PBD Podcast - EXPOSED: The Darkside of De-transitioning

Episode Date: November 11, 2023

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Starting point is 00:00:00 I know this life meant for me. Yeah, why would you bet on the life when we got bet David? Value payment, giving values, contagiousness, world, entrepreneur, as we can't no value that hate it. I ain't running home, you look what I've become. I'm the under one. Parents, this is a podcast you're going to want to listen to from beginning to the end. There's a parent of four myself and Tom, two girls. I got two boys, two girls.
Starting point is 00:00:34 It's an issue that bothers me. I don't like it. I'm in a position where I can make some noise and make some push my weight around, but sometimes people don't. This is more of a podcast we're doing for parents that sometimes feel helpless, but we wanna give you resources to not feel helpless and hear different stories and have your kids
Starting point is 00:00:53 who are possibly being manipulated or brainwashed and to think in some way, to see stories of others who went through it and what they did about it and how they're going through their own set of challenges. So today's guests, today's guests we have three folks here with us. One, we have Oli London, who flew out from London,
Starting point is 00:01:15 is a British YouTuber who publicly identified as a non-binary and began transitioning from male to female in 2018 before reverting back to male in 2022. He's got a book that just came out as well called gender madness. You can order that all is here with us. Thank you all if you're being with us. Thanks a pleasure.
Starting point is 00:01:33 And then we have Luca Haing, who is a D-transitioner, who underwent a double mastectomy at age 16, at 21, Luca sued her doctors for the rushed procedure becoming the fifth person in US to pursue legal action for hasty gender forming treatment. Thank you so much for being on. Of course. And then, last but not least,
Starting point is 00:01:55 Aaron Friday, who's an American lawyer and activist, who's the parent of a formerly gender-confused child, Aaron Advocates, fighting for children, adults, and the transition are struggling with gender identity and gender expression. Aaron, thank you for being on. Thank you for having me. Of course. And, gang, while we're going through this,
Starting point is 00:02:16 I just want you to kind of pay attention to this data. Tell me if this concerns you at all, because it does to me. In 2019, in the US, the hormone replacement therapy market size was ready, $10.2 billion. And that's in 2019. We don't know what it is in 2024, what it would be, what it would be in 2023. It's telling us it grows at a rate of 6.1%, and the male-to-female gender reassignment surgery segment alone was valued at $185 million in 2019. There's a lot of money involved in this.
Starting point is 00:02:48 There's a lot of things being speculated on why this is taking place. This is the US sex reassignment surgery market. It's an industry, a full-blown industry. If you're looking at something that'll give you a good rate of return, it looks like this could do that for you because the media, many schools are behind it. This is a collective effort of them trying to confuse your kids and it's important for you to be involved. So you can help your kids while they're going through this messy face.
Starting point is 00:03:13 Having said that, let's get right into it. Aaron, would you mind starting off sharing a bit of your background, how you got into the space as a lawyer yourself. You live in San Francisco. San Francisco has already got a lot of crazy things going on, targeting what New Sims going through, what California's going through, what the streets are looking like.
Starting point is 00:03:32 And on top of that, something like this. So if you don't mind sharing your background with the audience, that'd be great. Sure. So I'm a Democrat of 37 years, which is going to shock your audience. And my daughter came home from seventh grade, she and all of her friends from sex ed class, and they all decided that they were something on the alphabet.
Starting point is 00:03:54 None of them picked a white girl who likes boys because that would make them oppressors. And that was the first opening to me of something that something's going on at our schools. And I was quite shocked because I was a volunteer at the school, so I knew all these teachers by a first name basis. And you know, fast forward, all of these kids, including my kid, went from, you know, pansexual polyamorous, non-binary, and then lesbian, and then landed on trans and trans seems to stick. And that's how I got involved and I decided that once I got my daughter stable, that it
Starting point is 00:04:33 was my duty to save other kids and to make sure that no other parent went through what we went through. Holy, how about yourself? So I struggled with identity for a number of years since my teenage years. I used to get bullied a lot, and I had a very bad relationship with my father. So I kind of became very feminine, and I was always told, you know, you're more like a girl,
Starting point is 00:04:52 you know, I was never treated as a boy. I was never sporty. So as I became an adult, I started undergoing surgeries, and I kind of became addicted to that, because it was the feeling of validation and feeling better about yourself every time you do something. And I ended up having 32 surgeries in total.
Starting point is 00:05:08 I had 11 facial feminization surgeries in one day. And it would give me a temporary fix. Just like most people that are transitioning or changing these days, you feel great for a couple of months because you get that validation, you get positive reinforcement. And then I got to that point where I was like, where am I going with this? I'm getting more and more unhappy. It's making my relationship with my mother very bad. It was such a tough situation.
Starting point is 00:05:28 And then I actually started going to church because I needed an outlet to try and find myself and get some peace of mind. And since then, I've been waking up to what's going on and trying to be an advocate for all these kids. A very interesting story. How about yourself? So I was someone who was going through a lot as a young teenager, that might be an understatement of everything going on.
Starting point is 00:05:50 But, um, and kind of found that like the transit and it seemed to be like a fix for all my problems, essentially. It was presented to me as, oh, you're not uncomfortable because of X, Y, ory happening in your life. You're not dealing with trauma. You don't hit your period because you're just, you know, like a teenage girl. You are a boy that's just born in the wrong body.
Starting point is 00:06:15 And that ended with me, the very first medical intervention I ever had being a double mastectomy at 16, then a few months later, I was put on hormones, and then at 20 ID transition. Can you give me the speed of, you know, I'm having these thoughts, and this is what I wanna do, mom, dad, can I see the doctor, this is where you're at, I think after like 52 minutes or whatever they said,
Starting point is 00:06:38 here's, and then here's the first surgery, what was that timeline like? So my freshman year of high school, I actually came out as transgender in a, what is called a partial hospitalization program, which is like a step down from inpatient. So it is essentially an intensive therapy program. I came out as transgender there, and then my parents were told, okay, well, we're going to, we need to tell you about this because there's a perceived suicide risk there. So you need to know.
Starting point is 00:07:05 And then from there, I went to a gender affirming therapist as in a specific therapist who specializes in quote unquote gender diverse young people. And of course, you know, the minute I walked in there, it was affirmation only, we are, there's no really working through this. It's just you, you're what's the next step in transition, essentially.
Starting point is 00:07:29 And I saw her for about a year, because I would have been, let's see, 15 at the time. And then when I, so the summer when I was 16, that is when I had surgery. The summer when you were 16 is when you had surgery. So from the moment you saw the doctor, how much longer after the surgery happened? So the surgeon that we saw who was kind of associated with the gender clinic, because my therapist was actually like she worked with the gender clinic itself.
Starting point is 00:08:02 So she was not a neutral party by any means. Got it. And so essentially why they went to chess surgery first is I was like, okay, well, I'm really uncomfortable with my chest and so they were like, okay, this can affect this little tackle, the biggest issue first. And so I saw the surgeon briefly once in March of that year
Starting point is 00:08:23 and that was initially because I was gonna have surgery over my high school spring break. And then we were like, okay, that's not enough time to recover and go back to like carrying a backpack around. And so that got moved to the summer. But essentially before surgery, I only saw the surgeon like twice.
Starting point is 00:08:41 I believe there was some sort of like phone consultation with my parents, but aside from that, it was just like the initial consultation and then the appointment before surgery. What was the language right? Like what I want to know is if I'm a parent and I got a, so I got a eight year old girl, I'm like, okay, I've got to be prepared for it. So I can't afford to put my kids into private school. I'm going to public school. Maybe I'm in California. I never want to leave. I'm in New York, I'm in Illinois. I'm in one of these weird states.
Starting point is 00:09:07 And what is the structure that they put fear and mom in that if you don't do this, she could commit suicide. Was it more, we're gonna help you? This is what we're gonna do. There's solutions for this. You know, you are categorically falling into what language did you see them use? So it is very much a mix of both.
Starting point is 00:09:27 You hear, you hear lines thrown around a lot like, would you rather have a dead daughter or a living son with doctor saying this? Yeah, the medical professionals will say this. You have, would you rather have a dead daughter or a living son? Would you rather be planning a transition or a funeral? And they will tell this to you. Wow, wow. Who are desperate.
Starting point is 00:09:44 They are desperate. And then to the kids, of course, it is one, you're still already instilling that fear of suicide because we know suicide has a social contagion factor. And when you tell vulnerable young people that like if you, you know, this is your only way out, and if you don't get that, the other option is essentially suicide, it lives in your head. I was never a suicide risk before I transitioned and throughout my transition, I wasn't really a suicide risk either, except even then, I still had that thought in the back of my head of like, okay, well, I've had surgery and I'm not suicidal, but like if I don't go on to the next step of transition, will I?
Starting point is 00:10:21 And so it is a driving factor and it comes from a place of fear. And then you have the other half of it, which is essentially the love, bombing, and affirmation from the community and these say medical professionals telling you, okay, well, now you found, you found your true self. You are, you know, this is who you're always meant to be. And essentially just going through and being like, you're valid, you are loved, your parents don't understand you, but we do. And we're here to listen and we're here to help you all while driving that wedge in between a parent and a child when a child is going something
Starting point is 00:10:56 through like, going through something like this, they need their parents close and they need to be building that relationship and a great sign that this is not a like necessarily kind and is honestly predatory action is the fact that if it was really, you know, such as suicide risk, if it was really such a present thing, you would want these parents involved as much as possible and you would be building that relationship of love instead of breaking down that trust.
Starting point is 00:11:23 The TikTok have anything to do with it or no? Because you're born in 2002. You're 21, right? So TikTok is still a thing in your life at the time if you're 16. I don't know if TikTok was. I believe it was called musically at the time. Right, musically, yes.
Starting point is 00:11:38 I was never on that. I watched a lot of YouTube. OK. YouTube and Instagram, I was never, if people like to point to Tumblr, I was never lot of YouTube. YouTube and Instagram, I was never, if people like to point to Tumblr, I was never on Tumblr. Really, really just that. And also, just like finding out about this stuff because I will say I found out about a lot of this stuff
Starting point is 00:11:57 because it came into prominence kind of right after Game Marriage was legalized. And then all of a sudden the tone shifted and all these other words were coming up. And so of course, I was in junior high when Game Marriage was legalized. And it was, that was kind of a lot of people my age is first, especially if you live a little bit more sheltered
Starting point is 00:12:18 or you're in a little bit smaller school. That was the first introduction to the LGBTQ community. And of course, it was, you know, presented as like, I will love his love, all this, all this stuff, you know. And then after that was legalized, there was a like firm tone shift from, you know, gay adults doing what they want and getting married like that, all the sudden to the trans stuff.
Starting point is 00:12:41 There's right to the trans stuff. And the theory about that is that all these like activist organizations, once gay marriage was legalized, they didn't have anything else to fight for, so they should do the trans stuff. And that is where you start hearing terms, like non-binary transgender, and those were being more heavily introduced into the mainstream for people my age. All sorts of social media. I want to, Aaron, I want to come to you because, and thank you for that, but I want to come to you
Starting point is 00:13:08 because for you, you know, you're listening to this. And I watch the way when you do interviews, you're a lawyer. So naturally, you're watching to find leaks in the opposition's argument and you're trying to see what their approach is, what their tactic is, what they're doing. You've gone through this from the parent's perspective, okay?
