PBD Podcast - Mental Health Expert: Johann Hari | PBD Podcast | EP 121
Episode Date: February 2, 2022In this episode, Patrick Bet-David is joined by addiction and depression specialist Johann Hari and Adam Sosnick. In this episode they discuss, Why Johann Wants To Save Our Attention, The Most Importa...nt Thing To Value, Why All Innovation Requires Deep Thought, The Cost Of Video Game Addictions and Porn Addiction. Check out Johann's book "Stolen Focus: Why You Can't Pay Attention" here: https://amzn.to/3gaMQ0v Text: PODCAST to 310.340.1132 to get added to the distribution list About Guests: Johann Eduard Hari is a British-Swiss writer and journalist. He has written for publications including The Independent and The Huffington Post, and has written books on the topics of depression, the war on drugs, and the British monarchy. Connect with him on instagram here: https://bit.ly/35s69An Adam “Sos” Sosnick has lived a true rags to riches story. He hasn’t always been an authority on money. Follow Adam on Instagram: https://bit.ly/2PqllTj. You can also check out his weekly SOSCAST here: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLw4s_zB_R7I0VW88nOW4PJkyREjT7rJic Connect with Patrick on social media: https://linktr.ee/patrickbetdavid About the host: Patrick Bet-David is the founder and CEO of Valuetainment Media, the #1 YouTube channel for entrepreneurship with more than 3 million subscribers. He is the author of the #1 Wall Street Journal bestseller Your Next Five Moves (Simon & Schuster) and a father of 2 boys and 2 girls. He currently resides in Ft. Lauderdale, Florida. Bet-David is passionate about shaping the next generation of leaders by teaching the fundamentals of entrepreneurship and personal development while inspiring people to break free from limiting beliefs to achieve their dreams. Follow the guests in this episode: Johann Hari: https://bit.ly/35s69An Adam Sosnick: https://bit.ly/2PqllTj To reach the Valuetainment team you can email: info@valuetainment.com Check out PBD's official website here: https://bit.ly/32tvEjH --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/pbdpodcast/support
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Well, we're going to talk about that.
I don't really have a question about that.
We're lying.
Okay, so David, check this out.
We're making history today.
Today, our guest, Johan Harry, flew in from UK.
Yes.
I've been in Miami a while, but yeah.
Okay, so here's the interesting fact about today's interview folks.
Brace for Impact.
You got to wait eight seconds before you, you know, you say,
I'm not sure if I like this guy or not.
So his TED Talks have been viewed 78 million plus times,
80 million plus times.
His books have been translated in 37 different languages.
He's gotten praise, wait for it, from Hillary Clinton,
but also from Tucker Carlson.
He may be the only guy that has gotten praise
by Hillary Clinton and Tucker, come by.
Literally in the little Venn diagram, this Hillary Tucker Carlson, Oprah and Noem Chomsky
and I'm the one person who's ever been praised by those, don't forget Elton John.
Elton John too.
I want them all to form an acapelaband and sing about my songs, but Elton's not up for
it, I don't know why.
Well, he would be the main guy and everybody would just stand there.
He would mainly stand there.
But here's what Hillary Clinton said.
In his unique voice, Harry tackles the profound dangers facing humanity from information technology
and rings.
The alarm bill for what all of us must do to protect ourselves our children and our democracies.
Elton Johnson's, if you have ever been down or felt lost, this amazing book will change your life.
Do yourself a favor, read it.
Now, I don't know if you saw his movie, by the way.
Did you see Elton Johnson's movie?
Yeah, yeah, a lot of what a movie.
Incredible movie.
I recommended that movie to so many friends
who were having a hard time with alcohol,
because it was, I don't know if you saw the movie or not.
Have you seen the movie?
I did, yes.
Ridiculous.
Rocket man. Rocket man, you're a ridiculous man. Go ahead, go, sorry, yeah, by the movie? I did yes Ridiculous rock it man rock it man. Yeah, right?
Go ahead. Don't sorry. Yeah, hold it. Sing me something fun fact. Here's a fun fact
So my dad is
79 years old hardcore Middle Eastern guy with old school tendency. I wouldn't say hardcore the nicest guy
He is the nicest guy to be like some sort of
Pottery said on his saying
He's more like a Gandhi he's a more here in the house. He's a pejorie. He's a down he's saying. All right. That's Mark Boy, guys. He's more like a Gandhi figure.
He's like more like a Gandhi figure.
That's not like a Gandhi.
He's more like a Gandhi and Saddam Hussein.
Mark Boyn is principles.
He is.
He's soft in his personal.
I'm trying to say he's very conservative.
Okay, in his way.
So one day we're staying at the Palazzo suite.
It's like 15,000 square feet.
And it's at the Rio.
And we're putting an event there. And the hostess comes and he's given us a tour
And he says just so you know sir Elton John stayed here for two months. You're the first family to stay here after Elton
I'm like great. So my dad's like who Elton John?
He's a little bit worried. He says sir, just so you know the bed you're sleeping in this Elton John slept here last night
My dad is like Elton John slept here last night night. My dad is like, Elton John slept to your last night.
It was all trippy for him.
Anyways.
Your dad cannot be more conservative than my dad.
To give you a sense of my dad,
my dad thinks that Donald Trump is like a liberal.
Right, my dad, I was very lucky because I'm gay.
And my dad thinks Donald Trump is a liberal.
I was very lucky because I'm gay,
but my dad's a bit, I'm a phobic,
but fortunately he hates women more than he hates gay.
So when I told him, why? When I told him, I was gay. He's a former bit, I'm a phobic, but fortunately, he hates women more than he hates gay. So when I told him, when I told him,
I was gay when I met Sadajah, homo-vote.
He said to me, ah, son, it's a good rare faggot.
It means you don't have to deal with these bitches.
I was like, wow.
Backstab.
It's really, really, really, see that.
He meant it nice.
He's actually a very nice person.
He would never be actually nasty.
Do you remember?
He just got canceled by like, so many people.
I know, I know.
Oh, gosh, you guys.
I love it.
Is he a fan of Ethan John?
He does love Ethan.
Even like the most hardcore.
The fucking Taliban people you think the guy should be
going to love.
Love it.
Right?
I'll tell you one quick story when I used to be in nightlife,
Miami, I used to hire DJs.
This one, you brought up the word real.
I don't think you meant from Brazil.
I know, okay.
They get serious. So there was this one, you brought up the word Rio, I don't think you meant from Brazil. I don't know, okay. They get straight out of you.
So there was this one, uh, Brazilian DJ, and he goes,
Hey Adam, I guess who my favorite musician is ever.
Ever, I'm like, just start guessing.
He's like, I'll give you a guess.
I'll give you a hint.
It starts with an H.
I'm like, H, I don't know, like Whitney Houston,
I don't know, I'm thinking, you know, the H town boys,
he goes,
Heltum John. I call you, it I'm thinking, you know, the H town boys, he goes, Helt on John.
I go, it's Elton with the, with the needs.
Any time I think of Elton John, I think of Helt on John.
He's been to Halton, John and Bats.
Yeah, that's hilarious.
Anyway, so today, we're going to talk about your latest books, Stolen, Focus, Why You Can't
Pay Attention and How to Think Deeply Again.
Now the stuff you've written about and talked about,
I watched, you know, your, your, both your TED talks.
I'm, and by the way, it's, what's so crazy is,
this weekend I was having my son,
watch some videos on focus, okay?
And I'm like, here, go watch this video.
And I had no idea the, the video I had on watch
was a video by you.
Until afterwards, I'm like, wait a minute,
he's on the podcast this week. So it was so interesting because your videos got a lot of views you know you get a lot of
praise for him and it's mainly a lot of the stuff about mental anxiety depression how to stay
focused but now you've just addiction and we'll cover some of that stuff but tell us what
inspired you want to write this book stone focus well I noticed that with each year that passed
things that require deep focus, like reading
a book, were for me getting harder and harder.
It was getting more and more like running up a down escalator, you know what I mean?
Like, I could do it, but it was getting harder.
And I just, I was really uncomfortable with what was happening, and I was really uncomfortable
with the fact that it seemed to be happening to everyone around me, and particularly the
young people in my life, a lot of them seem to be almost worrying at the speed of Snapchat, right,
where nothing's still all serious.
I'm really curious about talking about your kids and this respect, because a lot of the
book is about kids.
And I want to figure out, well, it's something unusual happening to our attention.
And if so, what, and what can we do about it?
So I use my training in the social sciences at Cambridge University to travel all over
the world from Miami to Melbourne to Moscow Moscow to interview over 200 of the leading experts on
focus and attention and just really deeply dig into their science to figure out what's
going on here.
And I learned that there's scientific evidence for 12 factors that can make your attention
better or can make it worse and loads of the factors that can make your attention worse have been hugely rising in recent
years.
We are in a real and massive attention crisis.
I've reached the conclusion.
Just think about some simple facts.
For every one child who was diagnosed with attention problems when I was seven, and
I think we're pretty much the same age, there's now 100 children given that diagnosis.
And that's because they're identifying
a real problem. The average American office worker now focuses on any one task for only
65 seconds. So we're sorry, for only three minutes for college students at 65 seconds.
So we're facing a real problem here and I think what people need to understand is if you're
struggling to focus and pay attention as almost all of us are,
your attention didn't collapse,
your attention has been stolen from you
by some very big forces.
And once you understand what's really happening to us,
it opens up a different set of solutions
that we can achieve together.
And what is that?
Who has stolen it away from you?
So there's a huge range of factors,
and I'll give you one example, right?
You've got a phone here and you might get some messages
on it, I assume it's about the show, right?
So I went to interview one of the leading neuroscientists
in the world, a guy named Professor Earl Miller, who's the MIT.
And he said to me, there's one thing
you've got to understand about the human brain
more than anything else.
You can only consciously think about one or two things at a time.
That's it.
This is a fundamental limitation of the human brain.
The human brain hasn't changed in 40,000 years significantly,
ain't going to change on any time scale.
Any of us are going to see, you can only
think about one or two things at a time.
But we've fallen for a massive delusion.
The average teenager now believes they can follow six
or seven forms of media at the same time.
But what happens is scientists get people into labs
and they say, OK, do loads of things at the same time
and they monitor them.
And what they discover is you can't do more than one thing
at a time.
What you do is you juggle very quickly between them.
You go from, wait, what was that Facebook message?
What did Patrick just ask me?
What's this on?
What's that?
What's on the TV over there?
You juggle, you juggle, you juggle.
And it turns out that comes with a huge cost.
The kind of fancy name for it is the switch cost effect.
When you switch between tasks,
you think you're doing lots of things at the same time.
So you're talking to me, you're looking at a phone,
you're looking at the screen.
It turns out you will do everything you're trying
to do less competently.
You make more mistakes.
You remember less of what you experience,
you're far less creative, and this sounds like a small effect.
When you first hear about it, you're like,
yeah, get that, but that's quite small.
It was shocking talking to the scientists to realize
what a big effect this is.
So I'll give you an example of a pretty small scientific study
that's backed by a wider amount of evidence.
Heal at Packard, you know the printer company?
Even the words paper jam, make my whole body fucking tense up. He'll look packard, the
printer company got a scientist in to do some research on this and he split their
workers into two groups. And the first group was told, just get on with whatever your
task is and you're not going to be interrupted. And the second group was told, get on with
your task, but you're going to have to answer a heavy load of email and phone calls.
So pretty much how you, you, me, how we all live most of the time, right?
And at the end of it, they gave an IQ test to both groups.
What they discovered is the group that had not been interrupted
scored 10 IQ points higher than the group that had to give you a sense of how big that is.
If the three of us sat down now and smoked a fast blifth together and got stoned, our IQs would go down by five points.
So being interrupted all the time in the way that we are
is twice as bad for your intelligence as getting stoned.
You'd be better off sitting at your desk, getting stoned
and doing one thing at a time than you would sitting at your desk
being constantly interrupted and not getting stoned.
To be clear, you'd be better off neither getting stoned
nor being interrupted, obviously. This is a huge effect.
If you're interrupted, it takes on average 23 minutes to get back to the level of focus that you had
before you were interrupted.
But most of us never get 23 minutes spare.
So we're constantly operating at this diminished level of brain power.
A different study found just getting eight text messages an hour.
That doesn't sound like much to me, don't know if it does to you.
That diminishes your ability to remember what you're experiencing
and to answer questions about it by 30%.
This is why Professor Miller said we are living at the moment
in a perfect storm of cognitive degradation
as a result of all these interruptions.
Now that's one of the 12, one of many examples,
but does that ring true to you guys?
Do you, I'm curious about your own lives?
Yes, I'm curious when I hear that,
because I've heard that a lot with multitasking.
You know, whether it was the yellow book,
The Power of Habit, I was at the Power Habit by Hughwick.
What was his name?
Anyways, there's so many books you can read about,
Focus, right?
But at the same time, here's what I think about.
You ever seen the statistic of how much TV people used to watch 50 years ago versus 30 years
ago versus 20 years ago.
It's like, oh my gosh, people watch 45 hours of TV per week.
This is insane.
This is ridiculous.
It's the end of the world.
We have lost focus.
We no longer have relationship.
We no longer have this.
And I'm like, wow, so TV ruined everything.
You'll be going, you know, radio, people listen to 45 hours
of radio prior to radio, we used to go outside
and we used to play with our families and we used to do this.
Okay, I can see that part.
But I think distractions have started since radio, right?
I mean, I would assume so I'm just speculating.
I don't know, I've studied the numbers on radio and TV
And we can pull it up
But then it comes today with this being a distraction, which are fully absolutely right
But I would be curious to know
Is the amount of TV we watch 30 years ago before this showed up has that been replaced by the amount of phone entertainment we watch
Every week. So there's research on this, no, actually what we're doing
is we're doing both.
We're watching TV and we're tweeting about it.
Actually what's incredible is TV viewership
has not massively gone down.
What's happened is we're switching all the time
between the two, which is one of the factors
that's fucking our power ability to focus.
And I think, and there's a wider thing about,
it's absolutely true when you look at the evidence
that our attention
is getting worse.
A lot of people, totally understandably,
and this was my initial response go,
you know, isn't this a bit like a bit of a,
what's called a moral panic, right?
So moral panic is when a change happens
and people shit themselves and go, this is terrible.
And then actually in the long-arque history,
you look back and you go, was that really so bad?
So think about, for example, in the 1950s,
loads of kids were reading violent comic books. And at the time, there's this huge panic about it.
There's senate hearings, and now we look back and if your kids are really a comic book,
we're like, seems very innocuous to us now. So one way of thinking is that it might be like that,
but a different way of thinking about it. And I think the evidence suggests it's more like this,
and I learned about this, apart from Professor Joel Nigg, who's one of the leading experts on children's attention problems
in the world, this is more like where we were with obesity in the 1970s. So if you look
at a photo of a beach in the United States in say 1960, it's really weird to us because
everyone is what we would call buff or slim, everyone. And you look at it, you're like,
where's everyone else, right?
