Rob Beckett and Josh Widdicombe's Parenting Hell - S7 EP8: Joel Dommett

Episode Date: August 18, 2023

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Because you're internet shit. Yeah, who's that, Michael? Hi, Rob and Josh. This is our daughter, Sophie, who said your names after many tries of asking, and she was just asking for bar bar black sheep. Thanks for getting me through the long night shift when she was a newborn and was only sleeping on us and not in her cot from Jenny in Tring in Hertfordshire. Tring.

Oh, the old tring the old festival anyway josh how are you you promised us a update on a slight breakdown oh yeah yeah i just had a bit of a relapse rob for one day only did you one day back into 2022 what could you for people that have just started listening what would you say you relapse into uh well if you just started listening go back and listen from the start obviously um i uh incredible anxiety and insomnia brought on by uh overwork yes very well put so when i went away filming for four days for hold the front page series two but let's remember hold the front page series one is the thing that started the whole thing in the first place well so you're

also he's going to be triggered a little by that because you're going back to a thing that sort of stressed you out thoroughly enjoyed it yeah during the filming got home oh i i had done last leg the night before so i had to get the car straight from last leg to southampton then get the ferry to the isle of wight the first thing in the morning before filming 12 hour days um i thought i've dealt with this very well got on the boat back i was a little manic started doing some work on the train on the boat home don't know why i needed to do that just felt like just rest just relax just just rest but no bit of an exciting moment on the boat rob got asked whether on the ferry got asked whether i wanted to come up and uh steer the boat with the captain he's like i've already got enough work on, mate. Done another job. I was up there like a fucking

shock because I was so manic. Let's get this boat fucking steering, mate. Before I actually have to think about how I feel about it. Let's get on the boat. Got in the car home. Carried on doing work for another hour. Absolutely insane. What was I thinking? What are you doing? What work is this?

Writing jokes or organising admin stuff? What are you doing? A bit of both. Just jokes or organising admin stuff? What are you doing? A bit about just thinking about going back to stand-up, stuff like that. Right, yeah. Organising stuff like that. I went mental, Rob. I went mental last week for a day. Yeah.

Got home. Tried to read my book for an hour in the car. Home, couldn't read. I was too manic. Yeah. Got home, too manic to sleep. Next day day the anxiety through the roof again so how much you didn't sleep at all basically that night 10 pints blur

doc straight to sleep well no this is the thing yeah i realized a year ago i used to um when i was feeling anxiety i'd get drunk no not in my locker anymore, Rob. I haven't got that weapon. Just suck it up. Work. Just work. No, so then the next day it calmed down and it went away because I knew what it was. I knew I wasn't blaming the sleeping pills. I wasn't thinking, what is this?

I wasn't thinking I've got insomnia. I just knew this shall pass. Because I knew your work schedule was quite intense because you're basically like you worked 10 days in a row, essentially no days off, and then back to looking after the kids and still working. because I knew your work schedule was quite intense because you're basically like, you worked 10 days in a row, essentially, no days off, and then back to like looking after the kids and still working.

So I knew, I knew you was under the cosh a bit, especially from doing this. And then I saw you post on Instagram, writing some new ideas for standup. And I was like, he's lost his head. He's gone.

I've gone. I've gone. I've gone. I messaged you just going, no, you don't need to do that. Stop writing. And I left the cafe

because I do what I'm told. I was like, if I write, write in a cafe,, I'm relaxing because I'm in a cafe, right? So I'm having a cup of tea in a cafe. So if I'm writing in a cafe, I'm just being a relaxing guy. I'm just chilling out. Did you write many jokes? No. No.

Just sat there rocking back and forth. A little bit about ordering a curry and then left. Is it funny? We'll see when I finally get to gig. I've got a new bit about curry. We're talking about when you order a takeaway, right? I've just got to stop sending the little bag of salad. Oh, yeah, that is funny.

What is the little bag? No one's eating that. No one's eating. Also, if I'm eating a bag of salad, Oh, yeah, that is funny. What is the little bag? No one's eating that. No one's eating. Also, if I'm eating a bag of salad, if you're eating salad, I don't want it in a plastic bag that you'd use to pick up dog shit. It's so sweaty. Yeah, it's so sweaty.

And it's so sweaty because it's been in a bag on the back of a motorbike next to a curry. Who's putting a bag of salad next to a pie but not curry? So I'll turn that into a bit probably. So if you come and see me in about three years' time, I'll be smashing that out. Yeah, you'll enjoy that. Crunching that out, Carlisle Sands Theatre,

which is basically a sports hall. Oh, yeah, I've been there. I'm quite looking forward to it, though. I've got... But I don't know whether I am looking forward to it or whether I'm just manic still. But I think I'm chilled now. I'm pretty chilled now.

