On Display with Melissa Gorga - Gorga, On My Mind (w/ Joe Gorga)

Episode Date: February 9, 2022

You asked for it and we delivered! Melissa invites Joe Gorga back on the show, and this is a special one as they answer questions from you; the fans. What are the joys (and challenges) of raising teenagers? What was Melissa's first dinner like with her future in-laws? How do you balance different needs and desires in a relationship? Melissa and Joe answer all, and much more. Joe also turns the tables on Melissa and does his own Grilled with Gorga and you won't believe Melissa's answers. We're talking to you, Christian Slater. This week's sponsors: Betterhelp Online Therapy: betterhelp.com/gorga (10% off first month) Blueland: blueland.com/melissa (20% off first order) Bonafide: hellobonafide.com, promo code: MELISSA (20% off at checkout) European Wax Center: waxcenter.com (first wax is free!)

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Like listen, I'm doing this for them, not you. Well, I have to go. You should be so happy. They're all like more Joe, more Joe, like all of my DMs, which I will say all of my listeners. Thank you so much for always coming in and writing on the DMs and answering all my questions. Joe, they gave us a lot of stuff they want us to talk about by the way. The best man really. No, that like a lot of stuff, a lot of different things all over the place. They were always so I was asking you guys also like what subjects you want us to talk about and when I tell you all over the place, you guys are all over the place. So it's kind of it's kind of fun. Some of them are fun and some of them are like, you guys want answers to things that you, you know, you never really got like a full answer to.

So we're gonna, we're gonna break down some of your questions today, okay, and we're gonna start just talking about a lot of that. But aren't you happy? Everybody wanted more of you. I think they like our relationship. By the way, a lot of people say, they like our relationship banter like back and forth. Back and forth, yeah.

I taught you everything honey, you know, and it is what it. Back and forth, yeah. I taught you everything honey, you know, and it is what it is. You taught me nothing. I taught you everything. No, no, when it comes to this, now when it comes, you're in my house now. You see this hut right here, you see this studio?

This is my studio, you are welcome here whenever you'd like. You got your personality from me. I told you to be funny now. By the way, I saw an old clip on of the house. I was the fan's were sending it to me the other day and that you said all three of our children are so good looking because of you. And then if you had another daughter, you want to name her Josephina. Yeah, that's it. And it all looked like me, babe, you know, no, I mean, my father, my father used to say, you know,

in a tiny six, say, when you make a love to your wife, let her look into your eyes, you know, he's the same with that voice. He looked to your eyes. Make sure when you make a love to you, and you have a baby, make her look into your eyes because because he said, you're a good eyes. He liked my eyes. And then when they were all born, he's like, what happened? You're a wife for their looking to your eyes. They all have beautiful eyes, though. I know, but they don't. But he wanted them to be like green. The green, yeah. He was so fun. We got. I know, I know, we miss him. We just like green. The green, yeah. He was so fun. We got we get I know I know we miss him. We just drove by we went to our daughters cheerleading

and cop and we passed by a hospital that he was always in and we were like, I feel like we're going there, right? My listeners said that. Yeah, we would go into that hospital so, oh, for so many years, every time I felt like we just pulled into that drive, we're gonna go visit your dad, right? Yeah. And that's what I thought of when we drove by there. So I was like, I feel into that driveway to go visit your dad, right? Yeah. And that's what I thought of when we drove by there.

So I was like, I feel like we're gonna go see your dad right now. Yeah. So listen, if you guys have parents out there and you're busy schedules and you're always running around, listen, spend time with them because when they're gone, you're gonna miss them. There's times I still try to dial their phone number literally the other day. I was like, let me call my mother. My mom's been gone now for a while. I swear, yeah. Let me just thought of that. I just thought, let me call my mother. My mom's been gone now for that. I swear, yeah.

I just thought of that. I just thought, let me call my mother. I haven't talked for so long. That's crazy. It's nuts, you know. Yeah, I mean, I know. I reach out to them and, and, and, you know, take the time, spend the time with them.

I know sometimes it's like, you know, It's no time in the day for parents. Sometimes I say, I know, that's what's terrible. But we forget, we get so busy that even my mother, she calls me, I love that my mother's like that though she doesn't really get insulted. Instead, she just calls you 50 times a day. What are you doing? What are you doing? What are you doing? Did you read this? It's that one sells birthday. It's Andy Cohen's birthday. It's it's Lisa Rennas birthday. What did you did you do the other day? What did you do the other day? Did you did you text Andy Cohen? He got a Hollywood star. By

the way, big congratulations to Andy Cohen. He got a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame. That is huge. Yeah, that's big. That's that big. That's a big, that's huge to do. That's awesome. That's huge. So huge congratulations to Andy Cohen. I mean, that's a big, that's huge to do. That's, yeah, you know, I don't know. And I loved the way he took, he took his little son near and he took. Oh my goodness. So cute. The cutest. It's an accomplishment.

Yeah. It was big accomplishment. That was pretty amazing. And he, um, he had John Mayer there with, I love it. These two, Andy Cohen and John May mayor have like a crazy like friendship, which I feel like they're so I don't know why I don't picture them as besties, but they really are. It's it's crazy. Yeah. Um, and he's good friends with like, you know, he's got a lot of like high profile friends. He's friends with like Sarah Jessica Parker and like, no, he's got a lot of

people, but I just thought that that friendship to me was always striking me as like so like unexpected, but they're like really good friends. Anyway, congrats to Andy Cohen. We got to give it up to the boss man over there and charge of all the housewife ladies and really the creator of housewives. So hats off to him. What else show what else is going on in your life? Well, we could start off by somebody D&D me when we put that post out and what they said was, I wanna know about Antonio. Oh. They said, you know, you were so strict on her and you didn't want her to go out in the world.

And now tell us about that. It's like you're giving her a little bit more freedom. Well, yeah, you have no choice because she's 16. And tonight we were driving here to the office to do this podcast. And I'm driving in Tonya calls. Melissa's the phone comes on and it's on speaker phone. And she's like, Dad, I'm like, hello. I'm driving. She goes, where's mom?

I'm like, she's right here. Talk. She's like, no, no, no, mom. She made me take it off speaker. So she can just ask me in in I'm like, she's right here. Talk. She's like, no, no, no, no, no, no. I said, she made me take it off speaker. So she can just ask me in my ear. And he doesn't hear her ass. Yeah. So I said, no, my, I said, what? Just talk.

She's like, no, I want to talk to mom. I'm like, OK, I took off the unplug the phone, talk to the talk, start talking to her daughter. And she's like, OK, but is the parent going to be there? And she's asking me to hear my daughter. I'm cringing. I'm getting mad because I know's like she's she just met this new boy now and she's Yes, she's been good and she's like going out with this kid and now she wants to go to his house Well, they want to hang out. It's Sunday. She said the parents are gonna be there. It's you know

She's she wanted to go hang out Yeah, and I and she said okay, she you know, she asked her couple questions. She. Yeah, and she said, okay, she asked her questions. She said, okay, and I hang up, shout out to Michael, why? I go, why are you, why are you in charge of our daughter when it should be me? No, because if you were in charge of her, she's gonna feel like she's locked up forever and those girls trust me, they rebel later.

So I'm doing like the happy medium. And I would say, like I think people would be shocked to know that we are out of all of the parents like we're usually the stricter ones. I would say we're a little bit strict with our daughter. We you know and our sons. I would say we're just known to be a little bit more of like a stricter parent. But I feel like it's time to let her start. You know she. I know her very well. I know what kind of kid she is. Thank God, Antonia is like a great kid. And she, but you have to let her make her own decisions a little bit too. I do because I trust her so much. And I let her go out to parties now where they're, you know, they're drinking.