And you look at the research,
there was basically almost no obesity in 1960.
And then a whole series of changes happened
in the way we live.
The food supply system completely changed, right?
What we eat, there's no relationship
to what our grandparents ate.
We built cities that it's impossible to bike
and walk around, right?
And we became much more stressed,
which makes us want to come for eat more.
And all these big changes caused an obesity crisis.
But when people started warning about this in the 70s, a lot of people said, ah, you said
the sky was falling when we read comic books, you know, you said the sky was falling when
radio came along.
But, you know, this is just a moral panic, but it turned out actually if we'd listened
to them and made the changes they recommended, we wouldn't be in this obesity crisis now, which is so bad for people's health.
And I think what's happening is a kind of obesity epidemic for our minds.
Now that is very important to understand, it doesn't have to be this way, right?
And one of the reasons why this is so important is I would just say to anyone watching
or listening, think about anything you've ever achieved in your life, right?
Whether it's starting a business like you guys have, whether it's being a good
parent, whether it's learning to play the guitar. Whatever that thing you're proud of is,
it took a huge amount of attention and focus, sustained attention and focus. And when
our ability to focus breaks down, as it clearly is, I think. Your ability to achieve your goals and your ability to solve your problems, they also start
to break down.
You can also say, when anyone who has a kid who can't focus, and there was an experience
in my life like this that I can talk about if you like, one of the reasons it's so painful
is you can see, oh, this kid is going to find it much harder to find their way through
the world because they're not going to be able to sustain focus, this kid is going to find it much harder to find their way through the world,
because they're not going to be able to sustain focus, they're not going to be able to stick at difficult things,
or even with conversations, you know.
So, yeah, I think this is a big crisis, which is a response to big changes that are happening,
from social media, to some aspects of social media, to the way we eat,
from the hours we don't sleep,
to the hours we overwork, there's a big range of factors going on in here.
But, crucially, when you understand these factors, we can start to get handled on them, and
I'm sure we're going to get to that.
Well, you're on.
You brought up social media, so I wanted to ask Pat brought up radio.
We talked about TV, even computers, every video games, anything that fits in that category.
That's all stuff you did at home,
and then it was time for you to get out the house,
walk away, and then go live your life
and do what you got to do.
Now, this goes everywhere with you.
Okay, so my question is,
how much of that is related to this goes everywhere with you,
and how much is the, like, there's so many pros and cons,
you can talk about with the phone,
but is this the biggest culprit these days? You know, like there's so many pros and cons, you can talk about what the phone,
but is this the biggest culprit these days?
You know, this is something I thought about a lot
because I actually, at the start of researching stolen focus,
I basically had two stories about why my attention
had gotten fucked.
One was, I thought, well, you're lacking in willpower,
you're weak, why aren't you strong enough
to just not look at this shit, right?
And the other story I had was,
well, someone invented the smartphone, right?
So that was, so, and fucked me that way, right?
So because those were the two stories, I later learned,
it's much more complicated what's going on,
and we need a different kind of solution.
But at the start, my response was, okay, I'm just sick of this.
I'm tired of being wired. I want to get my brain back.
So I went away for three months with no smartphone
and no laptop. How did you get so live for three months?
It was really fascinating. I was really lucky because the film rights to one of my previous
books, the source I had a bit of money and I went to this place called Province Town in Cape
Card. And it was interesting because there was lots of ups and downs but the thing that
amazed me and I think really speaks to your question is, you know, I was nearly
40. I thought, maybe my attention was going to get older. My attention went back to being as good
as it had been when I was 17. I could sit and read a book for eight hours and not get distracted. It blew
my mind how much my attention came back. And at the end, and I later realized there were lots of changes
I made, like to what I eat in those three months that were also affecting my attention.
And I learned about this from scientists later.
But I remember at the end of those three months, just saying to myself,
well, I'm never going to go back to how I used to live.
Why would I go back?
This is amazing, right?
The pleasures of focus are being able to follow through on a goal. The pleasures of being able to think deeply, have deep conversations are so
much greater than the shitty rewards of getting likes and whatever. I'm never
going to go back. And then I got a boat across to Boston to my friend who I'd left
my phone in my laptop with. And within a month I was, I never quite went back to
as bad as I'd been, but I went like 80% back to where I've been.
And I only really understood why.
When later, I went to interview an amazing man named
Dr. James Williams.
Dr. James Williams had worked at the heart of Google,
part of the machinery that is fucking our
bar ability to focus and pay attention.
And he was really uncomfortable with what they were doing.
One day, he spoke at a tech conference
to the people who are designing the things
that obsess your kids and all of us.
And he said to them, if there's anyone here
who wants to live in the world that we're creating,
put up your hand now and not one of them put up their hand,
because they are all being hijacked by their own creation.
This was in a group of students.
No, this is a tech conference.
Tech designers who are designing the stuff that you use all the time. He quit and he became, I would argue,
the leading expert on attention in the world. He said to me, the mistake you made when
you went away for three months and just thought you could hide from it, he said, it's
like thinking the solution to air pollution is for you personally to wear a gas mask. If
I lived in Beijing, I'd wear a gas mask, right? There's a case for gas mask
But we've actually got to solve the problem instead of just trying to hide from it
You know, you know what you're making me think about
Let me ask you this what currency?
Do you value the most?
We're all about the same age. We're all one year apart the three of us. Okay
You're 79 you're 79 age. We're all one year apart, the three of us, okay. You're 79, you're 79, I'm seven.
I think you're 79, 79?
Yes, I know, you're born.
The year you're born is what I'm saying.
Oh, no, I'm sorry, I thought you were saying
we're not in the 19, 19, 19.
You look like you're 30 or so.
You're not in skin care actually.
You look like you're 30 or so,
but you look very.
I'm 49, 1979, yeah.
Okay, so you're 80.
80, okay, 70, 79, 80.
We're just two years apart, right?
So I've come to realize,
let me just ask the question open ended from me.
I'm curious to know what you're gonna say.
What currency do you value the most?
Meaning, not currency as in,
I value Bitcoin or Ethereum or Fiat or gold.
I'm talking about what currency do you value the most?
Is it happiness, is it stress-free,
is it super intense engage, Is it in the hunt?
Is it, you know, serve a what currency would you serve? I want to see what he's going to
say. I want to hear his what currency do value the most? You know, I had such an interesting
conversation with a guy called Demetri Leon Tjev about this is one of the leading psychologists
in Russia. And he said to me, you know, when Russians, he said,
when we look at Americans and British people,
you know, American and British philosophies
all about the pursuit of happiness, right?
It's even in the founding documents of the country, right?
We want to be happy.
And he said, you know, Russians, when we hear that,
we just laugh.
He said, children want to be happy.
He said, you'll have no control of whether you're happy
and you're like, very minor amount of control.
He said, life is about meaning and the pursuit of meaning.
And if you have meaning, that'll carry you through a shit ton of unhappiness, right?
Well, think about something as simple as going to the dentist, right?
You go to the dentist, you've got a toothache.
And you know that the dentist inflicts terrible pain on you, but that has meaning to you
because you know it'll stop your tooth hurting, right?
Right.
If you took away that framework of meaning, if I just put a drill into your face now, Patrick,
that would not be a lovely, you know,
that I went to the dentist and it helped,
it would be a former torture, right?
So meaning can carry you through terrible forms of pain.
So for me, it's about pursuing meaning,
and this is really important for attention as well.
Attention evolved to a touch to meaning, right?
A frog will stare longer at a fly than it will at a stone because the fly is meaningful and the stone isn't to a frog, and they can eat the meaning, right? A frog will stare longer at a fly than it will at a stone
because the fly is meaningful and the stone isn't
to a frog, are they gonna eat the fly, right?
And part of one of the reasons we're struggling
to focus so much now is that a lot of the stuff
we're being asked to focus on is meaningless bullshit, right?
Your attention will slip and slide off meaningless bullshit.
Think about our school system, right?
The school system has been redesigned,
so it is overwhelmingly about getting kids
to memorize meaningless shit,
that doesn't mean anything to them.
Great.
For tests, that are also meaningless, right?
Now after that change happened,
when the second president Bush
introduced no child left behind,
the reform that made this,
ADHD diagnoses went up by 24% in the next four years,
because kids can't focus on meaningless shit.
We can't focus on meaningless shit.
Obviously the last quarter of the book
is about how we can help our kids get their attention back,
which is partly about restoring meaning.
There's lots of other things.
But does that ring true, Cheypatrick, about meaning?
Yeah, so what I'm doing is I'm now trying to,
I listen to everything you said,
I'm looking at this, I'm trying to find this book I read,
where he said the opening line, I'll never forget,
it was a very, and I wanna hear what George is
by the way, the currency.
I'll never forget, we're reading this book,
I'm in this phase of reading Buddhism.
And it's like 2006, 2007, and I'm just studying,
everything I can, I'm just like, I wanna know
how to live more of a meaning life.
And the opening, I wish I knew,
I'll find it by the time we're done here.
He says, happiness is to suffer less.
Okay.
Happiness is to suffer less is what the Suther says.
And he's a pretty legendary author.
He's not like a regular guy.
And one of the guys that's sitting next to me,
whom he and I started the office together,
he says, you know what, that makes all the sense in a world to me.
We're here in background.
Is your phone ringing?
All right, okay.
Sure.
I run a playwright being interrupted by your phone.
Yeah, the subject's about hold down, but very interesting.
It's a shame.
Yeah, he's looking at this.
And she's seeing that, it's going to take you time to refocus your mind.
And I'm not saying to smugly, like we all face to start.
Hold on, but it's going to take time for you to read that. I I'm not saying it's smugly, like we all face to start. All my inner, but it's gonna take time for you
to read that I'm so there right now
because I remember the scene.
He's laughing at it right now.
He's sitting next to me and he says,
you know what, that's why I'm gonna stop being a business owner
and I'm gonna go back to college
because I wanna suffer less.
And I sat there, I was, whatever 2007 was,
15 years ago, I sat there, I'm like,
is that really the purpose of life to suffer less?
And he's like, I think that's what it is.
What the hell are we doing?
Why are we chasing this?
Why are we going through this?
So I think a lot of times, based on what you're saying is,
whatever your currency is, you're gonna solve for that.
Adam, you're gonna say your currency is what?
Well, I just think the most valuable currency,
the biggest asset you have is time.
You know, they say time is money.
Like you've gone and you've interviewed hundreds
and hundreds and thousands of people.
I have done the same thing,
but more with a different angle,
more on a financial angle.
And because my whole story was,
I was a nightlife, South Beach comedian, goofball, Miami,
I said I'm making no money, I gotta get my shit figured out
when I was in my, by age 26, I got a job in finance.
10 years later, I was like, oh my God,
I've got all this money, I've got all this time,
I'm working from home, what do I wanna do with my free time?
And I started interviewing guys like Pat,
who made it in business
financial advisors and just basically understanding how money works.
And ultimately what happened was I figured, okay, you got to have a budget, you have a
game plan for your money, get out of debt, save your money, invest insurance, protection.
And then I started asking questions about retirement and retirement.
And then I realized that people who are wealthy, they don't just sit around and do nothing and wait to die.
They do something with their time.
And then this kind of gets into your meaning.
And then if you ask people, if you had millions of dollars in the bank, for some people, a million
bucks is a lot of money.
For some people, a hundred million bucks, whatever the number is.
But if you can own your time and you, if you can do whatever you want with your free time,
I said, what would you do?
And everyone said the exact same three to four responses.
Number one, they would travel, right?
Who doesn't want to see the world?
Number two, they would pursue a passion,
something that has meaning in their life.
They would do it for free,
whether that's photography, art, stand-up comedy,
play baseball, whatever, they would do it for free. Number three, they would give back or donate their time
to causes they care about, right?
Whether that's homeless, you know, women's shelters, kids,
anything, they would do that.
And the biggest thing was leaving a legacy.
And so you can, quote unquote, live forever,
have kids, family, philanthropic and endeavors, whatever it is.
But at the end of the day, that's what they call your chilling.
You could do whatever you want with your time.
But Adam, I think what he's saying is so important.
And I think for whatever your currency is and whatever your set of goals are, and I would
agree with all of those goals that those people are putting forward, you've got to be able
to pay attention to achieve any of them.
Dr. Williamson mentioned before, gave me a really good metaphor.
He said, imagine you're driving somewhere and someone throws a huge bucket of mud over your windshield.
It doesn't matter what you've got to do whenever you get where you're going.
The first thing you've got to do is clean your windshield, right?
Because you're not going to be able to get anywhere or achieve anything if you don't do that.
And in a way, when our attention breaks down, that's like mud on the windshield, right?
You're just your ability to get anywhere or do anything, and you mention suffering, Patrick.
This is a real source of suffering, right? When your attention breaks down.
The way I would put it, and it's really became clear to me in Providence Town when I had that time off,
and I began to be able to focus again, was it's like you become a kind of stump of yourself, right?
You can sense what you would have been if you've been able to apply yourself,
but you feel like you can't get that, And that's why when you understand these 12 factors that
are damaging our focus, it opens up there's two things, there's two different ways we can respond
to this, right? And we've got to do both. The first is there are all sorts of things as isolated
individuals, I think of it as offense and defense, right? So we've got to play defense, we've got to
protect ourselves and our kids
from these factors that are pouring acid
on our attention all the time.
So I'll give you a go through dozens of examples
instead of focus, but I'll give you one example.
I should have brought it.
It's in my case outside.
I've got a plastic safe.
It's called a case safe.
You take off the lid, you put in your phone,
you put the lid on, you turn the dial,
and it'll lock your phone away for anything between five minutes and a whole day, right?
I won't sit down to watch a movie with my partner unless we both imprison our phones.
I won't have dinner with my friends unless everyone agrees to imprison their phones.
Oh, you make these demands before people get together.
Because it's difficult at first, but then people start to get the pleasure of, it's difficult
for me.
But then you start to get the pleasure of a deep
conversation of deep engagement.
So that's one level of response.
Yeah, I think you, I think there is an area
for which you just said, I fully like that.
Like, you know, Jennifer and I right now
want to go to dinner and we'll read the kids.
Here's what else I said, babe, put my phone in your purse.
Okay. Oh, well, and that's kind of like,
hey, put the phone in your purse. Okay. Oh, wow. And that's kind of like, hey, put the phone in your purse.
It's not my purse and boom, after dinner, we have good conversations.
We thought, I really enjoy talking to the kids and if I'm the one that's always asking questions.
But I will say this to you.
So, we've lost focus, right?
We're saying that focus is less, which I don't disagree, but I'm a little bit skeptical
about it and challenge me on this.
Challenge me on this.
I want to hit the challenge.