Starting point is 00:13:26 She's gone through this as the child perspective, and all he's gone through in a complete different perspective, right, for you, from the parent's perspective, went what caused you to all of a sudden get a little bit more concerned and involved? Well, as soon as my daughter came out as trans, that was the ultimate concern, and also overhearing the school calling
Starting point is 00:13:46 her by a different name and a different pronoun without involving the parent. I mean, that was red flag, red flag. And I understand what Lucas' parents went through because I went through it. We went to different psychologists, different psychiatrists, different doctors. Every single one of them told me to affirm my child. I even had a psychiatrist tell me that my memory of my daughter being this girly girl from age, baby to the age of 13 was a false memory.
Starting point is 00:14:19 It was so absurd to me. I was given the suicide stats to 41%. And then I would query these medical providers, so-called experts, and I'd say, well, tell me a little bit more about the study. How many people were in that study? What questions were asked? Not one of them can answer the question, because no one had read the study. Well, I had read the study and I found them all
Starting point is 00:14:45 to be flimsy as I'll get out. But yeah, I mean, the pressure on the parents, I was also told, my daughter would commit suicide. My daughter actually told me that she would commit suicide because all trans kids commit suicide. So the fear of the parent is real. And you have no one to turn to to help you. You do this alone. So I understand when parents capitulate because it's really a tough
Starting point is 00:15:15 journey as a parent because everyone hates you. The teachers hate you. I had child protective services come to my house for not affirming my child. I had the police come to my house. I have lost it. What are you talking about? You had the police and child protective services comes to your house in California. What did he tell you when they come to your house? So this is how it went down.
Starting point is 00:15:35 So after, you know, this is COVID. So my daughter's down the hallway from me. And I hear them calling her a male name and using male pronouns. So I call the school and I read them the right act. I mean, I lay into them hard about they have no rights changed my daughter's name and they said, well, we need to be a safe space.
Starting point is 00:15:58 Safe space, she's down the hall for me. She never stepped foot into that school. It's COVID. This is, you She never stepped foot into that school. It's COVID. This is, you know, freshman year of high school. I asked them, tell me one thing about my daughter. Is she tall? Is she fat? What colors are hair?
Starting point is 00:16:14 They knew nothing about her. Wow. Nothing about her. Let me, while you're going through this, like I'm trying to think, you and your husband, are you guys married at the time? Are you guys together at the time? are you guys together at the time? Are you on the same page of what you are not for
Starting point is 00:16:29 and what you are for politically, as well as with what to do with your kids? We are totally on the same page. At the time. Yes. So you've always been on the same page. Correct. Got it.
Starting point is 00:16:38 So it's not like, you know, because sometimes these types of things, like you heard about Duane Wade and his wife, right? Where Duane Wade, Miami, local, he moves to California because he feels safer for his kid transitioning, but the mom's like, what are you doing? Let's wait till 18 years old. So sometimes in these types of situations, mom and dad are not on the same page. So there's a leak to come in between kind of similar, maybe for, you know, Oli didn't have the best relation with his father. That could be also a trend that you noticed,
Starting point is 00:17:06 but that wasn't a case with you guys. No, I was very lucky. So as a person living in San Fran, you're seeing that taking place, they're targeting your kids. What moves are you making? Are you playing offense? Are you sitting there saying, you know,
Starting point is 00:17:22 this is number one priority? I'm gonna find out everything about this because you're not in a state that is on your side. They don't protect you. You're in a state that they protect their political, you know, policies and whatever they want to do. They're not gonna favor a mother or a parent telling their kids who they should be.
Starting point is 00:17:40 Well, that's the fun part because early on I played defense. You can't win a game playing defense. So we went on the offensive in California. And I wrote six bills. And I shopped them around and one Republican lawmaker assemblyman, Bill Asale picked it up. And we went on the offensive. And it's been really quite amazing to see that California is making
Starting point is 00:18:05 this change. So we have parental notification policies that are being passed in schools now and that's all because we decided to go on the offensive and that's what we're doing and we're going to continue to do that. That's why we're doing the initiative is we can't play defense and they should be actually afraid of us because parents were powerful. If we all join forces, we are powerful.
Starting point is 00:18:30 And we can stop this, even in the most liberal state in the union, we can stop this. Are you noticing you unifying with other parents, mothers, who are Republicans, because you're not one, you're a Democrat? And you're sitting there saying, well, we have something in common here, you know, our kids. We're going to fight for our kids. You know, is it bringing, you know, because offline, you and I were talking and you said, you know, every parent wants this for their kids.
Starting point is 00:18:58 And I said, for me, I don't understand why some parents are caving in. And they're like, it's almost as if it's politics before their kids. And you say, I don't think that's the case. You said, it's something else if you want to unpack that for the audience. Because to some of us, we're sitting there saying, well, that's liberal policies. It's being liberal.
Starting point is 00:19:15 If your kid wants to do that, let them. If they want to do this, let them. But you're saying that's not the case. It's not the case. And the media is not presenting it. So even getting my name in the media is almost impossible because I'm a Democrat. They don't want to put my name out there.
Starting point is 00:19:28 They don't want anyone to find me that a liberal Democrat is actually against this. And I run a parent group. About 80% of us are Democrats or were Democrats. We're all voting Republican in 2024 just so you know. But we were Democrats. And all voting Republican in 2024, just so you know. But we were Democrats. And we're against this, but the media doesn't ever spotlight this fact. We are hidden.
Starting point is 00:19:54 We are the best kept secret. So yes, the Democrats are standing with the Republicans. Look, my reach is I've got the radical feminists all the way on the left, our fighting this, and then I've got the evangelicals on the right. And we are all joining hands. And so the Democrats should actually be really scared because we are going on the offensive. And we are putting our differences aside to safeguard kids.
Starting point is 00:20:19 And shocking, we actually have more in common than I ever thought. You know, hanging out with Republican groups, I'm like, actually, we agree on about 80% of the same things. They siloed us. They wanted us to think each other are monsters. We're not. We actually have so much in common and we have to use that to stop this. Can I ask you a question? You mentioned about Kevin Hism.
Starting point is 00:20:45 And about four weeks ago, and I read it, and I read a lot of in the media, that it was Gavin trying to walk to the center to getting ready for presidential run. But he backed off a bill, a Trans-Imparent Notification bill. Were you involved in that? Were you lobbying on that? Can you unpack that? Because the narrative people heard that I read. Were you involved in that? Were you lobbying on that? Can you unpack that?
Starting point is 00:21:07 Because the narrative people heard that I read. Can you be involved in that bill? That I read was, oh, Gavin's running to the center. He wants to look like he's in the center. And he also vetoed other bills about having self-driving trucks were OK. And it's all about a centrosis. But it sounds like your fingerprints
Starting point is 00:21:23 are all over what he did. Can you unpack it? Yeah, you're correct. We were fighting AB 957, which is a bill that would have forced judges to find that the health, safety, and welfare of a child. It's their best interest to support their transgender identity.
Starting point is 00:21:39 Against the parents. Against the parents. Got it. And the reason, I mean, let's be clear. I'm really happy that that knew some vetoed that, and it was a huge win, because this is what they were trying to do, and most people missed this. They looked at the bill and said, this is just in divorce.
Starting point is 00:21:54 So in divorce, they're going to favor the parent who affirms the child. But when you tie those three words, health, safety, and welfare to supporting a trans identity, now you just made it child abuse. So parents like me could have had my child taken because I wouldn't transition my child. So it was bigger than that. It's actually, you know, the opposite of Texas.
Starting point is 00:22:18 It would have been penalizing parents who would not transition their kids. What Gavin Newsom knows and what I know is that when there is a divorce situation and there's one parent supporting the transgender identity and one that's not, the parent who is supporting the trans identity always gets the kid in California. That's already happening.
Starting point is 00:22:38 This bill was going to add to it to make it child abuse. So if you're disingenuous, that's your custody hack. Exactly. Exactly. So they were trying to go through the back door. I know Scott Weiner. Scott Weiner was the author of this bill. I watched this guy.
Starting point is 00:22:55 I studied this guy. I know what they're doing. I read everything in California. But let me just talk about one bill that Gavin Newsom did approve, because it's the scariest bill I've ever seen. It's AB665. What this bill does is it's state sanctioned kidnapping, 12-year-olds.
Starting point is 00:23:13 If you're 12 or older, these kids can run away to a state-run facility, residential facility, with no claim of abuse on their parents. For no reason, for any reason, they can run away and they can get housed away from their parents. You call them state sanctioned kidnapping? Yes. Because the state is allowing a 12-year-old for any reason to take off from their family and go live in a residential facility.
Starting point is 00:23:42 Did this approve? Yes. So Gavin Newsom signed that into law. That is a terribly frightening bill. So in the world of trends, it goes something like this. You've got a seventh grader who goes into their school counselor and says, I'm trans and my parents won't support it. Okay.
Starting point is 00:24:01 Would you like to stay in a residential facility? Would you like to stay away from your big at it hateful family? We'll send you to this facility and off the kid goes. And you said they're going to interrupt you for people listening between the lines here. You said, and there does not have to be any record
Starting point is 00:24:18 of abuse or something that the child is reported or maybe got a family member to help report a parent. Zero in record, they can walk in and do this. Zero, zero. So this is the blowing up of the family and this is taking the child when the child is 12 years old and we know what happens when they go to these residential facilities.
Starting point is 00:24:37 What can parents do to fight that? Well, there's going to be a lawsuit against that bill. So I need people who have kids that are ages 12 to 17 to reach out to me because we need to line up the plaintiffs. We need to fight that bill quickly in the courts before parents, before 12-year-olds can just walk out the door and parents don't see them again. There's a couple things here, folks, if you're listening to this.
Starting point is 00:25:04 Every parent, I would recommend if you're dealing with anything. You can ask the direct questions, you're on Menec now, right? I think you talked to Lisa. Lisa, you can find Aaron on Menec Robb. If you can put the link in the chat as well as in the description for people to see it, ask any questions you have on Menec. You can get hold of it as well. There's a website called protectkidsca.com.
Starting point is 00:25:25 They can also go to Ollie. I want to come to you for a completely different thing here. My wife and I, we're in, I don't know where we were at. We're having dinner somewhere, we're skiing, whatever one of these mountains we're skiing. We go to this nice restaurant. This fellow comes in and serving us. Very nice guy, extremely attentive.
Starting point is 00:25:44 I love great servers who are paying attention. I don't need to tell them, you know, Arnold Palmer 8020 iced tea and it comes back. It's 8020 lemonade. Just smaller the details that I like, okay. Refill, constantly, refill. Doesn't let the glass stay empty for more than two minutes and then boom, comes back and does it, right?
Starting point is 00:26:02 And I'm like, so, you know, tell me about yourself. Yeah, I'm this, this, that. And then all of a sudden, the open surface is, yeah, I won't, I'm gay and does it right. And I'm like, so you know, tell me about yourself. Yeah, I'm this, this, that. And then all of a sudden, you open up, he says, yeah, I won't, I'm gay and all these things. Oh, okay, cool. So I said, tell me about your relationship with your dad. Oh, I hate him. Tell me why.
Starting point is 00:26:13 He does it, this, this, this, this, that. Everywhere I go, I'm a pattern guy. I'm a numbers guy. I'm curious. I ask questions. And one of the common trends you'll notice, especially with a boy, is a relationship with father that's either not there, it's missing,
Starting point is 00:26:32 or when the boy was going through certain phases in his life that he was confused, that person wasn't there, fatherless homes. What was that experience for you as a young boy? Not today as a young boy when you're going through where at some point you need to talk to somebody, but you didn't have anybody. Yeah, I had a very difficult relationship with my father.
