Passion Struck with John R. Miles - 5 Lessons I Learned From Surviving Hurricane Helene w/John R. Miles EP 516

Episode Date: October 4, 2024

In this deeply personal episode of Passion Struck, I share my harrowing experience of losing my home to Hurricane Helene. I reflect on the fragility of life and the unexpected devastation that can occur in an instant. Through vivid storytelling, I recount the overwhelming emotions of shock, grief, and fear as I returned to find my home unrecognizable and filled with water and debris.As I navigate the path to rebuilding, I encourage you to reflect on your own life and consider how you can incorporate gratitude, adaptability, and strength into your daily routine. This episode serves as a poignant reminder of the importance of community and the resilience of the human spirit in the face of life's challenges.Link to the full show notes:   https://passionstruck.com/5-lessons-i-learned-surviving-hurricane-helene/In this episode, you will learn:The fragility of life and the unexpected nature of disasters are illustrated by the experience of Hurricane Helene.The importance of community support during times of crisis and how friends can provide emotional and physical assistance.The realization that material possessions do not define self-worth but by one's character and relationships.The strength of the human spirit and the ability to endure and adapt in the face of adversity.The necessity of adaptability when faced with life changes and the importance of embracing new realities.The transformative power of gratitude, even amidst loss, and how it can shift perspective towards what truly matters.The opportunity for personal growth and rebuilding after experiencing total loss, both physically and emotionally.Sponsors:Babbel: Master a new language with Babbel’s comprehensive learning system. Get 60% off at babbel.com/PASSION.Hims: Start your journey to regrowing hair with Hims. Get your free online visit at hims.com/PASSIONSTRUCK.Quince: Discover luxury at affordable prices with Quince. Enjoy free shipping and 365-day returns at quince.com/PASSION.For more information on advertisers and promo codes, visit Passion Struck Deals.Special Announcement:Join us for the Passion Struck 50-Week Challenge! This year-long journey is designed to help you unlock personal growth, fulfillment, and self-discovery through weekly challenges that push your boundaries and enhance every aspect of your life. Join a supportive community, benefit from expert guidance, and start your transformative journey today. Learn more and sign up here.Tune In:If you found this episode insightful, please share it with others who might benefit from these powerful lessons. Don’t forget to join the conversation on social media using the hashtag #PassionStruck and connect with John R. Miles on Twitter and Instagram at @John_RMiles.Catch More of Passion Struck:Check My solo episode on 7 Reasons Why Acts of Kindness Are More than Meets the EyeCatch My Episode with Katy Milkman on How We Create Lasting Change In Our LivesWatch my solo episode on How Your Environment Influences Who You BecomeCan't miss my episode with Jeffrey C. Walker On The Criticality of Collaboration in Systems ChangeMy episode on Bridging Divides Through Love and KindnessIf you liked the show, please leave us a review—it only takes a moment and helps us reach more people! Don’t forget to include your Twitter or Instagram handle so we can thank you personally.How to Connect with John:Connect with John on Twitter at @John_RMiles and on Instagram at @John_R_Miles. Subscribe to our main YouTube Channel here and to our YouTube Clips Channel here. For more insights and resources, visit John’s website.Want to explore where you stand on the path to becoming Passion Struck? Take our 20-question quiz on Passionstruck.com and find out today!

Coming up next on Passion Struck, you never really think it will happen to you. You see the images on the news, homes destroyed by hurricanes, lives upended. And you think that could never be us. But when Hurricane Helene hit, I came back to a home that was no longer recognizable. And in that moment, I realized how fragile everything we build can be. Welcome to Passion Struck. Hi, I'm your host, John R. Miles, and on the show, we decipher the secrets, tips, and guidance of the world's most inspiring people and turn their wisdom into practical advice for you and those around you. Our mission is to help you unlock the power of intentionality so that you can become the

best version of yourself. If you're new to the show, I offer advice and answer listener questions on Fridays. We have long form interviews the rest of the week with guests ranging from astronauts to authors, CEOs, creators, innovators, scientists, military leaders, visionaries, and athletes. Now, let's go out there and become Passion Struck. Hey Passion Struck fam, I'm welcoming you back for episode 516 of the Passionstruck podcast.

