On Purpose with Jay Shetty - 7 Ways Successful People Stay Calm at Work and Manage Stress More Effectively
Episode Date: August 2, 2019We are all dealing with stress in our lives one way or another. Remember, it’s not the load that breaks you down it’s the way you carry it. In today’s episode of On Purpose, we analyze how str...ess really works in our lives, when feeling stressed out can be a good thing, and 7 ways to manage it more effectively. If you’re ready to learn how to keep your cool at work and in life give this episode a listen!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
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Chocolate comes from the cacao tree and recently, variety of cacao, thought to have been lost
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He literally said those words.
He said, I don't know how far you think this social media stuff is going to go, but just
so you know, you're not going anywhere
and I own you.
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So today's podcast is called Seven Ways Successful People Stay Calm at Work and Manage Stress
More Effectively.
How many of you are experiencing stress or pressure on a daily basis because of your workplace,
because of your work pressures, because of the
challenges that you're set out by your bosses and managers. And how many of
you are wondering how people stay calm? Because you see people who are calm, who
are successful, who are focused, despite having the same amount of time in the
day, despite having the same amount of pressure at you, what are they doing differently? And for a long time, I realized and studied what people were doing right.
And what was different about the way that they functioned. And everything I'm about to
share with you today is tried and tested. See, everything I share every single week is
totally tried and tested. It's things that I've experienced personally, things I've witnessed personally, and things that I've observed in people who have functioned with happiness
and success in their lives. And so what I'm going to share with you today are things that
you can actually test, actually experiment with, and I really hope that you're going to find
one thing. Just one thing out of the seven that I want you to try this week. So here we go,
and we're going to dive into these seven ways, successful people, stay calm at work and manage
stress more effectively. I want you to listen carefully. I want you to listen closely.
Thank you for being present. Thank you so much for your attention.
Lou Holt stated, it's not the load that breaks you down, it's the way you carry it.
Right, we've all experienced that before, it's not the load that breaks us down because
we see people carrying heavier loads, we see people carrying loads, we see people doing
so much, but it's about the way we carry it.
And often we worry so much about lightening the load rather than how we carry it.
So much of our life and time and energy gets spent on trying to think, how do I make my
life less stressful?
How do I carry less load?
And when we do that, then we think, well, where am I going?
Like I want to find direction and where's my passion and where's my purpose?
And now I need it all again.
So today's podcast, I'm really focusing on how we carry the load,
because that's really what makes the difference.
So many of us are wasting our time trying to figure out
how to lower the load and lighten the load,
both of which are important,
but the real emphasis, the real focus,
needs to be on how we're carrying the load.
Because guess what?
Any meaningful pursuit will always
require pressure. Any purposeful objective will always have a little bit of stress. Any
great achievement that's been made in the world had stress and pressure as key ingredients.
But it was the way that it was carried that made all the difference. When
we carry stress effectively, when we manage stress rather than let it manage us, that's
when we can create a successful and happy life. So, stress is something we all experience,
but the way we manage handle and deal it, makes the biggest impact on our mental and
physical well-being. Now, I really have to share this with you.
Research shows each of us is managing around 60 projects at any given time. Now, hopefully
you have a lot less than that. I can't believe it. the average is most of us are juggling around 60 to
66 projects at any given time in our personal and professional lives. If it feels like more
affiliate pain, if it feels like less, then feel good. I've heard it right. It's something
to be grateful for. Now, this is true too. And I'm sure you experience this every day. We're
interrupted seven times every hour and feel distracted for about two hours a day.
Right interruptions in the form of notifications, someone coming over to our desk, right,
needing to drink some water, whatever it may be, we're distracted up to seven times every
hour. And for some of us, it's so much more than that. And that distraction not only distracts us
from getting our work done,
but it creates an irritation, right?
It creates a friction in our lives
that we then have to work through as well
that creates more stress on top of the work we have.
And then we feel distracted for about two hours a day.