And it's what these kids do now. It's okay. Well, let's be honest now at this age 17, 16, they're starting to drink a little bit. They do. And out of house parties, little stuff, you know, and it's okay. I'm fine with it because I trust her, right? But the simple fact that we're allowing her to go to some boys house and who knows? Like the parents don't care. So I'm thinking like, why are we allowing her to go and give her a free range where why don't he come to our house? It shouldn't be like, because I think boys, I know, I do agree that maybe the boy he should come and meet us first, before we're just allowing her to just go hang out, even though I know he's a, you know, he's someone in town and he's a nice kid and all of that. But like, I still think that,

you know, that's a conversation. And we could say to her, all right, you can't go there again until he comes to our house. Yeah, it's just like, if they go there, they're going into basement, right? Let's just say there's no one in a basement. The parents don't care because he's a boy. Not everybody lives the way you used to live. Yeah, but bullshit, honey. Okay. This is how they all live. They're boys. They have testosterone coming at at our pores, man. No, they're not. Everybody's like that.

Some people just want to watch a movie. They just, yeah, you know, you know, no, I, they do. They want to watch a movie. They want to hang out. They want to eat sushi. Listen, my father used to always say these are like, they're, they're, they're dying. They're like, I'm fire. They got full load on.

You and your dad have like these theories though, that were always a little cookie. And got to listen to the boys at football and wrestling. I hear the way they all talk. Yes. Well, listen, there's no denying that teenage boys or teenage boys. I mean, that you can't take that out of like the world. That's what it is. So to answer your question from the DMs, listen, I've, I'm trusting her. I trust her. I obviously know who my daughter is. So I let her, I give her, I let her out a little

bit more. I do. And I'm more lenient because I do trust her. Now, if I know she was this wild woman, wild kind of kid, I would be a little bit more strict there. But I trust her so much. And I'm really proud of her. But for what we're doing today, we need help on because I don't know. I just don't think it's the right choice. I mean, listen, we've never had a teenage girl before and it's like we're learning as we go. We're not experts either,

but we're trying to do a good job over here. And it's like, we don't know. I don't want to be too tough on her where she can't make any decisions. And so if she's asking me, it's six o'clock at night, hey, can I go hang out at a friend's house? And because he's a boy, I don't want to necessarily say no to her. Because what happens when she is out of the house

and she's allowed to be around boys, maybe she'll get cookie because she'll be like, ooh, I'm never allowed to do this. So you want her to be allowed to do it as like, oh, you want to go for a couple hours? Oh, it's a Sunday afternoon as parents are home. Sure. Have, have, go ahead.

I agree. But listen, I used to date a girl that she, she, she had very strict parents. And I would pick her up to go out to eat. Oh my god. Here we go. No. And she, she didn't even go to eat.

She didn't even want to go eat. She just wanted to get in that car and whatever. You know, every little chance she had because she had no chance to do anything else. So why do you tell me about, why is there so okay for you to always talk about like things you've done with girls? Like you'll tell me like, oh my God, I used to do this, I used to do that.

You don't know, I did this one, I did that one. If I even say I had an X or tell you, I went on vacation with my ex, you think it's like the worst thing you ever heard disgusting. What do you mean that's this horrible? Don't even talk about that. No, we all have X's. Oh, but yours couldn't wait to jump in the car on topping you base of the straddle you know, I was a man. I went out and did my thing. You know, but you you had what do you think? I want somebody else. I want to, I was supposed to marry a woman

to have babies with. I don't want, I don't want, you know, that's what you married, but, by the way, but guess what? I also have a pass and I had boyfriend. You want to hear about that. You have to deal with it. So I'm talking about that.

Just like I have to hear about your, your, the girl who straddle you and the car all the time and didn't even want to go out to dinner. You also have to listen to me. I don't want to listen. You think I want to hear about that stuff. I don't want to hear from you either though. There's just just so we're like even on that. Just so you got me with that. No man wants to hear about their woman. None of that. But so on the other hand, that's why I'm like, okay. Do you want to hear a story about me and my ex for having one? No, not really. Are you sure? No.

I just feel like, you know, even if you have never expected this is fair. That's all. Yours is definitely about like sex. Mine's not always like about sex. Oh, all right. Let's drop that. Let's drop that. All right.

So, so my daughter right now is on her way to some boys house to hang out. Nicely, I said to her say hello to the mother. Say hello to the father. Be respectful. Say hi. You know, I'm going to put like a tracking system. I can know exactly. Yeah, where were you?

Were you in the basement or are you hanging out with the mother and parents? She was like, no, I was with the parents about B B B B. It's going to tell me, no? Were you in the basement or are you hanging out with the mother and parents? She's like, no, I was with the parents about B B B B B B. It's gonna tell me. Nope. She's in the basement. You're dreaming. You're such an old school like Italian daddy. No, I'm not old school. I just want to make her crazy. I have one door, right? And even if I had 10 doors, we're here to raise them the right way. We don't, I don't want it to get hurt. Or be with some God. It's gonna take advantage of her and then dump her. And then the next guy will take advantage of her. You know, it's, I'm only trying to protect. I don't have her eyes.

She's my baby. You know, I mean, what do you want me to do? I'm not trying to be. Oh, Mr. Tough guy. And I want to control her. All right. Well, a lot of you did on my DMs too. You wanted to know about the kids and how everybody's doing. So Antonia is actually I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure.

I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure.

I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm not sure. I'm having a girl over. You'd be like, all right, bro. If we're gonna go sit in the basement and we're gonna like shut the door and watch a movie, why is that?

Like you wouldn't even blink at that. You wouldn't even blink. Or if Geno just said to you in these two years younger, Dad, I am going to, you know, Suzy Cue's house and we're gonna hang out in her basement. You'd be like, all right, buddy, have a good time. Like, well, that's a double standard. So you have to stop that.

No, no, but listen. That's why I that. By the way, that's why you're not in control. You just think you are. But that's why Antonia asked me, and I will decide if she's allowed to do anything or not, because you're just not really a normal human when it comes to that. So really? Yeah, you're not. If you, if you sat down a hundred men, fathers, they'll do the same thing. Okay. Well, it's a double standard. It's not me. I'm not the bad guy. It's just all right. Go ahead. It's your daughter. I got you, but it's a double standard. It's not me. I'm not the bad guy. It's just, all right. Go ahead. It's your daughter. I got you, but it's a double standard.

You have to trust one like you're going to trust the other. I, you know, I'm trusting her, right? She's there. I don't like it, but she's there. Okay. All right. Well, she's there. So either way, it is, it is crazy, but, you know, but I always think of this philosophy.

Like if you say, if you say to a guy, hey, you know, he's in college and I, I just had sex with 100 women. And I was like, Hey, I five, I'm stuck. You're a man. I, if you say that to a girl, I don't know. What did they say? I mean, I just don't know my right or wrong. I don't know anymore. Well, that's what everybody is trying to stop out there. They're trying to stop that curve of how women get judged for doing some of the same things Mendo got me. So that's why, you know, it's a woman's world now. No, it's the me too movement too. It's like if it's good for you, it's good for us, but we want to do we can do what I want to do with my bodies, my choice, but you want to do it. Your body is your choice. My mind.

