On Purpose with Jay Shetty - 6 Simple Things You Can Do Every Morning to Boost Your Energy Before Work
Episode Date: July 5, 2019You feel tired mid-morning before you have your coffee, then the dreaded 3 pm lull hits and you feel sluggish and unmotivated. By the time you get home from work, you’re exhausted and ready for bed.... If you’re struggling with your energy levels and your self-control, this episode is for you. The truth is that energy and self-control are finite daily resources. They decline throughout the day just like your phone battery. In this episode of On Purpose, I give you 6 simple things you can do every morning to boost your energy and recharge yourself as much as you charge your phone.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Now, today's session is all about the six things that you can do in the
morning to have an incredible start to the day, have an incredible rest of the day,
and actually keep that momentum throughout the day as each and every hour
goes on and on and on. Now, how many times have you ever had this experience
where you start to feel really tired by about 3 p.m.?
How many of you get that mid-morning crunch
when you start to feel really fatigued already?
And how many of you, by the time you're at home
at the end of the day, have no energy left,
whether it's after your commute,
whether it's on your way back,
whatever it may be, how many of you experience
that fatigue and tiredness?
Well, here's the truth.
Two of the most important elements in our lives
are self-control and energy.
Research shows that both of these are finite,
daily resources that tire like a muscle.
It's almost like that these resources are at their peak at the beginning of the day
and then have a natural decline towards the end of the day.
It's almost like saying to yourself,
you're a full battery life on your phone,
and then it's depleted by the end.
And it needs to be charged throughout the day,
but also how you use it at the
beginning of the day will have a big impact as to how it affects you. And these
are daily resources that tire like a muscle, that deplete like the battery on
your phone. And just like we have to keep charging up our phones to stay fueled
up, we have to make sure that our body is charged and used effectively as well.
We all know that there are certain tasks or certain things we do on our phone
that completely drop that battery life, right?
You know what it feels like to have too many tabs open, too many screens open,
using it for multiple things.
The same is true of our mind and our brain that controls our self-control and our energy.
Have you seen that when you get tired and lose energy,
your self-control goes down as well?
When you lose energy, you're more likely to be attracted
to the burger and fries, the sugary dessert,
the fatty foods.
Similarly, notice, if we lose our self-control,
then tasks feel longer, notice, if we lose our self-control, then tasks feel longer, harder,
and as if they take so much more effort.
That's why we find it harder to concentrate
towards the end of the day.
So we see this link between self-control and energy.
When our energy goes down, our self-control goes down,
and when our self-control goes down, our energy
goes down. Both of them are affecting each other throughout the day, and that's why self-control
and energy are so important to manage. Now, the interesting thing here also is that a lot
of energy is intangible. For example, if you're in a negative toxic environment, it can be
more tiring even if you're doing easy tasks. Self-control also can be harder if you're in a negative toxic environment, it can be more tiring even if you're doing easy tasks.
Self-control also can be harder if you're going through
something emotionally in your own personal life.
So we recognize that both of these are deeply connected
and it can be hard to understand them.
And that's why today I'm going to give you
these six practical actionable steps
that will actually
help you understand self-control and energy much much deeper.
And we all know what this feels like.
It's why at the beginning of the day, we usually feel that our productivity is at its peak.
But that doesn't mean we should use it on all doing things in the morning.
If used effectively, we can maintain our energy
and self-control throughout the day
to the best of our ability.
So here are the six steps that I want to share with you
in this podcast, and we'll start with number one.
This one will sound impossible.
When you first hear it, you'll say,
J, that's not possible.
When I say it, your mind will doubt it.
But here's a sign of intelligence.
A sign of intelligence is being able to listen
to a piece of advice, try to learn from it
without judging it in the moment.
See, one of the biggest mistakes that our mind makes
or biggest tricks that it plays on us
is that when we hear a piece of advice, our mind says, I already know that. Oh, I've heard that before. Oh,
I've tried this before. And our mind convinces us out of some of the best advice in our
life. Whenever my mind says to me, Oh, I've already heard that. I know that. When I hear myself say that, I move away from that thought and I re-engage with what I'm listening to.