This is because we're trying to make up for that time.
You're trying to decompress from the conversation you had.
You're trying to process something else.
Now, think about this for a moment.
What are your greatest causes of stress?
According to the 2015 Stress in America Survey,
the top four sources of stress are money, work,
family responsibilities, and health concerns.
I'm sure you're probably the same money we're always worrying about.
Do we have enough money?
Do we have enough money for the future?
Do we have enough money for my family?
Work.
Am I going to get promoted?
Wow, that person treats me really badly.
I'm not connecting well with my coworkers, family responsibilities.
Oh my God, I've got to take the kids to soccer practice.
And I've got to take them to their birthday parties on the weekend and then health concerns.
Am I getting enough time for myself?
So these are the four top areas of stress.
And I'm sure they sound extremely familiar.
And most of our stress comes from major life transitions and events like divorce,
financial setbacks, death, but even positive moments like weddings and promotions and
new relationships can be a source of stress often. At work are most common cause of stress.
Guess what it is. 35% of people say it's their boss.
Now I remember when I started working in the corporate world, I was just getting into
the swing of demonstrating my skills and passions. So because I started my career fairly
lay on, I actually had a high self awareness of what I wanted to demonstrate as my talents
and skills. And I remember I started demonstrating them and my organization was starting to notice
and starting to reward that and starting to encourage me to
demonstrate that. But the manager I worked with at that
particular time was not someone who wanted to support
and encourage that. And when I say that, this is kind of how
it went. Actually, this is exactly how it went.
One manager wanted me to remain in a role
I did not want to be in.
And actually, that I was being headhunted from
to move into a different role in the same company.
And when he found out about that,
he literally said to me,
I don't know how far you think this social media stuff
is going to go, but just so you
know, you're not going anywhere and I own you.
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Not too long ago in the heart of the Amazon Rainforest, this explorer stumbled upon something
that would change his life.
I saw it and I saw, oh wow, this is a very unusual situation.
It was cacao, the tree that gives us chocolate.
But this cacao was unlike anything experts had seen, or tasted.
I've never wanted us to have a gun fight.
I mean, you saw this tax of cash in our office.
Chocolate sort of forms this vortex.
It sucks you in.
It's like I can be the queen of wild chocolate.
We're all lost.
It was madness.
It was a game changer.
People quit their jobs.
They left their lives behind, so they could search for more
of this stuff.
I wanted to tell their stories, so I followed them deep
into the jungle, and it wasn't always pretty.
Basically, this like disgruntled guy and his family
surrounded the building armed with machetes.
And we've heard all sorts of things that, you know, somebody got shot over this.
Sometimes I think all this for a damn bar of chocolate.
Listen to obsessions, wild chocolate.
On the I Heart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcast.
Right, he literally said those words. or wherever you get your podcast. What's your favorite word? What's your favorite word? What's your favorite word?
Right, he literally said those words. He said, I don't know how far you think
this social media stuff is going to go,
but just so you know, you're not going anywhere
and I own you.
He literally said that to me.
The crazy thing is, the next day,
I moved from that role anyway due to higher authorities
and I've never spoken to him again. But I remember feeling that pressure and stress in the moment of the fact that a senior person
in the organization did not want to support me, did not want to notice the talent I had,
did not want to help me bring out the best in me and literally said that they own me.
Now, when I heard those words, the first thing naturally that the mind does is feel scared
or feel fear.
And then I realized when you look at that reality,
he doesn't own me.
Really, whatever he thinks may affect me temporarily,
but he can't affect me forever.
Now, we have to be careful about this.
Your mind believes everything you tell it
and everything you let
others tell it. Give it love. See, your mind believes everything you tell it and everything
you let others tell it. So if you let someone tell you that they own you and you accept
that or you become fearful of scared of that, your mind is now accepting that as reality
and what you're scared of is a false reality. Right, what you're scared of is the potential
that someone says they own you,
and you're not believing that for real,
because the truth is that can never be the case.