Starting point is 00:26:49 He was very emotionally abusive and manipulative to my mother. So I would always witness him putting a down, making her feel worthless. And he would also do the same to me. And if I would go against his word or if I didn't want to do something he wanted to do, he would get very angry at me and put me down. So he was trying to mold me in his vision of the world, you know, to become like him and I wanted to become like my mother. So that's where
Starting point is 00:27:12 it kind of became attached to women and, you know, feminine figures as opposed to the masculine role model. So I didn't have that good masculine role model and I think that was really a big part of the problem. And for many people that do transition, there isn't a normally an issue with the family unit. So there's normally an issue with the father. Maybe they lack that strong role model. Maybe they have come from a broken home, or they've suffered from something.
Starting point is 00:27:35 So that really, really affected me. And he walked out on my family one day and never spoke to him since. Never spoke to him since. Just walked out. How old were you when you walked out? So I was in my early 20s when he did that, but he was always just leaving and not coming back for a long time
Starting point is 00:27:50 and you know, he was not nice. And you know, I think that really played a big part in, you know, my confusion because I was like, I don't know, be like this person. I don't know, become like this horrible man that is abusive to this person that I love my mother and abusive to me. You know, I want to become more like my mother
Starting point is 00:28:05 and more feminine and soft and, you know, gentle. So that really affected me. And, you know, the family unit is such an important thing. Ollie, so let me ask you. So somebody may be watching this as a father and they may say, man, she may. Sometimes I'm pretty bad to my kids. They'll improve. OK, Cole, and they'll make it work.
Starting point is 00:28:22 Some fathers may listen to this and they're like, man, I haven't checked them. I kid for a while. Let me call back. Okay, let's just say that improve. But you know, some people who listen to this and they say, that's right, my dad wasn't there. And he hasn't been there. And he was abusive. And the only person I ever experienced unconditional love from was my mom. And I want to be feminine. And I want to be this. What do you tell the person that doesn't have an example of, you know, how do you, what
Starting point is 00:28:47 do you tell the boy that's like, this is exactly what I'm going through. No one understands me. No one knows what I'm going through right now at that phase because you think you're the only person that's going through this. What do you tell them? Right. Yeah. Most of these people, they do feel very isolated and alone and it's very hard to know who
Starting point is 00:29:00 to talk to because a lot of people these days, they bottle up their feelings or they maybe take to social media and they start to see these trends that I'll push on them and then they get that confusion, they get depression. So we see a lot of mental health struggles right now. So you know, I'll just tell people be strong. You know, find a purpose in life. I think that's very important, whether that's a career that you want to do, you want to focus on a career at something studying or going to church or something or a sports, you know, get into sports. I think having a focus in life because a lot of people these days feel very lost. They graduate from college, they don't know what to do with their lives, their confused,
Starting point is 00:29:32 they might be confused with their gender. So you have to have something in your life that keeps you going, that gives you strength and have goals to set yourself to work towards. So a career or for me going to church, weekly know, weekly and going to Bible readings I went to one, yes, then Palm Beach, you know, doing things like that is very motivating and it can keep you going, you know, when times are difficult. I'll be in UK, it's different than obviously in the States, but you've also said things about what's going on in US. You've made specific comments about, you know, ex transgender influencer, Oli London warns US needs to wake up to this child danger.
Starting point is 00:30:10 It's not right. So how different are things in UK versus what you're seeing in the states? So the US is a lot more extreme in terms of transitioning kids. And you see a huge number of cases in the US is around 1.6 million people in America that identify as trans. And that has gone up by 600,000 just in the US is around 1.6 million people in America that identify as trans. And that has gone up by 600,000 just in the last few years. So we're seeing this sharp kind of increase. The UK, we're seeing a lot of schools now being infiltrated with gender ideology and woke culture. And it's really being pushed. And then obviously social media is pushing that. So we are starting to see a lot more of it. However, the UK's National Health Service did ban puberty blockers,
Starting point is 00:30:46 and they have made it very, very difficult for teens to get these hormones. Because the end of the day, you know, people in the UK woke up and like, this is not fair, kids cannot consent to this and you can't drive a car, you can't smoke. So, you know, people have woken up, but there are woke policies being pushed. You know, for instance, the UK's National Health Service was allowing transgender patients to be and women's only wards. So, you know, imagine if you've just given birth or you've been through sexual assault in your in-hospital and then you have a biological man next to you, that can be very upsetting for people. So, you know, the government has announced
Starting point is 00:31:21 they are kind of stopping that and trying to protect women's spaces and you know there's a real kind of cultural battle there but whereas the US is a lot more extreme obviously you have a Republican state you know 19 have got legislation banning gender affirming care whereas you look in you know places like New York or California and there are so many kids being encouraged and incentivized to transition that I mean, as Erin was saying in schools, that is really kind of the grand zero where this is happening because you have groups of particularly girls in the same class.
Starting point is 00:31:52 They are suddenly changing their pronouns that becoming trans. The teacher is then affirming that and not even telling the parents. And like in your case, you weren't aware of what was going on because the teachers don't say. So it's a lot more extreme here, but I think a lot of people are waking up,
Starting point is 00:32:06 and I think that's great what Luca is doing in Erin, and for you as well hosting this podcast today, is speaking up because we can't be silent. Parents need to speak up because it's now or never. We're losing so many kids to this transgender crisis, and we're gonna see in a couple of years thousands and thousands of more kids detransitioning regret rate, and they're gonna be kind in a couple of years, you know, thousands and thousands of more kids, detransitioning regret rate and, you know, they're going to be kind of stuck
Starting point is 00:32:28 of what to do. I'm going to ask a question, Tom, and I want you to go to yours. So here's my question for you. You know, when I lived in Iran, it was always, you know, fashion comes from Italy to Iran. Whatever they were in Europe, then we were, right? And then you live here and you're thinking, well, the US has got to be more fashionable, right? No, it's really what Europe wears and then we were, right? And then you live here and you're thinking, well, US has got to be more fashionable, right? No, it's really what Europe wears and then we wear, right? Okay.
Starting point is 00:32:50 And you've said whatever California does, everybody else will do in America, right? So if California gets to this place, odds are, it's going to come to your state here very soon, right? Do you, do you from UK? Do you see folks in UK who look at the states and Californians say, oh, they're doing that. We should too, because they're the cool people. Or do you guys look at US? And you're like, this guy's a lost or mine. What the hell are they doing? They're out of
Starting point is 00:33:14 there. They're we lead them not the other way around. How do you view US? You know what I'm asking? Yeah. I mean, most of Europe, we always do follow US trends. Yeah. In terms of Hollywood, in terms of what's cool on social media. So we do often, but I think there's a lot of people that are more awake, a lot of parents, and British people, they're quite outspoken, they're not afraid to say, look, this is wrong, and the parent will go to that school and say, stop teaching our kids this, and they will speak out against it, petition their member of parliament. So I think people are more proactive in speaking out, whereas in America, you have this very
Starting point is 00:33:43 strong cancel culture. So anyone that speaks out can be fired. We've seen Christian teachers that have been fired and others that lose their jobs for misgendering a child or not affirming that child's gender identity. So whereas in the UK, we don't have such an extreme as in people are losing their jobs. But we are seeing more and more young people,
Starting point is 00:34:03 teenagers identifying as trans, and you know, it's not just a trend where they're coloring their hair, they're actually physically wanting to cut off body parts and transition. And you know, it's, we've always had trans people, you know, in the 80s and 70s, there have been examples throughout history of people that have identified as the opposite gender. But what we're seeing now is a social contagion, which is being led by social media and, you know, social media is mostly American, it's Instagram, it's Facebook, obviously you have China, which has TikTok, which has played one of the most significant roles in this. But yeah, I think in terms of social media trends, they do come from the US and
Starting point is 00:34:37 seep into Europe and, you know, young people are being affected by that. Very articulate, I really appreciate your points. You talked about your relationship with your parents, and then you're going into adolescence. Where was the social encouragement or social ratification? Because I see what you mean. Hey, you go to a psychologist and all of a sudden,
Starting point is 00:34:56 all they are is ratify, ratify, ratify, ratify. You're bad parents are there. So they're actually lobbying, not processing. Did you have, at the time, was there, what were the social influences from school or whatever that were ratifying that helped you make that decision? Well, I was always bullied at high school and told that I was like a girl.
Starting point is 00:35:19 When I were going swimming, I used to have man boobs, so I would get really teased about that, and that really, really affected me. And then, it made me have the mentality, as was I born in the wrong body, and I used to have man boobs, so I would get really teased about that, and that really, really affected me. And then, you know, it made me have the mentality, you know, was I born in the wrong body, and I meant to be a girl. And then in adolescence, I kind of just started doing surgery because I'd always had low self-esteem because of this. And that kind of became worse and worse.
Starting point is 00:35:36 And then, you know, I started being a very heavy user on social media. So, you know, when Facebook came about Instagram, my space back in the day, you know, that was kind of more innocent like, that was the best. I know. So yeah, and then within the last five years, I became very addicted to social media. And obviously TikTok came around 2018.
Starting point is 00:35:53 And that was when I really started to push myself and think, you know what, let me do this, let me do this transition, let me change my gender. And then all I start to see is videos online and you see somebody that transitions, they suddenly get praised, they get loved, they get validation, and I was lacking that,
Starting point is 00:36:08 and that was a big part of it. That's very interesting. We had a gentleman on a couple of weeks ago, Bob Woodson, it does a lot with at-risk youth. And one of the things that churches in the inner city that were desperately trying to heal the gang situation pointed out that young men need love, discipline, and respect in big doses starting at age 12.
Starting point is 00:36:28 And when they don't get it, the gangs provide that to them in almost the most opposite perverse form, but I'm accepted, I'm loved and they have discipline. And it's interesting, we talk about youth needing a magnetism, needing to magnet to a parent or a support. And I think you all are talking about this in terms of what the kids need and but what they get.
Starting point is 00:36:56 How do you identify it? What would have helped you early on to kind of counteract that? Because a kid adrift is just going to connect whether it's a gangs or ratification of social media. What do the cues parents look for and how can they be involved? Because you've all had direct experience. Yeah, I mean, I think there are a variety of things.
Starting point is 00:37:19 School can be an influence. Obviously I grew up in a different time, so we didn't have the trans trend in the schools. But again, as I was growing up, you know, I started using social media back in the early days, and it was, for me, it was that validation. So a lot of kids simply, they might be struggling with depression with the way they look, or even sexuality we see now, a lot of people that would normally be just be gay, or lesbian, they are now becoming trans because they're being told that's the trend. So, you know, for me, it was that kind of confusion. And people around me always telling me to be a girl.
Starting point is 00:37:47 So when you have a kid that's maybe lonely, they've been bullied, and you know, they don't have kind of positive role models in their life, you start to become a drift, and then you start to want to kind of transform yourself completely. Look, I got a question for you. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:38:01 You're a Minnesota, right? Yeah. So 21 years old old born in 2002, okay? It's, but when you were at the age that you were, TikTok was musically, it's what you said earlier. Yeah. When the event took place and you're kind of going through the process where these surgeries are gonna happen
Starting point is 00:38:20 and you come in home, how are your parents talking to you? Are your parents sitting there saying, babe, you sure you want to do this? Babe, are you sure you want to do this? Babe, you can think about it. Why don't you wait till you're 18? You know, you don't have to hurry up. We can wait to do this. What was your parents' approach with the decision you could make? So at the time, my, so my parents were divorced and this is it was not a pretty divorce Which was almost kind of some of the catalyst of this because you look like when I was like 12 13 14
Starting point is 00:38:51 There's a lot going on so of course I like retreated Right away from myself When did they go to what how old were you when the divorce happened? So I believe I would have been 12 So the divorce when the divorce happens the means divorce been happening for a few years. When did you kind of see like this is gonna eventually happen? Let's just see how long they're gonna take. You know what I'm asking you.