Why? Because some of the biggest businesses in the world have fallen apart with this mindset.
We've always done it that way, right? I already know that.
Those forwards, I already know that
have blocked so much innovation in the world.
So I want you to really open your ears,
open your mind and listen carefully.
Step number one has changed my life.
Whenever I practice it, I have a different day.
It's almost like I'm living a new life
and this is no screen time until breakfast.
No screen time until breakfast.
Giving yourself that half an hour,
that one hour, that two hours before
looking at your phone can change your life.
Now, I used to be one of those people,
they would wake up and look at my phone straight away
because my phone was my alarm.
I would turn my alarm off.
The next thing I'd do is go onto WhatsApp or go onto Instagram or then go onto Twitter or Facebook
or whatever it may be and then you're lost. Not only do you waste time, you waste energy and you're
maxing out your brain's potential to use it for anything else. Now, I use social media for most
of the day. I've messages from all
over the world different geographies to respond to, but this one habit can completely define how my
day goes. I either wake up with energy, enthusiasm and focus, or I wake up and feel drained,
tired and fatigued by the time I get out of my bed.
When you look at your screen,
first thing in the morning, it steals your morning.
You are losing your morning when you do that.
And one of the crazy things is that studies show
that notifications can actually trigger stress.
So what we're doing is we're pushing our mind and body
into stress mode from the moment we're doing is we're pushing our mind and body into stress mode
from the moment we're awake. One survey of 2000 workers in the United Kingdom
found that notifications are linked to higher feelings of anxiety. So who wants to
start their day with stress and anxiety? How many of us are actually forcing
ourselves to start our day with stress and anxiety by How many of us are actually forcing ourselves to start our day with stress and anxiety
by looking at our phones? I think I may have mentioned this before, but I literally to get out of this habit used to lock my phone and my
devices in my car outside so that I wouldn't have an excuse to get it. I got a real alarm clock and it changed my life. And I'm
reminding you of this principle because I think it's something we have to hear often.
Now one of my favorite teachers,
the Buddhist monk, Tiktok Han,
he talks about how when we're stressed,
we're either thinking about the past
or worrying about the future.
That's where stress comes from.
The degree to which you're living in the past
or the degree to which you're thinking about the future, to that degree we feel stress and anxiety.
Now that definitely happens when you see your notifications first thing in the morning,
someone messages you from the past, someone talks to you about your future, you see
some things happening to your ex, you see something happening to your last boss, you see
something about this new job that you want. You're constantly
putting yourself in the past and the future and not living in the present. Rather than fully
engaging with the morning, rather than setting your tone, you're starting the day with stress
and anxiety. And so many of us are doing every single day. In 2013, AdWink reported that 80% of smartphone users
between the ages of 18 to 44 check their phone first thing
in the morning.
But even more, about 79% of smartphone users
also have their phone on them all,
but just two hours out of the entire day.
This is an important point.
It's so important to not check your phone first
in the morning.
Please, please, please, try and stay away from it.
One of the best ways to stay away from it I found
is to wake up to a song that you like in the morning
so that your mind can be absorbed
and engaged in that song.
Another thing that can do
is to start with a morning soundtrack of a morning meditation. It may be relaxed sounds,
it may be nature sounds, waking up to incredible sounds in the morning can have a beautiful start
to your day. Again, your mind is engaged so it doesn't want to check messages and at the same time
you're hearing something. Again, you can have this on a device in your home,
not your phone, so you can press play,
and this can be the first thing that you hear.
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Another way you can do this is have something else to read.
You may have a book of quotes next to your bed that you pick up first thing in the morning
and you read it quote and after you read that one quote you get up out of bed.
Again you're framing your mind to be positive.