And how's your weekend looking? Are you working this weekend? Are you off? It's my friend's birthday, but Plymouth are away at Watford, so it's a difficult choice on the Saturday afternoon. You've got to go Plymouth, Watford. Wow. You spend too much time with your friends,

and I reckon you've got too many. No, because it's a kid. They've got kids. So basically, I've got to go to Rose. You know that birthday we were going to? Yeah, yeah. Well, I can no longer drive you to South East London. You're left with the two kids, and I'm going to go to Watford versus Plymouth.

I respect that. My man. But if Rose drove, you could just, that would be fine. Because the issue there is not really going, so when she passes, that'll be, you'll be away. That's a difficult argument, Rob. Just so you know, when you pass, this will be fine,

but you haven't passed, so see you later. I'm off to Watford. Yes, I understand that doesn't help you now. But what time's the party? Can't you drop them off at the party, drive up to Watford, watch the game, drive back and pick them up? No, Watford's a long way from South East London. No, we're in South East London.

Crystal Palace Park. This is... Should we just bring on Joel Dommett? This is bad. This is bad radio. Do you want to ask Joel Dommett? I want to ask him. Because this is...

He hasn't had the baby yet. This is the pre-baby chat. Then we're getting back on for the chat. Once I've had the baby. What is his... His body is unbelievable, Josh. Yeah, what's he going to do about his body? He's been on Instagram with his phone in his mouth and his neck and muscles.

Yeah, yeah. And I want to know what his current workout schedule is. Yeah. And then we can ask him when he comes back on what is he doing now. Okay, well, let's segue into the interview and you'll hear us asking that. I'm asking that immediately. We're literally doing that interview in a minute. Yeah, I would just go watch Watford Plymouth, mate.

You're not going to get many chances to see Plymouth that close to your house this season. Well, I'll let you know what I did. This is Joel Dommett. Joel Dommett, welcome to the show. We are buzzing to have you on because we've been waiting a little while for this now. Rose is very excited. She said, when are you going to get Joel on? People are talking about this.

Exactly. Well, you are expecting a child. Hannah is pregnant. How pregnant is Hannah? She is 35 weeks now. 35 weeks. She can't fly. She can't fly.

She can't fly, is that it? No, she can't leave me to another country. Thank God. She can't abscond. So, is it 40 weeks when it's over Thank God. She can't abscond. So, well, I don't... Is it 40 weeks when it's over? Yeah. Yeah, I think so.

We're such a group of men. Well, no, but it is... We are such a group of men, but, you know, you will have a more... If something's happening inside you, you will be slightly more on top of the details. Well, I've been reading all the books, Rob. Have you?

That's classic, Joel. And i found out that uh in france they let it go to 42 weeks really what do they do just cross their legs i don't i don't know i've not i don't i didn't read that far really yeah yeah of course but yeah so i they normally go over though uh the first first exactly yeah i'm hoping so i've got the NTAs so I want to sort of get that done when are the NTAs fairly soon to the

to the due date right okay so what is if she goes into labour on the day of the NTAs which is live from the O2

just let me know what time I'll get there and I'll host it who's the backup I feel like that's the dream well they say they've got a contingency but they won't tell me who it is I'll get there and I'll host it who's the backup I feel like that's the dream well they say they've got a contingency

but they won't tell me who it is I know it is oh yeah that Craig geezer that does this morning he is ITV's

president of murder good guy great guy does the rugby great guy Craig Doyle Craig Doyle good looking

good looking great guy loves a bit of rugby he will be there the dream scenario is like that night it happens Craig Doyle. Craig Doyle. Good looking. Good looking. Great guy. Loves a bit of rugby. He will be there. The true scenario is like that night it happens, the waters break or whatever, you know, the cliche. And then there's all of the presenters there in the country.

So then they can each do a section or something like that. I thought you were going to say they could fight to the death. Yeah, they all fight, run to the front. Have you discussed what the communication will be? Like, are you going to keep your phone on? That's what I'm thinking. Because, you know, it's live and so there's breaks. And so I'm thinking I'm just going to keep my phone on me and then just check during the breaks.

Then I can come back from a break and then suddenly it's Craig Doyle. Craig Doyle's going to be stood there in the room. So the contingency is going to need to be someone there on the night. Yeah. And they won't tell me who it is. So I've got to keep guessing. Like it's like the fucking traitors. All you know is that Craig Doyle is going to send a curry to your house for Hannah to eat.

On the afternoon of the NTAs. Lou went into labour The day before I was doing 8 out of 10 cats Christmas special So I missed it Oh yeah

And someone else Took the spot So you may Have to miss it Joel but I thought you 10 cats for the birth Don't fuck the telly

For that I was going to say You missed the birth Lou was having contractions While I was trying To write for it And halfway through a joke I thought I don't need

To write a punchline here. She's going for it. This baby's coming out quicker than this joke. So how is Hannah, though? Is she all right? Is she having a good pregnancy? Is she feeling good? Yeah, she's doing very well.