And it's it's it's probably like, you know, it's hard. You know, it's a change and maybe you don't want to hear it, but that's just how it goes. As when my when my daughter becomes a woman, right, meaning she's a woman, honey, trust me. She's a woman when she gets a little older and smarter. She can do whatever she wants. when she gets a little older and smarter, she can do whatever she wants. Sometimes in order to go green, you have to go blue. Blue land that is. Blue land was founded on the belief that a cleaner planet starts by eliminating plastic waste while creating powerful effective cleaners for your entire home. Blue land's idea is simple and beautiful. By the bottle

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pretty much almost asleep. Yeah. So, so I, I feel like we don't spend that much time together. And you work on Saturdays as well. So I feel like really don't spend that much time together. And you work on Saturdays as well. So I feel like really Saturday night, almost every Saturday night is like date night for us. We have dinner together, usually with another couple, sometimes alone. Sometimes alone, I mean, listen, I've always worked a lot since I met her.

She used to sit in a house, I used to work till 10 o'clock at night. If you're not the right one. When we were back in the day, exactly. And she would just sit there, wait for me. And I always came home with energy and made time for her. And I always went out, right? I always took it out. We always had date night. So because somebody also DM me about how do you

spend time? I have an eight year old son. And I want to spend time with my husband date night. Well, listen, we get baby sitters, right? And we go out no matter what we do. Listen, it's work hard to play hard for us. So I think that if you guys are working really hard or whatever it may be, you definitely want to set aside the money to go to dinner and to, you know, get that babysitter because you need that or else you fall apart. I mean, listen, we definitely have like Friday definitely have we usually like order in watching movie. Depend

I feel like you're a round we spent a lot more time just because of the sh place you really like, you go to work. Like whenever anywhere within a 15 min he leaves. Like som time you do, which is insane. So, but getting back to date night, I would say, we really do do that.

And we're always, and I always say this, you need to hang out with other couples that want to do date nights. Like it's so important to have your couple friends and they need to be strong and they need to be like the type of friends that like root for you, want the same things as you guys do. You know, it's very hard. I would say as you get older and I'm not even just older, like even some of my young moms out there

that are just, you know, just sending their kids to school. They're just trying to find like, you know, you always have your college friends, you always have your high school friends, you have your elementary school friends, right? But finding your like adult friends, like when you start to have kids and they start school and that's like not easy. There's few and far between. It's not like you have like thousands of adult friends because it's like a husband, it's usually we like the husband or the wife. We don't really

like both usually, but we've got unlucky. We have a couple, we have a couple couples that we like both. But sometimes we meet like couples and I'm like I really like her But we don't like him or vice versa, right? Yeah, and we and we always hang out with the right We associate with the right couples that do the same thing was we do because if we hung out with If I hung out with a single guy Trouble yeah, no, listen, and you do have a single guy friend. You have Tony the pool, the pool guy. Yeah, but I don't need a pool guy is a single guy. And you know, for a minute, Tony, the pool guy anybody. It's like if your husband's constantly going out with guys who do not hang out with their wives or are single. I always say this like yes, guys, there's trust. And I think people get very like confused with us the way we're a little too much with each other. Like we don't let each other not let, but we don't do too much apart. But I think that's why our relationship is good.

There's a mutual respect there. So Joe does not expect me on a Sunday morning to run out and get my nails done because it's the only day that he's home. So I know that, okay, it's Sunday Joe's home. This is not my day to run errands. This is my day to hang out at home with Joe and the kids. And like, I don't know, I feel like we got into our own routine

of what works for us, which what works for us does not work for anybody. Like everything. But what what what I do is if I'm gonna go spend time out with the guys, I spend it with my wife. And I enjoy it with my wife because you know what? Well, you're just lucky to have a fun wife. Some wives are not as fun as me. Like they can't hang like I can hang. I like I enjoy going out to.

I mean listen, we're very lucky that we're a couple that pretty much enjoys the same thing. We love food. We are foodies. Like we love a good restaurant. Like for us, a good a good time is like a great restaurant, a great bottle of wine. And like we rotate. We don't just go to the same restaurant all the time. Like we are restaurant finders. Like we go to New York City and then we do you know we have like the whole New Jersey swing of restaurants around here. But we are we really do enjoy the same thing. Yeah, yeah. But so yeah, you just got to spend time together. You got to go out, you got to work hard, you got to take your wife out, you got to take your husband out, you know, you got to, if I know babysitters are expensive. Right. So instead of going out to an expensive dinner, get the babysitter and go to a casual

dinner, but at least you're out and joining each other. And, and, you know, I guess, and then sex is important. You got to get sex in. Oh, you know, he wasn't going to let it go without, without jumping sex in there somewhere. You have to. Well, no, I do say if you're not having sex and you're letting I do agree with this and you're letting weeks go by then your room you're becoming more of like roommates and it becomes I always say this it becomes more of a business than a relationship. It's like pay the bills business like we always say this because I mean, it's true. I know always away man. There's always a way because everybody complains about the kids, right? Right every and now we we always say this because I mean it's true I know always a way man there's always a way because everybody complains about the kids right right every and now we we feel we feel the pain a little bit we will say because

we are you know in our other house I mean and this is crazy but in our other house we never really had the issue of like wait the kids are gonna hear or like but we're we're in our rental house right now there's kids on top of us everywhere I feel like, right? Well, you know what, I think they were just younger and they were like in La La Land watching TV. Now they're older and they're just, they want us all the time.

And they're just coming to us all the time. I think that's what it is. Yeah, they knock on our door for our intonies like she needs my shoes, she needs my shirt. Can you give me a ride here? Gino's like, Mon, did you see? They talk to us a lot more than they ever did.

And they just walk in and and and here we are. We're trying to get busy. And I'm running all the time away from them. I'm like running to the bathroom to high. But listen, like, get out. I'm getting changed. And it's like, hold and and and they don't come around for like an out like change. We've been in the closet. Yeah, we're going to closet. So that's what I'm trying to say. We were in a closet. Too nice to go been in the closet. Yeah, we're going to closet. So that's what I'm trying to say. We were in a closet. Two nights ago, right?

In the closet, guys. And what I'm trying to say is no matter what, there's always a way. There are five minutes, 15 minutes, getting the closet sneak away, running the basement, then the kids will be looking, my dad, they can't find you. You're in a closet in the basement, but you're getting it on. Oh my god. But what's great is that? That sounds like a lot of work. No, but hold on in the basement, but you're getting it on. Oh my God. But what's great is that?

That sounds like a lot of work from a lot of people. No, but what's great is it's like cute and it's hugging, you're hugging each other and you get it. It's just you keep the thrill going. Don't let go of thrill. It could be easy to just look at someone you've been with forever because I'm gonna say it too. And just like, I've been there,

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but at least once a week is enough. Yeah, for the entire year. So, yes, 20. Well, because you're wacky. I'm wacky. What do you know? Something's wrong with you. Yeah, we found love of me, because you know what?

Yeah, but I was young and like, I was 24. And now I have a brain. Now I have a brain. I don't like what did I sign up for over here when I met you at 24 you were so put together it was scary. Are you shocked and now you're like going in La La land. You're cookie. I'm not losing my mind.

It's called busy. Yeah. Yeah. So there you go girl. Listen, listen, whoever's out there listening, I'm busy. I was always the guy that worked harder than anyone else that you ever meet. I worked 18 hours a day, but I was never too busy

for my wife, no matter how. I fell asleep driving. I had eight accidents in one year, but when I came home, this is why I'm telling everybody, you're never too busy for your spouse. Make the time. Well, here's a good thing. How do you balance different sex drives? If you're married to someone,

right? And you love them. And you truly have two different sex drives. How do you make that work? I'll tell you how to make it work. Oh, no, we didn't just necessarily say you were going to tell me. I'll tell you. Listen, listen, listen. Because no, that's for real. That's a real thing. Like we could be so compatible, right? We could both love each other like we do. We can have kids together. We can be great partners, business people together. But like my sex drive is completely different than your sex drive.