You're framing your mind for energy and you're not draining yourself when
your mind is having to process stress and anxiety in the morning. Imagine how quickly it gets
higher. Imagine how quickly your self-control and energy drop when you allow yourself in
the morning to absorb in stress and anxiety. So I really like it when you wake up in the
morning and read an affirmation or a quote that
you're inspired by.
And the third and final thing that you can try apart from music or sounds or looking at
a quote or an affirmation is gratitude.
As soon as you wake up in the morning, ask yourself, what am I grateful for today?
And answering that question for yourself will put you in a great mood and boost
your system to start the day with maximum energy. I've noticed this, when my phone dies,
it can actually be one of the most beautiful moments in the day and I'm sure you've experienced
that as well. As much as it can cause panic, it actually causes so much space and silence.
Sometimes it's so good to just let your battery die during the day to have these moments.
Me and my wife, whenever we go away together, we make it a point to lock our phones in the
hotel safe.
If you're going on holiday, I highly recommend this.
Put your phones in the hotel safe.
Do not take them out with you.
Go out with a traditional map, a list of restaurants, a list of names, it will improve your relationship.
A genuine, it truly will.
So these are the first steps.
Do not start your day with your phone, right?
That is step one.
Do not start your day with your phone.
Start your day with gratitude.
Start your day with meditation and sounds.
Start your day with affirmations
and quotes.
The second thing, the second step, again, stay with me and I'll explain why.
Do not start your day with email.
This actually came from a conversation I was having with my team recently and I was talking
to my team about time management, being more effective and being able to get more out
of their days. I realized that I've been able to be very productive and effective and I want my team about time management being more effective and being able to get more out of their days.
I realized that I've been able to be very productive and effective and I want my team to feel
the same way and I'm always excited to learn from them and also see what learnings I can share
with them. The crazy thing I found is a lot of my team started their day with emails, so not
only just in the morning but when they got to work. This is what I'm saying, this isn't just for
when you get out of bed, we've established that, but when you actually
get to work, so you get to work at 8.30 a.m. or 9.00 a.m. or maybe even earlier.
And when you start your work day, the worst thing we can do is open up our laptops or phones
and start with email.
It's one of the biggest mistakes and I'll tell you why. We spend around 13 hours
a week on email and unlock our phones 110 times a day. We already know that looking at emails has
been shown to cause stress and we experienced that we don't need to study to tell us that, right?
The second thing, and this is the most important thing, when you start your work day with email,
And this is the most important thing. When you start your work day with email, you're starting your day reactively, rather than
proactively.
You're now completing someone else's to-dos and requests, not your own.
You're now working to someone else's priorities, not yours.
This is the crazy thing. We can spend three hours of our work day
responding to everyone else and not even start on our work, which means we're
behind on what truly matters and what really has an impact. And here's the
crazy thing. Listen to this carefully. This is a study from the Harvard Business
Review of what happens when we look
at our emails and how it affects our brains. One of the things that we know is that it drains
our time. Every time we get interrupted by an email, this is what happens. The tab compels
you towards the inbox and laws you in and you lose 20 minutes at a time. We think it's just a quick
email. We think it's just a quick response. According to a study by the University of
California Irvine, it takes 20 minutes to get distracted, do something, and then come
back to your activity. And then, it actually makes us less smart. A psychiatrist at King's College London University found that fussing with your email leads to
a functional drop of 10 IQ points, which is more than smoking marijuana.
It's incredible what it can do to us.
And of course, we all know this.
It slows us down by a lot.
20 years of psych research shows that switching between tasks
takes up to 40% longer than just taking one task at a time.
And of course, it takes away our ability to concentrate,
it takes away our ability to focus,
it brings down our productivity.
These are the crazy things happening
when we're starting our work day with email
and we get lost in someone else's to-do list. If you don't make
a plan for yourself, you'll be working on someone else's plan. One of my favorite tips at
the start of your workday is to actually turn off your notifications, even turn off
your phone to do any work that you need to get deeply engrossed and absorbed in. See,
if you want to do an activity that really requires your energy, if you want to complete something with focus,
just put your phone away, leave it in another room if you need to get that type of work done.