Like, you know, you kind of hear all these. This is the problem. People just sort of put this horrible thing in your head that it's like awful yeah and then remember the podcast you're on joel remember what me and rob are making our living from here we talk about the good bits as well honestly i cannot tell you i genuinely think this podcast is the reason that we're pregnant like and i know it's a lot fresher on you boys but like i love this podcast like this i genuinely love it a lot of pressure on you boys, but I like, I love this podcast.

I genuinely love it a lot. A little too much. Like I listened to this podcast, all this I've read, I read the book. I've watched you live twice. We went to watch you live and then we listened to the podcast in the car and then we got back from the, from the live watching you live and then this is the worst part. Hannah can't fall asleep, right? So, because she's pregnant.

So she likes to, for me, to read to her so she falls asleep easily. And so I read your book to her and she falls asleep. Oh my word. But also you've said pregnancy's going well. She can't go to sleep unless you read to her. Sounds like fucking hell. It's quite good actually,

because like she then goes to sleep and I also get autocue practice. So it's a bit of both. So look professional. What else do you read to her, Joel? Well, I do like reading the, at the moment I'm reading this, again, baby books. I know some people read loads and some people don't read loads.

I'm reading this one called Cribsheet at the moment, which is very complicated. It's very good, but the writing is too small, man. It's like the Bible. I tap out of that. It could be the greatest book of all time that just speaks to me directly. It's too small, but it's because they're tricking you. Because they're making, you look at it in the bookshop,

and you think, oh, that's a small book. I can absolutely smash that, you know? And then you get it home as small font. It it's like that's supposed to be a bigger book i i i'm gonna tell you rob this is not for you crib sheet what's it about it is a data driven guide to better parenting oh data i can't think of anything. Oh, Excel. I'd enjoy this. I'd enjoy this.

I proudly have never used Excel. Is this the kind of stuff that you do at a corporate? With this sort of material? Are you looking forward to the birth, Joel? I don't know. It's scary because it's so unknown. You don't know what's going to happen. You hope that it's going to go a certain way, and we're trying our best to make it go as planned.

What plans have you got, Joel? What's the setup at the moment? We're hoping for, and it sounds very weird saying this, three boys, vaginal. Well, yeah, as opposed to anus. Mouth. Out the mouth. A pipe has got twisted somewhere,

and unfortunately it came out of your butthole. So you're hoping vaginal, at home, hospital, birthing unit. Right. We've been doing lots of hypnobirthing classes. Oh, here we go. Have you been listening to the tapes while you go to sleep? Yeah. Yeah, yeah. I listen to them them we've been doing a breakfast this morning i was trying to enjoy

porridge and there was a video about porridge josh fucking loves porridge every day dirty gobbler he gobbles it up yes i don't have it with water um so the hospital you're going hospital so we're going hospital how near is the hospital it's it like, again, this is stuff that you'd, I'm really glad we're having this chat because I feel like I've not talked to anyone about it. Okay. Like how close was your hospital? It was a drive.

Yeah, 10, 15 minute. One, the first one was quite, about a 10 minute drive. Second was about 15 minutes. Yeah, 10, 15 minute drive. Right. I was like half an hour. Is that okay? Yeah, it's fine.

You've got fucking hours. Really? Yeah, you've got plenty of time. Yeah, and also as well, if you get there a bit early, you can always go for like food nearby. Yeah, we were having breakfast after we'd been there. You know, you're just dispatched out to do stuff. They will try and send you home quite quickly though.

So you sometimes have to fight your corner slightly. Right. Because they will push it to the absolute nth degree. You know, because you know when you home quite quickly though. So you sometimes have to fight your corner slightly. Right. Because they will push it to the absolute nth degree. You know when you hurt your hand. If you're as annoying as Rob, they try and get you out of the building. If you're charming and good looking like Joel and Hannah, they're going to go. You guys stay. We like having you here.

Because they're doing it every day. You know if you've got like a three inch cut on your arm from doing something in the garden and it's all bleeding and it's like blood everywhere you go in like oh my god my arm my arm they go yeah sit there we'll see in an hour you're like yeah but my arms cut open like yeah it's the hospital they are that's what they're like so you can just sit there but yeah i think that'll be fine and you gotta remember the red book what's the red book you must know about the red book or is it all online these days no just the red book do you not about the red book. Or is it all online these days? No, just the red book. Do you not get the red book when you get the baby? No, you get the red book from the midwife appointments.

Do you? And it's all written in there by hand. Are we talking about that thing you get in school? No, there's a bit... It's Hannah in the house. Oh, is that the National Record of Achievement? It's Hannah. No, that's the National Record of Achievement.

Not... Look at it. I haven't got that book. You must have. Well, you haven't got Child Bank. Or maybe it's all on an app now. I've got like a bigger book. It's like an A4 book that we've got to hold on to.

Right, maybe that's it then. Maybe it's that, yeah. And we were petrified because we kept on forgetting it. I thought about putting it, you know, like on those things that you put on your keys to make sure you don't forget your keys, where it like bleeps and you can put on your phone. I really want to put one of those on it

because I'm just petrified we're going to lose it. See, that's the thing is I think you're going to be a great dad, whatever, because you're a brilliant person, but you're very much a details person that gets a bit obsessed with stuff. So have you found that you've become a bit obsessed with learning how to be a dad or knowing what to expect and read everything? Are you finding that a bit overwhelming or are you quite enjoying it?