And I'm sure that goes on in a lot of relationships. So. My friend, my friend, is married to a Latin woman and she likes a lot of sex. Right? So when he goes, I can't do it. He tells me, I just can't keep her satisfied. He's married to a Latin woman and she likes a lot of sex. So he goes, I can't do it. He tells me I can't, I just can't keep her satisfied. So I said, like she wants more than he did. She wants more.

She always wants it. He just, I just can't keep it up and I can't do it. So I said, go get yourself those toys and bring the toys into it. And they'll do most of the work. I swear to God, he listened to me. He did it. He goes, well, it's amazing. Because I he goes, oh, is this so what he goes, well, it's amazing because he goes, who is this?

So what he's trying to, I can't tell you right now, but what he's doing is he's given her the pleasure that she needs is his wife. He couldn't keep her around, he couldn't keep it up. You know what I mean? I don't wanna say too much, but he went, but so at the end of the day. So he heard now I just go to another conversation.

Why do men talk about these things? Like, I don't think my girlfriend. I'm sure you do. What do you mean? You're gonna sit with your girlfriends and talk about, you know, sex things you should do. Very rarely. I feel like when we're at a girls lunch,

it's not about like, oh, so last night we did this or that. Like we don't really do that. We talk about like what bag we're really having our eye on or like which school we want to send our child to or like how work was that day or they want to get a little cut up on housewives gossip. So I think at the end of the day what's good in a relationship right? Not really. If you want more sex and I would do everything I possibly can to please you. I would even if I couldn't handle you. But see see, but see now, now let's flip the script. You do want more sex and I want to give you.

And I am not going to do everything I can possibly do. No, I think I do what I think in my heart is fair. Listen, you're good. You're fair. I think I'm very fair and I do a lot just because I'm like, I know, like, you know, but that's not necessarily like you need to give it to. So basically, if we have different sex drives, okay? And it's not just us. There's other couples out there that feel this way. You both have to like give in a little. So maybe I am the person who doesn't want it as much gives in one day and says, you know what? I'll do a little extra. And how about a half ass sex session during

that? I feel like only once a week does it have to be like, but why is this the big ones a week, twice a week, it's Tuesday, it's Wednesday, it's Thursday, it's Saturday, but you want to live like two people just met and they have the butterflies. I do. That's not reality. It is reality. It's not you're not, but nobody's still see that's where you're wrong. People still are hot and heavy for their spouses, but most of the time after people married for five years or so, you're wrong. That's where you're wrong. People still are hot and heavy for their spouses, but most of the time after people married for five years

or so, you're not getting the butterflies. All right, hold on. You get up every day to go to work, right? To be successful, right? That's what you do. You work on that, right? Yeah. And it's a mindset.

It's all in your mind. So relationships and being married, what you're just saying, like, oh, I don't keep the buzz going. It's a mindset. I can look at you and be like, oh my God, I had a 3000 times already. All right, she's born. But I don't, I look at you.

I talk to myself and I tell myself, my mind tells me, you are amazing. And you're, I'm gonna, this is gonna be so exciting. And that's how everybody should be. It's all a big mindset. And you have to keep it going. If not, we're all in this together. We're married, right?

We are. No, we are. Like if you went to work every day, it was kind of like stale. You're going to do something to change it up and bring a little spike or you're getting bored of your calling up. That's typical stuff. Like we know this. I'm just saying, like it could be rough sometimes when people have, you know, a different sex drive. I feel like that to struggle for a lot of people. Here's a lot of people to have a different sex drive, right? And then they get divorced, right? Or let's say they lose us some weight. I mean, they gain some weight because they're comfortable.

And then they get divorced, right? And then you see the guy in the gym working out. You know, and he's going to get ready. And now he's got a second. Now he's going to see a doctor. How can he get injections to get his penis harder? And then I'm like, wait, wait, wait, wait. And he lost his family. And I'm like, well, why didn't you do that

before? With your wife? Because she went and out cheated on him because he wasn't given it to her. But why didn't you do that before? He's like, you're right. Now I got to go start my life all over again. So why don't you keep the passion going? I mean, what are you? Well, the truth is, and I do say the grass isn't always greener on the other side. It is truly greener where you water it most of the time. And it's true. It's like everyone thinks like everything's going to be bigger and better. But in reality, if you just water what you have a little bit more and try to like dig a little deeper and find, you know, the better qualities in someone instead of get at people getting a funk

in relationships and they can't get people get in a funk in relationships and they can't get out of the funk because they just keep looking at them in the negative light. So that's what happens. They have to like climb out of that funk and like reset and start to appreciate and try to look at them differently because you think the grass is greener on the other side, but it's not. You're going to deal with someone else's shit most of the time. That's right.

You really, really are, right? Yeah, it was. All right. So we talked a little bit about relationships. The other thing, you know, people are asking us for advice on in-laws, like people wanted to know, like some in-law advice for people who are newly married, people who, oh yeah, you can't give advice because you have the most amazing in-laws in the. Well, well, I was when I was getting married, I had really, I mean, I was engaged before you, right? I, you know, I was, I hated those in laws for anyone who doesn't know Joe was engaged

twice before me. Oh, my God. I mean, what's wrong with you? Twice. Twice. I can't help but the woman just, all the women want to me. I had to put a ring on her finger. I just ran to the jewelry store and kept buying.

They want what are you desperate? I don't like desperate. Why don't you marry me? Well, you're married. No, because they were so amazing. They treated me like gold. They didn't never want to let me go. I had to do it, but you never walked down the aisle now.

But I was like, yeah, I was like the runaway bride. You were. What is wrong with you? I had to meet you. I had to meet. It took me a minute to find you. Yeah. There are times of charm. I had no doubts for you. But so listen, you're out there engaged and you got a doubt. Get out. How old are you? How old were you for the first engagement and the second engagement?

2026 or 27? No, honey, I met you at 28. So for the first engagement, you had to be 21 or something. No, 21, 22, now, 25, 26, something like that. When I met you, you were 28. No, it wasn't. It wasn't. It wasn't 29, 29. We only dated 10 months. And I turned dirty. I met you and you were 28. You were 28 when I met you. Yes, you were. Remember, like it was yesterday. I will come back to that guys will come back. Okay. when I met you, yes, you are. Remember like it was yesterday.

I will come back to that guys will come back. Okay. And wait, so for in the let me ask her, I'm going to ask her, I'm in Los because she she married a guy with very old school Italian parents. Oh my God. Old school is an understatement.

I think a lot of you watched the real housewives of New Jersey, which which you guys all just saw this second episode. I hope you guys are, I mean, that episode, I can't even like talk excited about it. Because that episode just like, it's like a want, want, want, a hard one, definitely a hard one, especially to watch back. And you know, it's always hard on these shows too,

because you filmed something six months ago, and then you'll rewatch it and it's like, wait, wow, right? It's either this was a rough one. And let's let's touch this real quick because people were asking about that. Like when you they ask when you rewatch yourself on the show, how do you feel? Sometimes it's like back in the old episodes, like real when we first started, right? When family stuff was real tough, I can't watch that now.

Even if it's on a rerun, I'll walk out of the room. Oh, I'll be honest, Bravo has been rerunning our show like from the very beginning for the last like three weeks. And I can't watch it. She can't watch it. I cannot watch it because I don't think people realize with the Jersey girls and with the Jersey show, it is real. Like we are not a bunch of people put in a room. Like we

are a real family. You know, it's very Gorgah, Judas, based, and it's very real. And it's like, it is so hard for us to rewatch because those were real pain, especially you too, Joe, like you really were in pain for so many years for so many different reasons. And, you know, there was just so much resentment there. And like, you know, so when we get into it a little bit like we did this episode, this recent one, it's not easy for us to watch. Right.