See, every day is different. You may not have a deeply absorbed task every day, but it's
important that you do it. I'll tell you why, because what we're doing is we're basically
a kid in a candy store, right? we're basically a kid in a candy store.
Right? If you're a kid in a candy store that's trying to stay off candy, your willpower, your
strength is going to last for a little bit of time, but eventually you're going to be worn down.
And this is what happens to us. When we have our phones, devices, notifications on and around us,
we're like a kid in a candy store. You keep pushing and now you're wasting energy
trying to have real power to avoid looking at your phone.
So now you still can't focus because you're now losing energy
and real power on that.
When you're trying to resist something,
that's taking energy too.
Hence, not having it around stops you.
If you're walking down an average street
with no candy stores on it,
then you'll be fine. But as soon as you're standing inside a candy store, it becomes so hard to
resist. One of my favorite habits are an email is really how we use it. We set the standards of
how people talk to us on email by how we talk and respond to them.
This is an important tip.
Be more clear in your email about specific asks and wants.
If you're very clear about who it's related to, if you're very clear about only copying
in people that it truly matters to, if you're very clear at giving people action points,
guess what?
People will do the same to you.
If you're used to sending big emails
with everyone's CC'd and everyone copied in,
then that's what's going to happen back.
It's so important to be clear in your emails
and then people will respect that
and start to change their habits.
I remember when I started to do this in the workplace
specifically with giving actions
to specific people in emails and then I only started to do this in the workplace, specifically with giving actions to specific people in emails.
And then I only started to responding ones where I was given a specific action.
By setting that standard, you're letting people know that you want people to give you
a specific action if you're going to respond or look in an email.
I even started to color code people's actions so that they could easily browse to the part
that was relevant to them.
See, when you take more effort for other people when you're giving tasks, hopefully they'll
get the message and start doing the same for you.
The second thing, set a standard by responding during work hours and it will be respected.
See, if you're responding at all hours, people then think that they can message you at
all hours.
So, you have to set that standard for yourself.
And you can actually turn off your notifications
and let people know that if something is truly urgent,
that they can send you a message in other way.
And it's so important to set these rules for specific people.
To say to your manager or say to your boss,
look, if it's really urgent, you can text me.
Right? If it's really this, you can do this.
And if you start setting these rules,
you can now be accessed when and where you need to.
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Step number three about your focus in the morning.
Set your priorities the night before.
Prioritize your goals the night before.
The downtime will leave room for insights
to come into your mind, right?
As soon as you download emails or start looking at messages
or whatever it is, your mind is now filled up
with overwhelming information
and all these other objectives.
But if you start by looking at everyone else's,
that's where you get distracted.
By building this space, you can start getting your own work done
and prioritizing creativity.
So the way to prioritize your goals
is have one big goal a week
and three small things every day.
See, we usually get it wrong. What we try and do is we try and do and three small things every day.
See, we usually get it wrong.
What we try and do is we try and do lots of big things every day.
We have 10 huge things and then we feel demoralized.
Whereas if you have weekly goals and three steps a day
to get to that weekly goal, you're going to feel inspired.
Because guess what, one day you may only do one small thing,
the other day you may do five small things,
the other day you do two, and it averages out at three,
and that way you achieve the weekly goal.
It's so much smarter to set weekly, monthly,
and 90 day goals that you break down on a day-to-day basis
than to set daily goals.
Step number four is a question meditation.
This is one of the challenges with meditation.
Often we meditate to find the answer.
Often we meditate and stay fixated on the answer. Why don't I know this? Why is it not coming to my mind? Why don't I understand?
How many times have you ever forgotten something in a conversation and then all you're plagued with is researching that on the internet,
searching it on Google and trying to find the name of that person that you once knew, or trying to find the name of that movie or song or whatever it may be.
So often in our lives, we get fixated with the answer. We're always wondering what the solution is.