So because to me, it's the way I see it is,
would you say innovation is better today,
50 years ago or 100 years ago?
When would you say innovation is better?
It's hard to measure this.
It's very hard to measure these things
as far more human beings now than there were 50 years
or 100 years ago.
So, you've got eight billion people's brains on it now as opposed to a billion people's brains
50 years ago.
I think it's very hard to compare.
I don't know if it was a billion 50 years ago.
I think about it best.
I think the democratization of technology is higher than ever.
Think about it.
They say, you know that the phone you have in your pocket, that's the exact same technology
that NASA used to get people into space into the six shows.
And now everybody has, not just NASA.
So this is what I'm trying to say.
Like, you know, okay, so, for example,
I did these two tests, okay,
so I went about this, I didn't buy it,
a great thing in shout out,
he got this for me as a gift,
he says, Pat, you gotta put this ring on.
I said, okay, so, or a ring, I put it on,
and he looks at my stuff more than I look at a ring, I put it on and I'm,
he looks at my stuff more than I look at my stuff.
I'm half the time I'm running out of batteries
and he says, you got to charge it.
But the other day, we're sitting there,
we're having an electric shock,
I'm like, hey, Pat, how can you go off
for four to six hours of sleep?
I'm like, I don't honestly have a clue,
but I can pull it off, right?
I'm saying he knows your sleep schedule.
Yeah, no, no, so because it tells you everything,
you're readiness, all this other stuff, right?
And so, and by the way,
I'm not, we're not doing a sponsorship anything.
So this is not like a sponsorship deal I'm doing.
I'm just telling you guys what this experience was like.
So then we sit down and we look at it with the guys
and they say, Pat, you slept five hours,
but you were in a REM deep sleep for three and a half hours.
And I slept seven and a half hours,
and I was in RAM only two and a half hours.
I'm like, okay, maybe we need to learn our bodies better.
So you're able to have deeper sleep,
then I'm having deeper sleep.
I have a lighter, so it was okay.
I don't know.
The thing that comes and introduced me to this other guy,
we're talking about lunches today,
the DNA company.
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm asking for that.
I don't know if you heard about the DNA company,
they take your saliva and they come back and they tell you everything, your temperament,
you know how you will go here,
one second pissed off, two seconds later,
you're telling a joke and you're just laughing about,
you forgot about, you moved on, right?
And your bone density, your testosterone,
your estrogen, your food, what you should do,
what you do, what your body doesn't.
And I'm listening to the CEO of the company,
and I'm like, so I had my wife and I,
because you know a lot of times when these guys say they're just trying to sell something, I'm very skeptical and I'm listening to the CEO of the company. And I'm like, so I had my wife and I, because you know a lot of times when these guys
say they're just trying to sell something,
I'm very skeptical and I'm like, that made sense.
And Jennifer's just like, what?
How do you guys ever had, I've never met this guy before.
This made sense, that made sense, this made sense.
Okay, so it made me think about a couple different things.
Well, I don't know if everything 100% applies to everybody,
because when I think about an athlete so football's going out right now
Right you think about a linebacker you think about a quarterback
A quarterback is
In Huddled he's looking at the situation the guy speaking to him audience the fans are screaming and hollering
Defenses running around blitz is coming from here. The guy step them back. Are they gonna do the blitz?
My guys going behind me. I got a step out. I come back. I got three four seconds to look at my three different receivers
Not lose the fumble. I'm getting all this situation. That's up. That's to me. That's all like
50 different multi-tasking. Yeah, I know you do so. I know my snow one can do it. I
The reason why that's a great concept. You're the only one. So that goes to point so. I know almost no one can do it. Right. The reason you're right, the great constant.
You're the only one who's the most impossible.
So that goes to a point which I want to put it on you is, is one multi-tasking a muscle
that we can improve in, but we're always going to do better for doing on one thing fully.
I fully believe that, you know, the one thing, like, you know, that's the best way to do it.
You're going to be better off focused on one thing, but is multi-tasking something we can
get better in?
And if yes, is that someone's wiring?
Is it some, you know, the nurtures versus nature with a DNA, the individual that some
can handle more than others?
What would you say to that?
So I asked the leading experts on this.
I looked at the research and it was kind of depressing.
You can get very slightly better at it, but the truth is you can't get much better at
it.
But I want to just, and so you said Adam, I think is really important.
It was loads of things.
What you said about sleep as well, Patrick, remind me to come back to that. But you said that I think is really important, it was loads of things what you said about sleep as well Patrick, remind me to come
back to that. But you said this thing that's really important which is, oh you know, the phone you
use has the technology that NASA were using like 30 years ago. That feels like democratization and
in some ways is, but you've got to ask yourself, what is that technology being deployed for?
Is it being used to make your life better, or is it being used to invade your attention? Now, it could be used to make your life better.
We could democratize it.
At the moment, it isn't.
So, and this was explained to me by some of the people
who designed these apps,
some of the leading figures in Silicon Valley,
who've subsequently kind of spoken out
because they're horrified by what they've done.
So, let's say you pick up your phone now, Patrick,
and it's funny how it feels quite invasive
to touch someone's phone, sorry, it feels like weirdly personal.
Like I've touched your body.
They're private, but I'm so sorry.
Exactly, exactly.
Don't meet him in the ass.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
The, the, the, when you, let's say you open your Facebook now
or any of the major social media apps,
Facebook or whichever one you choose
immediately starts to make money
and it makes money in two ways.
The first way is obvious.
You start to see ads, we all know how that works.
The second way is much more important.
Everything you do on Facebook is scanned and sorted
by their algorithms because they're building up
a profile of who you are.
So let's say that you like Donald Trump,
Bet Middler, and you tell your mom you just bought an appies.
Okay, so I think anybody-
There's literally that background
that's gonna be like the fucking Alton Durer
and the Clinton's like a cast in mind,
but let's imagine.
So it'll figure out, okay, you like Donald Trump,
you're probably conservative, you like Bet Middler,
if you're a man, you're probably gay,
and you're talking about diapers, okay, you've got a baby.
It's building up an enormous, imagine,
it's got tens, if not hundreds of thousands,
of data points about you.
It's learning all about you.
Data, data, data.
In order to be able to manipulate you,
because you are not the customer of Facebook.
You're the product they sell to advertisers.
So they can, the reason why they make the big bucks
is they go to an advertiser and they can say,
we can target someone so directly.
You're selling diapers.
Okay, we can make sure your ads don't go to me. I don't have a baby. We can make sure
the ads go to only to people. You want to target conservative gay people with babies?
We can get you there, right? That's how that's why they're so lucrative. But what this means
is every time you close Facebook or TikTok or Snapchat or any of them, what happens is
those revenue streams disappear.
So the business model of all of the existing social media companies is very simple.
All of their engineering power, all of their algorithms, all of this genius they have
is geared towards one thing.
Figuring out how do we get Patrick and Adam and their kids to pick up their phone more often
and scroll for longer, right?
It is designed to invade our attention.
Sean Parker, one of the biggest initial investors
in Facebook, said, yeah, the Napster dude,
said, we designed Facebook specifically
to invade people's attention.
We knew what we were doing and we did it anyway.
That's something new.
Yeah, well, it's a much deeper form of invasion.
So you think about a TV ad,
let's say you placed an ad during the Johnny Carson
tonight, right?
That's a blanket thing that's going to,
whatever it was back then, 50 million people.
That's very different to something
that knows what you message your mom about last night
that's learning all these deep patterns about your mind.
Yeah, I think the DM part, the private conversations,
that's your, your, that's my privacy.
But it's not a privacy,
that privacy is part of it.
But it's that they can learn how to hack your attention
much more accurately.
They're learning the weaknesses in your attention.
Do you think that's innovation,
or do you think that's manipulation?
Well, it's a form of innovation,
but it's a form of innovation that harms our attention
and has all sorts of negative outcomes.
And it's important to understand,
we can have all the good stuff about social media
without this, this aspect is designed.
And I've been, I watched social dilemma, right?
You remember social dilemma, sure you've seen it.
Yeah, a lot of the people in it,
every minute of these things.
Everybody's just, yeah, I've got to watch social dilemma.
Oh my gosh, it's the end of the world,
so I watched social dilemma.
When I sat there and I said, okay, I can see that,
got it, the movie that made the biggest impact
wasn't social dilemma to me.
It was a movie called Disconnected,
which we can talk about the movie Disconnected,
but let's stay on social dilemma.
So I watched this movie, the documentary social,
I'm like, oh my gosh, former president of this
and former president of that,
and these guys are doing this,
and here's what we're doing.
Our intention is to do this.
I'm like, okay, what's new about this?
Like, okay, so for example, my kids, what do parents do?
We look for markers on how to gather data and intel on our kids to get them to stay focused
because I can't say, son, let me tell you, here's a book, here's a biography of Aristotle.
I want you to read it.
That would never work.
But here's a diaries of wimpy kid. Oh my gosh, I'll read 50 of them.
So I think the same kid that is obsessed with reading diaries of Wimpy Kid and the parent only targets what interests him.
We're now that big kid that's interested in different things that it just suggests and great marketers know how to penetrate that interest.
So the difference is when the difference is about the goals that you have for the individual.
So when you're learning what your kid wants, your goal for your child is for your child
to be able to flourish, to have a good life, to be able to focus, to be effective in the
world, right?
When Facebook or TikTok are learning about your child, those are not the goals that Facebook
and TikTok have for your child.
They have one goal.
Let's make your child scroll as long as possible and pick their phone up as often as possible.
That's the only goal they have.
Just like the head of KFC, his only goal is
to get your kid to eat KFC.
The only goal they have is can we get them to scroll?
So the issue isn't, do you learn things about people
in order to guide them?
That's a good thing in many contexts.
In the context specifically of learning things
about people in order to guide them
to scroll as often as possible
and pay as little attention as possible.
That's a bad thing.
Now that's bad for individuals and bad for the society.
So, but go pull up McDonald's and go to
type in McDonald's pineapple burger.
Okay, type in hungry.
Yeah, I had a McDonald's breakfast this morning.
Did you really, let me put it in this way?
You can tell from my chin.
I'm gonna tell you,
the last time I had a big Mac, check this out. Go to just happened McDonald's. Go to images. Oh, man. Yeah, let me tell you. So
they came out with this guy. I get this guy's a McDonald's. Years ago, they came out with this idea
of McDonald's pineapple burger. It was such a massive failure because they thought the healthy
people are going to be interested in this pineapple burger and it failed, right?
So McDonald's won't go and brings Ronald McDonald, okay?
And Ronald McDonald used to be a big kid. If you want to McDonald's, it was everywhere. Now, what was McDonald's strategy with Ronald McDonald's?
Here's what Ronald McDonald did. They knew if they got kids addicted to Ronald McDonald,
kids can't get in the car to come to McDonald's. They have to tell mommy and that is good McDonald's.
If they persuade it and won the kids over,
they're automatically gonna get a family of four or five.
So kids mail Ronald McDonald,
next thing you know, it's a business model.
And by the way, here's what's crazy about it.
Do you know McDonald's for 30 something years?
Profited, they profited every year for 30 plus year
until one year when the whole
Obama and
Michelle Obama no Obama and Ramney were going at it and you remember that one thing when
Sandy hook happened and and
Ramney's about to become president and Benghazi situation. He's just really the third debate
He destroyed Obama. It was terrible. It was not a good thing for Obama and the fourth debate
I'm on a flight with Bill O'Reilly and Dennis Miller they're doing a show we're
going to Burbank to Vegas because they're doing something like Bill what happened with
Oramnihan is that let me tell you what happened here is what happened here he says the consultants
of Romney said you don't have the votes of single women and you have to stop maybe talk
they don't like it when you bash Obama with Benghazi.
Kick back on the fourth debate and he did that, he lost.
Guess what, McDonald's said, we're gonna start selling salad.
Is that okay?
Anyway, you could take this off the screen.
Cause it's not just you and you're giving me
a break.
Sorry, yeah.
It's making me hungry.
Yes, so they went to, they went to salads.
Okay, they said, we're gonna do salad.
Do you know the year McDonald's went to salad first,
they lost money.
Cause they forgot who their customer was.
Their customer was the kid that forced parents to take them to McDonald's, to Salad first, they lost money because they forgot who their customer was. Their customer was the kid that forced parents
to take them to McDonald's,
which have done many, many times,
based on the kid's meal.
So I think that's called capitalism and innovation.
And some of the guys today, the way they're doing it,
it's way more intrusive, totally agree.
It is intrusive, but it's a business model.
It's not just that it's intrusive.
It's that it leads to catastrophic outcomes.
So we all know about the obesity crisis.
It means that people die, I think the figure is seven years earlier than they otherwise would.
And you're right, part of how this works is, so for example, more 18-month-old children
know what the McDonald's M means, the know their own last name.
So from the moment we're born, we are taught to associate positive feelings with unhealthy
food. And as you can see from my gins, I'm as much victim of that as anyone, right?
But I think it's important to understand.
So I think part of what you're arguing Patrick, which is really important to think about,
is, okay, there's some harm here, but we just choose this.
This is capitalism, we choose it.
And why I would argue is we're choosing it in a context that is absolutely loaded against us.
If I covered you guys with itching powder right now, you would scratch.
And at some level you would be choosing to scratch, but equally you wouldn't have chosen to scratch
if I hadn't covered you with itching powder, right?
So you made a choice, but not in an environment that you chose.
In a similar way, there are all sorts of things that are happening to us
that we don't choose that are making us much more vulnerable to making these bad choices.
And people can feel that people are choosing it, but they're unhappy with it. In the same
way that when I used to eat a KFC every day, I had appeared in my 20s, yeah, I liked the
KFC. I didn't like being so overweight that I couldn't walk upstairs, right? So in a similar
way, we're making these choices,
but this is way more invasive than anything
that KFC can do to you, right?
I mean, KFC can put an ad on the TV.
They can show that attempting burger image McDonald's can.
But this is, and I think there are lots of things happening
to us that are making us more vulnerable to this,
remind me to come back to sleep,
so I really want to talk about your point. But even let's just think about the way
how the way we eat is affecting our ability
to focus in my attention.
Yeah, so watch this.
So I think you are social dilemma.
I think you are a form of social dilemma.
Let me explain.
I think you are a formal Facebook, Twitter, YouTube,
and I applaud you for it.
And here's what I mean by it.
I'm on Ted Talk's YouTube channel right now, okay?
And I'm on 11 days.
Give me, let's go to,
let's go to Ted Talks YouTube channel
and scroll down to a video from,
I don't know, go two weeks ago, okay?
Now, Ted Talks, so everybody knows,
no, go to Ted Talks, not Ted,
there's another one, type in Ted Talks, okay?
And they have another channel with 32 million
so go a little lower, go a little lower, go a little lower,
little lower, no, what did you do?
Did you click on that?