So even if it comes out, like clips come out on social media, like, I can't even watch it. I'll just swipe it right by. Yeah. And that's so the question if you're asked if we do watch those old rewans or whatever we don't. It depends on the one if it wasn't so hard, but yeah. No, most of the time we don't. The only thing I do enjoy is like when our family pops up for a scene and we see like the little ones like I can't believe it. Even Gino in this past episode, to me, there was only six months ago, guys, you don't not understand how different Gino looks right now today.

Then he did like they, they, they popped him up in the kitchen. I was making him a protein shake for two seconds, right? He looks like a baby. That was six months ago. It is crazy. He must have just had his little growth, first of all, his voice just changed, you know, his voice just recently changed. I like, he's, it's cracking like when he talks and everything. I'm like, no, he's an armpit hair. I'm like, what's happening? I'm like, this is geodarin. I need to use it. Um, but it's like, it's

funny. It's like, he's, he looks like a completely different kid just in six months, which is like insane. So I hope you guys are enjoying so far with the house wise, but yeah, it's never easy to watch those episodes, especially this one. I, there's so much we want to say, but we won't. It's just hard. If you know me, you know I take care of my physical health, but I'm huge on taking care of my mental health also. Whether you're struggling with grief, relationships, or stress, or you're

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We love reality TV in general. So come join me come subscribe to Dear reality your aft on the YA network and you too can join in the fun every week on dear reality. So let me ask you you married a guy and you met this guy he was amazing right he was handsome. Are we talking about you right now? Yeah he was handsome he was amazing he's a hard worker he was put together and he swiped you off your feet right he had your love and attention. Wow you're really you're really amping yourself up. Yeah and you know, put your in this pedestal, then you went and met his parents. Woof. What is a woof me? Wow, I really said, you know, the funny thing, and my sisters will, will vouch for this. I always said like, I would never marry an Italian. They both married Italians. My father was like an Italian. And I always I always said like, oh, I like the Irish boys, like I like the white boys,

like my look used to be like, Oh, Justin Timberlake, you know, like I was not like I was like Italians, no, thank you, I can't deal with them. They're so like and and I really was never really into them. I wasn't like if you look at any of my ex-boyfriends, they really were not Italian, which is crazy. So she met me and then I meet the fun. I meet the freaking mega. The freaking mega. The top of the top top top. Like parents are speaking broken English. Cooking rabbits.

No, listen to this one, one fun thing. First time I met Teresa and Joe at my mother-in-law's house, I will never forget this. I was definitely had like really curly hair, probably had zero makeup on, because that's how I used to rock. Like just no hair. I mean, no makeup curly hair and like a BB sweatshirt

at all times, right? So I come into the house and it's like, you walk in and I'm like, hi, you know, I'm gonna listen nice to me. There's Teresa and like a skin tight like juicy, good tour sweatsuit. I remember her ass was so big. It was so much bigger than it is now. Her butt, I don't know what happened. Like, it's not as big as it used to be.

And I remember you actually teasing her that day. You were like, damn, tree like this is getting huge. You got to and Gia was only two at the time because I went to Gia's third bird thing. Gia used to hiss, hiss and Melissa. Hiss at me. Like hiss. Gia loved me so much.

I walked in the room. She would hiss because she was obsessed with you. She really, really, really was obsessed with you. To the point, like, I wasn't allowed to sit by you when I went and hung out at your sister's house. I had to sit on the other side because she would get mad if I sat by you. It was like crazy. So, um, anyway, it was so wonderful meeting your family. So she comes in and my mother met her, right?

My mother. Yeah. So your mother, wait, first of all, I have to just paint this picture. I walk in and it's like my father and law and my mother met her right? My mother. Yeah, so your mother. Wait, first of all, I have to just paint this picture. I walk in and it's like my father-in-law and my mother-in-law are like standing at the sink and they have what seems to look like a, and this is horrible. I can't even say, I don't know if we should say that. It's food, good. It's not food, but like, I mean, come on, they had, they were going to eat rabbit

that night for dinner. They had a bunny upside down hanging by its legs. They were hitting it. It was not alive, but they were definitely like breaking I don't know what they were doing. They were chopping it up. They were chopping up a bunny and my mother and I, oh, and this is one. Is she going to eat that? What is this one to eat that? Did she eat the spice or not with spice at this one? She better eat when she's here. I'm like, I'm good.

I don't think I'm gonna have any bunny. Oh no, you got a like a bunny. It tastes like a chicken. It tastes like chicken. Yes, it tastes like a chicken. I'm like, no, I'm good. I'm good. I'm gonna have the pasta.

No, she hated you, Amy. I didn't even take one bite of it. I did not even eat one bite of it. I did not even eat one bite. See that's see that's when when you do that in a Thai household boy, they they put the evil eye and they look at you like, look at it. You don't eat my. No, they just over ate. And you know what I thought was so interesting about you guys. Like we would eat dinner and then your mother or your father rather because he was a salad guy.

He would bust out with the salad like after dinner. And I'm like, wait, what's this? Like we usually eat this salad before dinner. And it was like salad comes after dinner. And now it's so funny because I do everything they do. I cook exactly like my mother-in-law. I spent like so much. I mean, I would say my sauce tastes more like your mother,

like your mother's than anyone. It really does. No, she's- Than anyone else does. And I mean, you do. Because I really wanted to learn. And it was important for me to like get it right. And by the way, she was an amazing cook. So it's like, I wanted to learn how to make that sauce. And I did. Yeah. You would think I would have been like the star child. I mean, every one of my children, after you and your dad and your mother. Right. So, Ty and way, you know, we,

you know, we named our kids after my mom, Antonio. But I was good with Antonio because my dad was Anthony. So I kind of liked having Antonio and your mother was Antonio. And Gino is named after Jajinto, which is his dad. And Giuseppe is Joe. Joe is Giuseppe. Joe's real name is Giuseppe, everyone. He's Giuseppe Gorgah. But you know what happens in Italian household? If you're not the daughter, right? It's really not the blood. That's how it's stupid, do anything.

Wait, what? If you're not the daughter and the kids don't come from the daughter, like see my sister had the... Oh, like so my kids are not the blood? They're not really like they're really kind of your side of the family. Oh, well that's a terrible thing. Isn't it?

The way it really, that's the old school job. Like a Joey and Gino have a child. I'm gonna think it's just as much my grandchild. It's only, it's when the boy, right, when your boy's carry the name, right? When you have a boy and he carries the name, to keep the name going. Yeah, he's the king.

But, but it's crazy, but see, because you weren't the daughter. Well, I think there's a lot, I think there's something to say about, you know, sometimes you come into a new family and you do things different or, you know, sometimes people in all relationships, it's like hard when you meet the in-laws. But I feel like keeping and maintaining a good relationship, or I should say at least a decent one,

as much as you possibly can with your in-laws, is really the key to helping your own relationship. Because you tend to wanna just fight back, and it turns into like, you wanna win, right? It's like, no, they're wrong, or they're want to just fight back. And it turns into like, you want to win, right? It's like, no, they're wrong. Or they're not treating my child properly. Like, why are we only talking about their children? Like, this is about my children too. And you know, you just, it's just, it's crazy. The things that in laws that you go back and forth with, it's just insane. But at the end of the day, you have to step back and look at the big picture and be like, you know,

what, at the end of the day, it's about me and you, right? So let's do the right thing. Let's do what we have to do. Let's keep the peace. Let's try to make relationships as much as we can. And I feel like that will actually help your own relationship last longer. I mean, is that fair to say? Yes. And if you'd like to talk about what it was like meeting my family for the first time, and how that went for you. Yeah, we're great, but You made me lose my train of thought, but That doesn't take much as as as I was younger right and you're younger and you meet your in-laws You as your younger person you tend to get more aggravated and you take it personally because you're young as you're a younger person, you tend to get more aggravated.