But today's episode is different. This week, we're diving into something deeply personal for me, something that shook my life to its core. Before we dive into it, I want to take a moment to thank you for tuning in earlier this week. I had two incredible conversations with Diego Perez, better known as Young Pueblo, where we explored the transformative power of intention, and with Dr. Jessica Kriegel, who shared expert strategies on how to build intentional workplace cultures that thrive. If you haven't listened to those episodes yet, I highly encourage you to check them out. Now, let's talk about what I'm sharing with you today. I was really questioning what I should do this

Friday episode on, whether I should keep it into a normal one like I always do, or if I should explore the raw emotions that I'm feeling. I decided to go with the latter. So here goes. We've all seen the images, the photos of flooded streets, homes destroyed, families picking through the wreckage of their lives. I've scrolled them on social media myself, seen the news reports, and like so many others, I felt sympathy for the people going through it. But there was always a part of me that thought, that will never happen to me. Living in Tampa Bay, Florida, sure, hurricanes are a part of life here. I always thought we're far enough inland that we've never expected the worst.

We had weathered storms before. Over the years, we'd gotten used to boarding up windows, stocking up on supplies, and waiting for the winds and the rain to pass. I had a generator. It had become routine. What was there to fear? When Hurricane Helene was forecasted to be over 120 miles away, I didn't think much of it.

Like so many times before, I figured we'd be fine. We prepared, but not in a panic. I mean, why would we? Then came the mandatory evacuation order. I remember thinking it felt unnecessary. The storm wasn't supposed to hit us directly, but there was something different about this one, something unsettling that I couldn't shake.

So we packed up some essentials, secured the house, rented a hotel room, waterproofed where we could, and left, thinking it was better to be safe than sorry. Thank God we left when we did. Helene brought with it eight foot storm surge, and within hours, three feet of water had rushed into our home. By the time we returned our house,

the place we'd built our lives was underwater. Everything we owned had been destroyed. In the blink of an eye, everything was gone. ["The Last Supper"] eye, everything was gone. Coming back to our home was like stepping into a nightmare. I'll never forget the moment we pulled into our neighborhood, only to find the streets we knew so well turned into rivers. The water had risen so high that houses were half submerged, and it was hard to even recognize

where we were. When we finally reached our house, the sight of it nearly broke me. The front yard was littered with debris from who knows where. Pieces of outside furniture, clothing, and what was left of some of our belongings floated in the murky water. Everything was soaked, ruined. I could barely comprehend what I was seeing. Walking through the front door was like entering another world. The smell hit me first. The smell of dampness and rot. The stench of everything decomposing right before my eyes. Our furniture was overturned, bloating, or sunk in the water.

The walls were swollen, soggy with water, and the floors were covered in mud and debris. What used to be our living room, the heart of our home, was now a disaster zone. Everything was destroyed. I couldn't believe it. There was no way to prepare for that kind of devastation. It's like being in war. You stand there looking at the wreckage and think, how could this possibly be happening to us? At that moment, standing in the middle of our wrecked house, I felt utterly overwhelmed. It wasn't just the loss of things. It was the loss of our life as we knew it. Our home had always been a place of comfort, safety, and love. And now it was ruined, reduced to a waterlogged mess.

For the first few hours after we saw the damage, I was in shock. I walked through each room, unable to process what I was seeing. Each space held so many memories, and now all those memories felt soaked and destroyed, along with the furniture and walls. The kitchen, where we had cooked countless meals together, was unrecognizable. The living room, once filled with laughter and love, was now filled with muddy water.

The bedrooms, where we had found comfort and peace, were a wreck. Our belongings ruined beyond repair. At first, I felt numb, but then grief hit me like a wave. I found myself mourning not just the big things, like furniture or appliances, but the little things I never thought I'd miss. Our favorite coffee mugs, the knickknacks that we've had throughout the house, the framed photos sitting on coffee tables, our keepsake box of memories we had shared together, the kids' school projects, pictures, and artwork now destroyed.

These weren't just objects. They were pieces of our lives, symbols of the life we had built, and they were gone. People often say, it's just stuff. And logically, I know they're right. But when you're standing in the middle of what used to be your home, surrounded by the remnants of your life, it feels like much more than just stuff. It feels like you are losing a part of yourself. The grief wasn't just about the loss of possessions. It was about the loss of normalcy, the loss of everything that makes us feel safe. And

then came the fear. How were we supposed to move forward from this? How do you rebuild when everything you've built is destroyed? The path forward felt overwhelming. It still does. Every step we took revealed more destruction, more uncertainty, more fear of what lay ahead. But here's the thing. In the midst of that darkness, something incredible happened. Our friends showed up.