No one owns you.
And you're not truly dependent on anyone or anything,
even if you desperately believe it.
At that time in my life,
I felt I was dependent on that job,
but I knew I was coaching my mind
out of that process of believing.
I'm not owned by anyone,
I'm not dependent on anyone, I'm only dependent on myself. And it's so important that we understand
this. We can so get lost in this world of feeling that we're dependent, feeling that we need someone
to fulfill us, pay us, and that they're the only way it's going to happen. And that's just not true. Now, when I moved on because of higher authorities, and like I said,
I've never spoken to him again, and if I was to speak to him again, I wouldn't do it with any
bit of this or any anger I would actually thank him because it's taught me this lesson that I'm
sharing with you today. So, this is kind of how it goes. 76% of people say workplace stress negatively affects
their relationship at home.
66% have lost sleep due to work stress
and 16% have quit their jobs.
But let's really analyze stress
and look at how stress works.
Now, I'm sure that even in your life,
I was talking about successful people before
and I'll go back to that, but even in your life
and your successful too, because you're listening here, you're committing
to growth and you're learning.
Like, that shows me that you're someone who's wanting to improve and grow, which is the
greatest success in life.
I'm sure that stress has been a key element in your greatest achievements.
If you reflect on happy times or success moments, I'm sure that there's a little stress
involved.
Even if you're trying to make someone's day or put on the best birthday party of all
time or serve someone that you love, there's always a little bit of stress and pressure.
Now there's definitely an upside to experiencing stress.
When we experience intermittent levels of stress, it can actually increase our attention, our focus, our passion,
our interest and performance.
So actually intermittent stress can actually cause you to become more effective and productive
and creative.
This is something we don't give stress enough credit for.
When we're put under deadlines, time pressures, some sort of time crunch and it's intermittent,
right?
I mean, it's not continuous.
That can actually spur us on and boost us to actually perform above and beyond what
we experience.
I had a mentor that always used to tell me, Jay, when you're in your greatest pain, that's when you'll realize your potential.
And I'd always say to him, no, I'm proactive. I'm always focused. I'm always working
hard. I don't need pain to spur me on. And then when I got to this place a couple of years
ago, where I was literally four months away from being broke and I didn't know where to
go next and where to start. That actually brought
out the best of me. I never realized how truly organized, focused, hard working that I
could be until I was put under that pressure. Now, we don't need to wait for that or we
don't need to create that, right? We don't need to wait for pain or create pain. We can just be proactive in our growth
because pain will come of its own accord.
But when the pain of staying the same
becomes greater than the pain of change,
we have to change, right?
When the pain of staying the same
is greater than the pain of change,
we have to change.
So these intermittent levels of stress,
they actually boost us to grow.
But if this stress becomes continuous,
if this stress becomes long-lasting,
that's when we go down from the tipping point
and we start going into depression, anxiety,
disappointment, you know, degradation,
like where our life starts to fall apart, burnout becomes much more common. depression, anxiety, disappointment, degradation,
where our life starts to fall apart, burnout becomes much more common.
When stress becomes continuous, it can lead to meltdown.
The key is to manage our stress and not be controlled by stress.
How can we balance that stress by having enough to push us forward, but not too much
that it pushes us over the edge.
It's almost like trying to climb up a mountain, but making sure that the momentum you're rushing
up at the mountain doesn't mean that you're going to fall off the edge when you get to
the top.
So you're always monitoring where you're at.
And I can genuinely say in the last two years, I've consistently been monitoring this for myself. And I know that anytime I've
even been close to feeling that burnout or meltdown or any of that could be a possibility,
I've been careful and conscious of being aware to pull myself back. And this is what I want
for all of you, because this is how the most happy, successful people in the world are using
stress to their advantage,
enough to gain momentum, enough to push forward,
but not enough to push you over the edge.
Right? So here are the seven ways,
successful people stay calm at work
and manage stress more effectively.