Starting point is 00:39:11 I really didn't, because they tried to do this. But it was actually a right before they like officially got divorced. That's when I also got a smartphone because of the fact that they're like, okay, well, you're gonna be switching back and forth between houses now. You're gonna like, this is why it be helpful. And that's kind of the fact that they're like, okay, well, you're gonna be switching back and forth between houses now. You're gonna, like, this is why I'd be helpful.
Starting point is 00:39:28 And that's kind of the only reason I got one when I was like 12, almost 13. But so, two very different perspectives from my parents. My mom did come to me with some concerns. And she was like, I'm scared to regret this. She expressed this to the therapist I was seeing at the time, and that was shut down.
Starting point is 00:39:50 And she had private sessions with this therapist, and they essentially talked her out of expressing those concerns like that to me. Meanwhile, you had the whole trans community kind of feeding it in your ear that if your parents don't immediately go along with all of this, if they don't affirm you, essentially, they're hateful. They're hateful people. And here, I had no reason, you know, to believe that they were. And I feel like even as like a 16-year-old,
Starting point is 00:40:15 I tried my best to understand what they were going through. Now, I will say it was from my lens of like my 16-year-old brain, so probably not the most, you know, informed there, but I, my mom had concerns, if my dad had any concerns, he never brought them forward to me. He, my dad is very, very like analytical, if that's the right word, or he was very like, okay, well, here's the medical professionals are telling me this is the problem, and that's the way it were, he was very like, okay, well, here's the medical professionals who are telling me this is the problem, and that's the solution, so we're going with it. In that sense, there was also the fact that he liked having a special child that he could affirm for the virtue points.
Starting point is 00:40:55 He did. Which is something I don't talk a ton about, because I tried to notice my little to keep my family out of stuff, but my dad is a man who very much was very progressive in the sense of hardcore boomer, progressivism. If anyone knows what I'm talking about there. Unpacked, that was me.
Starting point is 00:41:18 It is just essentially, I am being told this is the nice and right thing to do. So I'm going to believe it wholeheartedly. Because I grew up being told that this is the good thing and this is what the good people do. And so I'm not going to question it. My dad watched CNN and MSMZ, he was just so mad all the time. Throughout my high school years about stuff. And then he did enjoy,
Starting point is 00:41:45 or he'll never admit to it, because he's kind of a textbook case of a narcissist and if he's watching this, because he knows I'm on it, hi, don't talk to me. But. Oh wow. But no, so he was a case of really feeding
Starting point is 00:42:01 into that affirmation cycle because of the fact that like he, once again, really admit to it or not, he enjoyed having, you know, the special kid that gives you political points when you affirm them and you are very virtuous with how you present all this. Look at me, I'm such a good person. I have such a marginalized child
Starting point is 00:42:22 and I am affirming them all the way through and I'm sticking by this because this is now my struggle too. And that actually got to a point where when I was about 17, but in right before I stopped switching houses, I called my mom at one point and I was curled up on the bathroom floor of my bathroom at his house and I was on the phone with my mom and I was absolutely sobbing. And I asked her, why doesn't he love me for anything else besides being trans? And that is where you see these parents.
Starting point is 00:43:01 And it hits a special cord with me when you see these activists' parents that have especially the young children that are affirming this because when these kids grow up, and they get to that place where I was crawled upon that bathroom floor, talking to my mom, when they get to a place like that. And they realize that they,
Starting point is 00:43:22 their parents have essentially put all the eggs in the basket of, you know, this is what makes you amazing, this is what makes you special, this is great, I'm affirming you, that's going to break those kids. It's going to break them, especially if they, especially if this started at like six, seven, eight, nine, any of those younger ages, because I was a teenager, but imagine going your whole life with your parent telling you this, and then coming to the realization that like, they didn't seem to care about you for anything else besides that.
Starting point is 00:43:50 Look, let me, let me, let me ask you. Parents politically are they both Democrats? Um, yes. Minnesota. I, well, so my parents are originally from Nebraska. I live in Minnesota now, which is, you want to talk about California, Minnesota, it's just the California of the Midwest. But both my parents were, I believe my dad's never got, I think my mom is registered as an independent, but as voted Democrat.
Starting point is 00:44:13 Got it. So, this is why Aaron, I know you don't necessarily think, you know, agree with what I was saying on this set. I think there are certain people that choose their politics and whatever their political party affiliation, the loyalty to their political party and philosophy is above. Any of it, every parent is proud to brag about their kids. Not every parent, I would say most parents want to brag and say, that's my kid because it's like a way you're bragging about yourself. It's your genetics, it's my blood, it's a different way you brag about your kids. But
Starting point is 00:44:50 when you brag about it to show off to your party to say, I'm more liberal than you are. Look at me, look how loyal I am to my political party, and I get these additional points that you don't get. Being the fifth person that chose to sue the institution that got you to transition, of the institution that got you to transition, are you all finding each other? And are you communicating others that are in a situation like you that went through what you went through? And if you were to put 50 stories on the board, are all 50 have the same six components,
Starting point is 00:45:22 five components, three trends, or are there different reasons why kids go through transitioning? Um, I just, I guess, add many asterisks to the parent thing. Is it, it tends to be a certain personality type that, that this kind of ideology appeals to feeding into their ego? So it's not necessarily even politics. It is like a,
Starting point is 00:45:46 if you have a narcissistic tendency, you're going to do anything to feed your ego. And unfortunately, this topic feeds their ego. But to, I've, I've, yeah, I've met a lot of the other D transitioners. I've met most of the other ones that are filing lawsuits. And it's, it's really is amazing because I know know I know like the concept of diversity gets harped on a lot now because of how it's implemented But the transitioners are truly one of the most like diverse groups of people I have ever been around You know, we're from different backgrounds different races different religions different political beliefs But all through all of our stories there is a thread of All through all of our stories, there is a thread of these certain things that happen. It's just woven in there, and that's kind of what is pulling us all together.
Starting point is 00:46:30 There's a thread of events such as family life problems, sexual trauma, internalizer, external homophobia. All of these things, just general being uncomfortable and puberty, social media, and being like influenced by this stuff to feel accepted. But all through all of it, there is a, there's a young person in each of these stories that just wanted acceptance and just wanted to feel loved and wanted. And unfortunately for a lot of us, that came from a very predatory place in our lives. When you hear that, what do you think about Aaron?
Starting point is 00:47:12 That is really truthful. So I run a parent group, and all I need is the parent to give me the age and the sex of the child, and I can guess the story, and the story I'm usually spot on. So when a parent comes in and they have a female teenager, I can say, not in the cool crowd into anime,
Starting point is 00:47:37 watch too much porn, you know, hides in the room with social media, like there are patterns, and they're so obvious to us. If it's a boy, I've got a different pattern. These boys are highly intelligent, usually asked burgers on the spectrum somewhere. They're usually uncomfortable around girls, never had a girlfriend.
Starting point is 00:48:01 So there's these really stunning patterns that we see day in and day out that the doctors seem to just ignore. So we see them and it pray and you know, Luke is right. It prays on the vulnerable kids. These are not the kids that are great at sports or in the popular group. These are the kids that are fringe and outliers and are looking for a tribe or are looking for love from both their friends and sometimes from their parents. And then they can opt into this stardom.
Starting point is 00:48:35 I mean, when you are a quote-unquote trans kid, you are celebrated. You become the it person, even though the kid still shy away from you. So you'll see a boy who will become prom queen, or homecoming queen. He's not invited to the after party. But you know, all the kids are celebrating this boy in a dress, but it's all a false celebration. You know, it's interesting to say that because we're starting to see people waking up to this.
Starting point is 00:49:11 Bill Mar woke up and Bill said that he was alarmed and he did a little monologue on it that he said around, he said, Angelino's, which is people from Los Angeles, he says, I'm starting to see Angelino's a cocktail party speaking with pride about having a kid that's transitioning and they're like, oh, what drama? As if they're just talking casually about some topic. And being very alarmed by that, you just talked about patterns you can see in kids. What patterns do you see
Starting point is 00:49:47 in parents? Well, like Lucas said, narcissistic parents, parents who want to, I mean, there is a political component of it. You know, Democrats, liberals, how liberal can you be? You're so liberal that you're accepting that your child is actually the opposite sex. I mean, that's a, you know, it's a badge of honor, right? And these parents can show how woke they are and accepting they are on this. So, yeah, there's a lot of narcissism. I mean, you see the parents who are parading their quote-unquote trans kids around. I mean, that's a, you know, especially the little kids. Now, those parents are as narcissistic as they come. They're sick though. These are sick people. They have issues.
Starting point is 00:50:31 They're, you can say narcissistic all you want and we can call them all these other categories. Let's just simplify it. You are sick. You have issues. If you are using your kid to advertise, you know, as a prop, a look who I am as a parent, you have mental issues. You're the one with mental issues, not your kids. You're using your kids until you're on gaps. I don't have any forgiveness for them. And for the parents who are prading the young kids around,
Starting point is 00:51:02 I don't have any forgiveness. They are foistingiceless on these children, and they are using these children as props. I mean, you can listen to every parent who says that they have AA trans, young kid, and the stories are all the same. My son played with Barbies. Big deal.
Starting point is 00:51:20 I played with trucks. I would just add to that also, is one of those things when you think about these adults who are very affirming and you give it like more than two seconds of thought. Why would you want to be the adult that when a young person comes to you and they are distressed and they are saying every single thing is wrong with me down to my very being, down to my very body. Why would you be the adult in the room to look that kid in the eyes and say yes, you are right, everything is wrong with you. And we're going to where it will take you and get all this stuff done to you to fix you. Why would you be that adult?
Starting point is 00:52:02 How is that loving or caring? To look that young person in the eyes who is so distressed that they want to escape their very physical body and tell them that yes, you are correct, everything is wrong with you. Well, you just said it. It's like that parent has got deep insecurities and issues of their own and we're talking about the kids
Starting point is 00:52:19 and their emotional things and all this and it's the parents have got all their own basket. But you know what I think about that time? Here's what I think about. Again, off camera, we spoke for two minutes, and I feel like we had a podcast off camera. To me, I said, common sense. You have common sense.
Starting point is 00:52:34 You know this shit's not normal for you to do what you do with your kid. But here's where I go to as well. So let's be deceptive for a second, and let's play devil's advocate, and let's play the motives of some people who are dark. Let's just say those people exist, okay. How do you do it?
Starting point is 00:52:55 It's not a new strategy. The Suns who talked about it many years ago, dividing conqueror, okay, so how do we do it? Divide parents, great, divorce rate in the US is the highest in the world. Awesome, let's divide parents, we're killing U.S. is the highest in the world. Awesome. Let's divide parents. We're killing it.
Starting point is 00:53:08 That's not the case in China. It's 3%. It's not the case in India. It's 4%. We're at freaking, you know, whatever. What's the divorce rating? U.S., if you pull it up, it's absolutely embarrassing. So let's divide parents.
Starting point is 00:53:18 One. Bingo. We're winning. Number two. Let's divide sexes. We're doing that. Let's divide them. Let's pin many against women. Freakin awesome. Look at these guys. They hate each other. The feminist movement. Greatest thing ever. Women coming. I see in the enemy of the state number one.
Starting point is 00:53:32 His men. This is who are let's let's let's let's wage a class war. You know, let's let's make the poor hate the rich and the rich hate the poor. Let's do that. And then what happens? Protesting destroying businesses. The people that create jobs, they're destroying small businesses. Look at this. We're winning. This is so awesome. And then you've got to also kind of, you know, get values out.