Because you are a man that taught himself nunchucks. Yeah, exactly. Exactly. yesterday i taught myself how to surf just because i thought i would i'd never surf before yeah yes where are you i went down to this place in bristol that has like fake waves oh wow and it was mad And I looked around in this class, everyone else was 12. It's summer holidays. Unbelievable. But yeah, so I'm hoping that sort of skill will help me with the birth. But I like, like you say, details and all this stuff. I'm trying my best. But the problem is, there's all these books you read,

all these videos you do. There's just so much information. And then it can all just go out the window almost you know it's like one little thing happens and it just doesn't go totally totally you think it's gonna and it goes down a different route or whatever the baby hasn't read the book joel that's what people say the baby hasn't read the book i love that phrase it's good that in it i love that phrase i think you've got to go over your gut a bit more than the books i didn't read any books and mine are all right. But that's the story of Rob's career. I think that I don't mind reading because then I'm like,

I get better at reading. And if I get better, literally reading is my job. So you put a positive spin on everything. I think you're one of the most mentally sound people. I'm one of the nicest people, not just I've met in comedy, but in life. Because really, your success in your faith, you should be an absolute arsehole,

but you're so kind and generous and a good person. So it's going to be interesting to see if being a parent will break that, because you can put a positive spin on most things. Two freshly cracked eggs any way you like them. Three strips of naturally smoked bacon and a side of toast. Only $6 at A&W's in Ontario. Experience A&W's classic breakfast on now.

Dine-in only until 11 a.m. Order up for Damien. Hey, how did your doctor's appointment go, by the way? Did you ask about rhabelsis? Actually, I'm seeing my doctor later today. Did you say Rebelsis? My dad's been talking about Rebelsis. Rebelsis? Really?

Yeah, he says it's a pill that... Well, I'll definitely be asking my doctor if Rebelsis is right for me. Rebelsis. Ask your doctor or visit Rebelsis.ca. Order up for Rebelsis. How your doctor or visit rebelsis.ca. Order up for Rebelsis. How are you with tiredness? I'm scared about it, to be honest. I am scared about it because I love sleep.

I really love it because I'm really aware about recovery and what sleep does to you. I literally read, this is the worst book to read. I read this book about sleep read this is the worst book to read i read this book about sleep which basically the whole book it just tells you that like you need to have at least sort of seven hours definitely you should be having a otherwise you just fall apart and die that's basically what the book is true as well yeah and so i'm so i'm genuinely scared i've got things that i've bought in my life to have maybe have a better night's sleep i've got an ice bath

i do an ice bath and then so that makes me sleep better i bought this mattress this was last year like a mattress that has uh it cools you the mattress reads what heat you are in your body it has like sensors on it and then it changes the heat of the mattress depending on my god what what what heat you are and so it cools you down because you're supposed to be cool when you sleep you're supposed to be like really cool and that costs so i cannot tell you how much right i'm gonna tell you how much money it was yeah can we be gonna bleep it out you're gonna bleep it out right very much mattress cover so it's just a cover it's not the the mattress? Mattress cover, that's next, and then next to the bed it has this like thing

that sort of powers it. Fucking yeah. But you can't put a price on sleep, Joel. No. This was the problem. I got it. I was like,

said to Hannah, I was like, this is a thing I need and the sleep is going to improve. I can't wait. My recovery is going to be amazing. We're going to love it. Got it.

Spend the money and then it was too loud and so it's in the loft you know what those pre-baby purchases where you've got extra money knocking about because you don't have to waste it all on kids shoes and stuff like that some of the stuff people buy is wild but so that's in the loft now is it that's in the loft now and uh so yeah it's i'm enjoying all the babies i've joined buying all the baby stuff so how much sleep are you getting a moment then joel tell me through your bedtime tell me for your nightly routine and then what we'll do is we'll ask you about your nightly routine when the baby's a bit older we won't get you back straight away maybe give it a year or two i want to get you properly into it okay so right right now i uh i really like i

really like doing uh i do i do a sauna in the morning and then in the evening i like doing an ice bath yeah i know it's weird most people do in the morning but it really cools me down because i get really hot i wouldn't say most people have an ice bath in the morning, Joel. Sorry. Sorry. Both psychopaths. So what time's your ice bath? We don't actually go to bed that late. Like unless I've got like a gig or something.