Okay, right there, click on that.
Okay, so how many subscribers,
I can you zoom in a little bit to show how many subscribers
that is?
34 million subscribers.
Now go to videos, go to videos, and just keep scrolling
down to like two, keep going down.
Just scroll, scroll until it goes like two a month ago
Okay, keep scrolling keep scrolling. What are you doing? Okay, go
Type in videos click on the videos at the top your videos and just keep scrolling down
Yeah, keep scrolling down keep scrolling down keep scrolling down keep scrolling down keep scrolling down keep scrolling down keep scrolling
I keep going keep going keep going until we go to like two weeks, okay?
Go to two weeks good. This is a 33 million subscriber channel,
okay? 33 million subscriber channel. 10s of millions of eyeballs, okay? Now zoom into somebody
right there. You went away from videos again. I don't know why you keep doing that.
Yeah, reset on me. Okay, so go here to, go go to one of them right there. I,
to go to one of them right there. All right.
395 views on a 33 million subscriber channel.
Zoom in a little bit so we can see the amount of views.
That's crazy, a thousand views.
Zoom in, totally a 355 views.
I don't get it.
790 views on a 33 million subscriber channel.
I don't get it.
So watch this.
How is it that Johan here is able to get
80 million plus eyeballs on the same channel
that thousands of other people can't even crack
a thousand views.
Here's what I think.
I think your messaging is more innovative than others.
And you're able to connect to us as the audience,
than them.
How many of them have a book that they're publishing
that would love to be sitting here right now
so we can sell a few thousand books?
So the point I'm trying to make is I think
we're in the game of attention
and you've gone the attention of former press,
your former Hillary Clinton, Elton John, Tucker Carlson,
how did you get their attention?
So I think credit goes to the innovator
who's able to get the eyeballs.
I don't see a difference between all of us
here in social dilemma.
I may be wrong, correct me if I'm wrong, I'm all yours.
So I think you made a really important point.
I want to just think through it carefully.
So if this was an argument about, is tech good or is tech bad?
I'd be on your side, tech is good.
We don't want it all convert and join the armish.
No disrespect to any armish people.
Like it's their cheating if they're watching right now.
We're going to be like,
we'll get on with it. Exactly, that's not the debate. The debate, tech is good. enjoying the armish, no disrespect to any armish people. Like just their cheating if they're watching right now. Is that a little bit of an example?
Exactly, that's not the debate.
The debate, tech is good.
We want to have the technology.
We have.
We want to be able to reach people the way you and I do.
The debate is what tech designed for what goals
working in whose interests.
So I think there's an analogy that can help us to understand.
Now, a stress again in the book, I go through loads of things
that we can all do as individuals to protect and boost our attention.
And the last quarter of the book is particularly what we can do
for our kids' attention, which I know will be very important
to you as a dad, so maybe we can talk about that as well.
But I think there are things we also have to do collectively,
because at the moment, it's like someone is pouring itching
powder over us all day, and then leaning forward and going,
hey, buddy, you might want to learn how to meditate,
then you wouldn't scratch so much,
to which the logical response is, okay, well, fuck you,
I'll learn to meditate, but we need to stop you
pouring your chin powder on me.
So there's a very practical example,
or within capitalism of historical analogy
that I think can help us to think about this,
because there's something in the past
that was fucking up people's attention,
and we dealt with it.
And I think it can teach us how to deal with some of the things that you're talking about
where we can keep the good, exactly the good stuff that you're in favor and I'm in favor
of Patrick without this harm.
So you guys are going to remember, because we're the same age, it used to be normal that
people put leadic gasoline in their cars, right?
I remember my mom putting leadic gasoline into her little red mini that she had, right?
And it was discovered that exposure to lead
fucks your ability to think and pay attention.
It particularly for children.
It's a disaster, right?
It's actually known about going all the way back to 1920s,
but the lead industry funded kind of bullshit denial
for a long time.
But in the end, by the 70s, by the time we were kids
the early 80s, it was just undeniable.
So a group of moms got together and they said,
okay, why are we allowing this?
Why are we allowing these companies to fuck our ability, kids ability to focus?
You're saying with the gas? Yeah, with the, so why happen is in lead in pencils and schools?
Not anymore, okay. Because exposure to lead is so bad for you, I mean, it's still there's a bit,
but they're not in a way that you can suck on it like they used to.
So exposure to lead is terrible. You used to also be in paint, people used to paint their houses with a leaded paint, right?
What these moms did not say, and it's really important to think about what they didn't say, exposure to lead is terrible. You used to also be in paint, people used to paint their houses with a leaded paint, right?
What these moms did not say,
and it's really important to think about what they didn't say,
they didn't say, let's ban all gasoline,
they didn't say let's ban all paint, right?
They said let's ban the specific thing
in the gasoline and the paint
that is fucking our kids ability to focus,
which is the lead, right?
They let a campaign they succeeded, right?
There's no more lead in paint and gasoline.
As a result, the Cenepear Disease Control
says the average American child
had a booster between three to five IQ points
because they were no longer exposed to this pollutant, right?
Now, I think, and more,
don't really matter what I think,
what a load of the experts they interviewed think
is there's an analogy with social media, right?
So going back to what we were saying,
what's the equivalent of the lead in the social media? there's an analogy with social media, right? So going back to what we were saying,
what's the equivalent of the lead in the social media?
How do we have the social media?
Dopamine addiction, what would you say?
Well, I think it's the business,
the current business model, right?
Which is one form of capitalism
that can be replaced by a different form of capitalism.
So go back to what we said, right?
At the moment, you open Facebook.
Every minute you scroll, they make more money,
and every minute you put your phone
down the revenue stream disappears. That's it. So the whole machinery is designed and
TikTok and the Snapchat, the whole fucking lot of them. It's all designed. How do we
raid your attention the most, right? That's it. That's their model. But when I interviewed lots of
the people who designed key aspects of the internet, like a guy called Aza Raskin, who designs
and called Infinite Scroll,
it's the heart of most websites including YouTube, the one we just looked at,
he said to me, look, the solution here is very simple.
When it comes to the tech component, I stress again, there's 12 elements I write
about in the book, but for this component,
you've got to ban that business model, just like we banned the lead in the
paint, just say a business model that is designed to secretly track you in order to figure out
the weaknesses in your attention, hack them,
break your attention open, break your kids' attention open.
And I remember saying to Aiza, I shook my head like,
you just did Patrick and I said,
wait, wait, A, that seems like a really big thing,
but B, what would happen if I opened Facebook the next day?
Right, would it just say, sorry guys, we've gone fishing?
He said of course not.
What would happen
is they would move to a different business model.
And there are two different business models
that are happening in this building right now.
The first business model is subscription.
Everyone here, there'll be some people here who've got
Netflix subscriptions, HBO subscriptions.
We all know that's a form of capitalizing.
You pay a small amount, you access.
Or the second is one that's definitely in this building,
because I used it before we came here,
you've got a sewage system here, right?
Now, before we had sewers, we had shit in the streets,
we got cholera, so we all pay to build and maintain
the sewers together, and we all own the sewers.
You own the sewers here in this part of Florida,
I own the sewers in London and Las Vegas,
the places I live, we all own
the Suis. Now it may be that like we own the sewage pipes together, we might want to own
the information pipes together because we're getting the equivalent of colour for our brains,
but the really important thing about this is what changes. And it comes back to what we were
saying, like you were saying about your son, with goals, right? At the moment, the only goal of
social media, the way it's designed, is to invade
your attention, break it open, and keep harvesting it, right? But under this different business
model, whether it's subscription or a sewage-like system, what happens is all the incentives change.
Suddenly, you stop being the product that they sell, and you become the customer, something
like, what does Patrick want? Patrick wants to be able to meet up with his friends offline. We'll design Facebook to make that easier.
Facebook, Adam wants to be able to pay attention.
Okay, we'll design Facebook to heal his attention instead of hacking it.
But to get there, you've got to change the business model,
which is entirely within capitalism.
This is not anti-capitalism.
I don't know, because so I get how it upsets some people
because of the amount of power.
The area that concerns me with these virtual governments
is a complete different thing
than what concerns that individual you were talking about.
Because to me, I've bought a lot of products
that was based off a great ad.
I've seen and been inspired by many stories.
If it wasn't for the algorithms, my son would have never watched a video from you, right?
That the video, if it wasn't for the algorithms
to buy certain products for myself,
okay, so I'll give you that.
But this isn't an argument against algorithms,
just to say this isn't,
this isn't an argument against the ads.
It's like saying, so an algorithm is like a recipe.
An algorithm decides, well,
or do you see things
in in social media, right?
But you're saying Facebook should
have made money based on the ads
because they're gathering until based on me
to show me products that I want to buy.
And that becomes a business model
that Facebook will should change that model.
No, they shouldn't have a business model
designed to maximally invade people's attention.
You can still have algorithms
in the different model you need to have algorithms.
Oh, but I, it's like saying,
because I agree with you,
you don't want to explain it's not a problem.
I don't have a problem with eating a KFC bucket.
I love eating a KFC bucket,
but I know that it comes with the cost that I become obese.
So the thing you're describing has some benefits, of course,
just like eating KFC has plenty of benefits to me.
I love it, right?
But it comes with a cost.
The question is, is the cost outweighing the benefit?
Should we eliminate it from people?
Should we eliminate from people hurting themselves?
Like, should we eliminate, you know, the four, okay,
so maybe let me ask you this,
what do you think about the system of capitalism?
I think markets are a really important tool.
Every society that's ever abolished markets
regresses to extreme poverty.
I don't think markets should be everything.
I think there are other forces that are really good and healthy
in the society as well.
The two most popular institutions in the United States are
Medicare and the military, neither of which are run according to markets.
So, you want to have a mixture.
You want to have a really strong market economy
and really strong countervailing forces
that operate on different, different model.
So it's not about, this isn't about being anti-capitalism. This is about saying the current model we have,
and this isn't by the way just true of this one factor of the 12 that I write about in Stone
and focus, the harming our attention. It's true. Lots of them, we can talk about the food industry,
for example, or air pollution, this whole, or the factors that are causing us so much stress, stress destroys your ability
to focus and pay attention. But the question is not, are these things good? The question
is, do they come with costs and do the costs outweigh the benefits? And a model that is
destroying, think about the fact that one small study, for example, backed by a wider
body of evidence found out that the typical American college student now focuses on any one task, but only 65 seconds.
Explo- children with attention problems are blowing up, right?
Think about the fact the average American office worker only focuses on any one task for
three minutes, right?
Imagine your whole life passing in a hailstorm of three minutes here, three minutes there,
three minutes there.
What was that?
What was this?
This is the texture of our everyday lives.
And at the moment we're in a race, right?
At the moment, to one side, you've got all these 12 factors that are causing attention problems,
many of which are on course to get much worse.
Paul Graham, one of the biggest investors in Silicon Valley, said that the world would
be more addictive in the next 40 years than it was in the last 40.
Think about how much more addictive TikTok is
to your child than Facebook, right?
So these forces are on course to learn how to hack our attention
in ways that will make Facebook look like a fucking tetris
on a game board.
What was, sorry to go,
you had a point with capitalism in there.
Sorry, I can't, sorry, I can't,
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no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, of their clients were only women, and now it's like 55% of 40%,
45% of their customer,
would you have ever thought like 40 something
per se is gonna still get $82, and he said this,
I was at the Lululemon store the other day,
I got a couple of shorts, I think I don't know the same,
I don't know if we bought Lululemon or Nike
as he would know it's because he picked them up,
but we were at the Lululemon, I'm like, you know what,
I would probably sport that,
okay, I would probably wear that for work
at the materials, I'll sport it,, you know what? I would probably sport that. Okay, I would probably wear that for work and the material is good, I'll sport it.
But here's what he said to me.
He says, 20 years from now, being in shape
will be irrelevant.
I said, tell me why.
He says, he says, everyone's gonna be in shape
20, 30 years from now.
I said, explain that to me.
That doesn't make any sense
because everything nowadays about sitting down,
not moving, you're not doing it, you're not doing it.
What do you mean we're all gonna be in shape?
He says, because you know how everyone's got a smartphone
right now, I said, yeah, he says,
everyone's gonna have smart clothes.
That's what a smart clothes mean.
Smart clothes are gonna say,
here's where you're at, sit down, stand up a little bit,
move, you gotta do this, your temperature,
you're gonna look at your shirt, that's gonna say,
here's where you are, you drank too much,
you know, drink more water water take a sip of this
Smart clothes are gonna get us to be more aware of what we're doing It says the idea of being in shape is gonna be nothing like today
You see somebody with a six pack maybe not even today because today we see so many people that are in shape as well
You see somebody with a six packs that you'll be impressed. He says in 20 30 years
You're gonna be like yeah, whatever everyone's in shape because what we're wearing. Now, is he right or wrong?
I don't know.
Is innovation advancing with their scene problems
where entrepreneurs like himself are sitting there saying,
how can I be the solution to this problem
that this person's having?
I think innovation wins.
I think the part that concerns me is the following.
The part that concerns me is when,
like, you know, in 2000, I don't know what year it was.
I went and sat down with a psychologist.
I had a lot of stress in my life.
I'm like, man, what the hell is going on?
Like, is this business stuff worth it?
Why is this so much stress?
I have one night, I come home,
two o'clock in the morning,
my body's bouncing off the ground,
my wife's like, what is going on?
She calls my dad, my dad comes over. I go to the hospital, I think he's having a heart attack. They're like, no, this guy's bouncing off the ground. My wife's like, what is going on? She calls my dad. My dad comes over.
I go to the hospital.
I think he's having a heart attack.
They're like, no, this guy's not having a heart attack.
What have you done the last few weeks?
I said, I've been just on the road bus
and it going on three, four hours of sleep.
He says, dude, your body's exhausted.
Okay?
This has happened on my hand full of times in my career, right?
And so they put on a couple of IVs on me
and then I went to work.
And, but I was kind of like,
is this worth it?
Is it worth you working as hard as you're working
and being in the hunt, and I'm like,
dude, I wouldn't want it any other way
than being in the hunt doing something big in my life.
But I think sometimes, you know,
we try so hard to move the pain and the challenges away.
I want to have pushback.
I want to have some being in a moment where it's stressful.
It's probably stressful to be in a Ford quarter
and perform and it's probably stressful to have kids.
And you know, last night I'm sitting
on with Dylan and Tico and I said, Dylan,
how many kids do you want to have when you grow up?
And Dylan's like, daddy, I think I just want three.
Last night, I'm talking to Dylan about this.
Just three.
Yeah, just, I say, why three?
He says, honestly, daddy, because I think four is a lot of work.
I'm like, what?
He says, you guys got four, and I see it.
It's a lot of work.
I think I want to have one less.
So you want to have one less?
That's why he's got an eight month, also.
Yeah, I see.