Starting point is 00:53:53 The fewer, the fewer like, I'm watching this interview with this guy. Rob, do you have this interview with this, this child molester who is being interviewed and he's given his clues on what he does. He says, I look at kids who are not close with their parents who don't have a strong father figure. I'll send you to video here in a minute so we don't have to play this not a big deal. But one of the things he talks about,
Starting point is 00:54:18 this is a guy that the 12 years, two or three years in jail, and he went in for being a child molester. And he's being interviewed He agrees to do an interview on what his strategy is, okay? And he said he looked for clues strong father He wouldn't even waste his time, okay? Believe in God wouldn't this guy right here. How many minutes is it two minutes and 11 seconds?
Starting point is 00:54:39 What channel is this with that we can play or not? Is it can you see what this is is just a regular thing. This is such a long time ago. Okay, go ahead and play. See what this guy says. If you can put the audio up. I found my victims moving from town to town. Convicted child. I scope them out on school grounds.
Starting point is 00:54:59 I scope them out in Little League Diamonds. I scope them out in my own backyards, my neighborhoods, and things like that. I worked with people who had younger brothers. I socialized with those people so I could get in touch with their younger brothers and begin to grooming process. And eventually, it would take time, but I knew what I was doing. It was all calculated. I mean, this is nothing to happen overnight. You know, I knew. And I planned it all.
Starting point is 00:55:36 It started out where I would move from one town to another when I got located. In one town, I would, you know, survey the children in the town to see, it was always a small town, it was never a big one. Because big towns have big police forces, and big police forces tend not to be very friendly. Small towns have small police forces, you know, they probably never even heard of a child molester or a sex offender or never even had to deal with one. I knew that, at least I played upon that. And I got involved in little league baseball because I knew from my high school days that I could umpire little league baseball, I could umpire baseball. I was good at it.
Starting point is 00:56:27 I was good at refereeing basketball and other sports because I could not play with a crap in high school, but I enjoyed the sports so much. You can pause this, Rob. I did. This is a longer interview. One of the clips he talks about what he looked for, but this, this is the thing that I think about. If a father or a mother caves to this nonsense, you don't
Starting point is 00:56:47 really have core values and principles that you stand by. Because a person that has real true values and principles, you can't break them. You're just, the person's going to be like, no, I'm good. I'm not going to do it. Yeah, I'm not, I'm not okay with this. So the same way they divided between men and women, the same way they divided between husband and wife, the same they divided between the job creators and the people that the class wore that we're talking about financially, it's the same way they're saying, hey guys, we don't need church in schools, we don't need prayer in school,
Starting point is 00:57:16 we don't need to believe in a God, we don't need to, so I need to believe in LGBTQ's, what you're saying, but I don't need to believe in God, God. So your God was replaced by this LGBTQ nonsense and then gradually go in there and if you're able to get me or not believe in God, what do I no longer have? I no longer have faith, a community of people
Starting point is 00:57:34 that no longer have faith, whether the Bible is true or not, whether Jesus is real or not, whether your faith is real or not, I don't have faith anymore. The moment I don't have faith anymore, you have a crack in the argument. I can get in there and play my manipulative game. But if a group of people have faith, how do I go up against the community like that? So I see a lot of this trend as well happening because think about it this way.
Starting point is 00:58:01 Your liberal, 36, 37 years, I don't know what the timeline was the 30 plus years, Democrat. You said you're not voting Democrat in 2024, that's what you said, you're saying you're voting Republican 2024. But how come, how come you don't notice Republican parents being okay with transitioning? Doesn't happen that often. It's few of them. How come it's mainly democratic parents that are doing, so I'll come to you in a second. How come it's mainly democratic parents that are doing this? What is typically, if you were to say which one has a side that believes in God more or less,
Starting point is 00:58:35 generally it's gonna be more Republicans that believe in God than Democrats, okay? So if you're a Republican, you probably go to an institution where somebody's preaching every week and they're given a certain set of values and principles, then you eventually are like, well, that's kind of my value and principle as well. Then you're not gonna let somebody bully you
Starting point is 00:58:52 and you're not gonna break. And like, there's no way we're gonna be doing something like this to our kids. I'm gonna stay in firm on this, but Democrats, you're probably not going to church on Sunday. You probably don't have a certain, you know, religion. Not all, I'm not telling all. I'm purely talking percentages. This data's out there as well. So it's an easier target to go after. So if an institution wants to go after a community to transition their kids,
Starting point is 00:59:14 Democrats are the best targets. Republicans are the worst. Go ahead. I think you were going to say something. Look at, I was just going to say, well, you talk about religion. And when you look at how essentially this entire social movement, whether it be the trans things or the surrounding is just going to say, well, you talk about religion. And when you look at how essentially this entire social movement, whether it be the trans things or the surrounding little bubbles that are kind of tied to it, it fits what these people see as essentially a non-theistic religion. So, originally, there is no, there is no God, but it fits. You've heard the phrases, trans kids are sacred, trans people are holy. You are going through essentially all of the steps of a religion, except you are do not have a guide that you're praying to in the end of this.
Starting point is 00:59:51 They are worshiping every day on social media, because they've made this their religion. This is dark. And you can see in the fervor that they talk about things that they believe it. It is, and you have people like James Lindsay who talk a lot about this. He was just at a conference we were at this past weekend. But essentially the entirety of modern day progressivism, especially in like my age, I'm 21, so I call it kids age.
Starting point is 01:00:18 This, not only do they not have religion, they've replaced it with this being their religion. And when you think about it like that, that is a lot more sinister because that is a lot more that you have to break down to even have that conversation. And that is why you see where they don't have that conversation. No debate is a phrase that is used on this topic a lot. There is no debate because they believe in their heart of hearts that they know on a hundred percent what they're doing is right.
Starting point is 01:00:46 And that is a quote from a direct doctor who put a clip out on Twitter saying that they believe it. It is not, they don't care that the science is awful and weak and very low of it. And that doesn't matter on this topic because they believe in it. By the way, you're in college right now. I am not. I so I had to take a break last spring from because of health issues caused by my transition. I had to pull out because I might I joint pain and pelvic pain so bad I couldn't get a bed. But honestly, um, best
Starting point is 01:01:19 dishes I've ever made, I went to a school where the the medical students during their white coat ceremony called biological sex and oppressive construct that needs to be dismantled. I had a professor tell me that Charles Darwin's theory of evolution is directly responsible for generational trauma. I don't think you guys realize just how bad it is. However bad you think it is, it's worse. By the way, it's crazy. I'm sure you're thinking our conversation this last week with, you know what I'm talking about. Yes, I do. Go ahead, please. Well, and also, I mean, if you think about transgenderism, there's a gendered soul. This is what they say that there's a gender essence. So they're actually, transgenderism is a
Starting point is 01:02:01 new religion. It's based on faith, inintangible, and you are a true believer. We hear that terminology too. You are a true believer. And de-transitioners are just the apostates. And boy, oh boy, do we get treated like them? To the point where, in some like reading lists that have been put out for what would help de-transitioners, you have cult-deprogramming books in them. That is something that has been recommended to me over and over again.
Starting point is 01:02:29 Have you ever read books by people who have escaped a cult? That might help you. Why? De-transitioners are treated the way that apostates to a hostile religion would be treated. Wait, unpack that for me. So you're saying, for example, you have transitioned. Now you want to leave. They fear you leaving because it's going to show a leak
Starting point is 01:02:52 in their argument and they have to prevent you from leaving. That's why they're recommending these books. They, it is essentially the word D transition is a very, very scary one to the trans community. To the point that the first therapy appointment I went to after a D-transitioned, because it was like, okay, I'm going through it, I should probably, go find someone to talk to.
Starting point is 01:03:12 In that first therapy appointment, the therapist was like, well, have you tried just identifying as non-binary or essentially anything else that wouldn't make me a D-transitioner, because that is a very scary term to them. And they downplayed a lot with, oh, it's only a small percentage. We don't know the actual percent because they don't keep track of it. Detransitioners don't go back to the scene of the crime or to the doctor where this happened. Why would you?
Starting point is 01:03:37 Why would you go back to the place that the darkest moments in your life were affirmed into reality? Point. And I hear a lot of negative words in the research coming up this. I didn't even realize how negative they were, but you just saying that clicked with me. I was seeing things like, I'm stuck in a woman's body. I'm trapped.
Starting point is 01:03:58 Those are highly negative words. Like I'm imprisoned. Like you need to be liberated. You need to find this other faith. The concept. The psychology um, the concept... The psychology of that is really dark. The concept in transgenderism, and this is also applies to broader other similar social movements, of that you are not your body, you are simply in it, like, like, airment, like a gendered soul,
Starting point is 01:04:19 that you are living in your body, you are not your body, you are physically not connected to this thing, that your brain and your body can be completely separated and have no effect on each other at all. This is just my vessel. This isn't here. Your vessel is a good way to put it. Is essentially one of the most dangerous things we are teaching young people,
Starting point is 01:04:36 because they are hearing this, that you are just, you know, you hear outside of, you know, outside of transcendent, well, you hear I'm living in a female body, I'm living in a, you know I'm living in a female body, I'm living in a black body or fat body, any of these other movements. And the separation of the self from your physical being has to be one of the most harmful things we are telling young people that I do not see discussed nearly enough because part
Starting point is 01:05:03 of accepting and part of my D transitioning was realizing, I am my body, and that's okay, and sometimes that's gonna suck, but you know what, it's worth it because that's having two feet in reality, and remending that break that is being taught to young people of mind and body, remending that so they can actually feel whole
Starting point is 01:05:24 is what we need to be doing, but instead we currently live in a culture that is further separate from the two. This is powerful too, as you brought up. I got the chills all on my body, but I have complete chills. The pedophile aspect of this too. Let's put this body dissociation is what Lucas talking about. I'm sure Oli, you experience body dissociation is what Lucas talking about. I'm sure Ali, you experience body dissociation. It is what is being taught actually to our kids.
Starting point is 01:05:50 So you are not your body. So think about this. And this happened in my personal situation is that my daughter was being coached online. As soon as she put on Instagram, female to male, this is a calling card for pedophiles. Yeah. Pedophiles look at this girl and they say she is vulnerable, she is disassociating with her body. She's claiming that her body is not actually hers. She's my target.
Starting point is 01:06:16 100%. Yeah, they go after them and they and they ask these young girls to sell naked pictures of themselves because after all they're going to get those breasts removed anyway so why not use them for some cash. This is a real thing that is happening. They also look at these young girls and say, let's get her on testosterone because you know what testosterone does to a female. it turns all the nose into yeses. It turns us into, you know, or women into being much more promiscuous than one would be, because we don't have that hormone
Starting point is 01:06:57 in the same way that men do. I mean, we have testosterone in our bodies, but not to the effect that you do. And so you pump a young girl with testosterone and you're going to have a very promiscuous young girl. So this is all designed. This is all related to pedophilia also. And they take advantage of that this is not your body.
Starting point is 01:07:19 And this is where also belief is more important. Transwomen are women. That's based on what they believe. And also there's a desensitization. I mean, if you look at a pride event, you know, you see a sexualization, you see people in fetish gear, bondage, BDSM on the streets and there will be kids there. There are so many examples this summer during pride and it's desensitizing people to think that's perfectly normal and perfectly acceptable and we should not be allowing that in society. And it has all the signs of a cult. I mean, you know, in cults,
Starting point is 01:07:48 they sexualize and target young children. That's one thing, the people in the cult recruit members. So they take to tick to tick to tick to tick to Instagram to recruit new people to join the trans cult. And then if you leave that cult, you are a suppressive person, just like with psionology, for instance, you become a suppressive person, and they will target you.