So we're trying to like not watch TV until like midnight. Do you know what I mean? Just go to bed early, especially when she's pregnant right now. She gets tired. So we go to bed about 10. Yep. Yep. And then I probably fall asleep about midnight by the time I've read to her when she's pregnant right now she gets tired so yeah we're going to bed about 10 yep yeah and then um i probably fall asleep about midnight by the time i've read to her for absolutely ages

which i'm gonna be good at when the child arrives yeah yeah you know i'm looking forward to do in uh also coup practice on the gruffalo yeah yeah because you can really sell those books as well there's more fun to be had reading the Gruffalo than there is to be reading Donald's a nose away round a rhyme yeah yeah exactly you can really throw yourself into it she don't miss it out really mass singer it you know what I mean

like I'm the Gruffalo and what time are you waking up Joel about 8.30 maybe 9 honestly some, some days. Before the pregnancy, some days. I mean, I was definitely getting 8. I used to get up at 10 a.m., really. That was my sort of...

I'd wake up about 9-ish and just chill till 10, look at my phone, work out. Because normally we work a bit later on because it's evenings. Yeah. Sometimes I just get 10 hours sleep. 10 hours sleep. Do you know what I mean? And just enjoy that.

The key is being cold in bed, isn't it? That's a comfy thing. But the colder you are, the easier it is to sleep. Hotel rooms, air con, lowest as it goes. I sleep like a fucking, what's something that sleeps good. I still wake up at 6am in a hotel now, though. I'm pre-programmed. That's it.

No, not me. No. I'll go straight back to sleep. No, Joel, just you wait, Joel. Just you wait. good i still wake up at 6am in a hotel now though i'm pre-programmed that's not me ever no no just you wait joel just you wait this is what i'm scared i'm scared i'm scared of the sleep i really am scared of the sleep but i think i'm gonna get you know classic me i'm gonna figure out a way of putting a positive spin on it yeah do you two argue when you're like um have you seen the podcast no i just mean do you hannah's eyes in one of those i can't remember what you were arguing about the anger in her eyes towards you it was literally like oh my god i think hannah and lou are the same person the way hannah was looking at joel i can't remember what clip it was but it was this one where it was the

one where literally i think didn't you text me rob and go like is hannah pregnant because i think that yes so before hannah was pregnant you two having a little argument about something and her eyes changed and she told you off about something and she had the exact same look in her eye that lou did when she was pregnant and the hormones all over the place so they actually hate you with their eyes and it's amazing you should become a doctor i went i went hannah's pregnant you don't have to say yes or no because i because I know it's not nice when it's early days, but I called it early doors. You really did.

You knew before I did. And if it comes out with blonde hair and massive teeth, then you know why Rob knew that Hannah was pregnant. Rob did want to ask something. We discussed this in the pre-chat. I wanted to know what your current fitness schedule is, because you look unbelievable at the moment. I think being away filming for six weeks, you were really focusing on that. You look unbelievable. us this in the pre uh chat i wanted to know what your current sort of fitness schedule is because you look unbelievable at the moment i think being away filming for six weeks you're sort of really

focusing on that you look unbelievable almost like an athlete sort of approach to fitness that you have you've got your own gym and stuff like that what's your routine now and then once you've had the baby we're going to try and find out what you're up to when the baby comes because right obviously it takes time and effort effort but um what are you doing at the moment at the moment i'm i'm trying to get it down because i'm aware that i'm not gonna have this much time yeah but at the moment i'm doing hour and a half a day um every day every day in your house in in my house some if i go if i go out to the gym it'll probably take two yeah um also again to help sleep i put a sauna in you've got a sauna how long you're in the sauna

for that's because there's a good 35 40 minutes and that's not included in the hour and a half and that's not including the hour and a half okay um and then the ice bath that's an extra 15 minutes you're not in there for 15 are you it, you know, just including getting in and getting out of time. Yeah, of course. Sucking yourself up. Yeah, yeah. Sucking yourself up. That's seven and a half, eight minutes each side of it.

How long are you in there, Joel? Because I tried to do the Wim Hof cold shower thing at the end of a shower. And I can do a maximum of 10 seconds you just got to build yourself up it's honestly life-changing and I know everyone goes on about it and all that stuff but it really wakes you up if you start doing it in the morning I do I then don't have coffee because I don't you don't need it and how long have you how long do you do i it depends how cold it is but like the colder it is the less time you have to do so if you're doing it at like when it's like six degrees or something like that then you only need to stay in for like five minutes if that's

four minutes you know it's like really like not long at all and that's why i like it and that's why i'm thinking i'm going to continue that yeah have you got space for the storage of all the baby stuff it's not well your garage is the gym isn't it i don't know whether it's um it says anything but i my laptop is currently on top of a car seat box so no so you're working off the box with the car seating have you got a pram well i've got a pram i really enjoyed the logistics of the pr seating. Have you got a pram? I have got a pram. I really enjoyed the logistics of the pram scenario. I bet you did. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

You know, just finding out. We've gone for a Nuna. Ooh. Nuna. I don't know. Not too late to send that back, Joel. It's great. It feels good.

Does it? Again, you don't know, do you? No. Well, you just don't know. It's so true. It feels good. Definitely could get a baby in it. Yeah, you just sort of wheel it around and you're like, yeah, do you? No. Well, you just don't know. It's so true. It feels good. Definitely could get a baby in it. Yeah, you just sort of wheel it around and you're like, yeah, I suppose that works.