You take it personally because you're young and you're young and you're strong. And I call myself, you know, stupid. We were stupid because you're, as I'm older, I'm more smarter. I'm educated more that little things don't bother me anymore. They take, you know what happens? You said, everyone takes in the beginning. And I know this just for my cousins and her girlfriends that at everyone, by the way, ask me for in law advice.

And obviously, you know, why? Because anyone has any struggle with their sister-in-laws or brother-in-laws or even their mother-in-laws. They do come to me. If anyone is in my, not even my immediate circle, like if it's a friend of a friend of a friend, they'll be like, Melissa, soon as they see me,

my sister along gives me the hardest time. My mother and law doesn't include me. My mother and law only baby sits for my sister and law kids she doesn't babysit for my kids, but like I hear it all the time and I feel like I'm

constantly giving in law advice constantly. And there's really, I mean, every situation is different, but at the end of the really, I mean, every situation is different. But at the end of the day, I always say try to keep the piece and like take the emotion out of it. Because when you are in your

younger years and you just start having babies and you're getting married, it's even these girls out there that are just getting married and planning weddings and the mother and laws driving them crazy. And it's just it's rough, but just remember, like,

why you're marrying this guy and try to keep the peace as much as possible. That is like my best advice because when you fight back hard, it doesn't work. It doesn't work. And it's like you want to prove your point, they want to prove their point. And there are some relationships that I'm going to go ahead and say are just toxic, some are. And if they truly are toxic and they're not good for you, I mean, sometimes you do have to stay away. Some people do because it's completely toxic and it's not healthy. Like you know, for example, when when I first met Melissa and we were together, my mother would give a comment or say something because she was a tie and that's what she did, right? Melissa would take it to the heart a little bit, Come home. I can't believe you. Melissa said that. I can't believe this. This is as

as in my father too. And as we got older, they were like, right, you know, they were, they were a little rough. They were, they were, they were not the type when they weren't so nice to you. It gave you a compliment. It was more about like hard work. Let's go, you know, you know, that's how I tie. And so are like the old school. We're very judgey. But as, as we got older and she learned to like just brush that off, and as you get older, more mature, you learn to just let things go. Okay. She said that.

All right. You're like, all right. Who cares? Because you know, what your dad said to you about me before he passed away, he said, he said something to you when he talked to you, just basically tell you like how much, you know, he knew that I was such a great wife to you and that you'd be okay always.

Yeah, so take, he goes, my father was passing away and he was talking to me, I had some couple things and he goes, uh, your wife's a good woman. She loves you very much and, and you love her. You always respect her. Because she's always done the right thing for the rest of your life. You know, and I remember when I said something to be, yes, she was very sweet about it. And he was just basically like, you know, we've always given her a hard time, but she's the best. It's like, what do you tell me? So many other words, yeah. So, which was very nice. But what, so the advice on the in-laws is just don't,

you're gonna see as you get older, just live your life. Take it a little less personal. Yeah, he cares. That's the number one thing. Just just engage, take it a little less personal. And that's, I can, that only comes with years of experience. Right.

But when you take it to heart, it goes to the next level. So don't take it to heart. Just more be confident. Move on your own way. Take care. Yeah. Your husband, your wife, your children, and you'll see, you'll see, you'll, you'll feel much, much better. And, and then they're all going to come around. Right? Yeah. Okay. All right. We have time for one more. Before we, we're going to flip the switch on me today. I'm gonna let you grill me with grilled with Gorgah. But let's talk about one,

let's talk about one more thing. Oh, I know what they wanted to know, Joe, because you're such an entrepreneur, right? And a lot of people, I think they know that about you. I think some people think, because you're on the show a lot. You are, you're like the seventh housewife, you really are.

You are, you're on the show a lot. You are, you're like the seventh housewife, you really are. You are, you're on the show a lot. You're because you have a family, because it treats as your sister and I'm your wife. So it's like you're with us all the time and all of this. But people ask me, like, what happened with you guys? Because we opened a restaurant on the show, right? And we no longer have the restaurant. We, in the very, very beginning,

you were doing like the garbage, like the shredding business. And then we don't do that anymore, right? Little do they know how many other projects we have tried in between that. I think people, first of all, I think people, what they don't know is that Joe is the type of guy that if you come to him with an idea and he even likes it a little, a little little bit, he's going to go for it. He's going to try it. So like, for example, with a restaurant, I thought the restaurant was a great idea, but I told him we're rushing it.

It's a little too fast. I think we need a bigger space. I mean, with the restaurant, the line was wrapped around. It was a very small spot, right? The line was wrapped around the building at all times. You didn't really have the staff there all the time that you needed, and we had a manager, would we say, like a partner?

It was a partner that we were working with that was sealing from us, literally, ceiling from us. And we couldn't be there 24-7. He was literally writing, he would go around and tell the customers that would be in there. He would tell them, here we'll give you give me $50 and we'll give you like a coupon for when you come in and it will be worth $100. Yeah, they were selling those fake. He was very crooked. Yeah, yeah. That was something like he was, so we had to shut it down. So to bottom wise, the shredding truck business,

we got into the business and we got an offer to sell it. And we sold it. And we made a profit. So that was gone. So the pizza business, it was great. But I'm not, I'm not a restaurant guy. I'm a real estate guy, construction guy. So like Melissa, we got it, we got a bad partner, and we get a bad partner to help you run it. It all goes goes downhill. So I feel like those were the two those were the two things that I mean, because people be like, you think someone's going to fake like, go ahead and like lease a restaurant and staff it up all the pictures, all the work we put through that and the finding the menu and the staff and it was only open for like less than a year, right?

Like three months, four months. Oh, it was, oh my god. Yeah. We shut shut it down immediately. Yeah. If we just saw that it wasn't going to go the way we wanted it to, and we had, to be honest, not only that, we had the wrong partner. Yeah.

And we just were like, no, no, no way. Shut it down now before it becomes a disaster. Anyway, we're way past that. This is like, you know, I think we're doing a pretty good job. We've been on reality TV for 17 years. We have three great kids. I think we've been married. Oh, I'm sorry. We've been married for 17 years. Reality TV for 11 of them. That's tough. No one knows how tough, how hard reality TV is in a marriage. Very hard. Give me your one tip before we do grilled with gorgas. Give me your one tip for like a really strong relationship. What do you think is like the number one thing? Respect, man.

Respect is everything is respecting one another and and. But what's respect mean to you? So how do you respect me? Respect? Yeah, what's respect? The fine respect. The fine respect. I'm going to tell you right now. No, because respect to you might mean something different

than it does to me. Respect is love, loyalty, is treating you the way I want to be treated. OK. That's respect. Meaning, if I am going to enjoy this apple, you're going to have half of that apple because I'm it's not about me anymore. I can't enjoy this apple without you. You're my wife. So that we have to grow together and enjoy everything together. Because if it's about me,

you're gonna be like, who's this guy? Why is it about you? And it's never about me. I have three children, I have a wife. Nothing's about me anymore, it's about you four, right? So that's what respect is. Respect is. Number one thing is respect, guys. Respect is everything.