Starting point is 01:08:07 So if you suddenly announce you've detransitioned online, you are a target of hatred. If you're a woman that says, sorry, I don't feel comfortable with you in my restroom, you are also targeted. So it's about that kind of suppressive person targeting and the sexualization has become normalized. This is so interesting because in faith, if you think about faiths around the world,
Starting point is 01:08:29 and people call them religions faith, but in the Judeo-Christian tradition, so that includes Mormons, Catholics, Protestants, it's a very large bucket, they're very clear that the soul and body are together, and their scripture says, you are fearfully and wonderfully made. And is the unit. And when you pass away, your spirit is where, you know, we all go to heaven. And that belief structure. And what they're doing is they're breaking that up prematurely into that, your how you're made, how you're born, could have had some flaw.
Starting point is 01:09:01 And that is just, to me, I'm just sitting here thinking about this, that is so striking in the destructiveness of self. No wonder suicide follows in these percentages, because you're now somehow conning them into believe that how you were born was somehow a mistake, rather than there's a goodness in you that needs to be found. And then to Jude, Christian tradition,
Starting point is 01:09:25 the most important three days, a day you're born, the day you decide to follow God, and the day you find out why you're here, and what you're gonna do as you do so. You see the power in that, and the goodness of where you're gonna find in yourself, versus them breaking all this. This is, I'm having an epiphany here listening to you,
Starting point is 01:09:42 and it's not a good one. I was also gonna say, the separation of of like one's mental state from their body just like Aaron mentioned is essentially a predator's dream to have someone so disassociated and so desensitized that they don't care what happens to their physical body because they see their physical body that can be interchanged like Legos. And I say this as one of the catalysts that led me to disassociate so heavily that I was like, I thought it was meant to be a boy, was the fact that I was preyed upon online. In several of these entran spaces where these adults see that you have young people who
Starting point is 01:10:18 hate their body and are heavily disassociating from it, and they will prey upon it. They use very similar lines of don't let your parents find out then you'll be in trouble. Your parents are the bad people here. They are, they don't understand you. I do. And they will tell you that over and over again. Let me ask this question. Your lawyer, okay. And when something like this happens to your kid, you're going to spend how many hours have you spent studying the whole motive, everything that's going on with this? How many hours have you put into this whole thing? Since that happened with your daughter.
Starting point is 01:10:50 Two years. OK, so give me total hours. What's hours? What would you say, actual hours? Couple thousand hours? Easy. Easy. OK.
Starting point is 01:10:58 So here's my question. My question is motive, right? Yesterday we're at the debate and we're watching all these guys and we're watching everything that's going on and we're kind of studying what's going on with the marketplace right now and what is the motive of This person saying this what is a motive of that person doing this? What is a motive of this? Okay, the motive here Is that guy wants to make money off of me? Okay, go. I get it. Great. What's the motive of this guy? This person wants to get close to you because they're trying to get close to Person that works with you and you want them to introduce you to her
Starting point is 01:11:26 because they really like her. All right, so you want me to endorse you. Okay, I get your motive. I want motive. What is the motive of trends? What is the motive of going to the kids? Is it purely business? Because we just read the numbers.
Starting point is 01:11:39 How big it is, right? The hormone replacement therapy. 10.2 billion? 10.2 billion in 2019. It's going to be hard on that today. You got the male to female gender reassignment surgery is $190 million in 2019. And just getting warmed up.
Starting point is 01:11:55 And getting warmed up. We can say finances, but it's got to be more than that. What do you think it is? So this is why it's so difficult to destroy, because it's a multi-headed hydra. So you have the money. There's a huge amount of money. And when we have David Sacks, his craft ventures just invested in plume, the online seller of
Starting point is 01:12:19 hormones, that targets kids, even though it's supposed to be 18 above it, targets kids because I lurk in that space. There's a huge amount of money in ESGs. So everyone, are all these companies think that they're getting good guy points for ESGs? Well, fixing their environmental footprint is really expensive. Social's very inexpensive.
Starting point is 01:12:39 Governance is relatively inexpensive. So they're picking the social. So they'll throw a pride parade. I mean, that's how they can get their good guy points. So they're picking the socials. So they'll throw a pride parade. I mean, that's how they can get their good guide points. So you have money. I mean, you're right. There are billions of dollars riding on vulnerable kids and vulnerable adults.
Starting point is 01:12:58 Because this is adults too, we can't actually stop at 18. 18 to 25, this stuff should be banned. Most of these kids are autistic. Most of them have mental health issues going back years that are not being resolved. So we have money. So that's an easy one to figure out. We also have government funding this.
Starting point is 01:13:17 In the state of California, we have, to the tune of multitude of millions of dollars pouring into this industry, while they're building new foster care facilities for these kids that they're stealing from parents, whether it's anti-hate and they're siphoning this off to NGOs or non-profits. So the money is a huge part of it. Then we just talked about the sex, because sex and money go together just like, you know, peas and carrots.
Starting point is 01:13:44 There's always a sex component of it. Like I said, when you take these vulnerable girls and boys, I mean, you pump a boy with sex. That's what, sexual desires or sex would mean by sex. OK, in two ways. So the boys, they're pumping these boys with puberty blockers. Their bodies never grow into a man body.
Starting point is 01:14:03 They have micro sized penises, and they never grow. And this is a fetish movement. So the top porn right now is transgender porn. So these men could be 30 years old, but they look like little boys. And you have, like, links back to, like that aspect of it, on even the top site. Do you have WPath, which is World Professional Association for Transgender Health, I believe,
Starting point is 01:14:28 is the, how would the acronyms dance for? On their latest guidelines, they advocated that Unic is a valid gender identity even for children. And if you followed the links back that they first posted, it went directly to a fetish site of grown men talking about how they wanted to cast right young boys. Wait, what? Unic? Unic. Unic. For real. For real. For boys, it's like a cast-strated male, essentially, is what a unique is. Yeah, it goes back to history for the Egyptians. It's one of the strong men to protect the queen, but they would castrate them so that they couldn't hook up. And you have, you have the top world
Starting point is 01:15:04 professional association for transgender health. So WPath, then the latest guidelines were advocating for unique as a valid gender identity. And you linked back and it linked, you checked the link on it that I doubt still up now, because I'm sure they tried, I'm sure they tried to wipe it. Did they keep up? No, it's still there. So we have sex, money, we have calling the herd. We have eugenics because we had a detrans awareness event. 10 out of the 11 detransitioners were there were autistic. If they went through with their transition, they would all be sterilized.
Starting point is 01:15:45 So let's call the herd. Remember, Planned Parenthood is the biggest seller of cross-sex hormones. And Planned Parenthood had its genesis in eugenics, sterilizing the deplorables, the unwanted, the poor, the mentally unwell. So you have that aspect of it. And then we have queer theory,
Starting point is 01:16:06 which is the destruction of everything that's normal, the destruction of the family. When my child was going through this, she was told to call me by my first name, so that I was no longer mother, so she could separate. This is designed to blow away everything that is good in the world. We see queer theory going on right now when you see all these protests in support of Hamas. This is queer theory again. It has to keep querying. They have to keep
Starting point is 01:16:42 finding something that's good and destroy it. Destroy the family, destroy the child, destroy education, keep destroying. It's designed to keep snowballing until there's nothing left of our society. First amendment being destroyed. Why, though, actually go why? Because, okay, these same people that want to do this, they also want to make money. If you destroy society, you're not only going to make money, you're going to lose a lot of your money, why would you do that?
Starting point is 01:17:09 Like, you can't have a society of people that are not working, that are, you know, that can't be a net positive to society. Why would they do that? Well, that's where the aspect of belief comes in, and at least in my opinion, is one, in the transgender aspect, you are making a permanent patient out of someone, so even if like, oh, well, you can't have kids, okay, then we'll just push you down the line to IVF or surrogacy or anything else that will provide money. It is making a permanent patient
Starting point is 01:17:36 because medicalization in the sense breeds medicalization. You know, you have complications in some surgery, better have another surgery. You're still uncomfortable with something, better have another procedure. You have side effects from taking hormones. Well, we got to get you on more medication to fix that. It's all of this stuff. And it is essentially, when we talk about essentially ruining or querying the normal,
Starting point is 01:18:04 it is taking a perfectly healthy body and destroying it. And the money's coming from people of our generation. Those of us who worked 10, 12 hours a day and worked their tails off, we're paying for all of this. Eventually, that money will dry up, so it will end. But they're taking our tax dollars and using our tax dollars to harm kids
Starting point is 01:18:28 and to pay for these medical interventions using that term loosely. In California and in most states, Medi-Cal pays for this. So those are our tax dollars being used. When you're paying for your private insurance, your private insurance is paying for this. We're paying into this.
Starting point is 01:18:45 Ollie, I don't, I mean, you had so many surgeries, were they paid by your... No, I paid myself. Yeah, to pay yourself. So NIH didn't do that? No, no, not for, because I was changing my nose, like I had six nose jobs, I was doing dual feminization, they weren't doing that, no. NIH time, he's in London. A national health service, yeah, NHS, yeah.
Starting point is 01:19:06 He's. Sorry, yeah. So the motive is based on what you're saying, is money, ESG, social, sex, boys are being pumped, the puberty blockers, because their body now grows to human bodies, micro-penises, top porn sites, it's transgender porn. We're gonna give a second point under sex.
Starting point is 01:19:23 What was the second one? Well, then the other thing is then there's another as Luca was bringing up too, is there's money made on the front end and there's money made on this. Oh, God, like a pipeline of a funnel of other products I can sell you? It is a non-stop, so also, I'm gonna get a little deep
Starting point is 01:19:40 here, but with the parents, so you break up the parents and the child, so the child runs away, goes into foster care or goes- Like the litter family? Yes, but the parent has to take all these parenting courses. So the parent is always spending money in the court systems and hiring people and hiring attorneys to try to get their child back. They never get their child back.
Starting point is 01:20:00 There's so much money in this, it's kind of hidden money. The prisons are paying for all these gender transformations for men so that they can get into women's prisons. Again, like Plume, the hormone company is working with Stork. So they take, they sterilize you, and then they buy you a baby when you want one. So there's so much money to be made on people's misery over and over and over again. I mean, the de-transitioners, like Lucas said,
Starting point is 01:20:40 the doctors don't even know what to do to help her. They don't, so I went, when I first do transition, I went to a doctor that was at the gender clinic at my current university, because I was like, I got off testosterone. I was like, I need blood work done. I need to see where my levels are. I knew exactly what I needed for that.
Starting point is 01:20:57 Just to see what damage was done essentially is what I need to see. And I went there and I was very candid. I just explained everything to this dog drum like this is what is going on. And she looked at me and she said, you know, I want to help you, but I have no idea what to do with you. There's no protocol for this. And I am actually also one of the detransitioners who went back to their original doctor, which is not very many of us. And what did the origin doctor say? and a doctor, which is not very many of us. And what did the origin doctor say?
Starting point is 01:21:24 This is just the next step on your gender journey. Wow. Is what I got told. And no real help was offered. And here's the thing, like at the time I went back to that clinic, I was still pretty newly detransitioned. And I would have been willing to like, okay, you know what, maybe this doctor's different.
Starting point is 01:21:43 Maybe she will help me. Maybe she would understand. And instead, she looked mildly panic through the Zoom call, because this wasn't even a person. She looked mildly panicked that I even brought up that I didn't think I could consent to this stuff at 16 with all my mental health issues going on. And told me that this is the next step of my gender journey.
Starting point is 01:22:02 And then I had to pay for the Zoom call appointment, which was a lot. And I'm sorry, I was gonna make a point regarding that. So also these hospitals, they don't wanna treat day detransitioners because it makes their statistics and data look bad. So you see, all of these clinics trans activists, they'll claim there's a 1% detransition rate.