It's eight year old kid is telling me that he wants
that only three kids.
But I think the name of the game is overcoming an obstacle
or a challenge or some of those things.
These distractions are never gonna go away.
It's been the job of everybody to distract them.
What concerns me is when the big pharmaceutical companies
when I go and met with the therapist is like,
yeah, take this medication, it's gonna solve it. I'm like, no, bro, I don't want this.
Give me a real permanent solution. You know why don't you take this over here?
Why don't you take that over here? Why don't you take this over? I'm like, is this really the so I lost a friend one time to
my best friend in the world, I lost because he was taking 50
vikidents a day. In front of me, he took eight in front of me. The guy got three
the Woody color when you're driving
to the forefront, he wasn't drunk, he was on bike,
and then he got to three car accidents,
and we went to jail, we have to go get him.
I was like, what are we doing?
Took him to a rehab place for two weeks,
and then eventually, you know, he died.
Just to go back,
there's so many things on what you just said
that are so important.
And so, like I am passionately in favorite innovation,
innovation is the thing that moves the human race forward. The single, if you look at all the research about innovation,
all serious innovation requires deep thought, it requires periods of mind wandering,
it requires really sustained focus and attention. So if you're in favour of innovation as we both are,
passionately, the thing you most want to get right
is attention, because humans who can't pay attention
can't innovate, right?
If you could only think in 65 second bursts,
good luck thinking of something new, right?
You'll never get there.
So if I think about all the really impressive innovators
I've ever met from Oprah to Nome Chomsky,
they are people who make space to think deeply, to really properly pay attention.
So I think, and I wanted to just go back to something you mentioned before, I also really
want to talk about childhood because I'm really fascinated that you've got an eight-year-old
and I think this is the specific elements that are destroying our children's attention
that I think will really vibe with, the solutions will really vibe with you.
But let's think about sleep because you've mentioned that a few times in exhaustion, right?
So we are in the United States,
a chronically sleep deprived society,
only 15% of us wake up feeling refreshed.
It was one of the weirdest things that happened to me
in Provincetown when I took those three months off.
I remember one morning about a month in, I woke up
and I went into the kind of kitchen.
It was like, well, I feel really weird. What do I feel? And I couldn into the kind of kitchen. I was like, I feel really weird.
What do I feel?
And I couldn't place it.
And I realized I had woken up and I wasn't tired.
It was the first time I remember that
that happened to me in my adult life.
Because we live at such a level of exhaustion.
40% of Americans are chronically sleep deprived.
So I interviewed loads of the leading scientists on sleep,
people at Harvard Medical School and other places.
And there was a few bits of science that really threw me on this. If you stay awake for 19
hours, which sounds like nothing, right, 19 hours, you will be as your attention to theory
rates as badly as if you got legally drunk. There was one experiment done by a guy called
Dr. Charles Saisler, who interviewed at Harvard Medical School. He put together two forms
of technology. There's a technology that can track your eyes
to see what you're looking at.
And there's a technology we all know about
that can scan your brain.
So it gets tired people and he puts them into this machinery.
And what he discovered was a compelling head fuck.
You can be awake, can be looking around you,
you can appear to be as awake as you and me,
but whole parts of your brain kind of gone to sleep, right?
You know what we use that phrase I'm half asleep?
Turns out that's not a metaphor. A lot of us are literally half asleep a lot of the time.
And this is so important because Professor Roxanne Prasad is at the University of Minneapolis,
explained to me a lot that when you're sleeping your brain is repairing, it's healing itself. So
throughout the day something called metabolic waste builds up in your brain. It's what she calls brain cell poop, right? And when you sleep, your cerebral spinal fluid channels
open up and a kind of water rinses through your brain and it clears out all this shit that builds up
during the day. If you don't sleep properly, if you don't get eight hours sleep a night, which feels
like a luxury to a lot of people in the United States. If you don't sleep eight hours a night, your
brain does not clean itself. This is why people who sleep less
are far more likely to get dementia.
You literally build up with shit in your brain.
Your attention will be much worse.
You know that kind of hungover feeling you have when you're tired?
It turns out that's because your brain is literally clogged up.
So the single best thing you can do for your attention,
along with exercises at an individual personal level,
is get more sleep, right?
So yeah, the science on this is really clear.
And I'm pretty shocking that there are some,
and it sounds like you might be one of them.
There's some natural genetic variation
in terms of how much sleep people need.
And some people are really lucky
and just naturally need less sleep.
But it's quite a small part of the population.
And some people are unlucky and need a shit ton more.
I actually agree with you. I agree with you that you know the more more and
By the way even the bodybuilding world this gentleman you spoke to that said sleeping helps with men
Like you're taking a mental shit like you you're releasing all the talks
You know out of your brain phrase a mental shit
That's a name of the book so so you know the same thing happens you're sleeping, your muscles don't grow when you're working out,
your muscles grow when you rest,
your muscles, your sleep and your muscles are growing.
So I can actually see that, you know,
go back to focus.
So let's talk about focus,
because you said I fully believe that if, you know,
Nome Chomsky and Oprah Winfrey
to innovate at the highest level,
you have to learn how to be fully focused.
I 100% agree with that part. So let's talk about somebody that's right now, you know, got all the distractions we all
got.
They got one of these, they got an iPad, they got kids, they got family, they got, you
know, their jobs are trying to get a side hustle, they got, you know, all these other things
that they're doing and they're having a hard time stay focused.
What is the basic formula for one to stay focused?
So there's lots of things that I go through dozens in the book, but I'll give you an example
of one that really helped me in my life, and I think we'll help people in that position.
So I learned a lot about the science of something that are called flow states. Everyone
listening will have experienced a flow state. A flow state is when you're doing something
that's really meaningful to you, and you just get into it, and you're in the zone, and
it's like time falls away, and your ego falls away, and you're just in it.
The way one rock climber put it is a flow state is like when you feel like you are the
rock you're climbing, right?
So for me, it would be when I write.
For someone else, it might be when they make bagels, or they do brain surgery, or they play
the guitar.
But a flow state is really important for attention.
For two reasons, a flow state is the deepest form of attention you can bring, right? When you're in a flow state, you
are deeply focused, and a flow state is the easiest form of attention. Once you get into
it, it's not like memorizing facts for an exam, it's like, you know, like, oh shit,
you don't even have to want to win it. There's no effort involved. You're just, it's called a flow state because you are just flowing, right?
So I wanted to understand, given this is the easiest form of attention once you're in it,
and the deepest, shit, how do we get more of this?
I went interview Professor Mahali Cheek sent me high,
you have no idea how long it took me to learn how to say that.
Who is the leading ex was that sadly died recently,
but he was the leading expert on flow states.
He started them for over 50 years.
He's the man who coined the phrase.
And he discovered a shit ton of stuff about this.
But I think there's three that would really help the person
you're talking about, three key facts.
If you want to maximize your chances of getting
into a flow state, and there's no guarantee,
but if you want to maximize your chances,
you've got to do three things.
Firstly, you've got to narrow down to one goal.
If you're trying to do more than one thing at a time,
you'll never get into flow.
Choose one goal.
Secondly, it's got to be a goal that's meaningful to you, right?
If it's not meaningful, you won't get into flow.
And thirdly, it will really help if you choose a goal,
and this seems counterintuitive at first,
it will really help if you choose a goal that's at the edge of your comfort zone, at the edge of your
abilities. So let's say you're a medium talent rock climber, right? You don't want to just
try and climb over your garden wall, so I'm going to get you into flow.
Inqually, you don't want to try and suddenly climb like, you know, one of those mountains in
Colorado that's really high, you'll just shit yourself. You want to choose a rock face that is slightly higher
and harder than the last rock face you climbed.
So if you do these three things,
choose one goal, make it a meaningful goal,
make it one at the edge of your abilities,
you massively maximize your chances of getting into a flow
state and being able to do that,
de-perform of attention.
But there's lots of other things that we can do.
I recommend really long social media breaks.
I take half the year completely off social media,
and I'm so much more productive in those six months
than I am in the six months when I'm on it.
I sleep much more than I used to.
I mention the case safe.
I bind myself in.
I lock that shit away.
Because I know that I'll crack if I just leave it sitting there.
And, but there's one about kids
that I think is really important as well.
Because in a way, if we're not building the baseline
of focus and attention for children,
you know, this is gonna be an even bigger problem
20, 30 years from now.
You're saying kids to get into a flow state?
Or, no, just generally, for children and attention
before we get to kids.
Sure, sure.
I know we're gonna spend time on that. I wanna talk about that flow state
because we have a lot of entrepreneurs
on our channel, people that are in business.
Some of the things you were talking about
have a very much similarity to what we talk about
and what you talk about here is rather than
doing a handful of tasks, gets focused on that.
And what we call that is being a specialist,
versus being a jack of all traits.
So first thing I thought of is like,
okay, if you wanna be good at something,
focus on one thing and be great at that one thing.
Everyone wants to talk about having, you know,
double sources of income and like multiple incomes coming in.
It's like, no, let's just get one income solidified.
And then number two, you said what?
Meaningful go. Meaningful go. So for that, they say you have to work about something
that you're passionate about. You don't have to, you don't have to, you know, passion is
baseball cards, but it's not, wasn't he's that, or baseball, was it going to be a baseball
player or collect baseball cards for a living? I will understand American sports.
No matter how I'm a cricket, it's a fucking excuse me. But basically, you know, choose something that, you know,
you're, you're specialized in that you're passionate about.
And then last but not least, your comfort zone will kill you.
Push yourself to the point where you're like,
I don't know if I really wanna do that,
but I'll go for it.
But so it seems to be an analogous to,
to basically the business stuff that you talked about.
Did you, did you kind of pick that up when you asked?
I mean, Tyler just pulled something up David if he can show this
How to take Bill Gates's think week to recover from the life every year?
He takes a week Bill Gates he goes to a cabin no phone no laptop
No nothing and you think about guys like Jeff Bezos
Richard Branson all the multi billionaires that are innovators. What do they do every morning?
They wake up and they meditate they don't have their phones
You don't have their eye pass,
or they read, they sit, they think they get lost.
Well, their speculation that a friend of them would meet him
at this thing, please, but that's a different conversation.
But let me go.
I think I fully, there's a story that I'm not sure.
But there is a story there, but I'm no longer married.
But that was, what I like about this is,
I fully subscribe to this.
I, you know, I sometimes would say,
hey, I'm going over here.
I'm gonna be here for a day.
Don't bother me.
If you need to get a hold of me,
here's my room number, here's this.
Well, you said the story about
when you went to Harvard Business School
and what are the big dots?
And I was like, he says, don't touch your phone.
Don't worry about it.
We got this thing.
We're gonna take care of it just for this stuff.
And Howard was that for you to do?
I mathematically impossible.
I was saying this like I added you do not regret it, do you?
I was one of the best things I did.
But this is why you know, it's essentially about touching a phone.
The average person touches their phone 2,617 times a day, right?
And it used to be 150 just 10 years ago.
I know it's massively expensive. What was the number?
2,617. it's probably higher now,
because that was just done before the pandemic.
So you think about, you exactly right,
the reason the subtitle for the book is
and how to think deeply again,
is for exactly this reason, right?
Because we were talking before about some of the benefits,
right, and there are real benefits
from the speedy way in which we live.
Very important to acknowledge that.
But one of the causes when you go really fast,
you lose depth.
And in all innovation and all originality
and all creativity come from depth, right?
So what happens is we're constantly living in the shadows
in these kind of manic mode.
So if you don't make space,
and we've got to be honest with people,
you know, the way Professor Joel Negu, I mentioned before,
one of the leading experts on children's attention problems,
put it to me.
He said, we live in what he called an attentional pathogenic
environment, which means this is an environment where
it's very hard for people to do the right thing and focus
deeply.
The number of people who can do what Bill Gates does
is very small, right?
The number of people who can do what Bill Gates does is very small, right? The number of people who can do what we're proposing currently is small.
And the only thing I think, in this whole conversation, I think the only thing
where I've disagreed with, and I understand why you said, because part of me thinks it is,
you said before I can't see where I wrote it down, but you said something like,
this is never going to change, right? You're going to always be in an environment that's going to be,
and of course there's always going to be some distractions, you're right about that.
There's always going to be a human struggle between, you know,
you can go back to monks a thousand years ago and they still struggle a little bit with,
well, I could be distracted by this thing or I could do this other thing. But we're living
an environment now that is hugely damaging our attention, right? And I do think we've
got to understand that because A, we can protect ourselves and our kids better when we understand it.
But B, because the environment can change, right? Think about let it paint, right? When we were kids, we were exposed to lead.
That damaged our attention, right? Damages everyone's attention.
You could have said then, I'm sure you wouldn't have, but someone could have people did say then,
oh, you know, this is always going to be a problem, right? How are you ever going to deal with it?
But actually, we did deal with it, right? And for all of the other 12 factors that we're talking about,
there are very practical solutions.
So let's think about the ones that relate to kids
in particular, because I'm fascinated by,
so we can look at the school system,
but set that aside for a minute, right?
There's a huge change that I think we're really
well-suited to see people our age.
So tell the story in the book of a woman called Lennore
Skennazzi, who you guys should totally have on you, absolutely love her, hero.
So Lennore, Lennore grew up in a suburb of Chicago in the 1960s.
And kind of normal suburb.
And from when she was five years old, she would leave home on her own to go to school,
and she'd walk on her own to the school, which was 15 minutes away.
She'd generally bump into the other kids that would walk together.
When they got to the school gate, there
was a 10-year-old boy whose job was
to help the five-year-olds cross the street.
She'd go into school.
She'd stay there till three o'clock or whatever the time was.
She'd leave on her own.
She'd play games with the other kids in the neighborhood,
and she'd find her way home for like 6 p.m.
By the time Lenore had kids of her own in the 90s,
she was living in Queens in New York,
that had completely ended, right?
She was expected to walk her child to school and be waiting at the school gate when he came
out.
By 2003, only 10% of American children ever played outside, right without an adult, ever.
And I think of the 10% who did the average amount of time they did was like 12 minutes.
So basically, childhood suddenly moved, even before COVID,
to be something that happened basically in imprisonment, right?
Children are hidden behind closed doors.
The only place they ever get to explore anything
is on Fortnite and World of Warcraft.
So we can hardly be surprised they become absolutely obsessed with them, right?
And it's not a coincidence, I think,
that this complete transformation of childhood,
which we were just on the cusp of, like I played outside.
Did you guys play outside?
Yeah, of course.
Yeah, of course.
It's all the time.
Exactly.
We're basically the last people in the Western world who as kids got to play outside.
And I don't think it's a coincidence that this huge transformation of childhood coincided
with an enormous increase in children's attention problems.
Because if you look at this unprecedented change that's
happened, there's never been a generation of human children
ever who were kept inside their homes.