The first one is something that you may have heard before,
but I want you to put your ego aside and
I want you to listen carefully.
Focus on what you can control, not what you can't control.
Our biggest cause of stress is when we feel things are out of control.
The crazy thing about that feeling is a lot of stuff is out of our control.
And when you focus on that, you increase your stress because you'll never be able to
control it.
This emotion activates the stress hormone, and if consistent can decrease our focus, confidence
and our energy.
Now Stephen Covey famously talked about the circle of influence versus the circle of concern
in his incredible book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. Now we spend most of our lives in the circle of concern in his incredible book, The Seven Habits of
Highly Effective People.
Now we spend most of our lives in the circle of concern.
These are things we can't control, like the weather, the manager we're given at work,
work changes in hierarchy.
Right, those are things that we can't control.
When we talk about these things, when we think about these things, when we discuss these
things, we end up feeling
more stressed because you don't get more control by talking about them more. But actually,
when we live in the circle of influence, that's where all the impact is. Our performance,
our network at work, our understanding of key skills required, our speed at learning
a new skill, these are things
that we can control. And these are the things we give the least energy and time to in the
workplace. The most successful people in the workplace are reducing their stress by
focusing on what they can control. When we say focus, it means talking about thinking
about discussing, sharing, learning. If you're constantly focused on what you can't control,
that will constantly take away your energy.
Now, when I was in an organization,
I couldn't control that there were 1,000 people
at the same level in my company.
And we were ranked against those thousand people
every single year.
So you would literally be ranked
from one to a thousand against those people.
A certain percentage would get promoted.
A certain percentage would be asked to leave,
and the majority of people just stayed in the middle.
Now, when I started working,
which was at 26 years old after I lived as a monk,
most of the people that I worked with were younger than me.
I couldn't control that.
I couldn't control the fact that most people were 21,
just coming out of college, fresh faced, young,
enthusiastic, more time on their hands, and all their lives
to live ahead of them.
And I was five years behind if that's how I saw it.
Now, what I realized is, what I couldn't control
was that I was five years older.
What I couldn't control is that there were a thousand people.
What I couldn't control is that everyone was younger than me.
But what I could control is that I could use my age, my experience, and all of the learnings and skills I had to my advantage.
I could use my age as a maturity. I could use the experiences I'd had to demonstrate different skills.
And this is when I started to realize
everything I couldn't control,
could actually make me feel like my career
was never going to work out,
that everything was going to fall apart,
that nothing was going to work for me.
But actually, everything I could control
could make all the difference.
And I invested in that.
I focused on my performance. I focused invested in that. I focused on my performance.
I focused on my relationships.
I focused on learning.
I focused on being enthusiastic and energetic.
I focused on building my presence.
And when I did all of those things,
it made all the difference.
Now, step number two,
this is something that we underestimate and we usually ignore.
Think ahead and expect change.
The silliest thing we can do is not expect change.
Organizations will change, hierarchies will change, structures will change, managers will
change, teams will change, work will change.
One of the biggest reasons why change surprises us
is that surprisingly we don't expect it, right?
One of the biggest reasons why change surprises us
is that surprisingly we don't expect it,
which makes zero sense.
Change is inevitable.
Change is the only thing that's constant.
Yet, we expect things to stay the same. Our desire for things
to stay the same is a cause for stress. When you want anything to stay the same, you're
creating stress in your life because guess what, nothing stays the same. Even your body
is constantly changing, your mind is constantly changing, your constantly growing, the cells
are changing, everything about you is changing.
Our desire for things to stay the same is probably one of the root causes of our suffering because nothing stays the same. When you accept that, when you think ahead and you expect change
and you are constantly changing and growing and learning, you master the ability
to be comfortable with change. Now, one of the places where I experienced change effectively
in my life was, in the same year, this was 2016, I changed job three times. I moved country. I got married. I bought a home, put it on rent,
moved into another apartment, all in the same country. Now, I've heard that you should never
get married, move, and have a child in the same year. So I did two out of those three
in the same year and more with my work and career as well. And changing that often actually made me so open to change.