Starting point is 01:22:19 Why do you think that is? It's because they're not actually treating them. They just send them out the door, sorry, we can't help you. We can't reconstruct your breasts, the Medicaid or Medicare isn't going to pay for that reconstruction. So they don't want those statistics. And you know, that's what trans activists always argue, there's a 1% D transition rate, but we know there are so many, there's a Reddit group online with 50,000 people in a D transition forum. I believe it's higher than that. It's higher than that.
Starting point is 01:22:42 This is the medical economy, this is the dark side of the medical economy that we all saw during COVID where hospitals wanted to declare deaths related to COVID because it helped their statistics and their federal grant money on the other side. So there's this whole dark economy. This award it keeps coming mine, as I'm listening to you,
Starting point is 01:23:00 is like there's this dark economy, the dark trans economy. It's pure arrogance by the way. To say, this is what if we compete at the transitions more common in the early stages of transition, particularly for surgery, the share of trans people who the transition is unknown, which estimates generally ranging as less than 1% to as many as 8%. And then right below that, of course, you have the gender GP link.
Starting point is 01:23:21 Which is what? Which is what? And it is. And it is. Go to the gender GP links. Let's see what that is. A trans act. It's a transactive group. But it's funny because some of the major studies on studying, quote, unquote, D transition, don't even include it.
Starting point is 01:23:35 It didn't even include people who actually identified as D transition. Like there was the like national transgender survey that was going around around this time last year. And by virtue of being a D transitiontransitioner no longer being part of that, you could not even respond, meaning that they are not even counting D-transitioners in this number, because it was supposed to gauge how well how many people are there. And then you don't get an answer of, okay, well, here's how many D-transitioners there. I'm trying to look up the, just how many people are now in the
Starting point is 01:24:05 detrans subreddit, because even since I joined it last year, it is it is shot up. Is that number public? It is public. So it currently has 51k members on our slash detrans. On the detrans members, 51k members on our slash detrans. And last year, it was 37,000. And last year it was 37,000. So it keeps growing. I mean, it just keeps growing. And there is one study that they did through the military where they showed the number of military personnel that went on cross-sex hormones
Starting point is 01:24:37 and then stopped coming for their cross-sex hormones. And that's 30%. So they're hiding the true numbers. Because again, it's a cult, and they can't have anybody saying that transition isn't great. The D-trans subreddit is what I, you know, I loveingly refer to as one of the most depressing places on the internet. One of the most depressing places on the internet.
Starting point is 01:25:00 This is the GP Trans-No, the D-trans subreddit. Why is that? Because there is a, we have each other, but aside from that, there is a total lack of hope is something you find in D trans communities. You have people who are suffering so many health problems caused, but as many of them were going through the darkest time in their lives when they were pulled into all this thing, many of them were children. And you see them come out the other end and they are just broken and desperately searching for some thing to hold on to and all this. They are desperately searching for some hope, it's better. And some hope that it, you know, that there is help out there
Starting point is 01:25:45 when you have a medical system that is looking us in the eyes and telling us that it doesn't want to help us, that we are just the collateral damage for a social movement, that it doesn't care how many of us are hurt. And you go to this forum and you read the stories of the actual people who have been hurt by this, the actual human lives that have been destroyed by this, the actual human lives that have been destroyed by this treatment.
Starting point is 01:26:06 And the fact that you just see the activists that are just like collateral damage and then you have to ask how many people will be enough for them to actually care. How many? Because this is like Aaron was talking about you. I think you even were paying attention to these transselate before even ID transitioned. And you just, you look at, you look at the numbers shooting up of people, people doing this. And you see the real harm that's caused. And you wonder how many more people are going to be hurt until you, we don't give a crap and notice, and maybe even acknowledge that something has gone wrong here.
Starting point is 01:26:42 The horrifying irony of this is so massive to me right now, that these people are authentically hurting, authentically physically harmed by the treatments and the drugs and the medications, and they're in this dark place, which is what they wanted you to believe you were in at the start. I, I never, oh, your loss. No one cares about you. We do. I, I never was truly suicidal until I, I, I,
Starting point is 01:27:08 transitioned and was having to deal with the real consequences of things like joint pain so bad I couldn't get out of bed. Blessed winter of things like pelvic pain so bad I was curled over in the curled up in the field position on the couch until realizing that I may have destroyed my chance completely of having children until realizing that parts of my body are gone, that there was nothing wrong with. There was nothing wrong with my body, and it was cut up. And having to come to terms with that,
Starting point is 01:27:36 and if I got, thank God, I'm in a much better place now, and thank God I have people in my life, and some of the other detransitioners that like understand what I'm going through. But the medical industry has essentially created a, you know, a destroyed subset of human with lifelong health issues and lifelong, almost trauma surrounding their body now and kicked them out the back door because it doesn't look good on their stats. Here's the thing too. I get phone calls from detransitioners that are suicidal.
Starting point is 01:28:09 I mean, they are literally suicidal. They call me, I can't go on. I won't leave my house. I don't know what I am. I have removed all my body parts. There's a young man in San Francisco who called two Fridays ago. He was in a psychotic break moment when he let them remove his genitals. He's 29.
Starting point is 01:28:37 He's a straight guy. What do I say to him? What do I say to him to help keep him alive after the doctors have done this to them? And like Lucas said, and then they throw him to the curb, sorry, we can't help you. It was your decision, your autonomous decision. We were just the surgeons. We just did what you said to do. I mean, these doctors need to be held to account. First do no harm. We do not have cafeteria style medical procedures. You can't walk in. I mean we shouldn't, no one should walk in and say, hey I want my body parts removed. Yeah, I mean I agree and this
Starting point is 01:29:22 is often the only support these kids have is going to these D trans forums or there's very little support because what happens just going back to the cult is if that person speaks out online, firstly they get canceled, they get bombarded with hate. So that's in an effort to silence them. Secondly, we have to remember if they're trans, most of their friendship circle is likely still going to be trans or non-binary. So for them to go against their friends is basically, you know, they're going to be blacklist, they're going to be completely canceled. So they have no one to speak to.
Starting point is 01:29:50 So that's why they go online. They're speaking with people anonymously and they can't get that mental health support. And, you know, they're really struggling with a mental health. What got you through it? You talk about faith a little bit, but what got you through these days?
Starting point is 01:30:01 To be honest, it was really, really tough. You know, I went through some very dark times, doing all these crazy, crazy surgeries, being left with the scars. And it was really, really tough. And one of the things that helped me is having reminiscence therapy. So you think back to when you were young, happy memories.
Starting point is 01:30:17 So when I was a little kid, I would revisit places. I went to museums or farms or fields and stuff, and having that reminiscence therapy. And I went to a church. I went to as a kid with my school and I went there and I was rekindling these happy memories and thinking, you know, I was a happy person but then I'd been miserable for about 20 years. I need to snap out of it.
Starting point is 01:30:35 So, you know, the faith was, and just having that purpose in life. And I thought, you know, what I'm doing is a bad role model. You know, I'm taking the TikTok, I'm trans, I'm sharing this online and stuff. And that could actually hurt someone. That could actually influence someone. a bad role model, you know, I'm taking the tiktok, I'm sharing this online and stuff and that could actually hurt someone, that could actually influence someone. I want to do two things.
Starting point is 01:30:50 Okay, if we're already this far along, I want to explain it as well. So women who go through the transition of being a man, okay, you explain the surgery, what was it called? It's a, what was the name of it? Fala plastic. Fala plastic. Fala plastic. And Tom explained this to me for the first time yesterday. I had no clue. That's how they did it. By the way, where they cut a, a, a, a, you know, uh, the horrifying isn't it? Yeah. Can you, and then for women, for men being girls, where if you don't constantly,
Starting point is 01:31:29 you know, do certain procedure, it could shut down, then you can't pee, then you have, you know, all these other things that you could be dealing with. When one wants to go through that procedure, what does that procedure look like? See, when it comes to the to the female to male identifying one, from my understanding is it is a series of surgeries
Starting point is 01:31:52 that it takes a graph and it leaves behind a ton of scarring, whether it be on your forearm or I believe on your thighs in the middle of place, to be honest, I never looked into it because even when I was like, believed I was trans completely, I was like, well, that is absolutely horrifying. I don't want that done. Um, I don't know. Um, but yeah, it's, it's, it's terrifying.
Starting point is 01:32:18 It is, these have such high, they have such high complication rates to you see people going in revision after revision after revision you see you see surgeons that always do like a terrible job and are known to do a terrible job of these things in the community except trans people are shut down whenever they talk about their health issues or like these bad surgeons because they think it's going to look bad on the rest of the. And that is why our slush D-transits also a place where like you're hearing about some of these health issues that transition causes, that get shut down in trans circles because you might scare someone and they might not transition if they knew the health effect.
Starting point is 01:32:55 And our shocking research on fellow classes is that 40% of the time they end up in continent because they lose control of the muscle that we are released when it's time to pee. Yeah, they also bleed. They have a lot of cramps. They have to constantly go to the toilet and they're basically in pain for the rest of life. And then if a man becomes with woman parts, you know, vagina plastic, they have to use a dilator every single week for the rest of their life. And there was a case, if you know jazz Jennings, who has the reality TV show, you know, and her mom, who has transitioned, has since she was a kid, and also encourages other
Starting point is 01:33:29 parents to transition their kids. She was bragging about it, you know, joking about it. And you can see this, this young kid, you know, she's about 1890 now, Jazz Jennings. She is really, really suffering with her mental health. You see it on the screen and it's heartbreaking, and the mom is bragging that, oh, don't worry, you can use a dilator, and that's the reality of what these people that transition have to go through. They're never gonna be able to have these parts functioning. Normally, they're always gonna have complications,
Starting point is 01:33:51 they're gonna be in pain. And again, there's no treatment for that because these doctors don't wanna help them. Once they've done the operation, you know, you're at the door, they don't want you as a statistic as a D-transitioner. Also, one thing that the phrasing at least that I liked is, I have a friend who D-transitioned and he's referred to essentially the entire thing, specifically the bottom surgeries as a
Starting point is 01:34:16 sexual lobotomy. Your function is gone. It is destroyed. He's referred to the opus as it under transition as a sexual lobotomy, and I think that is a very, a very good way to phrase it because of the fact that it is a physical intervention that is destroying a part of you for what is a mental health condition.
Starting point is 01:34:38 And for the young boys who go on puberty blockers and then cross sex hormones, we talked about the lack of growth, who go on puberty blockers and then cross sex hormones, we talked about the lack of growth, but they also never will achieve a climax. So how do you get consent from a 10-year-old? How do you explain if you're gonna go on these puberty blockers and 95% go on to cross sex hormones? So once you're on puberty blockers, you're going on cross sex hormones that you will never
Starting point is 01:35:08 experience a sexual pleasure. How do you explain to a 10-year-old what that means? To give something up, you have no idea what it is. And this is a forever problem. How do you explain that? How do you define an orgasm? I believe this was out of the UK, one of their conclusions, but there is no age-appropriate way to explain to a child what the complete loss of their sexual function as an adult
Starting point is 01:35:31 is. There's no age-appropriate way to explain it, whether that be, you know, the boys on puberty blockers who will never develop that way, whether it be putting young girls on testosterone to the point where they have atrophy so bad that it doesn't matter, they're not going to be able to do things anyway. So it's terrifying. And there is no age-appropriate way to explain that to a child. And also, it's one of those things where like, why are we, you know, listening to a young
Starting point is 01:35:57 child, young teenager, young child's judgment when that kid, when that kid is saying they don't want to have kids? Of course, they don't want to have kids. Of course they don't want to have kids. They're a child themselves. They haven't gotten a chance to grow up and know what that means. And we are destroying not only their sexual function but their fertility, before they have even gotten a chance to mature and get to the point where they can have the long term decision making to decide if that is something they even want.
