Red Scare - Selfie Loathing *TEASER*

Episode Date: April 10, 2025

The ladies discuss two new articles from The Cut, on the rise of facial dysmorphia and the crisis of masculinity, and weigh in on the Houthi groupchat debacle.

Women have always had these tendencies. They've always been alive in the female species, but now they're like ratcheted up because of the social media refractory panopticon thing. Trust me, like no one is looking at you and thinking how ugly you are in the course of a normal conversation. And even if that was their first impression,

they're not dwelling on it, especially if you're like present and engaged. It's all in your head. And this desire to know in advance and manage and control what's going on in other people's heads is literally also textbook narcissistic ideation. And again, yeah, what it does is like actively prevents you from being present and engaged and carrying a good impression, not just about other people, but about anything besides that thing. Your most like hollow self, your like

physical form. Yeah. And it's like it to the point that like it starts, your like physical form. Yeah, and it's like to the point that like, it starts to look like your suspicions are being confirmed by the data that you're getting from the outside world. Because you know- Because you're seeing people that are prettier than you? Or when people react badly to you or more likely like don't react at all,

you think it's because you're ugly, but it's really because you have failed to make a good impression, or they're just not thinking about you because they're also too in their head. Yeah. I'm a veteran to this. I've been getting called ugly on the internet

for over half a decade now, which is like two decades in online time, and I'm in the trenches every day posting through it. Every day people say I'm ugly. And like, you know, those people, like they're going out of their way to be mean, but they're not exactly wrong. Like I could probably catalog everything

that's physically wrong with me with reasonable accuracy. And in a way that reasonably conforms to like what other people see, but what would be unreasonable is if I made that my primary relation to the world. That's the maladjusted, dysmorphic reaction. I mean no one is telling like I the kind of corollary to the black eye morning routine video there's lots of videos of women doing what they call a morning shed yeah where they take off their silk bonnets and their heatless curlers and their face now

They like do all this stuff before they go to sleep Uh-huh, and then look like Yeah, and then in the morning they're taking off their like lip stain that they've applied and you know The idea of the videos is to illustrate how they can wake up and in a relatively short duration of time look presentable. And then there were random kind of feminists voices being like, this is the patriarchy. This is because beauty standards, blah, blah, the patriarchy, male supremacy makes women do this. And it's like, no one is making women do this. And men especially do not want you to put on a bonnet and fucking a

face mask to go to sleep. There's no faster way to ruin a relationship than to do your beauty routine in front of a man because it really just like kills the mystery. And men want you to be effortlessly hot. Yeah, they want you to show up. Yeah. They want you to appear already like dolled up and ready to go. And like, I really, really, really hate that feminist line that the unrealistic beauty standards

are imposed by the patriarchy. That's just simply false. That's not true. Men want you to be like thin and pretty within reason, but they'll also fuck you and even marry you if you're like 10, 20 pounds overweight. They don't care. And I guess, yeah, there's maybe some like a high status men Yeah, who are more selective

at least in who they like couple with in the long term Because they want you to hit some kind of like markers, but those also aren't really Patriarchally imposed and you're like overestimating, you need to be shooting your shot within realistic demographic of people who are of similar attractiveness. And also those men usually look like shit themselves, not that women primarily are interested in.