You give respect and you show love and you give love It like I say I always say I want to treat you the way I want to treat If I tie I love you because I want it. I want to be told I love back Well, it's hard for me to give a different word than that. So if I had to say mine I mean, it's hard not to say respect because I feel like respect is really what What brings it down to everything is just, if you're, if you're not respecting the person, respect can mean so many things.

So many people that don't respect each other in a marriage. Right. And then you can just, I saw that wrestling today, the way, the way couples speak to each other, you just don't do that. You know, you know, you can see that they don't like each other either.

Right. And no, some people just talk to each other nasty and you can't do that. It's respect, it's all about, for my thing, it's a huge thing is communication. Like, I really think if I had to pick one thing, I think respect is huge as well, but I think communication. It's the way that we talk to each other. It's the way that I, a lot of times it's the way I'll say something to you that will annoy you. And it's not really coming from a bad place, but it's just in my delivery. So I think delivery in a relationship is huge. Like the way you deliver the information, even if it's saying no to sex, it's like the way you say the way you say no to sex. There's times when you're sweet and everything. You're like, no baby, not tonight. Let's do tomorrow. I'm like, okay, honey. Then it's like, no, no, absolutely not. It goes through my

friggin' veins. And I'm like, this bitch. I want a bitch. You know, I get so nasty. Right. It doesn't necessarily have to be about sex either. But I'm just saying, just the way we communicate could be about like, hey, you didn't pick this up for me today. I asked you five to pick this up for me to be like, why don't like the way you asked me to pick it up Do you know what I mean? And it's like I do everything for the kids all that it's just it's a communication thing Communication is huge. So so I hope you guys all enjoyed us today with a little with our little lovers tips I wouldn't say that we're like the whole you know, we're not the end-off But we're definitely pretty good at relationship advice. So, you know, I feel like we can be psychiatrists. Like if somebody wanted to come in here and

give us plead their cases, I feel like we could help. Hey everyone, this is Heather Dubrow and do I have some exciting news for you? We are launching a variety of new episodes that are going to have amazing special guests some of my close friends and So much more it's going to be really fun And we're going to get to hear from fans new friends and get an inside look of my world We're really excited for you to listen and join in for heavy duro's world on podcast fun episodes drop on Thursdays and Fridays tune in, Apple podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. So listen, I know you grill, you grill everybody, right? When they come on your show.

I'm gonna switch it up. Okay. Let's, I'm gonna grill you. I know, because I've grilled you once already. Grill me. Let's, I'm gonna grill you grill with Gorgah. Grylls with Gorgah. Oh, you're still gorgas. So you get to grill me. So you're still, you're still grilled with gorgas. All right. So I want to notice this is what I want. Are you ready? I'm ready. Hit me.

First celebrity crush. Christians later. Christians later. Yeah. Really? Yeah. Either him or I would say Dylan, Jordan McKnight. All right. How many of them? I have so.

Holy shit. Oh my God. Jordan McKnight from new kids on the block. Christian Slater, the movie Heather. Oh my God. I don't want to hear anymore. Oh my God. You should ask me my, no, you shouldn't. Come on. Forget it. We wait. I have one more. I can't. I can't. I have to tell you this one. No wonder why you want you to do it or go buy her boyfriend. Oh, my God. I don't want to hear about you, Hector.

All right, well, those are definitely the first two that can't buy. Next question. Mm-hmm. Favorite 80s song. Oh, this is so easy. And you should know this. I sing it all the time. Well, first of all, I am in 80s.

Like, no, if you to know me, it's to know Melissa Gorga is so easy. And you should know this. I sing it all the time. Well, first of all, I am in 80s. Like, no, if you to know me, it's to know Melissa Gorga is a major 80s addict. Like, I know every song, I know every word to every song. I listen to Lionel Richey on repeat. Okay, every morning at my showhouse, I can sing every song on the 80s soundtrack. I love Christopher Cross sailing. I love Pat Benetar.

Love is a battlefield. We are young. Yeah, pity girl. Hardic to hardic wasting. Yes, we are strong. We love this song. Yes, like I am an 80s, like I can go all damn big. Oh, I love comic, comic, comic, comic, comic, comic,

Amelia. I love George Michael. I love everybody. I love the 80s. You should throw me an 80s party. It's kind of rude that you've never thrown me one of those. Yeah, right. Is that a hint?

You got it. 80s party. Wait, I hear more people that I love. Ready? Next question. Next question. You're taking too long on that question. 80s party. Okay, wait. I hear more people that I love. Ready? Ready. Next question. Next question. Next question. You're taking too long on that question. Biggest regret. Oh, biggest regrets. Biggest regret. Oh, um, hmm. Hmm. Come on. Okay. I would say I always like if I think about it one of my biggest regrets was filming Joey's Christening. I really tried over that and I really was a major depression after that. So that's definitely one of my biggest regrets.

Okay, I'll give it that one boy. Best decision you have ever made. The best decision I have ever made. I would say besides being like the typical Mary Jo kids thing because I feel like, you know, everyone knows that. I know you are. I know why. Just looking at me like say the typical Melissa say it was me.

It was you were definitely the best decision. You were definitely a great decision. But if I'm going to dig a little deeper, I'm going to say one of the best decisions I've ever made and I always think about this was to kind of break away and go off on my own when I was young like when I was 17 I moved away from all my friends. I was pretty balzy. I went to college on my own and I made I knew no one got at my own apartment paid my own bills. Went to college to be a teacher. And really I'm so happy that I didn't just stay at the beach and do what everybody else was doing. I really broke away and I wanted to make something like big for myself. And you know, that's that's

the definitely it. I like that. All right. Biggest pet peeve. When people chew with their mouths open. Yes. And you chew with your mouth. I cannot. It's okay. We need to do. I did. She looks at me guys like it's me. She's always say close your mouth when I because I'm talking. We have something to say. I mean, we're together. What's the big deal? You do it too. I cannot stand when anyone

choose with their mouth open. Like I do not want to see your food. Like just hold your thought. Hold your thought. Hold your thought. Okay. Ready? How about your worst date? I want to hear this. It was you. It was you. Oh, yeah, you want to know my worst date? It was my second date with you. And you fell asleep on me at the table. What the hell, you're born. date with you and you fell asleep on me at the table. What the hell, you're born. I was not boring. I had the most fun.

No, I was so obsessed with our show. I was like, is he on drugs? Right. I just worked a lot, man. I worked a lot. You were obsessed with me, so stop saying I was obsessed. I was obsessed. Guys, I fell asleep on our dinner.

I took a nice, I couldn't know. He was like talking. And as we're talking, he's like nodding out. He was literally nodding out at the table. Yeah, I just fall asleep because that's how hard I worked. I would put 16 hour days in hard. I was like, hello, am I boring you? You know that year before you, I think I had seven accidents

where I crashed into telephone poles with the airbag popping out. I totaled seven. Don't forget, Joe, that's actually your responsible. That's crazy. It was. And no, I just fall asleep. It's like, you cannot show that's actually irresponsible. That's crazy. No, I just was full of sleep. It's like you cannot drive when you're tired. Yeah, it was terrible. How

about first concert? New kids on the block. Hang in to New kids on the block. Oh, Jordan. All right, new kids on the block. All right, next question. Something about you that would

surprise us. Hmm. Um, I am, I am very scared to be home alone. I'm a scaredy cat. I do not like, I hear noises. I hear dead people. She's somehow, guys, you have no idea. I am scared.

I can scare her in like, I jump out of my skin if I hear a noise. Like, I'm that girl. I hope the door guy, I'm sorry. I cut if I hear a noise like I'm that girl. I hope you're a guy that I'm sorry. I cut you know, like I'm that girl that like I can't be home alone. I hear every noise. I don't really sleep well alone in hotel rooms. Like I just hear everything. I can hear a pin drop and I think that someone's trying to kill me.