People I hadn't spoken to in months. Some of them facing their own post storm challenges dropped everything to help us. They came with boxes, trash bags, shop vacs, power cords, tools, and hands ready to work. Together, we started packing up what little could be salvaged, moving our waterlogged belongings out in the front yard in the pod we had rented. Our yard, once so peaceful and familiar, now looked like a war zone. Piles of debris scattered everywhere. Furniture, clothing, personal items all ruined. Looters driving by trying to pick up what they could. But we weren't alone. Our friends were right there beside us, helping us carry the heavy soaked pieces of our lives out of the house. Without them, honestly, I don't know how we would

have managed. They didn't just help physically. They cared for us in ways I didn't even realize we needed. They ordered food when we were too exhausted to even think about eating. They made sure we stayed hydrated, reminding us to take breaks when it all felt too overwhelming. They sat with us during the quiet moments, just letting us cry, vent, or sit in silence. In those dark hours, their kindness gave us hope. It's in moments like these that you truly understand the power of community. Our friends showed up when we needed them most,

and their support carried us through these painful days. They reminded us that even though we had lost everything, we still had each other, and that made all the difference. As we slowly started to pick up the pieces and rebuild, I realized that while we had lost so much, we had also gained something invaluable, perspective. Here are five important lessons I learned from this experience. First, your self-worth isn't defined by what you own.

When everything you own is destroyed, you're forced to confront what truly matters. It's easy to tie your self-worth to your home, your possessions, your achievements. But when those things are taken away, you realize that your value isn't in the things you own, it's in who you are. Our identity is not the house we lived in or the objects we surrounded ourselves with. It's in our character, our relationships, and our ability to adapt in the face of adversity.

Ask yourself, what are you holding onto that defines you? Are you valuing yourself based on things you can lose? Because when those things are stripped away, let me tell you what's left is your core, who you are and how you respond to life's challenges. Second, community is everything. Before Hurricane Helene, I thought I understood the value of community, but it wasn't until we lost everything that I truly understood its power. Our friends didn't just help us physically, they lifted us up emotionally. They gave us the strength to keep going when all we wanted to do was collapse. In times of crisis, it's the people around you who make all the difference. They are

your lifeline, your support system, and your source of strength. Think about your own life. How strong is your community? Are you investing in the relationships around you? Because when life throws you a storm, whether literal or figurative, it's the people in your corner who will help you weather it. Third, you're stronger than you think. When we first saw the damage, I didn't know how we would ever recover. It felt impossible. But day by day, we continue to make progress.

We found strength we didn't know we had. The human spirit is incredibly strong. And when you're pushed to your limits, you find out just how much you can endure. We learned that we are capable of more than we ever thought possible. And I want you to know that you're stronger than you think. Whether you're facing a storm, a personal setback, or a major life change, remember that you can handle more than you realize. Fourth, adaptability is key to survival.

Life is unpredictable and when disaster strikes, the ability to adapt is essential. We had to let go of the life we thought we'd live and embrace the new reality in front of us. Rebuilding from scratch means making tough decisions about what to keep and what to let go of. It means accepting that life will look different now, but it also means discovering that change while painful can lead to new beginnings.

Ask yourself where in your life can you be more adaptable? How can you embrace change instead of resisting it? Finally, fifth, gratitude changes everything. Amid the chaos and loss, we found ourselves feeling incredibly grateful. Grateful that we had evacuated when we did. Grateful that our family and dogs were safe. Grateful for the friends who showed up and the strangers who offered support. Gratitude has a way of shifting your perspective. It doesn't take away the pain.

It helps you focus on what truly matters. We learn that even in the darkest moments, there's always something to be thankful for. I encourage you to practice gratitude. What are you thankful for right now in this moment? It doesn't take away the pain but it helps you find strength in what's left. The road to rebuilding is long and it's not easy. We know it will take time to recover physically, emotionally, and financially. But through this experience we've gained something we never expected, a new perspective on life. Rebuilding isn't just about replacing what was lost.

It's about creating something new, something stronger. We are taking this opportunity to rethink what matters, to rebuild with intention, and to focus on the things that truly make life meaningful. We will rebuild, and when we do, it won't be just about putting up new walls or buying new furniture. It will be about creating a space that reflects the lessons we've learned, the importance of resilience, community,

adaptability, and gratitude. Hurricane Helene may have taken away our home, but it didn't take away what's most important, the people we love, the strength we found, and the hope that carries us forward. We are stronger than any storm, and we will rebuild together. As we wrap up this episode, I want to take a moment to reflect. Losing everything in Hurricane Helene was one of the most devastating experiences of

my life. But what I've learned is that even in the face of total loss, there's always an opportunity for growth. It's not easy and it's not quick, but it's possible to rebuild, not just physically, but emotionally and mentally as well. So I want to leave you with this. What's one lesson from today's story that you'll take with you? How can you start living with more gratitude, more adaptability, and more strength?

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