When we were kids or when our parents were kids,
if someone kept their child locked away all day,
I mean, that would have been regarded as child abuse, right?
This transformation contains all sorts of smaller changes
that have fucked people's attention.
Think about a really simple one. Exercise.
The evidence that exercise is good for your brain is overwhelming.
It massively improves your attention. If you're struggling to focus, go for a run.
We have prevented our children from exercising.
Only 73% of elementary schools in the United States have any form of recess.
If you wanted to fuck up children's ability to focus, you would be so crazy as to try to get 73% have any form of recess, right? If you wanted to fuck up children's ability to focus,
you would be so crazy as to try to get.
73% have, that's 27% have no recess at all.
So three out of four do have recess.
Yeah, but even those, it's very small, right?
And a quarter have no recess at all, right?
So you can see.
I would ditch.
So, but the reason why Lenore is such a hero
is because, look, I can tell that to you,
and you're a parent, and I'm sure you think, yeah, that's true. But also a hero is because look, I can tell that to you and
you're a parent and I'm sure you think, yeah, that's true.
But also, you're like, if I'm the only person who lets my kid go out to play, the kid gets scared
and I like a crazy person.
So Lenore built a big part of the solution so that obviously most of my bookstores and
focus is about how we solve these problems.
And Lenore, I think, pioneered a key part for kids.
So what she does is she goes
to whole schools and whole neighbourhoods. She runs something called Let Grow and parents
listening to Let Grow.org. She goes to whole schools and neighbourhoods and persuades them
to let their kids go out, to let them, she believes that for children to be able to become functioning
adults, they have to be able to experience increasing levels of independence in their lives, right?
You have to face challenges.
You become resilient.
Exactly what you're saying.
You have to have a little bit of suffering.
You have to get lost in a little.
You were literally just saying this yesterday at last.
Exactly.
You have to climb the tree.
And maybe you're going to hike.
What we've done is we've taken that away.
So what Lenore does, they go and they persuade whole communities
to start to restore childhood.
And one of the most moving experiences I have for the book
was I spent a lot of time with the Let Grow projects.
I went to one in Long Island,
and there was a boy there, a 14 year old boy.
I don't give you a sense of this,
he's a big, strong 14 year old boy.
Who until this program had begun,
his parents had never let him out of
his home on his own, right? They wouldn't even let him go for a jog round the block.
And they said it was asked in wine, he said it's because they're afraid of all these
kidnappings, he said. To give you a sense of this, this is a town in Long Island where
the French bakery is across the street from the olive oil store. And he had a level of
fear that would have been appropriate if he'd lived in Colombia at the height of Pavlow Esquibá's terror, right?
It was insane.
So this program began.
Him and his friends start to go outside without their screens.
They start to play with each other, which they'd never done before.
And after a few months, what these boys did, they went into the woods and they built a fort.
And they went there, even though their cell phones didn't work there
because the pleasures of building something, of exploring the real world. And I remember when
that boy left, Lenore said to me, Lenore was with me that day, she said, think about all of human
history, right? Young men had to go out, they had to hunt, they had to seek, they had to build things.
And in the space of one generation, we took all that away.
And those boys, given just a little bit of freedom,
what did they do?
They went and they built a fort, right?
This is so important for attention
to be able to explore and build.
If you just blunt a child, and it was so sad
because I was thinking about all the kids I know
who don't ever get that.
Does that all ring true to you guys?
Of course it does.
I mean, I lived in Germany.
In Iran, my dad wouldn't let me play outside
because he was so worried about what they were doing.
The climate wasn't healthy for kids to play outside.
Although my dad would take us out on Friday
to Parkes Shahan Shahi.
It was the Shah's name.
They changed the name since there.
And we would play outside.
He would always wanted to take us outside
except not without him.
Once we went to Germany at a refugee camp
I was out in the streets till 10 o'clock at night. My mom had no clue where I was at and let me tell you my
maturity from being a boy who was timid and couldn't be around people to being a man happened in Germany at a refugee camp from 10 years old to 12 years old.
If it wasn't for those two years at Germany playing with Catherine and Katarina Stoff
and Jan and all those guys, Johan from Poland and you know learning about Yugoslavia,
friend of ours was from Anna Maria, I was her name and they live in Canada and we found
each other on Facebook.
It just wouldn't been the same.
I totally agree with you on the dependents side.
I want to get into gaming but before I go into gaming with kids breaking news
Tom Brady officially announced his retirement for people in America. That's a big deal
I understand
I fucking live here. I know about that if you can pull up his tweet go to his Twitter account
He posted a picture and I just want to read this click on click on Tom Brady go on his Twitter profile
He put a picture and under it. He put a note. okay? So no, go to Tom Brady's yet, go right there.
Okay, you can do that, I'll just read that tune,
then that's fine, okay.
So if you wanna zoom in a little bit,
Tyler, you okay, just zoom in a little bit, there you go, okay.
I've always believed the sport of football
is an all-in proposition, if a 100% competitive commitment,
it's a, if 100% competitive commitment isn't there,
you won't succeed in successes of what I love so much about our, our game.
There is a physical, mental, and emotional challenge every single day that has allowed
me to maximize my highest potential.
And I've tried my very best the past 22 years.
There are no short cuts to success on the field or in life.
This is difficult for me to write, but here it goes.
I'm not going to make
that competitive commitment anymore.
I have loved my NFL career,
and now it's time to focus my time and energy
on other things that require my attention.
So, he has.
He has a purpose.
He's focused.
He is his life time.
He's focused.
It's official.
He has gone.
And there's another picture of him reading this book.
I don't know if I've seen this.
He read this book yesterday.
He made this announcement.
Hang on.
I'll get Oprah to text him in a minute.
By the way, it is very ironic that he's,
that he's, signs off with and is now time to focus my time
and energy on the other things that require my attention.
I think not to hammer this point home too hard,
but I do think that's because when you think about a good life,
when you're reevaluating, obviously Tom Brady,
and I will never understand this fucking sport, no matter how many times I watch it,
no matter how many times it's explained to me, but I understand he's good at it.
When Tom Brady is reconsidering his whole life, what does he turn to?
He says, I want to focus my attention, right?
We know, I think most people watching know
that our attention is getting worse.
They can feel it, they can see it in their kids.
And I think most people know that's a bad thing.
And what I want to say to people
is it doesn't have to be this way, right?
We can deal with the things that are doing this to us.
But it requires a shift in our consciousness.
Partly, we have to make individual adjustments to us and our kids.
Partly, we need to make these collective solutions.
But also, we need to see, you know, we are not fucking medieval peasants
begging at the court of King Zuckerberg
for a few little crumbs of attention from his table, right?
We are the free citizens of democracies, and we own our own minds,
and we can take them back if we want to.
I agree. We own our minds and our bodies,
and we should choose what to do with it.
I totally agree with that.
And those things are being invaded at the moment
and fucked with, right, in ways that we can resist,
but we've got to know where our power lies, right?
Some of the power lies in what I can do as an individual,
what you can do as an individual,
what you can do as a parent with your kids,
what I can do with my God's sons, my nephews and my niece, but also some of our power lies in what we
can do together to take on these forces that are doing this to us. And I think we've got to do both,
because just like we took on the lead industry, if we'd never taken on the lead industry, they'd still be
like, it's not like the lead industry would one day gone, you know what guys, I think we've made enough
money, let's stop poisoning kids' brains, let me never have said that, right?
Can we focus just right there?
Let me just have a moment.
So who concerns you more?
Who concerns you more?
Who wants to make us to what they want us to do?
Does the government concern you more or these virtual governments that have become very
powerful, meaning the social media companies?
Who concerns you more?
Government or the big capitalists?
I mean, it depends what issue.
You know, there's some, look, government can do good things
and government can do bad things.
These social media companies can do good things
or can do bad things.
So I think it just depends on what the issue is.
It's not about being blankly opposed to any of these things
that there are good things these companies have done
as well as really harmful things.
They can about something as simple as gay kids
can find each other now, right?
In a way that was much harder when they were,
you know, 20, 30 years ago,
there's all sorts of things that have changed
that are much better, right?
All sorts of positive transformations.
But we're also facing these real forms of harm.
So it's interesting, we haven't talked about food, have we?
Should we talk about obesity,
but we didn't talk about the way food is actually
harming attention.
Do you want to talk about that for a minute?
Because I think it might help people to think about this.
You know what I would like to talk about.
Sure, of course.
I would like to talk about gaming.
So if you can pull up that link, I sent you.
Yeah.
So gaming.
So, yeah.
Esports has blown up.
OK.
Last year's international 2021 tournament,
the total purse payout to kids and people playing video games
was $40 million.
Okay, that's $20 million.
Now here's the thing, what do you think first place got?
What do you think first place got out of the $40 million?
I'm curious, because he's going to show to you right in a minute.
What do you think first place got out of the $40 million? 10 million bucks. he's going to show to you right in a minute. What do you think first place got out of the 40 million dollars?
10 million bucks. Okay, go click on first place, click on it. Guys, so first place, make
it a little bigger. First place, 18 million bucks. Okay. So, 38% of it. Yeah. So now here's
what's going on with at the same time. So there's more people watching the last, there's
a number that they show that live stream that more people watch the championship of esports than the Super Bowl
Okay, so so this is now just exploded. Yeah, I don't know if you get this brains all over the world
This is by the way this is turning oh by the way the sponsorships they're getting
Multi-million dollar your sponsorships being given to 16 year olds, 17 year olds, 14 year olds,
22 year olds, they're making that kind of money right now these gamers are right so this is the
challenge the people that are struggling with this this the most are parents okay because parents
are sitting under saying dude I grew up in a phase where you went and played games you want to
play football you want to play basketball you. You're gonna play soccer, football.
You know, whatever the game may be that you're doing.
Now my kids come home.
All he's talking about is Roblox.
He's talking about League of Legends.
He's talking about all of these tournaments
that are taking place.
And what do I do?
Don't play video games, because that's what we're supposed to do.
I grew up in Sega Genesis.
I grew up on Super Mario Brothers.
I grew up in all these things. You know, you move, all these crazy things that we grow. Yeah, yeah, the street fighter
Mortal Kombat. These were the games are okay, right? We shouldn't do that. Versus now, they're,
they're now, you know, looking at this as a industry. This could be their jobs. Kids could make
video games. Kids could be gamers making a hundred thousand,
quarter million, a half a million, a million dollars a year. That's their passion. That's
what they love. What do you say to a parents who worry on how to handle video games with
their kids, especially now that it's no longer just a game that you're playing, it's becoming
an industry?
That's funny when you said that about the games when we were kids, because I about maybe six months ago
I was playing Fortnite with one of my gods sentence Joe,
who was 10 at the time.
And I said to him, hey Joe, do you want to see
what video games were like when I was a kid?
And he's like, yeah.
And we played, do you remember Frogger?
Do you remember this guy?
Of course.
So we played Frogger for like three minutes,
and he turned to me and he put his hand on mine
and absolutely sincerely he said,
Yo Han, I'm so sorry, things were so shit.
You're a kid.
I'm like a bullshit.
I'm so sorry.
I'm losing you.
Ted, he looked at me like the way if I'd taken him to like a wooden
shack or lived in shit.
Do you know what I mean?
So I think we video games.
It's like a black and white TV versus a new HD.
Everything that you're going to.
It's totally different.
So I think we video games.
There's a few, I have a few thoughts.
So one is there's loads of good things about video games.
First, it gives a lot of people a lot of pleasure.
That's a good thing in itself.
Secondly, it improves hand-eye coordination.
There's all sorts of really great things.
My view is video games are a good thing
in a balanced diet.
Really?
They are.
So there's no problem.
I have no problem going to KFC once a week.
It's fine.
Just don't go to KFC three times a day, right?
And the same way.
So the Chinese government, and I want to stress,
I do not support this because the Chinese government
is a communist tyranny and it's awful.
But the Chinese government has introduced a rule saying
that kids are allowed to play video games for three hours a week,
right?
And it's a strict rule that's enforced.
That seems to me, although I wouldn't want to have a communist tyranny imposing it,
I'd want parents to choose it.
That seems to me like a perfectly sensible three hours a day, that's fine.
Three hours a week, rather.
That's fine.
Obviously most of my old kids are doing way more than that.
The thing I'm worried about much more is the context in which they're playing the video
games, because like we were saying, if a child never gets to go outside, right, if the kids are sort of imprisoned and all they've got
is the video game, well I'm not surprised they become obsessed with it, right? If the
children need to explore their environment, right, our children don't get to explore their
environment, they don't get to go off on their own and play in the park and play in the
woods and just do all the normal things that we did, right? They don't get to do that. So what do they do? They become obsessed with the
one form of exploration they're allowed to do, right? They're being obsessed with
it isn't good. A balanced diet is fine. You know, going to KFC every now and then
play video games. How do you deal with, because you said your kids play video games,
yeah? Only on the weekends. Okay, so that's my question. How do you manage
expectations with them to say,
all right, guys, if you get your stuff done during the week,
the weekends, you can choose to do it,
like choose what you want with your free time.
If they choose video games great,
if they want to go play outside,
how do you do with your kids with that?
Oh, I mean, you know, you've known what we do
with the structure with the kids.
Every day, if you want to play video games,
or if you want anything, the currency in our house is books.
So after you read 20 pages, after you move your body exercise and then you can play. So
you have to watch a documentary. So we've gone through the men who built America. We've gone
through a last-dance documentary. We've gone through history of capitalism. We're going right now
through Man in the Arena with Woody Collard, Tom Brady.
So 20 minutes, Doc, exercise moving your body,
then you get to play video games.
That's the criteria.
But is there ultimate reward to say, yeah,
that's, that's, if that's what they want to do.
But no, the other day they said,
we wanted to go to such and such park,
which I went there and we were at the park for an hour,
they didn't want to play video games.
We went to the park, so sick park.
And they played with these kids with the Nerf guns and they had a blast what they did at the park for an hour. They didn't want to play video games. We went to the parts of sick park and they played with these kids with the Nerf guns and
They had a blast what they did at the park, but you know, I think about myself. Were you a game or did you play games or no?
Were you very I was more the kid that was playing football on the yeah, you were the sidewalk. Yeah, so I played Festers Quest
Which if you remember
Festers, if you remember Festers Quest
You're either my age or like type in festers quest.
This was my game.
This is like a business.
I'm so not in tune with games.
This is something that's like a game I played.
I was addicted to festers quest.
Yeah, I was addicted to Zelda.
I was addicted to Final Fantasy.
What's that? I think God Final Fantasy RPG games.
I was addicted to it.
So you were a gamer?
I would say I was a gamer for two years.
And then I went to the army, we played FIFA soccer,
and then one day I had zero interest when I got to the army.
Like zero in terms of like, I have no time for this.
I'm done, and I dropped it and I moved on.
I'm gonna give you some statistics
and I'm gonna get your thoughts on this.