It made me so comfortable with change
because when I could change so many things
in the same year and still be alive,
I realized that change was beautiful
and change brought about so much good.
Our fear of change blocks us from our greatest potential.
And actually accepting and embracing change can be the most
amazing thing. So, change is inevitable, it's natural, it's normal, but we get so complacent,
casual and stagnant that we think nothing will change. Or we get attached to the familiar
sense of things staying the same. Now, when you think ahead and you plan for change and prepare,
that makes a difference. I always say when things are going well,
that's when you work harder and smarter.
That's when you go deeper.
When you do that, you're always prepared.
Someone came up to me at a party the other day
and was telling me that they've recently stopped meditating
because things are fine now, right?
She was telling me that she stopped meditating
because things are good now. And? She was telling me that she's stopped meditating because things are good
now. And my response to her was, no, this is the time to meditate more to make sure that
good stays. Right? So when we get promoted at work, or we get to a good position at work,
we get complacent, we take the foot of the pedal. Now, it's normal to become a little bit more
relaxed. It's normal to take more breaks. That's all great to become more Sustainable, but what is important that you're still learning? You're still growing, right?
So this is the point that this is the time to continue to go deeper. Now, I found this so useful
Consistently expecting change knowing things won't stay the same. I remember
earlier this year and later last year when the social media algorithms were performing well.
And I went all into creating content that I wanted to serve you and make a difference.
And when the algorithms turned bad, when most people stopped, I mean they really went bad, right?
Like I went from having all of this engagement, all these amazing comments and all of these views to getting less.
I kept going, why? Because I wanted to help people,
but also I realized that all the hard work I'd put in
would sustain me.
And that's what I've realized.
That life is like an algorithm.
The algorithm will sometimes be in your favor
and sometimes it won't.
And you have a choice.
When it's in your favor, you can go all in and work harder,
or you can get complacent.
And if you get complacent when it's working for you,
then guess what?
When it doesn't work for you, it's going to be really, really hard.
Right?
So that's where you have to work harder.
Think ahead, expect change when things are going well.
Now, number three, this is probably something
you're told a lot in the workplace.
And it's often something that we hear so often that we don't
even do it properly. And it's your network is your network, right? And the workplace is an entrepreneur,
whatever it is, your relationships are the most important thing. And everyone will tell you that
workplace is about what not what you know, but who you know, but we really get to know people beyond
our team and our manager. And it's so vital we spend time connecting
and understanding other areas of the business,
expanding our knowledge and also becoming embedded
into the larger organization.
Now I did this.
I literally pretty much knew ever in my company
because I made an effort to reach out,
have juices, have coffees with them.
And these were not superficial reach outs,
but people I genuinely wanted to connect with
because of their background,
something we had in common.
And this is the benefit,
and I think people forget this.
The reason why we have stress in the workplace
is we think we have no options.
And when I say options, I mean,
inside and outside of the company,
when you know that there's a demand for you inside
and outside of the company,
because of your relationships,
you reduce your stress, because you your relationships, you reduce your stress.
Because you now realize that you're not dependent. The point I was making earlier, the
moment you feel you're dependent, you're stressing creases. Because now you think this
one person and this one place is the only place I'll get work. But when you know there are
other options and you've explored them, you feel much more confident. Now, number four, and I've alluded to it slightly,
but I mean this so much, keep learning and make yourself more valuable. Do you need to
learn cryptocurrency? Do you need to learn about virtual reality or augmented reality?
What's happening in your industry? What are the conversations that are happening in your
industry and parallel industries that could disrupt it?
Are you aware of those conversations?
This will also boost your confidence and reduce stress.
