit might be a misleading description,
but the investigation did find that Us was actually the most accurate magazine out of all the tabloids they looked into,
OK! magazine had a 7% cover accuracy and just 14% overall accuracy. And only 9% of Star Magazine's cover stories turned out to be true, with a 12% accuracy overall. Also, Angela recalls that 19th
century philosopher John Stuart Mill believed that humans would always choose higher, more intellectual pleasures over lower, base pleasures.
This is an exaggeration.
In his 1861 work Utilitarianism, Mill does claim that higher pleasures are more intrinsically valuable, but he also says that they are, quote,
preferences of a competent judge.
Whether or not he would deem us weekly readers competent judges is hard to say.
Finally, Stephen and Angela wonder whether Calvin Coolidge was a, quote, good president.
Since 1982, the Siena College Research Institute has conducted a survey of historians and political scientists
during the second year of the first term of a new president.
Participants rank presidents across 20 different categories,
ranging from integrity to ability to compromise.
These historians don't seem to think Coolidge was great,
but they don't view him as the worst of the worst either.
In the most recent survey, he comes in at 31 out of 44 presidents.
George Washington ranks at the top of the list,
and Andrew Johnson comes in dead last. That's it for the Fact Check.
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I'm just picturing Darcy from Pride and Prejudice.
And I'm like, dude, if Calvin Coolidge has Us Weekly looks and he says things like, you lose, he could be a really hot lead in a romantic comedy.