So psychiatric times wrote this article
is video game addiction a disorder in Ohio 17 year
boy shot both of his parents killed it killing his mother because what what a great story
you put here Tyler think before the soft stories.
He's feel good because he took away his halo because they took away his halo three video game.
His defense was that he was pushed to the brink by his addiction to video games often playing
for 18 hours straight and South
Korea couple was arrested for being so obsessed with video games that their infant daughter died
of malnutrition. Okay, now these guys have issues, you're 18 hours a day. In response to statistics,
statistics like this, the World Health Organization in 2018 officially included internet gaming disorder,
ICD in the international classification of diseases,
noting that this is the sort of resulted in marked distress
or significant impairment in personal family,
social, educational, occupational functioning,
WHO further noted that associate health concerns,
including insufficient physical activity,
poor diet problems and eyesight,
with eyesight and hearing, sleep deprivation,
aggressive behavior and depression,
as well as poor psychological functioning
in 2020 consumers in the US spent $57 billion
on video games beating 2019 by 27%.
Projections that by 2023 next year,
that $57 billion is gonna be $217 billion.
How much of this is on the kid?
How much of this is on the society?
How much of this is on their parents?
I think there's a bigger debate about addiction.
We can come to in a second.
But if you think about these video games, this is going to be too negative in analogy,
but let me say it in the light-spot, it's too negative.
If you think about them as a virus, right, That come along that would be compelling in any situation.
They've arrived at a moment when kids' immune systems
are already down, right?
So they're more likely to be infected by the virus
and for it to take them over.
So I'll give you two examples.
Children now sleep 85 minutes less than they did a century ago.
Now you all know, we all know if we've had a night
where we haven't slept, you're much more likely
to just spend next day mindlessly scroll through TikTok
than you are to read a book, right?
So partly our kids are severely sleep deprived
and that is making them more vulnerable to this stuff.
Also, the dire our children eat,
the food we feed our kids
makes them much more vulnerable to this stuff as well.
And I stress again, it's some of the video gaming is good.
But think about how we eat those three big ways
in which the way we are kids eat and the way we eat,
in fact, is damaging our ability to focus
and make you as more vulnerable to the kind of things
you're describing.
The first is, imagine you have the standard American
British breakfast, the kind of thing I grew up having.
I'm sure you guys did.
Kind of sugar it or in Germany, sugary cereal,
or white bread with butter or whatever, right?
What that does is that releases a huge amount of energy
really quickly into your brain, right?
And it feels great, you're like, I'm fucking working up.
You know, you've got a rush of glucose.
But what happens is you'll get to your desk
or your kid will get to their school desk
an hour or two later, and you get a huge energy crash.
Because, you know, the way Dale Pinnock,
one of the leading nutritionists,
in Britain, put it to me, is it's like you're putting rocket fuel into a mini with those little
British cars, right? It'll go really fast for five minutes and then it'll just stop, right? So the
way we eat causes energy spikes and energy crashes, which leaves you with brain fog. When your energy
crashes, you get brain fog. You just can't think clearly until you have another sugary carb e snack, right?
So one of the things that we're doing is we're, if you, by contrast, if you eat food
that releases energy steadily throughout the day, which is what, you know, almost all
our ancestors ate, you're able to pay attention more even then.
You're less likely to just get into these slumps where just anything that wants to fuck with your attention will seem appealing.
Second way, our diet is damaging our ability to focus is that your brain in order to develop
properly needs certain nutrients.
And the diet we currently is lacking a lot of those nutrients, like omega-3s, and supplements
don't cut it because your body doesn't absorb supplements in the same way. Third ways to me the most shocking and I think to you as a dad most relevant,
although they all are, which is, it's not just the our diets, lack things we need. They
contain chemicals that act on us like drugs. So there was a study in Britain in a city
called Southampton in 2007. They got nearly 300 kids and they split them into two groups.
The first group was just given water and the second group was given water laced through
the load of the food dyes that occur in the kind of food you get in the supermarket in
M&M's, that kind of thing.
And then they monitored them.
The kids that drank the food dyes were significantly more likely to become manic to run around,
which would have made them more vulnerable to the kind of things you're talking about.
So you can see how, and these are just two of the many factors
that I talk about in the book,
that are affecting our kids' attention.
So you can see how that's like lowering your immune system
so that when something that wants to fuck
with your attention comes along,
it's easier for it to infect the child,
which is not to say there aren't healthy uses of video games,
there totally are, I'm not opposed to video games, just like I'm not opposed to technology or the internet
more generally. But we've got to look at these things. But there's a bigger debate about
addiction that I can talk about where I think this video game addiction stuff, how would
I put it? I think it can be interpreted, this is not what you're doing, but I think it
can be interpreted simplistically. And this is because I went on a long journey about I am a'r ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyndyn yn ymdyn yn ymdyn yn ym to wake up one of my relatives and not being able to and fun enough, it's similar places at Iran and Germany, but to the countries my family lived in as well, so similar to
you. And when I started doing research on addiction almost exactly 10 years ago, if you
had asked me about, let's say heroin addiction, because that was also close to me, you'd
ask me what causes heroin addiction. I would have looked at you like you're an idiot,
and I would have said, well, Patrick, the clue's in the name. Obviously, heroin causes
heroin addiction. We've been told this story for a hundred years that's become totally
part of our common sense. I thought it was, I mean I thought I'd seen it unfold in front
of me, right? So we think if we kidnap the next 20 people to what past your offices
here in Florida and we injected them every day with heroin three times a day
for a month, say, like a villain in a sore movie.
At the end of that month, they'd all be
heroin addicts for a simple reason.
There's chemical hooks in heroin
that their bodies would start to get used to,
and then their bodies would start to desperately physically
crave them.
And so at the end of it, they would have
this tremendous physical hunger for the chemical hooks.
That's why we call it being hooked, right?
You want the chemical hook.
It turns out that story's not wrong, chemical hooks are real, but it's a really small part
of what's happening with addiction when you look at the bigger picture.
And I only really began to understand this when I went to Vancouver, an interviewer, a
man named Professor Bruce Alexander, who did an experiment that has transformed how we think about addiction.
So he explained to me the story we got in our heads, that addiction is caused primarily or
tightly by the chemical hooks, comes from a series of experiments that were done earlier in the 20th
century. The really simple experiments, your viewers can try them at home if they're feeling
a little bit sadistic. You take a rat, you put it in a cage, and you give it
two water bottles. One is just water, and the other is water laced with either heroin or cocaine.
If you do that, the rat will almost always prefer the drug water and almost always kill itself
within a couple of weeks, it'll overdose. So there you go, that's our story. The rat tries the
drug, wants more and more of it, dies. But in the 70s, Professor Alexander came along
and said, well, hang on a minute.
You're putting the rat alone in an empty cage.
It's got nothing that makes life meaningful for rats.
All it's got is the drugs.
What would happen if we did this differently?
So he bit a cage that he called Rat Park,
which is basically heaven for rats, right?
They got loads of friends, they got loads of cheese,
they got loads of colored balls,
they can have loads of sex.
Anything a rat likes in life is there in rat park,
and they've got the drug water,
the normal water and the drug water.
And of course they try both, they don't know what's in them.
This is the fascinating thing.
In rat park, they don't like the drug water very much.
None of them use it compulsively, none of them overdose.
So you go from almost 100% compulsive use
and overdose when they don't have the things
that make life worth living,
to no compulsive use and overdose
when they have what you were talking about,
before meaning purpose,
the things that make life worth living for them.
And what I learned from this,
there's loads of human examples we can talk about.
But what I learned from this is that the opposite of addiction
is not sobriety, valuable though that is to many people.
The opposite of addiction is connection. And the reason I say this in response to this video game addiction stuff you
read out, Patrick, is I think it's too simplistic to say, oh, the video game, this boy that you
described, I forgot how old he was.
17.
Yeah, the 17 year old boy is way too simplistic to say, the video game did that team, right?
The video game did that team in a context where all,'m sure I'm sure I'm sure all sorts of things
were fucking him up and every addictive behavior whether it's video games,
cocaine, porn, whatever it might be is an attempt to not be present in your
life because your life is too painful a place to be right? You want to not be
present so you obsessively use the porn,
you obsessively play video games, whatever it might be.
That helps us to understand, by the way,
why what we do here in the US is such a fucking disaster
with the war on drugs, because what we do
is we get addicted people, and we say,
oh, we need to inflict more pain on them
in order to give them an incentive to stop.
But when you know that pain is the fucking fuel,
pain is the driver. You can see,
sometimes we say it doesn't work. Truth is much worse. It makes the addiction worse,
right? Does that all, what do you make of that?
What's your thought?
The first thing that popped in my mind, you said is, all right, they're in a cage. So the
thing that comes to my mind is we've seen the stats on what's happened since COVID.
Everyone's been locked in their cage, right? Other than maybe here in Florida,
and other certain other states.
So if you have the choice of just sipping on water
or sipping on water with heroin,
if you're the rat and you're in your cage,
you're gonna take the heroin.
Using a human example, if you're sitting in a home alone,
doing nothing, you know, you have to work apparently,
maybe you're not, maybe you're collecting unemployment,
you're getting stimulus checks,
maybe you got to hop on a Zoom-do work,
but you're locked in your proverbial cage.
Okay, there's some liquor in the cabinet,
there's some pot over there in the desk,
maybe there's some harder, you know, pills, opiates,
they're sitting there, you're in your cage.
So I'm sensing this cage in Ali,
is what analogy
is what leads to people saying,
well, based on the two options I have of sipping on water
or doing some drugs, I'm in this cage anyway, let's party.
Is that part of what this rat cage analogy is?
Yeah, I've got a friend.
So as you know, we...
Interesting, I want to read this comment
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In what may be a justified cause,
but it has caused a horrific increase,
in not just addiction.
And this fits with a wider way of thinking, right?
Which is that everyone listening
and everyone watching knows
that you have natural physical needs, right?
Obviously, you need food, you need water,
you need shelter, you need cleaner.
If I took those things away from you,
you'd be in real trouble, real fast. But there's equally strong evidence that all
human beings have natural psychological needs. You need to feel you belong. Human connection.
You need to feel your life has meaning and purpose. You need to feel that people see
you and value you. You need to feel you've got a future that makes sense. And if you deprive
people of their psychological needs that are manifesting all sorts of problems,
you'll have increased suicide, which we have.
You'll have increased homicide, which we have.
You'll have increased addiction, which we have,
and overdose deaths.
And you can see this.
This is why some of the best people
have studied this, professors Anne Case and Angus Dayton,
called the opioid crisis deaths of despair.
When a factory shuts down in a town, the over the next five years, the death rate among
people who work there more than doubles, right?
Now, that's not difficult to understand.
Anyone who hears that knows immediately why, right?
So it's not, of course, the drug plays a role, just like the video game may, in this case,
but I don't know if you think about this particular case, but the video game may play a role, but
the drug and the video game enter in a context.
And most people who use even quite hard drugs,
and this really surprised me
because it wasn't experienced in my family,
but if you look at the evidence
from people like Professor Kaha at Columbia University
and others, most people who use even quite hard drugs,
like even meth and heroin,
do not become addicted and are not harmed by it.
Now of course there's a minority you are harmed, you need our love and support.
But why can some people do it and not others?
There's some biological contributions, some people have a little bit more of a genetic
vulnerability, but most of it is about these bigger psychological and social factors.
If your life's going well, and you're happy and you want to be present in your life,
you can probably snort a line of Coke, you'll be okay.
If your, if the factory shut down and you're stuck in a place like Manhattan, not near
Hampshire where I went, where people are in deep despair through no thought of their own,
you know, well, it's going to be a lot more dangerous for you because you're going to want
to not be present in your life.
This is why, by the way, there is a solution to this.
And one of the things that makes me so fucking crazy, so as you guys know, I've been spending
a lot of the pandemic in Vegas, in fact a lot of the last 10 years in Vegas, because I'm
writing a book about Vegas that I'm not meant to talk about very much, my publishers
or tased me outside in a minute.
But I spent a lot of time with people with addiction problems in Vegas, and someone
I really loved, I'd died in last summer.
And one of the things that makes me so crazy
is in the research from my book about this,
I went to places where my friend Tommy
and so many other people would have lived and not died.
So Portugal, for example, in the year 2000,
Portugal had one of the worst drug problems
in the whole world.
1% of the population was addicted to heroin,
which is mind-blowing, right?
You see, walk down the street, one in every hundred people
or perhaps one percent, staggering.
They were top of the European league tables
for 27 European countries at the time,
top of all the league tables for death, right?
And overdose and addiction.
And every year they tried our way more,
the American way more.
They arrested more people, they imprisoned more people, they shamed more people.
And every year the more...
Plastic war on drugs that has failed here in America.
Exactly.
So fucking well, hasn't it?
Exactly.
And then one day, the Prime Minister and the leader of the opposition got together and
they were like, look, we can't carry on like this.
What are we going to do?
So they decided to do something really radical, something no one had done in more than 70 years
since the Global War on Drugs began.
They were like, should we ask some scientists what we should do?
So they set up a panel of scientists and doctors
led by an amazing man I got to know in Portugal,
named Dr. Shuaogu Lau.
And they said to them, you guys go away,
figure out what would solve this problem,
and we've agreed in advance with all the political parties that we'll do whatever you recommend.
So just took it out of politics.
So the panel goes away, they look at all the evidence,
including Ratt Park, the experiment we were just talking about.
And the panel comes back and says,
you're going to think we're crazy, but here's what we're going to do.
We're going to decriminalize all drugs from cannabis to crack,
everything, but, and this is the crucial next step,
we're going to take all the money we used to spend on fucking people up, more, shaming them, imprisoning them, arresting
them, putting them on trial, and we're going to spend all that money instead on helping
them turn their lives around.
And interestingly, it wasn't mostly what we think of as drug treatment in the US.
They did a little bit of residential rehab, which has value.
Most of it was about getting people back to work. Say you used to be a mechanic, you got an addiction problem, they go to
a garage, they say, if you employ this guy for a year, we'll pay half his wages. The job,
the goal was to say to every single person with an addiction problem in Portugal, we love
you, we value you, we're on your side, we want you back. And by the time I went to Portugal,
it was 13 years since this had begun,
and the results were in,
best research was done by the British Journal
of Criminalology, don't have a dog in this fight.
They found that they Portugal had gone
from having the worst overdose death in the European Union
to being almost the bottom of the lead table.
Addiction was down by more than 50%.
Overdose deaths were down by more than 80%.
There was just an enormous transformation.
And one of the ways you know it works so well
is that almost nobody in Portugal wants to go back.
I went interview to guy called Shwalfig Wera,
who was the top drug cop in Portugal
at the time of the decriminalization.
And he said what loads of people totally understandably say,
when you say let's decriminalize all drugs,
he said this is insane.