A doona or a noona? A noona. N-U-N-A. Car seat goes in and it's got the car seat with the bit and it twists around. Oh, yeah. So they face you. Oh, yeah, yeah. This is good.

I didn't even know that was a fucking thing. I got so excited in the shop. And then I love all the things that like that like oh you've got to get that and you've got to get these brackets that fit on that and the bracket that goes on that and it just it's exciting isn't it it's so exciting it feels like the closest i'm ever going to be to a mechanic and so to go back on it what are you planning exercise wise once you have the baby yeah i'm planning on i'm trying gonna try and take it down a bit like how how realistic is it that i could do 40 minutes a day easy yeah that's really that's fine the truth is a lot of i think you'll be absolutely fine

because you're already into that routine and you love it and you enjoy the process of it and you'll just have to lower it down and build it back up but yeah especially if it's you've got that gym in your house i think you'll be fine to do that what i would say is they when they're little little you can put them in a little holster thing or in a pram with decent wheels you can walk for miles with them and they love that, or go for a run or a jog if you get the right pram and stuff like that. It's something you can do. Rob, a walk doesn't make a chest like this.

Don't I know, baby. Can you do this? Can you put them in a chair, bassinet, whatever, and just make them watch you? No. They'll get bored. Well, they might. For a bit, but you might be able to...

But there'll be naps. What's going to happen? Not when he's fucking clean and jerking in the garage. Keep it down, John. I've got the NTAs in a week. Cloak of metal. What you're going to need to do, Joel, is you're going to need to decide, I think,

between your baby early on is going to nap and that's going to be your little break and your choice is going to be, do I nap as well or do I work out? Or do your actual job and do all your emails and your texts and your writing new jokes and getting in a car, going to do what you do. Have you got anything booked in work-wise after the birth? Not quite.

That would be a blessed relief, Joel. Oh, really? Yeah, because you'll be able to sleep in the car. This is the advantage of our job. But you will be that sleep. Say you're getting picked up and it's an hour drive into town to go to work. Hannah will treat that, and quite rightly, like you've been on a mini break. So when me and Lou would argue over sleep, she went,

yeah, but you get to go in the car. And I'm like, I don't think being driven for an hour to Twickenham at 6am should be counted in my sleep. Yeah. Because it's not guaranteed out. Even if I get 20 minutes out of that, it's like, it's not on the motorway. It's windy roads. You're getting knocked about.

Yeah. On this podcast, I've learned a lot from listening to you both. Because like me and Hannah were saying, it's like, Rob, I feel like you're quite good at the sort of level of support that you give your partner in a way like like when you go away when you're away on tour you then come back and then you allow her to go away and you're like that time that yeah not allow her that's actually not allowed but we arrange time for we separate a bit more but we've got that's easier now that with a minor bit older i feel like there's a where is josh you where is josh i've learned from you not to live in east

london well no josh is youngest is still quite young so it's a bit tricky to do that but especially when they get older but we found rather than i think to be fair i think joshua says himself you and rose especially in lockdown sort of did it all together which works for some people but for me and luke was very much you get on with it and then i'll sleep then i'll get on with it and then you sleep that but it all depends on the individuals and the couples and how it all works i'm ridden with guilt i'm full full of guilt. So, at night time. So if Rose was up, you'd just feel like you'd have to be up watching her and helping her. Yeah, just staring into the distance, resenting her.

You should try reading to her. I should try reading to her. With his voice. It's a cross alone. But I think you'll both find your way through it. And it's all different for all different sorts of people. So if it's working for both of you, just sort of stick with that.

But it is a bit more a trial and error. Honestly, I think you underestimate probably how brilliant this podcast is. Like it's so... No, I don't even do. No, I really... Actually, I don't think he gets enough credit. Livid.

I just think it's great. And I think it gives people, I mean, it's certainly given me something to listen to that I feel like I kind of, I'm learning stuff without it being too learning. And I feel like it's real life learning almost. Like it's just sometimes all of the stats and the statistics and you've got to do this and you've got to do this and you've got to do that. And you're like, you're never going to remember it.

Data. Imagine having data on children. Unbelievable. But like, I just think this podcast is great. This is a dream for me to be on this podcast. Well, we're very happy to have you on, Joe. When you say about data, when I was reading the books beforehand, did I say, I almost, oh, did I do it?

I can't even remember. I had plans to distill it down into a fact sheet that was easy for me to reference once the baby was born. Really? I love to, have you got that still now? I don't know if I did it. You know when you're like, I either did it on a computer and it never saw the light of day or I just thought about it. Do you know when it's like, there was no point when at a.m. I was like, just check the fact sheet. It needs one ounce of milk.

It's so funny when you say the word fact sheet and like date when you say the word data. It's it just makes so much more sense than you doing comedy. so much more sense than you doing comedy. You know what I mean? In today's economy, saving money is like an extreme sport. Coupon clipping.