Starting point is 01:36:21 Yeah, I mean, to me, it goes back down to the responsibility, the parents, and these parents have issues. They sincerely have issues. They need to be diagnosed to see what they're going through. Now, some of them that are just worried and they're like, oh my God, what do I do? I don't want my kid to kill themselves, suicide, totally get it, they have the fear,
Starting point is 01:36:39 but there's a certain responsibility that lies on the kids. I wanna read this to you, okay. Here's a list of states where transgender surgery on minors is banned. We have 50 states in US, only 18 states ban it. That means 32 states don't ban it. These are the states that ban it.
Starting point is 01:36:58 Alabama, Arkansas, Arizona, Florida, Georgia, Idaho, Indiana, Iowa, Kentucky, Mississippi, Missouri, Montana, Nebraska, South Dakota, Oklahoma, South Dakota, Tennessee, Idaho, Indiana, Iowa, Kentucky, Mississippi, Missouri, Montana, Nebraska, South Dakota, Oklahoma, South Dakota, Tennessee, Utah. Okay. States where transgender surgery is approved with parental approval, New York, California, Massachusetts, Alaska, Illinois, Minnesota, New Mexico, and California have made strides in protecting access to care for transgender people.
Starting point is 01:37:24 States where transgender surgery is approved without parental approval. Let me read this to you folks. States where transgender surgery is approved without parental approval. Okay. Oregon allows minors as youngest 15 years old to have sex, resimist surgery without consent from their parents. California allows children as long as youngest 12 years old to receive taxpayer-funded transgender treatment and services. Is this serious without parental consent, California? Following states as a list of states that have a state law that bans transgender students from participating in sports, consistent with their transgender identity. Bama, Arkansas, Florida,
Starting point is 01:38:03 Georgia, Idaho, Iowa, Mississippi, Montana, South Carolina, South Dakota, Tennessee, Texas, West Virginia. You keep going through these. And you're sitting there wondering, here are some places where schools can refer to students by their preferred gender without notified parents. California, Chicago Public Schools, L-A-U-S-T, DC Public Schools, Baltimore City Public Schools,
Starting point is 01:38:24 San Francisco Unified School District, Portland public schools, Seattle public schools, in Virginia Fairfax County public schools, Montgomery County public schools, this is in Maryland. You read this stuff. Are these people losing their minds? Completely, and I need to comment on this because I'm gonna comment it in pieces here.
Starting point is 01:38:47 Let's be clear, almost every public school in the United States is hiding social transition from the parents, even in the state of Florida, they're still doing it. They are doing it in all the red states too, they're doing it in the blue states. They are taught, they are trained, that parents don't need to know if their child is gender questioning. This is across the board, you can go onto their websites, you can see that they're claiming that children have privacy rights, which they don't have. In the state of California, 12-year-olds can transition on the state dime as long as they run away.
Starting point is 01:39:28 As long as they're in foster care, then a 12-year-old has power. So this is why this is the whole tie-in to that law that I talked about. Why the government wants kids to be running away? Because as soon as that child is 12, they have self-determination. And same thing in Oregon and a lawsuit being filed against the Oregon law for 15-year-olds. What you talked about is so important, why California needs to end it in California?
Starting point is 01:39:58 Because all those red states, those 18 states with bands, all of those children can run away to the state of California and become a foster care kid and get these gender interventions. And these trans activists, it's insane. Well, you just said, let me interrupt and just ask one question. You just said California can be the sanctuary city for trans runaways nationwide.
Starting point is 01:40:25 It is. That law passed last year. We are a sanctuary state, so is Minnesota. Yes. So if a child from Florida gets a ticket and runs away to California, we take them in, we don't return them back to Florida. We take them in and we go ahead and throw them
Starting point is 01:40:42 into our foster care system and let that child transition. That's why the ballot initiative in California to stop this is so important. It's not just a California ballot initiative. Yes, only Californians can vote on it, but everyone in the nation should be But everyone in the nation should be donating to this movement because again, we'll take your kids Kentucky, we'll take your kids from Tennessee and we will harm them in our state in California. That's what we're doing and not only that, we're going to advertise. Gavin Newsom passed a bill that is going to advertise in all those red states to come to California. If you're a child who wants to get transitioned, you come to our state, we'll take you in
Starting point is 01:41:32 and we'll mutilate you. You will, Minnesota is also... Minnesota, thank you. He's also a sanctuary state, but you already hear it in these states where you have the laws passed protecting children. You already hear it from these activists, parents, well, we're going to move to Minnesota. We're going to move to California as if these states that are
Starting point is 01:41:50 banning this would miss them. But they won't actively move. When you believe in something so as hard as these people do, you will actually, they will absolutely move just to be able to do this to their child or the child around the way. And you spoke about, you mentioned Oregon in that list of states. I believe it was Oregon or Washington that they made it where the state money will cover transition, but they actively excluded any coverage for detransitioners in their law.
Starting point is 01:42:18 Wow. Like act, like act. You know, it's just a one way street in it. But you know what it is. You know, sometimes people ask me and way street in it It's but you know what it is you know Sometimes people ask me and they'll say so why'd you have that person on the podcast? Why do you have this person on the podcast? Why do you have that person on the podcast? And why'd you let them talk? because
Starting point is 01:42:35 The more they talk if their argument is pathetic and insane and you can't see the hypocrisy in their argument then it's, you're responsible as well to understand that somebody's got gamesmanship on you. But the more they're doing things like this, they're just, they're allowing others to make the argument why they're pathetic, why they're doing what they're doing. But there was a documentary that was supposed to come out.
Starting point is 01:42:58 I want to finish on this year. AMC pulls documentary featuring detransitioners from theaters in face of pressure, right? This was I think a few months ago, June 19th or something like that. And TikTok played a pivotal role in ash escridged journey as she explained. No, not that one. This is the other one. AMC canceled screenings of the documentary no way back.
Starting point is 01:43:22 Yes. The reality of gender-forming care after pressure from activists, including the Queer Trans Project, detransitional Laura Becker criticized the decision, saying, I think it's incredibly dangerous to set the precedent of suppressing free speech, suppressing viewpoints that basically are just unpopular or difficult to deal with,
Starting point is 01:43:41 that 90-minute film features detransitioner stories and insights from experts examining the risks and long-term implications of gender from the medication. AMC attributed the cancellation to poor ticket sales, but the plurable films, the distribution company defended the documentary, noting that those opposing it had not seen the film before taking actions to silence it. So actually about this film, I did a panel at a screening of an LA, but I also went to a film festival in Iowa to represent the director and talk about it and answer questions.
Starting point is 01:44:15 And Laura, the quote from Laura that you just read out is completely right, that it is a long ring that we are, you know, silencing essentially what is an unpopular opinion. The film is, I'm gonna be real when you watch it. It's like, it's one of those things where you watch it and you're like, this, this is what people are upset about because it's just presenting the other side of just how bad things have gotten
Starting point is 01:44:35 in this presenting D-transitioner's stories. And it has professionals and it has doctors and it has, you know, it has the people that are doing the, quote, unquote, science. These people claim to care so much about. It has them. And it has them pointing out some truths that yes, they are uncomfortable, but they need to be said because kids are being hurt. And it was one of those things where, you know, they canceled it. And they can say it's because of poor tickets. It's not true. It's not true. I know the director. I know who wrote it.
Starting point is 01:45:06 I know her whole story. And she's a Democrat too. And yeah, they're canceling us left and right. This is the way it is. There's a multitude of films that have been out there. But this one was finally getting distribution. And the trans activists shut it down. Remember 60 minutes about two years ago or three years ago where the D-transitioners
Starting point is 01:45:30 went on? They cut that programming too. They don't want to hear the other side. This is the cult mentality. The New York Times won't print my name. They've interviewed me countless times. They won't. They won't print the other side, they won't print the truth. Can't have somebody Google you, they might find out. Right, I mean, it is, it's hiding the best kept secret, right? If they are so proud of what they're doing, why are they afraid of listening to the other side?
Starting point is 01:46:00 I mean, you see the Washington Post, they won't use the word detransitioner. They won't write about us. They won't write about the parents who are pulling their kids out. They won't write about the parents who are losing custody of their kids because they won't call their daughter a boy or their son a girl. There's complete silence on this. So I appreciate you having this podcast, but there are thousands of us, tens of thousands of
Starting point is 01:46:25 us out there, and they're ignoring us and pretending it's not happening. Well, I think the most important thing when you said, you know, what did they do when you're looking at this? What was the website Reddit? You said what everybody's writing stuff and what's missing? To me, there's a few things in a situation like that. One, you need love and support. Like a community you're part of where at least you feel like,
Starting point is 01:46:49 man, there's other people that are going through what I'm going through. Two, you need faith, because there's no one can do anything, man. The only thing can rely on is a higher power to have faith in. That's going to allow you to go through that process. Three, you need fighters that are going to fight for you, like yourself, that are doing what they're doing. And smart folks that are coming fighters that are going to fight for you, like yourself, that are doing what they're doing, and smart folks that are coming around that are willing to write bills.
Starting point is 01:47:09 The average person is like, write a bill. How do I write a bill? Well, this is why you need folks like you that are willing to do that and stand up. And then last but not least, everybody lives a weird life, man. If you believe in God, God sometimes chooses you to play a role of a person that's going to share their message and inspire others that are going through tough times and show strength and sometimes life is a very weird life.
Starting point is 01:47:36 We get taken advantage of that times and those who can stand up and stay strong in that end up inspiring others to also go through the challenge and time because they say, if he can do it, if she can do it, I can as well. I applaud you, Luca, for coming here sharing your story. I applaud you a lot. Really, and the reason why I say that, not that it's a competition like I applaud you more than others, you're 21. You know, it's like for some of us, I mean, I heard you even say I think you're a child to your 25-year-old because you're still developing.
Starting point is 01:48:03 You're still at that 21-8, right? Some of the more prominent D-transitioners, they transitioned as adults when they were going through it, you know, whether that be abuse. Chris, come on. All this, maybe seal them. That's another story. He's not, he's not. He's not, he's not to me.
Starting point is 01:48:18 We were gonna have them on today as well, and, you know, yeah, I'm with you. So here's what I wanna do. We're at the Ender the Podcast. Couple of things. If you have any questions for Ali or Erin, you can find them on Meneck, ask questions, parents ask as many questions as possible,
Starting point is 01:48:34 specifically from Erin, because she's in this, she can give you her perspective. Ali, for someone that's going through it, you can also visit the website from Aaron's site on Protect Kids, California CA, ProtectKidCA.com. Ali has a book that came out, Gender Madness, the link will also be below for you to order it. And aside from that, my biggest recommendation
Starting point is 01:48:59 to everybody, share this content. Talk about it with your kids. Talk about it with your spouse. Talk about it with your siblings. talk about it with your spouse, talk about it with your siblings, talk about it with your family, environment, get more of these types of conversations going. And if you're running another big podcast and you got kids, you're worried about it,
Starting point is 01:49:13 munch and bite them as well, to come and start talking about these things until mainstream has no choice, but to have to talk about it. We're seeing right now, podcasts are starting to have more power than mainstream anyways. The days of mainstreamers having that monopoly are behind us.
Starting point is 01:49:28 There's many ways to get the message out. Once again, thank you so much for coming out and sharing your story with everybody. Appreciate you guys. Thank you. Thank you. Take care everybody. Bye bye. you

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