We'll have a huge increase in children using drugs. This is a nightmare, we can't do it.
He said to me, everything I said would happen didn't happen.
And everything the other side said would happen did. And he said he felt really ashamed when he
looked back that he realised he spent so many years making people's lives worse when he could have
been helping them make their lives better. And this is something I saw all over the world from Uruguay to Switzerland to Portugal.
When countries move beyond the war on drugs, first it is super controversial.
People think you're fucking insane.
And then people see the results, right?
Switzerland legalized heroin.
Since then there have been more than 15 years ago now.
Since then there have been zero heroin overdose deaths on legal heroin.
None, not one person, right?
More people have died of heroin overdoses in this country since we started talking,
then it on legal heroin in all the years they've had it now in Switzerland.
All these, because they help people, right?
Policies based on shame, stigma, and punishment make addiction worse.
Policies based on love, compassion, and regulating the market,
bringing the market away from criminals and under control massively reduce the problems.
They're not a magic bullet,
they still have some problems,
but they work so much better.
Have you done any research on what they've done in Oregon?
Yeah, yeah, so this happened yesterday,
but decriminalize and legalize all drugs in Germany.
So they're different street decriminalization.
Here in the United States, yeah.
So what has your research shown on that?
So I'll just explain different street decriminalization legalization. So decriminalization is Here in the United States. Yeah, so what does your research on on that? So I'll just explain difference between decriminalization and legalization. So decriminalization is where
you stop punishing users and people with addiction problems, but they still have to go to armed criminals
to get their drugs. Legalization is where we open up some legal route for people to get their drugs,
and that should be different for every drug, obviously. No one wants there to be a heroin aisle in
CVS, so that's not the answer So, Oregon can decriminalize, unfortunately,
they can't legalize because federal law is scheduled.
They have decriminalized.
They decriminalized the law.
So Oregon wasn't able to do what Portugal did so tightly,
which is transfer the money they used to spend.
But we know that the outcomes in Oregon
are pretty promising at the moment.
It's a very recent change compared to Portugal where it's been in place for 17 years now.
But we know everywhere else in the world that's done it has had radical improvements.
And the truth is, you want to say anything in defense of the war on drugs, you can say
one thing.
We gave it a fair shot.
We did it for 100 years.
We spent a trillion dollars.
We imprisoned millions of our own citizens.
We destroyed whole neighbouring countries, or close by countries, like Colombia.
And at the end of all that, we can't even keep drugs out of our prisons where we pay
guards to walk around the world perimeter the whole time.
We aren't, that strategy has been tested to destruction.
There is no country in the world that anyone can point to where it has worked.
There are loads of countries where policies based on love and compassion and order and
regulation work.
So at some point we've got to stop copying the countries that have disastrously failed
and start copying the places that have succeeded.
Yeah.
Very interesting.
Have a porn addiction.
Let's talk about porn addiction because some people in the comments section are very
ecstatic about talking about porn addiction.
I wonder why, but so were they was very ecstatic about talking about porn addiction. I wonder why.
But so would they all guess make about talking about it?
Well, they were on a different website and they just jumped on this and that different
website will talk about it here in a minute.
Psychology today, porn addiction, more than 90% of young men report watching porn videos
with some regularity, particularly in the United States, apparently US kids like porn
more than other states.
Many of these videos depict acts that might never engage in themselves.
In other words, erotic fantasies.
On Pornhub, the world's largest porn website alone, well over 90 billion videos are viewed
daily by more than 64 million visitors.
Apparently, 90 billion would only seven billion people live in here.
Apparently, aliens are watching
I don't know what's going on with that number
64 million visitors daily
26% of them are women females although view and erratica's nearly
Ubiquis among males some men and women regard watching in an apporn as pathological and believe that at some
Time spent doing so maybe a sign of porn addiction although such a diagnosis is rejected by many psychologists and are
treatment approaches based on addiction models.
So it continues to talk about all these other things on why it's good and why it's bad.
What are your thoughts on porn addiction?
Have you done any kind of research on that or?
I did research.
This is an amazing young guy.
Now what is research?
Does research mean you sit there for weeks watching porn?
Oh my God, I can't help it. Because of death. I don't have guy. Now what does research does research mean you sit there for weeks watching? What does research mean?
Because of death in case many have the research.
I'm actually a leading expert.
He's a fucking subject.
Give me a minute, your profile says, poor addiction experts.
Researcher.
You guys should have on this fantastic guy called Alexander Rhodes, who was part of my
research.
We did not masturbate together, I want to stress.
He's in Pittsburgh.
He runs a site called NoFap, which is...
NoFap.
NoFap, yeah.
That he became obsessed with porn.
So, there's a few things we're thinking about
in relation to porn.
It's a bit like video games, I'm not anti-porn, right?
Porn or a certain basic itch, we will watch it sometimes.
I don't take an anti-pawn position.
There's a lot of itchers going on.
You've been talking about itching powder,
it fixes a huge.
It's a huge powder, yeah.
Exactly.
People are confused.
Listen, that's his English, he uses Fox.
He's not saying anything about it.
No, yeah, sorry.
You can tell from my word, Antonavni, accent, yeah.
The, and, but you know, it's interesting.
I went to the first ever Internet Rehab Center in the world.
It's a place called Restart Washington.
Yeah.
It's just that size I spoke and.
And it's so interesting.
So they get all sorts of people in this Internet Rehab Centre,
but they disproportionately get young men
who become obsessed either with online role-playing games
or with porn.
And it was so fascinating talking to these,
particularly to the young men a lot,
but also Dr. Hillary Cash,
who set up and runs a click,
who's a really wise person.
I remember her saying to me afterwards, she said, you know, you've got to ask yourself,
what are these young men getting out of these games, right?
Or we can think about this in relation to porn.
Should they're getting something they used to get from the culture, but they no longer
get?
So they're getting, with the video games, a sense they're physically roaming
around, we've talked about, young people don't get to do that. They get a sense they're
good at something. We have a culture that does not make young men think they're good at
anything, a particular school system. But what they get is almost like a kind of parody
of those things. And I started to think about it in relation to porn as well, because in a way, I think the relationship between,
the relationship between social media and social life
is a bit like the relationship between porn and sex.
I'm not anti-porn at all, but if your whole sex life
consisted of just wanking over porn,
you go around pretty pissed off and grouchy all the time
because we didn't evolve to masturbate over screens.
We evolved to actually have sex, right? No one after an hour looking at porn
feels satisfied the way they do after having sex, at least if it went right. So I think there's
a degree to which what's the context in which this addiction is occurring, right? The context is
a context in which young men are often made to feel incompetent,
they're often made to feel they're not good at anything, they're often made to feel frustrated,
like if you look at what's happened in the wider economy, a lot of particularly working class
people cannot earn enough to feel they can provide for a woman, for a family, right?
There's no city in the United States where a minimum wage worker can rent a one bedroom apartment, not one, doesn't none.
So I think if you create a sense of humiliation among young men, that makes them less appealing to women.
It makes women less interested in them.
You can see how that's a kind of environment where porn addiction begins
to develop.
And I wanted to distinguish very clearly between someone who looks at porn every now and
then, and just to chill out or release some stress, and people who become addicted, that's
a very different thing, just like we all know, if we go into the nearest bar to here, most
people there are going to be drinking alcohol to have a good time, and there's going to be
a small minority who have an alcohol addiction problem who deserve love and compassion.
So I think I would always want to with every addiction, you always want to look at what's
the context in which this addiction is occurring, what's the problem the person is trying to solve,
what's the pain that they're in that they're trying to not be present with.
So in a way, if you think about the addictive behavior as almost like the surface phenomena,
you want to deal with, well, what's the deeper question here?
Oh, you're lonely.
41% of Americans agree with the statement,
no one knows me well, right?
This is the loneliest society in human history.
One study has asked people for a good few years,
how many close friends do you have
or you could turn to in a crisis?
And when they started doing it years ago,
the most common answer was five.
Today, the most common answer is none, right?
Now, a lonely society is gonna be a society
where people are gonna find opioids more appealing.
They're gonna find just jerking off over
porn half more appealing.
They're gonna find, you know, obsessively doing it.
If you're cut off from the normal necessities of life,
if you're psychological needs aren't met,
you're gonna be more vulnerable to addiction,
whether it's porn, cannabis, whatever.
There's two comments I wanna give credit to.
One of them, I don't understand.
The other one I think is, one of them says,
he says, David Jones is his name.
Porn made my 10 year old mind,
think if I did not look and perform like John
Holmes I was a failure. What a travesty, right? And Larry Madinus says my
socks are pretty satisfying. So mysterious comment. I think there's a separate
question about kids seeing porn and I definitely think we don't want to be in a
situation where I mean I remember speaking about going to the woods. I remember
we were kids. I remember the first time I ever saw porn,
I was 11 years old.
German people used to leave Paul magazines in the woods.
I don't know what the fuck that was about.
And I remember, I don't know.
I put out a little magazine every like a handful of meters.
Yeah, I was that.
Lure you into their little.
Was that kind of fast?
What was that?
Yeah, that was exactly.
They must have been, they must have not been.
Was there a van at the end of the year?
But I remember.
I'm getting the van.
I remember seeing, and what I saw was like, very, very soft core.
And I remember not seeing it again until I was,
I guess I found my brother's porn when I was like 14 or something.
I got an older brother.
But the difference between that, you do not want your son's eight.
You don't want him in a couple of years to be discovering.
His first understanding of sex to be fucking gangbangs on porn hub, right?
So I do think there's a lot to be done with regulation
when it comes to children.
And there are some countries that have done it.
So you have to opt in so you can see porn
on your broadband option, which I think would embarrass
a lot of people, but who cares?
So that you know, there are all sorts of ways
you can block these things for kids.
We definitely don't want kids to be learning
about sex from porn because porn is not, you know, the vast majority of porn is not
a healthy, or realistic, but tell the story about Pamela Anderson.
That's all I was thinking about.
That's all I was thinking about.
The story that she had with her son.
Yeah, she sat her son's down and she says, listen, you know, she says, she's saying this
in an interview, she said, you know, I would go out and say, I'm meeting somebody and we
end up having sex.
He says, many times I'm like, what are you doing?
What do you do?
That does not feel good.
You know, hitting me here doesn't feel good.
Pull them out here.
I don't like it.
Then I would ask the person whom I'm having sex with and I'd say, hey, how much porn do
you watch?
Are you thinking that you watch this in a video like a fetish, like it feels good for women?
So she was teaching her sons what you see in porn
doesn't feel good, that's acting.
And she was kind of Trump because she's saying
like porn is traumatized men to think they have to perform
at that level.
And that's coming from Pamela Anderson
who I think's probably been with more than one men
in her life.
I don't know the exact number.
Or treat women just respectful. Totally, but like that. That don't know the exact number. Or treat women just respectfully.
Totally, it doesn't look like that.
That was the answer I was going to take it.
There's a really good Canadian researcher on this
called Lily Boivere, who you guys should have on as well.
She's fascinating.
And she talks about this where the number of men
who just wanted to choke her and slap her
and just were quite extreme, which is not
to say there aren't some people who are
consensually into those things and that's fine.
But the sort of expectation of those things,
which is, and she's done, I can't remember the figures
because it's a few years since I interviewed her,
but she's done research that exposure to porn does increase.
People having unrealistic expectations
of sort of fetishistic behaviors
that women will just be up for that.
And you definitely don't want your sons
or indeed
your daughters to be in this situation where these are the sort of, that's not, that doesn't
feel like a liberated and healthy form of sex, which is what we want for young adults as
they start to develop, you know, I mean, when they get to the right age, obviously, you
want people to have healthy attitudes towards sex that are not based around shame. We don't,
in a funny way, those feel to me more like the old attitudes.
This is a lot of shame in wanting to be aggressive and violent.
And it feels to me like quite a conflicted attitude towards sexuality.
Not for everyone, I don't want to kink shame anyone.
Whatever people are into, consensual behavior.
Of course, and 100% people who are into consensual behavior.
Anything you want to do consensually with another adult,
I'm not yourself out. Literally. Anything you want to do consensually with another adult, I'm knock yourself out, literally if you want, but I do think it's worth us thinking about
the ways in which massive exposure to pornography for very young people. I do think can have
a distorting effect on this sexuality that's unhealthy, not in every case, but that's the
only bit I'm worried about. Consensrate on nothing that they do worries me. Johan, I gotta tell you, I had no idea you were this funny.
Okay.
I've watched in your two TED talks and some like,
I had no idea you were so witty
with a sense of humor and a personality.
I'm so glad we were able to pull this out.
Folks, if you're watching this,
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both in the chat box as well as a comment section.
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Focus, why you can't pay attention and how to think deeply again to find out
about those 12 triggers that he was talking about and how to become more
focused. Next time you're here, man, we'd love to have you on. I'd love to do this.
I'm meant to say, or my publishers will tease me again,
that people can also get the audio book,
the e-book, or the physical book,
if they go to stolenfocusbook.com,
and they can also listen for free to interviews
with loads of the experts.
So, you want them to go to Worston?
No, go to Amazon, go anywhere.
OK, yeah.
I meant to say you can buy any good food.
For sure, and focus.
Yeah, exactly.
Stolen focus, that can't.
Yeah, yeah.
I got in trouble at the end of a podcast,
a little while ago, where at the end of the podcast, the guy said to me, this guy was about 50, said, all the focus that come. Yeah, I got in trouble at the end of a podcast, a little while ago where at the end of the podcast,
the guy said to me, this guy was about 50,
he said, so what's your Twitter?
And I said it, and he said, what's your Facebook?
And I said, he said, what's your Instagram?
And I said it, and then he said, what's your Snapchat?
And I said, I am a 42 year old man, right?
The only 42 year old man on Snapchat
are definitely better files, right?
Why would they be there?
And he didn't laugh all in the night,
because he didn't laugh, I leaned into the joke
and I said, you know that show to catch a predator?
And so the next season of to catch a predator
should literally just be,
they got to adult men in the street
and say, what is your Snapchat handle?
And if they have one, just immediately,
if you're on the car, it's right.
The guy didn't laugh all I later looked him up
and he has quite a big Snapchat.
He was like, I'm glad I got through this interview
with everyone, accusing either of you being petafiles.
I'm very glad we got, if I really enjoyed this,
thank you for getting such a big second.
Really, really enjoyed.
Thank you so much.
Absolutely.
Oh, cheers.
Next time we promise not to show you
any images of McDonald's.
Fucking no, no, no.
We ain't no time.
I ain't Apple Burger or nothing.
I want McDonald's brought in every 10 minutes.
Yeah, next interview.
Thursday, Mike Ritland, I believe Friday is Jordan Peterson.
Once it's confirmed you'll see it going up.
Having said that, have a great day, guys.
Take care, bye, bye, bye, bye, bye.