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We've done sort of like an online course a bit. But I don't, I'm not a very sociable person, really. No, no, no. And so I don't know, did you do it? Yeah, but we did it in a weekend. So it wasn't that social. So we almost just blasted it out, if you know what I mean. Right. The people that get long-term friends are the ones that do like every Tuesday night for two months kind of thing.

Do you know what I mean? We did every Saturday for like three or four weeks. And it was good because it was a WhatsApp group. And it was good to have a support group where, you know, you could message someone. And they're going through exactly the same kind of thing where your messenger mates have got a fiver and they go, oh, because it's so weird. Something will be so important to you at the time.

It's like teething or colic. The word colic I've not thought about for five years. But at the time it will dominate your entire life. And you'll be like, yeah, because of the colic, obviously. You know what, colic's long. And at the time it feels like the most important thing in the world, because it is, because it's the thing that your little precious baby's going through. But you'll text me and I'll go, no, I literally don't even know what it is anymore, Joel.

And I'll have to, like, Google it. But so what's good about the NCT is there's someone near your house that's going through the same thing that you can go, do you want to get a coffee tomorrow? Right. Have you got any kid friends near your house? As in people with the kids not children that you like they've got colic and i've just i've called up a seven-year-old and uh i have this has been the profound thing that's happened to me i think because suddenly you're

sort of having to assess who your friends are where they live you know and and it hasn't just made me think like oh have i got any friends with kids nearby i just don't think i've got any friends oh joe oh man i'd like it's i'll be honest when i said that out of my mouth i thought that was gonna going to elicit a laugh. But instead it just was your sympathy. Well, no, you're a dad now. Yeah. Because you've got no mates. Yeah.

That's what happens. You've made a friend. Well, no, I think, do you know what it is? I felt the same as you when the baby come. Because as a comic, you're your own little world. You go off, you work alone, you travel alone you go and do do your own little island and then also because your social your your your schedule's off you're never about saturday sundays you're like you know and i think you know tuesday afternoon is when you and hannah might go for a dinner or meal or whatever so it's like you are a

bit doing your own little thing but what will happen is you will build those networks and friends over time through your kids because you'll end up going to the same swimming lessons and then they start school and nursery and then you meet a couple of the other dads and then you end up just being friends with all the people just live near your house and it feels so alien but it does happen she was like oh you just you'll be fine you'll just like meet people i'm like where she's like when you like you'll meet them when you've got a pram in the park i'm like that sounds like dogging well that's what the nct is quite good it's sort of entry level but um you live west over in west london don't you yeah southwest london

yeah so it's like couldn't be further from both of you yeah no we'll come around anyway come around and just you know well i'll be your friend joel i'd love that so like now like we've got a lot of friends that come around that we so two of our good friends we met on holiday just because all our kids played because that's the thing if you find ones when your two of our good friends are like uh their daughter's best friends with my daughter and we're still we're friends with them now is that what happens so so basically who your your kids become friends with you then become friends with them now is that what happens so so basically who your your kids become friends with you then become friends with that i prefer because i'm better you know i'm an adult

i've got better social skills than a child i prefer that i have to make the effort with the parent rather than to meet up with a parent yeah and then the kids to have to make together make the effort together that would be i mean i'm happy both way but that is i find easier yeah so we stumbled on a very lucky one we're on holiday it was in holiday and these our two kids were playing with these two kids in the pool and then you end up chatting to the other parents literally because oh i think we've got one of your toys oh what's your kid cool you know because it's just you know you just will and then they got on really well then we got on really well with them and then ended up going back to the same place on holiday with them but that's quite rare what you sometimes get is like your kid will love their kid and their

parents are awful you're like oh my god i've got or or that one parent will be right we don't like the other one or you love both parents but the kids are dick and you're sort of forcing it but then your kids like i don't want to play with that kid so you sort of let we sort of led by what the kids do but for the first year or two it's basically just an ornament that needs feeding so it doesn't all this is will come over time but you know you can just take you can just take the baby anywhere really especially up to about six seven eight months before start crawling and walking and you just push them around and feed them and they'll sleep so it's absolutely mental like the whole thing is absolutely wild like the whole thing is ridiculous like i can't i can't believe it's a thing and it's going to be your life now forever and you have this thing that's just going to be part of you.

Because at the moment, you sell your house, you sell your car, you change your job. It doesn't really matter. At the time, you might feel like, oh, it's a bit annoying. But there's going to be this thing now that orbits you forever, that matters more than anything you've ever known. And not to be scary, but it's lovely to have that. I remember two weeks in, I was exhausted.