See, when you can listen to a conversation and add more value based on your external
reading or your external learning, or even if it's learning about how to coach people,
how to lead people, it could be insights from this podcast that you could share in conversations
that's going to make you feel more valued
It's also going to make you more valuable
One of the reasons why we stress in the workplace is we fall behind in learning
We think that our degree was enough learning
We think that our job is enough
But actually it's those of us that have consistent continuous consistent learning in our lives that makes all the difference.
Tip number five, focus then free method. This is the method I call the focus free method.
And this is to overcome that two hours of distraction and being interrupted every seven minutes.
You should create work chunks in around 60 to 90 minute bursts of focus and then have
around 10 to 15 minutes free time. When you do that, you're building in the disruption,
you're building in the distraction and this is for your personal organization. Plan your work,
there's 69, 60 to 90 minute bursts of focus and then free. So focus free method. How do you
switch from being focused and then free, giving yourself space to decompress,
to reflect, to process what you've been doing,
and then go back into that work?
This is a method I've used constantly
in how I plan my days, and how I function in my work.
That focused effort lets you go deeper quicker
and get more done effectively,
and then you get to get a break to decompress,
process, and reflect.
Principle number six, we have to remove self-imposed stress,
again going back to what you can control.
You can't control someone else, but you can control self-imposed stress.
If you think stress is bad, guess what?
When you experience stress, which is natural, we automatically
put ourselves into panic mode. But if you see stress as something that you can use positively,
you can allow it to help you be focused and change its experience. Attitudes and perceptions
towards stress actually change the way stress affects you. Your relationship
with stress defines how stress affects you. If you see stress as bad and negative, your
experience of it will be bad and negative. If your feeling towards stress is positive
and that you can use and engage it and that it can make you focused and attentive, then that's what it will do.
So for example, if your television set is stolen
and you take the attitude,
it's okay, my insurance company will pay for a new one.
You'll be far less stressed than if you think,
oh my God, my TV is gone, I'm never gonna get it back.
How bad, what if the thieves come back to my house and steal again?
Similarly, people who feel like they're doing a good job at work
will feel less stressed out doing a good job at work will fall less stressed
out by a big upcoming project than those who worry that they're incompetent.
You can use your stress to learn about something you don't know, or you can use your stress
to make you feel terrible and drag you down low.
It's your choice.
It's your choice to decide your relationship with stress.
You've got to look at stress as something that can boost you and be positive and that
you can use and then know when to move that stress away at the weekend.
You can't have a stressful work life and a stressful social life.
You have to realize that everything goes in phases and needs to balance each other
out and simplify.
If you have a busy five days of work, planner relaxing weekend.
If you have a simplified five days of work,
planner wonderful weekend.
Learn to live in that dynamic balance.
And the seventh way,
successful people case stay calm in the workplace is breathe.
Breathing is something I do throughout the day and you may say, of course, we all breathe, but I mean intentionally breathe.
Breathing is linked to every major emotion. When you stress your breathing changes,
when you cry your breathing changes, when you're happy your breath changes.
The best breath for calm in the workplace and you can do this at your
desk in the back of a lift or an Uber in a meeting and not even notice because you don't
have to close your eyes. Breathe in for account of four and breathe out for account of more
than four. In your own time at your own pace, breathe in a count of one, two, three, four, and breathe out for a count
of more than four. One, two, three, four, five, six. No force, no pressure in your own time
In your own time, at your own pace, when you exhale for longer than you inhale and you elongate that exhale, you're relaxing and destressing your body.
You can do this anywhere and at any time.
I do it just before I walk on to stage when I'm about to give a presentation.
I do it in the back of an Uber before a meeting.
I do this at my desk while I'm typing.
I can do this at any time.
Use your breath as your partner to help you calm, relax,
balance, find peace and ease.
Don't underestimate your breath.
It's connected to every one of your emotions.
Those were the seven ways successful people stay calm at work and manage stress more effectively.
I hope that you learned from this podcast. I hope that you're going to take just one of the insights
for the next week and practice it at work and see how it changes your experience.
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