What I love about question meditations is that it makes us a student for the rest of the day.
When we sit there quietly for 10 minutes and ask the question repetitively,
we repeat that question to ourselves,
a question like, what can I learn from this?
Who do I want to be today?
How can I show more love today?
What is it that I really need to do at work to perform better?
What is it that I really want to achieve in my relationship? Instead of putting all our emphasis on the answer, when we ask the question, that question goes
into our consciousness, and then throughout the day, we can let the day teach us. The day becomes
our lessons. Moments in the day give us our answers. We start to discover through the day,
rather than force the answer. Question meditations are one of my favorite things
that I learned as a monk, and I'd love for you
to try these out.
Pick a question every day or every week
and ask yourself that question.
Sit alone for 10 minutes a day,
ask that question to yourself, and see what comes from it.
Lesson number five, set an intention for the day. Now, what I mean by
this is I actually sit down in the morning and often I'll visualize the meetings, the
presentations, the podcasts, the videos that I'm going to make that day. And what I visualize
is not how I want it to be, but how I want to be in that situation. So if I have a really
tough meeting coming up, I'll visualize myself being composed and focused
and prepared for that meeting.
If I have a big presentation coming up,
I'll visualize myself being centered and insightful for that.
If I have a big conversation or connection coming up,
I'll visualize myself being of service.
And that's one of my biggest intentions is how can I serve?
How can I make a difference?
How can I make an impact?
How can I help others?
But I visualize it specifically to that day.
Visualization is something used by everyone from Lewis Hamilton when he's driving his
Formula One race car or from football players, from everyone from Cristiano Ronaldo to David
Beckham,
visualizing free kicks.
And when you're visualizing, you're not just visualizing the result.
You're visualizing the process that you are focused on.
You want to choose one word, you want to embody it.
It might be courage, it might be confidence.
Who do you want to be in your day is what you want to visualize? Maybe it's
being kind, maybe it's being love, maybe it's being joy, maybe it's being energy. When
you set that intention, when you make it a visualization, and when you embody that
word, you'll see that play out in your reality. When you're in that tough, difficult discussion,
you'll still be kind. When you're in that pressured situation, you'll still be courageous. When you're in that
big meeting or presentation, you'll still be confident. Start your day with a three
to five minute intention visualization and embodiment of a word and emotion, and you'll
see yourself practice it. One of my favorite tips, it's so simple and so easy to do.
And step number six, try start your day with kindness.
Usually the morning is a selfish time.
We're thinking about what can we do for ourselves,
what have we got to do,
or we've just think about,
obviously you're doing it for your kids,
so you already have kindness there,
but if you do that with kindness,
see if you're doing it through pressure,
making breakfast, making lunch, if you're doing it on stress out of rush, it actually creates the wrong focus in your day.
Usually in the morning, we are helping others, but it's out of stress, pressure, and being strapped for time.
Planning that time a little bit better changes everything. When we help others and do kind acts,
it causes our brain to release endorphins. The chemicals that give us a feeling of high spirits and energy, it's compared to a runner's
high.
Doing something nice for someone else also gives the brain a serotonin boost.
The chemical that gives us the feeling of satisfaction and well-being.
This isn't just the act of cooking breakfast or giving in charity, it's about doing it in
a kind motivation, a kind driver.
That's gonna boost your health and well-being
and give you the perfect start to the day.
So those are six steps that you can use
to start your day that can transform the day ahead.
It will help you keep self-control and energy
and they're nice and simple
so that you can start practicing them from tomorrow.
What I want you to do is just choose one that you want to experiment with. Choose just one out of
the six that I've shared and try it out for the next week. Share with me these insights on Instagram,
Twitter, Facebook, wherever you're live and I'm always looking out and I'm always reading through
what you're learning from these episodes. Make sure you go back and listen to the incredible episode we had with Dr. Oz this Monday.
It was absolutely phenomenal and a really popular episode.
And I can't wait for you to hear next week's one. I'll see you there.
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