And I just came back. I think I'd been doing a day on the last leg or something in town came back and i was like oh my god the evening begins now like this isn't a relax i remember sitting on my sofa with my head in my hands and my mother-in-law said um the thing, you're only ever as happy as your unhappiest kid. And at that point, I thought, I've made a mistake. This was an error. Did you still have the face paint on from Kermit the Frog? Yeah, it was one of those moments. Oh, wow. yeah it was one of those moments oh wow but i would say anyone that says it doesn't get easier

it just gets difficult in different ways is fucking bullshitting it is the first year or two is the tough bit really that's a really tough and it gets really like that bit's fun and they're cute but it's graft because it's constantly like they need this they need that and they don't know anything but now like my kids are seven and five and even and this is it's been like this way since the youngest was about three or four it's just fun and like you know you say you haven't got any friends you don't really need friends you just go out your gang and go right kids should we go here and they'll love it go oh you could take them to the surf lessons teach them nunchucks all those fun things that you like doing you could incorporate into going out of them

and you're i think you'll you'll absolutely love it and you'll take to it like dr water both of you i'm really excited like i'm really excited i think it like i feel very lucky that i feel like it's come at a lovely time in my life and sort of my career and i feel like i feel like it's a lovely point in our relationship and i just feel like so lucky. You mean you didn't want this to happen when me and you were playing Party Piece every Tuesday night in Stoke Nearington? I'm on the Party Piece. It's like a little open mic gig

that we all used to do on a Tuesday. I once went on stage at Party Piece and when I got off stage, someone had nicked my coat in my back. Oh my God. Sorry about that. It was an early part of my career. It's been an absolute joy, as we expected.

Genuinely, when you came to the Cardiff show, because you were in town doing a corporate, that was, it sounds a bit, but that was a real moment for me because it just felt like, it felt really weird. Like we'd all done, grown up and done really well and we were all really enjoying ourselves and that was that was one of the highlights of the tour for me where i felt like

fucking hell we did used to do party piece well yeah we all worked in doing shitty little gigs for no money when we're all like 22 23 and now we're all grown-ups with children it's it's quite it's quite odd isn't it but it's so bizarre do do you know what sad is I still in my head think of myself as like the Latin American pie but now I know that I'm the dad I'm Eugene Levy and Joel's Stifler's mum

but Joel we'll get you on and probably Hannah as well once the baby's out once it's there that'd be great. I'd love that. I've said it to you when I came to see you live, but I'm so proud of you boys. And I'm so excited you did so well. And it's just an absolute dream. And I listen to you all the time and I read your words to my wife in bed.

Yeah, that's creepy. So that's actually got a bit creepy now. The funny part was when, you know, in like some points in the book you would do like the question and answer things like so like yeah rose and lou would ask you questions so that was like a really hard bit to read because then you've got to differentiate between the voices were you doing the voices i then had to sort of get into it a bit because then you've got to know who's speaking we have a little blast of your voices for each of us and for lou and rose and then you have to do my mum and dad.

They have to do your mum and dad at one point where I'm going like, oh, so anyway, I'm going in, I'm getting into my cab. Yeah, what did my dad pull some pears? He pulled back some pears and then, you know, it's, and then I was doing Josh, he was just like, oh, you know. That's an easy one,

that's an easy one. That's an easy one. Madam Two Souls. I loved all the bits in the book. Everyone go and buy the book, it's a really one easy one madam two souls i loved all the bits in the book everyone go buy the book it's a really good book but it's um you said you've been on gas and air already he's loving that have you got anything to plug joe you got a tour on or is it more marketing so if uh the style podcast is we'll never have ever we we do a new thing every week that we've never done together before. And genuinely, we started it as a thing where we kind of thought we'd possibly

maybe have a child at some point. And so we thought like, oh, let's just do everything we can like before we have children. So we know what's fun to do with the children. Do you know what I mean? And then also like other stuff, just try and get everything out of the way, basically.

And now obviously Hannah's pregnant there's some stuff that she can't do but we're now doing more, like we did a baby first aid thing the other day, that was so great also as well you never like, you can do an episode on breastfeeding when the baby arrives the first week and you can talk about your surfing

yeah that's an episode I tell you what, it's a weird thing surfing, I like kind of enjoyed it but it also it's kind of like just queuing in the sea you're just waiting for other people well i've got good news for you joel i've got good news you're not going surfing for another five years at least joel thanks so much mate good luck with the podcast and obviously the birth and send love to hannah thank you so much joy good luck with the podcast and obviously the birth and send our love to Hannah thank you so much

it's been a joy cheers mate I love you both bye bye bye that was Joel Domet love Joel do you know what got me though that hurt really deep

was like because I've been sort of doing a lot of walking like I've mentioned you don't get a chest like this from walking yeah yeah

that I feel like he's got that written on his wall. When he was like, I won't have time to do my exercise. And then I said, oh, you can do some walking. I just realised, oh, there's levels to this. Yeah. And getting your 10,000 steps a day basically just maintains whatever weight you are. Your 10,000 steps a day, which I'm big into.

Yeah. I'm a huge fan of walking. It's basically 200 cows. Yeah, it's nothing. And he has got tits that are rock hard. Alright, I think that's enough, isn't it? Bye.

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