If I still think Freddie Krueger is on his way. Yeah. If I walk in a shower like she's in a shower or she's in the bathroom ready. And I just walk in and say, Hey, babe, she jumps. I scream. She almost hits the ceiling. She's like, I can't believe it. What did I do? I think I have to give one other one because I don't get to do this often. I have so much shit to say. I talk to myself out loud a lot. So I have full blown conversations with myself herself. She does. I'm more, I come in. Who are you talking to? Like I can sit in the other room, listen, everything she talks about is the funniest thing. She's like,

I gotta go take my hair. No, tomorrow. And I don't know. Should I call this one? I gotta call that. And you know, she's, yeah, I have a full conversation. Sometimes he tries to like, ease job on what I'm talking about. No, I don't. Next, first job. No, I don't. Next first job. My first job was at the pizza place, casino pier at the boardwalk. I worked on the boardwalk. I think I made like $7.50 an hour. She grew up down the shore, guys. I worked down the shore, you know, with the best of them at the boardwalk.

Favorite late night snack. What do I eat late at night? I would say I'm like a Milano cookie, right? If you see me eat anything, it's a cookie. favorite late night snack. Um, what do I eat late at night? I would say I'm like a Milano cookie, right? If you see me eat anything, it's a cookie. Like I'll grab a cookie or I'm big on like fruit. I'll always grab like a fruit or cookie. I don't know. I'm all over the place that night

because it's like whatever we have in the house type thing. And I like to drink like a cup of chamomile. And a cup of wine. And a cup of wine. Not as much as I used to during the pandemic. I opened a bottle of wine every night. Every night. I couldn't believe I had a deal with you for one more. I go back to your cell every night. I opened a bottle of wine. I'm the best person you can have. I'm so chill. No, you are kidding. But like I did I did over drink wine. I would say during the pandemic, not as much anymore. I don't really do it.

What's your favorite TV show to binge watch? Well, if we're talking about right now, we are obsessed with the morning show Jennifer Aniston and Reese Witherspoon. Oh my God, guys. So good. If you haven't watched a morning show yet, it is like right. So Jennifer Aniston's acting in it too is amazing. Like it's probably I love it. We watch it every night. Like soon as we're going to watch it tonight. Yeah. Yeah. So good. Melissa, how do you treat yourself? Well, usually end with that one, Joe, if you're going to let you do my grilled with Gorgie, have to do it properly. If you put in your own question, is that why is there like a how

do you? Is there like a humdinger at the end? No, just answer the question. All right. So if it's a day about me, yeah, like how do you treat yourself? Like what's what's my favorite thing to do? I mean, I would say, you know, I do love to eat lunch by myself. So like, I would love to go to the mall. I like to walk around by myself. And I like to like, I used to, I used to, before I was on Bravo TV, I used to love to sit at the food court. It was my favorite thing to do. I would walk around the mall and I would go to the food court. And I loved the food court. I love that Chinese thing with the teriyaki bourbon chicken with the rice and you put the bourbon sauce on top. I can't do that

anymore because I'm like a weirdo if I do it now and everybody's talking to me and everyone's like there's Melissa eating the bourbon chicken at the food court. But like I really want to get back there. I really love the food court. So y'all see me at the mall at the food court. Let me be. I want to sit there by myself and eat the bourbon chicken. Okay, honey. Last question. Now this seems like I'm like, you just this is your question comes from you. This is your grilled or gorgas. Okay. Who kissed you the best in life? Who gave you like the most romantic like who was your like your best kiss? I want to know.

I am sitting across from you right now. Do you really think I'm going to tell you? Do you have any balls? If you have any balls, tell you who really kissed me. Yeah. Yeah. I want to know. Yeah.

Let's think. I mean, there is that first kiss when you place been the bottle and then it's like, you're giving you butterflies. Yeah. You think it's like amazing. They're like choking you with their tongue. It's like going halfway down your throat. Not anyone out of kish. Um, no, honey, you gave me a nice first kiss in your, in your house that day when you told me you were going to paint my face on the wall like a cheese ball, but you did kiss me really. You're just saying, because I'm your husband. I'm saying, because

you're sitting in front of me and I have no choice. Now I'm just kidding. You you kiss good. You you definitely were a very good kisser. You added that and that is not one of my questions. The day I liked the way I put my hand in your cheek, right? And I caress the side of your face. Oh my God. Yes. It was it.

It was a wonder. I gave her a kiss, guys, is she melted? Oh my. She went home. She and that's all I did. I gave her a kiss, guys, is she melted. She went home. She, and that's all I did. I didn't try nothing else. Thank you so much, Shogorga, for being on my podcast today. Everyone loves you. You're backed by popular demand. They love our banter. They love when we go back and forth. So, love you guys. We're definitely going to do it again. So always keep in mind. It always just DM me any questions or any topics. I should say

topics. I feel like we did questions, but I definitely want some like hot topics that you would love for us to talk about. So feel free to do that. I hope that you guys have an amazing week. We are actually going to be in Vegas this weekend, which yeah, I'm talking at a fashion for the big magic show, which is huge for me. Also, I wanted to wish everyone a very, very happy Valentine's Day is coming, which we will be in Vegas for Joe. So you'll have to take me out to dinner like that's the day I'm actually doing the event is at that and Vegas on Valentine's Day. So anybody's out in Vegas, make sure you come see me at the big magic event. I will be there speaking. I'm actually very excited about that. And before we before I let you go, I have one other piece of exciting news, which I think I hinted on a little bit last time. But for everyone who's yaming me and asking me about envy. Yes, I am currently reconstructing a brand new envy that is double the size. So God bless, thank you Jesus. Envy is doubling in size, we're growing.

I'm so grateful for it. It's actually very much, it's in Ridgewood, New Jersey now, which I'm so excited about. Ridgewood is such an amazing town and I am so excited to come to Ridgewood and just wait till you see how gorgeous the new stories. But in the meantime, you guys know you can shop at envy by mg.com. And you get all the best fashions and all the clothes that I wear.

So I am so excited about Ridgewood. I will definitely let you know when we're having the grand opening and when you can start shopping there. And you know, just love to all Joe any last words for everybody. Oh, just listen to Viren Florida. I'll be a. Oh, yes. Of course, oh my God, we cannot forget to plug Joe's comedy because he is.

All right. So let me just tell you this. The last week in February, Joe has a show. He's going to be in Naples. He's going to be in Tampa. He's going to be in Adventure of Florida.'s going to be in Tampa. He's going to be in Aventura, Florida. And that's on the 25th, I believe. So I believe the 23rd, he's going to be in Naples.

The 24th of February, he is going to be in Tampa. I believe. Yes, the 25th, Aventura, so Aventura Miami. Okay, and then the 27th, he's going to be in Boko Ratan. So make sure you guys all get your tickets at the real Okay. And then the 27th, he's going to be a bokeh reton. So make sure you guys all get your tickets at the real Joe Gorgah dot com. So much fun.

So many of my friends are going to be there for those Florida shows. So make sure that you guys go out. I'm going to go out for a couple of them. I will be there. He's super, super funny. So you definitely want to go out and watch that. Happy Valentine's Day lovers. We love you so much.

Happy Valentine's Day. Happy Valentine's Day. What are you off for Valentine's Day? Um, a new house. Really? How about your love? We love you guys. Peace out. We'll see you soon. Love you. Let's do it! Oh! Oh! Oh! Oh! Oh! Oh! Oh! Oh!

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